WEBVTT - Pillow Talk with Patti Stanger 0:00:01.760 --> 0:00:05.240 Swine Down with Jane Kramer and I Heart radio podcast. 0:00:06.280 --> 0:00:08.600 So sometimes you guys might wonder what we talked about 0:00:08.600 --> 0:00:12.000 before podcast. Let me just I said, you guys stop 0:00:12.039 --> 0:00:15.320 talking and record this right now. So what we just 0:00:15.440 --> 0:00:17.720 started talking about is we came into the studio and 0:00:17.760 --> 0:00:22.640 there are sleep number pillows and for me, I don't 0:00:22.640 --> 0:00:26.080 like the fact that Mike has to sleep with about 0:00:26.079 --> 0:00:28.319 ten pillows because when I make the bed in the morning, 0:00:28.400 --> 0:00:30.520 where do I put those pillows? When you make the 0:00:30.560 --> 0:00:33.640 bed in the morning. Wait, wait, wait, wait a second, 0:00:33.760 --> 0:00:37.480 I'm sorry. Okay, yes, you do make the bed a lot, 0:00:37.479 --> 0:00:40.000 but you don't, but you don't when I make the bed, 0:00:40.120 --> 0:00:42.519 I make sure that it's pretty and that have the 0:00:42.640 --> 0:00:45.360 nights I practically make the bed. Yeah, but you make 0:00:45.400 --> 0:00:48.800 the bed are never used, but that looks better. So yes, 0:00:48.880 --> 0:00:50.960 you do coming into our room on a daily basis. 0:00:51.040 --> 0:00:55.040 But sometimes I like But I'm just saying I like 0:00:55.200 --> 0:00:57.040 to make the bed look really nice, like how the 0:00:57.080 --> 0:01:00.040 designers like have the bed made and what when I 0:01:00.080 --> 0:01:02.520 do do that, which again is rare, but I like 0:01:02.640 --> 0:01:05.120 to do that. But I would do it more if 0:01:05.240 --> 0:01:07.560 I didn't have six five six pillows to have to 0:01:07.600 --> 0:01:09.480 work with on your side of the bed because where 0:01:09.480 --> 0:01:10.720 do I put those? And then I put him in 0:01:10.720 --> 0:01:12.560 your closet and there's not room in the closet, and 0:01:12.600 --> 0:01:14.680 it's just frustrating because then you pull your pillows out 0:01:14.680 --> 0:01:16.920 of the closet, so I don't so I see these 0:01:16.959 --> 0:01:19.160 boxes here with pillows, And then you and Mark started 0:01:19.200 --> 0:01:21.440 talking about well Eastern only sleeps one pillow. He's like 0:01:21.480 --> 0:01:26.680 a he's a vampire that it stands straight up right. Yeah, yeah, 0:01:27.040 --> 0:01:31.119 this is the pillow talk. We have one pillow each. 0:01:31.160 --> 0:01:33.320 We're going minimal. That was my wife's decision. And then 0:01:33.360 --> 0:01:35.640 Mark said that he has to have pillows all the 0:01:35.640 --> 0:01:37.240 way down his legs. So I mean, it's a big 0:01:37.240 --> 0:01:40.520 body pillow. It's especially made pillow for your knees. So 0:01:40.720 --> 0:01:42.320 clearly I'm not the only person who has this what 0:01:42.440 --> 0:01:44.119 Mike has it. But also they have a special one 0:01:44.160 --> 0:01:48.800 made for your knees together ankles. I think they take 0:01:48.800 --> 0:01:51.520 care of themselves up at blankets between my ankles stop, 0:01:51.760 --> 0:01:53.639 I don't like I just kind of wrapped them around. 0:01:53.920 --> 0:01:56.040 I don't like my skin to touch my own skin. 0:01:56.240 --> 0:01:59.080 And the funny story is that I've been that way forever. 