Speaker 1: League Bus has all the knowledge you want. League has
Speaker 1: all the knowledge you need. Chat.
Speaker 2: They have all the books that the whole wild world
Speaker 2: one up Readleague Bus. Welcome, Welcome, Welcome to Malik's Bookshow.
Speaker 1: Bringing a world together with books, culture and community.
Speaker 2: Hi, my name is Malik, your host of Malik's bookshel
Speaker 2: Welcome everybody.
Speaker 1: I think you're going to enjoy this episode.
Speaker 2: I brought back the fam and we talked about the five.
Speaker 1: Love languages because I read.
Speaker 2: A book and it was called the Five Love Languages
Speaker 2: by Gary Chapman, PhD.
Speaker 1: Now let's give him his prop. Now, doctor Master.
Speaker 2: Psychologists interview hundreds and hundreds of people, well, not necessarily interview,
Speaker 2: but counsel as a psychologist and.
Speaker 1: Wrote a book.
Speaker 2: But he found a common denominator of five love languages.
Speaker 2: And I thought it would just make good conversation to
Speaker 2: have a talk with my fam, April, Mecca and Zaire.
Speaker 2: And it was a very engaging and very insightful and
Speaker 2: enlightening conversation where we all got a chance to just
Speaker 2: talk about these five love languages.
Speaker 1: As usual.
Speaker 2: I took my fan by surprise and they didn't have
Speaker 2: time to process. You know, me, I got a chance
Speaker 2: to read doctor Gary Chapman's book at least, so they
Speaker 2: didn't get a chance to really process.
Speaker 1: And you get a chance to.
Speaker 2: Hear two teenagers and two mature parents adults discuss love
Speaker 2: in a very spontaneous and organic way. I was quite
Speaker 2: surprised with some of their answers and some of the
Speaker 2: statements that they made. You know, as a teenager, you
Speaker 2: think different than someone who is twenty thirty just lived
Speaker 2: a lot longer. You know, twenty is not really that
Speaker 2: much from a teenager. You know, nineteen twenty, but someone
Speaker 2: in their thirties and forties who experienced children, marriages, professional
Speaker 2: a career, college, or any other type of endeavor did
Speaker 2: take place in your life, because experience is going.
Speaker 1: To be the best teacher.
Speaker 2: But I'm going to feature that conversation, which I thought
Speaker 2: was just refreshing. I do have an interview that took
Speaker 2: place in Eligue Books with a young lady named sin
Speaker 2: Fabrie that wrote a book that created a Benny war
Speaker 2: Apple ended up winning out. But the book is out
Speaker 2: and it's Wolf Hustle, A Black Woman on Wall Street.
Speaker 2: It's a memoir about a young black woman, a cent
Speaker 2: on male dominated Wall Street. Now the batdrop of this
Speaker 2: book is from and I don't know if any of
Speaker 2: you ever saw the movie The Wolf of Wall Street
Speaker 2: starring Leonardo DiCaprio is the backdrop and timeframe of this book.
Speaker 2: The Young Lady Sinning Fred Brie is a black woman
Speaker 2: working on Wall Street during this time when all of
Speaker 2: this took place.
Speaker 1: So this is gonna be a movie.
Speaker 2: This is a book that's out now and I got
Speaker 2: a chance to interviewer for a few minutes at Malik Books.
Speaker 1: The book is available and signed at Malitite Books.
Speaker 2: But it makes for a good read and it makes
Speaker 2: gonna make for a good movie because I love the
Speaker 2: Wolf of Wallshirt.
Speaker 1: I watched that movie all the day time. It's just
Speaker 1: one of those classics.
Speaker 2: Now hit you know, A lot went on, a lot
Speaker 2: was happening, was a lot happening.
Speaker 1: They was living a life.
Speaker 2: But I enjoy the hustle in that movie. And I'm
Speaker 2: sure this new book out.
