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Speaker 1: So let me ask you this, is it inappropriate if

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Speaker 2: Is it inappropriate if she did that, she had sex

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Speaker 3: Answer my question.

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Speaker 2: The question is yes, it is inappropriate.

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Speaker 1: So is it inappropriate to have a bachelorette party with

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Speaker 2: Yea, that's inappropriate too.

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Speaker 3: But that's when women do that.

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Speaker 2: I mean, it is what it is. Men do strippers

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Speaker 1: Yes, so that's like I think the bachelor and bachelor

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Speaker 1: party is like, you know what, I'm gonna have fun.

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Speaker 2: It doesn't mean you're sleeping with someone.

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Speaker 3: Is taking over the game.

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Speaker 1: All right, everybody, welcome to Truth after Dark.

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Speaker 2: Do you think that men or women are more toxic? Hello,

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Speaker 2: beautiful people, welcome to another episode of the Truth after Dark.

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Speaker 2: I am your host, zar Fara Day.

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Speaker 3: What up the Truth in the building.

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Speaker 2: So we're gonna get into some current events. Dak Prescott

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Speaker 2: has been in the media a lot. Him and his

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Speaker 2: some and saying like she didn't want to sign a

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Speaker 2: prenup and allegedly what really happened is that people at

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Speaker 2: the bachelorette party or bachelor party showed her inappropriate dms

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Speaker 2: from Dak to other women.

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Speaker 3: Damn, this is my thing.

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Speaker 1: Why y'all weigh as friends of hers to the bachelorette

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Speaker 1: this stuff to be like, oh look girl, you sure

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Speaker 3: That's just hate, that's just hate.

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Speaker 1: Like I feel like, friends, yeah, it's a proper time

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Speaker 1: you bring that awareness to her of that girls are

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Speaker 1: going to do that anyway? Yeah, but I think you

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Speaker 1: he obviously want to marry her, but then this stuff

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Speaker 3: I hate this.

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Speaker 2: It's not their fault.

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Speaker 3: Well, they could have brought it up, but we.

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Speaker 2: Don't know if it just happened. It's not necessarily their fault. Yes,

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Speaker 2: I agree with what you're saying, as they could have

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Speaker 1: All right, So let me ask you this, is it

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Speaker 2: Is it inappropriate if she did that, she had sex

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Speaker 3: Answer my question.

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Speaker 2: The question is yes, it is inappropriate.

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Speaker 3: That's inappropriate.

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Speaker 2: it is what it is men do strippers and have

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Speaker 1: Yeah, so that's like I think the bachelor and bachelor

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Speaker 3: Who said he was sleeping You said inappropriate messages?

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Speaker 2: Yeah, but still inappropriate message messages.

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Speaker 1: An inappropriate message doesn't mean he's sleeping with her. That's

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Speaker 2: Inappropriate If you found messages in your soon to be

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Speaker 2: What I'm asking you is are you going to still

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Speaker 3: What you asking me again?

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Speaker 2: If you're soon to be wife, you found dms of

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Speaker 1: I think we gotta have a conversation. I don't think

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Speaker 2: No?

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Speaker 3: No, we ain't doing that right right And we don't

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Speaker 1: The context of his inappropriate relation messages though, Was it

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Speaker 3: Was it? Like, we don't know. Inappropriate?

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Speaker 1: Obviously it was enough to say to call off the wedding.

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Speaker 2: So you're not calling off the wedding because you're saying, hey,

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Speaker 2: what's up. You're calling off the wedding because probably are

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Speaker 3: It's a breakup.

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Speaker 2: I'm cool you disrespected me like it's one and we

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Speaker 2: Fool me once, shame on me, Shame on you. I mean,

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Speaker 2: she gave him a benefit of the doubt before and

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Speaker 2: I don't want to marry you.

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Speaker 1: A deal on the table she saw, oh, inappropriate messages

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Speaker 2: I wouldn't. It just depends what people value.

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Speaker 1: I mean, women love security than a man. He obviously

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Speaker 2: Do you realize that security is more than money.

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Speaker 3: It's money and it's mental health.

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Speaker 2: You know that it's emotional security, physical security, physical security

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Speaker 2: And also it's funny because I on here, I have

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Speaker 1: Before we go any further. Women value financial security first

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Speaker 1: Well, show emotional security because of the text. He's given

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Speaker 2: Some people value financial emotion security the same, Like it's

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Speaker 2: And what I'm saying is is the same. You can't

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Speaker 2: So it's just it's it's inevitable to end. Like women

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Speaker 2: So it's like there's always something and that's why I

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Speaker 3: True, Like it's true. Women are more emotional.

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Speaker 2: Yeah, we all know that.

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Speaker 2: I think that little things turn into big things when

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Speaker 2: I'm not what are we doing here? You're a man?

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Speaker 1: You think we need to all just grow up though,

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Speaker 3: You shouldn't looking for an emotional.

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Speaker 2: You know you're not looking for emotional man, you're looking.

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Speaker 1: For emotional security. Wont if you don't want us to

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Speaker 2: My point is is if a woman is like in

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Speaker 2: We're not expecting no tit for tat. We're expecting a

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Speaker 1: Yeah, I wouldn't have called off the wedding if I

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Speaker 2: Because women give man chances we want to say, we

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Speaker 2: But we don't know that. And even if it is,

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Speaker 2: some people have harder boundaries I don't deal with. Some

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Speaker 2: don't deal with no level of cheating. Straight up.

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Speaker 1: We get this far for you to call this off.

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Speaker 1: We had all the importations I had brought out the place.

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Speaker 2: Well then, because it's like I don't want to get

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Speaker 2: men don't understand when men. Women don't understand when men,

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Speaker 2: I mean, men don't unerstand. When women start to see

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Speaker 2: by moving on. Like, once I get to that point,

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Speaker 2: I don't think they have kids, but no, I don't

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Speaker 2: think they have kids together. But I have to double check.

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Speaker 3: If they got kids then, but.

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Speaker 2: They're not by her, right, Yeah, I don't think that

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Speaker 3: Probably he saved man, he probably.

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Speaker 2: I don't know if they have kids. I thought it

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Speaker 1: He probably saved. She saved him a lot of bread

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Speaker 2: Yeah, they do have two kids. They have two kids together.

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Speaker 1: Yeah, they gotta work that out. They gotta figure that out.

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Speaker 1: We're gonna he gotta be like, no, we getting married

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Speaker 1: and we're gonna figure it out. Why though, because we

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Speaker 1: when you walk that that aisle, you know it's for

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Speaker 1: sickness and health till death do us part.

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Speaker 2: Yeah, but it's not for you cheating or sending inappropriate

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Speaker 1: Let's take that out the wedding. Then until death do

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Speaker 1: us part. I don't never need to be to say

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Speaker 2: Well, that's my point. She didn't go through the wedding.

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Speaker 2: She didn't want to do the death to us part

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Speaker 2: because she's not gonna deal with what you're coming with.

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Speaker 2: That's my point. My point is is I'm not going

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Speaker 2: and they're not together, Like, what does that have to

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Speaker 2: so now we're co parent, Like, what is the difference.

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Speaker 2: I don't want to commit to a man like men

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Speaker 2: this type of behavior, who is disloyal. I can't sit

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Speaker 2: we really are death to us part if I get married,

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Speaker 2: if I ever get married, I'm death to us part.

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Speaker 2: We're not divorcing. We're gonna have to figure this out.

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Speaker 2: So I'm not gonna do that with a man who

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Speaker 2: I'm not gonna want to do that.

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Speaker 1: Well wait, what did you just say. You said we'll

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Speaker 2: Yeah, if I get married, But if we're before the

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Speaker 2: make that commitment before.

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Speaker 3: That happen within the marriage.

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Speaker 2: Then if that would have happened within the marriage, it

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Speaker 3: Yeah.

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Speaker 1: And again, it's like you said, it's a fine line

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Speaker 1: just I can't deal no more. Because they've obviously been

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Speaker 1: that was just the final straw.

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Speaker 2: So yeah, I could have been the final straw. They've

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Speaker 3: Obviously wasn't that obviously wasn't the first time.

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Speaker 2: Yeah, it could have been.

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Speaker 3: It is the first time.

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Speaker 2: Well, I'm gonna tell you this though. It's so funny

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Speaker 2: though men have constantly proven that they will do this

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Speaker 2: type of behavior. You have this man on a pedestal

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Speaker 2: love him. He hasn't done anything I know. And you

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Speaker 2: and then when they do it, it shatters you. It

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Speaker 2: it's like you get numb. You're like, oh, I expect

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Speaker 3: Broken, Well, she probably lost respect.

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Speaker 2: You lose respect, You lose respect, and who knows he

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Speaker 2: hard obviously, you know, it's more than a breakup. It's

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Speaker 2: the divorce, and you're already going through all of this.

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Speaker 2: So you know you as a woman nowadays too, it's

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Speaker 2: like you want to think about, like if I ever

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Speaker 2: you gotta it's gonna have to be someone that I'm like, yeah,

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Speaker 2: I know, you're not gonna make a fool of mirror

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Speaker 2: embarrass me because once I stand before God. It's more

436
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Speaker 2: for me a commitment to God, Like I'm gonna really

437
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Speaker 2: rock with that and we're gonna make this work. But

438
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Speaker 2: if I know you're gonna put me through a whole

439
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Speaker 2: bunch of ship in order to do that, why am

440
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Speaker 2: I gonna do that?

441
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Speaker 3: Like?

442
00:21:24,040 --> 00:21:29,479
Speaker 2: Why? Why? What's the point? Because like, for instance, so

443
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Speaker 2: what do we ask you to do?

444
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Speaker 3: How do women look at it?

445
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Speaker 1: Like, all right, he puts you through some ship, it's

446
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Speaker 1: over with you, move on, you get a new guy.

447
00:21:36,680 --> 00:21:39,680
Speaker 3: He puts you through some ship. Is just a cycle, now.

448
00:21:39,640 --> 00:21:41,679
Speaker 2: Yeah, that's the cycle. So what happens is is like

449
00:21:42,440 --> 00:21:46,560
Speaker 2: you pray you find a guy that's no, you don't.

450
00:21:46,800 --> 00:21:53,000
Speaker 2: You don't once you're cool, Yeah, you're cool once because

451
00:21:53,680 --> 00:21:56,840
Speaker 2: it gets too deep into one person's bullshit to where

452
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Speaker 2: you can't even get with them sexually anymore. You can't,

453
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Speaker 2: like I can't get past this with you, so I

454
00:22:03,760 --> 00:22:05,959
Speaker 2: don't want you. So even if I go to a

455
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Speaker 2: new man and he cheats or he does something like,

456
00:22:09,880 --> 00:22:12,720
Speaker 2: I'd rather do it here because it's not as built

457
00:22:12,760 --> 00:22:15,960
Speaker 2: up long time resentment. I can't do it with the person.

458
00:22:16,520 --> 00:22:19,520
Speaker 2: Once you meet meet a threshold with a man as

459
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Speaker 2: a woman, it's over. It's really over. Like That's what

460
00:22:23,000 --> 00:22:25,840
Speaker 2: man don't realize, even if we want to be with you,

461
00:22:26,640 --> 00:22:28,680
Speaker 2: even if we're like I wish, I don't want to

462
00:22:28,800 --> 00:22:31,639
Speaker 2: end this relationship. I don't want to not get married.

463
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Speaker 2: I don't want to not be with the person I'm

464
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Speaker 2: supposed to like, have a kid with. I don't want

465
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Speaker 2: to do this. Even if you have all those things

466
00:22:38,119 --> 00:22:41,680
Speaker 2: that you don't want, you physically cannot feel soft again.

467
00:22:42,200 --> 00:22:45,240
Speaker 2: You physically couldnot feel safe again. And if a new

468
00:22:45,320 --> 00:22:48,840
Speaker 2: man does it, then it's a new situation and you

469
00:22:48,920 --> 00:22:51,280
Speaker 2: pray and hope that he might mess up one time

470
00:22:51,320 --> 00:22:54,440
Speaker 2: and it's not again, and you keep figuring it out.

471
00:22:54,440 --> 00:22:56,760
Speaker 2: Onto you can find a man that actually respects you.

