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Speaker 1: This week's episode of Cultivating her Space.

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Speaker 2: Recognize that our healing starts with noticing and not judging.

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Speaker 2: A lot of us could spend hours judging ourselves harshly

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Speaker 2: for some of the things that we've done, or feeling

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Speaker 2: shame or embarrassment. But sitting in that does not allow

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Speaker 2: you to heal, does not allow you to move forward. Hey, lady,

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Speaker 2: have you ever felt like the world just doesn't get you? Well,

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Speaker 2: Now, let's get into this week's episode of Cultivating her Space.

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Speaker 3: It's doctor dom here from the Cultivating her Space podcast.

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Speaker 3: forward to hearing from you. Our quote of the day,

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Speaker 3: Wellness is not a privilege. It is everyone's rights. That

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Speaker 3: quote comes to you from yours truly, doctor dom and

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Speaker 3: I will say that one more time for the folks

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Speaker 3: in the back to make sure that you heard it

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Speaker 3: and you get into it. Wellness is not a privilege.

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Speaker 3: It is everyone's rights.

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Speaker 2: All right, See you ready to jump in.

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Speaker 1: Let's do it. Let's do it.

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Speaker 2: So, I mean, you know, you know how I do.

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Speaker 2: What comes up for you when you hear that quote.

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Speaker 1: Well, it's funny how this quote came about because we

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Speaker 1: were talking about this before the episode, lady, and I

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Speaker 1: was telling Dom how for a long time we're talking

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Speaker 1: about wellness today, right, the seven dimensions of wellness. And

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Speaker 1: I was looking at this and I'm like this sounds amazing,

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Speaker 1: Like all these things sound amazing. And there was a

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Speaker 1: time in life where I was so in the weeds

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Speaker 1: surviving this. I had, this shit was not approachable. I

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Speaker 1: did not have the privilege, it felt like, and had

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Speaker 1: bandwidth to do to pursue a lot of these to

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Speaker 1: pursue improving these dimensions. And so that's why I say

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Speaker 1: comes up for me when I hear and I love that.

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Speaker 1: You just like came up with it right on the spot.

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Speaker 1: You're like, uh, oh, there's our quote. I love it.

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Speaker 1: So what comes up for you when you hear this

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Speaker 2: Well, I think for me, it comes back to what

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Speaker 2: didn't you were you spent time in survival mode, that

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Speaker 2: And so when I heard that. My immediate reaction was absolutely,

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Speaker 2: the fuck not it is not. Wellness is not a privilege.

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Speaker 2: It should not be a privilege. Addressing these seven dimensions

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Speaker 2: of wellness is everyone's human rights. And so then it

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Speaker 2: into other dimensions, and why we all need to address

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Speaker 2: all of these dimensions and what that can actually look like,

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Speaker 2: whether you are feeling like you're in survival mode or

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Speaker 1: That is so powerful. I love it, and I'm excited

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Speaker 1: love through the lens of or talked about this the

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Speaker 1: So not the Instagram or trendy version of self love,

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Speaker 1: when you think about self love, it isn't one thing, right,

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Speaker 1: It's how you think, how you care for your body,

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Speaker 1: how you protect your peace. Right. So as you listen,

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Speaker 1: we want to invite you to notice which area might

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Speaker 1: let's jump on in, shall we?

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Speaker 2: Yes, let's do it now. We know that at Cultivating

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Speaker 2: her Space podcast, Dr dom is always good for operationalizing

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Speaker 1: To itself the person.

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Speaker 4: We're here, all right, So it's late at the time

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Speaker 4: that we were recording this episode, So we're gonna talk

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Speaker 4: about defining Let's we want to start by defining wellness, right,

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Speaker 4: and so according to the National Institute of Health, I'm sorry,

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Speaker 4: National Institute of Wellness, wellness is an active process through which.

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Speaker 2: People become aware of and make choices toward a more

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Speaker 2: successful existence. I'm gonna say that again. Wellness is an

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Speaker 2: choices toward a more successful existence. Now, let's simplify that

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Speaker 2: Health Coach Institute. Wellness is about a lifelong commitment to

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Speaker 2: practicing healthy habits in order to elevate every area of

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Speaker 2: your life. All right, I'm gonna say that one one

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Speaker 2: more time. Wellness is about a lifelong commitment to practicing

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Speaker 2: healthy habits in order to elevate every area of your life.

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Speaker 1: All right. I love them both. And what I love

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Speaker 1: about number one is how it kind of breaks the

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Speaker 1: way my mind processed it when you read it was

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Speaker 1: it kind of breaks it up into phases. So it's

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Speaker 1: an active process through which people become aware of. So

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Speaker 1: It's like taking a picture. You got your phone out,

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Speaker 2: Yeah, let's see, let's name them. So our seven dimensions

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Speaker 2: in no particular order, psychological, spiritual, social, environmental, financial, intellectual,

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Speaker 1: I want to say I could do vacation. I mean,

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Speaker 1: Lady Dom said this earlier. But it has been a

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Speaker 1: So if we're a little sillier than usual, listen, soak

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Speaker 1: We have so many reviews where ladies are like girl,

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Speaker 1: So psychological wellness. When it comes to psychological wellness, I'm

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Speaker 1: any conversation prompts and just reflective prompts for you, lady

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Speaker 2: So I think about the psychological wellness as your emotional

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Speaker 2: how you understand yourself, how you acknowledge and express all

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Speaker 2: how we cope with life's challenges. And yeah, I think

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Speaker 2: that's a part of that's a part of the psychological wellness, okay.

