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Speaker 1: Swine Down with Jane Kramer and I Heart radio podcast.

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Speaker 1: So sometimes you guys might wonder what we talked about

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Speaker 1: before podcast. Let me just I said, you guys stop

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Speaker 1: talking and record this right now. So what we just

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Speaker 1: started talking about is we came into the studio and

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Speaker 1: there are sleep number pillows and for me, I don't

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Speaker 1: like the fact that Mike has to sleep with about

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Speaker 1: ten pillows because when I make the bed in the morning,

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Speaker 1: where do I put those pillows? When you make the

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Speaker 1: bed in the morning. Wait, wait, wait, wait a second,

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Speaker 1: I'm sorry. Okay, yes, you do make the bed a lot,

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Speaker 1: but you don't, but you don't when I make the bed,

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Speaker 1: I make sure that it's pretty and that have the

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Speaker 1: nights I practically make the bed. Yeah, but you make

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Speaker 1: the bed are never used, but that looks better. So yes,

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Speaker 1: you do coming into our room on a daily basis.

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Speaker 1: But sometimes I like But I'm just saying I like

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Speaker 1: to make the bed look really nice, like how the

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Speaker 1: designers like have the bed made and what when I

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Speaker 1: do do that, which again is rare, but I like

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Speaker 1: to do that. But I would do it more if

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Speaker 1: I didn't have six five six pillows to have to

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Speaker 1: work with on your side of the bed because where

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Speaker 1: do I put those? And then I put him in

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Speaker 1: your closet and there's not room in the closet, and

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Speaker 1: it's just frustrating because then you pull your pillows out

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Speaker 1: of the closet, so I don't so I see these

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Speaker 1: boxes here with pillows, And then you and Mark started

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Speaker 1: talking about well Eastern only sleeps one pillow. He's like

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Speaker 1: a he's a vampire that it stands straight up right. Yeah, yeah,

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Speaker 1: this is the pillow talk. We have one pillow each.

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Speaker 1: We're going minimal. That was my wife's decision. And then

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Speaker 1: Mark said that he has to have pillows all the

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Speaker 1: way down his legs. So I mean, it's a big

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Speaker 1: body pillow. It's especially made pillow for your knees. So

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Speaker 1: clearly I'm not the only person who has this what

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Speaker 1: Mike has it. But also they have a special one

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Speaker 1: made for your knees together ankles. I think they take

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Speaker 1: care of themselves up at blankets between my ankles stop,

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Speaker 1: I don't like I just kind of wrapped them around.

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Speaker 1: I don't like my skin to touch my own skin.

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Speaker 1: And the funny story is that I've been that way forever.

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Speaker 1: And I mentioned to my sister, and she's the exact

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Speaker 1: same way. She has a special thing she wears between

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Speaker 1: her boobs so her boobs don't touch when she's laying.

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Speaker 1: She's gonna love you for saying that, Oh my gosh.

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Speaker 1: And then do you like one? You like one to

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Speaker 1: keep you propped up? Right? You know? All I know

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Speaker 1: is that when we go to bed, let me just

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Speaker 1: say this, he makes he makes a fort pillow so

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Speaker 1: that I don't see the light from his eye bad

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Speaker 1: because he plays games before he has to go to

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Speaker 1: bed out of them in my heart, so I don't

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Speaker 1: wake you up, right? But then I look over there

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Speaker 1: to try to cuddle with you, and I have to

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Speaker 1: fight through a fort pillow to get through to you

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Speaker 1: on your side of the bed. I'm like, that's too

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Speaker 1: much effort to go to strategically place so you don't

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Speaker 1: wake me up. I see that, But what do you

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Speaker 1: like to do with your pillows? I like to see

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Speaker 1: I'm the same way as Mark, but I have to

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Speaker 1: But I don't like body pillows because it's like I'm

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Speaker 1: having another person. It's like cuddling, but it just makes

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Speaker 1: me hot. So that's what I don't understand, and that's

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Speaker 1: why I wanted to talk about this on air because

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Speaker 1: I was like, oh, that's why I said press record,

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Speaker 1: because if you like to cuddle with a pillow, what's

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Speaker 1: the difference between me cuddling with you which you don't

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Speaker 1: like to talk? It's so hot? Yes, but I know

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Speaker 1: your body. You're cold as ice. You don't get proper

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Speaker 1: blood flow to your extremities. But I'm like a human blanket,

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Speaker 1: so anything I'm up against is usually hot, which doesn't

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Speaker 1: make sense. And while you're holding a pillow, because when

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Speaker 1: a pillow pillow breathes, it's not a human body. But

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Speaker 1: what is it though? Is it the comfort of holding something? Yeah,

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Speaker 1: it's just just train your mind to like comfort to

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Speaker 1: hold me because it's too hot, No, hot bog. Could

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Speaker 1: it be a stuffed animal? Could it be like a bid?

