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<v Speaker 1>I Suck At Dating with de Nungler and Jared Haven

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<v Speaker 1>and I heard radio podcast Welcome everyone to Thursday special

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<v Speaker 1>edition of Help I Suck at Dating, as we've been

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<v Speaker 1>doing lately. I think we've been doing lately since I've

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<v Speaker 1>been gone for so long. We've got some callers calling

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<v Speaker 1>in with some dating issues for lack of a better word,

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<v Speaker 1>that they need some help with, so we're here to

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<v Speaker 1>help them. First caller is Emma, and I think she

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<v Speaker 1>might be in the room with us now, I'm all

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<v Speaker 1>right here. Hello, Hello, How are you good? Good? What's

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<v Speaker 1>going on in Emma's world? Oh? Okay? Um? So I've

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<v Speaker 1>been seeing a new guy for about two weeks um,

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<v Speaker 1>and I don't like to text, like just to chat, um,

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<v Speaker 1>Like I don't care to like just check in and

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<v Speaker 1>see what the other person is up to during the

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<v Speaker 1>day or vice versa. Um. And it's not that I

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<v Speaker 1>don't care about them. I'm like fully present with the

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<v Speaker 1>other person. I just like prefer to connect like in

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<v Speaker 1>person basically, Like I hate having like a running text

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<v Speaker 1>conversation all day. It's just like not my style. Um. Yeah,

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<v Speaker 1>so I actually just like despise texting and I only

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<v Speaker 1>want to do it for logistical reasons like making plans. So, um,

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<v Speaker 1>I know open communication is like the answer here, but UM,

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<v Speaker 1>I'm just struggling with how to how to phrase. It's

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<v Speaker 1>like what exactly do I say, like, Hi, I like you,

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<v Speaker 1>but I don't want to text you or anyone all

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<v Speaker 1>day long? You know, I don't know. It just sounds rude,

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<v Speaker 1>like I don't want to text you, but it's true.

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<v Speaker 1>So I don't know. Are there any ideas on like

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<v Speaker 1>how to tell a new partner how I feel about this.

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<v Speaker 1>I remember I used to date a girl who is

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<v Speaker 1>very similar to you never never texted during the day,

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<v Speaker 1>and as someone who really enjoys texting, like I would

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<v Speaker 1>rather text and be on the phone, it's stressed me

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<v Speaker 1>the heck out. And I think up until I had

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<v Speaker 1>the conversation from a thor about why she never texted

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<v Speaker 1>during the day, I was just constantly stressed. So yeah,

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<v Speaker 1>I mean, you kind of nailed on the head. In

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<v Speaker 1>my opinion, I think the best thing to do is

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<v Speaker 1>just be like, listen, I'm not going to text you,

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<v Speaker 1>and it's kind of like if you don't like it,

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<v Speaker 1>tough cookies sort of thing. Um, But I think as

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<v Speaker 1>long as you describe what's going on, that's most That's

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<v Speaker 1>basically the most important thing in my opinion. Otherwise, like

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<v Speaker 1>if you just keep being kind of vacant and not

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<v Speaker 1>there when he's texting, I think it's just gonna lead

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<v Speaker 1>to more stress for him. But I hope Jared maybe

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<v Speaker 1>has a better answer than that, because I know that

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<v Speaker 1>that's kind of the answer that you already knew was

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<v Speaker 1>the one that I was going to say, Jared, what

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<v Speaker 1>do you got? I would just say I'm a detext

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<v Speaker 1>her and I don't text back and I am terrible

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<v Speaker 1>at it. And then as long as you're showing him

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<v Speaker 1>that you like him in real life and you're fine,

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<v Speaker 1>just say hey you, I mean, there's I don't overthink it.

