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Speaker 1: It is time to ask the CLO our Chief Love Officer,

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Speaker 1: Steve Harvey. This is coming in from Charisse in Franklinton.

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Speaker 1: Charisse's writes, I moved my mother in with me after

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Speaker 1: we found out my dad has a side chick. I

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Speaker 1: made the decision for her, and my dad won't speak

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Speaker 1: to me. He wants my mom to come back to

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Speaker 1: their house. And am I supposed to let her go

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Speaker 1: back to his cheating ass?

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Speaker 2: Is this a woman or a boy? Is this a

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Speaker 2: daughter or oh it's a daughter.

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Speaker 1: Her name is Sharif.

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Speaker 3: Yeah, no, you've You've done what you were supposed to

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Speaker 3: do as a daughter.

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Speaker 2: You know you didn't really interfere. You just got them

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Speaker 2: coming stairs.

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Speaker 3: You know your mama was hurt, so you gave your

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Speaker 3: mama some residents.

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Speaker 2: I can't be mad.

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Speaker 3: At that, right, I can't be mad at that. They

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Speaker 3: say the time to stay out your business.

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Speaker 1: Yeah, her dad is mad at her, though.

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Speaker 3: Well you daddy mad because he got busted, and then

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Speaker 3: daddy man because you gave her somewhere to go. Because

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Speaker 3: that way he came to keep explaining himself every day.

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Speaker 3: That's what's wrong with that.

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Speaker 1: Okay, So yeah, so should she let her she's asking

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Speaker 1: should she let her mom go back to her cheating dad.

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Speaker 3: No, well you should. If your mom wants to go back,

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Speaker 3: yes you should. You can't stop her. But lady, late,

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Speaker 3: little girl. I know, ladies y'all get mad about it.

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Speaker 3: I understand, and it's justified. So let me say that

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Speaker 3: before I say that. But if mom wants to go

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Speaker 3: back and work it out, y'all, you got to let

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Speaker 3: that happen, because there's some backstory behind that too. You

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Speaker 3: don't know what's been happening at the house. Your mama

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Speaker 3: ain't told you. Whether she didn't cut him off. Your

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Speaker 3: mamma don't tell you. They've been fighting a lot. Your

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Speaker 3: mamma don't tell you. If she hadn't a fair few

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Speaker 3: years ago and he paying her back, you'll.

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Speaker 2: Know, you'll know.

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Speaker 1: No, well, we do know he cheated. Moving on, you.

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Speaker 2: Know we don't we to Clo is not what Shirley

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Speaker 2: knows is to seell.

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Speaker 1: Next question, Swede, All right, sweetie, well we do know that.

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Speaker 1: That's what we do know, all right, Winston and Auburn.

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Speaker 1: Clo says, I told my wife that I was going

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Speaker 1: upstairs to call my boss. Back minutes later, I could

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Speaker 1: see my wife's shadow in the hallway. I told my

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Speaker 1: wife that I didn't appreciate her eavesdropping. This is a

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Speaker 1: constant issue. Why be honest if she doesn't trust me?

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Speaker 2: Exactly.

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Speaker 1: I knew you'd like that one and say that again, Shirley,

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Speaker 1: Why be honest if she doesn't trust me, that's the

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Speaker 1: question exactly. That isn't justified lying.

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Speaker 2: He nobody said he lied. She hadn't lost issues.

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Speaker 3: He didn't lie. He went in there to call the ball.

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Speaker 3: Then he saw her shadow. She in that checking to

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Speaker 3: see if it's the boss. That's a trust issue. Now,

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Speaker 3: it could have happened because she's been hurt in the

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Speaker 3: past and that's carried over.

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Speaker 2: That's called baggage. That's called baggage.

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Speaker 3: And sometimes people are people, boys and girls. You have

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Speaker 3: to allow your past to remain in your past. Quit

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Speaker 3: bringing your past up with you to the future because

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Speaker 3: it will diminish and destroy your chance of a great fiority.

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Speaker 2: Yeah, yeah, all right.

