WEBVTT - Ep168: I See Titties Ft Van Lathan

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<v Speaker 1>Hi or Hive. Before we begin this week's episode, I

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<v Speaker 1>Once we know that we're gonna be able to go

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<v Speaker 1>back on tour again, we will go ahead and make

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<v Speaker 1>the announcement as we have all the time before our

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<v Speaker 1>live shows. And just know, for those of you who

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<v Speaker 1>wanted to let you guys know that I know a

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<v Speaker 1>lot of you guys have been hitting us up and

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<v Speaker 1>felt that we didn't answer. However, once again, these shows

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<v Speaker 1>were not really put on by us, so we had

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<v Speaker 1>to wait for a ticketmaster to make moves. So for

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<v Speaker 1>all of those who bought tickets, we highly, highly, highly

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<v Speaker 1>and greatly appreciate you doing so. But just so you know,

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<v Speaker 1>you guys are getting that refund and we'll be back

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<v Speaker 1>live and add it as soon as we can. Um,

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<v Speaker 1>So I wanted to let that be known before we

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<v Speaker 1>start this week's episode. Now let's get on with the show.

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<v Speaker 1>Hey guys, welcome, What did it do? Motherfuck? Guys? Welcome

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<v Speaker 1>to another episode of Horrible Decisions. This is your girl. Actually,

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<v Speaker 1>I want to be someone new this week. Finally finished

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<v Speaker 1>the ten episode MJ doc and I'm gonna be Carmen

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<v Speaker 1>Electra for this episode because she's a fucking goat and

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<v Speaker 1>I want the documentary on her whole phase. So this

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<v Speaker 1>is your girl, Carmen Electra a k A Peg the

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<v Speaker 1>Stallion a k A Me de Baskins a k A

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<v Speaker 1>that bitch. I'll get Denise Rodman because Jannis Rodman is me,

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<v Speaker 1>my nigga. I don't give a funk about the job

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<v Speaker 1>when I lead it, so I definitely watched all of

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<v Speaker 1>that ship too, And you guys know I don't give

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<v Speaker 1>a funk about sports. I don't even think you need

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<v Speaker 1>to know me to know, I don't give a funk,

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<v Speaker 1>but that ship was t now. I loved it. And

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<v Speaker 1>this is not a sports podcast for those of you

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<v Speaker 1>who are tuning in for the first time, because I

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<v Speaker 1>know we may have some new listeners because we have

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<v Speaker 1>the motherfucking voice of the culture, the motherfucking I said

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<v Speaker 1>what our motherfucker's said, and I stand for everything black.

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<v Speaker 1>We finally have Van Leathan. I didn't know how he

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<v Speaker 1>was really gonna ent you because you kind of got

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<v Speaker 1>your own job. Now we can't say where your work,

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<v Speaker 1>So we have Van Lethan on today's podcast. Go ahead, man,

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<v Speaker 1>what how y'all doing? Man? Look, I've had each of

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<v Speaker 1>these ladies on my podcast. Um, I can say you

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<v Speaker 1>ought to be great friends. I love this fucking podcast

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<v Speaker 1>I always have, so I'm happy to be here. Man.

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<v Speaker 1>I'm happy too that it took a fucking pandemic to

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<v Speaker 1>get your ass on the show. Bro Bro, y'all had

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<v Speaker 1>to go to Joe Buttons fucking pool party then the

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<v Speaker 1>one time because we always wanted to do the episode

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<v Speaker 1>with you together. We felt like you would be someone

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<v Speaker 1>fun because we're all friends. So it was like, okay,

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<v Speaker 1>one of us is out of town. It's not gonna work.

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<v Speaker 1>We'll look at us now all together, all in separate

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<v Speaker 1>motherfucking locations because the world is ending, so that don't

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<v Speaker 1>say that. Honestly, I ain't gonna hold you. So I

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<v Speaker 1>wanted to start off this UM episode. I know that

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<v Speaker 1>Weezy and I in the beginning of this, I guess pandemic.

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<v Speaker 1>Wey was like, all we hear is about coronavirus. We

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<v Speaker 1>gotta keep the conversation away from coronavirus. But I think

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<v Speaker 1>that this has now become kind of a new norm.

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<v Speaker 1>I would say, UM, and we're all in different locations,

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<v Speaker 1>So I just kind of even wanted to talk to

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<v Speaker 1>you Van and see how it has kind of affected you,

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<v Speaker 1>not only for UM the worst, because it's kind of

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<v Speaker 1>affected us all a little negatively. I wanted to kind

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<v Speaker 1>of know in a positive way what you've taken from

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<v Speaker 1>what's been going on. UM. It's difficult, Like in a

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<v Speaker 1>positive way, I guess I've learned again about my own

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<v Speaker 1>resilience because unlike a lot of other people who were

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<v Speaker 1>able to deal with this, I had a complete fucking

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<v Speaker 1>nervous breakdown, like one UM with my anxiety. Everyone says, oh,

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<v Speaker 1>I have anxiety and I'm not saying that people don't.

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<v Speaker 1>We all do to a degree. Mine is completely crippling.

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<v Speaker 1>It is Uh, It's like it decimates like it came

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<v Speaker 1>from I'm scared. I'm taking my temperature fifteen times a day, UM,

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<v Speaker 1>reading everything, I'm getting into everything, I'm all fucked up.

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<v Speaker 1>Then it goes into I'm so stressed out that I'm

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<v Speaker 1>having a hard palpitations. Then I can scare of the

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<v Speaker 1>hard palpitations, and then I can't sleep. I think I

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<v Speaker 1>went three weeks with about thirty minutes asleep per night.

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<v Speaker 1>I mean, I'm not gonna lie. I don't think we've

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<v Speaker 1>talked about it. I know I've joked about, you know,

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<v Speaker 1>being sexless, being dickless, not going on dates, and we've

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<v Speaker 1>definitely brought up how this pandemic has affected us with

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<v Speaker 1>dating and sex and partners UM. But I don't think

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<v Speaker 1>we've talked about much of the mental health and even UM.

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<v Speaker 1>I started to run a report UM kind of just

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<v Speaker 1>to work on speaking by myself and also editing audio.

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<v Speaker 1>But then, like I was speaking to my mom and

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<v Speaker 1>I went into kind of like a manic phase myself.

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<v Speaker 1>I was on the phone with my mom after grocery

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<v Speaker 1>shopping one day and I was like, so, yeah, I'm

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<v Speaker 1>gonna get this. I'm gonna get this, and she just

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<v Speaker 1>like said, she was like, calm down, you sound really manic.

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<v Speaker 1>She was like, I'm so glad you have body there

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<v Speaker 1>because I really am an extrovert and I'm feeling now

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<v Speaker 1>like fuck, I'm not around people and it's affecting me.

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<v Speaker 1>I mean, um, my friend is staying with me for

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<v Speaker 1>a couple of months now, so that's gonna relieve kind

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<v Speaker 1>of just the need to be with human interaction. But yeah,

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<v Speaker 1>we definitely haven't talked about how this whole thing has

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<v Speaker 1>affected our mental health along with sex and our jobs. Um,

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<v Speaker 1>we easy mentally has this affected you? Have you felt

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<v Speaker 1>anything with depression or anxiety or you know, being around

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<v Speaker 1>other people? I think we were both really like extroverted

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<v Speaker 1>people that liked being outside. In the beginning. It did,

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<v Speaker 1>but I adapted pretty well. Like I mean I was

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<v Speaker 1>crying a lot, not like don't already cry a lot,

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<v Speaker 1>but like just spurts of like going to a grocery

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<v Speaker 1>source seeing all the masks and being like, oh wow,

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<v Speaker 1>life is over. Like just um getting depressed about people

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<v Speaker 1>I know who have gotten coronavirus and not understanding because

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<v Speaker 1>I think in the beginning I just felt like if

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<v Speaker 1>you get it, you die, and that was really terrifying,

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<v Speaker 1>much like a cancer right, like survival rate with cancer.

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<v Speaker 1>When you it feels like a death sentence. But the

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<v Speaker 1>more that I'm becoming eligible and how to take care

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<v Speaker 1>of my body and getting healthier, I'm not as word um.

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<v Speaker 1>Also like I've done a lot of goal setting and

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<v Speaker 1>a lot of things that have pulled me out of

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<v Speaker 1>feeling depressed. Like I put things on the schedule, which

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<v Speaker 1>I know everybody says to do that, so I feel

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<v Speaker 1>like that part is annoying too. I'm so sick of

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<v Speaker 1>people telling me, oh, dude's doing with your friends, fay

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<v Speaker 1>time with your friends and get your calendar busy, but

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<v Speaker 1>like you just actually have to do it and you'd

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<v Speaker 1>be I I know more about talks now that I

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<v Speaker 1>ever have in my fucking life. I actually don't watch

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<v Speaker 1>that much. Netflix was just wild, Like I feel like

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<v Speaker 1>I should I limit myself tonight time to do it.

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<v Speaker 1>I don't watch during the day. We talked about it

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<v Speaker 1>on Patreon. I completely have gotten off of the binge concept,

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<v Speaker 1>Like that phase is so over. I can't binge just

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<v Speaker 1>show I've honestly tried to start a couple you know

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<v Speaker 1>where we all had it right because as busy people,

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<v Speaker 1>you didn't have the opportunity to binge. You can't just

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<v Speaker 1>you know what I'm saying, our lives before you're like,

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<v Speaker 1>oh word, my nigga be in a house for two weeks. Cool,

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<v Speaker 1>let me watch every show that y'all. Nick has been

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<v Speaker 1>talking about how I just started soprano. I don't understand,

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<v Speaker 1>but I don't know. Now, I will tell you one thing.

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<v Speaker 1>I want to want to be on brand here. I'm

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<v Speaker 1>horny as fuck and I have someone to fuck, but

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<v Speaker 1>I'm horny all the time because it's quarantine. And I

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<v Speaker 1>think it's because I'm spending more time on my phone

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<v Speaker 1>and a lot of people do pooring, bro, And if

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<v Speaker 1>they weren't doing it before, they're doing it now. Some

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<v Speaker 1>of the people that have started their only fans journey

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<v Speaker 1>in this particular thing are people I never would have thought,

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<v Speaker 1>like who I like who? Yeah? Like it's not body

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<v Speaker 1>that y'all would know, but it's like people that I

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<v Speaker 1>worked with that's like, yo, cook the link in the Bible.

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<v Speaker 1>I'm like yo, for real? Inn Yeah, I like you

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<v Speaker 1>had just graduate from San Diego State and you were

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<v Speaker 1>telling me you're gonna be the next open. By the way,

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<v Speaker 1>you can still be the next open and do your

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<v Speaker 1>only fans. You can't do, you can't do, you can't do.

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<v Speaker 1>But I'm just surprised. I know what you're saying, because

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<v Speaker 1>I think we always think like someone's gonna say, ll,

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<v Speaker 1>why can't you be up. At the same time, it's

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<v Speaker 1>just normal people trajectory. What's normal to us is not

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<v Speaker 1>only fans and OPRAH, but the world is changing bro

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<v Speaker 1>with the more people that do it, the more people

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<v Speaker 1>that do it, the more common place is going to become.

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<v Speaker 1>And then you have a chance to be the first

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<v Speaker 1>only fans OPRA absolutely because because there's a lot of

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<v Speaker 1>mothers out there doing it. I think that that's even

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<v Speaker 1>the way, UM and shout out to you. I know

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<v Speaker 1>you just started kind of a wire recap with Jamal Hill.

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<v Speaker 1>That's one of your UM one of your podcasts that

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<v Speaker 1>you're doing right now on top of the red Pill podcast.

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<v Speaker 1>You're still no more red Pill and there's still up

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<v Speaker 1>for people to listen to it. Because I want people

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<v Speaker 1>to still go back and listen to the content because

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<v Speaker 1>we we think I were right. Right. Look, I still

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<v Speaker 1>own the I P to the Red Pill. The red

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<v Speaker 1>Pill is I own it completely. But uh, I am

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<v Speaker 1>now launching a brand new podcast with the Wringer I

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<v Speaker 1>Love Them next week, so I have two shows with them,

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<v Speaker 1>um and the next the podcast I'm launching with them

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<v Speaker 1>X is going to be more along the lines of

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<v Speaker 1>what I was doing with the Love It And you

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<v Speaker 1>guys want to talk about I P S and be

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<v Speaker 1>MESSI or not. No bitch, I was getting into the

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<v Speaker 1>motherfucker's topic. Actually, I was just listening to that past

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<v Speaker 1>listen even so I was in a hole. I would

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<v Speaker 1>have been talking to Liz Goldwin shoutout to this going

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<v Speaker 1>from sex education, me and this bitch on the phone.

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<v Speaker 1>She's like, you know, I'm in the hole. I'm like,

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<v Speaker 1>can you believe I'm not even gonna lie? So I

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<v Speaker 1>was actually going to bring that up because, um, the

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<v Speaker 1>same way we talked about kind of just the normalization

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<v Speaker 1>of only fans. I remember starting a podcast three and

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<v Speaker 1>a half years ago and Nigga's looking at it as

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<v Speaker 1>a hobby and now all of this podcast drama and quick.

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<v Speaker 1>But that's a brief Rundown. So there's a podcast and

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<v Speaker 1>I mean normally it's like, oh, don't give anybody they're

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<v Speaker 1>they're huge. They're called called the Drama source scene where

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<v Speaker 1>we're talking about the million dollar um ideas or million

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<v Speaker 1>dollars something with wallow Gilly to kids. That's also podcast drama.

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<v Speaker 1>This this one, particularly about the I P is super interesting.

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<v Speaker 1>So Call Her Daddy is a sex podcast of two

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<v Speaker 1>white girls that live in New York. Um. And when

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<v Speaker 1>we got into us, when we got into this, I

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<v Speaker 1>knew the motherfucking clause was coming out. I like, even

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<v Speaker 1>when you said that because you were like two white girls,

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<v Speaker 1>why I want to mention their because I feel like

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<v Speaker 1>that has a lot to do with how doing on.

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<v Speaker 1>Now let me say one, I don't want to even

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<v Speaker 1>say that they're like us, because I really feel like

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<v Speaker 1>just because two people have sex podcasts, I mean ship

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<v Speaker 1>like we're not close to nothing. Horrible Decisions doesn't even

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<v Speaker 1>close to that, you know what I mean, Like we're

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<v Speaker 1>a sex ed kinky fund podcast. There's two white girls

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<v Speaker 1>that tell their nasty stories. Cool to me, they have

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<v Speaker 1>their very value girl voices. They curate this audience that's

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<v Speaker 1>like do she but they make money on it. That's

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<v Speaker 1>a bigger lane than what we do. So it ain't

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<v Speaker 1>no shade. What are you talking about? People? Are we

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<v Speaker 1>come on? I think it's not even that it's a

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<v Speaker 1>bigger lank, because I would say that is a bigger

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<v Speaker 1>I'm saying when we came out, Um, because we are

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<v Speaker 1>just two women to talk about sex, we could be

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<v Speaker 1>compared to guys we fucked. We've been compared to Cocktails.

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<v Speaker 1>We've been compared to literally two girls that are open

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<v Speaker 1>about talking about sex. And so Cocktails is based in Atlanta.

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<v Speaker 1>We've had them shout out to Kikia Medina. Um, but

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<v Speaker 1>so call her daddy? Is these you know? Two white

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<v Speaker 1>girls are a blonde in the brunette, they openly talk

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<v Speaker 1>about sex. Well, they signed the acquired Yeah, they signed

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<v Speaker 1>three before. I think that's a big thing to say,

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<v Speaker 1>and that's a huge part of thing to say. They

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<v Speaker 1>were a podcast before they did not start, and bar

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<v Speaker 1>Stool Store did not conceptualize this is which is actually

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<v Speaker 1>what I thought they were. They were still a podcast before, right,

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<v Speaker 1>So it doesn't it's not like bar stool reached out.

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<v Speaker 1>And the reason that's important is because I'm early on

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<v Speaker 1>with a new podcast two and people are like, hey,

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<v Speaker 1>sign this contract and do ads with us. People don't

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<v Speaker 1>give a fun. But here's the thing, though, they don't

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<v Speaker 1>give a funk. People give that to me and Mandy.

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<v Speaker 1>They do it to everybody, But here's the But here's

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<v Speaker 1>the thing though, if like you guys had a podcast

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<v Speaker 1>and the podcast grew organically for a long long time

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<v Speaker 1>before any other networks came in, right, right, there is

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<v Speaker 1>something to be said with how early a major network

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<v Speaker 1>like bar stool gets involved with your party weeks into

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<v Speaker 1>like early, right, so that that does lend itself to

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<v Speaker 1>the success of the brand, like you can't you can't

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<v Speaker 1>divorce those two things. That's why I said, I think

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<v Speaker 1>it's important to acknowledge that they had it before. So

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<v Speaker 1>the tea is I've never listened to an episode. However,

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<v Speaker 1>the podcast has been on air for a year, and

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<v Speaker 1>they stopped letting episodes come out or stop doing episodes

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<v Speaker 1>for about four weeks. Nobody kind of knew why. They

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<v Speaker 1>posted some cryptic shit about how people would find out,

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<v Speaker 1>but the owner of bar Stools, who's Dave Portnoy, came

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<v Speaker 1>on their feed basically because he owns it and talked

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<v Speaker 1>about why there hadn't been episodes, and there was a

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<v Speaker 1>disagreement between the hosts and bar Stools, feeling like they

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<v Speaker 1>weren't owed enough money. Now here's some cool facts, just

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<v Speaker 1>interesting baseline that you need to know. So what I

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<v Speaker 1>p addresses your intellectual property, which is basically the idea.