Speaker 1: Wolf Hustle is gonna be a great read.
Speaker 2: Pick up a cop Comingleebooks dot com, and now let's
Speaker 2: enjoy the episode. Welcome, Welcome, Welcome to Malik's bookshelf. Bringing
Speaker 2: a world together with books, culture and community. I want
Speaker 2: to have a conversation with the fam about the five
Speaker 2: love languages. What's happening is this psychiatrist he realized that
Speaker 2: most people in relationships, whether it be marital boyfriend and girlfriend,
Speaker 2: a relationship with kids, friendships, it all boils down to
Speaker 2: five love languages. So I'm spontaneously want to just talk
Speaker 2: about this without the faun thinking about it, so that
Speaker 2: we can just have an organic, natural conversation about the
Speaker 2: five love languages. And at some point I'll get back
Speaker 2: to the psychiatrist's name. But in the meantime, let me mention.
Speaker 1: The five love languages.
Speaker 2: All right, So we are words, we have service, gifts, touch,
Speaker 2: and time.
Speaker 1: These are the five love languages.
Speaker 2: Now we talk about words, okay, affirmations.
Speaker 1: Everything that comes out of your mouth.
Speaker 2: Is intentional or unintentional, and they have consequences the reality.
Speaker 2: So the words you choose are important in terms of
Speaker 2: the relationship that you're trying to create because words are powerful.
Speaker 2: Words can create life or be destructive towards life. Then
Speaker 2: we're talking about service, acts of kindness or doing something
Speaker 2: that around the house like domestic cleaning or fixing, or
Speaker 2: you know your tires is damaged and you fix the tires.
Speaker 2: You know, these are acts of service. Okay, Now, these
Speaker 2: are all things that makes people smile or make people,
Speaker 2: you know, cry, or make people feel good or happy.
Speaker 2: Then the other one I mentioned words service, all right,
Speaker 2: And then we have gifts, all right. Some people like
Speaker 2: to give gifts to people, and it makes people feel good.
Speaker 1: It makes people feel desired, wanted, appreciated. So gifts.
Speaker 2: These are all languages, and you have to be on
Speaker 2: the same pain because everybody's different. Now the question is
Speaker 2: I'm gonna be asking them, is which one means more
Speaker 2: than them?
Speaker 1: What's their number one?
Speaker 2: Because that's a love language, that's what they desire. And
Speaker 2: so the other two is the other two is time.
Speaker 2: The other one is time right, time, all right? Sometimes
Speaker 2: people want time, They want you to spend time with them. Oftentimes,
Speaker 2: when you meet somebody, court, somebody, whether it's friends or relationship, time,
Speaker 2: you spending time, and then all of a sudden you
Speaker 2: stop spending time.
Speaker 1: What kind of effect that would that have on the relationship? See,
Speaker 1: because you're not spending any more time. And then the
Speaker 1: other one is touch right.
Speaker 2: Touch here you Actually, some people are affectionate and they
Speaker 2: like you to touch them, you know, or you know,
Speaker 2: and they could be spiritual touch, physical touch.
Speaker 1: But they feel that you're present. They feel that you're
Speaker 1: there and in a way that is stimulating and very enjoyable.
Speaker 1: So you have the touch.
Speaker 2: So since I'm talking already, I'm gonna and broke down
Speaker 2: the five. I'm gonna go around the round table. April,
Speaker 2: Zayir Mecca. That's the faun. So who want to go first?
Speaker 2: Which one out of those five?
Speaker 1: All right?
Speaker 3: Okay?
Speaker 4: So for me, I think that time is the most important,
Speaker 4: like the sign of affection, because you like, you're taking
Speaker 4: your time to see like the things they like, the
Speaker 4: stuff like their pet peeves and their their own love language.
Speaker 4: And you're putting like the time and effort into being
Speaker 4: present for them and going to important things stuff they
Speaker 4: would like really want you to go to m and
Speaker 4: just being there, you know, makes them feel appreciated and
Speaker 4: wanted and like like you actually care for them.
