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<v Speaker 1>Talk's talk.

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<v Speaker 2>So we're just two unapologetically black women with an opinion

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<v Speaker 2>to talks.

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<v Speaker 1>What's up, y'all?

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<v Speaker 3>Thank you for tuning in for a new episode of

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<v Speaker 3>We Talk Back, a show dedicated to you niggas and

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<v Speaker 3>these hosts. It's your co host a j. Holiday.

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<v Speaker 1>What's up? Tam Bam?

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<v Speaker 4>Whose boys? Who the fuck was that? What's y'all? It's

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<v Speaker 4>Samantha Nice.

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<v Speaker 1>Everybody. Nobody wants to fuck Grinny's pussy. Remember the episode, Yo,

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<v Speaker 1>that's the best character, Samantha. I'm good, y'all.

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<v Speaker 3>We had a wonderful weekend, y'all. Just the podcast batties

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<v Speaker 3>link up.

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<v Speaker 1>Okay.

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<v Speaker 3>We did Poor minds uh segment on their show and

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<v Speaker 3>shop this weekend if you missed it.

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<v Speaker 2>Yeah, they had a live show this weekend. It's Charlotte,

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<v Speaker 2>you guys for Richard for Poor Too, And we got

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<v Speaker 2>to come out and do a segment with them, and

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<v Speaker 2>then we hung out. It was so much fun. I'm

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<v Speaker 2>so proud of them. I'm so happy for them. I

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<v Speaker 2>can't wait for us to start doing our lives.

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<v Speaker 3>Absolutely, absolutely, y'all coming to see you, They coming, they come.

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<v Speaker 3>I'm summoning everybody. It's a summons. Yes, I'm summoning everybody,

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<v Speaker 3>but y'all. Okay, So y'all, that was Friday night. Saturday night,

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<v Speaker 3>I couldn't move. I was bedridden, couch written. I don't

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<v Speaker 3>know how many shots I took on Friday night.

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<v Speaker 1>It was ridiculous. I'm embarrassed.

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<v Speaker 2>It was a lot. I think I might have seventeen.

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<v Speaker 3>I swear they just kept coming, and I'm like, when

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<v Speaker 3>when is it going to stop? And it's like niggas

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<v Speaker 3>like putting the ship to your face. Damn, They're like

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<v Speaker 3>putting a little shot, little rack thing like to your face.

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<v Speaker 4>Right, you know what.

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<v Speaker 2>Saturday morning, I got up. I was up early, and

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<v Speaker 2>I think I was still drunk, so I just poured

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<v Speaker 2>another drink, just to not to keep the party going,

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<v Speaker 2>but to not get sick. So the people who section

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<v Speaker 2>we were with, they all lived in my building, so

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<v Speaker 2>we went back to their place. Well, I went back

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<v Speaker 2>to their place. It was a group of us, and

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<v Speaker 2>it was a bunch of guys in me and I

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<v Speaker 2>cook breakfast for everybody.

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<v Speaker 4>Oh it ain't no train.

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<v Speaker 2>It was just a bacon and eggs, bitch. And then

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<v Speaker 2>I went back to my house and toast. I made

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<v Speaker 2>everybody food, and I cracked jokes stand up Comedy Hour,

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<v Speaker 2>and then I came back home, so I ate. So

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<v Speaker 2>that was the best thing I did. I ate before

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<v Speaker 2>I went to bed, and then Saturday morning, I got

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<v Speaker 2>it from pour me another drink because I had to

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<v Speaker 2>go to work. So I didn't want to be hungover.

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<v Speaker 2>Sick or hungover. You know, the hair of the dog,

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<v Speaker 2>that bitch you. You got to bite it back. So I

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<v Speaker 2>beat it back and took my work Saturday. But Saturday

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<v Speaker 2>night I was supposed to go to usc UNC football

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<v Speaker 2>game here and Charlotte was.

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<v Speaker 4>A big deal.

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<v Speaker 1>Oh damn, I missed that too.

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<v Speaker 4>I couldn't go.

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<v Speaker 2>I had a ticket and didn't make it because that's

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<v Speaker 2>when I crashed afterwards.

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<v Speaker 1>Saturday, Nah, man, that was terrible. And I feel like

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<v Speaker 1>even Sunday I was still kind of down bad.

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<v Speaker 3>Like I keep saying this, like my body really does

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<v Speaker 3>not process alcohol to say anymore, Like I can't really

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<v Speaker 3>drink it don't matter. And matter of fact, I don't

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<v Speaker 3>drink Costa migos. That might be one of the things, right,

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<v Speaker 3>Costa egos. I put that like right along with patrol now,

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<v Speaker 3>like it just makes me feel really bad. So I

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<v Speaker 3>really just like, you know, don Juli always going to

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<v Speaker 3>be a club tequiller dog.

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<v Speaker 1>I was through. I was done, but I hung out

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<v Speaker 1>a little bit on Sunday and shit, that's it. That's all.

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<v Speaker 2>Yeah, I didn't do nothing.

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<v Speaker 1>So we had a good time with the girls, poor ladies.

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<v Speaker 2>My sister. That was a lot of fun. Let's get

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<v Speaker 2>into stupid internet.

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<v Speaker 1>So a couple mentions.

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<v Speaker 3>So Krishan Rock had her baby. She had the baby

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<v Speaker 3>on live. She named her son Krishan. Okay, sitting and

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<v Speaker 3>you know, happy for them, like her mom was on

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<v Speaker 3>live crying boohoo that God, thank you God. When the

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<v Speaker 3>baby came out, she was crying. It was a beautiful thing.

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<v Speaker 1>I know a lot of people like, oh why yeah,

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<v Speaker 1>sharing all you shit on that internet. They share a

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<v Speaker 1>whole life already.

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<v Speaker 3>Anyway, what's the difference, right, she should have got a

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<v Speaker 3>check for it though she is Instagram pain is Instagram pain.

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<v Speaker 2>She may have you don't know, I hope. So what's

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<v Speaker 2>the point if you're not getting paid to show all

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<v Speaker 2>of that? So she did right over three hundred thousand

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<v Speaker 2>people watching her get burned.

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<v Speaker 3>So I don't know if I want that much energy

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<v Speaker 3>concentrated on me while I'm bringing a whole life into

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<v Speaker 3>this world. Like that's real, it's kind of sacred to me,

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<v Speaker 3>Like I want to do it in the house. I

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<v Speaker 3>don't want no cameras. That shit is wild to me.

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<v Speaker 3>That's how I look at her spirit. Absolutely and hopefully

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<v Speaker 3>I kind of have enough money to have Eric Ibadu

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<v Speaker 3>is my Duela by then, So I got shit.

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<v Speaker 1>I have a no kid. If I don't have a

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<v Speaker 1>baby by forty one, it's over with.

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<v Speaker 3>Okay, let's be very very very clear, like I gotta

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<v Speaker 3>get pregnant in the next two years. If I don't,

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<v Speaker 3>I just want a yacht mansion and Barbados.

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<v Speaker 2>You wouldn't and you wouldn't.

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<v Speaker 1>Buy me a kid. I'll buy me a kid, Yes,

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<v Speaker 1>I wouldn't. I definitely want.

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<v Speaker 3>It's a lot of black kids in particular that are

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<v Speaker 3>stuck yet are stuck in the system, and we side

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<v Speaker 3>eye white people right when they walk around with black babies,

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<v Speaker 3>or why aren't we adopting our kids, you know, so

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<v Speaker 3>they don't get their crummy.

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<v Speaker 1>Paws on them anyway.

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<v Speaker 2>Because you know, some of you can get black babies

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<v Speaker 2>a loving home as long as they go to a

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<v Speaker 2>loving home.

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<v Speaker 4>I won't.

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<v Speaker 2>I would prefer a black baby to be in a

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<v Speaker 2>black home, But as long as they're in the home

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<v Speaker 2>and not in the system that's loving, I'm okay with it.

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<v Speaker 1>I might adopt a white baby, all right.

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<v Speaker 2>So the next story, let's talk about Erica and Spicy.

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<v Speaker 2>I really want to talk about.

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<v Speaker 4>This because.

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<v Speaker 1>Don't you ignore me?

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<v Speaker 4>Right the fuck along.

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<v Speaker 2>So, Erica Minna got fired from Love and Hip Hop

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<v Speaker 2>Atlanta after calling Spice her cats make a race and

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<v Speaker 2>here we can say it to call her a blue

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<v Speaker 2>headed monkey or some shit like that blue haired monkey.

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<v Speaker 2>And you know, they aired it on the show. And

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<v Speaker 2>then after they aired it on the show, you know,

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<v Speaker 2>people express how they were offended by her saying that

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<v Speaker 2>because she is not, in fact a black woman.

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<v Speaker 4>So, uh, what's her name? Mona Mona, Mona Scott, Mona

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<v Speaker 4>Scott King.

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<v Speaker 2>She she said, handled and fired Erica Mina for that

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<v Speaker 2>racist slur, And how do you.

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<v Speaker 1>That's only that's a yeah.

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<v Speaker 3>The only fake part about that is that we know

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<v Speaker 3>these things are pre recorded, right y'all been know she

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<v Speaker 3>said this wild ship. I also a sudden I saw

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<v Speaker 3>another post that said more is going to be unfolding

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<v Speaker 3>in the next.

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<v Speaker 4>Couple episodes, the next right episodes.

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<v Speaker 3>Unless she's been fired and they're just now telling the

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<v Speaker 3>world she's fired. To keep playing with this thing, like

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<v Speaker 3>the world we're just now seeing this recording. But she

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<v Speaker 3>been said the dumb shit.

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<v Speaker 2>But it's not nice to call anybody a monkey. Erica

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<v Speaker 2>Minna included, Spike included.

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<v Speaker 3>And the way she was trying to say it, Yeah,

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<v Speaker 3>she definitely was trying to say it to be disparaging.

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<v Speaker 2>Yeah, but you know, I but I can understand why.

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<v Speaker 2>First of all, y'all, y'all just took it too far,

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<v Speaker 2>both of y'all. Spice didn't have to bring up her

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<v Speaker 2>relationship with her child because it had nothing to do

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<v Speaker 2>with what they were talking about, you know, it had

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<v Speaker 2>nothing to do with the conversation in hand, And you know,

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<v Speaker 2>you're just doing it to be very hurtful. And this

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<v Speaker 2>was someone who was worth your friend, Like why would

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<v Speaker 2>you go that load to someone that you considered a friend?

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<v Speaker 2>You know, Like, so I just figured, you know, you

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<v Speaker 2>just gotta choose wisely who you call a friend, because

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<v Speaker 2>that was to that woman. You know, maybe her relationship

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<v Speaker 2>with her son isn't good and and.

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<v Speaker 4>They know that, and they using it again. Yeah, that's ugly,

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<v Speaker 4>that's ugly.

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<v Speaker 1>You know, that was nasty.

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<v Speaker 3>So the Internet was like, oh, she shouldn't have talked

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<v Speaker 3>about a kid. It really she didn't talk about the kids.

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<v Speaker 3>She talked about the relationship parents. She talked about her parenting.

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<v Speaker 3>So that hit her in a sore spot. Especially if

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<v Speaker 3>you know my ex friend and this is what we

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<v Speaker 3>were talking we to talk about later on, right if

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<v Speaker 3>you know, like this is a vulnerable spot, vulnerable spot

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<v Speaker 3>for me, like what type of person are you to

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<v Speaker 3>use that against me? So yes, Spice was absolutely dead

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<v Speaker 3>ass fucking wrong, and Erica didn't have no real rebuttal

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<v Speaker 3>for her, so she just.

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<v Speaker 4>Went She didn't talk about her her parents, her sthetics.

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<v Speaker 2>Maybe Spice is a better mom than her, you know,

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<v Speaker 2>so she couldn't go to that space. So she talked

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<v Speaker 2>about her appearance, you know. And I don't know, I

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<v Speaker 2>can't sit here and say that Erica said that Spice

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<v Speaker 2>looked like she would have said that to any black.

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<v Speaker 4>Woman that she was arguing with, or was it specific

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<v Speaker 4>to Spice.

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<v Speaker 1>So several people, like somebody in particular, I saw Jesse Woo.

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<v Speaker 3>Jesse Woo was saying that Erica has done this a

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<v Speaker 3>lot of times, Like this is the first time that

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<v Speaker 3>she's called somebody a racial slur. And I don't know

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<v Speaker 3>if she's Puerto Rican or Dominican, but if she's Dominican,

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<v Speaker 3>we already know how they feel about hatit is. And

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<v Speaker 3>they on they share the same fucking island, you know

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<v Speaker 3>what I'm saying, Like those people don't consider themselves black,

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<v Speaker 3>but they are. You know what I'm saying, y'all really

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<v Speaker 3>were are the blacks who got violated? Actually you know so?

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<v Speaker 3>And they keep that running thing. They're running racism within

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<v Speaker 3>your same culture and same race. They keep it going.

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<v Speaker 3>But it's more so colorism. I guess that's how people feel.

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<v Speaker 3>It's not her really being racist, it's her being showing colorism.

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<v Speaker 3>But I mean, I don't think that Spice looks like

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<v Speaker 3>a monkey, right, I don't think she looks like a

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<v Speaker 3>monkey at all.

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<v Speaker 2>Yeah, my heart goes down to ladies. It's hurtful. I'm

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<v Speaker 2>sure it's hurtful for Spice to be called a monkey,

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<v Speaker 2>because you know, dark skinned women in this country have

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<v Speaker 2>been label ugly things and made to feel niceful as

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<v Speaker 2>our light skinned kind of parts. So that's hurtful. So

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<v Speaker 2>they were just going for the juggler with each other. Yeah,

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<v Speaker 2>and it's just ugly to see, you know, let's start

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<v Speaker 2>living to turn more and.

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<v Speaker 3>See after something like that, Like, how y'all be friends again?

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<v Speaker 3>If y'all come to blows belts and shit like that, how.

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<v Speaker 1>Do you be friends again?

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<v Speaker 2>Yeah?

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<v Speaker 4>You can't.

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<v Speaker 1>I remember. Look, I remember an old friend of mine

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<v Speaker 1>like that. Bitch. No never, mom, let me even go there, y'all. Next,

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<v Speaker 1>let's do the next topic. Let me not.

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<v Speaker 3>But yeah, like, it's real hurtful to hear some crazy

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<v Speaker 3>shit from somebody you considered a friend because it's almost like, bitch,

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<v Speaker 3>you always wanted to say that to me.

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<v Speaker 1>Bitch you never liked me.

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<v Speaker 2>Because you would want to hurt me like that.

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<v Speaker 4>Yes, get so moving right along.

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<v Speaker 2>Let's talk about Kanye and Hiss.

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<v Speaker 1>This is so old. I've been seeing that pitch. I've

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<v Speaker 1>been sending it out.

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<v Speaker 3>I don't know when Charlamagne No started playing with him

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<v Speaker 3>and Donelle Rollins. Now it's like all over the internet.

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<v Speaker 3>But y'all, y'all ain't on Kanye Instagram page. He got

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<v Speaker 3>a little he got a little sneaky creepy one that

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<v Speaker 3>I be on. I've been seeing that bookie. I sent

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<v Speaker 3>it to you like two weeks ago.

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<v Speaker 1>No, it's his name.

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<v Speaker 3>It's kind of like the letters are jumbled up, but

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<v Speaker 3>it's his page. And then he has another one that's

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<v Speaker 3>just Geezy.

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<v Speaker 1>Why is why?

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<v Speaker 4>Why I don't follow?

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<v Speaker 2>But it was so funny because I just don't. It's

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<v Speaker 2>just not I'll see whatever I need to see. I

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<v Speaker 2>feel like I'll get it from the shade room or

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<v Speaker 2>somewhere if it's interesting.

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<v Speaker 4>But just to see his little booty out, I mean

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<v Speaker 4>a good time, I would do it.

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<v Speaker 1>It was so staged. Kanye got a problem. You hear me?

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<v Speaker 4>Right there?

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<v Speaker 3>Dog, This is Kanye West on a boat in France

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<v Speaker 3>or wherever they are. I don't think there's other there's

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<v Speaker 3>other images.

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<v Speaker 1>Right where she is clearly like down and he's sitting

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<v Speaker 1>up there. I know the BUNKI out, but I just

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<v Speaker 1>I just can't get it in my head like Nigga wants.

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<v Speaker 1>When I saw it, I was like, Yo, this nigga's tripping.

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<v Speaker 4>Why need get your dig suck on a boat in

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<v Speaker 4>the south of France.

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<v Speaker 2>I would like if I was with my nigga, who's

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<v Speaker 2>a staff of friends and it was like riding down

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<v Speaker 2>a little lake or river or ravine or whatever the

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<v Speaker 2>fuck that was.

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<v Speaker 4>Black quick, let me just.

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<v Speaker 1>Let me lick itt me, let me lick it, Let

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<v Speaker 1>me lick the tip.

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<v Speaker 4>Right, it's not that hot. Have you been sing so?

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<v Speaker 3>But but listen, they're saying that Uh Kanye and his

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<v Speaker 3>wife getting freaky on the boat has backfired. Apparently the

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<v Speaker 3>owner of the boat company has now banned the couple

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<v Speaker 3>from ever riding on their boats again after pictures went

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<v Speaker 3>viral and the viral of the couple seemingly participating in

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<v Speaker 3>sexual acts while riding UH through Venice, Italy.

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<v Speaker 4>They ain't got the only boat company who cares, right, y'all.

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<v Speaker 4>They got the only boats.

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<v Speaker 1>I would have been trying to take the pictures. I

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<v Speaker 1>could sell them, y'all. Slipping.

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<v Speaker 2>Whoever got the pictures got some money for that. You

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<v Speaker 2>know you're talking about if you driver, well the driver

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<v Speaker 2>those boats are small, so he got focused on where

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<v Speaker 2>he going.

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<v Speaker 4>He can't be like looking back at nobody getting the dicks.

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<v Speaker 3>Kanye had one of his people take that picture down.

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<v Speaker 3>Ain't no way this nigga just got his little brown

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<v Speaker 3>booty out like sitting.

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<v Speaker 4>On there's no way he wanted to be out in

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<v Speaker 4>no picture like this.

