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<v Speaker 1>Welcome to We Talk Back Podcast, the production of iHeartRadio

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<v Speaker 1>and the Black Effect Network.

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<v Speaker 2>So you're just two unapologetically black women with an opinion

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<v Speaker 2>who talks back.

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<v Speaker 1>What's up, y'all? Thank you for tuning in for a

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<v Speaker 1>new episode that We Talk Back and show dedicated to

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<v Speaker 1>you dreamers and chases Niggas in you house. Yea, it's

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<v Speaker 1>your co host, AJ Holliday. What's up, tam Bam.

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<v Speaker 2>Hey y'all, it's tam ma'am. I love y'all. I love

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<v Speaker 2>you AJ. How you doing?

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<v Speaker 1>I love you more? I am well, y'all. I am

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<v Speaker 1>uh still waking up in the morning. Gotta thank God.

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<v Speaker 2>Let me tell you something. Losing weight, There is no

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<v Speaker 2>finish line to this ship. There is is a marathon.

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<v Speaker 2>Now you never win. You never win this race. You're

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<v Speaker 2>running forever.

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<v Speaker 1>You could follow funk off.

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<v Speaker 2>Yeah yeah, I'm like, I took a couple, like a

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<v Speaker 2>couple of days off and I got on the scale

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<v Speaker 2>and the scale was like, oh hey, here go a

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<v Speaker 2>pound or two back on my god damn all weekend.

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<v Speaker 1>I was saying, like, because something clicked in my head

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<v Speaker 1>the last couple like after my little bath, I tried

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<v Speaker 1>to wash a lot of things down the dream after

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<v Speaker 1>my last spiritual bath, so some shit clicked in my head.

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<v Speaker 1>Over the weekends, I've been going kind of hard, but

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<v Speaker 1>you can't eat shit. And then when I actually subscribe

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<v Speaker 1>to my fitness Powder's time too, because that has helped

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<v Speaker 1>me to pass, like logging your calories and shit like that.

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<v Speaker 1>And then also this dude on Instagram had like a

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<v Speaker 1>whole old formula, like a very simple formula for losing weight,

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<v Speaker 1>like how much you need to eat, like your macros

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<v Speaker 1>and stuff like that, and you know, my fitness power

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<v Speaker 1>tracks that shit. But yesterday was like, you didn't eat enough.

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<v Speaker 1>I'm not either, because next thing I eat, as soon

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<v Speaker 1>as I eat something, I'm a gaining the couple pounds.

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<v Speaker 1>I don't lost that exactly. Man, Shit, you can't eat,

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<v Speaker 1>you can't drink, you can't do shit.

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<v Speaker 2>Just sitting in the house and stuck down water. That's it.

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<v Speaker 1>Now. I have been making some lime water because you

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<v Speaker 1>know that helped burn calories too, you know, So I've

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<v Speaker 1>been putting line in my water.

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<v Speaker 2>I've been doing like apple cider vinegar.

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<v Speaker 1>I took up that tears my stomach up. Really, I

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<v Speaker 1>mixed it.

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<v Speaker 2>With water drink that down, take my beat my d

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<v Speaker 2>three vitamins. Then I go back with some SSS tonic.

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<v Speaker 2>That shit nasty as, but it's so good for you.

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<v Speaker 2>It's iron. I needed my iron below mm hmm. And

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<v Speaker 2>there's some chlorofy it seems.

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<v Speaker 1>Like the I do chloropho every day too, pussy bee

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<v Speaker 1>m while y'all over there with all them suppositories, y'all

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<v Speaker 1>be sticking up, y'all, ship just get your water, we mermaids,

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<v Speaker 1>you know, so you smell a little fishy, you need

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<v Speaker 1>some clean water, like because that ship. Them suppositories don't

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<v Speaker 1>get rid of in fact, and stuff like that, Like people,

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<v Speaker 1>what kind of stuff to a sign of those those

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<v Speaker 1>boric acid positories.

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<v Speaker 2>Listen, if things get a little randy down there, I

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<v Speaker 2>will shoot one of them up there.

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<v Speaker 1>Hello, What what kind of word was that your mama

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<v Speaker 1>be saying that?

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<v Speaker 2>Actually I used that word completely incorrectly. Rand is like aroused.

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<v Speaker 1>Oh they ran dad, that's some old shit, Helen. You know, y'all,

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<v Speaker 1>this past weekend was the morre of day weekend? What

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<v Speaker 1>you had going on? Tom, They're all.

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<v Speaker 2>I looked at my bank account and they said stay home, right,

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<v Speaker 2>So Friday night I went outside a new bar opened

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<v Speaker 2>up right across the street from my house, and I

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<v Speaker 2>went to it for that grand opening. It's cute. It's

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<v Speaker 2>like a little hookah spot. It's really small. I hung

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<v Speaker 2>out there on Friday night just for a minute because

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<v Speaker 2>someone was like, hey, pull up, so I went there.

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<v Speaker 2>But then Saturday and Sunday and Monday, God said, stay home, baby,

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<v Speaker 2>where it's free. So I went. I got a rooftop

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<v Speaker 2>pool and it was kind of like a club up there.

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<v Speaker 2>Everybody was up there drinking, you know, having We had

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<v Speaker 2>like a little my homegirl got like a portable plastic hookah.

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<v Speaker 2>It's perfect for the pool because you're not supposed to

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<v Speaker 2>have glass up there. So we was up there smoking

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<v Speaker 2>the little hookah, having our drinks and swimming and stuff.

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<v Speaker 2>It was a good time. And I did that all week.

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<v Speaker 2>And if it's free, it's for me.

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<v Speaker 1>Period. Man, were saving money all twenty twenty four. What

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<v Speaker 1>you just got got responsibilities? Let me see. So did

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<v Speaker 1>I go out Friday night?

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<v Speaker 2>My mama said, what you're doing for your birthday? Set

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<v Speaker 2>trying not to be homeless?

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<v Speaker 1>That part part, that part, because like my birthday is

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<v Speaker 1>next Saturday. A bitch got bills Okay, right, I'm gonna

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<v Speaker 1>pay my bills for my birthday. I might get a

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<v Speaker 1>bird or a cat. I'm still the vigging, so.

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<v Speaker 2>That's no, get a bird.

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<v Speaker 1>Yeah, I don't know, because I do want another dog.

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<v Speaker 1>But dogs are like high meetenance, you know what I'm saying.

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<v Speaker 1>Like birds, you can beat that bitch in the cage.

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<v Speaker 1>Cats really be fitting for themselves. Dogs you gotta damn

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<v Speaker 1>to take that nigga with you.

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<v Speaker 2>Listen, with a bird, you gotta make sure you temperature

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<v Speaker 2>control that house though, because you don't want to be

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<v Speaker 2>like Gina and my Mama bird.

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<v Speaker 1>No, you gotta make sure the fans ain't knowing if

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<v Speaker 1>that nigga be out. You know what I'm saying, Your

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<v Speaker 1>bird be that flew up in the fan. Ooh, nine

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<v Speaker 1>hundred dollars down a dream just that week. Damn bird,

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<v Speaker 1>nine hundred dollars. I'm like, how long has this nigga

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<v Speaker 1>been in the store?

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<v Speaker 2>What kind of bird? Nine dollars?

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<v Speaker 1>A sun conyr parakeet, That's what I want. They're a

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<v Speaker 1>little bit bigger, but they loud as hell, though talking

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<v Speaker 1>it's the only thing so but but they do talk.

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<v Speaker 1>Though they do talk. You can teach them to dance

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<v Speaker 1>and all the type of shit. But I went out Sunday,

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<v Speaker 1>so there was a whole this weekend was a whole

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<v Speaker 1>lot of gang shit going on in this city from

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<v Speaker 1>World Day weekend. And it did rain some also. It

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<v Speaker 1>was like acting like Miami or some shit off and

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<v Speaker 1>on rains for Saturday and Friday. And Saturday my Sunday,

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<v Speaker 1>I went to a after party for a white party,

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<v Speaker 1>so the majority people was in there were white on Bitch.

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<v Speaker 1>I came in through the white parties dressing all black

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<v Speaker 1>like jeezy. Okay it was and yeah, that was fun.

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<v Speaker 1>I hadn't been to a club in a long time,

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<v Speaker 1>I feel like, aside from when we went to the

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<v Speaker 1>Strip Club a couple of weeks ago. But I just

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<v Speaker 1>be feeling old as fuck in the club. Okay, I

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<v Speaker 1>know I look younger than them, goddamn gen Z's or whoever,

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<v Speaker 1>but I'd be feeling old as hell around them. Bitch,

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<v Speaker 1>my knee was hurting, do you hear me? Because Sunday

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<v Speaker 1>morning I worked out real hard, so now I got

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<v Speaker 1>these high ass heels on in the club and my

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<v Speaker 1>knee started buckling. And look my cousin when she talks

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<v Speaker 1>like she she's like those people that's like real touchy

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<v Speaker 1>when she talking and standing leaning on you, I'm like, yo,

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<v Speaker 1>I need a kickstand. I cannot hold up your body

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<v Speaker 1>weight and mine, you know, like I swear if you

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<v Speaker 1>hit me one more time while laughing and talking, I'm

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<v Speaker 1>a falling. Like I was really struggling to get the

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<v Speaker 1>fuck up out of there with my knees attack. I

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<v Speaker 1>had to sit down and rub my knee out.

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<v Speaker 2>Oh yeah, you was in there.

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<v Speaker 1>Because I did a lot of squats. Yeah, but you was.

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<v Speaker 2>Your knee hurting from squats mean your form might not

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<v Speaker 2>been a.

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<v Speaker 1>Good or or I haven't done any in a long time.

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<v Speaker 1>Maybe that's what it is, because if this ain't even

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<v Speaker 1>squatt on, no dick.

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<v Speaker 2>You doing ship you needed this year? Last night my

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<v Speaker 2>phone was so dry. I kept calling you like he's like,

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<v Speaker 2>why this bitch callow me so much? You got nobody else?

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<v Speaker 2>And I told you I've got no dick for you.

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<v Speaker 1>She did say that. I said, yes, you want loved.

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<v Speaker 1>I sent you to Alley Hoot once in lifetime already,

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<v Speaker 1>I'll like, no more dick to sent over there. I

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<v Speaker 1>don't even know other niggas. No more Okay, you neither neither.

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<v Speaker 2>Yeah, let's don't know. These niggas get in the scenes. Girl.

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<v Speaker 1>So I saw that, and I love Vivica Fox. I

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<v Speaker 1>think she's dope. So Vivica Fox basically says that, you know,

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<v Speaker 1>she thinks she's ready for a husband now. And I'm

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<v Speaker 1>pretty sure this lady has been trying to get married

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<v Speaker 1>over the years. I don't think that she's just been

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<v Speaker 1>outside her whole life ring. Just like all of us,

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<v Speaker 1>we'd be looking for our other half. So the headline says,

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<v Speaker 1>sixty year old Vivica Fox says she's finally looking for

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<v Speaker 1>a husband and she's taking boyfriend applications. So listen if

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<v Speaker 1>y'all listen to the show and got some money. Okay,

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<v Speaker 1>Vivica Fox looking for a husband, she said, I'm getting

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<v Speaker 1>She said no, she said, I'm not getting on an

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<v Speaker 1>app He must be fun, loves to travel, not intimidated

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<v Speaker 1>by who I am, and lets me spend money going shopping.

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<v Speaker 1>Open to all races. Okay, So Auntie is not limiting

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<v Speaker 1>herself to just black men only, because statistically, you'll be

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<v Speaker 1>dying alone. Okay. So Hair goes some tweets, and of

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<v Speaker 1>course Kevin Samuels pops up. You know, people were like

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<v Speaker 1>retreating pictures of him from heaven. Rip the Godfather. Only

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<v Speaker 1>one to defeat him is death itself. Is one tweet.

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<v Speaker 1>Another says Kevin Sagues was right about you women, damn.

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<v Speaker 1>And this other one said, three thousand pounds later, I

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<v Speaker 1>hate men. Yeah, I'm convinced women hate their boyfriends slash husbands.

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<v Speaker 1>Always given the worst version of themselves to those guys.

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<v Speaker 2>What makes that the worst version of herself? She's just older.

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<v Speaker 2>But here's the thing that shit do scare me. I

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<v Speaker 2>don't want to still be out here, sixties, still looking

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<v Speaker 2>for love. And I'd be like I told you.

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<v Speaker 1>My mom and her homegirl, seventy year old cousin out here.

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<v Speaker 2>My mom and her homegirls, they'd be like they in

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<v Speaker 2>their sixties, and they'd be like, we don't even want

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<v Speaker 2>no man, no more a man come second to a

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<v Speaker 2>good book in the glass of warm milk. My mom

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<v Speaker 2>will say that, I don't never want to.

