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Speaker 1: Welcome to Horrible This is like is not on this episode.

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Speaker 1: We're not using our our sex voices this week. Well,

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Speaker 1: first of all, you want me to not use a

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Speaker 1: sex voice on the Throuble episode, ma'am? Anyway, y'all, I

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Speaker 1: don't know if y'all can hear the excitement through her

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Speaker 1: god damn voice my own handy. Y'all, Welcome to Horrible Decisions,

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Speaker 1: the show where we be stigmatized kings for the black

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Speaker 1: ass community we're in and if you're not in there, welcome,

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Speaker 1: We allow you to have a piece of it this hour.

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Speaker 1: My name's Wheezy and I'm joined by my co host.

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Speaker 1: Y'all already know, bitch, this is your motherfucking girl, Mandy

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Speaker 1: be a k A pit saying a k a full

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Speaker 1: corun aka that bitch because I am still that bitch.

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Speaker 1: Just know that y'all see me in the swimsuits on

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Speaker 1: the ground. I know y'all see me because it's okay.

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Speaker 1: I'm getting in the motherfucker's winning suits. Okay. And so

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Speaker 1: we also have other papers here we would love to talk.

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Speaker 1: I just had to say that. I just had to

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Speaker 1: say that real quick too before we start. I do

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Speaker 1: because someone I had to go off in the comments

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Speaker 1: real quick, just so y'all know I'm on every week

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Speaker 1: talking about Peggy Niggers and sucking dick, and I've mentioned

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Speaker 1: that I've sucked dick at one point in my life

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Speaker 1: for money. So don't think for any any chance that

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Speaker 1: I'm going to be an example for any of you.

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Speaker 1: Host where they said it was in Miami. It's coronavirus.

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Speaker 1: Y'all know. I was telling y'all holes to stay in

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Speaker 1: the motherfucking house. They was like, damn, you're not setting

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Speaker 1: a good example. I am not an example. I have

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Speaker 1: not pushed a human being out of this pussy and

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Speaker 1: until then, I didn't sign up to be an example

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Speaker 1: setter for any of you hoss that I don't know

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Speaker 1: ship in your drink today, I'm drinking water. I ain't

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Speaker 1: even drinking no mother with the polar Spring. So I'm

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Speaker 1: excited for this episode. You guys, Vandy and I have

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Speaker 1: tried to meet with this truffle before. I think you

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Speaker 1: guys were gonna fly out in April, before you know,

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Speaker 1: COVID happened. So we're so excited that they're here with us.

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Speaker 1: So what I'm gonna do because we're gonna hear a

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Speaker 1: few voices in it might be difficult. Let's go, let's

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Speaker 1: go youngest to oldest. Why you got to bring the

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Speaker 1: are okay? So no, let's go with who's had sex

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Speaker 1: the most times in one night to the lowest. Okay,

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Speaker 1: look it's the one at the bottom of the screen.

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Speaker 1: She looking like you'll all right, so tell us when

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Speaker 1: you guys go in order. Um, what's your name is

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Speaker 1: and your sexual orientation? Alright, Well, my name is Sheila.

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Speaker 1: I don't have a whole bunch of a ks yet,

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Speaker 1: but I'm Shay, that's about it. And then sexual orientation, um,

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Speaker 1: bisexual and polyamorous. Okay, so we don't know who the

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Speaker 1: young is next. My bad, my bad, my back. I'm James,

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Speaker 1: I'm I'm Scraat and ship Um, I got you just

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Speaker 1: put a C in this. You put it in there

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Speaker 1: for Memphis, so I got. I got a little a

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Speaker 1: little bit of accent still, but that's my a k

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Speaker 1: a about her call me Memphis, So that's okay. Cool. Hey,

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Speaker 1: And I'm Shanta a k a um and I'm bisexual

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Speaker 1: t Shae in Memphis boy your boy? What episode where about?

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Speaker 1: So I know you're all curious what are these three

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Speaker 1: doing on the podcast. Mandy and I actually have a

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Speaker 1: thing where we hate having more than two other mics

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Speaker 1: opposite us. But I had to for these three because

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Speaker 1: they all ain't gonna lie. I'm dying deep down inside, cringing.

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Speaker 1: But we're gonna get through this, and we're gonna work

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Speaker 1: on We're gonna do it. So we're gonna start with

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Speaker 1: our Vanilla Ship this week before we dive into a

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Speaker 1: bunch of questions. I almost feel like I have to

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Speaker 1: about you three. But Vanilla Ship is our segment where

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Speaker 1: we talk about sex in the news every week. And

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Speaker 1: this article comes from Time Out magazine and it's headline

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Speaker 1: saying New York City launches a free condom delivery service.

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Speaker 1: This is from the Department of Health. It's a door

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Speaker 1: to door new home delivery service of safer sex products

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Speaker 1: and an HIV um self test kits. Now, I don't

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Speaker 1: know how many people are being born in New York

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Speaker 1: that they had to give y'all niggas free ubers to condoms.

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Speaker 1: But there's so many risks, and every year the Health

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Speaker 1: Department gives about thirty million male condoms out, some internal condoms,

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Speaker 1: lubricant um so over thirty five hundred nonprofit organizations. But

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Speaker 1: now they are going to be delivering it to your door,

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Speaker 1: a full array of condoms, including the legend excel don't fit.

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Speaker 1: Okay here um the Art Condom NYC. I don't know

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Speaker 1: there's a boskiat version or what. What I do know is, uh,

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Speaker 1: it comes in the mail as well, discreetly packaged envelopes.

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Speaker 1: You can only get two products at a time. And

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Speaker 1: you said it's the art condom, right, serious Art Condom NYC.

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Speaker 1: So like the sleeves where you could put like fake

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Speaker 1: tattoos on your arm, I could get like some tattoo

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Speaker 1: dingling like party did I would be cool, and some

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Speaker 1: Von Dutch dick or something like that. I mean it's

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Speaker 1: I mean, it's it's written fancy and fancy levels like graffiti. Um.

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Speaker 1: So let me give you guys the phone number by

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Speaker 1: the way, Okay, because this phone number that I'm gonna

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Speaker 1: get the HIV kits. So this is the NYC Sexual

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Speaker 1: Health Clinic. Put put this Uh, in your notes. Get

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Speaker 1: ready three four seven, three nine, six seven, nine five nine,

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Speaker 1: Monday through Friday, nine to three thirty on the line.

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Speaker 1: And this is a clinic hotline where you can get

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Speaker 1: advice on how to get free ship, how to get

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Speaker 1: the free condoms, um stuff about anti viral therapy if

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Speaker 1: you already have HIV STD questions because y'all been popping

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Speaker 1: that pussy during quarantine, just like Mandy's been popping the

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Speaker 1: pussy on the boat being a naughty really really bu

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Speaker 1: I wouldn't even popping no pussy, don't know, I got

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Speaker 1: I got a toy friend. Now, that's what we called it.

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Speaker 1: I got a toy friend now, so excuse me. You

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Speaker 1: know what you're talking about before, but out here, but

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Speaker 1: it's a very burning man crowd, and you can't pop

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Speaker 1: it out here like that man. Before we get to

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Speaker 1: another segment to something that again, with everything going on,

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Speaker 1: I know a lot of people's timelines are kind of

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Speaker 1: back to normal, but that doesn't mean that we are

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Speaker 1: not still fighting a fight. For those of you who

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Speaker 1: have not been able to make it out to protesting,

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Speaker 1: For those of you who do not have money, UM

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Speaker 1: to maybe donate something else that you can do. Of course,

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Speaker 1: I am bringing awareness to different petitions that you can sign.

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Speaker 1: It's literally with the click of a button, you literally

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Speaker 1: sign your first name, your last name in your email address. UM.

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Speaker 1: The petition that you guys can sign this week that

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Speaker 1: will be in the description of this episode is again

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Speaker 1: on change dot org and it is to reopen the

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Speaker 1: case involving the death of tom La Horsford. For those

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Speaker 1: is the mother of five who was found dead after

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Speaker 1: having a sleepover with UM a lot of white women. UM.

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Speaker 1: Apparently this happened in fourth in forsythe county UM which

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Speaker 1: a suicide that she jumped off of the second floor balcony. UM.

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Speaker 1: So what this petition does is looks it's it reopens

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Speaker 1: the case to look further into investigation on what was

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Speaker 1: the real cause of death to tom La Horsford. I

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Speaker 1: and solos, that is, the activists who was found murdered.

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Speaker 1: and it's crazy because it's just resurfacing and the picture

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Speaker 1: of that night, if you guys have ever seen it,

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Speaker 1: there's a picture of her with those women that night. Yeah,

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Speaker 1: it's really insane. But like again, so on top of

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Speaker 1: the police brutality, again, I think a lot of the

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Speaker 1: So UM also still fighting for justice for Brianna Taylor.

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Speaker 1: So we're gonna get to the horrid derv and hopefully

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Speaker 1: our throuble will have some insight on another piece of advice.

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Speaker 1: But everybody writes in every other fucking week on how

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Speaker 1: to have a threesome in three fucking years, I don't

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Speaker 1: know how much advice we've given. I don't know if

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Speaker 1: I'm just the token bitch to have threesomes on this show,

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Speaker 1: Mandy's having them, but y'all legit be coming up to

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Speaker 1: me in my nigga? And I'm like, wow, there's another

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Speaker 1: then I'm not the one it anymore. So anyway, here's

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Speaker 1: my advice, UM, for the threesomes. This is very simple advice. UM.

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Speaker 1: I feel like every time we get an email about something,

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Speaker 1: For the love god, men are almost coercing their girlfriends

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Speaker 1: you know see, I can't never do shoot with you either.

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Speaker 1: You want you don't want me to cheat? You know

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Speaker 1: what I'm saying, It's okay, I'm You're just gonna have

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Speaker 1: me do this. That is gaslighting is disgusting. Why don't

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Speaker 1: do you understand that it's literally the definition of coercion.

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Speaker 1: How are you gonna, like, what if women did this

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Speaker 1: with me, nigga? How you feel We're right? Guys have

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Speaker 1: given people any advice when it comes to three SOMs there?

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Speaker 1: Maybe when people are asking your advice, who's what's the

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Speaker 1: first piece that you go to? Hit on those waitresses?

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Speaker 1: I mean, hit on the waitresses. You're you're out, there's

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Speaker 1: just get out of your comfort zone. I think for

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Speaker 1: instead you could easily just start off by, yeah, flirting

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Speaker 1: with your waitresses or your bartenders or and I would say, um, yeah, Sheyla,

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Speaker 1: I think you said that you're a little bit more shy,

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Speaker 1: and then James um would do the flirting. But I'll say,

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Speaker 1: as someone who was in that space as a waitress,

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Speaker 1: So we are back, and so I have a question

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Speaker 1: you know, open it all up to to a woman

425
00:24:21,119 --> 00:24:23,359
Speaker 1: in your relationship and to your man, and to you

426
00:24:23,880 --> 00:24:27,000
Speaker 1: make sure she's for real, you know, and not her

427
00:24:27,040 --> 00:24:30,720
Speaker 1: intentions are true. When Shante came into the relationship, she

428
00:24:30,840 --> 00:24:33,639
Speaker 1: made it crisp and clear that she wasn't here to

429
00:24:33,680 --> 00:24:38,000
Speaker 1: steal nobody's man. Like she made sure we we really

430
00:24:38,000 --> 00:24:41,360
Speaker 1: put on our time for me and hers relationship before

431
00:24:42,240 --> 00:24:44,439
Speaker 1: even like her and James got to really get a

432
00:24:44,480 --> 00:24:47,640
Speaker 1: solid solid relationship. We had that bond, and so did

433
00:24:47,680 --> 00:24:51,040
Speaker 1: you ever have moments of jealousy because she was the

434
00:24:51,160 --> 00:24:56,640
Speaker 1: new fresh like you? Of course? I feel like it's

435
00:24:56,640 --> 00:24:59,920
Speaker 1: a myth that Polly people don't get jealous, but yeah,

436
00:25:00,040 --> 00:25:03,960
Speaker 1: uh I get jealous. But I think what helps the

437
00:25:04,080 --> 00:25:06,800
Speaker 1: jealousy is my reaction. Number One, you gotta put yourself

438
00:25:06,800 --> 00:25:09,320
Speaker 1: in check. Am I getting jealous because he kissed her

439
00:25:09,400 --> 00:25:11,040
Speaker 1: on the cheek and didn't kiss me on the cheek?

440
00:25:11,320 --> 00:25:14,080
Speaker 1: Or like, is it a serious thing that we all

441
00:25:14,119 --> 00:25:16,400
Speaker 1: need to talk about, Like I'm not getting no dick?

442
00:25:16,960 --> 00:25:23,800
Speaker 1: What's up? You know? But that'll be brought up quick.