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<v Speaker 1>But did you not see the other picture when his

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<v Speaker 1>whole dick is out?

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<v Speaker 4>No send it.

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<v Speaker 1>Not the whole, not the whole dick, but it's like

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<v Speaker 1>his whole. You could see his dickhead print in his past.

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<v Speaker 1>I'm like, what is up with Kanye?

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<v Speaker 2>What is this?

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<v Speaker 3>You know everybody be saying the nigga got cloned? I

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<v Speaker 3>still feel Kanye's presence. Maybe they got him locked in

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<v Speaker 3>a cellar somewhere.

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<v Speaker 1>I don't know.

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<v Speaker 4>I have not heard that.

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<v Speaker 3>The whole internet is a lot of people saying Kanye down,

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<v Speaker 3>got cloned child. Let me find his damn picture.

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<v Speaker 2>I feel like she don't never look safe in the eyes.

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<v Speaker 2>She always looks scared for her life to me, like

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<v Speaker 2>she's gonna share about her life.

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<v Speaker 1>I don't know if she's a new handler. I don't

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<v Speaker 1>know what. I don't know what Kanye got going on,

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<v Speaker 1>but I hope he come back.

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<v Speaker 4>I want I want him to get with uh the sister.

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<v Speaker 3>No, while we gotta be saving niggas all the time,

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<v Speaker 3>why we got to bring niggas back.

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<v Speaker 2>I want Kanye to be like, yeah, excuse me, mister

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<v Speaker 2>Rainey I'm going to marry your daughter, remember that, like

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<v Speaker 2>that verse?

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<v Speaker 1>Yeah, yeah, nah, it's gone.

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<v Speaker 2>I miss mister old Kanye.

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<v Speaker 3>I mean, okay, another way I look at it is like, no,

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<v Speaker 3>he ain't saying much, but he's saying a lot, Like

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<v Speaker 3>Kanye just got his ass on the internet.

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<v Speaker 2>Dog.

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<v Speaker 3>We haven't heard from him since last June. Maybe like

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<v Speaker 3>we haven't heard from Kanye in a very long time.

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<v Speaker 3>He's been m I a since, like at least the

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<v Speaker 3>beginning of this year, right for someone. No, I love Kanye,

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<v Speaker 3>I love.

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<v Speaker 4>Too, but I want to hear music. I don't want

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<v Speaker 4>to hear this ship. This ship is like.

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<v Speaker 2>You know, I want to hear music. I want to

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<v Speaker 2>hear quality music. I don't want to see his bookie

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<v Speaker 2>out as you say, a bookie.

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<v Speaker 1>We ain't talk about Kanye in no more. We ain't

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<v Speaker 1>talk about Kanye.

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<v Speaker 2>We're not gonna talk about him no more this year

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<v Speaker 2>unless he do something else spectacular.

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<v Speaker 1>He always does spectacular.

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<v Speaker 4>I'm confused.

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<v Speaker 1>Moving right along anyway.

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<v Speaker 2>Y'all will be right back with our special guests from

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<v Speaker 2>the Professional Homegirl Podcast. Ey y'all, We're gonna talk all

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<v Speaker 2>things friendship, love, sex, So stay tuned.

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<v Speaker 4>It's gonna be a good conversation, y'all.

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<v Speaker 3>Y'all listen, we have label meat. We talked back today.

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<v Speaker 3>Welcome to death Row with these three sixty podcast deals. Y'all,

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<v Speaker 3>we got artists formerly known as Ebane Okay, the Professional Homegirl.

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<v Speaker 4>Yes, yeah, thank you so much for having me. Welcome

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<v Speaker 4>to the show. I know, I'm super excited.

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<v Speaker 2>Finally we got you.

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<v Speaker 4>Finally.

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<v Speaker 2>I don't know if Tam shirt is with AJ, but

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<v Speaker 2>I reached out to the show in twenty twenty one

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<v Speaker 2>because I wanted to be a guest, and so here

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<v Speaker 2>we are now, which is like amazing, So thank you

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<v Speaker 2>once again.

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<v Speaker 4>Full circle moment.

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<v Speaker 1>I'm gonna be honest with you. I seen it. I

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<v Speaker 1>seen it. I remember, I remember, no, no, no, I remember.

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<v Speaker 3>Seeing you because when people send messages, like especially in

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<v Speaker 3>a request box, I'll go in there sometimes just to

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<v Speaker 3>see but I won't like you know how, you just

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<v Speaker 3>do it and go.

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<v Speaker 1>But I remember when Tam was like, yeah, she said

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<v Speaker 1>she messaged us before, girl, I remember. I'm sorry, No

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<v Speaker 1>I did, though, I remember seeing it.

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<v Speaker 3>But it'd be a lot of messages, a lot of

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<v Speaker 3>especially in twenty twenty one, we just getting started.

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<v Speaker 1>Ship with you trying to figure it out.

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<v Speaker 2>Yeah, well listen, like it was Freshut what did you say,

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<v Speaker 2>did not deny but delayed but not denying? I said,

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<v Speaker 2>den Agen. So here we are, all right, tell us

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<v Speaker 2>how you became the professional homegirl.

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<v Speaker 1>All right.

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<v Speaker 2>So it's actually funny because a few years ago, before

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<v Speaker 2>Charlottemagne and everybody was talking about mental health, I had

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<v Speaker 2>my own mental health issues.

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<v Speaker 4>So my grandmother at the time.

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<v Speaker 2>Which is so funny because the day is her anniversary

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<v Speaker 2>and I just realized today because I was just like NonStop,

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<v Speaker 2>but today is the day that my grandmother passed away.

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<v Speaker 2>So when she passed away, I was just going through

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<v Speaker 2>like a really you know, just that was my first

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<v Speaker 2>time ever experiencing death, and it was it was a

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<v Speaker 2>lot for me to go through. And I ended up

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<v Speaker 2>going to therapy and I was talking to my therapists

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<v Speaker 2>about all the things that I was going through because

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<v Speaker 2>I never experienced a grief before, and you know, she

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<v Speaker 2>was just giving me all the tools and things that

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<v Speaker 2>I needed to like get through on my journey. And

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<v Speaker 2>I started to realize as I started to share my

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<v Speaker 2>story with everyone else that I was going through with

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<v Speaker 2>when it came to losing my grandmother. You know, people

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<v Speaker 2>started to become open with me about some of the

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<v Speaker 2>things that they were going through. So I was like, well,

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<v Speaker 2>you know, I feel like it'd be dope if I

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<v Speaker 2>can create a platform where women of color can be

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<v Speaker 2>able to come on, you know, be ourselves and pop

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<v Speaker 2>they shit. And I feel like as being a Professional Homegirl,

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<v Speaker 2>it is being your true, authentic self. And I feel

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<v Speaker 2>like for so long I show face, and I feel

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<v Speaker 2>like when I'm a little too like r Rah, I'm

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<v Speaker 2>too passionate, and people say I'm aggressive, but then when

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<v Speaker 2>I'm quiet and I'm chilling to myself, they think something wrong.

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<v Speaker 2>So I feel like with Professional Homegirls is a place

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<v Speaker 2>just truly be yourself and that's how we came to be.

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<v Speaker 3>So you say women can be themselves, but your guests

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<v Speaker 3>like they'd be having like the Witness Protection shit over

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<v Speaker 3>their face.

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<v Speaker 1>So why how do you find a guess for your shows?

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<v Speaker 2>I listen, I tried some of them episodes. Baby had

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<v Speaker 2>be clutching my pearls, like this is a horror movie.

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<v Speaker 5>You know where it is like where we're from, Like,

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<v Speaker 5>I mean, our community can be very judgmental, right, So

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<v Speaker 5>I feel like when you hear people backgrounds the first,

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<v Speaker 5>especially when you know who it is, you'll be like, oh,

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<v Speaker 5>why Tam doing that?

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<v Speaker 4>Why Aj doing that?

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<v Speaker 2>But then when you're hearing the story and you don't

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<v Speaker 2>know who it is, and you hear from start to finish,

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<v Speaker 2>it makes you want to It makes you appreciate them more,

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<v Speaker 2>and it also makes you want to know more about

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<v Speaker 2>it because you're like, damn, if this bush can get

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<v Speaker 2>through it, that, I know I can get.

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<v Speaker 4>Through my stuff.

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<v Speaker 2>So I just feel like with the whole anonymous part,

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<v Speaker 2>it allows people to share their story fully because I

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<v Speaker 2>also feel like when people know who you are, how

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<v Speaker 2>it's some pieces of your truth, and I think that

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<v Speaker 2>shouldn't nobody share their truth, you know, from everybody else,

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<v Speaker 2>because you should live in your truth.

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<v Speaker 4>And then how I find my guess. A lot of

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<v Speaker 4>my guess either be just like word of mouth. I

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<v Speaker 4>mean sometimes I do like a lot of research.

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<v Speaker 2>So at first it was like Instagram using hashtags, and

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<v Speaker 2>the next thing, you know, YouTube is my bag because

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<v Speaker 2>surprisingly people really love sharing their business, especially if they

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<v Speaker 2>think that their stories can help someone. Right. So I

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<v Speaker 2>just feel like at this point, like if you have

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<v Speaker 2>a story, especially something that's really taboo within our can unity.

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<v Speaker 4>Then I'm all for it because I feel like.

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<v Speaker 2>I mean, some of the topics, dude, can be triggering,

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<v Speaker 2>but I feel like there's so much key key in

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<v Speaker 2>it that's like key key wrapped up in the medicine.

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<v Speaker 2>So it's like to me, I don't think that none

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<v Speaker 2>of the episodes, and maybe the only episodes that's been

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<v Speaker 2>difficult for me is like you know, stories that involve

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<v Speaker 2>you know, child abuse. But I feel like for most

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<v Speaker 2>of the stories, like like this shit be funny, like

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<v Speaker 2>it'd be like damn, like you really got through that.

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<v Speaker 2>And it also just makes me feel like, you know, women,

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<v Speaker 2>especially Black women, are just superheroes, heroes, Like I feel

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<v Speaker 2>like we're on fire and it's nothing that we do

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<v Speaker 2>if we don't put our mind to it. So like

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<v Speaker 2>when you listening to these traumatic stories, cause a lot

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<v Speaker 2>of them are like it'll be like my uncle molisted

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<v Speaker 2>me and my mama every Thursday, Like your stories be

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<v Speaker 2>like really like like deep like that. How do you

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<v Speaker 2>candle listening to people's trauma like this every week? I'd

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<v Speaker 2>be smoking weed and drinking the whole episode. Well, I

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<v Speaker 2>think I start with each episode obviously, I pray because

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<v Speaker 2>I want to make sure that you know, the person

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<v Speaker 2>trust me with their story, and also, you know, just

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<v Speaker 2>protecting my energy because I don't want to, you know,

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<v Speaker 2>go to sleep with this.

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<v Speaker 4>But honestly, it's not hard for me.

0:21:10.760 --> 0:21:13.399
<v Speaker 2>Like, you know, I had a very traumatic childhood and

0:21:14.040 --> 0:21:18.120
<v Speaker 2>you know, I was I was physically abused by my mother.

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<v Speaker 4>So I just feel like I always just think of things,

0:21:20.800 --> 0:21:22.240
<v Speaker 4>like you know, sometimes when I.

0:21:22.320 --> 0:21:23.439
<v Speaker 2>Was going through a lot of things I was going

0:21:23.480 --> 0:21:25.000
<v Speaker 2>through when I was younger, I really feel like I

0:21:25.119 --> 0:21:27.320
<v Speaker 2>was the only one going through it. So when I

0:21:27.440 --> 0:21:30.320
<v Speaker 2>share stories, like it's difficult to hear it, but I

0:21:30.359 --> 0:21:33.359
<v Speaker 2>can't even imagine experiencing it. And I feel like these stories,

0:21:33.359 --> 0:21:36.600
<v Speaker 2>when people hear it, it gives people hope, like if

0:21:36.640 --> 0:21:38.399
<v Speaker 2>they can go through that and it'll still be okay.

0:21:38.520 --> 0:21:41.040
<v Speaker 2>I can go through what I'm going through and survive too.

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<v Speaker 4>Yeah, I can feel absolutely.

0:21:44.240 --> 0:21:46.760
<v Speaker 3>And I think all black women have that little stigma. Right, Oh,

0:21:46.880 --> 0:21:49.080
<v Speaker 3>we just be loud and going off for no reason.

0:21:49.160 --> 0:21:52.080
<v Speaker 3>We just really be real passionate, right.

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<v Speaker 4>Was passionate facts, I don't be tripping for real, I'd

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<v Speaker 4>be tripping sometimes.

0:22:00.520 --> 0:22:01.840
<v Speaker 1>You know, you be tripping when you got to ask

0:22:01.920 --> 0:22:05.639
<v Speaker 1>somebody be tripping, like, girl, you're that's not.

0:22:05.720 --> 0:22:07.760
<v Speaker 2>True, because I like, I need, I need you to

0:22:07.840 --> 0:22:09.880
<v Speaker 2>understand where I'm coming from, because I know, like it's

0:22:09.960 --> 0:22:12.000
<v Speaker 2>not making sense, and if it's not making sense to me, that.

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<v Speaker 4>It can't make sense to everybody else in this room.

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<v Speaker 4>So I don't think i'd be tripping all.

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<v Speaker 3>The time, and I really don't think i'd be tripping,

0:22:17.600 --> 0:22:19.840
<v Speaker 3>but I'm gonna still ask somebody to make sure that

0:22:20.000 --> 0:22:22.680
<v Speaker 3>I'm actually giving this other person that's the level of

0:22:22.760 --> 0:22:25.760
<v Speaker 3>disrespect I need to be giving them, like am I tripping?

0:22:25.880 --> 0:22:28.840
<v Speaker 2>But the only thing is when you tell when you

0:22:28.960 --> 0:22:32.199
<v Speaker 2>tell a story and you're asking are you am I tripping?

0:22:32.480 --> 0:22:34.280
<v Speaker 4>It's only coming from your perspective.

0:22:34.520 --> 0:22:37.240
<v Speaker 2>So nine times out of ten, the person who's listening

0:22:37.280 --> 0:22:39.560
<v Speaker 2>to your story is gonna say, no, you're not tripping,

0:22:39.800 --> 0:22:42.720
<v Speaker 2>because they're only hearing really your side of things, So

0:22:42.880 --> 0:22:46.800
<v Speaker 2>it's pointless they even ask ask, honestly, are you tripping?

0:22:46.800 --> 0:22:47.840
<v Speaker 1>I don't think it's pointless.

0:22:48.000 --> 0:22:50.240
<v Speaker 3>I don't think it's pointless because like I always be saying, like,

0:22:50.280 --> 0:22:54.040
<v Speaker 3>there's perception right, and there's perspective. You get through life

0:22:54.080 --> 0:22:57.400
<v Speaker 3>with good perspective, where you can see things down the middle. Right,

0:22:58.520 --> 0:23:01.520
<v Speaker 3>it's people's perception be having shit fucked up. That's why

0:23:01.520 --> 0:23:04.320
<v Speaker 3>I don't like that whole this my truth, because there

0:23:04.400 --> 0:23:07.000
<v Speaker 3>is such thing as absolute truth. Your truth could be

0:23:07.080 --> 0:23:09.879
<v Speaker 3>a goddamn lie. Do you see what I'm saying that

0:23:10.000 --> 0:23:12.280
<v Speaker 3>when I ask am I tripping? Listen, I don't be

0:23:12.359 --> 0:23:14.919
<v Speaker 3>telling half stories. I tell stories exactly how it happens.

0:23:15.040 --> 0:23:18.639
<v Speaker 3>You have the opportunity to say, no, bitch, you fucked up.

0:23:18.720 --> 0:23:21.520
<v Speaker 3>Because I'm never gonna lie. I'm never gonna leave nothing out.

0:23:21.920 --> 0:23:24.560
<v Speaker 3>It could be the way I perceived what happened. Right,

0:23:24.640 --> 0:23:27.040
<v Speaker 3>Why I'm asking you think I'm tripping because this is

0:23:27.119 --> 0:23:29.560
<v Speaker 3>how I perceive, and I ask for clarity a lot.

0:23:30.359 --> 0:23:32.320
<v Speaker 3>Let me get some clarity to make sure I'm tripping.

0:23:32.320 --> 0:23:34.480
<v Speaker 3>I ask for clarity from the person I'm talking to,

0:23:34.640 --> 0:23:37.680
<v Speaker 3>from the homegirl. Homegirl, let me get some clarities, like

0:23:37.880 --> 0:23:40.840
<v Speaker 3>make sure I'm not tripping on you or somebody else, like, Right,

0:23:41.720 --> 0:23:44.560
<v Speaker 3>it's good. Yeah, I don't think it's a uh. I

0:23:44.640 --> 0:23:48.400
<v Speaker 3>don't like that perception. And shit, man, your perception could

0:23:48.400 --> 0:23:55.240
<v Speaker 3>be a fucking lie to all of us, right, absolutely, no, no, absolutely,

0:23:55.440 --> 0:23:58.840
<v Speaker 3>But there are some people that they perception just be

0:23:58.920 --> 0:24:01.560
<v Speaker 3>fucked up on everything, and it could be a general

0:24:01.720 --> 0:24:05.399
<v Speaker 3>census that this person could be a liar or this

0:24:05.560 --> 0:24:07.440
<v Speaker 3>person just be doing fucked up shit.

0:24:07.640 --> 0:24:09.240
<v Speaker 1>It could be a general census.

0:24:09.280 --> 0:24:09.720
<v Speaker 4>I agree.

0:24:09.920 --> 0:24:12.960
<v Speaker 3>Fact, So while you thinking you're going crazy, they doing

0:24:13.000 --> 0:24:16.000
<v Speaker 3>this shit today, fucking spouse, mom and everybody else.

0:24:16.680 --> 0:24:20.800
<v Speaker 1>Yes, yes, like and everybody. Have you ever had a

0:24:20.880 --> 0:24:23.399
<v Speaker 1>friend break up with you? Ebaney like a homegirl like

0:24:23.520 --> 0:24:26.800
<v Speaker 1>y'all no longer friends, but it was you that fucked

0:24:26.800 --> 0:24:27.080
<v Speaker 1>it up.