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Speaker 1: And some of the questions we can ask ourselves around

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Speaker 2: Yes, I think that's a great question because it allows

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Speaker 2: I like that word the snapshot right of what were

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Speaker 1: What happens in your inner world when you're overwhelmed? This

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Speaker 1: Do you get softer with yourself? A more critical? Yeah?

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Speaker 2: emotions you just named, like overwhelmed, anger, frustrated, Right, But

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Speaker 2: what do you do what happens in your inner world

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Speaker 2: when you feel joy, when you feel excitement, ecstasy, like

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Speaker 2: Or do you become critical and try to move.

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Speaker 1: Out of it? Okay, I love that you pointed that

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Speaker 1: out down because any one for Philly who's listening, it's

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Speaker 1: know if that you had something that was similar to

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Speaker 1: went to Philly Public School, right I my family used

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Speaker 1: the people who I was in school with. Right. So,

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Speaker 1: And going back to what you said, Dom, you deserve

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Speaker 2: I love that. So now let's move on to spiritual wellness.

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Speaker 2: And so when we when we think about spiritual wellness,

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Speaker 1: I love this overview dom and I love the emphasis

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Speaker 2: Yes, I love those questions because again it goes back

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Speaker 2: And so now that takes us to our next dimension,

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Speaker 1: right before. I think we talked about that right before

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Speaker 1: the episode, and I'm just so happy that we do.

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Speaker 1: We we're in a space where we were able to

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Speaker 1: commune and have that community because it's so important, and

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Speaker 1: it also especially when you're in the right community. I

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Speaker 1: think sometimes people hear oh community or you're in a group,

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Speaker 1: and some people based on past experiences and may bring

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Speaker 1: up some anxiety. You may be like, oh my gosh,

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Speaker 1: but I mean, imagine a space if you don't have like,

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Speaker 1: imagine a space where it's ideal community, people who get

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Speaker 1: you right, people who support you, it's positive odds, good energy.

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Speaker 1: And some of the questions you can ask yourself around

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Speaker 1: social wellness in general are how have your relationships changed?

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Speaker 1: If you've grown, how have they changed? Right? Are there

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Speaker 1: some people that you've had to let go of? Some

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Speaker 1: people who you just outgrew? Nothing bad towards them, you know,

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Speaker 1: no ill feelings, but you just outgrow some people. And

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Speaker 1: then what does loving yourself look like? And the people

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Speaker 1: you allow to access you. I'm gonna read that what

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Speaker 1: we're tilling because that that's a deep one right there.

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Speaker 1: What does loving yourself look like in the people you

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Speaker 1: allow access to you? Oh?

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Speaker 2: Yeah, yeah. Even hearing it the second time, I'm like,

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Speaker 2: ooh that just listen deep.

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Speaker 1: What comes up for you when you hear that, because

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Speaker 1: that's a very great indicator on a lot of thanks.

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Speaker 2: Yes it is, And I think what comes up for

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Speaker 2: me is you know, one of the one of the

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Speaker 2: biggest buzzwords right now is about boundaries, right, is like,

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Speaker 2: what boundaries do you need? What boundaries are you setting

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Speaker 2: and upholding with the people who you interact with?

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Speaker 3: Right?

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Speaker 2: Because that is how to me, that is one of

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Speaker 2: the biggest demonstrations of how you love yourself in relation

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Speaker 2: to other people is knowing. First, it's being able to

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Speaker 2: identify what it is that you want and need in

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Speaker 2: your interpersonal relationships. And then two then it's about setting

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Speaker 2: the boundaries and upholding the boundaries as you were interacting

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Speaker 2: with other people.

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Speaker 1: Yes, aping to that, you hit the nail on the head.

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Speaker 6: This is Rod and Karen from the Blackouts podcast. We're

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Speaker 6: a husband and wife duo who make a comedy podcast

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Speaker 6: about sports, pop culture and everything like that. Annoying checkout

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Speaker 6: lady at the grocery store, you go too with the glasses.

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Speaker 7: She just randomly keeps asking us what y'all eat for dinner?

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Speaker 7: We would we we wouldn't even in the line. We

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Speaker 7: were just walking around the store, and she's like, what

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Speaker 7: y'all ain't for dinner?

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Speaker 1: I thought, what, ma'am?

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Speaker 2: Don't get it wrong with you.

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Speaker 6: Yeah, she'd be violating hard because that aren't that one cashier.

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Speaker 6: She started talking to other people about my groceries. I'm like, what, Like,

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Speaker 6: it's other people involved in this transaction now or this

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Speaker 6: is just between us. She's like, oh, girl, come over here.

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Speaker 6: They got the Buffalo Chicken dial Like, what are y'all

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Speaker 6: gonna do?

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Speaker 2: And now let's get back to the conversation.

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Speaker 1: And some of the takeaways for social wellness include choosing

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Speaker 1: relationships that feel mutual right mm HM, releasing connections rooted

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Speaker 1: in obligation or guilt lesson that right there. When you

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Speaker 1: do that, you're gonna feel so much lighter. I did

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Speaker 1: go I did that shit recently, and I'm like, I'm

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Speaker 1: about to go meet somebody, and why am I dreading it?

