WEBVTT - So Sick of Being Sick 0:00:01.920 --> 0:00:05.359 Wine Down with Janet Kramer and I'm Heeart Radio podcast. 0:00:06.240 --> 0:00:08.440 Hi, does everyone feel like we're on Oregon Trail with 0:00:08.520 --> 0:00:08.880 the flu? 0:00:09.119 --> 0:00:09.360 Deep? 0:00:10.039 --> 0:00:16.160 I feel like it's Groundhog's Day. It's That's how it's 0:00:16.160 --> 0:00:18.680 felt the last couple of weeks, Like every day is 0:00:18.720 --> 0:00:20.720 the same day? Yeah, over and over? 0:00:21.000 --> 0:00:21.239 Yeah? 0:00:23.160 --> 0:00:25.240 Is that what that means? 0:00:25.400 --> 0:00:25.599 Making? 0:00:26.400 --> 0:00:27.200 Okay? That is? 0:00:27.240 --> 0:00:31.880 That is what that means? I yeah, my host chat 0:00:32.000 --> 0:00:33.479 is is I mean. 0:00:33.600 --> 0:00:39.080 Just last week and pop it right in. 0:00:39.159 --> 0:00:41.199 Maybe we just skip that and go to wine about it? 0:00:41.280 --> 0:00:43.080 I know, right well, I feel like it's it's interesting 0:00:43.159 --> 0:00:46.120 because it was last week I was saying how he 0:00:46.159 --> 0:00:50.879 had creeping COVID, you know, and then it was you know, 0:00:51.720 --> 0:00:54.639 I'm like, you know, when you know that something else 0:00:54.720 --> 0:00:57.680 is wrong? Yes, And I think that's the hardest piece 0:00:57.680 --> 0:01:00.680 of it is because I'm like, it's something else. I 0:01:00.840 --> 0:01:04.120 probably I when you know your baby and I'm like, 0:01:04.200 --> 0:01:07.160 they are screaming in pain, Like he can't tell me 0:01:07.200 --> 0:01:10.800 what it is, but I don't. He is screaming constantly 0:01:10.840 --> 0:01:14.800 in pain. Something else is wrong, you know. And so 0:01:14.840 --> 0:01:17.600 that pieces was was you know, we end up obviously 0:01:17.600 --> 0:01:19.800 getting to the to the bottom of it, but it 0:01:19.880 --> 0:01:22.319 was and I was, you know, when we had the 0:01:22.360 --> 0:01:31.560 snowstorm right last week and snowstorm you stand, we had 0:01:31.600 --> 0:01:33.520 Catherine's version of a snowstorm last week. 0:01:34.400 --> 0:01:35.880 I was like, there's literally. 0:01:45.680 --> 0:01:48.160 When you were raised here, we have to keep defending them. 0:01:48.240 --> 0:01:50.440 I just go online and people are like, it's covered 0:01:50.480 --> 0:01:52.280 in nice like right, let's stay home. 0:01:53.080 --> 0:01:55.640 A friend that was like, it looks slick outside. It 0:01:55.680 --> 0:01:58.240 looks if you've been out. I mean you just put 0:01:58.240 --> 0:02:02.960 your little tattooth on the ground. Yeah. 0:02:03.000 --> 0:02:06.640 But it was all of that, and then you guys know, 0:02:06.680 --> 0:02:10.560 I mean, Roman is the happiest human beings of all times. Yeah, 0:02:10.560 --> 0:02:13.800 I mean, like the happiest, and I think what was well? 0:02:13.840 --> 0:02:16.200 And then also with Alan, thank god he's back, but 0:02:16.800 --> 0:02:20.040 there was and I was telling Christen, this is so 0:02:20.880 --> 0:02:23.679 he starts feeling bad, you know, And this was now 0:02:24.760 --> 0:02:28.080 weeks or whatever. But it's one of those things where 0:02:28.160 --> 0:02:32.680 I then also got sick. But I'm okay. 0:02:32.760 --> 0:02:32.960 I know. 0:02:33.040 --> 0:02:36.000 I've gone on my stories and I've complained about complained. 0:02:36.000 --> 0:02:37.840 I'd be like, oh I hurt my knee or my back, 0:02:38.120 --> 0:02:42.120 but it's usually one story, blip done. Like I I 0:02:42.160 --> 0:02:46.960 don't like to chronically complain about things that are minus relationships. 