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<v Speaker 1>I don't know. I I also don't I'm not a

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<v Speaker 1>big texter like people sometimes text me. Remember somebody just

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<v Speaker 1>texted me from work and I was like, hey, I

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<v Speaker 1>saw so and so at the airport. I was like, oh,

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<v Speaker 1>I didn't even respond. It took me hours to respond

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<v Speaker 1>because I was like, what do I say? I literally

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<v Speaker 1>responded cool. It's like, I don't understand why people sometimes

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<v Speaker 1>feel like the need it's I I can't have a

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<v Speaker 1>conversation over text. So I agree with you, but I'll

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<v Speaker 1>tell you what though, I would weigh rather that than

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<v Speaker 1>someone call me with nothing to say, because that's why

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<v Speaker 1>I don't talk on the phone anymore, because people just

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<v Speaker 1>call you and they're like hey, like how are you,

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<v Speaker 1>and I'm like I'm good, what's up? And they're like, oh, nothing,

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<v Speaker 1>just want to talk. And that's my biggest fear I

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<v Speaker 1>think in life. So just text me how are you? Yeah,

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<v Speaker 1>so I don't pick up the phone anymore. And what

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<v Speaker 1>does this help you at all? I'm sorry I have

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<v Speaker 1>not does Yeah? Actually, I mean yeah, I just I

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<v Speaker 1>don't like like the sort of slow drip of texting

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<v Speaker 1>all day. Um, but yeah, I can see how it

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<v Speaker 1>would be sort of like aggressive to like just call

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<v Speaker 1>all the time. So yeah, I guess I just have to.

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<v Speaker 1>Why don't you like texting so much? What's your beef

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<v Speaker 1>with texting? I think it's just like it's sort of

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<v Speaker 1>like a one ft in, one ft out kind of communication,

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<v Speaker 1>and um, I kind of just like wanted to be

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<v Speaker 1>like a real communicating, like real communication or nothing. I

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<v Speaker 1>guess I don't know. I just feel like it's just

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<v Speaker 1>like a little bit all day long. Just seems like, um,

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<v Speaker 1>I don't know, not enough, or it's like distracting for

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<v Speaker 1>no reason, kind of half in, half out, and I

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<v Speaker 1>want to be like the whole. And that's probably why

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<v Speaker 1>I like it so much, because I'm so flighty. So

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<v Speaker 1>it's like noncommittal. I don't have to commit to a conversation,

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<v Speaker 1>can just kind of like step in what I want

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<v Speaker 1>to and step out when I want to. It's kind

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<v Speaker 1>of you know, now that I'm talking about it sounds

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<v Speaker 1>pretty nice. Um, but no, I can see why you'd

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<v Speaker 1>want that. I think. Yeah, best thing you could possibly

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<v Speaker 1>do is maybe call him and tell him and don't

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<v Speaker 1>text him and tell him, or just tell or just

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<v Speaker 1>tell him in person. I guess one of the two.

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<v Speaker 1>But at the end of the day, the most important thing,

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<v Speaker 1>as you've kind of already mentioned, is just making that

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<v Speaker 1>very clear to him, because otherwise he's just left in

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<v Speaker 1>the dark wondering why he's not getting a text all

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<v Speaker 1>day long or anything that makes sense. Yeah, that's all

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<v Speaker 1>that's all I got. I hope that helps. Um, you

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<v Speaker 1>can tell him listen to this podcast help a Second Dating,

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<v Speaker 1>and he'll probably get the hint. Maybe eventually too. So

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<v Speaker 1>I'll just tell him about this. But am I thank

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<v Speaker 1>you for calling. We appreciate it. Best of luck, Thank you,

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<v Speaker 1>I appreciate it. Hello Tess, welcome to the podcast. Thanks

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<v Speaker 1>for having me. Oh yeah, what an honor. Thanks for

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<v Speaker 1>joining us. What's going on? Oh, just trying to get

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<v Speaker 1>through this monday? You know, yeah, I feel you. What's

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<v Speaker 1>what's your dating woe for the week? Well, Um, I

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<v Speaker 1>like this guy and I think he's I mean, he's

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<v Speaker 1>kind of expressed interest in me. I guess you know,

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<v Speaker 1>I've been flirting with me and stuff, and he recently

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<v Speaker 1>asked me out. But I just noticed that he interacts

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<v Speaker 1>with like a lot of girls, I guess, a lot

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<v Speaker 1>of different women. And I went to social media and