443
00:25:24,400 --> 00:25:26,800
Speaker 1: I actually like that you mentioned that, James. I want

444
00:25:26,800 --> 00:25:29,320
Speaker 1: to ask you, as a man, do you feel the

445
00:25:29,359 --> 00:25:32,160
Speaker 1: pressure if you dick one down, you gotta go dick

446
00:25:32,240 --> 00:25:34,119
Speaker 1: the other one down? Or if you give one a kiss,

447
00:25:34,119 --> 00:25:36,560
Speaker 1: you gotta give the other kids. Is there any pressure

448
00:25:36,600 --> 00:25:39,080
Speaker 1: for you as a man to feel like, Okay, I

449
00:25:39,119 --> 00:25:41,680
Speaker 1: can't show favoritism or I don't want them to think

450
00:25:41,760 --> 00:25:44,600
Speaker 1: there's any favoritism. Do you feel like if you give

451
00:25:44,680 --> 00:25:46,920
Speaker 1: one something, you have to give the other something as well?

452
00:25:47,880 --> 00:25:51,560
Speaker 1: Um as far as six, I say no, because we don't.

453
00:25:51,560 --> 00:25:53,760
Speaker 1: We're try not to keep count and it's just like

454
00:25:53,800 --> 00:25:56,520
Speaker 1: whenever we're spending our one on one time together, if

455
00:25:56,560 --> 00:25:59,040
Speaker 1: we're so, happened to funk in that time, Dan, we

456
00:25:59,160 --> 00:26:02,439
Speaker 1: fun but in and we don't talk like Silo or

457
00:26:02,800 --> 00:26:05,040
Speaker 1: Nita Chanta, and I asked me, oh, y'all funk with

458
00:26:05,080 --> 00:26:07,280
Speaker 1: y'alls together, So we're not like keeping counting of it

459
00:26:07,400 --> 00:26:09,920
Speaker 1: like that. But it do like if I kiss one on,

460
00:26:10,119 --> 00:26:13,199
Speaker 1: like if I'm leaving the house and both on, I

461
00:26:13,240 --> 00:26:15,040
Speaker 1: gotta kiss both of them though, because they look at

462
00:26:15,080 --> 00:26:18,000
Speaker 1: me stupid, like come on, like stop playing with me?

463
00:26:18,600 --> 00:26:20,720
Speaker 1: Do you James? I want to ask you this um.

464
00:26:20,760 --> 00:26:23,200
Speaker 1: There was a very popular show on Showtime some years

465
00:26:23,240 --> 00:26:25,800
Speaker 1: ago called Polyamory, and it was the first time it

466
00:26:25,840 --> 00:26:27,520
Speaker 1: might have been even been ten years ago the people

467
00:26:27,560 --> 00:26:31,120
Speaker 1: really saw thruffles and even what do you call quad

468
00:26:31,200 --> 00:26:35,160
Speaker 1: dripple whatever in relationships living together. And the guy made

469
00:26:35,200 --> 00:26:37,560
Speaker 1: a joke and he was like, my friends be like, damn,

470
00:26:37,560 --> 00:26:39,200
Speaker 1: you gotta going on and he's like, oh my god,

471
00:26:39,240 --> 00:26:42,000
Speaker 1: like this ship is stressful as fun. I'm missing shampoo

472
00:26:42,200 --> 00:26:46,760
Speaker 1: raisers third too much. Do you think that there is

473
00:26:46,800 --> 00:26:49,760
Speaker 1: a hype to you having at all? Do you feel

474
00:26:49,760 --> 00:26:51,639
Speaker 1: like there is a lot of work in being with

475
00:26:51,640 --> 00:26:54,600
Speaker 1: two women. It is. It is a lot of work.

476
00:26:54,640 --> 00:26:56,879
Speaker 1: And yet um, it's a lot of hype around it

477
00:26:56,880 --> 00:26:58,760
Speaker 1: because people see it and they'd be like, damn, I

478
00:26:59,040 --> 00:27:01,800
Speaker 1: because we just had as somebody over recently, damn Like

479
00:27:01,840 --> 00:27:03,360
Speaker 1: how you get two girlfriend? I want to I want

480
00:27:03,359 --> 00:27:05,080
Speaker 1: to get like that. I'm like, there's a lot of

481
00:27:05,119 --> 00:27:07,520
Speaker 1: work and a lot of a lot of paperwork going.

482
00:27:07,920 --> 00:27:10,720
Speaker 1: Um involved too, you gotta like it's you gotta pay

483
00:27:10,760 --> 00:27:13,720
Speaker 1: for two women dinners when we go out. You gotta

484
00:27:14,359 --> 00:27:18,960
Speaker 1: you gotta get to know two different women. You gotta understand,

485
00:27:19,000 --> 00:27:22,600
Speaker 1: like you, it's hard to please one woman, get to

486
00:27:22,640 --> 00:27:26,120
Speaker 1: know one woman, and you gotta satisfy both women needs.

487
00:27:26,160 --> 00:27:29,240
Speaker 1: And these two Sila and chante, they they receive love

488
00:27:29,480 --> 00:27:32,200
Speaker 1: two different ways. So you gotta learn how to love

489
00:27:32,240 --> 00:27:36,480
Speaker 1: each woman separately because women don't they at least them do.

490
00:27:36,800 --> 00:27:39,080
Speaker 1: They don't receive it the same way. Are you guys

491
00:27:39,119 --> 00:27:41,760
Speaker 1: familiar with love languages? And if so, do you guys

492
00:27:41,800 --> 00:27:45,840
Speaker 1: know which ones your love languages? We did a test

493
00:27:46,080 --> 00:27:50,080
Speaker 1: like what a few weeks ago, things like months whatever,

494
00:27:51,880 --> 00:27:55,640
Speaker 1: one of our shows. But um, so I would say

495
00:27:55,720 --> 00:27:58,600
Speaker 1: right now, we're actually kind of doing the love language,

496
00:27:58,600 --> 00:28:01,600
Speaker 1: the five Love Languages. So one week we did Words

497
00:28:01,640 --> 00:28:04,440
Speaker 1: of Affirmation, and this was Shawnta's idea. You guys are

498
00:28:04,480 --> 00:28:09,600
Speaker 1: doing different weeks, and and actually that is really loved

499
00:28:09,840 --> 00:28:12,800
Speaker 1: the Words of Affirmation week. I think that so far

500
00:28:13,080 --> 00:28:15,080
Speaker 1: that's been the one that we've really stuck to it

501
00:28:15,200 --> 00:28:17,639
Speaker 1: the most and made sure we did that every day.

502
00:28:17,720 --> 00:28:21,480
Speaker 1: And then it just reminds you of why you love,

503
00:28:21,560 --> 00:28:24,080
Speaker 1: why I love her, why I love him? Like what

504
00:28:24,240 --> 00:28:27,080
Speaker 1: I appreciate what you guys did. I think that any

505
00:28:27,119 --> 00:28:30,199
Speaker 1: couple listening to this, or anyone in a relationship, I

506
00:28:30,240 --> 00:28:33,119
Speaker 1: think taking those not even just taking the test, but

507
00:28:33,200 --> 00:28:36,520
Speaker 1: going through the five love languages and getting taking a

508
00:28:36,560 --> 00:28:40,040
Speaker 1: week out for each one and just to remind yourself

509
00:28:40,080 --> 00:28:41,800
Speaker 1: the love that you guys do have for each other,

510
00:28:41,800 --> 00:28:44,120
Speaker 1: but displaying it in different ways. I love that starting.

511
00:28:44,200 --> 00:28:46,600
Speaker 1: I think I'm gonna do that with my toy friends.

512
00:28:47,120 --> 00:28:49,480
Speaker 1: The tests, and you know, I don't even remember what

513
00:28:49,640 --> 00:28:51,920
Speaker 1: our results were from the test, but I remember when

514
00:28:51,920 --> 00:28:54,719
Speaker 1: we were doing it week by week, which one was

515
00:28:54,880 --> 00:28:57,200
Speaker 1: the one that I really felt the most. So doing it,

516
00:28:57,520 --> 00:29:00,760
Speaker 1: doing the tests and then doing it weekly really does help. YO.

517
00:29:00,880 --> 00:29:02,560
Speaker 1: Shout out to you James by the way, he was like,

518
00:29:02,600 --> 00:29:08,960
Speaker 1: you know what they see a little differently. Now I

519
00:29:09,040 --> 00:29:12,040
Speaker 1: want to ask let's start with let's go what you say.

520
00:29:13,120 --> 00:29:16,080
Speaker 1: Do your friends and family know? And how did that

521
00:29:16,160 --> 00:29:21,320
Speaker 1: work out? So not everybody in my family knows. There's

522
00:29:21,400 --> 00:29:24,440
Speaker 1: like a certain amount that know, um. And then there's

523
00:29:24,480 --> 00:29:27,200
Speaker 1: a certain amount that have met both of them, not together.

524
00:29:27,320 --> 00:29:32,600
Speaker 1: But did they think, um, no, what I don't live

525
00:29:32,640 --> 00:29:36,680
Speaker 1: with them? Okay, yeah, so but they come over, um

526
00:29:36,760 --> 00:29:41,000
Speaker 1: almost all the time. But my sister, I would say,

527
00:29:41,000 --> 00:29:44,360
Speaker 1: my youngest sister, me and her really close. Um. She

528
00:29:44,520 --> 00:29:47,080
Speaker 1: kind of she when it first, when she first found out,

529
00:29:47,160 --> 00:29:49,400
Speaker 1: she was the one that was just like, are you settling?

530
00:29:49,480 --> 00:29:52,240
Speaker 1: She was kind of worried, like like what is my

531
00:29:52,280 --> 00:29:55,479
Speaker 1: sister doing? Like I still want you to um, you know,

532
00:29:55,560 --> 00:29:57,320
Speaker 1: have kids and things like that. So there was a

533
00:29:57,400 --> 00:29:59,400
Speaker 1: lot of things that she thought I wouldn't be able

534
00:29:59,440 --> 00:30:04,640
Speaker 1: to experience ends because I was with these two. Um.

535
00:30:04,680 --> 00:30:08,800
Speaker 1: But yeah, but I told her that wasn't the case. Okay, James,

536
00:30:08,920 --> 00:30:10,720
Speaker 1: how do you do? First of all, do any of

537
00:30:10,760 --> 00:30:13,840
Speaker 1: you have children? I do? I have a daughter. You

538
00:30:13,840 --> 00:30:16,920
Speaker 1: have a daughter? Okay, And even more interesting, man, I

539
00:30:17,000 --> 00:30:20,160
Speaker 1: asked how old she is five, So five? Is this

540
00:30:20,400 --> 00:30:23,280
Speaker 1: is this something that you've introgued? Like have you introduced

541
00:30:23,280 --> 00:30:27,680
Speaker 1: her to both of your your girlfriend? Yeah? Because my

542
00:30:27,800 --> 00:30:31,160
Speaker 1: daughter was born like right out, like right before me

543
00:30:31,200 --> 00:30:35,560
Speaker 1: and Sheila got together. So she's known Saila her entire life,

544
00:30:35,560 --> 00:30:39,280
Speaker 1: her whole life. So and then and right now we um,

545
00:30:39,280 --> 00:30:44,080
Speaker 1: she she see some she she see my bad a

546
00:30:44,080 --> 00:30:47,120
Speaker 1: lot because she's over a lot, and um, she knows

547
00:30:47,400 --> 00:30:51,600
Speaker 1: she knows her right now, it is just shelo best friend. Okay,

548
00:30:51,600 --> 00:30:53,320
Speaker 1: I can. I can understand that'd be hard for a

549
00:30:53,320 --> 00:30:56,600
Speaker 1: five year older. Consist, it's really hard and it's difficult.

550
00:30:56,920 --> 00:30:59,600
Speaker 1: I would appreciate anybody that understands that, because I know

551
00:30:59,640 --> 00:31:02,720
Speaker 1: there's always somebody that's like, damn, well, why that's a lot?

552
00:31:03,040 --> 00:31:07,720
Speaker 1: You know, how do you feel about having kids with

553
00:31:07,720 --> 00:31:10,280
Speaker 1: both of your girlfriends? And and how do you guys

554
00:31:10,280 --> 00:31:13,040
Speaker 1: have conversations about that? Um, we'll start with you, James,

555
00:31:13,040 --> 00:31:15,640
Speaker 1: and then we'll go to the girls. Yeah. Um, it's

556
00:31:15,640 --> 00:31:18,440
Speaker 1: a conversation we had. They both still want kids, and

557
00:31:18,760 --> 00:31:22,160
Speaker 1: I'm obviously we had that conversation. Obviously I agree to it,

558
00:31:22,320 --> 00:31:25,120
Speaker 1: or both of them would have been gone already because

559
00:31:25,160 --> 00:31:29,480
Speaker 1: they you know, because they know they firm on on

560
00:31:29,520 --> 00:31:32,440
Speaker 1: what they want and like they're not gonna If I'm

561
00:31:32,480 --> 00:31:34,440
Speaker 1: not willing to give it to them, then they're gonna

562
00:31:34,440 --> 00:31:38,080
Speaker 1: be out. So I'm open to it and we we

563
00:31:38,160 --> 00:31:41,840
Speaker 1: haven't crossed their line as of yet, but it's coming.