0:02:48.720 --> 0:02:53.120 We're just being real, right, Like I have chronically complained 0:02:53.120 --> 0:02:56.280 about relationships on my stories, but not in a way 0:02:56.320 --> 0:02:59.320 where it's like I'm meaning to. It's almost like I 0:02:59.320 --> 0:03:03.120 did it as like an out and out cry to 0:03:03.240 --> 0:03:06.840 try to relate, right. I don't know, maybe that's kind 0:03:06.840 --> 0:03:10.160 of how but I've I've followed people who are constantly 0:03:10.240 --> 0:03:14.200 like complaining about them being sick or and it's like 0:03:14.400 --> 0:03:16.960 I don't personally like to see that. So I think 0:03:17.000 --> 0:03:18.720 it's okay to be like I'm down and out, but 0:03:18.720 --> 0:03:21.320 for some reason, I have a tough time being like, 0:03:21.360 --> 0:03:23.600 all right, I'm I'm down and out right. 0:03:24.120 --> 0:03:26.000 Is it like, do you mean social media or just 0:03:26.040 --> 0:03:28.480 in general? I think a little bit of both, because 0:03:28.520 --> 0:03:30.360 I won't ever say right. 0:03:30.160 --> 0:03:33.120 Like, I don't feel like, well, exactly, I have COVID. 0:03:33.520 --> 0:03:38.280 I figured you probably did. Yeah, I do, sound I 0:03:38.320 --> 0:03:39.400 am very congested. 0:03:39.440 --> 0:03:41.840 So I just saying, so, is there some sort of 0:03:41.880 --> 0:03:42.760 sponsorship for life? 0:03:44.480 --> 0:03:44.680 Well? 0:03:44.720 --> 0:03:47.480 But the thing is is like when he started feeling bad, 0:03:48.440 --> 0:03:50.240 and it's like I don't actually think I got it 0:03:50.280 --> 0:03:52.880 from him. I think I think my son actually had it, 0:03:53.320 --> 0:03:56.200 but he just didn't have really bad symptoms because I 0:03:56.320 --> 0:03:59.240 got it like the next day after, I like my 0:03:59.440 --> 0:04:01.920 back and it wasn't my normal back pain with my 0:04:02.040 --> 0:04:03.320 L four L five dispulge. 0:04:03.360 --> 0:04:05.120 It was the I mean. 0:04:05.160 --> 0:04:09.680 Radiating like pain, a headache that was like that hurts 0:04:09.720 --> 0:04:10.200 so bad. 0:04:10.320 --> 0:04:12.480 I couldn't even frickin think straight. You know. I had 0:04:12.480 --> 0:04:12.920 a fever. 0:04:13.120 --> 0:04:16.800 I'm like sweat, I felt miserable, and then the congestion came, 0:04:16.839 --> 0:04:18.960 and then the nose and all this. And but I 0:04:18.960 --> 0:04:21.839 had Alan out of town, right, we had I didn't 0:04:21.839 --> 0:04:26.159 have I don't have much help and so and then. 0:04:26.040 --> 0:04:29.080 He's so a sick baby in fairness, doesn't really want 0:04:29.120 --> 0:04:32.400 anyone but you anyways, so it doesn't quite matter. I mean, yeah, 0:04:32.400 --> 0:04:34.600 they're thankful for the dishes and the laundry or whatever, but. 0:04:34.760 --> 0:04:36.840 Right, and then I'm not sleeping on top of that 0:04:36.880 --> 0:04:39.279 because you know, sick baby or whatever. And so I'm 0:04:39.800 --> 0:04:41.440 you know, so and then I don't know why. I 0:04:41.520 --> 0:04:42.800 just I'm not going to go on and be like 0:04:42.960 --> 0:04:45.080 I'm sick too, Like who cares about me? Like we 0:04:45.160 --> 0:04:48.160 care about my sick baby, you know, like let's let's 0:04:48.240 --> 0:04:49.880 just I don't know, and I just again, I just 0:04:49.920 --> 0:04:53.160 don't love going on my story and saying that I'm sick. 0:04:53.279 --> 0:04:58.760 So then Alan's like, this is the funny piece of 0:04:58.800 --> 0:05:01.720 it because he's in one right, and I'm answering the FaceTime. 0:05:01.720 --> 0:05:03.440 It's like, you just don't seem very happy to see me, 0:05:04.480 --> 0:05:08.200 and I'm like, I am tired, I'm exhausted, I don't 0:05:08.240 --> 0:05:12.600 feel good, you know, with me very sick child. I'm sorry, 0:05:12.600 --> 0:05:13.920 I'm not answering the phone. 