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<v Speaker 1>Be like married women want to get up out of

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<v Speaker 1>that too. I don't married women want to get out

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<v Speaker 1>of these situations and be single.

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<v Speaker 2>I don't want that. I want me a husband.

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<v Speaker 1>Forever I was in Walmart. Yes, I did go to Walmart, y'all. Okay,

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<v Speaker 1>I was in Walmart and I was talking shit about something.

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<v Speaker 1>I was talking shit on the phone with my cousin

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<v Speaker 1>about men. I was saying something and then this lady

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<v Speaker 1>and her husband came on the aisle, nice looking black couple,

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<v Speaker 1>nice looking man, nice looking woman. And she was like, girl, sorry, girl,

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<v Speaker 1>I got the last good one. And I just laughed

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<v Speaker 1>because they were older, right, and he was a retired

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<v Speaker 1>police officer, and she was like, I got the last

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<v Speaker 1>good one, girl, Like, that's how I want to brag

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<v Speaker 1>on my husband in older age.

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<v Speaker 2>Yeah, me too, that sounds good. Yes, I got the

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<v Speaker 2>last good one. You're gass him up.

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<v Speaker 1>Yeah, that's what his smile.

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<v Speaker 2>I don't feel like, wouldn't be gassing they mean up enough.

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<v Speaker 1>I know I don't, y'all Listen, I'd really be working

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<v Speaker 1>it through a lot of working through a lot of

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<v Speaker 1>things that I grew up under the reiin of a

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<v Speaker 1>crazy lady. And one thing I know I do is

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<v Speaker 1>talk shit like my mama, Like I don't got nothing

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<v Speaker 1>nice to say about a nigga. You gotta find I'm

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<v Speaker 1>terrible because I because I do have nice things to

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<v Speaker 1>say every the little things in the other bad things

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<v Speaker 1>just irritate the fuck out of me. And I got

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<v Speaker 1>to tell somebody before I beat you up.

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<v Speaker 2>Well, I challenge you to like go up to him

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<v Speaker 2>today and be like, you know what, this, this, this,

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<v Speaker 2>and this.

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<v Speaker 1>No, I do it. Okay, I do that in person.

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<v Speaker 1>I'm talking about when I talk about my significant others

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<v Speaker 1>to other people.

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<v Speaker 2>Yeah, well today I want you to be like, go

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<v Speaker 2>up to somebody.

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<v Speaker 1>Man, I got the last good one and so he

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<v Speaker 1>fucking not don't say that part, but okay, so what

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<v Speaker 1>the vificult foxes? So a couple of nice men did

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<v Speaker 1>do some nice sweets. This last one says there's no

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<v Speaker 1>age limit for getting married. Plenty of men around her

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<v Speaker 1>age that may have just lost a spouse, recently divorced,

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<v Speaker 1>or have never been married themselves. This woman is allowed

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<v Speaker 1>to want companionship. The only person who determines her worth

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<v Speaker 1>is God. These comments are silly, listen because men, y'all

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<v Speaker 1>come in all shapes and sizes. Y'all change within a

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<v Speaker 1>relationship to Your hair is balding. You already was short,

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<v Speaker 1>your stomach getting big, your dickens. See nice used to

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<v Speaker 1>always complains a woman can say about you and men

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<v Speaker 1>is like, ah, guess why somebody stole wants a three

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<v Speaker 1>thousand pound woman. Okay, she's not three when I watch

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<v Speaker 1>I'm talking about based on that comment, because when I

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<v Speaker 1>watch six hundred pounds life, like, all of them always

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<v Speaker 1>have a man.

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<v Speaker 2>I don't know what quality, but they keep one exactly.

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<v Speaker 1>So fuck y'all. Okay that part because I feel the

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<v Speaker 1>same way about some of the guys. I went to

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<v Speaker 1>high school, but y'all was so fine back then. When

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<v Speaker 1>I see you now, like we don't even look like

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<v Speaker 1>be in the same age group.

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<v Speaker 2>I feel like you being mean and niggas right now,

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<v Speaker 2>not all niggas did that.

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<v Speaker 1>I am not being mean and niggas. You saying that

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<v Speaker 1>now people will be like, she being mean and niggas,

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<v Speaker 1>and I'm not being mean.

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<v Speaker 2>I am.

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<v Speaker 1>I am just showing both sides of the thing. Like,

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<v Speaker 1>while y'all talk crazy about Vivica Fox, here are the

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<v Speaker 1>things she's going to be up against, being this fine

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<v Speaker 1>ass sixty year old woman, you know, trying to stow

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<v Speaker 1>a comparable meat.

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<v Speaker 2>Please, God, you know where's my husband this year? I

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<v Speaker 2>don't want to be out here sixty still trying to

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<v Speaker 2>find a mate.

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<v Speaker 1>Did you ever write down, like the things that you

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<v Speaker 1>wanted a man?

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<v Speaker 2>Have you done that yet, like really created a list?

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<v Speaker 1>Yes, I'm going to try and manifest exactly what you

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<v Speaker 1>want and need for your life and be very specific.

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<v Speaker 2>I speak it, but I've never written it. But I

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<v Speaker 2>definitely speak it, and I'm holding out.

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<v Speaker 1>I'm waiting.

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<v Speaker 2>My I be twitching writing it down. My I be

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<v Speaker 2>twitching every day. I don't know.

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<v Speaker 1>Did you see this? Damn Mayor maryor chuck this girl?

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<v Speaker 1>Shut up? He from Helena Wes Alena, Arkansas. A mid

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<v Speaker 1>South mayor, is apologizing for his behavior after a viral

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<v Speaker 1>video showed him arguing with his family members. Now the

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<v Speaker 1>family members are his is, his daughter and his niece

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<v Speaker 1>and if video live streaming on Facebook Helena West Helena

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<v Speaker 1>mayor Christopher Franklin intensely yelling at his daughter and niece. Uh,

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<v Speaker 1>he says, Jala, you're a whole No, she's no excuse me,

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<v Speaker 1>see me, he said, Jaala, your whole ass. All you're

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<v Speaker 1>doing is popping tricks. Frank can be Franklin can be

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<v Speaker 1>heard saying, and Jayla, you act like you my daughter.

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<v Speaker 1>You ain't even been something I don't know. You are

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<v Speaker 1>the blink between my blink. Eat this blink. You and

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<v Speaker 1>Shanayah dropped to your mother's to your mother f and

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<v Speaker 1>knees and eat this blink.

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<v Speaker 2>Tell me your daughter to a niece to get on

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<v Speaker 2>her knees and eat your dick is crazy.

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<v Speaker 1>That's as bad as diabolical, right.

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<v Speaker 2>I don't care how mad it lasted for several minutes.

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<v Speaker 2>I don't care how mad you are. Then that was

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<v Speaker 2>not what you were supposed to say to your daughter.

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<v Speaker 1>I can only imagine why they acting the way they

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<v Speaker 1>are towards you, if that's how you be talking to

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<v Speaker 1>them exactly, because I just feel like nothing will ever

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<v Speaker 1>make me that mad at my son where I would

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<v Speaker 1>tell him to eat my ass or something like what

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<v Speaker 1>is happening? You obviously didn't raise them. You didn't raise

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<v Speaker 1>your daughter because you could not possibly talk to a

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<v Speaker 1>daughter that you raise like actively like that. You act

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<v Speaker 1>like that's a stranger.

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<v Speaker 2>Yeah, and he don't need to be talking like that too, absolutely.

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<v Speaker 1>Not, and know you're doing it on a public platform.

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<v Speaker 2>Apologize party for his family. Nigga girl, you ought to be.

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<v Speaker 1>Somebody said, what type of Mary gets online? And talks

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<v Speaker 1>like this, ask Klena West Selena resident Kimberly Hinder, a

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<v Speaker 1>hard Hartisan, she believed Franklin's apology should not shield him

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<v Speaker 1>from being held accountable for his behavior as an elected official.

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<v Speaker 1>I want him to step down or be removed from

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<v Speaker 1>yor absolutely. Yeah, he needs to go on and find

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<v Speaker 1>a different profession and seek help first. Now we don't

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<v Speaker 1>see what led to that, you know, because there's been

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<v Speaker 1>other people in the past who have cussed out Kirk

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<v Speaker 1>Franklin did it to his adult son. He ain't tell

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<v Speaker 1>him to suck his dick. No, absolutely not.

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<v Speaker 2>No.

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<v Speaker 1>That is just so weird and wild for a father

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<v Speaker 1>to tell his daughter some ship like that. I couldn't imagine.

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<v Speaker 2>Listen, I understand sometimes your kids get on your nerves

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<v Speaker 2>and you might cuss them out. My mama definitely has

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<v Speaker 2>cussed me out in this lifetime, and I'm okay with it.

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<v Speaker 2>I probably deserved it. But she ain't never tell me

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<v Speaker 2>to eat her kouchie that like that, Like that's crazy,

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<v Speaker 2>that's insane for your period to ever say that. Yeah,

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<v Speaker 2>That's what I'm saying.

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<v Speaker 1>He doesn't see her ass his daughter, And there's no way,

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<v Speaker 1>y'all summer is here. Okay, Juna's Juna's hair is Gemini season,

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<v Speaker 1>Jim and Jim and Gemini season. And if you're trying

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<v Speaker 1>to take some trips this summer, y'all, I want to

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<v Speaker 1>check out this app called fly me Out. Okay, this

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<v Speaker 1>this is a real thing. It's an app called fly

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<v Speaker 1>me Out. Y'all can download it. I won't be using it.

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<v Speaker 1>I hope Tam won't be using it.

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<v Speaker 2>I thought about it, but yo, I don't want to

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<v Speaker 2>be sex traffic.

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<v Speaker 1>That's what it sounds like to me. It sounds like

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<v Speaker 1>you might end up missing. You're being you. It's basically

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<v Speaker 1>like a dating website and obviously it's it's men flying

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<v Speaker 1>women out. You could put an application in to be

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<v Speaker 1>flown out, and they have all these luxury places you

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<v Speaker 1>can go to on the app with these different men.

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<v Speaker 1>That's insane. Well, I didn't know the app, so I

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<v Speaker 1>don't know what's in there.

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<v Speaker 2>That just sounds like a recipe for disaster. You just

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<v Speaker 2>getting on the app and like going to Hawaii with

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<v Speaker 2>a complete stranger because they put it in the app.

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<v Speaker 2>It's crazy.

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<v Speaker 1>We just had an episode on pimping like this is

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<v Speaker 1>pimping like this is like legal pimping, like setting up

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<v Speaker 1>an app where you charge. I'm pretty sure both people

0:19:08.200 --> 0:19:11.479
<v Speaker 1>have a subscription, a man and a woman, and you

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<v Speaker 1>are getting a percentage from them paying for sex, because

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<v Speaker 1>that is essentially what's going on.

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<v Speaker 2>Yeah, because it ain't just fly me out and come

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<v Speaker 2>experience this island. Y'all know this.

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<v Speaker 1>White girls. I'm pretty sure it's gonna be white young girls. Okay,

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<v Speaker 1>you know it's for whatever reason. It almost seems like

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<v Speaker 1>white women can't be holes, but everybody always want to

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<v Speaker 1>bash black women. Me.

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<v Speaker 2>I know about I know some white hoes.

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<v Speaker 1>We do, women do, but it just seems like men

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<v Speaker 1>don't consider them holes to be hoes.

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<v Speaker 2>I don't know. I don't know how this.

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<v Speaker 1>White men do not be concerned about the knowledge on

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<v Speaker 1>them coucheese because college and shit like that. It goes down. Yeah,

0:19:58.160 --> 0:20:01.680
<v Speaker 1>do with them white girls and nobody cares. They get

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<v Speaker 1>to go on and have a family and they probably

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<v Speaker 1>be doing three things the ship with their husbands to wife,

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<v Speaker 1>swapping out all types of shit, and they don't get judged.

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<v Speaker 1>They just get to exist. Black women.

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<v Speaker 2>I don't know, Black women, we might, they might get judged.

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<v Speaker 2>We just don't live inside their bubble and that's why

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<v Speaker 2>we don't know.

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<v Speaker 1>But it's like, you know, you're a fucking horde, but

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<v Speaker 1>the man gonna don't marry you. You know you're a whore.

0:20:28.600 --> 0:20:30.560
<v Speaker 2>I know a lot of just married.

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<v Speaker 1>But are they husband gonna be calling them a hole?