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<v Speaker 1>I see he kind of he follows a out of them. Um,

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<v Speaker 1>And I mean I heard about his summer. I think

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<v Speaker 1>he like was with multiple different women this summer. He

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<v Speaker 1>was like in Europe, and he just likes a lot

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<v Speaker 1>of bikini models and stuff. So it's not like he

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<v Speaker 1>hasn't done anything for me to me like where I'm

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<v Speaker 1>going to judge him about it. I guess he's not

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<v Speaker 1>like he's not like gross or sleazy or anything. But um,

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<v Speaker 1>I mean, I just don't know if these are like

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<v Speaker 1>red flags or I mean, is he just like lady crazy?

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<v Speaker 1>Like I don't know if that's something I should be

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<v Speaker 1>concerned about. You know, I got a question for all

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<v Speaker 1>these guys out there that like these bikini as models.

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<v Speaker 1>For lack of a better way of saying it, photos,

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<v Speaker 1>just lie. Just look at the picture. Why are you

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<v Speaker 1>liking it? Why tap? Don't double tap? Are you think

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<v Speaker 1>that you're gonna get her attention from this, that she's

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<v Speaker 1>gonna see that Joe Blow liked this photo? I don't.

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<v Speaker 1>It boggles my mind. I'm like all their profiles Republic

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<v Speaker 1>if you want to look, just look. I I'll never

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<v Speaker 1>I don't get it because honestly, what happened. This happened

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<v Speaker 1>to um a friend of mine years ago, where her

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<v Speaker 1>boyfriend at the time was liking these photos and it's like,

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<v Speaker 1>I like, you have to have it be like, bro,

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<v Speaker 1>why are you liking these girls photos? Like? What are

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<v Speaker 1>you doing anyway? Uh So I disagree with you, Tessa.

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<v Speaker 1>I think he has done something to you because it's

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<v Speaker 1>always just weird, Like why you know, if you're seeing

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<v Speaker 1>this guy, things are going well, It's like it's all

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<v Speaker 1>public knowledge. He must know that people are seeing what

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<v Speaker 1>he likes or doesn't or what he likes on social media.

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<v Speaker 1>So uh, and then if he's had a you know,

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<v Speaker 1>quite a summer that you know of how how do

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<v Speaker 1>you know these things? By the way, I mean, he's

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<v Speaker 1>like he's a friend of a friend, so I've I mean,

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<v Speaker 1>I've met him several times. We just have never hung

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<v Speaker 1>out before together. So and I mean, you know, so

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<v Speaker 1>one or two he did take a make a few posts,

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<v Speaker 1>like we had been following each other because we had

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<v Speaker 1>met before. So I saw some girls and you know,

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<v Speaker 1>Paris or something I don't even remember. But and then

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<v Speaker 1>another friend I remember saying some stuff about him, just

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<v Speaker 1>about some hookups the summer and stuff. So I mean,

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<v Speaker 1>I mean he's cute. So like I get it, and

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<v Speaker 1>I take advantage if you can, I guess, But like

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<v Speaker 1>it doesn't make me feel super confident with him asking

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<v Speaker 1>me out that he's like not just going to go

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<v Speaker 1>onto the next you know, Yeah, I personally I think

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<v Speaker 1>that it's totally okay to do what he's done, And

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<v Speaker 1>it seems like you're kind of in the same thing

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<v Speaker 1>to like, go have fun, go do what you gotta do. Um.

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<v Speaker 1>I think it's up to you to really decide if

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<v Speaker 1>it's something you're comfortable with, and if it's not, at

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<v Speaker 1>the end of the day, then it's just maybe not

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<v Speaker 1>worth dating someone like that because, uh, you know, maybe

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<v Speaker 1>the philandering won't stop as much as you might want

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<v Speaker 1>it to, especially in the early stages of relationship when

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<v Speaker 1>things are ill defined, it can be a little dicey

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<v Speaker 1>and tricky. So uh, I think at the end of

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<v Speaker 1>the day, it's really just it. It comes down to

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<v Speaker 1>you and whether or not it's something that you can

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<v Speaker 1>a look past, because it would suck for you, guys,

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<v Speaker 1>to get into a relationship and then you still have

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<v Speaker 1>like any bearing of resentment towards him for you know,

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<v Speaker 1>his scandalous summer in Europe. I guess which I don't think.