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Speaker 1: Like and it's not like that, Oh I don't want

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Speaker 1: to come out the house, Like I don't even want

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Speaker 1: to hang out with you? Then why are we going?

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Speaker 1: You know what?

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Speaker 2: Why?

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Speaker 1: Why? Just why?

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Speaker 3: Why?

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Speaker 1: This way build community beyond romantic relationships. That kind of

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Speaker 1: goes back to what you were sharing dom that is

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Speaker 1: super important, like having friendships, having community, having people again

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Speaker 1: who get you, who understand, and who you can just

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Speaker 1: get energized by, like that group of black women. Oh

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Speaker 1: my goodness, it's so powerful.

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Speaker 2: So powerful. And you know, despite what our westernized society

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Speaker 2: tries to push on us, this level of individualism innately,

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Speaker 2: as black folks, people of the African diaspora, we are

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Speaker 2: we are collectivists, meaning we are a community. We do

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Speaker 2: not operate well in silos. We do not thrive alone.

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Speaker 2: Now I'm gonna throwing a caveat that. Yes, we we

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Speaker 2: we all need a long time. Every single one of

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Speaker 2: us needs a long time, even even your seven year

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Speaker 2: old who's like, I mean, I want to go to

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Speaker 2: my room and I don't want to talk to anybody

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Speaker 2: because they need a long time too. But our overall existence,

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Speaker 2: our way to have social onmas are part of our thriving,

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Speaker 2: part of.

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Speaker 5: Our healing requires community, requires us being in loving Let

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Speaker 5: me let me also add that part loving communities.

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Speaker 2: Yes, if it's not serving you, if you don't feel connected.

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Speaker 1: Leave let it go, let it go, get aut of there. Now.

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Speaker 1: The next one is environmental wellness. Now, what exactly does

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Speaker 1: environmental wellness mean? When you think about the dimensions of wellness.

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Speaker 2: So for me, when I think about like environmental wellness,

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Speaker 2: environmental wellness is more about our relationship with nature, right,

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Speaker 2: two parts. Let me also, let me be clear, it's

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Speaker 2: two parts. It's about how we engage with the outside

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Speaker 2: world around us, So the air, of the water, the land,

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Speaker 2: all of those things that's around us, how we engage

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Speaker 2: in that. But also then our environmental wellness is about

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Speaker 2: the spaces that we occupy. So whether it's our literal

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Speaker 2: home or our workplace, or our school, or our or

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Speaker 2: places of worship, our gyms, whatever, it's all of those

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Speaker 2: spaces that we find ourselves in. What are those what

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Speaker 2: do those spaces look like? How do we not only

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Speaker 2: have a positive impact on those spaces, but receive positivity

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Speaker 2: from those spaces.

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Speaker 1: Yes, that is so good. And the questions you can

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Speaker 1: ask yourself about environmental wellness include how does your environment

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Speaker 1: impact your mental health? I mean that is the key

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Speaker 1: question right there. I mean you think about I'm just

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Speaker 1: thinking about spaces. I've gone into down some of the

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Speaker 1: spaces you've named, and I don't feel so good afterwards.

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Speaker 1: I don't feel so good when I'm there, right, And

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Speaker 1: that's something that we should just be aware of and okay,

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Speaker 1: making a note of because we may have to shift

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Speaker 1: some things up.

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Speaker 2: And the next question is what you go to that

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Speaker 2: next question. I want to give a couple of other

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Speaker 2: examples to think for folks to think about that they

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Speaker 2: might not think about when they're when we were thinking

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Speaker 2: about environmental health, right.

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Speaker 1: Yeah.

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Speaker 2: So one of the things that I noticed years ago

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Speaker 2: for myself is and this was back when I was

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Speaker 2: a full time faculty member, that there were ebbs and

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Speaker 2: flows to the course of the academic year, and my

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Speaker 2: home environment was always an indicator of where we were

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Speaker 2: in the semester, which then had an impact on how

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Speaker 2: I thought about things at my stress levels. So start

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Speaker 2: of a new school year or a new semester. Everything

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Speaker 2: in my home is immaculate. I come and go and

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Speaker 2: it stays immaculate, right like you know, make a message,

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Speaker 2: clean it up, and you keep like in the moment,

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Speaker 2: you clean it up and you keep going right. But

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Speaker 2: tip by the end of you can always tell when

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Speaker 2: the end of the semester hit because I had papers

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Speaker 2: and projects everywhere because it was great. It was like

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Speaker 2: deep grading season, and so I was taking a lot

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Speaker 2: of things home from work and I felt stressed and disorganized,

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Speaker 2: But that was because my space was disorganized. And so

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Speaker 2: lady also think so think about that in your home, right,

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Speaker 2: pay attention to how you driver, don't depending on what

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Speaker 2: your home looks like. But then it also goes beyond that.

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Speaker 2: Folks that live in climates that don't experience a lot

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Speaker 2: of sun or sunlight, yeah, often have to take extra

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Speaker 2: steps to protect their mental health because the vit is

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Speaker 2: not one that induces naturally positive emotions.

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Speaker 1: I love that you share that dom because even though

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Speaker 1: I love to have a clean space and not like

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Speaker 1: an aesthetically pleasing environment at home, there are times when

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Speaker 1: I'm in the midst that you just maybe think of

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Speaker 1: this in the midst of a sprint while I'm working

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Speaker 1: on a project and i don't care if the house

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Speaker 1: is messy because I'm so focused on what I'm doing.