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<v Speaker 1>Because I feel like white men be really burrating their wife. Man, Susan,

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<v Speaker 1>shut up, you're a fucking horror, like, and it's less

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<v Speaker 1>that we're still gonna be together. Yeah, that's crazy, And

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<v Speaker 1>she's probably saying shit to him, like, yeah, remember you

0:20:53.720 --> 0:20:55.080
<v Speaker 1>were Jeff in college.

0:20:55.920 --> 0:20:57.359
<v Speaker 2>You were Jeff in college.

0:20:58.080 --> 0:21:06.159
<v Speaker 1>You were with Jeff in college. Oh shit, yeah, I

0:21:06.200 --> 0:21:08.639
<v Speaker 1>remember you and Jeff in college. That goes into our

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<v Speaker 1>wild boys back then. That goes into.

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<v Speaker 2>Our topic for today.

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<v Speaker 1>Yeah, that definitely is a great segue into this week's topic. Y'all.

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<v Speaker 1>I had some little things going on this weekend and

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<v Speaker 1>it made me think about because this is conversations I

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<v Speaker 1>definitely have had with Tim and a couple of my

0:21:30.240 --> 0:21:33.320
<v Speaker 1>couple other friends, like what would you do if you're

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<v Speaker 1>in a relationship with a guy and he tells you,

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<v Speaker 1>like straight up, not even a relationship or friendship. He

0:21:39.000 --> 0:21:42.359
<v Speaker 1>tells you that he's bisexual. Like, we don't know what

0:21:42.440 --> 0:21:46.320
<v Speaker 1>we would do until it happens, I think, but I

0:21:46.400 --> 0:21:49.080
<v Speaker 1>want to talk about it. What are we doing? We'll

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<v Speaker 1>be right back after the break, all right, y'all. So

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<v Speaker 1>we're back, and the world of dating is scare re, okay.

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<v Speaker 1>And I want to preface this conversation by saying, listen,

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<v Speaker 1>because people have said some really mean things about me

0:22:13.480 --> 0:22:19.720
<v Speaker 1>in the past. I'm not homophobic. Okay, you're heterophobic butt,

0:22:19.760 --> 0:22:23.000
<v Speaker 1>that's right. But it's just something that women have to

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<v Speaker 1>deal with, right because there are a lot of men

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<v Speaker 1>out out here that even though they could be forty

0:22:27.960 --> 0:22:29.560
<v Speaker 1>years old, they might still be trying to figure out

0:22:29.600 --> 0:22:33.399
<v Speaker 1>their sexuality. So what happens when you encounter somebody in

0:22:33.440 --> 0:22:38.160
<v Speaker 1>that process or they already got it figured out? And hey,

0:22:38.240 --> 0:22:40.880
<v Speaker 1>you know, I like you, but I've also dated men

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<v Speaker 1>in the past. Can you date a man, Tam who

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<v Speaker 1>is openly bisexual?

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<v Speaker 2>Hell no, I said, hell no, And let me tell

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<v Speaker 2>you why, because not because I have anything against bisexual people.

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<v Speaker 2>Live your life, do what you want to do. Fuck

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<v Speaker 2>who the fuck I don't care for me is I

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<v Speaker 2>can't constantly live with the idea that I have to

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<v Speaker 2>worry about niggas and women. I already have trust issues,

0:23:13.359 --> 0:23:17.200
<v Speaker 2>and now I'm worried about you fucking bitches and niggas.

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<v Speaker 2>That's just too much. It's just too much for me.

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<v Speaker 2>I can't worry about it. I can't be concerned with

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<v Speaker 2>that because I already don't trust men. It's hard for

0:23:24.760 --> 0:23:29.320
<v Speaker 2>me to trust me in period. So yeah, no, it's

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<v Speaker 2>not gonna happen.

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<v Speaker 1>And I think that's the sentiment that most women have, right.

0:23:34.720 --> 0:23:38.639
<v Speaker 1>Their concern is always the man, then being promiscuous with

0:23:38.760 --> 0:23:41.560
<v Speaker 1>men and women, right, And it does get sketchy. I

0:23:41.560 --> 0:23:44.600
<v Speaker 1>don't give a damn what y'all say is just levels

0:23:44.600 --> 0:23:47.639
<v Speaker 1>to this shit, right, and that is an extreme level

0:23:48.280 --> 0:23:51.119
<v Speaker 1>of cheating. But we shouldn't assume that just because a

0:23:51.160 --> 0:23:56.800
<v Speaker 1>man is gay, right, that he or bisexual, that he

0:23:56.880 --> 0:23:59.240
<v Speaker 1>would cheat with a man. He may not even be

0:23:59.280 --> 0:24:02.000
<v Speaker 1>a cheater, you know what I'm saying. He may not

0:24:02.080 --> 0:24:04.960
<v Speaker 1>cheat on you with a man or a woman. It's

0:24:05.040 --> 0:24:10.159
<v Speaker 1>just his sexual preference. He likes egos both ways, but

0:24:10.400 --> 0:24:13.440
<v Speaker 1>whenever he's in a relationship with a person, that's who

0:24:13.440 --> 0:24:18.520
<v Speaker 1>he's with. For me, I could never engage in any

0:24:18.600 --> 0:24:21.280
<v Speaker 1>relationship with a man who is openly bisexual. When I

0:24:21.280 --> 0:24:24.320
<v Speaker 1>say openly meaning you told me, thank you. I appreciate

0:24:24.359 --> 0:24:27.080
<v Speaker 1>you for being honest, because there are a lot of

0:24:27.119 --> 0:24:29.240
<v Speaker 1>men who are never going to be honest with themselves

0:24:29.320 --> 0:24:34.080
<v Speaker 1>or anybody else, and they secretly do this stuff. There's

0:24:34.119 --> 0:24:35.800
<v Speaker 1>no way for me to know. So when I say

0:24:35.840 --> 0:24:40.199
<v Speaker 1>openly gay, openly bisexual, you told me, right, I just

0:24:40.240 --> 0:24:45.720
<v Speaker 1>think that there's a different mindset for people who go

0:24:45.880 --> 0:24:49.959
<v Speaker 1>both ways, like that's just their lifestyle. It's just a

0:24:49.960 --> 0:24:53.000
<v Speaker 1>different mindset that I don't have, because I feel like

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<v Speaker 1>even in conversation with some men. I remember one night

0:24:56.240 --> 0:25:00.119
<v Speaker 1>my homegirl, we met up with one of her friends.

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<v Speaker 1>Gay guy, big ass, gay guy. He like six ' five,

0:25:04.280 --> 0:25:07.760
<v Speaker 1>nice looking, he does hair like nice looking guy. He

0:25:07.880 --> 0:25:09.520
<v Speaker 1>kept asking me if I wanted to have a baby

0:25:09.520 --> 0:25:12.400
<v Speaker 1>with him, like boy, he has a son, he said

0:25:12.400 --> 0:25:15.720
<v Speaker 1>he wanted more children. I'm like no, like so then

0:25:15.760 --> 0:25:17.920
<v Speaker 1>we got then at the bar, get into a whole

0:25:17.920 --> 0:25:24.320
<v Speaker 1>conversation about why men need to tell women that they

0:25:24.320 --> 0:25:27.520
<v Speaker 1>are bisexual or that they have had sexual encounters with

0:25:27.640 --> 0:25:31.640
<v Speaker 1>men before, And he was arguing me down about how

0:25:31.720 --> 0:25:37.439
<v Speaker 1>that's not a woman's business, Why doesn't matter who the

0:25:37.520 --> 0:25:40.080
<v Speaker 1>man has been with before. Why doesn't matter who a

0:25:40.160 --> 0:25:43.000
<v Speaker 1>person has been with it matters.

0:25:43.640 --> 0:25:44.479
<v Speaker 2>I think it matters.

0:25:44.560 --> 0:25:46.679
<v Speaker 1>Let's talk about why it matters.

0:25:47.080 --> 0:25:49.600
<v Speaker 2>But all right, hold on, here's the thing. Because if

0:25:49.640 --> 0:25:52.840
<v Speaker 2>a man asked me about my past, you the only

0:25:52.920 --> 0:26:00.399
<v Speaker 2>one my holdness get deleted. So is it for me

0:26:00.480 --> 0:26:02.720
<v Speaker 2>to say I need to I don't have to tell

0:26:02.800 --> 0:26:06.120
<v Speaker 2>my sexual history, and then require a man to tell

0:26:06.160 --> 0:26:08.800
<v Speaker 2>his sexual history. That seems like a double standard.

0:26:10.080 --> 0:26:14.000
<v Speaker 1>It is, and I'm it's just is. So there's a

0:26:14.040 --> 0:26:17.399
<v Speaker 1>lot of double standards against women. One, you can't be

0:26:17.480 --> 0:26:20.800
<v Speaker 1>a whole You're gonna get judged for it, right, that's

0:26:20.840 --> 0:26:22.840
<v Speaker 1>a double standard that we live with. There's a lot

0:26:22.840 --> 0:26:25.800
<v Speaker 1>of things that men do that we just simply can't

0:26:25.840 --> 0:26:28.679
<v Speaker 1>do without judging getting some type of public shame and

0:26:28.800 --> 0:26:34.680
<v Speaker 1>judgment about it. Right. And to me, bisexual men, there's

0:26:34.720 --> 0:26:38.919
<v Speaker 1>no such thing. You're a gay man. I don't believe

0:26:38.960 --> 0:26:43.680
<v Speaker 1>that there's such thing as bisexual men. What you're just gay?

0:26:45.000 --> 0:26:49.159
<v Speaker 1>You're just gay. And I need to know that you

0:26:49.280 --> 0:26:51.480
<v Speaker 1>have had sex with a man, because it's a different

0:26:51.520 --> 0:26:53.520
<v Speaker 1>type of mindset, like I don't want to deal with.

0:26:54.520 --> 0:26:58.200
<v Speaker 1>It just comes with other things, not just the sexual thing.

0:26:58.280 --> 0:27:01.159
<v Speaker 1>It's just the whole the way they think. Like this

0:27:01.240 --> 0:27:03.520
<v Speaker 1>man arguing me down about not he doesn't feel like

0:27:03.560 --> 0:27:05.600
<v Speaker 1>you should have to tell a woman that you've been

0:27:05.640 --> 0:27:07.919
<v Speaker 1>with a man before you. I feel like you have

0:27:07.960 --> 0:27:11.520
<v Speaker 1>to because if I ask you a question and you

0:27:11.560 --> 0:27:14.480
<v Speaker 1>tell me a lie, now you're being deceitful. Right, Why

0:27:14.520 --> 0:27:16.760
<v Speaker 1>are you being deceitful? Why do you feel like you

0:27:16.800 --> 0:27:19.840
<v Speaker 1>need to withhold that information? Because there's a reason.

0:27:19.960 --> 0:27:22.960
<v Speaker 2>The reason is because, especially I think in the black community,

0:27:23.520 --> 0:27:26.320
<v Speaker 2>why a man would want to withhold their information is

0:27:26.359 --> 0:27:30.560
<v Speaker 2>because black women don't accept you back. Once you go gay,

0:27:31.160 --> 0:27:33.760
<v Speaker 2>once you have a sexual experience with same sex as

0:27:33.760 --> 0:27:37.040
<v Speaker 2>a black man, it's hard to come back to women.

0:27:37.119 --> 0:27:40.560
<v Speaker 1>That's not true that there's a lot of women out here.

0:27:40.600 --> 0:27:43.359
<v Speaker 1>Like listen, during the pandemic, I was on a clubhouse

0:27:43.440 --> 0:27:45.960
<v Speaker 1>heavy It was so many women on there. Like in

0:27:46.000 --> 0:27:50.800
<v Speaker 1>these conversations who said they prefer bisexual women, so many

0:27:50.960 --> 0:27:56.480
<v Speaker 1>prefer a lot yes, in conversation out of the years,

0:27:56.520 --> 0:27:59.399
<v Speaker 1>like there are women out here that you could be

0:27:59.600 --> 0:28:00.600
<v Speaker 1>your self with.

0:28:00.960 --> 0:28:03.359
<v Speaker 2>I agree, but I but I you know, just based

0:28:03.400 --> 0:28:07.159
<v Speaker 2>on my experience, maybe it's in my age group, they're

0:28:07.200 --> 0:28:11.840
<v Speaker 2>not as open to bisexual men like, once you go

0:28:12.280 --> 0:28:15.280
<v Speaker 2>you know, same sex, it's hard to come back to women.

0:28:15.560 --> 0:28:19.240
<v Speaker 2>They I won't accept you back me personally, I'm not.

0:28:19.760 --> 0:28:22.679
<v Speaker 2>And that's just my preference because I already told you

0:28:22.760 --> 0:28:25.240
<v Speaker 2>I can't deal with like you going on a boy's trip.