0:05:13.680 --> 0:05:16.279 Like hey baby, right, you know. 0:05:16.400 --> 0:05:18.000 So there was like a piece that. But then when 0:05:18.000 --> 0:05:20.240 he got home, he was like, oh man, and I 0:05:20.279 --> 0:05:22.280 mean he saw He's like, this is a lot, and 0:05:22.320 --> 0:05:24.520 I'm like, yeah, now smile yeah. 0:05:24.520 --> 0:05:27.080 And also a week two or three or whatever exactly, yeah, 0:05:27.160 --> 0:05:29.840 it's a lot. And so he got it. 0:05:29.839 --> 0:05:31.719 And so then he took him to the doctor's on Friday, 0:05:32.360 --> 0:05:35.920 and then the doctor kept saying, well, kids under two 0:05:36.080 --> 0:05:36.880 don't get struck. 0:05:37.480 --> 0:05:39.920 They It's like I've heard that before, so we don't 0:05:39.920 --> 0:05:44.359 swap them. And so I'm just like, but something is wrong, 0:05:44.480 --> 0:05:46.679 like something, and she's like, but you know, his fever 0:05:46.920 --> 0:05:49.599 had gone away, so you know, maybe he just doesn't 0:05:49.640 --> 0:05:52.040 like the feeling of the it hurts his throat because 0:05:52.040 --> 0:05:52.479 he's coughing. 0:05:52.520 --> 0:05:54.640 She's like, it is really really really red, you know. 0:05:56.040 --> 0:05:58.400 And so then on Sunday, what she was, if he 0:05:58.440 --> 0:06:01.360 spikes a fever again, take him in somewhere. Well, of course, 0:06:01.400 --> 0:06:04.359 he spiked a fever again yesterday, and so I'm like, 0:06:04.560 --> 0:06:07.039 let's go pack it up. We're going to the walk in, 0:06:07.240 --> 0:06:09.799 you know, and the lady we checked him for pneumonia 0:06:09.920 --> 0:06:14.960 because his ox was not great and which freaked me 0:06:14.960 --> 0:06:17.279 out because it was reading really really low. I go, friend, 0:06:17.279 --> 0:06:18.839 I don't like this because it was eighty and I 0:06:18.839 --> 0:06:21.560 was like, friend, I don't like this. No, it was 0:06:21.600 --> 0:06:23.240 because his hands were a little cold, Okay, but we 0:06:23.320 --> 0:06:26.479 still only got him to like ninety. Yeah, he still 0:06:26.480 --> 0:06:27.800 didn't feel good. I was like, a friend, I still 0:06:27.839 --> 0:06:29.200 don't like this, Like, yeah, we going to the doctor. 0:06:29.320 --> 0:06:31.000 She's like, just just just keep We had to keep 0:06:31.040 --> 0:06:32.680 it on for almost like an hour before they like 0:06:32.839 --> 0:06:35.560 felt good with us, like going home because it finally 0:06:35.600 --> 0:06:37.560 got up to like ninety six, Thank goodness, back to 0:06:37.600 --> 0:06:42.640 norms ish and so, but she's like, listen, normally kids 0:06:42.640 --> 0:06:46.920 don't have strap, but lo and behold, they swabbed him 0:06:46.960 --> 0:06:49.440 and he had strap, and I'm just like I knew it, 0:06:49.520 --> 0:06:51.799 Like I freaking knew something was wrong in the second 0:06:51.800 --> 0:06:55.000 he got antibiotics. I mean, he's feels so much better today, 0:06:55.040 --> 0:06:58.400 which is glorious and lovely, and so I feel that 0:06:58.440 --> 0:07:00.760 and so do you, thank you? But I feel like 0:07:00.839 --> 0:07:03.520 it's just been one of those. And this this goes 0:07:03.600 --> 0:07:05.200 on top of I don't know if I've I know 0:07:05.240 --> 0:07:08.120 I've talked talk to you guys about this, but I 0:07:08.200 --> 0:07:09.360 don't know if I've said it on here. 0:07:09.440 --> 0:07:12.160 I can't remember if I have then stopped me I've 0:07:12.160 --> 0:07:12.720 heard this one. 0:07:12.800 --> 0:07:16.040 Yeah, I notoriously have