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Speaker 1: Welcome to Decisions Decisions.

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Speaker 3: I don't think you should say the Decisions. It sounded

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Speaker 3: like you was talking to Persky. You definitely say to welcome.

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Speaker 1: Welcome to the new podcast.

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Speaker 4: How are you want to say together the decisions decisions come, guys,

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Speaker 4: tune another episode of the Cisyons Decisions and.

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Speaker 1: I'm singing cause I guess today. But it's your.

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Speaker 3: Girl, may d b Okay, okay, bitch, go ahead and

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Speaker 3: give us some vocals, cause you could say bitch, so

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Speaker 3: go ahead, give us some vocals.

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Speaker 1: It's your girl.

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Speaker 3: I say, it's your girl.

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Speaker 1: Let's be in the building. Yeah, I was good. No,

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Speaker 1: really she can really say. I can hold that tune? Now, weazy?

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Speaker 1: What heard you doing? Because you know what people fake sing?

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Speaker 3: No, no, no, she goes. She she sounds like Tony Braxton.

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Speaker 3: You know over y'all, so you fund like Tony Braxton.

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Speaker 1: I will tell you now, I sound like share can.

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Speaker 3: Do you that when you believe life after love?

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Speaker 1: They are I'm not mad at that they are. Couldn't

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Speaker 1: have done this. Guys excited. We got a girl, les Pete.

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Speaker 5: More.

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Speaker 1: The p is for that girl, Ueen. There's no she's

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Speaker 1: gonna be all marriage that girlfriend. That's all of it.

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Speaker 1: The lex pee stands for I'm that girl. I thought

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Speaker 1: it meant that pussy mills all love it. It can

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Speaker 1: it can be that too. I'd like you to hear

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Speaker 1: I could that you know what I'm saying.

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Speaker 3: So normally we start off with a quick catch up

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Speaker 3: of what Weezye and I got going on. However, I

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Speaker 3: thought we could start this af really cute podcasters for

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Speaker 3: years now. We're not new to this, We're true to this,

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Speaker 3: yead old Chelsea.

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Speaker 1: It's like this may be the first time the three

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Speaker 1: of us have all been on a mic. We boyfriends.

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Speaker 3: You gotcha, bitch, gotcha?

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Speaker 1: USh this?

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Speaker 3: Uh?

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Speaker 1: I had him be delivered.

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Speaker 3: Okay, I know we recorded this episode the same as

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Speaker 3: whatever episode you heard a go.

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Speaker 1: We both record these. Fly was still here, y'all go

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Speaker 1: see these for the flowers period, and we ain't send.

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Speaker 3: The gonna be just like this, Hello, welcome. That's with you,

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Speaker 3: as you been used to know. No one want to

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Speaker 3: shoot my niggas married me.

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Speaker 1: I can't even because so lex you are very mimmy

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Speaker 1: and my ma and my man.

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Speaker 3: I am where I get sick of it. So I

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Speaker 3: thought we could actually just all be really annoying you

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Speaker 1: I think it's like the beginning honeymoon Stace. It was

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Speaker 1: for the last year and a half he's an amazing guy.

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Speaker 6: We have amazing relationship. We still talk every day, you know,

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Speaker 6: it's not like.

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Speaker 1: A bad stuck up. Well, no, it's not. We're not

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Speaker 3: Why how you talk to a guy every day still

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Speaker 1: Wait, I've done that.

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Speaker 6: Well, I think it's just because it's just we have

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Speaker 3: You know. So I have a lot of growing I

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Speaker 6: It's just like we're trying to figure it out. If

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Speaker 6: if it don't cool?

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Speaker 1: Like are you are?

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Speaker 1: Are y'all both seeing other people? I'm not? I mean

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Speaker 6: I'm not in that space right now, to be honest, Like,

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Speaker 3: Why I don't even have time to like worry about that?

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Speaker 6: And be concerned about it. It was like a point

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Speaker 6: But I'm like, you know what I feel like, like

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Speaker 6: if we work out cool, if we don't cool, I

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Speaker 1: You sound like every bit of the modern day won't. Yeah.

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Speaker 3: I think like when women back in the day, when

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Speaker 7: There is a weird privilege that making more money kind

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Speaker 3: Oh facts, like for sure, period, even though I have

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Speaker 1: When I was broke and I was they like to

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Speaker 7: It just makes you have this different viewpoint. It's almost

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Speaker 7: like you think you're options are bigger, but I do

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Speaker 7: think it has to do it being busy.

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Speaker 1: I gotta keep it pushed. And I think that's my thing.

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Speaker 3: When you are a C suite woman or a woman

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Speaker 1: Like the last thing you need a man to do

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Speaker 3: So if you're not gonna make my life easier while

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Speaker 3: I'm not, because work is never.

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Speaker 1: Easy, let's be very right, even though you get to.

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Speaker 3: Come and show up and be funny and do the

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Speaker 3: of people. Yeah, so when I finally get free time, nigger,

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Speaker 3: the last thing I want to do is argue with you.

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Speaker 1: Right right?

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Speaker 3: Is so you said that you feel like you have

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Speaker 1: We have a guest. Tell me how when you've had a.

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Speaker 7: Tough day with your partner, what's that conversation with you Andrea,

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Speaker 7: like where you like, bitch, have you had a day

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Speaker 7: where you're like, romantic wise, not family stuff, romantic wise,

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Speaker 7: You're like, I'm fucking having a bad day.

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Speaker 1: I'm like, I can't do it. I let her know.

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Speaker 6: We be having conversations, but I don't know what. I

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Speaker 6: that shit on period. Yeah said that camera presses record.

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Speaker 6: All that goes out the window because at the end

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Speaker 6: days than me who watch poor minds to put them

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Speaker 1: I'm crying. I'm upset over a nigga. You the world.

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Speaker 3: Months ago I was crying in a card, not over

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Speaker 3: to this podcast. I shared it on You Got Decisions,

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Speaker 3: where basically it says, watch out, you talk to yourself.

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Speaker 1: I'm in the car. I had a good cry in

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Speaker 3: So I'm in the car and I'm crying. I'm like, fuck,

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Speaker 3: this shit sucks. And then I said, but I'm crying

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Speaker 7: There's been days where I've cried in my house. Even

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Speaker 7: this morning, I had a little fit. I woke up

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Speaker 3: I was fucking tired, and I was like, bro, I

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Speaker 1: I have friends who hate their job can.

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Speaker 7: Find another way, right, Like I have a lot of outlets,

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Speaker 7: I can enjoy free time. Like I almost tried to

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Speaker 6: I'd say I'd be like, girl, look at you body, teeth, face, card,

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Speaker 6: never decline period. You know you got a lot of money.

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Speaker 6: You know what I'm saying, God, fear a woman.

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Speaker 1: You got a blessed job. You have to work with

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Speaker 1: your best friend.

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Speaker 3: You know.

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Speaker 1: I launched my YouTube. It's so many good things. Okay,

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Speaker 1: tell us about lovelex P.

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Speaker 6: Yeah, so lovelex P is my solo show that I

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Speaker 6: have now. And it's so weird because I don't want

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Speaker 6: to say I want to gossip with integrity because you can't.

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Speaker 1: Gossip is no one right.

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Speaker 6: But I do think that the gossip hot topics thing

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Speaker 1: We are in a space now where everybody wants to

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Speaker 1: go viral. Oh. I'm going to read her her writes

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Speaker 1: and break her down what happened when.

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Speaker 6: We had like Juliana Ransick and John Rivers being fun

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Speaker 6: and funny and cute on Eve. But what I'm saying

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Speaker 3: Like, you know what's crazy about you? Saying that we

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Speaker 6: I think that's why poor Minds is so successful. We

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Speaker 7: That is the worst part of podcasts. Yeah, Like I

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Speaker 1: I love just when it's wrote a book. Bitchy'all be fighting?

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Speaker 3: It's a real friendship. Like I have friends for over

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Speaker 3: But when you know a friend, you know again how

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Speaker 6: I'm very, very extremely sensitive.

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Speaker 3: I know that well, but you know what she's so

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Speaker 1: Yeah, I like to go to sleep. Drag is way nice.

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Speaker 7: Billy's been a fan of Horrible for a long time

442
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Speaker 7: and the Need to Be Studied podcasts. Yes, is his

443
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Speaker 7: show and he's producing this segment, So go and join us.

444
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Speaker 1: I love that.

445
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Speaker 3: So these are his scenarios, hypothetically speaking, So here we go.