472
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Speaker 2: But I'm gonna keep trying and get with somebody who

473
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Speaker 2: is actually like you know, I got you, baby, to

474
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Speaker 2: where I can feel safe and I can feel good

475
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Speaker 2: because I don't regret I've been in that situation. I've

476
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Speaker 2: left someone and I got with a new person and

477
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Speaker 2: they did something. I don't ever feel like I should

478
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Speaker 2: have stayed with him. No, because it's gone. It's over

479
00:23:19,680 --> 00:23:22,800
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Speaker 2: Well, I think that this all has to do with

541
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543
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Speaker 2: want peace, I want to be peaceful. I just want

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545
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Speaker 2: shit to make it non peaceful and to make me

546
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Speaker 2: feel crazy about shit and now you want peace so bad.

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548
00:26:54,160 --> 00:26:56,119
Speaker 2: Well, he filed for divorce, that's the latest.

549
00:26:57,680 --> 00:26:58,280
Speaker 3: For like a year.

550
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Speaker 2: Well they already was having public issues before they got

551
00:27:01,359 --> 00:27:05,119
Speaker 2: married or when they just got married, so like talking

552
00:27:05,119 --> 00:27:07,720
Speaker 2: about divorce like after like a month of being married.

553
00:27:07,760 --> 00:27:10,160
Speaker 2: So I don't know. I also think that like keeping

554
00:27:10,160 --> 00:27:12,920
Speaker 2: your information public and like letting us all know what's

555
00:27:12,920 --> 00:27:15,800
Speaker 2: going on is just like you shouldn't do that. Keep

556
00:27:15,880 --> 00:27:18,960
Speaker 2: us out the conversation. We don't need to know when

557
00:27:19,040 --> 00:27:21,040
Speaker 2: y'all get a divorced, when y'all get it. I hate

558
00:27:21,080 --> 00:27:24,000
Speaker 2: people who go to the internet for stuff that really

559
00:27:24,040 --> 00:27:26,200
Speaker 2: is the most unattractive thing anyone can do for.

560
00:27:26,160 --> 00:27:30,920
Speaker 1: Me, Like social media has ruined relationships so many Now

561
00:27:31,560 --> 00:27:33,879
Speaker 1: we're in the error to where like you said, with

562
00:27:33,920 --> 00:27:39,119
Speaker 1: the Dak Prescott DM and inappropriate messaging or here, this

563
00:27:39,200 --> 00:27:41,920
Speaker 1: is what we're doing in our relationship public, public, public

564
00:27:42,119 --> 00:27:44,840
Speaker 1: and everybody knowing everything about y'all, to where now you

565
00:27:44,880 --> 00:27:48,919
Speaker 1: allow other people to interfere in it and attack you

566
00:27:48,960 --> 00:27:52,359
Speaker 1: even more because the more this is what women and

567
00:27:52,400 --> 00:27:55,400
Speaker 1: men do when they get married, and then your DM's

568
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Speaker 1: getting fluxed.

569
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Speaker 3: It just opens up the door for so.

570
00:27:58,240 --> 00:28:04,280
Speaker 1: Many negative comments or just negative influences, so they can

571
00:28:04,359 --> 00:28:06,640
Speaker 1: creep in up a woman's mind or a man's mind.

572
00:28:06,720 --> 00:28:10,440
Speaker 1: Because now when you're making public and somebody's like, oh, yeah,

573
00:28:10,480 --> 00:28:13,080
Speaker 1: i've seen her here or I know she used to

574
00:28:13,480 --> 00:28:15,639
Speaker 1: all of that, and then it just creates doubt. And

575
00:28:15,680 --> 00:28:18,840
Speaker 1: it's just like I just feel like most relationship, especially

576
00:28:19,119 --> 00:28:21,800
Speaker 1: with public figures, because that's what we're talking about right now,

577
00:28:22,080 --> 00:28:27,600
Speaker 1: should be main private. And the more private you get,

578
00:28:27,840 --> 00:28:31,280
Speaker 1: I want. But the more privacy you put in a relationship,

579
00:28:31,320 --> 00:28:36,320
Speaker 1: the less people are going to come in and try

580
00:28:36,320 --> 00:28:39,800
Speaker 1: to attack the relationship, to try to break it up

581
00:28:40,000 --> 00:28:43,160
Speaker 1: because people hate to see other people happy. I feel

582
00:28:43,160 --> 00:28:45,600
Speaker 1: like a lot of times you got your genuine friends

583
00:28:45,600 --> 00:28:47,080
Speaker 1: and family, I want to see you happy, but then

584
00:28:47,120 --> 00:28:49,479
Speaker 1: you got people that just like, huh, let me see,

585
00:28:49,680 --> 00:28:51,560
Speaker 1: let me see if I can break this up. Oh

586
00:28:51,640 --> 00:28:54,600
Speaker 1: here's my window of opportunity. It just open ups the

587
00:28:54,640 --> 00:28:57,120
Speaker 1: door for too much other things to creep in.

588
00:28:58,040 --> 00:29:00,920
Speaker 2: I agree with that. I think privacy is key. I

589
00:29:00,920 --> 00:29:05,959
Speaker 2: think even private until you're close to your heart is important.

590
00:29:06,160 --> 00:29:10,000
Speaker 1: I agree with that, but I hate seeing everything play

591
00:29:10,000 --> 00:29:11,080
Speaker 1: out over social media.

592
00:29:11,200 --> 00:29:13,600
Speaker 3: It just gets messy and there's no recovery.

593
00:29:13,720 --> 00:29:18,680
Speaker 1: Once public embarrassment is involved, it's hard to go back.

594
00:29:19,160 --> 00:29:22,960
Speaker 1: Like that's one thing for a woman. A woman hates

595
00:29:23,080 --> 00:29:27,440
Speaker 1: public embarrassment. You know, you can have stuff and it's

596
00:29:27,520 --> 00:29:30,040
Speaker 1: kept in house, and you know, you don't know what's

597
00:29:30,080 --> 00:29:31,640
Speaker 1: going on, you don't know what they're going through. But

598
00:29:31,680 --> 00:29:34,240
Speaker 1: on social media everything looks looks happy, But once it

599
00:29:34,360 --> 00:29:39,560
Speaker 1: goes public, the relationship has such a strain on it

600
00:29:40,120 --> 00:29:42,680
Speaker 1: that it's hard to recover from that. And that's why

601
00:29:42,720 --> 00:29:44,960
Speaker 1: I hate when people take it to the oh, this

602
00:29:45,040 --> 00:29:47,960
Speaker 1: is what we're going through, like all of that is unnecessary.

603
00:29:48,400 --> 00:29:52,040
Speaker 3: Like I just I'm not and I don't. I don't

604
00:29:52,120 --> 00:29:53,440
Speaker 3: like public embarrassment.

605
00:29:53,680 --> 00:29:56,880
Speaker 2: Yeah, anything who's going to the internet. That's blowing me

606
00:29:57,880 --> 00:29:58,400
Speaker 2: because you're.

607
00:29:58,320 --> 00:30:00,160
Speaker 1: Not looked at as a fool now when you go

608
00:30:00,160 --> 00:30:03,440
Speaker 1: out in public. But if it's private and everybody ain't

609
00:30:03,480 --> 00:30:06,080
Speaker 1: in y'all business, you can probably deal with it a

610
00:30:06,160 --> 00:30:10,680
Speaker 1: little better, right, Yeah, when it's public, it's like, damn,

611
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Speaker 1: you just feel like everybody looking at you a certain way,

612
00:30:13,200 --> 00:30:15,240
Speaker 1: talking behind your back, doing all this, and.

613
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Speaker 3: It's just it's just too much.

614
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Speaker 1: It's just too much built up when you have to

615
00:30:20,320 --> 00:30:23,400
Speaker 1: go out the house every day for to have that

616
00:30:23,600 --> 00:30:27,880
Speaker 1: feeling like, you know, so I encourage you know, relationships,

617
00:30:27,920 --> 00:30:29,480
Speaker 1: whether it's how people.

618
00:30:29,240 --> 00:30:31,800
Speaker 2: Are going to talk about you regardless though, whether it's

619
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Speaker 2: a public figure, whether.

620
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Speaker 3: It's this like public embarrassment.

621
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Speaker 2: Yeah, but it's like people assume things like something can

622
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Speaker 2: come out on the internet and they don't know the

623
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Speaker 2: real about Oh this is that, and then everyone's sending

624
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Speaker 2: it to each other, talking shit about you, sending it here,

625
00:30:44,760 --> 00:30:46,400
Speaker 2: sending here. You can't even go to the damn gym.

626
00:30:46,760 --> 00:30:49,920
Speaker 2: People are in your business like stuff happens like that regardless,

627
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Speaker 2: And it's just about how you're built and if you're

628
00:30:51,840 --> 00:30:54,760
Speaker 2: built to go through that. Like there's certain people who

629
00:30:54,800 --> 00:30:57,280
Speaker 2: are not, and there's certain people who just be like whatever,

630
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Speaker 2: I don't even care, you know, like it it is

631
00:31:00,440 --> 00:31:02,840
Speaker 2: what it is like for me, I'm one of those

632
00:31:02,840 --> 00:31:06,200
Speaker 2: people that I could like literally probably deal with public embarrassment.

633
00:31:06,560 --> 00:31:08,960
Speaker 2: I think the bigger fear for me is how I

634
00:31:09,000 --> 00:31:13,280
Speaker 2: feel about my partner, Like how am I feeling about

635
00:31:13,280 --> 00:31:15,800
Speaker 2: you after this? Is how like am I gonna be

636
00:31:15,840 --> 00:31:17,560
Speaker 2: able to look at you the same? You know, Like

637
00:31:17,800 --> 00:31:19,920
Speaker 2: it makes it harder with people in your business though,

638
00:31:19,960 --> 00:31:23,080
Speaker 2: and that's why I do believe privacy is important. But

639
00:31:23,400 --> 00:31:27,680
Speaker 2: like I said, I feel like we have to be

640
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Speaker 2: real about, like how do me and the person feel? Like,

641
00:31:32,560 --> 00:31:34,920
Speaker 2: let's drown out the noise of everybody else, because people

642
00:31:34,960 --> 00:31:37,200
Speaker 2: are always gonna say something even if you're not public,

643
00:31:37,200 --> 00:31:39,720
Speaker 2: and even if you're not a public figure, just people

644
00:31:39,760 --> 00:31:42,760
Speaker 2: in the streets like oh, her man or her da

645
00:31:42,800 --> 00:31:44,840
Speaker 2: da da da, she did this and he did that,

646
00:31:45,040 --> 00:31:49,160
Speaker 2: like people always want to talk because people always want

647
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654
00:32:15,080 --> 00:32:19,280
Speaker 2: to talk about Little Boosy. So Little Boosey recently said

655
00:32:19,680 --> 00:32:24,200
Speaker 2: on like he was on a show or something and

656
00:32:24,240 --> 00:32:26,480
Speaker 2: it's a viral clip, but he was like, I don't

657
00:32:26,520 --> 00:32:30,240
Speaker 2: care what no one says. I need a woman. And

658
00:32:30,280 --> 00:32:32,760
Speaker 2: he was like, I feel like men need women more

659
00:32:32,800 --> 00:32:35,360
Speaker 2: than they like to admit that they do, and not

660
00:32:35,480 --> 00:32:38,280
Speaker 2: just sexually. He was like, sometimes I just want my

661
00:32:38,360 --> 00:32:43,280
Speaker 2: woman around to lay up with. He just values a

662
00:32:43,320 --> 00:32:47,520
Speaker 2: woman's presence and he just feels like a woman just

663
00:32:47,680 --> 00:32:50,760
Speaker 2: gets there, gets his shit together, like gets him feeling

664
00:32:50,800 --> 00:32:54,600
Speaker 2: better motivated, gets his like cracking, and like just her

665
00:32:54,640 --> 00:32:58,960
Speaker 2: presence alone just brings that energy. And a lot of

666
00:32:59,000 --> 00:33:01,680
Speaker 2: women are like, the clip is going viral because a

667
00:33:01,680 --> 00:33:04,000
Speaker 2: lot of women are like, Okay, damn, we don't hear

668
00:33:04,120 --> 00:33:09,280
Speaker 2: men talking like that as often anymore. What are your thoughts?

