1 00:00:02,680 --> 00:00:03,360 Speaker 1: Hey guys. 2 00:00:04,120 --> 00:00:06,160 Speaker 2: As you know, season four of Chigis and Chill is 3 00:00:06,160 --> 00:00:09,120 Speaker 2: officially over, but there are still some things I want 4 00:00:09,160 --> 00:00:11,479 Speaker 2: to talk to you about. That's why over the next 5 00:00:11,480 --> 00:00:14,400 Speaker 2: few weeks, we'll be revisiting some of my favorite episodes 6 00:00:14,440 --> 00:00:16,680 Speaker 2: over the last four seasons. I'll be sharing where I 7 00:00:16,760 --> 00:00:19,720 Speaker 2: am now versus where I was when I recorded the episode, 8 00:00:19,840 --> 00:00:22,520 Speaker 2: and also talk about how I feel today compared to 9 00:00:22,560 --> 00:00:24,639 Speaker 2: how I felt then. I want you to think of 10 00:00:24,680 --> 00:00:28,720 Speaker 2: these episodes as a countdown to something completely new, something 11 00:00:28,800 --> 00:00:29,920 Speaker 2: coming very soon. 12 00:00:30,400 --> 00:00:40,280 Speaker 1: Be excited. So let's do this, shall we? Okay? 13 00:00:40,280 --> 00:00:42,800 Speaker 2: Today, I want to talk about the episode I'm Dating 14 00:00:42,800 --> 00:00:45,559 Speaker 2: a Younger Man and I love it. For those of 15 00:00:45,560 --> 00:00:47,640 Speaker 2: you who have been living under a rock and have 16 00:00:47,720 --> 00:00:51,559 Speaker 2: not listened to my podcast, that younger man was Emilio, 17 00:00:51,680 --> 00:00:54,920 Speaker 2: who is now my husband. I remember this conversation like 18 00:00:54,960 --> 00:00:57,200 Speaker 2: it was yesterday. I brought a media on the pod 19 00:00:57,240 --> 00:00:59,640 Speaker 2: to talk about how we met and about our seven 20 00:00:59,760 --> 00:01:03,040 Speaker 2: year age gap. Back then, he was my boyfriend, but 21 00:01:03,120 --> 00:01:05,920 Speaker 2: since he's now my husband, I want to revisit this 22 00:01:06,000 --> 00:01:08,600 Speaker 2: topic of dating a younger man, and I can't do 23 00:01:08,640 --> 00:01:11,920 Speaker 2: this alone, so I have my two producers here, Brianna 24 00:01:11,959 --> 00:01:14,720 Speaker 2: and Pablo, who are going to help me recap this 25 00:01:14,760 --> 00:01:15,880 Speaker 2: particular episode. 26 00:01:16,280 --> 00:01:19,680 Speaker 3: I loved this episode. I remember sitting in on this 27 00:01:19,800 --> 00:01:22,199 Speaker 3: recording and it was so good. It was so nice 28 00:01:22,200 --> 00:01:24,920 Speaker 3: to have you guys in the same room. You guys 29 00:01:24,920 --> 00:01:30,120 Speaker 3: started talking by recapping how you guys met. I think 30 00:01:30,120 --> 00:01:32,640 Speaker 3: you said that you guys met at a Becky ge 31 00:01:32,880 --> 00:01:33,679 Speaker 3: birthday party. 32 00:01:33,800 --> 00:01:34,840 Speaker 1: Do you remember that night? 33 00:01:35,400 --> 00:01:37,960 Speaker 2: Oh my gosh, yes, that was cute. One of the 34 00:01:37,959 --> 00:01:40,440 Speaker 2: best days of my life I had. I thought that 35 00:01:40,520 --> 00:01:43,680 Speaker 2: I was done with dating and all this stuff. Well, 36 00:01:43,720 --> 00:01:45,080 Speaker 2: I won't say too much because I want you guys 37 00:01:45,120 --> 00:01:48,040 Speaker 2: to hear it in the episode, but it was an amazing, 38 00:01:48,400 --> 00:01:50,360 Speaker 2: amazing day when I met him. 39 00:01:50,920 --> 00:01:55,720 Speaker 4: And then since then, of course, fiance now husband. What 40 00:01:55,920 --> 00:01:59,560 Speaker 4: have you noticed in terms of you know that that 41 00:01:59,720 --> 00:02:02,640 Speaker 4: gap that I'm sure you knew some things at the beginning, 42 00:02:02,680 --> 00:02:04,240 Speaker 4: but what have you learned since then? 43 00:02:05,040 --> 00:02:05,200 Speaker 3: Mm? 44 00:02:06,800 --> 00:02:10,400 Speaker 2: In the very beginning, I did state that it was 45 00:02:10,760 --> 00:02:13,359 Speaker 2: a big thing for me. It was hard for me 46 00:02:13,480 --> 00:02:18,239 Speaker 2: to get used to. Now I feel a lot better. 47 00:02:18,360 --> 00:02:20,760 Speaker 2: I don't really think about it much, but there are 48 00:02:20,960 --> 00:02:26,440 Speaker 2: times that I get maybe a little insecure is the 49 00:02:26,480 --> 00:02:33,480 Speaker 2: word to be honest, because things are changing, you know, 50 00:02:33,880 --> 00:02:38,080 Speaker 2: in my body, I'm feeling different. I think about the 51 00:02:38,080 --> 00:02:41,680 Speaker 2: baby thing all the time. So those things kind of 52 00:02:41,800 --> 00:02:47,880 Speaker 2: play a part on the age difference because for most, 53 00:02:48,240 --> 00:02:50,000 Speaker 2: like I said, most of the time, I don't think 54 00:02:50,000 --> 00:02:55,800 Speaker 2: about it, but in certain situations it does weigh a 55 00:02:55,800 --> 00:02:58,239 Speaker 2: little heavy on me. But he does so good with 56 00:02:58,720 --> 00:03:04,679 Speaker 2: making me feel secure and sure about our relationship. 57 00:03:04,840 --> 00:03:06,280 Speaker 1: I was asking you about that. 58 00:03:06,720 --> 00:03:11,359 Speaker 2: I don't think that I'd be able to be in 59 00:03:11,440 --> 00:03:14,760 Speaker 2: this relationship if it was any other person, because he's 60 00:03:14,800 --> 00:03:16,200 Speaker 2: really good at reassuring me. 61 00:03:17,120 --> 00:03:19,360 Speaker 4: How do you bring yourself back? How do you get 62 00:03:19,480 --> 00:03:22,560 Speaker 4: yourself out of that insecurity? 63 00:03:23,680 --> 00:03:25,640 Speaker 2: I literally shake it off, Like when I tell you 64 00:03:25,680 --> 00:03:28,280 Speaker 2: I shake it off, I have to move my whole body. 65 00:03:28,320 --> 00:03:31,720 Speaker 2: I'm like, Janay, you know who you are. God put 66 00:03:31,760 --> 00:03:34,960 Speaker 2: you guys together for a reason. Enjoy the now, Jenney, 67 00:03:35,400 --> 00:03:39,840 Speaker 2: you know, I think as humans, I'm guilty of it. 68 00:03:39,880 --> 00:03:42,560 Speaker 2: Like I talk about this so much, and I'm like 69 00:03:42,600 --> 00:03:45,520 Speaker 2: always trying to empower people, but it happens to me 70 00:03:45,640 --> 00:03:48,480 Speaker 2: where I just start thinking of things that haven't even 71 00:03:48,520 --> 00:03:51,600 Speaker 2: happened yet, and I extress myself out and I'm like, no, 72 00:03:51,600 --> 00:03:54,080 Speaker 2: I got to shake it off. I know better. I 73 00:03:54,120 --> 00:03:56,200 Speaker 2: know he loves me. I need to just enjoy now. 74 00:03:56,280 --> 00:03:58,760 Speaker 2: If tomorrow is different, I'll deal with that. 75 00:03:58,760 --> 00:03:58,960 Speaker 1: Then. 76 00:03:59,320 --> 00:04:03,520 Speaker 2: Let me enjoy this love and what I'm living in 77 00:04:03,560 --> 00:04:09,360 Speaker 2: the moment. It's difficult, but again, I think it's the 78 00:04:09,360 --> 00:04:11,480 Speaker 2: partner that I have, and we're really good at giving 79 00:04:11,520 --> 00:04:12,440 Speaker 2: each other what we need. 80 00:04:15,200 --> 00:04:18,080 Speaker 3: Oh gosh, I was just remembering. I listened to that 81 00:04:18,080 --> 00:04:21,120 Speaker 3: episode last night. Re listened to it, and do you 82 00:04:21,160 --> 00:04:23,360 Speaker 3: remember mentioning that your mom had. 83 00:04:23,360 --> 00:04:24,560 Speaker 5: Dated somebody younger? 84 00:04:25,360 --> 00:04:25,880 Speaker 1: Yes? 85 00:04:26,120 --> 00:04:28,680 Speaker 3: Yeah, and you and so as I was thinking about that, 86 00:04:28,760 --> 00:04:30,200 Speaker 3: I was like, I wonder if that sort of gave 87 00:04:30,240 --> 00:04:34,200 Speaker 3: you the confidence to pursue this relationship, or maybe the 88 00:04:34,200 --> 00:04:38,039 Speaker 3: connection between you and Milio sort of like precedes your age, 89 00:04:38,080 --> 00:04:40,400 Speaker 3: you know, maybe you don't even think about it and 90 00:04:40,480 --> 00:04:42,680 Speaker 3: you just sort of go with it. Is that I'm 91 00:04:42,680 --> 00:04:44,920 Speaker 3: guessing that was true back then and it's also true now. 92 00:04:45,800 --> 00:04:46,240 Speaker 1: Yeah. 93 00:04:46,400 --> 00:04:49,920 Speaker 2: Yeah, I mean when I think of my mom, I 94 00:04:50,000 --> 00:04:53,680 Speaker 2: know also how difficult it was for her. I don't think. 95 00:04:54,080 --> 00:04:57,200 Speaker 2: I think, if anything, it kind of scared me a 96 00:04:57,200 --> 00:05:00,159 Speaker 2: little more in the beginning where I was like, I 97 00:05:00,200 --> 00:05:02,840 Speaker 2: think I do want someone I need. I thought I 98 00:05:02,920 --> 00:05:06,080 Speaker 2: needed someone older for whatever reason. So when I think 99 00:05:06,120 --> 00:05:10,960 Speaker 2: of my mom. I know how much she dealt with 100 00:05:12,560 --> 00:05:15,920 Speaker 2: being in a relationship with someone younger, so that did 101 00:05:16,279 --> 00:05:22,000 Speaker 2: scare me. But then also they're two completely different people 102 00:05:22,040 --> 00:05:24,560 Speaker 2: without taking anything away from whom my mom was dating then. 103 00:05:24,600 --> 00:05:30,320 Speaker 2: But yeah, I think it's just remembering who you are, 104 00:05:30,400 --> 00:05:32,760 Speaker 2: what you carry, and why you guys are in the relationship, 105 00:05:32,760 --> 00:05:35,320 Speaker 2: and that's just like the most important thing. I mean, 106 00:05:36,040 --> 00:05:37,320 Speaker 2: age is just the number. 