0:24:28.520 --> 0:24:31.040
<v Speaker 2>You know what, if I'm being honest, and I'm not

0:24:31.119 --> 0:24:33.399
<v Speaker 2>saying this because I don't want no friend back, but

0:24:33.600 --> 0:24:39.520
<v Speaker 2>I will say that because you know, yeah, like if

0:24:39.560 --> 0:24:42.440
<v Speaker 2>you're looking back, I mean, obviously there's growth, and you

0:24:42.520 --> 0:24:44.560
<v Speaker 2>know there's a lot of work that was done for

0:24:44.680 --> 0:24:45.640
<v Speaker 2>me to get to this point.

0:24:45.760 --> 0:24:48.680
<v Speaker 4>So why are you shaking your head? I thought you

0:24:48.720 --> 0:24:50.080
<v Speaker 4>were saying no, no, no, no.

0:24:50.280 --> 0:24:52.679
<v Speaker 1>I agree with you one thousand percent, just like these niggas.

0:24:52.720 --> 0:24:55.320
<v Speaker 3>A bitch can't spend the block on me because I

0:24:55.400 --> 0:24:57.840
<v Speaker 3>feel like, at what point of are we grown women

0:24:58.119 --> 0:24:58.880
<v Speaker 3>and falling out?

0:24:59.200 --> 0:24:59.880
<v Speaker 4>You know what I'm saying?

0:25:01.240 --> 0:25:03.760
<v Speaker 1>Likely me and Tam we be arguing and shit, because

0:25:03.760 --> 0:25:06.040
<v Speaker 1>we have a business together. So our relationship is different.

0:25:06.040 --> 0:25:07.840
<v Speaker 3>But I don't talking about like friends that I had

0:25:07.920 --> 0:25:10.879
<v Speaker 3>had for a very long time and now we're no

0:25:11.000 --> 0:25:13.240
<v Speaker 3>longer friends. Them bitches cannot spend the block and some

0:25:13.320 --> 0:25:15.760
<v Speaker 3>of them do. They try because I didn't fuck it

0:25:15.880 --> 0:25:18.879
<v Speaker 3>up these what I'm saying, like, my conscience is always

0:25:18.920 --> 0:25:21.600
<v Speaker 3>clear because with the four agreements, I do my best

0:25:22.400 --> 0:25:24.080
<v Speaker 3>every time in any situation.

0:25:24.160 --> 0:25:27.560
<v Speaker 2>I think with this one particular situation, I would say

0:25:27.800 --> 0:25:29.720
<v Speaker 2>that I don't think that I was in a fault.

0:25:29.800 --> 0:25:30.399
<v Speaker 4>I just didn't think.

0:25:30.520 --> 0:25:32.320
<v Speaker 2>I don't think I just know how to articulate what

0:25:32.400 --> 0:25:33.920
<v Speaker 2>I was feeling because at that time, that's when I

0:25:33.960 --> 0:25:36.840
<v Speaker 2>lost my grandmother, and you know, with me being a

0:25:36.960 --> 0:25:37.960
<v Speaker 2>very passionate.

0:25:37.680 --> 0:25:41.600
<v Speaker 4>Person and you know, I'm very vocal, I think that

0:25:41.920 --> 0:25:42.359
<v Speaker 4>like a lot.

0:25:42.280 --> 0:25:45.200
<v Speaker 2>Of times, people just in that particular friend misstated for

0:25:46.080 --> 0:25:49.080
<v Speaker 2>you know, me just being aggressive, me being like, you know,

0:25:49.400 --> 0:25:51.959
<v Speaker 2>a certain way with her, and I just think at

0:25:52.000 --> 0:25:54.440
<v Speaker 2>that time, like, and that's why I'm so appreciative of

0:25:54.480 --> 0:25:56.560
<v Speaker 2>the people that's in my life now because I think

0:25:56.600 --> 0:25:58.720
<v Speaker 2>from where I was at with that particular persons, where

0:25:58.760 --> 0:26:02.159
<v Speaker 2>I'm at now, those people gave me grace. So I

0:26:02.240 --> 0:26:04.800
<v Speaker 2>think that grace is very important when it comes to

0:26:04.920 --> 0:26:07.080
<v Speaker 2>any type of relationship because a lot of times people

0:26:07.200 --> 0:26:08.040
<v Speaker 2>just don't fucking know.

0:26:09.320 --> 0:26:12.920
<v Speaker 3>Right, right, and then sometimes people don't even even aren't

0:26:12.920 --> 0:26:15.560
<v Speaker 3>even considering what you could possibly be going through.

0:26:16.119 --> 0:26:17.680
<v Speaker 1>Why doct you just tripping on them?

0:26:18.160 --> 0:26:20.080
<v Speaker 3>So, speaking of grace, this is one of the things

0:26:20.160 --> 0:26:23.960
<v Speaker 3>me and Town was talking about earlier, like friends versus

0:26:24.640 --> 0:26:26.639
<v Speaker 3>uh boyfriends or husbands?

0:26:26.760 --> 0:26:26.879
<v Speaker 4>Right?

0:26:27.000 --> 0:26:29.399
<v Speaker 1>You know how you see this shit on Instagram a lot.

0:26:29.480 --> 0:26:32.480
<v Speaker 3>It's like posts saying like y'all, bitch is a throw

0:26:32.520 --> 0:26:34.080
<v Speaker 3>your friend away after one disagreement.

0:26:34.119 --> 0:26:36.879
<v Speaker 1>But you give these niggas a thousand chances chances?

0:26:37.440 --> 0:26:38.960
<v Speaker 3>What are you thinking about that? Because I feel like

0:26:39.200 --> 0:26:41.880
<v Speaker 3>women women, I think people period. Men put their friends

0:26:41.920 --> 0:26:45.280
<v Speaker 3>on pedestals. Women put their friends on pedestals. You don't

0:26:45.359 --> 0:26:48.280
<v Speaker 3>expect your friend to play in your face like these

0:26:48.359 --> 0:26:52.360
<v Speaker 3>niggas would, like we expect fun out of them unfortunately, Right,

0:26:52.800 --> 0:26:55.679
<v Speaker 3>But I gotta keep compromising with my homegirl, like why

0:26:55.720 --> 0:26:56.159
<v Speaker 3>are we are you?

0:26:56.359 --> 0:26:58.760
<v Speaker 4>But they're just people too? Though your friends are just

0:26:58.920 --> 0:27:03.399
<v Speaker 4>people just like A mean yeah, but I ain't letting know.

0:27:03.520 --> 0:27:05.080
<v Speaker 4>I ain't letting my friend with my nigga play in

0:27:05.080 --> 0:27:05.440
<v Speaker 4>my face?

0:27:05.520 --> 0:27:07.560
<v Speaker 2>Like but I also feel like with my friends, like

0:27:08.280 --> 0:27:10.840
<v Speaker 2>I've been friends with my friends for a very long time.

0:27:11.040 --> 0:27:14.119
<v Speaker 2>Like my oldest best friend, I've been friends with her

0:27:14.160 --> 0:27:16.200
<v Speaker 2>since he was eighteen and I'm in my mid thirties,

0:27:16.560 --> 0:27:19.320
<v Speaker 2>So I feel like with her like I do put

0:27:19.359 --> 0:27:21.440
<v Speaker 2>her on a higher pedestal because you know better, like

0:27:21.560 --> 0:27:23.720
<v Speaker 2>and you know all, you know all different sides of me.

0:27:24.240 --> 0:27:26.520
<v Speaker 2>Now with a nigga, I might give him a little

0:27:26.560 --> 0:27:28.119
<v Speaker 2>grace because we still get to know each other. But

0:27:28.240 --> 0:27:30.200
<v Speaker 2>I do have my hard limits, like you're not gonna

0:27:30.240 --> 0:27:32.840
<v Speaker 2>disrespect me or do certain things. But when they comes

0:27:32.840 --> 0:27:36.440
<v Speaker 2>to my girlfriends, like my sisters, Hell yeah, it's holes

0:27:36.520 --> 0:27:37.159
<v Speaker 2>before bros.

0:27:38.480 --> 0:27:41.240
<v Speaker 3>But what's some cut off shit for homegirls? Like, what's

0:27:41.280 --> 0:27:42.800
<v Speaker 3>some shit you caught in your homegirl off for?

0:27:44.960 --> 0:27:45.359
<v Speaker 4>You know what?

0:27:45.560 --> 0:27:49.200
<v Speaker 2>I'm really big on telling my business cause I'm very

0:27:49.800 --> 0:27:52.440
<v Speaker 2>particular about who I tell what to. So I can

0:27:52.480 --> 0:27:55.400
<v Speaker 2>tell three people the same story and three different ways

0:27:55.480 --> 0:27:57.120
<v Speaker 2>cause I know exactly if something was to come out,

0:27:57.119 --> 0:27:57.960
<v Speaker 2>I know where it came from.

0:28:01.080 --> 0:28:03.120
<v Speaker 1>So telling your business, you're gonna get cut off.

0:28:03.440 --> 0:28:05.400
<v Speaker 2>Oh yeah, I'm really big on that because I feel

0:28:05.480 --> 0:28:07.960
<v Speaker 2>like if we have a if we have a sisterhood,

0:28:08.000 --> 0:28:10.119
<v Speaker 2>where if I come to you and I'm like confining

0:28:10.200 --> 0:28:12.239
<v Speaker 2>you as something that's really personal and then I hear

0:28:12.280 --> 0:28:13.840
<v Speaker 2>you go back and till the next bitch, that's a

0:28:13.920 --> 0:28:14.480
<v Speaker 2>problem for me.

0:28:15.200 --> 0:28:16.959
<v Speaker 4>For me, it would tell my business.

0:28:17.000 --> 0:28:19.720
<v Speaker 2>It's just the manner in which it was told wasn't

0:28:19.800 --> 0:28:23.680
<v Speaker 2>told with malicious intent, because if you were drunk and

0:28:23.840 --> 0:28:26.600
<v Speaker 2>it's just a story that was relatable to somebody else's

0:28:26.600 --> 0:28:28.919
<v Speaker 2>story and it came out, I'm not cutting you off

0:28:29.000 --> 0:28:31.280
<v Speaker 2>of that. That might you and if you apologize like

0:28:31.840 --> 0:28:34.320
<v Speaker 2>that's a mistake, that's a mistake. But if you're doing

0:28:34.400 --> 0:28:37.200
<v Speaker 2>it like oh let me tell you what? How tell

0:28:37.359 --> 0:28:39.960
<v Speaker 2>fucked up? Like you know, that's a problem to me.

0:28:40.840 --> 0:28:43.760
<v Speaker 2>You know when it comes to friendship, what about you a.

0:28:48.520 --> 0:28:52.160
<v Speaker 1>Money? That's why I don't loan bitches, no goddamn money. Okay, yeah,

0:28:52.160 --> 0:28:52.880
<v Speaker 1>done lost a couple.

0:28:53.200 --> 0:28:55.160
<v Speaker 3>It costs me about five hundred dollars to get rid

0:28:55.160 --> 0:28:57.320
<v Speaker 3>of a bitch before like that's all it costs. Because

0:28:57.360 --> 0:29:00.160
<v Speaker 3>once you give somebody money and they don't give it back, like,

0:29:00.240 --> 0:29:03.240
<v Speaker 3>the friendship is tarnished. Because really what I feel, y'all

0:29:03.520 --> 0:29:06.800
<v Speaker 3>the women who I was friends with for a very

0:29:06.920 --> 0:29:08.920
<v Speaker 3>very long time and not friends with now it's still

0:29:09.000 --> 0:29:12.240
<v Speaker 3>hurt my feelings to this day, right, But what hurts

0:29:12.320 --> 0:29:16.000
<v Speaker 3>my feelings even more is that these bitches no intimate

0:29:16.000 --> 0:29:18.040
<v Speaker 3>shit about me and they just still walk around.

0:29:17.840 --> 0:29:20.200
<v Speaker 1>Earth like shit cool, Like I really want them to

0:29:20.240 --> 0:29:22.080
<v Speaker 1>disappear a little bit, just this much.

0:29:22.880 --> 0:29:25.760
<v Speaker 3>So nobody, you know, especially like in entertainment and we're

0:29:25.800 --> 0:29:27.720
<v Speaker 3>doing what we're doing, like some people know some real

0:29:27.800 --> 0:29:30.000
<v Speaker 3>deep shit about me, like and knows be the people

0:29:30.040 --> 0:29:32.680
<v Speaker 3>that go to the tabloids, you know what I'm saying, Like,

0:29:32.760 --> 0:29:35.880
<v Speaker 3>those are the people who telling your business to blogs

0:29:35.960 --> 0:29:37.200
<v Speaker 3>and shit like that in the future.

0:29:37.520 --> 0:29:38.120
<v Speaker 1>I don't like that.

0:29:38.320 --> 0:29:40.680
<v Speaker 3>I don't like a bitch not being my friend no

0:29:40.800 --> 0:29:46.280
<v Speaker 3>more and know shit about me. So I didn't say that.

0:29:46.480 --> 0:29:49.920
<v Speaker 1>You said that, you said I said. I said, go

0:29:50.880 --> 0:29:55.160
<v Speaker 1>real far away and sleep there overnight every night.

0:29:57.200 --> 0:29:59.760
<v Speaker 4>Night. Do y'all feel like where y'all at hasn't been

0:29:59.800 --> 0:30:02.440
<v Speaker 4>hard for you all to connect with other women? Oh?

0:30:02.680 --> 0:30:03.480
<v Speaker 4>I like having all.

0:30:03.960 --> 0:30:06.000
<v Speaker 2>I connect with women easily, but then I do hair

0:30:06.120 --> 0:30:08.640
<v Speaker 2>all day, all that every day, so part of my

0:30:08.800 --> 0:30:12.360
<v Speaker 2>job is to connect with women. But I guess deal breaker.

0:30:12.480 --> 0:30:14.520
<v Speaker 4>Money is not any money I give you or loan

0:30:14.600 --> 0:30:16.480
<v Speaker 4>you is money that I can afford to lose. That's

0:30:16.480 --> 0:30:19.080
<v Speaker 4>how I always treat money. That way, we don't fall.

0:30:18.960 --> 0:30:19.600
<v Speaker 1>Out behind it.

0:30:20.040 --> 0:30:22.120
<v Speaker 2>So if I give you money, I want it back,

0:30:22.200 --> 0:30:23.960
<v Speaker 2>don't get me wrong. But if I don't get it back,

0:30:24.040 --> 0:30:27.000
<v Speaker 2>it's because in my head it was already gone. And

0:30:27.120 --> 0:30:29.840
<v Speaker 2>that's how I treat money when it comes with friends. Now,

0:30:30.480 --> 0:30:33.640
<v Speaker 2>the conversation about like talking and telling my business, it

0:30:33.760 --> 0:30:36.400
<v Speaker 2>just depends on what your intention was with my business.

0:30:36.880 --> 0:30:38.560
<v Speaker 2>You know, I'll be mad at you for sharing, but

0:30:38.640 --> 0:30:40.960
<v Speaker 2>if it wasn't malicious, we still can be friends. The

0:30:41.080 --> 0:30:42.880
<v Speaker 2>thing that's a deal breaker for me is.

0:30:44.640 --> 0:30:46.720
<v Speaker 4>Don't be fucking with none of my niggas behind my

0:30:46.800 --> 0:30:47.800
<v Speaker 4>back and I find.

0:30:47.600 --> 0:30:51.400
<v Speaker 1>Out you own them.

0:30:51.880 --> 0:30:54.280
<v Speaker 4>They belong to me, bitch, and you know it.

0:30:54.920 --> 0:30:57.520
<v Speaker 2>If you my friend done talked about this nigga to you,

0:30:57.880 --> 0:30:59.840
<v Speaker 2>If I find out you're fucking with him behind my back,

0:30:59.880 --> 0:31:01.840
<v Speaker 2>that's a problem for me. That's the seafool.

0:31:01.920 --> 0:31:05.480
<v Speaker 4>Don't do that. Oh I thought that was obvious.

0:31:06.800 --> 0:31:09.120
<v Speaker 1>Nah, a girl, they be breaking the girlfriend rules.

0:31:09.200 --> 0:31:11.960
<v Speaker 4>Okay, some people, that's okay.

0:31:12.680 --> 0:31:12.800
<v Speaker 1>You know.

0:31:12.920 --> 0:31:16.240
<v Speaker 2>I find that with women of other races, like white women,

0:31:16.840 --> 0:31:19.600
<v Speaker 2>they will fuck with each other's husbands and boyfriends and still.

0:31:19.440 --> 0:31:23.520
<v Speaker 4>Be friends afterwards, you know, So I'm not surprised.

0:31:23.640 --> 0:31:26.200
<v Speaker 1>Yeah, but that me and me and Tammy gonna talk

0:31:26.200 --> 0:31:29.280
<v Speaker 1>about it first before or after. We don't.

0:31:29.320 --> 0:31:33.280
<v Speaker 4>We don't cross paths. We have halves.

0:31:33.400 --> 0:31:36.840
<v Speaker 2>But it ain't never been like, oh no, I'm gonna

0:31:36.840 --> 0:31:39.920
<v Speaker 2>go grab exactly behind your back type ship like that's

0:31:40.000 --> 0:31:42.520
<v Speaker 2>weak to me. Don't do that because a lot of

0:31:42.560 --> 0:31:44.760
<v Speaker 2>these niggas I give, I talked them to you, baby,

0:31:44.840 --> 0:31:45.560
<v Speaker 2>you don't gotta do it.

0:31:45.600 --> 0:31:48.680
<v Speaker 1>Behind my back exactly. Yo, what was that?

0:31:48.800 --> 0:31:50.440
<v Speaker 4>I was gonna say, what wasn't y'all with somebody else

0:31:50.480 --> 0:31:52.200
<v Speaker 4>showing the bevery beginning you, I think it was you.

0:31:58.480 --> 0:32:02.240
<v Speaker 3>That was not That was a brilliant idiots. We were

0:32:02.280 --> 0:32:05.160
<v Speaker 3>talking about that motherfucker fastball. I threw her ass right quick.

0:32:05.200 --> 0:32:07.400
<v Speaker 1>Then we got uber meats. It was coming. In twenty

0:32:07.480 --> 0:32:08.840
<v Speaker 1>twenty five COVID.

