1 00:00:00,200 --> 00:00:15,480 Speaker 1: Hello everyone, and welcome back to The K Factor Everything 2 00:00:15,560 --> 00:00:18,240 Speaker 1: k Pop hosted by Bomhan. I am a former keypop 3 00:00:18,239 --> 00:00:21,000 Speaker 1: training who toured around the world doing content and performances, 4 00:00:21,360 --> 00:00:23,480 Speaker 1: and I'm here to shed some light on the behind 5 00:00:23,520 --> 00:00:26,079 Speaker 1: the scenes of the K pop experience. Here's a little 6 00:00:26,079 --> 00:00:28,159 Speaker 1: reminder that you can listen to this podcast on the 7 00:00:28,200 --> 00:00:31,960 Speaker 1: iHeartRadio app, Apple Podcasts, or wherever you get your podcast. 8 00:00:32,159 --> 00:00:36,120 Speaker 1: Today's episode is something close to my heart and it's 9 00:00:36,159 --> 00:00:39,160 Speaker 1: about mental health. Mental health and idle stardom in South 10 00:00:39,240 --> 00:00:42,800 Speaker 1: Korea is very closely interconnected, and we're going to cover 11 00:00:42,880 --> 00:00:44,840 Speaker 1: every single part of it today. This is a two 12 00:00:44,840 --> 00:00:47,280 Speaker 1: part episode where today I will talk about mental health. 13 00:00:47,400 --> 00:00:49,760 Speaker 1: Then next week I will talk about my personal experience 14 00:00:49,800 --> 00:00:53,360 Speaker 1: as I bring on a therapist. I am going to 15 00:00:53,440 --> 00:00:57,520 Speaker 1: have therapy live on the podcast. Let's do It. Today 16 00:00:57,800 --> 00:01:00,760 Speaker 1: we are going to be talking about health and up 17 00:01:00,840 --> 00:01:04,600 Speaker 1: until about twenty years ago, it was absolutely taboo to 18 00:01:04,959 --> 00:01:07,440 Speaker 1: admit that you had any mental health struggles or you 19 00:01:07,480 --> 00:01:10,919 Speaker 1: struggle with any of these things. And it wasn't until 20 00:01:11,200 --> 00:01:16,000 Speaker 1: very recently that there was very public incidents. These public 21 00:01:16,040 --> 00:01:21,720 Speaker 1: incidents includes on April nineteenth of twenty twenty three, twenty 22 00:01:21,720 --> 00:01:24,600 Speaker 1: five year old idol Moonbin from Astro passes away in 23 00:01:24,600 --> 00:01:28,680 Speaker 1: his home. Thirteen days later, on May twelfth, Trot singer 24 00:01:28,720 --> 00:01:31,399 Speaker 1: twenty nine years old Hissu as It was away in 25 00:01:31,440 --> 00:01:35,280 Speaker 1: her hotel room. Then a couple weeks later, pop Starchy 26 00:01:35,319 --> 00:01:41,440 Speaker 1: Sumbong on June twentieth passes away as well, and they 27 00:01:41,480 --> 00:01:44,680 Speaker 1: had all passed away from a mental health crisis. This 28 00:01:45,400 --> 00:01:49,720 Speaker 1: sparked a lot of conversation about mental health in idols, 29 00:01:50,000 --> 00:01:57,120 Speaker 1: mental health in society in Korea in general, and this 30 00:01:57,200 --> 00:02:01,240 Speaker 1: is what brought about this episode. These days, idols are 31 00:02:01,280 --> 00:02:04,080 Speaker 1: trying to talk about mental health more and more. Recent 32 00:02:04,320 --> 00:02:06,880 Speaker 1: examples of Korean idols taking the helm and public talking 33 00:02:06,920 --> 00:02:09,679 Speaker 1: about mental health is in twenty twenty one, former GOT 34 00:02:09,720 --> 00:02:13,040 Speaker 1: seven member JB. He reveals that he's been diagnosed with depression. 35 00:02:13,240 --> 00:02:15,880 Speaker 1: He talks about his issues with a magazine A Lord, 36 00:02:15,880 --> 00:02:19,160 Speaker 1: revealing that he was taking medications and therapy all throughout 37 00:02:19,200 --> 00:02:23,480 Speaker 1: the era of his promotions. BTS rapper Shuga creates an 38 00:02:23,480 --> 00:02:26,920 Speaker 1: alter ego Augusty to talk about mental health with lyrics 39 00:02:26,919 --> 00:02:30,240 Speaker 1: talking about depression, and he later comes forward and says 40 00:02:30,280 --> 00:02:32,720 Speaker 1: that more idols should be talking about these issues in 41 00:02:32,760 --> 00:02:36,320 Speaker 1: general Kung Daniel creates an album around the subject of 42 00:02:36,360 --> 00:02:40,160 Speaker 1: mental health and he talks about how he suffers panic 43 00:02:40,160 --> 00:02:43,960 Speaker 1: attacks reading negative comments and he's still very much so 44 00:02:44,360 --> 00:02:50,040 Speaker 1: affected by it. Idols and famous people were caused I 45 00:02:50,080 --> 00:02:55,120 Speaker 1: say we very vaguely, but famous famous people, they're constantly 46 00:02:55,200 --> 00:02:59,200 Speaker 1: exposed to public scrutiny. The image that they have to 47 00:02:59,240 --> 00:03:02,400 Speaker 1: present a lot of the times, especially in idle stardom, 48 00:03:02,840 --> 00:03:06,400 Speaker 1: is it differs significantly from their true selves and how 49 00:03:06,400 --> 00:03:10,320 Speaker 1: they carry themselves normally. This difference from reality can kind 50 00:03:10,360 --> 00:03:13,440 Speaker 1: of create like a sense of emptiness and depression, which 51 00:03:13,480 --> 00:03:17,920 Speaker 1: eventually leads to a tragic incident. The examples where famous 52 00:03:17,919 --> 00:03:21,880 Speaker 1: people have to present and be celebrated for an image 53 00:03:21,919 --> 00:03:24,520 Speaker 1: that's different from their true selves and that leading to 54 00:03:24,760 --> 00:03:28,120 Speaker 1: mental health problems that there's another side to that where 55 00:03:28,160 --> 00:03:31,520 Speaker 1: if the famous person becomes famous for their personality and 56 00:03:31,600 --> 00:03:35,040 Speaker 1: the image that they present to variety shows and their 57 00:03:35,080 --> 00:03:38,400 Speaker 1: live streams and to their fans, once that's critiqued and 58 00:03:38,440 --> 00:03:42,560 Speaker 1: scrutinized as well, it becomes personal attacks. So there's no 59 00:03:42,680 --> 00:03:46,320 Speaker 1: way around kind of this issue of mental health to 60 00:03:46,400 --> 00:03:49,880 Speaker 1: these famous people. Either you're celebrated for something that's not you, 61 00:03:50,240 --> 00:03:53,680 Speaker 1: and then you feel empty inside, or you're celebrated and 62 00:03:53,720 --> 00:03:56,240 Speaker 1: then scrutinized for something that is you, and then it 63 00:03:56,280 --> 00:04:00,360 Speaker 1: becomes something deeper than critiquing art. It's becomes something different 64 00:04:00,400 --> 00:04:04,280 Speaker 1: from having an opinion on art. You're rather now you're 65 00:04:04,320 --> 00:04:07,720 Speaker 1: just kind of exploiting this parasocial relationship that you have 66 00:04:08,200 --> 00:04:13,200 Speaker 1: and now bullying this person that for their person. So 67 00:04:13,440 --> 00:04:17,280 Speaker 1: and there are lots of parallels in the society in 68 00:04:17,320 --> 00:04:19,960 Speaker 1: which these idols kind of grow up in and the 69 00:04:20,120 --> 00:04:24,880 Speaker 1: training system in Korea as well. In Asia, you kind 70 00:04:24,880 --> 00:04:28,160 Speaker 1: of grow up with school being your kind of number 71 00:04:28,160 --> 00:04:31,239 Speaker 1: one focus. You grow up and you go through middle school, 72 00:04:31,320 --> 00:04:34,760 Speaker 1: high school preparing for these standardized exams where you're competing 73 00:04:34,760 --> 00:04:37,400 Speaker 1: against all these other kids in the country. And that's 74 00:04:37,560 --> 00:04:41,159 Speaker 1: that the pressures that you feel from your family, from 75 00:04:41,200 --> 00:04:45,839 Speaker 1: your peers, from your parents, it's very similar to what 76 00:04:46,040 --> 00:04:49,039 Speaker 1: an idol goes through from a young age as well. 77 00:04:49,680 --> 00:04:56,160 Speaker 1: The idle auditions. It's kind of giving SATs, not gonna lie. 78 00:04:56,320 --> 00:05:00,000 Speaker 1: You go in and you are in these training camps 79 00:05:00,080 --> 00:05:02,560 Speaker 1: from when you're thirteen to fourteen year old, and you're 80 00:05:02,839 --> 00:05:05,119 Speaker 1: learning how to dance and sing, and you're competing against 81 00:05:05,120 --> 00:05:06,920 Speaker 1: all these other kids in the camp, and then you 82 00:05:06,960 --> 00:05:09,320 Speaker 1: take your test every now and then in your evaluations, 83 00:05:09,360 --> 00:05:14,160 Speaker 1: and then you're judged and you're graded, and you're critiqued 84 00:05:14,200 --> 00:05:17,640 Speaker 1: on your looks, your skill, your talent, and all these things. 