Speaker 1: Talk's talk.
Speaker 2: So we're just two unapologetically black women with an opinion
Speaker 2: to talks.
Speaker 1: What's up, y'all?
Speaker 3: Thank you for tuning in for a new episode of
Speaker 3: We Talk Back, a show dedicated to you niggas and
Speaker 3: these hosts. It's your co host a j. Holiday.
Speaker 1: What's up? Tam Bam?
Speaker 4: Whose boys? Who the fuck was that? What's y'all? It's
Speaker 4: Samantha Nice.
Speaker 1: Everybody. Nobody wants to fuck Grinny's pussy. Remember the episode, Yo,
Speaker 1: that's the best character, Samantha. I'm good, y'all.
Speaker 3: We had a wonderful weekend, y'all. Just the podcast batties
Speaker 3: link up.
Speaker 1: Okay.
Speaker 3: We did Poor minds uh segment on their show and
Speaker 3: shop this weekend if you missed it.
Speaker 2: Yeah, they had a live show this weekend. It's Charlotte,
Speaker 2: you guys for Richard for Poor Too, And we got
Speaker 2: to come out and do a segment with them, and
Speaker 2: then we hung out. It was so much fun. I'm
Speaker 2: so proud of them. I'm so happy for them. I
Speaker 2: can't wait for us to start doing our lives.
Speaker 3: Absolutely, absolutely, y'all coming to see you, They coming, they come.
Speaker 3: I'm summoning everybody. It's a summons. Yes, I'm summoning everybody,
Speaker 3: but y'all. Okay, So y'all, that was Friday night. Saturday night,
Speaker 3: I couldn't move. I was bedridden, couch written. I don't
Speaker 3: know how many shots I took on Friday night.
Speaker 1: It was ridiculous. I'm embarrassed.
Speaker 2: It was a lot. I think I might have seventeen.
Speaker 3: I swear they just kept coming, and I'm like, when
Speaker 3: when is it going to stop? And it's like niggas
Speaker 3: like putting the ship to your face. Damn, They're like
Speaker 3: putting a little shot, little rack thing like to your face.
Speaker 4: Right, you know what.
Speaker 2: Saturday morning, I got up. I was up early, and
Speaker 2: I think I was still drunk, so I just poured
Speaker 2: another drink, just to not to keep the party going,
Speaker 2: but to not get sick. So the people who section
Speaker 2: we were with, they all lived in my building, so
Speaker 2: we went back to their place. Well, I went back
Speaker 2: to their place. It was a group of us, and
Speaker 2: it was a bunch of guys in me and I
Speaker 2: cook breakfast for everybody.
Speaker 4: Oh it ain't no train.
Speaker 2: It was just a bacon and eggs, bitch. And then
Speaker 2: I went back to my house and toast. I made
Speaker 2: everybody food, and I cracked jokes stand up Comedy Hour,
Speaker 2: and then I came back home, so I ate. So
Speaker 2: that was the best thing I did. I ate before
Speaker 2: I went to bed, and then Saturday morning, I got
Speaker 2: it from pour me another drink because I had to
Speaker 2: go to work. So I didn't want to be hungover.
Speaker 2: Sick or hungover. You know, the hair of the dog,
Speaker 2: that bitch you. You got to bite it back. So I
Speaker 2: beat it back and took my work Saturday. But Saturday
Speaker 2: night I was supposed to go to usc UNC football
Speaker 2: game here and Charlotte was.
Speaker 4: A big deal.
Speaker 1: Oh damn, I missed that too.
Speaker 4: I couldn't go.
Speaker 2: I had a ticket and didn't make it because that's
Speaker 2: when I crashed afterwards.
Speaker 1: Saturday, Nah, man, that was terrible. And I feel like
Speaker 1: even Sunday I was still kind of down bad.
Speaker 3: Like I keep saying this, like my body really does
Speaker 3: not process alcohol to say anymore, Like I can't really
Speaker 3: drink it don't matter. And matter of fact, I don't
Speaker 3: drink Costa migos. That might be one of the things, right,
Speaker 3: Costa egos. I put that like right along with patrol now,
Speaker 3: like it just makes me feel really bad. So I
Speaker 3: really just like, you know, don Juli always going to
Speaker 3: be a club tequiller dog.
Speaker 1: I was through. I was done, but I hung out
Speaker 1: a little bit on Sunday and shit, that's it. That's all.
Speaker 2: Yeah, I didn't do nothing.
Speaker 1: So we had a good time with the girls, poor ladies.
Speaker 2: My sister. That was a lot of fun. Let's get
Speaker 2: into stupid internet.
Speaker 1: So a couple mentions.
Speaker 3: So Krishan Rock had her baby. She had the baby
Speaker 3: on live. She named her son Krishan. Okay, sitting and
Speaker 3: you know, happy for them, like her mom was on
Speaker 3: live crying boohoo that God, thank you God. When the
Speaker 3: baby came out, she was crying. It was a beautiful thing.
Speaker 1: I know a lot of people like, oh why yeah,
Speaker 1: sharing all you shit on that internet. They share a
Speaker 1: whole life already.
Speaker 3: Anyway, what's the difference, right, she should have got a
Speaker 3: check for it though she is Instagram pain is Instagram pain.
Speaker 2: She may have you don't know, I hope. So what's
Speaker 2: the point if you're not getting paid to show all
Speaker 2: of that? So she did right over three hundred thousand
Speaker 2: people watching her get burned.
Speaker 3: So I don't know if I want that much energy
Speaker 3: concentrated on me while I'm bringing a whole life into
Speaker 3: this world. Like that's real, it's kind of sacred to me,
Speaker 3: Like I want to do it in the house. I
Speaker 3: don't want no cameras. That shit is wild to me.
Speaker 3: That's how I look at her spirit. Absolutely and hopefully
Speaker 3: I kind of have enough money to have Eric Ibadu
Speaker 3: is my Duela by then, So I got shit.
Speaker 1: I have a no kid. If I don't have a
Speaker 1: baby by forty one, it's over with.
Speaker 3: Okay, let's be very very very clear, like I gotta
Speaker 3: get pregnant in the next two years. If I don't,
Speaker 3: I just want a yacht mansion and Barbados.
Speaker 2: You wouldn't and you wouldn't.
Speaker 1: Buy me a kid. I'll buy me a kid, Yes,
Speaker 1: I wouldn't. I definitely want.
Speaker 3: It's a lot of black kids in particular that are
Speaker 3: stuck yet are stuck in the system, and we side
Speaker 3: eye white people right when they walk around with black babies,
Speaker 3: or why aren't we adopting our kids, you know, so
Speaker 3: they don't get their crummy.
Speaker 1: Paws on them anyway.
Speaker 2: Because you know, some of you can get black babies
Speaker 2: a loving home as long as they go to a
Speaker 2: loving home.
Speaker 4: I won't.
Speaker 2: I would prefer a black baby to be in a
Speaker 2: black home, But as long as they're in the home
Speaker 2: and not in the system that's loving, I'm okay with it.
Speaker 1: I might adopt a white baby, all right.
Speaker 2: So the next story, let's talk about Erica and Spicy.
Speaker 2: I really want to talk about.
Speaker 4: This because.
Speaker 1: Don't you ignore me?
Speaker 4: Right the fuck along.
Speaker 2: So, Erica Minna got fired from Love and Hip Hop
Speaker 2: Atlanta after calling Spice her cats make a race and
Speaker 2: here we can say it to call her a blue
Speaker 2: headed monkey or some shit like that blue haired monkey.
Speaker 2: And you know, they aired it on the show. And
Speaker 2: then after they aired it on the show, you know,
Speaker 2: people express how they were offended by her saying that
Speaker 2: because she is not, in fact a black woman.
Speaker 4: So, uh, what's her name? Mona Mona, Mona Scott, Mona
Speaker 4: Scott King.
Speaker 2: She she said, handled and fired Erica Mina for that
Speaker 2: racist slur, And how do you.
Speaker 1: That's only that's a yeah.
Speaker 3: The only fake part about that is that we know
Speaker 3: these things are pre recorded, right y'all been know she
Speaker 3: said this wild ship. I also a sudden I saw
Speaker 3: another post that said more is going to be unfolding
Speaker 3: in the next.
Speaker 4: Couple episodes, the next right episodes.
Speaker 3: Unless she's been fired and they're just now telling the
Speaker 3: world she's fired. To keep playing with this thing, like
Speaker 3: the world we're just now seeing this recording. But she
Speaker 3: been said the dumb shit.
Speaker 2: But it's not nice to call anybody a monkey. Erica
Speaker 2: Minna included, Spike included.
Speaker 3: And the way she was trying to say it, Yeah,
Speaker 3: she definitely was trying to say it to be disparaging.
Speaker 2: Yeah, but you know, I but I can understand why.
Speaker 2: First of all, y'all, y'all just took it too far,
Speaker 2: both of y'all. Spice didn't have to bring up her
Speaker 2: relationship with her child because it had nothing to do
Speaker 2: with what they were talking about, you know, it had
Speaker 2: nothing to do with the conversation in hand, And you know,
Speaker 2: you're just doing it to be very hurtful. And this
Speaker 2: was someone who was worth your friend, Like why would
Speaker 2: you go that load to someone that you considered a friend?
Speaker 2: You know, Like, so I just figured, you know, you
Speaker 2: just gotta choose wisely who you call a friend, because
Speaker 2: that was to that woman. You know, maybe her relationship
Speaker 2: with her son isn't good and and.
Speaker 4: They know that, and they using it again. Yeah, that's ugly,
Speaker 4: that's ugly.
Speaker 1: You know, that was nasty.
Speaker 3: So the Internet was like, oh, she shouldn't have talked
Speaker 3: about a kid. It really she didn't talk about the kids.
Speaker 3: She talked about the relationship parents. She talked about her parenting.
Speaker 3: So that hit her in a sore spot. Especially if
Speaker 3: you know my ex friend and this is what we
Speaker 3: were talking we to talk about later on, right if
Speaker 3: you know, like this is a vulnerable spot, vulnerable spot
Speaker 3: for me, like what type of person are you to
Speaker 3: use that against me? So yes, Spice was absolutely dead
Speaker 3: ass fucking wrong, and Erica didn't have no real rebuttal
Speaker 3: for her, so she just.
Speaker 4: Went She didn't talk about her her parents, her sthetics.
Speaker 2: Maybe Spice is a better mom than her, you know,
Speaker 2: so she couldn't go to that space. So she talked
Speaker 2: about her appearance, you know. And I don't know, I
Speaker 2: can't sit here and say that Erica said that Spice
Speaker 2: looked like she would have said that to any black.
Speaker 4: Woman that she was arguing with, or was it specific
Speaker 4: to Spice.
Speaker 1: So several people, like somebody in particular, I saw Jesse Woo.
Speaker 3: Jesse Woo was saying that Erica has done this a
Speaker 3: lot of times, Like this is the first time that
Speaker 3: she's called somebody a racial slur. And I don't know
Speaker 3: if she's Puerto Rican or Dominican, but if she's Dominican,
Speaker 3: we already know how they feel about hatit is. And
Speaker 3: they on they share the same fucking island, you know
Speaker 3: what I'm saying, Like those people don't consider themselves black,
Speaker 3: but they are. You know what I'm saying, y'all really
Speaker 3: were are the blacks who got violated? Actually you know so?
