1 00:00:00,840 --> 00:00:04,480 Speaker 1: This is The Eds with Eddie Judge and Edwin Aroyavi. 2 00:00:05,160 --> 00:00:08,000 Speaker 2: The husbands know best a too cheese production. 3 00:00:08,920 --> 00:00:13,520 Speaker 1: All right, So because it's wedding season, it's time to 4 00:00:13,600 --> 00:00:15,960 Speaker 1: talk a little bit about what the guys think about, 5 00:00:16,239 --> 00:00:19,119 Speaker 1: you know, weddings and anniversaries. And you know, we talked 6 00:00:19,120 --> 00:00:23,000 Speaker 1: about my televice proposal and wedding experience with my wife 7 00:00:23,040 --> 00:00:26,599 Speaker 1: on TV, which is an amazing experience. And we touched 8 00:00:26,600 --> 00:00:29,159 Speaker 1: a little bit about you getting married in Paris. But 9 00:00:29,240 --> 00:00:32,120 Speaker 1: I'd like to learn a little bit more about your 10 00:00:32,520 --> 00:00:37,040 Speaker 1: journey to Paris and did you ask John for permission 11 00:00:37,080 --> 00:00:40,640 Speaker 1: to get married for her hand? And how did you 12 00:00:40,680 --> 00:00:42,960 Speaker 1: propose to her? And what was tell me all about 13 00:00:42,960 --> 00:00:46,199 Speaker 1: the wedding in Paris. That sounds like an amazing experience. Yeah, 14 00:00:46,240 --> 00:00:48,400 Speaker 1: But the funny thing is I was always afraid of 15 00:00:48,400 --> 00:00:51,080 Speaker 1: getting married. That was actually one of my biggest fears. 16 00:00:51,159 --> 00:00:54,800 Speaker 1: And it was because at least sixty or seventy percent 17 00:00:54,920 --> 00:00:58,040 Speaker 1: of my friends that got married were getting a divorce, right, 18 00:00:58,600 --> 00:01:00,600 Speaker 1: and I was just trying to. 19 00:01:00,640 --> 00:01:04,200 Speaker 2: In my head, maybe I'd get married at like forty 20 00:01:04,240 --> 00:01:07,240 Speaker 2: five or something like that. Anyway, Teddy and I get 21 00:01:07,240 --> 00:01:11,920 Speaker 2: pretty serious, and you know, the talk comes up of 22 00:01:12,280 --> 00:01:16,080 Speaker 2: should we get married, should we not? And I remember 23 00:01:16,120 --> 00:01:21,160 Speaker 2: thinking to myself at the time. I told Teddy, I'm like, look, 24 00:01:21,800 --> 00:01:25,160 Speaker 2: I do want to get married, but like I take 25 00:01:25,240 --> 00:01:27,160 Speaker 2: care of my entire family, like I've been taking care 26 00:01:27,200 --> 00:01:30,959 Speaker 2: of my family since I was fifteen. I'm like, what 27 00:01:31,080 --> 00:01:36,120 Speaker 2: if you wake up five years from now and you 28 00:01:36,160 --> 00:01:37,840 Speaker 2: don't want to be married to me? Like now, I 29 00:01:37,840 --> 00:01:41,440 Speaker 2: got to give you half my stuff, And I said, 30 00:01:41,560 --> 00:01:44,640 Speaker 2: I don't have John Mellencamp money yet. And you know, 31 00:01:44,760 --> 00:01:47,960 Speaker 2: John could afford to get divorced for three, three four 32 00:01:48,040 --> 00:01:51,040 Speaker 2: different times. I'm like, I can't if I get divorced 33 00:01:51,040 --> 00:01:53,080 Speaker 2: one time, I'm losing half my stuff. I got to 34 00:01:53,080 --> 00:01:56,040 Speaker 2: take care of my mom. Blah blah blah. So she's like, 35 00:01:56,440 --> 00:02:00,440 Speaker 2: I don't care about your money, and I'm like, all right, answer, 36 00:02:01,040 --> 00:02:03,680 Speaker 2: And so that put me a little more at peace, 37 00:02:03,760 --> 00:02:06,520 Speaker 2: and she's just like, don't touch my money. It's like, mho, 38 00:02:07,400 --> 00:02:10,040 Speaker 2: we got we got a deal. But I was still 39 00:02:10,040 --> 00:02:13,640 Speaker 2: freaking out, and I remember going back and forth and 40 00:02:13,680 --> 00:02:17,800 Speaker 2: finally I told her, look, I can't marry. I'm just 41 00:02:18,480 --> 00:02:22,200 Speaker 2: I can't. And you know, I remember it was a 42 00:02:22,200 --> 00:02:25,240 Speaker 2: tough night that night because she cried. I cried, I'm 43 00:02:25,280 --> 00:02:29,079 Speaker 2: just like I can't do it. And the next day 44 00:02:29,080 --> 00:02:32,240 Speaker 2: I'm driving and I thought to myself, what am I 45 00:02:32,320 --> 00:02:35,520 Speaker 2: so scared of? Like I've always been sort of a 46 00:02:35,639 --> 00:02:39,280 Speaker 2: risk taker, and why am I so afraid on this? 47 00:02:40,440 --> 00:02:42,520 Speaker 2: And I already know I want to marry her? Like 48 00:02:42,560 --> 00:02:46,280 Speaker 2: what am I trying to? Why am I waiting? And 49 00:02:46,639 --> 00:02:49,200 Speaker 2: there was this start in my head though that was like, Okay, 50 00:02:49,840 --> 00:02:51,440 Speaker 2: well maybe if I buy the rank, I could buy 51 00:02:51,440 --> 00:02:55,800 Speaker 2: myself some time and you know, maybe we'll get married 52 00:02:55,840 --> 00:02:59,720 Speaker 2: two years after. But screw it, I'm by the ranks. 53 00:02:59,720 --> 00:03:05,080 Speaker 2: I went, I bought the ring and I called John 54 00:03:05,440 --> 00:03:07,120 Speaker 2: and I just basically said, hey, John, I want to 55 00:03:07,120 --> 00:03:09,799 Speaker 2: marry your daughter and I think she's the best thing 56 00:03:09,800 --> 00:03:14,120 Speaker 2: that's ever happened to me, and I'm going to take 57 00:03:14,160 --> 00:03:17,880 Speaker 2: care of her and you got my word that I'm 58 00:03:17,880 --> 00:03:20,840 Speaker 2: going to be the best husband possible. And he was 59 00:03:21,320 --> 00:03:24,640 Speaker 2: he was like, yeah, you know, I if that's what 60 00:03:24,680 --> 00:03:28,079 Speaker 2: you guys want to do. I fully supported, and then 61 00:03:28,080 --> 00:03:30,880 Speaker 2: I ended up proposing to her. I bought her a nice, 62 00:03:30,919 --> 00:03:34,320 Speaker 2: I think Gucci jacket, and I put the ring in 63 00:03:34,480 --> 00:03:38,000 Speaker 2: the jacket and I proposed in front of my entire 64 00:03:38,760 --> 00:03:42,480 Speaker 2: family when we were living out in Woodland Hills. It's 65 00:03:42,520 --> 00:03:45,600 Speaker 2: a special moment. But then then we don't have a date. 66 00:03:46,240 --> 00:03:48,600 Speaker 2: Right in my head, I'm thinking the date's going to 67 00:03:48,600 --> 00:03:50,880 Speaker 2: be two years later, right, And that buys me a 68 00:03:50,880 --> 00:03:53,760 Speaker 2: little time again because I'm just it was a me thing. 69 00:03:53,800 --> 00:03:54,680 Speaker 2: It wasn't a Teddy thing. 70 00:03:54,720 --> 00:03:56,760 Speaker 1: I was just scared, right. 71 00:03:57,160 --> 00:03:59,960 Speaker 2: And then of course we go around and you know, 72 00:04:00,000 --> 00:04:04,400 Speaker 2: everybody's congratulating us on the engagement, but what do you think? 73 00:04:04,400 --> 00:04:07,920 Speaker 2: The first question is when you get engaged, when's doa 74 00:04:08,040 --> 00:04:13,320 Speaker 2: any and our answer was we don't know. So then 75 00:04:13,400 --> 00:04:16,920 Speaker 2: Teddy's like, you know, I feel really stupid that we 76 00:04:16,960 --> 00:04:20,080 Speaker 2: don't have a date. I'm like, oh, here we go, 77 00:04:20,880 --> 00:04:23,400 Speaker 2: so we still don't have a date. Anyway. Six months later, 78 00:04:24,400 --> 00:04:29,000 Speaker 2: we're about to her dad's going on a tour in Europe, 79 00:04:29,800 --> 00:04:33,320 Speaker 2: and Teddy's like, you know what, why don't we get 80 00:04:33,360 --> 00:04:35,920 Speaker 2: married in Paris. My dad's going to be touring, it's 81 00:04:36,000 --> 00:04:38,240 Speaker 2: fourth to July is going to be in Paris. We 82 00:04:38,240 --> 00:04:41,719 Speaker 2: can just get married fourth to July. And then my 83 00:04:41,920 --> 00:04:44,000 Speaker 2: dream was always if I ever did have a wedding, 84 00:04:44,600 --> 00:04:47,400 Speaker 2: I'd have it. I'd have what do you call those 85 00:04:47,400 --> 00:04:53,400 Speaker 2: weddings when you fly out and get away wedding and where, yeah, where, 86 00:04:53,680 --> 00:04:55,279 Speaker 2: It's just a few of us, and I don't have 87 00:04:55,320 --> 00:04:57,960 Speaker 2: to worry about who I invited, who I didn't invite. 88 00:04:58,080 --> 00:05:00,160 Speaker 2: I just kind of wanted to do it quick. You 89 00:05:00,160 --> 00:05:05,040 Speaker 2: have twenty close people. And that's exactly what ended up happening. 90 00:05:05,200 --> 00:05:08,559 Speaker 2: And we took off to Paris, but two weeks prior 91 00:05:08,600 --> 00:05:11,200 Speaker 2: to leaving. I mean, this is how freaked out I was. 92 00:05:13,279 --> 00:05:16,080 Speaker 2: I wake up in the middle of the night and 93 00:05:16,200 --> 00:05:19,640 Speaker 2: I can't move my entire left side of my body, 94 00:05:20,920 --> 00:05:22,640 Speaker 2: like I'm thinking I'm having it and I'm probably in 95 00:05:22,640 --> 00:05:26,800 Speaker 2: one of the best shapes in my life. And it 96 00:05:26,880 --> 00:05:29,040 Speaker 2: must have been at least a minute to two minutes. 97 00:05:29,080 --> 00:05:31,320 Speaker 2: I couldn't move the entire left side of my body, 98 00:05:31,720 --> 00:05:33,560 Speaker 2: and I felt like I was having a heart attack. 