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<v Speaker 1>It can just then the name excuse me, but it

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<v Speaker 1>can also be the idea. So, for example, horrible decisions.

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<v Speaker 1>If you remember, Mandy, where was it a year ago?

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<v Speaker 1>So no, two years ago, somebody wanted us to sell

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<v Speaker 1>our Patreon episodes and put bonus content with them. And

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<v Speaker 1>that wasn't that wasn't comparable to what we've been making nothing. Now,

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<v Speaker 1>I wasn't even that much. It was fifty. It was fifty,

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<v Speaker 1>which wasn't even what we make. It was fifty plus

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<v Speaker 1>a bonus if we reached a certain amount of subscriber.

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<v Speaker 1>Here's this interesting part Mandy and I started saying, which

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<v Speaker 1>was which is a really interesting part to call her daddy.

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<v Speaker 1>We were like, well, we'll just make our own Patreon

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<v Speaker 1>is Mandy and wheezy. Fuck it. Now, bar Stool not

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<v Speaker 1>only bought call her Daddy, but they bought I can't

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<v Speaker 1>remember the word but the concept alexand many of them,

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<v Speaker 1>the likeness Alex and Sophia can't go out and do

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<v Speaker 1>something else, which was pretty dumb, not not not saying

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<v Speaker 1>that they did was dumb because bar stools huge, They

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<v Speaker 1>had nobody yet, so why not let this happen? Now

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<v Speaker 1>the podcast makes money. They give him a seventy thousand

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<v Speaker 1>dollar base, and it makes money from merch from ad

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<v Speaker 1>sales and am I forgetting something else? So they get

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<v Speaker 1>they also get a bonus. Um, so they did. They

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<v Speaker 1>weren't getting the ad revenue, that's the thing they were getting.

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<v Speaker 1>They got a bonus based on every ten percent above

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<v Speaker 1>whatever whatever to a million dollars between the two of

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<v Speaker 1>them starting No, no, no, it was five d each

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<v Speaker 1>the first year. The first year, it was like it

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<v Speaker 1>was like they split basically like a million dollar back. Now.

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<v Speaker 1>So here's what's interesting. Um, seventy thousand was the base.

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<v Speaker 1>They want more now immediately, I'll be real when I

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<v Speaker 1>found out that they made half a million each on

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<v Speaker 1>the first year and had nothing before. Are still and

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<v Speaker 1>like you signed a bad deal. Suck it up, You're

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<v Speaker 1>gonna be big in three years anyway, Who cares? But

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<v Speaker 1>I'm feeling two ways about this. When Dave portnoy I

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<v Speaker 1>got on the show and said I want them back

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<v Speaker 1>because I'm already missed out on four hundred thousand, I'm like, okay,

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<v Speaker 1>four weeks, four hundred thousand. Then this show makes a

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<v Speaker 1>hundred grand a week, a lot of money. Of course

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<v Speaker 1>you want more than five grand. However, they offered it

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<v Speaker 1>back to the girls. So what happened was the girls

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<v Speaker 1>wanted their i P, which was of course the worth

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<v Speaker 1>of the brand. The most important thing is your trademark.

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<v Speaker 1>I believe you never know what you'll brandon be. It's

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<v Speaker 1>it's important to keep that. So they offered these girls

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<v Speaker 1>their i P back six years less out of their contract,

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<v Speaker 1>right months, six months last out of their sorry, six

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<v Speaker 1>months lest out of their contract, and a half a

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<v Speaker 1>million dollar base, and they're still saying no and have

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<v Speaker 1>Now this is where I said, I think the whiteness

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<v Speaker 1>really matters, the nerve of you to sign this bad

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<v Speaker 1>deal on your own, not come to work. They offer

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<v Speaker 1>what you're asking, and then you're still like fuck you

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<v Speaker 1>and breaching the contract. How So, it's crazy because this,

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<v Speaker 1>to me is comparable to what Meg the Stallion is

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<v Speaker 1>even doing right now. Um. She she got a better

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<v Speaker 1>management with rock Nation, and now they're like, you're in

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<v Speaker 1>a bad deal with Carl and everybody on that side,

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<v Speaker 1>so we want to get you out of this deal.

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<v Speaker 1>The thing is, and I think it's been important for

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<v Speaker 1>what Weezy and I have done. We've seen our growth

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<v Speaker 1>over year one, year two, and year three to where

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<v Speaker 1>we know like, we don't want to sign any multi

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<v Speaker 1>milk like multi year deal seeing what people are offering

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<v Speaker 1>if it's not what we think we can do by ourselves. Um.

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<v Speaker 1>And I think that they just hopped into this early.

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<v Speaker 1>But regardless, you do have to once you sign that ship,

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<v Speaker 1>which is what Dave kept saying, I'll see the ship

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<v Speaker 1>out of you. So they're locked bro for the next

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<v Speaker 1>two years. They're not gonna be able to do ship together.

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<v Speaker 1>Girl got on Instagram talking about I wanted to do

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<v Speaker 1>the show again. I bet you do. What are yours?

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<v Speaker 1>They are? But here's the thing. They made a mistake.

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<v Speaker 1>Like I've been them before, they may the mistake that

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<v Speaker 1>a lot of people make. Right like me coming off

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<v Speaker 1>the tour bus going into t MZ. I don't really

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<v Speaker 1>have the leverage to to to sit down and dictate

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<v Speaker 1>terms to them. By the time my last contract to

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<v Speaker 1>TMZ was coming up, I was saying, Okay, I'll even

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<v Speaker 1>go do something else unless you give me that. But

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<v Speaker 1>while I was there, I was completely in totally exclusive

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<v Speaker 1>to them. Anything that wasn't carved out, they could tell

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<v Speaker 1>me straight up you can't do it. TMZ could take

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<v Speaker 1>my face, put it on the billboard. Take my face,

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<v Speaker 1>and my face has been on billboards, my face has

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<v Speaker 1>been on flyers, my face has been on commercials, my

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<v Speaker 1>face has been in a in a fucking casino slot machine,

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<v Speaker 1>all of that stuff. Basically, whenever they wanted to, they

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<v Speaker 1>for that time they owned my talent for the time

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<v Speaker 1>that I was there with them. What happened was they

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<v Speaker 1>go early on, they go and they they they they

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<v Speaker 1>negotiate back and forth with bar Stool about the i P.

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<v Speaker 1>They knew they wanted it, They always knew they wanted

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<v Speaker 1>their i P, but they didn't feel like they had

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<v Speaker 1>the muscle initially to negotiate. And maybe they didn't they

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<v Speaker 1>but they obviously didn't. So here's the theme to anyone

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<v Speaker 1>out there that's listening, what do you do that you're fucked? Okay?

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<v Speaker 1>If you have an i P that you feel like

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<v Speaker 1>it's gonna last. It is gonna last and give you

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<v Speaker 1>generational wealth, something that you're gonna be able to go

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<v Speaker 1>back and draw. Once you made the decision to sell it,

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<v Speaker 1>they own it. Now. You can use the great success

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<v Speaker 1>of your show to come back and releverage as much

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<v Speaker 1>as you can, but they never ever ever have to

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<v Speaker 1>fucking play ball with you once you do that. So

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<v Speaker 1>selling the IP, making the decision to sell your I

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<v Speaker 1>P is a monumental undertaking. I really like what you're saying,

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<v Speaker 1>because I recently sold a pilot right, something I wrote,

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<v Speaker 1>sold it to a production company that is going is

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<v Speaker 1>trying to get it pitched right, And I want to

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<v Speaker 1>talk about the difference between I what I sold an

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<v Speaker 1>I P because someone wrote me and I was like, well,

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<v Speaker 1>didn't you just sell something and say you can't touch it? Well,

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<v Speaker 1>here's the difference. That series right has stipulations. If it

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<v Speaker 1>gets picked up, I have writer's credit, I can be

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<v Speaker 1>in the cast, I'm an executive producer on it. I'm

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<v Speaker 1>a part of the show that was something that I wanted. Now, huh.

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<v Speaker 1>Union in the case of something exactly now, if they

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<v Speaker 1>start making merch and something like that, like, sure, I

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<v Speaker 1>understand that I sold that. However, I did say, let's

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<v Speaker 1>just say a base number of a hundred bucks. If

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<v Speaker 1>I get a hundred bucks for a year, you have

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<v Speaker 1>to sell this. Now if you do sell it that

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<v Speaker 1>hundred dollars, ten dollars something like that. Right, you're allowed

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<v Speaker 1>to do those two. But that series I sold is

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<v Speaker 1>just one piece. It's not an I P. Now selling

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<v Speaker 1>horrible decisions, let's say as a TV show, and I

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<v Speaker 1>had to sell that name. That's an i P. Which

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<v Speaker 1>was why I love what Jesus and Marrow have done

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<v Speaker 1>because Podega boys when I look at them, that's what

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<v Speaker 1>I say, because that is that initial fan base. But

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<v Speaker 1>Jesus and Marrow the name, they were able to just

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<v Speaker 1>take it and make it a show and not haven't

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<v Speaker 1>touched that podcast brand, which was very smart too. I mean,

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<v Speaker 1>people all the time make bad decisions with their product. Now,

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<v Speaker 1>I want to just make one more example just to

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<v Speaker 1>show you how you can get fucked as a podcaster.

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<v Speaker 1>And it is really important because it happened to me

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<v Speaker 1>two hours ago. For facts sake, got on Newton Noteworthy.

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<v Speaker 1>It's a podcast I just started with a friend Eddie

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<v Speaker 1>four weeks ago. Whenever a podcast is charting, anyone can

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<v Speaker 1>hit you up right, it's a it's a B two

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<v Speaker 1>B service, it's a sales team. They're like, who do

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<v Speaker 1>we get? Who can we sell ads to? Okay, they're going,

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<v Speaker 1>let's get them. They're new. This person has written me

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<v Speaker 1>and Mandy a total of four times over the course

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<v Speaker 1>of three years. I've looked up their name in our

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<v Speaker 1>email right literally wrote us a few months ago, told

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<v Speaker 1>me that we have to sign a contract for a year.

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<v Speaker 1>We get seventy ads. Actually not bad, but if there's

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<v Speaker 1>an AD that contacts me or an AD that I

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<v Speaker 1>found on my own, I gotta give them. I said,

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<v Speaker 1>hold of, So, what did you think me and Mandy

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<v Speaker 1>were gonna do when you wrote us? I said you didn't.

0:21:57.680 --> 0:21:59.280
<v Speaker 1>You weren't gonna have that energy for me and Mandy

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<v Speaker 1>though I know that, So why would you do that

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<v Speaker 1>for this podcast? I'm the same person. She's like, well, well,

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<v Speaker 1>I I don't I don't know what I wrote you.

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<v Speaker 1>I said, oh, you wrote me the same email. So

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<v Speaker 1>because horrible decisions had some weight, you would have been

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<v Speaker 1>more lenient. But because we've been around for four weeks,

0:22:15.440 --> 0:22:17.359
<v Speaker 1>you think I would have signed this. And that's the

0:22:17.400 --> 0:22:19.359
<v Speaker 1>thing about people that hold out. We've watched it with

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<v Speaker 1>the Joe Budding podcast, the Joe Rogan podcast. When people

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<v Speaker 1>hold it and hold it and you grow your own worth,

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<v Speaker 1>you can have more leverage because I probably won't have

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<v Speaker 1>leverage for this new podcast. But let me get on

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<v Speaker 1>that phone with her tomorrow, with Mandy on the phone

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<v Speaker 1>discuss horrible decisions. Oh you think she's about to talk

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<v Speaker 1>to me about how if we find something it's not ours,

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<v Speaker 1>get the funk out of here. And that's the thing

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<v Speaker 1>that that really happened with this is when Portnoy was

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<v Speaker 1>on there, he explained and not even he expected their

0:22:46.240 --> 0:22:49.160
<v Speaker 1>podcast to be as big as what it was. Right,

0:22:49.520 --> 0:22:53.320
<v Speaker 1>So when the podcast gets to the level that it

0:22:53.440 --> 0:22:55.440
<v Speaker 1>is and it's it's apparently a huge podcast. I'm not

0:22:55.440 --> 0:22:57.040
<v Speaker 1>gonna lie I had never heard of it before, but

0:22:57.080 --> 0:23:01.439
<v Speaker 1>apparently it's a huge, huge podcast. Right. You have earned

0:23:01.480 --> 0:23:03.680
<v Speaker 1>the right to come back and ask for some things

0:23:03.720 --> 0:23:07.240
<v Speaker 1>that they maybe didn't give you before. But the bottom

0:23:07.400 --> 0:23:10.040
<v Speaker 1>the bottom line is but to not show up and

0:23:10.080 --> 0:23:13.080
<v Speaker 1>not record like they're gonna tell you, go funk yourself

0:23:13.800 --> 0:23:17.639
<v Speaker 1>in that situation. If you don't come at it with

0:23:17.720 --> 0:23:20.680
<v Speaker 1>a business mind. If you bring your emotions to that discussion,

0:23:20.920 --> 0:23:23.879
<v Speaker 1>you're going to lose because they got your paperwork. The

0:23:24.240 --> 0:23:26.919
<v Speaker 1>paperwork is going to be the most important part to

0:23:27.000 --> 0:23:30.400
<v Speaker 1>how successful you're going to be in the long term

0:23:30.400 --> 0:23:33.719
<v Speaker 1>with your idea. If you give your ideal way, somebody

0:23:33.760 --> 0:23:37.080
<v Speaker 1>else fucking owns it. And so either those girls, those women,

0:23:37.119 --> 0:23:39.520
<v Speaker 1>those ladies either they got to figure out a way

0:23:39.520 --> 0:23:41.160
<v Speaker 1>how to make that ship right with them or they're

0:23:41.160 --> 0:23:42.879
<v Speaker 1>not gonna get paid off the ship that they built up.

0:23:43.720 --> 0:23:45.560
<v Speaker 1>Urge to see what happened to them, because as a woman,

0:23:46.040 --> 0:23:47.600
<v Speaker 1>I mean not that I think what they're doing is right,

0:23:47.640 --> 0:23:49.520
<v Speaker 1>but that was hard to watch just to know that

0:23:49.520 --> 0:23:51.360
<v Speaker 1>they're gonna funk them. They're gonna sue the funk out

0:23:51.359 --> 0:23:53.160
<v Speaker 1>of these girls. They're they're not gonna hold up in court.

0:23:53.359 --> 0:23:57.119
<v Speaker 1>I actually but because I want to get into the

0:23:57.240 --> 0:24:00.200
<v Speaker 1>vanilla ship. UM. I know that we don't normally talk

0:24:00.200 --> 0:24:03.280
<v Speaker 1>about the business side of things here, but definitely with

0:24:03.359 --> 0:24:05.679
<v Speaker 1>so much going on and so many people looking to

0:24:05.800 --> 0:24:09.560
<v Speaker 1>start podcast, UM. I recently just did something with DJ

0:24:09.720 --> 0:24:12.760
<v Speaker 1>Rose Gold. We had a mix there were um literally

0:24:12.800 --> 0:24:15.480
<v Speaker 1>the advice was, if you're gonna start this podcast, thing,

0:24:15.640 --> 0:24:18.080
<v Speaker 1>whether it's for a hobby or to monetize it. I

0:24:18.119 --> 0:24:20.119
<v Speaker 1>think to look at it as a million dollar business.

0:24:20.119 --> 0:24:21.840
<v Speaker 1>Think that you're gonna see a million dollars in the

0:24:21.840 --> 0:24:25.360
<v Speaker 1>first year and operated as such. So get a partnership agreement,

0:24:25.520 --> 0:24:28.280
<v Speaker 1>figure out your expenses, figure out how you're gonna go

0:24:28.359 --> 0:24:31.880
<v Speaker 1>about UM delegating responsibilities. I think that that's very important

0:24:32.200 --> 0:24:33.840
<v Speaker 1>UM to start off with. And I do want to

0:24:33.840 --> 0:24:36.280
<v Speaker 1>get into the Vanilla ship because we save this topic

0:24:36.440 --> 0:24:39.879
<v Speaker 1>just for van We wanted to get a male perspective

0:24:39.960 --> 0:24:42.760
<v Speaker 1>on this UM so our vanilla ship for this week.

0:24:42.960 --> 0:24:45.159
<v Speaker 1>I want to read it. Um Complex wrote on it.