564
00:31:42,920 --> 00:31:46,880
Speaker 1: Let me ask another question. People assume when they see

565
00:31:46,880 --> 00:31:49,880
Speaker 1: a throuble or anything like this or a man with

566
00:31:49,920 --> 00:31:54,440
Speaker 1: two women polygamy, we think of TLC's sister wives. Do

567
00:31:54,560 --> 00:31:58,800
Speaker 1: y'all feel like you're in that relationship or now sisters

568
00:31:58,800 --> 00:32:04,560
Speaker 1: in sectionn't be in same sentence, can speak, So we're

569
00:32:04,600 --> 00:32:08,240
Speaker 1: not sister wives. I just want to make that clear.

570
00:32:08,720 --> 00:32:18,000
Speaker 1: So that does have some ancestry is doing. That's some WPS.

571
00:32:18,800 --> 00:32:22,080
Speaker 1: I mean technically we out here calling Nigga's daddy, so

572
00:32:22,200 --> 00:32:30,480
Speaker 1: it's just daddy is I guess my question you brought

573
00:32:30,560 --> 00:32:33,240
Speaker 1: up earlier that uh and this is to James. You

574
00:32:33,240 --> 00:32:36,720
Speaker 1: brought up earlier that not only is paperwork involved kind

575
00:32:36,720 --> 00:32:39,080
Speaker 1: of as as far as money is involved with um

576
00:32:39,120 --> 00:32:41,600
Speaker 1: taking care of two meals when you go out, UM

577
00:32:41,800 --> 00:32:45,160
Speaker 1: bills of course, UM whenever both of them decided to

578
00:32:45,160 --> 00:32:47,479
Speaker 1: move in, waink Wa want to hear to update on that,

579
00:32:47,960 --> 00:32:51,480
Speaker 1: But do you think that someone that does not have

580
00:32:51,560 --> 00:32:56,040
Speaker 1: their money in order can successfully have two girlfriends or

581
00:32:56,120 --> 00:32:58,080
Speaker 1: do you think it is something where you need to

582
00:32:58,120 --> 00:33:01,240
Speaker 1: be financially able to provide for two women in order

583
00:33:01,280 --> 00:33:04,080
Speaker 1: to be in this type of relationship. I mean it

584
00:33:04,120 --> 00:33:09,480
Speaker 1: can be eat it just it depends, I guess, because um,

585
00:33:09,640 --> 00:33:12,880
Speaker 1: we they both have really good jobs and and they

586
00:33:12,880 --> 00:33:15,000
Speaker 1: get paid good. But at the end of the day,

587
00:33:15,440 --> 00:33:17,160
Speaker 1: there are two women. They're gonna look to you as

588
00:33:17,200 --> 00:33:20,440
Speaker 1: to man to provide because that's your job essentially. But

589
00:33:20,760 --> 00:33:23,720
Speaker 1: come on, I feel like, but I feel like, um,

590
00:33:23,760 --> 00:33:27,640
Speaker 1: you shouldn't even want them to to pay for everything

591
00:33:27,720 --> 00:33:31,680
Speaker 1: and to provide for you because it's they can go

592
00:33:31,720 --> 00:33:35,960
Speaker 1: into any any other relationship and have demand provide for

593
00:33:36,280 --> 00:33:39,920
Speaker 1: just them shape I'm let know right now, but is

594
00:33:39,960 --> 00:33:43,880
Speaker 1: about to be coming for the thing, but because he

595
00:33:44,040 --> 00:33:46,840
Speaker 1: think he thinks he needs to provide for us. But

596
00:33:47,360 --> 00:33:50,000
Speaker 1: I have a strong mindset that I'm a provide for myself,

597
00:33:50,480 --> 00:33:53,320
Speaker 1: so and she has the same strong mindset. So it

598
00:33:53,360 --> 00:33:55,400
Speaker 1: depends on who you with if you know, I mean,

599
00:33:55,480 --> 00:33:58,239
Speaker 1: you guys are gonna have you can all see. I

600
00:33:58,240 --> 00:34:00,200
Speaker 1: feel like, I mean, I'm just speaking just I think

601
00:34:00,200 --> 00:34:03,040
Speaker 1: Mandy would agree you'll have a prosperous relationship if you

602
00:34:03,080 --> 00:34:04,959
Speaker 1: all think like that, Because I mean, I think what

603
00:34:05,000 --> 00:34:07,240
Speaker 1: he's saying is great. But when you have two women

604
00:34:07,280 --> 00:34:10,040
Speaker 1: that are also like that, y'all, vacations ain't gonna be

605
00:34:10,080 --> 00:34:16,359
Speaker 1: no bullshit, you know. And I feel like I feel

606
00:34:16,360 --> 00:34:18,319
Speaker 1: like you can budget together too, if if you're in

607
00:34:18,360 --> 00:34:20,640
Speaker 1: that type of relationship, if you if you went two

608
00:34:20,640 --> 00:34:23,600
Speaker 1: women and y'all put your money together, you guys, can

609
00:34:23,840 --> 00:34:26,560
Speaker 1: you know, take some things that I don't require to

610
00:34:26,680 --> 00:34:30,399
Speaker 1: bawl out every time you go to dinner and like that? Right? Right,

611
00:34:30,600 --> 00:34:33,360
Speaker 1: let's get some questions. Well, first off, well that's what

612
00:34:33,400 --> 00:34:35,520
Speaker 1: I was about to ask. Actually, we was getting into

613
00:34:35,520 --> 00:34:37,840
Speaker 1: the sex part because I was just talking with my

614
00:34:37,880 --> 00:34:40,880
Speaker 1: toy friend about this and I wanted to know. And

615
00:34:40,880 --> 00:34:42,279
Speaker 1: this is the question for all of y'all, be cause

616
00:34:42,320 --> 00:34:44,640
Speaker 1: we has also been in a throuble when we have

617
00:34:44,719 --> 00:34:48,680
Speaker 1: this word and mindset of a throuble, Yes, we know

618
00:34:48,760 --> 00:34:52,080
Speaker 1: that there's three people involved. But could a throuble consists

619
00:34:52,120 --> 00:34:55,479
Speaker 1: of two men and a girl? And if so, would

620
00:34:55,480 --> 00:34:57,879
Speaker 1: a throuble do the two people who are the same

621
00:34:57,920 --> 00:35:00,960
Speaker 1: sex have to have sex together? Otherwise, as it calls

622
00:35:01,000 --> 00:35:05,200
Speaker 1: something else, let me know what a thrupple is. Oh, so,

623
00:35:06,120 --> 00:35:08,520
Speaker 1: if it is two men and a woman and a woman,

624
00:35:08,560 --> 00:35:11,200
Speaker 1: obviously they don't have to have sex unless the men

625
00:35:11,239 --> 00:35:14,480
Speaker 1: are by um, you can't have two straight men each other,

626
00:35:15,680 --> 00:35:18,000
Speaker 1: and then it would be a V. Right, it would

627
00:35:18,040 --> 00:35:20,680
Speaker 1: be a V. So with that being said, it would

628
00:35:20,719 --> 00:35:24,680
Speaker 1: be the man being in a relationship with both women,

629
00:35:24,760 --> 00:35:26,960
Speaker 1: but the women not being in a relationship with each other,

630
00:35:27,600 --> 00:35:29,960
Speaker 1: or for your example, the two men not being relationship

631
00:35:30,000 --> 00:35:32,359
Speaker 1: with each other, but the woman being the focal point.

632
00:35:32,440 --> 00:35:34,439
Speaker 1: But the reason why it's a V. It's not that

633
00:35:34,960 --> 00:35:38,160
Speaker 1: connected triangle because the two men and or two women

634
00:35:38,680 --> 00:35:44,040
Speaker 1: aren't sexually aren't sexually triangle. Okay, so here's my question

635
00:35:44,200 --> 00:35:46,600
Speaker 1: that everybody is not going to be surprised that I'm asking.

636
00:35:46,800 --> 00:35:49,839
Speaker 1: So here we go. Are your period SYNCD up? And

637
00:35:49,960 --> 00:35:53,759
Speaker 1: if no, my nigga, are you like bye? I gotta

638
00:35:53,760 --> 00:35:58,640
Speaker 1: guess y'all knew she was gonna bring up the blood

639
00:36:01,360 --> 00:36:08,279
Speaker 1: love blood. They're almost I think she'll start before I do,

640
00:36:08,400 --> 00:36:10,400
Speaker 1: and then I'll start on it when she's like on

641
00:36:10,440 --> 00:36:12,879
Speaker 1: the tail end of hers, like when she's on day

642
00:36:13,040 --> 00:36:15,640
Speaker 1: four or five, then I'll start mine. So he gets

643
00:36:15,640 --> 00:36:17,920
Speaker 1: a break for him. He don't want them to be

644
00:36:17,960 --> 00:36:23,000
Speaker 1: sinced because then there is no breaks. But I'm trying

645
00:36:23,040 --> 00:36:25,719
Speaker 1: to hurry up and get them sinced because when you

646
00:36:25,719 --> 00:36:28,839
Speaker 1: want your period and then then you gotta right right,

647
00:36:29,080 --> 00:36:31,279
Speaker 1: you eat, you puss and you sucking dick. But you

648
00:36:31,440 --> 00:36:37,800
Speaker 1: can't do too much else. But if I was, you

649
00:36:38,120 --> 00:36:44,080
Speaker 1: have a masker. No, I don't talk about the stuff. Okay,

650
00:36:44,120 --> 00:36:50,920
Speaker 1: thank you? Wait, wait, didn't even makes us wait two

651
00:36:51,000 --> 00:36:54,440
Speaker 1: days after our period before he'll suck us, because I

652
00:36:54,520 --> 00:37:01,160
Speaker 1: know that's right. He said he don't. He said he

653
00:37:01,200 --> 00:37:08,719
Speaker 1: don't want the red blood or the brownstand right now

654
00:37:08,880 --> 00:37:11,720
Speaker 1: because he's only acting like that because he has another option.

655
00:37:11,800 --> 00:37:14,000
Speaker 1: Nigga that don't have another option. We have to deal

656
00:37:14,040 --> 00:37:18,439
Speaker 1: with a little bit of barbecue, okay, right, he has

657
00:37:18,480 --> 00:37:22,360
Speaker 1: something also turned to he needs some They are tricked

658
00:37:22,400 --> 00:37:24,600
Speaker 1: me sometimes. Don't say like I'm two days off. I'll

659
00:37:24,600 --> 00:37:29,560
Speaker 1: be like, no, I'm keeping up with this ship. Whause

660
00:37:29,600 --> 00:37:32,080
Speaker 1: is it because you love to eat that? Yeah, I'll

661
00:37:32,120 --> 00:37:33,759
Speaker 1: be trying to get down there and get it in.

662
00:37:34,239 --> 00:37:44,759
Speaker 1: So that's what they say. So we's the asked who

663
00:37:44,840 --> 00:37:50,120
Speaker 1: is the kinkiest of the three of you? See, I

664
00:37:50,160 --> 00:37:53,040
Speaker 1: would say that because I like to try, like I'm

665
00:37:53,040 --> 00:37:56,319
Speaker 1: trying to peg someone and James won't like it. Looks James,

666
00:37:56,360 --> 00:38:01,200
Speaker 1: little man. If I want to do that, well you can't.

667
00:38:01,320 --> 00:38:04,080
Speaker 1: So the even pegging, I mean you could still do

668
00:38:04,200 --> 00:38:06,960
Speaker 1: the act of a strap on with tay Tell. That's

669
00:38:07,000 --> 00:38:08,880
Speaker 1: something that you would be into it. All. Yeah, I

670
00:38:08,920 --> 00:38:11,000
Speaker 1: told her I would let her. She want to pay,

671
00:38:13,040 --> 00:38:14,560
Speaker 1: but see, and that's the thing. I want to pay

672
00:38:14,640 --> 00:38:17,680
Speaker 1: a nigga to like that. The thing I just like,

673
00:38:19,880 --> 00:38:22,399
Speaker 1: all right, I know you're trying to help. I'm gonna

674
00:38:22,440 --> 00:38:24,640
Speaker 1: get I'm gonna get ta. We're definitely gonna get there.