99 00:05:34,360 --> 00:05:36,080 Speaker 2: And I remember saying, like, God, don't let me go 100 00:05:36,120 --> 00:05:37,799 Speaker 2: out like this. And I'm trying to wake up Teddy, 101 00:05:37,800 --> 00:05:41,559 Speaker 2: but I can't talk. It's just it's weird. I can't move, 102 00:05:42,640 --> 00:05:45,240 Speaker 2: so I go to the hospital. I spent the entire 103 00:05:45,320 --> 00:05:48,839 Speaker 2: day in that hospital. I had to wear a heart 104 00:05:48,880 --> 00:05:52,280 Speaker 2: monitor for an entire week just to find out what 105 00:05:52,400 --> 00:05:54,400 Speaker 2: was wrong. With my heart because my whole left arm 106 00:05:54,440 --> 00:05:58,200 Speaker 2: went numb. Well it was eight days. So I did 107 00:05:58,200 --> 00:06:01,120 Speaker 2: that for an entire week, and it turns out I 108 00:06:01,160 --> 00:06:05,640 Speaker 2: had a panic attack. I've never I've never had that 109 00:06:05,720 --> 00:06:08,599 Speaker 2: in my life, and I've dealt with a lot of 110 00:06:08,640 --> 00:06:12,719 Speaker 2: stressful situations. By the way, that's never ever happened to me, 111 00:06:12,760 --> 00:06:15,080 Speaker 2: and God will it will never happen to me again. 112 00:06:15,600 --> 00:06:19,040 Speaker 2: But that's how freaked out I was. And Teddy's like, 113 00:06:19,040 --> 00:06:21,279 Speaker 2: maybe we shouldn't fled, Like, no, we're going to get married. 114 00:06:21,960 --> 00:06:26,240 Speaker 2: So then cut to we're in Paris and we're having 115 00:06:26,279 --> 00:06:31,479 Speaker 2: a great time. We're about to get married, and you 116 00:06:31,560 --> 00:06:34,240 Speaker 2: know the part, I can't make this up. I put 117 00:06:34,240 --> 00:06:38,080 Speaker 2: this on everything. I had, put my alarm back then 118 00:06:38,120 --> 00:06:39,800 Speaker 2: I used to wake up at six am. Well six 119 00:06:39,839 --> 00:06:43,960 Speaker 2: am is two pm in Paris, right, so we're about 120 00:06:44,000 --> 00:06:46,640 Speaker 2: to get married. We walk out and the eye blah 121 00:06:46,680 --> 00:06:49,680 Speaker 2: blah blah. It's really nice. We were on top of 122 00:06:49,839 --> 00:06:52,240 Speaker 2: some roof at some hotel and so we're looking the 123 00:06:52,279 --> 00:06:55,920 Speaker 2: Eiffel Tower. So we took these beautiful pictures. I got 124 00:06:55,920 --> 00:06:59,039 Speaker 2: to fly out my family, so my siblings, my mom 125 00:06:59,120 --> 00:07:01,279 Speaker 2: came out. They'd never been Europe, so it was just 126 00:07:01,360 --> 00:07:07,279 Speaker 2: perfect right. And who organized it all? I mean Eddy 127 00:07:07,839 --> 00:07:10,280 Speaker 2: ed he found someone in Paris and they did just 128 00:07:10,640 --> 00:07:14,320 Speaker 2: a great job just organizing the entire thing. It's funny 129 00:07:14,720 --> 00:07:17,960 Speaker 2: my mom, who doesn't speak Spanish, I mean doesn't speak English. 130 00:07:18,040 --> 00:07:21,200 Speaker 2: My mama doesn't speak a lick of English, is hanging 131 00:07:21,240 --> 00:07:24,800 Speaker 2: out with Meg Ryan and they're talking. My sister's like 132 00:07:24,840 --> 00:07:26,400 Speaker 2: hanging out with her. I remember, I remember we used 133 00:07:26,440 --> 00:07:28,280 Speaker 2: to watch your movies and like, oh, shoot, now my 134 00:07:28,320 --> 00:07:34,840 Speaker 2: mom's talking to Meg Ryan. I'm like, that's that's pretty cool, right. Anyway, 135 00:07:34,960 --> 00:07:37,000 Speaker 2: you know the part when you're getting married and they say, 136 00:07:37,040 --> 00:07:40,880 Speaker 2: if anybody of Jack's or whatever that's whatever that phrase is, 137 00:07:41,480 --> 00:07:45,320 Speaker 2: I kid you not. As he's saying that, myles, I'm 138 00:07:45,360 --> 00:07:48,160 Speaker 2: about to start crying, and I'm like, I did not 139 00:07:48,280 --> 00:07:51,520 Speaker 2: want to cry at my wedding, but I'm feeling I'm like, damn, 140 00:07:51,520 --> 00:07:55,760 Speaker 2: I'm gonna start crying like crazy right now. And he says, 141 00:07:55,800 --> 00:07:59,680 Speaker 2: does anybody of Jack blah blah blah. My alarm goes 142 00:07:59,680 --> 00:08:05,040 Speaker 2: off and in my head, I'm thinking, is this guy 143 00:08:05,160 --> 00:08:09,080 Speaker 2: telling me not to get married? So there's this picture 144 00:08:09,080 --> 00:08:12,320 Speaker 2: of Teddy and I and we're just dying of like, 145 00:08:12,360 --> 00:08:16,120 Speaker 2: we just started immediately laughing because when my alarm went off, 146 00:08:16,560 --> 00:08:23,040 Speaker 2: John's like, you gotta be shitting mate, We just started laughing. Anyway, 147 00:08:23,080 --> 00:08:28,720 Speaker 2: we end up getting married and we had a blast. 148 00:08:28,720 --> 00:08:30,560 Speaker 2: My family had a blast. Some of the best pictures 149 00:08:30,560 --> 00:08:33,360 Speaker 2: we've ever taken were there and it's a special moment. 150 00:08:33,559 --> 00:08:34,600 Speaker 1: How many people were there? 151 00:08:35,520 --> 00:08:39,720 Speaker 2: Twenty of us, so it was Teddy's immediate family and 152 00:08:39,760 --> 00:08:42,360 Speaker 2: then it was my immediate family, so there's probably eighteen 153 00:08:42,520 --> 00:08:46,240 Speaker 2: twenty people there. And then our honeymoon was basically going 154 00:08:46,280 --> 00:08:49,840 Speaker 2: around with John all over Europe while he was touring. 155 00:08:50,160 --> 00:08:50,880 Speaker 1: How long was that? 156 00:08:51,520 --> 00:08:53,959 Speaker 2: It's probably a good ten day. So when we went 157 00:08:54,000 --> 00:09:00,120 Speaker 2: to Germany, we went to Milan, we went to Florin, 158 00:09:00,240 --> 00:09:04,400 Speaker 2: we went to England. Where else should we go? We 159 00:09:04,440 --> 00:09:06,079 Speaker 2: went to a bunch of places where he was touring. 160 00:09:06,160 --> 00:09:08,400 Speaker 2: It was cool because everywhere we went we got the 161 00:09:08,400 --> 00:09:09,320 Speaker 2: red carpet treatment. 162 00:09:09,400 --> 00:09:15,240 Speaker 1: So wow, what is awesome experience? Yeah, yep, but. 163 00:09:15,840 --> 00:09:20,960 Speaker 2: Art monitor and my alarm went off, and it's worked 164 00:09:20,960 --> 00:09:23,160 Speaker 2: out so far. It's gonna be fifteenth. This will be 165 00:09:23,360 --> 00:09:31,240 Speaker 2: our fifteenth year together and it's thirteen years married in 166 00:09:31,360 --> 00:09:34,280 Speaker 2: our anniversaries fourth of July, so it's kind of hard 167 00:09:34,320 --> 00:09:36,360 Speaker 2: to forget that one. Yeah. 168 00:09:36,679 --> 00:09:39,000 Speaker 1: Yeah, So you get to celebrate for the July and 169 00:09:39,040 --> 00:09:41,120 Speaker 1: your anniversary every year. 170 00:09:41,760 --> 00:09:44,000 Speaker 2: And then her birthday is on the first, so you 171 00:09:44,080 --> 00:09:45,400 Speaker 2: got the first and the fourth. 172 00:09:45,800 --> 00:09:46,839 Speaker 1: Oh my gosh. 173 00:09:47,080 --> 00:09:50,120 Speaker 2: So I kind of get away with just an entire 174 00:09:50,160 --> 00:09:54,239 Speaker 2: weekend whether and just you know, yeah, and it's fireworks 175 00:09:54,240 --> 00:09:59,160 Speaker 2: every year. It's fir Secret year. Exactly. That's fantastic. 176 00:09:59,640 --> 00:10:01,600 Speaker 1: That's gonna be a hard one not to forget, you know, 177 00:10:01,640 --> 00:10:05,320 Speaker 1: it's for the July, come on, yeah, exactly, and it's 178 00:10:05,360 --> 00:10:06,320 Speaker 1: Independence Day. 179 00:10:06,679 --> 00:10:09,400 Speaker 2: I can't believe how fast it goes, though. How long 180 00:10:09,440 --> 00:10:10,240 Speaker 2: have you guys been together? 181 00:10:10,280 --> 00:10:13,400 Speaker 1: By the way, we have been together thirteen years married, 182 00:10:13,440 --> 00:10:18,480 Speaker 1: ten And I always whenever somebody asked me that questions, 183 00:10:18,559 --> 00:10:23,800 Speaker 1: I always realized that these last not just ten years married, 184 00:10:23,840 --> 00:10:26,640 Speaker 1: but that the whole thirteen years have gone by so 185 00:10:27,200 --> 00:10:30,920 Speaker 1: freaking fast, like almost like I feel like I just 186 00:10:31,080 --> 00:10:33,360 Speaker 1: met her last year and we're still just trying to 187 00:10:33,400 --> 00:10:35,400 Speaker 1: figure out, you know, what are we going to do 188 00:10:35,440 --> 00:10:38,400 Speaker 1: with our life together? Right, But there's been so much 189 00:10:38,440 --> 00:10:42,640 Speaker 1: that's happened, and I think big part of it is 190 00:10:42,679 --> 00:10:46,679 Speaker 1: because she's been on TV for so long. Yeah, we've 191 00:10:46,840 --> 00:10:51,080 Speaker 1: lived this crazy world wind of life where we're walking 192 00:10:51,120 --> 00:10:56,679 Speaker 1: red carpets, we're attending, you know, high level events, we're 193 00:10:56,679 --> 00:11:02,679 Speaker 1: invited to these great VIP experiences, you know, traveling. I 194 00:11:02,720 --> 00:11:05,240 Speaker 1: was traveling a lot when I first met her, and 195 00:11:05,360 --> 00:11:13,040 Speaker 1: I just take her on my trips to you know, Brazil, Europe, 196 00:11:13,640 --> 00:11:15,600 Speaker 1: anywhere in the world that I could go, I would 197 00:11:15,600 --> 00:11:18,000 Speaker 1: take her with me. And I think that's one of 198 00:11:18,000 --> 00:11:21,679 Speaker 1: the things that we missed mostly about, you know, since 199 00:11:21,920 --> 00:11:25,640 Speaker 1: since COVID and COVID shutting down the world, we missed 200 00:11:25,679 --> 00:11:29,320 Speaker 1: traveling that much like we used to. But that's that 201 00:11:29,440 --> 00:11:31,160 Speaker 1: was one of the things that just made our life. 202 00:11:31,320 --> 00:11:34,400 Speaker 1: Just our relationships just go by so fast. You know, 203 00:11:34,880 --> 00:11:37,000 Speaker 1: how long were you guys together before you decided to 204 00:11:37,880 --> 00:11:38,640 Speaker 1: ask her to marry you? 205 00:11:39,679 --> 00:11:40,880 Speaker 2: Three years? Three years? 