Speaker 1: And uh yeah, I mean time matters.
Speaker 2: Time build you know, history, it builds companionships, it builds.
Speaker 1: Future, you know, one step, one brick at a time.
Speaker 2: So you saying time, and I think that you explained
Speaker 2: that very well, the importance of time.
Speaker 1: Now, who's next?
Speaker 5: My love language.
Speaker 6: I think everyone can agreements its gifts.
Speaker 1: Everyone here can agree.
Speaker 6: To gifts is my personal love language. And I know
Speaker 6: you only said five, but my but I believe laughter
Speaker 6: is like if you can't if we can't laugh together
Speaker 6: with each other at each other, it's so dull to okay,
Speaker 6: So what words gifts and love gifts and words for sure?
Speaker 6: Gifts is my first point of a love language. I
Speaker 6: enjoy getting gifts. I enjoy giving gifts. It works both ways.
Speaker 6: To me, I've blessed so many people by giving, and
Speaker 6: I've been blessed with so many gifts from people's and
Speaker 6: it makes me feel like really good inside.
Speaker 5: Gifts, like because because Mary made a good point, like
Speaker 5: words for me too was like a love lames for me,
Speaker 5: like one bad thing or will like change my entire
Speaker 5: mood and my entire.
Speaker 1: Perspective of the person.
Speaker 4: And if they say a good thing about me, well
Speaker 4: I'll feel like really happy and like like I'm actually
Speaker 4: doing really good.
Speaker 1: Yeah, real talk, real talk, real talk. So I have.
Speaker 7: Two of them, which is time and gifts. For time
Speaker 7: is uh and what you say about people being there
Speaker 7: and sometimes they don't be there, but you know they're
Speaker 7: in the same household or where you're at. Even if
Speaker 7: you don't see them, you know, you can feel them
Speaker 7: in anywhere. Uh. And for gifts, sometimes when you give
Speaker 7: stuff to people, sometimes they don't give them back to you,
Speaker 7: but they know that it's out of love and curiosity.
Speaker 7: And and when I get gifts, uh, it just changed
Speaker 7: my whole day.
Speaker 2: And yeah, I remember, I mean you just had a birthday,
Speaker 2: and I remember we.
Speaker 1: Rolled the scooter out in the look on your face,
Speaker 1: you know.
Speaker 4: For touch, I think that for some people, touch only
Speaker 4: gets you so far. Depending on that person and how
Speaker 4: their attitude is, they may just like you know, how
Speaker 4: some people are insecure, it may just think they may
Speaker 4: just think that touch like you're only with them for
Speaker 4: their body and stuff. And if you don't, like I said,
Speaker 4: if you don't pay them enough time, they'll think you're
Speaker 4: only taking advantage of them. But I guess some people
Speaker 4: they appreciated as well.
Speaker 6: But that's what I was saying.
Speaker 2: Yeah, well, the touch is very important because none of
Speaker 2: us will be here without it.
Speaker 1: I mean, that's how procreation occurs.
Speaker 2: That the sex oftentimes causes people momentarily to forget their problems.
Speaker 2: What if they had an argument or a situation because
Speaker 2: it changed the chemicals in your body, at least for
Speaker 2: a moment.
Speaker 1: There's a release where you feel you.
Speaker 2: Fought and your state of mind has changed now depending
Speaker 2: on the severity of a situation. But sex is one
Speaker 2: of the most important things in relationships and it keeps
Speaker 2: people together.
Speaker 1: When you're in a relationship and you're not having.
Speaker 2: Sex, it's the beginning and the end because if you're young,
Speaker 2: your hormones are raging, your hormones on an epic level.
Speaker 2: And if you're not having sex with that person and
Speaker 2: you young twenties, thirties, forties, fifties, you know, when you're young,
Speaker 2: touch is more important in a relationship than.