0:01:59.400 --> 0:02:01.880 And I mentioned to my sister, and she's the exact 0:02:01.920 --> 0:02:05.360 same way. She has a special thing she wears between 0:02:05.400 --> 0:02:08.520 her boobs so her boobs don't touch when she's laying. 0:02:09.280 --> 0:02:15.120 She's gonna love you for saying that, Oh my gosh. 0:02:15.280 --> 0:02:18.240 And then do you like one? You like one to 0:02:18.400 --> 0:02:22.480 keep you propped up? Right? You know? All I know 0:02:22.600 --> 0:02:24.799 is that when we go to bed, let me just 0:02:24.840 --> 0:02:27.680 say this, he makes he makes a fort pillow so 0:02:27.720 --> 0:02:30.000 that I don't see the light from his eye bad 0:02:30.680 --> 0:02:32.400 because he plays games before he has to go to 0:02:32.400 --> 0:02:35.079 bed out of them in my heart, so I don't 0:02:35.080 --> 0:02:36.560 wake you up, right? But then I look over there 0:02:36.480 --> 0:02:37.920 to try to cuddle with you, and I have to 0:02:37.960 --> 0:02:40.840 fight through a fort pillow to get through to you 0:02:41.919 --> 0:02:43.760 on your side of the bed. I'm like, that's too 0:02:43.840 --> 0:02:45.919 much effort to go to strategically place so you don't 0:02:45.919 --> 0:02:47.880 wake me up. I see that, But what do you 0:02:47.919 --> 0:02:49.320 like to do with your pillows? I like to see 0:02:49.360 --> 0:02:50.760 I'm the same way as Mark, but I have to 0:02:50.800 --> 0:02:52.880 hold one and I have to have one between my legs. 0:02:53.080 --> 0:02:56.040 But I don't like body pillows because it's like I'm 0:02:56.040 --> 0:02:59.280 having another person. It's like cuddling, but it just makes 0:02:59.280 --> 0:03:02.080 me hot. So that's what I don't understand, and that's 0:03:02.080 --> 0:03:04.160 why I wanted to talk about this on air because 0:03:04.520 --> 0:03:06.560 I was like, oh, that's why I said press record, 0:03:06.639 --> 0:03:09.720 because if you like to cuddle with a pillow, what's 0:03:09.760 --> 0:03:12.680 the difference between me cuddling with you which you don't 0:03:12.680 --> 0:03:18.840 like to talk? It's so hot? Yes, but I know 0:03:18.919 --> 0:03:22.520 your body. You're cold as ice. You don't get proper 0:03:22.560 --> 0:03:26.080 blood flow to your extremities. But I'm like a human blanket, 0:03:26.120 --> 0:03:28.360 so anything I'm up against is usually hot, which doesn't 0:03:28.360 --> 0:03:30.480 make sense. And while you're holding a pillow, because when 0:03:30.480 --> 0:03:34.240 a pillow pillow breathes, it's not a human body. But 0:03:35.320 --> 0:03:37.920 what is it though? Is it the comfort of holding something? Yeah, 0:03:38.000 --> 0:03:40.080 it's just just train your mind to like comfort to 0:03:40.120 --> 0:03:44.600 hold me because it's too hot, No, hot bog. Could 0:03:44.600 --> 0:03:46.640 it be a stuffed animal? Could it be like a bid? 0:03:46.720 --> 0:03:50.640 Be sure to be big and comfy, and I'm big 0:03:50.680 --> 0:03:53.600 and comfy. But if I wrap myself in an ice 0:03:53.640 --> 0:03:58.200 dress tiny, yeah, that could work. You know that'd be good. Well, 0:03:58.240 --> 0:03:59.560 all I know is that now I'm going to have 0:03:59.640 --> 0:04:04.960 twenty pillows. So thanks Sleep number, I'm super excited to 0:04:05.000 --> 0:04:10.760 do your ad to have more pillows. Um, but talking 0:04:10.800 --> 0:04:15.040 about uh touch, it's very interesting. So I went to 0:04:15.080 --> 0:04:16.920 the O B g U I n