0:32:09.480 --> 0:32:14.120
<v Speaker 4>I had anxiety. I was lonely. I needed some male company, okay,

0:32:14.440 --> 0:32:14.880
<v Speaker 4>sue me.

0:32:17.640 --> 0:32:20.320
<v Speaker 1>And I knew a nigga. I knew a real real

0:32:20.480 --> 0:32:21.840
<v Speaker 1>good was awesome.

0:32:22.640 --> 0:32:23.720
<v Speaker 4>He was amazing. Man.

0:32:24.320 --> 0:32:27.320
<v Speaker 3>Look, I want all listeners listeners to know this one

0:32:27.360 --> 0:32:28.120
<v Speaker 3>thing about me, bitch.

0:32:28.160 --> 0:32:30.440
<v Speaker 1>I know good dick. I'm just telling y'all. I know

0:32:30.640 --> 0:32:31.120
<v Speaker 1>good Dick.

0:32:32.760 --> 0:32:36.000
<v Speaker 4>He was a really good person too, So that was

0:32:36.560 --> 0:32:37.080
<v Speaker 4>no hold.

0:32:36.880 --> 0:32:39.240
<v Speaker 3>On ebone, let me tell you about this bitch. Now,

0:32:39.800 --> 0:32:42.479
<v Speaker 3>this would be like a little like Super sneaky Liken,

0:32:42.560 --> 0:32:45.760
<v Speaker 3>even though we're telling our business, right, Super, why are

0:32:45.800 --> 0:32:47.160
<v Speaker 3>you cooking for the nigga the next day?

0:32:47.760 --> 0:32:49.800
<v Speaker 1>Then you at his house and he cooking for her

0:32:49.880 --> 0:32:52.520
<v Speaker 1>the next day? He was having slumber parties.

0:32:53.720 --> 0:32:55.680
<v Speaker 3>Tammy, you cooked for that nigga one day in your

0:32:55.680 --> 0:32:58.960
<v Speaker 3>apartment too, came and had a plate.

0:32:59.320 --> 0:33:02.240
<v Speaker 4>It's just so happened that I was coaching and he

0:33:02.440 --> 0:33:08.200
<v Speaker 4>was hung. So wait, how does that great? Like could

0:33:08.240 --> 0:33:08.960
<v Speaker 4>you wipe him up.

0:33:08.920 --> 0:33:09.400
<v Speaker 1>If you wanted to?

0:33:10.920 --> 0:33:12.960
<v Speaker 4>That wasn't in the plan. That wasn't in the.

0:33:14.560 --> 0:33:17.080
<v Speaker 3>No, it might have been your husband, like you know,

0:33:17.160 --> 0:33:19.600
<v Speaker 3>you can't let your homegirl being away of your husband,

0:33:19.800 --> 0:33:20.600
<v Speaker 3>like you never know.

0:33:21.440 --> 0:33:26.480
<v Speaker 4>Right if it you know, I didn't see that happening.

0:33:29.080 --> 0:33:31.920
<v Speaker 2>It's just where they'd be like the best man. We

0:33:32.080 --> 0:33:34.000
<v Speaker 2>say in our vowels, and I got the image of

0:33:34.160 --> 0:33:36.480
<v Speaker 2>Ashley sucking this dick in my head while we saying

0:33:36.520 --> 0:33:38.920
<v Speaker 2>our vowels. It's weird. Yeah, I don't want that.

0:33:40.440 --> 0:33:41.040
<v Speaker 1>One all.

0:33:43.800 --> 0:33:46.640
<v Speaker 4>So no, but it was good for what it was.

0:33:48.520 --> 0:33:51.800
<v Speaker 1>M I know, good dick. So let me ask you

0:33:52.000 --> 0:33:54.480
<v Speaker 1>this because I was talking to one of my homegirls

0:33:54.520 --> 0:33:57.360
<v Speaker 1>and she's older a little older than us, but you

0:33:57.440 --> 0:34:00.600
<v Speaker 1>know she's been married twice, right, And we had like

0:34:00.680 --> 0:34:03.440
<v Speaker 1>this whole back and forth one night because.

0:34:04.960 --> 0:34:06.760
<v Speaker 3>I was saying, like, if I know some shit about

0:34:06.800 --> 0:34:09.440
<v Speaker 3>one of my close friends, like her nigga cheating or

0:34:09.520 --> 0:34:12.000
<v Speaker 3>her husband cheating on her, like I might tell her

0:34:12.080 --> 0:34:16.279
<v Speaker 3>depending on who it is. So if your friend is married, right,

0:34:16.560 --> 0:34:19.600
<v Speaker 3>and she's never like explained to you, like she's having

0:34:19.600 --> 0:34:21.720
<v Speaker 3>all these problems at her husband, like everything is always

0:34:21.760 --> 0:34:26.000
<v Speaker 3>always seems so wonderful, you know in their relationship, you

0:34:26.239 --> 0:34:27.720
<v Speaker 3>see him cheating?

0:34:28.880 --> 0:34:32.319
<v Speaker 1>Are you or are you not gonna tell your best friend?

0:34:33.360 --> 0:34:36.719
<v Speaker 2>So I'm gonna take a picture because I feel like

0:34:36.840 --> 0:34:40.360
<v Speaker 2>when you tell a bit about her man, you need proof,

0:34:41.360 --> 0:34:44.520
<v Speaker 2>especially when it's her husband. And even when it comes

0:34:44.560 --> 0:34:47.239
<v Speaker 2>to my best friend, like you know, bitch, just be

0:34:47.320 --> 0:34:48.800
<v Speaker 2>like my man, my man, and my man. So I

0:34:48.920 --> 0:34:51.440
<v Speaker 2>just want to make sure, like, hey, I seen so

0:34:51.520 --> 0:34:53.160
<v Speaker 2>and so doing this with so and so, and I

0:34:53.239 --> 0:34:54.880
<v Speaker 2>got this picture and do what you want with it.

0:34:55.640 --> 0:34:57.080
<v Speaker 2>And I'm just gonna leave it at that, because at

0:34:57.120 --> 0:34:58.960
<v Speaker 2>the end of the day, I don't you never know

0:34:59.080 --> 0:35:00.760
<v Speaker 2>what somebody got going on with that nigga.

0:35:02.400 --> 0:35:05.239
<v Speaker 1>Mm hmm. I'm not telling shit.

0:35:05.760 --> 0:35:08.640
<v Speaker 3>I mind my business, man, I'm gonna mind my business

0:35:09.280 --> 0:35:11.520
<v Speaker 3>my best If my best friend is like traveling the

0:35:11.560 --> 0:35:13.879
<v Speaker 3>world with her husband, he doing all all the good

0:35:13.920 --> 0:35:16.120
<v Speaker 3>ship together, like, I don't want to be the person

0:35:16.200 --> 0:35:18.360
<v Speaker 3>that breaks her heart because that's how women all look like.

0:35:18.440 --> 0:35:18.880
<v Speaker 1>Look at it.

0:35:19.239 --> 0:35:21.240
<v Speaker 3>You know, she'll end up still going on and staying

0:35:21.280 --> 0:35:24.600
<v Speaker 3>with her husband. And now our friendship is a mess

0:35:25.080 --> 0:35:28.040
<v Speaker 3>because I'm the one that brought this dirty laundry to you.

0:35:28.400 --> 0:35:30.200
<v Speaker 3>You know what I'm saying you not even we already

0:35:30.239 --> 0:35:33.520
<v Speaker 3>talked about how men and women like friendships and relationships

0:35:33.640 --> 0:35:35.960
<v Speaker 3>just differ, and how we put our friends on a pedestal.

0:35:36.000 --> 0:35:38.120
<v Speaker 3>So it's easy to just discard your woman. You're not

0:35:38.120 --> 0:35:40.080
<v Speaker 3>about to, I mean, discard your homegirl. You're not about

0:35:40.120 --> 0:35:41.280
<v Speaker 3>to discard your whole husband.

0:35:41.640 --> 0:35:43.520
<v Speaker 1>So no, I don't think. I don't think i'm telling.

0:35:44.000 --> 0:35:46.360
<v Speaker 3>I don't think I'm telling until she come to me

0:35:46.440 --> 0:35:48.560
<v Speaker 3>crying about Oh damn, I can't wait until she come

0:35:48.600 --> 0:35:49.160
<v Speaker 3>crying by.

0:35:49.080 --> 0:35:54.319
<v Speaker 2>Some No, see, if it's just a friend. I might

0:35:54.480 --> 0:35:57.120
<v Speaker 2>turn my and they're super happy. I might turn another

0:35:57.239 --> 0:36:00.800
<v Speaker 2>che can mind my business. But if it's my best friends,

0:36:02.120 --> 0:36:04.920
<v Speaker 2>they gonna hear about it. Because somebody's gonna call because

0:36:05.000 --> 0:36:07.920
<v Speaker 2>I've jumped on their husband. I jumped on their husband

0:36:08.040 --> 0:36:10.000
<v Speaker 2>in public. They're gonna be like, tell me out here,

0:36:10.040 --> 0:36:11.040
<v Speaker 2>fucking your husband up.

0:36:11.080 --> 0:36:17.880
<v Speaker 4>You need to come right? Yeah there, her husband, did

0:36:17.920 --> 0:36:18.520
<v Speaker 4>I see him?

0:36:19.120 --> 0:36:19.239
<v Speaker 2>Right?

0:36:19.280 --> 0:36:21.240
<v Speaker 4>They're gonna get a bitch of me on his ass

0:36:21.400 --> 0:36:22.960
<v Speaker 4>because I don't play like that.

0:36:23.160 --> 0:36:25.600
<v Speaker 3>That might be what I'll do, then confront him right

0:36:25.960 --> 0:36:28.319
<v Speaker 3>and give him the opportunity to tell in his damn self.

0:36:28.440 --> 0:36:31.839
<v Speaker 4>Yeah right, he gonna have to tell like that bitch,

0:36:32.360 --> 0:36:34.480
<v Speaker 4>your bitch friend tell me jumped on me. Don't pull

0:36:34.640 --> 0:36:47.719
<v Speaker 4>my motherfucking dreadlocks out. Yeah, and.

0:36:49.320 --> 0:36:52.800
<v Speaker 2>She nixed because I want to tell me, yeah, my

0:36:52.880 --> 0:36:55.000
<v Speaker 2>best friend. I would be upset if my best friend

0:36:55.000 --> 0:36:57.919
<v Speaker 2>didn't do something, you know, right.

0:36:58.960 --> 0:37:01.080
<v Speaker 3>So do y'all arbitrary tell your friends when they're being

0:37:01.080 --> 0:37:04.640
<v Speaker 3>a dumb bitch. Are y'all just smiling nod at the stories? No,

0:37:05.200 --> 0:37:07.640
<v Speaker 3>you know, because sometimes your friends just want you to listen, right,

0:37:08.160 --> 0:37:10.080
<v Speaker 3>and so you just keep hearing all this dumb bitch

0:37:10.080 --> 0:37:12.840
<v Speaker 3>shit over and over and over again, Like at what

0:37:13.000 --> 0:37:14.640
<v Speaker 3>point do you be like, hey, bitch, you being a

0:37:14.680 --> 0:37:15.120
<v Speaker 3>dumb bitch?

0:37:17.840 --> 0:37:18.080
<v Speaker 4>You know?

0:37:18.400 --> 0:37:21.239
<v Speaker 2>I feel like my best friends know me, so they

0:37:21.400 --> 0:37:24.000
<v Speaker 2>know when I ask certain questions, they already know I'm

0:37:24.040 --> 0:37:25.440
<v Speaker 2>going with it. So I feel like I don't need

0:37:25.520 --> 0:37:27.319
<v Speaker 2>to tell you you being dumb because you saying shit

0:37:27.400 --> 0:37:29.040
<v Speaker 2>out loud and me asking you certain questions.

0:37:29.080 --> 0:37:30.960
<v Speaker 4>It's just letting you know that. Come on, now, this

0:37:31.040 --> 0:37:33.440
<v Speaker 4>ship is not adding up. But I also feel like

0:37:33.760 --> 0:37:35.520
<v Speaker 4>maybe this is just your season of being a dumb

0:37:35.600 --> 0:37:38.040
<v Speaker 4>bitch because we all been there and you got to learn.

0:37:39.280 --> 0:37:40.920
<v Speaker 2>Because I rather you be a dumb bitch while you're

0:37:40.960 --> 0:37:42.840
<v Speaker 2>dating around being single, than be a dumb bitch and

0:37:42.880 --> 0:37:50.560
<v Speaker 2>you marry a whole ass nigga. Right, Yes, no, we're

0:37:50.560 --> 0:37:54.439
<v Speaker 2>not discript. I like him, I like them reformed not still.

0:37:54.640 --> 0:37:55.520
<v Speaker 2>Don't be a hole with me.

0:37:56.360 --> 0:38:01.879
<v Speaker 4>Yeah right, listen, unless that's just your relations I think

0:38:01.920 --> 0:38:02.319
<v Speaker 4>i'm too.

0:38:02.600 --> 0:38:05.239
<v Speaker 2>I'm kind of blunt and frank, so I'm gonna tell you.

0:38:05.880 --> 0:38:07.520
<v Speaker 2>But then if I keep having to tell you, it

0:38:07.560 --> 0:38:09.160
<v Speaker 2>gets to a point where I'm not gonna say nothing

0:38:09.239 --> 0:38:12.680
<v Speaker 2>else because then you are comfortable in this space and

0:38:12.800 --> 0:38:14.800
<v Speaker 2>then I'm just gonna listen and wait for you to

0:38:14.920 --> 0:38:15.520
<v Speaker 2>learn your listen.

0:38:15.920 --> 0:38:17.720
<v Speaker 4>But I will be like, bitch, you're stupid.

0:38:18.480 --> 0:38:21.799
<v Speaker 2>I will say it just like dom bit. You better

0:38:21.880 --> 0:38:23.520
<v Speaker 2>than me if I start telling you.

0:38:28.520 --> 0:38:31.640
<v Speaker 1>If you like it, I love it right exactly.

0:38:32.239 --> 0:38:34.160
<v Speaker 3>So one of my friends who i'm no longer friends with,

0:38:34.280 --> 0:38:36.120
<v Speaker 3>I remember I stopped talking to her because she was

0:38:36.480 --> 0:38:38.920
<v Speaker 3>like clearly being a dumb bitch and I just didn't

0:38:38.920 --> 0:38:43.080
<v Speaker 3>want to be associated with dumb bitch ism, you know

0:38:43.160 --> 0:38:45.120
<v Speaker 3>what I'm saying. Like she just was being had by

0:38:45.120 --> 0:38:47.680
<v Speaker 3>a nigga and I just couldn't stand by because there

0:38:47.719 --> 0:38:50.160
<v Speaker 3>was nothing I could tell her to make her stop

0:38:50.200 --> 0:38:50.919
<v Speaker 3>talking to this guy.

0:38:51.000 --> 0:38:53.239
<v Speaker 1>And I'll never just be like leaving nigga. But this

0:38:53.400 --> 0:38:54.880
<v Speaker 1>nigga wasn't even like tangible.

0:38:54.960 --> 0:38:58.759
<v Speaker 3>He was in prison, so I can't exactly, so I

0:38:58.920 --> 0:39:02.600
<v Speaker 3>can't like, bitch, I'm trying to help you, help you,

0:39:03.480 --> 0:39:05.440
<v Speaker 3>and she just was she just was gone. So I

0:39:05.520 --> 0:39:07.759
<v Speaker 3>couldn't really have a relationship with her anymore until that

0:39:07.880 --> 0:39:10.719
<v Speaker 3>person was out the picture and he would actually tell her,

0:39:10.800 --> 0:39:12.560
<v Speaker 3>don't tell me shit because he knew I had more

0:39:12.640 --> 0:39:13.160
<v Speaker 3>sense than her.

0:39:13.920 --> 0:39:15.000
<v Speaker 4>Yeah, So.

0:39:18.000 --> 0:39:20.240
<v Speaker 1>Girl, that is a whole long ass story.

0:39:20.360 --> 0:39:23.600
<v Speaker 3>Yes, he's back in prison and she helped put him

0:39:23.719 --> 0:39:27.880
<v Speaker 3>put him there. If you're listening, bitch, yeah, I'm on

0:39:28.000 --> 0:39:29.400
<v Speaker 3>head telling your motherfucking business.

0:39:29.400 --> 0:39:30.279
<v Speaker 1>We ain't friends no more.

0:39:30.600 --> 0:39:33.800
<v Speaker 4>But you need to come on professional whole girl so

0:39:33.960 --> 0:39:35.360
<v Speaker 4>you can share.

0:39:39.440 --> 0:39:43.920
<v Speaker 1>What girl mess. That wasn't her man when she it

0:39:44.040 --> 0:39:47.160
<v Speaker 1>was he was. Let me listen, Go on, child, let's

0:39:47.160 --> 0:39:48.439
<v Speaker 1>go to break. We'll be right back.

0:39:49.160 --> 0:39:56.400
<v Speaker 3>Let's say, y'all think y'all make more friends now? Or

0:39:56.560 --> 0:39:59.160
<v Speaker 3>was it easier in your twenties in your twenties than forties,

0:39:59.239 --> 0:40:01.920
<v Speaker 3>or is there better that in process I have for

0:40:02.440 --> 0:40:03.360
<v Speaker 3>friends nowadays?

0:40:07.360 --> 0:40:10.560
<v Speaker 2>I think I make more friends now, But I think

0:40:10.640 --> 0:40:12.239
<v Speaker 2>they just have to do with me just knowing who

0:40:12.280 --> 0:40:15.439
<v Speaker 2>I am and being confident in myself because I feel

0:40:15.480 --> 0:40:18.759
<v Speaker 2>like when you're younger, like you just be going through shit,

0:40:18.920 --> 0:40:21.080
<v Speaker 2>you be thinking this person your friend, but meanwhile she

0:40:21.200 --> 0:40:23.040
<v Speaker 2>be hating on you or like, you know, girls can

0:40:23.080 --> 0:40:25.160
<v Speaker 2>be weird and like, jealousy is a real big thing,

0:40:25.280 --> 0:40:27.040
<v Speaker 2>especially when people see the potential in you and you

0:40:27.080 --> 0:40:30.560
<v Speaker 2>don't see it in yourself. So I feel like, right,

0:40:30.719 --> 0:40:33.279
<v Speaker 2>so I feel like now like and there's just so

0:40:33.400 --> 0:40:35.799
<v Speaker 2>many you know, dope women out there that just doing

0:40:35.880 --> 0:40:38.879
<v Speaker 2>amazing things that want to connect with other like minded women.