Speaker 1: When you're old or older. Older. It's a big difference,
Speaker 1: and it changes over time.
Speaker 6: Yes, sometimes touch don't even equal to sex, Like I
Speaker 6: have we've been together for so long. When you touch
Speaker 6: me or touch my head, rub my head, it's like
Speaker 6: a sleeping pill. It's a sleeping pill to me, and
Speaker 6: it makes my body feel a certain type of way.
Speaker 6: So and it don't even lead to sex. It's like, Okay,
Speaker 6: I'm relaxed just by that touch. And when you just
Speaker 6: rubbing my head.
Speaker 2: Yeah, and you know, maybe, and we're a lot older,
Speaker 2: and so the touching a person in their early years
Speaker 2: or early in the relationship has a different effect on
Speaker 2: touching a person in a lot of years. And now,
Speaker 2: in terms of those five love languages, that's what I'm
Speaker 2: going to express my order of these five, all right,
Speaker 2: And I think the order would be different if I
Speaker 2: was younger. But I think one thing is consistent, no
Speaker 2: matter for me, no matter what age. Because now the
Speaker 2: thing is, you want to guess mine, I'm gonna let
Speaker 2: before I say, I'm gonna let you guess it.
Speaker 1: But I think that it's very important that.
Speaker 2: That the one I want to express is I think
Speaker 2: number one, no matter how old I am, because I
Speaker 2: think that it's the foundation of.
Speaker 1: Any type of relationship, whether it's.
Speaker 2: Your wife, your girlfriend, your mother, your father, a relationship
Speaker 2: with your children. I think that this is number one.
Speaker 2: And I've had to learn that over the years. I
Speaker 2: have to learn that just by maturing. So I need
Speaker 2: you to tell me what you think it is.
Speaker 1: Words being go, being go, that's number one. Words.
Speaker 2: Words are number one, and they are to meet the
Speaker 2: building blocks to every relationship. If I meet a person, yes,
Speaker 2: looking at them with my eyes is one reaction.
Speaker 1: But the relationship ain't gonna be built on looking. It's
Speaker 1: gonna be built on the visation, the communication.
Speaker 2: And that's the key to the success of any relationship
Speaker 2: is how you communicate.
Speaker 1: And a language is.
Speaker 2: A group of words, and it does affect every facet
Speaker 2: in every relationship.
Speaker 1: Now, word's the number one for me. Then I feel.
Speaker 2: That if I want to build a relationship, whatever type, business, professional, marital, children,
Speaker 2: it's my service now because.
Speaker 1: I'm feeling a certain way.
Speaker 2: And when you feel a certain way, that doesn't to
Speaker 2: me translate in giving gifts.
Speaker 1: That to me translating me saying hey, you know I
Speaker 1: want to do this for you. I want to do
Speaker 1: that for you.
Speaker 2: Like I said earlier about a car, if I say, oh,
Speaker 2: I like to bry you know you want.
Speaker 1: To respect, to protect, prod to protect.
Speaker 2: If I look at your car and see your tires
Speaker 2: are flat, I'm gonna help you change it.
Speaker 1: You know, I'm not gonna say, oh, you need your
Speaker 1: tires change. I'm gonna do something right. That's service.
Speaker 2: I'm in your house, Hey, this is broke, let me
Speaker 2: fix that. And for some women and for some that's
Speaker 2: a turn on. For other women's it's not to be
Speaker 2: a handy man a maintenance man in that way.
Speaker 1: Okay.
Speaker 2: So that's why I feel like service acts of service
Speaker 2: would be number two, because now I'm demonstrating to you
Speaker 2: my my ability or what's the word, my importance in you.
Speaker 1: You know said, wow, you know that it brings it Yes, yes.
Speaker 6: It brings out value not only for you, but to
Speaker 6: that person, like, oh wow, I value this person because
Speaker 6: of this that and that it brings out a value
Speaker 6: like you.