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Speaker 1: Be sure to be big and comfy, and I'm big

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Speaker 1: and comfy. But if I wrap myself in an ice

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Speaker 1: all I know is that now I'm going to have

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Speaker 1: do your ad to have more pillows. Um, but talking

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Speaker 1: talked to you about it. Not he really for sex,

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Speaker 1: No I got. I mean I got cleared to officially

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Speaker 1: work out and do abs and all those things she's

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Speaker 1: been doing. But I know I haven't done apps. So

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Speaker 1: one of the things, and I said, one of my

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Speaker 1: has done this, and I said, I posted a story

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Speaker 1: share on my podcast next week what drives me crazy

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Speaker 1: at the gynecologist that this person does. And they're probably thinking,

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Speaker 1: you know it paps me, but no it's not. So

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Speaker 1: remember the nurse. I don't remember her name, but every

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Speaker 1: single time I'm sitting to get my blood pressure, she

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Speaker 1: rubs my back like in a slow circle movement, and

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Speaker 1: it makes my skin literally crawl, and I'm like, I'm

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Speaker 1: a thirty five year old woman. Why can't I say

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Speaker 1: there and here's the problem. So today she's rubbing my back.

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Speaker 1: He is Jinna. He has just breathe, and I'm like,

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Speaker 1: she rubs my back and doing it all over again.

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Speaker 1: I'm like, this is what Mike feels with intimacy and

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Speaker 1: running back world. Oh my god, I'm so sorry. Yea,

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Speaker 1: that's the nurse. I'm your wife. So do you really

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Speaker 1: but I just don't understand why I can't say can

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Speaker 1: Can can anyone could? I don't want to. I don't

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Speaker 1: I don't think he would make her feel bad. I

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Speaker 1: But that's why I say could dependency because you don't

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Speaker 1: want hurt because you make up that she will feel bad,

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Speaker 1: the reality is time. If you told that somebody, Okay,

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Speaker 1: a big girl, be a big girl, Janna, tell her

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Speaker 1: to stop rubbing your back, Tell her to stop rubbing

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Speaker 1: then I'm like, I don't want her to think I'm

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Speaker 1: Because I'm telling them to stop something, stop something that

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Speaker 1: you don't like, right, I don't know, But I'm not

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Speaker 1: saying it's easy because it sounds ridiculous when you talk

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Speaker 1: You know, you'd probably be thrilled to stop you but

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Speaker 1: I think that's our thing. I think she's an older lady.

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Speaker 1: annoys me, and so it's just it's frustrating. We're also

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Speaker 1: I think is that there's there's the quote that says,

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Speaker 1: of a jerk. Yeah, they don't think anything about you.

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Speaker 1: Do you think it's more of people thinking thinking that

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Speaker 1: but also I have times where I just don't care

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Speaker 1: Patty Stanger coming in millionaire matchmaker and apparently she's a psychic.

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Speaker 1: Now so I'm a jill of all trades? What I

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Speaker 1: did there? Jack said Jacket Steele. Um, so it was good.