675
00:38:25,000 --> 00:38:27,560
Speaker 1: But I'm trying to peck another nigga. So so let

676
00:38:27,560 --> 00:38:31,440
Speaker 1: me ask you that, because um, James, you have two girlfriends,

677
00:38:32,040 --> 00:38:33,920
Speaker 1: and you do have a girlfriend that does want to

678
00:38:33,960 --> 00:38:36,840
Speaker 1: try something sexually that you don't want to do. Is

679
00:38:36,880 --> 00:38:39,399
Speaker 1: that something where you would allow either one of them

680
00:38:39,840 --> 00:38:44,520
Speaker 1: to partake in something sexual with another manogamous? I meant

681
00:38:44,520 --> 00:38:47,840
Speaker 1: to ask that. I mean, I already gave her to

682
00:38:47,880 --> 00:38:49,520
Speaker 1: green light to do it with somebody else because it

683
00:38:49,560 --> 00:38:51,480
Speaker 1: ain't gonna be me. I just want to know an

684
00:38:51,520 --> 00:38:53,560
Speaker 1: advance though, you know, I mean, she can't just do

685
00:38:53,640 --> 00:38:55,359
Speaker 1: it behind my back and know she's like that, but

686
00:38:55,840 --> 00:38:58,080
Speaker 1: keep it a hunting. Just tell me, and because it's

687
00:38:58,120 --> 00:39:02,360
Speaker 1: definitely gonna be me. Ladies, what's wrong with James? Because

688
00:39:02,360 --> 00:39:06,960
Speaker 1: he sounds great, right, he got six tones. He's petty,

689
00:39:07,560 --> 00:39:17,960
Speaker 1: that's what's wrong. He's petty and petty petty. Does James

690
00:39:17,960 --> 00:39:19,719
Speaker 1: have a big dick? Because we feel like we hear

691
00:39:19,800 --> 00:39:22,319
Speaker 1: b d through the screen. I need to know, yes,

692
00:39:22,880 --> 00:39:28,920
Speaker 1: he does. Look look at said it. She said what

693
00:39:28,960 --> 00:39:31,879
Speaker 1: she was asking about? Yeah, yeah, the dick is there, James,

694
00:39:31,920 --> 00:39:36,640
Speaker 1: I told you five. Okay, See that's enough. That's all

695
00:39:36,680 --> 00:39:42,400
Speaker 1: we need. It's the national average. I bless you with

696
00:39:42,480 --> 00:39:44,960
Speaker 1: a big dig a cool attitude and money and make

697
00:39:45,040 --> 00:39:49,280
Speaker 1: you six five. We will well, I beg to differ

698
00:39:49,440 --> 00:39:58,600
Speaker 1: because that's what the whole manum athletes. My toy friend

699
00:39:58,719 --> 00:40:02,040
Speaker 1: is tall and he got all that other qualities going on.

700
00:40:03,600 --> 00:40:06,120
Speaker 1: UM So, I guess let me ask you um as

701
00:40:06,160 --> 00:40:08,239
Speaker 1: well just before we I think you know, we're trying

702
00:40:08,239 --> 00:40:10,200
Speaker 1: to get all these sex questions in two with you guys.

703
00:40:10,600 --> 00:40:12,920
Speaker 1: Um So, you guys are in a threesome. You got

704
00:40:12,920 --> 00:40:15,399
Speaker 1: all the pussy you would want. James, has there ever

705
00:40:15,440 --> 00:40:18,400
Speaker 1: been a conversation about y'all bringing in a fourth or

706
00:40:18,440 --> 00:40:21,520
Speaker 1: maybe doing something at like a sex club, or just

707
00:40:21,600 --> 00:40:24,040
Speaker 1: adding other people into the bedroom now that there's three

708
00:40:24,040 --> 00:40:26,560
Speaker 1: of you. Yeah, that was supposed to bring a fourth

709
00:40:26,640 --> 00:40:28,279
Speaker 1: for my birthday. But they ain't do that. They don't

710
00:40:28,320 --> 00:40:30,839
Speaker 1: get they don't get a chance to do that. But uh,

711
00:40:31,120 --> 00:40:33,040
Speaker 1: we we talked about it and ship. I mean, it's

712
00:40:33,200 --> 00:40:36,120
Speaker 1: bringing a fourth to the bed room. Not necessarily to

713
00:40:36,160 --> 00:40:39,120
Speaker 1: our relationship though, because our relationship, I feel like two

714
00:40:39,120 --> 00:40:41,839
Speaker 1: of them is enough. I'm good with just them too,

715
00:40:41,880 --> 00:40:44,560
Speaker 1: But when it comes up, when it fucking oh yeah,

716
00:40:44,600 --> 00:40:46,680
Speaker 1: we can bring a fourth, we can do that. Man,

717
00:40:46,719 --> 00:40:57,080
Speaker 1: we supposed it. Where do you guys, Phoenix or Gilbert Arizona?

718
00:40:58,040 --> 00:41:00,800
Speaker 1: So well, my my toy friend are talking about watching

719
00:41:00,840 --> 00:41:04,160
Speaker 1: someone virtually, like well, having someone watch us virtually and

720
00:41:04,200 --> 00:41:06,799
Speaker 1: having like a virtual thing with each other's. Um. The

721
00:41:06,840 --> 00:41:09,680
Speaker 1: sex clubs are starting to open here, but I ain't listen.

722
00:41:09,719 --> 00:41:12,080
Speaker 1: I'm going to Miami, but I ain't that bowl to

723
00:41:12,200 --> 00:41:14,719
Speaker 1: just be up in the sex club just yet. Um.

724
00:41:14,760 --> 00:41:19,440
Speaker 1: So we are like trying to introduce voyeurhythm a little bit. Um. So,

725
00:41:19,560 --> 00:41:21,520
Speaker 1: I mean I'm down to watch y'all, y'all can watch

726
00:41:21,560 --> 00:41:29,200
Speaker 1: us you know go that way. But um, I was

727
00:41:29,239 --> 00:41:32,839
Speaker 1: watching your face. How do you feel about other men

728
00:41:32,960 --> 00:41:35,279
Speaker 1: being involved? If it's swapping or not swapping, how do

729
00:41:35,320 --> 00:41:39,120
Speaker 1: you feel about that? Um? Me and Sla, Me and

730
00:41:39,120 --> 00:41:43,000
Speaker 1: Shila actually has done it before Chante was before Shante

731
00:41:43,160 --> 00:41:45,520
Speaker 1: came into relationship. I guess we waste you missed all

732
00:41:45,560 --> 00:41:47,319
Speaker 1: the fun, but you gotta catch up. You put tell

733
00:41:47,360 --> 00:41:51,040
Speaker 1: them we need another exactly. So I guess we was

734
00:41:51,120 --> 00:41:54,080
Speaker 1: quote unquote swingers. I guess we Me and Syla and

735
00:41:54,080 --> 00:41:56,080
Speaker 1: I've been a swinger clubs and she liked that and

736
00:41:56,480 --> 00:41:59,960
Speaker 1: funked around with other clubs and full swap, soft swap.

737
00:42:00,040 --> 00:42:03,440
Speaker 1: We've done all this ship so we don't know that

738
00:42:03,920 --> 00:42:08,640
Speaker 1: as a trio. How do you feel about it? Yeah,

739
00:42:09,160 --> 00:42:14,759
Speaker 1: I mean I'm weirded. Chant has limitations, so we had

740
00:42:14,800 --> 00:42:16,920
Speaker 1: to ease into it for her. Let's talk about that, Shante,

741
00:42:17,040 --> 00:42:22,879
Speaker 1: what are your what are your? Um? Well, going into

742
00:42:22,920 --> 00:42:25,680
Speaker 1: it like swapping, I probably wouldn't be able to do

743
00:42:25,760 --> 00:42:28,360
Speaker 1: that just I don't know. I just can't suck somebody

744
00:42:28,400 --> 00:42:32,080
Speaker 1: I don't know, like just but then watching and I'll

745
00:42:32,120 --> 00:42:37,520
Speaker 1: just feel uneasy. It was yeah, watching that, I mean

746
00:42:37,600 --> 00:42:40,200
Speaker 1: I can watch, but I just don't touch me? Like,

747
00:42:44,000 --> 00:42:46,440
Speaker 1: can I all three of y'all? And I mean we

748
00:42:46,480 --> 00:42:49,839
Speaker 1: can start, um, she, since you're the most open, we'll

749
00:42:49,840 --> 00:42:52,919
Speaker 1: start with you, and then Tay and then James. I'm

750
00:42:52,960 --> 00:42:56,440
Speaker 1: curious to know what opened you guys up to the

751
00:42:56,520 --> 00:43:00,840
Speaker 1: idea of not being in an exclusive bonogamy relationship and

752
00:43:00,880 --> 00:43:04,160
Speaker 1: instead pursuing a throuble and even James for you to

753
00:43:04,160 --> 00:43:06,719
Speaker 1: say that y'all have swapped and been in the swinger lifestyle.

754
00:43:07,360 --> 00:43:10,360
Speaker 1: How how was that introduced to you guys because horrible decisions.

755
00:43:10,360 --> 00:43:13,320
Speaker 1: I don't know if it was us, but I'm curious

756
00:43:13,320 --> 00:43:17,040
Speaker 1: to know how these conversations start for people who may

757
00:43:17,040 --> 00:43:19,520
Speaker 1: not listen to our show, or or if it came about,

758
00:43:19,840 --> 00:43:22,759
Speaker 1: you know, in another way. Yeah, So I would say

759
00:43:23,440 --> 00:43:25,839
Speaker 1: with me and James are openness started at the very

760
00:43:25,880 --> 00:43:30,400
Speaker 1: beginning of our relationship. Um, I was more like by

761
00:43:30,400 --> 00:43:33,520
Speaker 1: curious at that stage, I would say, So I was

762
00:43:33,880 --> 00:43:36,279
Speaker 1: down to have the threesome and to do that, and

763
00:43:36,840 --> 00:43:40,000
Speaker 1: from the threesomes, we're like, well, what else is there?

764
00:43:40,280 --> 00:43:41,960
Speaker 1: You know, we you know, we don't fund all my

765
00:43:42,040 --> 00:43:45,880
Speaker 1: friends and stuff. What else is there to do? So

766
00:43:46,280 --> 00:43:49,560
Speaker 1: that's when we got into the swinger The swinging um

767
00:43:49,719 --> 00:43:53,000
Speaker 1: and the swapping even like you said, letting people watch

768
00:43:53,080 --> 00:43:57,320
Speaker 1: us fuck watching other people fuck um. And it's throughout

769
00:43:57,600 --> 00:44:00,719
Speaker 1: our entire relationship because we were even open for a

770
00:44:00,760 --> 00:44:03,960
Speaker 1: little bit too, Like that's just been me and James

771
00:44:04,080 --> 00:44:07,160
Speaker 1: like that. That's just been how our relationship has been.

772
00:44:07,200 --> 00:44:12,200
Speaker 1: And for me personally, it's opened me up because I'm

773
00:44:12,200 --> 00:44:14,520
Speaker 1: more of a I'm a curious person and I don't

774
00:44:14,520 --> 00:44:18,360
Speaker 1: feel like there's been other dudes that I've talked to about,

775
00:44:18,560 --> 00:44:21,200
Speaker 1: you know, Polly three, someome things like that that wouldn't

776
00:44:21,280 --> 00:44:23,800
Speaker 1: be okay with this type of relationship. They don't want

777
00:44:24,080 --> 00:44:28,040
Speaker 1: me and love with someone else. But at the same time,

778
00:44:28,080 --> 00:44:29,919
Speaker 1: I don't feel like for the rest of my life

779
00:44:29,960 --> 00:44:33,879
Speaker 1: I should have to choose dick or pussy. And then

780
00:44:34,080 --> 00:44:38,040
Speaker 1: at the same time, just with safety reasons, just not

781
00:44:38,120 --> 00:44:40,399
Speaker 1: having a whole bunch of randoms. You know, we got

782
00:44:40,400 --> 00:44:42,839
Speaker 1: to the point where it was like, yeah, we got

783
00:44:42,920 --> 00:44:45,000
Speaker 1: to know him when we stayed friends with a few

784
00:44:45,000 --> 00:44:47,520
Speaker 1: of the people that we like, swapped with and things

785
00:44:47,560 --> 00:44:51,160
Speaker 1: like that, but we wanted someone to chill with that night,

786
00:44:51,200 --> 00:44:54,439
Speaker 1: to cuddle with and go on dates with and get

787
00:44:54,520 --> 00:44:57,399
Speaker 1: to really know and love. So that's where it came

788
00:44:57,440 --> 00:45:00,239
Speaker 1: from for me, and then just to try to by

789
00:45:00,239 --> 00:45:05,080
Speaker 1: the way all the love through the screens, from just

790
00:45:05,280 --> 00:45:07,759
Speaker 1: the love language talk to even just how you all

791
00:45:07,760 --> 00:45:10,840
Speaker 1: speak on I want to give a shout to shape

792
00:45:10,960 --> 00:45:16,200
Speaker 1: real quick, because I think that a lot of women

793
00:45:16,280 --> 00:45:22,160
Speaker 1: have mentioned this and don't exactly act like you are.