Speaker 3: And they keep that running thing. They're running racism within
Speaker 3: your same culture and same race. They keep it going.
Speaker 3: But it's more so colorism. I guess that's how people feel.
Speaker 3: It's not her really being racist, it's her being showing colorism.
Speaker 3: But I mean, I don't think that Spice looks like
Speaker 3: a monkey, right, I don't think she looks like a
Speaker 3: monkey at all.
Speaker 2: Yeah, my heart goes down to ladies. It's hurtful. I'm
Speaker 2: sure it's hurtful for Spice to be called a monkey,
Speaker 2: because you know, dark skinned women in this country have
Speaker 2: been label ugly things and made to feel niceful as
Speaker 2: our light skinned kind of parts. So that's hurtful. So
Speaker 2: they were just going for the juggler with each other. Yeah,
Speaker 2: and it's just ugly to see, you know, let's start
Speaker 2: living to turn more and.
Speaker 3: See after something like that, Like, how y'all be friends again?
Speaker 3: If y'all come to blows belts and shit like that, how.
Speaker 1: Do you be friends again?
Speaker 2: Yeah?
Speaker 4: You can't.
Speaker 1: I remember. Look, I remember an old friend of mine
Speaker 1: like that. Bitch. No never, mom, let me even go there, y'all. Next,
Speaker 1: let's do the next topic. Let me not.
Speaker 3: But yeah, like, it's real hurtful to hear some crazy
Speaker 3: shit from somebody you considered a friend because it's almost like, bitch,
Speaker 3: you always wanted to say that to me.
Speaker 1: Bitch you never liked me.
Speaker 2: Because you would want to hurt me like that.
Speaker 4: Yes, get so moving right along.
Speaker 2: Let's talk about Kanye and Hiss.
Speaker 1: This is so old. I've been seeing that pitch. I've
Speaker 1: been sending it out.
Speaker 3: I don't know when Charlamagne No started playing with him
Speaker 3: and Donelle Rollins. Now it's like all over the internet.
Speaker 3: But y'all, y'all ain't on Kanye Instagram page. He got
Speaker 3: a little he got a little sneaky creepy one that
Speaker 3: I be on. I've been seeing that bookie. I sent
Speaker 3: it to you like two weeks ago.
Speaker 1: No, it's his name.
Speaker 3: It's kind of like the letters are jumbled up, but
Speaker 3: it's his page. And then he has another one that's
Speaker 3: just Geezy.
Speaker 1: Why is why?
Speaker 4: Why I don't follow?
Speaker 2: But it was so funny because I just don't. It's
Speaker 2: just not I'll see whatever I need to see. I
Speaker 2: feel like I'll get it from the shade room or
Speaker 2: somewhere if it's interesting.
Speaker 4: But just to see his little booty out, I mean
Speaker 4: a good time, I would do it.
Speaker 1: It was so staged. Kanye got a problem. You hear me?
Speaker 4: Right there?
Speaker 3: Dog, This is Kanye West on a boat in France
Speaker 3: or wherever they are. I don't think there's other there's
Speaker 3: other images.
Speaker 1: Right where she is clearly like down and he's sitting
Speaker 1: up there. I know the BUNKI out, but I just
Speaker 1: I just can't get it in my head like Nigga wants.
Speaker 1: When I saw it, I was like, Yo, this nigga's tripping.
Speaker 4: Why need get your dig suck on a boat in
Speaker 4: the south of France.
Speaker 2: I would like if I was with my nigga, who's
Speaker 2: a staff of friends and it was like riding down
Speaker 2: a little lake or river or ravine or whatever the
Speaker 2: fuck that was.
Speaker 4: Black quick, let me just.
Speaker 1: Let me lick itt me, let me lick it, Let
Speaker 1: me lick the tip.
Speaker 4: Right, it's not that hot. Have you been sing so?
Speaker 3: But but listen, they're saying that Uh Kanye and his
Speaker 3: wife getting freaky on the boat has backfired. Apparently the
Speaker 3: owner of the boat company has now banned the couple
Speaker 3: from ever riding on their boats again after pictures went
Speaker 3: viral and the viral of the couple seemingly participating in
Speaker 3: sexual acts while riding UH through Venice, Italy.
Speaker 4: They ain't got the only boat company who cares, right, y'all.
Speaker 4: They got the only boats.
Speaker 1: I would have been trying to take the pictures. I
Speaker 1: could sell them, y'all. Slipping.
Speaker 2: Whoever got the pictures got some money for that. You
Speaker 2: know you're talking about if you driver, well the driver
Speaker 2: those boats are small, so he got focused on where
Speaker 2: he going.
Speaker 4: He can't be like looking back at nobody getting the dicks.
Speaker 3: Kanye had one of his people take that picture down.
Speaker 3: Ain't no way this nigga just got his little brown
Speaker 3: booty out like sitting.
Speaker 4: On there's no way he wanted to be out in
Speaker 4: no picture like this.
Speaker 1: But did you not see the other picture when his
Speaker 1: whole dick is out?
Speaker 4: No send it.
Speaker 1: Not the whole, not the whole dick, but it's like
Speaker 1: his whole. You could see his dickhead print in his past.
Speaker 1: I'm like, what is up with Kanye?
Speaker 2: What is this?
Speaker 3: You know everybody be saying the nigga got cloned? I
Speaker 3: still feel Kanye's presence. Maybe they got him locked in
Speaker 3: a cellar somewhere.
Speaker 1: I don't know.
Speaker 4: I have not heard that.
Speaker 3: The whole internet is a lot of people saying Kanye down,
Speaker 3: got cloned child. Let me find his damn picture.
Speaker 2: I feel like she don't never look safe in the eyes.
Speaker 2: She always looks scared for her life to me, like
Speaker 2: she's gonna share about her life.
Speaker 1: I don't know if she's a new handler. I don't
Speaker 1: know what. I don't know what Kanye got going on,
Speaker 1: but I hope he come back.
Speaker 4: I want I want him to get with uh the sister.
Speaker 3: No, while we gotta be saving niggas all the time,
Speaker 3: why we got to bring niggas back.
Speaker 2: I want Kanye to be like, yeah, excuse me, mister
Speaker 2: Rainey I'm going to marry your daughter, remember that, like
Speaker 2: that verse?
Speaker 1: Yeah, yeah, nah, it's gone.
Speaker 2: I miss mister old Kanye.
Speaker 3: I mean, okay, another way I look at it is like, no,
Speaker 3: he ain't saying much, but he's saying a lot, Like
Speaker 3: Kanye just got his ass on the internet.
Speaker 2: Dog.
Speaker 3: We haven't heard from him since last June. Maybe like
Speaker 3: we haven't heard from Kanye in a very long time.
Speaker 3: He's been m I a since, like at least the
Speaker 3: beginning of this year, right for someone. No, I love Kanye,
Speaker 3: I love.
Speaker 4: Too, but I want to hear music. I don't want
Speaker 4: to hear this ship. This ship is like.
Speaker 2: You know, I want to hear music. I want to
Speaker 2: hear quality music. I don't want to see his bookie
Speaker 2: out as you say, a bookie.
Speaker 1: We ain't talk about Kanye in no more. We ain't
Speaker 1: talk about Kanye.
Speaker 2: We're not gonna talk about him no more this year
Speaker 2: unless he do something else spectacular.
Speaker 1: He always does spectacular.
Speaker 4: I'm confused.
Speaker 1: Moving right along anyway.
Speaker 2: Y'all will be right back with our special guests from
Speaker 2: the Professional Homegirl Podcast. Ey y'all, We're gonna talk all
Speaker 2: things friendship, love, sex, So stay tuned.
Speaker 4: It's gonna be a good conversation, y'all.
Speaker 3: Y'all listen, we have label meat. We talked back today.
Speaker 3: Welcome to death Row with these three sixty podcast deals. Y'all,
Speaker 3: we got artists formerly known as Ebane Okay, the Professional Homegirl.
Speaker 4: Yes, yeah, thank you so much for having me. Welcome
Speaker 4: to the show. I know, I'm super excited.
Speaker 2: Finally we got you.
Speaker 4: Finally.
Speaker 2: I don't know if Tam shirt is with AJ, but
Speaker 2: I reached out to the show in twenty twenty one
Speaker 2: because I wanted to be a guest, and so here
Speaker 2: we are now, which is like amazing, So thank you
Speaker 2: once again.
Speaker 4: Full circle moment.
Speaker 1: I'm gonna be honest with you. I seen it. I
Speaker 1: seen it. I remember, I remember, no, no, no, I remember.
Speaker 3: Seeing you because when people send messages, like especially in
Speaker 3: a request box, I'll go in there sometimes just to
Speaker 3: see but I won't like you know how, you just
Speaker 3: do it and go.
Speaker 1: But I remember when Tam was like, yeah, she said
Speaker 1: she messaged us before, girl, I remember. I'm sorry, No
Speaker 1: I did, though, I remember seeing it.
Speaker 3: But it'd be a lot of messages, a lot of
Speaker 3: especially in twenty twenty one, we just getting started.
Speaker 1: Ship with you trying to figure it out.
Speaker 2: Yeah, well listen, like it was Freshut what did you say,
Speaker 2: did not deny but delayed but not denying? I said,
Speaker 2: den Agen. So here we are, all right, tell us
Speaker 2: how you became the professional homegirl.
Speaker 1: All right.
Speaker 2: So it's actually funny because a few years ago, before
Speaker 2: Charlottemagne and everybody was talking about mental health, I had
Speaker 2: my own mental health issues.
Speaker 4: So my grandmother at the time.
Speaker 2: Which is so funny because the day is her anniversary
Speaker 2: and I just realized today because I was just like NonStop,
Speaker 2: but today is the day that my grandmother passed away.
Speaker 2: So when she passed away, I was just going through
Speaker 2: like a really you know, just that was my first
Speaker 2: time ever experiencing death, and it was it was a
Speaker 2: lot for me to go through. And I ended up
Speaker 2: going to therapy and I was talking to my therapists
Speaker 2: about all the things that I was going through because
Speaker 2: I never experienced a grief before, and you know, she
Speaker 2: was just giving me all the tools and things that
Speaker 2: I needed to like get through on my journey. And
Speaker 2: I started to realize as I started to share my
Speaker 2: story with everyone else that I was going through with
Speaker 2: when it came to losing my grandmother. You know, people
Speaker 2: started to become open with me about some of the
Speaker 2: things that they were going through. So I was like, well,
Speaker 2: you know, I feel like it'd be dope if I
Speaker 2: can create a platform where women of color can be
Speaker 2: able to come on, you know, be ourselves and pop
Speaker 2: they shit. And I feel like as being a Professional Homegirl,
Speaker 2: it is being your true, authentic self. And I feel
Speaker 2: like for so long I show face, and I feel
Speaker 2: like when I'm a little too like r Rah, I'm
Speaker 2: too passionate, and people say I'm aggressive, but then when
Speaker 2: I'm quiet and I'm chilling to myself, they think something wrong.