Speaker 1: Know, it's I did times. That's right, you know, and.
Speaker 6: I still remember that, you still remember that a service.
Speaker 2: And if I come to your house and let's say
Speaker 2: you got kids, right, and I'm dating you, right, and
Speaker 2: I'm coming in your house and just eating your food,
Speaker 2: why not bring some food to you?
Speaker 1: Why not put some food in your refrigerator?
Speaker 2: See, And I've experienced that, and that's one of the
Speaker 2: things I remember. The young lady I was dating, she said,
Speaker 2: he said, man, you the only one that would come
Speaker 2: back gifts. I mean, she didn't look at his gift.
Speaker 2: But I'm bringing something. I'm bringing food to the house.
Speaker 2: Now that could be looked at as a circle if
Speaker 2: you looked at as a gift. But after service. Right,
Speaker 2: then I feel that I've established something. So I think
Speaker 2: gifts in touch and time. You see what I'm saying,
Speaker 2: they get interchange and so forth. But you gotta spend
Speaker 2: time to know somebody. You got to spend time to
Speaker 2: build a relationship to a kid, You got to spend
Speaker 2: time to I have a relationship with anyone or anything
Speaker 2: or business. So I think time with after service. Time
Speaker 2: is there you're putting into work, You're putting in the time,
Speaker 2: all right, Then you know now that I've sparked a
Speaker 2: a I guess, and an abundance of joy and laughter
Speaker 2: and smile and connection. See now we like filling each
Speaker 2: other or I'm loving the business and I'm building. Then
Speaker 2: I feel like, you know, then the touch, you know
Speaker 2: what I'm saying, the touch, and I think after that
Speaker 2: then followed by, you know, the gifts, because you know
Speaker 2: you want to continue to nurse the very thing that
Speaker 2: you have fell in love with or loved, you know,
Speaker 2: so then the gifts.
Speaker 1: So that's kind of you know.
Speaker 2: How I see the five lovel But I'll say that
Speaker 2: if you can't get on the same page with those
Speaker 2: five love languages then and not able to communicate with
Speaker 2: each other through those five love languages.
Speaker 1: You in for a whirl when what I'm saying.
Speaker 6: That goes into wanting to please one another's when you're
Speaker 6: talking about it in a relationship. My top love language
Speaker 6: is not your top love language. And I get that
Speaker 6: and you get that. So whatever I'm not getting from you,
Speaker 6: and you know my love love language is the gifts,
Speaker 6: and you're trying to give me what your love language is.
Speaker 6: It's not gonna work, it's not gonna write.
Speaker 1: I need to meet you with your love and vice versa.
Speaker 6: If yours is words, I have to give you the words.
Speaker 6: And if miss gifts, you know, you might say words
Speaker 6: to me. I'm like, oh that's okay, that's nice, that's fine.
Speaker 6: It just doesn't trigger the same emotions.
Speaker 1: Yes, you know a lot of people.
Speaker 2: You know, people go to work, they work a lot,
Speaker 2: and they don't see each other that much. And there's
Speaker 2: they don't put any time any work. They don't go
Speaker 2: out and date, they don't do nothing together. You know,
Speaker 2: a father don't spend time with his children because he
Speaker 2: out here with his buddies. You know, people get divorced
Speaker 2: and the kids, you know, don't have the quality time
Speaker 2: that they said, because it's two households and that could
Speaker 2: affect them. I mean the kids to find the language,
Speaker 2: and for whoever you're around, to understand what your language is.
Speaker 2: And if you can understand each other's language.
Speaker 1: You better you could be better communicate it. You got
Speaker 1: some more to say.
Speaker 7: Language said for a service, even if they don't want
Speaker 7: the service, it's out of someone's hard So even if
Speaker 7: they still don't want it, you have nothing to do.
Speaker 7: You can help them fix and fix something that's broken
Speaker 7: or that doesn't word.
