1 00:00:00,800 --> 00:00:03,840 Speaker 1: This is the Ben and Ashley I Almost Famous podcast 2 00:00:03,880 --> 00:00:04,720 Speaker 1: with on our radio. 3 00:00:05,680 --> 00:00:08,280 Speaker 2: Hey everybody, this is the Almost Famous podcast. And this 4 00:00:08,360 --> 00:00:12,440 Speaker 2: is an episode that just warms my heart, makes me excited, 5 00:00:12,560 --> 00:00:16,960 Speaker 2: makes me happy. It's a weird episode because when Almost 6 00:00:16,960 --> 00:00:20,720 Speaker 2: Famous started, you had two people in their twenties calling 7 00:00:20,760 --> 00:00:24,160 Speaker 2: each other on the phone, recording a show talking about 8 00:00:24,160 --> 00:00:27,120 Speaker 2: the Bachelor Bachelor at Bachelor in Paradise, not knowing what 9 00:00:27,200 --> 00:00:30,080 Speaker 2: in the world life would bring, and through ups and downs. 10 00:00:30,120 --> 00:00:33,080 Speaker 2: Now we're here today to celebrate Ashley and Jared as 11 00:00:33,080 --> 00:00:37,040 Speaker 2: they welcome their second child into the world. Ashley, welcome back. 12 00:00:37,760 --> 00:00:41,960 Speaker 3: Thank you. I feel great, I feel refreshed. I feel 13 00:00:42,000 --> 00:00:44,879 Speaker 3: like I can talk to you and breathe, which is 14 00:00:45,000 --> 00:00:45,800 Speaker 3: really awesome. 15 00:00:46,520 --> 00:00:48,960 Speaker 2: How quickly, so some of these are going to be 16 00:00:49,040 --> 00:00:50,920 Speaker 2: very naive questions about. 17 00:00:50,840 --> 00:00:52,720 Speaker 3: I love naive questions though. 18 00:00:52,920 --> 00:00:56,520 Speaker 2: How quickly did you do you start to feel, what 19 00:00:56,560 --> 00:00:58,960 Speaker 2: would do what you would consider like normal or back 20 00:00:58,960 --> 00:00:59,920 Speaker 2: to self again? 21 00:01:00,000 --> 00:01:03,960 Speaker 3: Staneously? No, I know I'm not like, I'm probably not 22 00:01:04,040 --> 00:01:06,199 Speaker 3: the norm when I say that, just because I don't 23 00:01:06,240 --> 00:01:08,520 Speaker 3: like pregnancy, you know, like I don't like the physical 24 00:01:08,520 --> 00:01:11,720 Speaker 3: feeling of pregnancy. So as soon as the kid comes out, 25 00:01:11,800 --> 00:01:17,240 Speaker 3: like I feel physically so much relief. And this time, 26 00:01:17,400 --> 00:01:22,720 Speaker 3: especially with the second there's a lot less healing, and 27 00:01:23,600 --> 00:01:25,399 Speaker 3: I just like was up and at it. Like the 28 00:01:25,440 --> 00:01:26,000 Speaker 3: next day. 29 00:01:26,680 --> 00:01:30,880 Speaker 2: You kind of mentioned before that you had been told 30 00:01:30,880 --> 00:01:32,840 Speaker 2: that the second time around was going to be so 31 00:01:32,959 --> 00:01:36,360 Speaker 2: much easier giving birth. You know, typically not everybody has 32 00:01:36,360 --> 00:01:39,319 Speaker 2: that experience. I understand that, but for the expectation from 33 00:01:39,319 --> 00:01:41,560 Speaker 2: the doctors was the second time around giving birth was 34 00:01:41,600 --> 00:01:43,399 Speaker 2: going to be so much easier than the first. Did 35 00:01:43,400 --> 00:01:44,400 Speaker 2: that end up being true? 36 00:01:44,800 --> 00:01:48,120 Speaker 3: It was so easy. I actually feel almost guilty talking 37 00:01:48,120 --> 00:01:51,480 Speaker 3: about it. Like Jared was like, let's just kind of 38 00:01:51,600 --> 00:01:54,200 Speaker 3: keep the ease of this private, okay. 39 00:01:54,480 --> 00:01:57,040 Speaker 2: It was like, I mean, but we got to celebrate, 40 00:01:57,160 --> 00:01:59,120 Speaker 2: you know, not again, not everybody has that story, but 41 00:01:59,120 --> 00:02:01,600 Speaker 2: we got to celebrate people's successes. And that's a succes. 42 00:02:01,680 --> 00:02:03,760 Speaker 2: I mean, that's a big thing that we want to say. Hey, 43 00:02:03,880 --> 00:02:06,200 Speaker 2: I'm happy for you that that was your experience. 44 00:02:06,480 --> 00:02:10,040 Speaker 3: Everyone deserves what I went through with this delivery. It 45 00:02:10,080 --> 00:02:13,880 Speaker 3: was awesome. I thought that Dawson's delivery was relatively you know, 46 00:02:14,080 --> 00:02:16,480 Speaker 3: I wouldn't call it easy, but it wasn't like traumatic 47 00:02:16,560 --> 00:02:20,880 Speaker 3: at all. Like I went into like the delivery month 48 00:02:20,960 --> 00:02:26,359 Speaker 3: with Hayden being like, oh, I'm not really scared of delivering, 49 00:02:26,560 --> 00:02:28,800 Speaker 3: because you know, with Dawson it was like eh, I 50 00:02:28,800 --> 00:02:31,200 Speaker 3: mean like I'm not looking forward to doing that again. 