a really hard time in January 0:07:16.080 --> 0:07:18.480 and February because I don't really know what the year 0:07:18.560 --> 0:07:21.560 is looking like. I don't know work wise, what it's like. 0:07:21.680 --> 0:07:24.680 I feel a lot of pressure January, January and February 0:07:25.040 --> 0:07:27.520 with just like financial stress and what is it going 0:07:27.560 --> 0:07:29.200 to look? Am I going to work at all? Am 0:07:29.240 --> 0:07:31.200 I gonna Is this movie really going to go through 0:07:31.320 --> 0:07:33.000 or not? And so I just feel a lot of pressure. 0:07:33.400 --> 0:07:36.440 Come off the holidays and it's gloomy and it's rainy, 0:07:36.480 --> 0:07:38.480 and it's dark, and kids are sick and mind you, 0:07:38.520 --> 0:07:41.080 the kids had flu, you know, two weeks prior. So 0:07:41.120 --> 0:07:44.480 it's just and I really need an I really need 0:07:44.480 --> 0:07:47.280 a vacation during this time, I really do like I 0:07:47.560 --> 0:07:49.880 need I need a break, I need some connection time 0:07:49.920 --> 0:07:52.520 with the husband, And so we were supposed to go somewhere. 0:07:52.520 --> 0:07:55.440 It ended up getting canceled for for other reasons, and 0:07:55.440 --> 0:07:57.800 obviously with Roman being sick and so on top of that, 0:07:57.880 --> 0:08:02.400 all I just had like this just breakdown where I 0:08:02.440 --> 0:08:04.360 was just like, I'm I'm so and I know I 0:08:04.360 --> 0:08:06.360 talked about this. Now I'm like, I'm just so tired, 0:08:06.680 --> 0:08:09.120 you know, and I'm like I need, I need a refresher. 0:08:09.120 --> 0:08:12.360 And so I booked a trip. God, we're going away. 0:08:12.440 --> 0:08:13.680 We're going to the Bahamas. 0:08:15.560 --> 0:08:18.120 But there's a piece of me that's like, oh God, 0:08:18.400 --> 0:08:20.200 am I gonna get like this in two weeks? 0:08:20.200 --> 0:08:21.160 I'm like, am I gonna get the fluid? 0:08:21.800 --> 0:08:24.000 So it's like I'm already starting to get like anxiety 0:08:24.000 --> 0:08:27.000 about do I am I gonna be able to get 0:08:27.000 --> 0:08:31.200 the break that I so desperately that we all desperately 0:08:31.240 --> 0:08:32.760 need and want right like I feel like we all 0:08:32.800 --> 0:08:34.920 when we need we get to that point. I just 0:08:34.960 --> 0:08:36.360 feel so on edge with a lot of things. And 0:08:36.400 --> 0:08:38.120 then this isn't even my wine about it, guys. 0:08:39.800 --> 0:08:42.640 No, I thought we were just going into the one. 0:08:43.280 --> 0:08:49.199 No no, no, so yeah, but do you know do 0:08:49.240 --> 0:08:51.000 you know what I mean? Like sometimes like and I 0:08:51.000 --> 0:08:52.719 don't know what it is for you guys, but like 0:08:53.480 --> 0:08:55.600 I'm I'm so when it comes to like the months, 0:08:56.400 --> 0:08:59.480 I'm once October hits, I'm okay to hunker down, be 0:08:59.600 --> 0:09:02.160 home and holidays. I love that time so much with 0:09:02.160 --> 0:09:05.960 the family. But January February, I now know that I 0:09:06.040 --> 0:09:08.440 need to at least go somewhere away for like a 0:09:08.480 --> 0:09:11.520 three nighter with my husband and see some and feel 0:09:11.520 --> 0:09:12.040 the warmth. 0:09:12.880 --> 0:09:17.480 Because yeah, I will say it's I always this, take 0:09:17.520 --> 0:09:20.199 this for what it's worth. But I feel like, so, Preston, 0:09:20.320 --> 0:09:23.960 is this exact way January February March. 0:09:24.240 --> 0:09:26.960 The sky is falling. The sky is falling. I'm like, oh, 0:09:27.480 --> 0:09:29.280 I'm like, we are broke, we are saving money. 0:09:29.080 --> 0:09:31.719 And we're going. 