107 00:05:38,200 --> 00:05:40,719 Speaker 1: Ish. I love that. 108 00:05:40,800 --> 00:05:42,520 Speaker 3: I feel like this episode is going to be great 109 00:05:42,600 --> 00:05:47,000 Speaker 3: for women in a similar situation. So maybe we should 110 00:05:47,160 --> 00:05:49,919 Speaker 3: just stop here and let everyone tune into the episode. 111 00:05:50,160 --> 00:05:51,039 Speaker 4: Yep, let's do it. 112 00:05:51,160 --> 00:05:52,920 Speaker 2: That's a good idea. Yeah, you guys, just go listen 113 00:05:53,000 --> 00:05:58,280 Speaker 2: to it. I hope you enjoy it. How do you 114 00:05:58,279 --> 00:05:59,599 Speaker 2: feel about the age difference? 115 00:05:59,640 --> 00:05:59,839 Speaker 1: Way? 116 00:06:00,440 --> 00:06:04,760 Speaker 5: Honestly, I never think about it, and I forget a 117 00:06:04,760 --> 00:06:07,200 Speaker 5: lot of the times that there is a gap. 118 00:06:07,680 --> 00:06:09,320 Speaker 2: She looks apt me and she's like, what are your 119 00:06:09,320 --> 00:06:11,520 Speaker 2: intentions with my son since you are older than him, 120 00:06:11,640 --> 00:06:13,120 Speaker 2: and then she just started laughing. I was like, oh 121 00:06:13,200 --> 00:06:15,200 Speaker 2: my god, I've never been asked that question because I've 122 00:06:15,200 --> 00:06:17,000 Speaker 2: never dated anyone younger than me. 123 00:06:17,440 --> 00:06:20,440 Speaker 5: I feel like part of talking about age comes from 124 00:06:20,480 --> 00:06:24,040 Speaker 5: like sexual attraction as well. A year later, I'm extremely 125 00:06:24,080 --> 00:06:26,719 Speaker 5: attractive to you, and I don't feel like we lack 126 00:06:26,839 --> 00:06:28,360 Speaker 5: anything in any of those areas. 127 00:06:33,320 --> 00:06:36,240 Speaker 2: Hey, guys, how are you as better cause than Moivian? 128 00:06:36,360 --> 00:06:38,039 Speaker 2: I'm so happy to be here with all of you, 129 00:06:38,160 --> 00:06:41,599 Speaker 2: So happy to be taping another episode of Cheeky's and Chill. 130 00:06:42,279 --> 00:06:44,960 Speaker 2: If this is your first time listening to the pod, welcome, 131 00:06:45,680 --> 00:06:48,599 Speaker 2: I'm your host, Cheeky. So today is an interesting one, 132 00:06:48,640 --> 00:06:52,599 Speaker 2: an interesting topic, have an interesting guest that's going to 133 00:06:52,600 --> 00:06:53,240 Speaker 2: be joining us. 134 00:06:53,560 --> 00:06:56,400 Speaker 1: We're going to be talking about relationship age gaps. 135 00:06:56,440 --> 00:06:58,680 Speaker 2: You guys, it's pretty common for a man to be 136 00:06:58,760 --> 00:07:01,239 Speaker 2: older than a woman, but what about when a woman 137 00:07:01,400 --> 00:07:02,400 Speaker 2: is older than a man. 138 00:07:03,320 --> 00:07:04,120 Speaker 1: So that's what we're. 139 00:07:04,000 --> 00:07:07,520 Speaker 2: Going to be talking about. Grab your drink Tequila. I'm 140 00:07:07,520 --> 00:07:10,840 Speaker 2: having cafescito right now. I've had way too much tequila 141 00:07:10,920 --> 00:07:12,960 Speaker 2: the past few days, so I'm going to stick to 142 00:07:13,080 --> 00:07:16,680 Speaker 2: water and coffee. Welcome to another episode of Cheeky's and Chill. 143 00:07:24,440 --> 00:07:26,880 Speaker 2: All right, so today we have, like I said, a 144 00:07:27,000 --> 00:07:29,800 Speaker 2: very special guest, my boyfriend Emilio. 145 00:07:30,160 --> 00:07:32,320 Speaker 1: Hi babe. 146 00:07:32,600 --> 00:07:34,840 Speaker 2: Now, for those of you who don't know, Emilio is 147 00:07:34,880 --> 00:07:37,240 Speaker 2: actually younger than I am by seven years. 148 00:07:37,840 --> 00:07:38,880 Speaker 5: Oh. You said the number. 149 00:07:39,280 --> 00:07:41,640 Speaker 2: Yeah, I did say the number. Yeah, seven years, you guys, 150 00:07:41,720 --> 00:07:43,520 Speaker 2: seven years. I get a lot of questions about that, 151 00:07:43,880 --> 00:07:46,720 Speaker 2: and I get it. It's not something people normally talk about. 152 00:07:47,360 --> 00:07:49,280 Speaker 2: But really quick, before we dive into the topic, I 153 00:07:49,320 --> 00:07:51,440 Speaker 2: want to give you guys a little background on how 154 00:07:51,480 --> 00:07:54,920 Speaker 2: we met. We talked about it before, but basically, I 155 00:07:55,000 --> 00:07:59,240 Speaker 2: met Emilio last year March first, to be exact, and 156 00:07:59,320 --> 00:08:02,000 Speaker 2: we met him at or I met him at Becky's 157 00:08:02,200 --> 00:08:05,120 Speaker 2: birthday party. I had met him before that, which was 158 00:08:05,200 --> 00:08:10,160 Speaker 2: one bab do you rememberline, Yes, yes, Joline, that's right. 159 00:08:10,760 --> 00:08:14,960 Speaker 2: That was like May of twenty twenty. He took some 160 00:08:15,000 --> 00:08:17,400 Speaker 2: pictures of me for the song with Becky Gee Joline. 161 00:08:17,440 --> 00:08:21,600 Speaker 2: So Becky and Immedial have known each other since they 162 00:08:21,640 --> 00:08:25,160 Speaker 2: were little. I don't know if in diapers, Yeah, pretty much. 163 00:08:25,360 --> 00:08:29,160 Speaker 2: They see each other like cousins anyways, So that was 164 00:08:29,200 --> 00:08:31,280 Speaker 2: the first time I met him, and then on March first, 165 00:08:31,360 --> 00:08:33,480 Speaker 2: he went to Becky's birthday party that we had for her, 166 00:08:33,480 --> 00:08:36,280 Speaker 2: a surprise birthday party at my house, and he came 167 00:08:36,480 --> 00:08:38,439 Speaker 2: and we just hit it off and we've been talking 168 00:08:38,480 --> 00:08:38,840 Speaker 2: since then. 169 00:08:39,120 --> 00:08:41,119 Speaker 1: So that's a little background. 170 00:08:41,120 --> 00:08:42,960 Speaker 2: I'm not going to get into details because I feel 171 00:08:42,960 --> 00:08:45,080 Speaker 2: like that's a whole other episode because it was just 172 00:08:45,120 --> 00:08:46,120 Speaker 2: really cute how we met. 173 00:08:46,160 --> 00:08:46,360 Speaker 5: You know. 174 00:08:46,920 --> 00:08:48,560 Speaker 1: I was like, I loved his dimples. I was like, 175 00:08:48,559 --> 00:08:50,560 Speaker 1: oh my god, I want to poke his little like dimples. 176 00:08:50,600 --> 00:08:52,920 Speaker 1: And he has like really nice eyeballs. It's exactly what 177 00:08:52,960 --> 00:08:54,600 Speaker 1: I said the first time. I said, wow, you have 178 00:08:54,679 --> 00:08:57,880 Speaker 1: very nice eyeballs. He's like eyeballs. I'm like, yeah, you do. Anyways, 179 00:08:58,480 --> 00:08:59,880 Speaker 1: he's getting shy. He's getting shy. 180 00:09:00,320 --> 00:09:02,640 Speaker 2: Okay, so that's out of the way, So it should 181 00:09:02,640 --> 00:09:05,839 Speaker 2: start off by saying something that I've don't really talk 182 00:09:05,840 --> 00:09:07,800 Speaker 2: about you guys. I mean, you know, it's twenty nine 183 00:09:08,240 --> 00:09:11,880 Speaker 2: and I am thirty six. I think for women it's 184 00:09:11,880 --> 00:09:14,000 Speaker 2: like this whole thing of like, don't ask age, like 185 00:09:14,040 --> 00:09:16,200 Speaker 2: don't talk about ages, or don't talk about your age 186 00:09:16,280 --> 00:09:18,840 Speaker 2: or ask their age like a woman. And you know 187 00:09:18,880 --> 00:09:20,120 Speaker 2: what I was thinking about it right now, I'm like, 188 00:09:20,160 --> 00:09:22,840 Speaker 2: you know, fuck it, I am thirty six. I'm proud 189 00:09:22,960 --> 00:09:25,360 Speaker 2: of being thirty six, proud of everything that I've been 190 00:09:25,360 --> 00:09:28,840 Speaker 2: able to accomplish at this age. I don't feel like 191 00:09:29,280 --> 00:09:31,320 Speaker 2: I look thirty six. Should I always say I'm like 192 00:09:31,360 --> 00:09:33,760 Speaker 2: twenty eight? You know, I don't feel it. I definitely 193 00:09:33,800 --> 00:09:36,640 Speaker 2: don't feel it. So it's kind of crazy to say 194 00:09:36,679 --> 00:09:38,600 Speaker 2: it out loud because I'm like, oh, shoot, like he's 195 00:09:38,640 --> 00:09:41,559 Speaker 2: twenty nine. I never thought that I was going to 196 00:09:41,679 --> 00:09:45,840 Speaker 2: date someone this much younger than I am, but it's 197 00:09:45,920 --> 00:09:48,160 Speaker 2: worked out. I mean, we're going on a year. How 198 00:09:48,200 --> 00:09:50,800 Speaker 2: do you feel about the age difference, babe? Honestly, is 199 00:09:50,840 --> 00:09:51,760 Speaker 2: this something you think about? 200 00:09:52,280 --> 00:09:56,440 Speaker 5: Honestly, I never think about it, and I forget a 201 00:09:56,440 --> 00:09:59,600 Speaker 5: lot of the times that there is a gap, because 202 00:09:59,640 --> 00:10:01,240 Speaker 5: it does feel like it when we're together. 203 00:10:01,520 --> 00:10:03,720 Speaker 1: You know, I know is it because I'm immature. 204 00:10:04,640 --> 00:10:06,920 Speaker 5: It's because I'm more mature than my age, and you're 205 00:10:07,480 --> 00:10:10,400 Speaker 5: immature at your age. So we meet right in the middle. 