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Speaker 1: but that's fine. So, oh my gosh. Moving on, let's

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Speaker 1: talk about sleep number, shall we? Yeah, and how excited

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Speaker 1: we are about all the pillows? I mean, okay, truly,

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Speaker 1: small thing, but because of Sleep Number, Janna and I

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Speaker 1: Hi guys, Hey Patty Crystal in the middle of the room. Crystal,

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Speaker 1: thank you so much for that drink. That was not

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Speaker 1: a secting lessons from data. Do it? You gotta do it,

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Speaker 1: to let what we got you on tennis? Like you're

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00:20:42,040 --> 00:20:46,680
Speaker 1: moving and shaken and you're hustling. Okay, And unless that

423
00:20:46,720 --> 00:20:49,200
Speaker 1: guy at works sees you. One of these dudes here,

424
00:20:49,240 --> 00:20:51,160
Speaker 1: if they're single and they're looking at you like, oh,

425
00:20:51,200 --> 00:20:52,720
Speaker 1: I really love a hustle girl, they have to have

426
00:20:52,720 --> 00:20:56,040
Speaker 1: a hustler mother to love that. Funny, that's the that's

427
00:20:56,080 --> 00:20:58,720
Speaker 1: the dynamic. My mom was a hustler. I want a

428
00:20:58,760 --> 00:21:02,480
Speaker 1: strong woman. My mom was really beta to my father's alpha.

429
00:21:02,600 --> 00:21:05,800
Speaker 1: I want to beta. So wherever they come from, that's

430
00:21:05,880 --> 00:21:08,320
Speaker 1: usually the DNA of what they choose. So and now

431
00:21:08,320 --> 00:21:11,280
Speaker 1: I need them to bring their moms on our first dates. No, no,

432
00:21:11,400 --> 00:21:13,400
Speaker 1: you need to ask them about your mom. Do you

433
00:21:13,400 --> 00:21:15,080
Speaker 1: you know you'd say, oh, you're close to your family,

434
00:21:15,359 --> 00:21:18,840
Speaker 1: open into questions. They go, I freaking hate my mother

435
00:21:18,960 --> 00:21:20,760
Speaker 1: and I we haven't seen my mother in twenty years.

436
00:21:21,040 --> 00:21:24,399
Speaker 1: But run, run run. You can never fill that void.

437
00:21:24,640 --> 00:21:28,719
Speaker 1: What do you think about cheaters? Oh, well, my mom so,

438
00:21:28,800 --> 00:21:31,160
Speaker 1: my mom was Mrs Mazel. You everybody watching the Marvel's

439
00:21:31,200 --> 00:21:33,959
Speaker 1: Life and Mrs Masiel so in X three, my mother's

440
00:21:33,960 --> 00:21:37,040
Speaker 1: first husband, who was my first father, I'm adopted, cheated

441
00:21:37,080 --> 00:21:40,280
Speaker 1: on my mother and she was Mrs Mazel. She didn't

442
00:21:40,320 --> 00:21:42,600
Speaker 1: cry in her soup, she didn't freaked f out. She

443
00:21:42,760 --> 00:21:45,760
Speaker 1: picked up me up, put me into my grandparents house,

444
00:21:45,800 --> 00:21:48,560
Speaker 1: said he cheated. I'm getting a divorce and my grandmother's

445
00:21:48,600 --> 00:21:51,639
Speaker 1: talking her out of getting What will you do? You

446
00:21:51,720 --> 00:21:54,920
Speaker 1: have no skills even though she went to college, and

447
00:21:55,119 --> 00:21:56,760
Speaker 1: she's like, I'm not going to put up with this.

448
00:21:57,440 --> 00:22:00,960
Speaker 1: And she tells him she wants a divorce. Now he's like, no,

449
00:22:01,800 --> 00:22:05,560
Speaker 1: little bezos action there, he f y I she wants.

450
00:22:05,800 --> 00:22:07,280
Speaker 1: He wants to keep his cake and eat it too.

451
00:22:07,280 --> 00:22:09,439
Speaker 1: And you go every Wednesday night to this famous restaurant

452
00:22:09,480 --> 00:22:11,919
Speaker 1: which is still their palace cabin in New Jersey, and

453
00:22:12,000 --> 00:22:15,240
Speaker 1: he would cheat. She's like, I want a divorce. My

454
00:22:15,320 --> 00:22:17,919
Speaker 1: mother's crafty, you know, She's thinking, how am I going

455
00:22:18,000 --> 00:22:19,480
Speaker 1: to get out of this? I want a doorse those

456
00:22:19,520 --> 00:22:21,240
Speaker 1: days you could fly to Puerto Rico and get a divorce,

457
00:22:21,800 --> 00:22:24,000
Speaker 1: and he would He said, no, I want my cake

458
00:22:24,040 --> 00:22:27,080
Speaker 1: and eating too. So she knew his best friend was

459
00:22:27,119 --> 00:22:30,359
Speaker 1: a total freaking nerd. She sits down next to the

460
00:22:30,359 --> 00:22:32,960
Speaker 1: best friend at the bar at seven o'clock when she

461
00:22:33,000 --> 00:22:36,800
Speaker 1: knows her her husband's coming in. My father and she

462
00:22:36,920 --> 00:22:40,520
Speaker 1: kisses him on the lips. The nerd, that was the threshold.