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Speaker 1: It kind of reminds me of what you said about

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Speaker 1: the paper. So it's like, I'm actually kind of thriving

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Speaker 1: with the mess for in that season because of what

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Speaker 1: I'm working on. And so sometimes I think there's this

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Speaker 1: there's this desire to tell people, oh, everything has to

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Speaker 1: be clean and the entirety. But some people actually may

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Speaker 1: function in a different type of They may function and

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Speaker 1: like it may either be a what is it what

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Speaker 1: they call I know, they say method to your madness,

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Speaker 1: but it's like organized chaos or maybe it's not so

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Speaker 1: organized chaos. And then it also makes me think about

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Speaker 1: challenging spaces. So maybe you're going to the gym and

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Speaker 1: you're being challenged and so it's uncomfortable. So it's just

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Speaker 1: so an observation. It doesn't have to be oh, you

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Speaker 1: know what, my legs hurt? Am I going on? More

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Speaker 1: like I'm challenged. I don't like it. That may not

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Speaker 1: be it may not be something that you want to stop,

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Speaker 1: but it's actually it's positive for you. You know what

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Speaker 1: I mean, right, yep, and so do we asked Okay,

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Speaker 1: I say that we didn't ask the second question. The

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Speaker 1: second question here was what changes have you made to

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Speaker 1: feel more piece in your space? So it's something to

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Speaker 1: keep in mind.

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Speaker 2: Yes, yes, so yeah, what are And I also want

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Speaker 2: to acknowledge that, you know, there are a lot of

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Speaker 2: folks that are sharing spaces with other people. Nice, yes,

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Speaker 2: And so then it becomes a general conversation of what

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Speaker 2: do we all need as a unit in this in

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Speaker 2: this space to all be able to thrive?

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Speaker 1: Yeah. And then some takeaways for this one are decluttering

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Speaker 1: physical and digital spaces, and especially if you have space

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Speaker 1: that you're sharing with other people, maybe there's like a

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Speaker 1: corner that's just for you, you have a little pocket,

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Speaker 1: or like Okay, this mine right here, don't nobody come

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Speaker 1: over here, don't text this, this is my space if

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Speaker 1: you have the ability to do that, spending time outdoors

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Speaker 1: when possible, and then creating environments that support calm and clarity.

652
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Speaker 1: And we have episodes that kind of dive deeper into

653
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Speaker 1: this as well.

654
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Speaker 2: Yes, And I want to also say that being in

655
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Speaker 2: nature can be healing. And I say that can be

656
00:40:24,520 --> 00:40:28,160
Speaker 2: healing being in nature, being outside, because I recognize that

657
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Speaker 2: there are some of us who are not in spaces

658
00:40:33,760 --> 00:40:39,840
Speaker 2: where stepping outside feels safe. Yeah, and so and so,

659
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Speaker 2: then this would be a season where part of your

660
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Speaker 2: environmental wellness may be lacking. And so then it's an

661
00:40:48,760 --> 00:40:52,480
Speaker 2: opportunity to then look at like you pointed out Terry,

662
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Speaker 2: like you're in the indoor space, your indoor environment, and

663
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Speaker 2: what can you do to create a space that's just yours, Yes,

664
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Speaker 2: that you can come to for peace, for solace, for respite.

665
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Speaker 1: And then it takes us to our next one, financial wellness.

666
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Speaker 2: Yes, all right. So financial wellness is one that people

667
00:41:16,400 --> 00:41:22,520
Speaker 2: often don't like to talk about, and financial wellness really

668
00:41:22,640 --> 00:41:28,919
Speaker 2: is about understanding your specific financial situation and taking care

669
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Speaker 2: of it in ways that allow you to feel prepared

670
00:41:31,960 --> 00:41:36,200
Speaker 2: if something were to change. Right, and it doesn't matter

671
00:41:36,320 --> 00:41:43,520
Speaker 2: whether you whether you have ten million dollars in the

672
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Speaker 2: bank or you are one thousand dollars in the negative

673
00:41:48,840 --> 00:41:53,640
Speaker 2: in the bank, your financial wellness is something that you

674
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Speaker 2: like having an understanding of that, like if you are

675
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Speaker 2: in the negative one thousand dollars, like understanding why you're

676
00:42:02,120 --> 00:42:05,840
Speaker 2: in the negative, what got you there? What's the plan?

677
00:42:05,920 --> 00:42:08,279
Speaker 2: To get out if there is a plan to get

678
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Speaker 2: out right. And it's about understanding your relationship with your

679
00:42:16,520 --> 00:42:25,200
Speaker 2: finances so that you can make decisions that keep you stable.

680
00:42:26,160 --> 00:42:29,240
Speaker 2: And again that's going to look different for everybody some people.

681
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Speaker 2: Some people are happy with ten thousand dollars a year.

682
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Speaker 2: Other people ten thousand dollars a year is absolutely nothing,

683
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Speaker 2: and they would be miserable. And so it's about figuring

684
00:42:48,760 --> 00:42:50,920
Speaker 2: out what works for you.

685
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Speaker 1: And considering that finances could be such a sensitive topic.

686
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Speaker 1: Just be gentle with yourself when you're talking about this.