51 00:02:31,480 --> 00:02:37,120 Speaker 3: But it wasn't like awful, and this was just like, yeah, 52 00:02:37,280 --> 00:02:40,480 Speaker 3: I liked an induction with an epidural before I filled 53 00:02:40,520 --> 00:02:44,160 Speaker 3: into contractions, like truly, it didn't feel pain. It was 54 00:02:44,160 --> 00:02:45,680 Speaker 3: like despression was awesome. 55 00:02:46,240 --> 00:02:49,679 Speaker 2: Wow. Okay. So there's a couple of ways, because there's 56 00:02:49,680 --> 00:02:51,360 Speaker 2: so much to talk about. There's a couple of things 57 00:02:51,400 --> 00:02:54,240 Speaker 2: I think too, because I like to organize how I 58 00:02:54,280 --> 00:02:56,200 Speaker 2: want to go through this. Let's start with kind of 59 00:02:56,200 --> 00:02:59,200 Speaker 2: an open ended question for you and to tell our 60 00:02:59,240 --> 00:03:01,560 Speaker 2: audience and myself because I haven't heard any of this yet, 61 00:03:03,000 --> 00:03:06,320 Speaker 2: walk us through that day, that experience leading up to 62 00:03:06,720 --> 00:03:07,760 Speaker 2: the delivery of Hayden. 63 00:03:09,040 --> 00:03:12,160 Speaker 3: So I knew from I knew well. I had an 64 00:03:12,200 --> 00:03:16,960 Speaker 3: appointment to be induced at thirty nine weeks and that 65 00:03:17,120 --> 00:03:19,520 Speaker 3: was really it was like nothing medical. It's just that 66 00:03:19,600 --> 00:03:21,720 Speaker 3: like my OBI practice is kind of like if you 67 00:03:21,760 --> 00:03:23,560 Speaker 3: want to be induced at thirty nine weeks, we like 68 00:03:23,639 --> 00:03:27,040 Speaker 3: it because, like you know, it's a practice of a 69 00:03:27,160 --> 00:03:30,200 Speaker 3: number of doctors and they're like, we can be there 70 00:03:30,240 --> 00:03:32,560 Speaker 3: on the date. You know, your doctor can be there 71 00:03:32,600 --> 00:03:34,920 Speaker 3: on the date of your delivery. And like, I'm really 72 00:03:34,920 --> 00:03:38,800 Speaker 3: close to my midwife now and she's like the midwife 73 00:03:38,800 --> 00:03:40,880 Speaker 3: of the practice, and she's like, we can both be 74 00:03:41,000 --> 00:03:43,600 Speaker 3: there and it'll be just like kind of calm and 75 00:03:44,640 --> 00:03:48,880 Speaker 3: you know, just we'll give you an epidural before we 76 00:03:48,960 --> 00:03:52,320 Speaker 3: put potocin in and you'll barely really you don't really 77 00:03:52,320 --> 00:03:56,040 Speaker 3: have to feel the contractions. So I didn't even think 78 00:03:56,080 --> 00:03:57,840 Speaker 3: I was going to get to thirty nine weeks, like, 79 00:03:58,000 --> 00:03:59,920 Speaker 3: because Dawson was ten days early, and I just kind 80 00:03:59,920 --> 00:04:02,160 Speaker 3: of figure like, oh, if your first is ten days early, 81 00:04:02,600 --> 00:04:06,880 Speaker 3: you'll probably early be early for the second. But he 82 00:04:06,920 --> 00:04:09,080 Speaker 3: didn't come within a week of the due dates. So 83 00:04:10,000 --> 00:04:13,560 Speaker 3: we just kind of strolled into the hospital at their 84 00:04:13,640 --> 00:04:18,839 Speaker 3: early six am on Monday, two weeks ago from today's recording, 85 00:04:19,480 --> 00:04:24,000 Speaker 3: and that it was just like Jared was like it 86 00:04:24,040 --> 00:04:27,840 Speaker 3: was like a doctor's appointment, and then so he went 87 00:04:27,880 --> 00:04:30,040 Speaker 3: in at six am and then he was out at 88 00:04:30,080 --> 00:04:31,200 Speaker 3: two thirty. 89 00:04:31,960 --> 00:04:33,800 Speaker 2: And then you spent do you stay the night in 90 00:04:33,800 --> 00:04:34,839 Speaker 2: the hospital. 91 00:04:34,760 --> 00:04:37,200 Speaker 3: Yeah, so you have to stay for twenty four hours 92 00:04:37,200 --> 00:04:38,040 Speaker 3: after the baby's born. 93 00:04:38,400 --> 00:04:42,760 Speaker 2: Okay, what was it like for the two of you. 94 00:04:43,760 --> 00:04:46,000 Speaker 2: I've always been told that the birth of a child 95 00:04:46,120 --> 00:04:51,920 Speaker 2: is unlike any emotional experience that you can have when 96 00:04:51,960 --> 00:04:53,760 Speaker 2: it comes to looking at your baby for the first time. 97 00:04:54,560 --> 00:04:58,280 Speaker 2: Was there anything different seeing your second child born than 98 00:04:58,320 --> 00:05:00,920 Speaker 2: your first? Were the feelings the same kind of walk 99 00:05:01,000 --> 00:05:04,479 Speaker 2: us through the emotional journey? Then once Hayden was delivered. 