0:28:25.400 --> 0:28:27.119
<v Speaker 2>The fuck you going on a boys trip for a

0:28:27.200 --> 0:28:29.119
<v Speaker 2>motherfucker like I can't. I don't have time for that.

0:28:30.359 --> 0:28:33.919
<v Speaker 1>See and look, that's another double standard. And men like

0:28:33.960 --> 0:28:36.160
<v Speaker 1>to talk about us. Oh, y'all go on girls trips

0:28:36.160 --> 0:28:38.960
<v Speaker 1>and y'all be eating each other a's KOUCHI that is

0:28:39.040 --> 0:28:43.360
<v Speaker 1>not happening on girls trips, okay amongst the friend group.

0:28:44.160 --> 0:28:46.880
<v Speaker 1>Oh you Busty knows what shit. I don't know, because

0:28:47.040 --> 0:28:49.880
<v Speaker 1>I'm never eating kouchie in the first place. I'm definitely

0:28:49.920 --> 0:28:53.600
<v Speaker 1>not eating my homegirl Cucci. So you need to tell me.

0:28:53.640 --> 0:28:56.280
<v Speaker 1>Bitches be over it. Y'all. Niggas might got some validity

0:28:56.400 --> 0:28:58.840
<v Speaker 1>with this the way tam just look, I don't know,

0:28:59.360 --> 0:29:01.120
<v Speaker 1>I don't always, I don't know.

0:29:01.200 --> 0:29:05.520
<v Speaker 2>I don't know anything about we're saints. I never ate

0:29:05.560 --> 0:29:07.960
<v Speaker 2>no Kouchie on no girl's trip, So.

0:29:08.280 --> 0:29:10.880
<v Speaker 1>That's what I'm saying. So I mean maybe somebody like

0:29:10.960 --> 0:29:14.560
<v Speaker 1>somebody on the island, some other woman outside the friend

0:29:14.600 --> 0:29:18.040
<v Speaker 1>group by the eight a friend's kucci. But I had

0:29:18.080 --> 0:29:22.240
<v Speaker 1>the homegirls that's hanging out, going on a girl's trip

0:29:22.320 --> 0:29:24.680
<v Speaker 1>and somebody's eating each like what.

0:29:25.400 --> 0:29:28.600
<v Speaker 2>I mean, I've never done that, but I've seen it happen.

0:29:31.200 --> 0:29:33.840
<v Speaker 2>You know how they say who Richard Pryor and who

0:29:33.880 --> 0:29:38.520
<v Speaker 2>had six? It was drugs? They ah, Marlon Brando or

0:29:38.520 --> 0:29:42.120
<v Speaker 2>something like that. Yes, mm hmm, it was you know,

0:29:42.320 --> 0:29:45.320
<v Speaker 2>drugs alcoholic and those are men, That's what I'm saying.

0:29:45.360 --> 0:29:47.240
<v Speaker 2>So when my man keeps wanting to go on these

0:29:47.280 --> 0:29:49.960
<v Speaker 2>guide trips and I can't go ever, you just have

0:29:50.120 --> 0:29:53.120
<v Speaker 2>this one homeboy, you do you remember that online?

0:29:53.200 --> 0:29:55.320
<v Speaker 1>It was like a post. It was a guy that

0:29:55.360 --> 0:29:57.520
<v Speaker 1>it was a woman saying that. You know, she's asking

0:29:57.600 --> 0:30:03.200
<v Speaker 1>for other people's opinion because her boyfriend or husband you know,

0:30:04.120 --> 0:30:06.440
<v Speaker 1>was going on his little annual boy strip with his

0:30:06.520 --> 0:30:11.680
<v Speaker 1>homeboy and she demanded to go this go around. He

0:30:11.760 --> 0:30:14.120
<v Speaker 1>had his wife sitting in coach while him and his

0:30:14.160 --> 0:30:15.680
<v Speaker 1>homeboy was in first class.

0:30:16.800 --> 0:30:21.280
<v Speaker 2>Oh my god, So why because he didn't want her

0:30:21.320 --> 0:30:21.760
<v Speaker 2>to be there.

0:30:22.400 --> 0:30:24.479
<v Speaker 1>He didn't want her to be there like this is

0:30:24.520 --> 0:30:26.960
<v Speaker 1>his Like that's the red flag for me.

0:30:27.560 --> 0:30:30.440
<v Speaker 2>Well, why should Demanda go? Why should demand of going?

0:30:30.560 --> 0:30:33.880
<v Speaker 1>Honestly, because she probably felt she probably it's just him

0:30:33.920 --> 0:30:36.560
<v Speaker 1>and it's one other person. It's not like it's multiple

0:30:36.560 --> 0:30:39.440
<v Speaker 1>people on his boys strip. It's just her guy and

0:30:39.520 --> 0:30:40.200
<v Speaker 1>his homeboy.

0:30:41.160 --> 0:30:42.880
<v Speaker 2>But it's like, what if me and my best friend

0:30:43.000 --> 0:30:50.160
<v Speaker 2>want to go to a nice spot in Arizona or

0:30:50.200 --> 0:30:53.240
<v Speaker 2>something like that on the SPA trip and my man.

0:30:53.240 --> 0:30:55.440
<v Speaker 1>She already had reservations about him.

0:30:55.560 --> 0:30:57.680
<v Speaker 2>Okay, she has some sexual why she was.

0:30:57.600 --> 0:31:01.959
<v Speaker 1>Pushing the issue. Yeah, I mean she already felt like

0:31:02.040 --> 0:31:03.640
<v Speaker 1>he was on some little creepy shit.

0:31:03.760 --> 0:31:08.720
<v Speaker 2>But just a vacation, Just a vacation.

0:31:09.480 --> 0:31:11.760
<v Speaker 1>Yes, and you are not invited, wifey, you stay at

0:31:11.800 --> 0:31:14.040
<v Speaker 1>home with the churn. But he put his wife in

0:31:14.120 --> 0:31:17.000
<v Speaker 1>coach child, and he was in first class with his

0:31:17.000 --> 0:31:19.240
<v Speaker 1>his nigga.

0:31:20.400 --> 0:31:22.320
<v Speaker 2>I mean, that happens. It happens.

0:31:23.720 --> 0:31:27.480
<v Speaker 1>I just I'm not signing up for anything like that. Like,

0:31:27.520 --> 0:31:30.520
<v Speaker 1>I can deal with a man wanting a woman or

0:31:30.640 --> 0:31:33.000
<v Speaker 1>cheating with women, but how do you compete when your

0:31:33.040 --> 0:31:36.160
<v Speaker 1>man is cheating with men? Like you can try to

0:31:36.200 --> 0:31:38.680
<v Speaker 1>do all the things, like you might try to introduce

0:31:38.760 --> 0:31:41.760
<v Speaker 1>anal sex. You know what I'm saying. Maybe he likes it.

0:31:42.960 --> 0:31:45.560
<v Speaker 1>Maybe he's like, could you imagine your man being the bottom,

0:31:45.640 --> 0:31:49.120
<v Speaker 1>dough dog, This is your husband and he's the bottom,

0:31:49.120 --> 0:31:52.920
<v Speaker 1>and that that's a whole nother level. Yeah, he's the

0:31:52.960 --> 0:31:55.040
<v Speaker 1>bottom for other men.

0:31:55.280 --> 0:31:59.280
<v Speaker 2>That's the thing. I You know, that would make me

0:31:59.640 --> 0:32:02.760
<v Speaker 2>a man because now you like me, If you're taking

0:32:02.840 --> 0:32:06.120
<v Speaker 2>dick like me, then now i'm you know, And I

0:32:06.160 --> 0:32:08.680
<v Speaker 2>don't want to offend anybody with that statement, because it's like,

0:32:08.920 --> 0:32:11.520
<v Speaker 2>I'm not a man if I take dick. I'm not

0:32:11.560 --> 0:32:13.600
<v Speaker 2>saying you're not a man if you take dick.

0:32:15.040 --> 0:32:19.720
<v Speaker 1>I'm not saying that. I'm just saying we both take dick.

0:32:19.840 --> 0:32:22.240
<v Speaker 2>So now I feel like me and you on a

0:32:22.320 --> 0:32:25.200
<v Speaker 2>more level playing field. You know what I'm saying? Is

0:32:25.240 --> 0:32:29.320
<v Speaker 2>that fair? Just I would emsculate him, I would.

0:32:29.400 --> 0:32:31.480
<v Speaker 1>I mean, it just depends on his demeanor, Like even

0:32:31.520 --> 0:32:35.440
<v Speaker 1>though he takes dick, he is not a masculine man.

0:32:36.600 --> 0:32:39.479
<v Speaker 2>If I find out my nigga took some dick. As

0:32:39.520 --> 0:32:40.640
<v Speaker 2>soon as we get into.

0:32:40.400 --> 0:32:47.040
<v Speaker 1>An argument, I thought you was working on that using

0:32:47.160 --> 0:32:49.840
<v Speaker 1>vulnerabilities against people.

0:32:50.720 --> 0:32:53.120
<v Speaker 2>Listen, that's just one of them. That's just gonna I'm

0:32:53.160 --> 0:32:55.320
<v Speaker 2>a like if I ever had that, that's an easy one,

0:32:55.800 --> 0:32:58.200
<v Speaker 2>right there for the take. It, it's right there for

0:32:58.280 --> 0:33:01.400
<v Speaker 2>the taking. I'm sorry that's fucked up, but it's true.

0:33:01.440 --> 0:33:04.239
<v Speaker 2>I'm being honest. So I couldn't do it.

0:33:04.320 --> 0:33:08.480
<v Speaker 1>Yeah, Yeah, and I would want I need a woman on,

0:33:08.680 --> 0:33:10.400
<v Speaker 1>Like I actually put a little kite out there to

0:33:10.400 --> 0:33:12.440
<v Speaker 1>see if anybody would bite to actually be able to

0:33:12.440 --> 0:33:15.360
<v Speaker 1>come on the show to talk about their their situation

0:33:15.480 --> 0:33:18.400
<v Speaker 1>and talk about you know, were you ever in a

0:33:18.440 --> 0:33:20.760
<v Speaker 1>relationship with a guy and he came out bisexual, or

0:33:20.800 --> 0:33:23.880
<v Speaker 1>did you knowingly engage in a relationship with somebody who

0:33:23.960 --> 0:33:27.959
<v Speaker 1>was honest and upfront with you about their sexuality and

0:33:28.000 --> 0:33:30.280
<v Speaker 1>you you know, maybe it was a great relationship, maybe

0:33:30.360 --> 0:33:33.600
<v Speaker 1>with other things that caused y'all not to be together anymore.

0:33:33.560 --> 0:33:35.520
<v Speaker 2>Or maybe they're still together, or you couldn't.

0:33:35.600 --> 0:33:39.360
<v Speaker 1>Actively be in it. Yeah, because I don't want I

0:33:39.360 --> 0:33:42.000
<v Speaker 1>don't believe that these people can't carry on healthy relationship,

0:33:42.400 --> 0:33:44.000
<v Speaker 1>you know what I'm saying, because we already know it's

0:33:44.040 --> 0:33:49.200
<v Speaker 1>a lot of heterosexual men with much I don't call

0:33:49.280 --> 0:33:51.840
<v Speaker 1>it mental illness, but a whole lot of gangshit be

0:33:51.880 --> 0:33:56.040
<v Speaker 1>going on their damn minds, all right. But I feel

0:33:56.040 --> 0:33:59.320
<v Speaker 1>like some of those men who act out on women,

0:34:00.040 --> 0:34:02.920
<v Speaker 1>maybe battling their sexuality. I feel like men who put

0:34:02.920 --> 0:34:07.120
<v Speaker 1>their hands on women are sometimes they just they like,

0:34:07.920 --> 0:34:10.960
<v Speaker 1>you know, pussy. They like sex with women, but they

0:34:10.960 --> 0:34:16.720
<v Speaker 1>don't necessarily like women, and they probably like prefer their homeboy.

0:34:16.760 --> 0:34:18.520
<v Speaker 2>Well that's the thing. That's what I was saying to

0:34:18.600 --> 0:34:24.120
<v Speaker 2>you yesterday, is like if vagina wasn't wet, I probably

0:34:24.120 --> 0:34:29.680
<v Speaker 2>would be a lesbian, Like because I trust the counsel

0:34:29.760 --> 0:34:33.439
<v Speaker 2>of women more. I feel safer with women. I feel

0:34:33.520 --> 0:34:38.440
<v Speaker 2>like my vulnerabilities are more safe with women as of

0:34:38.600 --> 0:34:40.759
<v Speaker 2>Like I just I haven't really met a lot of

0:34:40.800 --> 0:34:44.239
<v Speaker 2>men that I could trust with my vulnerable self to

0:34:44.360 --> 0:34:46.960
<v Speaker 2>care for my heart. Yeah, I don't feel like I

0:34:47.000 --> 0:34:48.640
<v Speaker 2>meet a lot of men that I can do that with.