669
00:33:11,560 --> 00:33:14,960
Speaker 3: Um, You know, it's to each of his own, you know,

670
00:33:15,640 --> 00:33:19,880
Speaker 3: And you know it's just like.

671
00:33:21,560 --> 00:33:23,960
Speaker 1: I think in boozy case, you know, he getting a

672
00:33:24,000 --> 00:33:27,280
Speaker 1: little older, so he like, you know, probably he ain't

673
00:33:27,360 --> 00:33:29,760
Speaker 1: doing the same things he used to do, and he like,

674
00:33:29,920 --> 00:33:32,560
Speaker 1: you know, I need that, you know, I need that comfort.

675
00:33:32,640 --> 00:33:35,160
Speaker 1: You know, women do bring comfort to the man when

676
00:33:35,160 --> 00:33:37,360
Speaker 1: it's the right one. It depends on the woman. They can't,

677
00:33:37,400 --> 00:33:39,360
Speaker 1: like you said, there can't be any old woman just

678
00:33:39,400 --> 00:33:40,959
Speaker 1: for sex and all that. It gotta be one that

679
00:33:41,000 --> 00:33:44,480
Speaker 1: bring comfort, emotional stability that just uplift you, get you

680
00:33:44,600 --> 00:33:47,880
Speaker 1: keep you motivated. Things in that nature, and you know,

681
00:33:47,960 --> 00:33:50,560
Speaker 1: some men need that little kick in the ass, you

682
00:33:50,600 --> 00:33:54,080
Speaker 1: know from a woman. You know, sometimes men aren't self

683
00:33:54,120 --> 00:33:57,120
Speaker 1: motivated and you know, getting to a place in their

684
00:33:57,120 --> 00:33:59,840
Speaker 1: life to where, you know, depression starts kicking in, you know,

685
00:33:59,880 --> 00:34:01,760
Speaker 1: and a woman can uplift you.

686
00:34:01,840 --> 00:34:03,080
Speaker 3: And I get what he's saying.

687
00:34:03,240 --> 00:34:06,840
Speaker 1: You know, in a certain space in your life, you

688
00:34:06,880 --> 00:34:09,040
Speaker 1: want to feel that because as men, we don't want

689
00:34:09,040 --> 00:34:11,200
Speaker 1: to be ones that's to die along.

690
00:34:11,480 --> 00:34:11,680
Speaker 3: You know.

691
00:34:11,760 --> 00:34:16,400
Speaker 1: You want somebody that's gonna take care of you, uplift you, emotionally, physically,

692
00:34:16,560 --> 00:34:18,800
Speaker 1: all of those things. So I get what he's saying,

693
00:34:19,160 --> 00:34:21,000
Speaker 1: you know, and women provide that.

694
00:34:21,360 --> 00:34:23,399
Speaker 2: But you just think that that's an older man thing.

695
00:34:23,520 --> 00:34:25,960
Speaker 2: You don't think that all men, Like a lot of

696
00:34:26,000 --> 00:34:28,440
Speaker 2: men feel that of all ages.

697
00:34:29,280 --> 00:34:32,520
Speaker 3: Feel exactly what say it again again.

698
00:34:32,600 --> 00:34:34,319
Speaker 2: Like it's just simple like that.

699
00:34:35,120 --> 00:34:39,640
Speaker 3: I just don't think people need a woman. I don't

700
00:34:39,680 --> 00:34:41,960
Speaker 3: think women need a man.

701
00:34:42,080 --> 00:34:46,359
Speaker 1: It's a one regardless of if you're independent, if you're

702
00:34:46,400 --> 00:34:50,319
Speaker 1: independent and you in peace with yourself. Listen, I live

703
00:34:50,440 --> 00:34:55,040
Speaker 1: my whole life and with my mom as a single parent,

704
00:34:55,360 --> 00:34:58,719
Speaker 1: and she didn't get married until she was like seventy,

705
00:34:59,560 --> 00:35:02,640
Speaker 1: you know, and so I come up to see like, damn,

706
00:35:02,640 --> 00:35:04,440
Speaker 1: my Mama didn't need no man.

707
00:35:04,440 --> 00:35:07,440
Speaker 2: She didn't need it, but it would have made her life.

708
00:35:07,840 --> 00:35:12,160
Speaker 2: She wanted she wanted that. But we're not. We're not

709
00:35:12,280 --> 00:35:14,080
Speaker 2: like you're I don't think we should fix it on

710
00:35:14,120 --> 00:35:17,000
Speaker 2: the need or I'm just talking about you know, I'm

711
00:35:17,040 --> 00:35:21,120
Speaker 2: just talking. I don't think anyone needs anything except oxygen

712
00:35:21,200 --> 00:35:21,600
Speaker 2: and help.

713
00:35:21,680 --> 00:35:24,680
Speaker 1: People need that. People need a woman, people for people

714
00:35:24,680 --> 00:35:26,719
Speaker 1: to be alone. Yeah, but it really is a need

715
00:35:26,840 --> 00:35:28,360
Speaker 1: for some people, for a lot of people.

716
00:35:28,600 --> 00:35:31,520
Speaker 2: It's not it's never can you can, you can make

717
00:35:31,560 --> 00:35:32,319
Speaker 2: it happen, But the.

718
00:35:32,280 --> 00:35:35,120
Speaker 3: Point is not, it is a need.

719
00:35:35,280 --> 00:35:38,399
Speaker 1: You talk to people like people need that stimulation from

720
00:35:38,400 --> 00:35:40,759
Speaker 1: a woman, people like men actually, like my cousin, like

721
00:35:40,840 --> 00:35:41,840
Speaker 1: he wanted and needed.

722
00:35:42,760 --> 00:35:45,480
Speaker 2: Like, like, you're the one who just said you don't

723
00:35:45,480 --> 00:35:47,680
Speaker 2: think anyone needs a woman or man. You know you

724
00:35:47,760 --> 00:35:50,640
Speaker 2: just said that I wanted and needed. Yeah, you said

725
00:35:50,680 --> 00:35:54,640
Speaker 2: you don't think anyone needs.

726
00:35:53,239 --> 00:35:55,760
Speaker 3: Should need that. People want that.

727
00:35:56,880 --> 00:35:59,560
Speaker 2: So what are you saying? Because nothing you just said

728
00:35:59,560 --> 00:36:00,800
Speaker 2: bates it.

729
00:36:00,800 --> 00:36:01,960
Speaker 3: It does make sense.

730
00:36:02,280 --> 00:36:07,520
Speaker 2: No, you just said do you know what you just said? Okay,

731
00:36:09,120 --> 00:36:16,960
Speaker 2: all right, not exactly what I said. Yeah, I'm so confused, Like.

732
00:36:16,960 --> 00:36:19,080
Speaker 1: We don't need it, but we want it, but then

733
00:36:19,120 --> 00:36:21,120
Speaker 1: there's some people that actually need it.

734
00:36:22,400 --> 00:36:24,719
Speaker 2: You just said you don't think anybody needs a man.

735
00:36:24,880 --> 00:36:26,720
Speaker 3: There's some people that need.

736
00:36:26,600 --> 00:36:32,280
Speaker 2: It, all right, But that's not the question I was asking.

737
00:36:32,320 --> 00:36:34,359
Speaker 2: I was just asking, do you feel like that that's

738
00:36:34,400 --> 00:36:36,960
Speaker 2: just an older man thing. The people who value a

739
00:36:37,000 --> 00:36:39,439
Speaker 2: woman's presence. We're not talking about like needs or wants.

740
00:36:39,480 --> 00:36:43,240
Speaker 2: We're saying he Woosey said he values a woman's presence.

741
00:36:43,280 --> 00:36:45,279
Speaker 2: He loves having a woman around because he feels like

742
00:36:45,600 --> 00:36:48,440
Speaker 2: it makes his life better. He's not saying he needs it.

743
00:36:48,520 --> 00:36:51,239
Speaker 2: He's just saying I value it. I feel like it

744
00:36:51,320 --> 00:36:54,840
Speaker 2: makes me feel better, It makes me feel uplifted, it

745
00:36:54,880 --> 00:36:57,920
Speaker 2: makes me feel like, you know, someone who's there laying

746
00:36:58,000 --> 00:37:00,400
Speaker 2: up with me, like just the he's he said that

747
00:37:00,440 --> 00:37:03,360
Speaker 2: the presence of a woman just makes his stock go

748
00:37:03,560 --> 00:37:07,080
Speaker 2: up in his mind. And you were saying like, yeah,

749
00:37:07,120 --> 00:37:09,600
Speaker 2: I feel like an older if you're older for this

750
00:37:10,440 --> 00:37:12,080
Speaker 2: or that's him. But I'm saying, do you not think

751
00:37:12,120 --> 00:37:15,600
Speaker 2: that that's like men of all ages can feel that way.

752
00:37:15,760 --> 00:37:18,360
Speaker 2: You just think that that's just what older man feel.

753
00:37:18,800 --> 00:37:19,919
Speaker 3: Oh that's a tough one.

754
00:37:20,120 --> 00:37:26,200
Speaker 1: I mean I think older man more than younger man. Yeah,

755
00:37:26,320 --> 00:37:30,520
Speaker 1: I mean just you know, that's his what he wants,

756
00:37:30,600 --> 00:37:35,160
Speaker 1: that's what he feels makes him whole, you know, because

757
00:37:35,160 --> 00:37:36,680
Speaker 1: when you've had it and you lost it and you

758
00:37:36,680 --> 00:37:39,319
Speaker 1: ain't got it no more, it's just like, damn, I

759
00:37:39,400 --> 00:37:41,880
Speaker 1: need that if I want that, you know.

760
00:37:42,000 --> 00:37:42,720
Speaker 3: And that's not.

761
00:37:42,640 --> 00:37:45,239
Speaker 1: All men, but you know, for him, he see how

762
00:37:45,239 --> 00:37:48,000
Speaker 1: he is with a woman compared to he without a woman,

763
00:37:48,440 --> 00:37:52,120
Speaker 1: and that's what makes me feel like the reason he's

764
00:37:52,120 --> 00:37:52,920
Speaker 1: saying these things.

765
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769
00:38:07,800 --> 00:38:11,200
Speaker 2: talking about. There's a study that reveals women are exhausted

770
00:38:11,239 --> 00:38:16,360
Speaker 2: from explaining of basic emotional needs to men, like listening

771
00:38:16,560 --> 00:38:24,799
Speaker 2: and empathy. I feel like I get it, I get

772
00:38:24,840 --> 00:38:26,320
Speaker 2: it one hundred percent. But I feel like this is

773
00:38:26,400 --> 00:38:28,240
Speaker 2: kind of what we just talked about earlier. I feel

774
00:38:28,239 --> 00:38:29,759
Speaker 2: like men and women just need to do a better

775
00:38:29,840 --> 00:38:34,239
Speaker 2: job of understanding each other and communicating. And this is

776
00:38:34,280 --> 00:38:36,880
Speaker 2: the other study shows that people who avoid hard and

777
00:38:36,920 --> 00:38:40,120
Speaker 2: tough conversations are more likely to cheat or disconnect. I

778
00:38:40,160 --> 00:38:44,560
Speaker 2: can agree with that because I feel like I never cheated.