0:24:45.440 --> 0:24:48.400
<v Speaker 1>All of you guys have seen this nonsense if you're

0:24:48.440 --> 0:24:51.520
<v Speaker 1>on Twitter, if you have any sort of technology at

0:24:51.520 --> 0:24:56.520
<v Speaker 1>the palm of your fingertips. Boosty Rapper Boosey Badass bass

0:24:56.600 --> 0:25:00.720
<v Speaker 1>backlash after claiming he got grown women to give his

0:25:00.840 --> 0:25:03.959
<v Speaker 1>underage son oral sex so around the age of twelve

0:25:04.000 --> 0:25:07.240
<v Speaker 1>and thirteen, he let it be known in an Instagram

0:25:07.320 --> 0:25:10.720
<v Speaker 1>live that the same women he was fucking he made

0:25:10.760 --> 0:25:13.720
<v Speaker 1>sure went and sucked his son's dick. We've heard him

0:25:13.800 --> 0:25:17.159
<v Speaker 1>speak a lot on the parenting of Dwyane Wade and

0:25:17.160 --> 0:25:21.200
<v Speaker 1>how he allies that what is Zio Wade zire Wade

0:25:21.600 --> 0:25:25.200
<v Speaker 1>uh starts with a Z, but how Dwyane Wade allows

0:25:25.400 --> 0:25:29.760
<v Speaker 1>allows his son to, you know, kind of be gender fluid,

0:25:29.800 --> 0:25:33.840
<v Speaker 1>and how he wants to be represented. Boothy came on

0:25:34.080 --> 0:25:38.000
<v Speaker 1>and pretty much was like, well, my son's gonna be straight.

0:25:38.080 --> 0:25:41.359
<v Speaker 1>So I have grown women sucking their dick. So I

0:25:41.359 --> 0:25:44.040
<v Speaker 1>wanted to talk to you about this because my problem

0:25:44.080 --> 0:25:46.680
<v Speaker 1>actually with this is when we when when I went

0:25:46.680 --> 0:25:49.800
<v Speaker 1>on Twitter and started reading the comments, a lot of

0:25:49.840 --> 0:25:52.560
<v Speaker 1>men were like, I wish this happened to me. Um,

0:25:52.600 --> 0:25:55.400
<v Speaker 1>And I think the conversation is more so where men

0:25:55.520 --> 0:25:57.960
<v Speaker 1>don't view this as sexual assault and it really is.

0:25:58.400 --> 0:26:00.960
<v Speaker 1>UM and so Van as a man and UM and

0:26:01.280 --> 0:26:03.840
<v Speaker 1>you've been you know, we're gonna talk a lot about

0:26:03.920 --> 0:26:06.959
<v Speaker 1>sex and kind of with you through way porn addiction.

0:26:07.000 --> 0:26:08.520
<v Speaker 1>We're gonna get into all of that. But I want

0:26:08.520 --> 0:26:10.600
<v Speaker 1>to know, as as a black man specifically, what are

0:26:10.600 --> 0:26:14.280
<v Speaker 1>your thoughts with one of I guess our culture leaders,

0:26:14.800 --> 0:26:18.159
<v Speaker 1>um talking about this and and yeah, just share your

0:26:18.200 --> 0:26:21.560
<v Speaker 1>thoughts on what's going on. So full disclosure, I've known

0:26:21.560 --> 0:26:23.440
<v Speaker 1>Boosty for a long long time. We went to high

0:26:23.440 --> 0:26:28.160
<v Speaker 1>school together. UM, and so Yeah, mat Rouge mckilly hide

0:26:28.200 --> 0:26:31.920
<v Speaker 1>like his big brother to Corey was a wash I'd say,

0:26:31.960 --> 0:26:35.280
<v Speaker 1>a friend of mine, um throughout middle school, high school,

0:26:35.320 --> 0:26:38.640
<v Speaker 1>and then on into college. Uh. And then Boosty came

0:26:38.680 --> 0:26:41.320
<v Speaker 1>in and we whoped together, play basketball together. I've watched

0:26:41.320 --> 0:26:43.640
<v Speaker 1>his career the whole time, been knowing Boosty. So here's

0:26:43.640 --> 0:26:48.760
<v Speaker 1>the thing about this, UM, I think that there are

0:26:48.760 --> 0:26:53.240
<v Speaker 1>two things that play. Number One, there there's a there's

0:26:53.280 --> 0:26:57.480
<v Speaker 1>a level that the toxic masculinity goes to where it's

0:26:57.560 --> 0:27:00.680
<v Speaker 1>inherently abusive. Right, not not just in this case, but

0:27:00.800 --> 0:27:02.880
<v Speaker 1>in all other cases. The way men treat each other,

0:27:02.920 --> 0:27:05.920
<v Speaker 1>the expectations we have each other of each other, we

0:27:06.400 --> 0:27:11.680
<v Speaker 1>subconsciously abuse each other all the time. UM. By by

0:27:11.680 --> 0:27:15.680
<v Speaker 1>putting these sort of rules in place. Another thing that

0:27:15.920 --> 0:27:20.040
<v Speaker 1>really bothers me about what Boosey said was this Boosey

0:27:21.400 --> 0:27:25.760
<v Speaker 1>is not only if that's true, not only is he

0:27:25.800 --> 0:27:31.760
<v Speaker 1>abusing his children sexually, UM, abusing his son sexually, abusing

0:27:31.760 --> 0:27:35.960
<v Speaker 1>whatever other kids sexually, He's also informing them about women

0:27:35.960 --> 0:27:39.040
<v Speaker 1>in a really dangerous way. What he is saying is

0:27:39.080 --> 0:27:46.159
<v Speaker 1>that a woman exists too. Uh. Initiate, reinforce, and validate

0:27:46.240 --> 0:27:50.720
<v Speaker 1>your manhood. So you're a child, right, You're a kid.

0:27:51.240 --> 0:27:53.200
<v Speaker 1>In order for you to get to a certain point,

0:27:53.359 --> 0:27:56.720
<v Speaker 1>this woman has to do this for you. UH, and

0:27:56.800 --> 0:27:59.199
<v Speaker 1>that ushers you into the club that the rest of

0:27:59.280 --> 0:28:02.720
<v Speaker 1>us are in. UM. When you cast women in that role,

0:28:03.800 --> 0:28:07.480
<v Speaker 1>it is impossible to uncast them when you start doing

0:28:07.960 --> 0:28:11.439
<v Speaker 1>for the rest of your life. UH is using women

0:28:11.680 --> 0:28:14.359
<v Speaker 1>to gratify or build you up in different ways, and

0:28:14.400 --> 0:28:19.000
<v Speaker 1>then they become not people. They become not people that

0:28:19.080 --> 0:28:23.040
<v Speaker 1>exist with their own dreams, their own hopes, their own fears,

0:28:23.119 --> 0:28:27.119
<v Speaker 1>their own insecurities. They become objects to reinforce whatever it

0:28:27.240 --> 0:28:29.800
<v Speaker 1>is that you believe or want to believe about yourself.

0:28:30.160 --> 0:28:35.359
<v Speaker 1>I love Wokeman so much. I just feel like he

0:28:35.600 --> 0:28:40.360
<v Speaker 1>is just you are, like the better doctor. But even

0:28:40.480 --> 0:28:44.200
<v Speaker 1>even what you're saying, it's interesting because clearly this isn't

0:28:44.240 --> 0:28:47.960
<v Speaker 1>what's put on too you know, young girls. Clearly we're

0:28:48.000 --> 0:28:51.080
<v Speaker 1>told to keep our our cookie to ourselves. There's all

0:28:51.120 --> 0:28:54.760
<v Speaker 1>these names used. You know, Moms definitely aren't going out

0:28:54.880 --> 0:28:57.600
<v Speaker 1>making sure we get grown dick to make sure we're straight.

0:28:57.880 --> 0:29:00.200
<v Speaker 1>That's not a thing that's that's given to us. But

0:29:00.280 --> 0:29:03.640
<v Speaker 1>I think it's interesting because I was having a recent

0:29:03.680 --> 0:29:07.560
<v Speaker 1>conversation and and I'm not sure where it's taught, but

0:29:07.720 --> 0:29:11.160
<v Speaker 1>so much for men, the end goal is sex. Men

0:29:11.240 --> 0:29:14.040
<v Speaker 1>take women on dates because they hope they can get

0:29:14.040 --> 0:29:16.480
<v Speaker 1>pussy at the end. They go about doing things that

0:29:16.680 --> 0:29:21.040
<v Speaker 1>they lie, they manipulate in I guess you know, response

0:29:21.080 --> 0:29:23.760
<v Speaker 1>to hoping that they get pussy at the end. There's

0:29:23.800 --> 0:29:26.920
<v Speaker 1>no other end goal with a woman except for sex.

0:29:27.160 --> 0:29:29.680
<v Speaker 1>So what you're saying is is exactly right. And that's

0:29:29.680 --> 0:29:32.760
<v Speaker 1>exactly what Boossy is doing. Now. I want to ask

0:29:32.800 --> 0:29:35.080
<v Speaker 1>you because another instance that I saw, we see a

0:29:35.120 --> 0:29:37.440
<v Speaker 1>lot of the teachers, a lot of the teachers in

0:29:37.480 --> 0:29:40.000
<v Speaker 1>the news are coming out that they're all se messing

0:29:40.040 --> 0:29:42.600
<v Speaker 1>with kids, and men in their minds are saying, damn,

0:29:42.640 --> 0:29:44.920
<v Speaker 1>I wish that happened to me. Do you know why

0:29:44.960 --> 0:29:48.840
<v Speaker 1>there's no inkling to sexual assault when it comes to

0:29:48.960 --> 0:29:51.880
<v Speaker 1>young boys. We know what it is of sexual assault

0:29:51.920 --> 0:29:54.520
<v Speaker 1>for women, of course, we've all experienced it, we've talked

0:29:54.560 --> 0:29:58.280
<v Speaker 1>about it, but men aren't talking about the sexual assault

0:29:58.360 --> 0:30:02.280
<v Speaker 1>that it's happening to them. Why is that? Well? Number one,

0:30:02.480 --> 0:30:05.840
<v Speaker 1>because sex is so such an aspirational thing. I remember

0:30:05.840 --> 0:30:07.840
<v Speaker 1>my father, who was a great dad, and by the way,

0:30:07.840 --> 0:30:10.560
<v Speaker 1>I don't think Bootsey even knows that what he was

0:30:10.600 --> 0:30:12.280
<v Speaker 1>doing was abused. I don't think that he I don't

0:30:12.280 --> 0:30:15.320
<v Speaker 1>think that he would do anything that he thought was

0:30:15.360 --> 0:30:17.800
<v Speaker 1>abusing his his kids. I don't think he even knows.

0:30:17.880 --> 0:30:19.320
<v Speaker 1>I remember my dad told me. My dad asked me

0:30:19.360 --> 0:30:21.280
<v Speaker 1>one time I was fifteen, He's like, have you got

0:30:21.320 --> 0:30:24.640
<v Speaker 1>any pussy yet? And I was like, well, you saw

0:30:24.720 --> 0:30:27.480
<v Speaker 1>me jacking off to the Jam Jackson screen video. You

0:30:27.560 --> 0:30:29.920
<v Speaker 1>know that I'm not getting any pussy. Like so, like,

0:30:29.960 --> 0:30:31.600
<v Speaker 1>what what are you talking about? Like you know I haven't,

0:30:31.640 --> 0:30:33.600
<v Speaker 1>I'm not. I'm like no, He's okay, well you know

0:30:33.640 --> 0:30:35.360
<v Speaker 1>you need to take care of that by time you're sixteen.

0:30:35.960 --> 0:30:38.200
<v Speaker 1>And I'm like what. He goes, well, if you're a

0:30:38.280 --> 0:30:42.160
<v Speaker 1>Lathan man, like you shouldn't be a virgin when you're sixteen,

0:30:42.760 --> 0:30:48.760
<v Speaker 1>Like so go figure that out. And and and for me,

0:30:49.720 --> 0:30:52.360
<v Speaker 1>that's like that funk with me because I was thinking, yo,

0:30:53.160 --> 0:30:56.200
<v Speaker 1>with my brothers and my dad and everybody else, am

0:30:56.240 --> 0:30:58.440
<v Speaker 1>I the weak link? If no one wants to sleep

0:30:58.480 --> 0:31:01.400
<v Speaker 1>with me? And it becomes did you lose it? And

0:31:01.560 --> 0:31:05.840
<v Speaker 1>until I was seventeen, so um so like for me personally,

0:31:06.040 --> 0:31:08.640
<v Speaker 1>I look at like sexist seen as such an asperse

0:31:08.720 --> 0:31:11.520
<v Speaker 1>and when and by the way, I can't speak to women,

0:31:11.520 --> 0:31:15.440
<v Speaker 1>but there's something that overnight fucking happens to you when

0:31:15.480 --> 0:31:18.720
<v Speaker 1>you're like eleven or two. No not I mean no,

0:31:18.800 --> 0:31:22.000
<v Speaker 1>I'm not that you started sucking, but like every fucking

0:31:22.040 --> 0:31:25.960
<v Speaker 1>thing ship that you never noticed before just becomes It's

0:31:28.280 --> 0:31:31.040
<v Speaker 1>it's like, yo, I remember, like one day I just

0:31:31.080 --> 0:31:34.959
<v Speaker 1>discovered titties and I was like, and it was it

0:31:35.000 --> 0:31:37.680
<v Speaker 1>was weird because I knew that titties were there, but

0:31:37.720 --> 0:31:41.480
<v Speaker 1>I didn't think that they were actual titties. So did

0:31:41.480 --> 0:31:43.920
<v Speaker 1>you see a move or something? Yeah, And then I

0:31:43.960 --> 0:31:45.640
<v Speaker 1>was like, and then you didn't jump, and you were like,

0:31:47.240 --> 0:31:50.520
<v Speaker 1>I was thinking to myself, yo, her titties are onto it.

0:31:51.520 --> 0:31:55.440
<v Speaker 1>And it changed my life because I was thinking, under

0:31:55.480 --> 0:31:58.840
<v Speaker 1>that shirt, there's a brawl, and then under that brawl

0:31:59.360 --> 0:32:02.680
<v Speaker 1>they're true titties. And so for the rest of the time,

0:32:02.680 --> 0:32:04.480
<v Speaker 1>I remember, I was like in the sixth and seventh grade,

0:32:04.720 --> 0:32:07.680
<v Speaker 1>I was trying to see a titty. My whole day

0:32:08.120 --> 0:32:12.040
<v Speaker 1>was just about how can I see the most of

0:32:12.040 --> 0:32:15.240
<v Speaker 1>a titty? That's the possible that I could see, And

0:32:15.320 --> 0:32:21.240
<v Speaker 1>I never forget. I'm not like like like like we're

0:32:21.280 --> 0:32:24.000
<v Speaker 1>at the p classes, we're playing soccer, and it was

0:32:24.000 --> 0:32:25.720
<v Speaker 1>a girl. She was I know her name, but I'm

0:32:25.720 --> 0:32:29.000
<v Speaker 1>not gonna say it all here. Thank you. She somebody

0:32:29.080 --> 0:32:32.520
<v Speaker 1>somebody snapped her bra and when they snapped her bra,

0:32:32.920 --> 0:32:36.360
<v Speaker 1>her ship was so big that the brawl broke and

0:32:36.400 --> 0:32:39.800
<v Speaker 1>then the titties fell in the shirt and they were

0:32:39.960 --> 0:32:43.280
<v Speaker 1>free sexual assaults. I was. It was a girl that

0:32:43.320 --> 0:32:52.120
<v Speaker 1>snapped the bra. I was. I was fucking done. I remember.

0:32:52.240 --> 0:32:54.080
<v Speaker 1>That's what I had to have a conversation with my

0:32:54.160 --> 0:32:58.280
<v Speaker 1>dad about that. I didn't even no, no, but no.

0:32:58.440 --> 0:33:00.720
<v Speaker 1>So so when I'm saying there, can you say what aide? You? Where?

0:33:00.760 --> 0:33:06.360
<v Speaker 1>You said eleven? At that point I was, I'll say,

0:33:06.400 --> 0:33:08.360
<v Speaker 1>it's funny that you say that, because so when I

0:33:08.400 --> 0:33:11.160
<v Speaker 1>was in fifth grade, I was on the morning announcements

0:33:11.640 --> 0:33:20.440
<v Speaker 1>and it wasn't shut up, shut up up. I gave

0:33:20.520 --> 0:33:24.920
<v Speaker 1>the morning announcements in both middle there is a spot

0:33:25.000 --> 0:33:27.440
<v Speaker 1>behind the jungle gym that no one can see. You

0:33:28.920 --> 0:33:31.320
<v Speaker 1>Can you not give children where to go and and

0:33:31.360 --> 0:33:33.280
<v Speaker 1>fill each other up? No? So it's crazy because I

0:33:33.320 --> 0:33:35.920
<v Speaker 1>was on the morning announcements and it wasn't until so

0:33:36.000 --> 0:33:38.240
<v Speaker 1>when I was in fifth grade, I started filling out

0:33:38.280 --> 0:33:41.720
<v Speaker 1>my braw a little bit more, and I remember the

0:33:41.800 --> 0:33:45.280
<v Speaker 1>boys that was the grade they started taking notice of

0:33:45.320 --> 0:33:47.280
<v Speaker 1>my titties. So I think that's about ten or eleven

0:33:47.320 --> 0:33:51.320
<v Speaker 1>years old, and I remember like being so embarrassed that

0:33:51.360 --> 0:33:53.560
<v Speaker 1>they would talk about the size of my my breast

0:33:53.600 --> 0:33:57.000
<v Speaker 1>as a fifth As a fifth grader, so I remember

0:33:57.480 --> 0:34:01.719
<v Speaker 1>um going onto the morning announcements and sitting like of

0:34:01.760 --> 0:34:03.640
<v Speaker 1>course there was a table in front of me, and

0:34:03.680 --> 0:34:06.800
<v Speaker 1>I would slouch so that my tips were covered by

0:34:06.920 --> 0:34:11.520
<v Speaker 1>my arms on the table just so that people couldn't

0:34:11.520 --> 0:34:14.440
<v Speaker 1>see my cleavage as a fifth grader, because the boys

0:34:14.480 --> 0:34:17.360
<v Speaker 1>were definitely into titties, I must have been a hole

0:34:17.480 --> 0:34:20.799
<v Speaker 1>right in the elementary because I was kissing for cookies.