0:34:49.040 --> 0:34:52.239
<v Speaker 2>Where I just feel safer around women, which is is

0:34:52.320 --> 0:34:56.040
<v Speaker 2>crazy because I should feel safeer around men, right, But

0:34:56.160 --> 0:34:56.719
<v Speaker 2>I just do.

0:34:57.160 --> 0:34:58.960
<v Speaker 1>But I just don't like titties.

0:34:58.640 --> 0:35:02.400
<v Speaker 2>Flapping all over the place and kuchie all went and stuff.

0:35:02.520 --> 0:35:02.719
<v Speaker 2>You know.

0:35:09.160 --> 0:35:10.920
<v Speaker 1>That's why I'm like, listen, I know I can't be

0:35:10.960 --> 0:35:13.200
<v Speaker 1>a lesbian because I don't like nothing moist. I don't

0:35:13.239 --> 0:35:17.400
<v Speaker 1>like nothing like OUI gooky, like it's an oyster. I

0:35:17.520 --> 0:35:19.920
<v Speaker 1>like oysters you know, I eat a whole bushel of them,

0:35:19.920 --> 0:35:24.040
<v Speaker 1>but I don't, that's what and weave between my legs

0:35:24.120 --> 0:35:27.359
<v Speaker 1>like I'm cool on that ship. It's just it's just

0:35:27.400 --> 0:35:29.600
<v Speaker 1>too much. And you know another thing, I don't know

0:35:29.840 --> 0:35:32.719
<v Speaker 1>a gay couple that doesn't fight. I'm talking about two

0:35:32.719 --> 0:35:40.319
<v Speaker 1>women because they it's very volatile period up and yeah, yeah,

0:35:40.520 --> 0:35:41.560
<v Speaker 1>like so I don't.

0:35:42.920 --> 0:35:45.880
<v Speaker 2>And then I'm work with a bitch than I am,

0:35:46.560 --> 0:35:49.880
<v Speaker 2>you know, a nigga.

0:35:49.080 --> 0:35:50.960
<v Speaker 1>And I feel like if a man pissed you off,

0:35:51.000 --> 0:35:53.400
<v Speaker 1>at least he can drop that dick on you, Okay,

0:35:53.440 --> 0:35:55.839
<v Speaker 1>at least he can like make you feel better that way.

0:35:55.920 --> 0:35:58.360
<v Speaker 1>Now this girl got to go get this goddamn plastic

0:35:59.040 --> 0:36:03.640
<v Speaker 1>bullshit that's bending in and it's like it's some woman

0:36:03.800 --> 0:36:09.680
<v Speaker 1>love that. How fun dick looked on here? That dick

0:36:09.760 --> 0:36:11.680
<v Speaker 1>she pulled out, that black aude at it. That dick

0:36:11.800 --> 0:36:14.440
<v Speaker 1>was from Filo, That dick came from.

0:36:16.440 --> 0:36:18.680
<v Speaker 3>Yeah, that cheap ass dick on head girl, If you're

0:36:18.680 --> 0:36:24.080
<v Speaker 3>gonna put that dick up, not a paper mache that

0:36:24.120 --> 0:36:26.880
<v Speaker 3>did came out the discount basket at the x X

0:36:26.960 --> 0:36:29.560
<v Speaker 3>sex Story.

0:36:31.840 --> 0:36:36.279
<v Speaker 1>Nothing appealing about that dick. I don't want it at

0:36:36.360 --> 0:36:39.560
<v Speaker 1>least you can get a nice warm penis after this

0:36:39.640 --> 0:36:41.480
<v Speaker 1>man pissed you off. Meanwhile, you're in the house with

0:36:41.520 --> 0:36:44.399
<v Speaker 1>this bitch. Y'all periods, Sun SYNCD up you mad about now?

0:36:44.480 --> 0:36:49.160
<v Speaker 1>Y'all fighting? Now DV charge is involved. Like that's what.

0:36:49.239 --> 0:36:51.480
<v Speaker 1>I don't know A couple that doesn't fight.

0:36:51.760 --> 0:36:53.080
<v Speaker 2>A gay couple that doesn't fight.

0:36:53.640 --> 0:36:56.640
<v Speaker 1>Yeah, the the women that I know, they be going

0:36:56.680 --> 0:36:56.920
<v Speaker 1>at it.

0:36:57.000 --> 0:36:59.959
<v Speaker 2>My sister, my older sister, is in a lesbian Mary

0:37:00.239 --> 0:37:02.279
<v Speaker 2>and they are like two little peas in the pot.

0:37:02.960 --> 0:37:06.239
<v Speaker 2>They ain't always been like that, though, but now it's

0:37:06.239 --> 0:37:10.040
<v Speaker 2>sickening how much they like each other. You FaceTime and

0:37:10.080 --> 0:37:12.480
<v Speaker 2>stay in there singing Whitney Houston together. I'm like, y'all,

0:37:12.520 --> 0:37:13.759
<v Speaker 2>bitch is wag, I'm about to go?

0:37:15.760 --> 0:37:16.040
<v Speaker 1>Is that?

0:37:16.080 --> 0:37:19.239
<v Speaker 2>Why? Is that why you want a girlfriend? I don't

0:37:19.239 --> 0:37:22.040
<v Speaker 2>want a girlfriend. I'm just saying, like, I just have

0:37:22.400 --> 0:37:26.719
<v Speaker 2>better relationships with women, but not I wouldn't want to

0:37:26.800 --> 0:37:29.600
<v Speaker 2>have an intimate relationship with a woman for real.

0:37:30.280 --> 0:37:34.120
<v Speaker 1>Yeah, because just yeah, because men, men are traumatizing. I

0:37:34.160 --> 0:37:37.440
<v Speaker 1>have been traumatized in every relationship I've been in. Yeah,

0:37:37.600 --> 0:37:41.479
<v Speaker 1>I don't. I don't have one relationship where I didn't.

0:37:41.600 --> 0:37:44.520
<v Speaker 1>It didn't change me, not for the better, you know

0:37:44.560 --> 0:37:48.360
<v Speaker 1>what I'm saying. Yeah, partially, you know you do, you know,

0:37:48.480 --> 0:37:50.520
<v Speaker 1>do things a little bit differently, But I do move

0:37:50.560 --> 0:37:52.879
<v Speaker 1>on to the next situation. Like I've never been hurt before.

0:37:52.880 --> 0:37:55.439
<v Speaker 1>I don't let it like hinder me. But it really

0:37:55.440 --> 0:37:57.120
<v Speaker 1>be some internal shit you gotta work out.

0:37:57.280 --> 0:37:59.239
<v Speaker 2>That's what about to say, Like some of the shit

0:37:59.320 --> 0:38:03.120
<v Speaker 2>you just carry you unknowingly, you know, like you carry

0:38:03.120 --> 0:38:05.920
<v Speaker 2>it with you and it affects how you well. Speaking

0:38:05.960 --> 0:38:08.359
<v Speaker 2>for me, it affects how I navigate in the next

0:38:08.360 --> 0:38:10.400
<v Speaker 2>relationship some of the things. So I do take it

0:38:10.440 --> 0:38:13.800
<v Speaker 2>with me sometime and hopefully, I mean, I've been single

0:38:13.840 --> 0:38:15.680
<v Speaker 2>for a minute now, so we'll see how this next

0:38:15.719 --> 0:38:18.480
<v Speaker 2>thing go. I think I'll be a lot better with

0:38:19.160 --> 0:38:21.520
<v Speaker 2>you know, I can be real spicy with my tongue,

0:38:22.080 --> 0:38:24.800
<v Speaker 2>but I've been trying to work on how I deliver

0:38:26.760 --> 0:38:28.440
<v Speaker 2>my assault rifle.

0:38:29.160 --> 0:38:31.080
<v Speaker 1>You just gotta get it. You just gotta get a

0:38:31.120 --> 0:38:33.440
<v Speaker 1>son of a bitch girl and they'll be okay with

0:38:33.480 --> 0:38:33.920
<v Speaker 1>your tongue.

0:38:34.000 --> 0:38:37.560
<v Speaker 2>No, I don't want that by saying, because you get

0:38:37.600 --> 0:38:39.120
<v Speaker 2>a son of a bitch, she was okay with a

0:38:39.200 --> 0:38:41.560
<v Speaker 2>tongue being spicy. His tongue might be spicy too, and

0:38:41.600 --> 0:38:44.319
<v Speaker 2>then we have kids and he telling our daughter good

0:38:44.400 --> 0:38:45.200
<v Speaker 2>down on your knees.

0:38:46.600 --> 0:38:50.160
<v Speaker 1>Oh shut up, I don't want no.

0:38:50.080 --> 0:38:51.040
<v Speaker 2>Man who's okay with that?

0:38:52.640 --> 0:38:58.080
<v Speaker 1>Yeah he's wild. Well, so I found this article on

0:38:58.600 --> 0:39:04.399
<v Speaker 1>very well Mind, verywellmind dot com on relationships. It says

0:39:04.400 --> 0:39:07.959
<v Speaker 1>how do you cope when your spouse comes out as gay?

0:39:08.480 --> 0:39:11.480
<v Speaker 1>So even on this website, they're not calling it bisexual,

0:39:11.560 --> 0:39:16.680
<v Speaker 1>They're just like he's gay. Right. It starts off by

0:39:16.719 --> 0:39:21.319
<v Speaker 1>saying people change. I don't think that's true. I think

0:39:21.480 --> 0:39:26.000
<v Speaker 1>in this particular situation, you already knew, you know, you

0:39:26.200 --> 0:39:29.359
<v Speaker 1>just didn't let it come out right. So I don't

0:39:29.400 --> 0:39:31.719
<v Speaker 1>think you could be forty years old and then just

0:39:31.920 --> 0:39:34.920
<v Speaker 1>change to gay or bisexual. This is something you probably

0:39:34.960 --> 0:39:38.000
<v Speaker 1>always wanted to experience, you probably had been experiencing. But

0:39:38.040 --> 0:39:41.640
<v Speaker 1>if you didn't experience it, you are doing it now, right,

0:39:42.840 --> 0:39:45.120
<v Speaker 1>So whatever, I don't think it was a change. Though

0:39:45.760 --> 0:39:46.560
<v Speaker 1>it says people.

0:39:46.400 --> 0:39:47.680
<v Speaker 2>Change, it's definitely a change.

0:39:48.320 --> 0:39:53.160
<v Speaker 1>If you it is a change already. That's a change

0:39:53.200 --> 0:40:03.080
<v Speaker 1>to me, Yo, big change. People take longer to find themselves.

0:40:03.400 --> 0:40:06.600
<v Speaker 1>Life will always throw you curveballs you never saw coming.

0:40:07.000 --> 0:40:10.200
<v Speaker 1>Finding out your partner is gay or queer is one

0:40:10.200 --> 0:40:13.720
<v Speaker 1>of those complicated situations that are both positive on certain

0:40:13.800 --> 0:40:18.800
<v Speaker 1>levels and devastating on others. It's a lot to unpack.

0:40:20.120 --> 0:40:22.799
<v Speaker 1>It says you may have had suspicions your partner was

0:40:22.880 --> 0:40:26.480
<v Speaker 1>somewhere on the Kinsey scale. I haven't looked that up

0:40:26.520 --> 0:40:29.120
<v Speaker 1>to see what a Kinsey scale is. It's probably like

0:40:29.200 --> 0:40:34.840
<v Speaker 1>the different sexual orientations. I guess it was. It says

0:40:35.520 --> 0:40:38.640
<v Speaker 1>right exactly said, lots of people are bisexual or by

0:40:38.760 --> 0:40:43.480
<v Speaker 1>curious and heterosexual relationships, and these relationships are so strong

0:40:44.200 --> 0:40:48.400
<v Speaker 1>lots of people. It's not until your partner tells you

0:40:48.480 --> 0:40:52.239
<v Speaker 1>directly that they are gay, as in they've realized that

0:40:52.320 --> 0:40:54.360
<v Speaker 1>they are more attracted to the same sex than the

0:40:54.400 --> 0:41:00.760
<v Speaker 1>opposite sex, that you may be facing a significant challenge. Okay,

0:41:00.800 --> 0:41:02.840
<v Speaker 1>so this is more talking. This is more so talking

0:41:03.080 --> 0:41:05.440
<v Speaker 1>like okay to a married and a woman is a

0:41:05.520 --> 0:41:08.359
<v Speaker 1>woman and man are married and the man says, hey,

0:41:09.160 --> 0:41:14.760
<v Speaker 1>I'm gay, Like, yeah, I'm with you, but I actually

0:41:14.840 --> 0:41:15.479
<v Speaker 1>prefer men.