Speaker 2: So I feel like with Professional Homegirls is a place
Speaker 2: just truly be yourself and that's how we came to be.
Speaker 3: So you say women can be themselves, but your guests
Speaker 3: like they'd be having like the Witness Protection shit over
Speaker 3: their face.
Speaker 1: So why how do you find a guess for your shows?
Speaker 2: I listen, I tried some of them episodes. Baby had
Speaker 2: be clutching my pearls, like this is a horror movie.
Speaker 5: You know where it is like where we're from, Like,
Speaker 5: I mean, our community can be very judgmental, right, So
Speaker 5: I feel like when you hear people backgrounds the first,
Speaker 5: especially when you know who it is, you'll be like, oh,
Speaker 5: why Tam doing that?
Speaker 4: Why Aj doing that?
Speaker 2: But then when you're hearing the story and you don't
Speaker 2: know who it is, and you hear from start to finish,
Speaker 2: it makes you want to It makes you appreciate them more,
Speaker 2: and it also makes you want to know more about
Speaker 2: it because you're like, damn, if this bush can get
Speaker 2: through it, that, I know I can get.
Speaker 4: Through my stuff.
Speaker 2: So I just feel like with the whole anonymous part,
Speaker 2: it allows people to share their story fully because I
Speaker 2: also feel like when people know who you are, how
Speaker 2: it's some pieces of your truth, and I think that
Speaker 2: shouldn't nobody share their truth, you know, from everybody else,
Speaker 2: because you should live in your truth.
Speaker 4: And then how I find my guess. A lot of
Speaker 4: my guess either be just like word of mouth. I
Speaker 4: mean sometimes I do like a lot of research.
Speaker 2: So at first it was like Instagram using hashtags, and
Speaker 2: the next thing, you know, YouTube is my bag because
Speaker 2: surprisingly people really love sharing their business, especially if they
Speaker 2: think that their stories can help someone. Right. So I
Speaker 2: just feel like at this point, like if you have
Speaker 2: a story, especially something that's really taboo within our can unity.
Speaker 4: Then I'm all for it because I feel like.
Speaker 2: I mean, some of the topics, dude, can be triggering,
Speaker 2: but I feel like there's so much key key in
Speaker 2: it that's like key key wrapped up in the medicine.
Speaker 2: So it's like to me, I don't think that none
Speaker 2: of the episodes, and maybe the only episodes that's been
Speaker 2: difficult for me is like you know, stories that involve
Speaker 2: you know, child abuse. But I feel like for most
Speaker 2: of the stories, like like this shit be funny, like
Speaker 2: it'd be like damn, like you really got through that.
Speaker 2: And it also just makes me feel like, you know, women,
Speaker 2: especially Black women, are just superheroes, heroes, Like I feel
Speaker 2: like we're on fire and it's nothing that we do
Speaker 2: if we don't put our mind to it. So like
Speaker 2: when you listening to these traumatic stories, cause a lot
Speaker 2: of them are like it'll be like my uncle molisted
Speaker 2: me and my mama every Thursday, Like your stories be
Speaker 2: like really like like deep like that. How do you
Speaker 2: candle listening to people's trauma like this every week? I'd
Speaker 2: be smoking weed and drinking the whole episode. Well, I
Speaker 2: think I start with each episode obviously, I pray because
Speaker 2: I want to make sure that you know, the person
Speaker 2: trust me with their story, and also, you know, just
Speaker 2: protecting my energy because I don't want to, you know,
Speaker 2: go to sleep with this.
Speaker 4: But honestly, it's not hard for me.
Speaker 2: Like, you know, I had a very traumatic childhood and
Speaker 2: you know, I was I was physically abused by my mother.
Speaker 4: So I just feel like I always just think of things,
Speaker 4: like you know, sometimes when I.
Speaker 2: Was going through a lot of things I was going
Speaker 2: through when I was younger, I really feel like I
Speaker 2: was the only one going through it. So when I
Speaker 2: share stories, like it's difficult to hear it, but I
Speaker 2: can't even imagine experiencing it. And I feel like these stories,
Speaker 2: when people hear it, it gives people hope, like if
Speaker 2: they can go through that and it'll still be okay.
Speaker 2: I can go through what I'm going through and survive too.
Speaker 4: Yeah, I can feel absolutely.
Speaker 3: And I think all black women have that little stigma. Right, Oh,
Speaker 3: we just be loud and going off for no reason.
Speaker 3: We just really be real passionate, right.
Speaker 4: Was passionate facts, I don't be tripping for real, I'd
Speaker 4: be tripping sometimes.
Speaker 1: You know, you be tripping when you got to ask
Speaker 1: somebody be tripping, like, girl, you're that's not.
Speaker 2: True, because I like, I need, I need you to
Speaker 2: understand where I'm coming from, because I know, like it's
Speaker 2: not making sense, and if it's not making sense to me, that.
Speaker 4: It can't make sense to everybody else in this room.
Speaker 4: So I don't think i'd be tripping all.
Speaker 3: The time, and I really don't think i'd be tripping,
Speaker 3: but I'm gonna still ask somebody to make sure that
Speaker 3: I'm actually giving this other person that's the level of
Speaker 3: disrespect I need to be giving them, like am I tripping?
Speaker 2: But the only thing is when you tell when you
Speaker 2: tell a story and you're asking are you am I tripping?
Speaker 4: It's only coming from your perspective.
Speaker 2: So nine times out of ten, the person who's listening
Speaker 2: to your story is gonna say, no, you're not tripping,
Speaker 2: because they're only hearing really your side of things, So
Speaker 2: it's pointless they even ask ask, honestly, are you tripping?
Speaker 1: I don't think it's pointless.
Speaker 3: I don't think it's pointless because like I always be saying, like,
Speaker 3: there's perception right, and there's perspective. You get through life
Speaker 3: with good perspective, where you can see things down the middle. Right,
Speaker 3: it's people's perception be having shit fucked up. That's why
Speaker 3: I don't like that whole this my truth, because there
Speaker 3: is such thing as absolute truth. Your truth could be
Speaker 3: a goddamn lie. Do you see what I'm saying that
Speaker 3: when I ask am I tripping? Listen, I don't be
Speaker 3: telling half stories. I tell stories exactly how it happens.
Speaker 3: You have the opportunity to say, no, bitch, you fucked up.
Speaker 3: Because I'm never gonna lie. I'm never gonna leave nothing out.
Speaker 3: It could be the way I perceived what happened. Right,
Speaker 3: Why I'm asking you think I'm tripping because this is
Speaker 3: how I perceive, and I ask for clarity a lot.
Speaker 3: Let me get some clarity to make sure I'm tripping.
Speaker 3: I ask for clarity from the person I'm talking to,
Speaker 3: from the homegirl. Homegirl, let me get some clarities, like
Speaker 3: make sure I'm not tripping on you or somebody else, like, Right,
Speaker 3: it's good. Yeah, I don't think it's a uh. I
Speaker 3: don't like that perception. And shit, man, your perception could
Speaker 3: be a fucking lie to all of us, right, absolutely, no, no, absolutely,
Speaker 3: But there are some people that they perception just be
Speaker 3: fucked up on everything, and it could be a general
Speaker 3: census that this person could be a liar or this
Speaker 3: person just be doing fucked up shit.
Speaker 1: It could be a general census.
Speaker 4: I agree.
Speaker 3: Fact, So while you thinking you're going crazy, they doing
Speaker 3: this shit today, fucking spouse, mom and everybody else.
Speaker 1: Yes, yes, like and everybody. Have you ever had a
Speaker 1: friend break up with you? Ebaney like a homegirl like
Speaker 1: y'all no longer friends, but it was you that fucked
Speaker 1: it up.
Speaker 2: You know what, if I'm being honest, and I'm not
Speaker 2: saying this because I don't want no friend back, but
Speaker 2: I will say that because you know, yeah, like if
Speaker 2: you're looking back, I mean, obviously there's growth, and you
Speaker 2: know there's a lot of work that was done for
Speaker 2: me to get to this point.
Speaker 4: So why are you shaking your head? I thought you
Speaker 4: were saying no, no, no, no.
Speaker 1: I agree with you one thousand percent, just like these niggas.
Speaker 3: A bitch can't spend the block on me because I
Speaker 3: feel like, at what point of are we grown women
Speaker 3: and falling out?
Speaker 4: You know what I'm saying?
Speaker 1: Likely me and Tam we be arguing and shit, because
Speaker 1: we have a business together. So our relationship is different.
Speaker 3: But I don't talking about like friends that I had
Speaker 3: had for a very long time and now we're no
Speaker 3: longer friends. Them bitches cannot spend the block and some
Speaker 3: of them do. They try because I didn't fuck it
Speaker 3: up these what I'm saying, like, my conscience is always
Speaker 3: clear because with the four agreements, I do my best
Speaker 3: every time in any situation.
Speaker 2: I think with this one particular situation, I would say
Speaker 2: that I don't think that I was in a fault.
Speaker 4: I just didn't think.
Speaker 2: I don't think I just know how to articulate what
Speaker 2: I was feeling because at that time, that's when I
Speaker 2: lost my grandmother, and you know, with me being a
Speaker 2: very passionate.
Speaker 4: Person and you know, I'm very vocal, I think that
Speaker 4: like a lot.
Speaker 2: Of times, people just in that particular friend misstated for
Speaker 2: you know, me just being aggressive, me being like, you know,
Speaker 2: a certain way with her, and I just think at
Speaker 2: that time, like, and that's why I'm so appreciative of
Speaker 2: the people that's in my life now because I think
Speaker 2: from where I was at with that particular persons, where
Speaker 2: I'm at now, those people gave me grace. So I
Speaker 2: think that grace is very important when it comes to
Speaker 2: any type of relationship because a lot of times people
Speaker 2: just don't fucking know.
Speaker 3: Right, right, and then sometimes people don't even even aren't
Speaker 3: even considering what you could possibly be going through.
Speaker 1: Why doct you just tripping on them?
Speaker 3: So, speaking of grace, this is one of the things
Speaker 3: me and Town was talking about earlier, like friends versus
Speaker 3: uh boyfriends or husbands?
Speaker 4: Right?
Speaker 1: You know how you see this shit on Instagram a lot.
Speaker 3: It's like posts saying like y'all, bitch is a throw
Speaker 3: your friend away after one disagreement.
Speaker 1: But you give these niggas a thousand chances chances?
Speaker 3: What are you thinking about that? Because I feel like
Speaker 3: women women, I think people period. Men put their friends
Speaker 3: on pedestals. Women put their friends on pedestals. You don't
Speaker 3: expect your friend to play in your face like these
Speaker 3: niggas would, like we expect fun out of them unfortunately, Right,
Speaker 3: But I gotta keep compromising with my homegirl, like why
Speaker 3: are we are you?
Speaker 4: But they're just people too? Though your friends are just
Speaker 4: people just like A mean yeah, but I ain't letting know.
Speaker 4: I ain't letting my friend with my nigga play in
Speaker 4: my face?
Speaker 2: Like but I also feel like with my friends, like
Speaker 2: I've been friends with my friends for a very long time.