687
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Speaker 1: I know I've heard while I'm thinking about my own

688
00:42:59,719 --> 00:43:01,320
Speaker 1: things sperience, but also have heard from a lot of

689
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Speaker 1: other black women. Many of us weren't grown We didn't

690
00:43:04,080 --> 00:43:06,080
Speaker 1: grow up with a lot of knowledge about how to

691
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Speaker 1: manage our money and how to have positive relationships with money.

692
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Speaker 1: And so chances are, even as you make more money,

693
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Speaker 1: you may you may still be making some of the

694
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Speaker 1: same decisions that you made when you were younger, just

695
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Speaker 1: with more money. And so be gentle with yourself when

696
00:43:19,160 --> 00:43:21,799
Speaker 1: you're having this conversation and ask yourself, how is your

697
00:43:21,840 --> 00:43:25,359
Speaker 1: relationship with money evolved, and what does financial self love

698
00:43:25,440 --> 00:43:28,200
Speaker 1: look like? Beyond just making more.

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Speaker 2: Right right, because that goes back to your point of

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Speaker 2: if you don't understand your relationship with money and your

701
00:43:37,640 --> 00:43:41,480
Speaker 2: decision making regarding money, just because you have more money

702
00:43:41,520 --> 00:43:44,840
Speaker 2: in the bank doesn't mean you're going to be making different,

703
00:43:45,400 --> 00:43:50,160
Speaker 2: different or healthy decisions exactly. And so I think the

704
00:43:50,239 --> 00:43:58,080
Speaker 2: takeaways from that is understanding what your numbers are. Numbers

705
00:43:58,080 --> 00:44:04,719
Speaker 2: are facts, aren't feelings, they are facts, and so look

706
00:44:04,760 --> 00:44:10,080
Speaker 2: at those numbers without any shame, and then set boundaries

707
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Speaker 2: around what you're spending and giving. You know, there are

708
00:44:13,719 --> 00:44:16,880
Speaker 2: some people that don't like to budget at all. But

709
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Speaker 2: depending on what your financial situation is, depending on what

710
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Speaker 2: your numbers look like, you may need tools to help

711
00:44:26,520 --> 00:44:33,080
Speaker 2: you effectively manage those those numbers. And speaking of tools,

712
00:44:34,160 --> 00:44:36,279
Speaker 2: what can be helpful for a lot of us is

713
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Speaker 2: to look at money as a tool and not a

714
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Speaker 2: measure of your worth. Because there a people with two

715
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Speaker 2: dollars in the bank account and are probably the most genuine, authentic,

716
00:44:52,719 --> 00:44:57,919
Speaker 2: kindest people ever, and there could be somebody with two

717
00:44:58,000 --> 00:45:03,680
Speaker 2: million in their bank account and personality is complete trash.

718
00:45:03,320 --> 00:45:07,040
Speaker 1: Okay, and like not abundant at all. You got all

719
00:45:07,040 --> 00:45:10,520
Speaker 1: this money, but you're not abundant. You know, right, that's right,

720
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Speaker 1: all right, lady, we're moving along here to intellectual wellness.

721
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Speaker 1: Don what is intellectual wellness look like?

722
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Speaker 2: So intellectual wellness I want to I want to emphasize it.

723
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Speaker 2: It is not. Intellectual wellness is not about booksmarts. Okay,

724
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Speaker 2: And I know that might sound weird coming from someone

725
00:45:34,600 --> 00:45:39,560
Speaker 2: who works in academia, But intellectual wellness is not about booksmarts.

726
00:45:39,640 --> 00:45:44,720
Speaker 2: Intellectual wellness is about our ability to be to open

727
00:45:44,800 --> 00:45:53,640
Speaker 2: our minds to new ideas and experiences that allow us

728
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Speaker 2: to engage in the learning process, right, And learning is

729
00:45:59,400 --> 00:46:04,799
Speaker 2: not only about you what happens in school. You know

730
00:46:04,880 --> 00:46:08,959
Speaker 2: that that old saying learn something new every day is real.

731
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Speaker 2: That I got my degree a long ass time ago.

732
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Speaker 2: I'm not gonna say to years. I got my degree

733
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Speaker 2: a long ass time my doctorate a long ass time ago,

734
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Speaker 2: and I still prioritize learning something new every single day. Now.

735
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Speaker 2: Do I always make note of the thing, the specific

736
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Speaker 2: thing that I'm learning. Not necessarily, sometimes it gets stored

737
00:46:40,080 --> 00:46:44,320
Speaker 2: in my back pocket for later use. But I prioritize

738
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Speaker 2: learning something new every day because that helps keep me

739
00:46:50,200 --> 00:46:56,840
Speaker 2: my mind active, right, And that is intellectual wellness like

740
00:46:57,000 --> 00:47:02,000
Speaker 2: having an active mind that is engaging and new things,

741
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Speaker 2: new experiences, new information.

742
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Speaker 1: I appreciate that over you so much. That is definitely

743
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Speaker 1: a new perspective for me. Intellectual wellness was a new

744
00:47:13,040 --> 00:47:15,000
Speaker 1: dimension for me. And so I love the way that

745
00:47:15,040 --> 00:47:17,479
Speaker 1: you frame that. I know some people don't like to read.