0:34:21.400 --> 0:34:26.040
<v Speaker 1>I was, I was serious, what kind of cookies? You?

0:34:26.120 --> 0:34:27.799
<v Speaker 1>Was like, like what kind of I gotta know what

0:34:27.880 --> 0:34:30.360
<v Speaker 1>kind of because if you for animal crackers and like

0:34:30.360 --> 0:34:32.880
<v Speaker 1>what kind of cookies? That's that's like they were like

0:34:32.920 --> 0:34:35.959
<v Speaker 1>cafeteria cookies. But we all we all only got one.

0:34:36.400 --> 0:34:38.680
<v Speaker 1>And I knew these boys wanted to you know, kids.

0:34:38.760 --> 0:34:44.239
<v Speaker 1>I was like, oh, yeah, you was made. I'm telling you.

0:34:44.640 --> 0:34:49.279
<v Speaker 1>My mom found out. Oh my, and here I am.

0:34:50.760 --> 0:34:52.840
<v Speaker 1>How'd your mom found out that you was hold for

0:34:52.880 --> 0:34:56.640
<v Speaker 1>cookies because the teacher said something because like nobody had

0:34:56.680 --> 0:35:03.120
<v Speaker 1>cookies and I probably had bo I'm that um my

0:35:03.160 --> 0:35:06.440
<v Speaker 1>point by saying that, So this is my point. My

0:35:06.480 --> 0:35:11.200
<v Speaker 1>point is, so you have an intense biological imperative. Your

0:35:11.239 --> 0:35:14.120
<v Speaker 1>body is telling you sex sex sex, sex, sex, sex, sex,

0:35:14.160 --> 0:35:17.400
<v Speaker 1>sex sex sex sex, and that's uncontrollable, right, like for

0:35:17.520 --> 0:35:21.080
<v Speaker 1>most guys, uh that that I've talked to, that's uncontrollable.

0:35:21.480 --> 0:35:25.160
<v Speaker 1>And what you need in that situation as a young

0:35:25.200 --> 0:35:28.800
<v Speaker 1>man is you need somebody that can establish a healthy

0:35:28.840 --> 0:35:31.759
<v Speaker 1>relationship of what sex is supposed to look like and

0:35:31.800 --> 0:35:34.560
<v Speaker 1>how it's supposed to do. You don't need someone going yo,

0:35:35.080 --> 0:35:38.480
<v Speaker 1>my nigga, take off, go get it. And so because

0:35:38.480 --> 0:35:42.799
<v Speaker 1>of that, um, sex becomes like something that that that

0:35:42.840 --> 0:35:45.279
<v Speaker 1>makes your manhood. It becomes something that like you know,

0:35:45.360 --> 0:35:47.640
<v Speaker 1>you like a like a notch on your belt. And

0:35:47.719 --> 0:35:50.520
<v Speaker 1>you think any sex is appropriate sex. You think any

0:35:50.560 --> 0:35:52.839
<v Speaker 1>sex is good sex. You think so you think that

0:35:52.920 --> 0:35:55.600
<v Speaker 1>like of course you wouldn't think that there was anything

0:35:55.640 --> 0:35:59.759
<v Speaker 1>wrong with having sex with a teacher. What could be better?

0:36:00.000 --> 0:36:01.560
<v Speaker 1>You know what I mean? Like that's a grown woman

0:36:01.600 --> 0:36:06.240
<v Speaker 1>that's probably the best sex. So meanwhile, with women, we

0:36:06.239 --> 0:36:10.600
<v Speaker 1>we the dynamic gets changed because we see women as

0:36:10.840 --> 0:36:15.359
<v Speaker 1>not quite that way, we see them as more sexually vulnerable.

0:36:15.840 --> 0:36:18.440
<v Speaker 1>And now I think that people want to protect girls

0:36:18.480 --> 0:36:21.280
<v Speaker 1>more than they do little boys all the time because

0:36:21.320 --> 0:36:23.680
<v Speaker 1>because of the hyper sexuality of men as well. I

0:36:23.880 --> 0:36:25.960
<v Speaker 1>do want to say something that you you you said,

0:36:26.040 --> 0:36:29.000
<v Speaker 1>and I'm not saying that you're using it as an excuse,

0:36:29.080 --> 0:36:30.680
<v Speaker 1>but I know you know this person, so of course

0:36:30.680 --> 0:36:33.080
<v Speaker 1>you've probably got a softer spot in your heart for him.

0:36:33.120 --> 0:36:36.680
<v Speaker 1>But when you mentioned like Boosey didn't know what he

0:36:36.719 --> 0:36:40.439
<v Speaker 1>was doing was abuse or in essence means he didn't

0:36:40.440 --> 0:36:42.680
<v Speaker 1>know what he was doing was wrong, I don't really

0:36:42.719 --> 0:36:46.240
<v Speaker 1>believe that, And I'll tell you why I think that. People.

0:36:47.560 --> 0:36:51.400
<v Speaker 1>For example, he used the argument that isn't Zaiah. What

0:36:51.480 --> 0:36:55.440
<v Speaker 1>the fuck is their daughter's name? Zaia? Maybe zah okay,

0:36:55.520 --> 0:36:58.800
<v Speaker 1>so doing we then Gabby's daughter, right? So Zia? Um?

0:36:58.840 --> 0:37:01.520
<v Speaker 1>Who is? We don't even know if she's trans. I

0:37:01.520 --> 0:37:03.400
<v Speaker 1>wouldn't even use the word like queen or no, does

0:37:03.400 --> 0:37:06.480
<v Speaker 1>she identify his trans? Know she identified? She wants to

0:37:06.520 --> 0:37:12.840
<v Speaker 1>identify as a woman, But there's no talk whatsoever. Boosty

0:37:13.120 --> 0:37:16.040
<v Speaker 1>used the argument over and over that she doesn't know

0:37:16.080 --> 0:37:19.880
<v Speaker 1>about her own sexuality yet because she's too young. So

0:37:20.320 --> 0:37:22.359
<v Speaker 1>that's not what he said. Okay, what do he saying?

0:37:22.760 --> 0:37:25.080
<v Speaker 1>So like what what he said was And by the way,

0:37:25.080 --> 0:37:27.719
<v Speaker 1>I'm not in any way defending Boosty. What Boosey said

0:37:27.760 --> 0:37:30.279
<v Speaker 1>was indefensible. What I'm saying is that, well, what he

0:37:30.320 --> 0:37:34.919
<v Speaker 1>said about Duane Wade's kid was don't cut his dick off? Right, Yeah,

0:37:34.960 --> 0:37:36.840
<v Speaker 1>but he was saying, how do you know so he

0:37:36.840 --> 0:37:38.640
<v Speaker 1>didn't have any conversation like that, because I feel like

0:37:38.680 --> 0:37:41.719
<v Speaker 1>I remember those well what he was saying, the main

0:37:41.760 --> 0:37:44.160
<v Speaker 1>point was don't cut his dick off, Dwyane way, And

0:37:44.760 --> 0:37:47.000
<v Speaker 1>that's never been a conversation. But if he wants to

0:37:47.000 --> 0:37:49.840
<v Speaker 1>go back and fun women when he gets older, nobody,

0:37:49.920 --> 0:37:52.680
<v Speaker 1>nobody has ever had that conversation that I know of.

0:37:52.719 --> 0:37:54.359
<v Speaker 1>I don't know what they're having a conversation as a family,

0:37:54.360 --> 0:37:56.040
<v Speaker 1>but there's never been any talk about any surgeries or

0:37:56.080 --> 0:38:01.000
<v Speaker 1>anything like that. Um, their daughter is uh dealing with

0:38:01.120 --> 0:38:02.719
<v Speaker 1>a lot of things coming at them at the same time,

0:38:02.760 --> 0:38:05.080
<v Speaker 1>and they're choosing to be what they should be, which

0:38:05.080 --> 0:38:08.520
<v Speaker 1>is supportive parents. I'm not giving him an out. What

0:38:08.600 --> 0:38:12.120
<v Speaker 1>I'm saying, is that anything that he gets from saying

0:38:12.120 --> 0:38:15.640
<v Speaker 1>what he said is deserved, Like that's something that's discussing.

0:38:15.680 --> 0:38:20.920
<v Speaker 1>But at the same time, there is uh pervasive said

0:38:20.960 --> 0:38:25.480
<v Speaker 1>of ideas and behaviors that go along with men thinking

0:38:25.520 --> 0:38:29.000
<v Speaker 1>that women having sex is some kind of way like

0:38:29.120 --> 0:38:35.239
<v Speaker 1>accessing their manhood. And Louisiana Baton Rouge p D would

0:38:35.239 --> 0:38:37.520
<v Speaker 1>be at his fucking door he has a daughter if

0:38:37.560 --> 0:38:39.160
<v Speaker 1>he said that he had a guy comeing fuck his

0:38:39.239 --> 0:38:41.839
<v Speaker 1>daughter to make sure that she wasn't gay. So it's

0:38:41.880 --> 0:38:44.720
<v Speaker 1>just a weird thing on how we prioritize little boys

0:38:44.719 --> 0:38:46.520
<v Speaker 1>over a little girl, I mean little girls over little boys,

0:38:46.520 --> 0:38:48.839
<v Speaker 1>and it's and it's frankly very sad. But I think

0:38:48.880 --> 0:38:51.400
<v Speaker 1>the main thing about is Dayah, we gotta figure out

0:38:51.440 --> 0:38:55.520
<v Speaker 1>her name. Is It is clearly more unhealthy that you're

0:38:55.560 --> 0:38:58.359
<v Speaker 1>forcing sex on a kid more than you are letting

0:38:58.400 --> 0:39:00.480
<v Speaker 1>them change their clothes. And I don't know you guys

0:39:00.480 --> 0:39:02.160
<v Speaker 1>know this, but I just want to go through this

0:39:02.239 --> 0:39:06.759
<v Speaker 1>really quickly. You cannot remove genitals or do anything like

0:39:06.800 --> 0:39:09.160
<v Speaker 1>that on a twelve year old kid. You can't even

0:39:09.200 --> 0:39:13.919
<v Speaker 1>start um hormonal Zaiah, Okay, thank you, Vincent. You can't

0:39:13.920 --> 0:39:16.600
<v Speaker 1>even start like hormone treatment until I believe it's like

0:39:16.640 --> 0:39:20.440
<v Speaker 1>sixteen or seventeen, so like this is all super preliminary.

0:39:20.640 --> 0:39:23.120
<v Speaker 1>It's it's it's not something that's in discussion yet. And

0:39:23.160 --> 0:39:28.120
<v Speaker 1>I think that is obsession with masculinity. I think it's

0:39:28.160 --> 0:39:33.000
<v Speaker 1>an obsession. Um. And before we get into the hope facts, um,

0:39:33.040 --> 0:39:35.960
<v Speaker 1>I think it's weird how we have such an obsession

0:39:36.000 --> 0:39:39.680
<v Speaker 1>with sexuality with children. I think it's done to young

0:39:39.719 --> 0:39:42.600
<v Speaker 1>girls really quickly based on what they wear. I think

0:39:42.600 --> 0:39:49.040
<v Speaker 1>that we sexualize children more than children sexualize themselves, and

0:39:49.080 --> 0:39:52.440
<v Speaker 1>they have no clue, right. And I think it's fucking

0:39:52.480 --> 0:39:57.040
<v Speaker 1>discussing that we are putting sex onto these children instead

0:39:57.040 --> 0:40:00.560
<v Speaker 1>of just allowing them to simply be children. There's a

0:40:00.560 --> 0:40:03.719
<v Speaker 1>popular video with the guy who's on the pole, uh,

0:40:03.760 --> 0:40:05.600
<v Speaker 1>swinging around. He's an instructor. I don't know if you

0:40:05.600 --> 0:40:07.600
<v Speaker 1>guys have seen it. It's actually really adorable. He's like,

0:40:07.640 --> 0:40:10.080
<v Speaker 1>let's do it again. Look kid, kid can't be more

0:40:10.080 --> 0:40:13.080
<v Speaker 1>than three. And they're not playing any kind of music

0:40:13.160 --> 0:40:16.760
<v Speaker 1>that feels sexual. He's wearing regular clothes. There's nothing porno

0:40:16.920 --> 0:40:19.640
<v Speaker 1>looking about it, and to me, it seems like exercise.

0:40:19.680 --> 0:40:23.000
<v Speaker 1>Not to mention, there's a fucking pole on the playground.

0:40:23.360 --> 0:40:26.399
<v Speaker 1>Speaking of fire poles whose fire alarm went off, that's

0:40:26.440 --> 0:40:30.799
<v Speaker 1>your firelarm. Let's take a ship. Um Well, no, I

0:40:30.840 --> 0:40:35.680
<v Speaker 1>totally um agree with you, Van. I wanna um jump

0:40:35.719 --> 0:40:41.360
<v Speaker 1>into our now hole facs. So the next two conversations

0:40:41.400 --> 0:40:43.600
<v Speaker 1>that we're gonna have with you are ones that I've

0:40:43.600 --> 0:40:45.479
<v Speaker 1>really wanted to have with you. So our whole facts

0:40:45.520 --> 0:40:49.200
<v Speaker 1>segment is where we pull out weird facts about sex

0:40:49.640 --> 0:40:52.319
<v Speaker 1>and for you specifically, because you've been so open in

0:40:52.320 --> 0:40:56.800
<v Speaker 1>the conversation, I wanted to have the conversation about porn addiction.

0:40:57.280 --> 0:41:00.319
<v Speaker 1>We've talked about only fans. We've talked about how you

0:41:00.480 --> 0:41:03.560
<v Speaker 1>literally go onto your Twitter and see porn, but not

0:41:03.600 --> 0:41:06.880
<v Speaker 1>only that. We've talked about how porn Hub has given

0:41:06.880 --> 0:41:10.440
<v Speaker 1>you free premium during the quarantine. Um. But there are

0:41:10.560 --> 0:41:13.759
<v Speaker 1>some effects to porn addiction, and you have talked about

0:41:13.840 --> 0:41:16.200
<v Speaker 1>your experience with it, so I wanted to give some

0:41:16.280 --> 0:41:18.759
<v Speaker 1>facts before we get into kind of your experience with

0:41:18.800 --> 0:41:22.560
<v Speaker 1>porn um. The one of the facts that I thought

0:41:22.760 --> 0:41:26.359
<v Speaker 1>was very interesting is that addiction to pornographic material is

0:41:26.400 --> 0:41:31.160
<v Speaker 1>not just limited to porn videos. This comes from addiction

0:41:31.320 --> 0:41:36.680
<v Speaker 1>a HQ dot Org UM, and it says that the

0:41:36.719 --> 0:41:40.200
<v Speaker 1>action a person has towards pornographic material may not just

0:41:40.239 --> 0:41:42.880
<v Speaker 1>be limited to peorgn videos and other content available on

0:41:42.880 --> 0:41:46.680
<v Speaker 1>porn websites. This addiction for porn would translate into their

0:41:46.719 --> 0:41:48.640
<v Speaker 1>real life as well as they would want to quench

0:41:48.680 --> 0:41:52.720
<v Speaker 1>the thirst by trying newer alternatives. UM. So it's saying

0:41:52.760 --> 0:41:58.560
<v Speaker 1>that other other things include um starting from content on

0:41:58.600 --> 0:42:01.680
<v Speaker 1>the internet and move onto a stage where the addict

0:42:01.719 --> 0:42:03.880
<v Speaker 1>would not be able to control their thirsts for porn

0:42:04.200 --> 0:42:06.920
<v Speaker 1>in specific and sexual activity in general. You've got a

0:42:06.920 --> 0:42:09.919
<v Speaker 1>lot of annoised ship going on over the event. That's

0:42:09.960 --> 0:42:13.960
<v Speaker 1>not that's not you? Who is it? Y'all heard that

0:42:14.480 --> 0:42:17.520
<v Speaker 1>bitch of a you bitch and ain't me. I ain't

0:42:17.520 --> 0:42:23.920
<v Speaker 1>got nothing going on, prison bits and goddamnit no anyways,

0:42:23.960 --> 0:42:26.879
<v Speaker 1>So I wanted to talk to you, um if you can,

0:42:27.600 --> 0:42:32.040
<v Speaker 1>um how you think porn is healthy, but also how

0:42:32.120 --> 0:42:35.080
<v Speaker 1>you think it is unhealthy and which part of that

0:42:35.480 --> 0:42:38.040
<v Speaker 1>you think you experienced, because I'll be honest with you

0:42:38.200 --> 0:42:39.840
<v Speaker 1>before you get into your story, because I know you

0:42:39.880 --> 0:42:43.840
<v Speaker 1>have like an in depth relationship with porn uh without

0:42:43.880 --> 0:42:47.600
<v Speaker 1>actually doing porn. UM. I actually talk about how I

0:42:47.680 --> 0:42:50.840
<v Speaker 1>used it to go to sleep. Um, it's been my routine,

0:42:51.200 --> 0:42:54.640
<v Speaker 1>honestly for the last maybe eight years, Mandy saying it

0:42:54.680 --> 0:43:01.600
<v Speaker 1>like she's it's been to me. If I don't watch

0:43:01.719 --> 0:43:04.200
<v Speaker 1>porn and nut before I go to sleep, I have nightmares,

0:43:04.560 --> 0:43:06.440
<v Speaker 1>or I just lay in bed and can't fall asleep.