0:09:31.920 --> 0:09:34.320 But I mean I guess yeah, yeah, well and we 0:09:34.360 --> 0:09:36.040 did too. I mean we did the whole thing on points. 0:09:36.120 --> 0:09:38.600 I was like, okay, like it felt very savvy. Actually, yeah, 0:09:38.600 --> 0:09:41.560 I used our I used the air fair or the 0:09:41.559 --> 0:09:42.400 miles for the thing. 0:09:42.400 --> 0:09:45.720 We did do a beautiful resort is gifting. We're so lucky, 0:09:45.760 --> 0:09:48.280 We're so fortunate. Thank you, so much. Yeah, yeah, no, great, 0:09:48.320 --> 0:09:49.200 but right yeah. 0:09:49.240 --> 0:09:51.520 But also it's just funny because I feel, and I've 0:09:51.559 --> 0:09:53.319 said this to you before, like I feel like I've 0:09:53.360 --> 0:09:56.280 married you twice. So I've married I married Preston, and 0:09:56.400 --> 0:10:00.760 I married you. But I hear things in receive things 0:10:00.800 --> 0:10:03.679 differently when you say them. I have a different kind 0:10:03.720 --> 0:10:06.520 of compassion. So I actually enjoy when you talk about 0:10:06.520 --> 0:10:10.160 that because I'm like, I don't know, I don't maybe 0:10:10.200 --> 0:10:11.880 I'm not met with all the layers when you hear 0:10:11.960 --> 0:10:13.839 when you say it, I can hear it differently and 0:10:13.880 --> 0:10:16.600 a little more clearly and definitely more compassion. But we 0:10:16.640 --> 0:10:19.160 are in that mode right now, Like he leaves this week, 0:10:19.200 --> 0:10:21.000 and I was like, you need to be back on 0:10:21.040 --> 0:10:24.640 the road because I can feel that when he's out there, 0:10:24.679 --> 0:10:26.880 he feels like he's really working and doing and like 0:10:27.000 --> 0:10:29.640 he's working his tail off. We start our own label. 0:10:29.640 --> 0:10:32.640 It's like non freaking stop right now. But I think 0:10:32.720 --> 0:10:35.880 the road underneath him makes him feel like when he's 0:10:35.880 --> 0:10:37.960 out with people and he's doing and he's doing the shit, 0:10:38.080 --> 0:10:40.240 like it just feeds him differently. It's the same thing for. 0:10:40.240 --> 0:10:42.360 You, no, for sure, because it's like once March hits 0:10:42.400 --> 0:10:45.679 it's like ads start to pick up some more. I 0:10:45.720 --> 0:10:48.280 at least know of some maybe potential movie or it 0:10:48.400 --> 0:10:51.720 just it feels like it's picking up more. It's nicer outside, 0:10:51.920 --> 0:10:54.040 you know. It's like I and I just iverything gets 0:10:54.640 --> 0:10:58.840 when it's gloomy, raining and too long, because it's like, again, 0:10:58.920 --> 0:11:02.720 I love November December doing nothing that when it hits 0:11:02.720 --> 0:11:05.320 that January February, I get it. Even I freaking did 0:11:05.320 --> 0:11:07.520 a movie in January. But still, for some reason, it 0:11:07.559 --> 0:11:09.920 didn't really feel that felt like last year to me 0:11:10.000 --> 0:11:11.679 in a way, it was so top of the year. 0:11:11.800 --> 0:11:14.160 I don't know, you know what I mean, Like I forget, 0:11:14.320 --> 0:11:17.160 like like, oh, but it just felt like last year 0:11:17.320 --> 0:11:20.720 and February. No, now that time, these have been really 0:11:20.800 --> 0:11:23.200 like these two months have been long years. Yeah, I 0:11:23.240 --> 0:11:26.040 mean like February is twenty eight days and I feel 0:11:26.040 --> 0:11:29.040 like we've been in it for a hundred Yeah weird, 0:11:30.120 --> 0:11:31.960 oh god. But I also think though, and this is 0:11:31.960 --> 0:11:34.680 something that's an interesting point that I wanted to bring 0:11:34.720 --> 0:11:38.160 to the host chat about. Is I just and this 