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<v Speaker 1>I don't think you would do that, but you know,

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<v Speaker 1>I know I know of some people that have like

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<v Speaker 1>maybe held it over a person's head because of their past,

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<v Speaker 1>and it's always like, come on, you, you guys don't

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<v Speaker 1>even know each other then, you know, so, um, something

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<v Speaker 1>to consider. But it sounds like it might be something

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<v Speaker 1>that bothers you a little bit, And that's totally Okay,

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<v Speaker 1>like it's not really your responsibility to tell him what

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<v Speaker 1>he can and can't do. But if you are bothered

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<v Speaker 1>by it, like maybe just uh just don't consider the

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<v Speaker 1>option of dating him at the end of the day.

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<v Speaker 1>That's that's kind what I think. Um, but if you

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<v Speaker 1>can look past it and you do think he could change,

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<v Speaker 1>then by all means, go for it. I mean I

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<v Speaker 1>have some friends who kind of do that same thing,

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<v Speaker 1>like the jets setting European traveling lifestyle, and um, I

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<v Speaker 1>personally wouldn't want them to date my sister because it

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<v Speaker 1>does seem like they're they're a little flighty and they

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<v Speaker 1>you know, they love to do all that kind of

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<v Speaker 1>stuff and it might not be out of their system yet.

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<v Speaker 1>So maybe it just as something that uh, you have

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<v Speaker 1>to make the decision for yourself there. I think, well,

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<v Speaker 1>this is like maybe a for fun kind of a

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<v Speaker 1>situation and not like a long term Yeah, and you

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<v Speaker 1>know how many times do those fun situations turn on

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<v Speaker 1>turn into uh, you know, maybe more long term stuff,

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<v Speaker 1>So so you never know, want to feelings and then

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<v Speaker 1>it's going to be like, well then you just just

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<v Speaker 1>keep yourself protected a little bit, you know, don't dive

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<v Speaker 1>all the way in. Just ease in, weide in and uh, yeah,

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<v Speaker 1>I don't know, it's you know, maybe just just play

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<v Speaker 1>it slow and see what happens. Yeah, that's all I

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<v Speaker 1>got for you. Or you or you could do the

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<v Speaker 1>same thing he's doing and give him the option to

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<v Speaker 1>like see it firsthand and uh, you know, give him

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<v Speaker 1>a taste of his own medicine sort of thing. I guess. Yeah,

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<v Speaker 1>start liking some Thunder from down Under photos. You know.

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<v Speaker 1>I agree with Jared Man the liking thing. I see

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<v Speaker 1>some of my friends like some of these pictures, and

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<v Speaker 1>I'm like, what are you doing, especially like after you

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<v Speaker 1>go on on the Bachelor at the first time, and

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<v Speaker 1>people like look at everything under a magnifying glass and

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<v Speaker 1>I'll see like some of not you specifically, but like

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<v Speaker 1>other of our friends, and I'm like, what a waste, Like,

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<v Speaker 1>what a silly thing to be doing. You're really just

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<v Speaker 1>setting yourself up for some scrutiny here. But um, none

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<v Speaker 1>of that pertains to Test, I guess. So I'm sorry

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<v Speaker 1>about to ramble well side track there, but Test, thanks

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<v Speaker 1>for calling. I hope that helped. Best of luck with

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<v Speaker 1>your Thank you, said her boyfriend. Yeah, how are you Terrence,

0:11:57.600 --> 0:11:59.760
<v Speaker 1>I'm good. How are you guys doing good? We're doing good.

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<v Speaker 1>Thanks for calling. What's going on? So guys? Um? I um,

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<v Speaker 1>I've been working on myself a little bit. I have

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<v Speaker 1>I have a decent amount of like hutzpah and guts

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<v Speaker 1>to go up to women at bars and talk to them.