463
00:22:40,640 --> 00:22:42,680
Speaker 1: You cheated on me, he thinks in his mind, little

464
00:22:42,720 --> 00:22:44,560
Speaker 1: on that he cheated on her. Fludi putter Rica the

465
00:22:44,560 --> 00:22:49,920
Speaker 1: next day, get divorce once a cheater. If they're cheated once,

466
00:22:50,520 --> 00:22:53,240
Speaker 1: they may not cheat again. But if the history says

467
00:22:53,320 --> 00:22:56,640
Speaker 1: that they've cheated, I like to call them jumpers. They're

468
00:22:56,640 --> 00:22:59,480
Speaker 1: not really cheaters. They're jumpers. They go from relationship to

469
00:22:59,480 --> 00:23:01,280
Speaker 1: relationship and trade up. They trade up, they trade up

470
00:23:01,320 --> 00:23:03,560
Speaker 1: the trade and that's kind of like their mma. Oh

471
00:23:03,680 --> 00:23:05,639
Speaker 1: you didn't you didn't make me feel good today, you

472
00:23:05,640 --> 00:23:07,880
Speaker 1: didn't give me attention. I'm just gonna go find somebody

473
00:23:07,880 --> 00:23:10,040
Speaker 1: who else does and there in mind, they don't think

474
00:23:10,040 --> 00:23:12,520
Speaker 1: it's cheating, you know what I mean? Like, like we're

475
00:23:12,520 --> 00:23:15,320
Speaker 1: finding out about Bezos today with the texts and Lauren

476
00:23:15,480 --> 00:23:17,200
Speaker 1: and all this, I'm like, why did you want to

477
00:23:17,240 --> 00:23:19,560
Speaker 1: file divorcee? Why did you wear a ring at the

478
00:23:19,600 --> 00:23:22,600
Speaker 1: Golden Globes? Like? What really is going on behind the

479
00:23:22,680 --> 00:23:25,400
Speaker 1: scenes here? Now? We don't know that because we don't

480
00:23:25,400 --> 00:23:28,920
Speaker 1: know if this was an arrangement. But when you're blind

481
00:23:28,960 --> 00:23:38,600
Speaker 1: side of talking about I have two kids and I'm

482
00:23:38,600 --> 00:23:41,359
Speaker 1: teasing you and okay, haven't looked at the news this morning.

483
00:23:41,359 --> 00:23:43,840
Speaker 1: But when I'm saying is no, two people are like,

484
00:23:44,000 --> 00:23:47,280
Speaker 1: it's not snowflake city. Okay, I mean it's snowflake City. No.

485
00:23:47,359 --> 00:23:50,560
Speaker 1: Two people are like you. You can't say, all man cheat,

486
00:23:51,000 --> 00:23:53,600
Speaker 1: If you cheated once, she'll cheat again, because that's not true.

487
00:23:53,920 --> 00:23:59,360
Speaker 1: There's a why, there's a reason. Is this a natural inclination?

488
00:23:59,520 --> 00:24:02,639
Speaker 1: Did his other cheat? Did his mother cheat? Is this

489
00:24:02,760 --> 00:24:06,080
Speaker 1: who he is? Is he's so excited about grabbing that

490
00:24:06,200 --> 00:24:08,879
Speaker 1: brassy new ring that he doesn't care about his family,

491
00:24:08,920 --> 00:24:11,399
Speaker 1: then he's not really a family man. And we've all

492
00:24:11,440 --> 00:24:14,280
Speaker 1: been duped. We've we've all been where you've been. We've

493
00:24:14,440 --> 00:24:16,560
Speaker 1: I've been cheated on. I'm cheated on by a firefighter,

494
00:24:16,680 --> 00:24:18,680
Speaker 1: told never to date, a firefighter said, oh, he would