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Speaker 1: Now with that's saying that is to her a reason

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Speaker 1: not to trust he's done something in the past.

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Speaker 2: Maybe maybe that that ain't what's on the paper. See

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Speaker 2: that he said past relationships. I'm saying maybe it was

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Speaker 2: this relationship? Did shadow he has cheated?

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Speaker 3: He said, Look, I've cheated on her before and now

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Speaker 3: I can't shake it.

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Speaker 2: She's caught.

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Speaker 3: He ain't say that, and he saw the shadow of

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Speaker 3: her in the dope busk.

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Speaker 1: You can assume he's being honest though he's been honest

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Speaker 1: in this one, because he says, why be honest?

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Speaker 2: Well, what was his last line? Shrey read that one

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Speaker 2: more time?

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Speaker 1: Why be honest? If she doesn't trust me?

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Speaker 2: You know what?

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Speaker 3: That right there is a ticket to life. Hey, I'm

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Speaker 3: gonna tell you this too. Now, this is what I've

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Speaker 3: run into quite a bit. What's that I've had men?

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Speaker 3: Because the woman had baggage from the previous relationship and

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Speaker 3: didn't trust him and followed him and tagged him and

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Speaker 3: listened in and checked his email and constantly accused him

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Speaker 3: when he wasn't doing nothing. And he said, well, man,

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Speaker 3: I might as well catch all this. Hell, he might

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Speaker 3: well be for something, and he started seeing somebody.

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Speaker 1: That's what this guy is asking, why be honest if

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Speaker 1: she doesn't trust me? That's the prelude to what you're

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Speaker 1: talking about right here? All right? Moving on to Kim

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Speaker 1: in Detroit. Hey, Detroit, Kim writes, my husband's ex wife

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Speaker 1: and I are old friends. They got married and divorced

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Speaker 1: after having two kids. Then he and I fell in

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Speaker 1: love and got married. We got her blessing. But it

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Speaker 1: bothers me that she still calls herself the quote first wife,

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Speaker 1: and she calls him baby daddy.

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Speaker 2: What do you want?

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Speaker 3: All of those are facts, All of those are set.

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Speaker 2: She is the first wife, he is the baby daddy.

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Speaker 3: See, now, why don't you give yourself a title?

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Speaker 2: See, you gotta come.

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Speaker 3: By tenor like what you could call yourself the better

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Speaker 3: of the two. You could call yourself taste this choice,

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Speaker 3: you know, like the coffee. Because he has tasted and

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Speaker 3: hasn't made his choice. You got to come up with

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Speaker 3: nicknames and titles to afset her. So when she goes,

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Speaker 3: I'm the first wife, and then you just go, well,

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Speaker 3: I'm taste this choice.

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Speaker 1: But does it matter to you that her husband's ex

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Speaker 1: wife and she are old friend and now she's married

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Speaker 1: to her old friend's husband.

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Speaker 3: Well, they felt, they had a divorce, had two kids,

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Speaker 3: and they met, fell in love and got married with

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Speaker 3: her blessing, Yeah, with her, but she gave.

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Speaker 2: Him the blessing. But she goes, well, you know I

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Speaker 2: was the first. That's the problem. It's no dun choice.

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Speaker 2: And you know he baby daddy. Yeah, all right.

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Speaker 1: Last one, Steve Barbara and Tucson says, I'm married to

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Speaker 1: an older black man and he's very opinionated, and he's

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Speaker 1: getting more and more racist with all that's going on

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Speaker 1: in politics. I'm German and we've been married eighteen years.

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Speaker 1: Should I tell him that he's making me uncomfortable?

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Speaker 2: And he ain't? Lady? See, oh you called the right world.

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Speaker 2: Do you know how uncomfortable he is? Key worried. You're German,

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Speaker 2: you're married to an older black man. Do you know

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Speaker 2: what he'd haven't seen? Yeah?

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Speaker 3: Yeah, yeah, yeah. I highly recommend you going there and

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Speaker 3: say that.

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Speaker 2: Yes, you start like that.

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Speaker 1: All right, Steve, thank you, Get out my face with

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