779
00:38:44,640 --> 00:38:47,840
Speaker 2: But I feel like if I can't have conversations with

780
00:38:47,920 --> 00:38:50,239
Speaker 2: someone and feel like it could be productive without it

781
00:38:50,320 --> 00:38:53,600
Speaker 2: being like a shutdown or turn into an argument about

782
00:38:53,640 --> 00:38:56,920
Speaker 2: things that I'm feeling. I've noticed that I will hold

783
00:38:56,960 --> 00:38:59,000
Speaker 2: a bunch of shit in because I'm like, I don't

784
00:38:59,000 --> 00:39:01,080
Speaker 2: want to feel like I'm nagging. I know this person

785
00:39:01,160 --> 00:39:03,279
Speaker 2: doesn't want to hear this, so I'll just hold it,

786
00:39:03,320 --> 00:39:06,840
Speaker 2: and then that will make me like slowly disconnect because

787
00:39:06,840 --> 00:39:09,000
Speaker 2: I'll be like, well, I have all these things in

788
00:39:09,040 --> 00:39:11,840
Speaker 2: a morning that could probably be a simple conversation, but

789
00:39:11,920 --> 00:39:14,440
Speaker 2: I'm afraid to say anything because I don't want it

790
00:39:14,480 --> 00:39:16,560
Speaker 2: to turn into an argument or the person shuts down

791
00:39:16,640 --> 00:39:19,160
Speaker 2: or the person gets mad, like when it's just really

792
00:39:19,200 --> 00:39:22,440
Speaker 2: me trying to talk about like basic things that I

793
00:39:22,640 --> 00:39:23,680
Speaker 2: feel you know, not.

794
00:39:23,760 --> 00:39:25,960
Speaker 3: Basic though that ain't basic.

795
00:39:26,000 --> 00:39:29,080
Speaker 1: If you feel that it's not basic, and if you're

796
00:39:29,080 --> 00:39:31,320
Speaker 1: gonna get through it, sometimes it may take an argument

797
00:39:31,320 --> 00:39:34,759
Speaker 1: and let it all out. See in team sports, and

798
00:39:34,800 --> 00:39:37,040
Speaker 1: I've been on good and bad teams, Like when it's bad,

799
00:39:37,920 --> 00:39:40,040
Speaker 1: and this is the same as a relationship. You have

800
00:39:40,080 --> 00:39:43,400
Speaker 1: a team meeting all right, everybody aired out what you

801
00:39:43,400 --> 00:39:45,960
Speaker 1: ain't feeling about him him here, while we ain't winning,

802
00:39:46,000 --> 00:39:49,080
Speaker 1: while we ain't doing this, and you gotta be able

803
00:39:49,120 --> 00:39:52,000
Speaker 1: to have those arguments and those conversations to get it

804
00:39:52,000 --> 00:39:54,080
Speaker 1: all out and you're gonna feel better. It can't be.

805
00:39:54,480 --> 00:39:56,240
Speaker 1: I don't want to say it, and then I emostly

806
00:39:56,280 --> 00:39:57,040
Speaker 1: get no.

807
00:39:56,960 --> 00:40:00,400
Speaker 2: I know that's wrong. Yeah, I know that's wrong. I

808
00:40:00,480 --> 00:40:02,200
Speaker 2: know that you can heal and move forward.

809
00:40:02,400 --> 00:40:04,920
Speaker 1: You you might have to argue, and you might sometimes

810
00:40:04,960 --> 00:40:07,720
Speaker 1: have to yell and scream or or nagging.

811
00:40:07,880 --> 00:40:09,959
Speaker 2: I mean, you would hope though that like that would

812
00:40:09,960 --> 00:40:12,160
Speaker 2: come with it, but you would hope that the thing

813
00:40:12,280 --> 00:40:15,239
Speaker 2: is is like I feel like people like are not

814
00:40:15,360 --> 00:40:17,880
Speaker 2: receptive sometimes like it doesn't have to be an argument,

815
00:40:18,000 --> 00:40:21,160
Speaker 2: like some conversations, it's not even an argument. It's just like, hey,

816
00:40:21,200 --> 00:40:23,040
Speaker 2: this is how I kind of been feeling about this

817
00:40:23,080 --> 00:40:25,200
Speaker 2: thing or that thing, and it's been kind of making

818
00:40:25,200 --> 00:40:28,160
Speaker 2: me feel this way. And instead I've noticed this happened

819
00:40:28,160 --> 00:40:30,320
Speaker 2: in my past relationships. I'll be completely honest, and I

820
00:40:30,360 --> 00:40:32,680
Speaker 2: think that this is one of like my red flags

821
00:40:32,680 --> 00:40:35,000
Speaker 2: that I've done. Is like I'll just hold a bunch

822
00:40:35,040 --> 00:40:38,000
Speaker 2: of shit that's like little shit but it's like making

823
00:40:38,080 --> 00:40:40,000
Speaker 2: me feel away or I feel weird, and then I'm

824
00:40:40,040 --> 00:40:42,120
Speaker 2: just like car carrying a bunch of shit. I'll let

825
00:40:42,120 --> 00:40:43,600
Speaker 2: it slide. I let a slide. I let a slide.

826
00:40:43,640 --> 00:40:45,880
Speaker 2: And then one day I'm like letting so much decide

827
00:40:45,880 --> 00:40:49,600
Speaker 2: that I literally emotionally disconnect. And then they're like, what's wrong,

828
00:40:49,880 --> 00:40:51,280
Speaker 2: Like you don't seem.

829
00:40:53,840 --> 00:40:58,680
Speaker 1: Yeah, so many levels because when you don't let it

830
00:40:58,680 --> 00:41:02,520
Speaker 1: out to him, you letting it out to your homegirl,

831
00:41:03,239 --> 00:41:07,239
Speaker 1: and now you allow other people in your relationship to

832
00:41:07,239 --> 00:41:09,200
Speaker 1: to say, oh, well, you don't need to be doing this,

833
00:41:09,280 --> 00:41:11,400
Speaker 1: and you don't, and that's so that's that's when the

834
00:41:11,480 --> 00:41:14,560
Speaker 1: other ship creep in. When you don't talk about it

835
00:41:14,560 --> 00:41:16,799
Speaker 1: to your partner for show, talking about it to your

836
00:41:16,840 --> 00:41:21,800
Speaker 1: friend for show. Everything it's like a hundred because what

837
00:41:21,840 --> 00:41:26,440
Speaker 1: are y'all talking about? Y'all always talk about each other's relationships.

838
00:41:26,600 --> 00:41:29,080
Speaker 2: That's not true, that's what men think. But there's a

839
00:41:29,080 --> 00:41:30,319
Speaker 2: lot of stuff to talk about.

840
00:41:32,400 --> 00:41:34,239
Speaker 3: How many women talk about their relationships?

841
00:41:34,440 --> 00:41:36,080
Speaker 2: Do I understand.

842
00:41:37,239 --> 00:41:37,439
Speaker 3: Them?

843
00:41:37,480 --> 00:41:39,799
Speaker 2: But let me say this, like some people like not

844
00:41:40,000 --> 00:41:43,879
Speaker 2: every woman has a homegirl. That's like, fuck him, don't

845
00:41:43,920 --> 00:41:46,719
Speaker 2: do this, don't do that. Me personally.

846
00:41:48,239 --> 00:41:51,840
Speaker 1: Opening up to them to allow the negativity to creep

847
00:41:51,880 --> 00:41:53,920
Speaker 1: in from the friend what you.

848
00:41:54,040 --> 00:41:57,920
Speaker 2: Say with that, But what I'm saying is not everyone.

849
00:41:59,040 --> 00:42:03,799
Speaker 2: Not everyone has a homegirl that's negative. Like people have

850
00:42:03,880 --> 00:42:06,480
Speaker 2: safe spaces, Like I have a sister who's been married,

851
00:42:06,480 --> 00:42:08,160
Speaker 2: and if I have to talk about something, I'll talk

852
00:42:08,200 --> 00:42:11,279
Speaker 2: to her because she'll my sister. And some of my

853
00:42:11,360 --> 00:42:13,759
Speaker 2: friends will straight up be like, you're wrong, or why

854
00:42:13,800 --> 00:42:16,000
Speaker 2: aren't you talking to him and giving him the opportunity

855
00:42:16,080 --> 00:42:20,120
Speaker 2: to change it, like you're tripping Like I have very

856
00:42:20,200 --> 00:42:22,279
Speaker 2: I've been lucky, and I know not all women are

857
00:42:22,360 --> 00:42:24,319
Speaker 2: lucky to have that. There's a lot of what you're

858
00:42:24,360 --> 00:42:27,160
Speaker 2: saying is really one hundred percent true. Women will open

859
00:42:27,239 --> 00:42:29,480
Speaker 2: up to their friend and the friend will be like, girl,

860
00:42:29,680 --> 00:42:32,680
Speaker 2: f him, you don't need to be dealing with that anyways,

861
00:42:32,840 --> 00:42:34,959
Speaker 2: and then now that's in their head and then they're

862
00:42:35,000 --> 00:42:37,400
Speaker 2: carrying all the stuff and then they explode.

863
00:42:37,480 --> 00:42:37,719
Speaker 3: You know.

864
00:42:37,880 --> 00:42:40,440
Speaker 2: So I think you're right, and I do think the

865
00:42:40,480 --> 00:42:43,160
Speaker 2: reason I said it is because I do think that

866
00:42:43,280 --> 00:42:45,880
Speaker 2: it's not a good look to do that. I agree

867
00:42:45,880 --> 00:42:49,719
Speaker 2: with you. I think I'm admitting that that has been

868
00:42:49,760 --> 00:42:53,000
Speaker 2: my faults in my past relationships. I'm trying to work

869
00:42:53,040 --> 00:42:55,760
Speaker 2: on that now. But I for sure have been someone

870
00:42:55,800 --> 00:42:59,520
Speaker 2: to avoid the harder conversations or the tough conversations because

871
00:42:59,760 --> 00:43:03,239
Speaker 2: I didn't want to disrupt something or I felt like,

872
00:43:03,320 --> 00:43:04,920
Speaker 2: you know, I don't want to this person to be

873
00:43:04,960 --> 00:43:06,880
Speaker 2: like she always is saying something or d d da

874
00:43:06,960 --> 00:43:08,480
Speaker 2: da da da da dah. So I'm just like, let

875
00:43:08,560 --> 00:43:10,799
Speaker 2: me just shut up, let us lie, let us lie,

876
00:43:10,840 --> 00:43:13,440
Speaker 2: let us lie. But then that makes you get pushed

877
00:43:13,440 --> 00:43:15,719
Speaker 2: away further from the person here, just kind of like,

878
00:43:15,960 --> 00:43:18,640
Speaker 2: uh like I don't feel safe here. I don't feel

879
00:43:18,640 --> 00:43:20,480
Speaker 2: like I can talk about stuff, so I'm just kind

880
00:43:20,480 --> 00:43:23,279
Speaker 2: of like close off, and then you have things that

881
00:43:23,320 --> 00:43:26,360
Speaker 2: are not met, like unmet things because the person doesn't

882
00:43:26,400 --> 00:43:29,040
Speaker 2: really know. So I feel like it's fair to give

883
00:43:29,040 --> 00:43:31,719
Speaker 2: them the opportunity and a chance to hear you out

884
00:43:31,760 --> 00:43:34,640
Speaker 2: at least, and after that you go from there, you know.

885
00:43:35,080 --> 00:43:37,759
Speaker 2: But like I do think it's not right. I'm not

886
00:43:37,800 --> 00:43:43,759
Speaker 2: saying that it's right to move like that. So y

887
00:43:43,880 --> 00:43:46,600
Speaker 2: k Osyrius, you know who that is. Yeah, I do,

888
00:43:46,880 --> 00:43:49,680
Speaker 2: he recently said. And it's like a viral thing. He said,

889
00:43:49,680 --> 00:43:51,640
Speaker 2: I'm not gonna lie. I don't feel like a woman

890
00:43:51,719 --> 00:43:55,399
Speaker 2: is obligated to cook or clean without a ring. Go

891
00:43:55,440 --> 00:43:58,040
Speaker 2: get a cleaner or a maid.

892
00:43:59,000 --> 00:44:01,239
Speaker 3: So a woman is not obligated.

893
00:44:00,719 --> 00:44:03,160
Speaker 2: To cook or clean without a ring.

894
00:44:03,719 --> 00:44:05,320
Speaker 3: Without a ring, Yes, so.

895
00:44:08,000 --> 00:44:11,319
Speaker 1: That's what he value. I mean if that's his thing,

896
00:44:11,400 --> 00:44:14,040
Speaker 1: and then you know he get into a relationship and

897
00:44:14,080 --> 00:44:18,239
Speaker 1: he don't like that no more. It's like, damn, you

898
00:44:18,280 --> 00:44:20,879
Speaker 1: know if he wants, you know, certain guys is like, hey,

899
00:44:20,960 --> 00:44:22,879
Speaker 1: I'll get a maid for you, I'll get a cook

900
00:44:22,920 --> 00:44:23,160
Speaker 1: for you.