0:40:39.000 --> 0:40:41.360
<v Speaker 2>So I feel like now it's way easier than what

0:40:41.480 --> 0:40:47.399
<v Speaker 2>it was before for me. I think it's the same

0:40:47.680 --> 0:40:50.759
<v Speaker 2>amount of people, but it's just different on who I

0:40:50.880 --> 0:40:51.440
<v Speaker 2>call friend.

0:40:51.920 --> 0:40:54.120
<v Speaker 4>Like, I don't use the term friend as easily as

0:40:54.200 --> 0:40:56.320
<v Speaker 4>I did when I was in my trainies.

0:40:56.440 --> 0:40:58.920
<v Speaker 2>You know, I have created more boundaries and I know

0:40:59.000 --> 0:41:01.640
<v Speaker 2>how to compart in the last where people are in

0:41:01.719 --> 0:41:04.000
<v Speaker 2>my life, you know. So that's the difference for me.

0:41:04.480 --> 0:41:06.920
<v Speaker 2>Same amount of bitches coming here, here, come and go,

0:41:07.600 --> 0:41:11.280
<v Speaker 2>but a friend, I don't use that term as loosely

0:41:11.320 --> 0:41:13.120
<v Speaker 2>as I did when I was in my twenties. In

0:41:13.239 --> 0:41:15.720
<v Speaker 2>my twenties, I meet a bitch in the motherfucking bathroom

0:41:15.760 --> 0:41:17.920
<v Speaker 2>of the club and like her fingernail pledge, and we

0:41:18.040 --> 0:41:21.920
<v Speaker 2>started talking and we're friends. You know, it's not the

0:41:22.000 --> 0:41:25.279
<v Speaker 2>same because you know, once you get older, what about

0:41:25.320 --> 0:41:25.440
<v Speaker 2>for you?

0:41:25.800 --> 0:41:26.360
<v Speaker 1>I think some of it.

0:41:27.200 --> 0:41:29.560
<v Speaker 3>I think some of your friends, like especially in your twenties,

0:41:29.600 --> 0:41:32.319
<v Speaker 3>come from my childhood, right, and then you have these

0:41:32.360 --> 0:41:36.480
<v Speaker 3>relationships with these people for so long because of time, right,

0:41:36.560 --> 0:41:38.480
<v Speaker 3>and they probably should have been expired.

0:41:39.080 --> 0:41:41.400
<v Speaker 1>So I got I feel like i I've never not

0:41:41.520 --> 0:41:43.600
<v Speaker 1>been able to make friends then or now.

0:41:43.719 --> 0:41:47.120
<v Speaker 3>I probably have more meaningful relationships with the women that

0:41:47.280 --> 0:41:50.240
<v Speaker 3>are in my life now. But I have some friends,

0:41:50.280 --> 0:41:53.399
<v Speaker 3>Like my friend Priscilla. We celebrated her forty birthday last week.

0:41:53.440 --> 0:41:56.719
<v Speaker 3>Like we've been friends literally since six and seven years old.

0:41:57.200 --> 0:41:59.120
<v Speaker 3>Parents still live in the same neighborhood. Like we've been

0:41:59.160 --> 0:42:02.000
<v Speaker 3>friends for fucking ever. I know her asked, even when

0:42:02.040 --> 0:42:04.839
<v Speaker 3>she get on my nerve and vice versus. So that's

0:42:04.880 --> 0:42:07.919
<v Speaker 3>a forever friend. But I don't think it's hard, Bitch,

0:42:07.920 --> 0:42:11.040
<v Speaker 3>I be stealing people friends, Like I'm friends with people

0:42:11.400 --> 0:42:13.440
<v Speaker 3>who are no longer friends with the people I met

0:42:13.440 --> 0:42:17.920
<v Speaker 3>them here, but I'm still friends on both ends. This

0:42:18.080 --> 0:42:19.879
<v Speaker 3>one like fuck that bitch. She like fucked that bitch.

0:42:19.920 --> 0:42:21.480
<v Speaker 3>And I'm in the middle, like I still love y'all

0:42:21.480 --> 0:42:23.120
<v Speaker 3>and I want all us to be in the room together.

0:42:23.920 --> 0:42:25.080
<v Speaker 4>That's how my best friend is.

0:42:25.200 --> 0:42:27.400
<v Speaker 2>So I had this friend group that I was in

0:42:28.000 --> 0:42:31.279
<v Speaker 2>from some of us were friends as children and some

0:42:31.440 --> 0:42:35.760
<v Speaker 2>of us not in college. But my best friend, Tekia

0:42:35.960 --> 0:42:38.400
<v Speaker 2>is still friends with all of us, and none of

0:42:38.480 --> 0:42:41.400
<v Speaker 2>us are friends with each other. We're only friends with Tekia,

0:42:41.560 --> 0:42:42.319
<v Speaker 2>and it's the four of.

0:42:42.400 --> 0:42:46.799
<v Speaker 1>Us Takia is the only seen one. Is what I'm hearing.

0:42:48.280 --> 0:42:50.799
<v Speaker 4>Is the best communicator out of all of us. That's

0:42:50.840 --> 0:42:51.320
<v Speaker 4>what it is.

0:42:51.840 --> 0:42:54.600
<v Speaker 2>She's not saying no, We're all saye. But she's just

0:42:54.680 --> 0:42:57.960
<v Speaker 2>the best communicator out of all of us. The rest

0:42:58.000 --> 0:43:01.239
<v Speaker 2>of us will fight fist and I just don't want

0:43:01.280 --> 0:43:03.960
<v Speaker 2>to do that anymore. I'm done with the fist fighting

0:43:04.080 --> 0:43:07.480
<v Speaker 2>era of my friendships. If it comes to physical, we can't.

0:43:07.640 --> 0:43:08.440
<v Speaker 2>You're going to jail.

0:43:08.560 --> 0:43:10.600
<v Speaker 4>First of all, if you attack me, you're going to jail.

0:43:10.960 --> 0:43:13.000
<v Speaker 4>And second of all, you have a fist fighter friend,

0:43:13.360 --> 0:43:14.759
<v Speaker 4>Oh yeah, yes?

0:43:15.280 --> 0:43:19.520
<v Speaker 3>And then friends again? Yes after the fighting, Nah, bitch.

0:43:19.560 --> 0:43:21.000
<v Speaker 3>If I got to put hands on you, that's it.

0:43:21.680 --> 0:43:25.400
<v Speaker 4>Yeah, we definitely fall when we was younger.

0:43:25.480 --> 0:43:28.239
<v Speaker 2>Yeah, we definitely duke it out and then be friends again.

0:43:28.120 --> 0:43:30.359
<v Speaker 1>But not let down.

0:43:30.640 --> 0:43:33.520
<v Speaker 4>I never fought, not no more. I can't do that

0:43:33.719 --> 0:43:36.439
<v Speaker 4>no more. You ain't never fought, You ain't never fist

0:43:36.480 --> 0:43:37.160
<v Speaker 4>fault your sister.

0:43:38.640 --> 0:43:41.520
<v Speaker 1>That's family, like, of course, my friends are the family.

0:43:41.760 --> 0:43:42.600
<v Speaker 4>My friends family.

0:43:44.280 --> 0:43:47.000
<v Speaker 1>Oh no, child, I feel like I'm not about to

0:43:47.080 --> 0:43:50.560
<v Speaker 1>be fighting a homegirl like sisters. Y'all grew up, y'all

0:43:50.640 --> 0:43:53.279
<v Speaker 1>know each other's so crazy growing up in the same house,

0:43:53.400 --> 0:43:56.239
<v Speaker 1>just annoyed in the house together my may home.

0:43:57.000 --> 0:43:59.239
<v Speaker 2>Just like you only fought your sister living in the

0:43:59.280 --> 0:44:00.840
<v Speaker 2>same house, y'all never fought.

0:44:03.040 --> 0:44:05.680
<v Speaker 1>But it was different. I definitely tried to get that

0:44:05.840 --> 0:44:08.120
<v Speaker 1>ass and bitch. I'm like, bitch, come in the yard

0:44:08.200 --> 0:44:09.040
<v Speaker 1>because it's actually not.

0:44:11.480 --> 0:44:14.920
<v Speaker 4>If you talk and be around mad about it, you

0:44:15.040 --> 0:44:17.200
<v Speaker 4>got fist fight at this point. No, like when we

0:44:17.320 --> 0:44:21.680
<v Speaker 4>were younger. When we were younger, yes, our twenties, I.

0:44:21.880 --> 0:44:27.680
<v Speaker 1>Never fear my friend ever. Every blows. I'm not fucking

0:44:27.680 --> 0:44:27.840
<v Speaker 1>with you.

0:44:30.760 --> 0:44:33.000
<v Speaker 2>It's like my sister. It's like fighting with my sister.

0:44:33.160 --> 0:44:36.640
<v Speaker 4>To me, I know when we were young.

0:44:36.440 --> 0:44:39.279
<v Speaker 1>To fight my sisters like that, I mean, we fought,

0:44:39.400 --> 0:44:39.640
<v Speaker 1>but not.

0:44:40.680 --> 0:44:43.680
<v Speaker 2>It wasn't but it just has happened, you know.

0:44:44.280 --> 0:44:44.680
<v Speaker 5>Mm hmm.

0:44:46.320 --> 0:44:47.880
<v Speaker 2>No, I feel like if I have to put my

0:44:48.040 --> 0:44:50.600
<v Speaker 2>hands on one of my homegirls, because I feel like

0:44:50.600 --> 0:44:52.440
<v Speaker 2>I never fought a homegirl before, I feel like we

0:44:52.520 --> 0:44:54.799
<v Speaker 2>came close to it. But if I got to put

0:44:54.840 --> 0:44:57.680
<v Speaker 2>my hands on you, I gotta walk away, because that's

0:44:57.760 --> 0:44:59.480
<v Speaker 2>that's I feel like. When I was a kid, yeah

0:44:59.520 --> 0:45:04.040
<v Speaker 2>we'll fight, but in your twenties fighting your friends in college,

0:45:04.440 --> 0:45:06.600
<v Speaker 2>I remember one of my friends. I threw up on

0:45:06.680 --> 0:45:07.360
<v Speaker 2>one of my friends.

0:45:07.440 --> 0:45:12.320
<v Speaker 1>We got your Yeah, ain't your friend though? Are you

0:45:12.520 --> 0:45:13.120
<v Speaker 1>your friends now?

0:45:14.040 --> 0:45:14.880
<v Speaker 4>Thick as thieves?

0:45:14.960 --> 0:45:17.920
<v Speaker 2>That's my nigga to the end, Like that's We were

0:45:18.400 --> 0:45:20.959
<v Speaker 2>nineteen years old drunk, both of us drunk.

0:45:20.960 --> 0:45:22.920
<v Speaker 4>It's not just me drunk. We're both drunk.

0:45:24.080 --> 0:45:26.640
<v Speaker 2>We fought the next day, we cleaned the car out together.

0:45:27.000 --> 0:45:30.160
<v Speaker 2>You know, it wasn't like it wasn't that deep.

0:45:30.880 --> 0:45:32.320
<v Speaker 1>I don't know you guys are an alcoholic.

0:45:32.400 --> 0:45:34.800
<v Speaker 2>I got beat up, But let me tell you, I

0:45:34.840 --> 0:45:38.200
<v Speaker 2>got beat up because I was super wasted, like I

0:45:38.360 --> 0:45:40.200
<v Speaker 2>was drunk. I didn't even know the fight was coming.

0:45:40.800 --> 0:45:45.000
<v Speaker 1>So you got your glass off. God, you probably was.

0:45:45.640 --> 0:45:47.719
<v Speaker 3>No, that is true now when somebody drunk and you're

0:45:47.760 --> 0:45:52.400
<v Speaker 3>not really that drunk, like motherfucker gets annoying, like bitch,

0:45:53.000 --> 0:45:53.720
<v Speaker 3>leave me alone.

0:45:54.560 --> 0:45:55.160
<v Speaker 4>It was bad.

0:45:58.719 --> 0:45:58.919
<v Speaker 1>Yeah.

0:45:59.560 --> 0:46:02.800
<v Speaker 2>I would like at this age, even in my thirties,

0:46:03.400 --> 0:46:04.880
<v Speaker 2>if we get to the point where we got to

0:46:04.920 --> 0:46:07.600
<v Speaker 2>be physically violent to one another, then it's.

0:46:07.520 --> 0:46:08.000
<v Speaker 4>Just a no go.

0:46:08.480 --> 0:46:09.520
<v Speaker 2>We don't need to be friends.

0:46:11.239 --> 0:46:11.520
<v Speaker 1>Y'all know.

0:46:11.600 --> 0:46:14.279
<v Speaker 3>They have an app now for meeting friends, like the

0:46:14.320 --> 0:46:17.399
<v Speaker 3>Bumbo app for relationships. They have a Bumble Friendship app now.

0:46:19.200 --> 0:46:21.920
<v Speaker 2>Women have you know, some people, I won't say women,

0:46:22.000 --> 0:46:25.640
<v Speaker 2>but people have hard times meeting women in and making friendships.

0:46:27.160 --> 0:46:29.360
<v Speaker 2>Like I do hair, and I have clients that I

0:46:29.600 --> 0:46:32.640
<v Speaker 2>know that are coming as much as they come just

0:46:32.719 --> 0:46:33.880
<v Speaker 2>to have somebody to talk to.

0:46:34.440 --> 0:46:38.080
<v Speaker 4>It's not even about their hair. Yeah, they just need

0:46:38.120 --> 0:46:39.000
<v Speaker 4>a space where.

0:46:38.800 --> 0:46:41.359
<v Speaker 2>They can come and talk and relax and be away

0:46:41.400 --> 0:46:44.959
<v Speaker 2>from their husband, their kids and just sit with someone

0:46:45.040 --> 0:46:49.640
<v Speaker 2>who's not judging their story. And we feeling pretty, you

0:46:49.719 --> 0:46:53.279
<v Speaker 2>know so, and don't have nobody talk to.

0:46:53.719 --> 0:46:56.120
<v Speaker 1>We actually had a friendship coach. You'll remember her name

0:46:56.239 --> 0:46:59.080
<v Speaker 1>was Danielle. Danielle Jackson. I think it is ur something

0:46:59.160 --> 0:46:59.920
<v Speaker 1>like that. Danielle.

0:47:00.480 --> 0:47:03.960
<v Speaker 3>Yeah, she was like a friendship coach. Want a female

0:47:04.040 --> 0:47:07.440
<v Speaker 3>friendship coach. This is a while ago, though, but I

0:47:07.480 --> 0:47:11.759
<v Speaker 3>think some people do have tough times making friends, making

0:47:11.840 --> 0:47:12.600
<v Speaker 3>friends with people.

0:47:13.440 --> 0:47:15.920
<v Speaker 1>Yeah, I don't have I don't have a problem with that.

0:47:17.120 --> 0:47:19.600
<v Speaker 4>Yeah, I feel like everybody I know. My mama said,

0:47:19.600 --> 0:47:22.680
<v Speaker 4>I ain't never been a stranger before. That was my problem.

0:47:28.360 --> 0:47:31.240
<v Speaker 4>So all right, do you want to get into relationships

0:47:31.320 --> 0:47:35.040
<v Speaker 4>with like, uh, not women, but with our men.

0:47:36.480 --> 0:47:40.239
<v Speaker 2>Let's talk about this. Are you paying half in a relationship?

0:47:40.320 --> 0:47:41.520
<v Speaker 2>Are you paying half the bills?

0:47:42.840 --> 0:47:43.040
<v Speaker 4>Oh?

0:47:43.239 --> 0:47:46.080
<v Speaker 2>No, listen, I feel like I just had this conversation

0:47:46.160 --> 0:47:48.560
<v Speaker 2>with my homegirl heart nigga. I feel like if I'm

0:47:48.640 --> 0:47:51.040
<v Speaker 2>living with a man and I'm from the South, like

0:47:51.120 --> 0:47:52.880
<v Speaker 2>I was born in New York, I was raised in

0:47:52.880 --> 0:47:55.920
<v Speaker 2>the South, so I'm very traditional, like I'm very like

0:47:56.120 --> 0:47:59.120
<v Speaker 2>passionate and aggressive, like I'm type Alpha when it comes

0:47:59.160 --> 0:48:02.040
<v Speaker 2>to like my businesses. But when it comes to my relationship,

0:48:02.200 --> 0:48:04.399
<v Speaker 2>I want to be submissive. I don't want to think.

0:48:04.840 --> 0:48:06.800
<v Speaker 2>I want to make sure that I'm with somebody that

0:48:06.920 --> 0:48:09.320
<v Speaker 2>can be able to be like you know what, I

0:48:09.440 --> 0:48:11.680
<v Speaker 2>know he got it. So if I'm living with you,

0:48:11.680 --> 0:48:14.360
<v Speaker 2>you need to pay this rent. I pay some little utilities.

0:48:14.440 --> 0:48:16.400
<v Speaker 2>I make sure the food the grocery is done. I

0:48:16.520 --> 0:48:18.600
<v Speaker 2>cook a little meal, make sure the house is claimed.

0:48:18.640 --> 0:48:21.319
<v Speaker 2>But I'm not splitting no no major bills with no man.

0:48:21.600 --> 0:48:26.000
<v Speaker 3>No, you might as well live by yourself. At that point,

0:48:26.360 --> 0:48:30.000
<v Speaker 3>I can't say that. No, I'm saying you might if

0:48:30.040 --> 0:48:32.239
<v Speaker 3>you have to pay half the bills, like you might

0:48:32.280 --> 0:48:38.719
<v Speaker 3>as well. Yeah, why why am I cohabitating with the

0:48:38.840 --> 0:48:43.680
<v Speaker 3>man who's like down my neck about my paycheck? I remember, remember,

0:48:43.760 --> 0:48:47.440
<v Speaker 3>this's the fly superfly lady from what's her name?