206 00:11:40,960 --> 00:11:44,400 Speaker 1: So, like I said, we met and it was probably 207 00:11:44,400 --> 00:11:48,800 Speaker 1: about a month after she left her ex and moved 208 00:11:48,800 --> 00:11:52,120 Speaker 1: down on Rome that we started dating. And it was fun. 209 00:11:52,160 --> 00:11:55,520 Speaker 1: It was just never never thought I would be marrying her, 210 00:11:55,840 --> 00:11:59,439 Speaker 1: you know. It was just such a chemistry between us 211 00:11:59,520 --> 00:12:05,199 Speaker 1: and easy talking and and just time spent together was 212 00:12:05,240 --> 00:12:09,920 Speaker 1: so nice and relaxing, and everything just kind of made 213 00:12:09,960 --> 00:12:12,640 Speaker 1: sense when we took it's little by little, one step 214 00:12:12,679 --> 00:12:16,559 Speaker 1: at a time where she moved out, she stabilized her herself, 215 00:12:16,600 --> 00:12:19,000 Speaker 1: and then she stabilized her kids, you know, going through 216 00:12:19,000 --> 00:12:21,840 Speaker 1: the whole divorce. It's just it was a nightmare, right, 217 00:12:21,840 --> 00:12:24,079 Speaker 1: And she lived on her own for a couple of years. 218 00:12:24,120 --> 00:12:28,640 Speaker 1: I think before we started talking about marriage, and if 219 00:12:28,720 --> 00:12:30,720 Speaker 1: you remember, we were talking about just having a little 220 00:12:31,200 --> 00:12:34,120 Speaker 1: beach wedding with a few people, and then producers found 221 00:12:34,160 --> 00:12:36,840 Speaker 1: out and we ended up having this giant, enormous wedding, 222 00:12:38,400 --> 00:12:40,640 Speaker 1: which I don't regret at all. It was an incredible wedding. 223 00:12:41,559 --> 00:12:45,480 Speaker 1: But then she moved in, and you know, well before 224 00:12:45,520 --> 00:12:49,319 Speaker 1: she moved in, she her her son, her oldest son, 225 00:12:49,360 --> 00:12:52,160 Speaker 1: had a pitbull named Bronx that you know, needed a 226 00:12:52,160 --> 00:12:54,400 Speaker 1: home because he was moving into an apartment. And I 227 00:12:54,400 --> 00:12:57,840 Speaker 1: had just bought this house here in Ladera, and you know, 228 00:12:57,920 --> 00:13:01,280 Speaker 1: being single and living in this and I decked it 229 00:13:01,280 --> 00:13:03,920 Speaker 1: out with you know, darkwood floors and you know, the 230 00:13:04,000 --> 00:13:06,199 Speaker 1: brand new house. So I was all really proud of it. 231 00:13:06,400 --> 00:13:08,680 Speaker 1: Nothing was out of place, and I was real anal 232 00:13:08,720 --> 00:13:11,320 Speaker 1: at the time. And she says, hey, have a dog. 233 00:13:11,400 --> 00:13:13,120 Speaker 1: Can you have a dog, because you know we're going 234 00:13:13,200 --> 00:13:15,600 Speaker 1: to need a dog for Spencer. When when he moves 235 00:13:15,600 --> 00:13:17,559 Speaker 1: in with us, you know, or moves into the house, 236 00:13:18,120 --> 00:13:20,320 Speaker 1: I'm like, okay, but he's going to be an outdoor dog. 237 00:13:20,559 --> 00:13:23,480 Speaker 1: He's not going to be inside. And sure enough, it 238 00:13:23,520 --> 00:13:25,600 Speaker 1: took about a week before I fell in love with 239 00:13:25,600 --> 00:13:28,520 Speaker 1: the dog, and I think I slept with them one time, 240 00:13:28,679 --> 00:13:31,000 Speaker 1: and I'm like, yeah, no, I can't sleep with the dog. 241 00:13:31,040 --> 00:13:31,440 Speaker 2: Forget it. 242 00:13:31,559 --> 00:13:33,079 Speaker 1: You know, I love you, but you're gonna have to 243 00:13:33,120 --> 00:13:36,280 Speaker 1: sleep downstairs or in your cage. And he ended up 244 00:13:36,360 --> 00:13:39,600 Speaker 1: ruling the house and ruining my floors and ruining the backyard. 245 00:13:40,240 --> 00:13:43,400 Speaker 1: But he brought so much love and so much stability 246 00:13:43,400 --> 00:13:48,840 Speaker 1: to the family, particularly because he was he became basically 247 00:13:48,960 --> 00:13:52,320 Speaker 1: Spencer's dog. He slept with Spencer the entire time that 248 00:13:52,360 --> 00:13:55,120 Speaker 1: he was with us, and he was just an amazing dog. 249 00:13:55,160 --> 00:13:58,520 Speaker 1: But that was probably our biggest connection with between me 250 00:13:58,559 --> 00:14:01,360 Speaker 1: and the kids, was that dog, right, that dog that 251 00:14:01,520 --> 00:14:04,520 Speaker 1: just you know, brought us together and made us a family. 252 00:14:05,000 --> 00:14:08,720 Speaker 1: It was a it was a smooth but rough transition 253 00:14:08,840 --> 00:14:11,760 Speaker 1: because the divorce was just an ugly divorce. The guy 254 00:14:11,920 --> 00:14:14,520 Speaker 1: was really using the kids to try to get to 255 00:14:14,640 --> 00:14:17,960 Speaker 1: Tamra and he didn't give a shit about their mental 256 00:14:18,480 --> 00:14:20,720 Speaker 1: health or you know what the effects were going to 257 00:14:20,760 --> 00:14:24,320 Speaker 1: be on them. So it was really hard on the 258 00:14:24,400 --> 00:14:27,360 Speaker 1: kids because of that. Otherwise, you know, it could have 259 00:14:27,400 --> 00:14:29,760 Speaker 1: been easy. He could have gone his way. She obviously 260 00:14:29,840 --> 00:14:31,560 Speaker 1: was happy in her relationship, and the kids would have 261 00:14:31,600 --> 00:14:34,280 Speaker 1: been great and they would have got it. But it 262 00:14:34,360 --> 00:14:38,720 Speaker 1: was such an ugly public divorce that I really didn't 263 00:14:38,720 --> 00:14:42,200 Speaker 1: even see. We both didn't really see ourselves getting married 264 00:14:42,240 --> 00:14:44,880 Speaker 1: because it was such an ugly public divorce. You know, 265 00:14:44,960 --> 00:14:47,760 Speaker 1: it just didn't really makes sense to do that. And 266 00:14:47,800 --> 00:14:50,880 Speaker 1: that's probably the biggest reasons why we wanted to just 267 00:14:50,920 --> 00:14:54,360 Speaker 1: have a small little wedding without announcing it to the world. 268 00:14:54,400 --> 00:14:57,640 Speaker 1: You know, our lives are already on a platform and 269 00:14:57,800 --> 00:15:00,320 Speaker 1: everything is out there that she does, and she doesn't 270 00:15:00,320 --> 00:15:02,640 Speaker 1: hold back, as you know, she just puts it all 271 00:15:02,680 --> 00:15:05,400 Speaker 1: out there, and I'm like, there's got to be some 272 00:15:05,480 --> 00:15:07,240 Speaker 1: sort of you know, privacy here. 273 00:15:08,800 --> 00:15:11,320 Speaker 2: By the way, did you guys do uh prenup or 274 00:15:11,320 --> 00:15:11,880 Speaker 2: no prenup? 275 00:15:12,480 --> 00:15:15,120 Speaker 1: We did not do a prenup. You know, it just 276 00:15:15,320 --> 00:15:19,800 Speaker 1: it didn't make any sense, and I think from our 277 00:15:19,880 --> 00:15:23,840 Speaker 1: generation it didn't. It was it was a negative connotation 278 00:15:24,000 --> 00:15:25,880 Speaker 1: to have a prenup. Right. It was like, well, if 279 00:15:25,880 --> 00:15:27,720 Speaker 1: you don't trust me, I don't trust you. And it 280 00:15:27,800 --> 00:15:30,160 Speaker 1: was one of those things like plus, I mean, I 281 00:15:30,200 --> 00:15:32,040 Speaker 1: didn't have a lot. I had a house, I had 282 00:15:32,040 --> 00:15:34,000 Speaker 1: a career, and you know I had money in the bank, 283 00:15:34,040 --> 00:15:38,280 Speaker 1: but I didn't have I wasn't wealthy, so it didn't 284 00:15:38,640 --> 00:15:40,160 Speaker 1: matter to me. And of course she was on a 285 00:15:40,200 --> 00:15:43,120 Speaker 1: show and she's on her way to making a lot 286 00:15:43,160 --> 00:15:45,720 Speaker 1: of money. But she said, no, I don't. I don't 287 00:15:45,760 --> 00:15:48,880 Speaker 1: think this is something that applies to us. So, yeah, 288 00:15:49,000 --> 00:15:50,320 Speaker 1: you know, we had a prenup. 