446
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Speaker 1: Let's answer these.

447
00:19:50,160 --> 00:19:55,720
Speaker 3: Now, your date picks an expensive restaurant but conveniently forgets

448
00:19:55,760 --> 00:19:56,440
Speaker 3: their wallet.

449
00:19:57,040 --> 00:19:58,000
Speaker 1: How do you respond?

450
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Speaker 3: You can, it's an easy one, real cash as you

451
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Speaker 3: know what? You know what's crazy? My mind didn't even

452
00:20:08,040 --> 00:20:08,280
Speaker 3: go there.

453
00:20:08,280 --> 00:20:09,720
Speaker 1: But I'm old. I remember when he used to have

454
00:20:09,760 --> 00:20:11,320
Speaker 1: to get Western Union from niggas.

455
00:20:11,560 --> 00:20:16,399
Speaker 3: Okay, western wild, we ate in ourselves, but you call yourself.

456
00:20:16,920 --> 00:20:19,520
Speaker 1: I am Western.

457
00:20:20,920 --> 00:20:24,719
Speaker 7: From a Jamaican nigga and he having Western Union him

458
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Speaker 7: money that another nigga dropped off. And I remember when

459
00:20:27,600 --> 00:20:29,040
Speaker 7: I came to one of my homegirls, I was like,

460
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Speaker 7: I do this every week and she was like, but

461
00:20:30,840 --> 00:20:33,359
Speaker 7: you're investling this is money, you know.

462
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Speaker 3: Do you know the last experience that I have a

463
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Speaker 3: Western Union? Uh oh, just talk about these niggas. So

464
00:20:39,160 --> 00:20:41,320
Speaker 3: I had one nigga bring me to Cutter. So I

465
00:20:41,359 --> 00:20:44,960
Speaker 3: was all the way out in fucking the Middle East. Correct,

466
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Speaker 3: it is correct. It's not guitar, it's Cutter.

467
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Speaker 1: I said, who was colored man? Who is there? So guitar?

468
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Speaker 1: I went there, one of my old my old thing,

469
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Speaker 1: and thanks. So I get out there and the team

470
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Speaker 1: didn't pay him. So bitch.

471
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Speaker 3: But I'm also out there and nigga, I'm broke. I

472
00:21:04,920 --> 00:21:06,160
Speaker 3: ain't got no money.

473
00:21:06,400 --> 00:21:09,280
Speaker 1: The team know the team. So when you play on

474
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Speaker 1: them overseas teams them teams were playing with you. I'm

475
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Speaker 1: like a bitch. He was over first off overseas is

476
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Speaker 1: like a bitch bench. He was an element o p lister.

477
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Speaker 1: Fuck you mean what he be?

478
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Speaker 3: So he over there playing in the Middle East and

479
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Speaker 3: the team didn't bring it give.

480
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Speaker 1: Him his money. So here we go help. We had

481
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Speaker 1: to do this. I call my homegirl, shout out to Lena,

482
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Speaker 1: love you for life.

483
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Speaker 3: So I hit my homegirl up like I got bleep

484
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Speaker 3: sending me money through Western Union. I might have it

485
00:21:39,359 --> 00:21:42,159
Speaker 3: sent to your name. Can you pick it up and

486
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Speaker 3: then deposit it into my account? Because this is back

487
00:21:44,240 --> 00:21:47,800
Speaker 3: when Chase allowed you to catch deposits. So out of

488
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Speaker 3: I had him send me one thousand dollars because back then, bitch,

489
00:21:51,440 --> 00:21:54,119
Speaker 3: a thousand dollars meant something that I ain't ask.

490
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Speaker 1: For, No thousand, no more. So I had my other nigga.

491
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Speaker 1: I called him.

492
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Speaker 3: I said, Yo, I'm all the way out in the

493
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Speaker 3: Middle East. This they can't get paid.

494
00:22:01,680 --> 00:22:06,600
Speaker 1: My dress is tight. Hell and my friend, my friend

495
00:22:06,640 --> 00:22:10,080
Speaker 1: picked up the Western Union and deposited in somebody account. Okay,

496
00:22:10,200 --> 00:22:11,600
Speaker 1: so now that's the easy picked out it.

497
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Speaker 3: Here we go. Next hypothetical. Thank you Billy for this one.

498
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Speaker 3: Scenario two, you're on a date.

499
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Speaker 1: This is a good one. Scenario two.

500
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Speaker 3: You're on a date and he mentions he's never dated

501
00:22:24,000 --> 00:22:27,040
Speaker 3: a black girl, but yet he's currently on a date

502
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Speaker 3: with you.

503
00:22:27,840 --> 00:22:29,919
Speaker 1: What do you respond to a man who says that

504
00:22:30,000 --> 00:22:33,160
Speaker 1: he's never dated a black woman? Is this a black man?

505
00:22:33,320 --> 00:22:36,119
Speaker 1: It's whatever colored man it is that you allowed to

506
00:22:36,119 --> 00:22:37,240
Speaker 1: take you on a date, all right?

507
00:22:37,280 --> 00:22:39,760
Speaker 3: So, because but it depends on his race. So how

508
00:22:39,800 --> 00:22:42,159
Speaker 3: do you respond to a white man saying it?

509
00:22:42,200 --> 00:22:44,000
Speaker 1: And how do you respond to a black man saying

510
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Speaker 1: it a girl, Oh.

511
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Speaker 3: My god, whe man, Yeah, yeah, you can make it work.

512
00:22:58,760 --> 00:23:02,840
Speaker 1: The fuck you can go for a So you you're

513
00:23:02,840 --> 00:23:04,800
Speaker 1: cool with being a white man's woman.

514
00:23:05,040 --> 00:23:09,160
Speaker 7: Yeah's assuming that the white man is love grect.

515
00:23:10,880 --> 00:23:15,000
Speaker 6: Wait where you if you're a right man and you're

516
00:23:15,000 --> 00:23:16,920
Speaker 6: not rich, you did not be like right?

517
00:23:17,680 --> 00:23:19,760
Speaker 1: Like what are you doing? How are we the ones?

518
00:23:20,000 --> 00:23:20,080
Speaker 3: Like?

519
00:23:20,280 --> 00:23:22,480
Speaker 1: If you're white and a man and you're not rich,

520
00:23:22,840 --> 00:23:23,720
Speaker 1: you fucking suck.

521
00:23:23,840 --> 00:23:30,000
Speaker 3: You had all the sets of God book and.

522
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Speaker 1: You're American on top of that, Bro, you just don't

523
00:23:30,960 --> 00:23:33,760
Speaker 1: get you watching Paradise. You watch a Paradise.

524
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Speaker 3: There's a scene my think of god man just watching

525
00:23:36,560 --> 00:23:40,200
Speaker 3: when the grandfather said, our last name alone will get

526
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Speaker 3: you elected.

527
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Speaker 5: He moved.

528
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Speaker 1: You're talking about this ship like.

529
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Speaker 3: He ain't like you know, like you know, like the

530
00:23:46,440 --> 00:23:48,960
Speaker 3: last name brad Brown, Bradford.

531
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Speaker 1: It is something you know what really pisses me off

532
00:23:52,280 --> 00:23:58,200
Speaker 1: with a Jewish father. I'm telling you you are you are?

533
00:23:59,040 --> 00:24:01,360
Speaker 1: He ain't doing right? What are you talking about? Like, bru,

534
00:24:01,440 --> 00:24:05,520
Speaker 1: do you know what Jewish kids have? Are you Jews?

535
00:24:07,160 --> 00:24:09,840
Speaker 1: We had? Can we calm down with this segment? Okay? Now,

536
00:24:09,880 --> 00:24:14,359
Speaker 1: what if it was it was a black man. I

537
00:24:14,359 --> 00:24:16,080
Speaker 1: ain't going at you, you.

538
00:24:16,560 --> 00:24:20,280
Speaker 3: White man, to know why because I have dated a

539
00:24:20,440 --> 00:24:24,400
Speaker 3: black guy before who didn't date black us more and

540
00:24:24,840 --> 00:24:27,879
Speaker 3: was he a football player? He was a basketball player. Wow.

541
00:24:27,960 --> 00:24:32,160
Speaker 1: And it was just like he would say things that he.

542
00:24:32,080 --> 00:24:35,600
Speaker 6: Would think was a compliment, like like you know, oh,

543
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Speaker 6: you don't act like.

544
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Speaker 1: You know and it was.

545
00:24:38,119 --> 00:24:42,640
Speaker 6: Given like you're black, you are n I G G hardy.