0:11:38.240 --> 0:11:41.480 is this is wildly like you guys already know this, 0:11:41.760 --> 0:11:47.960 but I just don't think we are allowed sick days 0:11:48.520 --> 0:11:51.360 so much so that even I love our dear friend 0:11:52.040 --> 0:11:54.120 that we had, you know, her beautiful event and I 0:11:54.160 --> 0:11:56.640 wanted to go to but when I was like, hey girl, 0:11:56.679 --> 0:11:58.560 I'm not feeling well, and she's like, you gotta come. 0:11:59.000 --> 0:12:02.840 So it's like to even like say like, I'm not 0:12:02.880 --> 0:12:04.720 feeling good, but then still it's like no, it's like 0:12:04.760 --> 0:12:05.280 we have to. 0:12:05.800 --> 0:12:06.000 You know. 0:12:06.040 --> 0:12:08.600 It's like and I would have felt terrible to miss it, 0:12:08.640 --> 0:12:09.600 but also it's like. 0:12:10.000 --> 0:12:15.079 I don't know how things keep going when we can't 0:12:15.080 --> 0:12:16.480 be sick. It's like I almost I think one of 0:12:16.480 --> 0:12:18.280 the reasons why I didn't share it on social media 0:12:18.600 --> 0:12:20.360 was because I'm like, I almost can't even speak it. 0:12:20.360 --> 0:12:22.720 Out that it's true. I just have to go go 0:12:22.800 --> 0:12:24.560 through it. Same. Yeah. 0:12:24.600 --> 0:12:28.599 See, I don't agree with that though philosophy go. I don't. 0:12:28.760 --> 0:12:31.640 I think with kids we are an allowed sick days, 0:12:31.679 --> 0:12:34.480 like we still have to parent. But I don't think 0:12:34.520 --> 0:12:38.400 that we should be forced to do outside things because. 0:12:38.120 --> 0:12:39.559 We're sick, even for a best friend. 0:12:40.080 --> 0:12:41.679 Well, did you have COVID when we went? 0:12:42.440 --> 0:12:45.160 Well, I didn't test until after Okay, so I mean 0:12:45.360 --> 0:12:46.040 but yes. 0:12:45.840 --> 0:12:48.640 I did, So what That's my point. I'm not trying 0:12:48.679 --> 0:12:49.760 to like throw you under the thing. 0:12:49.800 --> 0:12:52.720 But I'm like at that point, like, please don't take 0:12:52.720 --> 0:12:54.760 this in the wrong way, but like I'm snotty now, 0:12:55.080 --> 0:12:56.920 it would have been great to have known, and like 0:12:57.000 --> 0:12:57.840 you stayed home. 0:12:57.760 --> 0:12:59.360 But you don't even think COVID is a thing though, 0:12:59.360 --> 0:13:01.120 like you think I think it's a real thing. No, 0:13:01.160 --> 0:13:02.760 but I mean like you're like, oh, whatever, it's just 0:13:02.760 --> 0:13:03.280 like a cold. 0:13:03.840 --> 0:13:05.200 Well, it depends on whoever. 0:13:05.400 --> 0:13:10.400 I might not think that it was like everything needed 0:13:10.400 --> 0:13:12.080 to be around it, but I absolutely think COVID was. 0:13:12.200 --> 0:13:12.880 It's a real thing. 0:13:13.679 --> 0:13:16.760 But I also am very much for like, if someone 0:13:16.760 --> 0:13:19.480 doesn't feel good, stay home, like you still have to parent, 0:13:19.720 --> 0:13:21.880 Like and you're exhausted because you still have to parent. 0:13:22.080 --> 0:13:25.920 I don't like the outside pressure pressure. I'd agree because 0:13:25.920 --> 0:13:28.640 again you're already exhausted and you don't have a choice 0:13:28.679 --> 0:13:30.720 but to parent. There's not a choice there, So I 0:13:30.720 --> 0:13:32.240 think that there should be choice on the other end. 0:13:32.240 --> 0:13:34.560 I'm not giving you crap. That's fine, we're around each other, 0:13:34.559 --> 0:13:34.960 stick off. 0:13:34.920 --> 0:13:37.360 Well, I'll say this though, like when I did go 0:13:37.440 --> 0:13:39.880 to I was more just like my headache, back pain 0:13:40.000 --> 0:13:42.240 was away, my fever was was broken. Right, I would 0:13:42.280 --> 0:13:44.200 just have exhausted exactly by that point. 