495
00:24:18,680 --> 00:24:22,639
Speaker 1: never do that to me. Cheated on me. Nine eleven firefighters. Okay,

496
00:24:22,680 --> 00:24:26,119
Speaker 1: on the cover of the of the you know the calendar. Okay, Steve,

497
00:24:26,160 --> 00:24:29,800
Speaker 1: you know who you are anyway? Um in New York, Okay,

498
00:24:30,040 --> 00:24:33,399
Speaker 1: cold Spring anyway. So the point I'm making is that

499
00:24:33,600 --> 00:24:36,200
Speaker 1: no two people are alike because my father, my mother's

500
00:24:36,240 --> 00:24:38,560
Speaker 1: second husband, never cheated on her and loved her to

501
00:24:38,560 --> 00:24:41,960
Speaker 1: other day that he died. And so it depends on

502
00:24:42,000 --> 00:24:45,040
Speaker 1: the situation. I hate saying absolute. I'm not an absolute.

503
00:24:45,160 --> 00:24:47,400
Speaker 1: I just I'm always curious about, you know, because you're

504
00:24:47,400 --> 00:24:49,520
Speaker 1: a matchmaker, and if you saw someone that did cheat

505
00:24:49,560 --> 00:24:52,280
Speaker 1: on someone, you know, are you hesitant to then match

506
00:24:52,320 --> 00:24:54,800
Speaker 1: the person with someone because they have had that pass.

507
00:24:55,119 --> 00:24:58,639
Speaker 1: Usually council both sides, and if it's I'm not getting sacks,

508
00:24:59,040 --> 00:25:02,200
Speaker 1: I'm not getting at tend shin Um. We've gone to counseling,

509
00:25:02,320 --> 00:25:05,000
Speaker 1: we try to work it out. They're not giving me anything.

510
00:25:05,880 --> 00:25:07,840
Speaker 1: It's time to leave, But I don't agree in cheating.

511
00:25:07,880 --> 00:25:11,000
Speaker 1: I agreed you leave, Then you have another relationship, like

512
00:25:11,080 --> 00:25:14,520
Speaker 1: you declare we're separated, you gotta move. I won't fix

513
00:25:14,560 --> 00:25:16,520
Speaker 1: anyone unless they've moved out of the house. I have

514
00:25:16,560 --> 00:25:18,400
Speaker 1: to move it up. They don't have to legal separation,

515
00:25:18,440 --> 00:25:21,199
Speaker 1: but they have to move out of that house. Okay.

516
00:25:21,440 --> 00:25:24,800
Speaker 1: And the other thing is you know, like, did you

517
00:25:24,840 --> 00:25:27,000
Speaker 1: know that he was going to cheat my husband? Yeah?

518
00:25:27,160 --> 00:25:28,840
Speaker 1: Did I know he was going to cheat? Did you

519
00:25:28,920 --> 00:25:31,000
Speaker 1: have any clinations along the way. He's looked at girls

520
00:25:31,040 --> 00:25:33,520
Speaker 1: at parties, he was flirty with a lot of women.

521
00:25:33,680 --> 00:25:36,119
Speaker 1: He had cheated when we were dating before we got married.

522
00:25:36,160 --> 00:25:38,000
Speaker 1: So I mean I maybe thought he might back of

523
00:25:38,040 --> 00:25:40,680
Speaker 1: the head. Okay, but you thought, maybe, you know, maybe

524
00:25:40,680 --> 00:25:43,040
Speaker 1: he got it was a one time thing. Okay. Well

525
00:25:43,080 --> 00:25:47,639
Speaker 1: that's what most people think. Um. But generally speaking, UM,

526
00:25:47,680 --> 00:25:50,200
Speaker 1: a man cheats for a reason. Now there's a ego.

527
00:25:51,000 --> 00:25:53,280
Speaker 1: You know, I'm getting a piece of you know what

528
00:25:53,320 --> 00:25:55,040
Speaker 1: that I couldn't get before. I didn't get the cheerier

529
00:25:55,080 --> 00:25:56,760
Speaker 1: in high school, So therefore I'm going to go for it.