Speaker 2: Do you think cooking for a person is an active service?
Speaker 7: Yeah, it's active service because, uh do you know.
Speaker 2: They say the way do a man's uh is do
Speaker 2: his stomach. Yeah, the way through a man's heart is
Speaker 2: through his stomach. And cooking how important that is?
Speaker 1: Like that too, You used to do that for me
Speaker 1: too as a walking head. Yo.
Speaker 6: She pull of cookies like, oh this is great. Your
Speaker 6: first meal you ever made me was lasagna. You did
Speaker 6: it from scratch lasagna and cookies, cookies. It was so delicious.
Speaker 1: What we talk what we tell mack to the day she.
Speaker 6: Wanted to learn how to cook.
Speaker 3: Hell you to say what they said? Huh?
Speaker 4: I actual if about family traditions and stuff. And I
Speaker 4: went to German mama cooking for Thanksgiving because my.
Speaker 1: Daddy said I should learn how to cook.
Speaker 3: So I want to.
Speaker 1: I want to.
Speaker 4: If I'm gonna learn, one might as well learn the tradition.
Speaker 1: Yes, yes, cooking.
Speaker 2: I think it's very import And you know, I grew
Speaker 2: up around with Sunday dinners the whole family. But more important,
Speaker 2: I learned how to cook by watching my mom, my,
Speaker 2: whole brother, sister.
Speaker 1: We all learned how to cook.
Speaker 2: And all of us cook well, all of us cook good,
Speaker 2: but we wanted to learn how to cook. That's the
Speaker 2: key in the importance of learning, and and and and
Speaker 2: But that's an act of service to getting to me,
Speaker 2: you know, assistant. You know a lot of times people
Speaker 2: think that the duty of a woman is to clean
Speaker 2: the home and the man shit around and do nothing
Speaker 2: but go to work.
Speaker 1: It's I mean, what's your thoughts on that?
Speaker 6: That ain't happening nowadays. They don't have Some man today
Speaker 6: still like that, But majority of the time it's not
Speaker 6: like that anymore. Everybody have a duty. And that's saying
Speaker 6: that that duty it might be the same thing. You
Speaker 6: might get home earlier than me, so it's your your
Speaker 6: duty to get home and do chores and cook the dinner,
Speaker 6: and I might get home late. So don't leave that
Speaker 6: only up to a woman.
Speaker 2: I mean, are there a lot of relationships where they
Speaker 2: out of balance.
Speaker 6: Yes, I've been in relationship, but the men cooked and
Speaker 6: clean for me. I've been in those relationships. My first
Speaker 6: relationship was like that. I didn't watch clothes at I
Speaker 6: was twenty one years old.
Speaker 7: I didn't.
Speaker 6: I didn't watch clothes. He washed the clothes. That that's
Speaker 6: something that he did. And after that I was in
Speaker 6: relationships and they cooked very good and cleaned very good,
Speaker 6: very good.
Speaker 7: So I enjoyed that.
Speaker 2: I enjoyed it.
Speaker 1: Some men are not domestic, and that is a challenge
Speaker 1: for men.
Speaker 2: Men aren't. But I've had a few.
Speaker 1: I've hung out with women that wasn't domestic, and it
Speaker 1: was a turn off for me.
Speaker 6: But that's you, though, that that's but that's that, that's you.
Speaker 6: Everybody is different, everybody. That's what makes everyone different.
Speaker 1: I enjoyed it.
Speaker 6: I enjoy it both ways.
Speaker 7: I enjoy cooking.
Speaker 1: I've heard that people say women have the cooking geen.
Speaker 1: Is that a thing? I don't know, No, because.
Speaker 4: That's what I hear people saying, what is that's what
Speaker 4: to mean?