206 00:10:10,720 --> 00:10:12,440 Speaker 5: You know, we meet at like thirty two. 207 00:10:14,920 --> 00:10:17,480 Speaker 2: Okay, Yes, you are a lot more mature than a 208 00:10:17,600 --> 00:10:20,000 Speaker 2: lot of guys your age, even guys that are older 209 00:10:20,040 --> 00:10:22,280 Speaker 2: than you. You are way more mature. I think it's 210 00:10:22,280 --> 00:10:25,400 Speaker 2: because you've done therapy. You've been very like intentional about 211 00:10:25,440 --> 00:10:26,760 Speaker 2: that in your life, and that's one of the things 212 00:10:26,760 --> 00:10:28,760 Speaker 2: I love and that helps out a lot. And I've 213 00:10:28,800 --> 00:10:31,600 Speaker 2: done my share of like life coaching and therapy, and 214 00:10:31,679 --> 00:10:34,240 Speaker 2: I think, like I'm just like a free spirit, like 215 00:10:34,400 --> 00:10:36,640 Speaker 2: very young at heart. But then I like to call 216 00:10:36,640 --> 00:10:39,320 Speaker 2: myself like an old soul because I'm pretty wise. But 217 00:10:39,400 --> 00:10:41,520 Speaker 2: I like to fuck around a lot, like we mess 218 00:10:41,559 --> 00:10:44,040 Speaker 2: around a lot, like we laugh, we joke around, and 219 00:10:44,080 --> 00:10:47,480 Speaker 2: I think it just keeps things light and happy. So 220 00:10:47,520 --> 00:10:49,400 Speaker 2: maybe that's where you say, like we meet up like 221 00:10:49,440 --> 00:10:51,400 Speaker 2: at twenty we meet up at twenty eight. I think, no, 222 00:10:51,480 --> 00:10:53,600 Speaker 2: twenty nine, thirty thirty, we meet up at thirty? 223 00:10:53,640 --> 00:10:58,880 Speaker 1: All right, cool? Okay, So when him and I first met, 224 00:10:59,559 --> 00:11:01,720 Speaker 1: did I ask your age then that night. 225 00:11:01,920 --> 00:11:03,800 Speaker 5: Well you went through my phone that night, so you 226 00:11:03,840 --> 00:11:04,920 Speaker 5: probably asked me I did. 227 00:11:05,160 --> 00:11:12,680 Speaker 1: I did? Fulkska mind you. We were buzzing, okay. 228 00:11:12,720 --> 00:11:15,040 Speaker 2: It was a really nice kickback for Becky, Like it 229 00:11:15,080 --> 00:11:18,280 Speaker 2: was super private, super intimate. So we were all just vibing. 230 00:11:18,280 --> 00:11:21,840 Speaker 2: Like the energy that night was something I'll never forget. 231 00:11:22,200 --> 00:11:25,680 Speaker 2: So I just felt very comfortable with him. I felt like, dude, 232 00:11:25,679 --> 00:11:27,600 Speaker 2: I can talk to this guy like I don't know. 233 00:11:27,640 --> 00:11:30,760 Speaker 2: We were laughing, like we just got along. So I 234 00:11:30,920 --> 00:11:32,800 Speaker 2: just I grabbed his phone. I was gonna put my 235 00:11:32,880 --> 00:11:35,719 Speaker 2: number in his phone because he hadn't asked. He's a 236 00:11:35,760 --> 00:11:37,800 Speaker 2: little bit more shy, but he is the first one 237 00:11:37,800 --> 00:11:38,240 Speaker 2: that kissed me. 238 00:11:38,480 --> 00:11:40,160 Speaker 1: You kissed me. You were a little shy. 239 00:11:40,600 --> 00:11:42,720 Speaker 5: Yeah, I did kiss you. I kiss you right away. 240 00:11:43,280 --> 00:11:45,320 Speaker 1: What'd you do? He followed me? 241 00:11:45,360 --> 00:11:46,800 Speaker 5: You guys, I followed her. 242 00:11:46,920 --> 00:11:48,200 Speaker 1: I was hoping he would follow me. 243 00:11:48,880 --> 00:11:51,560 Speaker 5: She set me up. I set you up, and I 244 00:11:51,600 --> 00:11:52,439 Speaker 5: failed for the trap. 245 00:11:53,240 --> 00:11:54,959 Speaker 1: Imagine if I would have been like, what are you doing? 246 00:11:55,520 --> 00:11:57,720 Speaker 2: Yeah, obviously we wouldn't be here, you know, but you know, 247 00:11:57,760 --> 00:11:59,400 Speaker 2: I was hoping that he would follow me and then 248 00:11:59,400 --> 00:12:01,400 Speaker 2: we could just like kissing in private, and that's exactly 249 00:12:01,480 --> 00:12:02,040 Speaker 2: what happened. 250 00:12:02,400 --> 00:12:05,160 Speaker 1: But anyways, from there we continue talking. We were like chilling. 251 00:12:05,200 --> 00:12:07,440 Speaker 2: We went away from the party from everyone else, and 252 00:12:07,480 --> 00:12:11,480 Speaker 2: I put my number in his phone and I put 253 00:12:11,600 --> 00:12:12,960 Speaker 2: baby with a purple heart. 254 00:12:13,120 --> 00:12:15,000 Speaker 1: Oh my god, I think about it. I'm like, what 255 00:12:15,040 --> 00:12:15,840 Speaker 1: was I thinking? 256 00:12:15,920 --> 00:12:19,240 Speaker 2: Oh my gosh, folksy to the max yo and I 257 00:12:19,280 --> 00:12:20,319 Speaker 2: was like looking, I was like, oh, do you have 258 00:12:20,320 --> 00:12:20,720 Speaker 2: a girlfriend? 259 00:12:20,720 --> 00:12:22,040 Speaker 1: How many girls you talk to? And this is that. 260 00:12:22,160 --> 00:12:25,160 Speaker 1: I'm like, dude, that's not cute girls. I don't recommend 261 00:12:25,200 --> 00:12:25,600 Speaker 1: you doing that. 262 00:12:25,920 --> 00:12:28,520 Speaker 2: Emilio's just super chill, and like, now that we understand 263 00:12:28,559 --> 00:12:31,920 Speaker 2: each other's personalities, it's kind of like, I don't know 264 00:12:31,960 --> 00:12:34,040 Speaker 2: it must have been the alcohol, but it worked out 265 00:12:34,160 --> 00:12:38,080 Speaker 2: like he didn't trip about it. But I wouldn't regularly 266 00:12:39,080 --> 00:12:42,240 Speaker 2: recommend that, so at first it did worry me. There 267 00:12:42,280 --> 00:12:44,240 Speaker 2: was some conversations once I found out how old he was. 268 00:12:44,600 --> 00:12:46,760 Speaker 2: I was kind of like, oh, my goodness, I'm thirty six. 269 00:12:46,800 --> 00:12:49,400 Speaker 2: Do we want the same things? Like we talked about 270 00:12:49,480 --> 00:12:52,000 Speaker 2: do you want kids? And he's like, at first you had. 271 00:12:51,880 --> 00:12:55,000 Speaker 5: Said, I always knew I want kids in my life, 272 00:12:55,720 --> 00:13:00,720 Speaker 5: but I've never felt anywhere close to like ready for that. 273 00:13:01,320 --> 00:13:02,319 Speaker 1: Do you feel ready now? 274 00:13:02,679 --> 00:13:08,480 Speaker 5: Now? I do? Why because now that it feels more achievable, 275 00:13:08,679 --> 00:13:11,280 Speaker 5: now that I have someone in my life who wants 276 00:13:11,320 --> 00:13:13,319 Speaker 5: the same things as me. M hm, I feel like 277 00:13:13,360 --> 00:13:15,720 Speaker 5: I'm in a safe place with you where it's like, Okay, 278 00:13:15,720 --> 00:13:19,800 Speaker 5: if we did this, we would do it together, and 279 00:13:19,880 --> 00:13:22,280 Speaker 5: it's not like a fairy tale dream anymore. Now it's 280 00:13:22,320 --> 00:13:24,839 Speaker 5: like it's it seems very achievable for us to do. 281 00:13:25,640 --> 00:13:28,400 Speaker 2: I think it also helps that you have a woman 282 00:13:28,880 --> 00:13:32,320 Speaker 2: that holds her own Perhaps is that a thing where 283 00:13:32,320 --> 00:13:35,320 Speaker 2: it's like we are partners. I don't depend on you 284 00:13:35,360 --> 00:13:36,920 Speaker 2: too much and you don't depend on me, like we 285 00:13:37,120 --> 00:13:38,880 Speaker 2: just we have our own thing and we meet in 286 00:13:38,920 --> 00:13:39,280 Speaker 2: the middle. 287 00:13:39,480 --> 00:13:41,240 Speaker 5: Yeah, I mean, I think that's been a big thing 288 00:13:41,280 --> 00:13:44,760 Speaker 5: in our relationship since the beginning. Everything being fifty fifty 289 00:13:44,800 --> 00:13:46,920 Speaker 5: is very important to me. So the fact that our 290 00:13:46,960 --> 00:13:49,840 Speaker 5: relationship was built on ac since day one, like it's 291 00:13:49,920 --> 00:13:52,280 Speaker 5: established a really good foundation between us. 292 00:13:52,640 --> 00:13:55,679 Speaker 2: Absolutely, that's something that we both communicated from the very beginning. 293 00:13:55,679 --> 00:13:58,000 Speaker 2: Like I had learned from my past relationship, I know 294 00:13:58,040 --> 00:13:59,640 Speaker 2: what I want, what I don't want, what I want 295 00:13:59,640 --> 00:14:01,240 Speaker 2: to change, what i want to do differently, And I 296 00:14:01,240 --> 00:14:04,199 Speaker 2: feel like I've done a very good job with it, 297 00:14:04,320 --> 00:14:08,160 Speaker 2: and so have you because we've had these conversations, you guys, 298 00:14:08,160 --> 00:14:10,640 Speaker 2: and he was a completely different person in his past relationship, 299 00:14:10,679 --> 00:14:12,960 Speaker 2: and I think we feel like, Okay, we probably messed 300 00:14:13,040 --> 00:14:15,400 Speaker 2: up the last relationship, Like let's do everything right in 301 00:14:15,440 --> 00:14:17,320 Speaker 2: this one. And I'm going to tell you straight up, 302 00:14:17,360 --> 00:14:20,400 Speaker 2: like when I met Emilio, I had just written in 303 00:14:20,440 --> 00:14:22,960 Speaker 2: my notes, like the type of man that I wanted. 304 00:14:23,600 --> 00:14:25,120 Speaker 1: He has a lot of those things. 