100 00:05:04,640 --> 00:05:06,280 Speaker 3: Well, Jared and I are both like on the same 101 00:05:06,320 --> 00:05:08,760 Speaker 3: page where it's like when the baby actually comes out, 102 00:05:08,839 --> 00:05:12,120 Speaker 3: we're like not like completely overwhelmed with emotion like some 103 00:05:12,200 --> 00:05:15,320 Speaker 3: people like his mom is like I saw heaven when 104 00:05:15,400 --> 00:05:19,880 Speaker 3: Jared came out, and Jared and I both like, yeah right, 105 00:05:21,480 --> 00:05:24,720 Speaker 3: Jared and I both feel like our love grows for 106 00:05:24,800 --> 00:05:27,680 Speaker 3: the child, like you know, well every single day actually, 107 00:05:28,279 --> 00:05:32,440 Speaker 3: but we in that moment, it's when you it's the 108 00:05:32,560 --> 00:05:36,320 Speaker 3: slimy kids pulled out, and it's I don't, I don't 109 00:05:36,360 --> 00:05:40,560 Speaker 3: have this overwhelming sense of love produce both of us 110 00:05:40,680 --> 00:05:44,719 Speaker 3: straightforward to that. But like once you have hours to 111 00:05:44,839 --> 00:05:47,680 Speaker 3: like hold the baby in your arms, that's when it 112 00:05:47,720 --> 00:05:53,760 Speaker 3: gets more emotional. And I feel like with the second 113 00:05:54,200 --> 00:05:57,440 Speaker 3: we were just more comfortable. I was more comfortable with everything, 114 00:05:58,160 --> 00:06:00,840 Speaker 3: Like when Dawson came out, it was like, oh my god, 115 00:06:00,920 --> 00:06:03,840 Speaker 3: this a human just came out of my body and like, 116 00:06:03,960 --> 00:06:07,840 Speaker 3: I what. And then with Hayden, it was more like 117 00:06:08,800 --> 00:06:10,960 Speaker 3: they pulled him out and they gave him to me, 118 00:06:11,000 --> 00:06:13,120 Speaker 3: and I just felt like so much more comfortable with 119 00:06:13,200 --> 00:06:15,320 Speaker 3: him in my arms, and I was like, I know 120 00:06:15,320 --> 00:06:16,040 Speaker 3: what to do with you. 121 00:06:16,600 --> 00:06:19,760 Speaker 2: Yeah, You're like you're you're in it because you confident. 122 00:06:20,480 --> 00:06:23,720 Speaker 2: So yeah, it's you. Remember when you had Dawson. We 123 00:06:23,720 --> 00:06:25,840 Speaker 2: were doing the talk afterwards similar to this one, and 124 00:06:25,880 --> 00:06:28,400 Speaker 2: you said you don't remember life before Dawson, like, like 125 00:06:28,480 --> 00:06:31,039 Speaker 2: life before kind of is this blur now, like you 126 00:06:31,080 --> 00:06:34,440 Speaker 2: can remember it, but there's there's so much now new 127 00:06:35,200 --> 00:06:38,320 Speaker 2: in the world that, like Dawson has now feels like 128 00:06:38,360 --> 00:06:39,520 Speaker 2: it's been a part of your life. He's been a 129 00:06:39,560 --> 00:06:41,599 Speaker 2: part of your life forever. Is it the same feeling 130 00:06:41,600 --> 00:06:45,160 Speaker 2: with Hayden, Like, now you're two weeks in, does life 131 00:06:45,240 --> 00:06:46,360 Speaker 2: feel that much different? 132 00:06:47,760 --> 00:06:51,240 Speaker 3: Uh? Okay, So I think that I don't know how 133 00:06:51,279 --> 00:06:53,440 Speaker 3: life is going to feel once, Like we're away from 134 00:06:53,480 --> 00:06:55,880 Speaker 3: our village, so we're going back to Rhode Island and 135 00:06:55,920 --> 00:06:57,560 Speaker 3: it'll just be like the four of us for the 136 00:06:57,560 --> 00:07:01,400 Speaker 3: first time. This coming Friday. So I think we're a 137 00:07:01,440 --> 00:07:04,120 Speaker 3: little apprehensive about that because it's just gonna be like, wow, 138 00:07:04,240 --> 00:07:07,159 Speaker 3: like it's just the two of us and we have 139 00:07:07,320 --> 00:07:11,280 Speaker 3: two kids to you know, keep alive. But as like 140 00:07:11,320 --> 00:07:13,720 Speaker 3: to answer your what I mean, what I think you 141 00:07:13,760 --> 00:07:17,080 Speaker 3: mean by your question, Yeah, I think I have more 142 00:07:17,120 --> 00:07:18,920 Speaker 3: of like a memory of what it feels like to 143 00:07:18,920 --> 00:07:24,600 Speaker 3: not have hidden because you're like, oh, wow, we just 144 00:07:24,640 --> 00:07:26,760 Speaker 3: had to take care of one kid beforehand. That was 145 00:07:26,840 --> 00:07:28,200 Speaker 3: kind of easy. 146 00:07:28,560 --> 00:07:32,720 Speaker 2: Like what did we ever complain about it feel like 147 00:07:32,800 --> 00:07:34,560 Speaker 2: in comparison just having Dawson. 