289 00:15:50,720 --> 00:15:52,240 Speaker 2: I was going to ask you that, you know. So 290 00:15:53,800 --> 00:15:55,720 Speaker 2: that was the whole That was the whole conversation. That's 291 00:15:55,760 --> 00:15:57,520 Speaker 2: that's when I go, all right, I'm in. And I said, look, 292 00:15:57,800 --> 00:16:01,600 Speaker 2: if we do a prenup, we're good. And I won't 293 00:16:01,600 --> 00:16:04,720 Speaker 2: get any of your money. You know, whatever John leaves you, 294 00:16:04,720 --> 00:16:07,360 Speaker 2: you don't touch any of my money. And but the 295 00:16:07,400 --> 00:16:09,320 Speaker 2: funny part is, you know, now we've been married over 296 00:16:09,360 --> 00:16:12,440 Speaker 2: ten years. She always reminds me that, I guess after 297 00:16:12,480 --> 00:16:15,960 Speaker 2: you've been married for ten years that preenam goes away. 298 00:16:16,760 --> 00:16:19,760 Speaker 2: And it's so funny because the prenum was a very 299 00:16:19,760 --> 00:16:24,920 Speaker 2: aggressive one and like just freaked out. But it also, 300 00:16:25,360 --> 00:16:28,000 Speaker 2: I guess, showed me that she didn't really care about it. 301 00:16:28,000 --> 00:16:30,240 Speaker 2: And obviously she's got her own money, right, so she 302 00:16:30,280 --> 00:16:32,880 Speaker 2: doesn't really care. But that was kind of a big 303 00:16:32,880 --> 00:16:37,360 Speaker 2: deal for me that she would. And yeah, she reminds 304 00:16:37,400 --> 00:16:39,600 Speaker 2: me all the time. You know, it's it's over ten years. 305 00:16:39,600 --> 00:16:43,000 Speaker 2: I could take all your shit if I want, so, 306 00:16:43,760 --> 00:16:47,080 Speaker 2: she likes to remind me. It's a California law, which 307 00:16:47,120 --> 00:16:50,440 Speaker 2: I haven't even checked it, but apparently it is. So yeah, 308 00:16:50,640 --> 00:16:51,680 Speaker 2: that thing went by. 309 00:16:51,560 --> 00:16:54,880 Speaker 1: By from my understanding, and I don't know how the 310 00:16:54,920 --> 00:16:57,560 Speaker 1: prenums work. I assumed it was kind of an iron 311 00:16:57,600 --> 00:17:00,320 Speaker 1: clad log like, hey, this is I keep what I 312 00:17:00,400 --> 00:17:02,760 Speaker 1: have at the time of the marriage, and you keep 313 00:17:02,760 --> 00:17:05,199 Speaker 1: what you have at the time of our marriage. And 314 00:17:05,240 --> 00:17:07,960 Speaker 1: then you add in some things like if you know. 315 00:17:08,080 --> 00:17:10,439 Speaker 2: You forgot you were you were in law before. 316 00:17:10,560 --> 00:17:13,560 Speaker 1: Yeah, so if you inherit, you know, money from your 317 00:17:13,640 --> 00:17:16,080 Speaker 1: family you added into the prenup that you get to 318 00:17:16,160 --> 00:17:18,840 Speaker 1: keep it. And obviously I don't know if you had 319 00:17:18,840 --> 00:17:21,919 Speaker 1: any inheritance coming to you, but whatever you had at 320 00:17:21,960 --> 00:17:25,439 Speaker 1: the time is going to be yours when you got married. 321 00:17:25,440 --> 00:17:27,040 Speaker 1: And that's like I said, I all I had was 322 00:17:27,080 --> 00:17:30,000 Speaker 1: a house in a you know, a bank account and 323 00:17:30,200 --> 00:17:33,000 Speaker 1: a job. So I was doing very well and it 324 00:17:33,119 --> 00:17:37,040 Speaker 1: just didn't make any sense that a prenup would protect 325 00:17:37,119 --> 00:17:40,199 Speaker 1: us or protect her from from what you know, But 326 00:17:40,320 --> 00:17:42,960 Speaker 1: for you, I guess you know. What I learned in 327 00:17:43,560 --> 00:17:48,120 Speaker 1: this whole divorce thing is if you are together without 328 00:17:48,200 --> 00:17:52,160 Speaker 1: a prenup or even a wedding for ten years in California, 329 00:17:52,240 --> 00:17:54,480 Speaker 1: it's like being married. So you don't even need to 330 00:17:54,480 --> 00:17:56,440 Speaker 1: get married. You don't need a certificate, you don't even 331 00:17:56,560 --> 00:17:59,280 Speaker 1: need any of that. All your assets are subject to 332 00:17:59,600 --> 00:18:01,400 Speaker 1: you know, to a divorce. 333 00:18:02,440 --> 00:18:04,280 Speaker 2: So oh, I don't know that you might as well 334 00:18:04,280 --> 00:18:07,080 Speaker 2: be getting married if you've been together for ten years, right, right. 335 00:18:07,080 --> 00:18:10,240 Speaker 1: And I have a friend who got married in Miami 336 00:18:11,000 --> 00:18:13,280 Speaker 1: or in Florida, and he had a bunch of assets 337 00:18:13,280 --> 00:18:15,800 Speaker 1: and everything, and I was happy to be at the 338 00:18:15,800 --> 00:18:17,720 Speaker 1: wedding and everything. He was super happy, and I think 339 00:18:17,720 --> 00:18:20,880 Speaker 1: he got divorced a year later, and ever since then 340 00:18:21,040 --> 00:18:24,520 Speaker 1: he continued to build companies, you know, make a lot 341 00:18:24,560 --> 00:18:27,919 Speaker 1: of money. And he had he had a relationship with 342 00:18:27,920 --> 00:18:30,080 Speaker 1: the girl, but he wasn't going to marry her, and 343 00:18:30,119 --> 00:18:33,560 Speaker 1: he made it clearly and understanding with her that we're 344 00:18:33,600 --> 00:18:36,720 Speaker 1: not going to ever get married. So like, I get it. 345 00:18:36,840 --> 00:18:38,840 Speaker 1: I get it. You know, once you get screwed like that, 346 00:18:38,960 --> 00:18:41,359 Speaker 1: and you work your ass off so hard, right you know, 347 00:18:41,640 --> 00:18:43,480 Speaker 1: you know, I mean I don't know what the laws are. 348 00:18:43,520 --> 00:18:47,520 Speaker 2: And well, that's what I never understood is that if 349 00:18:47,760 --> 00:18:50,560 Speaker 2: whether it's the husband or the wife, right, let's say 350 00:18:50,800 --> 00:18:53,840 Speaker 2: it's the it's the wife in this case, right, Yeah, 351 00:18:53,960 --> 00:18:56,240 Speaker 2: she wakes up one day three years later and she 352 00:18:56,400 --> 00:18:59,040 Speaker 2: just tells you, I don't love you anymore and I'm 353 00:18:59,080 --> 00:19:03,280 Speaker 2: out and maybe I found a new dude. Right, Yeah, 354 00:19:03,520 --> 00:19:05,800 Speaker 2: she can take half your stuff even though she's the 355 00:19:05,800 --> 00:19:07,320 Speaker 2: one that's leaving exactly. 356 00:19:07,359 --> 00:19:09,840 Speaker 1: And this is California. This is like, that's what's crazy thing. 357 00:19:10,000 --> 00:19:11,919 Speaker 2: And I've always felt even if it's the other way, right, like, 358 00:19:11,960 --> 00:19:15,399 Speaker 2: if I decide to leave, yeah, and it's I'm choosing 359 00:19:15,440 --> 00:19:18,920 Speaker 2: to leave, then why, it's like a double whammy. It's 360 00:19:18,920 --> 00:19:21,399 Speaker 2: like an insult to injury. You're going to leave you 361 00:19:22,000 --> 00:19:23,400 Speaker 2: and I'm still taking half your shit. 362 00:19:23,880 --> 00:19:27,760 Speaker 1: Yeah, So I mean it happens. It happens a lot. 363 00:19:28,880 --> 00:19:30,919 Speaker 1: I think you were saying sixty percent of marriages and 364 00:19:31,000 --> 00:19:33,439 Speaker 1: then divorce, and I truly believe that number is accurate, 365 00:19:33,480 --> 00:19:36,960 Speaker 1: especially in California. You know, there's so much distraction and 366 00:19:37,040 --> 00:19:41,880 Speaker 1: so much entitlement. And I don't know how these guys 367 00:19:42,359 --> 00:19:45,560 Speaker 1: do it that have a ton of money and date 368 00:19:45,600 --> 00:19:48,439 Speaker 1: these young women and marry them, you know what I mean, Like, 369 00:19:48,560 --> 00:19:50,960 Speaker 1: why are you getting married? Well, there must be some 370 00:19:50,960 --> 00:19:55,920 Speaker 1: sort of really ironclad bring up that you know, if 371 00:19:55,920 --> 00:19:58,480 Speaker 1: we get married, you're not You might get X, Y 372 00:19:58,520 --> 00:19:59,960 Speaker 1: and Z, but you're not going to get at all, 373 00:20:00,240 --> 00:20:03,159 Speaker 1: you know. And these guys that are wealthy and you know, 374 00:20:03,240 --> 00:20:05,840 Speaker 1: live that life and don't care about life or money 375 00:20:05,920 --> 00:20:09,919 Speaker 1: or anything or love. They end up getting divorced or 376 00:20:10,040 --> 00:20:12,240 Speaker 1: and lose a little bit of money. But I don't 377 00:20:12,240 --> 00:20:14,080 Speaker 1: know how they continue to do that. They get married 378 00:20:14,080 --> 00:20:15,720 Speaker 1: over and over and over. I mean there's been some 379 00:20:15,920 --> 00:20:18,439 Speaker 1: celebrities that get married like seven times. And you know, 380 00:20:18,920 --> 00:20:21,359 Speaker 1: these movie stars celebrities, they have a lot of money. 381 00:20:22,160 --> 00:20:24,680 Speaker 1: So how do they do They could afford, like you said, 382 00:20:24,680 --> 00:20:26,640 Speaker 1: they can afford to right, it's just got so much money. 383 00:20:26,640 --> 00:20:29,359 Speaker 2: It's like, all, I get divorced three four times, no matter. 