WEBVTT - What Everyone Gets Wrong About High Achieving Black Women and Depression w/ Dr. Alfiee

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<v Speaker 1>Hey, fam, I'm Jada Pinkett Smith. Check out this exclusive

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<v Speaker 1>Red Table Talk bonus content. Well, I thought this was interesting.

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<v Speaker 1>In a recent bizarre article, the headline reads what everyone

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<v Speaker 1>gets wrong about high achieving Black women and depression. The

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<v Speaker 1>higher black women climb, the more they're expected to control

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<v Speaker 1>and suppress their emotions, sometimes to a debilitating effect. So

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<v Speaker 1>what would you suggest for black women who are climbing

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<v Speaker 1>up that ladder? And it's like all these expectations. Don't

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<v Speaker 1>let them see you sweat, can't let them see you cry.

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<v Speaker 1>As a black woman, it's almost as if you are

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<v Speaker 1>not allowed to have any kind of reactions, emotions, nothing right,

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<v Speaker 1>whether you outside the home or inside the home. I

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<v Speaker 1>think it speaks to what you were saying, is that

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<v Speaker 1>we carry so much of that weight around with us.

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<v Speaker 1>Is it be a great question for what little answer?

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<v Speaker 1>She feels like it? Who told us we need to

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<v Speaker 1>carry all that stuff? Go ahead and answer the courtion?

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<v Speaker 1>Who told us? When? Who told us stuff? I think

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<v Speaker 1>it's generational and I think it's cultural. Um. I just

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<v Speaker 1>think of the life of the black woman in America

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<v Speaker 1>since the beginning, and the kind of psychological and physical

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<v Speaker 1>and the weight it carries. We have to give ourselves

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<v Speaker 1>permission to give yourself permission to put the weight down.

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<v Speaker 1>You have to give yourself permission to know that at

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<v Speaker 1>the end of the day, our value is in our existence.

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<v Speaker 1>That's it. That's that's it. Yeah, it almost makes me

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<v Speaker 1>want to cry. You don't have to do anything right,

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<v Speaker 1>You don't have to wear anything to have anything your

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<v Speaker 1>value because you're here. That's the miracle that it took

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<v Speaker 1>for you to get here, in the miracle that it

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<v Speaker 1>takes for you to stay here, that's your value. I

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<v Speaker 1>love that. That's real talk. That's real talk. And I

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<v Speaker 1>think for us as black women, where is your space

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<v Speaker 1>to have despair? What you're supposed to do with that right?

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<v Speaker 1>I feel in despair. Okay, bill still got to be paid.

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<v Speaker 1>Family members still gotta be taken care of. You know,

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<v Speaker 1>I have an Asian parent who lives with me. Daddy

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<v Speaker 1>still needs to be taken care of. My kids are

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<v Speaker 1>in high school. I still gotta take care of the kids.

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<v Speaker 1>I still gotta work right, So there's no place to

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<v Speaker 1>have despair. And I think the other piece of it

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<v Speaker 1>is for black women, in many ways, it's more acceptable

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<v Speaker 1>for us to be angry than us to be hurt. Ye,

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<v Speaker 1>what you got to be heard about? Right? It's so

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<v Speaker 1>important that we as women, Black women, White women, Latin women,

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<v Speaker 1>Native American women, Asian women, women across the board, we

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<v Speaker 1>really have to start changing the narrative, these patriarchal ideas

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<v Speaker 1>of what a good woman is, what is you know

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<v Speaker 1>what I mean? In this new era, were talking about

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<v Speaker 1>female power, female empowerment and all of this kind of thing,

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<v Speaker 1>and how we need to really start expanding and diversifying

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<v Speaker 1>our own experiences as women and coming together and supporting

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<v Speaker 1>one another in regards to mental health support because I

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<v Speaker 1>know we as black women we got our burdens, but

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<v Speaker 1>women across the boards, it's rough. Thank you so much

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<v Speaker 1>for listening to this bonus content.