901
00:44:23,239 --> 00:44:23,919
Speaker 3: That's his thing.

902
00:44:24,120 --> 00:44:26,439
Speaker 1: You know, he got the means to do it. Hey,

903
00:44:26,520 --> 00:44:28,839
Speaker 1: that's that's on you. You know what I'm saying, Ain't

904
00:44:28,880 --> 00:44:31,480
Speaker 1: nothing wrong with that. Everybody got their little standards and

905
00:44:31,520 --> 00:44:32,560
Speaker 1: what they My.

906
00:44:32,640 --> 00:44:35,600
Speaker 2: Thing though, is we lot of like if a man

907
00:44:35,760 --> 00:44:39,040
Speaker 2: is financially contributed in helping you and taking care of you,

908
00:44:39,160 --> 00:44:42,000
Speaker 2: then I think that is like, how do we expect

909
00:44:42,080 --> 00:44:44,160
Speaker 2: man to do things that a husband would do, but

910
00:44:44,239 --> 00:44:46,320
Speaker 2: you're not doing anything that a wife would do unless

911
00:44:46,320 --> 00:44:49,759
Speaker 2: you have a ring. My opinion is is like, if

912
00:44:49,800 --> 00:44:52,280
Speaker 2: he's doing things, you should be doing things. Y'all should

913
00:44:52,280 --> 00:44:53,960
Speaker 2: be the means.

914
00:44:53,680 --> 00:44:56,520
Speaker 3: To do those things. Then who cares? Like that? Ain't

915
00:44:56,520 --> 00:44:58,320
Speaker 3: way he got value other things?

916
00:44:58,520 --> 00:45:04,279
Speaker 1: He value sex probably more or these other things more

917
00:45:04,360 --> 00:45:06,840
Speaker 1: or whatever like, But he like if that's that's minor,

918
00:45:07,040 --> 00:45:09,640
Speaker 1: that's minor. Actually, so that ain't no big deal if

919
00:45:09,640 --> 00:45:12,640
Speaker 1: he don't require a woman to cook her clean without

920
00:45:12,640 --> 00:45:14,399
Speaker 1: the ring. But what if he give her a ring

921
00:45:14,480 --> 00:45:16,400
Speaker 1: and she can't cook her clean and that's what he

922
00:45:16,480 --> 00:45:19,120
Speaker 1: won't then what I mean? That's all that they say

923
00:45:19,160 --> 00:45:21,560
Speaker 1: about that, Like what if you you want your your

924
00:45:21,640 --> 00:45:23,200
Speaker 1: wife he to cook and clean when she gets when

925
00:45:23,200 --> 00:45:24,839
Speaker 1: she get the ring and she if she ain't done

926
00:45:24,840 --> 00:45:26,719
Speaker 1: it before the ring, why you expect her do it

927
00:45:26,760 --> 00:45:28,399
Speaker 1: with the ring? Yeah?

928
00:45:28,680 --> 00:45:31,160
Speaker 2: I get that, That's what I'm saying though, So I.

929
00:45:31,200 --> 00:45:34,000
Speaker 1: Say you don't require a woman to cook her clean period,

930
00:45:34,120 --> 00:45:36,000
Speaker 1: don't say don't he have to throw the ring in there?

931
00:45:36,200 --> 00:45:38,600
Speaker 2: Well, he's basically saying you shouldn't do wifely things.

932
00:45:39,560 --> 00:45:45,200
Speaker 1: You gotta do wifely things to get wife period, girlfriend

933
00:45:45,320 --> 00:45:48,279
Speaker 1: things and expect to get wife. Wife things have to

934
00:45:48,320 --> 00:45:50,960
Speaker 1: be done before you get wife. How do I know

935
00:45:51,000 --> 00:45:51,479
Speaker 1: you a wife?

936
00:45:51,520 --> 00:45:51,719
Speaker 3: Here?

937
00:45:52,120 --> 00:45:56,400
Speaker 2: Yeah? I agree with that. Come on now, So India

938
00:45:56,480 --> 00:45:59,719
Speaker 2: Love recently went online and people are like getting on

939
00:45:59,760 --> 00:46:01,719
Speaker 2: her about it because she said that she never wants

940
00:46:01,719 --> 00:46:04,080
Speaker 2: a man. She never wants to hear a man ask

941
00:46:04,120 --> 00:46:07,839
Speaker 2: about how much something costs or about discounts. She said,

942
00:46:07,880 --> 00:46:10,960
Speaker 2: it's the biggest turnoff you can ever do, is to

943
00:46:11,080 --> 00:46:13,279
Speaker 2: like say, oh is this a discount or how much

944
00:46:13,360 --> 00:46:16,640
Speaker 2: is this? She said, that's just like disgusting. It's a turnoff,

945
00:46:16,800 --> 00:46:19,839
Speaker 2: Like that makes a man completely undesirable to her.

946
00:46:20,719 --> 00:46:25,120
Speaker 1: Yeah, because she don't value the money like a man.

947
00:46:25,120 --> 00:46:28,839
Speaker 1: If a man is doing that, it's more fucking billionaires

948
00:46:28,960 --> 00:46:30,719
Speaker 1: that's out there doing that.

949
00:46:31,080 --> 00:46:32,040
Speaker 2: Yeah, it is. I know that.

950
00:46:32,160 --> 00:46:35,200
Speaker 1: Her fact, like, so what if you're a billionaire then

951
00:46:35,880 --> 00:46:38,200
Speaker 1: you know, but he that's how you keep your billions,

952
00:46:38,200 --> 00:46:40,600
Speaker 1: That's how you keep your millions if you're doing stuff

953
00:46:40,640 --> 00:46:44,919
Speaker 1: like that. So you gotta value money, and you gotta

954
00:46:45,040 --> 00:46:48,400
Speaker 1: value the long term of the money because like this,

955
00:46:49,320 --> 00:46:51,040
Speaker 1: I'm gonna do this my rest of my life. What

956
00:46:51,040 --> 00:46:52,719
Speaker 1: if I can't maintain is what if I got to

957
00:46:52,719 --> 00:46:55,360
Speaker 1: get deal? The reason people is billionaires because they saw deals.

958
00:46:55,960 --> 00:46:59,359
Speaker 1: You understand that, Yeah, exactly, they got the best deal.

959
00:46:59,440 --> 00:47:02,160
Speaker 1: That's the reason they got the money. So she got

960
00:47:02,160 --> 00:47:04,640
Speaker 1: to understand that part of it, Like why would I

961
00:47:04,680 --> 00:47:07,880
Speaker 1: get this six million dollar house and living in and

962
00:47:07,920 --> 00:47:09,839
Speaker 1: don't use all this space I got when I can

963
00:47:09,880 --> 00:47:12,480
Speaker 1: get this other house where I'm gonna use the space

964
00:47:12,520 --> 00:47:13,239
Speaker 1: and this is all I.

965
00:47:13,239 --> 00:47:16,000
Speaker 2: Need, yeah, for sure, And I have money to.

966
00:47:15,960 --> 00:47:16,720
Speaker 3: Do other things.

967
00:47:17,239 --> 00:47:20,359
Speaker 1: So, you know, women, they get caught up in the

968
00:47:20,360 --> 00:47:23,440
Speaker 1: look of how everything looks.

969
00:47:23,440 --> 00:47:28,000
Speaker 3: Thing I've heard.

970
00:47:29,280 --> 00:47:31,759
Speaker 1: No women get caught up in the way things look

971
00:47:31,800 --> 00:47:34,319
Speaker 1: on the outside, like oh my, why is my man?

972
00:47:34,360 --> 00:47:36,279
Speaker 1: We have to we have the store shopping and you

973
00:47:36,320 --> 00:47:39,000
Speaker 1: ask them how much this costs? Like ud, that's a

974
00:47:39,040 --> 00:47:41,799
Speaker 1: turn off. No, what if I can get something better

975
00:47:41,800 --> 00:47:46,600
Speaker 1: for cheaper and I could do something else with this money,

976
00:47:46,719 --> 00:47:47,480
Speaker 1: you know what I'm saying.

977
00:47:47,560 --> 00:47:48,200
Speaker 3: But you know.

978
00:47:49,840 --> 00:47:54,160
Speaker 1: Women like India, you know she wants the guy, the

979
00:47:54,200 --> 00:47:56,200
Speaker 1: bread winner, the guy with a lot of money to

980
00:47:56,280 --> 00:47:58,239
Speaker 1: just be in there, like price don't matter for her.

981
00:47:58,680 --> 00:48:00,880
Speaker 1: I'm gonna spend it. Then what have when you go broke?

982
00:48:01,360 --> 00:48:07,799
Speaker 1: Then she go onto the next period. So I mean,

983
00:48:07,880 --> 00:48:09,879
Speaker 1: it is what it is. That's what she won't I mean,

984
00:48:09,920 --> 00:48:13,279
Speaker 1: that's cool, you know, but like when you it's cool

985
00:48:13,280 --> 00:48:15,319
Speaker 1: when you young. You know what I'm saying. I didn't

986
00:48:15,360 --> 00:48:18,239
Speaker 1: understand it either until when I started getting older. I'm like, man,

987
00:48:18,280 --> 00:48:21,080
Speaker 1: it's got to last the rest of my life. Why

988
00:48:21,160 --> 00:48:22,920
Speaker 1: do I got a flass and have the best of

989
00:48:23,000 --> 00:48:26,200
Speaker 1: the best every time, Like damn, it don't even make sense.

990
00:48:26,239 --> 00:48:28,160
Speaker 1: A lot of times I'm getting stuff and then it's

991
00:48:28,160 --> 00:48:31,040
Speaker 1: going the trash or I don't use it no more.

992
00:48:31,360 --> 00:48:35,200
Speaker 1: But it was cool at the time, you know, like

993
00:48:35,440 --> 00:48:38,160
Speaker 1: I could be in a bigger house than I'm in now,

994
00:48:38,280 --> 00:48:41,600
Speaker 1: but like, why I don't need all that space, you

995
00:48:41,640 --> 00:48:43,440
Speaker 1: know what I'm saying. And it took a while for

996
00:48:43,520 --> 00:48:45,600
Speaker 1: me to understand that, Like I was living like that

997
00:48:45,719 --> 00:48:47,440
Speaker 1: for a long time, and then it was just like

998
00:48:47,480 --> 00:48:50,239
Speaker 1: I'm in the house and I got a five badroom.

999
00:48:50,280 --> 00:48:52,200
Speaker 1: I don't even use these rooms. I don't even go

1000
00:48:52,239 --> 00:48:54,839
Speaker 1: in this room. I don't even go I don't use this,

1001
00:48:54,960 --> 00:48:56,520
Speaker 1: and I'm like, damn, I'm a waiste.

1002
00:48:57,800 --> 00:49:00,040
Speaker 2: So yeah, you know, I'm just.

1003
00:49:00,160 --> 00:49:02,920
Speaker 1: Like sure, I could be using this money to do

1004
00:49:02,960 --> 00:49:04,759
Speaker 1: other stuff with it, you know, I could use this

1005
00:49:04,840 --> 00:49:07,839
Speaker 1: extra invest in this now. So I mean, you know,

1006
00:49:08,520 --> 00:49:11,399
Speaker 1: it is what it is. Everybody is titled to what

1007
00:49:11,440 --> 00:49:14,600
Speaker 1: they want and what they believe in, So.

1008
00:49:15,040 --> 00:49:23,640
Speaker 2: Whatever, cool, okay. So Claudia Jordan. Claudia Jordan was on

1009
00:49:23,760 --> 00:49:28,560
Speaker 2: Nick Cannon's podcast with her best friend and they they

1010
00:49:28,600 --> 00:49:32,080
Speaker 2: spoke about passing around their exes or guys that they've dated.