530
00:25:56,920 --> 00:25:59,639
Speaker 1: But he got. Now I'm talking about like, I'm not

531
00:25:59,680 --> 00:26:02,440
Speaker 1: talking about him. I'm talking about nerds that go off

532
00:26:02,680 --> 00:26:04,359
Speaker 1: like they make a lot of money. The millionaires, that

533
00:26:04,359 --> 00:26:05,919
Speaker 1: are nerds in high school and then they make a

534
00:26:05,920 --> 00:26:07,680
Speaker 1: lot of money and then they cheat on their average

535
00:26:07,720 --> 00:26:11,479
Speaker 1: annie wives because they couldn't get the movie star. So

536
00:26:11,520 --> 00:26:13,879
Speaker 1: now they're now they're in the game. My best friend

537
00:26:14,600 --> 00:26:16,680
Speaker 1: had an experience like that, and he said, I could

538
00:26:16,720 --> 00:26:18,720
Speaker 1: never get those hot girls. And then you know, I

539
00:26:18,760 --> 00:26:20,200
Speaker 1: got to the I got to the game, I got

540
00:26:20,200 --> 00:26:22,679
Speaker 1: to the to the party and there it was and

541
00:26:22,720 --> 00:26:24,520
Speaker 1: it was like, I was like, well why, And he's like,

542
00:26:24,560 --> 00:26:27,200
Speaker 1: because I always wanted that. You have to find out

543
00:26:27,200 --> 00:26:32,320
Speaker 1: why anything. I mean, I get that, I get that mindset,

544
00:26:32,359 --> 00:26:34,399
Speaker 1: but I mean like she's like, she's saying that the reason.

545
00:26:34,440 --> 00:26:37,800
Speaker 1: If you find out the reason, then I think you

546
00:26:37,840 --> 00:26:42,720
Speaker 1: can kind of cancer the disclaimer. Does it make it right? Right?

547
00:26:42,800 --> 00:26:46,280
Speaker 1: Right here? Nothing is right? Yeah, But if you're able

548
00:26:46,280 --> 00:26:49,200
Speaker 1: to deep down, through therapy or whatever resource, find out

549
00:26:49,240 --> 00:26:52,800
Speaker 1: the reason behind whoever whichever party is cheating and address that,

550
00:26:53,440 --> 00:26:55,800
Speaker 1: then you can, I think you can kill the stereotype

551
00:26:55,800 --> 00:27:01,600
Speaker 1: of once you always achieve ours. It's it's the why

552
00:27:01,920 --> 00:27:04,080
Speaker 1: is the healing because then you go, I don't want

553
00:27:04,119 --> 00:27:05,880
Speaker 1: you anyway because that's what you did it. But I'm

554
00:27:05,880 --> 00:27:08,399
Speaker 1: gonna tell you something. You're gonna be blown away. Women

555
00:27:08,440 --> 00:27:11,679
Speaker 1: cheat more than men. They just don't get okay, well

556
00:27:11,680 --> 00:27:13,640
Speaker 1: they don't get out with this one. Well, they don't

557
00:27:13,640 --> 00:27:15,960
Speaker 1: get caught because I don't get caught. And the truth

558
00:27:16,000 --> 00:27:19,840
Speaker 1: of the matter is, if you've cheated, karma, it's like

559
00:27:19,920 --> 00:27:22,159
Speaker 1: it comes around, cloes around. Well, that's why I forgave

560
00:27:22,200 --> 00:27:24,560
Speaker 1: him in the beginning, was because I because I had

561
00:27:24,560 --> 00:27:26,480
Speaker 1: that guilt that I did that in relationship, so I

562
00:27:26,560 --> 00:27:29,119
Speaker 1: wanted to forgive him. You were the cheater, okay, And

563
00:27:29,119 --> 00:27:30,480
Speaker 1: when you first I said, I didn't know you guys

564
00:27:30,480 --> 00:27:32,760
Speaker 1: are together. Nobody gave me in front. This is my husband. Okay,

565
00:27:32,800 --> 00:27:36,840
Speaker 1: thank you to my publistness, which I didn't know that. Okay,

566
00:27:36,840 --> 00:27:43,840
Speaker 1: now I'm finding my I'm like, okay, okay, so you

567
00:27:44,160 --> 00:27:46,919
Speaker 1: so you went out, we went out. He cheated, and

568
00:27:46,960 --> 00:27:50,960
Speaker 1: then I took him back because I have not I'm sorry,

569
00:27:51,000 --> 00:27:52,919
Speaker 1: it's not a relationship. I've cheated in the majority of

570
00:27:52,920 --> 00:27:55,880
Speaker 1: my relationships. Because again it was the why did you cheat?