546
00:24:42,480 --> 00:24:48,720
Speaker 3: Ark yes, like what other things is that?

547
00:24:48,720 --> 00:24:50,400
Speaker 6: That was the main thing he would say, like, oh,

548
00:24:50,440 --> 00:24:58,760
Speaker 6: you don't act like you know, and you don't.

549
00:24:56,520 --> 00:25:01,719
Speaker 1: No like he likes Oh I liked God, I'm not

550
00:25:01,760 --> 00:25:04,600
Speaker 1: talking about it a little but a little flavor, you know.

551
00:25:06,440 --> 00:25:11,680
Speaker 6: Yes, yes, like it wasn't no hispanic, No, he likes

552
00:25:11,720 --> 00:25:12,280
Speaker 6: something real.

553
00:25:12,400 --> 00:25:14,000
Speaker 1: You know what I learned at a young age, and

554
00:25:14,040 --> 00:25:14,680
Speaker 1: I'm glad I did.

555
00:25:15,480 --> 00:25:15,800
Speaker 6: Mmm.

556
00:25:16,440 --> 00:25:19,639
Speaker 1: I was gonna say, maybe I don't know.

557
00:25:19,760 --> 00:25:23,120
Speaker 3: I had seeing my mom growing up who was dating

558
00:25:23,119 --> 00:25:26,080
Speaker 3: with a white man, not dating. They're married, But there

559
00:25:26,160 --> 00:25:29,000
Speaker 3: was a lot that made me feel like sometimes she

560
00:25:29,040 --> 00:25:31,960
Speaker 3: would imply, and maybe it was just a small insecurity

561
00:25:31,960 --> 00:25:35,080
Speaker 3: that black men didn't always find her beautiful. And I'd

562
00:25:35,160 --> 00:25:38,359
Speaker 3: never heard her say that outwardly, but I would always

563
00:25:38,359 --> 00:25:40,439
Speaker 3: feel like she'd be surprised when black men would hit

564
00:25:40,480 --> 00:25:43,560
Speaker 3: on her. So, whatever the case may be, a lot

565
00:25:43,600 --> 00:25:45,320
Speaker 3: of black women, I'm sure have felt like that in

566
00:25:45,359 --> 00:25:45,800
Speaker 3: their life.

567
00:25:45,880 --> 00:25:48,400
Speaker 1: Yeah. Uh So when I was on.

568
00:25:48,359 --> 00:25:51,439
Speaker 3: A date once, maybe young, I remember a guy telling

569
00:25:51,480 --> 00:25:53,360
Speaker 3: me I acted like a dark skinned girl.

570
00:25:54,200 --> 00:25:56,399
Speaker 1: Maybe I was. I don't remember how I was talking.

571
00:25:56,200 --> 00:25:59,720
Speaker 7: Or whatever, but I've had another man tell me, oh,

572
00:26:00,080 --> 00:26:01,520
Speaker 7: like your real hair, Like I thought you're gonna have

573
00:26:01,560 --> 00:26:02,160
Speaker 7: mixed girl hair.

574
00:26:02,080 --> 00:26:09,600
Speaker 1: You have black girl hair, they said, hearty hard, Oh

575
00:26:09,720 --> 00:26:10,240
Speaker 1: my god.

576
00:26:10,920 --> 00:26:13,760
Speaker 7: The thing that I started to learn as a biracial

577
00:26:13,800 --> 00:26:17,119
Speaker 7: girl is, oh, the niggas I'm dated just like girls

578
00:26:17,119 --> 00:26:18,800
Speaker 7: that look like this, this is just black now.

579
00:26:19,160 --> 00:26:19,720
Speaker 1: Yeah.

580
00:26:19,760 --> 00:26:22,440
Speaker 7: And so that wasn't a weird thing for me too,

581
00:26:22,800 --> 00:26:25,200
Speaker 7: but I didn't know it until I got old.

582
00:26:25,280 --> 00:26:29,280
Speaker 1: Yeah yeah, okay, you like them like you want to

583
00:26:29,720 --> 00:26:31,280
Speaker 1: you want to say nigga with me, but y'all don't

584
00:26:31,280 --> 00:26:34,400
Speaker 1: want to date. Yeah. Yeah, those are the things.

585
00:26:34,160 --> 00:26:37,000
Speaker 3: That I think light skinned women and mixed girls never

586
00:26:37,040 --> 00:26:40,240
Speaker 3: really understand. Right, you are dating one of them niggas, right,

587
00:26:40,440 --> 00:26:42,040
Speaker 3: because he realizes.

588
00:26:41,600 --> 00:26:43,560
Speaker 1: Like I could say I'm with a black woman right

589
00:26:43,800 --> 00:26:45,840
Speaker 1: and say like, oh, I love black women. They can

590
00:26:45,920 --> 00:26:46,720
Speaker 1: pand her down.

591
00:26:47,680 --> 00:26:50,120
Speaker 3: Let be honest with you, maybe because the bitch is

592
00:26:50,359 --> 00:26:52,159
Speaker 3: the way I am, but also I feel like my

593
00:26:52,160 --> 00:26:54,560
Speaker 3: body type I've never.

594
00:26:54,640 --> 00:27:05,040
Speaker 1: You's notting right, throwing no no bit to my niggas.

595
00:27:05,040 --> 00:27:05,800
Speaker 1: A bitch ain't mixed.

596
00:27:05,800 --> 00:27:07,920
Speaker 3: I'm black, I got a big ass, got thighs. No,

597
00:27:09,440 --> 00:27:12,640
Speaker 3: I'm telling you for any time. I'm telling you right now,

598
00:27:12,840 --> 00:27:16,560
Speaker 3: for any time. All my athletes, my whole twenties, for

599
00:27:16,960 --> 00:27:21,840
Speaker 3: what I've dated, I've never dated a guy who oftentimes

600
00:27:22,000 --> 00:27:23,120
Speaker 3: dates white women or things.

601
00:27:23,119 --> 00:27:25,840
Speaker 1: I'm just black enough. I also date a lot.

602
00:27:25,960 --> 00:27:28,280
Speaker 3: A lot of what people were attracted to me for

603
00:27:28,760 --> 00:27:30,880
Speaker 3: was my body type. I have a black body type

604
00:27:30,920 --> 00:27:33,080
Speaker 3: so much too to where y'all listen to the past episodes,

605
00:27:33,320 --> 00:27:35,560
Speaker 3: anytime a white man would even approach me, they would

606
00:27:35,560 --> 00:27:36,600
Speaker 3: approach me as.

607
00:27:36,600 --> 00:27:40,439
Speaker 1: You only date black guys. No cool, it could be

608
00:27:40,440 --> 00:27:43,320
Speaker 1: a tight, but I have the black body.

609
00:27:43,600 --> 00:27:46,680
Speaker 3: So the men that are attracted to me date black women,

610
00:27:46,960 --> 00:27:48,560
Speaker 3: and whether they're lights dark, dre't you.

611
00:27:49,520 --> 00:27:50,880
Speaker 1: Let's be very clear if I if I.

612
00:27:50,880 --> 00:27:53,720
Speaker 3: Go through also, and this is gonna sound fucked up

613
00:27:53,720 --> 00:27:55,679
Speaker 3: as fuck for all the niggas that I was a

614
00:27:55,720 --> 00:27:57,840
Speaker 3: side bitch to all the married niggas that I'm fuck

615
00:27:58,640 --> 00:28:04,639
Speaker 3: all black, curvy, bodacious or dark skin thin women, but

616
00:28:04,680 --> 00:28:05,400
Speaker 3: all black women.

617
00:28:05,920 --> 00:28:10,080
Speaker 6: But you cannot say as a light skinned black woman

618
00:28:10,280 --> 00:28:13,880
Speaker 6: that men, well, yes.

619
00:28:14,240 --> 00:28:18,280
Speaker 3: For for any black man who holds those fucking biases

620
00:28:18,520 --> 00:28:21,520
Speaker 3: wants a light skin bitch with nice hair, a bitchman

621
00:28:21,560 --> 00:28:24,280
Speaker 3: ball for five years and before that, I bored in

622
00:28:24,320 --> 00:28:26,000
Speaker 3: a fucking button because I have thin ass hair.

623
00:28:26,320 --> 00:28:28,040
Speaker 1: I'm not gonna take away the privilege of me being

624
00:28:28,119 --> 00:28:28,560
Speaker 1: light skinned.