85 00:05:18,240 --> 00:05:21,680 Speaker 1: And then eventually, hopefully one day, you get picked and 86 00:05:21,720 --> 00:05:24,400 Speaker 1: you join a big company, and then you go through 87 00:05:24,400 --> 00:05:27,920 Speaker 1: this over and over and over again, and you never 88 00:05:28,000 --> 00:05:31,159 Speaker 1: know if you're going to debut. You're losing time because 89 00:05:31,160 --> 00:05:34,600 Speaker 1: you're stepping away from your studies, and every day that 90 00:05:34,640 --> 00:05:37,400 Speaker 1: goes by, you're kind of staking your future a little bit. 91 00:05:37,440 --> 00:05:41,080 Speaker 1: And there's that pressure that comes with chasing and pursuing. 92 00:05:41,080 --> 00:05:44,440 Speaker 1: This mental health is seen as taboo, is not really 93 00:05:44,440 --> 00:05:48,080 Speaker 1: talked about, and the generation before was also brought up 94 00:05:48,120 --> 00:05:51,080 Speaker 1: like this in an extreme extreme way, and the people 95 00:05:51,120 --> 00:05:53,520 Speaker 1: directly in charge of these companies are also passing these 96 00:05:53,520 --> 00:05:57,960 Speaker 1: on to their idols. So now you have these workplace 97 00:05:58,040 --> 00:06:01,600 Speaker 1: environments where kids are getting yelled at some occasions and 98 00:06:01,640 --> 00:06:06,280 Speaker 1: like criticized for their looks, criticized for anything really, and 99 00:06:06,320 --> 00:06:09,520 Speaker 1: then they grow up and then they finally achieve their 100 00:06:09,600 --> 00:06:12,880 Speaker 1: dream they get to debut, and then now that parallel 101 00:06:13,120 --> 00:06:16,840 Speaker 1: extends to the public and now you're critiqued in public, 102 00:06:17,160 --> 00:06:19,760 Speaker 1: and now you're health to these standards in public, and 103 00:06:19,839 --> 00:06:23,960 Speaker 1: this lifetime of pressure causes the collapse of a lot 104 00:06:24,360 --> 00:06:28,680 Speaker 1: a lot of people. However, with these incidents bringing this 105 00:06:28,880 --> 00:06:32,200 Speaker 1: kind of issue to light, something positive that has been 106 00:06:32,240 --> 00:06:37,520 Speaker 1: coming from these mental health campaigns and these unfortunate tragic 107 00:06:37,600 --> 00:06:40,479 Speaker 1: incidents happening in the public light is that a lot 108 00:06:40,520 --> 00:06:44,120 Speaker 1: of companies and actually the government has been getting involved 109 00:06:44,560 --> 00:06:49,920 Speaker 1: in issuing these standardized contracts for miners who are trainees, 110 00:06:50,520 --> 00:06:54,599 Speaker 1: and it enforces a lot of labor laws making sure 111 00:06:54,640 --> 00:06:58,039 Speaker 1: that underage trainees can't train for a certain amount of time, 112 00:06:58,360 --> 00:07:01,760 Speaker 1: and it has a lot of clauses that protect the 113 00:07:01,960 --> 00:07:04,640 Speaker 1: trainee whether they debut or not. And I think that's 114 00:07:04,640 --> 00:07:08,919 Speaker 1: something very very positive. And actually these things came in 115 00:07:09,000 --> 00:07:12,160 Speaker 1: effect when I officially signed my contract with my K 116 00:07:12,280 --> 00:07:15,400 Speaker 1: pop company as well, and it states that if I 117 00:07:15,440 --> 00:07:17,960 Speaker 1: was dealing with depression, or if I was dealing with 118 00:07:18,000 --> 00:07:20,720 Speaker 1: any kind of mental health things, I am allowed to 119 00:07:20,880 --> 00:07:23,880 Speaker 1: speak up and allowed to seek help and ask for breaks. 