0:41:17.440 --> 0:41:18.279
<v Speaker 2>What do you don't know?

0:41:18.320 --> 0:41:18.719
<v Speaker 1>What would you?

0:41:18.800 --> 0:41:22.600
<v Speaker 2>I don't know what to do with that? How did

0:41:22.600 --> 0:41:23.280
<v Speaker 2>we get here?

0:41:24.960 --> 0:41:27.799
<v Speaker 1>Yeah? Like what happened? Like? Were you being gay?

0:41:27.800 --> 0:41:33.200
<v Speaker 2>Tod? It's kind of like, uh, the Kardashian what's her name?

0:41:34.800 --> 0:41:35.640
<v Speaker 1>Oh, Chris Jenner?

0:41:35.719 --> 0:41:39.480
<v Speaker 2>Chris, Yeah, I mean, well, but he not gay because

0:41:39.480 --> 0:41:40.279
<v Speaker 2>he don't like men.

0:41:40.680 --> 0:41:44.680
<v Speaker 1>No, he's definitely gay. Yes, the guy, the excuse me,

0:41:44.760 --> 0:41:48.880
<v Speaker 1>the girl he was dating was a trans woman. It

0:41:48.960 --> 0:41:52.120
<v Speaker 1>was a young he was dating. Excuse me, say what

0:41:52.920 --> 0:42:00.439
<v Speaker 1>Caitlyn Jenner was dating a trans woman, which is technically like, yeah,

0:42:00.520 --> 0:42:01.960
<v Speaker 1>genetically a male. Yes.

0:42:02.760 --> 0:42:09.719
<v Speaker 2>Really, I thought he only dated women. No, I mean

0:42:10.000 --> 0:42:14.000
<v Speaker 2>she Excuse me, I thought, baby, this would be hard.

0:42:14.239 --> 0:42:19.360
<v Speaker 2>It's the whole I thought it. Okay, Formerly Bruce Caitlyn

0:42:20.480 --> 0:42:25.320
<v Speaker 2>dated women, so making her lesbian.

0:42:25.440 --> 0:42:28.000
<v Speaker 1>Bruce used to date women.

0:42:28.080 --> 0:42:31.000
<v Speaker 2>I thought Caitly men too.

0:42:31.000 --> 0:42:33.680
<v Speaker 1>No, Caitlyn was dating and you might have thought it

0:42:33.760 --> 0:42:39.520
<v Speaker 1>was a woman, but it was a trans woman. Oh okay. Yeah.

0:42:39.719 --> 0:42:41.640
<v Speaker 1>So the next part is the article says on finding

0:42:41.680 --> 0:42:44.279
<v Speaker 1>out your partner is gay, unless your spouse shares your

0:42:44.360 --> 0:42:47.080
<v Speaker 1>sexual orientation with you, there's no way to know for

0:42:47.160 --> 0:42:50.280
<v Speaker 1>sure if they are gay or queer. So call signs

0:42:50.320 --> 0:42:54.080
<v Speaker 1>like how your spouse talks, walks, dresses, or likes are

0:42:54.120 --> 0:42:58.920
<v Speaker 1>not indications of sexual orientation, nor are sexual preferences including

0:42:58.960 --> 0:43:03.399
<v Speaker 1>oil and anal sex. Rather than making assumptions. The best

0:43:03.440 --> 0:43:05.280
<v Speaker 1>way to know for sure is to have an open

0:43:05.320 --> 0:43:09.359
<v Speaker 1>dialogue with your spouse. You'd never want to directly out

0:43:09.440 --> 0:43:12.839
<v Speaker 1>your partner, It's okay to bring up observations you've had

0:43:12.920 --> 0:43:15.919
<v Speaker 1>about them while emphasizing your love and support for them

0:43:16.239 --> 0:43:20.680
<v Speaker 1>no matter what they say. If your partner isn't ready

0:43:20.719 --> 0:43:23.680
<v Speaker 1>to talk about it, accept that truth. They will come

0:43:23.719 --> 0:43:26.480
<v Speaker 1>out to you whenever the time is right. This experience

0:43:26.560 --> 0:43:29.840
<v Speaker 1>is just hard for them, if not more as it

0:43:29.880 --> 0:43:30.560
<v Speaker 1>is for you.

0:43:31.640 --> 0:43:35.880
<v Speaker 2>I yeah, that's got to be hard to tell someone,

0:43:36.440 --> 0:43:40.640
<v Speaker 2>especially if you're in a heterosexual relationship and then you

0:43:40.680 --> 0:43:43.279
<v Speaker 2>come out and say, hey, I don't want to be

0:43:43.400 --> 0:43:46.600
<v Speaker 2>heterosexual anymore. It's got to be hard, and you know,

0:43:47.239 --> 0:43:50.919
<v Speaker 2>I'm honestly quite brave to do that if you live

0:43:51.320 --> 0:43:55.879
<v Speaker 2>a heterosexual lifestyle forever, especially for a man. I think

0:43:55.920 --> 0:43:59.200
<v Speaker 2>for women it's a lot easier because.

0:43:59.040 --> 0:44:01.000
<v Speaker 1>Yeah, like that's the standard.

0:44:00.680 --> 0:44:04.239
<v Speaker 2>Right, Yeah, because if you tell your husband like more acceptable,

0:44:04.360 --> 0:44:07.840
<v Speaker 2>guess what, baby think I was so pissy? What do

0:44:07.920 --> 0:44:08.960
<v Speaker 2>you think he be?

0:44:09.040 --> 0:44:09.120
<v Speaker 3>Like?

0:44:09.320 --> 0:44:13.960
<v Speaker 4>Shit, me too babulous, you know, but not so much

0:44:13.960 --> 0:44:18.640
<v Speaker 4>to do it the other way around, Whereas if some

0:44:18.719 --> 0:44:20.640
<v Speaker 4>men not okay with that shit either, like they're not

0:44:20.640 --> 0:44:23.000
<v Speaker 4>okay with their girls sleeping with women all the time

0:44:23.040 --> 0:44:26.080
<v Speaker 4>without them, with or without them.

0:44:26.280 --> 0:44:30.319
<v Speaker 2>Like everybody not okay with that situation, right, But I

0:44:30.360 --> 0:44:33.400
<v Speaker 2>feel like it's more okay. It would be in the opposite.

0:44:34.320 --> 0:44:35.960
<v Speaker 1>Right, and in my fear would be like, you're in

0:44:35.960 --> 0:44:39.160
<v Speaker 1>a relationship with this bisexual man, like who was honest upfront,

0:44:39.239 --> 0:44:44.400
<v Speaker 1>told you you get into the thing, and then he

0:44:44.400 --> 0:44:48.440
<v Speaker 1>he tells you he wants a man. He then is

0:44:48.480 --> 0:44:51.279
<v Speaker 1>honest with you again, right and says it says, you know,

0:44:51.440 --> 0:44:53.719
<v Speaker 1>I want a man for a little bit. What do

0:44:53.800 --> 0:44:54.120
<v Speaker 1>you do?

0:44:55.719 --> 0:44:57.760
<v Speaker 2>I mean, if you was down with it from the beginning,

0:44:59.200 --> 0:45:01.480
<v Speaker 2>I don't see why you.

0:45:00.719 --> 0:45:03.200
<v Speaker 1>No, because you're not actively doing a thing, you know

0:45:03.200 --> 0:45:04.839
<v Speaker 1>what I'm saying. You just let me know that you

0:45:04.920 --> 0:45:07.640
<v Speaker 1>have done the thing before it Well, okay, I guess

0:45:07.640 --> 0:45:08.440
<v Speaker 1>that's actively.

0:45:09.000 --> 0:45:10.719
<v Speaker 2>I mean, if you're not okay with him being with

0:45:10.840 --> 0:45:14.960
<v Speaker 2>anybody outside of you, then okay. But if you're okay

0:45:15.000 --> 0:45:18.440
<v Speaker 2>with him like fucking a woman but not a man, well,

0:45:18.440 --> 0:45:20.680
<v Speaker 2>why'd you get with a bisexual man in the first place?

0:45:20.719 --> 0:45:22.719
<v Speaker 2>If you were only okay with him having sex with

0:45:22.760 --> 0:45:25.759
<v Speaker 2>a woman. You see what I'm saying, Like that don't

0:45:25.800 --> 0:45:26.239
<v Speaker 2>make sense.

0:45:28.320 --> 0:45:36.640
<v Speaker 1>Yeah, yes, wow. The article says, while while the following

0:45:36.680 --> 0:45:39.680
<v Speaker 1>signs may relate to your spouse's sexual orientation, they can

0:45:39.719 --> 0:45:42.760
<v Speaker 1>also be attributed to other problems in their life or

0:45:42.800 --> 0:45:47.359
<v Speaker 1>your marriage. You notice your spouse has lost interest in

0:45:47.440 --> 0:45:51.319
<v Speaker 1>sex or has trouble engaging in sex. Do you think

0:45:51.360 --> 0:45:53.640
<v Speaker 1>that's a that's a sign. I mean, that could be

0:45:53.719 --> 0:45:55.600
<v Speaker 1>a sign of cheating. It may not be a sign

0:45:55.680 --> 0:45:58.839
<v Speaker 1>that he's dealing with men, right, he might.

0:45:59.640 --> 0:46:01.800
<v Speaker 2>I mean, did you get fat? Did you get skinny?

0:46:01.920 --> 0:46:04.200
<v Speaker 2>Like somethingbody to change where he's just not said.

0:46:04.040 --> 0:46:06.320
<v Speaker 1>Y'all got y'all ain't got no money for the bills

0:46:06.560 --> 0:46:08.560
<v Speaker 1>like men stress about that type of shit too. I

0:46:08.640 --> 0:46:09.399
<v Speaker 1>don't want to have sex.

0:46:09.560 --> 0:46:11.480
<v Speaker 2>Yeah, I agree.

0:46:11.880 --> 0:46:14.960
<v Speaker 1>You notice your spouse has a sense of confusion about themselves.

0:46:15.000 --> 0:46:16.080
<v Speaker 1>I wonder what that looks like.

0:46:18.480 --> 0:46:20.719
<v Speaker 2>I don't know, like niggas trying to grow braids or

0:46:20.760 --> 0:46:22.719
<v Speaker 2>something out of nowhere, Like I don't know.

0:46:22.680 --> 0:46:24.800
<v Speaker 1>What a man weave.

0:46:26.480 --> 0:46:28.719
<v Speaker 2>I'm not against the man we'ves because some of these

0:46:28.760 --> 0:46:29.160
<v Speaker 2>niggas be.

0:46:29.280 --> 0:46:31.000
<v Speaker 1>You should be looking good, Yeah.

0:46:31.200 --> 0:46:33.560
<v Speaker 2>As long as you keep it up and it ain't

0:46:33.640 --> 0:46:35.160
<v Speaker 2>flapping off in the wind.

0:46:35.960 --> 0:46:37.319
<v Speaker 1>And don't be asking me to do it.

0:46:38.160 --> 0:46:40.560
<v Speaker 2>No, I'll tack your ship back down if it's coming up.

0:46:40.680 --> 0:46:41.560
<v Speaker 2>We got somewhere to be.

0:46:46.760 --> 0:46:49.759
<v Speaker 1>No, this is a big giant red flag. And I

0:46:49.960 --> 0:46:53.319
<v Speaker 1>actually have went in a nigga phone to see if

0:46:53.360 --> 0:46:57.960
<v Speaker 1>I see anything like that. Yes, you know thisice pops

0:46:58.000 --> 0:47:02.240
<v Speaker 1>pop ups of gay pornography or dating sites on their devices.

0:47:02.400 --> 0:47:06.520
<v Speaker 1>I've looked. I've looked through somebody's porn hub history before.

0:47:06.760 --> 0:47:09.719
<v Speaker 2>Have you I stay out of nigga's phones. I just

0:47:11.160 --> 0:47:13.560
<v Speaker 2>I don't ruin my own good day. I never.

0:47:14.480 --> 0:47:16.360
<v Speaker 1>I mean, I I don't either. But what I'm saying

0:47:16.400 --> 0:47:18.720
<v Speaker 1>is I have. And the thing is I am capable

0:47:18.760 --> 0:47:21.320
<v Speaker 1>of going through a nigga phone and never telling them.