Speaker 2: Well, well, here's the thing is that women have a
Speaker 2: natural maternal instinct, and when it comes to a being domestic,
Speaker 2: meaning the house, being the woman of the house and
Speaker 2: taking care of the house and the cleaning and all that,
Speaker 2: it seems that they do it more effortlessly.
Speaker 1: And naturally, whereas whereas we struggle as men more.
Speaker 2: Now that's not to say that a lot of men
Speaker 2: are not naturally good at it, but we found I mean,
Speaker 2: you know, that's just the age old conversation were living
Speaker 2: in at a different time where where men and women
Speaker 2: are working. They're not at home like they used to be,
Speaker 2: one at home, one working. We're living in a time
Speaker 2: when both out hustling and bustling and trying to make
Speaker 2: it make ends me.
Speaker 1: So you know, that definition of the household and who
Speaker 1: does this has to.
Speaker 2: Change because we don't live in those times where the
Speaker 2: women is just sitting at home or a man just
Speaker 2: sitting at home. We're living in a time we're both
Speaker 2: out of the home, so both have to participate in
Speaker 2: domestic chores of the house. Final thoughts, anyone, final thoughts
Speaker 2: on this? This was spontaneous, the five Love Languages. I
Speaker 2: hope y'all got something out of it. That's what Malie's Bookshelf,
Speaker 2: bringing a world together with books, culture and community is.
Speaker 2: Sometimes I think that having a group conversation can add
Speaker 2: more value to the subject. And thank you for the opportunity,
Speaker 2: thank you for this time, thank you, thank you, thank you.
Speaker 1: The Wolf Hustle A Black Woman on Wall Street.
Speaker 7: That's right.
Speaker 2: New book tell us a little deeply about why is parallels.
Speaker 1: The Wolf of Wall Street.
Speaker 3: First book memoir. This is a this is like almost
Speaker 3: a coming of age story. But it starts when I'm sixteen,
Speaker 3: and I am at nineteen, the youngest black Stockbrook on
Speaker 3: Wall Street. And if anybody watched The Wolf of Wall Street,
Speaker 3: they're going to get an idea of the guys I
Speaker 3: worked for at that time. But I tell you about
Speaker 3: how I did my own hustle, how I made a
Speaker 3: ton of money, lost a lot of money. But I
Speaker 3: think people will get wrapped into the story because they'll
Speaker 3: see parallels of themselves in this, so it'll resonate with folks.
Speaker 3: I mean, if anybody saw the debauchery, I think it
Speaker 3: was the high pressure sales tactics we learned. I think
Speaker 3: it was the perseverance, like you never get up, no
Speaker 3: matter what your state is, no matter what your beginnings are,
Speaker 3: no matter where you end up. It's all about what
Speaker 3: you want. And I think for me, it was all
Speaker 3: about my passion and how much I love doing this
Speaker 3: and talking to people. So I think, you know, for me,
Speaker 3: the messages here, whatever it is that you're doing in life,
Speaker 3: if you really want to go for it, just go
Speaker 3: for it. You know, it's brick by brick, don't give up.
Speaker 1: And what year, what time of the year was just
Speaker 1: it just took place on Wall Street.
Speaker 3: This was the early nineties early It might be before
Speaker 3: some of you folks, depending on what streaming media you're
Speaker 3: getting this on. But yeah, this was the early nineties,
Speaker 3: I think, which was the best time of the year,
Speaker 3: the best time, the best decade.
Speaker 1: I said, well, how many black women was on Wall
Speaker 1: Street at this during this time?
Speaker 3: I mean, it says women. So that's why I think
Speaker 3: I'm the only woman that I know of.
Speaker 1: So you ain't seen no women there were black on
Speaker 1: Wall Street?
Speaker 2: Were you? Yeah?
Speaker 3: I mean, I mean I didn't think about it until
Speaker 3: after the fact. During the time, I was just like
Speaker 3: I didn't care. I was like, I'll be the dark horse.
Speaker 3: No one seas coming.
Speaker 1: So that's the way I did it.