this morning and 0:04:17.040 --> 0:04:23.960 I actually instagram well yes, actually he did, but my 0:04:24.000 --> 0:04:26.680 ob gyne is a guy. But I got cleared because 0:04:27.120 --> 0:04:29.200 it was the six week check up, so I haven't 0:04:29.360 --> 0:04:33.279 talked to you about it. Not he really for sex, 0:04:35.760 --> 0:04:37.560 No I got. I mean I got cleared to officially 0:04:37.560 --> 0:04:40.479 work out and do abs and all those things she's 0:04:40.600 --> 0:04:44.279 been doing. But I know I haven't done apps. So 0:04:44.920 --> 0:04:46.840 one of the things, and I said, one of my 0:04:46.880 --> 0:04:49.479 biggest pet peeves and I kind of can relate to you, 0:04:49.600 --> 0:04:53.640 babe about this. So I'm at the gynecologists and she 0:04:53.800 --> 0:04:55.760 has done this, and I said, I posted a story 0:04:55.760 --> 0:04:57.240 about this, and I said, you guys, I'm going to 0:04:57.279 --> 0:04:59.880 share on my podcast next week what drives me crazy 0:04:59.880 --> 0:05:03.359 at the gynecologist that this person does. And they're probably thinking, 0:05:03.400 --> 0:05:06.360 you know it paps me, but no it's not. So 0:05:06.960 --> 0:05:10.560 remember the nurse. I don't remember her name, but every 0:05:10.600 --> 0:05:14.640 single time I'm sitting to get my blood pressure, she 0:05:14.800 --> 0:05:18.839 rubs my back like in a slow circle movement, and 0:05:18.920 --> 0:05:22.720 it makes my skin literally crawl, and I'm like, I'm 0:05:22.720 --> 0:05:25.000 a thirty five year old woman. Why can't I say 0:05:25.000 --> 0:05:27.320 can you please not do that? But yet I sit 0:05:27.360 --> 0:05:29.880 there and here's the problem. So today she's rubbing my back. 0:05:29.960 --> 0:05:32.400 He is Jinna. He has just breathe, and I'm like, 0:05:33.800 --> 0:05:35.760 please put your hands off my back, and you're rubbing 0:05:35.800 --> 0:05:39.040 me like this is making me like I'm crawling inside 0:05:39.080 --> 0:05:41.400 my skin. But then my blood pressure doesn't read the 0:05:41.400 --> 0:05:43.280 first time, so she's got to do it again, and 0:05:43.360 --> 0:05:45.159 she rubs my back and doing it all over again. 0:05:45.160 --> 0:05:48.640 I'm like, this is what Mike feels with intimacy and 0:05:48.839 --> 0:05:53.560 running back world. Oh my god, I'm so sorry. Yea, 0:05:54.600 --> 0:05:57.200 but here's where I'm going to say, you're mean, because 0:05:58.480 --> 0:06:02.159 that's the nurse. I'm your wife. So do you really 0:06:02.160 --> 0:06:05.120 feel like skin like nails on a chalkboard when I'm 0:06:05.200 --> 0:06:09.080 rubbing your back? Sometimes? Yeah, I think I do. Your 0:06:09.080 --> 0:06:11.600 face is like I really want to say yes, but 0:06:11.600 --> 0:06:13.480 but I just don't understand why I can't say can 0:06:13.520 --> 0:06:15.080 you please not do that? But then I feel bad 0:06:15.080 --> 0:06:17.640 because I don't want to hurt her feelings. What is that? 0:06:18.320 --> 0:06:23.479 Can can anyone could? I don't want to. I don't 0:06:23.480 --> 0:06:26.360 want her to do that, but that's not you're saying 0:06:26.360 --> 0:06:30.720 you don't like something, isn't shouldn't hurt someone else's feelings, Mark, 0:06:31.800 --> 0:06:33.480 I don't think he would make her feel bad. I 0:06:33.520 --> 0:06:35.680 don't think she has any investment in rubbing your back, 0:06:36.120 --> 0:06:40.080 but she doesn't single time. I don't want just at that. 0:06:40.360 --> 0:06:44.280 But that's why I say could dependency because you don't 0:06:44.320 --> 0:06:47.320 want hurt because you make up that she will feel bad, 0:06:47.720 --> 0:06:49.560 so you don't want to hurt her feelings when really 0:06:50.200 --> 0:06:53.559 the reality is time. If you told that somebody, Okay, 0:06:53.560 --> 0:06:55.960 no problem, I wouldn't think twice of it. People, but 0:06:56.040 --> 0:06:58.840 people like you and me worry about that. I just 0:06:58.880 --> 0:07:00.440 feel like if I said, because my I'm like, be 0:07:00.480 --> 0:07:02.000 a big girl, be a big girl, Janna, tell her 0:07:02.000 --> 0:07:03.719 to stop rubbing your back, Tell her to stop rubbing 0:07:03.720 --> 0:07:06.360 your back. And I was about to say it, but 0:07:06.360 --> 0:07:07.560 then I'm like, I don't want her to think I'm 0:07:07.600 --> 0:07:11.680 a bee? But why why why would somebody think you are? 0:07:12.040 --> 0:07:14.280 Because I'm telling them to stop something, stop something that 0:07:14.400 --> 0:07:16.960 you don't like, right, I don't know, But I'm not 0:07:17.000 --> 0:07:19.320 saying it's easy because it sounds ridiculous when you talk 0:07:19.360 --> 0:07:21.160 about it like this, but I get it. But instead 0:07:21.200 --> 0:07:23.920 I'm sitting there like nails on a chalkboard, wishing she 0:07:23.960 --> 0:07:26.480 would get her hands off of me and stop rubbing me. 0:07:27.680 --> 0:07:30.440 You know, you'd probably be thrilled to stop you but 0:07:30.600 --> 0:07:32.760 I think that's our thing. I think she's an older lady. 0:07:33.080 --> 0:07:35.000 You know she's but I don't know. She kind of 0:07:35.000 --> 0:07:38.160 annoys me, and so it's just it's frustrating. We're also 0:07:38.200 --> 0:07:41.240 worried about what other people think. That's the bigger issue 0:07:41.280 --> 0:07:44.119 I think is that there's there's the quote that says, 0:07:45.280 --> 0:07:47.400 you wouldn't worry so much about what other people think 0:07:47.440 --> 0:07:50.080 if you realize how little they think about you, because 0:07:50.080 --> 0:07:52.640 they don't. Everyone just thinks about themselves. They're not thinking 0:07:52.680 --> 0:07:55.080 about you. But I'll be worried about I would to 0:07:55.080 --> 0:07:56.320 think of me, to think of an idiot, to think 0:07:56.320 --> 0:07:59.600 of a jerk. Yeah, they don't think anything about you. 0:08:00.120 --> 0:08:03.800 Do you think it's more of people thinking thinking that 0:08:03.880 --> 0:08:06.960 way that people are thinking about them or is it? 0:08:07.000 --> 0:08:09.360 Are we that way? Because in the past people have 0:08:09.400 --> 0:08:11.400 said what they meant and people get offended, like people 0:08:11.400 --> 0:08:13.880 are too sensitive and take it personal. It's like, oh, 0:08:13.920 --> 0:08:15.080 you don't want me to rub your back out. I 0:08:15.120 --> 0:08:16.320 was just trying to help you. Like, jeez, I was 0:08:16.360 --> 0:08:17.840 just trying to be here and support you and calm 0:08:17.880 --> 0:08:19.840 you down, but you don't want me to do it. Okay, fine, 0:08:19.880 --> 0:08:21.400 Like you're a bit right, and the next thing you 0:08:21.400 --> 0:08:23.400 see you're on on social media. Oh my gosh, I 0:08:23.400 --> 0:08:27.480 have the craziest