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<v Speaker 1>And uh, at first, it's GE's good and when I

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<v Speaker 1>when I go up there smiling and they're pretty forthcoming

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<v Speaker 1>and welcoming and everything. Um. But then I noticed that

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<v Speaker 1>I keep on asking really boring questions, like like I

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<v Speaker 1>keep on asking what do you do for work? And

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<v Speaker 1>I kind of see their eyes blaze over, and like

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<v Speaker 1>I see their energy go down. And I cringe at

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<v Speaker 1>the fact that I say it all the time. It's

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<v Speaker 1>just I don't know what happens. I just it automatically.

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<v Speaker 1>It automatically, it just comes out that way. Um. And

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<v Speaker 1>I just feel like I'm asking all the wrong questions,

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<v Speaker 1>you know. I feel like I really can't connect with

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<v Speaker 1>with with ladies. And I don't know. I mean, I

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<v Speaker 1>guess my question is what can I ask a girl

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<v Speaker 1>when I approached for the first time, and how can

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<v Speaker 1>I kind of get her to be interested? Wait? Sorry, Terrence.

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<v Speaker 1>I I spaced out a little bit there. You might

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<v Speaker 1>have to repeat the question. I'm just kidding. Yes, sorry, man,

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<v Speaker 1>it's um, I know, I'm just I'm just messing up there. Okay, okay, okay, Oh, Jared,

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<v Speaker 1>you could answer that pretty well. I feel like you

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<v Speaker 1>used to be pretty boring and then somehow you were

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<v Speaker 1>able to land. Actually, so you must have kept her

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<v Speaker 1>interest just enough, right, h Yeah, it's pretty much just

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<v Speaker 1>not caring. Uh. Yeah, the less you care, the more

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<v Speaker 1>they want you. Um. I don't know, man, there's no

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<v Speaker 1>good questions. I mean, the biggest thing is, don't talk

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<v Speaker 1>about the weather. Good God in heaven. I remember one

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<v Speaker 1>guy in The Bachelor, and I won't say who it is,

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<v Speaker 1>but I was talking to Kalin and she was like,

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<v Speaker 1>I can't talk to him anymore. We only talk about

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<v Speaker 1>the weather. Who is it? I got not saying it.

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<v Speaker 1>I'll tell you all fair for uh. But it was

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<v Speaker 1>like when she was admitting it to me, I was like,

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<v Speaker 1>oh that's not good. Uh good for me honestly, but yeah,

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<v Speaker 1>I would say, just be interested in what they have

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<v Speaker 1>to say. I mean, whether it's about work or where

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<v Speaker 1>they're about it their friends. Just be interested in what

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<v Speaker 1>they're saying and bounce off the conversation. I feel like

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<v Speaker 1>a lot of people they just ask questions, to ask

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<v Speaker 1>questions to get focus on the conversation, you know. I mean,

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<v Speaker 1>I've had conversations with girls where you just talk about

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<v Speaker 1>this stupid ish for hours, you know, because it's like

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<v Speaker 1>you talk about one thing. It's kind of like this

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<v Speaker 1>podcast with Diana and I where we talking about one

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<v Speaker 1>thing and then this comes up, and then that it

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<v Speaker 1>looks like, you know, you start playing pinball in your

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<v Speaker 1>head a little bit and then all of a sudden,

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<v Speaker 1>three hours goes by. So I wouldn't just don't focus

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<v Speaker 1>on it too much. Just have a conversation. Relax. You've

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<v Speaker 1>talked to hundreds thousands of people in your life. You

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<v Speaker 1>know how to talk to people. I think the more

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<v Speaker 1>you think about it, the worst it's going to get. Okay, Yeah,

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<v Speaker 1>I guess that might be my problem right now. I

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<v Speaker 1>kind of go in and I'm already just like, all right,

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<v Speaker 1>let you screwed this up. So yeah, I don't think

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<v Speaker 1>that's positively. I read this book when I was nineteen

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<v Speaker 1>years old. It's called The Game by Neil Strauss. Have

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<v Speaker 1>you heard of this book I haven't. It is unequivocally