305 00:14:25,680 --> 00:14:31,280 Speaker 2: I did want someone that was supposedly said Wuno forty 306 00:14:31,400 --> 00:14:34,800 Speaker 2: forty five. I wanted someone older, as someone that perhaps 307 00:14:34,840 --> 00:14:38,120 Speaker 2: had been married before and divorced and has children, because 308 00:14:38,120 --> 00:14:40,280 Speaker 2: I wasn't sure if I wanted kids, and it's crazy 309 00:14:40,320 --> 00:14:42,920 Speaker 2: because I'm like, Okay, this is what I thought I wanted, 310 00:14:43,040 --> 00:14:45,000 Speaker 2: you know what I mean. But then I met him, 311 00:14:45,320 --> 00:14:49,120 Speaker 2: and I was a little skeptical and a little hesitant 312 00:14:49,160 --> 00:14:52,120 Speaker 2: because I'm like, he's twenty nine, he's young. Like I 313 00:14:52,200 --> 00:14:54,320 Speaker 2: kind of took it slow at first because I'm like, Okay, 314 00:14:54,480 --> 00:14:56,520 Speaker 2: let's feel this out. But even if I wanted to 315 00:14:56,520 --> 00:14:58,160 Speaker 2: take it slow, things just happened. Like I got to 316 00:14:58,200 --> 00:14:59,560 Speaker 2: the point where I'm like, I'm going to let it flow, 317 00:14:59,560 --> 00:15:01,080 Speaker 2: and I'm not gonn I think about it too much 318 00:15:01,360 --> 00:15:02,920 Speaker 2: because I tell them like, well, what if you realize 319 00:15:02,920 --> 00:15:05,360 Speaker 2: that you want someone younger later? You know, those are 320 00:15:05,400 --> 00:15:08,280 Speaker 2: just like insecurities that I think all women have. But 321 00:15:08,400 --> 00:15:12,080 Speaker 2: with time, like he's made me feel so confident in 322 00:15:12,120 --> 00:15:16,160 Speaker 2: our relationship and he makes me feel wanted, and he's 323 00:15:16,200 --> 00:15:19,800 Speaker 2: so fucking mature for his age. I'm telling you, I 324 00:15:19,920 --> 00:15:22,200 Speaker 2: told myself I'm not going to date anyone younger than me, 325 00:15:22,280 --> 00:15:24,600 Speaker 2: not even a year younger, And now I'm dating someone 326 00:15:24,600 --> 00:15:28,480 Speaker 2: that's seven years younger. And it's crazy, but I'm happy 327 00:15:28,520 --> 00:15:32,520 Speaker 2: because we're on the same page, we want the same things, 328 00:15:33,520 --> 00:15:38,800 Speaker 2: and he makes me feel secure, like stability, which I 329 00:15:38,800 --> 00:15:41,080 Speaker 2: think is what all women want. So I wanted to 330 00:15:41,120 --> 00:15:42,880 Speaker 2: do a podcast on this because I think a lot 331 00:15:42,880 --> 00:15:46,480 Speaker 2: of us think about age and we could potentially be 332 00:15:46,640 --> 00:15:49,680 Speaker 2: missing out on a great opportunity with someone just because 333 00:15:49,680 --> 00:15:52,840 Speaker 2: they're either too old or too young. And I think 334 00:15:52,880 --> 00:15:54,880 Speaker 2: that that's the worst thing that you could do. Because 335 00:15:55,280 --> 00:15:59,080 Speaker 2: I'm living proof of this is working out. He is 336 00:15:59,160 --> 00:16:02,720 Speaker 2: so responsible and I'm grateful every time if someone asks me, 337 00:16:02,760 --> 00:16:05,640 Speaker 2: how are you doing, Cheeky's like eslit guilla, I feel 338 00:16:06,040 --> 00:16:08,600 Speaker 2: at peace, Like I don't worry about him, he communicates. 339 00:16:08,640 --> 00:16:10,160 Speaker 2: He was just like, hey, I don't want you to worry. 340 00:16:10,200 --> 00:16:13,040 Speaker 2: Here's my location on his own. I was like, are 341 00:16:13,080 --> 00:16:14,880 Speaker 2: you sure, Like I don't want you to feel like 342 00:16:15,040 --> 00:16:16,520 Speaker 2: He's like, no, no, no, I want to give you this. 343 00:16:16,600 --> 00:16:18,320 Speaker 2: I want to give that to you because I don't 344 00:16:18,320 --> 00:16:20,320 Speaker 2: want you to feel like. I want you to know 345 00:16:20,320 --> 00:16:22,280 Speaker 2: where I'm at. And I'm like, okay. At first, it 346 00:16:22,320 --> 00:16:23,440 Speaker 2: was a little weird. I was like, what does that 347 00:16:23,480 --> 00:16:24,920 Speaker 2: mean I have to share my location? He's like, no, 348 00:16:24,960 --> 00:16:26,840 Speaker 2: I'm not saying that. You do whatever you want. This 349 00:16:26,880 --> 00:16:28,880 Speaker 2: is what I want to do. I was like, what, 350 00:16:29,200 --> 00:16:38,440 Speaker 2: He's just so different. You guys, Emilio, have you ever 351 00:16:38,480 --> 00:16:39,440 Speaker 2: did anyone older? 352 00:16:39,760 --> 00:16:41,360 Speaker 5: I have not did it anyone older. 353 00:16:41,560 --> 00:16:42,960 Speaker 1: Okay, how do you feel about that? 354 00:16:43,880 --> 00:16:46,280 Speaker 5: Like, to me, just I don't know, it doesn't really 355 00:16:47,040 --> 00:16:50,120 Speaker 5: matter because I don't really look at age like that. 356 00:16:50,240 --> 00:16:52,520 Speaker 5: Like I said, I forget that you're seven years older 357 00:16:52,520 --> 00:16:55,200 Speaker 5: than me because we just vibe and we we have 358 00:16:55,320 --> 00:16:57,600 Speaker 5: so much fun together. It's like, I don't think about 359 00:16:57,600 --> 00:16:58,440 Speaker 5: those kind of things. 360 00:16:58,720 --> 00:17:01,000 Speaker 1: Do you feel like for like, age is nothing but 361 00:17:01,080 --> 00:17:01,520 Speaker 1: a number? 362 00:17:02,200 --> 00:17:03,120 Speaker 5: Kind of Yeah? 363 00:17:03,160 --> 00:17:06,399 Speaker 1: In most cases, right, obviously we're not, you know what 364 00:17:06,440 --> 00:17:07,760 Speaker 1: I mean, be over eighteen. 365 00:17:08,000 --> 00:17:10,560 Speaker 5: Yeah, we're not like twenty years apart from each other, 366 00:17:10,560 --> 00:17:12,200 Speaker 5: you know, Like that's so drastic. 367 00:17:12,440 --> 00:17:15,320 Speaker 2: Yeah. And my mom dated the love of her life 368 00:17:15,359 --> 00:17:18,800 Speaker 2: was ten almost eleven years younger than her, and that 369 00:17:18,960 --> 00:17:21,359 Speaker 2: was like the love of her life. So that's why 370 00:17:21,359 --> 00:17:22,920 Speaker 2: I was like, wella, my mom did it. I guess 371 00:17:22,920 --> 00:17:24,600 Speaker 2: it's all right, you know. But now I'm like, Okay, 372 00:17:24,600 --> 00:17:26,520 Speaker 2: I'm experienced. I'm not thinking about it that much. I'm like, 373 00:17:26,520 --> 00:17:29,000 Speaker 2: I'm not gonna let it bother me. I think it's 374 00:17:29,040 --> 00:17:31,399 Speaker 2: all about taking it day by day. And the funny 375 00:17:31,440 --> 00:17:34,359 Speaker 2: thing is, guys, I'm gonna tell you a little funny story. 376 00:17:34,720 --> 00:17:38,360 Speaker 2: So we went out the other night and we ran 377 00:17:38,400 --> 00:17:41,760 Speaker 2: into his ex girlfriend. This is the second ex girlfriend 378 00:17:42,240 --> 00:17:45,399 Speaker 2: of Emilios that we run into. Okay, I think the 379 00:17:45,440 --> 00:17:48,480 Speaker 2: first one was like I don't know, three weeks in, babe, 380 00:17:48,520 --> 00:17:48,760 Speaker 2: was it? 381 00:17:49,000 --> 00:17:51,280 Speaker 5: Yeah, it was very early, very early on. 382 00:17:51,600 --> 00:17:54,880 Speaker 2: And we went on date night the other day and 383 00:17:54,960 --> 00:17:57,360 Speaker 2: we ran into his like most recent ex girlfriend who 384 00:17:57,359 --> 00:17:59,280 Speaker 2: had he had been with on and off for what 385 00:17:59,400 --> 00:18:00,120 Speaker 2: three years? 386 00:18:00,560 --> 00:18:01,840 Speaker 1: And I was like, what the heck? 387 00:18:01,880 --> 00:18:04,280 Speaker 2: Like that, I think more than anything, was like, oh my, 388 00:18:04,359 --> 00:18:07,919 Speaker 2: he doesn't really have a type, Like, I'm very different 389 00:18:07,920 --> 00:18:10,600 Speaker 2: from these girls. Then that started coming into play. I'm like, Okay, 390 00:18:10,680 --> 00:18:13,359 Speaker 2: are you sure I'm your type? Because it's very different. 391 00:18:13,359 --> 00:18:15,000 Speaker 2: The two girls that I've seen are very different from me, 392 00:18:15,040 --> 00:18:17,520 Speaker 2: and they're different from each other. But anyways, the reason 393 00:18:17,520 --> 00:18:19,879 Speaker 2: I'm bringing that up is because that's why I believe 394 00:18:19,920 --> 00:18:21,640 Speaker 2: him when he says that the age does not bother 395 00:18:21,760 --> 00:18:23,359 Speaker 2: him and he does not think about it at all, 396 00:18:23,400 --> 00:18:26,280 Speaker 2: because he's like, I just vibe. If I vibe with 397 00:18:26,320 --> 00:18:28,800 Speaker 2: the person, it doesn't matter. That also makes me feel 398 00:18:29,119 --> 00:18:31,080 Speaker 2: better as far as like age goes. 399 00:18:31,480 --> 00:18:35,199 Speaker 5: Yeah, And I feel like part of the topic of 400 00:18:35,240 --> 00:18:38,480 Speaker 5: talking about age comes from like sexual attraction as well. 401 00:18:40,160 --> 00:18:42,879 Speaker 5: In the beginning, you probably had your doubts. But a 402 00:18:42,960 --> 00:18:45,919 Speaker 5: year later, I know you're a lot more confident and 403 00:18:46,000 --> 00:18:48,840 Speaker 5: that you know that what I say, I mean, like 404 00:18:49,040 --> 00:18:53,320 Speaker 5: the age doesn't matter. I'm extremely attracted to you in 405 00:18:53,359 --> 00:18:56,199 Speaker 5: every sort of way, and I don't feel like we 406 00:18:56,320 --> 00:18:58,400 Speaker 5: lack anything in any of those areas. 