0:43:06.600 --> 0:43:11.440
<v Speaker 1>I haven't to bust a nut to fucking sleep. Okay, So, um,

0:43:11.480 --> 0:43:14.880
<v Speaker 1>that doesn't mean you need porn, you know yourself? Because well, no,

0:43:15.040 --> 0:43:18.279
<v Speaker 1>with with so with me, with masturbating. I can only

0:43:18.360 --> 0:43:21.080
<v Speaker 1>masturbate visually, so I have my phone in one hand

0:43:21.080 --> 0:43:23.640
<v Speaker 1>my toy and the other can't do it with my imagination.

0:43:23.680 --> 0:43:26.399
<v Speaker 1>I know you've talked about being real imaginative and your

0:43:26.400 --> 0:43:31.719
<v Speaker 1>goddamn mind before may have to watch porn. And so

0:43:31.840 --> 0:43:35.880
<v Speaker 1>with the pandemic, nigga being at home all day, nigga,

0:43:36.080 --> 0:43:39.600
<v Speaker 1>damn there rubbing my clip off McClinton is almost non existent.

0:43:40.040 --> 0:43:43.240
<v Speaker 1>So I've now gotten to the point where it's almost

0:43:43.239 --> 0:43:46.640
<v Speaker 1>like it's doing nothing for me. So wait, then, the

0:43:46.719 --> 0:43:48.879
<v Speaker 1>last time we caught up, you were telling me how

0:43:48.920 --> 0:43:50.359
<v Speaker 1>like or I don't know if you were telling me

0:43:50.440 --> 0:43:53.480
<v Speaker 1>or we were talking about it, how you cut off porn. Yeah,

0:43:53.520 --> 0:43:57.279
<v Speaker 1>I want to can you can you share that with

0:43:57.360 --> 0:44:00.399
<v Speaker 1>us kind of your unhealthy relationship with it and why

0:44:00.440 --> 0:44:03.719
<v Speaker 1>you have to cut it off? Yo, So like it

0:44:03.800 --> 0:44:08.040
<v Speaker 1>got weird? So um here it got weird. Well, well

0:44:08.520 --> 0:44:11.640
<v Speaker 1>here's the thing. Like when I like, I am, I

0:44:11.719 --> 0:44:14.520
<v Speaker 1>represent like two or three different generations of form, right,

0:44:14.640 --> 0:44:20.440
<v Speaker 1>So I'm like, so I'm being for real, it's a truth.

0:44:20.560 --> 0:44:24.600
<v Speaker 1>Like I watched three decades of porn and a magazine.

0:44:24.920 --> 0:44:27.440
<v Speaker 1>I got that. But see all this ship y'all saying

0:44:27.640 --> 0:44:30.920
<v Speaker 1>it's all accurate, because here's it. Because because here's the thing.

0:44:31.520 --> 0:44:35.680
<v Speaker 1>I come home, I want to watch WrestleMania, right, I

0:44:35.719 --> 0:44:37.920
<v Speaker 1>want to watch Mestlemania. Go in my dad's room. The

0:44:38.000 --> 0:44:41.640
<v Speaker 1>fucking VCR in the living room don't work. I try to,

0:44:41.920 --> 0:44:44.080
<v Speaker 1>you know, put the WrestleMania tape and it won't take

0:44:44.080 --> 0:44:47.280
<v Speaker 1>because already taping the VCR. When I played taping the VCR,

0:44:47.719 --> 0:44:51.279
<v Speaker 1>they fucking Jimmy Z and ebony A's they fucking And

0:44:51.280 --> 0:44:57.239
<v Speaker 1>I'm like, ship, now remember Jimmy Z sounds Jimmy Z.

0:44:57.280 --> 0:44:59.719
<v Speaker 1>Now remember this and I remember this. Now this is

0:44:59.800 --> 0:45:02.640
<v Speaker 1>doing at that same time, I'm twelve, So think about

0:45:02.680 --> 0:45:05.480
<v Speaker 1>going from obsessing with titties in the shirt to sing

0:45:05.640 --> 0:45:09.760
<v Speaker 1>two people funk. A lot of people would hold titties.

0:45:09.760 --> 0:45:12.360
<v Speaker 1>A lot of people can deal with that. The obsessions

0:45:12.360 --> 0:45:15.759
<v Speaker 1>started growing in Okay. So like for me, I think

0:45:15.800 --> 0:45:17.760
<v Speaker 1>that I went through times in my life to where

0:45:18.520 --> 0:45:21.560
<v Speaker 1>I did whatever it was the safest for me, you know.

0:45:22.160 --> 0:45:25.400
<v Speaker 1>And so food was safe, like it was it was

0:45:25.440 --> 0:45:27.839
<v Speaker 1>something that I would always be able to come back

0:45:27.840 --> 0:45:30.320
<v Speaker 1>to and you knew it was gonna deliver and really

0:45:30.360 --> 0:45:33.160
<v Speaker 1>poor and was safe. Like if you if you dial

0:45:33.239 --> 0:45:35.239
<v Speaker 1>up the computer, you get on some poor and you

0:45:35.280 --> 0:45:39.880
<v Speaker 1>see something, whatever you want to happen, it's going to

0:45:39.880 --> 0:45:42.280
<v Speaker 1>dial up dial up, you know what I'm saying. Whatever

0:45:42.320 --> 0:45:44.400
<v Speaker 1>you want to happen for yourself is gonna happen. Like

0:45:44.960 --> 0:45:49.400
<v Speaker 1>I think where the addiction started started to become like

0:45:49.440 --> 0:45:52.120
<v Speaker 1>a problem for me then and then a problem even

0:45:52.360 --> 0:45:55.680
<v Speaker 1>uh sort of more recently, is when it's something that

0:45:55.760 --> 0:45:59.279
<v Speaker 1>you feel like you kind of have to do that

0:45:59.440 --> 0:46:02.640
<v Speaker 1>you can't live with that right or or like or

0:46:02.960 --> 0:46:05.120
<v Speaker 1>or like you're not gonna have a regular day if

0:46:05.160 --> 0:46:09.400
<v Speaker 1>every once in a while, see what I'm saying, especially

0:46:09.400 --> 0:46:12.040
<v Speaker 1>being home, if I didn't masturbate at nights to put

0:46:12.080 --> 0:46:14.600
<v Speaker 1>myself to sleep, I didn't sleep well, and before I

0:46:14.600 --> 0:46:16.560
<v Speaker 1>got to bed in the morning, I was like, ship,

0:46:16.600 --> 0:46:18.600
<v Speaker 1>I didn't watch porn last night, so let me make

0:46:18.680 --> 0:46:21.000
<v Speaker 1>up for it. And I was watching porn at seven

0:46:21.040 --> 0:46:24.400
<v Speaker 1>o'clock in the morning and busting off just because I

0:46:24.400 --> 0:46:26.600
<v Speaker 1>felt like fun. I didn't go to sleep to it.

0:46:26.880 --> 0:46:28.640
<v Speaker 1>Let me wake up to it. And that's when I

0:46:28.680 --> 0:46:31.719
<v Speaker 1>was like, Okay, this ain't this ain't right. I don't

0:46:31.719 --> 0:46:33.399
<v Speaker 1>really think. I don't know. I don't feel like porn

0:46:33.600 --> 0:46:36.719
<v Speaker 1>is bad as long as you're not like taking it

0:46:36.760 --> 0:46:39.200
<v Speaker 1>into real life and like, for example, like if you

0:46:39.200 --> 0:46:42.200
<v Speaker 1>are into super hardcore sex and then you start slapping

0:46:42.239 --> 0:46:44.440
<v Speaker 1>motherfucker's that you're fucking like, I think that's when it

0:46:44.520 --> 0:46:47.160
<v Speaker 1>becomes bad. But as long as you think I'm peg

0:46:47.200 --> 0:46:50.959
<v Speaker 1>the stallion. I think seven years of gay porn got

0:46:51.000 --> 0:46:53.760
<v Speaker 1>me to where I am now, and I feel like, fuck,

0:46:54.000 --> 0:46:57.759
<v Speaker 1>it's ruining my sex lack. But I think I think

0:46:57.800 --> 0:47:01.560
<v Speaker 1>anything that you overdo, right, yes, So like so for

0:47:01.600 --> 0:47:04.719
<v Speaker 1>me this computer, like I can't use this as a

0:47:04.719 --> 0:47:07.200
<v Speaker 1>fucking pornographic machine all day. I got a right. I

0:47:07.320 --> 0:47:09.400
<v Speaker 1>ended it ended up being to a situation for me

0:47:09.480 --> 0:47:12.840
<v Speaker 1>to wear What do you do you use your TV, Like, No,

0:47:13.000 --> 0:47:14.759
<v Speaker 1>in order for me to get writing done, I had

0:47:14.800 --> 0:47:18.439
<v Speaker 1>to go to a public place, you know what I'm saying. Yeah,

0:47:18.560 --> 0:47:20.799
<v Speaker 1>because if I opened it, if I was opening in

0:47:20.840 --> 0:47:23.399
<v Speaker 1>the computer, my Dick was like, all right, let's go.

0:47:25.600 --> 0:47:28.840
<v Speaker 1>You know what I'm saying. What you mean, have you

0:47:28.840 --> 0:47:31.880
<v Speaker 1>been watching porn? Yeah a little bit. Yeah, it's a

0:47:31.880 --> 0:47:33.640
<v Speaker 1>lot of hours in a day. Yeah, a little bit,

0:47:33.680 --> 0:47:36.560
<v Speaker 1>but like not like I was before. Not like are

0:47:36.600 --> 0:47:39.640
<v Speaker 1>you watching twerking porn still or have you graduated? What

0:47:39.719 --> 0:47:42.400
<v Speaker 1>was it? What was your what was your porn preference?

0:47:42.440 --> 0:47:45.080
<v Speaker 1>So everyone knows mine is gay porn. We need this

0:47:45.160 --> 0:47:48.120
<v Speaker 1>boot cocky and cream pies. What is your porn choice?

0:47:49.440 --> 0:47:55.840
<v Speaker 1>Big butt twork porn? Yes, big butts work porn? Actual

0:47:55.960 --> 0:47:59.279
<v Speaker 1>fucking or is it just dancing? Sometimes? But like but

0:47:59.280 --> 0:48:01.040
<v Speaker 1>but what you have to understand it's like for me

0:48:01.160 --> 0:48:04.799
<v Speaker 1>personally and sometimes sometimes there is even but even like

0:48:05.000 --> 0:48:10.480
<v Speaker 1>it's like because you think the ass obsession is so significant,

0:48:10.760 --> 0:48:13.560
<v Speaker 1>it's hard for me to watch like other positions. Besides,

0:48:13.600 --> 0:48:16.080
<v Speaker 1>like Carl girl, have you dated women with big asses?

0:48:16.160 --> 0:48:18.440
<v Speaker 1>Or this doesn't try like go into real life like

0:48:18.680 --> 0:48:20.360
<v Speaker 1>this something in the past, but no, no, no, but

0:48:20.480 --> 0:48:23.160
<v Speaker 1>is this something that's like you need Like for us,

0:48:23.360 --> 0:48:26.759
<v Speaker 1>we need niggs with money. Do you need ass? It's

0:48:26.800 --> 0:48:30.680
<v Speaker 1>not about not necessarily, I don't need a niggle with

0:48:30.760 --> 0:48:33.200
<v Speaker 1>a big dick. Sorry, it's what I like so to

0:48:33.520 --> 0:48:37.760
<v Speaker 1>like So when you date even or like preference wise,

0:48:37.880 --> 0:48:40.760
<v Speaker 1>have you felt over the years because of porn it's

0:48:40.880 --> 0:48:43.920
<v Speaker 1>kind of messed with you wanting a woman with big tits,

0:48:43.920 --> 0:48:45.719
<v Speaker 1>are wanting a woman with a big ask because this

0:48:45.760 --> 0:48:48.640
<v Speaker 1>is how you get off? Well, I mean, yeah, it's there.

0:48:48.719 --> 0:48:51.360
<v Speaker 1>There's something to be said from being from the South.

0:48:51.440 --> 0:48:54.879
<v Speaker 1>I haven't been with too many women that don't don't

0:48:54.920 --> 0:48:57.959
<v Speaker 1>have nice butts. You know, the girl has a nice butt,

0:48:58.280 --> 0:49:01.560
<v Speaker 1>So like it's it's not it's not, is it when

0:49:01.560 --> 0:49:04.480
<v Speaker 1>you come from the South. The women that I would see,

0:49:06.080 --> 0:49:12.040
<v Speaker 1>that's true, the women like from the South, the women

0:49:12.080 --> 0:49:13.480
<v Speaker 1>that I would the women that I would say, I

0:49:13.520 --> 0:49:15.800
<v Speaker 1>want to be honest with you. But like like when

0:49:15.840 --> 0:49:18.080
<v Speaker 1>when when I like kind of got to college and

0:49:18.120 --> 0:49:20.120
<v Speaker 1>people were like, yo, man, you know who the finest

0:49:20.200 --> 0:49:22.120
<v Speaker 1>chicken the world is, the finest white girl, I'll be like,

0:49:22.120 --> 0:49:27.919
<v Speaker 1>who would'd be like Angelina Jolie. I'll be like, hell, no, beautiful,

0:49:28.600 --> 0:49:32.680
<v Speaker 1>but Scarlett Johnson got it like that I can do

0:49:32.760 --> 0:49:35.960
<v Speaker 1>with I like my little thick girls, but even with men,

0:49:36.760 --> 0:49:38.440
<v Speaker 1>whirl Man, do you have to that's the game. I

0:49:38.480 --> 0:49:44.040
<v Speaker 1>gotta pick a white girl. Julia Fox who Carmen, a lecturer,

0:49:44.120 --> 0:49:49.520
<v Speaker 1>is white, right, yeah, she's not white enough. We need

0:49:49.680 --> 0:49:52.319
<v Speaker 1>wi for the game, a whier person that I think

0:49:52.480 --> 0:49:55.120
<v Speaker 1>is fine that I would fuck like and eat her,

0:49:55.160 --> 0:50:03.839
<v Speaker 1>little white, little pink pussy. I try to think about it. Um. Oh,

0:50:03.920 --> 0:50:06.360
<v Speaker 1>you know what, because she's I think she's really good looking.

0:50:06.440 --> 0:50:09.719
<v Speaker 1>I hate her talent, but iggy Azalia, bitch, I'll be

0:50:09.760 --> 0:50:14.560
<v Speaker 1>double talent. You just got canceled. God damn, I couldn't

0:50:14.600 --> 0:50:20.360
<v Speaker 1>be less attracted like it. Literally, it is so wild.

0:50:18.960 --> 0:50:23.879
<v Speaker 1>The body whoever her doctor is this picture dog. That

0:50:23.920 --> 0:50:30.480
<v Speaker 1>bitch is beautiful. You know, Okay, she doesn't look that.