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<v Speaker 1>the worst book ever written, but it was the first

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<v Speaker 1>book I ever enjoyed reading as as a kid because it,

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<v Speaker 1>like it tastes basically talks about like picking up girls. Um,

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<v Speaker 1>now all of a sudden, Dean's life makes much more

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<v Speaker 1>sense to me. It's very interesting, especially at that age. Uh, Terence,

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<v Speaker 1>I'm not saying you could use the help, but it

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<v Speaker 1>does like help shed a light on certain things. And

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<v Speaker 1>it's obviously a fiction book and it's all like ridiculously

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<v Speaker 1>blown out of proportion and all that kind of stuff,

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<v Speaker 1>so take it with a huge grain of sault, but

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<v Speaker 1>it does help like like randomness, like Jared is saying,

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<v Speaker 1>it's like super helpful. Uh. Spot in eighty I think

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<v Speaker 1>is really important too. And just like I don't know,

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<v Speaker 1>like I'm sure we've all had issues going up to

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<v Speaker 1>a girl and having a conversation. Some girls simply just

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<v Speaker 1>like aren't easy to have a conversation with. So maybe

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<v Speaker 1>like don't get down on yourself about that specifically, Um

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<v Speaker 1>like maybe if a girl, I can't imagine the number

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<v Speaker 1>of dates that I've been on where I've been struggling

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<v Speaker 1>for conversation, uh, which for me to struggle in conversation

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<v Speaker 1>and is kind of insane to think about because I

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<v Speaker 1>feel like I could just I could talk to a

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<v Speaker 1>wall for the most part. Um, So some people just

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<v Speaker 1>are harder to talk to. And I guess maybe the

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<v Speaker 1>dynamic isn't there, so it's not entirely on you at all. Um,

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<v Speaker 1>But yeah, there's just you know, like Jared said, there's

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<v Speaker 1>there's many ways around it. I think you just got

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<v Speaker 1>to find the right one that clicks with you. And

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<v Speaker 1>it's what's kind of nice about it is once you

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<v Speaker 1>do find that click, you'll realize how special it is

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<v Speaker 1>and maybe it'll you know, be the only one that

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<v Speaker 1>you need it for the rest of life. So cool, alright, cool, Yeah,

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<v Speaker 1>that's great. Yeah, Yeah, hopefully that helps. Uh, maybe you

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<v Speaker 1>just have a couple of extra shots next time too.

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<v Speaker 1>That always helps loosen everyone up and let's a little better. Yeah,

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<v Speaker 1>But Terence, thanks for calling and we are all right.

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<v Speaker 1>That's gonna be it for the callers for this week. Um, Jared,

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<v Speaker 1>thank you for letting Dawston actually join in as much

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<v Speaker 1>as they did. There. He is right there, just in

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<v Speaker 1>his little harness there he is cuty and the harness um,

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<v Speaker 1>and again, thanks for filling in for me for all

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<v Speaker 1>those three weeks. I love you. I appreciate you anytime,

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<v Speaker 1>but I love you too bad for Uh, well, we're

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<v Speaker 1>not we're not. We're signing off the podcast. I'll tell

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<v Speaker 1>you what. Oh I thought she wanted to say something

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<v Speaker 1>of the podcast. No, it doesn't matter. Tune in next week.

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<v Speaker 1>Were hopefully we all suck just a little less, including

0:17:11.840 --> 0:17:15.680
<v Speaker 1>Ashley just constantly interrupting our podcast. You know, for someone

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<v Speaker 1>that's co hosted to podcasts for like seven years, she's

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<v Speaker 1>pretty funny with the interruption. Unbelievable. This is why we

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<v Speaker 1>need to We need a podcast studio in the house

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<v Speaker 1>that I can lock the door. Oh that's very nice. Yeah.

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<v Speaker 1>Like Jared said, thanks for tuning in this week. Be

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<v Speaker 1>sure to tune in next week. We're maybe we suck

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<v Speaker 1>just a little bit less. Follow help by Suck at

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<v Speaker 1>Dating on I Heart Radio or wherever you listen to

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<v Speaker 1>podcast