625
00:28:28,840 --> 00:28:32,240
Speaker 3: But I've never personally had the experience of any man

626
00:28:32,359 --> 00:28:35,200
Speaker 3: saying you're just black and no, no.

627
00:28:35,119 --> 00:28:37,320
Speaker 1: I never had that.

628
00:28:36,320 --> 00:28:39,960
Speaker 3: Ye say it, but I've never been put into that

629
00:28:40,040 --> 00:28:42,640
Speaker 3: group of If I look at the other women, you

630
00:28:42,680 --> 00:28:46,120
Speaker 3: probably don't feel that had But I don't think you're

631
00:28:46,160 --> 00:28:48,760
Speaker 3: you are You're like you're not. I think what Weezy

632
00:28:48,840 --> 00:28:51,680
Speaker 3: is trying to say is you not necessarily like nobody's

633
00:28:51,720 --> 00:28:53,400
Speaker 3: gonna look at you and be like, oh, she's just

634
00:28:53,480 --> 00:28:56,320
Speaker 3: black enough, Like you're a black woman. As a light

635
00:28:56,360 --> 00:29:00,000
Speaker 3: skin black woman, there are things that you have access

636
00:29:00,240 --> 00:29:03,360
Speaker 3: person even talking about right right, talking about For the

637
00:29:03,400 --> 00:29:06,680
Speaker 3: men that I've only specifically dated, they're like black women,

638
00:29:07,840 --> 00:29:09,120
Speaker 3: but a lot of them probably was like it's a

639
00:29:09,200 --> 00:29:11,280
Speaker 3: fatish and they don't want a dark skin.

640
00:29:11,440 --> 00:29:13,640
Speaker 1: They probably didn't tell you that. I think that's the thing.

641
00:29:13,840 --> 00:29:14,720
Speaker 1: You really don't know.

642
00:29:14,920 --> 00:29:16,920
Speaker 3: You never know, you never know, you never know, And

643
00:29:16,960 --> 00:29:19,200
Speaker 3: honestly speaking, but I'm anna fuck them with a lot

644
00:29:19,200 --> 00:29:20,360
Speaker 3: of other bitches.

645
00:29:20,720 --> 00:29:23,800
Speaker 1: Bitches be all shades and colors. Yeah, Like whenever women

646
00:29:23,960 --> 00:29:24,680
Speaker 1: like black women.

647
00:29:25,120 --> 00:29:28,080
Speaker 7: I've had two men in my life make the comment

648
00:29:28,200 --> 00:29:30,680
Speaker 7: that I'm the outlier. It's the partner I have now

649
00:29:31,160 --> 00:29:34,120
Speaker 7: and a few before that, and that's when I knew, like, oh,

650
00:29:34,160 --> 00:29:35,240
Speaker 7: you actually really do.

651
00:29:35,240 --> 00:29:37,680
Speaker 1: Like right right right like the nigger.

652
00:29:37,800 --> 00:29:40,000
Speaker 3: I remember saying to me the first dude that ever

653
00:29:40,080 --> 00:29:42,080
Speaker 3: said it, It almost made me feel embarrassed.

654
00:29:42,080 --> 00:29:44,400
Speaker 1: He was like, I don't know, bro, we're going on

655
00:29:44,440 --> 00:29:45,840
Speaker 1: in the sun. Who knows what's gonna happen to you?

656
00:29:46,040 --> 00:29:50,080
Speaker 1: You know? Yeah? Yeah, I think for me.

657
00:29:50,120 --> 00:29:51,840
Speaker 3: And even though I made the joke about the white man,

658
00:29:51,920 --> 00:29:54,320
Speaker 3: I don't I'm not attracted to white men for.

659
00:29:54,280 --> 00:29:55,400
Speaker 1: Real, like that neither.

660
00:29:56,080 --> 00:29:59,920
Speaker 3: But I love black men, especially black men who love

661
00:30:00,320 --> 00:30:01,280
Speaker 3: black women.

662
00:30:01,520 --> 00:30:03,479
Speaker 1: You know what I'm saying, You're like all shapes inside

663
00:30:03,480 --> 00:30:05,160
Speaker 1: off the up.

664
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Speaker 7: You know what I'm saying, You could be having another

665
00:30:07,560 --> 00:30:09,600
Speaker 7: wife who's in that interview talking about his favorite food

666
00:30:09,640 --> 00:30:10,320
Speaker 7: is chicken fries.

667
00:30:12,240 --> 00:30:16,480
Speaker 1: He loves fried chicken. Oh my god, I know that's

668
00:30:16,520 --> 00:30:22,880
Speaker 1: his favorite. It's color. But you know what's crazy, And

669
00:30:22,960 --> 00:30:26,000
Speaker 1: I know we've talked about it. Every time I see

670
00:30:26,040 --> 00:30:27,720
Speaker 1: a video of his daddy, I'm like.

671
00:30:28,200 --> 00:30:31,400
Speaker 3: You came from boll That mother's mock be lit, bro,

672
00:30:31,720 --> 00:30:33,680
Speaker 3: he'd be drunk then the mother.

673
00:30:34,160 --> 00:30:36,560
Speaker 1: And that's the party. He was raised by his white

674
00:30:36,600 --> 00:30:40,360
Speaker 1: mama because he's black. Daddy wasn't red.

675
00:30:41,760 --> 00:30:44,360
Speaker 3: Don't shake like the mixed people don't when on going back,

676
00:30:44,360 --> 00:30:46,440
Speaker 3: because my mom will make a collar green bitch, she

677
00:30:46,600 --> 00:30:47,440
Speaker 3: make a oxtail.

678
00:30:47,720 --> 00:30:50,200
Speaker 1: Mama can call him ma. Mama throws the pop down hooky.

679
00:30:50,240 --> 00:30:52,880
Speaker 1: Don't got nothing to do with her being old. That's fine.

680
00:30:52,920 --> 00:30:57,760
Speaker 1: What she's like, she's quite, she's quite. That's your answer.

681
00:30:57,800 --> 00:30:59,760
Speaker 1: But my mama was black as hell. Have you seen

682
00:30:59,840 --> 00:31:02,360
Speaker 1: the there's a TikTok Okay.

683
00:31:02,400 --> 00:31:05,280
Speaker 3: So they're like, all right, not all X girls or

684
00:31:05,360 --> 00:31:07,240
Speaker 3: mixed people with white mamas are the same.

685
00:31:07,320 --> 00:31:09,240
Speaker 1: What is it that makes some of them different?

686
00:31:09,680 --> 00:31:12,479
Speaker 7: And this one girl said, I feel like I've had

687
00:31:12,520 --> 00:31:15,400
Speaker 7: a different experience than other mixed women with white mothers

688
00:31:15,800 --> 00:31:20,080
Speaker 7: because my mom's community and friends were black women.

689
00:31:20,160 --> 00:31:21,520
Speaker 1: Yeah, and some guys.

690
00:31:21,400 --> 00:31:24,840
Speaker 3: Make a little different my mother a little bit, I mean,

691
00:31:24,840 --> 00:31:27,240
Speaker 3: and I get it because it's just like, Okay, your

692
00:31:27,240 --> 00:31:30,600
Speaker 3: auntie's the friends, you're kind of surrounding yourself. But there

693
00:31:30,680 --> 00:31:33,320
Speaker 3: is something a little bit different to me with white

694
00:31:33,320 --> 00:31:34,880
Speaker 3: people raising a black neighborhood.

695
00:31:34,960 --> 00:31:38,720
Speaker 1: And they'd be like, yeah, that should be kind of

696
00:31:38,720 --> 00:31:42,080
Speaker 1: weird too, So I think it's a thin line. It is, yeah,

697
00:31:42,240 --> 00:31:43,800
Speaker 1: and it's tough because with me.

698
00:31:44,840 --> 00:31:49,840
Speaker 7: I remember watching Doctor Umar talk about confusion with mixed kids. Oh,

699
00:31:51,000 --> 00:31:53,840
Speaker 7: I think when you're a mixed kid like the PWY girls,

700
00:31:54,040 --> 00:31:54,800
Speaker 7: either a black.

701
00:31:54,600 --> 00:31:57,400
Speaker 1: Girl in white school, and they get real, what oh

702
00:31:57,440 --> 00:31:58,040
Speaker 1: that happened to me?

703
00:31:58,280 --> 00:32:00,960
Speaker 7: My mom fucking picked me up from the project to

704
00:32:01,040 --> 00:32:02,680
Speaker 7: the lie about sleeping over our friend's house.