794
00:45:22,360 --> 00:45:25,000
Speaker 1: Like I've even heard other troubles where they'll don't not

795
00:45:25,160 --> 00:45:28,799
Speaker 1: speak down to the person that maybe became after they

796
00:45:28,800 --> 00:45:31,440
Speaker 1: had met their initial partner, but they're just gonna be like, well,

797
00:45:31,440 --> 00:45:33,640
Speaker 1: you know, well us. But like you were very clear

798
00:45:33,640 --> 00:45:35,719
Speaker 1: in saying you didn't even like calling her your third

799
00:45:35,760 --> 00:45:38,080
Speaker 1: which I didn't even mean to say disrespectfully, but you

800
00:45:38,120 --> 00:45:40,120
Speaker 1: know what I'm saying, Like, I think you you put

801
00:45:40,160 --> 00:45:43,360
Speaker 1: a lot of emphasis on making sure that she feels

802
00:45:43,480 --> 00:45:46,360
Speaker 1: good about what you all have going on, and I

803
00:45:46,400 --> 00:45:48,879
Speaker 1: think it mainly should be coming from you. I think

804
00:45:48,880 --> 00:45:51,200
Speaker 1: a lot of pressure is put on the man to like, oh,

805
00:45:51,280 --> 00:45:53,360
Speaker 1: you're the one who's got two women, but it's like, nah,

806
00:45:53,440 --> 00:45:58,000
Speaker 1: imagine how you must feel oay feeling like okay, well

807
00:45:58,120 --> 00:46:01,279
Speaker 1: is she really comfortable? Because I knew him first, you know.

808
00:46:01,400 --> 00:46:03,239
Speaker 1: And I think that women could learn a lot from

809
00:46:03,239 --> 00:46:05,000
Speaker 1: what you're doing because we do put a lot of

810
00:46:05,040 --> 00:46:09,000
Speaker 1: pressure on the man. For example, Mandy and I both agreed, like, um,

811
00:46:09,040 --> 00:46:11,040
Speaker 1: you know, if a dude comes up and says something

812
00:46:11,080 --> 00:46:13,080
Speaker 1: first blah blah blah blah blah, like there is a

813
00:46:13,120 --> 00:46:15,040
Speaker 1: lot to be said with the woman in that. And

814
00:46:15,080 --> 00:46:16,840
Speaker 1: I think, I don't know if take it agree, but

815
00:46:16,880 --> 00:46:18,520
Speaker 1: it does sound like you do a lot to make

816
00:46:18,560 --> 00:46:21,680
Speaker 1: her feel up, which I've noticed from just an hour.

817
00:46:22,239 --> 00:46:27,600
Speaker 1: I appreciate that, And I guess I have another question too,

818
00:46:27,640 --> 00:46:32,120
Speaker 1: because what you said with your other partners, they don't

819
00:46:32,160 --> 00:46:36,040
Speaker 1: want you to love someone else. Um, James, how do

820
00:46:36,320 --> 00:46:39,600
Speaker 1: you hold in your jealousy or insecurity? I think we

821
00:46:39,600 --> 00:46:43,880
Speaker 1: we attached those characteristics to women a lot without thinking

822
00:46:43,920 --> 00:46:47,600
Speaker 1: that men also get jealous or men have insecurities. How

823
00:46:47,600 --> 00:46:50,680
Speaker 1: do you check yourself when maybe they're having fun, or

824
00:46:50,719 --> 00:46:53,120
Speaker 1: they want to have a girl's night out, or they

825
00:46:53,160 --> 00:46:55,200
Speaker 1: do want to just spend time alone. How do you

826
00:46:55,280 --> 00:46:59,840
Speaker 1: check you check? You know, I don't they do it

827
00:46:59,880 --> 00:47:05,520
Speaker 1: for me? Um, right, But my I guess it comes

828
00:47:05,560 --> 00:47:07,600
Speaker 1: from me most of the time, where it's like if

829
00:47:08,760 --> 00:47:12,280
Speaker 1: if one of them and myself are arguing or something,

830
00:47:13,080 --> 00:47:16,600
Speaker 1: they always tend to comfort each other and besides, like

831
00:47:16,640 --> 00:47:18,359
Speaker 1: I'm like, damn, I want some little too, like I'm

832
00:47:18,400 --> 00:47:20,719
Speaker 1: piste off, Like show me some little like she could

833
00:47:20,719 --> 00:47:24,440
Speaker 1: be mad for a little bit, right right, right, that's

834
00:47:24,480 --> 00:47:26,520
Speaker 1: what they'd be saying. I'd be like, and we and

835
00:47:26,560 --> 00:47:29,319
Speaker 1: we had that conversation and I addressed it, and that's

836
00:47:29,360 --> 00:47:32,400
Speaker 1: what um we big on just communicating it and and

837
00:47:32,600 --> 00:47:35,160
Speaker 1: we we've had the discussions about it, but they still

838
00:47:35,200 --> 00:47:39,799
Speaker 1: do it. But and it's it's all good because it's expected.

839
00:47:39,880 --> 00:47:42,600
Speaker 1: And but for the like nights out and she's like that,

840
00:47:42,600 --> 00:47:45,480
Speaker 1: I encourage them to have they have their girls time

841
00:47:45,520 --> 00:47:48,680
Speaker 1: and like build a relationship for our for our foundation

842
00:47:48,719 --> 00:47:52,600
Speaker 1: can be strong. How do you feel about when people

843
00:47:52,600 --> 00:47:54,680
Speaker 1: may be asking for advice other men? What do you

844
00:47:54,680 --> 00:47:56,920
Speaker 1: think it's different about you than men that have tried

845
00:47:56,960 --> 00:47:59,080
Speaker 1: this before or maybe friends, you know, like, what do

846
00:47:59,120 --> 00:48:01,200
Speaker 1: you think it is different about your quality that you

847
00:48:01,280 --> 00:48:06,960
Speaker 1: have that makes this dynamic work. That's it. I don't

848
00:48:06,960 --> 00:48:11,000
Speaker 1: feel like it's nothing too too too crazy, that just

849
00:48:11,160 --> 00:48:13,360
Speaker 1: I'm open. And I was honest with Shaila from the

850
00:48:13,400 --> 00:48:16,600
Speaker 1: beginning about what I wanted and what I was trying

851
00:48:16,640 --> 00:48:19,200
Speaker 1: to experience, and she was open to it. She was

852
00:48:19,239 --> 00:48:22,439
Speaker 1: a little hesitant at first. Um, but like she said,

853
00:48:22,480 --> 00:48:25,680
Speaker 1: she was always curious about curious about it. And I

854
00:48:25,719 --> 00:48:29,759
Speaker 1: just feel like, I'm, um, I'm I'm open to them,

855
00:48:29,760 --> 00:48:32,680
Speaker 1: and I'm I'm open to Shaila like loving Chante. I'm

856
00:48:32,719 --> 00:48:36,799
Speaker 1: not a selfish type of nigger. So it's just you

857
00:48:36,880 --> 00:48:38,799
Speaker 1: got you have to be a certain type of way.

858
00:48:38,880 --> 00:48:41,560
Speaker 1: You have to throw your your pride to the side

859
00:48:41,600 --> 00:48:44,040
Speaker 1: and realize it ain't about you most of the time,

860
00:48:44,280 --> 00:48:48,520
Speaker 1: because the foundation is built really on the queens in

861
00:48:48,560 --> 00:48:53,479
Speaker 1: the relationship, and and that's just what it is. Said. Yeah,

862
00:48:53,520 --> 00:48:55,799
Speaker 1: I was actually gonna say what you just said is

863
00:48:56,160 --> 00:48:58,280
Speaker 1: you said you were honest, up front with what you wanted.

864
00:48:58,320 --> 00:49:01,480
Speaker 1: I know, along the relationship, you guys grew more curious.

865
00:49:01,760 --> 00:49:04,640
Speaker 1: But a lot of times we get letters that are

866
00:49:04,640 --> 00:49:07,719
Speaker 1: written in or even when I'm talking to friends, they're like, man,

867
00:49:07,719 --> 00:49:09,319
Speaker 1: but my partner would never do that. So I ain't

868
00:49:09,320 --> 00:49:12,400
Speaker 1: even gonna ask. So the fact that you literally just

869
00:49:12,480 --> 00:49:15,480
Speaker 1: opened the conversation. I think so many people think they

870
00:49:15,520 --> 00:49:18,920
Speaker 1: know their partner, especially in this kink space or when

871
00:49:19,000 --> 00:49:21,319
Speaker 1: you want to try to introduce more people, they just

872
00:49:21,360 --> 00:49:23,400
Speaker 1: be like, no, man, I know if I ask her

873
00:49:23,400 --> 00:49:25,320
Speaker 1: for that, she's gonna think I'm cheating or she's gonna

874
00:49:25,360 --> 00:49:27,920
Speaker 1: go crazy, and a lot of times you'd be surprised

875
00:49:28,239 --> 00:49:31,200
Speaker 1: what your partner is actually open to doing if you

876
00:49:31,320 --> 00:49:34,880
Speaker 1: just open the dialogue to to having that and seeing

877
00:49:34,880 --> 00:49:37,360
Speaker 1: their comfortability levels. So I'm glad that you just said

878
00:49:37,600 --> 00:49:40,360
Speaker 1: I was honest. I said what I wanted. Sheila, you said,

879
00:49:40,600 --> 00:49:43,200
Speaker 1: you're curious what more can we do? And I think

880
00:49:43,239 --> 00:49:46,759
Speaker 1: those early conversations are what got y'all to you know,

881
00:49:46,920 --> 00:49:50,840
Speaker 1: you're successful throuble now, So I appreciate you saying that

882
00:49:51,080 --> 00:49:54,279
Speaker 1: I'm curious to know. Okay, two questions, Who is the

883
00:49:54,280 --> 00:50:02,359
Speaker 1: best pussy you go with? Bullshit? I would say probably, Yeah.

884
00:50:02,440 --> 00:50:05,080
Speaker 1: I think we've had this conversation before, like on our podcast.

885
00:50:05,120 --> 00:50:08,120
Speaker 1: So they both had me so well because before her,

886
00:50:08,239 --> 00:50:11,360
Speaker 1: I never really experienced with a woman, So you know,

887
00:50:12,440 --> 00:50:14,120
Speaker 1: but it's still like man, but you in it now

888
00:50:15,640 --> 00:50:17,719
Speaker 1: and she hasn't been scared about it. You know. That's

889
00:50:17,760 --> 00:50:21,320
Speaker 1: another thing. All all your friends that ate your pussy

890
00:50:21,400 --> 00:50:28,120
Speaker 1: before this, they coming for you back, is gonna come

891
00:50:28,160 --> 00:50:33,840
Speaker 1: to you now? Your friends no day, Okay, that's for James,

892
00:50:34,640 --> 00:50:39,239
Speaker 1: ship don't like Okay, you don't have to which one

893
00:50:39,280 --> 00:50:41,160
Speaker 1: of y'all like giving Dick the most because that's normally

894
00:50:41,200 --> 00:50:44,080
Speaker 1: the one who sucks it out of the two. Y'all

895
00:50:44,080 --> 00:50:49,279
Speaker 1: stuck better Dick. I don't know. I think we're we

896
00:50:49,400 --> 00:50:52,480
Speaker 1: both make him come right. And I've been sucking his

897
00:50:52,560 --> 00:50:54,759
Speaker 1: dick for a minute now, so I know what to

898
00:50:54,840 --> 00:51:02,200
Speaker 1: do if I want to make him come real quick.

899
00:51:02,200 --> 00:51:04,720
Speaker 1: Because we didn't mention it in the beginning of the show,

900
00:51:05,040 --> 00:51:08,000
Speaker 1: but you mentioned your podcast. So the three of you

901
00:51:08,040 --> 00:51:13,440
Speaker 1: guys share a podcast together, yes, often, and you guys

902
00:51:13,480 --> 00:51:16,479
Speaker 1: often talk about like what for the people listening because

903
00:51:16,520 --> 00:51:18,160
Speaker 1: because I know we missed that in the beginning, for

904
00:51:18,160 --> 00:51:21,000
Speaker 1: the people listening who are curious to maybe hear more

905
00:51:21,280 --> 00:51:24,279
Speaker 1: from you guys, what is your podcast about? And what

906
00:51:24,400 --> 00:51:28,239
Speaker 1: is it named? It's three relationship goes and it's basically,

907
00:51:28,640 --> 00:51:32,880
Speaker 1: you know, Surrounded about Surrounded a Polly polyamory um our life.

908
00:51:33,080 --> 00:51:36,680
Speaker 1: We have three segments, um, so we have the good

909
00:51:36,680 --> 00:51:39,719
Speaker 1: bad reality. We have a good bad reality, you know,

910
00:51:40,920 --> 00:51:43,839
Speaker 1: where we kind of just you know, give the good,

911
00:51:43,920 --> 00:51:47,600
Speaker 1: the bad and reality. Obviously, we have the kinky cravings

912
00:51:47,640 --> 00:51:49,440
Speaker 1: all about sex, and then we have the tips of

913
00:51:49,440 --> 00:51:53,919
Speaker 1: the week, um, just a little factor questions. So it's dope.