0:48:48.719 --> 0:48:51.600
<v Speaker 1>From iHeartRadio? Remember she was in Memphis.

0:48:53.160 --> 0:48:56.560
<v Speaker 4>Oh yeah, I forgot he remember her name though she

0:48:56.680 --> 0:48:57.040
<v Speaker 4>was right.

0:48:57.600 --> 0:48:57.839
<v Speaker 1>Yeah.

0:48:58.360 --> 0:49:01.759
<v Speaker 3>So she was also at the live show and she

0:49:01.920 --> 0:49:04.520
<v Speaker 3>was saying how her first husband used to be like

0:49:05.600 --> 0:49:08.319
<v Speaker 3>these bitches is paid, Like she's you know what I'm saying,

0:49:08.360 --> 0:49:11.080
<v Speaker 3>she's well off. But she was like her first husband

0:49:11.080 --> 0:49:14.280
<v Speaker 3>would always be like, damn, how much money we get today?

0:49:14.800 --> 0:49:17.360
<v Speaker 3>Like he wait for her paycheck to come. And she

0:49:17.440 --> 0:49:22.799
<v Speaker 3>said it was one of her male friends that said why,

0:49:24.480 --> 0:49:26.960
<v Speaker 3>basically told her she needs a rich man. One of

0:49:27.000 --> 0:49:28.959
<v Speaker 3>her male friends said, you need a nigga with money,

0:49:29.200 --> 0:49:31.640
<v Speaker 3>Like you can't stay married to this person, right, So

0:49:31.800 --> 0:49:34.000
<v Speaker 3>she actually her husband. Now she was like, my husband

0:49:34.000 --> 0:49:35.799
<v Speaker 3>will even I make a lot of money, he don't

0:49:35.840 --> 0:49:36.960
<v Speaker 3>care how much money I make.

0:49:37.040 --> 0:49:38.800
<v Speaker 1>I don't pay no bills.

0:49:39.680 --> 0:49:41.800
<v Speaker 3>You know what I'm saying. It's Daddy calling us gold diggers.

0:49:41.800 --> 0:49:43.200
<v Speaker 3>Been wont to dig out of fucking gold.

0:49:44.440 --> 0:49:44.719
<v Speaker 4>But for.

0:49:46.640 --> 0:49:49.520
<v Speaker 2>The economy is kind of the economy is kind of

0:49:49.560 --> 0:49:53.320
<v Speaker 2>fucked up in kind of people are, you know, struggling,

0:49:53.440 --> 0:49:56.200
<v Speaker 2>And that's not just women as men and women. If

0:49:56.239 --> 0:49:59.400
<v Speaker 2>you get with someone who's having a hard time financially,

0:49:59.480 --> 0:50:02.520
<v Speaker 2>You're not going to split the bills if you love

0:50:02.640 --> 0:50:03.200
<v Speaker 2>this person.

0:50:04.360 --> 0:50:06.920
<v Speaker 4>Listen. Well, I think people also, I think people need

0:50:07.000 --> 0:50:08.000
<v Speaker 4>to also be realistic.

0:50:08.239 --> 0:50:10.040
<v Speaker 2>Like I feel like if you was in a situation

0:50:10.560 --> 0:50:12.680
<v Speaker 2>like this is somebody even knowing since she was a child,

0:50:13.080 --> 0:50:14.759
<v Speaker 2>y'all been through a lot of things together, then I

0:50:14.760 --> 0:50:17.160
<v Speaker 2>would probably that's the exception to the room because y'all

0:50:17.200 --> 0:50:19.279
<v Speaker 2>trying to figure things out, y'all both young, y'all trying

0:50:19.280 --> 0:50:21.400
<v Speaker 2>to get things going. I feel like, as a like

0:50:21.480 --> 0:50:24.600
<v Speaker 2>a grown woman, and as much as I have accomplished

0:50:24.640 --> 0:50:28.040
<v Speaker 2>on my own, you have to add value to my life, like,

0:50:28.160 --> 0:50:30.359
<v Speaker 2>because if you're doing something and I got to split

0:50:30.400 --> 0:50:32.080
<v Speaker 2>it with you, then I might as well just keep

0:50:32.120 --> 0:50:32.760
<v Speaker 2>doing it myself.

0:50:34.080 --> 0:50:36.800
<v Speaker 3>Yeah, and then how are you supposed to And this

0:50:36.960 --> 0:50:39.200
<v Speaker 3>is and men know this, right, They just don't want

0:50:39.200 --> 0:50:40.040
<v Speaker 3>to hear from women.

0:50:40.680 --> 0:50:40.839
<v Speaker 1>Right.

0:50:40.960 --> 0:50:43.920
<v Speaker 3>So if you're a man, a full grown man who

0:50:44.320 --> 0:50:46.680
<v Speaker 3>takes care of business, like, go talk to your brethren

0:50:47.040 --> 0:50:48.960
<v Speaker 3>and stop talking to us, right, because they just don't

0:50:48.960 --> 0:50:49.719
<v Speaker 3>want to hear this from us.

0:50:49.800 --> 0:50:51.800
<v Speaker 1>But all men want to be able to provide.

0:50:52.320 --> 0:50:55.360
<v Speaker 3>The frustration comes when they can't, right, And so instead

0:50:55.400 --> 0:50:57.840
<v Speaker 3>of recognizing it and start problem solving, because that's what

0:50:57.920 --> 0:51:00.480
<v Speaker 3>a man is, a problem solving, right. Instead of doing that,

0:51:00.760 --> 0:51:05.120
<v Speaker 3>they'll find fault with you to justify why he can provide.

0:51:05.360 --> 0:51:07.080
<v Speaker 3>But all men want to be able to provide.

0:51:07.680 --> 0:51:11.040
<v Speaker 4>I won't. I won't right now, in this face and

0:51:11.160 --> 0:51:13.680
<v Speaker 4>this age. I won't even sit here and pretend like

0:51:14.600 --> 0:51:16.440
<v Speaker 4>I wouldn't split the bills.

0:51:16.719 --> 0:51:19.080
<v Speaker 2>But let me tell you why. Only if I was

0:51:19.160 --> 0:51:21.800
<v Speaker 2>with somebody who aspired to taking care of everything.

0:51:22.040 --> 0:51:24.520
<v Speaker 4>That's he had a solid That's all I'm asking. That's

0:51:24.520 --> 0:51:25.640
<v Speaker 4>why he had a solid.

0:51:25.480 --> 0:51:28.680
<v Speaker 2>Playing and solid goals and we and we striving toward that. Yeah,

0:51:28.760 --> 0:51:31.000
<v Speaker 2>let's split it. Let's get this money together. Baby, it's

0:51:31.040 --> 0:51:34.760
<v Speaker 2>not a problem. But I won't say that I'm willing

0:51:34.800 --> 0:51:35.360
<v Speaker 2>to that.

0:51:35.480 --> 0:51:36.360
<v Speaker 4>I'm not willing to do.

0:51:36.440 --> 0:51:38.000
<v Speaker 2>It, because that would that would be a lie. At

0:51:38.000 --> 0:51:39.600
<v Speaker 2>this point, there was a time where I'd.

0:51:39.440 --> 0:51:40.440
<v Speaker 4>Be like, absolutely not.

0:51:40.960 --> 0:51:44.800
<v Speaker 2>But in real life, everybody don't have it all the

0:51:44.840 --> 0:51:47.920
<v Speaker 2>way figured out right away, and I don't want to, like,

0:51:48.200 --> 0:51:51.560
<v Speaker 2>you know, completely cancel out a good man because he's

0:51:51.640 --> 0:51:53.400
<v Speaker 2>not in a space where he aspires to be.

0:51:53.960 --> 0:51:55.960
<v Speaker 3>And I think that's where most women, that's where most

0:51:56.000 --> 0:51:58.279
<v Speaker 3>of us are at right. We just want a man

0:51:58.400 --> 0:52:00.680
<v Speaker 3>to aspire to one day take us take care of

0:52:00.719 --> 0:52:03.120
<v Speaker 3>his family completely. Nobody's asking to have all shit together.

0:52:03.200 --> 0:52:06.000
<v Speaker 3>My fucking life being shambles at the time. Okay, I'm

0:52:06.040 --> 0:52:10.960
<v Speaker 3>still figuring out, bitch. I'll be feeling eighteen sometimes. I

0:52:11.040 --> 0:52:12.440
<v Speaker 3>know I'm gonna get to where I'm going. I got

0:52:12.520 --> 0:52:14.400
<v Speaker 3>a fucking plan, you know what I'm saying, and I

0:52:14.520 --> 0:52:17.440
<v Speaker 3>keep shitting fucking motion. That's all you look for in

0:52:17.520 --> 0:52:19.320
<v Speaker 3>a mate. So if you got your thing going I

0:52:19.400 --> 0:52:22.600
<v Speaker 3>got my thing going on, let's attack these things, right,

0:52:23.239 --> 0:52:29.880
<v Speaker 3>But the ultimate gold nigga, you need to take care? Yeah, wife,

0:52:30.239 --> 0:52:31.800
<v Speaker 3>Yeah that should be still.

0:52:33.160 --> 0:52:35.359
<v Speaker 4>I agree there, I agree there.

0:52:35.680 --> 0:52:39.560
<v Speaker 2>All right, So we talked about telling our friends dumb bitches.

0:52:40.640 --> 0:52:44.040
<v Speaker 2>I know you listen to our show before, right, mm hmm.

0:52:44.640 --> 0:52:46.920
<v Speaker 2>Do you have a dumb bitch shory that you want

0:52:47.000 --> 0:52:48.600
<v Speaker 2>to share with us? I know you can with one.

0:52:50.840 --> 0:52:51.800
<v Speaker 1>Do I have a so?

0:52:52.080 --> 0:52:55.400
<v Speaker 4>I haven't had so I've been celibanted for like I

0:52:55.560 --> 0:52:57.319
<v Speaker 4>lost count, but it's been like three four years.

0:52:58.280 --> 0:52:58.600
<v Speaker 1>About that.

0:52:59.880 --> 0:53:06.319
<v Speaker 2>I'm like, wait, wait, store, roll back that beautiful being

0:53:06.400 --> 0:53:07.399
<v Speaker 2>footage real quick?

0:53:10.840 --> 0:53:11.160
<v Speaker 4>Like, what.

0:53:13.040 --> 0:53:17.080
<v Speaker 1>Listen that extra?

0:53:17.560 --> 0:53:18.520
<v Speaker 4>Can I have yours?

0:53:18.600 --> 0:53:19.640
<v Speaker 1>Situe? Ain't using it.

0:53:22.480 --> 0:53:24.240
<v Speaker 4>Please take mine so you can make sure it's.

0:53:26.440 --> 0:53:27.759
<v Speaker 1>Knock the pussy out of order.

0:53:28.200 --> 0:53:29.880
<v Speaker 3>Like, first of all, bitch, when you head us up,

0:53:29.920 --> 0:53:31.560
<v Speaker 3>you should have said my name is Ebane and the

0:53:31.560 --> 0:53:33.799
<v Speaker 3>bitch ain't fucking four years like that would have set

0:53:33.840 --> 0:53:34.719
<v Speaker 3>their whole ship off.

0:53:35.560 --> 0:53:36.799
<v Speaker 1>Let's gonna talk about.

0:53:37.440 --> 0:53:47.239
<v Speaker 4>Let's rays all right, How did this start and how

0:53:47.680 --> 0:53:48.640
<v Speaker 4>did it go so long?

0:53:48.760 --> 0:53:51.399
<v Speaker 2>Tell us about that, all right?

0:53:51.719 --> 0:53:56.279
<v Speaker 4>So three four years ago, I was dating. I was

0:53:56.320 --> 0:53:59.759
<v Speaker 4>doing my thing right, but I loved doing it.

0:54:00.160 --> 0:54:00.960
<v Speaker 1>Go ahead, girl.

0:54:02.640 --> 0:54:04.759
<v Speaker 2>Like just also just like I like to be in

0:54:05.520 --> 0:54:07.680
<v Speaker 2>men like a male energy, like because I feel like

0:54:07.760 --> 0:54:10.080
<v Speaker 2>that allows me to really be my feminine self, you

0:54:10.080 --> 0:54:12.200
<v Speaker 2>know what I'm saying, Like because I'm a girly girl,

0:54:12.280 --> 0:54:14.200
<v Speaker 2>but I feel like sometimes I'm always like a real nigga.

0:54:14.239 --> 0:54:16.279
<v Speaker 2>I'm so aggranstive and passionate, got y'all. So I feel

0:54:16.280 --> 0:54:17.880
<v Speaker 2>like when I'm around a real nigga, like you know,

0:54:17.920 --> 0:54:20.600
<v Speaker 2>I get soft and shit. And so I was outside

0:54:20.640 --> 0:54:23.080
<v Speaker 2>doing my thing, and you know, I was dealing with

0:54:23.200 --> 0:54:26.320
<v Speaker 2>a few people, and you know, at that time, everything

0:54:26.520 --> 0:54:28.640
<v Speaker 2>was like in shambles. I didn't have things was just

0:54:28.800 --> 0:54:32.040
<v Speaker 2>like not working for me in my favor and you know,

0:54:32.440 --> 0:54:35.200
<v Speaker 2>make a long story short, I just broke down, and

0:54:35.280 --> 0:54:37.320
<v Speaker 2>I'm just like, damn, like I'm really trying to like

0:54:37.360 --> 0:54:39.880
<v Speaker 2>figure shit out, and like, you know, the only family

0:54:39.960 --> 0:54:42.440
<v Speaker 2>I really had besides my close friends, it's my grandmother

0:54:42.480 --> 0:54:45.279
<v Speaker 2>who passed away. So I'm just like, yo, God, like

0:54:45.600 --> 0:54:48.320
<v Speaker 2>you know, what do I gotta do to like be

0:54:48.480 --> 0:54:49.960
<v Speaker 2>able to like get to where I want to get

0:54:49.960 --> 0:54:52.440
<v Speaker 2>to in my career and just like, you know, be

0:54:52.680 --> 0:54:55.920
<v Speaker 2>somewhat financially comfortable because I'm tired of fucking feeling like

0:54:55.960 --> 0:54:59.080
<v Speaker 2>I'm holding on by the thread. And you know, I

0:54:59.200 --> 0:55:01.040
<v Speaker 2>just made the decision and just like, you know what

0:55:01.200 --> 0:55:03.640
<v Speaker 2>if I was to give up sex, like you got

0:55:03.760 --> 0:55:05.880
<v Speaker 2>to make sure some things pop for me, because I

0:55:05.960 --> 0:55:07.759
<v Speaker 2>want my own place. I want a nice place. I

0:55:07.840 --> 0:55:10.040
<v Speaker 2>want some money, like I want my network deal, like

0:55:10.080 --> 0:55:12.480
<v Speaker 2>I want all these things to come into fruition. But

0:55:13.000 --> 0:55:16.080
<v Speaker 2>you gotta give me something. And I just also feel

0:55:16.120 --> 0:55:17.960
<v Speaker 2>like when I was having sex with these people, I'm

0:55:18.000 --> 0:55:19.800
<v Speaker 2>just like, yo, why am I sharing my body and

0:55:20.280 --> 0:55:22.480
<v Speaker 2>all these other things about myself with these niggas? And

0:55:22.480 --> 0:55:24.960
<v Speaker 2>I don't feel safe with them and it just didn't

0:55:25.000 --> 0:55:27.520
<v Speaker 2>make sense, Like and I feel like, you know, I've

0:55:27.560 --> 0:55:29.839
<v Speaker 2>been outside for a very long time, so I'm used

0:55:29.880 --> 0:55:32.160
<v Speaker 2>to like, you know, men taking me out, buying me

0:55:32.280 --> 0:55:34.719
<v Speaker 2>really nice things, and like, you know, treating me the

0:55:34.760 --> 0:55:35.040
<v Speaker 2>way that.

0:55:35.080 --> 0:55:36.160
<v Speaker 4>I desired to be treated.

0:55:36.600 --> 0:55:38.600
<v Speaker 2>But by the time I'm done with them, I just

0:55:38.680 --> 0:55:40.800
<v Speaker 2>felt empty, Like I still feel like they didn't know

0:55:40.880 --> 0:55:42.360
<v Speaker 2>the real meat. And I feel like a lot of

0:55:42.400 --> 0:55:45.600
<v Speaker 2>times when people see you, especially when you're an attractive woman,

0:55:46.080 --> 0:55:49.000
<v Speaker 2>people just only see what you're trying to accomplish, or

0:55:49.040 --> 0:55:51.520
<v Speaker 2>they only see the exterior. And I feel like a

0:55:51.600 --> 0:55:53.600
<v Speaker 2>lot of people that I was messing with didn't even

0:55:53.760 --> 0:55:56.439
<v Speaker 2>like know things about me that you should have known.

0:55:57.360 --> 0:55:58.880
<v Speaker 2>So you know, I just was like, you know what,

0:55:59.360 --> 0:56:01.200
<v Speaker 2>and I didn't make no avow to God, like you know,

0:56:01.280 --> 0:56:02.960
<v Speaker 2>I was having a conversation with God, and I'm just like,

0:56:03.000 --> 0:56:04.400
<v Speaker 2>you know, I ain't trying to wait the marriage, but

0:56:04.800 --> 0:56:06.600
<v Speaker 2>you know, I'm just trying to wait to a place

0:56:06.640 --> 0:56:09.400
<v Speaker 2>where by the time I do meet somebody like I

0:56:09.520 --> 0:56:11.759
<v Speaker 2>wanted to be something that somebody I feel safe with

0:56:11.920 --> 0:56:14.320
<v Speaker 2>and somebody that like I really feel like, have a

0:56:14.440 --> 0:56:16.839
<v Speaker 2>genuine like for me, like God forbid, something wants to happen.

0:56:17.080 --> 0:56:18.839
<v Speaker 4>I know I can call this nigga up and then

0:56:18.840 --> 0:56:21.160
<v Speaker 4>it being raped, you know what I'm saying. So so

0:56:21.320 --> 0:56:23.640
<v Speaker 4>right now, I've been like dating here and there, trying

0:56:23.680 --> 0:56:26.880
<v Speaker 4>to get back outside. But I don't know, these niggas

0:56:26.920 --> 0:56:29.360
<v Speaker 4>are just trash. Don't say that.