1011
00:49:32,600 --> 00:49:35,000
Speaker 2: So like, basically, the best friend was telling a story

1012
00:49:35,040 --> 00:49:38,520
Speaker 2: about how she was looking at this guy, so she

1013
00:49:38,640 --> 00:49:40,759
Speaker 2: googled him and saw that he was on the Red

1014
00:49:40,760 --> 00:49:43,319
Speaker 2: Carpet with Claudia Jordan and so she sent it to

1015
00:49:43,320 --> 00:49:45,200
Speaker 2: Claudia and was like, so used to talk to him,

1016
00:49:45,200 --> 00:49:47,520
Speaker 2: and She's like, yeah, but you could have them and

1017
00:49:47,560 --> 00:49:50,000
Speaker 2: they just like she was like, We've done that a

1018
00:49:50,000 --> 00:49:54,319
Speaker 2: lot of times with men. So Nick Cannon said that

1019
00:49:54,360 --> 00:49:56,680
Speaker 2: this character standards are in hell. He was like, I

1020
00:49:56,760 --> 00:49:59,600
Speaker 2: don't like that because that just means where is the

1021
00:49:59,680 --> 00:50:02,239
Speaker 2: character or where's this? I mean, is Nick Cannon want

1022
00:50:02,239 --> 00:50:04,080
Speaker 2: a job because he'd be doing all type of stuff.

1023
00:50:04,080 --> 00:50:08,319
Speaker 2: I don't know, but me personally, I get it to

1024
00:50:08,360 --> 00:50:10,919
Speaker 2: a certain degree to where it's like if I don't

1025
00:50:10,920 --> 00:50:13,840
Speaker 2: care about a man at all. Olger really was about

1026
00:50:13,960 --> 00:50:17,759
Speaker 2: if someone asked me like I'll look at you, I'll

1027
00:50:17,800 --> 00:50:20,279
Speaker 2: never do that. I never want nobody Else's meant like

1028
00:50:20,320 --> 00:50:23,560
Speaker 2: someone who will mess with can I finish? I never

1029
00:50:23,600 --> 00:50:26,839
Speaker 2: wanted someone else that I messed with, man, But I

1030
00:50:26,880 --> 00:50:30,839
Speaker 2: think that if my homegrow like really wanted a man

1031
00:50:30,880 --> 00:50:32,919
Speaker 2: that I used to deal with, then you can have them.

1032
00:50:33,280 --> 00:50:35,600
Speaker 3: What does deal with me.

1033
00:50:34,840 --> 00:50:36,040
Speaker 2: Messed around, tate it.

1034
00:50:36,080 --> 00:50:36,879
Speaker 3: They do that all the.

1035
00:50:36,840 --> 00:50:39,480
Speaker 2: Time, not just sad, but like the.

1036
00:50:39,840 --> 00:50:41,960
Speaker 1: Boundaris, like you could date the man you used to

1037
00:50:42,040 --> 00:50:43,640
Speaker 1: date if it was your man.

1038
00:50:43,680 --> 00:50:44,600
Speaker 3: Man, I get it.

1039
00:50:45,200 --> 00:50:48,160
Speaker 1: But like she's probably talking about all I messed around

1040
00:50:48,239 --> 00:50:49,439
Speaker 1: with him, like and.

1041
00:50:49,360 --> 00:50:51,320
Speaker 2: Then shot in the red carpet together.

1042
00:50:52,680 --> 00:50:58,080
Speaker 1: They messing around, Like guys do it all the time. Uh,

1043
00:50:59,120 --> 00:51:00,960
Speaker 1: women do it all the time, we hear here. But

1044
00:51:01,040 --> 00:51:02,799
Speaker 1: like when it gets to a certain point, like oh,

1045
00:51:02,840 --> 00:51:05,200
Speaker 1: we went out on a few dates and everything and

1046
00:51:05,280 --> 00:51:09,120
Speaker 1: messed around. What there's no substance in that, but like, damn,

1047
00:51:09,120 --> 00:51:12,400
Speaker 1: what if she ran into him and they hit it

1048
00:51:12,440 --> 00:51:15,560
Speaker 1: off and it felt good, and you know, maybe that's

1049
00:51:15,600 --> 00:51:17,440
Speaker 1: all she wanted. Maybe most of the time that's just

1050
00:51:17,440 --> 00:51:20,480
Speaker 1: a sexual thing, you know, and then maybe it can

1051
00:51:20,520 --> 00:51:23,480
Speaker 1: turn into relationship. But like women be like, oh he

1052
00:51:23,600 --> 00:51:27,160
Speaker 1: was a good time, girl, go ahead. Men will do

1053
00:51:27,239 --> 00:51:29,879
Speaker 1: the same thing. I mean, I've never personally done that, like, hey,

1054
00:51:29,960 --> 00:51:31,799
Speaker 1: she was a good time, go ahead, though, Like, but

1055
00:51:31,880 --> 00:51:32,920
Speaker 1: women do it and men do.

1056
00:51:32,920 --> 00:51:34,520
Speaker 3: I know men that do it? Like here, Yeah, she

1057
00:51:34,600 --> 00:51:36,600
Speaker 3: was a good time. I ain't no feelings.

1058
00:51:36,600 --> 00:51:40,120
Speaker 1: It was just a good time, and you know, I

1059
00:51:40,239 --> 00:51:42,080
Speaker 1: see it I see it all happen all the time.

1060
00:51:42,800 --> 00:51:45,960
Speaker 1: I personally like, don't ask me. You don't have to

1061
00:51:46,000 --> 00:51:47,840
Speaker 1: ask me, Like, why you asking me if you know

1062
00:51:47,920 --> 00:51:49,880
Speaker 1: it was just some work, because that was just pretty

1063
00:51:49,920 --> 00:51:50,920
Speaker 1: much work at that point.

1064
00:51:50,960 --> 00:51:52,000
Speaker 3: Oh, it was some just work.

1065
00:51:52,560 --> 00:51:54,400
Speaker 1: But if it was just like my girl or somebody,

1066
00:51:54,440 --> 00:51:56,480
Speaker 1: that's when I feel like, that's like, nah, I ain't

1067
00:51:56,520 --> 00:51:59,480
Speaker 1: feeling that, like that was my girl and everything. Now

1068
00:51:59,560 --> 00:52:02,239
Speaker 1: the homie you want to be with my girl, but

1069
00:52:02,320 --> 00:52:05,200
Speaker 1: it's on her too. Why are you participating in it too?

1070
00:52:05,880 --> 00:52:09,439
Speaker 1: So I'm like, you tell me about your character now

1071
00:52:09,480 --> 00:52:11,040
Speaker 1: if you knew. I know this dude and I kicked

1072
00:52:11,080 --> 00:52:12,680
Speaker 1: him when you was my girl, You're telling me a

1073
00:52:12,680 --> 00:52:15,399
Speaker 1: lot about you, and now I'm off not only him,

1074
00:52:15,480 --> 00:52:16,479
Speaker 1: I'm off you too.

1075
00:52:17,000 --> 00:52:18,719
Speaker 2: Why were you ever on them if that was.

1076
00:52:18,719 --> 00:52:23,600
Speaker 1: Your No, I'm off, Like if my boy or somebody

1077
00:52:23,600 --> 00:52:26,120
Speaker 1: i'll kick it with or hang with when I hang

1078
00:52:26,160 --> 00:52:29,520
Speaker 1: out with my ex, like and then say like the

1079
00:52:29,560 --> 00:52:33,319
Speaker 1: fuel the feeling is mutual and say we still had

1080
00:52:33,320 --> 00:52:37,319
Speaker 1: a cool friendship or whatever. I'm off both of y'all

1081
00:52:37,320 --> 00:52:37,960
Speaker 1: as a friend.

1082
00:52:38,440 --> 00:52:39,720
Speaker 2: Why are you friends with your ex?

1083
00:52:40,760 --> 00:52:42,880
Speaker 3: What if I'm single still?

1084
00:52:43,120 --> 00:52:44,880
Speaker 2: Why is anyone friends with their ex.

1085
00:52:45,160 --> 00:52:50,279
Speaker 1: What if I'm single, single and I'm still friends with

1086
00:52:50,320 --> 00:52:51,359
Speaker 1: my ex, what's wrong with that?

1087
00:52:52,120 --> 00:52:54,719
Speaker 3: Is there? Like, if you're single, you're not friends with

1088
00:52:54,760 --> 00:52:55,200
Speaker 3: your ex?

1089
00:52:55,840 --> 00:52:57,160
Speaker 2: No, I'm not friends with my ex?

1090
00:52:57,280 --> 00:52:59,479
Speaker 3: Like what does friendship mean? Like? What car Shore?

1091
00:52:59,520 --> 00:53:01,680
Speaker 1: We talking in there but we ain't nothing going on.

1092
00:53:02,840 --> 00:53:05,040
Speaker 1: But like now it go from that we corgial week

1093
00:53:05,080 --> 00:53:07,359
Speaker 1: to talk tech. Hey, happy birthday all this, but now

1094
00:53:07,400 --> 00:53:08,879
Speaker 1: it go from that to like nothing.

1095
00:53:08,920 --> 00:53:10,640
Speaker 3: I don't want to hear nothing. I don't want to

1096
00:53:10,680 --> 00:53:12,080
Speaker 3: hear happy birthdays.

1097
00:53:12,360 --> 00:53:15,360
Speaker 1: I'm single. Listen to what I'm saying. I'm single. I

1098
00:53:15,360 --> 00:53:18,160
Speaker 1: could say to my ex happy birthday. I could say

1099
00:53:18,480 --> 00:53:21,640
Speaker 1: whatever if I'm not in a relationship. But if you

1100
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Speaker 1: decide that you want to give my boy and you

1101
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Speaker 1: feel cool enough to give with it, and we was

1102
00:53:26,920 --> 00:53:29,600
Speaker 1: happy birthday, you're not getting nothing from me. Now it's

1103
00:53:29,600 --> 00:53:31,879
Speaker 1: no more friendship. It's no more nothing from neither one

1104
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Speaker 1: of y'all.

1105
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Speaker 2: Yeah, I feel like for me, I don't, But that's different.

1106
00:53:35,719 --> 00:53:37,799
Speaker 2: Everyone's different. Some people stay friends with their ex. I

1107
00:53:37,800 --> 00:53:41,040
Speaker 2: don't really stay friends with an ex to be honest, because,

1108
00:53:41,080 --> 00:53:43,520
Speaker 2: like you know, there was feelings there and there was

1109
00:53:43,560 --> 00:53:45,759
Speaker 2: stuff involved, So it's just for me. It's like, you know,

1110
00:53:45,760 --> 00:53:48,000
Speaker 2: i'd rather but I know whatever. Some people do, say

1111
00:53:48,040 --> 00:53:50,160
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Speaker 2: to you by Roe Sparks. So halle Berry recently said

1144
00:55:42,360 --> 00:55:46,520
Speaker 2: that she feels like women should stop faking orgasms because

1145
00:55:46,560 --> 00:55:54,400
Speaker 2: it's putting men's needs before your own. Basically a man's

1146
00:55:54,520 --> 00:55:58,319
Speaker 2: needs before your own by faking the orgasm.

1147
00:55:58,960 --> 00:56:01,600
Speaker 1: Well, I remember when you said one time that most

1148
00:56:01,680 --> 00:56:03,160
Speaker 1: women don't have orgasms.

1149
00:56:03,400 --> 00:56:05,759
Speaker 2: Yeah, a lot don't and a lot will some will

1150
00:56:05,760 --> 00:56:07,640
Speaker 2: fake it because they feel bad and they want to

1151
00:56:07,680 --> 00:56:09,680
Speaker 2: just make a man feel like he's doing that. You know,

1152
00:56:10,239 --> 00:56:12,839
Speaker 2: so a lot of women do fake orgasms where they

1153
00:56:12,880 --> 00:56:15,560
Speaker 2: think a lot of men think they are giving women

1154
00:56:15,719 --> 00:56:19,880
Speaker 2: orgasms and they're not. So she's basically saying, like, we should.

1155
00:56:20,400 --> 00:56:22,480
Speaker 2: And there's a lot of women who do orgasm, but

1156
00:56:22,880 --> 00:56:26,480
Speaker 2: they are just with someone who's either like learned their

1157
00:56:26,480 --> 00:56:28,759
Speaker 2: body or they top them or whatever the case is.