Speaker 2: Like my oldest best friend, I've been friends with her
Speaker 2: since he was eighteen and I'm in my mid thirties,
Speaker 2: So I feel like with her like I do put
Speaker 2: her on a higher pedestal because you know better, like
Speaker 2: and you know all, you know all different sides of me.
Speaker 2: Now with a nigga, I might give him a little
Speaker 2: grace because we still get to know each other. But
Speaker 2: I do have my hard limits, like you're not gonna
Speaker 2: disrespect me or do certain things. But when they comes
Speaker 2: to my girlfriends, like my sisters, Hell yeah, it's holes
Speaker 2: before bros.
Speaker 3: But what's some cut off shit for homegirls? Like, what's
Speaker 3: some shit you caught in your homegirl off for?
Speaker 4: You know what?
Speaker 2: I'm really big on telling my business cause I'm very
Speaker 2: particular about who I tell what to. So I can
Speaker 2: tell three people the same story and three different ways
Speaker 2: cause I know exactly if something was to come out,
Speaker 2: I know where it came from.
Speaker 1: So telling your business, you're gonna get cut off.
Speaker 2: Oh yeah, I'm really big on that because I feel
Speaker 2: like if we have a if we have a sisterhood,
Speaker 2: where if I come to you and I'm like confining
Speaker 2: you as something that's really personal and then I hear
Speaker 2: you go back and till the next bitch, that's a
Speaker 2: problem for me.
Speaker 4: For me, it would tell my business.
Speaker 2: It's just the manner in which it was told wasn't
Speaker 2: told with malicious intent, because if you were drunk and
Speaker 2: it's just a story that was relatable to somebody else's
Speaker 2: story and it came out, I'm not cutting you off
Speaker 2: of that. That might you and if you apologize like
Speaker 2: that's a mistake, that's a mistake. But if you're doing
Speaker 2: it like oh let me tell you what? How tell
Speaker 2: fucked up? Like you know, that's a problem to me.
Speaker 2: You know when it comes to friendship, what about you a.
Speaker 1: Money? That's why I don't loan bitches, no goddamn money. Okay, yeah,
Speaker 1: done lost a couple.
Speaker 3: It costs me about five hundred dollars to get rid
Speaker 3: of a bitch before like that's all it costs. Because
Speaker 3: once you give somebody money and they don't give it back, like,
Speaker 3: the friendship is tarnished. Because really what I feel, y'all
Speaker 3: the women who I was friends with for a very
Speaker 3: very long time and not friends with now it's still
Speaker 3: hurt my feelings to this day, right, But what hurts
Speaker 3: my feelings even more is that these bitches no intimate
Speaker 3: shit about me and they just still walk around.
Speaker 1: Earth like shit cool, Like I really want them to
Speaker 1: disappear a little bit, just this much.
Speaker 3: So nobody, you know, especially like in entertainment and we're
Speaker 3: doing what we're doing, like some people know some real
Speaker 3: deep shit about me, like and knows be the people
Speaker 3: that go to the tabloids, you know what I'm saying, Like,
Speaker 3: those are the people who telling your business to blogs
Speaker 3: and shit like that in the future.
Speaker 1: I don't like that.
Speaker 3: I don't like a bitch not being my friend no
Speaker 3: more and know shit about me. So I didn't say that.
Speaker 1: You said that, you said I said. I said, go
Speaker 1: real far away and sleep there overnight every night.
Speaker 4: Night. Do y'all feel like where y'all at hasn't been
Speaker 4: hard for you all to connect with other women? Oh?
Speaker 4: I like having all.
Speaker 2: I connect with women easily, but then I do hair
Speaker 2: all day, all that every day, so part of my
Speaker 2: job is to connect with women. But I guess deal breaker.
Speaker 4: Money is not any money I give you or loan
Speaker 4: you is money that I can afford to lose. That's
Speaker 4: how I always treat money. That way, we don't fall.
Speaker 1: Out behind it.
Speaker 2: So if I give you money, I want it back,
Speaker 2: don't get me wrong. But if I don't get it back,
Speaker 2: it's because in my head it was already gone. And
Speaker 2: that's how I treat money when it comes with friends. Now,
Speaker 2: the conversation about like talking and telling my business, it
Speaker 2: just depends on what your intention was with my business.
Speaker 2: You know, I'll be mad at you for sharing, but
Speaker 2: if it wasn't malicious, we still can be friends. The
Speaker 2: thing that's a deal breaker for me is.
Speaker 4: Don't be fucking with none of my niggas behind my
Speaker 4: back and I find.
Speaker 1: Out you own them.
Speaker 4: They belong to me, bitch, and you know it.
Speaker 2: If you my friend done talked about this nigga to you,
Speaker 2: If I find out you're fucking with him behind my back,
Speaker 2: that's a problem for me. That's the seafool.
Speaker 4: Don't do that. Oh I thought that was obvious.
Speaker 1: Nah, a girl, they be breaking the girlfriend rules.
Speaker 4: Okay, some people, that's okay.
Speaker 1: You know.
Speaker 2: I find that with women of other races, like white women,
Speaker 2: they will fuck with each other's husbands and boyfriends and still.
Speaker 4: Be friends afterwards, you know, So I'm not surprised.
Speaker 1: Yeah, but that me and me and Tammy gonna talk
Speaker 1: about it first before or after. We don't.
Speaker 4: We don't cross paths. We have halves.
Speaker 2: But it ain't never been like, oh no, I'm gonna
Speaker 2: go grab exactly behind your back type ship like that's
Speaker 2: weak to me. Don't do that because a lot of
Speaker 2: these niggas I give, I talked them to you, baby,
Speaker 2: you don't gotta do it.
Speaker 1: Behind my back exactly. Yo, what was that?
Speaker 4: I was gonna say, what wasn't y'all with somebody else
Speaker 4: showing the bevery beginning you, I think it was you.
Speaker 3: That was not That was a brilliant idiots. We were
Speaker 3: talking about that motherfucker fastball. I threw her ass right quick.
Speaker 1: Then we got uber meats. It was coming. In twenty
Speaker 1: twenty five COVID.
Speaker 4: I had anxiety. I was lonely. I needed some male company, okay,
Speaker 4: sue me.
Speaker 1: And I knew a nigga. I knew a real real
Speaker 1: good was awesome.
Speaker 4: He was amazing. Man.
Speaker 3: Look, I want all listeners listeners to know this one
Speaker 3: thing about me, bitch.
Speaker 1: I know good dick. I'm just telling y'all. I know
Speaker 1: good Dick.
Speaker 4: He was a really good person too, So that was
Speaker 4: no hold.
Speaker 3: On ebone, let me tell you about this bitch. Now,
Speaker 3: this would be like a little like Super sneaky Liken,
Speaker 3: even though we're telling our business, right, Super, why are
Speaker 3: you cooking for the nigga the next day?
Speaker 1: Then you at his house and he cooking for her
Speaker 1: the next day? He was having slumber parties.
Speaker 3: Tammy, you cooked for that nigga one day in your
Speaker 3: apartment too, came and had a plate.
Speaker 4: It's just so happened that I was coaching and he
Speaker 4: was hung. So wait, how does that great? Like could
Speaker 4: you wipe him up.
Speaker 1: If you wanted to?
Speaker 4: That wasn't in the plan. That wasn't in the.
Speaker 3: No, it might have been your husband, like you know,
Speaker 3: you can't let your homegirl being away of your husband,
Speaker 3: like you never know.
Speaker 4: Right if it you know, I didn't see that happening.
Speaker 2: It's just where they'd be like the best man. We
Speaker 2: say in our vowels, and I got the image of
Speaker 2: Ashley sucking this dick in my head while we saying
Speaker 2: our vowels. It's weird. Yeah, I don't want that.
Speaker 1: One all.
Speaker 4: So no, but it was good for what it was.
Speaker 1: M I know, good dick. So let me ask you
Speaker 1: this because I was talking to one of my homegirls
Speaker 1: and she's older a little older than us, but you
Speaker 1: know she's been married twice, right, And we had like
Speaker 1: this whole back and forth one night because.
Speaker 3: I was saying, like, if I know some shit about
Speaker 3: one of my close friends, like her nigga cheating or
Speaker 3: her husband cheating on her, like I might tell her
Speaker 3: depending on who it is. So if your friend is married, right,
Speaker 3: and she's never like explained to you, like she's having
Speaker 3: all these problems at her husband, like everything is always
Speaker 3: always seems so wonderful, you know in their relationship, you
Speaker 3: see him cheating?
Speaker 1: Are you or are you not gonna tell your best friend?
Speaker 2: So I'm gonna take a picture because I feel like
Speaker 2: when you tell a bit about her man, you need proof,
Speaker 2: especially when it's her husband. And even when it comes
Speaker 2: to my best friend, like you know, bitch, just be
Speaker 2: like my man, my man, and my man. So I
Speaker 2: just want to make sure, like, hey, I seen so
Speaker 2: and so doing this with so and so, and I
Speaker 2: got this picture and do what you want with it.
Speaker 2: And I'm just gonna leave it at that, because at
Speaker 2: the end of the day, I don't you never know
Speaker 2: what somebody got going on with that nigga.
Speaker 1: Mm hmm. I'm not telling shit.
Speaker 3: I mind my business, man, I'm gonna mind my business
Speaker 3: my best If my best friend is like traveling the
Speaker 3: world with her husband, he doing all all the good
Speaker 3: ship together, like, I don't want to be the person
Speaker 3: that breaks her heart because that's how women all look like.
Speaker 1: Look at it.
Speaker 3: You know, she'll end up still going on and staying
Speaker 3: with her husband. And now our friendship is a mess
Speaker 3: because I'm the one that brought this dirty laundry to you.
Speaker 3: You know what I'm saying you not even we already
Speaker 3: talked about how men and women like friendships and relationships
Speaker 3: just differ, and how we put our friends on a pedestal.
Speaker 3: So it's easy to just discard your woman. You're not
Speaker 3: about to, I mean, discard your homegirl. You're not about
Speaker 3: to discard your whole husband.
Speaker 1: So no, I don't think. I don't think i'm telling.
Speaker 3: I don't think I'm telling until she come to me
Speaker 3: crying about Oh damn, I can't wait until she come
Speaker 3: crying by.
Speaker 2: Some No, see, if it's just a friend. I might
Speaker 2: turn my and they're super happy. I might turn another
Speaker 2: che can mind my business. But if it's my best friends,
Speaker 2: they gonna hear about it. Because somebody's gonna call because
Speaker 2: I've jumped on their husband. I jumped on their husband
Speaker 2: in public. They're gonna be like, tell me out here,
Speaker 2: fucking your husband up.
Speaker 4: You need to come right? Yeah there, her husband, did
Speaker 4: I see him?
Speaker 2: Right?
Speaker 4: They're gonna get a bitch of me on his ass
Speaker 4: because I don't play like that.
Speaker 3: That might be what I'll do, then confront him right
Speaker 3: and give him the opportunity to tell in his damn self.
Speaker 4: Yeah right, he gonna have to tell like that bitch,
Speaker 4: your bitch friend tell me jumped on me. Don't pull
Speaker 4: my motherfucking dreadlocks out. Yeah, and.
Speaker 2: She nixed because I want to tell me, yeah, my
Speaker 2: best friend. I would be upset if my best friend
Speaker 2: didn't do something, you know, right.