746
00:47:17,520 --> 00:47:20,000
Speaker 1: I know we do. We appreciate reading. I know some

747
00:47:20,000 --> 00:47:21,759
Speaker 1: people don't, and so I think this just opens it

748
00:47:21,840 --> 00:47:24,160
Speaker 1: up for other people. And some of the questions you

749
00:47:24,160 --> 00:47:27,560
Speaker 1: can ask yourself for intellectual wellness include, how do you

750
00:47:27,640 --> 00:47:31,640
Speaker 1: keep your mind engage without tying everything to productivity?

751
00:47:31,920 --> 00:47:32,160
Speaker 2: Law?

752
00:47:32,719 --> 00:47:33,520
Speaker 1: If that ain't for me?

753
00:47:33,600 --> 00:47:34,000
Speaker 2: Right there?

754
00:47:34,680 --> 00:47:37,200
Speaker 1: Without tying everything to productivity, what about just doing something

755
00:47:37,239 --> 00:47:37,640
Speaker 1: for fun?

756
00:47:37,760 --> 00:47:37,920
Speaker 3: Right?

757
00:47:38,000 --> 00:47:40,640
Speaker 1: Just a new hobby for instance, Right, And then ask

758
00:47:40,760 --> 00:47:43,719
Speaker 1: yourself what am I curious about right now? Do you

759
00:47:43,719 --> 00:47:46,279
Speaker 1: want to go down the rabbit hole about I don't know,

760
00:47:46,400 --> 00:47:49,759
Speaker 1: mountain climbing, deep sea dibbing, whatever might be like just

761
00:47:49,880 --> 00:47:51,960
Speaker 1: exploring something new. It could be one of the random

762
00:47:51,960 --> 00:47:54,520
Speaker 1: facts that no one no one is ever going to

763
00:47:54,560 --> 00:47:57,080
Speaker 1: ask you about, but you know it, and you've expanded

764
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Speaker 1: your mind and you built a new what is a

765
00:47:59,560 --> 00:48:02,799
Speaker 1: neuro pastha? Right? Because you talk about pathways go to

766
00:48:02,880 --> 00:48:04,400
Speaker 1: new neural pathways, all right.

767
00:48:04,280 --> 00:48:09,040
Speaker 2: Now, yes I love that, and so yeah, again you

768
00:48:09,120 --> 00:48:11,759
Speaker 2: were absolutely right. It might not be something like I said,

769
00:48:11,800 --> 00:48:14,600
Speaker 2: it's something that you're put in your back pocket for laterans, right,

770
00:48:14,880 --> 00:48:17,360
Speaker 2: and you might not ever use it. But guess what,

771
00:48:17,640 --> 00:48:19,839
Speaker 2: on that day, like you said, you created that new

772
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Speaker 2: neural pathway and increased your intellectual your overall intellectual wellness

773
00:48:25,640 --> 00:48:28,040
Speaker 2: by keeping that active mind.

774
00:48:28,960 --> 00:48:29,319
Speaker 1: And so.

775
00:48:30,920 --> 00:48:37,799
Speaker 2: The key takeaways in enhancing your intellectual wellness is you're

776
00:48:37,880 --> 00:48:41,760
Speaker 2: learning for joy, not just advancement.

777
00:48:41,920 --> 00:48:42,160
Speaker 5: Right.

778
00:48:42,440 --> 00:48:45,359
Speaker 2: So, like I know I mentioned my degree that only

779
00:48:45,400 --> 00:48:49,200
Speaker 2: takes me so far, right, that only helps me in

780
00:48:49,239 --> 00:48:56,400
Speaker 2: one area of life. That's not my overall way of existing, right,

781
00:48:57,000 --> 00:48:59,880
Speaker 2: And so for me it's learning. Sometimes it's learning for

782
00:48:59,880 --> 00:49:03,080
Speaker 2: the sake of learning something new. Like you said, mountain

783
00:49:03,080 --> 00:49:05,920
Speaker 2: climbing is a great example. I have no plan in

784
00:49:05,960 --> 00:49:09,480
Speaker 2: life to ever mountain climb like, that's just not me. However,

785
00:49:10,160 --> 00:49:12,840
Speaker 2: if I sit down and I watch a documentary or

786
00:49:12,840 --> 00:49:15,760
Speaker 2: I go down a rabbit hole about learning about mountain climbing,

787
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Speaker 2: it exposes me to something new. I'm looking at new environments,

788
00:49:22,440 --> 00:49:26,439
Speaker 2: I'm under I'm getting an understanding of the people who

789
00:49:26,560 --> 00:49:29,200
Speaker 2: choose to mountain climb and maybe why they mountain climb,

790
00:49:29,320 --> 00:49:33,040
Speaker 2: Like I'm learning, I'm learning in a different way. And

791
00:49:33,160 --> 00:49:35,520
Speaker 2: again it's not about advancement.

792
00:49:35,480 --> 00:49:37,480
Speaker 1: Yes, and what I love about that two dollards you

793
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Speaker 1: can find parallels between mountain climbing that relates to other

794
00:49:40,440 --> 00:49:43,040
Speaker 1: aspects of your life and also relate to other people

795
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Speaker 1: based on what you've learned about it. So intellectual wellness

796
00:49:46,520 --> 00:49:49,319
Speaker 1: is whereas that Okay, all of them are, honestly, but

797
00:49:49,320 --> 00:49:52,480
Speaker 1: we're gonna close out with physical wellness.