914
00:51:54,000 --> 00:51:56,880
Speaker 1: We like it. We've been doing it for almost a

915
00:51:56,920 --> 00:51:58,759
Speaker 1: year now. You guys will have to come to one

916
00:51:58,800 --> 00:52:01,239
Speaker 1: of our live shows and be a guess, because we

917
00:52:01,239 --> 00:52:03,080
Speaker 1: was gonna come to the one in Vegas, but you

918
00:52:03,080 --> 00:52:07,359
Speaker 1: know all this year happen listen Vegas, Vegas opening, and

919
00:52:07,600 --> 00:52:12,480
Speaker 1: so we wait closer. We probably want to lead y'all

920
00:52:12,520 --> 00:52:16,000
Speaker 1: will fuck someone from the audience, right, yeah, no, for sure,

921
00:52:17,239 --> 00:52:22,400
Speaker 1: jobs just make it seem like our audience has just

922
00:52:22,440 --> 00:52:28,480
Speaker 1: given the puss. Alright, they just kiss me, that's it.

923
00:52:29,280 --> 00:52:32,600
Speaker 1: Whenever y'all have one, though, we're definitely gonna come. No,

924
00:52:32,719 --> 00:52:35,040
Speaker 1: we have so let us know. I would really like, really,

925
00:52:35,080 --> 00:52:36,920
Speaker 1: let's get into our home mail really quick before we

926
00:52:36,960 --> 00:52:38,520
Speaker 1: all get out of here. Um to say the name

927
00:52:38,560 --> 00:52:40,320
Speaker 1: of your podcast one more time? Is it three? What

928
00:52:41,040 --> 00:52:45,839
Speaker 1: three relationship goals? So it's number three relationship goals. We're

929
00:52:45,880 --> 00:52:48,520
Speaker 1: gonna put it in our in our description, y'all, se

930
00:52:48,560 --> 00:52:50,440
Speaker 1: y'all can see it. But I mean, obviously we all

931
00:52:50,480 --> 00:52:52,120
Speaker 1: want to tune in because this ship sounds good as fun.

932
00:52:52,520 --> 00:52:54,640
Speaker 1: I want I want to know how to fight go

933
00:52:54,880 --> 00:53:01,239
Speaker 1: I don't know club no toxic love. We ain't going

934
00:53:01,360 --> 00:53:03,960
Speaker 1: We ain't gonnahy I'm here, But anyway, here's a wail.

935
00:53:05,160 --> 00:53:07,240
Speaker 1: I do like the homemail for this week. UM again,

936
00:53:07,280 --> 00:53:10,080
Speaker 1: if you guys have a homemail, please send it into us.

937
00:53:10,200 --> 00:53:13,759
Speaker 1: It's horrible Decisions at gmail dot com. Um. This one

938
00:53:13,840 --> 00:53:17,200
Speaker 1: actually kind of relays back to the episode with damage

939
00:53:17,680 --> 00:53:20,520
Speaker 1: um on kind of just decision making in a relationship.

940
00:53:20,560 --> 00:53:22,960
Speaker 1: I really like this. It says, Hello, Louisian Mandy. I'm

941
00:53:22,960 --> 00:53:25,000
Speaker 1: a huge fan. I've been listening for about a year.

942
00:53:25,160 --> 00:53:29,520
Speaker 1: Love you guys. Here we go. So about a week

943
00:53:29,600 --> 00:53:32,480
Speaker 1: or so after the riots started happening about George Floyd,

944
00:53:32,760 --> 00:53:35,480
Speaker 1: everybody had their opinion on what's going on. For the

945
00:53:35,520 --> 00:53:37,680
Speaker 1: most part, the people around me are pretty much on

946
00:53:37,719 --> 00:53:40,720
Speaker 1: the same page with lots with a lot of these issues.

947
00:53:41,040 --> 00:53:43,600
Speaker 1: But I'm a black man and my wife is Mexican.

948
00:53:44,000 --> 00:53:45,960
Speaker 1: We have a daughter and a son together, and we

949
00:53:46,000 --> 00:53:48,600
Speaker 1: pretty much have the same idea on how we want

950
00:53:48,640 --> 00:53:51,360
Speaker 1: to raise our kids. So to teach our kids on

951
00:53:51,480 --> 00:53:54,640
Speaker 1: how change comes about. We went to our local protests

952
00:53:54,719 --> 00:53:58,120
Speaker 1: and peacefully protested. Later that night, my wife was on

953
00:53:58,160 --> 00:54:01,040
Speaker 1: the phone with her mother. She was explaining that we

954
00:54:01,080 --> 00:54:04,160
Speaker 1: went to the protests and everything went great. My stepmother

955
00:54:04,239 --> 00:54:07,520
Speaker 1: cuts her off mid sentence and starts regurgitating the Candice

956
00:54:07,520 --> 00:54:10,279
Speaker 1: Owen's video on George Floyd. And she literally was saying

957
00:54:10,320 --> 00:54:13,840
Speaker 1: the most nasty, most racist things I ever thought would

958
00:54:13,840 --> 00:54:16,399
Speaker 1: come out of her mouth. Mind you, she always does

959
00:54:16,400 --> 00:54:19,080
Speaker 1: say slick, racist things under her breath, but I choose

960
00:54:19,120 --> 00:54:21,279
Speaker 1: to ignore it because of respect for my wife. But

961
00:54:21,400 --> 00:54:23,719
Speaker 1: this time I had enough, so I took the phone

962
00:54:23,719 --> 00:54:26,960
Speaker 1: and started explaining to her mother what was going on,

963
00:54:27,120 --> 00:54:29,280
Speaker 1: and she cut me off and didn't even want to listen.

964
00:54:29,560 --> 00:54:31,839
Speaker 1: She explained to me that she doesn't care what's going on.

965
00:54:32,200 --> 00:54:34,680
Speaker 1: She's not black, so why should she care? And I

966
00:54:34,680 --> 00:54:37,160
Speaker 1: said okay, then hung up. So my wife and I

967
00:54:37,239 --> 00:54:40,040
Speaker 1: made the conscious decision to not bring our children around

968
00:54:40,080 --> 00:54:42,759
Speaker 1: her mother or her husband because of their social and

969
00:54:42,800 --> 00:54:45,560
Speaker 1: political views. She's not even taking in the fact that

970
00:54:45,600 --> 00:54:48,839
Speaker 1: it's her crandkids that are both half black, and they

971
00:54:48,880 --> 00:54:51,239
Speaker 1: might go through the same things that he thinks other

972
00:54:51,239 --> 00:54:53,680
Speaker 1: people of color are are going to go through. Are

973
00:54:53,719 --> 00:54:55,440
Speaker 1: we wrong for this? I don't want to keep my

974
00:54:55,480 --> 00:54:58,160
Speaker 1: kids away from my grandmother, but with a toxic mind

975
00:54:58,560 --> 00:55:01,839
Speaker 1: like that, I cannot have the kids around them. Are

976
00:55:01,880 --> 00:55:04,920
Speaker 1: we wrong? Are we over exaggerating or are we already

977
00:55:04,920 --> 00:55:07,399
Speaker 1: doing the right thing. This happened almost two weeks ago,

978
00:55:07,680 --> 00:55:09,719
Speaker 1: and I feel bad, but at the same time, I

979
00:55:09,760 --> 00:55:13,200
Speaker 1: feel like doing what's right. I love that mail and

980
00:55:13,239 --> 00:55:15,200
Speaker 1: I just want to say something. I want to quote

981
00:55:15,200 --> 00:55:18,440
Speaker 1: the Dr Umar, a man of my life. He said,

982
00:55:18,440 --> 00:55:22,240
Speaker 1: and I quote when you mixed chocolate milk and regular

983
00:55:22,320 --> 00:55:29,919
Speaker 1: milk and half chocolate milk chocolate milk one and too.

984
00:55:30,640 --> 00:55:33,720
Speaker 1: Just a side note, this is exactly why non black

985
00:55:33,840 --> 00:55:37,880
Speaker 1: pocs do not need to be saying because I've said it.

986
00:55:38,440 --> 00:55:42,040
Speaker 1: This is why God they just as racist, well not

987
00:55:42,040 --> 00:55:44,520
Speaker 1: not all of them. I when we're speaking, I don't

988
00:55:44,520 --> 00:55:47,000
Speaker 1: want to say all, but I know that we had

989
00:55:47,000 --> 00:55:49,000
Speaker 1: the conversation some of you guys may have heard with

990
00:55:49,080 --> 00:55:52,799
Speaker 1: Brianda Um we put it in in a few episodes ago.

991
00:55:53,200 --> 00:55:55,600
Speaker 1: But I have the conversations with my Latina friends that

992
00:55:55,640 --> 00:55:57,360
Speaker 1: I don't want them to say the N word, but

993
00:55:57,480 --> 00:56:01,640
Speaker 1: specifically because their parents are grandparents and the people that

994
00:56:01,680 --> 00:56:03,919
Speaker 1: I know they were raised by don't have a good

995
00:56:04,120 --> 00:56:06,680
Speaker 1: view on black people or dark skin. I don't even

996
00:56:06,680 --> 00:56:09,840
Speaker 1: want to say just black people, because there are Afro Latina's.

997
00:56:09,840 --> 00:56:12,320
Speaker 1: They get the same treatment as as black people because

998
00:56:12,320 --> 00:56:15,200
Speaker 1: of the color of their skin. Um, I'll say my advice,

999
00:56:15,280 --> 00:56:16,960
Speaker 1: and then I would love to hear what you guys

1000
00:56:17,120 --> 00:56:24,120
Speaker 1: UM say. I say that racism is you're not born

1001
00:56:24,160 --> 00:56:27,359
Speaker 1: with it, you're taught it. And so to me, the

1002
00:56:27,440 --> 00:56:31,560
Speaker 1: influence of what your grandparents could have on your children,

1003
00:56:32,000 --> 00:56:34,640
Speaker 1: I would say that that's not conducive to what we

1004
00:56:34,680 --> 00:56:38,520
Speaker 1: want our future to look like. Um. So I would

1005
00:56:38,560 --> 00:56:41,680
Speaker 1: say it's unfortunate. I think that there's a way to

1006
00:56:41,719 --> 00:56:44,759
Speaker 1: be around your your grandparents while they're with your kids.

1007
00:56:44,800 --> 00:56:47,360
Speaker 1: I wouldn't say leave them alone. I think it's also

1008
00:56:47,480 --> 00:56:52,200
Speaker 1: unfortunate to keep certain family members away from children. But

1009
00:56:52,239 --> 00:56:55,759
Speaker 1: they're also children, so they'll be fine. Um, they can

1010
00:56:55,800 --> 00:56:57,719
Speaker 1: go to the funeral. That was really bad to say,

1011
00:56:58,040 --> 00:57:01,880
Speaker 1: But anyway, I just I just honestly, I have no

1012
00:57:03,239 --> 00:57:08,279
Speaker 1: no type of sympathy. I guess empathy, yes, but y'all

1013
00:57:08,280 --> 00:57:10,440
Speaker 1: know I'll be forgetting words and ship, but I have

1014
00:57:10,560 --> 00:57:13,680
Speaker 1: no empathy for this. Um. It's something that happened with

1015
00:57:13,680 --> 00:57:16,880
Speaker 1: with my white side of my family. Um Uh. A

1016
00:57:16,920 --> 00:57:19,160
Speaker 1: lot of my white side of my family didn't accept

1017
00:57:19,200 --> 00:57:21,360
Speaker 1: all of us for being black. I know as far

1018
00:57:21,400 --> 00:57:24,560
Speaker 1: as my mom dating, it was very she made sure

1019
00:57:24,600 --> 00:57:27,440
Speaker 1: to let anyone that she was dating that wasn't black.

1020
00:57:27,680 --> 00:57:30,160
Speaker 1: Let it be known that her children were black, because

1021
00:57:30,160 --> 00:57:33,200
Speaker 1: she wasn't gonna stand for someone making us uncomfortable or

1022
00:57:33,240 --> 00:57:35,640
Speaker 1: making us feel less sand. So I think that it's

1023
00:57:35,640 --> 00:57:38,080
Speaker 1: important for you, as a black man, to not only

1024
00:57:38,200 --> 00:57:41,680
Speaker 1: educate your wife, but let her know your reasoning for

1025
00:57:41,760 --> 00:57:46,200
Speaker 1: not wanting your kids around. All right, Nick, and I

1026
00:57:47,120 --> 00:57:50,640
Speaker 1: feel the same way because um me personally, my daughter, UM,

1027
00:57:50,720 --> 00:57:56,000
Speaker 1: my daughter mom is white, so um and men. Her

1028
00:57:56,000 --> 00:57:58,520
Speaker 1: and I just had a conversation recently because I was

1029
00:57:58,920 --> 00:58:02,400
Speaker 1: I mentioned it with everything going on, and we was like,

1030
00:58:02,480 --> 00:58:04,960
Speaker 1: she's turning five, so we're looking into schools and ship

1031
00:58:05,080 --> 00:58:08,560
Speaker 1: so we are the schools around her is like they're

1032
00:58:08,600 --> 00:58:11,520
Speaker 1: not very like diverse, so there's not that many like

1033
00:58:12,080 --> 00:58:15,840
Speaker 1: black students in the in the in the in the schools.