Speaker 3: So do y'all arbitrary tell your friends when they're being
Speaker 3: a dumb bitch. Are y'all just smiling nod at the stories? No,
Speaker 3: you know, because sometimes your friends just want you to listen, right,
Speaker 3: and so you just keep hearing all this dumb bitch
Speaker 3: shit over and over and over again, Like at what
Speaker 3: point do you be like, hey, bitch, you being a
Speaker 3: dumb bitch?
Speaker 4: You know?
Speaker 2: I feel like my best friends know me, so they
Speaker 2: know when I ask certain questions, they already know I'm
Speaker 2: going with it. So I feel like I don't need
Speaker 2: to tell you you being dumb because you saying shit
Speaker 2: out loud and me asking you certain questions.
Speaker 4: It's just letting you know that. Come on, now, this
Speaker 4: ship is not adding up. But I also feel like
Speaker 4: maybe this is just your season of being a dumb
Speaker 4: bitch because we all been there and you got to learn.
Speaker 2: Because I rather you be a dumb bitch while you're
Speaker 2: dating around being single, than be a dumb bitch and
Speaker 2: you marry a whole ass nigga. Right, Yes, no, we're
Speaker 2: not discript. I like him, I like them reformed not still.
Speaker 2: Don't be a hole with me.
Speaker 4: Yeah right, listen, unless that's just your relations I think
Speaker 4: i'm too.
Speaker 2: I'm kind of blunt and frank, so I'm gonna tell you.
Speaker 2: But then if I keep having to tell you, it
Speaker 2: gets to a point where I'm not gonna say nothing
Speaker 2: else because then you are comfortable in this space and
Speaker 2: then I'm just gonna listen and wait for you to
Speaker 2: learn your listen.
Speaker 4: But I will be like, bitch, you're stupid.
Speaker 2: I will say it just like dom bit. You better
Speaker 2: than me if I start telling you.
Speaker 1: If you like it, I love it right exactly.
Speaker 3: So one of my friends who i'm no longer friends with,
Speaker 3: I remember I stopped talking to her because she was
Speaker 3: like clearly being a dumb bitch and I just didn't
Speaker 3: want to be associated with dumb bitch ism, you know
Speaker 3: what I'm saying. Like she just was being had by
Speaker 3: a nigga and I just couldn't stand by because there
Speaker 3: was nothing I could tell her to make her stop
Speaker 3: talking to this guy.
Speaker 1: And I'll never just be like leaving nigga. But this
Speaker 1: nigga wasn't even like tangible.
Speaker 3: He was in prison, so I can't exactly, so I
Speaker 3: can't like, bitch, I'm trying to help you, help you,
Speaker 3: and she just was she just was gone. So I
Speaker 3: couldn't really have a relationship with her anymore until that
Speaker 3: person was out the picture and he would actually tell her,
Speaker 3: don't tell me shit because he knew I had more
Speaker 3: sense than her.
Speaker 4: Yeah, So.
Speaker 1: Girl, that is a whole long ass story.
Speaker 3: Yes, he's back in prison and she helped put him
Speaker 3: put him there. If you're listening, bitch, yeah, I'm on
Speaker 3: head telling your motherfucking business.
Speaker 1: We ain't friends no more.
Speaker 4: But you need to come on professional whole girl so
Speaker 4: you can share.
Speaker 1: What girl mess. That wasn't her man when she it
Speaker 1: was he was. Let me listen, Go on, child, let's
Speaker 1: go to break. We'll be right back.
Speaker 3: Let's say, y'all think y'all make more friends now? Or
Speaker 3: was it easier in your twenties in your twenties than forties,
Speaker 3: or is there better that in process I have for
Speaker 3: friends nowadays?
Speaker 2: I think I make more friends now, But I think
Speaker 2: they just have to do with me just knowing who
Speaker 2: I am and being confident in myself because I feel
Speaker 2: like when you're younger, like you just be going through shit,
Speaker 2: you be thinking this person your friend, but meanwhile she
Speaker 2: be hating on you or like, you know, girls can
Speaker 2: be weird and like, jealousy is a real big thing,
Speaker 2: especially when people see the potential in you and you
Speaker 2: don't see it in yourself. So I feel like, right,
Speaker 2: so I feel like now like and there's just so
Speaker 2: many you know, dope women out there that just doing
Speaker 2: amazing things that want to connect with other like minded women.
Speaker 2: So I feel like now it's way easier than what
Speaker 2: it was before for me. I think it's the same
Speaker 2: amount of people, but it's just different on who I
Speaker 2: call friend.
Speaker 4: Like, I don't use the term friend as easily as
Speaker 4: I did when I was in my trainies.
Speaker 2: You know, I have created more boundaries and I know
Speaker 2: how to compart in the last where people are in
Speaker 2: my life, you know. So that's the difference for me.
Speaker 2: Same amount of bitches coming here, here, come and go,
Speaker 2: but a friend, I don't use that term as loosely
Speaker 2: as I did when I was in my twenties. In
Speaker 2: my twenties, I meet a bitch in the motherfucking bathroom
Speaker 2: of the club and like her fingernail pledge, and we
Speaker 2: started talking and we're friends. You know, it's not the
Speaker 2: same because you know, once you get older, what about
Speaker 2: for you?
Speaker 1: I think some of it.
Speaker 3: I think some of your friends, like especially in your twenties,
Speaker 3: come from my childhood, right, and then you have these
Speaker 3: relationships with these people for so long because of time, right,
Speaker 3: and they probably should have been expired.
Speaker 1: So I got I feel like i I've never not
Speaker 1: been able to make friends then or now.
Speaker 3: I probably have more meaningful relationships with the women that
Speaker 3: are in my life now. But I have some friends,
Speaker 3: Like my friend Priscilla. We celebrated her forty birthday last week.
Speaker 3: Like we've been friends literally since six and seven years old.
Speaker 3: Parents still live in the same neighborhood. Like we've been
Speaker 3: friends for fucking ever. I know her asked, even when
Speaker 3: she get on my nerve and vice versus. So that's
Speaker 3: a forever friend. But I don't think it's hard, Bitch,
Speaker 3: I be stealing people friends, Like I'm friends with people
Speaker 3: who are no longer friends with the people I met
Speaker 3: them here, but I'm still friends on both ends. This
Speaker 3: one like fuck that bitch. She like fucked that bitch.
Speaker 3: And I'm in the middle, like I still love y'all
Speaker 3: and I want all us to be in the room together.
Speaker 4: That's how my best friend is.
Speaker 2: So I had this friend group that I was in
Speaker 2: from some of us were friends as children and some
Speaker 2: of us not in college. But my best friend, Tekia
Speaker 2: is still friends with all of us, and none of
Speaker 2: us are friends with each other. We're only friends with Tekia,
Speaker 2: and it's the four of.
Speaker 1: Us Takia is the only seen one. Is what I'm hearing.
Speaker 4: Is the best communicator out of all of us. That's
Speaker 4: what it is.
Speaker 2: She's not saying no, We're all saye. But she's just
Speaker 2: the best communicator out of all of us. The rest
Speaker 2: of us will fight fist and I just don't want
Speaker 2: to do that anymore. I'm done with the fist fighting
Speaker 2: era of my friendships. If it comes to physical, we can't.
Speaker 2: You're going to jail.
Speaker 4: First of all, if you attack me, you're going to jail.
Speaker 4: And second of all, you have a fist fighter friend,
Speaker 4: Oh yeah, yes?
Speaker 3: And then friends again? Yes after the fighting, Nah, bitch.
Speaker 3: If I got to put hands on you, that's it.
Speaker 4: Yeah, we definitely fall when we was younger.
Speaker 2: Yeah, we definitely duke it out and then be friends again.
Speaker 1: But not let down.
Speaker 4: I never fought, not no more. I can't do that
Speaker 4: no more. You ain't never fought, You ain't never fist
Speaker 4: fault your sister.
Speaker 1: That's family, like, of course, my friends are the family.
Speaker 4: My friends family.
Speaker 1: Oh no, child, I feel like I'm not about to
Speaker 1: be fighting a homegirl like sisters. Y'all grew up, y'all
Speaker 1: know each other's so crazy growing up in the same house,
Speaker 1: just annoyed in the house together my may home.
Speaker 2: Just like you only fought your sister living in the
Speaker 2: same house, y'all never fought.
Speaker 1: But it was different. I definitely tried to get that
Speaker 1: ass and bitch. I'm like, bitch, come in the yard
Speaker 1: because it's actually not.
Speaker 4: If you talk and be around mad about it, you
Speaker 4: got fist fight at this point. No, like when we
Speaker 4: were younger. When we were younger, yes, our twenties, I.
Speaker 1: Never fear my friend ever. Every blows. I'm not fucking
Speaker 1: with you.
Speaker 2: It's like my sister. It's like fighting with my sister.
Speaker 4: To me, I know when we were young.
Speaker 1: To fight my sisters like that, I mean, we fought,
Speaker 1: but not.
Speaker 2: It wasn't but it just has happened, you know.
Speaker 5: Mm hmm.
Speaker 2: No, I feel like if I have to put my
Speaker 2: hands on one of my homegirls, because I feel like
Speaker 2: I never fought a homegirl before, I feel like we
Speaker 2: came close to it. But if I got to put
Speaker 2: my hands on you, I gotta walk away, because that's
Speaker 2: that's I feel like. When I was a kid, yeah
Speaker 2: we'll fight, but in your twenties fighting your friends in college,
Speaker 2: I remember one of my friends. I threw up on
Speaker 2: one of my friends.
Speaker 1: We got your Yeah, ain't your friend though? Are you
Speaker 1: your friends now?
Speaker 4: Thick as thieves?
Speaker 2: That's my nigga to the end, Like that's We were
Speaker 2: nineteen years old drunk, both of us drunk.
Speaker 4: It's not just me drunk. We're both drunk.
Speaker 2: We fought the next day, we cleaned the car out together.
Speaker 2: You know, it wasn't like it wasn't that deep.
Speaker 1: I don't know you guys are an alcoholic.
Speaker 2: I got beat up, But let me tell you, I
Speaker 2: got beat up because I was super wasted, like I
Speaker 2: was drunk. I didn't even know the fight was coming.
Speaker 1: So you got your glass off. God, you probably was.
Speaker 3: No, that is true now when somebody drunk and you're
Speaker 3: not really that drunk, like motherfucker gets annoying, like bitch,
Speaker 3: leave me alone.
Speaker 4: It was bad.
Speaker 1: Yeah.
Speaker 2: I would like at this age, even in my thirties,
Speaker 2: if we get to the point where we got to
Speaker 2: be physically violent to one another, then it's.
Speaker 4: Just a no go.
Speaker 2: We don't need to be friends.
Speaker 1: Y'all know.
Speaker 3: They have an app now for meeting friends, like the
Speaker 3: Bumbo app for relationships. They have a Bumble Friendship app now.
Speaker 2: Women have you know, some people, I won't say women,
Speaker 2: but people have hard times meeting women in and making friendships.
Speaker 2: Like I do hair, and I have clients that I
Speaker 2: know that are coming as much as they come just
Speaker 2: to have somebody to talk to.