0:50:31.640 --> 0:50:33.720
<v Speaker 1>Don't do that right. She look a little exotic bitch,

0:50:34.880 --> 0:50:37.320
<v Speaker 1>one of them blackfishing as white girl. She's a spicy

0:50:37.360 --> 0:50:44.200
<v Speaker 1>white um. Anyways, no, um, So basically, why or before

0:50:44.200 --> 0:50:46.400
<v Speaker 1>we get into the horrible decision, which I'm super excited

0:50:46.400 --> 0:50:48.480
<v Speaker 1>to get into because I've saved this topic just for

0:50:48.560 --> 0:50:52.960
<v Speaker 1>your ass um, what tips would you give to somebody

0:50:53.320 --> 0:50:56.799
<v Speaker 1>that thinks that they may be addicted to porn. They

0:50:56.920 --> 0:51:04.239
<v Speaker 1>can just say it, but maybe not that much. Like, well,

0:51:04.280 --> 0:51:07.200
<v Speaker 1>what I'm saying is, like, you know, like the first

0:51:07.239 --> 0:51:09.120
<v Speaker 1>thing that I would say to anyone that's trying to

0:51:09.120 --> 0:51:12.000
<v Speaker 1>get a hold on anything is don't cut it out

0:51:12.040 --> 0:51:14.080
<v Speaker 1>cold turkey, just try to limit it. I looked up

0:51:14.200 --> 0:51:17.840
<v Speaker 1>one time and I had I had membership to Browsers

0:51:18.320 --> 0:51:21.160
<v Speaker 1>two Bang Bros. To Reality Kings. You was paying for

0:51:21.239 --> 0:51:25.040
<v Speaker 1>all this? Yeah, those twelve minute videos up. I pay.

0:51:25.160 --> 0:51:26.879
<v Speaker 1>I pay for all of it. Number One, I paid

0:51:26.880 --> 0:51:30.360
<v Speaker 1>because I support I'm a fan fan. Number two, I

0:51:30.440 --> 0:51:33.560
<v Speaker 1>pay because I want everything and the best quality when

0:51:33.640 --> 0:51:35.239
<v Speaker 1>I want it. So I don't like, I don't want

0:51:35.239 --> 0:51:41.640
<v Speaker 1>to watch four K and I like to download this

0:51:41.719 --> 0:51:43.399
<v Speaker 1>so I can get to the best part. I don't

0:51:43.440 --> 0:51:48.560
<v Speaker 1>have to if my stream is downloading it. What I'm saying,

0:51:48.840 --> 0:51:55.040
<v Speaker 1>So what I'm saying this folder. Yes, I mean from

0:51:55.080 --> 0:51:57.000
<v Speaker 1>being guys, but I don't know what I'm saying. No,

0:51:57.080 --> 0:51:59.120
<v Speaker 1>what I'm saying is this though. What I'm saying is seriously, though,

0:51:59.600 --> 0:52:01.800
<v Speaker 1>once it starts to kind of rear its ugly head

0:52:01.840 --> 0:52:05.319
<v Speaker 1>in your relationship or in your uh, in your life,

0:52:05.440 --> 0:52:08.440
<v Speaker 1>you really have to kind of established limits and they

0:52:08.560 --> 0:52:12.120
<v Speaker 1>just will go down from there. Fans like seven, you

0:52:12.120 --> 0:52:14.720
<v Speaker 1>guys know how I knew Van was in a trinking

0:52:14.800 --> 0:52:17.319
<v Speaker 1>porn not from he said it on his podcast. That's

0:52:17.320 --> 0:52:19.040
<v Speaker 1>how I found out. But this is how I really

0:52:19.040 --> 0:52:23.160
<v Speaker 1>found out because I too, am nasty and they pop

0:52:23.239 --> 0:52:25.480
<v Speaker 1>up on my explore page, and the only person that

0:52:25.520 --> 0:52:28.200
<v Speaker 1>would follow these pages it would have one neutual and

0:52:28.239 --> 0:52:33.040
<v Speaker 1>it was Van fucking Lateen Niggad. I was like, ye, Nick,

0:52:33.600 --> 0:52:38.719
<v Speaker 1>it's I'm not gonna category coming. There are guys that

0:52:38.840 --> 0:52:40.719
<v Speaker 1>every time I used to follow one of those, because

0:52:40.719 --> 0:52:42.239
<v Speaker 1>I don't really follow them anymore, but every time I

0:52:42.239 --> 0:52:44.799
<v Speaker 1>will follow one of those, I would see their name

0:52:44.880 --> 0:52:46.760
<v Speaker 1>down there too, and I would be like, my nigga

0:52:47.000 --> 0:52:48.759
<v Speaker 1>and some of them are big stars and they know

0:52:48.800 --> 0:52:51.279
<v Speaker 1>who I'm talking about. But you know, this is why

0:52:51.360 --> 0:52:54.160
<v Speaker 1>I know me and my my gay my gay homeboys

0:52:54.680 --> 0:52:57.680
<v Speaker 1>they call. They say that I am a gay man

0:52:57.719 --> 0:53:00.520
<v Speaker 1>trapped in a woman body because we've like in all

0:53:00.560 --> 0:53:02.440
<v Speaker 1>the same nigga's pictures and I'd be like, Nigga, we

0:53:02.480 --> 0:53:04.759
<v Speaker 1>got the same type. And I'll be following all these

0:53:04.840 --> 0:53:07.960
<v Speaker 1>minutes and we'll be arguing about whose team these niggas

0:53:08.000 --> 0:53:11.480
<v Speaker 1>is really on and I'm like, listen, they'd be like, sorry,

0:53:11.520 --> 0:53:13.080
<v Speaker 1>he plays for me. So let me tell you. Me

0:53:13.120 --> 0:53:15.200
<v Speaker 1>and Bennie, some of you guys have met Vine at

0:53:15.200 --> 0:53:17.319
<v Speaker 1>our live show. He's one of my best friends. He's

0:53:17.320 --> 0:53:18.960
<v Speaker 1>been on the show and he works with Mandy and

0:53:18.960 --> 0:53:22.279
<v Speaker 1>Ana tour. Me and Bennie legit have played this game

0:53:22.320 --> 0:53:24.879
<v Speaker 1>when we've seen men that are super attractive, right, I'll

0:53:24.920 --> 0:53:28.480
<v Speaker 1>be like, bro, is he gay or not? He's like

0:53:28.520 --> 0:53:30.759
<v Speaker 1>gay or European? Because the nigga dressed was so we

0:53:30.840 --> 0:53:34.319
<v Speaker 1>gotta find out, right, So this is no bullshit how

0:53:34.360 --> 0:53:37.160
<v Speaker 1>this should happened. One time, I think we were on

0:53:37.160 --> 0:53:40.040
<v Speaker 1>a cruise together and I see this guy. He's dressed cutest,

0:53:40.360 --> 0:53:42.000
<v Speaker 1>like fun, is he gay or not? So I go

0:53:42.120 --> 0:53:44.799
<v Speaker 1>up to the guy right Benny's watching. I go up.

0:53:44.840 --> 0:53:47.359
<v Speaker 1>I'm excuse me. Do you know the time the guy

0:53:47.400 --> 0:53:51.480
<v Speaker 1>looks at his phone, he's like, it's m like five.

0:53:51.520 --> 0:53:58.520
<v Speaker 1>I was like, I'm we Well, guys were probinally getting

0:53:58.520 --> 0:54:01.239
<v Speaker 1>into this week's horrible decision. And and this is a

0:54:01.239 --> 0:54:04.080
<v Speaker 1>conversation that Van and I had on his podcast. I

0:54:04.120 --> 0:54:06.759
<v Speaker 1>think that it's very important to have because we've had

0:54:06.760 --> 0:54:11.560
<v Speaker 1>so much body positivity, fat shaming, how weight affects your

0:54:11.640 --> 0:54:15.560
<v Speaker 1>sex conversations, Yet we've never talked to a man and

0:54:15.600 --> 0:54:19.200
<v Speaker 1>how weight affects him in dating and in the bedroom.

0:54:19.480 --> 0:54:22.600
<v Speaker 1>And if you guys aren't familiar with Van's journey, Van,

0:54:23.320 --> 0:54:27.680
<v Speaker 1>like myself, has gone through a drastic weight lost journey

0:54:27.719 --> 0:54:30.920
<v Speaker 1>where he decided to get healthier and he's come forward

0:54:30.920 --> 0:54:34.280
<v Speaker 1>with talking about how his weight affected him in dating

0:54:34.320 --> 0:54:36.880
<v Speaker 1>and in sex um. But also, you know, we've been

0:54:36.920 --> 0:54:41.600
<v Speaker 1>talked about as far as shaming chubbier men or thick men,

0:54:42.000 --> 0:54:44.560
<v Speaker 1>and I know you hate the term thick. So I

0:54:44.600 --> 0:54:48.680
<v Speaker 1>wanted to start off this conversation with asking you Van,

0:54:49.000 --> 0:54:51.759
<v Speaker 1>if we can go back to before you lost your

0:54:51.760 --> 0:54:55.120
<v Speaker 1>weight and started bagging all the bitches and we can

0:54:55.160 --> 0:54:59.160
<v Speaker 1>talk about maybe some of your insecurities or how you

0:54:59.280 --> 0:55:02.759
<v Speaker 1>felt weight affected you not only in the bedroom but

0:55:02.920 --> 0:55:05.960
<v Speaker 1>with dating. Can you go back and and talk to

0:55:06.040 --> 0:55:09.319
<v Speaker 1>the women and also the bigger men who who may

0:55:09.320 --> 0:55:12.600
<v Speaker 1>be sharing the same experience what that was like for you. Well,

0:55:12.640 --> 0:55:15.520
<v Speaker 1>for me, you know, it was always plenty of guys

0:55:15.600 --> 0:55:18.000
<v Speaker 1>that we're a little bit bigger from bad rooms. They

0:55:18.000 --> 0:55:20.000
<v Speaker 1>did their thing, But for me, I was just too insecure.

0:55:20.200 --> 0:55:23.520
<v Speaker 1>It like it was. It's like I am one of

0:55:23.520 --> 0:55:26.840
<v Speaker 1>those people that like when I was at my biggest,

0:55:26.960 --> 0:55:28.840
<v Speaker 1>I think I was three hundred and seventy pounds, Like,

0:55:29.719 --> 0:55:33.120
<v Speaker 1>and how tall are you? I'm six four and so

0:55:33.120 --> 0:55:35.719
<v Speaker 1>so I will walk into I will walk into a

0:55:35.840 --> 0:55:39.000
<v Speaker 1>room no matter what and be like, everybody's looking at me.

0:55:39.800 --> 0:55:42.080
<v Speaker 1>Everybody's looking at the fat nigg in the room. Everyone

0:55:42.160 --> 0:55:43.880
<v Speaker 1>is looking at me. Everyone is staring at me. I

0:55:43.920 --> 0:55:45.839
<v Speaker 1>can't eat, I can't do any of this. I can't

0:55:45.880 --> 0:55:48.759
<v Speaker 1>do anything because if I get a piece of chicken

0:55:48.760 --> 0:55:51.600
<v Speaker 1>and look at that fat ass niggy, if I said

0:55:51.840 --> 0:55:53.839
<v Speaker 1>I like, if I if I go like, look if

0:55:53.840 --> 0:55:55.879
<v Speaker 1>it's hot out, so I look at sweaty ass, fat

0:55:55.880 --> 0:55:58.080
<v Speaker 1>ass nigger like I just thought that all the time.

0:55:58.160 --> 0:56:02.120
<v Speaker 1>So what Really it was really interesting in the way

0:56:02.200 --> 0:56:07.120
<v Speaker 1>that affected me. Uh, because I didn't have any sort

0:56:07.840 --> 0:56:11.200
<v Speaker 1>of confidence in my looks. I had to rely on

0:56:11.400 --> 0:56:16.680
<v Speaker 1>my personality, so I would take it slow. What does

0:56:16.760 --> 0:56:20.719
<v Speaker 1>that mean? Meaning for a time in my life, the

0:56:20.760 --> 0:56:23.080
<v Speaker 1>only girls I ever dated a mess with, with girls

0:56:23.080 --> 0:56:26.040
<v Speaker 1>that I was in classes with or that I worked with.

0:56:26.560 --> 0:56:29.399
<v Speaker 1>You didn't get on chat lines and stuff up. When

0:56:29.440 --> 0:56:33.560
<v Speaker 1>he was when he was growing up. Anyways, remember three

0:56:33.680 --> 0:56:36.360
<v Speaker 1>decades girl, we was, We was catching niggas on my

0:56:36.440 --> 0:56:40.640
<v Speaker 1>Space and chat lines. When we were, I was, and

0:56:40.680 --> 0:56:42.520
<v Speaker 1>sometimes you know what that meant. Sometimes I meant you

0:56:42.600 --> 0:56:44.839
<v Speaker 1>have to wait the nigga out. That means that like

0:56:45.320 --> 0:56:48.160
<v Speaker 1>like you start talking to a girl and like you

0:56:47.960 --> 0:56:50.600
<v Speaker 1>you're getting the whole thing. And then I never forget

0:56:50.640 --> 0:56:54.800
<v Speaker 1>this tell the story in my book. I was seeing

0:56:54.800 --> 0:56:57.480
<v Speaker 1>a girl that worked the Best Buy with me, and

0:56:57.520 --> 0:56:59.840
<v Speaker 1>I was making good progress. You know. It was to

0:56:59.920 --> 0:57:02.560
<v Speaker 1>the point to where I was impressing her with my

0:57:02.640 --> 0:57:05.400
<v Speaker 1>fucking knowledge and all the movies I had seen and

0:57:05.440 --> 0:57:07.040
<v Speaker 1>all that. It was starting to happen. She was coming

0:57:07.080 --> 0:57:08.960
<v Speaker 1>over to the house and staying over and all of

0:57:09.000 --> 0:57:12.560
<v Speaker 1>that stuff. And then I never forget. Like a new

0:57:12.640 --> 0:57:16.800
<v Speaker 1>nigger started at best Buy. Landing was his name, And

0:57:16.840 --> 0:57:19.440
<v Speaker 1>as soon as he walked through the door for his interview,

0:57:20.160 --> 0:57:25.120
<v Speaker 1>I looked at him and I went, that's a fucking problem.

0:57:25.200 --> 0:57:29.000
<v Speaker 1>As soon as he started for his Landing was like

0:57:30.960 --> 0:57:34.000
<v Speaker 1>great guy. He ended up being one of the best dudes.

0:57:35.160 --> 0:57:38.920
<v Speaker 1>He was swollen ship. He ended up pleasure Kappa. He

0:57:38.960 --> 0:57:45.160
<v Speaker 1>had to to. He had the three little cuts. My god,

0:57:46.800 --> 0:57:50.120
<v Speaker 1>and all the little bit back in the day, you know,

0:57:50.280 --> 0:57:53.080
<v Speaker 1>and he was cool man you talked to Landing, Landing

0:57:53.200 --> 0:57:55.880
<v Speaker 1>was cool, like it was cool. So he came in,

0:57:56.320 --> 0:57:59.760
<v Speaker 1>he came for the interview, and then fun I saw him.

0:57:59.760 --> 0:58:01.960
<v Speaker 1>He got at the job, and I swear to god,

0:58:02.080 --> 0:58:05.760
<v Speaker 1>it wasn't a week later that I'm taking the trash

0:58:05.800 --> 0:58:08.440
<v Speaker 1>out and when I passed her the back they're talking.

0:58:08.640 --> 0:58:12.360
<v Speaker 1>She disappeared for a month. No, she did like she

0:58:12.480 --> 0:58:16.280
<v Speaker 1>disappeared for a month. But because Landing was in his back,

0:58:16.520 --> 0:58:18.400
<v Speaker 1>you know what I'm saying, He was out here during

0:58:18.400 --> 0:58:22.120
<v Speaker 1>this thing. Eventually I knew that that would fall off.

0:58:22.840 --> 0:58:25.160
<v Speaker 1>It did fall off, And where where did she? What

0:58:25.360 --> 0:58:28.760
<v Speaker 1>bead did she fall onto? Three hundred and sixty pounds

0:58:28.800 --> 0:58:34.360
<v Speaker 1>of love and affection and understanding. So that is kind

0:58:34.360 --> 0:58:38.040
<v Speaker 1>of what I felt like I had to do. I never, ever, ever,

0:58:38.080 --> 0:58:42.000
<v Speaker 1>ever thought that I was attractive enough to just go

0:58:42.160 --> 0:58:43.960
<v Speaker 1>up to a girl and try to see what was

0:58:44.000 --> 0:58:47.800
<v Speaker 1>popping um. And it didn't change until it didn't change

0:58:47.880 --> 0:58:50.880
<v Speaker 1>until something very specific happened. As I was losing weight,

0:58:50.880 --> 0:58:52.880
<v Speaker 1>Like when I first got out to l A, I

0:58:52.920 --> 0:58:56.800
<v Speaker 1>started like a like a Yahoo personal profile, and I

0:58:56.840 --> 0:59:00.400
<v Speaker 1>had my old fat picture up there, right, and I

0:59:00.400 --> 0:59:02.080
<v Speaker 1>would come back to it every day and it was

0:59:02.240 --> 0:59:05.600
<v Speaker 1>very very depressing because there would be no hits on it,

0:59:05.640 --> 0:59:08.840
<v Speaker 1>no clicks, no nothing, like nobody was really thinking. Like,

0:59:08.960 --> 0:59:11.960
<v Speaker 1>no one was like giving me. Folks are in l A.