1158
00:56:29,400 --> 00:56:32,200
Speaker 2: So there, she's basically saying, like, you should stop faking

1159
00:56:32,239 --> 00:56:36,080
Speaker 2: the orgasm because you shouldn't be putting his knees before yours.

1160
00:56:36,120 --> 00:56:38,880
Speaker 2: That means that he thinks he made you come. He didn't,

1161
00:56:39,520 --> 00:56:42,440
Speaker 2: and now you're just trying to like do it to

1162
00:56:42,480 --> 00:56:45,000
Speaker 2: get him going and making him feel that like better

1163
00:56:45,040 --> 00:56:45,640
Speaker 2: about himself.

1164
00:56:45,640 --> 00:56:49,080
Speaker 1: Don't think nothing wrong with that, get him going. Uplift

1165
00:56:49,120 --> 00:56:51,600
Speaker 1: your man. What's the point where that's uplift your man?

1166
00:56:51,800 --> 00:56:53,399
Speaker 2: Uplift your women by making her come.

1167
00:56:53,600 --> 00:56:55,160
Speaker 1: We'll tell him how to do it if he ain't

1168
00:56:55,200 --> 00:56:58,160
Speaker 1: doing it, show him how to do it. Yeah, they like,

1169
00:56:58,200 --> 00:57:00,239
Speaker 1: if you're gonna keep faking it and be disappoint to

1170
00:57:00,239 --> 00:57:02,840
Speaker 1: tell him how to do it, Like do he know

1171
00:57:03,200 --> 00:57:03,600
Speaker 1: or canny.

1172
00:57:03,680 --> 00:57:06,160
Speaker 3: Is he capable? It's a conversation.

1173
00:57:06,320 --> 00:57:09,880
Speaker 2: Then, Yeah, I feel like a lot of women fake it.

1174
00:57:10,200 --> 00:57:13,360
Speaker 2: I don't fake that at all because I just don't,

1175
00:57:13,520 --> 00:57:17,320
Speaker 2: but I just think that women do. And I get it.

1176
00:57:17,400 --> 00:57:20,160
Speaker 2: You just want to feel like okay, whatever, like you satisfied.

1177
00:57:20,200 --> 00:57:22,320
Speaker 2: It is harder for a lot of women to reach that,

1178
00:57:22,560 --> 00:57:24,680
Speaker 2: you know what I mean. And so I feel like

1179
00:57:25,440 --> 00:57:29,560
Speaker 2: it is on the woman to teach the man. It's

1180
00:57:29,600 --> 00:57:32,640
Speaker 2: also I feel like on the man to like be

1181
00:57:32,880 --> 00:57:35,040
Speaker 2: on it on like what should I do? Bey? What

1182
00:57:35,080 --> 00:57:37,320
Speaker 2: do you want? Like da da da da da. So

1183
00:57:37,400 --> 00:57:40,360
Speaker 2: I think it's both ways because I even think with women,

1184
00:57:40,680 --> 00:57:43,160
Speaker 2: I think men should like I feel like women do

1185
00:57:43,200 --> 00:57:45,080
Speaker 2: stuff with men and they were like it's cool, but

1186
00:57:45,120 --> 00:57:48,240
Speaker 2: they like it a certain way or something different too.

1187
00:57:48,280 --> 00:57:50,600
Speaker 2: So I think both parties have to be more vocal

1188
00:57:50,600 --> 00:57:51,160
Speaker 2: about what.

1189
00:57:51,360 --> 00:57:52,920
Speaker 3: Well, a lot of men got to be vocal. He's

1190
00:57:52,960 --> 00:57:54,240
Speaker 3: not the one faking that she is.

1191
00:57:55,240 --> 00:57:58,160
Speaker 2: No, I'm saying for his pleasure too, like what he likes.

1192
00:57:58,600 --> 00:58:01,680
Speaker 3: Yeah, most men are or nine percent of the man.

1193
00:58:02,400 --> 00:58:05,480
Speaker 2: No, they are what I'm saying where they need to go? No,

1194
00:58:05,600 --> 00:58:08,160
Speaker 2: I know they're gonna get there. What I'm saying a.

1195
00:58:08,160 --> 00:58:10,320
Speaker 1: Lot of times they even own a woman, it's on him.

1196
00:58:11,120 --> 00:58:13,160
Speaker 2: Yeah, I'm not even saying that. I'm just saying like

1197
00:58:13,280 --> 00:58:18,400
Speaker 2: I feel like both parties like can instruct or tell

1198
00:58:19,240 --> 00:58:23,439
Speaker 2: the person like what they like more basically yeah, yeah,

1199
00:58:23,440 --> 00:58:26,040
Speaker 2: of course. Yeah, But I feel like it could be awkward,

1200
00:58:26,280 --> 00:58:28,480
Speaker 2: I guess for a woman because it's like, how do

1201
00:58:28,520 --> 00:58:31,439
Speaker 2: you even tell a man like you know, I think

1202
00:58:31,480 --> 00:58:33,360
Speaker 2: a lot of women struggle with that, And we've talked

1203
00:58:33,360 --> 00:58:36,600
Speaker 2: about that when Shamboo Draam was on our show about

1204
00:58:37,000 --> 00:58:40,320
Speaker 2: just how to approach that scenario for a lot of

1205
00:58:40,360 --> 00:58:42,880
Speaker 2: women or whatever the case may be, on how to

1206
00:58:42,920 --> 00:58:46,880
Speaker 2: be satisfied or whatever, because I think that there's like

1207
00:58:46,920 --> 00:58:49,720
Speaker 2: a stigma like you know, as a as a woman,

1208
00:58:49,800 --> 00:58:51,920
Speaker 2: you have to make sure a man is not like

1209
00:58:53,080 --> 00:58:56,400
Speaker 2: just walking around here, not like satisfied or not like

1210
00:58:56,560 --> 00:58:59,320
Speaker 2: having sex or da da da da da. But I

1211
00:58:59,360 --> 00:59:02,040
Speaker 2: don't think that men feel that way about women. They're

1212
00:59:02,120 --> 00:59:04,640
Speaker 2: just like, oh, they're good, you know, Like I feel

1213
00:59:04,640 --> 00:59:06,400
Speaker 2: like men don't think about it like that, like, oh,

1214
00:59:06,400 --> 00:59:10,200
Speaker 2: she's out here just like not getting you know, cracking,

1215
00:59:10,520 --> 00:59:14,240
Speaker 2: like getting her shit off, So damn Like men don't

1216
00:59:14,240 --> 00:59:15,400
Speaker 2: think about that about women.

1217
00:59:16,280 --> 00:59:18,480
Speaker 1: I mean, then when the woman take a man down,

1218
00:59:18,560 --> 00:59:21,640
Speaker 1: you all take all our energy like dun like what

1219
00:59:21,720 --> 00:59:24,680
Speaker 1: you expect, Like you don't get no gratification of taking

1220
00:59:24,680 --> 00:59:27,120
Speaker 1: your man down, like y'all took him down.

1221
00:59:27,920 --> 00:59:31,880
Speaker 2: But so you know what, you know what, men don't realize,

1222
00:59:31,880 --> 00:59:33,920
Speaker 2: you know how, Like if you had sex but you

1223
00:59:33,960 --> 00:59:39,720
Speaker 2: didn't come, you still need to like get your shit out. Okay,

1224
00:59:39,840 --> 00:59:42,919
Speaker 2: that's the same as a woman. You know that. Well,

1225
00:59:43,000 --> 00:59:47,360
Speaker 2: I'm telling you, like, men don't realize that. Men don't

1226
00:59:47,400 --> 00:59:49,840
Speaker 2: realize that that's the same as a woman. Like if

1227
00:59:49,880 --> 00:59:52,360
Speaker 2: a woman has sex and she doesn't, she's still going

1228
00:59:52,440 --> 00:59:57,000
Speaker 2: to be like turned on until she can get that out,

1229
00:59:57,200 --> 01:00:00,600
Speaker 2: you know what I mean. So like men don't really like, yes,

1230
01:00:00,640 --> 01:00:04,680
Speaker 2: you're satisfied by taking a man down, of course, but

1231
01:00:04,720 --> 01:00:05,600
Speaker 2: that doesn't mean you're not.

1232
01:00:05,800 --> 01:00:09,520
Speaker 3: Like yeah, for sure, but there women, women go out.

1233
01:00:09,840 --> 01:00:13,120
Speaker 1: That's why these six shops is made for women more

1234
01:00:13,160 --> 01:00:15,080
Speaker 1: so than men. So y'all go out and get y'all

1235
01:00:15,080 --> 01:00:17,280
Speaker 1: little devices and stuff, and y'all be like, all right,

1236
01:00:17,280 --> 01:00:18,280
Speaker 1: I'll take care of myself.

1237
01:00:18,320 --> 01:00:21,800
Speaker 3: Then that's what women do. Women do.

1238
01:00:21,840 --> 01:00:26,480
Speaker 2: Women do do that, Yeah they do. But y'all men

1239
01:00:26,520 --> 01:00:28,840
Speaker 2: are okay with that. They're just like whatever, you could

1240
01:00:28,880 --> 01:00:30,440
Speaker 2: just go do your own thing. I don't care to

1241
01:00:30,760 --> 01:00:31,520
Speaker 2: like figure out.

1242
01:00:31,560 --> 01:00:32,960
Speaker 3: Women do that way more than men.

1243
01:00:33,680 --> 01:00:36,120
Speaker 2: Yeah, of course, because women are not coming. Men, like

1244
01:00:36,160 --> 01:00:37,680
Speaker 2: you said, are going to come nine to nine percent

1245
01:00:37,680 --> 01:00:43,120
Speaker 2: of the time a woman is not. So it's different.

1246
01:00:43,320 --> 01:00:45,080
Speaker 3: Well, it's easier for a man to get there than

1247
01:00:45,120 --> 01:00:45,480
Speaker 3: a woman.

1248
01:00:45,640 --> 01:00:49,720
Speaker 2: Yeah, for sure, it's harder for a woman.

1249
01:00:49,880 --> 01:00:52,600
Speaker 1: I mean, we even took down so many times. It's

1250
01:00:52,640 --> 01:00:56,640
Speaker 1: harder for the woman. What do you mean, I'll say

1251
01:00:56,680 --> 01:00:58,720
Speaker 1: what I'll say what I mean when when the women

1252
01:00:58,760 --> 01:01:01,280
Speaker 1: then has so much and of course with so many

1253
01:01:01,360 --> 01:01:03,320
Speaker 1: different means, it's.

1254
01:01:03,160 --> 01:01:03,720
Speaker 3: Harder for you.

1255
01:01:03,920 --> 01:01:06,680
Speaker 2: That's not true. You know that it's actually more easy

1256
01:01:06,720 --> 01:01:08,720
Speaker 2: for a woman to come the more sexual experience that

1257
01:01:09,160 --> 01:01:11,240
Speaker 2: she had, because she's more in tune with her body.

1258
01:01:11,480 --> 01:01:13,560
Speaker 2: Do you think that we're coming when we first have sex.

1259
01:01:13,800 --> 01:01:16,120
Speaker 2: When we first have sex, it hurts and it's uncomfortable.

1260
01:01:16,280 --> 01:01:19,760
Speaker 2: You don't start enjoying sex until you're like more, you've

1261
01:01:19,800 --> 01:01:22,520
Speaker 2: had more sex, just so you know. So it's not

1262
01:01:22,600 --> 01:01:25,000
Speaker 2: about a woman's been taken down by so many men

1263
01:01:25,080 --> 01:01:27,439
Speaker 2: now she can't come. Matter of fact, women who are

1264
01:01:27,480 --> 01:01:30,680
Speaker 2: more sexually active come a lot quicker and know how

1265
01:01:30,720 --> 01:01:33,200
Speaker 2: to make themselves come a lot faster than women who

1266
01:01:33,240 --> 01:01:37,960
Speaker 2: are less sexually active. So that's a complete wrong statement

1267
01:01:38,160 --> 01:01:38,640
Speaker 2: all the way.

1268
01:01:39,640 --> 01:01:45,680
Speaker 3: Thanks for schooling me, no, because it is.