Speaker 3: And I think for anything anybody wants to do, just
Speaker 3: do that. Stick to whatever it is.
Speaker 2: And so and so did you at that time experienced,
Speaker 2: like on Wall Street racism or you know, what's your
Speaker 2: thoughts about that being the only black woman. I mean,
Speaker 2: that's that's history in.
Speaker 3: The sense, you know, I grew up in the Caribbean household,
Speaker 3: and so in the Caribbean we're the majority, not the minority.
Speaker 3: And so for me to be on Wall Street at
Speaker 3: that time, I never thought anything of it. You know,
Speaker 3: the racism obviously was there. There was misogyny, There was
Speaker 3: a lot, but I think for me, I looked at
Speaker 3: that at that time good old fashioned hazing. I didn't
Speaker 3: know what it was, and so I think, to me
Speaker 3: that was actually a great thing because I lived in
Speaker 3: this world where no one was going to throw me
Speaker 3: off my game. So I wouldn't recommend it for everyone,
Speaker 3: but it worked for me.
Speaker 2: I'm trying to get an interview, so yeah, yeah, yeah,
Speaker 2: what did you talk about that in the book The
Speaker 2: Misogyny RS.
Speaker 3: Yeah, and I explore all of it there was so
Speaker 3: many things that happened. But I also, I'm no victim
Speaker 3: in the story. You know, I'm winning and I'm wanting
Speaker 3: people to get inspired. So there's no I'm not a victim.
Speaker 3: I'm still winning. So it's all about the hustle. And
Speaker 3: if you can connect with that, then you're gonna love
Speaker 3: the story. There's no way you want.
Speaker 1: So this is a memoir. It's a memoir, and it's about.
Speaker 2: About you and your journey as a black woman on
Speaker 2: Wall Street, things that you experienced, and and that's a
Speaker 2: that's an interesting world because you know, you know, we
Speaker 2: every day we wake up and we hear about stock market,
Speaker 2: and we hear about the Dow, and we hear about
Speaker 2: the Nash Deck.
Speaker 1: And here you lived it in the nineties.
Speaker 3: I lived it. And you know what's funny is I
Speaker 3: walked into this business not having that much of financial
Speaker 3: education as far as financial literacy, and years later after
Speaker 3: the business, I still didn't have that information was not accessible.
Speaker 3: And part of the things I talk about in my office, notice,
Speaker 3: you know, get that financial literacy, get those resources, go
Speaker 3: to school, find out that inform Because I made a
Speaker 3: ton of money and I lost a majority of it
Speaker 3: because I didn't have that, and so what I would like,
Speaker 3: you know, one of the things I do talk about
Speaker 3: is just, you know, educate yourself. You have every all
Speaker 3: the resources and the tools in the world. There's no excuse, so.
Speaker 1: Most people to invest it.
Speaker 2: I mean, I'll say this is that a lot of
Speaker 2: people made a lot of money in the stand mark
Speaker 2: a lot of people lost.
Speaker 1: A lot of money. Yeah you lost a lot wow
Speaker 1: wow where it sounds.
Speaker 2: What I'm gathering just for this short conversation is that
Speaker 2: a major part of your drive.
Speaker 1: Was that you like to hustle. I love it. You know,
Speaker 1: are you hustling today?
Speaker 3: And whatever you're doing, I'm about to hustle these books
Speaker 3: right here bookstores, so come through. They're signed and thank
Speaker 3: you for the support. And yeah, and I'd love to
Speaker 3: hear people's thoughts and comments and.
Speaker 1: Hit me up on the ground if you can, bingo.
Speaker 1: Thank you.
Speaker 2: Thanks for listening to Maleik's Bookshelf, where topics on the
Speaker 2: shelf are books, culture, and community.
Speaker 1: Be sure to subscribe and leave me a review. Check
Speaker 1: out my instagram at maleak Books. See you next time.