120 00:07:24,440 --> 00:07:27,320 Speaker 1: I wasn't allowed to train over a certain amount of time. However, 121 00:07:29,520 --> 00:07:34,520 Speaker 1: it's not really it's not really well regulated, to be honest, 122 00:07:34,680 --> 00:07:38,120 Speaker 1: and when I was dealing with my personal issues and 123 00:07:38,600 --> 00:07:40,600 Speaker 1: I was going through my training, and then I had 124 00:07:40,640 --> 00:07:44,400 Speaker 1: a bunch of personal home life things collapse as I 125 00:07:44,440 --> 00:07:47,160 Speaker 1: was preparing for certain things and then like suffering from 126 00:07:47,200 --> 00:07:51,080 Speaker 1: certain disappointments and like not getting into certain shows. I 127 00:07:51,120 --> 00:07:55,040 Speaker 1: had this huge major collapse and I was like, Okay, 128 00:07:55,240 --> 00:07:59,120 Speaker 1: I remember signing this contract. I'm gonna ask for a 129 00:07:59,160 --> 00:08:01,320 Speaker 1: break here. And then like one of the things that 130 00:08:01,360 --> 00:08:04,000 Speaker 1: happened was like I had a family member pass away 131 00:08:04,920 --> 00:08:08,280 Speaker 1: and it was my grandma. I was I had my grandma. 132 00:08:08,320 --> 00:08:10,840 Speaker 1: My grandma passed away. And then I went to my 133 00:08:10,840 --> 00:08:13,520 Speaker 1: my grandma passed away, and she took care of me 134 00:08:13,560 --> 00:08:15,720 Speaker 1: ever since I was like three years old, and like 135 00:08:16,120 --> 00:08:18,760 Speaker 1: she like supported my family when like they first came 136 00:08:18,760 --> 00:08:20,640 Speaker 1: to America all these things. I was very close to her, 137 00:08:20,920 --> 00:08:22,720 Speaker 1: and I went to my manager and I was like, hey, 138 00:08:22,760 --> 00:08:25,200 Speaker 1: like I had this thing happen. I explained to her. 139 00:08:25,360 --> 00:08:27,800 Speaker 1: And then I had a schedule that day, and I 140 00:08:27,840 --> 00:08:30,000 Speaker 1: was like, is it okay if I like if I 141 00:08:30,040 --> 00:08:31,520 Speaker 1: show up like thirty minutes late, I just need some 142 00:08:31,560 --> 00:08:33,600 Speaker 1: times I like processed as And then she came up 143 00:08:33,600 --> 00:08:36,560 Speaker 1: to me and she was like everybody's Grandma dies and 144 00:08:36,559 --> 00:08:38,360 Speaker 1: then she like threw me my clothes and I was like, 145 00:08:38,360 --> 00:08:42,680 Speaker 1: oh okay, and I was like and it's like, while 146 00:08:42,960 --> 00:08:47,600 Speaker 1: these things are kind of implemented in the system, I 147 00:08:47,679 --> 00:08:51,559 Speaker 1: wished for it to be enforced better in the future. 148 00:08:51,840 --> 00:08:58,320 Speaker 1: You know. For example, even when I was doing therapy, 149 00:08:58,600 --> 00:09:01,800 Speaker 1: when I was going through these things and whatnot, my 150 00:09:01,920 --> 00:09:06,000 Speaker 1: boss was coming into my therapy sessions, so it's like, yeah, 151 00:09:06,120 --> 00:09:09,360 Speaker 1: I am allowed to have therapy, but it's kind of 152 00:09:09,640 --> 00:09:13,679 Speaker 1: done on their own terms. So the system from experience 153 00:09:13,880 --> 00:09:17,120 Speaker 1: isn't perfect. However, we're taking steps every now and then 154 00:09:17,400 --> 00:09:20,959 Speaker 1: to move forward in the world of K pop. And 155 00:09:21,000 --> 00:09:26,880 Speaker 1: I also think that having mental health checkups is very important, 156 00:09:27,200 --> 00:09:32,600 Speaker 1: whether you're an idol or just literally anyone. And it's 157 00:09:32,840 --> 00:09:37,319 Speaker 1: very easy to kind of get caught in a system. 