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00:49:53,320 --> 00:49:58,920
Speaker 2: Yes, all right, So physical wellness for most folks probably

799
00:49:59,520 --> 00:50:07,680
Speaker 2: sound self explanatory, right, that physical wellness is really about

800
00:50:08,480 --> 00:50:14,200
Speaker 2: how you move your body right, how you navigate your

801
00:50:14,239 --> 00:50:18,279
Speaker 2: physical like I'm trying not to use a word to

802
00:50:18,320 --> 00:50:22,360
Speaker 2: define a word, right, how you move your body through

803
00:50:22,400 --> 00:50:31,319
Speaker 2: your task of everyday life right. And physical wellness can

804
00:50:31,520 --> 00:50:38,799
Speaker 2: include exercise, but that, but physical wellness is so much

805
00:50:39,040 --> 00:50:44,400
Speaker 2: more than exercise. Physical wellness is about how you manage

806
00:50:44,400 --> 00:50:50,120
Speaker 2: your stress. It's about one of my favorites, getting appropriate

807
00:50:50,160 --> 00:50:56,800
Speaker 2: amounts of sleep. It's physical wellness is about your nutrition.

808
00:50:57,000 --> 00:50:59,600
Speaker 2: So what are the foods that you are putting into

809
00:50:59,719 --> 00:51:06,000
Speaker 2: your body? It's what what are you doing to like

810
00:51:06,040 --> 00:51:11,319
Speaker 2: are you getting regular screenings and checkups? So whether you

811
00:51:11,440 --> 00:51:18,439
Speaker 2: practice Eastern holistic medicine or you practice Western medicine, either way,

812
00:51:18,520 --> 00:51:23,680
Speaker 2: it is still important to have regular checkups and screenings

813
00:51:24,120 --> 00:51:27,120
Speaker 2: to know what is happening on your inside.

814
00:51:28,400 --> 00:51:30,160
Speaker 1: And something else to keep in mind to when it

815
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Speaker 1: comes to physical wellness is that your body isn't the enemy.

816
00:51:33,480 --> 00:51:37,359
Speaker 1: It is always communicating with us. Like the other day,

817
00:51:37,400 --> 00:51:40,200
Speaker 1: I was on a computer doing too much for too long.

818
00:51:40,440 --> 00:51:43,680
Speaker 1: Excuse me, my legs started hurting. So I said, oh, okay, body,

819
00:51:43,680 --> 00:51:45,799
Speaker 1: I'm not going to shame my leg Like damn, I

820
00:51:45,800 --> 00:51:48,000
Speaker 1: got to take some medicine on my leg. I stretched

821
00:51:48,000 --> 00:51:49,520
Speaker 1: my body, I like, got off the computer to take

822
00:51:49,560 --> 00:51:52,560
Speaker 1: a break. Stretched, took a walk. Doesn't work out, it

823
00:51:52,640 --> 00:51:54,640
Speaker 1: will work out, and I felt better. So our body

824
00:51:54,680 --> 00:51:56,879
Speaker 1: is really communicating to us, and so I think it's

825
00:51:56,920 --> 00:51:58,600
Speaker 1: just up to us to listen to it to figure

826
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Speaker 1: out what are they trying to tell us so that

827
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Speaker 1: we can give it what it needs. And some of

828
00:52:02,719 --> 00:52:04,920
Speaker 1: the questions that we can ask ourselves when it comes

829
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Speaker 1: to physical wellness includes what messages did you receive growing

830
00:52:10,200 --> 00:52:13,759
Speaker 1: up about your body and physical health? Was rest encouraged

831
00:52:14,400 --> 00:52:17,560
Speaker 1: probably not, but I mean maybe who knows. Right, you

832
00:52:17,560 --> 00:52:20,280
Speaker 1: ask yourself, right, did you learn to push through pain

833
00:52:20,440 --> 00:52:22,879
Speaker 1: and exhaustion? Hmm?

834
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Speaker 2: Because there is a difference between there's a difference between

835
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Speaker 2: you are truly in pain, yeah, and your body's being

836
00:52:34,200 --> 00:52:38,600
Speaker 2: challenged a little that part a little discomfort is your

837
00:52:38,640 --> 00:52:42,759
Speaker 2: body's being challenged. Pain is a totally different thing, and

838
00:52:42,800 --> 00:52:44,640
Speaker 2: we don't want to ignore the pain.

839
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Speaker 1: Yes, yes, yes, yes. And another question, what beliefs do

840
00:52:48,760 --> 00:52:50,920
Speaker 1: you hold about your body that might no longer be

841
00:52:51,000 --> 00:52:55,640
Speaker 1: serving you? How do you usually know your body needs something?

842
00:52:55,680 --> 00:52:59,480
Speaker 1: And how often do you listen to it? That one

843
00:52:59,480 --> 00:53:02,040
Speaker 1: I'm thinking about pushing through, like oh I'm so hungry,

844
00:53:02,040 --> 00:53:03,920
Speaker 1: but I'm gonna wait and I'm gonna do the thing

845
00:53:03,960 --> 00:53:05,640
Speaker 1: that I want to eat, or do this thing or

846
00:53:05,640 --> 00:53:08,160
Speaker 1: get sleep after I do this thing. It's like, no,

847
00:53:08,360 --> 00:53:10,680
Speaker 1: I might need to just take a break, you know.