705
00:32:02,720 --> 00:32:04,320
Speaker 1: She's like, what the fuck are you doing over here?

706
00:32:05,800 --> 00:32:08,680
Speaker 1: Not like the fuck? And I was like, because I

707
00:32:08,800 --> 00:32:13,680
Speaker 1: made friends that they a call her new new growing up.

708
00:32:14,760 --> 00:32:17,080
Speaker 1: She joy, I got a movie theater, bitch. We would

709
00:32:17,080 --> 00:32:18,720
Speaker 1: be in the hood with our girls and draw spring

710
00:32:18,760 --> 00:32:21,240
Speaker 1: pony tail. But it's crazy because when you're a fucking

711
00:32:21,280 --> 00:32:24,280
Speaker 1: mixed kid, you're like, which, what where do I yeah, yeah, yeah.

712
00:32:23,880 --> 00:32:27,800
Speaker 3: I really gotta say today I am so glad to

713
00:32:27,840 --> 00:32:29,800
Speaker 3: see people embracing their national hair.

714
00:32:30,280 --> 00:32:32,680
Speaker 1: I think even the perm complex fucked me up.

715
00:32:32,760 --> 00:32:35,960
Speaker 7: Yeah, there is so much shit I learned after thirty

716
00:32:36,080 --> 00:32:38,880
Speaker 7: twenty five and thirty that I was like, Okay, doctor

717
00:32:38,880 --> 00:32:40,440
Speaker 7: Marr's like, we don't need no more meal.

718
00:32:40,640 --> 00:32:43,200
Speaker 1: Yeah for no milk. I need the buck needs to

719
00:32:43,240 --> 00:32:46,400
Speaker 1: stop with me and Mandy. I'm serious. I'm a weak no.

720
00:32:56,560 --> 00:32:58,800
Speaker 3: Reactionary real quick, okay, because I want to get into

721
00:32:59,440 --> 00:33:02,520
Speaker 3: the topic everybody is talking about, and I know, because

722
00:33:02,640 --> 00:33:06,440
Speaker 3: you're a monogamous hope, damn have this conversation.

723
00:33:06,520 --> 00:33:09,560
Speaker 1: I want to play. Cliff O Marion sat down recently.

724
00:33:09,680 --> 00:33:12,960
Speaker 3: Oh god, this is what he had to say about

725
00:33:13,520 --> 00:33:15,960
Speaker 3: Koffee's comments on non monogamy.

726
00:33:16,480 --> 00:33:18,160
Speaker 1: Could be in.

727
00:33:18,120 --> 00:33:20,760
Speaker 6: My cheer for hot topics about actor Kofee Sarah Bo

728
00:33:20,960 --> 00:33:22,640
Speaker 6: and he says that he practices.

729
00:33:22,280 --> 00:33:23,880
Speaker 1: Ethical non monogamy.

730
00:33:24,080 --> 00:33:27,280
Speaker 3: Okay, do you think that's a good idea, ethical non monogamy.

731
00:33:27,680 --> 00:33:30,680
Speaker 5: Well, I will say I'm in agreeance. You know, I

732
00:33:31,160 --> 00:33:34,000
Speaker 5: don't know all of the backstory of.

733
00:33:33,400 --> 00:33:34,160
Speaker 1: Those those words.

734
00:33:34,160 --> 00:33:38,520
Speaker 5: I will say ethical, being open is important and also,

735
00:33:39,880 --> 00:33:42,360
Speaker 5: you know, a woman just truly outnumbered the men. You

736
00:33:42,400 --> 00:33:44,760
Speaker 5: know what I mean, is this like all you can

737
00:33:44,840 --> 00:33:51,720
Speaker 5: eat buffet. Let me just say, it's only a few

738
00:33:51,720 --> 00:33:54,320
Speaker 5: good men. It's only a few good men, right, you know,

739
00:33:55,280 --> 00:33:58,840
Speaker 5: whether or not, it's whether or not it's a physical thing.

740
00:33:59,080 --> 00:34:01,600
Speaker 5: You know, we end up during the next generation as well.

741
00:34:01,720 --> 00:34:04,960
Speaker 5: So why not have our queens our queen women, Because

742
00:34:05,000 --> 00:34:07,760
Speaker 5: because I was raised by all women, why not have

743
00:34:07,800 --> 00:34:10,880
Speaker 5: our queens aligned with that that it takes a village.

744
00:34:10,920 --> 00:34:13,200
Speaker 5: It's not going to just be one man, you know.

745
00:34:13,239 --> 00:34:15,279
Speaker 5: You you even you could get married, that man still

746
00:34:15,280 --> 00:34:18,080
Speaker 5: ain't gonna be just your man. He's gonna be you know. Therefore,

747
00:34:18,120 --> 00:34:20,320
Speaker 5: his daughter, he's gonna be like his mom, his grandmother.

748
00:34:20,640 --> 00:34:23,600
Speaker 1: You know what. It's always a nigga concept. Isn't really foreign.

749
00:34:23,680 --> 00:34:25,799
Speaker 5: It's it's just a little old you know, and it's

750
00:34:25,800 --> 00:34:27,920
Speaker 5: it's meant to be upgraded. And I love this conversation

751
00:34:28,000 --> 00:34:30,880
Speaker 5: because I think when men of company and honest that

752
00:34:30,880 --> 00:34:33,000
Speaker 5: they don't want to have just this one thing for

753
00:34:33,040 --> 00:34:34,840
Speaker 5: the rest of their life, it gives a woman an

754
00:34:34,880 --> 00:34:36,279
Speaker 5: opportunity to choose.

755
00:34:37,800 --> 00:34:38,200
Speaker 1: Flex.

756
00:34:39,520 --> 00:34:41,520
Speaker 6: It's crazy because I just had a conversation with Jesse

757
00:34:41,760 --> 00:34:44,560
Speaker 6: about this yesterday. So I think The problem with his

758
00:34:45,760 --> 00:34:48,800
Speaker 6: views on that is a lot of times American men

759
00:34:49,400 --> 00:34:52,799
Speaker 6: want to adopt what these African the West African men

760
00:34:52,840 --> 00:34:54,640
Speaker 6: are doing in their homes with polygamy and have it

761
00:34:54,719 --> 00:34:58,279
Speaker 6: multiple wiles. But y'all will realize that it is a

762
00:34:58,520 --> 00:35:02,120
Speaker 6: structure though they and home, they have a community, they're

763
00:35:02,160 --> 00:35:03,160
Speaker 6: paying the bills.

764
00:35:03,320 --> 00:35:05,839
Speaker 3: It's not I got a kid in LA I got

765
00:35:05,840 --> 00:35:07,960
Speaker 3: a kid in New York, I got a kid in Houston.

766
00:35:08,360 --> 00:35:08,880
Speaker 1: Y'all are not.

767
00:35:09,440 --> 00:35:13,960
Speaker 6: There are still rules and structure to polygamy. You just

768
00:35:14,000 --> 00:35:17,160
Speaker 6: want to fuck around, period, and that's not what it is.

769
00:35:17,360 --> 00:35:17,760
Speaker 1: Professor.

770
00:35:17,840 --> 00:35:21,200
Speaker 6: Hello, now don't get me on my doctor Oumar.

771
00:35:21,760 --> 00:35:23,360
Speaker 1: Do you know what I'm saying.

772
00:35:26,840 --> 00:35:30,400
Speaker 6: As somebody who is I am like, I'm monogamous.

773
00:35:30,400 --> 00:35:31,640
Speaker 1: I only want to be with one person.

774
00:35:31,719 --> 00:35:35,080
Speaker 3: But I don't have a problem with people who are polycoples.

775
00:35:35,120 --> 00:35:37,880
Speaker 1: Because everybody's mad at Neo right now why.

776
00:35:38,120 --> 00:35:40,720
Speaker 6: He's leaving in his truth because if he was always

777
00:35:40,800 --> 00:35:44,000
Speaker 6: living in his truth, he wouldn't have drug Moneta and.

778
00:35:44,000 --> 00:35:46,479
Speaker 1: Crystal through whe So I.

779
00:35:46,400 --> 00:35:49,760
Speaker 3: Do believe that men can identify as Polly, but Neo

780
00:35:49,920 --> 00:35:52,560
Speaker 3: also takes care of all of his girlfriends. You know

781
00:35:52,600 --> 00:35:54,400
Speaker 3: what I'm saying, I think their structured to that that

782
00:35:54,480 --> 00:35:55,799
Speaker 3: y'all don't want to do.