571
00:27:56,200 --> 00:27:59,400
Speaker 1: Because the next new shiny thing, I wasn't getting the validation.

572
00:27:59,480 --> 00:28:03,760
Speaker 1: I wasn't getting what the father issues that I didn't

573
00:28:03,840 --> 00:28:09,160
Speaker 1: work through. Um, it's a long story. Give me one

574
00:28:09,200 --> 00:28:13,439
Speaker 1: sentence reader, should I just what is it? Uh? Never

575
00:28:13,520 --> 00:28:16,560
Speaker 1: felt like I was enough in my life. That's that's

576
00:28:16,560 --> 00:28:21,639
Speaker 1: the self esteem essentially. So then I took him back

577
00:28:21,800 --> 00:28:24,919
Speaker 1: because I kind of never got that. I wanted to

578
00:28:24,960 --> 00:28:26,520
Speaker 1: be able to say I forgive, and he was like,

579
00:28:26,680 --> 00:28:28,160
Speaker 1: you know, I'll never do it again because because in

580
00:28:28,200 --> 00:28:31,800
Speaker 1: this relationship, I said, you know, I told myself and

581
00:28:31,800 --> 00:28:34,160
Speaker 1: I've done so much work that I that's not that's

582
00:28:34,200 --> 00:28:36,480
Speaker 1: not going to happen in this relationship. And so but

583
00:28:36,520 --> 00:28:38,880
Speaker 1: then he, you know, obviously happened again. And you know,

584
00:28:38,960 --> 00:28:42,640
Speaker 1: we've discovered more stuff. But I still believe that if

585
00:28:42,680 --> 00:28:46,320
Speaker 1: you work on things, cheater is not you know, I

586
00:28:46,360 --> 00:28:48,760
Speaker 1: pray to God it doesn't happen again. But you know,

587
00:28:49,680 --> 00:28:52,040
Speaker 1: because we have the resources and you've worked on things,

588
00:28:52,240 --> 00:28:54,760
Speaker 1: we do have two We have a six week old

589
00:28:54,800 --> 00:28:56,520
Speaker 1: and you have a six week old and a three

590
00:28:56,560 --> 00:29:00,000
Speaker 1: year Okay, so so you you know that she's cheating

591
00:29:00,120 --> 00:29:05,160
Speaker 1: before you, and you cheated on her, which keeps the

592
00:29:05,200 --> 00:29:11,160
Speaker 1: game exciting? Yes it does, Yes, it does. Subconsciously, it does.

593
00:29:11,560 --> 00:29:13,800
Speaker 1: It's a subconscious thing. It's not unconscious. See, I've never

594
00:29:13,920 --> 00:29:16,640
Speaker 1: cheated on him, and that's the problem that bothers me. Well,

595
00:29:16,760 --> 00:29:19,400
Speaker 1: that's why that's subconscious. What do you mean the gate

596
00:29:19,480 --> 00:29:22,640
Speaker 1: is open? So the thing is you both know neither

597
00:29:22,680 --> 00:29:25,680
Speaker 1: one of you are clean, and now I'm clean in

598
00:29:25,720 --> 00:29:28,120
Speaker 1: this relationship, not talking about It's not a relationship to

599
00:29:28,160 --> 00:29:31,120
Speaker 1: relationship thing. It's a total of your complete, you know,

600
00:29:31,360 --> 00:29:34,640
Speaker 1: history of relationship. It goes back to subconsciousness. So sub

601
00:29:34,640 --> 00:29:38,440
Speaker 1: consciousness keeps it, keeps it alive, it keeps it exciting. Yeah,

602
00:29:38,800 --> 00:29:42,800
Speaker 1: because me excited you, but you took him back. You

603
00:29:42,880 --> 00:29:45,080
Speaker 1: didn't write because I love him and he's such an ass.