148 00:07:34,800 --> 00:07:38,640 Speaker 3: Yeah, but also because like my body is back to 149 00:07:38,720 --> 00:07:41,520 Speaker 3: feeling itself, so like I can run around with him 150 00:07:41,520 --> 00:07:43,800 Speaker 3: like I can. I'm not supposed to really lift him, 151 00:07:43,880 --> 00:07:46,320 Speaker 3: but like you know, I'm living. I would be go 152 00:07:46,680 --> 00:07:51,240 Speaker 3: out with him and feel like capable of caring for 153 00:07:51,360 --> 00:07:54,680 Speaker 3: him totally. And now I'm like, oh, you know, it's 154 00:07:54,720 --> 00:07:57,640 Speaker 3: easy taking care of a two and a half year old. 155 00:07:58,160 --> 00:08:01,840 Speaker 3: So I think that's like the biggest difference is realizing 156 00:08:02,040 --> 00:08:04,720 Speaker 3: just like the the load that we now have. 157 00:08:05,240 --> 00:08:06,800 Speaker 2: But right now you do have a village around you, 158 00:08:06,800 --> 00:08:08,920 Speaker 2: so you have a lot of help. You have multiple 159 00:08:08,960 --> 00:08:12,280 Speaker 2: eyes and hands at all times, but has it been 160 00:08:12,640 --> 00:08:16,200 Speaker 2: more difficult, even in two weeks having two children. 161 00:08:17,080 --> 00:08:20,000 Speaker 3: Probably just because the sleep thing. I mean, he has 162 00:08:20,040 --> 00:08:23,520 Speaker 3: been waking up every two hours. Yesterday I got a 163 00:08:23,560 --> 00:08:26,320 Speaker 3: stretch of two and a half hours, and I woke 164 00:08:26,400 --> 00:08:32,600 Speaker 3: up and I was like, okay, yeah, so I could tell. 165 00:08:32,640 --> 00:08:35,079 Speaker 3: I could tell immediately it had been more than two hours. 166 00:08:35,559 --> 00:08:37,880 Speaker 3: Look at the clock. Two and a half hours? Big whoopee? 167 00:08:38,280 --> 00:08:40,920 Speaker 2: Yeah? How much? Like how long will this last? 168 00:08:41,240 --> 00:08:46,000 Speaker 3: How long will this sleep last? Who knows? Uh. That's 169 00:08:46,040 --> 00:08:49,040 Speaker 3: what's weird is that you kind of forget certain things 170 00:08:49,120 --> 00:08:50,800 Speaker 3: about the first time, even though it was two and 171 00:08:50,840 --> 00:08:54,240 Speaker 3: a half years ago. I feel like Hayden might be 172 00:08:54,240 --> 00:08:57,920 Speaker 3: a little fussier than Dawson was as a newborn. Dawson 173 00:08:58,080 --> 00:09:01,240 Speaker 3: was extremely fussy as a baby, you know, when we 174 00:09:01,320 --> 00:09:03,880 Speaker 3: got out of like the three month phase and then 175 00:09:03,960 --> 00:09:08,559 Speaker 3: on and I was like, this kid is so hard, 176 00:09:09,000 --> 00:09:12,720 Speaker 3: so they may swap. Who knows. He's just been hungrier 177 00:09:12,800 --> 00:09:18,080 Speaker 3: than Dawson. And all I remember is that Dawson like 178 00:09:18,320 --> 00:09:22,200 Speaker 3: slept three to four hour stretches pretty early on, I 179 00:09:22,240 --> 00:09:24,679 Speaker 3: want to say, like within the second probably like in 180 00:09:24,720 --> 00:09:28,880 Speaker 3: his third week. So your fingers crossed. I think there's 181 00:09:28,880 --> 00:09:32,560 Speaker 3: a big difference between getting three straight hours and two, 182 00:09:32,960 --> 00:09:36,160 Speaker 3: because two is like did I did I sleep? Yeah? 183 00:09:36,320 --> 00:09:38,640 Speaker 2: You like as soon as your eyes closed and you 184 00:09:38,720 --> 00:09:41,160 Speaker 2: like get in a rim sleep, then you're wide awake again. 185 00:09:41,280 --> 00:09:51,240 Speaker 1: Yeah. 186 00:09:51,280 --> 00:09:52,800 Speaker 2: How did you come up with Hayden? Where did that 187 00:09:52,840 --> 00:09:53,280 Speaker 2: come from? 188 00:09:53,600 --> 00:09:55,240 Speaker 3: Okay, so it was a name on our list for 189 00:09:55,280 --> 00:09:58,320 Speaker 3: a while. I did an Instagram poll at like seven 190 00:09:58,360 --> 00:10:02,480 Speaker 3: months pregnant. It's like, guys, is it ridiculous if I do? 191 00:10:02,840 --> 00:10:08,320 Speaker 3: If we do Hayden Hayben because we both like Hayden 192 00:10:08,440 --> 00:10:10,160 Speaker 3: was like one of the few names that Jared and 193 00:10:10,200 --> 00:10:13,680 Speaker 3: I agreed on, and but then we put it with 194 00:10:13,679 --> 00:10:17,199 Speaker 3: the last name. We're like, is this so silly? And 195 00:10:17,240 --> 00:10:20,280 Speaker 3: then but it's kind of cool. It's either like such 196 00:10:20,280 --> 00:10:23,120 Speaker 3: a cool name or it's so silly. Oh you think 197 00:10:23,160 --> 00:10:23,600 Speaker 3: it's cool. 198 00:10:23,800 --> 00:10:26,880 Speaker 2: I think it's great. I think it's oh thank you. Yeah. 199 00:10:26,960 --> 00:10:31,640 Speaker 3: So well, I've only I've known of it from like 200 00:10:31,760 --> 00:10:34,199 Speaker 3: kids in school and stuff, but Jared has only known 201 00:10:34,240 --> 00:10:37,280 Speaker 3: of it from Hayden Christensen. And we've always joked that 202 00:10:37,360 --> 00:10:39,640 Speaker 3: like Jared