384 00:20:29,720 --> 00:20:35,800 Speaker 1: Yeah, But to really pinpoint the purpose behind marriage, you know, 385 00:20:36,040 --> 00:20:40,280 Speaker 1: I was always afraid because it is a big deal. 386 00:20:40,320 --> 00:20:42,800 Speaker 1: It is a big commitment. It's almost like the very 387 00:20:42,840 --> 00:20:46,000 Speaker 1: first time I ever had a not had to, but 388 00:20:46,359 --> 00:20:49,119 Speaker 1: expressed to a woman that I love you. You know, 389 00:20:49,119 --> 00:20:51,560 Speaker 1: it's like, that's that's so meaningful to me. I don't 390 00:20:51,600 --> 00:20:53,880 Speaker 1: know if I could just say it, you know, because 391 00:20:53,920 --> 00:20:57,200 Speaker 1: I don't know what love is. I was so young, right, 392 00:20:57,560 --> 00:21:00,600 Speaker 1: I don't know what impressed me, impressed upon me, or 393 00:21:00,600 --> 00:21:04,480 Speaker 1: who impressed upon me to value that so much that 394 00:21:04,560 --> 00:21:06,560 Speaker 1: I just didn't want to give it away. Right, I'm 395 00:21:06,560 --> 00:21:08,440 Speaker 1: just not going to say I love you just because 396 00:21:08,680 --> 00:21:11,520 Speaker 1: maybe it's a family trait. I don't know. I really 397 00:21:11,680 --> 00:21:14,560 Speaker 1: valued that. And then it came to, you know, getting 398 00:21:14,560 --> 00:21:16,239 Speaker 1: married as well. It's like I don't want to just 399 00:21:16,280 --> 00:21:17,000 Speaker 1: get married. 400 00:21:17,560 --> 00:21:19,640 Speaker 2: Yeah, By the way, what's your love language? 401 00:21:20,400 --> 00:21:24,679 Speaker 1: Words of affirmation and actions, you know when when you know, 402 00:21:25,040 --> 00:21:28,520 Speaker 1: not necessarily gifts, but little things here and there. I mean, 403 00:21:28,560 --> 00:21:30,960 Speaker 1: Tara's really good about doing for me little things here 404 00:21:30,960 --> 00:21:34,080 Speaker 1: and there. When she makes me dinner, sometimes she's doing 405 00:21:34,080 --> 00:21:36,080 Speaker 1: it for me. She's not just making dinner just to 406 00:21:36,119 --> 00:21:37,439 Speaker 1: make dinner, you know what I mean. She asked me 407 00:21:37,480 --> 00:21:40,040 Speaker 1: what I want. She's real, she just really pays real 408 00:21:40,080 --> 00:21:42,720 Speaker 1: attention to what I like, what I don't like, and 409 00:21:42,760 --> 00:21:44,240 Speaker 1: she makes sure that you know it's going to be 410 00:21:44,240 --> 00:21:47,160 Speaker 1: an enjoyable dinner as opposed to oh yeah hungry, Okay, 411 00:21:47,200 --> 00:21:48,400 Speaker 1: well let's get door dash. 412 00:21:48,960 --> 00:21:51,040 Speaker 2: Jenny used to cook for me all the time before 413 00:21:51,080 --> 00:21:53,840 Speaker 2: we got married, and once we got married, cooking was over. 414 00:22:06,280 --> 00:22:09,320 Speaker 2: I know that you said that. I think it was 415 00:22:09,359 --> 00:22:12,440 Speaker 2: on the show that you wanted a small wedding, but 416 00:22:12,480 --> 00:22:15,479 Speaker 2: then I think the show found out that you were 417 00:22:15,480 --> 00:22:17,760 Speaker 2: going to have a wedding, so they offered to pay 418 00:22:17,800 --> 00:22:20,399 Speaker 2: for it, and then you made it, I think, a 419 00:22:20,440 --> 00:22:23,640 Speaker 2: pretty big wedding. So do you ever think back of 420 00:22:23,760 --> 00:22:26,240 Speaker 2: like what a small wedding would look like for you? 421 00:22:27,840 --> 00:22:31,919 Speaker 1: I don't, and people have asked me that many times, 422 00:22:32,000 --> 00:22:37,480 Speaker 1: only because I just I had such an amazing experience 423 00:22:37,800 --> 00:22:40,240 Speaker 1: with the wedding that was produced and the way it 424 00:22:40,400 --> 00:22:44,280 Speaker 1: all happened when it was I think I told you 425 00:22:44,359 --> 00:22:46,000 Speaker 1: when I was presented to me, I was like, I 426 00:22:46,000 --> 00:22:48,920 Speaker 1: don't want to do this on TV. You know, based 427 00:22:48,960 --> 00:22:52,400 Speaker 1: on my experience with the Bravo Real Housewife show, it's 428 00:22:52,520 --> 00:22:55,480 Speaker 1: very toxic. I don't want any drama, and this is 429 00:22:55,880 --> 00:22:57,800 Speaker 1: supposed to be a very special thing for me. 430 00:22:58,280 --> 00:23:00,240 Speaker 2: Yeah, you got all the girls there, right, and. 431 00:23:00,200 --> 00:23:01,840 Speaker 1: Then all the girls there and all that. But it 432 00:23:01,960 --> 00:23:06,920 Speaker 1: turned out to be very well produced and very little drama. 433 00:23:07,000 --> 00:23:09,080 Speaker 1: Most of the drama had to do with, you know, 434 00:23:09,160 --> 00:23:11,440 Speaker 1: I want this and she wants that, you know, and 435 00:23:13,000 --> 00:23:15,760 Speaker 1: don't spend too much money on the wedding, and okay, 436 00:23:15,840 --> 00:23:18,200 Speaker 1: let's not talk about the budget, you know. So it's like, 437 00:23:18,800 --> 00:23:21,680 Speaker 1: all right, those things really are not important. I mean, 438 00:23:21,920 --> 00:23:26,600 Speaker 1: I just didn't want a girl fighting at her wedding 439 00:23:26,720 --> 00:23:29,119 Speaker 1: or throwing you know, the table or some stupid like 440 00:23:29,160 --> 00:23:32,040 Speaker 1: that just to get ratings right, nor to get attention. 441 00:23:32,880 --> 00:23:36,320 Speaker 1: But the way it all turned out, the way it 442 00:23:36,359 --> 00:23:39,439 Speaker 1: was all edited and produced and filmed, and and the 443 00:23:39,480 --> 00:23:44,840 Speaker 1: way the wedding planner handled it all, she really paid 444 00:23:44,840 --> 00:23:50,159 Speaker 1: attention to what Tamra was saying. She really understood my 445 00:23:50,800 --> 00:23:53,720 Speaker 1: desires on it. I mean, at the time, for example, 446 00:23:53,720 --> 00:23:57,040 Speaker 1: it was a little bit of a pointer. At the time, 447 00:23:57,080 --> 00:23:59,800 Speaker 1: I was very much addicted to gummy bears. Gummy bears 448 00:23:59,840 --> 00:24:02,000 Speaker 1: were my vice and that's what I love the most. 449 00:24:02,040 --> 00:24:06,399 Speaker 1: And the wedding planner somehow ended up getting gummy bears 450 00:24:06,480 --> 00:24:09,880 Speaker 1: all over the wedding hall and these two or three 451 00:24:09,960 --> 00:24:12,800 Speaker 1: i think five pound gummy bears the size of a 452 00:24:12,840 --> 00:24:13,560 Speaker 1: small baby. 453 00:24:13,760 --> 00:24:13,920 Speaker 2: Right. 454 00:24:14,000 --> 00:24:17,920 Speaker 1: I'd never seen a gummy bear so big, and so 455 00:24:18,160 --> 00:24:20,080 Speaker 1: that was you know, I just one one way to 456 00:24:20,119 --> 00:24:23,120 Speaker 1: my heart and to impress me, and another. You know, 457 00:24:23,480 --> 00:24:26,439 Speaker 1: I was a big road cyclist at the time. I 458 00:24:26,520 --> 00:24:30,040 Speaker 1: used to ride my bike everywhere, and the wedding planner 459 00:24:30,160 --> 00:24:34,639 Speaker 1: ended up finding an old road bike and hanging it 460 00:24:34,840 --> 00:24:37,560 Speaker 1: from the rafters where we got married and putting flowers 461 00:24:37,560 --> 00:24:40,760 Speaker 1: and everything and painting it so it matches. And I'm like, wow, 462 00:24:41,000 --> 00:24:43,560 Speaker 1: you know, you really thought about all the things that 463 00:24:43,920 --> 00:24:47,160 Speaker 1: bring you know, happiness and value to me to make 464 00:24:47,240 --> 00:24:53,560 Speaker 1: this a real wedding, a real experience, versus, Oh, we're 465 00:24:53,560 --> 00:24:55,879 Speaker 1: going to hire the most expensive chefs. We're gonna hire 466 00:24:55,920 --> 00:24:58,119 Speaker 1: the most expensive this. We're gonna you know, have the 467 00:24:58,160 --> 00:25:01,760 Speaker 1: Gucci this and you know the pro of that, and 468 00:25:01,800 --> 00:25:04,280 Speaker 1: we're going to make it the most amazing wedding for TV. 469 00:25:04,840 --> 00:25:09,080 Speaker 1: You know that probably would have been boring for me 470 00:25:09,400 --> 00:25:13,440 Speaker 1: and so fake and empty that I probably would have 471 00:25:13,600 --> 00:25:17,359 Speaker 1: wanted a small wedding afterwards, you know, like that's kind 472 00:25:17,400 --> 00:25:19,560 Speaker 1: of what I was expecting. Also, like, hey, let's just 473 00:25:19,560 --> 00:25:22,639 Speaker 1: do a TV wedding for whatever that is. Let's just 474 00:25:22,640 --> 00:25:25,720 Speaker 1: get through it and after that, and that was our plan. 475 00:25:25,840 --> 00:25:27,920 Speaker 1: After that, we'll have a small, little wedding, a real 476 00:25:27,960 --> 00:25:32,040 Speaker 1: wedding quote unquote, and call it a day. But the 477 00:25:32,040 --> 00:25:35,640 Speaker 1: wedding was so incredibly put together, so real, so magical 478 00:25:35,720 --> 00:25:40,680 Speaker 1: that I don't regret anything about it. And I'm you know, 479 00:25:40,920 --> 00:25:43,879 Speaker 1: the only way I would do another small wedding is 480 00:25:43,880 --> 00:25:47,960 Speaker 1: that maybe we renew our valves. But we've seen how 481 00:25:47,960 --> 00:25:50,320 Speaker 1: that goes on on the show. You know, people renew 482 00:25:50,359 --> 00:25:53,720 Speaker 1: their vows and shit hits the fan. Maybe we should 483 00:25:53,760 --> 00:25:57,119 Speaker 1: do it together and we all we do it together. 484 00:25:57,200 --> 00:26:00,280 Speaker 1: It's been thirteen years. That would be awesome, like a 485 00:26:00,359 --> 00:26:02,720 Speaker 1: destination renew destination renewal. 