783
00:35:55,920 --> 00:35:57,640
Speaker 1: Y'all can't even take care of little day day.

784
00:35:58,040 --> 00:36:02,719
Speaker 3: I think so what it's so My issue with on

785
00:36:02,840 --> 00:36:04,640
Speaker 3: Maaya's response is he says.

786
00:36:05,080 --> 00:36:09,240
Speaker 1: Women outnumber men. That's the reason that men.

787
00:36:09,080 --> 00:36:12,080
Speaker 3: Should have multiple partners, a few goods, only a few

788
00:36:12,120 --> 00:36:12,560
Speaker 3: good men.

789
00:36:14,000 --> 00:36:18,600
Speaker 1: Now, I will say this, I believe that, but women.

790
00:36:19,120 --> 00:36:22,400
Speaker 7: There are an abundant amount of women that are accepting

791
00:36:22,400 --> 00:36:26,440
Speaker 7: this lifestyle and aren't fucking non monogamousts. The thing that

792
00:36:26,480 --> 00:36:30,360
Speaker 7: I think makes the neo situation strange is, for example,

793
00:36:31,080 --> 00:36:32,560
Speaker 7: if you asked me today if I could be in

794
00:36:32,600 --> 00:36:35,560
Speaker 7: an monogamous relationship, I've already been tested and it didn't

795
00:36:35,560 --> 00:36:37,200
Speaker 7: work for me with someone who was monogamous. It was

796
00:36:37,280 --> 00:36:42,240
Speaker 7: hospital dick for those listening, it wouldn't work for me today. However,

797
00:36:42,640 --> 00:36:44,479
Speaker 7: I think if you gave any neo's girlfriend an option

798
00:36:44,560 --> 00:36:46,480
Speaker 7: to be the only one, they would say yes. And

799
00:36:46,520 --> 00:36:49,279
Speaker 7: I think a lot of women accept situations that they

800
00:36:49,320 --> 00:36:53,120
Speaker 7: aren't really happy in. I don't know if ethical nonminogamy

801
00:36:53,200 --> 00:36:55,799
Speaker 7: is something that women are allowed to do on their own.

802
00:36:56,160 --> 00:36:58,160
Speaker 7: I really don't know any girls other than Mandy and

803
00:36:58,239 --> 00:36:59,920
Speaker 7: I that I've been living this life for as long.

804
00:37:00,560 --> 00:37:04,560
Speaker 1: I will say. I know one of Neal's girlfriends and

805
00:37:04,640 --> 00:37:07,319
Speaker 1: I've known her since I lived in Miami. She is

806
00:37:07,480 --> 00:37:12,759
Speaker 1: very much her I think many one Ariel I don't know, but.

807
00:37:13,400 --> 00:37:16,399
Speaker 3: I've known her since Miami. I'm not saying that she's

808
00:37:16,440 --> 00:37:19,480
Speaker 3: with Neo because this is what she has to put

809
00:37:19,560 --> 00:37:21,400
Speaker 3: up with. She's very much living in her life and

810
00:37:21,400 --> 00:37:25,920
Speaker 3: her truth. I main one loves it down no probably

811
00:37:26,120 --> 00:37:28,000
Speaker 3: what I'm talking about, and I've known her since Miami.

812
00:37:28,520 --> 00:37:31,480
Speaker 3: I also know one of the baby moms. I know

813
00:37:31,560 --> 00:37:33,799
Speaker 3: a lot of women, and maybe because I am more

814
00:37:33,800 --> 00:37:36,960
Speaker 3: in the lifestyle, I do know so many women that

815
00:37:37,120 --> 00:37:39,840
Speaker 3: really vibe for this ship that they love being with

816
00:37:40,120 --> 00:37:42,440
Speaker 3: men and women and when they can do it together

817
00:37:42,840 --> 00:37:45,759
Speaker 3: and it's honest and it's fun, they're like, this is

818
00:37:45,800 --> 00:37:47,200
Speaker 3: the best fucking shit ever.

819
00:37:47,600 --> 00:37:51,919
Speaker 1: Like they have a fucking black we get like three great.

820
00:37:52,000 --> 00:37:54,480
Speaker 7: I'm saying, we don't see that, Mandy. We see a

821
00:37:54,520 --> 00:37:56,279
Speaker 7: lot of celebrity matter of porfriend.

822
00:37:55,960 --> 00:37:58,840
Speaker 1: Now and everyone's judging them, saying they can't be happy.

823
00:37:58,960 --> 00:38:01,800
Speaker 3: Like I don't think we're the old ones truthfully loving

824
00:38:01,840 --> 00:38:04,399
Speaker 3: non monogamy as much as like a lot of people

825
00:38:04,440 --> 00:38:06,200
Speaker 3: that I know are like so glad that they don't

826
00:38:06,200 --> 00:38:09,759
Speaker 3: have to lean into societal's norms of a lifestyle that

827
00:38:09,920 --> 00:38:10,680
Speaker 3: hasn't worked for them.

828
00:38:11,040 --> 00:38:14,440
Speaker 7: They want this. I really, I'm being honest with you.

829
00:38:15,680 --> 00:38:18,960
Speaker 7: I'm in the same field and world that you're in too, right.

830
00:38:19,239 --> 00:38:22,279
Speaker 7: I really don't believe there are women that choose this.

831
00:38:22,680 --> 00:38:23,360
Speaker 7: I don't see it.

832
00:38:23,400 --> 00:38:26,640
Speaker 3: More times than none, I see many non monogamous relationships

833
00:38:26,680 --> 00:38:28,600
Speaker 3: fail because women want to change it.

834
00:38:28,640 --> 00:38:29,160
Speaker 1: At some point.

835
00:38:29,960 --> 00:38:31,759
Speaker 7: All of the girls that I know they married a

836
00:38:31,840 --> 00:38:34,279
Speaker 7: ball player or got with one and was having fun

837
00:38:34,360 --> 00:38:35,040
Speaker 7: doing the threesome.

838
00:38:35,200 --> 00:38:36,120
Speaker 1: They're tired of it.

839
00:38:36,440 --> 00:38:40,440
Speaker 6: Like yeah, mo will say, I do hear those stories

840
00:38:40,480 --> 00:38:43,200
Speaker 6: a lot of women sleeping with other women with their

841
00:38:43,400 --> 00:38:46,120
Speaker 6: man just to make him happy him. Yeah, now, I

842
00:38:46,160 --> 00:38:48,319
Speaker 6: will say, because now we get into another topic because

843
00:38:48,320 --> 00:38:50,759
Speaker 6: a lot of these women are doing these things because Ritt,

844
00:38:50,840 --> 00:38:53,239
Speaker 6: do you know what I'm saying. It's different, but you know,

845
00:38:53,760 --> 00:38:55,920
Speaker 6: but what I'm saying is no, no, I don't mean

846
00:38:55,960 --> 00:38:59,440
Speaker 6: literally like oh, there are green because they're like, Okay,

847
00:38:59,480 --> 00:39:01,200
Speaker 6: well at least I don't have to go to work

848
00:39:01,200 --> 00:39:02,480
Speaker 6: and he gonna pay my bills.

849
00:39:02,520 --> 00:39:04,040
Speaker 1: Like you know what I'm saying the patriarchy.

850
00:39:04,040 --> 00:39:07,160
Speaker 3: There's a lot of women that like have an advantage

851
00:39:07,160 --> 00:39:10,439
Speaker 3: by leaning into the patriarchy, and that's what it has

852
00:39:10,480 --> 00:39:14,000
Speaker 3: afforded us. It is a man providing and you kind

853
00:39:14,040 --> 00:39:16,680
Speaker 3: of turning a blind eye because you actually are in

854
00:39:16,719 --> 00:39:19,200
Speaker 3: need of something not from him. We talked about this

855
00:39:19,320 --> 00:39:23,280
Speaker 3: in a previous episode, like even on my ex. Once

856
00:39:23,480 --> 00:39:26,160
Speaker 3: I became self sufficient, I loved that I could love

857
00:39:26,160 --> 00:39:28,120
Speaker 3: a man without needing anything more than who he was

858
00:39:28,160 --> 00:39:30,480
Speaker 3: as a man. But I don't need you for provision.

859
00:39:30,520 --> 00:39:32,680
Speaker 3: I don't need you to pay my bills. I can

860
00:39:32,719 --> 00:39:35,279
Speaker 3: now take the blinders. I could take the blinders off,

861
00:39:35,480 --> 00:39:37,160
Speaker 3: and now I can exist as a woman who can

862
00:39:37,239 --> 00:39:40,200
Speaker 3: choose a partner because I'm happy and to me.