407 00:18:58,720 --> 00:19:01,520 Speaker 1: Oh see, I want to talk about sex. Let's talk 408 00:19:01,520 --> 00:19:07,320 Speaker 1: about sex, baby. Well, no, that that I can attest to. 409 00:19:07,440 --> 00:19:12,200 Speaker 2: Like, for sure, you you do make me feel very confident, 410 00:19:12,560 --> 00:19:15,919 Speaker 2: very secure, very sexy. Like it's just his hands are 411 00:19:15,960 --> 00:19:18,719 Speaker 2: on me all the time, and even when we're like 412 00:19:18,960 --> 00:19:21,600 Speaker 2: in bed, you know, doing our thang thang. There's certain 413 00:19:21,600 --> 00:19:23,040 Speaker 2: things that I say that I'm just like, you know, 414 00:19:23,119 --> 00:19:24,880 Speaker 2: I can't repeat here because it's a little too much, 415 00:19:25,440 --> 00:19:26,399 Speaker 2: but it comes up. 416 00:19:26,440 --> 00:19:27,680 Speaker 1: The age thing comes up. 417 00:19:27,640 --> 00:19:30,120 Speaker 2: During you know, the nasty nasty because I think it's 418 00:19:30,160 --> 00:19:32,200 Speaker 2: just cute, you know. But I know you guys want 419 00:19:32,200 --> 00:19:34,360 Speaker 2: to know what I say, But I'm going to tell you, Okay, 420 00:19:34,400 --> 00:19:37,200 Speaker 2: there's certain things I have to keep right it Okay, 421 00:19:37,440 --> 00:19:38,439 Speaker 2: I know you're not used to it. 422 00:19:38,480 --> 00:19:38,880 Speaker 1: Everyone. 423 00:19:39,760 --> 00:19:43,119 Speaker 5: I think what you say is funny. It's funny to me. 424 00:19:43,160 --> 00:19:45,520 Speaker 5: I'm like cause I don't think of it like that. 425 00:19:45,920 --> 00:19:49,560 Speaker 5: But it's funny that you think a thing sucks interesting. 426 00:19:49,640 --> 00:19:53,200 Speaker 1: Like what, come on? Say it? What do I say? 427 00:19:53,560 --> 00:19:53,600 Speaker 5: No? 428 00:19:53,720 --> 00:19:58,520 Speaker 2: You gotta say that No, Emilio lot a cuss Like 429 00:19:59,000 --> 00:20:00,640 Speaker 2: I just said, fucking a bunch of times. 430 00:20:01,119 --> 00:20:03,000 Speaker 1: This is my podcast, This is our safe space. 431 00:20:03,320 --> 00:20:04,280 Speaker 5: I don't think I say it. 432 00:20:04,320 --> 00:20:12,160 Speaker 1: It's pretty bulger it is. Yeah mmm, okay. 433 00:20:12,359 --> 00:20:14,560 Speaker 5: She just likes that young. Yeah, she likes that young. 434 00:20:14,640 --> 00:20:19,320 Speaker 1: Yeah, he's energetic. Guys, We're good. We're chilling, you know. 435 00:20:19,560 --> 00:20:23,199 Speaker 2: And on Valentine's Day, guys, for those of you that 436 00:20:23,359 --> 00:20:25,200 Speaker 2: heard that podcast, you know what I'm talking about. If not, 437 00:20:25,280 --> 00:20:28,199 Speaker 2: go listen to it doctor v Viannam. We spoke about 438 00:20:28,240 --> 00:20:30,520 Speaker 2: sex and all that stuff, and me initiating a little 439 00:20:30,520 --> 00:20:32,879 Speaker 2: bit more because I just feel like he wants me 440 00:20:32,920 --> 00:20:35,920 Speaker 2: all the time. I don't I don't necessarily have to initiate, 441 00:20:36,359 --> 00:20:39,480 Speaker 2: but I've been taking her advice and I've been initiating. 442 00:20:41,160 --> 00:20:42,520 Speaker 1: I have. Aren't you happy about that? 443 00:20:44,000 --> 00:20:46,560 Speaker 2: And I said on that episode that I was going 444 00:20:46,600 --> 00:20:48,520 Speaker 2: to do something sexy, and I did. 445 00:20:48,560 --> 00:20:53,439 Speaker 1: I wore something sexy. I'm initiating round of applause for me. 446 00:20:54,480 --> 00:20:56,040 Speaker 1: Thank you so much. Thank you, thank you, thank you. 447 00:20:57,680 --> 00:20:59,959 Speaker 2: But we don't have a problem in that area, Thank goodness, 448 00:21:00,200 --> 00:21:02,880 Speaker 2: we really don't. I think sometimes as women, we get 449 00:21:02,880 --> 00:21:05,439 Speaker 2: in our head and we all have these insecurities. I mean, 450 00:21:05,480 --> 00:21:07,520 Speaker 2: I think just being a woman is difficult. I enjoy 451 00:21:07,560 --> 00:21:09,600 Speaker 2: being a woman, but there are things that you know, 452 00:21:09,720 --> 00:21:12,320 Speaker 2: our body starts changing, Like I feel very young, but 453 00:21:12,359 --> 00:21:16,040 Speaker 2: I'm like, okay, internally my clock is ticking as far 454 00:21:16,080 --> 00:21:18,680 Speaker 2: as like having children and all these things. Thank goodness 455 00:21:18,960 --> 00:21:21,280 Speaker 2: that we're able to freeze our eggs because I'm not 456 00:21:21,480 --> 00:21:23,160 Speaker 2: entirely ready. And I think him and I are both 457 00:21:23,240 --> 00:21:25,520 Speaker 2: on that page, on the same page. Like I've never 458 00:21:25,560 --> 00:21:27,480 Speaker 2: felt like I want to have kids with anyone else 459 00:21:27,520 --> 00:21:29,879 Speaker 2: as much as I want to with him. He makes 460 00:21:29,920 --> 00:21:32,840 Speaker 2: me feel very secure in that area, like he'd be 461 00:21:32,840 --> 00:21:35,119 Speaker 2: a great father and a great person to have a 462 00:21:35,200 --> 00:21:37,280 Speaker 2: child with. But I just kind of still want to 463 00:21:37,400 --> 00:21:40,600 Speaker 2: enjoy my relationship with him, so that's the only thing 464 00:21:40,680 --> 00:21:42,520 Speaker 2: for me. It's like, Okay, well I'm thirty six, I 465 00:21:42,560 --> 00:21:44,600 Speaker 2: haven't had kids. He wants kids, Like what if I 466 00:21:44,680 --> 00:21:47,040 Speaker 2: never want to have kids? Like I always ask them, 467 00:21:47,040 --> 00:21:48,560 Speaker 2: like what if I can't. Let's just say what if 468 00:21:48,560 --> 00:21:50,200 Speaker 2: I can't be what if I can have kids, are 469 00:21:50,200 --> 00:21:51,080 Speaker 2: you going to be okay with that? 470 00:21:52,200 --> 00:21:54,840 Speaker 5: I would say, this is like the only time I 471 00:21:54,920 --> 00:21:58,439 Speaker 5: actually have to think about your age is when it 472 00:21:58,440 --> 00:22:02,480 Speaker 5: comes to kids, because I mean, just to be healthy 473 00:22:02,520 --> 00:22:04,959 Speaker 5: and safe and do it the right way, and you know, 474 00:22:05,040 --> 00:22:07,520 Speaker 5: like I have to think about that, you know, So 475 00:22:08,760 --> 00:22:11,320 Speaker 5: that's probably the only time I really do think about 476 00:22:11,800 --> 00:22:15,000 Speaker 5: the age. Like I have this like gap of a 477 00:22:15,080 --> 00:22:18,080 Speaker 5: window that I feel like if we are going to 478 00:22:18,280 --> 00:22:20,240 Speaker 5: it's going to have to be in that gap right there. 479 00:22:20,680 --> 00:22:21,399 Speaker 1: When's the gap? 480 00:22:22,119 --> 00:22:25,600 Speaker 5: Honestly, like three four years? 481 00:22:26,040 --> 00:22:28,640 Speaker 2: All right, that's cool, I could do that. I'm just 482 00:22:28,880 --> 00:22:31,959 Speaker 2: enjoying our relationships so much. We do a lot together. 483 00:22:33,000 --> 00:22:35,440 Speaker 2: I feel like I raised kids most of my life. 484 00:22:35,480 --> 00:22:37,600 Speaker 2: That that's why I'm like, I've thought it was something 485 00:22:37,600 --> 00:22:39,040 Speaker 2: we haven't even talked about. But like, if I'm not 486 00:22:39,080 --> 00:22:42,199 Speaker 2: able to give you that for whatever reason, it's going 487 00:22:42,240 --> 00:22:44,160 Speaker 2: to bother me because I feel like I shouldn't take 488 00:22:44,160 --> 00:22:45,720 Speaker 2: that from you, you know what I mean, Like I 489 00:22:45,760 --> 00:22:47,440 Speaker 2: don't want to take that from you because you're younger. 490 00:22:47,480 --> 00:22:50,199 Speaker 2: You can find someone that wants to have children that, 491 00:22:50,440 --> 00:22:51,840 Speaker 2: you know what I mean. As far as I'm concerned, 492 00:22:51,880 --> 00:22:52,439 Speaker 2: I have eggs. 493 00:22:52,440 --> 00:22:53,520 Speaker 1: I just checked. We're good. 494 00:22:53,560 --> 00:22:53,680 Speaker 5: You know. 495 00:22:53,720 --> 00:22:56,080 Speaker 2: It's not like I don't have them or I can't 496 00:22:56,160 --> 00:22:59,159 Speaker 2: or I'm infertile. Thank goodness, I'm not. It's just really 497 00:22:59,280 --> 00:23:00,960 Speaker 2: a time thing, you know. And I don't want to 498 00:23:00,960 --> 00:23:03,080 Speaker 2: feel pressure to do that, which is why I do 499 00:23:03,160 --> 00:23:06,960 Speaker 2: recommend ladies to get your eggs frozen as soon as possible. 500 00:23:07,400 --> 00:23:09,440 Speaker 2: The sooner the better. The younger you are, the better 501 00:23:10,119 --> 00:23:12,640 Speaker 2: so that you don't feel that pressure. But I don't 502 00:23:12,680 --> 00:23:13,560 Speaker 2: want to take that from you. 503 00:23:13,920 --> 00:23:15,600 Speaker 5: Yeah, I also don't want to put that pressure on 504 00:23:15,640 --> 00:23:18,280 Speaker 5: you either. Like I've told you before, we can go 505 00:23:18,359 --> 00:23:22,280 Speaker 5: through every single option and every single process to make 506 00:23:22,320 --> 00:23:24,680 Speaker 5: it happen. And at the end of the day, if 507 00:23:24,680 --> 00:23:28,240 Speaker 5: we tried our hardest and it doesn't happen, I'm okay 508 00:23:28,280 --> 00:23:28,600 Speaker 5: with that. 509 00:23:28,960 --> 00:23:32,120 Speaker 1: Really, yeah, I want you to know that. Wow. 510 00:23:32,320 --> 00:23:38,240 Speaker 2: Okay, well, time will tell and thank you. My producer 511 00:23:38,280 --> 00:23:40,600 Speaker 2: actually is asking me to ask to say something. Her 512 00:23:40,680 --> 00:23:44,000 Speaker 2: name is Brianna. She wants to know do I find 513 00:23:44,000 --> 00:23:47,720 Speaker 2: myself teaching and medial things in the bedroom? Absolutely not 514 00:23:48,440 --> 00:23:50,440 Speaker 2: O me. It almost choked on her coffee over here. 515 00:23:51,320 --> 00:23:54,000 Speaker 2: I'm not even joking you, guys. This is the comment 516 00:23:54,040 --> 00:23:58,879 Speaker 2: we were talking about earlier. That's why there's nothing