0:56:30.239 --> 0:56:32.360
<v Speaker 3>Don't say that, you know, because there's a lot of

0:56:32.440 --> 0:56:35.319
<v Speaker 3>good men out there. They just not cute like I'd

0:56:35.320 --> 0:56:37.759
<v Speaker 3>be saying. I'm dead serious about that, and niggas get

0:56:37.880 --> 0:56:40.400
<v Speaker 3>mad at that too, But we do like women and

0:56:40.560 --> 0:56:42.520
<v Speaker 3>men are voes visual. Men are a little bit more

0:56:42.640 --> 0:56:43.319
<v Speaker 3>visual than us.

0:56:43.840 --> 0:56:47.880
<v Speaker 1>But you're gonna look at the exterior first right to determine,

0:56:47.960 --> 0:56:51.040
<v Speaker 1>like what's what, And they just may not be attractive

0:56:51.320 --> 0:56:55.040
<v Speaker 1>initially to you. And they may be.

0:56:56.600 --> 0:56:59.320
<v Speaker 2>Saying when you speak out loud that men are trash

0:56:59.400 --> 0:57:02.239
<v Speaker 2>that's all you to meet. You can't keep saying that

0:57:02.440 --> 0:57:04.560
<v Speaker 2>and expect to meet good men. You gotta say men

0:57:04.640 --> 0:57:04.960
<v Speaker 2>are good.

0:57:05.040 --> 0:57:05.440
<v Speaker 4>Men are the.

0:57:07.640 --> 0:57:10.120
<v Speaker 2>I agree, like I've been manifesting, like especially when I

0:57:10.200 --> 0:57:11.880
<v Speaker 2>do my deep prayers, I'm like, you know what, because

0:57:11.880 --> 0:57:13.960
<v Speaker 2>I do believe there are good men out there. I

0:57:14.120 --> 0:57:16.160
<v Speaker 2>just feel like the men that's been in my space

0:57:16.840 --> 0:57:18.920
<v Speaker 2>just been It's just not been what I want. And

0:57:18.960 --> 0:57:20.560
<v Speaker 2>I also feel and it doesn't have thing you can do.

0:57:20.640 --> 0:57:23.560
<v Speaker 2>It looks because I feel like, I mean, for the

0:57:23.640 --> 0:57:25.880
<v Speaker 2>most part, I do want somebody that's attractive, but I

0:57:25.920 --> 0:57:28.439
<v Speaker 2>feel like as you get older, certain certain things don't matter,

0:57:28.520 --> 0:57:32.200
<v Speaker 2>Like you just really want a good person right for me.

0:57:33.000 --> 0:57:35.480
<v Speaker 2>So no, I agree, Like I'm being very careful with

0:57:35.600 --> 0:57:37.440
<v Speaker 2>my words, but I just feel like the men are

0:57:37.640 --> 0:57:41.160
<v Speaker 2>just it's hard. It's hard out here. I'm not gonna

0:57:41.160 --> 0:57:42.200
<v Speaker 2>sit here and pretend.

0:57:41.960 --> 0:57:44.360
<v Speaker 1>Like it's not hard because they the prize. Now, honey,

0:57:44.640 --> 0:57:50.200
<v Speaker 1>you know the pride. You know, I've already married.

0:57:51.880 --> 0:57:54.080
<v Speaker 2>The tables have turned in away, and it seems like

0:57:54.200 --> 0:57:56.440
<v Speaker 2>the men do think that they're the catch instead of

0:57:56.480 --> 0:57:57.120
<v Speaker 2>the woman now.

0:57:57.200 --> 0:58:01.000
<v Speaker 4>But it's because like, what is it like in Atlanta?

0:58:01.320 --> 0:58:04.160
<v Speaker 4>What is it like fourteen to one men? You know,

0:58:04.560 --> 0:58:05.480
<v Speaker 4>men to women.

0:58:06.720 --> 0:58:06.960
<v Speaker 2>And men.

0:58:07.440 --> 0:58:13.920
<v Speaker 1>I don't like those statistics statistics because who controls them?

0:58:13.960 --> 0:58:14.280
<v Speaker 1>For one?

0:58:14.560 --> 0:58:14.720
<v Speaker 4>Right?

0:58:15.040 --> 0:58:15.240
<v Speaker 1>Men?

0:58:16.000 --> 0:58:19.360
<v Speaker 3>So why wouldn't we tell bitches, Uh, girl, you're gonna

0:58:19.400 --> 0:58:21.840
<v Speaker 3>have to deal with us because it's too many, y'all.

0:58:21.920 --> 0:58:23.800
<v Speaker 3>It's only a little bit of us. So they had

0:58:23.800 --> 0:58:26.480
<v Speaker 3>a pick of the litter for the rest of their lives, Like,

0:58:26.600 --> 0:58:30.040
<v Speaker 3>why wouldn't they manipulate us in that way, but it

0:58:30.240 --> 0:58:34.280
<v Speaker 3>were looking like it though it'd be like, it's like.

0:58:34.400 --> 0:58:37.400
<v Speaker 1>Four niggas walking, But where where are we at? Where

0:58:37.440 --> 0:58:37.920
<v Speaker 1>are you at?

0:58:38.000 --> 0:58:41.000
<v Speaker 3>Because I just saw a video on Instagram and I

0:58:41.040 --> 0:58:44.000
<v Speaker 3>hate that we missed this because I was in Atlanta

0:58:44.400 --> 0:58:46.080
<v Speaker 3>for investments.

0:58:46.360 --> 0:58:48.760
<v Speaker 1>A girl did a video. She was like, y'all bitches

0:58:48.800 --> 0:58:49.920
<v Speaker 1>better be here next year.

0:58:50.040 --> 0:58:53.120
<v Speaker 3>It's so many nice looking men here, like and if

0:58:53.160 --> 0:58:54.760
<v Speaker 3>those are the type of men, like, you have to

0:58:54.800 --> 0:58:56.800
<v Speaker 3>put yourself where are the type of And you also

0:58:56.920 --> 0:58:57.280
<v Speaker 3>have to be.

0:58:57.440 --> 0:58:58.280
<v Speaker 1>Who you want to meet?

0:58:58.760 --> 0:59:01.439
<v Speaker 3>Like you can't you can't be a damn two think

0:59:01.600 --> 0:59:03.440
<v Speaker 3>you deserve a ten nigga, cause there are men out

0:59:03.480 --> 0:59:04.160
<v Speaker 3>here who are ten?

0:59:04.480 --> 0:59:05.280
<v Speaker 1>Do you deserve that?

0:59:05.560 --> 0:59:05.600
<v Speaker 4>No?

0:59:06.160 --> 0:59:07.080
<v Speaker 1>No, you're hollering at me.

0:59:08.440 --> 0:59:11.640
<v Speaker 2>I feel like I'm doing now, especially since I'm starting

0:59:11.680 --> 0:59:13.080
<v Speaker 2>to get back out there and day because I feel

0:59:13.120 --> 0:59:15.040
<v Speaker 2>like since I haven't dated and so long, I kind

0:59:15.080 --> 0:59:16.640
<v Speaker 2>of like I know what I want, but I don't

0:59:16.680 --> 0:59:18.040
<v Speaker 2>know what I like. Like I want to just get

0:59:18.040 --> 0:59:20.240
<v Speaker 2>out there and just you know, see what's going on.

0:59:20.800 --> 0:59:23.120
<v Speaker 2>So I do feel like it's right. So I do

0:59:23.240 --> 0:59:24.960
<v Speaker 2>feel like it is important to like, if you want

0:59:24.960 --> 0:59:26.439
<v Speaker 2>a certain man, you got to be in a certain

0:59:26.480 --> 0:59:28.680
<v Speaker 2>atmosphere or if you want to have a man do

0:59:28.800 --> 0:59:30.640
<v Speaker 2>certain things, you gotta be where they be at. So

0:59:31.120 --> 0:59:33.440
<v Speaker 2>I haven't like looking up different places to go to

0:59:33.640 --> 0:59:36.040
<v Speaker 2>like just being strategic in my day life because I

0:59:36.080 --> 0:59:39.120
<v Speaker 2>feel like, you know, for me, like I've been going

0:59:39.240 --> 0:59:41.760
<v Speaker 2>so like I sacrificed a lot for you know, my

0:59:41.920 --> 0:59:44.560
<v Speaker 2>career and my goals and things of that nature. So

0:59:44.640 --> 0:59:46.560
<v Speaker 2>I'm just like I need to put that same.

0:59:46.520 --> 0:59:49.080
<v Speaker 4>Energy into you know, being dating in my life.

0:59:49.080 --> 0:59:51.840
<v Speaker 3>You got to have a blueprint, you gotta have a plan. Yeah,

0:59:51.960 --> 0:59:53.680
<v Speaker 3>my say friend of was talking about her she has

0:59:53.720 --> 0:59:56.480
<v Speaker 3>a daughter. Her daughter's like twenty six years old, and

0:59:57.240 --> 0:59:59.200
<v Speaker 3>she's like, her daughter doesn't she doesn't know if any

0:59:59.240 --> 1:00:01.520
<v Speaker 3>prospects or it has and she doesn't want her daughter

1:00:01.600 --> 1:00:03.480
<v Speaker 3>to be our age without a husband.

1:00:03.840 --> 1:00:05.640
<v Speaker 1>So she's like, girl, this is something you got a plan.

1:00:06.040 --> 1:00:06.080
<v Speaker 4>Like.

1:00:06.600 --> 1:00:09.960
<v Speaker 1>It's a book called Get Get Into I Do, And

1:00:10.080 --> 1:00:11.360
<v Speaker 1>I forgot the author name of it.

1:00:11.520 --> 1:00:13.320
<v Speaker 3>The the name of the author. I started reading it

1:00:13.600 --> 1:00:17.720
<v Speaker 3>or listening to it on audible. But it basically tells

1:00:17.760 --> 1:00:21.040
<v Speaker 3>you instruction guide on how to get a husband essentially right,

1:00:21.120 --> 1:00:22.760
<v Speaker 3>the things that you need to do. And I just

1:00:22.840 --> 1:00:26.560
<v Speaker 3>don't think that we we for specifically black women, we

1:00:27.360 --> 1:00:29.720
<v Speaker 3>have never been taught how to get a husband for real.

1:00:29.960 --> 1:00:32.760
<v Speaker 3>You just go through all your life, different relationships with

1:00:33.280 --> 1:00:35.240
<v Speaker 3>a bunch of people, spending too much time in the

1:00:35.320 --> 1:00:35.960
<v Speaker 3>wrong places.

1:00:37.520 --> 1:00:40.120
<v Speaker 2>But then oftentimes our sons haven't been taught how to

1:00:40.200 --> 1:00:43.320
<v Speaker 2>be a husband by nobody either. You know that hart

1:00:43.720 --> 1:00:48.880
<v Speaker 2>so and shit oftentimes were trying to survive. So I

1:00:48.960 --> 1:00:52.000
<v Speaker 2>feel like, you know, because I also I have a

1:00:52.040 --> 1:00:54.280
<v Speaker 2>lot of my girlfriends, like you know, we don't have

1:00:54.480 --> 1:00:57.320
<v Speaker 2>children or well I'm the only single one out of

1:00:57.400 --> 1:01:00.000
<v Speaker 2>my girlfriend group. But you know, it's just very unfortunate

1:01:00.080 --> 1:01:02.400
<v Speaker 2>then how society makes us feel like we're less than

1:01:02.440 --> 1:01:03.000
<v Speaker 2>a woman.

1:01:02.880 --> 1:01:04.360
<v Speaker 4>Because we don't have these things.

1:01:04.520 --> 1:01:09.800
<v Speaker 2>Not attached to a man, right, I feel like exactly,

1:01:09.880 --> 1:01:11.919
<v Speaker 2>I feel like there's more to life than just being

1:01:12.000 --> 1:01:13.640
<v Speaker 2>attached to a man like I would want to be.

1:01:13.920 --> 1:01:15.800
<v Speaker 4>I would love to have a man that loves me

1:01:15.880 --> 1:01:17.080
<v Speaker 4>and I love him unconditionally.

1:01:17.400 --> 1:01:19.040
<v Speaker 2>But you know, it gotta make sense, like I don't

1:01:19.040 --> 1:01:20.520
<v Speaker 2>want to just be with somebody for the sake of it,

1:01:20.600 --> 1:01:23.880
<v Speaker 2>because then I'm back to where I started, you know, right, And.

1:01:24.000 --> 1:01:27.240
<v Speaker 3>If you ask about woman, yeah, and if you I

1:01:27.280 --> 1:01:29.200
<v Speaker 3>think a lot. I think women are okay with beans.

1:01:29.280 --> 1:01:31.280
<v Speaker 3>We are and we aren't right because we want. We

1:01:31.480 --> 1:01:32.760
<v Speaker 3>definitely want somebody.

1:01:33.200 --> 1:01:35.320
<v Speaker 1>We want a man. Do you necessarily need them?

1:01:36.640 --> 1:01:39.480
<v Speaker 4>So I need one. I'm tired of being out here

1:01:39.520 --> 1:01:40.080
<v Speaker 4>by myself.

1:01:40.120 --> 1:01:42.440
<v Speaker 1>I need I like being in relationship too. I definitely,

1:01:42.560 --> 1:01:44.720
<v Speaker 1>I definitely like to be with a man.

1:01:45.080 --> 1:01:51.720
<v Speaker 2>Like if you don't get no dick by twenty January,

1:01:51.840 --> 1:01:54.360
<v Speaker 2>I'm gonna call you January twenty twenty four, like, did

1:01:54.440 --> 1:01:54.840
<v Speaker 2>you get that?

1:01:56.000 --> 1:02:00.440
<v Speaker 1>I'm a fun I'm for you, ebony, but.

1:02:01.280 --> 1:02:03.720
<v Speaker 4>Over here because.

1:02:06.120 --> 1:02:08.520
<v Speaker 2>And I just want like a nice, juicy, big dick,

1:02:08.760 --> 1:02:11.280
<v Speaker 2>Like yo, I've been so horny, like I've been just

1:02:11.360 --> 1:02:13.040
<v Speaker 2>looking at niggas dicks all day.

1:02:13.560 --> 1:02:18.560
<v Speaker 1>And one he called me looking at his dick, and

1:02:18.600 --> 1:02:19.480
<v Speaker 1>he just started smiling.

1:02:19.600 --> 1:02:22.160
<v Speaker 4>I'm like, geez, it might have just.

1:02:22.200 --> 1:02:25.560
<v Speaker 1>Been all nuts. It was a big balls piled up

1:02:25.640 --> 1:02:32.360
<v Speaker 1>right there in front. A white man was a white man.

1:02:32.560 --> 1:02:38.000
<v Speaker 4>I was like, damn, I did a white man before.

1:02:38.480 --> 1:02:42.160
<v Speaker 1>How was that? It's nice?

1:02:43.000 --> 1:02:45.640
<v Speaker 4>I mean I dated a certain type of white man,

1:02:45.760 --> 1:02:46.840
<v Speaker 4>so yeah, it was a good time.

1:02:46.920 --> 1:02:48.680
<v Speaker 2>I went through a phase where I just looked at

1:02:48.760 --> 1:02:52.280
<v Speaker 2>everybody's dicks. It was a problem like I just looked

1:02:52.280 --> 1:02:54.600
<v Speaker 2>at every If you was a man, I was like,

1:02:54.720 --> 1:02:56.360
<v Speaker 2>I look at your face and then I looked down

1:02:56.360 --> 1:02:59.240
<v Speaker 2>at your dick every and it didn't matter how old

1:02:59.320 --> 1:03:01.480
<v Speaker 2>you were. It didn't like, I mean, not a child

1:03:01.600 --> 1:03:04.240
<v Speaker 2>but a grown man. If you was grown, I was.

1:03:04.240 --> 1:03:09.400
<v Speaker 4>Looking at your package. Yeah, just staring. Yeah, anywhere between

1:03:10.520 --> 1:03:14.320
<v Speaker 4>twenty two and sixty. I looked at that dick. I

1:03:14.320 --> 1:03:14.960
<v Speaker 4>ain't gonna lie.

1:03:16.040 --> 1:03:18.680
<v Speaker 3>So I don't never not look at dick. I don't

1:03:18.720 --> 1:03:22.080
<v Speaker 3>know what you're talking about. Like y'all stopped, why you look.

1:03:22.680 --> 1:03:25.480
<v Speaker 2>I just I'm not I'm not in that space right now.

1:03:25.560 --> 1:03:27.480
<v Speaker 2>I'm not in that space. I'm not looking at dick.

1:03:27.520 --> 1:03:28.800
<v Speaker 2>I don't even want no dick right now.

1:03:29.520 --> 1:03:31.040
<v Speaker 1>I still want to look I still I mean.

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<v Speaker 2>I mean, I'm in the space you were in three

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<v Speaker 2>years ago, but not like that, not like for three

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<v Speaker 2>I can't imagine it probably gonna happen till like till October.

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<v Speaker 2>But you know what, regardless of the time frame, I

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<v Speaker 2>think that every woman should go through a time frame

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<v Speaker 2>time here when they're not having sex because I feel like,

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<v Speaker 2>you know, and I don't want to say I'm celibate.

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<v Speaker 2>I want to say that I'm sustaining from sex because

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<v Speaker 2>I feel like this has been the most rewarding season ever,

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<v Speaker 2>because I feel like the best thing you can do

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<v Speaker 2>with guy is to keep your word, not to get

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<v Speaker 2>all religious or anything.

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<v Speaker 4>And I feel like, you know, I receive a lot

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<v Speaker 4>of great rewards.

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<v Speaker 2>For holding my word when it comes to you know,

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<v Speaker 2>being very this is having a discipline. Yeah, so I

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<v Speaker 2>think every woman should definitely go through this period when

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<v Speaker 2>the time is right, because.

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<v Speaker 4>When you know, you know, and you know, I feel

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<v Speaker 4>like you will learn a lot about yourself.