Speaker 4: It's not even about their hair. Yeah, they just need
Speaker 4: a space where.
Speaker 2: They can come and talk and relax and be away
Speaker 2: from their husband, their kids and just sit with someone
Speaker 2: who's not judging their story. And we feeling pretty, you
Speaker 2: know so, and don't have nobody talk to.
Speaker 1: We actually had a friendship coach. You'll remember her name
Speaker 1: was Danielle. Danielle Jackson. I think it is ur something
Speaker 1: like that. Danielle.
Speaker 3: Yeah, she was like a friendship coach. Want a female
Speaker 3: friendship coach. This is a while ago, though, but I
Speaker 3: think some people do have tough times making friends, making
Speaker 3: friends with people.
Speaker 1: Yeah, I don't have I don't have a problem with that.
Speaker 4: Yeah, I feel like everybody I know. My mama said,
Speaker 4: I ain't never been a stranger before. That was my problem.
Speaker 4: So all right, do you want to get into relationships
Speaker 4: with like, uh, not women, but with our men.
Speaker 2: Let's talk about this. Are you paying half in a relationship?
Speaker 2: Are you paying half the bills?
Speaker 4: Oh?
Speaker 2: No, listen, I feel like I just had this conversation
Speaker 2: with my homegirl heart nigga. I feel like if I'm
Speaker 2: living with a man and I'm from the South, like
Speaker 2: I was born in New York, I was raised in
Speaker 2: the South, so I'm very traditional, like I'm very like
Speaker 2: passionate and aggressive, like I'm type Alpha when it comes
Speaker 2: to like my businesses. But when it comes to my relationship,
Speaker 2: I want to be submissive. I don't want to think.
Speaker 2: I want to make sure that I'm with somebody that
Speaker 2: can be able to be like you know what, I
Speaker 2: know he got it. So if I'm living with you,
Speaker 2: you need to pay this rent. I pay some little utilities.
Speaker 2: I make sure the food the grocery is done. I
Speaker 2: cook a little meal, make sure the house is claimed.
Speaker 2: But I'm not splitting no no major bills with no man.
Speaker 3: No, you might as well live by yourself. At that point,
Speaker 3: I can't say that. No, I'm saying you might if
Speaker 3: you have to pay half the bills, like you might
Speaker 3: as well. Yeah, why why am I cohabitating with the
Speaker 3: man who's like down my neck about my paycheck? I remember, remember,
Speaker 3: this's the fly superfly lady from what's her name?
Speaker 1: From iHeartRadio? Remember she was in Memphis.
Speaker 4: Oh yeah, I forgot he remember her name though she
Speaker 4: was right.
Speaker 1: Yeah.
Speaker 3: So she was also at the live show and she
Speaker 3: was saying how her first husband used to be like
Speaker 3: these bitches is paid, Like she's you know what I'm saying,
Speaker 3: she's well off. But she was like her first husband
Speaker 3: would always be like, damn, how much money we get today?
Speaker 3: Like he wait for her paycheck to come. And she
Speaker 3: said it was one of her male friends that said why,
Speaker 3: basically told her she needs a rich man. One of
Speaker 3: her male friends said, you need a nigga with money,
Speaker 3: Like you can't stay married to this person, right, So
Speaker 3: she actually her husband. Now she was like, my husband
Speaker 3: will even I make a lot of money, he don't
Speaker 3: care how much money I make.
Speaker 1: I don't pay no bills.
Speaker 3: You know what I'm saying. It's Daddy calling us gold diggers.
Speaker 3: Been wont to dig out of fucking gold.
Speaker 4: But for.
Speaker 2: The economy is kind of the economy is kind of
Speaker 2: fucked up in kind of people are, you know, struggling,
Speaker 2: And that's not just women as men and women. If
Speaker 2: you get with someone who's having a hard time financially,
Speaker 2: You're not going to split the bills if you love
Speaker 2: this person.
Speaker 4: Listen. Well, I think people also, I think people need
Speaker 4: to also be realistic.
Speaker 2: Like I feel like if you was in a situation
Speaker 2: like this is somebody even knowing since she was a child,
Speaker 2: y'all been through a lot of things together, then I
Speaker 2: would probably that's the exception to the room because y'all
Speaker 2: trying to figure things out, y'all both young, y'all trying
Speaker 2: to get things going. I feel like, as a like
Speaker 2: a grown woman, and as much as I have accomplished
Speaker 2: on my own, you have to add value to my life, like,
Speaker 2: because if you're doing something and I got to split
Speaker 2: it with you, then I might as well just keep
Speaker 2: doing it myself.
Speaker 3: Yeah, and then how are you supposed to And this
Speaker 3: is and men know this, right, They just don't want
Speaker 3: to hear from women.
Speaker 1: Right.
Speaker 3: So if you're a man, a full grown man who
Speaker 3: takes care of business, like, go talk to your brethren
Speaker 3: and stop talking to us, right, because they just don't
Speaker 3: want to hear this from us.
Speaker 1: But all men want to be able to provide.
Speaker 3: The frustration comes when they can't, right, And so instead
Speaker 3: of recognizing it and start problem solving, because that's what
Speaker 3: a man is, a problem solving, right. Instead of doing that,
Speaker 3: they'll find fault with you to justify why he can provide.
Speaker 3: But all men want to be able to provide.
Speaker 4: I won't. I won't right now, in this face and
Speaker 4: this age. I won't even sit here and pretend like
Speaker 4: I wouldn't split the bills.
Speaker 2: But let me tell you why. Only if I was
Speaker 2: with somebody who aspired to taking care of everything.
Speaker 4: That's he had a solid That's all I'm asking. That's
Speaker 4: why he had a solid.
Speaker 2: Playing and solid goals and we and we striving toward that. Yeah,
Speaker 2: let's split it. Let's get this money together. Baby, it's
Speaker 2: not a problem. But I won't say that I'm willing
Speaker 2: to that.
Speaker 4: I'm not willing to do.
Speaker 2: It, because that would that would be a lie. At
Speaker 2: this point, there was a time where I'd.
Speaker 4: Be like, absolutely not.
Speaker 2: But in real life, everybody don't have it all the
Speaker 2: way figured out right away, and I don't want to, like,
Speaker 2: you know, completely cancel out a good man because he's
Speaker 2: not in a space where he aspires to be.
Speaker 3: And I think that's where most women, that's where most
Speaker 3: of us are at right. We just want a man
Speaker 3: to aspire to one day take us take care of
Speaker 3: his family completely. Nobody's asking to have all shit together.
Speaker 3: My fucking life being shambles at the time. Okay, I'm
Speaker 3: still figuring out, bitch. I'll be feeling eighteen sometimes. I
Speaker 3: know I'm gonna get to where I'm going. I got
Speaker 3: a fucking plan, you know what I'm saying, and I
Speaker 3: keep shitting fucking motion. That's all you look for in
Speaker 3: a mate. So if you got your thing going I
Speaker 3: got my thing going on, let's attack these things, right,
Speaker 3: But the ultimate gold nigga, you need to take care? Yeah, wife,
Speaker 3: Yeah that should be still.
Speaker 4: I agree there, I agree there.
Speaker 2: All right, So we talked about telling our friends dumb bitches.
Speaker 2: I know you listen to our show before, right, mm hmm.
Speaker 2: Do you have a dumb bitch shory that you want
Speaker 2: to share with us? I know you can with one.
Speaker 1: Do I have a so?
Speaker 4: I haven't had so I've been celibanted for like I
Speaker 4: lost count, but it's been like three four years.
Speaker 1: About that.
Speaker 2: I'm like, wait, wait, store, roll back that beautiful being
Speaker 2: footage real quick?
Speaker 4: Like, what.
Speaker 1: Listen that extra?
Speaker 4: Can I have yours?
Speaker 1: Situe? Ain't using it.
Speaker 4: Please take mine so you can make sure it's.
Speaker 1: Knock the pussy out of order.
Speaker 3: Like, first of all, bitch, when you head us up,
Speaker 3: you should have said my name is Ebane and the
Speaker 3: bitch ain't fucking four years like that would have set
Speaker 3: their whole ship off.
Speaker 1: Let's gonna talk about.
Speaker 4: Let's rays all right, How did this start and how
Speaker 4: did it go so long?
Speaker 2: Tell us about that, all right?
Speaker 4: So three four years ago, I was dating. I was
Speaker 4: doing my thing right, but I loved doing it.
Speaker 1: Go ahead, girl.
Speaker 2: Like just also just like I like to be in
Speaker 2: men like a male energy, like because I feel like
Speaker 2: that allows me to really be my feminine self, you
Speaker 2: know what I'm saying, Like because I'm a girly girl,
Speaker 2: but I feel like sometimes I'm always like a real nigga.
Speaker 2: I'm so aggranstive and passionate, got y'all. So I feel
Speaker 2: like when I'm around a real nigga, like you know,
Speaker 2: I get soft and shit. And so I was outside
Speaker 2: doing my thing, and you know, I was dealing with
Speaker 2: a few people, and you know, at that time, everything
Speaker 2: was like in shambles. I didn't have things was just
Speaker 2: like not working for me in my favor and you know,
Speaker 2: make a long story short, I just broke down, and
Speaker 2: I'm just like, damn, like I'm really trying to like
Speaker 2: figure shit out, and like, you know, the only family
Speaker 2: I really had besides my close friends, it's my grandmother
Speaker 2: who passed away. So I'm just like, yo, God, like
Speaker 2: you know, what do I gotta do to like be
Speaker 2: able to like get to where I want to get
Speaker 2: to in my career and just like, you know, be
Speaker 2: somewhat financially comfortable because I'm tired of fucking feeling like
Speaker 2: I'm holding on by the thread. And you know, I
Speaker 2: just made the decision and just like, you know what
Speaker 2: if I was to give up sex, like you got
Speaker 2: to make sure some things pop for me, because I
Speaker 2: want my own place. I want a nice place. I
Speaker 2: want some money, like I want my network deal, like
Speaker 2: I want all these things to come into fruition. But
Speaker 2: you gotta give me something. And I just also feel
Speaker 2: like when I was having sex with these people, I'm
Speaker 2: just like, yo, why am I sharing my body and
Speaker 2: all these other things about myself with these niggas? And
Speaker 2: I don't feel safe with them and it just didn't
Speaker 2: make sense, Like and I feel like, you know, I've
Speaker 2: been outside for a very long time, so I'm used
Speaker 2: to like, you know, men taking me out, buying me
Speaker 2: really nice things, and like, you know, treating me the
Speaker 2: way that.
Speaker 4: I desired to be treated.
Speaker 2: But by the time I'm done with them, I just
Speaker 2: felt empty, Like I still feel like they didn't know
Speaker 2: the real meat. And I feel like a lot of
Speaker 2: times when people see you, especially when you're an attractive woman,
Speaker 2: people just only see what you're trying to accomplish, or
Speaker 2: they only see the exterior. And I feel like a
Speaker 2: lot of people that I was messing with didn't even
Speaker 2: like know things about me that you should have known.