She's the worst. I mean, I don't 0:08:27.600 --> 0:08:29.520 think she has social but I mean again, I agree 0:08:29.560 --> 0:08:31.160 with you. I think that's the bigger issue about the 0:08:31.160 --> 0:08:32.920 fact that why do we care what people think? But 0:08:33.000 --> 0:08:35.120 I do? I mean, you care. Just in therapy the 0:08:35.160 --> 0:08:37.800 other day, you you wanted us to do a different 0:08:39.240 --> 0:08:42.080 to resolve an issue different so that you didn't think 0:08:42.080 --> 0:08:45.120 our friends thought this way. You know. Yeah, sure, so 0:08:45.160 --> 0:08:47.040 it's like we so we care about what the people think. 0:08:47.160 --> 0:08:48.480 But I think it also depend Do you ever have 0:08:48.520 --> 0:08:50.520 your moments, like in that situation where you're just in 0:08:50.559 --> 0:08:52.280 a mood that you don't care and you'll just say it. 0:08:52.880 --> 0:08:54.680 I don't think I could get myself there because I 0:08:54.760 --> 0:08:59.640 really is, you know, frustrated as I was, and a 0:08:59.800 --> 0:09:04.439 no wad. I just can't say it. And I'm fearing 0:09:04.440 --> 0:09:07.000 my pop smear in three months because I don't want 0:09:07.000 --> 0:09:09.199 her to touch me. I'm fine with the pap smear. 0:09:09.200 --> 0:09:11.680 I don't want her rubbing my effing back. See, I'm that, 0:09:11.800 --> 0:09:14.280 I'm that. I'll have my moments where I'm out way, 0:09:14.320 --> 0:09:15.959 but also I have times where I just don't care 0:09:15.960 --> 0:09:18.200 at all. Like today playing golf with Justin and Garrett. 0:09:18.240 --> 0:09:19.800 There's like a seven year old man in front of 0:09:19.840 --> 0:09:21.319 us that was taking us. We has time on the 0:09:21.400 --> 0:09:24.400 tea box and finally I was like, we need telling 0:09:24.440 --> 0:09:25.679 the hurry up there. I know that's what I mean. 0:09:25.679 --> 0:09:27.680 He's like seventy and I was like, hurry up. Oh 0:09:27.760 --> 0:09:31.920 my god, Well your mean so mean. So we have 0:09:32.160 --> 0:09:35.280 Patty Stanger coming in millionaire matchmaker and apparently she's a psychic. 0:09:35.320 --> 0:09:40.280 Now so I'm a jill of all trades? 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I see I 0:12:43.240 --> 0:12:45.400 heard the other night and she well she's she's got 0:12:45.400 --> 0:12:48.920 a YouTube channel with all these amazing Crystal Are you Crystal? Yeah? 0:12:49.120 --> 0:12:53.320 Oh see we are just like, don't know, I'm not 0:12:53.360 --> 0:12:55.760 like my Glass friend is like obsessed. And I'm like, 0:12:55.840 --> 0:12:57.440 if you're going to bad grade or you have a 0:12:57.440 --> 0:13:00.280 bad problem with your wife or your relationship, you take 0:13:00.320 --> 0:13:02.080 a piece of Celenia. You can get any crystal sto. 0:13:02.160 --> 0:13:04.280 It looks just like it's like it's kind of like 0:13:04.400 --> 0:13:08.000 a white um. I don't how to describe. It's like 0:13:08.120 --> 0:13:10.160 they make sticks out of him and you wipe yourself 0:13:10.160 --> 0:13:12.360 all over your aura and then you're good to go 0:13:12.480 --> 0:13:15.640 and all the negativity goes away. I mean, in theory, 0:13:15.679 --> 0:13:17.440 I think that sounds amazing, but I think, like you said, 0:13:17.440 --> 0:13:20.920 it's mind over matter because we had this one. Anyways, 0:13:21.000 --> 