848
00:53:10,719 --> 00:53:11,600
Speaker 2: Take a break. Yeah.

849
00:53:11,640 --> 00:53:11,920
Speaker 3: I was.

850
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Speaker 2: I was watching something earlier today and this one was

851
00:53:16,160 --> 00:53:19,200
Speaker 2: talking about how she she was a runner. She's in

852
00:53:19,239 --> 00:53:23,080
Speaker 2: good physical perfect physical health overall, like get healthy, eating habits,

853
00:53:23,080 --> 00:53:26,080
Speaker 2: all of that, and she had had a couple of

854
00:53:26,120 --> 00:53:29,600
Speaker 2: experiences where she was running and after the run, like

855
00:53:29,680 --> 00:53:34,800
Speaker 2: her body was feeling completely exhausted, completely drained in ways

856
00:53:34,800 --> 00:53:37,960
Speaker 2: that she hadn't experienced before. She's talking to a couple

857
00:53:37,960 --> 00:53:41,480
Speaker 2: of friends who are also runners in and everybody's like, oh,

858
00:53:41,560 --> 00:53:45,080
Speaker 2: you know, push through, it's okay, you know, you'll be fine.

859
00:53:45,239 --> 00:53:47,439
Speaker 2: You're just tired. Take some rest and you'll be all right.

860
00:53:49,000 --> 00:53:54,400
Speaker 2: She ends up on vacation with her family and they're

861
00:53:54,400 --> 00:53:59,319
Speaker 2: on a bike ride and she collapses and turns out.

862
00:53:59,640 --> 00:54:04,160
Speaker 2: She as this, she ends up having something called cardiomyopathy. Lady,

863
00:54:04,200 --> 00:54:07,719
Speaker 2: google it. I don't. I'm not a medical doctor. I

864
00:54:07,760 --> 00:54:10,880
Speaker 2: can't tell you exactly what it means. But what I know,

865
00:54:11,160 --> 00:54:14,080
Speaker 2: what I paid attention to. What I took away from

866
00:54:14,080 --> 00:54:20,040
Speaker 2: that story is that she was ignoring signs that her

867
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Speaker 2: body was giving her. It's so important to not ignore

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Speaker 2: those signs.

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Speaker 1: Yeah, not ignore it, and also not let try not

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Speaker 1: to let other people tell you about what you're experiencing,

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Speaker 1: whether that's a doctor, friends, like really tapping that solitude

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Speaker 1: is important in our bodies, and intuition can really tell

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Speaker 1: us a lot, and so that is super important, and

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Speaker 1: anything else down. I'm coming up for you around this

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Speaker 1: conversation before we close out.

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Speaker 2: Well, I think to I want to emphasize in terms

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Speaker 2: of our physical health that we want to remember to

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Speaker 2: move in ways that feel good for us. That it's

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Speaker 2: about movement, right. So if you are not person who's

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Speaker 2: going to go and get on a treadmill for thirty

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Speaker 2: minutes every day, but you love to dance, then make

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Speaker 2: sure you make time for dance. That's still your body moving,

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Speaker 2: and there are certain ways in which you are dancing,

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Speaker 2: certain movements that move different body parts and train different

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Speaker 2: body parts than getting on a treadmill wheel. It's still movement.

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Speaker 2: Prioritized sleep, hydration, and nourishment like drink your water, eat healthy,

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Speaker 2: and get adequate sleep.

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Speaker 1: And mind your business.

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Speaker 2: I mean yes that part and part of minding your

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Speaker 2: own business is also keeping those medical appointments right, yes,

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Speaker 2: and honoring your body when you need rest. If you

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Speaker 2: are feeling exhausted, it's okay to take a break. I

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Speaker 2: encourage people to take mental health days from work if

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Speaker 2: they are working in a job that allows for time off.

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Speaker 1: I would say, my body is telling me, right now,

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Speaker 1: I need a break.

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Speaker 2: And with that in mind, like listen, we are going

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Speaker 2: to we are going to wrap up, and I do

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Speaker 2: want to before we do wrap up, I do want

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Speaker 2: to emphasize, I do want to point out our bonus

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Speaker 2: dimension of wellness, which is occupational or professional wellness, right,

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Speaker 2: and so occupational or vocational or professional wellness it relates

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Speaker 2: to how you address your career, right, and how you

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Speaker 2: address the things that you do to earn a living.

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Speaker 2: And for some of us, if we are not most

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Speaker 2: of us, actually, if we are not happy, if we

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Speaker 2: don't find fulfillment in our chosen career fields, that leads

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Speaker 2: to levels of us and impacts all the other dimensions

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Speaker 2: of well being. Right. And even if you aren't, maybe

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Speaker 2: you are at retirement age, or maybe you are in

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Speaker 2: a financial position where you don't have to work per se. So,

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Speaker 2: but it could be about violence, about volunteering, right, So

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Speaker 2: what is the thing that you do that allows you

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Speaker 2: to gain some personal fulfillment, okay, and allows you to

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Speaker 2: make a contribution to the world in society in some way?

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Speaker 2: All right, lady, So as we honor our needs for

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Speaker 2: some rest after our long work day, let's run through

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Speaker 2: these seven dimensions of wellness again. So we have psychological, spiritual, social, environmental, financial, intellectual, physical,

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Speaker 2: and our bonus occupational health.

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