Speaker 2: So you know, I just was like, you know what,
Speaker 2: and I didn't make no avow to God, like you know,
Speaker 2: I was having a conversation with God, and I'm just like,
Speaker 2: you know, I ain't trying to wait the marriage, but
Speaker 2: you know, I'm just trying to wait to a place
Speaker 2: where by the time I do meet somebody like I
Speaker 2: wanted to be something that somebody I feel safe with
Speaker 2: and somebody that like I really feel like, have a
Speaker 2: genuine like for me, like God forbid, something wants to happen.
Speaker 4: I know I can call this nigga up and then
Speaker 4: it being raped, you know what I'm saying. So so
Speaker 4: right now, I've been like dating here and there, trying
Speaker 4: to get back outside. But I don't know, these niggas
Speaker 4: are just trash. Don't say that.
Speaker 3: Don't say that, you know, because there's a lot of
Speaker 3: good men out there. They just not cute like I'd
Speaker 3: be saying. I'm dead serious about that, and niggas get
Speaker 3: mad at that too, But we do like women and
Speaker 3: men are voes visual. Men are a little bit more
Speaker 3: visual than us.
Speaker 1: But you're gonna look at the exterior first right to determine,
Speaker 1: like what's what, And they just may not be attractive
Speaker 1: initially to you. And they may be.
Speaker 2: Saying when you speak out loud that men are trash
Speaker 2: that's all you to meet. You can't keep saying that
Speaker 2: and expect to meet good men. You gotta say men
Speaker 2: are good.
Speaker 4: Men are the.
Speaker 2: I agree, like I've been manifesting, like especially when I
Speaker 2: do my deep prayers, I'm like, you know what, because
Speaker 2: I do believe there are good men out there. I
Speaker 2: just feel like the men that's been in my space
Speaker 2: just been It's just not been what I want. And
Speaker 2: I also feel and it doesn't have thing you can do.
Speaker 2: It looks because I feel like, I mean, for the
Speaker 2: most part, I do want somebody that's attractive, but I
Speaker 2: feel like as you get older, certain certain things don't matter,
Speaker 2: Like you just really want a good person right for me.
Speaker 2: So no, I agree, Like I'm being very careful with
Speaker 2: my words, but I just feel like the men are
Speaker 2: just it's hard. It's hard out here. I'm not gonna
Speaker 2: sit here and pretend.
Speaker 1: Like it's not hard because they the prize. Now, honey,
Speaker 1: you know the pride. You know, I've already married.
Speaker 2: The tables have turned in away, and it seems like
Speaker 2: the men do think that they're the catch instead of
Speaker 2: the woman now.
Speaker 4: But it's because like, what is it like in Atlanta?
Speaker 4: What is it like fourteen to one men? You know,
Speaker 4: men to women.
Speaker 2: And men.
Speaker 1: I don't like those statistics statistics because who controls them?
Speaker 1: For one?
Speaker 4: Right?
Speaker 1: Men?
Speaker 3: So why wouldn't we tell bitches, Uh, girl, you're gonna
Speaker 3: have to deal with us because it's too many, y'all.
Speaker 3: It's only a little bit of us. So they had
Speaker 3: a pick of the litter for the rest of their lives, Like,
Speaker 3: why wouldn't they manipulate us in that way, but it
Speaker 3: were looking like it though it'd be like, it's like.
Speaker 1: Four niggas walking, But where where are we at? Where
Speaker 1: are you at?
Speaker 3: Because I just saw a video on Instagram and I
Speaker 3: hate that we missed this because I was in Atlanta
Speaker 3: for investments.
Speaker 1: A girl did a video. She was like, y'all bitches
Speaker 1: better be here next year.
Speaker 3: It's so many nice looking men here, like and if
Speaker 3: those are the type of men, like, you have to
Speaker 3: put yourself where are the type of And you also
Speaker 3: have to be.
Speaker 1: Who you want to meet?
Speaker 3: Like you can't you can't be a damn two think
Speaker 3: you deserve a ten nigga, cause there are men out
Speaker 3: here who are ten?
Speaker 1: Do you deserve that?
Speaker 4: No?
Speaker 1: No, you're hollering at me.
Speaker 2: I feel like I'm doing now, especially since I'm starting
Speaker 2: to get back out there and day because I feel
Speaker 2: like since I haven't dated and so long, I kind
Speaker 2: of like I know what I want, but I don't
Speaker 2: know what I like. Like I want to just get
Speaker 2: out there and just you know, see what's going on.
Speaker 2: So I do feel like it's right. So I do
Speaker 2: feel like it is important to like, if you want
Speaker 2: a certain man, you got to be in a certain
Speaker 2: atmosphere or if you want to have a man do
Speaker 2: certain things, you gotta be where they be at. So
Speaker 2: I haven't like looking up different places to go to
Speaker 2: like just being strategic in my day life because I
Speaker 2: feel like, you know, for me, like I've been going
Speaker 2: so like I sacrificed a lot for you know, my
Speaker 2: career and my goals and things of that nature. So
Speaker 2: I'm just like I need to put that same.
Speaker 4: Energy into you know, being dating in my life.
Speaker 3: You got to have a blueprint, you gotta have a plan. Yeah,
Speaker 3: my say friend of was talking about her she has
Speaker 3: a daughter. Her daughter's like twenty six years old, and
Speaker 3: she's like, her daughter doesn't she doesn't know if any
Speaker 3: prospects or it has and she doesn't want her daughter
Speaker 3: to be our age without a husband.
Speaker 1: So she's like, girl, this is something you got a plan.
Speaker 4: Like.
Speaker 1: It's a book called Get Get Into I Do, And
Speaker 1: I forgot the author name of it.
Speaker 3: The the name of the author. I started reading it
Speaker 3: or listening to it on audible. But it basically tells
Speaker 3: you instruction guide on how to get a husband essentially right,
Speaker 3: the things that you need to do. And I just
Speaker 3: don't think that we we for specifically black women, we
Speaker 3: have never been taught how to get a husband for real.
Speaker 3: You just go through all your life, different relationships with
Speaker 3: a bunch of people, spending too much time in the
Speaker 3: wrong places.
Speaker 2: But then oftentimes our sons haven't been taught how to
Speaker 2: be a husband by nobody either. You know that hart
Speaker 2: so and shit oftentimes were trying to survive. So I
Speaker 2: feel like, you know, because I also I have a
Speaker 2: lot of my girlfriends, like you know, we don't have
Speaker 2: children or well I'm the only single one out of
Speaker 2: my girlfriend group. But you know, it's just very unfortunate
Speaker 2: then how society makes us feel like we're less than
Speaker 2: a woman.
Speaker 4: Because we don't have these things.
Speaker 2: Not attached to a man, right, I feel like exactly,
Speaker 2: I feel like there's more to life than just being
Speaker 2: attached to a man like I would want to be.
Speaker 4: I would love to have a man that loves me
Speaker 4: and I love him unconditionally.
Speaker 2: But you know, it gotta make sense, like I don't
Speaker 2: want to just be with somebody for the sake of it,
Speaker 2: because then I'm back to where I started, you know, right, And.
Speaker 3: If you ask about woman, yeah, and if you I
Speaker 3: think a lot. I think women are okay with beans.
Speaker 3: We are and we aren't right because we want. We
Speaker 3: definitely want somebody.
Speaker 1: We want a man. Do you necessarily need them?
Speaker 4: So I need one. I'm tired of being out here
Speaker 4: by myself.
Speaker 1: I need I like being in relationship too. I definitely,
Speaker 1: I definitely like to be with a man.
Speaker 2: Like if you don't get no dick by twenty January,
Speaker 2: I'm gonna call you January twenty twenty four, like, did
Speaker 2: you get that?
Speaker 1: I'm a fun I'm for you, ebony, but.
Speaker 4: Over here because.
Speaker 2: And I just want like a nice, juicy, big dick,
Speaker 2: Like yo, I've been so horny, like I've been just
Speaker 2: looking at niggas dicks all day.
Speaker 1: And one he called me looking at his dick, and
Speaker 1: he just started smiling.
Speaker 4: I'm like, geez, it might have just.
Speaker 1: Been all nuts. It was a big balls piled up
Speaker 1: right there in front. A white man was a white man.
Speaker 4: I was like, damn, I did a white man before.
Speaker 1: How was that? It's nice?
Speaker 4: I mean I dated a certain type of white man,
Speaker 4: so yeah, it was a good time.
Speaker 2: I went through a phase where I just looked at
Speaker 2: everybody's dicks. It was a problem like I just looked
Speaker 2: at every If you was a man, I was like,
Speaker 2: I look at your face and then I looked down
Speaker 2: at your dick every and it didn't matter how old
Speaker 2: you were. It didn't like, I mean, not a child
Speaker 2: but a grown man. If you was grown, I was.
Speaker 4: Looking at your package. Yeah, just staring. Yeah, anywhere between
Speaker 4: twenty two and sixty. I looked at that dick. I
Speaker 4: ain't gonna lie.
Speaker 3: So I don't never not look at dick. I don't
Speaker 3: know what you're talking about. Like y'all stopped, why you look.
Speaker 2: I just I'm not I'm not in that space right now.
Speaker 2: I'm not in that space. I'm not looking at dick.
Speaker 2: I don't even want no dick right now.
Speaker 1: I still want to look I still I mean.
Speaker 2: I mean, I'm in the space you were in three
Speaker 2: years ago, but not like that, not like for three
Speaker 2: I can't imagine it probably gonna happen till like till October.
Speaker 2: But you know what, regardless of the time frame, I
Speaker 2: think that every woman should go through a time frame
Speaker 2: time here when they're not having sex because I feel like,
Speaker 2: you know, and I don't want to say I'm celibate.
Speaker 2: I want to say that I'm sustaining from sex because
Speaker 2: I feel like this has been the most rewarding season ever,
Speaker 2: because I feel like the best thing you can do
Speaker 2: with guy is to keep your word, not to get
Speaker 2: all religious or anything.
Speaker 4: And I feel like, you know, I receive a lot
Speaker 4: of great rewards.
Speaker 2: For holding my word when it comes to you know,
Speaker 2: being very this is having a discipline. Yeah, so I
Speaker 2: think every woman should definitely go through this period when
Speaker 2: the time is right, because.
Speaker 4: When you know, you know, and you know, I feel
Speaker 4: like you will learn a lot about yourself.
Speaker 3: Damn what as as long as you ever went without sex,
Speaker 3: I got one year and maybe two one year and
Speaker 3: two months maybe, So it's good.
Speaker 2: It's been about or so when I was my boy
Speaker 2: life period, so when my boyfriend was in the military,
Speaker 2: you would be gone for six months. So six months,
Speaker 2: that's good.
Speaker 4: But this time around, like it's only been like, how
Speaker 4: what's today?
Speaker 2: But it's been like at least two months, and I'm
Speaker 2: thinking October, I'm gonna fuck again.
Speaker 4: But I just needed so like ninety dad clarity.
Speaker 3: You know, I feel like we had a hotline. Somebody
Speaker 3: was gonna call in here and call you a fucking liar.
Speaker 4: But I do, like, girl, I fuck you last Thursday.
Speaker 1: Maya business, just maya business. Nigga up ship.
Speaker 3: Now, I was waiting for my ex to be sentenced
Speaker 3: at the time, so like the Feds broke us up right.