to teach, Like, 517 00:23:59,440 --> 00:24:02,960 Speaker 2: It's just every button that I have is has been 518 00:24:03,000 --> 00:24:06,200 Speaker 2: pressed and is pressed and I have no issue there, 519 00:24:06,400 --> 00:24:10,720 Speaker 2: thank God. And I feel the most wanted and sexiest 520 00:24:10,760 --> 00:24:13,600 Speaker 2: I have ever fucking felt in my life. And I 521 00:24:13,600 --> 00:24:16,359 Speaker 2: think that's why my mom was so in love with Fernie, 522 00:24:16,760 --> 00:24:19,080 Speaker 2: her boyfriend, her soulmate that was ten years younger than her, 523 00:24:19,160 --> 00:24:21,000 Speaker 2: because she's like, he made me a woman. He gave 524 00:24:21,040 --> 00:24:23,919 Speaker 2: me my first orgasm, That's what she said. So I'm like, 525 00:24:24,359 --> 00:24:26,200 Speaker 2: I get you, mama, Mama. 526 00:24:26,000 --> 00:24:31,160 Speaker 1: I feel you. Imagine your mom listens and she's like, yeah, 527 00:24:31,160 --> 00:24:33,160 Speaker 1: that's my boy. See that's gonna be like. 528 00:24:33,119 --> 00:24:35,879 Speaker 5: Hell yeah, oh my god. You guys. 529 00:24:35,920 --> 00:24:39,720 Speaker 2: Emilio is the is an only child. That's another thing, Like, 530 00:24:39,760 --> 00:24:42,359 Speaker 2: I don't think he would want to have just one kid. 531 00:24:42,440 --> 00:24:44,600 Speaker 2: He would want to write, isn't that what we said 532 00:24:44,600 --> 00:24:46,280 Speaker 2: before now or my Trippin'. 533 00:24:46,200 --> 00:24:48,280 Speaker 5: I don't know, honestly. We have two dogs and it's 534 00:24:48,320 --> 00:24:51,920 Speaker 5: kind of hard to like share that love twice, you know. 535 00:24:52,240 --> 00:24:54,560 Speaker 5: I think one kid for us would be I think 536 00:24:54,840 --> 00:24:56,200 Speaker 5: if I think it fits our store. 537 00:24:56,760 --> 00:24:58,840 Speaker 2: You had a pretty good life. Yeah, I had a 538 00:24:58,920 --> 00:25:01,120 Speaker 2: very good life. You had your you know ama, which 539 00:25:01,200 --> 00:25:03,600 Speaker 2: is his grandma. I love his family, you guys, Ysthias. 540 00:25:03,720 --> 00:25:06,920 Speaker 2: They're all awesome. They all helped raise him. So anyways, 541 00:25:06,920 --> 00:25:09,000 Speaker 2: that's another thing. It's just a bonus to know that 542 00:25:09,440 --> 00:25:11,879 Speaker 2: his family's just they're awesome. I can drink with them. 543 00:25:11,920 --> 00:25:13,840 Speaker 2: We dance him, his mom and I get down on 544 00:25:13,880 --> 00:25:16,960 Speaker 2: the dance floor. I'll share the video maybe one day, 545 00:25:17,080 --> 00:25:20,960 Speaker 2: maybe one day. But anyways, talking about freezing your eggs, 546 00:25:20,960 --> 00:25:23,159 Speaker 2: you guys, time is of the essence. The clock is ticking, 547 00:25:23,240 --> 00:25:25,920 Speaker 2: like all those things that are just difficult, I think 548 00:25:26,440 --> 00:25:27,840 Speaker 2: for most women to talk about. 549 00:25:27,920 --> 00:25:29,080 Speaker 1: I am here. I feel you. 550 00:25:29,520 --> 00:25:32,320 Speaker 2: And if you have not heard my episode on freezing 551 00:25:32,640 --> 00:25:35,240 Speaker 2: your eggs, I have an episode here on Cheeky's and 552 00:25:35,320 --> 00:25:37,200 Speaker 2: shell so you guys, you know, check. 553 00:25:37,080 --> 00:25:37,919 Speaker 1: It out, listen to it. 554 00:25:44,880 --> 00:25:47,800 Speaker 2: Now that we're talking about Emilio's family, I want to 555 00:25:47,880 --> 00:25:48,440 Speaker 2: share a story. 556 00:25:48,440 --> 00:25:49,320 Speaker 1: I don't know if I shared it. 557 00:25:49,320 --> 00:25:50,720 Speaker 2: I'm not sure if I shared it in the last 558 00:25:50,720 --> 00:25:52,720 Speaker 2: episode when we had a media on very early and 559 00:25:52,760 --> 00:25:55,160 Speaker 2: I think it was the first or second, but when 560 00:25:55,840 --> 00:25:57,880 Speaker 2: I met his mom for the first time, we went 561 00:25:57,920 --> 00:26:01,520 Speaker 2: to La Condessa, that's in Santa Monica. Here in La 562 00:26:02,240 --> 00:26:05,280 Speaker 2: and we met and she was very quiet at first, 563 00:26:05,680 --> 00:26:07,520 Speaker 2: and then I saw that she had ordered an alcoholic 564 00:26:07,520 --> 00:26:09,160 Speaker 2: beverage and I said, ohoo, okay, this is awesome. 565 00:26:09,200 --> 00:26:09,920 Speaker 1: I'll order one too. 566 00:26:09,920 --> 00:26:11,720 Speaker 2: We started drinking a little bit, and then all of 567 00:26:11,760 --> 00:26:14,240 Speaker 2: a sudden, she looks at me and she's like, okay, 568 00:26:14,280 --> 00:26:16,919 Speaker 2: so what are your intentions with my son since you are. 569 00:26:16,800 --> 00:26:19,520 Speaker 1: Older than him? And I was like, oh fuck, and. 570 00:26:19,440 --> 00:26:21,240 Speaker 2: Then she just started laughing I was like, oh my god, 571 00:26:21,320 --> 00:26:23,640 Speaker 2: thank goodness. Like I was like, I've never been asked 572 00:26:23,680 --> 00:26:26,439 Speaker 2: that question because I've never dated anyone younger than me. 573 00:26:26,960 --> 00:26:30,280 Speaker 2: But I told I think my grandma. I didn't really 574 00:26:30,280 --> 00:26:32,680 Speaker 2: talk to her too much honestly about Emilio. I didn't 575 00:26:32,720 --> 00:26:35,480 Speaker 2: have the chance before things got weird in our family. 576 00:26:35,760 --> 00:26:38,080 Speaker 2: But I did speak to Jenica, who, as you guys know, 577 00:26:38,240 --> 00:26:41,199 Speaker 2: is like my best friend, my sister Jenica, and I 578 00:26:41,200 --> 00:26:42,560 Speaker 2: told her. I was like, I'm a little worried. She's like, 579 00:26:42,600 --> 00:26:45,280 Speaker 2: you're thinking about it way too much, Like he's very mature, 580 00:26:45,480 --> 00:26:48,159 Speaker 2: he's chill, Like you need to stop. That's going to 581 00:26:48,200 --> 00:26:50,600 Speaker 2: get old if you think about it way too much, 582 00:26:50,720 --> 00:26:52,399 Speaker 2: Like you're going to call that upon your life and 583 00:26:52,400 --> 00:26:54,240 Speaker 2: I'm like, oh my god, you're right, I should know better. 584 00:26:54,640 --> 00:26:58,440 Speaker 2: So I think everyone's reaction on my end was pretty cool. 585 00:26:58,520 --> 00:27:00,760 Speaker 2: My brother, Mikey is a year old dur then Emilio. 586 00:27:01,119 --> 00:27:03,640 Speaker 2: Mikey just turned thirty, so at first he was kind 587 00:27:03,640 --> 00:27:06,399 Speaker 2: of like he was there at the party, at Becky's party, 588 00:27:06,840 --> 00:27:10,360 Speaker 2: and I think Emilio accidentally dropped a beer on him. 589 00:27:10,520 --> 00:27:14,080 Speaker 5: I still don't believe that, right, that whole thing. 590 00:27:14,119 --> 00:27:16,520 Speaker 2: So Mikey was like, what's up, and now you're dating 591 00:27:16,560 --> 00:27:18,639 Speaker 2: the guy that dropped the beer on me? And I'm like, 592 00:27:18,640 --> 00:27:20,280 Speaker 2: it wasn't actually. He's like, no, no, I know it's cool. 593 00:27:20,280 --> 00:27:21,920 Speaker 2: It's cool, but you know, I'm gonna like see what's 594 00:27:22,000 --> 00:27:23,280 Speaker 2: up with him, Like he was trying to be all 595 00:27:23,280 --> 00:27:25,800 Speaker 2: tough because he's like a year older. I was like, Mikey, 596 00:27:25,920 --> 00:27:27,680 Speaker 2: calm your ass down, I'm a grown ass woman. 597 00:27:29,720 --> 00:27:29,960 Speaker 5: Chill. 598 00:27:30,280 --> 00:27:32,440 Speaker 1: But now they love each other. Now they're cool. Johnny 599 00:27:32,440 --> 00:27:34,960 Speaker 1: loves him, Johnny's really cool. They talk a lot. 600 00:27:35,000 --> 00:27:38,280 Speaker 2: That makes me so happy, Like and Emilio really tries 601 00:27:38,440 --> 00:27:40,840 Speaker 2: like Emilio not like, oh my god, like over the top, 602 00:27:40,880 --> 00:27:43,640 Speaker 2: but he's he's cool, Like he initiates conversations with my brothers, 603 00:27:43,640 --> 00:27:45,480 Speaker 2: like he tries. He's not like just like well whatever, 604 00:27:45,600 --> 00:27:47,320 Speaker 2: you know, it doesn't matter. I don't care. He knows 605 00:27:47,320 --> 00:27:49,720 Speaker 2: how important they are to me, And it just feels 606 00:27:49,760 --> 00:27:50,920 Speaker 2: good to know that we're all chilling. 607 00:27:51,119 --> 00:27:54,000 Speaker 1: Jackie. My sister loves him, you know. She's like, he's 608 00:27:54,000 --> 00:27:55,240 Speaker 1: so cute. I love his dimples. 609 00:27:55,280 --> 00:27:56,840 Speaker 2: Oh my god, his I sister, you guys would have 610 00:27:56,920 --> 00:28:00,639 Speaker 2: cute babies. She's all about it about your family. Did 611 00:28:00,680 --> 00:28:02,320 Speaker 2: they ever tell you anything about our age difference? 