486 00:26:02,840 --> 00:26:05,720 Speaker 2: Right, but that's pretty cool that you got all these 487 00:26:05,760 --> 00:26:08,840 Speaker 2: like special moments. Obviously have your bathtub moment that you 488 00:26:08,880 --> 00:26:11,080 Speaker 2: I'll always remember on your whatever. I think it was 489 00:26:11,119 --> 00:26:13,800 Speaker 2: the first date or whatever. But what I mean, how 490 00:26:13,840 --> 00:26:15,520 Speaker 2: magical is that that you can go back and look 491 00:26:15,520 --> 00:26:17,199 Speaker 2: at your wedding. I wish I could go back and 492 00:26:17,240 --> 00:26:20,920 Speaker 2: look at my Paris wedding. I could look at pictures, 493 00:26:20,960 --> 00:26:23,399 Speaker 2: but I don't have like a video like you guys do. 494 00:26:23,640 --> 00:26:25,719 Speaker 2: And I mean that's that's the benefit of doing it 495 00:26:25,760 --> 00:26:28,359 Speaker 2: through the show, right they I mean when I was 496 00:26:28,400 --> 00:26:30,600 Speaker 2: on the show, that's what I liked about it. I 497 00:26:30,600 --> 00:26:31,920 Speaker 2: was like, Oh, I'm going to get all this footage 498 00:26:31,920 --> 00:26:34,119 Speaker 2: with my kids, and I'm going to be able to 499 00:26:34,160 --> 00:26:36,160 Speaker 2: look back at that footage. It's gonna be pretty cool. 500 00:26:36,920 --> 00:26:39,240 Speaker 1: So one of the one of the things I remember 501 00:26:39,560 --> 00:26:43,720 Speaker 1: having a decision on what the wedding was because it 502 00:26:43,760 --> 00:26:48,639 Speaker 1: was produced by a production company. I'm not going to 503 00:26:48,680 --> 00:26:50,199 Speaker 1: have access to the footage. I'm not going to have 504 00:26:50,240 --> 00:26:53,640 Speaker 1: access to the photos, right, and if I do, it's 505 00:26:53,680 --> 00:26:55,159 Speaker 1: going to be whatever they want to give me. So 506 00:26:55,280 --> 00:26:58,919 Speaker 1: I ended up hiring a videographer and a photographer. The 507 00:26:58,920 --> 00:27:02,040 Speaker 1: photographer was a really close friend of ours. She does weddings. 508 00:27:02,040 --> 00:27:05,679 Speaker 1: She was amazing, and she had connections with a videographer 509 00:27:05,680 --> 00:27:08,800 Speaker 1: who did a great job. So the video that I 510 00:27:09,480 --> 00:27:12,040 Speaker 1: watch every year is the video that was produced for 511 00:27:12,119 --> 00:27:17,520 Speaker 1: us by this videographer, privately videographer, and it was so 512 00:27:17,720 --> 00:27:21,800 Speaker 1: well done. I think I watch it every year because 513 00:27:21,920 --> 00:27:25,080 Speaker 1: it brings lears to me. It brings me back to 514 00:27:25,119 --> 00:27:28,040 Speaker 1: that moment and it's real. 515 00:27:28,160 --> 00:27:28,360 Speaker 2: Right. 516 00:27:28,880 --> 00:27:33,000 Speaker 1: I've watched our actual three part series that Brable produced 517 00:27:33,520 --> 00:27:37,840 Speaker 1: maybe twice, and it's not the same. It's not the 518 00:27:37,880 --> 00:27:40,879 Speaker 1: same as watching just this one clip that I have 519 00:27:41,000 --> 00:27:42,600 Speaker 1: on my phone that I can watch. It's like an 520 00:27:42,640 --> 00:27:45,160 Speaker 1: eight minute clip and I just watch it every year 521 00:27:45,200 --> 00:27:49,359 Speaker 1: and it just reminds me, and I think subconsciously the 522 00:27:49,440 --> 00:27:53,600 Speaker 1: reason I watch it is because I think one of 523 00:27:53,640 --> 00:27:57,080 Speaker 1: the things I've experienced in life is you kind of 524 00:27:57,119 --> 00:28:01,160 Speaker 1: take things you have for granted generally, right, whether it's 525 00:28:01,200 --> 00:28:06,320 Speaker 1: materialistic stuff or relationships or even yourself, your talents, your skills, 526 00:28:06,359 --> 00:28:09,120 Speaker 1: and your abilities, right, you kind of take them for granted. 527 00:28:09,800 --> 00:28:12,880 Speaker 1: And I know that if it's out of sight, out 528 00:28:12,880 --> 00:28:17,560 Speaker 1: of mind, they kind of lose attention. And that's happened 529 00:28:17,600 --> 00:28:20,919 Speaker 1: with friendships, that's happened with you know, even companies that 530 00:28:21,000 --> 00:28:26,160 Speaker 1: I've had employees, and all relationships in general. So with this, 531 00:28:26,520 --> 00:28:30,960 Speaker 1: I feel like, if I don't bring this to mine 532 00:28:31,000 --> 00:28:35,359 Speaker 1: every year and remind me how incredibly magical that moment was, 533 00:28:35,520 --> 00:28:38,960 Speaker 1: I might I might lose it. I might lose that love, 534 00:28:39,040 --> 00:28:42,120 Speaker 1: I might lose I might start taking it for granted, 535 00:28:42,120 --> 00:28:44,320 Speaker 1: and I might lose that magic I have with her. 536 00:28:44,440 --> 00:28:47,800 Speaker 1: So maybe that's talking to me subconsciously and why I 537 00:28:47,840 --> 00:28:50,480 Speaker 1: do it. But yeah, every time I watch it, I 538 00:28:50,800 --> 00:28:54,120 Speaker 1: do getteried, and that was seriously. I was at my 539 00:28:54,640 --> 00:28:59,080 Speaker 1: visiting my grandmother just a few days ago, and she's 540 00:28:59,160 --> 00:29:00,760 Speaker 1: kind of going, you know, she's going to be ninety 541 00:29:00,800 --> 00:29:02,560 Speaker 1: nine years old this year, so she's kind of having 542 00:29:02,640 --> 00:29:07,280 Speaker 1: Alzheimer's and in the conversations we have are kind of like, oh, wait, 543 00:29:07,400 --> 00:29:10,720 Speaker 1: did you do you live in Mexico, Like, well, no, 544 00:29:11,880 --> 00:29:14,200 Speaker 1: I don't live in Mexico. I'm about twenty five minutes away. 545 00:29:14,880 --> 00:29:18,080 Speaker 1: So I spent some time showing her some videos of 546 00:29:18,120 --> 00:29:20,400 Speaker 1: my new dog and you know, my life. And then 547 00:29:20,400 --> 00:29:22,920 Speaker 1: I came across the wedding video and I'm like, oh, 548 00:29:23,080 --> 00:29:25,880 Speaker 1: watch this, and she was in the wedding. She was 549 00:29:25,920 --> 00:29:29,600 Speaker 1: in the video, and it just made it that more 550 00:29:29,680 --> 00:29:34,680 Speaker 1: magical to have this content where she was a big 551 00:29:34,720 --> 00:29:37,040 Speaker 1: part of the wedding. She walked down the aisle with me, 552 00:29:37,840 --> 00:29:41,840 Speaker 1: she was in the video. I watched her and the 553 00:29:41,920 --> 00:29:44,880 Speaker 1: impact was, you know, I don't know when I'm going 554 00:29:44,920 --> 00:29:47,400 Speaker 1: to lose her, but it's not too long from now. 555 00:29:47,480 --> 00:29:50,600 Speaker 1: So I have her here, and I have my wife, 556 00:29:50,640 --> 00:29:52,720 Speaker 1: and I have this magic moment that's going to live 557 00:29:52,720 --> 00:29:54,760 Speaker 1: with me for the rest of my life. So there's 558 00:29:54,800 --> 00:29:59,080 Speaker 1: so many impactful reasons why I watched that video, and 559 00:29:59,400 --> 00:30:01,600 Speaker 1: I think that's why I get taridite, because every time 560 00:30:01,640 --> 00:30:02,760 Speaker 1: I watch it, I get taite. 561 00:30:03,320 --> 00:30:05,360 Speaker 2: Have you ever forgot your anniversary? 562 00:30:07,120 --> 00:30:11,080 Speaker 1: No, it's it's it's kind of hard because you know, 563 00:30:11,320 --> 00:30:13,680 Speaker 1: I have this video reminds me it's on my calendar, 564 00:30:13,920 --> 00:30:18,440 Speaker 1: and I don't want to be that guy that forgets it. 565 00:30:18,440 --> 00:30:23,000 Speaker 1: It's it's again very important to me for the longevity 566 00:30:23,040 --> 00:30:25,280 Speaker 1: of our wedding, you know, of our marriage, of our 567 00:30:25,640 --> 00:30:28,200 Speaker 1: of our life together. This is this was a big 568 00:30:28,440 --> 00:30:31,400 Speaker 1: important part in our life and I never want to 569 00:30:31,400 --> 00:30:31,840 Speaker 1: forget it. 570 00:30:40,200 --> 00:30:42,920 Speaker 2: What about gifts? Does do gifts get you nervous? 571 00:30:42,960 --> 00:30:43,080 Speaker 1: Like? 572 00:30:43,120 --> 00:30:45,560 Speaker 2: What do I get it this year? Like you got 573 00:30:45,560 --> 00:30:49,640 Speaker 2: to keep continuing to level up? Or what it was? 574 00:30:49,760 --> 00:30:55,920 Speaker 1: It's like yes and no, yes, because of the social pressures. 575 00:30:56,040 --> 00:30:58,600 Speaker 1: You know, it's up there with this whole you gotta 576 00:30:58,720 --> 00:31:02,480 Speaker 1: spend thirty percent of your anial salary onto a wedding. Shit, 577 00:31:02,640 --> 00:31:04,719 Speaker 1: that was you know. What I know now is that 578 00:31:04,760 --> 00:31:07,360 Speaker 1: it was a marketing scheme that was designed by the 579 00:31:07,800 --> 00:31:12,320 Speaker 1: jewelry company, the jewelry industry that convinced guys to do that. 580 00:31:13,240 --> 00:31:15,800 Speaker 2: I'm glad I didn't fall for it. Because the times 581 00:31:15,840 --> 00:31:19,880 Speaker 2: I've given Teddy some really nice anniversary presents, I'm like, 582 00:31:19,880 --> 00:31:23,960 Speaker 2: all right, that's your anniversary, that's your birthday, and that's 583 00:31:24,480 --> 00:31:29,120 Speaker 2: Christmas and that's Valentine's everything. Ask me for another present. 