1034
00:58:15,920 --> 00:58:19,160
Speaker 1: So I was telling her, like, either school we she

1035
00:58:19,320 --> 00:58:22,760
Speaker 1: goes to, I'm gonna have to teach her black history.

1036
00:58:22,960 --> 00:58:26,640
Speaker 1: And she she agreed, like and she and she agreed

1037
00:58:26,680 --> 00:58:28,160
Speaker 1: like I don't want to teach her to her. I

1038
00:58:28,160 --> 00:58:31,080
Speaker 1: feel more comfortable with you teaching it to her, which

1039
00:58:31,880 --> 00:58:35,560
Speaker 1: ultimately I was gonna say anyway. But and it's just

1040
00:58:35,640 --> 00:58:38,880
Speaker 1: like certain family members on her side too, I think

1041
00:58:38,960 --> 00:58:42,080
Speaker 1: feel the same way as like, oh he's the black guy,

1042
00:58:42,160 --> 00:58:44,880
Speaker 1: Like why are you dating the black guy? But right,

1043
00:58:45,000 --> 00:58:48,320
Speaker 1: But she she she has a tendency of like going

1044
00:58:48,360 --> 00:58:51,200
Speaker 1: off and on them too because she she um, she

1045
00:58:51,320 --> 00:58:54,200
Speaker 1: loves her daughter obviously, and she really she don't. She

1046
00:58:54,200 --> 00:58:56,200
Speaker 1: don't play that ship when it comes to her, and

1047
00:58:56,280 --> 00:58:58,520
Speaker 1: that's one thing I command her on. She really big

1048
00:58:58,560 --> 00:59:02,680
Speaker 1: on like keeping them family members away from her with

1049
00:59:02,840 --> 00:59:05,160
Speaker 1: our commander. And you also just got to check them.

1050
00:59:05,200 --> 00:59:08,080
Speaker 1: And I think he tried to check the grandmother and

1051
00:59:08,280 --> 00:59:12,040
Speaker 1: she cut her off and wasn't listening. So I mean,

1052
00:59:12,080 --> 00:59:14,640
Speaker 1: you're weezy. Do you have anything to add to that? No,

1053
00:59:14,760 --> 00:59:17,680
Speaker 1: I mean I actually I find it super interesting. Oh shoot,

1054
00:59:17,720 --> 00:59:20,080
Speaker 1: I think their WiFi might cut off, you see that. No, No,

1055
00:59:20,600 --> 00:59:23,720
Speaker 1: they're back okay cool? Oh wait maybe not? Yeah, no,

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00:59:23,960 --> 00:59:27,240
Speaker 1: I don't know. Okay, Well, I love what they said.

1057
00:59:27,360 --> 00:59:31,160
Speaker 1: I'm going to wrap this up for them really quickly. Um. Oh,

1058
00:59:31,280 --> 00:59:35,240
Speaker 1: you guys are back, okay, So I want you guys

1059
00:59:35,920 --> 00:59:38,400
Speaker 1: to do us a favor just just to wrap this up.

1060
00:59:38,520 --> 00:59:43,720
Speaker 1: I'm sure everybody really loved this episode, and um, honestly,

1061
00:59:43,760 --> 00:59:45,600
Speaker 1: it's something that we've been talking about for so long,

1062
00:59:45,720 --> 00:59:47,840
Speaker 1: like this is obviously a quote unquote much more real

1063
00:59:48,320 --> 00:59:52,320
Speaker 1: throatle You know, mine was very brief. Uh, what happened

1064
00:59:52,360 --> 00:59:55,360
Speaker 1: to it? I never I ain't never listened to I

1065
00:59:55,440 --> 00:59:57,840
Speaker 1: ain't hear in the episodes about what happened to do it?

1066
00:59:58,200 --> 01:00:02,400
Speaker 1: You know what I mean? She kind of just left.

1067
01:00:01,080 --> 01:00:06,440
Speaker 1: We was wondering great. I talked about this on Patreon,

1068
01:00:06,520 --> 01:00:11,320
Speaker 1: but honestly, Scissors and I we are still great friends. Um,

1069
01:00:11,360 --> 01:00:16,280
Speaker 1: we broke up and that basically crumbled the triad, so

1070
01:00:16,360 --> 01:00:20,200
Speaker 1: to speak. But you know, I think for a long

1071
01:00:20,240 --> 01:00:24,080
Speaker 1: time coming, maybe I saw this happening because her and

1072
01:00:24,120 --> 01:00:26,800
Speaker 1: I were friends for so long that that connection and

1073
01:00:26,800 --> 01:00:30,000
Speaker 1: that attraction to each other was never really leaving. But

1074
01:00:30,080 --> 01:00:32,480
Speaker 1: when we knew that some values weren't adding up or

1075
01:00:32,560 --> 01:00:37,040
Speaker 1: some things wouldn't match for like longevity, it didn't work. Um,

1076
01:00:37,120 --> 01:00:39,560
Speaker 1: And right now we're we're we're still great friends. And

1077
01:00:39,560 --> 01:00:40,840
Speaker 1: don't want to give a shout out to her because

1078
01:00:40,880 --> 01:00:44,120
Speaker 1: she just started dating someone. She's got a boyfriend, and

1079
01:00:44,200 --> 01:00:46,040
Speaker 1: she said that the boyfriend was like, what the fund

1080
01:00:46,040 --> 01:00:48,000
Speaker 1: this bitch be calling you at midnight? Is still your ex?

1081
01:00:48,080 --> 01:00:49,760
Speaker 1: And she's like, okay, well this is one x that

1082
01:00:49,800 --> 01:00:52,200
Speaker 1: can't go. This is cast to be in my life

1083
01:00:52,200 --> 01:00:54,720
Speaker 1: and we are really good friends. Actually got a conversation

1084
01:00:54,720 --> 01:00:58,840
Speaker 1: on Twitter. Y'all know this is messy. I was like,

1085
01:00:58,880 --> 01:01:01,920
Speaker 1: if I got married, would I not be allowed to

1086
01:01:01,960 --> 01:01:04,360
Speaker 1: have her as a risemaid? And people were like, are

1087
01:01:04,400 --> 01:01:08,240
Speaker 1: you kiddy? But that's how close he is to me,

1088
01:01:08,240 --> 01:01:10,919
Speaker 1: and um, I will say, like, that's why I wanted

1089
01:01:10,920 --> 01:01:12,720
Speaker 1: to ask you guys about how it felt when you met,

1090
01:01:12,800 --> 01:01:15,640
Speaker 1: because it's weird when you're super attracted to someone but

1091
01:01:15,680 --> 01:01:18,200
Speaker 1: you also click. And I can only describe it as

1092
01:01:18,240 --> 01:01:21,200
Speaker 1: to hetero people when you meet someone and you call

1093
01:01:21,280 --> 01:01:22,640
Speaker 1: them your best friend. Oh my god, he's like my

1094
01:01:22,640 --> 01:01:24,520
Speaker 1: best friend. It can really be like that when you

1095
01:01:24,520 --> 01:01:27,080
Speaker 1: meet another woman and it's this weird almost like I

1096
01:01:27,080 --> 01:01:29,280
Speaker 1: don't want to use the word sisterhood, but like when

1097
01:01:29,320 --> 01:01:32,080
Speaker 1: you feel this closeness to a woman, that femininity and

1098
01:01:32,200 --> 01:01:35,840
Speaker 1: you're able to have sex together, it's just like unheard of.

1099
01:01:35,320 --> 01:01:38,600
Speaker 1: But yeah, and it's crazy because her and I almost

1100
01:01:38,880 --> 01:01:41,320
Speaker 1: jumped back into friendship too quick. We were like, okay,

1101
01:01:41,360 --> 01:01:43,040
Speaker 1: we can't, we can't, we can't, we can't, but now

1102
01:01:43,080 --> 01:01:47,840
Speaker 1: we're great. It feels good and I also think the

1103
01:01:48,160 --> 01:01:51,520
Speaker 1: thing with my throatle that I will say distance. I

1104
01:01:51,520 --> 01:01:53,880
Speaker 1: don't think we've always all lived in a different city.

1105
01:01:53,920 --> 01:01:58,760
Speaker 1: I don't think that's realistic at all. The only good

1106
01:01:58,760 --> 01:02:00,439
Speaker 1: thing was you get to funk on Vaca and every

1107
01:02:00,440 --> 01:02:03,880
Speaker 1: time you see each other, right, I mean the anticipation.

1108
01:02:03,920 --> 01:02:06,520
Speaker 1: I'm sure it was a good funck. But I mean

1109
01:02:06,720 --> 01:02:09,000
Speaker 1: you're like, you're like waiting, right, and the other two

1110
01:02:09,000 --> 01:02:10,680
Speaker 1: are with each other and your FaceTime and the other

1111
01:02:10,720 --> 01:02:13,080
Speaker 1: one like it's almost too much. But this is such

1112
01:02:13,120 --> 01:02:14,880
Speaker 1: a great example, and I think what he also makes

1113
01:02:14,920 --> 01:02:17,560
Speaker 1: it better is it shows a side of the man

1114
01:02:17,640 --> 01:02:20,280
Speaker 1: where you also hear him being dominant but respectful, because

1115
01:02:20,320 --> 01:02:21,960
Speaker 1: we don't put those two together when it comes to

1116
01:02:21,960 --> 01:02:24,480
Speaker 1: a man dating two women. I feel like ever we

1117
01:02:24,520 --> 01:02:26,560
Speaker 1: think like he got it going on and these girls

1118
01:02:26,600 --> 01:02:29,000
Speaker 1: are just along for the ride. But YouTube, I mean,

1119
01:02:29,000 --> 01:02:31,880
Speaker 1: you three all seem in love and I love I

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01:02:32,000 --> 01:02:37,680
Speaker 1: love love. Yea, we were able to get y'all on here. Um,

1121
01:02:37,800 --> 01:02:40,600
Speaker 1: we are going to put not only their podcasts in

1122
01:02:40,600 --> 01:02:43,640
Speaker 1: the description of this, but you guys can. We'll tag

1123
01:02:43,680 --> 01:02:48,080
Speaker 1: you guys on Twitter, on Instagram. We'll get your individual

1124
01:02:48,600 --> 01:02:51,320
Speaker 1: I know we won't because I feel like people gonna

1125
01:02:51,320 --> 01:02:55,120
Speaker 1: try to hollest so we are one that we do

1126
01:02:55,200 --> 01:02:58,040
Speaker 1: together because together. So we'll make sure to put well,

1127
01:02:58,120 --> 01:03:00,880
Speaker 1: we'll make sure to um post handle so that you

1128
01:03:00,920 --> 01:03:03,480
Speaker 1: guys can we even through and maybe find a fourth um.

1129
01:03:03,480 --> 01:03:04,880
Speaker 1: But I want to thank you guys so much for

1130
01:03:04,960 --> 01:03:08,640
Speaker 1: joining us. This was fun and you guys, specifically um

1131
01:03:08,720 --> 01:03:11,560
Speaker 1: Tay and and Sheyla, you let it be known that

1132
01:03:11,680 --> 01:03:15,280
Speaker 1: you guys really enjoy each other. You guys respect each other,

1133
01:03:15,720 --> 01:03:19,400
Speaker 1: and you don't feel like you're settling. I think a

1134
01:03:19,440 --> 01:03:22,560
Speaker 1: lot of women think that, oh, well, y'all are just

1135
01:03:22,640 --> 01:03:25,840
Speaker 1: doing this because y'all are settling, or whatever people may

1136
01:03:25,880 --> 01:03:27,760
Speaker 1: think of when two women decide to join in a

1137
01:03:27,800 --> 01:03:30,240
Speaker 1: relationship like this. So I love how both of you

1138
01:03:30,280 --> 01:03:34,160
Speaker 1: respected each other and and definitely showed the bothy y'all

1139
01:03:34,200 --> 01:03:43,000
Speaker 1: love Big Dick James over there. I want to think

1140
01:03:43,120 --> 01:03:45,960
Speaker 1: again you guys for tuning in weezy. Do you have

1141
01:03:46,000 --> 01:03:48,400
Speaker 1: any drops or anything to let the people know, just

1142
01:03:48,440 --> 01:03:50,360
Speaker 1: so y'all know we got you know ship comes right.

1143
01:03:52,440 --> 01:03:54,840
Speaker 1: You can hear me on another podcast called for Facts Sake.

1144
01:03:54,920 --> 01:03:56,680
Speaker 1: If you guys thought I had a white voice, now

1145
01:03:56,800 --> 01:04:00,080
Speaker 1: wait to hear me. My friend Eddie every week we

1146
01:04:00,120 --> 01:04:04,160
Speaker 1: talk about different topics. Uh, we did conspiracy theories. Last week,

1147
01:04:04,200 --> 01:04:06,280
Speaker 1: we do weird depths. I think this week is cheese.