863
00:39:40,880 --> 00:39:43,000
Speaker 1: And you don't identify with being a lifestylar.

864
00:39:43,160 --> 00:39:45,280
Speaker 3: A lot of my friends, the couples, the sex club owners,

865
00:39:45,280 --> 00:39:48,320
Speaker 3: the dungeon owners, A lot of my friends right now

866
00:39:48,640 --> 00:39:50,759
Speaker 3: are lifestylers who choose this life.

867
00:39:50,800 --> 00:39:53,960
Speaker 1: I don't say I'm saying we don't. I'm saying I

868
00:39:54,000 --> 00:39:55,120
Speaker 1: know them, and I hear it.

869
00:39:55,600 --> 00:39:58,600
Speaker 6: Well, I figure she's saying, is they're still the minority though,

870
00:39:58,680 --> 00:40:00,080
Speaker 6: like women, we.

871
00:40:00,200 --> 00:40:03,360
Speaker 3: Have couples out. But then I think Let's be very clear.

872
00:40:03,760 --> 00:40:05,839
Speaker 3: If a woman comes out and says, yeah, I let

873
00:40:05,880 --> 00:40:09,319
Speaker 3: my man have sex with other women, everyone on the

874
00:40:09,320 --> 00:40:11,000
Speaker 3: internet in the comments, they're gonna be like.

875
00:40:11,160 --> 00:40:13,400
Speaker 1: Huh, she goes can't pay her rent, she gotta do that.

876
00:40:13,480 --> 00:40:14,120
Speaker 1: She's not happy.

877
00:40:14,239 --> 00:40:16,920
Speaker 3: There's also a lot of projection on people just assuming

878
00:40:16,960 --> 00:40:19,440
Speaker 3: that this isn't the life we choose. We fought it

879
00:40:19,480 --> 00:40:21,640
Speaker 3: for the last eight years of this podcast, where they

880
00:40:21,640 --> 00:40:24,879
Speaker 3: thought that maybe we were leaning into an insecurity or oh,

881
00:40:24,920 --> 00:40:26,320
Speaker 3: she must feel like she has to do this to

882
00:40:26,400 --> 00:40:29,560
Speaker 3: keep a man. I just feel like, and maybe I'm blessed.

883
00:40:29,880 --> 00:40:32,280
Speaker 3: I'll say it's a privilege to know so many women

884
00:40:32,560 --> 00:40:35,640
Speaker 3: who have genuinely been able to exist in a relationship

885
00:40:35,880 --> 00:40:39,040
Speaker 3: where their man having sex with someone else isn't a hindrance.

886
00:40:39,080 --> 00:40:41,400
Speaker 3: And as a woman who's bisexual, they now get to

887
00:40:41,400 --> 00:40:43,920
Speaker 3: have fun with a whole bunch of women with their nigga.

888
00:40:44,000 --> 00:40:48,799
Speaker 7: Now, y'all, they're part of the relationship. Yes, they can

889
00:40:48,840 --> 00:40:51,640
Speaker 7: fuck girls with they man. They can have sex with

890
00:40:51,680 --> 00:40:52,200
Speaker 7: women too.

891
00:40:52,840 --> 00:40:57,359
Speaker 1: Do we see women having other relationships with men? No?

892
00:40:57,800 --> 00:40:59,080
Speaker 1: And that's what I mean about.

893
00:40:59,440 --> 00:41:02,280
Speaker 7: You watch the niggas on these clips talk about nom monogamy, ethical.

894
00:41:02,360 --> 00:41:05,400
Speaker 7: This this that the true language around nominogamy to me

895
00:41:06,120 --> 00:41:09,680
Speaker 7: is everybody's engagement. You're either doing it together and right

896
00:41:10,040 --> 00:41:12,600
Speaker 7: or you're both dating. I'll tell you right now, I

897
00:41:12,600 --> 00:41:16,239
Speaker 7: don't believe Neo's girlfriends have other niggas. To me, this

898
00:41:16,280 --> 00:41:19,319
Speaker 7: is a one sided situation. That is not what we

899
00:41:19,400 --> 00:41:23,200
Speaker 7: all non monogamy. You talk about the porn star that

900
00:41:23,280 --> 00:41:25,960
Speaker 7: you know whose husband filmed her like that is lifestyle.

901
00:41:26,560 --> 00:41:31,359
Speaker 1: We're not talking about lifestyle here, but monogamy too much

902
00:41:33,080 --> 00:41:36,200
Speaker 1: and six that's fine, but not only that.

903
00:41:36,280 --> 00:41:38,879
Speaker 3: Let's be clear about non monogamy being an umbrella. You

904
00:41:38,880 --> 00:41:42,439
Speaker 3: have polygamy, you have polyamory, you have the other one

905
00:41:42,640 --> 00:41:44,400
Speaker 3: with which which is the women one.

906
00:41:44,640 --> 00:41:46,960
Speaker 1: But y'all are whatever.

907
00:41:47,360 --> 00:41:52,120
Speaker 3: So to me, in my last relationship, I genuinely didn't

908
00:41:52,160 --> 00:41:54,719
Speaker 3: feel like I needed other men. So to me, I

909
00:41:54,760 --> 00:41:57,719
Speaker 3: don't think you're just fully non monogamous if both of

910
00:41:57,800 --> 00:42:00,920
Speaker 3: y'all are willing to date. I'm a non non monogamous

911
00:42:00,920 --> 00:42:03,800
Speaker 3: person who doesn't think that my partner should date anyone

912
00:42:04,120 --> 00:42:06,280
Speaker 3: and I can't, but we could have sex with someone

913
00:42:06,280 --> 00:42:11,319
Speaker 3: else unemotionally attached. Non monogamy can absolutely be customizable. It

914
00:42:11,320 --> 00:42:13,120
Speaker 3: could be with you and your partner make it, which

915
00:42:13,160 --> 00:42:15,400
Speaker 3: is why maybe we didn't understand the Will and Jada,

916
00:42:15,600 --> 00:42:18,520
Speaker 3: which is why maybe we don't understand why r P.

917
00:42:18,880 --> 00:42:21,680
Speaker 3: Vanessa Bryant chose to stay with Kobe because that white

918
00:42:21,680 --> 00:42:24,719
Speaker 3: woman in Denver probably wasn't the first one. It's probably why.

919
00:42:26,040 --> 00:42:28,120
Speaker 3: And I know nothing of this to be true. Allegedly

920
00:42:28,160 --> 00:42:30,280
Speaker 3: Savannah is still rocking with lebron.

921
00:42:30,320 --> 00:42:30,560
Speaker 5: So.

922
00:42:32,400 --> 00:42:39,879
Speaker 3: We complete that our days are.

923
00:42:46,800 --> 00:42:50,160
Speaker 1: Doctor Ubar said, no Ice, no right.

924
00:42:50,360 --> 00:42:52,920
Speaker 3: What I'm saying is we would be completely irresponsible with

925
00:42:53,000 --> 00:42:55,839
Speaker 3: this platform to say that non monogamy looks one way.

926
00:42:56,000 --> 00:42:58,200
Speaker 3: It doesn't, And we don't know the inner workings of

927
00:42:58,239 --> 00:43:00,880
Speaker 3: everyone's relationships. They may be able to have sex with

928
00:43:00,920 --> 00:43:03,440
Speaker 3: other people, but can't date other people. They can't embarrass

929
00:43:03,480 --> 00:43:05,560
Speaker 3: Neo publicly. So maybe they can have sex with other men,

930
00:43:05,680 --> 00:43:07,759
Speaker 3: but don't let it get messy, like a lot of

931
00:43:07,840 --> 00:43:10,719
Speaker 3: us are allowing our partners to maybe step out, don't

932
00:43:10,719 --> 00:43:13,280
Speaker 3: bring the mess home, don't get another bitch pregnant, wrap

933
00:43:13,360 --> 00:43:15,160
Speaker 3: up if you step out. There's a lot of people

934
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Speaker 3: that have those boundaries set up that to me, just.

935
00:43:17,560 --> 00:43:20,400
Speaker 1: Because you can or cannot as a woman date another man,

936
00:43:20,480 --> 00:43:24,319
Speaker 1: so or not maybe you'll know, maybe Samannah got another on.