584 00:31:30,520 --> 00:31:33,240 Speaker 2: I go in there with my negotiation skills. Yeah. The 585 00:31:33,680 --> 00:31:36,120 Speaker 2: other thing is my wife. 586 00:31:36,320 --> 00:31:38,280 Speaker 1: And this is one of the other reasons I love 587 00:31:38,320 --> 00:31:40,480 Speaker 1: her so much is that she is not high maintenance. 588 00:31:41,080 --> 00:31:45,280 Speaker 1: She personally won't spend stupid money on herself. Like I'm 589 00:31:45,320 --> 00:31:47,560 Speaker 1: the one that buys her the two thousand dollars pair 590 00:31:47,600 --> 00:31:51,040 Speaker 1: of shoes. She won't do it, you know. And even 591 00:31:51,040 --> 00:31:55,960 Speaker 1: though she probably won't do it, I went out and 592 00:31:56,000 --> 00:31:59,800 Speaker 1: bought her the six thousand dollars stupid gold bracelet that 593 00:31:59,840 --> 00:32:02,440 Speaker 1: go on her wrist that locks down on Cardier. That's 594 00:32:02,440 --> 00:32:05,360 Speaker 1: what it is, Cardia. You know, she has these things 595 00:32:05,400 --> 00:32:09,560 Speaker 1: that she likes and it's not it's not she doesn't 596 00:32:09,600 --> 00:32:13,800 Speaker 1: have an expensive habit of spending, right, So even if 597 00:32:13,840 --> 00:32:16,160 Speaker 1: I got her, I mean, one year, I took a 598 00:32:16,200 --> 00:32:19,840 Speaker 1: picture of our wedding and had it not laminated but 599 00:32:20,560 --> 00:32:24,400 Speaker 1: printed on this aluminum piece and hung in our bedroom 600 00:32:24,920 --> 00:32:26,800 Speaker 1: to remind her, Hey, this is who we were, this 601 00:32:26,840 --> 00:32:29,720 Speaker 1: is what happened that day, and that was her anniversary present. 602 00:32:29,800 --> 00:32:31,800 Speaker 1: You know. I think it cost me like one hundred 603 00:32:31,800 --> 00:32:33,920 Speaker 1: and fifty bucks and that was it, you know, and 604 00:32:33,960 --> 00:32:36,360 Speaker 1: she was super happy. It's very sentimental because I put 605 00:32:36,360 --> 00:32:39,440 Speaker 1: some thought into it. And those are the kind of 606 00:32:39,440 --> 00:32:41,600 Speaker 1: gifts I like, by the way, Yeah, yeah, because we 607 00:32:41,680 --> 00:32:42,440 Speaker 1: get to see it. 608 00:32:42,760 --> 00:32:45,520 Speaker 3: Yeah, you could buy like for me, like I could 609 00:32:45,560 --> 00:32:47,240 Speaker 3: buy my own present if I want it, right, But 610 00:32:47,320 --> 00:32:50,360 Speaker 3: like those things I would never do for myself, right, 611 00:32:50,760 --> 00:32:52,600 Speaker 3: but they mean so much to me, right if you 612 00:32:53,000 --> 00:32:55,640 Speaker 3: took the time to like get all these pictures together 613 00:32:55,760 --> 00:32:59,080 Speaker 3: and maybe took me down memory road, because it's something 614 00:32:59,120 --> 00:33:00,680 Speaker 3: that I normally want to do for myself. 615 00:33:00,760 --> 00:33:04,320 Speaker 2: So I like the kind of gifts that I normally 616 00:33:04,360 --> 00:33:08,479 Speaker 2: wouldn't do for myself, right, Versus like clothes, I go 617 00:33:08,520 --> 00:33:11,640 Speaker 2: buy clothes if I want some, and I'm very picky 618 00:33:11,680 --> 00:33:13,520 Speaker 2: with clothes, so I want to buy my own clothes, 619 00:33:13,560 --> 00:33:15,640 Speaker 2: not yet what you bring me, and I'm like, oh damn, 620 00:33:15,640 --> 00:33:16,760 Speaker 2: I'm never going to wear this thing. 621 00:33:16,840 --> 00:33:20,400 Speaker 1: Right, So is that kind of how your relationship is 622 00:33:20,440 --> 00:33:23,760 Speaker 1: now where you guys really don't buy each other presence. 623 00:33:23,800 --> 00:33:26,320 Speaker 1: It's just like I just had a birthday, right, yeah, 624 00:33:26,320 --> 00:33:27,960 Speaker 1: and you're gonna have a birthday soon. 625 00:33:27,880 --> 00:33:30,520 Speaker 2: So next week. Yeah, but. 626 00:33:31,960 --> 00:33:33,640 Speaker 1: You know, I didn't want to do anything. I didn't 627 00:33:33,640 --> 00:33:35,520 Speaker 1: want to go anywhere. We ended up going to Big Beer, 628 00:33:35,560 --> 00:33:38,440 Speaker 1: having a nice just get away. I had a nice 629 00:33:38,760 --> 00:33:42,520 Speaker 1: Italian dinner. I even had dessert and tried to, you know, 630 00:33:42,720 --> 00:33:46,600 Speaker 1: kind of celebrate it. And I think somebody asked, what 631 00:33:46,720 --> 00:33:48,680 Speaker 1: did you get for your birthday? I'm like, well, I 632 00:33:48,680 --> 00:33:50,280 Speaker 1: don't know what I want. You know, I kind of 633 00:33:50,320 --> 00:33:52,320 Speaker 1: want a new Harley. I don't know that I want 634 00:33:52,360 --> 00:33:54,240 Speaker 1: to spend the money on a new Harley because I 635 00:33:54,280 --> 00:33:57,000 Speaker 1: already have a nice Harley. So it's like I don't 636 00:33:57,040 --> 00:33:59,920 Speaker 1: really want to buy myself something expensive. I don't really know, 637 00:34:00,200 --> 00:34:04,440 Speaker 1: So I ended up getting nothing. Yeah, you know, it's okay, though, 638 00:34:04,600 --> 00:34:07,040 Speaker 1: It's okay, like you I could just go get anything 639 00:34:07,080 --> 00:34:11,040 Speaker 1: pretty much anything I want, but yep, it's just Stu. 640 00:34:12,320 --> 00:34:14,680 Speaker 2: Yeah no, And I think, uh, I think when its 641 00:34:14,880 --> 00:34:18,719 Speaker 2: like with me, I hate the reason I hate Valentines 642 00:34:19,000 --> 00:34:21,600 Speaker 2: and I'm probably the worst at Valentine's. I wish I 643 00:34:21,640 --> 00:34:25,040 Speaker 2: could be a little more romantic during Valentine's but I 644 00:34:25,080 --> 00:34:27,600 Speaker 2: hate someone telling me that I have to buy a 645 00:34:27,640 --> 00:34:30,279 Speaker 2: present or that I have to be romantic, which is 646 00:34:30,280 --> 00:34:33,480 Speaker 2: what Valentine's is. Like, I want to buy a present 647 00:34:33,520 --> 00:34:36,840 Speaker 2: because I feel like it, not because it's Valentine's and 648 00:34:36,840 --> 00:34:41,319 Speaker 2: I'm pressured by you know, someone who decided to make 649 00:34:41,320 --> 00:34:43,040 Speaker 2: that a commercial day so you can go spend a 650 00:34:43,080 --> 00:34:46,160 Speaker 2: bunch of money. I am so right there me For me, 651 00:34:46,239 --> 00:34:50,719 Speaker 2: it's hard to do it, like I just like. But 652 00:34:50,719 --> 00:34:53,480 Speaker 2: but then randomly I'll come home and I'll just get 653 00:34:53,480 --> 00:34:56,799 Speaker 2: her a kick ass gift, you know. Yeah, those are 654 00:34:56,800 --> 00:34:59,160 Speaker 2: the gifts I like because I'm like I wanted to. 655 00:34:59,440 --> 00:35:03,359 Speaker 2: I didn't have the pressure of it's Valentines and it's 656 00:35:03,440 --> 00:35:05,440 Speaker 2: this day, so I got to get you a present, right, 657 00:35:05,800 --> 00:35:09,240 Speaker 2: Anniversary a little different, you got to sort of do something. 658 00:35:09,640 --> 00:35:12,040 Speaker 2: But my favorite, my favorite one now is now I 659 00:35:12,120 --> 00:35:14,080 Speaker 2: just tell Teddy, hey, I'm gonna take a shop and 660 00:35:14,160 --> 00:35:17,200 Speaker 2: let's go let her choose something, and yeah, you can 661 00:35:17,280 --> 00:35:21,680 Speaker 2: choose it for sometimes and I just I like seeing 662 00:35:21,920 --> 00:35:24,000 Speaker 2: the joy that she gets to pick out what she 663 00:35:24,080 --> 00:35:27,560 Speaker 2: wants versus before she was like you pick it out, 664 00:35:27,680 --> 00:35:30,600 Speaker 2: And I picked stuff out and I think she liked it. 665 00:35:31,040 --> 00:35:32,759 Speaker 2: But I actually like when I take her and she 666 00:35:32,760 --> 00:35:36,880 Speaker 2: could actually pick exactly what she wants, what'd you do 667 00:35:36,920 --> 00:35:41,719 Speaker 2: for your tenth year anniversary? That's an interesting question. I 668 00:35:41,760 --> 00:35:43,479 Speaker 2: was just thinking about that the other day. I don't 669 00:35:43,680 --> 00:35:49,400 Speaker 2: really I have a bad time memorizing the years. I know. 670 00:35:49,440 --> 00:35:51,839 Speaker 2: I bought her an expensive freaking ring that was one 671 00:35:51,840 --> 00:35:56,720 Speaker 2: of those that's a two year present for you, Teddy, 672 00:35:57,040 --> 00:36:00,320 Speaker 2: it's not an anniversary. That's a two year present for you. 673 00:36:01,320 --> 00:36:06,719 Speaker 2: Lasted about six months. That's funny, but it's funny. Now 674 00:36:06,719 --> 00:36:09,760 Speaker 2: I have to, like, seriously, I have to. It's almost 675 00:36:09,760 --> 00:36:11,600 Speaker 2: like got to keep count, because the other day she 676 00:36:11,760 --> 00:36:16,120 Speaker 2: was like, you didn't buy me anything for Valentine's And 677 00:36:16,160 --> 00:36:18,399 Speaker 2: then she said something like, oh, last Mother's Day. Because 678 00:36:18,400 --> 00:36:21,719 Speaker 2: Mother's Day's coming out. She had me thinking that I 679 00:36:21,719 --> 00:36:23,880 Speaker 2: didn't buy anything. I'm like, did I not buy something 680 00:36:23,920 --> 00:36:26,480 Speaker 2: for Mother's Day? And then sure enough I go home 681 00:36:26,480 --> 00:36:31,560 Speaker 2: and I saw I remembered the shoes and the glasses 682 00:36:31,600 --> 00:36:34,160 Speaker 2: that I bought her, and we were in Vegas. Now 683 00:36:34,200 --> 00:36:37,719 Speaker 2: granted I bought it early, so I bought it. I 684 00:36:37,760 --> 00:36:40,239 Speaker 2: think we were in Vegas April twenty eighth of last year, 685 00:36:40,600 --> 00:36:44,200 Speaker 2: and I specifically said, all right, this is your Mother's 686 00:36:44,280 --> 00:36:48,640 Speaker 2: Day gift. I'm buying it early. And then, of course 687 00:36:49,040 --> 00:36:50,879 Speaker 2: for Mother's Day, I took her to dinner or lunch 688 00:36:50,960 --> 00:36:54,319 Speaker 2: or wherever we went, and she's like, you didn't get 689 00:36:54,360 --> 00:36:56,600 Speaker 2: me anything for Mother's Day. And I remember. I'm like, man, damn, 690 00:36:56,600 --> 00:36:58,520 Speaker 2: I don't get anything on Mother's Day. And then luckily 691 00:36:58,520 --> 00:37:01,719 Speaker 2: I remembered because we were with another couple and they're like, yeah, 692 00:37:01,719 --> 00:37:04,080 Speaker 2: I remember you were. Because we're going back and forth. 