would name like we would name the kid Anakin, 203 00:10:39,679 --> 00:10:41,560 Speaker 3: because I think Anakin is kind of a cool name, 204 00:10:41,559 --> 00:10:43,160 Speaker 3: but like we would never actually do it, but it's 205 00:10:43,240 --> 00:10:46,480 Speaker 3: kind of cool at the same time. And uh so 206 00:10:46,600 --> 00:10:49,439 Speaker 3: when we were joking about Anakin, Jared was like, well, 207 00:10:49,440 --> 00:10:52,040 Speaker 3: Hayden Christiansen like Hayden, and I was like, well, I 208 00:10:52,080 --> 00:10:54,920 Speaker 3: do like Hayden, So it's not after Hayten Christiensen, but 209 00:10:54,960 --> 00:10:58,800 Speaker 3: like it's sort of like inspired by. And then we 210 00:10:58,840 --> 00:11:01,200 Speaker 3: didn't have it really picked out until we were sitting 211 00:11:01,240 --> 00:11:03,760 Speaker 3: in the hospital room the day after or I guess 212 00:11:03,760 --> 00:11:07,120 Speaker 3: this was the night that he was born, and I 213 00:11:07,160 --> 00:11:09,760 Speaker 3: said to Jared, I was like, so, what name on 214 00:11:09,840 --> 00:11:13,080 Speaker 3: like our short list is your favorite? And he was 215 00:11:13,120 --> 00:11:15,120 Speaker 3: like Hayden and I was like, I think that one's 216 00:11:15,160 --> 00:11:18,120 Speaker 3: my favorite too. So then we're like, all right, screw 217 00:11:18,280 --> 00:11:21,280 Speaker 3: the illiteration, screw the fact that there's an alliteration and 218 00:11:21,280 --> 00:11:23,640 Speaker 3: people may make fun of it, but we like it. 219 00:11:25,080 --> 00:11:27,560 Speaker 2: So this was like, right up until delivery time, you 220 00:11:27,600 --> 00:11:29,160 Speaker 2: hadn't really decided. 221 00:11:29,200 --> 00:11:32,600 Speaker 3: Yeah, because first it was going to be Dominic, which 222 00:11:32,679 --> 00:11:35,240 Speaker 3: was after my dad and my grandfather and my grandpa. 223 00:11:35,320 --> 00:11:36,959 Speaker 3: But like, it's weird, why wouldn't you just go with 224 00:11:37,000 --> 00:11:42,559 Speaker 3: the family name. Well, because I kept saying, how many 225 00:11:42,640 --> 00:11:45,280 Speaker 3: how can I say Dominic, Dominic, Dominic, Dominic, Doug Dominic 226 00:11:45,320 --> 00:11:47,680 Speaker 3: all day long, you know what I mean. And my 227 00:11:47,920 --> 00:11:51,640 Speaker 3: dad has always gone by Jay, and whenever I would 228 00:11:51,640 --> 00:11:54,040 Speaker 3: say his name's gonna be Dominic, my dad felt no 229 00:11:54,320 --> 00:11:56,440 Speaker 3: emotion towards that. I was like, Dad, do you even 230 00:11:56,679 --> 00:11:58,439 Speaker 3: do you care? Do you like that? And He's like, 231 00:11:58,920 --> 00:12:00,839 Speaker 3: I don't know. I never had done with Dominica's have 232 00:12:00,880 --> 00:12:04,560 Speaker 3: always been j And then and my dad liked Hayden more. 233 00:12:05,360 --> 00:12:10,520 Speaker 3: And so then with my dad's neutrality on that and 234 00:12:10,640 --> 00:12:12,560 Speaker 3: then me just staying it over and over and over again, 235 00:12:12,600 --> 00:12:14,000 Speaker 3: I was like, Okay, so maybe it's not going to 236 00:12:14,040 --> 00:12:16,720 Speaker 3: be Dominic. And then we were like kind of thinking 237 00:12:16,720 --> 00:12:19,319 Speaker 3: it was going to be Dmitri, which is Dawson's middle name, 238 00:12:19,400 --> 00:12:22,160 Speaker 3: because it was like our second favorite name. Which my 239 00:12:22,360 --> 00:12:25,360 Speaker 3: advice to everybody out there, like I've said before, don't 240 00:12:25,480 --> 00:12:28,640 Speaker 3: name your first kid's middle name your second favorite name, 241 00:12:28,960 --> 00:12:30,360 Speaker 3: because then you won't be able to use it if 242 00:12:30,400 --> 00:12:34,199 Speaker 3: you have this same sex again, even though I think 243 00:12:34,720 --> 00:12:36,520 Speaker 3: I think I like Hayden more than Demitri, you know. 244 00:12:37,400 --> 00:12:38,800 Speaker 3: And then we went with Hayden. 