937
00:43:24,840 --> 00:43:26,799
Speaker 6: I don't like that though, because I feel like, if

938
00:43:26,800 --> 00:43:29,160
Speaker 6: you're dating a man and he gets to do everything,

939
00:43:29,320 --> 00:43:30,280
Speaker 6: you can't do nothing.

940
00:43:30,360 --> 00:43:32,560
Speaker 1: Sometimes you can't. It depends on what you agree to.

941
00:43:32,800 --> 00:43:38,120
Speaker 3: And as a woman, if you bitch, if you want

942
00:43:38,120 --> 00:43:40,279
Speaker 3: to go suck another dick and your nigga said no,

943
00:43:40,560 --> 00:43:41,600
Speaker 3: then that ain't the nigga for you.

944
00:43:41,680 --> 00:43:44,680
Speaker 7: But great guy, is that these men with money and

945
00:43:44,719 --> 00:43:48,520
Speaker 7: power are literally coming to women, you know, going through

946
00:43:48,520 --> 00:43:52,279
Speaker 7: the motions, playing the whole role, vacation, this, this, that.

947
00:43:52,680 --> 00:43:54,480
Speaker 7: Oh you know I think I'm ready for relationship.

948
00:43:54,560 --> 00:43:58,560
Speaker 1: Well, you know, I'm out all the time. I'm traveling

949
00:43:58,560 --> 00:43:59,800
Speaker 1: a lot. I like to fuck other women.

950
00:43:59,840 --> 00:44:02,880
Speaker 7: Now, if you wouldn't mind being one of my girlfriends,

951
00:44:03,120 --> 00:44:04,000
Speaker 7: I'm gonna take care of you.

952
00:44:04,000 --> 00:44:04,520
Speaker 1: Are you ready?

953
00:44:04,560 --> 00:44:08,000
Speaker 3: Her pasandacity the roof over her head, so she's like, Okay, Davey.

954
00:44:07,840 --> 00:44:09,640
Speaker 1: That's what I'm saying. It's not that, but that's what

955
00:44:09,640 --> 00:44:10,200
Speaker 1: we were saying.

956
00:44:10,280 --> 00:44:13,960
Speaker 6: A lot of women that really enjoy these this lifestyle,

957
00:44:14,520 --> 00:44:16,960
Speaker 6: they're outnumbered by the men who want the lifestyle. I

958
00:44:16,960 --> 00:44:18,279
Speaker 6: think that's what you were trying to say, because you

959
00:44:18,280 --> 00:44:19,440
Speaker 6: were like eighty percent of men.

960
00:44:20,520 --> 00:44:23,040
Speaker 3: Told the women accountable who are saying relationships that aren't

961
00:44:23,040 --> 00:44:28,000
Speaker 3: fully fulfilling because they need the Oh yeah, but luckily

962
00:44:28,040 --> 00:44:30,759
Speaker 3: we're in the modern girl era where we do make

963
00:44:30,800 --> 00:44:33,520
Speaker 3: our own money and we're able to now hold some

964
00:44:33,600 --> 00:44:36,520
Speaker 3: footing ground in our household and in our relationships to

965
00:44:36,640 --> 00:44:39,480
Speaker 3: demand that either this is what works for me, this

966
00:44:39,520 --> 00:44:41,080
Speaker 3: is what I like, this is my boundary, and if

967
00:44:41,120 --> 00:44:42,600
Speaker 3: you cross it, I don't have to stay.

968
00:44:42,640 --> 00:44:43,680
Speaker 1: I don't have to mean we're.

969
00:44:43,600 --> 00:44:46,080
Speaker 6: Getting a little to the other side now because now

970
00:44:46,120 --> 00:44:48,319
Speaker 6: you have women with money who are dealing with it

971
00:44:48,360 --> 00:44:51,120
Speaker 6: because they don't want to be lonely. So that say,

972
00:44:51,800 --> 00:44:57,040
Speaker 6: it's a lot of successful women thing right right now.

973
00:44:57,120 --> 00:44:58,319
Speaker 1: It's definitely not a gender thing.

974
00:44:58,440 --> 00:45:00,719
Speaker 7: The problem too with women that are putting up with

975
00:45:00,760 --> 00:45:04,680
Speaker 7: it is men are really being vocal about needing this,

976
00:45:04,960 --> 00:45:08,080
Speaker 7: and we are seeing this uptick in women saying I

977
00:45:08,120 --> 00:45:11,680
Speaker 7: won't accept this, like I'll be alone, and dudes being like, fine,

978
00:45:12,000 --> 00:45:13,680
Speaker 7: I'll just take there's a lot of women I can't

979
00:45:13,680 --> 00:45:14,640
Speaker 7: believe I'm right answering that.

980
00:45:14,640 --> 00:45:17,080
Speaker 1: That was his response. You can tell that slipped out.

981
00:45:18,200 --> 00:45:22,520
Speaker 1: We're out.

982
00:45:23,520 --> 00:45:27,919
Speaker 3: All into the world just to see all the queens,

983
00:45:28,600 --> 00:45:30,200
Speaker 3: all the queen's horses, all the queens men.

984
00:45:30,360 --> 00:45:32,200
Speaker 6: Yeah, But like I said, I think there is a

985
00:45:32,239 --> 00:45:35,960
Speaker 6: little responsibility, like you said, in structure, and you have

986
00:45:36,040 --> 00:45:37,759
Speaker 6: to have rules for yourself, and I think they just

987
00:45:37,840 --> 00:45:40,360
Speaker 6: kind of want to do whatever, and I think that's bullshit.

988
00:45:40,680 --> 00:45:41,360
Speaker 1: No, I agree.

989
00:45:41,440 --> 00:45:43,719
Speaker 3: I do think that we would love y'all to jump

990
00:45:43,760 --> 00:45:47,399
Speaker 3: into the comments on this one specifically because we've been

991
00:45:47,400 --> 00:45:51,360
Speaker 3: talking about nominogamy from horrible decisions to decisions decisions so

992
00:45:51,440 --> 00:45:54,160
Speaker 3: much and clearly now with the being a buzzword now

993
00:45:54,200 --> 00:45:57,160
Speaker 3: with people hopping in and out of these relationships or

994
00:45:57,239 --> 00:45:59,200
Speaker 3: choosing to be single, we had an episode on choosing

995
00:45:59,239 --> 00:46:02,320
Speaker 3: to be single as well. Like I think you as women,

996
00:46:02,360 --> 00:46:03,600
Speaker 3: and I will only want to speak to the women

997
00:46:03,600 --> 00:46:06,080
Speaker 3: because we know y'all are ninety percent our demo. You

998
00:46:06,239 --> 00:46:08,640
Speaker 3: have the voice to say in something that serves you

999
00:46:08,960 --> 00:46:11,440
Speaker 3: or that doesn't. But what I want you to not

1000
00:46:11,560 --> 00:46:14,799
Speaker 3: lean into is society's comments and views on what they

1001
00:46:14,840 --> 00:46:17,640
Speaker 3: think looks like happiness. Because if you allow your nigga

1002
00:46:17,680 --> 00:46:19,560
Speaker 3: to have multiple girlfriends and that is fun for you,

1003
00:46:19,960 --> 00:46:22,839
Speaker 3: stay in that motherfucking relationship and enjoy your life and

1004
00:46:23,040 --> 00:46:24,280
Speaker 3: kind of block out the noise.

1005
00:46:24,400 --> 00:46:25,200
Speaker 1: But if you're a woman.

1006
00:46:26,480 --> 00:46:28,640
Speaker 3: If you're a woman that doesn't align with that, and

1007
00:46:28,680 --> 00:46:31,360
Speaker 3: you're with a partner that is like, hey, babe, I

1008
00:46:31,440 --> 00:46:33,799
Speaker 3: want to step out, but don't want you to. If

1009
00:46:33,800 --> 00:46:35,920
Speaker 3: that doesn't work for you, feel free to sit here

1010
00:46:35,960 --> 00:46:37,520
Speaker 3: and move on because there's plenty of fish in the

1011
00:46:37,520 --> 00:46:38,960
Speaker 3: mother places crying.

1012
00:46:38,719 --> 00:46:42,200
Speaker 1: In the beans. Bitch, go buy one. Okay, hello, Lea,

1013
00:46:42,360 --> 00:46:44,920
Speaker 1: you're talking my language all right now.

1014
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1015
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1016
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1017
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1018
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1019
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Speaker 1: They are going to cuss us out. God said, you

1020
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1021
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Speaker 3: April, so we may have to have a part to

1022
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1023
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1025
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1026
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1027
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1029
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