0:13:44.240 --> 0:13:47.240 But my point for that is that you should you 0:13:47.280 --> 0:13:50.600 should be able to stay home in that regard, and 0:13:50.640 --> 0:13:52.439 I think that that's where we all have a really 0:13:52.520 --> 0:13:55.200 hard time with boundaries. I think that that's where everyone 0:13:55.240 --> 0:13:57.440 has a hard time saying, you know, no, I can't 0:13:57.440 --> 0:14:01.880 I'm sick. But I think that that's okay, Like we 0:14:01.920 --> 0:14:05.400 should be able to do that, and there's certain things 0:14:05.400 --> 0:14:06.160 where you can't. 0:14:06.240 --> 0:14:08.000 Like again, I'm feeling congested now. 0:14:08.080 --> 0:14:10.120 I know I get on a flight on Thursday, and 0:14:10.200 --> 0:14:12.439 I don't have a choice, Like I have to take 0:14:12.480 --> 0:14:14.360 my daughter where we're going. It doesn't matter if I 0:14:14.360 --> 0:14:16.559 have the flu, it doesn't matter. I have to go. 0:14:17.440 --> 0:14:21.360 But I think certain things there should be There should 0:14:21.360 --> 0:14:24.680 be more we should be able to say, I need 0:14:24.680 --> 0:14:25.840 to say home today, I'm sick well. 0:14:25.840 --> 0:14:28.440 And I also wonder right like we keep saying like 0:14:28.480 --> 0:14:30.320 it's like running everywhere in it's ramp, but it's like 0:14:30.360 --> 0:14:33.120 if we all did tend to ourselves better, then perhaps. 0:14:32.880 --> 0:14:35.840 Then everyone will be sick. Yeah, when I think it's. 0:14:35.680 --> 0:14:38.400 The season two, like today, yeah sixty and like things 0:14:38.440 --> 0:14:40.520 are blooming and that means. 0:14:40.280 --> 0:14:43.720 Probably so much. Sure, that is probably why I'm congested. 0:14:43.760 --> 0:14:47.480 Because when the weather changes, I always get say and 0:14:47.600 --> 0:14:48.080 it's gone. 0:14:48.120 --> 0:14:52.120 Like I'm not saying you're superad that's but it's a 0:14:52.160 --> 0:14:56.000 good thing. If everyone really had the time and energy 0:14:56.040 --> 0:14:58.720 and like the was able to rest. 0:14:58.520 --> 0:15:02.360 To sleep and you get hydra get yeah, you get better, quicker, 0:15:02.560 --> 0:15:03.240 you get you know. 0:15:03.600 --> 0:15:05.280 But yeah, I mean, yes, I agree with you. 0:15:05.320 --> 0:15:07.760 There is that pressure that people put We put that 0:15:07.800 --> 0:15:10.160 pressure on ourselves, and other people put that pressure on us. 0:15:10.200 --> 0:15:13.040 I just don't think that we have to allow it. 0:15:13.080 --> 0:15:15.040 I mean I think that we it's okay to say, hey, 0:15:15.160 --> 0:15:16.640 no i'm sick. I'm gonna say home today. 0:15:16.720 --> 0:15:19.840 I mean, I'll never forget the one person that and 0:15:19.880 --> 0:15:21.240 I ended up not going. But it was when I 0:15:21.280 --> 0:15:24.560 was pregnant with Roman, I had food poisoning and I 0:15:24.600 --> 0:15:27.480 was like, hey, i've been up throwing up all night 0:15:27.720 --> 0:15:30.880 and I cannot come. I'm so sorry to miss your event. 0:15:31.200 --> 0:15:33.680 And the it wasn't like I'm so sorry, feel better 0:15:34.280 --> 0:15:36.640 or what can I do even though I don't need anything, 0:15:37.480 --> 0:15:42.080 but it was but I made gift gift boxes for everybody, 0:15:42.120 --> 0:15:45.160 and like you have a name, a seated chart thing, 0:15:45.200 --> 0:15:49.040 and I'm like, it's it's not a wedding and I'm 0:15:49.360 --> 0:15:51.120 I'm sorry, I don't feel good. 0:15:51.320 --> 0:15:53.920 You know. Yeah, it's so it's I think people just 0:15:53.920 --> 0:16:00.720 need to give grace. I guys, I don't. I don't 0:16:00.720 --> 0:16:02.720 know where we are. I need my narrator to tell 0:16:02.720 --> 0:16:04.000 me where we are in the program. 