612 00:28:03,040 --> 00:28:03,119 Speaker 3: No? 613 00:28:03,840 --> 00:28:06,600 Speaker 5: Actually, I feel like when it comes to like my friends, 614 00:28:06,640 --> 00:28:09,920 Speaker 5: even my family, like we're very We're very tight, you know, 615 00:28:10,440 --> 00:28:13,000 Speaker 5: mm hmm. Especially with my mom. I feel like I 616 00:28:13,080 --> 00:28:16,800 Speaker 5: know she trusts me, so it doesn't matter what I 617 00:28:16,880 --> 00:28:20,119 Speaker 5: bring because they have a confidence in me that I'm like, 618 00:28:20,240 --> 00:28:24,280 Speaker 5: I wouldn't make any decisions that would be bad or 619 00:28:24,560 --> 00:28:26,160 Speaker 5: hurt me in a sort of way. So I feel 620 00:28:26,160 --> 00:28:28,520 Speaker 5: like after they met you, you know, they they loved 621 00:28:28,520 --> 00:28:31,159 Speaker 5: you instantly. So I feel like my mom making that 622 00:28:31,280 --> 00:28:33,800 Speaker 5: joke of like, well you are older than him, it's. 623 00:28:33,760 --> 00:28:34,880 Speaker 1: Like just to break the ice. 624 00:28:35,280 --> 00:28:37,480 Speaker 5: Yeah, it's like something funny I will say to like, 625 00:28:37,640 --> 00:28:38,000 Speaker 5: welcome you. 626 00:28:38,160 --> 00:28:39,720 Speaker 1: She's really funny. She really does. 627 00:28:40,120 --> 00:28:42,360 Speaker 2: She really does joke a lot, but okay, so none 628 00:28:42,360 --> 00:28:44,840 Speaker 2: of your friends ever said like, dang that that girl's 629 00:28:44,880 --> 00:28:46,560 Speaker 2: way too thick for you, or that girl's wait, are 630 00:28:46,560 --> 00:28:47,280 Speaker 2: you sure you want to. 631 00:28:47,280 --> 00:28:47,960 Speaker 5: Be like with that girl? 632 00:28:48,000 --> 00:28:48,680 Speaker 1: She's like older? 633 00:28:49,000 --> 00:28:52,719 Speaker 5: Never never, not once, not one person, because I mean, 634 00:28:52,720 --> 00:28:53,080 Speaker 5: I get. 635 00:28:53,000 --> 00:28:54,720 Speaker 1: Along with his friends. His friends are dope, all of them. 636 00:28:54,640 --> 00:28:57,200 Speaker 5: Because they also see how happy I was. Everyone was like, 637 00:28:57,640 --> 00:29:00,360 Speaker 5: I've never seen you as happy before, So there's no 638 00:29:00,480 --> 00:29:01,560 Speaker 5: worries there for me. 639 00:29:02,080 --> 00:29:03,880 Speaker 2: All right. That makes me really happy. So now I 640 00:29:03,920 --> 00:29:05,600 Speaker 2: have a very important question. 641 00:29:06,400 --> 00:29:11,400 Speaker 1: Are you ready? Emilio merced Sanchez? Are you pussy whooped? 642 00:29:13,720 --> 00:29:16,040 Speaker 5: Oh? You know what? I don't even care. 643 00:29:17,000 --> 00:29:17,840 Speaker 1: Ah, I don't care. 644 00:29:19,080 --> 00:29:19,800 Speaker 5: I love it too. 645 00:29:22,440 --> 00:29:25,360 Speaker 1: Oh my god. But it's not just that, right, It's 646 00:29:25,360 --> 00:29:26,360 Speaker 1: not just infatuation. 647 00:29:27,040 --> 00:29:29,640 Speaker 5: Yeah no, it's I mean it is, but with everything, 648 00:29:29,680 --> 00:29:32,720 Speaker 5: not just sexually, Like I want to be with you 649 00:29:32,800 --> 00:29:35,600 Speaker 5: every day because I just I feel so comfortable around you. 650 00:29:35,640 --> 00:29:37,920 Speaker 5: I feel like everything is cool. You comfort me, We 651 00:29:38,000 --> 00:29:38,720 Speaker 5: comfort each other. 652 00:29:39,520 --> 00:29:41,920 Speaker 2: We're cho When his friends said something super cool the 653 00:29:41,920 --> 00:29:44,480 Speaker 2: other day that made me happy, like because I'm just me, 654 00:29:44,680 --> 00:29:47,320 Speaker 2: you know, and his friends have all been super dope. 655 00:29:47,760 --> 00:29:49,640 Speaker 2: We've had great times, great dinners and one of his 656 00:29:49,680 --> 00:29:51,680 Speaker 2: friends is like, yeah, Janey can come to the birthday party. 657 00:29:51,720 --> 00:29:53,080 Speaker 2: She's like one of the guys. I was like, Oh 658 00:29:53,120 --> 00:29:56,320 Speaker 2: that's tight. Like that made me so happy. I'm like, okay, cool. 659 00:29:56,440 --> 00:29:59,840 Speaker 2: Like I think we are very very compatible. We have 660 00:30:00,040 --> 00:30:02,400 Speaker 2: great communication and the best advice can give any of 661 00:30:02,400 --> 00:30:05,200 Speaker 2: you out there that are in a relationship or starting 662 00:30:05,200 --> 00:30:08,800 Speaker 2: a relationship, or haven't found that person but is waiting. 663 00:30:09,080 --> 00:30:12,600 Speaker 2: I think that laying things out in the very beginning 664 00:30:12,880 --> 00:30:15,360 Speaker 2: doesn't matter how old you are. It's just knowing what 665 00:30:15,400 --> 00:30:17,920 Speaker 2: you want going in and being honest. If what you 666 00:30:17,920 --> 00:30:19,880 Speaker 2: want to do is just have a good time and 667 00:30:19,960 --> 00:30:22,120 Speaker 2: fuck around, that you say that in the beginning, if 668 00:30:22,160 --> 00:30:24,240 Speaker 2: you want something a little bit more serious, Like we're like, okay, 669 00:30:24,240 --> 00:30:26,360 Speaker 2: are we going to date exclusively? We asked that question 670 00:30:26,440 --> 00:30:28,720 Speaker 2: early on and I'm like, yeah, I'm down. He says, Okay, 671 00:30:28,760 --> 00:30:29,040 Speaker 2: me too. 672 00:30:29,080 --> 00:30:29,320 Speaker 1: Cool. 673 00:30:29,360 --> 00:30:31,440 Speaker 2: Get that out of the way, let things flow. But 674 00:30:31,480 --> 00:30:34,440 Speaker 2: it's always important to communicate and be honest from the 675 00:30:34,520 --> 00:30:37,280 Speaker 2: very beginning. There are things and hard conversations that Emilia 676 00:30:37,280 --> 00:30:39,880 Speaker 2: and I have had to have where I don't want 677 00:30:39,880 --> 00:30:41,960 Speaker 2: to hide anything from him, Like I don't want to 678 00:30:42,280 --> 00:30:46,240 Speaker 2: taint our relationship. I don't want to contaminate it with lies, 679 00:30:46,480 --> 00:30:48,600 Speaker 2: even if he'll never find out. There are things that 680 00:30:48,640 --> 00:30:50,720 Speaker 2: I'm like, Emilio, I need you to know this, this happened, 681 00:30:50,720 --> 00:30:51,920 Speaker 2: and I have to face some music. And if he 682 00:30:51,920 --> 00:30:54,000 Speaker 2: gets upset, he gets upset. I have to understand that 683 00:30:54,400 --> 00:30:57,000 Speaker 2: we've had those conversations. He's also very honest with me. 684 00:30:58,200 --> 00:31:00,600 Speaker 2: I think that's why it's worked. So the age hasn't 685 00:31:00,640 --> 00:31:03,520 Speaker 2: really gotten in the way because we both walked in 686 00:31:03,600 --> 00:31:08,080 Speaker 2: knowing what we want, what we deserve, what we won't tolerate. 687 00:31:08,760 --> 00:31:12,520 Speaker 2: We were very on the same page with that. So yeah, 688 00:31:12,520 --> 00:31:14,000 Speaker 2: I don't know if you agree, baby. 689 00:31:13,760 --> 00:31:16,920 Speaker 5: Yeah, no, I was gonna say that it never bothered me, 690 00:31:16,920 --> 00:31:18,920 Speaker 5: the age, but in the beginning, I remember you, you know, 691 00:31:18,920 --> 00:31:21,760 Speaker 5: I'm like, I was twenty eight actually when I met you, 692 00:31:21,960 --> 00:31:24,360 Speaker 5: so I can tell and I saw that it was 693 00:31:24,360 --> 00:31:27,680 Speaker 5: something that you were worried about. So for me or 694 00:31:27,800 --> 00:31:29,320 Speaker 5: one thing you said, it was like, Okay, how do 695 00:31:29,320 --> 00:31:31,480 Speaker 5: you know that you're going to want something different in 696 00:31:31,480 --> 00:31:34,880 Speaker 5: the year in five years and ten years? And I 697 00:31:35,000 --> 00:31:37,160 Speaker 5: knew what I wanted a year ago, you know, I 698 00:31:37,200 --> 00:31:38,920 Speaker 5: was very confident. So it's like, all I need to 699 00:31:38,960 --> 00:31:41,200 Speaker 5: do is just stay consistent with that. 700 00:31:41,200 --> 00:31:42,720 Speaker 1: That's the word consistency. 701 00:31:43,000 --> 00:31:46,040 Speaker 5: Yeah, and a year later, I want you and love 702 00:31:46,080 --> 00:31:48,400 Speaker 5: you more than I ever have, you know, And it's 703 00:31:48,440 --> 00:31:52,000 Speaker 5: like to me, it erases those insecurities of like, well, 704 00:31:52,040 --> 00:31:54,160 Speaker 5: what's going to happen later? We can't really worry about that. 705 00:31:54,360 --> 00:31:58,160 Speaker 5: And as long as you're consistent and you. 706 00:31:58,120 --> 00:32:01,920 Speaker 1: Know, yeah, that's something he definitely is. He's consistent. 707 00:32:02,080 --> 00:32:04,120 Speaker 2: And if there's something that we both like to do, 708 00:32:04,800 --> 00:32:07,200 Speaker 2: is if we're falling off track or one of us 709 00:32:07,240 --> 00:32:09,800 Speaker 2: is getting too comfortable, we're like, hey, you're not doing 710 00:32:09,800 --> 00:32:12,040 Speaker 2: what you were doing that made me fall in love 711 00:32:12,080 --> 00:32:14,560 Speaker 2: with you. And I'm telling you, communication is key and 712 00:32:15,320 --> 00:32:19,320 Speaker 2: giving love doing those cute things even randomly, like it's 713 00:32:19,360 --> 00:32:21,880 Speaker 2: only been a year, yes, you guys, but he's been 714 00:32:22,000 --> 00:32:24,120 Speaker 2: pretty good with it. So I'm just hoping and praying 715 00:32:24,120 --> 00:32:25,760 Speaker 2: that it stays that way. And I also have to 716 00:32:25,760 --> 00:32:28,400 Speaker 2: do my part. It's not just the guy. I'm very 717 00:32:29,280 --> 00:32:31,760 Speaker 2: very adamant and intentional. There's that word. That's one of 718 00:32:31,800 --> 00:32:34,120 Speaker 2: my favorite words. Is you guys, know, intentional about doing 719 00:32:34,160 --> 00:32:36,440 Speaker 2: things and not feeling like, oh the guy has to 720 00:32:36,480 --> 00:32:39,520 Speaker 2: always pursue me. Like we also have that responsibility of 721 00:32:39,560 --> 00:32:43,120 Speaker 2: pursuing and making our man feel wanted and loved and 722 00:32:43,800 --> 00:32:45,520 Speaker 2: handsome and all that stuff. 