1148
01:04:06,480 --> 01:04:08,480
Speaker 1: It just gets crazy. But um, we are going to

1149
01:04:08,600 --> 01:04:12,360
Speaker 1: do one on black names. And I don't know who

1150
01:04:12,360 --> 01:04:15,040
Speaker 1: I'm gonna get for this, but I've been learning so much.

1151
01:04:15,160 --> 01:04:18,680
Speaker 1: Just you know, quarantine makes me YouTube. Ship all the asha's,

1152
01:04:18,720 --> 01:04:20,600
Speaker 1: all the eddas, all of that ship. These are all

1153
01:04:20,680 --> 01:04:22,560
Speaker 1: kings and queens, and people make fun of us for

1154
01:04:22,640 --> 01:04:25,440
Speaker 1: the issha and this and that and ship, but little

1155
01:04:25,440 --> 01:04:27,800
Speaker 1: do you know your name is Regal And I really

1156
01:04:27,840 --> 01:04:29,760
Speaker 1: want to celebrate black names. And I'm trying to find

1157
01:04:29,760 --> 01:04:32,919
Speaker 1: a great guest to have on and yeah, it'll be dope.

1158
01:04:32,960 --> 01:04:35,600
Speaker 1: So check it out. You guys will love it. Um,

1159
01:04:35,640 --> 01:04:37,920
Speaker 1: and guys, If y'all are all caught up with all

1160
01:04:37,960 --> 01:04:41,640
Speaker 1: of our regular episodes on Horrible Decisions, there are over

1161
01:04:41,840 --> 01:04:44,840
Speaker 1: seventy more over on Patreon. For just as little as

1162
01:04:44,880 --> 01:04:48,800
Speaker 1: five dollars a month, you get three bonus episodes every month. Um,

1163
01:04:49,160 --> 01:04:51,840
Speaker 1: and you know so damn that's like seven eight episodes

1164
01:04:52,240 --> 01:04:54,840
Speaker 1: every month. Y'all listen to us again, Thank you, guys.

1165
01:04:54,840 --> 01:04:56,920
Speaker 1: There's also guests on there. We do some ship where

1166
01:04:56,960 --> 01:04:59,919
Speaker 1: we get our patrons on board and if you guys

1167
01:05:00,040 --> 01:05:02,240
Speaker 1: or interested, or if you guys, actually I'm about to

1168
01:05:02,280 --> 01:05:06,080
Speaker 1: do something with our patrons where I'm discussing, um, different

1169
01:05:06,120 --> 01:05:13,680
Speaker 1: birth control options. No, I'm not gonna do but um,

1170
01:05:13,720 --> 01:05:15,560
Speaker 1: I've literally been doing a lot of research and I

1171
01:05:15,600 --> 01:05:18,280
Speaker 1: know that birth control affects all of us differently. So

1172
01:05:18,360 --> 01:05:20,320
Speaker 1: I actually do want to start having more of those

1173
01:05:20,320 --> 01:05:23,520
Speaker 1: intimate conversations with patrons. So if you want to become

1174
01:05:23,520 --> 01:05:27,040
Speaker 1: a patron, join us on patreon dot com backslash Horrible Decisions.

1175
01:05:27,200 --> 01:05:28,760
Speaker 1: Make sure you type it in that way because we

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01:05:28,800 --> 01:05:31,160
Speaker 1: are eight team plus. Again, We're gonna leave you guys

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01:05:31,160 --> 01:05:34,720
Speaker 1: with a five minute bonus clip for our patrons. Um

1178
01:05:34,760 --> 01:05:36,320
Speaker 1: if you if you like what you hear there, you

1179
01:05:36,360 --> 01:05:38,480
Speaker 1: can listen to more on Patreon. So once again, this

1180
01:05:38,520 --> 01:05:47,040
Speaker 1: has been another episode of Horrible Decisions. Friend. I have

1181
01:05:47,160 --> 01:05:50,360
Speaker 1: a friend that when I'm sick, I call her bitch.

1182
01:05:50,360 --> 01:05:52,160
Speaker 1: When I'm breaking up with my nigga, I call her.

1183
01:05:52,200 --> 01:05:54,600
Speaker 1: If I think I want to kill someone, I'm going

1184
01:05:54,680 --> 01:05:57,440
Speaker 1: to call her bitch. If I need to do a

1185
01:05:57,520 --> 01:06:01,120
Speaker 1: scam on my AMEX, I'm calling that bitch because she

1186
01:06:01,480 --> 01:06:05,120
Speaker 1: knows that is Tammy. How Tammy, motherfucking guy advice for

1187
01:06:05,160 --> 01:06:07,240
Speaker 1: every goddamn thing. And you knew she was gonna raised

1188
01:06:07,240 --> 01:06:09,520
Speaker 1: a hand. I know because look every time we say,

1189
01:06:09,520 --> 01:06:12,400
Speaker 1: if anyone wants to talk, raise your hand. Tammy Tammy

1190
01:06:12,480 --> 01:06:15,760
Speaker 1: was me in school. Me, I know the answer, me

1191
01:06:16,040 --> 01:06:18,240
Speaker 1: tap pick on me. You know what I mean? Tammy

1192
01:06:18,320 --> 01:06:21,240
Speaker 1: Tammy could do this show. Okay, let's get into the

1193
01:06:21,240 --> 01:06:22,720
Speaker 1: horrible decision. I don't want to talk too much about

1194
01:06:22,720 --> 01:06:23,960
Speaker 1: breath control because I know you're about to do a

1195
01:06:23,960 --> 01:06:27,600
Speaker 1: whole episode on it. But look at my Look how

1196
01:06:27,640 --> 01:06:31,920
Speaker 1: bad he is? He just biting my hand bra you see, body, Well,

1197
01:06:31,960 --> 01:06:35,240
Speaker 1: maybe you shouldn't have bought a cat. Crackhead. I love him.

1198
01:06:35,360 --> 01:06:39,320
Speaker 1: I love my little crackhead Katy. Out out, crackhead Katie. Alright,

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01:06:39,360 --> 01:06:43,360
Speaker 1: crackhead Katy, alright, crackhead, not gonna sing a song about

1200
01:06:43,360 --> 01:06:49,920
Speaker 1: my crackhead cat. We're not gonna do that. Okay, Now,

1201
01:06:50,280 --> 01:06:52,520
Speaker 1: this is a very basic one, but I only picked

1202
01:06:52,560 --> 01:06:55,680
Speaker 1: it because it's actually happening to me, and I'm curious

1203
01:06:55,680 --> 01:06:59,360
Speaker 1: to know if you guys are experiencing this. So headline

1204
01:06:59,520 --> 01:07:04,919
Speaker 1: women are having a lot of bad sex during COVID. Okay,

1205
01:07:05,120 --> 01:07:08,600
Speaker 1: let me explain, not blaming my niggad. Just hear me

1206
01:07:09,760 --> 01:07:13,520
Speaker 1: more sex and can you hear you right now? He's

1207
01:07:13,520 --> 01:07:14,800
Speaker 1: not home yet, but I'm gonna say it's not so

1208
01:07:14,880 --> 01:07:17,000
Speaker 1: this is why you're talking about having bad dick for

1209
01:07:17,040 --> 01:07:19,680
Speaker 1: the last four months. Can you do know his dick

1210
01:07:19,880 --> 01:07:22,480
Speaker 1: is great? But just hear me. My book is not working.

1211
01:07:22,640 --> 01:07:25,360
Speaker 1: Just let me get this out. So a team of

1212
01:07:25,440 --> 01:07:28,320
Speaker 1: researcher has got in touch with about sixty women who

1213
01:07:28,320 --> 01:07:31,040
Speaker 1: had already surveyed their sex lives in the six months,

1214
01:07:31,440 --> 01:07:35,200
Speaker 1: six or twelve months prior to COVID. Most of them

1215
01:07:35,400 --> 01:07:39,920
Speaker 1: are having more sex weekly and worse sex. Many people

1216
01:07:39,960 --> 01:07:42,560
Speaker 1: have been in a withdrawal response, but others have an

1217
01:07:42,560 --> 01:07:46,840
Speaker 1: approach response. Sex can be a stress reliever or distraction. However,

1218
01:07:46,880 --> 01:07:50,480
Speaker 1: despite having more sex, women are coming less. Their quality

1219
01:07:50,520 --> 01:07:52,480
Speaker 1: of sex isn't getting as good, and they have a

1220
01:07:52,520 --> 01:07:58,200
Speaker 1: significant getting deterioration and sexual functioning like arousal lubrication and

1221
01:07:58,240 --> 01:08:04,240
Speaker 1: the ability to origas them. Bitch, I'm telling you for

1222
01:08:04,280 --> 01:08:06,840
Speaker 1: some reason, I don't know if it's because I'm working

1223
01:08:06,920 --> 01:08:10,000
Speaker 1: too much, but it's like I can't come anymore. My

1224
01:08:10,040 --> 01:08:14,080
Speaker 1: pussy Just start working. All I do is masturbate all

1225
01:08:14,120 --> 01:08:17,200
Speaker 1: of the time. If this nigga is working and he

1226
01:08:17,240 --> 01:08:19,599
Speaker 1: can't suck me, I go masturbate, and then during sex

1227
01:08:19,640 --> 01:08:22,200
Speaker 1: it's like I can't It's like I can't concentrate or

1228
01:08:22,200 --> 01:08:24,559
Speaker 1: I'm sucking too much. It's like three times a day, bitch.

1229
01:08:25,800 --> 01:08:33,599
Speaker 1: So not my problem. Um, it ain't new dick, Bro,

1230
01:08:33,720 --> 01:08:40,480
Speaker 1: I ain't never Honestly, I know how long it listens. Listen, however,

1231
01:08:40,640 --> 01:08:45,920
Speaker 1: let me tell y'all right, Yes, in the pictures seven years,

1232
01:08:46,640 --> 01:08:48,679
Speaker 1: like once a week for damn near almost seven years.

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01:08:48,680 --> 01:08:51,479
Speaker 1: Got it? Got it? Got it? This nigga I have

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01:08:51,760 --> 01:08:57,280
Speaker 1: seen every single day since we met. And it's not

1235
01:08:57,360 --> 01:09:01,439
Speaker 1: an exaggeration. It's yeah, but I've never somebody left every

1236
01:09:01,520 --> 01:09:05,479
Speaker 1: day for two months. When did you meet it, Mandy, Bro?

1237
01:09:05,680 --> 01:09:10,879
Speaker 1: Like two months ago? Okay, please raise your hand class

1238
01:09:11,439 --> 01:09:15,360
Speaker 1: if two month dick is new dick. But no, no,

1239
01:09:15,479 --> 01:09:18,639
Speaker 1: wait wait wait for the raising your hand, because yes,

1240
01:09:18,720 --> 01:09:21,719
Speaker 1: it's new dick. But when is it when you meet

1241
01:09:21,760 --> 01:09:25,160
Speaker 1: somebody that you see them every day for two months straight?

1242
01:09:25,960 --> 01:09:28,200
Speaker 1: Ain't nobody doing that? Bro, this is the love of

1243
01:09:28,240 --> 01:09:30,360
Speaker 1: your life. We get it, but it's still new. Bro.

1244
01:09:30,600 --> 01:09:34,559
Speaker 1: That's fine that it's new, but in y'all. He four times,

1245
01:09:34,600 --> 01:09:36,920
Speaker 1: like every time we fuck that nigga nut and the

1246
01:09:37,080 --> 01:09:39,200
Speaker 1: dick stay hard and we go again. So it's four

1247
01:09:39,240 --> 01:09:41,960
Speaker 1: times every day for the last two months. Bro, I

1248
01:09:41,960 --> 01:09:44,800
Speaker 1: think I fussed him more than seven already. That's what

1249
01:09:44,880 --> 01:09:49,519
Speaker 1: it feels like. Well that's what it is. But I'm

1250
01:09:49,600 --> 01:09:53,960
Speaker 1: comment I'm telling you, I'm coming you, ma'am have been abstinent,

1251
01:09:54,200 --> 01:09:57,160
Speaker 1: so your pussy is backed up. I mean I was

1252
01:09:57,240 --> 01:10:01,679
Speaker 1: asking it for like two months, bro. Now this menu

1253
01:10:01,760 --> 01:10:04,040
Speaker 1: is trying to tell what she ain't man as that long.

1254
01:10:04,600 --> 01:10:06,400
Speaker 1: I mean I was. I told him before you got

1255
01:10:06,400 --> 01:10:09,719
Speaker 1: in the room. I was. I lied to them one moment.

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01:10:09,840 --> 01:10:15,520
Speaker 1: No bit, you better not all fuck you up pussy anyway?

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01:10:15,520 --> 01:10:19,120
Speaker 1: Has anybody I'm curious to know because I have been

1258
01:10:19,120 --> 01:10:21,800
Speaker 1: having honeymoon phase, you guys, that's it. I have been

1259
01:10:21,880 --> 01:10:24,080
Speaker 1: like fucking so much. And don't get me wrong, Nika

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