0:59:12.080 --> 0:59:15.520
<v Speaker 1>Everything is big and running canyon and all that healthy

0:59:15.560 --> 0:59:19.680
<v Speaker 1>ship out there, right. And so I started losing weight,

0:59:19.760 --> 0:59:22.440
<v Speaker 1>Like January that year, I started losing weight. So I

0:59:22.520 --> 0:59:25.800
<v Speaker 1>think it was maybe like July. I came back and

0:59:25.840 --> 0:59:29.720
<v Speaker 1>I was like, let me change the picture and because

0:59:29.760 --> 0:59:31.840
<v Speaker 1>to update my ship, and I changed the picture and

0:59:31.880 --> 0:59:34.080
<v Speaker 1>it was just like nice little picture of me smiling

0:59:34.120 --> 0:59:36.600
<v Speaker 1>with like a fake Academy award, and I put that

0:59:36.600 --> 0:59:39.720
<v Speaker 1>ship up there. And then I'm not trying to say that,

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<v Speaker 1>I'm like trade songs and nothing like that, but my

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<v Speaker 1>ship got popping, and that to me was the thing

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<v Speaker 1>that said, yo, you're straight now. And then it changed

0:59:52.400 --> 0:59:53.880
<v Speaker 1>the way I kind of viewed things. But what I

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<v Speaker 1>never lost was the fact that like I just would

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<v Speaker 1>talk to women, said you're on it was yeah who

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<v Speaker 1>personals It turned into something else, yeah, like, but I

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<v Speaker 1>never I never lost the thing that I would just

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<v Speaker 1>talk to women. Because I spent a lot of time

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<v Speaker 1>trying to get to know women and trying to talk them,

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<v Speaker 1>trying to make them see my personality, and that kind

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<v Speaker 1>of never was. You know what though, as you have

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<v Speaker 1>such a warm personality, and as I got older, I

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<v Speaker 1>understand that people could be like this. But I would

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<v Speaker 1>say years maybe even like eight years ago, just being

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<v Speaker 1>at that age where I was earlier twenties, and I

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<v Speaker 1>would need someone like you, like a van. I would say,

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<v Speaker 1>who's so warm and friendly? And I was confused on

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<v Speaker 1>whether they wanted to funk me or not because they

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<v Speaker 1>just had that much of a way with words that

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<v Speaker 1>other men don't. I'm like, is this blotonic or is

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<v Speaker 1>it not? Because very few people I think can talk

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<v Speaker 1>to women and make them feel that comfortable like I mean,

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<v Speaker 1>that was the only that was the only bullet you

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<v Speaker 1>had in the gun, right, And it was crazy because

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<v Speaker 1>I would be around my niggas, right, my my homeboys

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<v Speaker 1>at that point were all they even still are today,

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<v Speaker 1>all great looking than outgoing God, all of them were.

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<v Speaker 1>And the ship that they would say like I was

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<v Speaker 1>like yo, like like he like I remember, never forget

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<v Speaker 1>My boy Trey was like, we're talking to this chick?

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<v Speaker 1>And I was agreeing with her and trying to be

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<v Speaker 1>supportive and stuff like that. And Trey was like, Nigga,

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<v Speaker 1>stop blowing his whole head up, just another example of

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<v Speaker 1>how stupid women are. And she goes, yeah, women can't

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<v Speaker 1>be stupid. I was like, what you know what I'm saying? Like,

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<v Speaker 1>I was like, that's that works? So yeah, I'm like, Ben,

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<v Speaker 1>I want to know, because you you mentioned going from

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<v Speaker 1>you know, three d and seventy pounds you lost the weight,

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<v Speaker 1>what was the difference in sex for you as a

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<v Speaker 1>bigger guy, Like were there limiting positions as a bigger

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<v Speaker 1>guy where you did you find yourself out of breath?

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<v Speaker 1>I joke all the time about how as a big

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<v Speaker 1>girl these knees wasn't no mad to stalion, so I

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<v Speaker 1>ain't ride a no dick um And I mean, I

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<v Speaker 1>I know that I felt a difference when I lost

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<v Speaker 1>eighty pounds, um from how I was energetic in the

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<v Speaker 1>bedroom or not. How does that affect a man in

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<v Speaker 1>the bedroom way better? Number one, Like I used to

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<v Speaker 1>have so I used to be self conscious about sweating

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<v Speaker 1>all because I used to sweat on I used to

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<v Speaker 1>sweat on you just the sweat would be just dripping

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<v Speaker 1>down seeing one girl and she was like doing like this,

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<v Speaker 1>Like I was like the sweat was dripping down, and

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<v Speaker 1>so I like I had all kinds of But more

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<v Speaker 1>than anything, anything that you're expressing yourself physically, it's it's

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<v Speaker 1>gonna be better, especially sex when you're there to make

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<v Speaker 1>some secrets. It's gonna be better. The more free and

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<v Speaker 1>confident you are, you know what I'm saying. The more

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<v Speaker 1>you feel like yo, like hold on pause. Knowing that

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<v Speaker 1>she wants to fuck you that bad is gonna help

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<v Speaker 1>your performance. Like being halfway about it, like is she

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<v Speaker 1>doing this just because she loves me? Is she doing

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<v Speaker 1>this just because it's time? But knowing that she actually

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<v Speaker 1>wants to fuck badly because she's super atracted to you,

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<v Speaker 1>that lowers your inhibitions. Now you're not playing a mind

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<v Speaker 1>game with yourself. You're not wondering how you look. You're

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<v Speaker 1>not trying to like, you know, keep the lights down

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<v Speaker 1>and nothing, none of that. Ship like that you into it,

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<v Speaker 1>like you felt like when you were bigger, women genuinely

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<v Speaker 1>did not want to have sex with you because I

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<v Speaker 1>were big, And you see, I feel like it's so

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<v Speaker 1>funny because I actually talked about the opposite. I know,

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<v Speaker 1>as a bigger woman as a BBW when you know,

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<v Speaker 1>they kicked me, they kicked me out of the BBW club.

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<v Speaker 1>But when I was bigger, when I was two hundred

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<v Speaker 1>and thirty pounds, I felt that men fetish sized my

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<v Speaker 1>size and loved the size I was because when I

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<v Speaker 1>started losing weight, men were mad. Did you have any

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<v Speaker 1>women that treated you that way to where they actually

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<v Speaker 1>liked you as a bigger guy? Look, they probably did,

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<v Speaker 1>to be honest with you, Like, a lot of people

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<v Speaker 1>gonna be listening to this and they're gonna be like, yo, Van,

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<v Speaker 1>we always Van was always kind of but I didn't

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<v Speaker 1>feel that way about myself. And see and see, I

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<v Speaker 1>think that's the thing, Like, if you're still in a

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<v Speaker 1>position where you're desirable, right, if you're going some places

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<v Speaker 1>that people are coming to you, then that's at least

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<v Speaker 1>one way for you to gauge, like how you're going

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<v Speaker 1>to feel about yourself because you know people are still

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<v Speaker 1>working with you. But if that's not happening, then it's

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<v Speaker 1>all in your mind about how you look and how

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<v Speaker 1>you feel. Like I used to want to with the

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<v Speaker 1>lights off. Now I'm saying, let's turn on the ring

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<v Speaker 1>like Nigga. So yeah, So I mean that was the

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<v Speaker 1>whole thing, is just But there were a lot of

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<v Speaker 1>things that changed as far as like I freed my brain.

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<v Speaker 1>It wasn't it wasn't for me. And they are by

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<v Speaker 1>the way, there are people, millions of people, billions of

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<v Speaker 1>people that are chubby fluffy. I hated that fluffy term

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<v Speaker 1>that are completely okay with its sexy, proud, whatever boom.

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<v Speaker 1>I just wasn't one of those people. It was inhibiting

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<v Speaker 1>for me, so I had to get rid of it. Now,

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<v Speaker 1>we interviewed a girl shout out to Ashley chubby Bunny,

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<v Speaker 1>she doesn't that That was the first time I've ever

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<v Speaker 1>heard someone told me that they don't care to be

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<v Speaker 1>called fat. She was like, oh, I am fat, Like

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<v Speaker 1>it isn't it is, Like I guess I've always used it,

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<v Speaker 1>looked at it as a derogatory word. And she was

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<v Speaker 1>saying and her and Mandy were going back and forth,

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<v Speaker 1>and I found it so interesting. Mandy was like, I

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<v Speaker 1>don't like fluffy and the girls like and Mandy was

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<v Speaker 1>talking about she didn't like when men squeezed her, and

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<v Speaker 1>the girl was like, well, I like it and it's

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<v Speaker 1>so interesting how because to me, I think what that

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<v Speaker 1>shows us is one or the other has had someone

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<v Speaker 1>had an influence of someone saying that there that their

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<v Speaker 1>body isn't right, or one is not celebrated enough, And

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<v Speaker 1>I think that's really the problem. Is like if you

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<v Speaker 1>are dating somebody, if you're a woman who's dating a

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<v Speaker 1>bigger dude, making them feel sexy, women don't do that

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<v Speaker 1>to their men. Often, men, I believe, to be honest,

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<v Speaker 1>give more compliments out dished them out way more to women.

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<v Speaker 1>And for some reason, we don't do the same celebrating

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<v Speaker 1>somebody's body whatever it fucking looks like. It's very important

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<v Speaker 1>making sure that you know that men could have insecurities too,

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<v Speaker 1>without letting that turn you off. We just assume they's

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<v Speaker 1>gonna be confident and feel good. Well, I actually do

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<v Speaker 1>want to give a tip to um. And this is

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<v Speaker 1>before we wrap up and get to our homemail and

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<v Speaker 1>get out of here. Um, I want to leave a tip. Man,

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<v Speaker 1>I would like you to leave a tip too. But

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<v Speaker 1>even off of what Weezy just said, as far as

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<v Speaker 1>women leaning in and giving compliments to their men, one

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<v Speaker 1>of the things that make my men, my lovers, my

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<v Speaker 1>partners blush. Um, And it's something that I do with

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<v Speaker 1>especially the ones that I just find fucking makes me

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<v Speaker 1>even hotter. Like is when we're done having sex or

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<v Speaker 1>we're just chilling in the house and we're in bed,

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<v Speaker 1>were naked. When they stand up, I make them walk

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<v Speaker 1>back and forth at the end of the bed and

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<v Speaker 1>tell them how fucking good they look naked, And I

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<v Speaker 1>just love I'd be like, before you go to the bathroom,

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<v Speaker 1>can you just walk back and forth for me? And

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<v Speaker 1>it makes them blush and I'll be like, God, damn,

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<v Speaker 1>you look good naked. And that's something that I love

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<v Speaker 1>to do when someone's at there, literally there there, there's

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<v Speaker 1>nothing on, no boxers, no socks, were laying down and

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<v Speaker 1>when they stand up, I'm just like, can you just

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<v Speaker 1>model for me? Real quick? Walk back and forth? And

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<v Speaker 1>it's something that gets a giggle. But that's how I

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<v Speaker 1>like to show the man that I'm with it. I

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<v Speaker 1>think they're I'm completely attracted to them and everything about

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<v Speaker 1>them looks beautiful from their head to their toil. Um.

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<v Speaker 1>I guess then before we let you go and get

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<v Speaker 1>to our homemail, Um, do you have a tip for

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<v Speaker 1>any of the bigger men listening or or women who

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<v Speaker 1>are dating big men to make maybe their partners feel

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<v Speaker 1>more confident in themselves. Um well, one thing that always

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<v Speaker 1>that I use even now with my girl is affection,

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<v Speaker 1>like like number one, Like I'm very affectionate. Like affection

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<v Speaker 1>is uh a way that you always let someone know that,

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<v Speaker 1>like you're physically connected to it. So if you're if

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<v Speaker 1>if someone if you feel, if you feel like you're

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<v Speaker 1>not desirable, then you're gonna feel like nobody wants to

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<v Speaker 1>touch you. And that is the thing that emotionally isolates you.

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<v Speaker 1>Like when you feel like no one wants to touch you,

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<v Speaker 1>who would want to touch me? The moment that you

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<v Speaker 1>are touched by somebody, you feel like this is a

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<v Speaker 1>person who is willingly being close to me. When I

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<v Speaker 1>say affectionate, I don't mean like being draped on over

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<v Speaker 1>somebody all the time. When she walks by, smack her

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<v Speaker 1>asked real quick, I like it, you know what I'm saying.

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<v Speaker 1>Like like with like like you pass by, kiss on

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<v Speaker 1>the back of the neck. You know what I'm saying.

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<v Speaker 1>And like with with with women, if you if you're

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<v Speaker 1>mad sitting down, play the game your ball, he's bothering you.

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<v Speaker 1>He's not playing the game. Just if you want to

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<v Speaker 1>get his attention, roll over, lay your head on his

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<v Speaker 1>lap real quick. I'm not saying pull his meat out

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<v Speaker 1>and suck his dick, although that would be amazing during

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<v Speaker 1>the game. I feel like it depends on the game,

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<v Speaker 1>like if you if it does, like if you see,

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<v Speaker 1>if you're, if you're know, if you if you're a

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<v Speaker 1>dick sucker. I think that's my problem today. I tried

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<v Speaker 1>to come in here and sucking the dick, you know,

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<v Speaker 1>you know. It was the like he can get the

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<v Speaker 1>pussy all the time, Like I'm always sucking dick. So

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<v Speaker 1>I was trying to suck dick while he was like

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<v Speaker 1>kind of working. I don't know if he was really working.

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<v Speaker 1>He was like, baby, I gotta finish this. And I

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<v Speaker 1>was like, really, y'all was tired, and my fucking egos

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<v Speaker 1>brud And I was like, you know what, because I

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<v Speaker 1>dick suck a lot, I'm a dick. But the reality

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<v Speaker 1>is that that's dope. But that man also gotta get

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<v Speaker 1>ship done. So pick your battles, pick your blest, a

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<v Speaker 1>whole as job. We got a whole jobs job. Anyway,

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<v Speaker 1>show the person the person that you show him you're

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<v Speaker 1>attracted to him by touching them. I love that. I

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<v Speaker 1>love that. So again, before you get out, we're not

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<v Speaker 1>We don't have homemail today, but we have a whole confession.

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<v Speaker 1>Um this is actually one sentence. We spoke about machine

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<v Speaker 1>Sex recently and someone wrote in and said, high ladies,

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<v Speaker 1>big fan of the show. I've recommended it to so

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<v Speaker 1>many friends. The conversation around normalizing kinks and expressing your

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<v Speaker 1>needs is so important. I just listened to the most

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<v Speaker 1>recent episode and I wanted to share my experience with

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<v Speaker 1>machine sex. My partner and I sometimes do m m F.

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<v Speaker 1>Now we talked about this with um ms be nasty

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<v Speaker 1>MMF being male male female, but she is referring to

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<v Speaker 1>male machine female. He bought the machine earlier on in

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<v Speaker 1>our relationship because he was planning on making a film

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<v Speaker 1>project with it, or at least that was one of

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<v Speaker 1>the reasons he gave me. He would also use it

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<v Speaker 1>for solo play once in a while. He is into pegging,

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<v Speaker 1>and for a while we had opposite schedules, so when

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<v Speaker 1>I wasn't around for that kind of play, he could

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<v Speaker 1>do this on his own. I wasn't interested in the

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<v Speaker 1>machine until about a year into our relationship, and I

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<v Speaker 1>finally thought, why not. When we play, he controls the machine,

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<v Speaker 1>which is very hot for him. He can make it

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<v Speaker 1>go faster or slower, and he can watch me get penetrated.

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<v Speaker 1>And he can also see how excited I get. He

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<v Speaker 1>loves it when the machine is going. I can also

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<v Speaker 1>suck his dick while getting fucked, which is very exciting

1:11:09.439 --> 1:11:12.160
<v Speaker 1>for me. You can attach any size dil do you

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<v Speaker 1>want to the machine? It never gets tired and it's

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<v Speaker 1>all over. And when it's all over, I get a

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<v Speaker 1>cuddle with my partner and the machine doesn't get any

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<v Speaker 1>of our attention. My experience with machine play has been great.

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<v Speaker 1>Stay healthy. You ever played with a machine? Um man? No?

1:11:30.439 --> 1:11:33.080
<v Speaker 1>I used to have a subscription to machines dot com.

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<v Speaker 1>Do you ever have a sleevedu dot com? Machines dot com,

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<v Speaker 1>Kin dot com? I had a subscription. I can't know

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<v Speaker 1>I did have. You are a really important just like

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<v Speaker 1>never play with she but had a subscription of fucking

1:11:49.040 --> 1:11:51.880
<v Speaker 1>machines dot com. You know what it is. You can

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<v Speaker 1>just add him on like once you're on browsing. The

1:11:53.439 --> 1:11:55.040
<v Speaker 1>ship was like, do you want to join dog Pound?

1:11:55.080 --> 1:11:57.839
<v Speaker 1>For a dollar? They get they get you with fucking

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<v Speaker 1>five sites. It's like you join one and they go,

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<v Speaker 1>that's that's that's really what it is, thirty dollars lifetime

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<v Speaker 1>membership to this office. I'm like, fuck, why not? You

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<v Speaker 1>know what at the end of the day, shout out

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<v Speaker 1>to Crystal Lia. It doesn't make a fucking Okay, you

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<v Speaker 1>see that it adds a dollar a month? Am I

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<v Speaker 1>gonna miss twelve dollars for a bit? I'll drink that

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<v Speaker 1>ship is Starbucks And like a second, facts was seventeen

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<v Speaker 1>dollars and nineties six cents today and I'm like, what

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<v Speaker 1>the fuck's three only fans depending on who the girls are.