245 00:12:38,920 --> 00:12:42,640 Speaker 2: Yeah, okay, so Hayden is then born. Hayden was the 246 00:12:42,760 --> 00:12:44,880 Speaker 2: name chosen kind of right up until the end and 247 00:12:44,960 --> 00:12:47,920 Speaker 2: then Dawson and the video is so sweet gets to 248 00:12:48,080 --> 00:12:51,280 Speaker 2: meet Hayden. What has the big brother reaction been like 249 00:12:51,440 --> 00:12:51,840 Speaker 2: so far? 250 00:12:52,800 --> 00:12:55,959 Speaker 3: Definitely the best part. My favorite part by far as 251 00:12:56,200 --> 00:13:01,199 Speaker 3: see has been seeing Dawson interact with Hayden. He immediately 252 00:13:01,440 --> 00:13:03,760 Speaker 3: kind of like understood. I thought I wasn't sure whether 253 00:13:03,840 --> 00:13:07,560 Speaker 3: he understood like little brother coming, and but he seemed 254 00:13:07,600 --> 00:13:12,160 Speaker 3: to get it. And he has been nothing but sweet, 255 00:13:12,320 --> 00:13:17,800 Speaker 3: like no jealousy, just so much interest, so much affection 256 00:13:17,960 --> 00:13:23,839 Speaker 3: toward him without even being prompted. He'll say, like, night night, baby, 257 00:13:24,120 --> 00:13:27,240 Speaker 3: I love you. It's so special. And then in the 258 00:13:27,360 --> 00:13:30,160 Speaker 3: morning he'll come into my room and he'll like look 259 00:13:30,240 --> 00:13:32,840 Speaker 3: in the snow, and if Hayden's not in the snow, 260 00:13:32,880 --> 00:13:35,599 Speaker 3: he's like, where's baby, And like he now knows that 261 00:13:35,720 --> 00:13:38,360 Speaker 3: like morning time is time to like snuggle with Hayden. 262 00:13:39,080 --> 00:13:41,400 Speaker 3: The thing that the only thing to worry about is 263 00:13:41,440 --> 00:13:43,199 Speaker 3: that like he wants to like just give him like 264 00:13:43,240 --> 00:13:45,040 Speaker 3: a bear hug and like throw all of his weight 265 00:13:45,120 --> 00:13:50,199 Speaker 3: on him. Besides that, it's just been so sweet and 266 00:13:50,280 --> 00:13:54,160 Speaker 3: he like pets his head is very adorable. 267 00:13:55,080 --> 00:13:59,839 Speaker 2: It has that been the most emotional part, Like just 268 00:14:00,320 --> 00:14:02,880 Speaker 2: watching him kind of adapt and react. 269 00:14:04,040 --> 00:14:08,160 Speaker 3: Yes, yesay, And I feel like Dawson has also grown 270 00:14:08,240 --> 00:14:12,120 Speaker 3: up so much in I don't know. I was just 271 00:14:12,440 --> 00:14:14,280 Speaker 3: the age that he's at at two and a half, 272 00:14:16,440 --> 00:14:19,760 Speaker 3: or it has to do with another kid being here, 273 00:14:19,840 --> 00:14:23,200 Speaker 3: but he just seems to have like really flourished the 274 00:14:23,280 --> 00:14:25,320 Speaker 3: past few weeks. And that's been emotional. 275 00:14:26,040 --> 00:14:29,160 Speaker 2: Oh that's awesome. Well he's stepping up, he's maturing. He 276 00:14:29,240 --> 00:14:31,160 Speaker 2: knows mom and Dad need a little help and he's 277 00:14:31,200 --> 00:14:35,520 Speaker 2: there to give it. I I mean, obviously Dawson has 278 00:14:35,600 --> 00:14:38,680 Speaker 2: been such a fun and cue and such a good 279 00:14:38,720 --> 00:14:41,960 Speaker 2: looking baby. Is there similarities now when you look at 280 00:14:42,000 --> 00:14:44,280 Speaker 2: them as newborns, like, do you think they're going to 281 00:14:44,320 --> 00:14:44,680 Speaker 2: look alike? 282 00:14:45,160 --> 00:14:46,680 Speaker 3: I think so. That was like one of the first 283 00:14:46,720 --> 00:14:48,880 Speaker 3: things that I said when he came out. I was like, 284 00:14:49,160 --> 00:14:53,960 Speaker 3: oh my god, thank god he looks like Dawson, because 285 00:14:54,000 --> 00:14:56,120 Speaker 3: I don't want, you know, I want them to look 286 00:14:56,240 --> 00:15:00,440 Speaker 3: similar because you know, the obvious Dawson's is so f cute. 287 00:15:01,200 --> 00:15:03,120 Speaker 3: But yeah, he looks like he's like the darker version 288 00:15:03,160 --> 00:15:04,960 Speaker 3: of him. I don't think he's gonna have blue eyes. 289 00:15:05,040 --> 00:15:07,760 Speaker 3: It's hard to tell with newborns, but they it seems 290 00:15:07,840 --> 00:15:11,480 Speaker 3: to be dark now and dark hair, but they have 291 00:15:11,720 --> 00:15:15,280 Speaker 3: very similar features, so I think that's kind of cute. 292 00:15:15,680 --> 00:15:17,040 Speaker 3: The ones lighter one's darker. 293 00:15:18,040 --> 00:15:20,880 Speaker 2: Well, before we kind of get into this next stage, 294 00:15:21,040 --> 00:15:24,240 Speaker 2: questions about what your dreams are, what kind of products 295 00:15:24,280 --> 00:15:25,480 Speaker 2: have come on in the last two and a half 296 00:15:25,560 --> 00:15:28,280 Speaker 2: years that maybe you would give advice to any listeners on. 297 00:15:28,760 --> 00:15:30,520 Speaker 2: Has there any been anything we've missed that you really 298 00:15:30,560 --> 00:15:33,960 Speaker 2: wanted to talk about when it comes to bringing Hayden 299 00:15:34,000 --> 00:15:34,640 Speaker 2: to the world. 