158 00:09:37,440 --> 00:09:40,520 Speaker 1: Have the momentum of your life, like whether you're working 159 00:09:40,800 --> 00:09:44,240 Speaker 1: like double shifts, all these things that burnout kind of 160 00:09:44,280 --> 00:09:47,880 Speaker 1: catches up to you unexpectedly, and all of a sudden 161 00:09:48,320 --> 00:09:51,320 Speaker 1: you end up with me. And I'll have these moments, 162 00:09:51,559 --> 00:09:56,720 Speaker 1: for example, where I can't move, I can't think, I 163 00:09:56,760 --> 00:10:00,000 Speaker 1: can't breathe, I can't do anything for hours and hours 164 00:10:00,040 --> 00:10:04,760 Speaker 1: at a time, and that was a huge result of burnout, 165 00:10:05,040 --> 00:10:10,920 Speaker 1: where my mind just chooses to rest because I'm not 166 00:10:11,040 --> 00:10:14,360 Speaker 1: giving it, like I'm not actively telling myself to rest anymore. 167 00:10:14,840 --> 00:10:17,480 Speaker 1: So my brain just kind of automatically shuts off and 168 00:10:17,480 --> 00:10:20,440 Speaker 1: goes like, no, we're stopping now, and I can't control it. 169 00:10:21,320 --> 00:10:24,080 Speaker 1: And if I had checked in with myself during those 170 00:10:24,120 --> 00:10:26,160 Speaker 1: times and been like, Okay, hey, I'm feeling tired here, 171 00:10:26,440 --> 00:10:28,679 Speaker 1: and I made my rest is more intentional, then these 172 00:10:28,679 --> 00:10:32,040 Speaker 1: things wouldn't have happened. And a lot of times people 173 00:10:32,640 --> 00:10:34,680 Speaker 1: don't take care of their mental health like they should. 174 00:10:35,800 --> 00:10:40,640 Speaker 1: Like another example too, something that someone told me one 175 00:10:40,640 --> 00:10:43,920 Speaker 1: time was when you're five years old compared to now 176 00:10:45,120 --> 00:10:50,400 Speaker 1: you like when huh sorry? Something that someone told me 177 00:10:50,480 --> 00:10:54,040 Speaker 1: one time is that when you're five years old, compared 178 00:10:54,080 --> 00:10:57,400 Speaker 1: to now right now, you can do more pushups, you 179 00:10:57,440 --> 00:11:01,080 Speaker 1: can run faster, you can do more pole or whatever 180 00:11:01,120 --> 00:11:03,160 Speaker 1: it is. Then when you were five years old, so 181 00:11:03,200 --> 00:11:06,960 Speaker 1: you grow physically. However, there's a lot of people who 182 00:11:07,040 --> 00:11:11,360 Speaker 1: are twenty thirty dealing with emotional problems the same way 183 00:11:11,400 --> 00:11:13,520 Speaker 1: that they would if they were five years old, and 184 00:11:13,559 --> 00:11:16,160 Speaker 1: it's because they never take time to work on it 185 00:11:16,200 --> 00:11:19,320 Speaker 1: and check in on these things. So, whether you're an 186 00:11:19,320 --> 00:11:24,240 Speaker 1: idol who's plagued by these busy schedules and endless projects, 187 00:11:24,960 --> 00:11:27,400 Speaker 1: or if you're like a regular listener or a capop 188 00:11:27,440 --> 00:11:30,960 Speaker 1: fan or whatever it is, checking in with your mental 189 00:11:31,000 --> 00:11:36,400 Speaker 1: health is very, very important. So hopefully this episode brought 190 00:11:36,440 --> 00:11:38,800 Speaker 1: you a little bit more insight into the behind the 191 00:11:38,840 --> 00:11:42,520 Speaker 1: scenes of kpop and how mental health affects the industry 192 00:11:42,760 --> 00:11:47,120 Speaker 1: and South Korea as a society. Make sure to check 193 00:11:47,160 --> 00:11:50,640 Speaker 1: in with your mental health today. Make sure to ask 194 00:11:51,280 --> 00:11:53,559 Speaker 1: one of your close friends who's maybe acting a little 195 00:11:53,559 --> 00:11:56,199 Speaker 1: bit funny or a little bit weird if they're okay 196 00:11:56,200 --> 00:11:59,360 Speaker 1: and they're doing fine. Next week, we're going to have 197 00:11:59,440 --> 00:12:01,480 Speaker 1: a therapist. Come on. I want to talk about more 198 00:12:01,600 --> 00:12:05,240 Speaker 1: personal problems and my personal experience with K pop and 199 00:12:05,320 --> 00:12:08,920 Speaker 1: what led me to my infamous crash out a couple 200 00:12:08,920 --> 00:12:12,280 Speaker 1: of months ago. So tune in next week and see 201 00:12:12,320 --> 00:12:14,000 Speaker 1: you guys. Then this is the K Factor everything k 202 00:12:14,080 --> 00:12:22,200 Speaker 1: pop