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<v Speaker 1>Who's one of your favorites before we get out? Yes, Oh,

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<v Speaker 1>I don't know. I don't remember now, like it's too many.

1:12:33.840 --> 1:12:36.240
<v Speaker 1>It's like it's like a lot of good, good all

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<v Speaker 1>of them. I mean, oh, you know what, but you

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<v Speaker 1>know what, Miss being Nasty is great. Yeah, she's made,

1:12:41.840 --> 1:12:44.840
<v Speaker 1>but she's like she's a savant at it though, like

1:12:44.920 --> 1:12:48.519
<v Speaker 1>she's like weirdly not just it's just like she's super

1:12:48.680 --> 1:12:51.479
<v Speaker 1>entertaining as well. Yeah, I'm starting to get to some

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<v Speaker 1>point where I don't know, and this is no shade

1:12:53.240 --> 1:12:55.599
<v Speaker 1>to miss being Nasty. I'm so enamored with watching her.

1:12:55.680 --> 1:12:59.280
<v Speaker 1>I don't masturbate to it anymore. What she donna do now,

1:12:59.479 --> 1:13:04.120
<v Speaker 1>it's almost performance art one is. And I actually was

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<v Speaker 1>was telling her. I was like, this, this is why

1:13:06.400 --> 1:13:08.000
<v Speaker 1>I don't even make videos. Well, first of all, I

1:13:08.000 --> 1:13:10.479
<v Speaker 1>don't like sending nudes or videos anyways, but I was like,

1:13:10.520 --> 1:13:14.120
<v Speaker 1>when I see the only fans content that comes across

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<v Speaker 1>my Twitter timeline, I'm like, if this is what bitches

1:13:17.240 --> 1:13:20.800
<v Speaker 1>are sending the nigga's phones, I can't compete. I cannot

1:13:20.800 --> 1:13:24.320
<v Speaker 1>fucking compete. Be Nasty was talking about how she would

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<v Speaker 1>get her foot and suck a dick like this, and

1:13:28.520 --> 1:13:31.360
<v Speaker 1>I was like, I'm a regular person now, I thought

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<v Speaker 1>I was. If y'all, if y'all love what Van had

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<v Speaker 1>to say. First off, Van, thank you for finally getting

1:13:38.720 --> 1:13:41.200
<v Speaker 1>on with us and joining us for horrible decisions. Before

1:13:41.200 --> 1:13:43.559
<v Speaker 1>we get out of here, let everyone who doesn't know,

1:13:43.800 --> 1:13:45.439
<v Speaker 1>even though I feel like they're about to know who

1:13:45.439 --> 1:13:47.840
<v Speaker 1>the funk you is. For those who don't know, let

1:13:47.880 --> 1:13:49.800
<v Speaker 1>them know you're at name where they can find you,

1:13:49.840 --> 1:13:52.240
<v Speaker 1>and also what other content you got coming out so

1:13:52.280 --> 1:13:54.840
<v Speaker 1>people can listen to you a little um, hotel as

1:13:54.880 --> 1:13:58.320
<v Speaker 1>sometimes you hotel, but not really. We're gonna listen to

1:13:58.360 --> 1:14:01.759
<v Speaker 1>your hot takes. Um A Van Layton on Instagram and Twitter.

1:14:01.840 --> 1:14:04.519
<v Speaker 1>Of course, we have Way Down in the Hole and

1:14:04.600 --> 1:14:06.600
<v Speaker 1>Jamal Hill that's based on the wire podcast we have

1:14:06.720 --> 1:14:09.320
<v Speaker 1>right now. We have a brand new podcast coming with

1:14:09.360 --> 1:14:12.360
<v Speaker 1>me and Rachel Lindsay Uh to start on the Ringer

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<v Speaker 1>Um in the next weeks. No, Rachel Lizard is the

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<v Speaker 1>first black batchel Light. Okay, so I thought she was

1:14:23.000 --> 1:14:26.960
<v Speaker 1>white too by that name. No, Rachel Lizard is gonna

1:14:26.960 --> 1:14:29.559
<v Speaker 1>be great. Um. Other than that, like, we got a

1:14:29.600 --> 1:14:31.280
<v Speaker 1>couple of TV shows coming out, We've got a couple

1:14:31.280 --> 1:14:32.559
<v Speaker 1>of different We've got a lot of ship going on.

1:14:32.640 --> 1:14:35.360
<v Speaker 1>So just stay with me. Black Would you look at that?

1:14:36.840 --> 1:14:38.679
<v Speaker 1>I think he knows the color of his co host.

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<v Speaker 1>I don't care. I just didn't believe it. I wanted

1:14:40.479 --> 1:14:43.519
<v Speaker 1>to see what yesterday I saw on the zoom. She's

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<v Speaker 1>a black girl. Black girl. She's not even like a yeah,

1:14:46.479 --> 1:14:52.639
<v Speaker 1>it's yeah, she's a little girl. Well, I mean, if

1:14:52.680 --> 1:14:55.040
<v Speaker 1>you guys haven't listened to listen yet and we have

1:14:55.120 --> 1:14:57.799
<v Speaker 1>them coming on our podcast. We I saw the title

1:14:58.040 --> 1:15:00.760
<v Speaker 1>to your episode on Poor Minds and she's like, am

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<v Speaker 1>I black enough? Or whatever the fucking title was. They'd

1:15:03.160 --> 1:15:06.439
<v Speaker 1>be coming up with titles next week. You guys are

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<v Speaker 1>gonna hear poor minds on our show. I just did

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<v Speaker 1>their show. Check them out. They were really fun, Like

1:15:11.720 --> 1:15:13.840
<v Speaker 1>I think they did a great job in asking me

1:15:13.960 --> 1:15:16.680
<v Speaker 1>questions like that that we're kind of I feel like

1:15:16.680 --> 1:15:18.479
<v Speaker 1>when people have me on their podcasts, they want to

1:15:18.479 --> 1:15:20.559
<v Speaker 1>be like, oh, hell's the wrrible decisions? Cand of talk

1:15:20.600 --> 1:15:22.760
<v Speaker 1>about your threesomes. But they were like, yo, we'll be

1:15:22.800 --> 1:15:24.599
<v Speaker 1>reading comments where people say that you want to be white,

1:15:24.600 --> 1:15:31.800
<v Speaker 1>and I was like, that was a good question. I

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<v Speaker 1>do want to um before we get off of here, UM,

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<v Speaker 1>thank you guys for tuning in. Yes, we are on

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<v Speaker 1>YouTube now, so we haven't done it yet. UM, but

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<v Speaker 1>I actually want to give a huge shout out to

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<v Speaker 1>the person in charge of our videos and social Benson.

1:15:47.360 --> 1:15:49.120
<v Speaker 1>You guys heard Benson when we were in the studio

1:15:49.120 --> 1:15:51.200
<v Speaker 1>a little bit, but I don't think we've acknowledged him

1:15:51.240 --> 1:15:54.000
<v Speaker 1>as someone who's been making sure that we have our

1:15:54.120 --> 1:15:56.080
<v Speaker 1>videos up on YouTube. So I do want to give

1:15:56.080 --> 1:15:58.040
<v Speaker 1>a shout out to Benson. I also want to give

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<v Speaker 1>a huge shout out as always to our Patreon community. UM.

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<v Speaker 1>Without y'all, there would be no US, honestly right now,

1:16:05.680 --> 1:16:08.519
<v Speaker 1>God damn y'all keeping us afloat UM. If you guys

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<v Speaker 1>are all you know, if y'all are all caught up

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<v Speaker 1>with a horrible decisions content, be sure to join us.

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<v Speaker 1>And we are leaving you a five minute clip after this. Also,

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<v Speaker 1>if you guys missed me um having a conversation again,

1:16:22.040 --> 1:16:24.920
<v Speaker 1>I told you guys. I went on Live um last

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<v Speaker 1>Tuesday with Jadenna, my fucking future husband. We ended up

1:16:29.000 --> 1:16:33.360
<v Speaker 1>talking about mating in captivity by Esther parrel Um and

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<v Speaker 1>it was just a really really good conversation. If you

1:16:35.840 --> 1:16:38.679
<v Speaker 1>guys want to hear a conversation where it's three black

1:16:38.720 --> 1:16:44.639
<v Speaker 1>men digging into intimacy and desire and communication, it's really good.

1:16:44.680 --> 1:16:46.640
<v Speaker 1>I know that you guys hear Wheezy and I and

1:16:46.680 --> 1:16:48.880
<v Speaker 1>a ton of females, but it was really good to

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<v Speaker 1>just be the one girl in a room of up

1:16:52.080 --> 1:16:58.880
<v Speaker 1>to four black men about I mean, I ain't I

1:16:58.920 --> 1:17:01.439
<v Speaker 1>ain't gonna. I was like, God damn dinner, you're making

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<v Speaker 1>me fucking what stop. I was really like, I'm a

1:17:03.800 --> 1:17:06.800
<v Speaker 1>stapio sexual now, I'm very sexual sexual and I'm a

1:17:06.880 --> 1:17:10.040
<v Speaker 1>stapio sexual now. So it's on Jadenna's YouTube. If you

1:17:10.120 --> 1:17:13.640
<v Speaker 1>go to his his um channel you can tune into us.

1:17:13.880 --> 1:17:16.720
<v Speaker 1>So it's the lit review and literally every week it's

1:17:16.800 --> 1:17:20.559
<v Speaker 1>black men reviewing books. That makes my pussy wet. I

1:17:20.560 --> 1:17:23.200
<v Speaker 1>don't know about you, but it makes my fucking pussy wet.

1:17:23.400 --> 1:17:26.200
<v Speaker 1>So check that out. Um. And yeah, do you have

1:17:26.280 --> 1:17:29.479
<v Speaker 1>any anything for to let them know about with you

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<v Speaker 1>before we get out of here? No, I'm a loser anyways. Um, guys,

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<v Speaker 1>we want to thank you all for tuning into yet

1:17:37.160 --> 1:17:46.479
<v Speaker 1>another episode of Horrible Decisions by and we talked about it,

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<v Speaker 1>so for this it is gonna lead me to ask

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<v Speaker 1>you a question to This is where we get a

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<v Speaker 1>little crazy. So the whole fact that I found is

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<v Speaker 1>Lisa Sparks, who is a porn star, holds the record

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<v Speaker 1>for having intercourse with the most men in twenty four hours.

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<v Speaker 1>She is recorded to have sex with nine hundred and

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<v Speaker 1>nineteen men in twenty four hours, setting a world record

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<v Speaker 1>in two thousand, bitch. So my question is how many

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<v Speaker 1>men max would you have sex with in a twenty

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<v Speaker 1>four hour time frame? In exchange for one million dollars?

1:18:25.360 --> 1:18:27.439
<v Speaker 1>I had to throw money out there because we ate ship.

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<v Speaker 1>So how many men, max? Would you have sex with

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<v Speaker 1>in twenty four hours in exchange for a million dollars?

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<v Speaker 1>So this is thinking the most how is you would

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<v Speaker 1>be for a million dollars? It's just a million, and

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<v Speaker 1>I got a lot of people to take care of. I.

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<v Speaker 1>I'm not gonna lie nine and something that's not happening.

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<v Speaker 1>First of all, in real life, the max that I've

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<v Speaker 1>had sex within twenty fours is two men. And that's

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<v Speaker 1>all that I'm gonna do to me. That is like,

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<v Speaker 1>it's a lot of energy, and I didn't feel good

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<v Speaker 1>about that. I even if I got the million dollars,

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<v Speaker 1>I feel like I don't know where I would be

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<v Speaker 1>at mentally, and I am a freak. But I also

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<v Speaker 1>like value my body. No matter what people say about me.

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<v Speaker 1>I do. It's gonna be too and it's gonna be

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<v Speaker 1>the best, great, the best two sexes of the million

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<v Speaker 1>dollar lots. But but you gotta go board and two.

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<v Speaker 1>If you'd have did two for free, I don't know,

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<v Speaker 1>it's not it's not gonna be quality. I'm just gonna

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<v Speaker 1>be laying there and I'm gonna look like I'm just

1:19:35.320 --> 1:19:38.640
<v Speaker 1>gonna be laying there like it's not I can't do it.

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<v Speaker 1>That's a lot of body and that's only a million.

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<v Speaker 1>Now you want to talk about somebody bit, I need

1:19:46.600 --> 1:19:48.920
<v Speaker 1>gonna hold you. You know how excited I just got

1:19:49.479 --> 1:19:54.559
<v Speaker 1>forgetting that's well, honey, all what bitch? Like, what are

1:19:54.600 --> 1:19:56.519
<v Speaker 1>we doing with all the men? Is it just I

1:19:56.560 --> 1:19:59.479
<v Speaker 1>just gotta lay down and open my legs. I can't

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<v Speaker 1>do it. I'm tired. I'm me sleep. No, No, You're like,

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<v Speaker 1>m it's max is to what's your first off? This

1:20:07.520 --> 1:20:10.920
<v Speaker 1>question wasn't for me because I ain't even gonna hold

1:20:10.960 --> 1:20:13.760
<v Speaker 1>You got a lottle fantasy of a little gang day.

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<v Speaker 1>So I'm like, damn, man, I get paid a million,

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<v Speaker 1>I ain't gonna probably do do a solid six. That's

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<v Speaker 1>a lot it is with it. I'll be watching these

1:20:26.600 --> 1:20:28.600
<v Speaker 1>gang bangs and you know, I'll be going down to

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<v Speaker 1>poor and rabbit hole and I'm like, this looks like

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<v Speaker 1>fun six healthy thought about being on a court with

1:20:38.240 --> 1:20:41.559
<v Speaker 1>a starting five before, so like, damn, look at this

1:20:41.600 --> 1:20:44.360
<v Speaker 1>starting five, bitch, all of them could get it at

1:20:44.360 --> 1:20:47.360
<v Speaker 1>the same time. Bitch, I would have thought about being

1:20:47.400 --> 1:20:50.960
<v Speaker 1>in the locker room. Okay, ship, I have been having

1:20:50.960 --> 1:20:53.840
<v Speaker 1>fantasies lately about a train being ran on, saying you

1:20:53.840 --> 1:20:57.600
<v Speaker 1>can't do a train with two bitch caboo we need

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<v Speaker 1>So the next segment is the horrid r I decided

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<v Speaker 1>to find a sex tip, and I would love for

1:21:05.439 --> 1:21:07.720
<v Speaker 1>you to add a sex tip. Um. I wanted to

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<v Speaker 1>focus on quarantine sex tips, and because my feet is

1:21:13.080 --> 1:21:16.880
<v Speaker 1>so goddamn raggedy, I was trying to look up sex

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<v Speaker 1>tips involving sucks because I don't want to show these

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<v Speaker 1>feet even if I decided to have dick during the

1:21:23.320 --> 1:21:26.760
<v Speaker 1>stay at home. So I actually ended up finding this

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<v Speaker 1>is a sex tip, but the sex tip is to

1:21:32.200 --> 1:21:36.920
<v Speaker 1>have socks on while having sex. Women who have difficulty

1:21:37.040 --> 1:21:42.160
<v Speaker 1>reaching orgasm just may have cold feet. Literally. There's a

1:21:42.200 --> 1:21:46.599
<v Speaker 1>study that found that giving women warm socks increased their

1:21:46.720 --> 1:21:51.160
<v Speaker 1>chance of reaching an orgasm. Environment is key when having sex,

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<v Speaker 1>especially for women. So whole Steed found that the reason

1:21:56.320 --> 1:21:59.000
<v Speaker 1>socks tend to boost the female sex drive is because

1:21:59.400 --> 1:22:02.760
<v Speaker 1>they help women feel safe and secure. So if you're

1:22:02.760 --> 1:22:05.559
<v Speaker 1>trying to reach climax, you have a tougher time if

1:22:05.640 --> 1:22:08.840
<v Speaker 1>the parts of your brain that cause fear and anxiety

1:22:08.960 --> 1:22:12.040
<v Speaker 1>are active. So they say that for women. We talked

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<v Speaker 1>about using lube as a way to reach orgasm. So

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<v Speaker 1>here's a sex tip if you haven't tried it yet,

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<v Speaker 1>try fucking with socks on and bitch the way my

1:22:22.200 --> 1:22:24.680
<v Speaker 1>feet are set up right now, I'm here for it.

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<v Speaker 1>Let me know I could get an orgasm with these feet.

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<v Speaker 1>Look in the way they do sins, because it's so crazy.

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<v Speaker 1>Because I fucking hate people, I would run, maybe some

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<v Speaker 1>like thigh highs and like a like a pantyhose or

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<v Speaker 1>something with the cold. It's something about socks, and that

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<v Speaker 1>is one of the reasons why I can't get into

1:22:42.720 --> 1:22:48.840
<v Speaker 1>black porn. I hate when in the makeup, the hair

1:22:48.960 --> 1:22:51.080
<v Speaker 1>on the women bother me. But wait, you hate a

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<v Speaker 1>man even sucking it socks