0:16:04.160 --> 0:16:06.600 We're not to whine about it yet, Okay, I don't think. 0:16:06.640 --> 0:16:08.800 But I'm sorry you went through all that. That's hard 0:16:08.840 --> 0:16:10.400 when you have a sick baby and then you're sick. 0:16:10.920 --> 0:16:13.240 Yeah again, I don't. I didn't get to like his 0:16:13.360 --> 0:16:16.240 level of like right. I just was like because he 0:16:16.360 --> 0:16:19.240 had like all the body pains, like you know, I 0:16:19.280 --> 0:16:21.560 had a fever for a day and a half. 0:16:21.680 --> 0:16:23.600 But yeah, he I mean he liked Yeah. I will 0:16:23.600 --> 0:16:26.200 say on the other side of that, though, I do 0:16:26.240 --> 0:16:28.760 think it's like super super important to like have at 0:16:28.840 --> 0:16:31.320 least one day where you can just take a minute. Well, 0:16:31.360 --> 0:16:31.840 it was great. 0:16:31.880 --> 0:16:35.120 So the when Alan got home is when he really 0:16:35.200 --> 0:16:37.880 was like sleeping and I finally and I sleep better 0:16:37.920 --> 0:16:41.680 when he's here. I don't sleep well regardless when he's gone. 0:16:42.000 --> 0:16:44.160 I like having him in bed with me. I just 0:16:44.280 --> 0:16:46.840 I just yeah, I always sleep better when he's here. 0:16:47.320 --> 0:16:50.400 So the last few nights I just needed a few 0:16:50.440 --> 0:16:51.880 good nights of sleep, and I'm like, oh, I feel 0:16:51.920 --> 0:16:53.840 so much better. Like I'm still congested, but again I 0:16:53.840 --> 0:16:56.320 don't know if that's because of allergies or whatever, and. 0:16:56.400 --> 0:16:58.360 Like, you know, yeah, you need to sleep. 0:16:58.840 --> 0:17:01.280 And for me, like even though my symptoms were gone, 0:17:01.280 --> 0:17:03.000 I had like one of those little at home tests. 0:17:03.000 --> 0:17:04.920 That's why I was like I wonder if I I'm 0:17:04.920 --> 0:17:07.080 like I must have had it too, you know, just 0:17:07.080 --> 0:17:10.240 because I had like some symptoms or whatever. But by 0:17:10.280 --> 0:17:14.600 that point, like I was like my symptoms were not 0:17:14.800 --> 0:17:17.439 like m like the actual symptoms were like gone, but 0:17:17.520 --> 0:17:19.000 I was still tested positive. 0:17:19.160 --> 0:17:21.280 Yeah. Also just rest and water. I don't know about 0:17:21.280 --> 0:17:22.960 you guys, but like this is forties. 0:17:23.440 --> 0:17:23.640 Yeah. 0:17:23.680 --> 0:17:25.600 Yeah, Like if I don't get good rest, like a 0:17:25.600 --> 0:17:27.520 couple of nights on the row, I felt like garbage 0:17:27.600 --> 0:17:29.080 last week. And it was just because we did a 0:17:29.119 --> 0:17:30.800 couple of nights at Opritinland not a lot of sleep, 0:17:30.800 --> 0:17:32.479 and I mean I literally felt hung over for three 0:17:32.560 --> 0:17:34.040 days and I hadn't had a drop of alcohol. It 0:17:34.080 --> 0:17:37.360 was just like run down feeling. That's just super important. 0:17:37.560 --> 0:17:50.960 Yeah. 0:17:51.000 --> 0:17:53.639 So two things. One, I just want to preface you 0:17:53.680 --> 0:17:55.439 don't come after me. I do think COVID is a 0:17:55.480 --> 0:17:55.920 real thing. 0:17:56.280 --> 0:17:57.160 I want to clarify. 0:17:57.320 --> 0:17:58.200 I just want to clarify. 0:17:58.320 --> 0:17:58.520 Yep. 0:17:58.640 --> 0:18:03.680 Second question going back to that, So you were having 0:18:03.760 --> 0:18:06.000 issues with the doctor that we talked about a couple 0:18:05.960 --> 0:18:08.000