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<v Speaker 3>Damn what as as long as you ever went without sex,

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<v Speaker 3>I got one year and maybe two one year and

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<v Speaker 3>two months maybe, So it's good.

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<v Speaker 2>It's been about or so when I was my boy

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<v Speaker 2>life period, so when my boyfriend was in the military,

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<v Speaker 2>you would be gone for six months. So six months,

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<v Speaker 2>that's good.

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<v Speaker 4>But this time around, like it's only been like, how

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<v Speaker 4>what's today?

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<v Speaker 2>But it's been like at least two months, and I'm

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<v Speaker 2>thinking October, I'm gonna fuck again.

1:05:02.680 --> 1:05:05.600
<v Speaker 4>But I just needed so like ninety dad clarity.

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<v Speaker 3>You know, I feel like we had a hotline. Somebody

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<v Speaker 3>was gonna call in here and call you a fucking liar.

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<v Speaker 4>But I do, like, girl, I fuck you last Thursday.

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<v Speaker 1>Maya business, just maya business. Nigga up ship.

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<v Speaker 3>Now, I was waiting for my ex to be sentenced

1:05:26.640 --> 1:05:28.880
<v Speaker 3>at the time, so like the Feds broke us up right.

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<v Speaker 3>So once that nigga got his sentence, I was like,

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<v Speaker 3>fucking immediately I found a nigga and was about to

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<v Speaker 3>marry his ass.

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<v Speaker 4>So that was your one year.

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<v Speaker 1>Yes, hm, I need to come on the show man.

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<v Speaker 4>I mean, I I got some good listen.

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<v Speaker 1>I need to do another one. I need I definitely

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<v Speaker 1>need to do a fast from sex.

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<v Speaker 3>The thing is that I'll go like just not having

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<v Speaker 3>sex a lot, and then I just you know what

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<v Speaker 3>I'm saying, like this little spear at a moment type ship.

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<v Speaker 4>But I'm like, not, do you do you masturbate Evane?

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<v Speaker 4>Hell yeah, I'm not masturbating.

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<v Speaker 2>I'm not masturbating. I'm not doing nothing right now. I'm

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<v Speaker 2>not smoking. I wasn't drinking, but I'm like having champagne

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<v Speaker 2>a little bit here and there. We started drinking when

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<v Speaker 2>Poor Minds came to town and we went out with them.

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<v Speaker 2>I had to drink then, and I'm having.

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<v Speaker 4>A drink now. But do y'all look so cute.

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<v Speaker 1>I wasn't.

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<v Speaker 4>I didn't.

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<v Speaker 2>I'm not smoking, I'm not having sex, I'm not masturbating.

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<v Speaker 2>I'm not doing nothing right now, at least till October.

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<v Speaker 4>What's the reason I just don't want? Tommy asked, I

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<v Speaker 4>just don't want to.

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<v Speaker 1>Yeah, I just need like some clarity, mental clarity.

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<v Speaker 3>Yeah, I could use a no dick thing, but I

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<v Speaker 3>don't even be having sex that often to be like, oh,

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<v Speaker 3>I'm gonna have no sex.

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<v Speaker 4>But I wish somebody could call up right now because

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<v Speaker 4>but that's enough for me. Child.

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<v Speaker 2>Yeah, bus both of us tonight. Make a video and

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<v Speaker 2>send it to me.

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<v Speaker 1>I'll be riding because I get watching it.

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<v Speaker 2>But I can't participate.

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<v Speaker 4>So you can watch it not get horny.

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<v Speaker 2>Well, I haven't tried, so I don't know. But I'm

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<v Speaker 2>just saying, if she make a video, I'll watch and

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<v Speaker 2>see what happened.

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<v Speaker 1>I'm not beating off to you, smashing tam. I swear

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<v Speaker 1>to God, like, what the fuck you nasty?

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<v Speaker 2>Yeah?

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<v Speaker 4>If I could do that, I'm like, look at this, bitch,

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<v Speaker 4>why not it's so different.

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<v Speaker 1>No, it's not the same. That is not the same.

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<v Speaker 1>It's your couchie, it's your butt. I don't want to

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<v Speaker 1>see it.

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<v Speaker 4>It's a good button, it's a problem.

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<v Speaker 2>I will watch a video and they call you tomorrow, like,

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<v Speaker 2>so what we talking about next week on the show.

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<v Speaker 4>I wouldn't even wouldn't be like we've been right along, weirdo.

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<v Speaker 1>Tell me a fucking sociopath, y'all, that's not fair.

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<v Speaker 2>All right, listen, all right, tell us your dumbitch stories,

1:08:05.440 --> 1:08:07.240
<v Speaker 2>dumb bitch stories.

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<v Speaker 4>So dumb, because we've all been a dumb bitch at

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<v Speaker 4>least one young nigga. I don't know what it is

1:08:15.480 --> 1:08:17.439
<v Speaker 4>about young niggas, but they have the best dick.

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<v Speaker 2>And I just feel like I think I was low

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<v Speaker 2>key digmatized and I'm too I'm you know, it's I'm

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<v Speaker 2>not too old to be digmatized.

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<v Speaker 4>I'm too old to be digmatized by a young nigga, right,

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<v Speaker 4>And I just.

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<v Speaker 2>He ain't got nothing but dick, like he's still trying

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<v Speaker 2>to figure shit out whatever. And I'm talking about like

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<v Speaker 2>like his dick was so pretty, like as soon as

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<v Speaker 2>I saw it, my mouth of water, and I just

1:08:42.200 --> 1:08:44.920
<v Speaker 2>feel like, yeah, like it's just thinking about it, just

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<v Speaker 2>like hmmm, but I feel like the dick was just

1:08:49.160 --> 1:08:51.880
<v Speaker 2>so good I was just doing dumb ship, like you know,

1:08:52.040 --> 1:08:53.960
<v Speaker 2>just doing things that you know you don't want to do,

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<v Speaker 2>like because we used to live like right down the

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<v Speaker 2>street from each other, and I don't know it's what

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<v Speaker 2>you say, cleaning.

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<v Speaker 1>That nigga house. She was cleaning that nigga house.

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<v Speaker 4>I know she was.

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<v Speaker 1>Clean.

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<v Speaker 4>Do you have lunch money? No money? I do a

1:09:14.360 --> 1:09:18.559
<v Speaker 4>lot of other ship. I ain't given no nigga. Yeah,

1:09:18.640 --> 1:09:20.920
<v Speaker 4>that was, but it was just like, you know, just

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<v Speaker 4>cleaning his house or like helping.

1:09:22.840 --> 1:09:28.559
<v Speaker 2>Him with his business, just like like that's not dumb bitch.

1:09:28.720 --> 1:09:30.360
<v Speaker 2>I don't feel like that's a dumb bitch thing that

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<v Speaker 2>like cleaning the house. No it is, because I feel

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<v Speaker 2>like there's nothing wrong for that when that's your man,

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<v Speaker 2>or you see some potential. I didn't see nothing in

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<v Speaker 2>this nigga. But I feel like I feel like for me,

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<v Speaker 2>like nigga, we should just be fucking. I'm going home,

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<v Speaker 2>but I'm helping you do this and do that, like

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<v Speaker 2>it's just And then it was so weird because he

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<v Speaker 2>had his housewoming party and this girl was over there

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<v Speaker 2>and mind you, they young.

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<v Speaker 4>And he said that's his cousin. But I feel like

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<v Speaker 4>they was fucking.

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<v Speaker 1>Probably how young.

1:10:02.120 --> 1:10:09.479
<v Speaker 4>Yeah, I think he was twenty five, twenty six.

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<v Speaker 1>Okay, ain't too bad, too bad, look at this bitch.

1:10:13.960 --> 1:10:14.600
<v Speaker 4>That's not for me.

1:10:16.840 --> 1:10:21.479
<v Speaker 1>That's just right for this bitch. I like grown man.

1:10:21.720 --> 1:10:23.839
<v Speaker 1>I like ful adult.

1:10:24.000 --> 1:10:25.559
<v Speaker 4>Yeah, like man.

1:10:25.840 --> 1:10:31.040
<v Speaker 2>Yeah, I wouldn't take twenty six serious, but I would

1:10:31.080 --> 1:10:32.320
<v Speaker 2>definitely fuck twenty six.

1:10:34.280 --> 1:10:38.400
<v Speaker 4>Yeah, yeah, that was some good dick though. The last

1:10:38.439 --> 1:10:39.719
<v Speaker 4>twenty six year old I fucked.

1:10:39.720 --> 1:10:42.240
<v Speaker 2>He was trying to have me look sucking like a wheelbarrow,

1:10:42.360 --> 1:10:44.639
<v Speaker 2>had me like in plank position with my legs.

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<v Speaker 4>I was like, nigga, I am too old for this motherfucking.

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<v Speaker 1>Shit put down.

1:10:54.040 --> 1:10:57.640
<v Speaker 4>They got all the stamina, like it's like that was

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<v Speaker 4>a long time ago, y'all.

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<v Speaker 1>You have to get the runners. If you're gonna get

1:11:01.880 --> 1:11:04.320
<v Speaker 1>an older nigga, he gotta be like, have real good

1:11:04.400 --> 1:11:06.960
<v Speaker 1>cardio health, and he gonna fuck you just like them

1:11:07.040 --> 1:11:08.679
<v Speaker 1>young niggas. For sure.

1:11:08.800 --> 1:11:09.519
<v Speaker 4>What's old.

1:11:11.720 --> 1:11:13.760
<v Speaker 1>At this point? Like I don't know what's old because

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<v Speaker 1>I'll date a fifty year old. Hell no, I wouldn't.

1:11:18.800 --> 1:11:18.960
<v Speaker 2>Old.

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<v Speaker 1>I like forty seven, forty eight, forty nine.

1:11:20.960 --> 1:11:23.000
<v Speaker 3>I like, I like early forties two. I like forty

1:11:23.160 --> 1:11:25.479
<v Speaker 3>old people I'll just say that I like people in

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<v Speaker 3>their forties.

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<v Speaker 1>At the fifty eight.

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<v Speaker 3>Year old, I just don't want to see that great

1:11:29.360 --> 1:11:32.599
<v Speaker 3>line around your pupil. Okay, that's how I know you old.

1:11:33.280 --> 1:11:34.240
<v Speaker 1>Niggas the serial.

1:11:36.000 --> 1:11:38.920
<v Speaker 3>Niggah oh lass niggas trying to tell me he was

1:11:39.000 --> 1:11:41.599
<v Speaker 3>forty five. Once with that great nigga, you every bit

1:11:41.640 --> 1:11:44.240
<v Speaker 3>of seventy six could play with me, like you had

1:11:44.280 --> 1:11:46.120
<v Speaker 3>that gray line running looking like he.

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<v Speaker 2>Going I've ever dealt with was forty one?

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<v Speaker 1>Really old?

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<v Speaker 2>I ain't saying he was old.

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<v Speaker 4>I just said that was the oldest abdel Wow, that's interesting. No,

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<v Speaker 4>and that was recently?

1:12:04.680 --> 1:12:08.000
<v Speaker 2>H Like yeah, like yeah, that was recent.

1:12:09.400 --> 1:12:11.479
<v Speaker 4>I think the oldest I dealt with was my fifty

1:12:11.560 --> 1:12:13.960
<v Speaker 4>year old. That was like one of my best relationships.

1:12:15.439 --> 1:12:18.120
<v Speaker 4>Like he was so much fun and he was fine.

1:12:18.240 --> 1:12:20.200
<v Speaker 2>Maybe I need to go ahead, give Willie Earl a

1:12:20.280 --> 1:12:23.000
<v Speaker 2>spind Let me find me a Willy Earl to see

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<v Speaker 2>what they're talking about.

1:12:24.400 --> 1:12:26.160
<v Speaker 1>He gotta be fine, though, you gotta be like a

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<v Speaker 1>little Zaddi.

1:12:28.760 --> 1:12:29.440
<v Speaker 4>Exay.

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<v Speaker 2>It got to be like he just elbow fine because

1:12:32.960 --> 1:12:36.080
<v Speaker 2>he like fifty, right, I would I would date a

1:12:36.160 --> 1:12:38.040
<v Speaker 2>man that looked like that. But I don't be seeing

1:12:38.120 --> 1:12:38.840
<v Speaker 2>him walking around.

1:12:39.360 --> 1:12:40.599
<v Speaker 1>I'd be seeing some of them.

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<v Speaker 4>Where.

1:12:43.080 --> 1:12:45.599
<v Speaker 1>Yes it might be somebody husband, but I mean it'd

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<v Speaker 1>be outside.

1:12:49.280 --> 1:12:51.720
<v Speaker 4>I feel like men and like they used to. I

1:12:51.840 --> 1:12:55.080
<v Speaker 4>have not seen no attractive man for so long. No,

1:12:55.200 --> 1:13:02.120
<v Speaker 4>i'd be saying men. But where Charlotte, Carolina. Maybe in

1:13:02.160 --> 1:13:03.639
<v Speaker 4>the South, because they ain't up here in New York.

1:13:04.560 --> 1:13:07.400
<v Speaker 1>New York men be fine, but they be kind of weird. Man.

1:13:07.560 --> 1:13:12.840
<v Speaker 3>They just so combative, like everything's a problem. It's like,

1:13:13.200 --> 1:13:15.479
<v Speaker 3>why are we arguing and we haven't met in person yet?

1:13:17.520 --> 1:13:21.920
<v Speaker 1>What is happening? What is happening?

1:13:22.240 --> 1:13:22.439
<v Speaker 2>You know?

1:13:22.520 --> 1:13:23.880
<v Speaker 4>I like the energy though.

1:13:25.640 --> 1:13:26.600
<v Speaker 1>You're toxic.

1:13:29.360 --> 1:13:33.400
<v Speaker 4>In a jar? I am right.

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<v Speaker 2>Yeah, I want to be the first make a video,

1:13:38.240 --> 1:13:38.600
<v Speaker 2>send it.

1:13:43.320 --> 1:13:45.880
<v Speaker 4>Like, Hey guys, my first.

1:13:48.600 --> 1:13:49.439
<v Speaker 1>All right, y'all.

1:13:50.920 --> 1:13:52.040
<v Speaker 2>Tell everybody where.

1:13:51.880 --> 1:13:54.280
<v Speaker 4>They can find all the things plug yourself.

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<v Speaker 2>Yes, So you can follow me on Instagram, TikTok, and

1:13:59.320 --> 1:14:02.840
<v Speaker 2>YouTube at the Professional Homegirl. Also, if you want to

1:14:02.880 --> 1:14:05.639
<v Speaker 2>key key about any of the episodes on the podcast,

1:14:05.760 --> 1:14:08.879
<v Speaker 2>you can follow me at the p HG podcast on Instagram.

1:14:09.760 --> 1:14:11.000
<v Speaker 4>And that's pretty much it.

1:14:11.120 --> 1:14:14.040
<v Speaker 2>You can listen to The Professional Homegirl. New episode drops

1:14:14.080 --> 1:14:16.360
<v Speaker 2>every Tuesday on Black effects.

1:14:16.880 --> 1:14:22.160
<v Speaker 4>Yea, thank you for you're great gest. We appreciate you.

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<v Speaker 1>Show.

1:14:26.160 --> 1:14:27.559
<v Speaker 2>Yeah, we want to come on your ship too.

1:14:29.400 --> 1:14:31.400
<v Speaker 4>Yes, please give me some stories.

1:14:32.360 --> 1:14:35.560
<v Speaker 2>Oh, you're gonna have the You're gonna have the Not

1:14:35.680 --> 1:14:39.000
<v Speaker 2>only you have my voice in my face. You can't

1:14:39.080 --> 1:14:42.559
<v Speaker 2>just be my face. You got to be the voice too. Yeah,

1:14:43.520 --> 1:14:49.519
<v Speaker 2>because I need these stories too, because I need to

1:14:49.640 --> 1:14:53.000
<v Speaker 2>know he j Man went away for a year because we.

1:14:53.040 --> 1:14:54.679
<v Speaker 1>Were slinging them things.

1:14:57.280 --> 1:14:59.840
<v Speaker 4>Look, you don't even gotta you ain't even gotta blur.

1:15:01.439 --> 1:15:05.559
<v Speaker 3>Love drugs, not serious love drugs, most slight work, that's whatever.

1:15:05.760 --> 1:15:08.240
<v Speaker 3>They arrested that nigga thought he was chopple with somebody

1:15:08.280 --> 1:15:11.160
<v Speaker 3>because they had his whole race down a Cuban.

1:15:11.320 --> 1:15:12.080
<v Speaker 1>This is a nigga.

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<v Speaker 4>He looked Cuban though.

1:15:16.040 --> 1:15:16.400
<v Speaker 1>That's why.

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<v Speaker 2>And you know what, I want to also tell y'all congratulations.

1:15:19.120 --> 1:15:21.280
<v Speaker 2>I feel like I've been following y'all since day one,

1:15:22.080 --> 1:15:24.560
<v Speaker 2>and I'm just super proud of y'all. I feel like

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<v Speaker 2>from where y'all was at to where y'all at.

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<v Speaker 4>Look at y'all, selid. I think from where y'all let

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<v Speaker 4>where y'all from, where y'all starts, where y'all.

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<v Speaker 2>At now, y'all have definitely made a lot of progress,

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<v Speaker 2>and I was so excited to see y'all in the

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<v Speaker 2>breakfast club.

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<v Speaker 1>So thank you girl.

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<v Speaker 4>We appreciate that. Anytime he has accolates for me, I'll

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<v Speaker 4>get grinning real hard.

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<v Speaker 1>Yes, I love it. Thank you, Eban, We got the

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<v Speaker 1>professional home girl.

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<v Speaker 4>Y'all.

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<v Speaker 3>Tune into Ebane's podcast again. Like I said, she's on

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<v Speaker 3>death row right along with us. I'm just playing Black

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<v Speaker 3>Effect Execs slash On.

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<v Speaker 1>Anyway, y'all.

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<v Speaker 3>If you enjoyed this episode, tune in every Thursday on

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<v Speaker 1>This your grade A bay AJ Holiday AJ Holiday two

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<v Speaker 1>point oh.

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<v Speaker 4>I love y'all. I love y'all.

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<v Speaker 2>Thank y'all for tuning in once again. It's official Tambama

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