723 00:32:45,560 --> 00:32:47,600 Speaker 1: You know, So you just kind of know that you're ready. 724 00:32:47,680 --> 00:32:50,120 Speaker 2: You're ready to be in a relationship and you want 725 00:32:50,160 --> 00:32:52,040 Speaker 2: the same thing at the end of the day. And 726 00:32:52,080 --> 00:32:54,000 Speaker 2: the best advice that I can give anyone out there 727 00:32:54,400 --> 00:32:57,200 Speaker 2: that is thinking about dating someone or has stopped themselves 728 00:32:57,200 --> 00:32:59,560 Speaker 2: from dating someone because they're younger than them are way 729 00:32:59,600 --> 00:33:01,240 Speaker 2: too old, you know what. 730 00:33:01,240 --> 00:33:02,240 Speaker 1: Don't let that bother you. 731 00:33:02,440 --> 00:33:06,120 Speaker 2: Like I have been watching Love is Blind and it's crazy, 732 00:33:06,120 --> 00:33:07,680 Speaker 2: and that's what it should be like, where you get 733 00:33:07,720 --> 00:33:10,680 Speaker 2: to know the person without really Like, yes, physical attraction 734 00:33:10,840 --> 00:33:12,840 Speaker 2: is important. I totally get that, but it's like, how 735 00:33:12,880 --> 00:33:15,400 Speaker 2: compatible are you guys on a mental level, on an 736 00:33:15,440 --> 00:33:18,200 Speaker 2: emotional level, on a spiritual level, Like those things are 737 00:33:18,200 --> 00:33:20,800 Speaker 2: gonna is what's going to last forever if you guys 738 00:33:20,880 --> 00:33:23,520 Speaker 2: have the same morals, you know, So don't just X 739 00:33:23,600 --> 00:33:26,560 Speaker 2: nay something because oh, he's way too young. Like I'm 740 00:33:26,600 --> 00:33:28,640 Speaker 2: telling you, I never thought that I was going to 741 00:33:28,720 --> 00:33:31,800 Speaker 2: date someone younger. It has made me a more confident woman. 742 00:33:31,880 --> 00:33:35,200 Speaker 2: It's made me just want to look better every day, 743 00:33:35,240 --> 00:33:37,720 Speaker 2: feel better, like take care of myself. It's helped me 744 00:33:37,800 --> 00:33:40,600 Speaker 2: personally as well. I've never been a woman to just 745 00:33:40,640 --> 00:33:42,360 Speaker 2: be comfortable, Like I've always wanted to look good for 746 00:33:42,400 --> 00:33:44,400 Speaker 2: my man, you know. But I'm saying, like he's younger 747 00:33:44,400 --> 00:33:46,240 Speaker 2: than me. So in the beginning I did think about, 748 00:33:46,240 --> 00:33:48,920 Speaker 2: oh my god, I'm seven freaking years older. But then 749 00:33:48,920 --> 00:33:51,160 Speaker 2: I'm like, wait, like I take care of myself, like 750 00:33:51,200 --> 00:33:53,520 Speaker 2: I don't look my age, Like it's just keep doing that. 751 00:33:53,600 --> 00:33:56,120 Speaker 2: And he does all these fun things that I like, 752 00:33:56,160 --> 00:33:58,480 Speaker 2: we're gonna go to Yosemite, you guys, Like we're gonna 753 00:33:58,480 --> 00:33:59,440 Speaker 2: go hiking and shit. 754 00:33:59,600 --> 00:34:00,720 Speaker 1: Like I'm kind of. 755 00:34:00,640 --> 00:34:02,840 Speaker 2: Like, yeah, like I've been waiting to do something like this, 756 00:34:02,880 --> 00:34:05,040 Speaker 2: so I'm excited. I mean, it's just looking at it 757 00:34:05,080 --> 00:34:08,560 Speaker 2: in a positive way and really knowing if you have 758 00:34:08,760 --> 00:34:12,560 Speaker 2: a soul connection with someone, fuck all this, if it's 759 00:34:12,600 --> 00:34:16,160 Speaker 2: socially accepted, f all that. It's about you guys, it's 760 00:34:16,160 --> 00:34:19,640 Speaker 2: a relationship in personas. Okay, So that's the best advice. 761 00:34:19,680 --> 00:34:21,000 Speaker 2: I don't know, Do you have some advice, babe? 762 00:34:21,280 --> 00:34:22,879 Speaker 5: Yeah, Well, I mean I was just going to say 763 00:34:22,920 --> 00:34:28,760 Speaker 5: about the connection part, like, yes, we have connection sexually 764 00:34:28,800 --> 00:34:31,439 Speaker 5: and all that, but like sometimes we connect even more 765 00:34:31,560 --> 00:34:34,759 Speaker 5: when we have like our deep conversations, and I feel 766 00:34:35,239 --> 00:34:37,759 Speaker 5: a part, you know, like sometimes that gives us all 767 00:34:37,760 --> 00:34:40,640 Speaker 5: the energy and confidence, reassurance, everything. Like we connect on 768 00:34:40,719 --> 00:34:43,239 Speaker 5: such a high level during our conversations. I think that's 769 00:34:43,280 --> 00:34:46,759 Speaker 5: been our strongest thing since the beginning, is our communication. 770 00:34:47,239 --> 00:34:49,880 Speaker 5: It's the thing I'm most proud of our relationship. 771 00:34:49,920 --> 00:34:53,799 Speaker 2: You're so right, you give me freaking horny by like 772 00:34:53,840 --> 00:34:56,239 Speaker 2: conversations that we've had where I'm like, he's just so 773 00:34:56,400 --> 00:34:58,400 Speaker 2: fucking wise, And sometimes I stay quiet and you know, 774 00:34:58,400 --> 00:35:00,720 Speaker 2: I can talk. I have a podcast, you I could talk, 775 00:35:00,960 --> 00:35:03,440 Speaker 2: and there's times when he could just talk to me 776 00:35:03,520 --> 00:35:05,759 Speaker 2: and put things into perspective without me having to say 777 00:35:05,760 --> 00:35:07,440 Speaker 2: a word, and I'm just like, fuck, yeah, this is 778 00:35:07,440 --> 00:35:10,080 Speaker 2: why I love you. Yes, Like come give it to me, 779 00:35:10,440 --> 00:35:12,200 Speaker 2: you know what I mean, Like that's how I feel 780 00:35:12,239 --> 00:35:14,240 Speaker 2: because of the communication and the fact. 781 00:35:14,080 --> 00:35:15,760 Speaker 1: That he's just so wise. 782 00:35:15,800 --> 00:35:18,960 Speaker 2: And I'm telling you like therapy, you guys know, therapy 783 00:35:18,960 --> 00:35:21,120 Speaker 2: in general, it is so important. 784 00:35:21,480 --> 00:35:24,520 Speaker 5: Yeah, I want to say something about therapy actually coming 785 00:35:25,320 --> 00:35:27,360 Speaker 5: from either way I grew up. You know, therapy was 786 00:35:27,400 --> 00:35:29,960 Speaker 5: always kind of not found upon, but it's not the 787 00:35:29,960 --> 00:35:34,080 Speaker 5: macho thing to do, you know, especially for a male, right, 788 00:35:34,120 --> 00:35:35,920 Speaker 5: But I've been in it since I was eighteen years 789 00:35:35,960 --> 00:35:40,000 Speaker 5: old and it's helped me so much. And before I 790 00:35:40,040 --> 00:35:42,160 Speaker 5: got with you, I was out of it for like 791 00:35:42,200 --> 00:35:47,279 Speaker 5: a year. And when we first started dating, I had 792 00:35:47,280 --> 00:35:50,480 Speaker 5: the urge to get back in it because before we 793 00:35:50,560 --> 00:35:54,359 Speaker 5: had any sort of problems or deep conversations or anything 794 00:35:54,400 --> 00:35:56,520 Speaker 5: like that, I wanted to make sure that I was 795 00:35:56,560 --> 00:35:58,560 Speaker 5: good on my end, to be able to at least 796 00:35:58,600 --> 00:36:00,480 Speaker 5: be the best version that I can be that day 797 00:36:00,840 --> 00:36:03,920 Speaker 5: for you and for our relationship. It's maintenance. There may 798 00:36:03,960 --> 00:36:06,200 Speaker 5: not be something wrong, but as long as I'm keeping 799 00:36:06,400 --> 00:36:08,480 Speaker 5: you know, the wheels grease like, we're going to be 800 00:36:09,000 --> 00:36:13,759 Speaker 5: smoother than like jumping into therapy when things are already crazy, you. 801 00:36:13,719 --> 00:36:17,879 Speaker 1: Know, right right? Absolutely, see you guys, you guys see 802 00:36:17,960 --> 00:36:22,399 Speaker 1: why Well, anyways, that's just a little bit of him. 803 00:36:22,560 --> 00:36:24,439 Speaker 1: You know. I don't want to share him too much now. 804 00:36:26,560 --> 00:36:31,239 Speaker 2: Bloomy kids, Babe, I love you, I love you well, 805 00:36:31,280 --> 00:36:34,399 Speaker 2: you guys. I wish we could spend more time talking 806 00:36:34,440 --> 00:36:37,600 Speaker 2: about this, but we have to run. As you guys know, 807 00:36:37,719 --> 00:36:40,000 Speaker 2: I always leave you guys with a quote, a motivational quote, 808 00:36:40,000 --> 00:36:43,319 Speaker 2: because it is motivational Monday. So this week's quote is 809 00:36:43,960 --> 00:36:46,080 Speaker 2: you can just give up on someone because the situation 810 00:36:46,239 --> 00:36:49,399 Speaker 2: is not ideal. Great relationships aren't great because they have 811 00:36:49,480 --> 00:36:53,160 Speaker 2: no problems. They're great because both people care enough about 812 00:36:53,160 --> 00:36:55,880 Speaker 2: the other person to find a way to make it work. 813 00:36:56,560 --> 00:36:57,319 Speaker 1: So that is a quote. 814 00:36:57,400 --> 00:37:00,239 Speaker 2: Thank you, guys again for listening in on another other 815 00:37:00,320 --> 00:37:02,360 Speaker 2: episode of Cheeky's and Chill, Come. 816 00:37:05,719 --> 00:37:06,879 Speaker 1: Babe, say bye. 817 00:37:06,800 --> 00:37:08,600 Speaker 5: Bye bye everyone. Thank you for having by. 818 00:37:08,520 --> 00:37:12,200 Speaker 1: Everyone, and come give me a motherfucking kids. 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