Speaker 3: So once that nigga got his sentence, I was like,
Speaker 3: fucking immediately I found a nigga and was about to
Speaker 3: marry his ass.
Speaker 4: So that was your one year.
Speaker 1: Yes, hm, I need to come on the show man.
Speaker 4: I mean, I I got some good listen.
Speaker 1: I need to do another one. I need I definitely
Speaker 1: need to do a fast from sex.
Speaker 3: The thing is that I'll go like just not having
Speaker 3: sex a lot, and then I just you know what
Speaker 3: I'm saying, like this little spear at a moment type ship.
Speaker 4: But I'm like, not, do you do you masturbate Evane?
Speaker 4: Hell yeah, I'm not masturbating.
Speaker 2: I'm not masturbating. I'm not doing nothing right now. I'm
Speaker 2: not smoking. I wasn't drinking, but I'm like having champagne
Speaker 2: a little bit here and there. We started drinking when
Speaker 2: Poor Minds came to town and we went out with them.
Speaker 2: I had to drink then, and I'm having.
Speaker 4: A drink now. But do y'all look so cute.
Speaker 1: I wasn't.
Speaker 4: I didn't.
Speaker 2: I'm not smoking, I'm not having sex, I'm not masturbating.
Speaker 2: I'm not doing nothing right now, at least till October.
Speaker 4: What's the reason I just don't want? Tommy asked, I
Speaker 4: just don't want to.
Speaker 1: Yeah, I just need like some clarity, mental clarity.
Speaker 3: Yeah, I could use a no dick thing, but I
Speaker 3: don't even be having sex that often to be like, oh,
Speaker 3: I'm gonna have no sex.
Speaker 4: But I wish somebody could call up right now because
Speaker 4: but that's enough for me. Child.
Speaker 2: Yeah, bus both of us tonight. Make a video and
Speaker 2: send it to me.
Speaker 1: I'll be riding because I get watching it.
Speaker 2: But I can't participate.
Speaker 4: So you can watch it not get horny.
Speaker 2: Well, I haven't tried, so I don't know. But I'm
Speaker 2: just saying, if she make a video, I'll watch and
Speaker 2: see what happened.
Speaker 1: I'm not beating off to you, smashing tam. I swear
Speaker 1: to God, like, what the fuck you nasty?
Speaker 2: Yeah?
Speaker 4: If I could do that, I'm like, look at this, bitch,
Speaker 4: why not it's so different.
Speaker 1: No, it's not the same. That is not the same.
Speaker 1: It's your couchie, it's your butt. I don't want to
Speaker 1: see it.
Speaker 4: It's a good button, it's a problem.
Speaker 2: I will watch a video and they call you tomorrow, like,
Speaker 2: so what we talking about next week on the show.
Speaker 4: I wouldn't even wouldn't be like we've been right along, weirdo.
Speaker 1: Tell me a fucking sociopath, y'all, that's not fair.
Speaker 2: All right, listen, all right, tell us your dumbitch stories,
Speaker 2: dumb bitch stories.
Speaker 4: So dumb, because we've all been a dumb bitch at
Speaker 4: least one young nigga. I don't know what it is
Speaker 4: about young niggas, but they have the best dick.
Speaker 2: And I just feel like I think I was low
Speaker 2: key digmatized and I'm too I'm you know, it's I'm
Speaker 2: not too old to be digmatized.
Speaker 4: I'm too old to be digmatized by a young nigga, right,
Speaker 4: And I just.
Speaker 2: He ain't got nothing but dick, like he's still trying
Speaker 2: to figure shit out whatever. And I'm talking about like
Speaker 2: like his dick was so pretty, like as soon as
Speaker 2: I saw it, my mouth of water, and I just
Speaker 2: feel like, yeah, like it's just thinking about it, just
Speaker 2: like hmmm, but I feel like the dick was just
Speaker 2: so good I was just doing dumb ship, like you know,
Speaker 2: just doing things that you know you don't want to do,
Speaker 2: like because we used to live like right down the
Speaker 2: street from each other, and I don't know it's what
Speaker 2: you say, cleaning.
Speaker 1: That nigga house. She was cleaning that nigga house.
Speaker 4: I know she was.
Speaker 1: Clean.
Speaker 4: Do you have lunch money? No money? I do a
Speaker 4: lot of other ship. I ain't given no nigga. Yeah,
Speaker 4: that was, but it was just like, you know, just
Speaker 4: cleaning his house or like helping.
Speaker 2: Him with his business, just like like that's not dumb bitch.
Speaker 2: I don't feel like that's a dumb bitch thing that
Speaker 2: like cleaning the house. No it is, because I feel
Speaker 2: like there's nothing wrong for that when that's your man,
Speaker 2: or you see some potential. I didn't see nothing in
Speaker 2: this nigga. But I feel like I feel like for me,
Speaker 2: like nigga, we should just be fucking. I'm going home,
Speaker 2: but I'm helping you do this and do that, like
Speaker 2: it's just And then it was so weird because he
Speaker 2: had his housewoming party and this girl was over there
Speaker 2: and mind you, they young.
Speaker 4: And he said that's his cousin. But I feel like
Speaker 4: they was fucking.
Speaker 1: Probably how young.
Speaker 4: Yeah, I think he was twenty five, twenty six.
Speaker 1: Okay, ain't too bad, too bad, look at this bitch.
Speaker 4: That's not for me.
Speaker 1: That's just right for this bitch. I like grown man.
Speaker 1: I like ful adult.
Speaker 4: Yeah, like man.
Speaker 2: Yeah, I wouldn't take twenty six serious, but I would
Speaker 2: definitely fuck twenty six.
Speaker 4: Yeah, yeah, that was some good dick though. The last
Speaker 4: twenty six year old I fucked.
Speaker 2: He was trying to have me look sucking like a wheelbarrow,
Speaker 2: had me like in plank position with my legs.
Speaker 4: I was like, nigga, I am too old for this motherfucking.
Speaker 1: Shit put down.
Speaker 4: They got all the stamina, like it's like that was
Speaker 4: a long time ago, y'all.
Speaker 1: You have to get the runners. If you're gonna get
Speaker 1: an older nigga, he gotta be like, have real good
Speaker 1: cardio health, and he gonna fuck you just like them
Speaker 1: young niggas. For sure.
Speaker 4: What's old.
Speaker 1: At this point? Like I don't know what's old because
Speaker 1: I'll date a fifty year old. Hell no, I wouldn't.
Speaker 2: Old.
Speaker 1: I like forty seven, forty eight, forty nine.
Speaker 3: I like, I like early forties two. I like forty
Speaker 3: old people I'll just say that I like people in
Speaker 3: their forties.
Speaker 1: At the fifty eight.
Speaker 3: Year old, I just don't want to see that great
Speaker 3: line around your pupil. Okay, that's how I know you old.
Speaker 1: Niggas the serial.
Speaker 3: Niggah oh lass niggas trying to tell me he was
Speaker 3: forty five. Once with that great nigga, you every bit
Speaker 3: of seventy six could play with me, like you had
Speaker 3: that gray line running looking like he.
Speaker 2: Going I've ever dealt with was forty one?
Speaker 1: Really old?
Speaker 2: I ain't saying he was old.
Speaker 4: I just said that was the oldest abdel Wow, that's interesting. No,
Speaker 4: and that was recently?
Speaker 2: H Like yeah, like yeah, that was recent.
Speaker 4: I think the oldest I dealt with was my fifty
Speaker 4: year old. That was like one of my best relationships.
Speaker 4: Like he was so much fun and he was fine.
Speaker 2: Maybe I need to go ahead, give Willie Earl a
Speaker 2: spind Let me find me a Willy Earl to see
Speaker 2: what they're talking about.
Speaker 1: He gotta be fine, though, you gotta be like a
Speaker 1: little Zaddi.
Speaker 4: Exay.
Speaker 2: It got to be like he just elbow fine because
Speaker 2: he like fifty, right, I would I would date a
Speaker 2: man that looked like that. But I don't be seeing
Speaker 2: him walking around.
Speaker 1: I'd be seeing some of them.
Speaker 4: Where.
Speaker 1: Yes it might be somebody husband, but I mean it'd
Speaker 1: be outside.
Speaker 4: I feel like men and like they used to. I
Speaker 4: have not seen no attractive man for so long. No,
Speaker 4: i'd be saying men. But where Charlotte, Carolina. Maybe in
Speaker 4: the South, because they ain't up here in New York.
Speaker 1: New York men be fine, but they be kind of weird. Man.
Speaker 3: They just so combative, like everything's a problem. It's like,
Speaker 3: why are we arguing and we haven't met in person yet?
Speaker 1: What is happening? What is happening?
Speaker 2: You know?
Speaker 4: I like the energy though.
Speaker 1: You're toxic.
Speaker 4: In a jar? I am right.
Speaker 2: Yeah, I want to be the first make a video,
Speaker 2: send it.
Speaker 4: Like, Hey guys, my first.
Speaker 1: All right, y'all.
Speaker 2: Tell everybody where.
Speaker 4: They can find all the things plug yourself.
Speaker 2: Yes, So you can follow me on Instagram, TikTok, and
Speaker 2: YouTube at the Professional Homegirl. Also, if you want to
Speaker 2: key key about any of the episodes on the podcast,
Speaker 2: you can follow me at the p HG podcast on Instagram.
Speaker 4: And that's pretty much it.
Speaker 2: You can listen to The Professional Homegirl. New episode drops
Speaker 2: every Tuesday on Black effects.
Speaker 4: Yea, thank you for you're great gest. We appreciate you.
Speaker 1: Show.
Speaker 2: Yeah, we want to come on your ship too.
Speaker 4: Yes, please give me some stories.
Speaker 2: Oh, you're gonna have the You're gonna have the Not
Speaker 2: only you have my voice in my face. You can't
Speaker 2: just be my face. You got to be the voice too. Yeah,
Speaker 2: because I need these stories too, because I need to
Speaker 2: know he j Man went away for a year because we.
Speaker 1: Were slinging them things.
Speaker 4: Look, you don't even gotta you ain't even gotta blur.
Speaker 3: Love drugs, not serious love drugs, most slight work, that's whatever.
Speaker 3: They arrested that nigga thought he was chopple with somebody
Speaker 3: because they had his whole race down a Cuban.
Speaker 1: This is a nigga.
Speaker 4: He looked Cuban though.
Speaker 1: That's why.
Speaker 2: And you know what, I want to also tell y'all congratulations.
Speaker 2: I feel like I've been following y'all since day one,
Speaker 2: and I'm just super proud of y'all. I feel like
Speaker 2: from where y'all was at to where y'all at.
Speaker 4: Look at y'all, selid. I think from where y'all let
Speaker 4: where y'all from, where y'all starts, where y'all.
Speaker 2: At now, y'all have definitely made a lot of progress,
Speaker 2: and I was so excited to see y'all in the
Speaker 2: breakfast club.
Speaker 1: So thank you girl.
Speaker 4: We appreciate that. Anytime he has accolates for me, I'll
Speaker 4: get grinning real hard.
Speaker 1: Yes, I love it. Thank you, Eban, We got the
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Speaker 4: Y'all.
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