0:13:23.000 long story short is, you know, we're holding a crystal 0:13:23.000 --> 0:13:25.600 in our hand, and if I was like he said, 0:13:25.600 --> 0:13:26.880 if I was to hold a pen in my hand 0:13:26.960 --> 0:13:29.760 and I did some deep breathing, I would be centered 0:13:29.800 --> 0:13:37.040 and feel Yeah, but the crystals are alive. So the earth, 0:13:38.679 --> 0:13:41.800 the trees and the grass and the strawberries you eat, 0:13:41.840 --> 0:13:44.640 do they make you feel better? Okay, well, the crystals 0:13:44.640 --> 0:13:46.880 are alive. Chocolate makes me feel a little better, more 0:13:46.920 --> 0:13:50.680 better cut out? That comes from the earth. What about wine? 0:13:51.080 --> 0:13:53.840 Wine comes from the earth. That's a great all right. Yeah, 0:13:54.280 --> 0:13:56.520 so not only are you a crystal expert, you're also 0:13:56.559 --> 0:14:01.160 a millionaire a matchmaker. Uh so we have a bunch 0:14:01.160 --> 0:14:05.440 of questions, alright, hit me hard land. So it's like, 0:14:05.480 --> 0:14:08.720 I see Ryan like was the first person to like 0:14:09.080 --> 0:14:10.520 every month that you spent me on the radio. And 0:14:10.520 --> 0:14:12.400 he's like, come mon, Patty, got questions like a question, 0:14:12.440 --> 0:14:17.200 So like literally it's time for you to ask me anything. Okay. 0:14:17.200 --> 0:14:21.520 I love it very podcast about relationships. Mostly I can 0:14:21.560 --> 0:14:25.280 see that. So who's single in the room. The hot 0:14:25.320 --> 0:14:28.280 girl that just brought me into the Dories story is 0:14:28.320 --> 0:14:31.200 hot Tories. She wore the most she could be, Dory. 0:14:31.240 --> 0:14:33.440 Do you want to be on? I thought? Sorry, sorry, 0:14:33.600 --> 0:14:36.680 Tori wore these amazing genes with like a really cool story, 0:14:36.760 --> 0:14:39.120 your dress good, you know, to get out tonight. You 0:14:39.120 --> 0:14:40.760 know what the problem with Tori is? Tori? Can you 0:14:40.760 --> 0:14:44.720 get on? I'm not saying the problem. The only problem 0:14:44.760 --> 0:14:47.720 that I have because we were trying to pimper out 0:14:47.720 --> 0:14:50.480 when we're in Vegas. She doesn't know how to flirt. 0:14:50.680 --> 0:14:54.200 I know, I know how that. Guys, you expect the 0:14:54.280 --> 0:14:57.440 men to come to you, to initiate the flirt, to 0:14:57.440 --> 0:15:00.440 initiate the fir because what it is. And we live 0:15:00.480 --> 0:15:03.760 in bumble country now where men are like, oh my god, 0:15:04.200 --> 0:15:08.640 you asked me, you buy the lunch, you you know what, 0:15:09.080 --> 0:15:12.000 you call me, You chase and text me, and it's like, 0:15:12.040 --> 0:15:13.960 are you kidding me? We have to work twice as 0:15:13.960 --> 0:15:16.160 hard er now. I do have a question, though I'm 0:15:16.280 --> 0:15:18.240 somebody like I don't really have a problem because I'm 0:15:18.400 --> 0:15:21.000 I'm an extrovert to like the Max, so I love 0:15:21.080 --> 0:15:24.880 to engage in conversation with girls. No, I'm a guy's girl. 0:15:25.760 --> 0:15:31.280 But the exactly because you're buddy, you're gonna you're gonna 0:15:31.320 --> 0:15:32.920 hit him on the show and go you'll do let's 0:15:32.920 --> 0:15:35.640 go watch the game. No, he wants sexy mix, which 0:15:35.680 --> 0:15:37.120 is why I said she has a problem with learning. 