0:47:21.800 --> 0:47:24.600
<v Speaker 1>Men can't. They can't go through your shit and not

0:47:24.840 --> 0:47:27.800
<v Speaker 1>address what they see. I can go through a man's

0:47:27.840 --> 0:47:30.719
<v Speaker 1>phone and never mention this not me because I am

0:47:30.800 --> 0:47:31.800
<v Speaker 1>choosing to be happy.

0:47:34.040 --> 0:47:36.399
<v Speaker 2>Me choosing to be happy is not going through that ship,

0:47:36.800 --> 0:47:39.400
<v Speaker 2>because if I go through it and I see something,

0:47:39.719 --> 0:47:42.000
<v Speaker 2>it's gonna show on my face. Even if I don't

0:47:42.000 --> 0:47:44.520
<v Speaker 2>say nothing like damn, what's wrong with you?

0:47:44.560 --> 0:47:49.200
<v Speaker 1>Nothing? It's over. It's over.

0:47:49.320 --> 0:47:51.319
<v Speaker 2>I'm just gonna I'm gonna turn up at some point.

0:47:51.680 --> 0:47:54.680
<v Speaker 2>So I just don't even look Stevie.

0:47:54.760 --> 0:47:57.120
<v Speaker 1>You know what I do. I turn up when you

0:47:57.160 --> 0:48:00.440
<v Speaker 1>turn up on me. I saved my ship for those days,

0:48:00.440 --> 0:48:02.840
<v Speaker 1>and that is toxic. Yeah, they're nothing.

0:48:03.800 --> 0:48:09.000
<v Speaker 2>Yes, it is my two pulling out us a joker cart.

0:48:09.600 --> 0:48:11.480
<v Speaker 1>And I took pictures of the ship. I got a

0:48:11.520 --> 0:48:14.920
<v Speaker 1>whole fucking folded for your ass. Okay, from ship from

0:48:14.960 --> 0:48:17.839
<v Speaker 1>your phone while you're trying to address some shit I did.

0:48:18.760 --> 0:48:19.560
<v Speaker 2>I'm saying something.

0:48:23.440 --> 0:48:25.840
<v Speaker 1>Here's another one. You notice a new group of friends

0:48:25.880 --> 0:48:28.919
<v Speaker 1>on their social media, many of whom are openly gay

0:48:29.040 --> 0:48:33.360
<v Speaker 1>or queer. Now I have definitely there is some guys

0:48:33.400 --> 0:48:36.120
<v Speaker 1>I know, and I've looked in there, like why are

0:48:36.120 --> 0:48:38.920
<v Speaker 1>you all these gay dudes following you? These are clearly

0:48:38.960 --> 0:48:41.680
<v Speaker 1>gay men, like they having spitos and shit like that

0:48:41.840 --> 0:48:45.520
<v Speaker 1>on on their page. Always got muscle, Always take a

0:48:45.560 --> 0:48:48.319
<v Speaker 1>pictures from the back, you know what I'm saying, Like

0:48:48.400 --> 0:48:50.640
<v Speaker 1>these are why why are you following these people?

0:48:50.880 --> 0:48:53.759
<v Speaker 2>If they're following Like, if someone's following you, you can't

0:48:53.800 --> 0:48:58.480
<v Speaker 2>really control. And I wouldn't say like, oh, especially if

0:48:58.480 --> 0:49:01.120
<v Speaker 2>my man is like popular or in some sort like

0:49:01.520 --> 0:49:03.719
<v Speaker 2>entertainer or something like that, and he got gay men

0:49:03.760 --> 0:49:05.799
<v Speaker 2>following them, I can't. I wouldn't be mad at that.

0:49:05.880 --> 0:49:08.320
<v Speaker 2>But if he's following a lot of gay men in return,

0:49:08.400 --> 0:49:11.680
<v Speaker 2>that ain't like friends that he grew up with or someone,

0:49:12.080 --> 0:49:15.759
<v Speaker 2>because I mean, you can't fast your nigga for like

0:49:15.840 --> 0:49:18.759
<v Speaker 2>growing his cousin gay. This is his first cousin, right,

0:49:18.800 --> 0:49:19.359
<v Speaker 2>you know, like.

0:49:19.400 --> 0:49:22.160
<v Speaker 1>What he's gonna do, right, they grew up together.

0:49:22.600 --> 0:49:25.879
<v Speaker 2>Yeah, that's that's my that's my guy, you know, either way,

0:49:26.760 --> 0:49:29.560
<v Speaker 2>But yeah, following a bunch of new gay people gay men,

0:49:30.960 --> 0:49:32.440
<v Speaker 2>it's wild. It's interesting.

0:49:34.560 --> 0:49:38.520
<v Speaker 1>So do mixed orientation relationships work? Mixed orientation couples are

0:49:38.560 --> 0:49:41.160
<v Speaker 1>those in which the partners do not share the same

0:49:41.200 --> 0:49:45.560
<v Speaker 1>sexual orientation. Examples of mixed orientation couples include partnerships in

0:49:45.600 --> 0:49:48.520
<v Speaker 1>which one partner is straight and the others not, but

0:49:48.600 --> 0:49:51.719
<v Speaker 1>could also include relationships in which one partner identifies as

0:49:51.760 --> 0:49:56.040
<v Speaker 1>a lesbian and the other identifies as bisexual. For example,

0:49:56.080 --> 0:50:00.480
<v Speaker 1>according to one study, there are up to two million

0:50:00.600 --> 0:50:03.680
<v Speaker 1>couples in which one member identifies as straight and the

0:50:03.719 --> 0:50:06.719
<v Speaker 1>other does not. Among these couples, when a gay or

0:50:06.840 --> 0:50:10.080
<v Speaker 1>lesbian or bisexual partner comes out, a third of the

0:50:10.120 --> 0:50:12.799
<v Speaker 1>couples break up. Immediately. Yeah, that would be me. I'm

0:50:12.800 --> 0:50:17.000
<v Speaker 1>out of there. Another third stay together for one to

0:50:17.080 --> 0:50:20.200
<v Speaker 1>two years and then split. The remaining third try to

0:50:20.200 --> 0:50:24.719
<v Speaker 1>make their marriages work. Of these, half of these half

0:50:24.760 --> 0:50:27.879
<v Speaker 1>split up while the other halfs stay together for three

0:50:27.960 --> 0:50:30.799
<v Speaker 1>or more years, so they try to work it out.

0:50:31.120 --> 0:50:34.080
<v Speaker 1>I just think that that is not something I think

0:50:34.160 --> 0:50:37.200
<v Speaker 1>that can be worked out. I think ultimately, people in

0:50:37.239 --> 0:50:42.960
<v Speaker 1>their relationships like you, Chris, Chris, Chris Jenner and Caitlin

0:50:43.160 --> 0:50:48.120
<v Speaker 1>like they are still friends. They're still friends. They like

0:50:48.239 --> 0:50:50.800
<v Speaker 1>I can't compete with that, and that's that's all I

0:50:50.840 --> 0:50:53.880
<v Speaker 1>could be with you is your friend that.

0:50:54.080 --> 0:50:58.200
<v Speaker 2>I'm trying to think Actually, let's say being Let's say

0:50:58.239 --> 0:51:02.320
<v Speaker 2>I get with someone tomorrow and here I am fifty

0:51:02.320 --> 0:51:07.080
<v Speaker 2>four now and he says, hey, I love you. I

0:51:07.120 --> 0:51:09.839
<v Speaker 2>don't want us to split up, but I have this

0:51:10.520 --> 0:51:14.600
<v Speaker 2>desire that I've never acted on, and we're getting older

0:51:15.640 --> 0:51:18.520
<v Speaker 2>and I just want to experience this. And he's done

0:51:18.560 --> 0:51:21.319
<v Speaker 2>all the things that he's loved me. Fully, would I

0:51:21.400 --> 0:51:24.080
<v Speaker 2>be able to just walk away because he wanted to

0:51:24.320 --> 0:51:32.279
<v Speaker 2>experience a man? Yes? I would. I thought about it

0:51:32.320 --> 0:51:35.319
<v Speaker 2>for a second. Yes I would, Yes, I would. And

0:51:35.360 --> 0:51:37.920
<v Speaker 2>I don't want like, I just listened to myself, and

0:51:38.800 --> 0:51:42.040
<v Speaker 2>I know I don't want any gay men or bisexual

0:51:42.080 --> 0:51:44.480
<v Speaker 2>men to be offended by what I'm saying, because it's

0:51:44.560 --> 0:51:48.920
<v Speaker 2>not a hatred, and we're allowed to have preference, and

0:51:48.960 --> 0:51:51.600
<v Speaker 2>it's not a judgment on anything y'all do. It's just

0:51:51.760 --> 0:51:57.000
<v Speaker 2>my preference on what I desire for my partner, and

0:51:57.080 --> 0:51:59.439
<v Speaker 2>I just don't want my partner to also enjoy dick.

0:52:00.120 --> 0:52:03.319
<v Speaker 2>That wrong, Absolutely not.

0:52:03.560 --> 0:52:05.799
<v Speaker 1>And I feel like if people would, you know, work

0:52:05.840 --> 0:52:09.480
<v Speaker 1>on themselves first before they get into relationships anyway, you know,

0:52:09.800 --> 0:52:12.319
<v Speaker 1>and you can come in the situation as your whole

0:52:12.360 --> 0:52:16.960
<v Speaker 1>self and give people all information upfront so they know

0:52:17.000 --> 0:52:19.440
<v Speaker 1>what they're dealing with, Like, give me the opportunity to

0:52:19.520 --> 0:52:22.560
<v Speaker 1>determine whether or not, you know, after I got all information, right,

0:52:22.920 --> 0:52:26.880
<v Speaker 1>I can make a sound decision based on this information.

0:52:26.920 --> 0:52:28.439
<v Speaker 1>But do not put my life in your hand.

0:52:28.520 --> 0:52:30.680
<v Speaker 2>What if you get with a nigga who don't want

0:52:30.680 --> 0:52:33.359
<v Speaker 2>to fuck with men, but he wants you to do

0:52:33.440 --> 0:52:39.160
<v Speaker 2>some seemingly homosexual things to him, like pagan or something

0:52:39.239 --> 0:52:39.600
<v Speaker 2>like that.

0:52:40.760 --> 0:52:43.040
<v Speaker 1>Some women like pagan men. I don't want a man

0:52:43.040 --> 0:52:46.279
<v Speaker 1>who likes getting pegged. I'm sorry, I'm not that but

0:52:46.320 --> 0:52:50.840
<v Speaker 1>that's not a kink of mine. Listen. I have definitely

0:52:50.880 --> 0:52:54.040
<v Speaker 1>put a finger in a couple butts, but if a

0:52:54.040 --> 0:52:56.520
<v Speaker 1>man actually wants me to strap up, I don't feel

0:52:56.520 --> 0:52:59.279
<v Speaker 1>comfortable doing that to him. I don't. And you know

0:52:59.360 --> 0:53:00.680
<v Speaker 1>I say this a lot, but I think there's a

0:53:00.719 --> 0:53:03.719
<v Speaker 1>lot more men that are gay in the mind than

0:53:04.440 --> 0:53:08.120
<v Speaker 1>have actually had sex with a man. Like they think

0:53:08.160 --> 0:53:11.200
<v Speaker 1>about it often, but they may never ever act on it.

0:53:11.640 --> 0:53:13.719
<v Speaker 1>Do you consider that I don't. I mean, you can't

0:53:13.719 --> 0:53:16.520
<v Speaker 1>consider them gay right because they've never actually engaged in

0:53:16.560 --> 0:53:19.120
<v Speaker 1>the act of But those could be the people that,

0:53:19.280 --> 0:53:21.360
<v Speaker 1>you know, fifty years old come out like, man, I

0:53:21.400 --> 0:53:22.120
<v Speaker 1>want to do it now.

0:53:22.760 --> 0:53:25.120
<v Speaker 2>What was that show, It's Black Mirror where they had

0:53:25.160 --> 0:53:27.800
<v Speaker 2>the episode of the two Homeboys. They had that virtual

0:53:27.880 --> 0:53:30.240
<v Speaker 2>reality game and they.

0:53:30.320 --> 0:53:33.120
<v Speaker 1>But it still was a woman in there. And remember

0:53:33.160 --> 0:53:36.960
<v Speaker 1>on the one scene they kiss to see if something

0:53:37.239 --> 0:53:39.600
<v Speaker 1>like the two actual men in reality kiss.

0:53:39.680 --> 0:53:41.600
<v Speaker 2>Yeah, And it was like right, and that ain't it?