693 00:37:04,239 --> 00:37:06,319 Speaker 2: Did I get her a present? Did I not? I'm like, dude, 694 00:37:06,360 --> 00:37:09,080 Speaker 2: I know I got you a present. And then finally 695 00:37:09,120 --> 00:37:11,640 Speaker 2: the other couple's like, yeah, we were in Vegas. Remember 696 00:37:11,680 --> 00:37:13,680 Speaker 2: you bought her this, this, this, And I'm like, yes, 697 00:37:13,840 --> 00:37:16,920 Speaker 2: it was just April twenty eighth. And I get so 698 00:37:17,840 --> 00:37:19,880 Speaker 2: excited that I want to give the gift right away. 699 00:37:20,320 --> 00:37:24,520 Speaker 2: Yeah right, versus let's wait another ten days from other's day, right. Yeah. 700 00:37:24,640 --> 00:37:26,640 Speaker 2: So anyway, that's the next one I got coming. I 701 00:37:26,640 --> 00:37:31,360 Speaker 2: gotta figure out what I'm getting from Mother's Day. So 702 00:37:31,520 --> 00:37:35,239 Speaker 2: much pressure. I know, in a perfect world, don't get 703 00:37:35,280 --> 00:37:37,759 Speaker 2: me anything. I will get you anything. We'll call it 704 00:37:37,760 --> 00:37:40,200 Speaker 2: a day. Yeah, one least thing we got to worry about. 705 00:37:40,440 --> 00:37:41,600 Speaker 1: Yeah, but I. 706 00:37:42,000 --> 00:37:42,879 Speaker 2: It doesn't work that way. 707 00:37:42,960 --> 00:37:45,279 Speaker 1: Here's another reason why we're so much alike, because when 708 00:37:45,280 --> 00:37:48,440 Speaker 1: you were talking about you know, you can buyer anything anytime. 709 00:37:48,800 --> 00:37:54,480 Speaker 1: I just learned that concept. I was shopping for I 710 00:37:54,480 --> 00:37:58,040 Speaker 1: think Christmas or something like that, and I found a gift. 711 00:37:59,120 --> 00:38:01,600 Speaker 1: I was shopping and I saw this really cute jacket 712 00:38:01,680 --> 00:38:04,319 Speaker 1: that I thought all my wife would love it, and 713 00:38:04,520 --> 00:38:07,880 Speaker 1: I bought the jacket. I saved it in the garage 714 00:38:07,920 --> 00:38:09,560 Speaker 1: and a bag, you know, and I said, I'm going 715 00:38:09,600 --> 00:38:11,400 Speaker 1: to give it to her for Valentine's Day, And the 716 00:38:11,440 --> 00:38:13,719 Speaker 1: whole time I wanted to give it to her, like 717 00:38:13,760 --> 00:38:15,080 Speaker 1: I just, I just I don't need to. 718 00:38:15,200 --> 00:38:16,520 Speaker 2: Valentine's get so excited. 719 00:38:16,880 --> 00:38:18,919 Speaker 1: Yeah, you gets so excited because I really think she'd 720 00:38:19,000 --> 00:38:22,600 Speaker 1: look cute on it. And I felt really proud that 721 00:38:22,719 --> 00:38:25,799 Speaker 1: I did this because I saw something that reminded me 722 00:38:25,840 --> 00:38:28,760 Speaker 1: of her that would look super cute on her. And 723 00:38:29,160 --> 00:38:33,640 Speaker 1: sure enough, you know, I was dying and Valentine's came 724 00:38:33,719 --> 00:38:36,800 Speaker 1: and I gave her the gift and I was super excited, like, Okay, 725 00:38:36,880 --> 00:38:39,200 Speaker 1: I think I could do it this way because when 726 00:38:39,239 --> 00:38:44,040 Speaker 1: it comes to thinking, okay, Mother's Days next week and back, 727 00:38:44,080 --> 00:38:45,680 Speaker 1: when am I going to get I haven't thought about it, 728 00:38:46,160 --> 00:38:48,239 Speaker 1: and you know, I got to go rush out and 729 00:38:48,280 --> 00:38:51,560 Speaker 1: get something and as stressful, and then you might get 730 00:38:51,600 --> 00:38:53,720 Speaker 1: something that's stupid and she'll be mad. 731 00:38:53,600 --> 00:38:57,400 Speaker 2: At you if you exactly. I don't want her to 732 00:38:57,440 --> 00:38:59,279 Speaker 2: be mad at me exactly. 733 00:38:59,760 --> 00:39:02,120 Speaker 1: Hey have you looked at some of the reviews that 734 00:39:02,160 --> 00:39:05,359 Speaker 1: we've had on our podcast? I have not. I need 735 00:39:05,400 --> 00:39:07,279 Speaker 1: to do a better job of that. I'll read a 736 00:39:07,320 --> 00:39:09,160 Speaker 1: couple and then we'll move on because I. 737 00:39:09,080 --> 00:39:11,920 Speaker 2: Hope they're good. Or should we just read the bad ones? 738 00:39:12,640 --> 00:39:15,680 Speaker 2: There are no bad ones. There's no bad ones bad ones. 739 00:39:16,000 --> 00:39:18,960 Speaker 2: Thank you guys for now leaving negative ones. And you 740 00:39:19,000 --> 00:39:21,240 Speaker 2: know what we want the truth. You know, the truth 741 00:39:21,600 --> 00:39:25,840 Speaker 2: won't kill us. So this first review is from C 742 00:39:26,000 --> 00:39:31,560 Speaker 2: Sanders excellent podcast, The Eds. We're both well spoken, wonderful introduction, 743 00:39:32,080 --> 00:39:34,560 Speaker 2: looking forward to listening all the time. The ladies, Tamer 744 00:39:34,560 --> 00:39:37,319 Speaker 2: and Teddy should be very proud of their husbands. The 745 00:39:37,360 --> 00:39:40,839 Speaker 2: boys did a phenomenal job. Pretty cool, right, Yeah, that's 746 00:39:40,880 --> 00:39:43,560 Speaker 2: pretty cool. Here's another one bad for some first timers. 747 00:39:44,040 --> 00:39:50,359 Speaker 1: You two truly are better halves lol. I know. Really 748 00:39:50,440 --> 00:39:53,760 Speaker 1: enjoyed the podcast, appreciated the honesty and humbleness. Edwin's story 749 00:39:53,840 --> 00:39:56,959 Speaker 1: is worth sharing everywhere, being an example that no matter 750 00:39:57,000 --> 00:39:59,640 Speaker 1: where you come from or what you've gone through are 751 00:39:59,760 --> 00:40:04,160 Speaker 1: not defined. You are not defined by those circumstances. Totally 752 00:40:04,400 --> 00:40:05,360 Speaker 1: on your side. 753 00:40:05,640 --> 00:40:06,759 Speaker 2: Super cool. I love that. 754 00:40:06,880 --> 00:40:08,680 Speaker 1: Yeah, I'm going to read one more just just a 755 00:40:08,719 --> 00:40:12,600 Speaker 1: call today and we'll end with this great swing at 756 00:40:12,640 --> 00:40:13,360 Speaker 1: the first pitch. 757 00:40:15,160 --> 00:40:15,959 Speaker 2: Great first show. 758 00:40:16,040 --> 00:40:18,480 Speaker 1: I really enjoyed listening to both of your stories from 759 00:40:18,520 --> 00:40:22,120 Speaker 1: your early childhoods. You came across very interesting and comfortable, 760 00:40:22,120 --> 00:40:24,920 Speaker 1: which gave you, which gave your first podcast a real 761 00:40:25,000 --> 00:40:29,720 Speaker 1: sense of ease. Bravo, no pun intended. I look forward 762 00:40:29,760 --> 00:40:33,000 Speaker 1: to learning more about you both, and you are taking 763 00:40:33,160 --> 00:40:36,680 Speaker 1: a life your take on life and all it has 764 00:40:36,719 --> 00:40:38,800 Speaker 1: to offer. Congrats on an excellent show. 765 00:40:40,000 --> 00:40:41,080 Speaker 2: So very cool. 766 00:40:41,239 --> 00:40:42,759 Speaker 1: I don't know how you feel about that, but I 767 00:40:42,800 --> 00:40:45,600 Speaker 1: feel pretty good. You know, I didn't know what's good start. Yeah, 768 00:40:45,760 --> 00:40:48,480 Speaker 1: I got better, I think, yeah, we could only get 769 00:40:48,480 --> 00:40:51,760 Speaker 1: better from here. And another thing, you know, you guys 770 00:40:51,760 --> 00:40:54,120 Speaker 1: that are listening to us, tell us what you want 771 00:40:54,120 --> 00:40:55,960 Speaker 1: to once to talk about. You know what you want 772 00:40:55,960 --> 00:40:58,480 Speaker 1: to hear from us, and if there's anything you know, 773 00:40:58,640 --> 00:41:01,160 Speaker 1: nothing's off the table. Were willing to talk about anything 774 00:41:01,440 --> 00:41:07,120 Speaker 1: except politics and religion? Yes, awesome, great talking to you, 775 00:41:07,200 --> 00:41:08,600 Speaker 1: bud I hope. 776 00:41:08,680 --> 00:41:08,759 Speaker 2: Uh. 777 00:41:08,920 --> 00:41:12,120 Speaker 1: Likewise, yeah, I hope you're doing well and we'll talk soon.