0:15:37.160 --> 0:15:39.600 You don't have to go You don't have to go Kardashian. 0:15:39.760 --> 0:15:44.440 You just need to side entail. You need to you 0:15:44.480 --> 0:15:46.560 don't have to put out the low plunge to get 0:15:46.600 --> 0:15:50.000 the man. Like if you looked at the Golden Globes, 0:15:50.080 --> 0:15:52.360 how many lope I mean? And it's always the girls 0:15:52.400 --> 0:15:54.480 who don't have breasts that's my favorite part, you know. 0:15:54.600 --> 0:15:56.080 Or then it's the girl who has too big a 0:15:56.200 --> 0:15:58.120 breast and she just bought the new implants for the 0:15:58.120 --> 0:16:00.560 golden gloves. So you don't have to go crazy music 0:16:00.600 --> 0:16:02.320 because less is more, But you gotta get in the 0:16:02.320 --> 0:16:04.520 middle lanes a little bit of guy, you know, a 0:16:04.520 --> 0:16:07.440 little bit of flirt and a little bit of sex appeal. Michael, 0:16:07.480 --> 0:16:10.040 do you agree? I agree with breaking my to drink 0:16:10.080 --> 0:16:12.640 maximum with you? How's that you like that? To drink 0:16:12.680 --> 0:16:15.400 maximum tequila goes a long way? Oh? I hate tequila. 0:16:15.680 --> 0:16:18.000 You don't want to be a drunk though, No, no, no, no, 0:16:18.080 --> 0:16:19.560 you just want to get into it. When she hit 0:16:19.600 --> 0:16:21.760 the flirty zone of the drink, you stop and you 0:16:21.840 --> 0:16:24.640 pour a glass. Jenny McCarthy taught me this. Okay, she 0:16:24.760 --> 0:16:28.239 takes she she took me out once to sew how slashed. 0:16:28.440 --> 0:16:30.600 You know. She's like, how do you drink like this? 0:16:30.960 --> 0:16:34.320 And I'm not a big drinker. And she drank emergency 0:16:34.440 --> 0:16:38.800 in between every glass of alcohol, and and her skin 0:16:38.920 --> 0:16:41.480 glowed and she got flirt. I mean, nobody knows how 0:16:41.520 --> 0:16:44.080 to flirt like Jenny. Okay, take a page from McCarthy. 0:16:44.240 --> 0:16:50.160 I got it. Okay, she the best flirter in the 0:16:50.200 --> 0:16:54.400 sun my my pre married life. I was a pretty 0:16:54.440 --> 0:16:56.920 darn good flirter. You still look like you're a good flirter. 0:16:57.600 --> 0:17:03.920 She was, But you're But she's like, we're trying to 0:17:03.960 --> 0:17:06.200 pimp out Tory. At Vegas. It was like there was 0:17:06.280 --> 0:17:08.080 nobody to pimp out because somebody was like, Janna, can 0:17:08.080 --> 0:17:11.760 I get you anything? She's got this big, big I know, 0:17:11.960 --> 0:17:14.640 but still it's an attraction thing. Albody was like, who 0:17:14.720 --> 0:17:19.440 is this chick? Okay, but here's the little She's perky, 0:17:19.600 --> 0:17:22.080 you can put her in her pocket. You're tall like me, 0:17:22.840 --> 0:17:25.560 you like to wear heels, you're you're like me. So 0:17:25.680 --> 0:17:29.199 it's like we don't fit into munchkin land you so 0:17:29.240 --> 0:17:31.119 we have to do a little bit of like, you know, 0:17:31.320 --> 0:17:35.439 we gotta get real soft and take her down. So 0:17:35.760 --> 0:17:38.159 we have to go. We have to go, like, um, 0:17:38.160 --> 0:17:40.680 thank you so much for that drink. That was not 0:17:40.800 --> 0:17:43.239 a secting lessons from data. Do it? You gotta do it, 0:17:43.400 --> 0:17:47.280 you gotta go. That's the guy. Oh that I don't 0:17:47.320 --> 0:17:50.800 like that. It's not stupid, like