300 00:15:35,000 --> 00:15:39,440 Speaker 3: Maybe just that, like Jared is so good with newborns, 301 00:15:39,520 --> 00:15:43,880 Speaker 3: and I'm truly like a little jealous, like he's I 302 00:15:44,000 --> 00:15:46,520 Speaker 3: feel like with the newborns, he's just like a better 303 00:15:46,640 --> 00:15:47,240 Speaker 3: parent than me. 304 00:15:48,080 --> 00:15:50,360 Speaker 2: He's just just crushing her right now. And he's around still, 305 00:15:50,640 --> 00:15:52,160 Speaker 2: he's still there with you, Okay. 306 00:15:53,360 --> 00:15:55,800 Speaker 3: Off the record, he had to go for the weekend, 307 00:15:55,880 --> 00:16:03,320 Speaker 3: but that's why, Yeah, he's so comfortable with them. I 308 00:16:03,480 --> 00:16:05,680 Speaker 3: feel like I might break them to like a certain point, 309 00:16:05,800 --> 00:16:10,160 Speaker 3: you know, and he just when it comes to just 310 00:16:10,800 --> 00:16:14,080 Speaker 3: loving on them and just caring for them, there's something 311 00:16:14,120 --> 00:16:17,240 Speaker 3: that just comes so much more naturally to Jared when 312 00:16:18,000 --> 00:16:20,240 Speaker 3: they hit a certain point, Like I feel like I 313 00:16:20,440 --> 00:16:23,760 Speaker 3: totally I click, you know, like it I think what's 314 00:16:23,840 --> 00:16:26,040 Speaker 3: nice to me and Jared is that like we each 315 00:16:26,240 --> 00:16:30,080 Speaker 3: have like our phases where we thrive, ages and stages 316 00:16:30,160 --> 00:16:30,520 Speaker 3: and stuff. 317 00:16:31,080 --> 00:16:32,320 Speaker 2: So he loves a newborn. 318 00:16:32,840 --> 00:16:35,040 Speaker 3: He's so he's just so good with them. And I 319 00:16:35,160 --> 00:16:38,080 Speaker 3: think he says it it's because like he had experience 320 00:16:38,120 --> 00:16:41,000 Speaker 3: when volunteering at the hospital and he would be with 321 00:16:41,720 --> 00:16:44,640 Speaker 3: little babies and like the nursery and stuff. I'm like, 322 00:16:44,760 --> 00:16:48,120 Speaker 3: that could be it, I guess, but I just I don't. 323 00:16:48,240 --> 00:16:50,680 Speaker 3: I've never other than our kids, like I don't ever 324 00:16:50,800 --> 00:16:52,400 Speaker 3: interact with neighbors. 325 00:16:53,240 --> 00:16:55,600 Speaker 2: I can't. I can't really say that. It's happened to 326 00:16:55,640 --> 00:16:56,680 Speaker 2: me many times in my life. 327 00:16:57,360 --> 00:16:59,640 Speaker 3: Yeah, they're just at the first couple of weeks, they 328 00:16:59,680 --> 00:17:02,560 Speaker 3: just seem I'm so fragile, and I'm like, I feel 329 00:17:02,560 --> 00:17:10,639 Speaker 3: like changing your diaper is just like I can break you. 330 00:17:11,240 --> 00:17:14,240 Speaker 2: Yeah, scary. Yeah, We'll keep getting updates. Right, you're two 331 00:17:14,240 --> 00:17:17,560 Speaker 2: weeks out, you're fresh, You're you're in survival mode, but 332 00:17:17,720 --> 00:17:20,400 Speaker 2: you are thriving. So two and a half years since 333 00:17:20,480 --> 00:17:24,760 Speaker 2: you had Dawson. Well, is there anything new out there 334 00:17:25,000 --> 00:17:28,679 Speaker 2: or anything you've learned about this process that for anybody 335 00:17:28,760 --> 00:17:31,080 Speaker 2: listening who's maybe on their way to have a baby 336 00:17:31,320 --> 00:17:33,240 Speaker 2: that you would recommend, that you've learned. 337 00:17:34,000 --> 00:17:36,640 Speaker 3: That I've learned like products to deal. 338 00:17:37,680 --> 00:17:39,440 Speaker 2: Oh, I mean yeah everything. 339 00:17:39,760 --> 00:17:41,840 Speaker 3: So I mean my thing that I posted on Instagram 340 00:17:41,920 --> 00:17:44,440 Speaker 3: yesterday is that you know, we're formula fitting again, and 341 00:17:45,000 --> 00:17:47,760 Speaker 3: for me, I think it's really good. I just thrive, 342 00:17:47,960 --> 00:17:52,800 Speaker 3: have my body back to being my own. But we 343 00:17:53,000 --> 00:17:55,840 Speaker 3: have this thing called the baby. I think the pronounced Bariza, 344 00:17:55,920 --> 00:17:58,720 Speaker 3: even though I call it Bariza, So it's like a 345 00:17:58,840 --> 00:18:01,960 Speaker 3: curing for formula. And with Dawson, we kept it in 346 00:18:02,040 --> 00:18:03,879 Speaker 3: the kitchen. I don't know, you just think like, oh, 347 00:18:03,920 --> 00:18:07,679 Speaker 3: you make bottles in the kitchen. Well, what's really smart 348 00:18:07,960 --> 00:18:10,040 Speaker 3: is that if you bring it up to your night 349 00:18:10,160 --> 00:18:12,920 Speaker 3: stand at night and you line it up with like 350 00:18:13,160 --> 00:18:16,479 Speaker 3: six clean balls and you don't have to get out 351 00:18:16,520 --> 00:18:19,399 Speaker 3: of bed when the kid wakes up and it's hungry. 