1269
01:01:46,000 --> 01:01:48,640
Speaker 2: You said that when Shannon Boujo was on the show too,

1270
01:01:48,840 --> 01:01:52,120
Speaker 2: and she told you the same thing. It's wrong, like

1271
01:01:52,240 --> 01:01:54,640
Speaker 2: you think because she's broken down because she'd got to

1272
01:01:54,840 --> 01:02:00,640
Speaker 2: live up. That's not the truth. That's so like a

1273
01:02:01,520 --> 01:02:07,520
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1278
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Speaker 2: a fan question spending the block on a relationship question

1279
01:02:24,760 --> 01:02:29,600
Speaker 2: for the pod. Can Our elaborate and Paul give insight

1280
01:02:29,720 --> 01:02:34,160
Speaker 2: on spending the block on a relationship. If you left

1281
01:02:34,200 --> 01:02:37,240
Speaker 2: a relationship, what are your thoughts on possibly rekindling things

1282
01:02:37,280 --> 01:02:39,320
Speaker 2: with an X? Why or why not?

1283
01:02:42,640 --> 01:02:45,160
Speaker 1: I've never done that personally. I've never broken up with

1284
01:02:45,200 --> 01:02:47,200
Speaker 1: a girl and got back with the girl. I'm just

1285
01:02:47,320 --> 01:02:50,160
Speaker 1: like you know, I feel like the issues you had

1286
01:02:50,200 --> 01:02:52,120
Speaker 1: to make y'all break up, it's gonna be the same

1287
01:02:52,160 --> 01:02:54,840
Speaker 1: issues you get back when you get back into it

1288
01:02:54,880 --> 01:02:59,800
Speaker 1: thinking something's gonna be different. I've never gotten back with

1289
01:02:59,840 --> 01:03:04,600
Speaker 1: a never even entertain getting back with an X, like hey,

1290
01:03:04,640 --> 01:03:07,040
Speaker 1: should we be together or any of that. I just

1291
01:03:07,120 --> 01:03:08,800
Speaker 1: feel like, once it's over or it's over.

1292
01:03:09,040 --> 01:03:11,640
Speaker 2: But did you ever spend the block like you kind

1293
01:03:11,640 --> 01:03:16,120
Speaker 2: of y'all slept together again, y'all boot up.

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01:03:16,040 --> 01:03:20,320
Speaker 3: Again, slept together again?

1295
01:03:20,920 --> 01:03:22,760
Speaker 2: You know how some people spend the block and just

1296
01:03:22,840 --> 01:03:27,160
Speaker 2: kind of like catch up high one night, two nights

1297
01:03:27,240 --> 01:03:28,040
Speaker 2: here and there.

1298
01:03:31,480 --> 01:03:34,160
Speaker 3: No, no, and no, no, no one knows.

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01:03:34,800 --> 01:03:37,320
Speaker 2: I think for me, my answer to the question is

1300
01:03:37,560 --> 01:03:42,360
Speaker 2: I never did that either. But I will say that

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01:03:42,760 --> 01:03:45,680
Speaker 2: people can. There's a lot of things that can happen

1302
01:03:45,720 --> 01:03:49,680
Speaker 2: that I'm starting to realize as I'm mature, because I

1303
01:03:49,760 --> 01:03:51,560
Speaker 2: used to be really hell bent on like never spend

1304
01:03:51,560 --> 01:03:54,440
Speaker 2: the block or whatever, But now like I've seen some

1305
01:03:54,480 --> 01:03:57,760
Speaker 2: people do this, and I've seen this happen, and maybe

1306
01:03:57,960 --> 01:04:00,920
Speaker 2: like you guys can take time of art and grow

1307
01:04:01,400 --> 01:04:04,640
Speaker 2: and change and like mature and realize like there were

1308
01:04:04,680 --> 01:04:07,520
Speaker 2: some things that we did wrong that could make us

1309
01:04:07,680 --> 01:04:11,560
Speaker 2: like get back together or whatever, like maybe we were.

1310
01:04:11,840 --> 01:04:13,360
Speaker 2: At the time, I didn't really see where you were

1311
01:04:13,400 --> 01:04:16,400
Speaker 2: coming from, But I now do, Like, if it wasn't

1312
01:04:16,400 --> 01:04:18,000
Speaker 2: a whole bunch of cheating and lying and it was

1313
01:04:18,080 --> 01:04:21,120
Speaker 2: just we broke up because the timing or because there

1314
01:04:21,120 --> 01:04:25,000
Speaker 2: were certain things that maybe were disrupting or we weren't

1315
01:04:25,000 --> 01:04:29,000
Speaker 2: in alignment. I feel like time might heal that and

1316
01:04:30,080 --> 01:04:33,280
Speaker 2: the work separate, like being separated and doing the work

1317
01:04:33,360 --> 01:04:36,000
Speaker 2: separately and then being like damn, we reconnected. We came

1318
01:04:36,000 --> 01:04:39,240
Speaker 2: back together. Also, I've seen people like maybe getting another

1319
01:04:39,280 --> 01:04:42,800
Speaker 2: relationship and then that made them appreciate the fact that like, wow,

1320
01:04:43,280 --> 01:04:45,680
Speaker 2: I thought I wanted this, but now I'm realizing, like, yo,

1321
01:04:45,880 --> 01:04:49,120
Speaker 2: I really wanted what this was offering. You know, I've

1322
01:04:49,160 --> 01:04:51,960
Speaker 2: seen like a few situations in which that happened that

1323
01:04:52,080 --> 01:04:55,400
Speaker 2: kind of like changed my perspective on that, like maybe

1324
01:04:55,400 --> 01:04:58,560
Speaker 2: you can maybe you can stuff you know, yeah, maybe

1325
01:04:58,600 --> 01:05:03,000
Speaker 2: people can grow and then come back together and be like, Okay,

1326
01:05:03,320 --> 01:05:05,680
Speaker 2: like we can make this work or whatever. When like

1327
01:05:05,880 --> 01:05:08,560
Speaker 2: you know, a few months or you know, like a year,

1328
01:05:08,760 --> 01:05:11,400
Speaker 2: whatever the case may be, and now we're in a

1329
01:05:11,520 --> 01:05:14,120
Speaker 2: much better space. And you know, I have a friend

1330
01:05:14,120 --> 01:05:16,240
Speaker 2: like that, and she's now married to that man. They

1331
01:05:16,240 --> 01:05:18,560
Speaker 2: have kids and they've been married for a minute, so

1332
01:05:18,800 --> 01:05:20,960
Speaker 2: you never know, you know, Like, that's kind of how

1333
01:05:21,000 --> 01:05:22,680
Speaker 2: I look at it now, and can.

1334
01:05:22,840 --> 01:05:26,640
Speaker 1: End in disrespect once it ends in disrespect, most of them,

1335
01:05:27,200 --> 01:05:29,480
Speaker 1: most relationships a lot of end and disrespect. But if

1336
01:05:29,480 --> 01:05:31,160
Speaker 1: you are in a good place of time and you

1337
01:05:31,200 --> 01:05:33,400
Speaker 1: ain't feeling it right now and you get back, I

1338
01:05:33,480 --> 01:05:35,920
Speaker 1: get it. But when it ends in disrespect, there's no going.

1339
01:05:35,720 --> 01:05:36,120
Speaker 3: Back from me.

1340
01:05:36,520 --> 01:05:39,680
Speaker 2: Yeah, I get that. I get that. Thank you guys

1341
01:05:39,720 --> 01:05:42,760
Speaker 2: so much for joining another episode of The Truth Ever Dark.

1342
01:05:42,920 --> 01:05:47,840
Speaker 2: You guys were really upset about our last episode last week.

1343
01:05:48,280 --> 01:05:50,480
Speaker 2: I get it. I know you guys are so mad.

1344
01:05:50,840 --> 01:05:53,560
Speaker 2: What because I was saying things about black man. I'm

1345
01:05:53,560 --> 01:05:56,080
Speaker 2: getting It's funny because my homegirl commented on wanted the

1346
01:05:56,080 --> 01:05:58,120
Speaker 2: posts that I don't even talk to. When she hit

1347
01:05:58,160 --> 01:05:59,400
Speaker 2: me up, she's like, oh my god, as are the

1348
01:05:59,440 --> 01:06:01,920
Speaker 2: way that people are attacking me Because I commented on

1349
01:06:02,040 --> 01:06:05,320
Speaker 2: your post, I said, welcome to my life. You guys

1350
01:06:05,320 --> 01:06:08,920
Speaker 2: were super upset about it, but you know it is

1351
01:06:08,920 --> 01:06:12,240
Speaker 2: what it is. You know, I love y'all, still, I

1352
01:06:12,400 --> 01:06:16,640
Speaker 2: rock with y'all. But I said what I said, so

1353
01:06:17,240 --> 01:06:20,080
Speaker 2: you know it is what it is, but I still

1354
01:06:20,120 --> 01:06:22,200
Speaker 2: love you guys so much, and you know, I'm still

1355
01:06:22,240 --> 01:06:27,040
Speaker 2: team black man, black women, black people, but I'm team

1356
01:06:27,280 --> 01:06:30,320
Speaker 2: everybody and I'm a team love. And if that looks

1357
01:06:30,360 --> 01:06:33,280
Speaker 2: like interracial tating, I think we should do that. Thank

1358
01:06:33,320 --> 01:06:35,120
Speaker 2: you guys for joining. Make sure you call it.

1359
01:06:37,080 --> 01:06:42,000
Speaker 1: They're coming for you, They coming for me a lot.

1360
01:06:42,480 --> 01:06:45,120
Speaker 2: Ain't got no haters, You ain't popping. They mad at me,

1361
01:06:45,360 --> 01:06:47,120
Speaker 2: I get it, I get it, but you know what,

1362
01:06:47,680 --> 01:06:50,000
Speaker 2: they're mad at me. But I've coddled black men this

1363
01:06:50,120 --> 01:06:54,280
Speaker 2: whole podcast. And now I said some things and you know,

1364
01:06:54,480 --> 01:06:58,320
Speaker 2: like I said, Tony Baker even commented on it and

1365
01:06:58,480 --> 01:07:00,840
Speaker 2: was just like because he's so much, but he was

1366
01:07:00,920 --> 01:07:05,200
Speaker 2: just like, I cheated, I've done things. I take responsibility

1367
01:07:05,200 --> 01:07:08,160
Speaker 2: and like traumatizing women in my part that I played

1368
01:07:08,160 --> 01:07:10,600
Speaker 2: in this. And they're attacking him and he's going back

1369
01:07:10,600 --> 01:07:12,440
Speaker 2: and forth to the comments about it, like, damn, bro,

1370
01:07:12,680 --> 01:07:17,040
Speaker 2: just take accountability. So I respect him for that. Always

1371
01:07:17,080 --> 01:07:19,840
Speaker 2: shout out to him and shout out to all the

1372
01:07:19,840 --> 01:07:26,520
Speaker 2: men who don't take accountability. Oh well, damn, but love y'all.

1373
01:07:26,560 --> 01:07:29,960
Speaker 1: Still love y'all, man, Make sure you like subscribe to it,

1374
01:07:30,040 --> 01:07:32,120
Speaker 1: and is there anything you want us to touch on,

1375
01:07:32,240 --> 01:07:33,960
Speaker 1: or any guess you'll like us to have, make sure

1376
01:07:33,960 --> 01:07:35,920
Speaker 1: you leave it in the comments and we'll work do

1377
01:07:36,000 --> 01:07:38,320
Speaker 1: our best to answer those questions and bring these guests

1378
01:07:38,320 --> 01:07:42,800
Speaker 1: on man. So absolutely thanks for watching, continue to like,

1379
01:07:43,200 --> 01:07:45,320
Speaker 1: continue to join us each and every week.

1380
01:07:45,600 --> 01:07:48,280
Speaker 2: We love y'all, Love you guys so much. Peace.

1381
01:08:06,200 --> 01:08:14,960
Speaker 1: This is the taking over the game, all right, everybody,

1382
01:08:15,400 --> 01:08:17,839
Speaker 1: welcome to Truth after Dark.

1383
01:08:18,600 --> 01:08:22,960
Speaker 2: Do you think that men or women are more toxic