you're stupid. It's like 0:17:51.040 --> 0:17:55.280 you're subtle and you're like cascance and you're vulnerable. You're 0:17:55.359 --> 0:17:59.200 what what about raising strong? You know, I want my daughter, 0:17:59.200 --> 0:18:01.240 she's going to probably be an Amazon and tall because 0:18:01.240 --> 0:18:04.320 my husband is super tall. I don't want her to, 0:18:04.480 --> 0:18:06.560 you know, to do that because I want her to 0:18:06.880 --> 0:18:08.560 be confident who she is. Okay, And that's what I 0:18:08.560 --> 0:18:10.119 do love about you. You're confident in who you are 0:18:10.119 --> 0:18:13.760 and I don't want to see Tori like playing with no. Listen, 0:18:13.880 --> 0:18:16.399 this is biology because once you get them to the 0:18:16.440 --> 0:18:18.320 gate and they like you, then you go back to 0:18:18.320 --> 0:18:19.800 your real stuff. And now you got them. But then 0:18:19.840 --> 0:18:23.240 that's that's how ever, doesn't it doesn't matter. They're in 0:18:23.320 --> 0:18:26.320 love by then you've had sex, all things are good. 0:18:26.480 --> 0:18:28.360 He's like, oh my god, I got the soft girl 0:18:28.359 --> 0:18:29.680 and I got the hard out. And then they'll say 0:18:29.720 --> 0:18:31.560 to you like today I need soft girl. Please don't 0:18:31.560 --> 0:18:33.880 bring your heart out, like, don't be who you are. 0:18:33.920 --> 0:18:37.000 Then No, I'm saying, be a mystery, as my mother 0:18:37.040 --> 0:18:39.880 would say, like nobody else I will. What I will 0:18:40.400 --> 0:18:43.320 say from a guy's perspective is what I'm best secting 0:18:43.359 --> 0:18:45.040 from what Patty's saying is it's kind of like playing 0:18:45.080 --> 0:18:49.359 the game right. So as a man naturally a taller 0:18:49.400 --> 0:18:51.439 woman and stuff like that, it's a little bit more intimidating. 0:18:51.720 --> 0:18:53.840 I mean, I'm bigger than most, so not for me, 0:18:53.880 --> 0:18:56.000 but maybe there's five ft ten guys out there have 0:18:56.080 --> 0:18:58.680 a harder time so to feel like they are still 0:18:58.720 --> 0:19:01.520 the man. It's actually at the beginning of the relationship 0:19:01.560 --> 0:19:03.560 to know that they are taking care of them, to 0:19:03.640 --> 0:19:06.399 know that you don't have this amazing strong female right 0:19:06.440 --> 0:19:07.840 off the bath. It's like me and I have nothing 0:19:07.880 --> 0:19:09.399 off for them, Like they just take care of themselves. 0:19:09.400 --> 0:19:14.920 I don't want to feel like I can't. No, it's 0:19:14.960 --> 0:19:17.760 not it's not that. It's that we live in an 0:19:17.760 --> 0:19:22.040 Instagram social media. We're married to our phones were not 0:19:22.200 --> 0:19:25.560 engaging anymore, and we live in this society right now 0:19:25.800 --> 0:19:30.320 where it's all about you know you, we forgot to connect. 0:19:30.640 --> 0:19:32.800 So in order to connect, we've got to, like, you know, 0:19:32.920 --> 0:19:35.560 kind of shed all this crap. And that's how you 0:19:35.600 --> 0:19:38.360 get soft. Once she gets solidly, once she gets soft, 0:19:38.800 --> 0:19:41.879 they love you the flirt. I've seen tall girls that 0:19:41.920 --> 0:19:44.679 are lanky, tall girls like six footers from supermodels, and 0:19:44.720 --> 0:19:46.720 they'll put the little flirty murdy on and I just 0:19:46.760 --> 0:19:48.520