352 00:18:19,720 --> 00:18:21,000 Speaker 3: So I stay in bed all night long. 353 00:18:21,960 --> 00:18:22,800 Speaker 2: And that's been helpful. 354 00:18:23,280 --> 00:18:27,159 Speaker 3: Yes, it's been very good. And what's interesting is that 355 00:18:27,400 --> 00:18:30,200 Speaker 3: like what one kid likes, the other one may not. 356 00:18:31,760 --> 00:18:38,760 Speaker 3: Dawson loved his swings, his Mama Roo, the greyco Swing, 357 00:18:39,720 --> 00:18:42,720 Speaker 3: and then Hayden likes his little vibrating chair. 358 00:18:43,480 --> 00:18:50,119 Speaker 4: So anything else like yeah, this time I've also like 359 00:18:50,240 --> 00:18:52,960 Speaker 4: kept like a basket of like all the necessities like 360 00:18:53,119 --> 00:18:57,200 Speaker 4: by our side, like diapers, wipes, bottles, and I always 361 00:18:57,240 --> 00:18:59,240 Speaker 4: have it like near us and it can go up and. 362 00:18:59,280 --> 00:19:03,840 Speaker 3: Down the stairs. And then I would just say overall, 363 00:19:05,600 --> 00:19:07,440 Speaker 3: I think I've said this before on the podcast, but 364 00:19:07,600 --> 00:19:11,760 Speaker 3: like just don't worry so much about like preparing, because 365 00:19:12,600 --> 00:19:15,159 Speaker 3: you will figure it out and it will come to 366 00:19:15,320 --> 00:19:23,440 Speaker 3: you regular, relatively naturally. Just the whole baby thing. You know, 367 00:19:24,160 --> 00:19:27,480 Speaker 3: it's just like at first they eat, they sleep, you 368 00:19:27,600 --> 00:19:31,760 Speaker 3: have to burp them. Burping is probably burping is you 369 00:19:31,840 --> 00:19:35,000 Speaker 3: know early on burping is kind of a challenge. It's 370 00:19:35,040 --> 00:19:37,639 Speaker 3: something you forget about because you feel like if they 371 00:19:37,720 --> 00:19:39,440 Speaker 3: eat and then they don't burp, but you didn't do 372 00:19:39,520 --> 00:19:43,600 Speaker 3: something right. But that's like kind of what it is 373 00:19:43,680 --> 00:19:47,000 Speaker 3: at first, so and then like it and then it 374 00:19:47,119 --> 00:19:51,520 Speaker 3: just grows into something else. But everything is so gradual 375 00:19:51,760 --> 00:19:53,920 Speaker 3: that you don't even see it in front of your eyes. 376 00:19:54,040 --> 00:19:55,639 Speaker 3: And then all of a sudden they're two and a 377 00:19:55,680 --> 00:19:57,480 Speaker 3: half and you're like, how did you get to be 378 00:19:57,600 --> 00:20:04,360 Speaker 3: so independent? You can't figure it out? What it's that gradual? 379 00:20:05,720 --> 00:20:10,040 Speaker 2: So great, Well, we all here have been anxiously awaiting 380 00:20:10,080 --> 00:20:13,520 Speaker 2: your return, to hear about the experience, to hear about Hayden, 381 00:20:14,080 --> 00:20:16,680 Speaker 2: and kind of do this introduction into the world. We 382 00:20:16,760 --> 00:20:19,119 Speaker 2: can't wait to hear all the stories that are going 383 00:20:19,160 --> 00:20:22,560 Speaker 2: to come from raising Dawson and Hayden over the next 384 00:20:22,760 --> 00:20:27,240 Speaker 2: many many years. But for now, well done, good job. 385 00:20:27,400 --> 00:20:30,960 Speaker 2: Tell Jared's the same thing. Keep crushing it, and we're 386 00:20:30,960 --> 00:20:31,640 Speaker 2: happy you're back. 387 00:20:32,080 --> 00:20:34,560 Speaker 3: Thank you. I'm so I'm happy to be back. I'm 388 00:20:34,560 --> 00:20:38,760 Speaker 3: happy to feel good, so fortunate to feel just like 389 00:20:39,359 --> 00:20:43,520 Speaker 3: kind of ready to go back to regular life. And yeah, 390 00:20:43,600 --> 00:20:47,240 Speaker 3: he's a cute little baby boy. He's so sweet. I 391 00:20:47,320 --> 00:20:48,320 Speaker 3: can't wait for you to meet him. 392 00:20:48,840 --> 00:20:50,880 Speaker 2: I can't wait either. It's going to happen soon. Well 393 00:20:52,000 --> 00:20:55,280 Speaker 2: until next time, which this week, we are going to 394 00:20:55,320 --> 00:20:56,600 Speaker 2: have a lot of next times. We have a lot 395 00:20:56,640 --> 00:21:00,200 Speaker 2: of content coming your way. But Ashley is ba act 396 00:21:00,240 --> 00:21:03,480 Speaker 2: with us. Rachel did a tremendous job. While she. 397 00:21:05,640 --> 00:21:07,840 Speaker 3: Did a great job, she did so well. 398 00:21:08,920 --> 00:21:11,640 Speaker 2: But we did miss you, and so until next time. 399 00:21:12,080 --> 00:21:13,600 Speaker 2: I've been Ben Nationally. 400 00:21:14,080 --> 00:21:14,320 Speaker 3: Bye. 401 00:21:16,320 --> 00:21:19,240 Speaker 1: Follow the Ben and Ashley I Almost Famous podcast on 402 00:21:19,320 --> 00:21:22,480 Speaker 1: iHeartRadio or subscribe wherever you listen to podcasts.