0:53:41.960 --> 0:53:44.120
<v Speaker 2>They only wanted to have virtual Well.

0:53:43.880 --> 0:53:46.080
<v Speaker 1>One of them was like mm mmm, that ain't it.

0:53:47.040 --> 0:53:49.560
<v Speaker 2>I feel like both of them didn't really like each other.

0:53:50.040 --> 0:53:55.439
<v Speaker 1>The married guy was like that ain't it. The other guy,

0:53:55.480 --> 0:53:58.640
<v Speaker 1>I think he liked him in real life like two men,

0:53:59.000 --> 0:54:02.600
<v Speaker 1>because remember the the married guy was the male in

0:54:02.640 --> 0:54:06.759
<v Speaker 1>the virtual reality, his homeboy was the female. That's how

0:54:06.800 --> 0:54:07.840
<v Speaker 1>the whole shit started.

0:54:08.360 --> 0:54:10.799
<v Speaker 2>But they were having like the most the best, most

0:54:10.840 --> 0:54:15.799
<v Speaker 2>passionate experience virtually and in real life.

0:54:15.840 --> 0:54:16.279
<v Speaker 1>That's just.

0:54:17.920 --> 0:54:19.680
<v Speaker 2>And she let him do it once a year, like

0:54:19.760 --> 0:54:22.480
<v Speaker 2>and it was over like his birthday. He could log

0:54:22.520 --> 0:54:24.919
<v Speaker 2>into the game and knock his homeboy down.

0:54:26.440 --> 0:54:29.200
<v Speaker 1>So all year long, you just waiting for this, this

0:54:29.280 --> 0:54:33.200
<v Speaker 1>is your moment. And she boyfriend didn't have nobody, I mean,

0:54:33.200 --> 0:54:34.320
<v Speaker 1>the homeboy didn't happen.

0:54:34.200 --> 0:54:35.920
<v Speaker 2>And then she got to go out and sheet on

0:54:36.040 --> 0:54:40.040
<v Speaker 2>him though, like did she Yeah, she got to go

0:54:40.040 --> 0:54:42.680
<v Speaker 2>out and get real dick. So that was the trade off.

0:54:42.719 --> 0:54:45.120
<v Speaker 2>I didn't know that that was the trade off.

0:54:45.239 --> 0:54:46.680
<v Speaker 1>I didn't I miss that part.

0:54:47.480 --> 0:54:50.080
<v Speaker 2>That was the trade off. Which one is worse though,

0:54:50.120 --> 0:54:54.839
<v Speaker 2>because he's not even really sexually experiencing anybody. It's just

0:54:54.880 --> 0:54:58.799
<v Speaker 2>like a simulation where she really going to get knocked down,

0:55:01.680 --> 0:55:03.320
<v Speaker 2>which one is Uh.

0:55:04.080 --> 0:55:08.280
<v Speaker 1>I think that the virtual it's just it's that's really mental.

0:55:09.800 --> 0:55:11.320
<v Speaker 2>Yeah, it's really mental.

0:55:11.480 --> 0:55:14.960
<v Speaker 1>Like, yes, the dick live dick is is physical.

0:55:15.040 --> 0:55:18.000
<v Speaker 2>Yeah, I feel like you can't catch I ain't never

0:55:18.040 --> 0:55:20.799
<v Speaker 2>heard of AI std.

0:55:23.400 --> 0:55:25.640
<v Speaker 1>AI baby. It's a disease of the mind.

0:55:26.000 --> 0:55:28.600
<v Speaker 2>That's why it ain't no AI babies out there.

0:55:29.880 --> 0:55:38.360
<v Speaker 1>So there is ye'all all right, So we're about to

0:55:38.400 --> 0:55:41.160
<v Speaker 1>wrap this up. But this last little piece, it says

0:55:41.200 --> 0:55:42.920
<v Speaker 1>things to do and not to do, like, if you

0:55:42.960 --> 0:55:48.759
<v Speaker 1>find out your spouse or significant other wants to dave okay, uh,

0:55:48.880 --> 0:55:51.680
<v Speaker 1>decide what what what you both can and cannot live with.

0:55:51.840 --> 0:55:55.720
<v Speaker 1>I can't live with it. Accept that it takes both

0:55:55.719 --> 0:56:00.080
<v Speaker 1>of you to make a marriage just as do Just

0:56:00.160 --> 0:56:04.680
<v Speaker 1>as any situation where there is possible infidelity, get checked

0:56:04.680 --> 0:56:08.200
<v Speaker 1>immediately for sexually transmitted infections, rather or not your partner

0:56:08.200 --> 0:56:13.440
<v Speaker 1>admits to any sexual infidelity. Take care of yourself as

0:56:13.480 --> 0:56:16.320
<v Speaker 1>you go through the grieving process. Your relationship has changed,

0:56:16.960 --> 0:56:20.279
<v Speaker 1>try to accept the reality and move forward. And the

0:56:20.320 --> 0:56:22.839
<v Speaker 1>last one says, do be careful about how you tell

0:56:22.880 --> 0:56:25.960
<v Speaker 1>your children. You may need professional guidance to deal with this.

0:56:26.120 --> 0:56:29.400
<v Speaker 1>It's important for them to love, for them to feel

0:56:29.440 --> 0:56:32.759
<v Speaker 1>loved and secure, and to know they're not responsible for

0:56:32.800 --> 0:56:37.880
<v Speaker 1>the state of the marriage or relationship. And then it says,

0:56:38.120 --> 0:56:44.360
<v Speaker 1>don't isolate yourself, seek support or professional help. Don't assume

0:56:44.640 --> 0:56:48.240
<v Speaker 1>that your marriage is over. Some straight slash gay marriages

0:56:48.280 --> 0:56:51.960
<v Speaker 1>are happy unions. However, studies show that out of fifteen

0:56:52.000 --> 0:56:54.800
<v Speaker 1>percent of couples who try to make it work, only

0:56:54.960 --> 0:57:00.680
<v Speaker 1>about seven percent make it over the long term. Yourself

0:57:00.680 --> 0:57:03.920
<v Speaker 1>for turning your partner gay. No one can turn someone

0:57:04.400 --> 0:57:08.640
<v Speaker 1>else gay, and I think men blame that. I just

0:57:08.680 --> 0:57:12.239
<v Speaker 1>can't hear a man saying it's your you the reason

0:57:12.280 --> 0:57:14.879
<v Speaker 1>why I'm gay. I can hear that happening because even

0:57:14.880 --> 0:57:17.960
<v Speaker 1>when they dick stop working, they want to blame us, like, oh,

0:57:18.000 --> 0:57:20.400
<v Speaker 1>you're not arousing me no more. No, accept the fact

0:57:20.400 --> 0:57:23.240
<v Speaker 1>that you might possibly have ed and go get the help.

0:57:23.320 --> 0:57:27.040
<v Speaker 1>Don't blame your woman for the penis not working anymore,

0:57:27.080 --> 0:57:30.760
<v Speaker 1>like you're just not attracted to her anymore. Yeah, I

0:57:30.840 --> 0:57:38.520
<v Speaker 1>know that this has happened to really girl. Depending on

0:57:38.600 --> 0:57:41.200
<v Speaker 1>what type of person you're dealing with, nothing is ever.

0:57:41.080 --> 0:57:43.840
<v Speaker 2>Their fault, even they did nothing.

0:57:45.680 --> 0:57:48.959
<v Speaker 1>Exactly. Oh, it's your fault. I'm just not attracted to you.

0:57:48.960 --> 0:57:51.760
<v Speaker 2>No, you have ed, like, but maybe if it's getting

0:57:51.800 --> 0:57:53.919
<v Speaker 2>up with somebody else, then it might not. It might

0:57:53.960 --> 0:57:57.400
<v Speaker 2>be an issue between the twos. Well, it could be

0:57:57.560 --> 0:57:58.240
<v Speaker 2>very possible.

0:57:59.480 --> 0:58:01.960
<v Speaker 1>Anyway, you got a last last for this child.

0:58:04.200 --> 0:58:09.520
<v Speaker 2>Listen, if y'all don't want never mind, I just ain't

0:58:09.520 --> 0:58:11.800
<v Speaker 2>got time for the hate mail. I just ain't got

0:58:11.880 --> 0:58:16.479
<v Speaker 2>time for the hate mail. My last last is love

0:58:16.520 --> 0:58:20.120
<v Speaker 2>who you love. Love is a beautiful thing, and love

0:58:20.160 --> 0:58:23.479
<v Speaker 2>who you live. No, I ain't got time for that ship. Listen,

0:58:23.640 --> 0:58:27.360
<v Speaker 2>people be rinking me over the colds after I say something.

0:58:27.400 --> 0:58:30.400
<v Speaker 2>So I just love who you love. Used to love

0:58:30.440 --> 0:58:33.520
<v Speaker 2>who you love. Goddamn, I'm used to it.

0:58:33.600 --> 0:58:36.640
<v Speaker 1>So my last last would be not love who you love,

0:58:36.880 --> 0:58:41.440
<v Speaker 1>be yourself. So who is gonna love? You can find you.

0:58:42.000 --> 0:58:45.360
<v Speaker 1>There are women out here who are okay with bisexual men.

0:58:46.800 --> 0:58:50.560
<v Speaker 1>You see Kendrick g. She does her little dating show

0:58:50.600 --> 0:58:53.800
<v Speaker 1>on Instagram, And there's a lot of enough, specifically from

0:58:53.840 --> 0:58:57.280
<v Speaker 1>Atlanta in in DC area. There are a lot of

0:58:57.320 --> 0:59:00.960
<v Speaker 1>men who be honest, like I'm looking for a man

0:59:01.080 --> 0:59:03.600
<v Speaker 1>or a woman like I do both, or I used

0:59:03.640 --> 0:59:05.280
<v Speaker 1>to be with men and now I'm looking for a

0:59:05.320 --> 0:59:07.520
<v Speaker 1>woman now. My only thing is, don't come over here

0:59:07.600 --> 0:59:10.320
<v Speaker 1>trying to trauma dump the shit you've had going on

0:59:10.400 --> 0:59:13.200
<v Speaker 1>with these men into my womb, Like I got a

0:59:13.200 --> 0:59:13.800
<v Speaker 1>problem with that.

0:59:16.240 --> 0:59:18.960
<v Speaker 2>So basically, you saying love yourself and love who you love.

0:59:20.400 --> 0:59:23.880
<v Speaker 1>Yeah, love yourself, so no, love yourself so you can

0:59:23.920 --> 0:59:27.800
<v Speaker 1>be loved, is what I'm saying. So somebody can love

0:59:27.840 --> 0:59:31.680
<v Speaker 1>you holy exactly who you are. You gotta be honest

0:59:31.720 --> 0:59:34.080
<v Speaker 1>with yourself first. Don't come over here with that bullshit

0:59:36.440 --> 0:59:38.880
<v Speaker 1>and let me choose. Let the women choose, let the

0:59:38.880 --> 0:59:41.160
<v Speaker 1>men choose what they want to deal with. That's all,

0:59:41.320 --> 0:59:44.720
<v Speaker 1>you know. I just be honest with yourself. Yeah, find

0:59:45.200 --> 0:59:47.920
<v Speaker 1>some do some soul searching, and find some self awareness

0:59:48.120 --> 0:59:50.840
<v Speaker 1>before you start engaging with other human beings on any

0:59:50.920 --> 0:59:54.040
<v Speaker 1>level and any type of relationship and any sexual orientation. Right,

0:59:54.080 --> 0:59:55.680
<v Speaker 1>and if you love dick, figure out.

0:59:55.840 --> 0:59:58.800
<v Speaker 2>I don't care Tam love you anyway.

0:59:59.280 --> 1:00:01.800
<v Speaker 1>I don't not love people. I mean, but they it's

1:00:01.840 --> 1:00:04.800
<v Speaker 1>not like my it's not my job. You need to

1:00:04.840 --> 1:00:05.480
<v Speaker 1>love yourself.

1:00:06.120 --> 1:00:07.120
<v Speaker 2>I love people, Okay.

1:00:07.520 --> 1:00:09.680
<v Speaker 1>Me telling you I love you every day is knock

1:00:09.720 --> 1:00:11.000
<v Speaker 1>on to make you love yourself.

1:00:11.560 --> 1:00:14.280
<v Speaker 2>No, but some people don't hear it from nobody else,

1:00:14.560 --> 1:00:16.560
<v Speaker 2>so they get to hear from me if they listen

1:00:16.640 --> 1:00:18.000
<v Speaker 2>every week. That's how I feel like.

1:00:18.360 --> 1:00:24.880
<v Speaker 1>Yeah that yeah baby? All right, y'all listen if you

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