604
00:29:45,800 --> 00:29:48,000
Speaker 1: I love him and he's such an ass. That's why

605
00:29:48,000 --> 00:29:51,040
Speaker 1: I took him back. So you're going on tour right now?

606
00:29:51,120 --> 00:29:55,080
Speaker 1: There's three cities I see, well, okay, damn it, Tory,

607
00:29:55,840 --> 00:30:00,520
Speaker 1: I see three on here before. Actually I'm going to Richeville, Connecticut, Morristown,

608
00:30:00,560 --> 00:30:04,760
Speaker 1: New Jersey, which I'm from Jersey, Pennsylvania, which is going

609
00:30:04,800 --> 00:30:06,920
Speaker 1: to be filling in Pittsburgh. Where can our listeners see

610
00:30:07,120 --> 00:30:10,760
Speaker 1: like the dates? If you go to Patty Knows with

611
00:30:10,840 --> 00:30:13,800
Speaker 1: an I patty knows dot com, you can actually buy

612
00:30:13,840 --> 00:30:16,600
Speaker 1: the tickets. There's v I p ones as well as

613
00:30:16,640 --> 00:30:19,520
Speaker 1: regular tickets. Will be doing champagne. I'll be asking all

614
00:30:19,560 --> 00:30:24,320
Speaker 1: your questions asked. So people do they raise their hand?

615
00:30:24,400 --> 00:30:28,360
Speaker 1: Do they have to buy a specific ticket to get um? No? Actually,

616
00:30:28,880 --> 00:30:31,640
Speaker 1: the show starts out at the interactive dating relationship show.

617
00:30:31,680 --> 00:30:34,280
Speaker 1: I comme at kind of like stand up style. Then

618
00:30:34,320 --> 00:30:36,600
Speaker 1: I bring people up on stage to fix, to fix

619
00:30:36,640 --> 00:30:38,480
Speaker 1: each other up, picking each other up. I do this

620
00:30:38,520 --> 00:30:41,960
Speaker 1: whole thing as well as relationship couples like you, somebody's cheated,

621
00:30:42,240 --> 00:30:45,160
Speaker 1: do I fix that? Somebody proposed once when I did

622
00:30:45,200 --> 00:30:48,520
Speaker 1: a live tour, and um, it's really interesting. I gave

623
00:30:48,600 --> 00:30:51,360
Speaker 1: him somebody throughout their engagement ring because they're getting divorced

624
00:30:51,480 --> 00:30:53,080
Speaker 1: and they propose. I said, I couldn't afford to ring.

625
00:30:53,080 --> 00:30:55,560
Speaker 1: That's why I couldn't propose, and blah blah blah. He does.

626
00:30:55,960 --> 00:30:57,840
Speaker 1: And then at the end of the show, anyone can

627
00:30:57,920 --> 00:31:00,520
Speaker 1: line up around the corner ask me anything. Nothing is

628
00:31:00,560 --> 00:31:06,480
Speaker 1: off top business love. But I'm psychic, so I people's

629
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Speaker 1: energy is the biggest skeptic and psychics, so I read

630
00:31:10,960 --> 00:31:14,880
Speaker 1: people's energy. I'm an astrologer and I can see things

631
00:31:14,880 --> 00:31:18,120
Speaker 1: that nobody sees, so I can help you withever whatever

632
00:31:18,240 --> 00:31:20,840
Speaker 1: endeavor you're working on. So did it just come to one?

633
00:31:20,880 --> 00:31:23,000
Speaker 1: I'm claire audience. I I hear I know, I hear

634
00:31:23,040 --> 00:31:24,600
Speaker 1: a voice. So I was gonna ask, what's the difference

635
00:31:24,640 --> 00:31:28,160
Speaker 1: between clear audience and clare voidance. Claire voyant usually senses

636
00:31:28,640 --> 00:31:31,840
Speaker 1: their audience. Here's I hear of? So you hear dead people? No,

637
00:31:31,920 --> 00:31:34,600
Speaker 1: I don't see dead people. I see guides and angels.

638
00:31:35,120 --> 00:31:37,280
Speaker 1: I actually talked to the guide or the angel, or

639
00:31:37,320 --> 00:31:39,600
Speaker 1: my guide or angel. Sometimes I'll be mine something there's

640
00:31:39,800 --> 00:31:43,760
Speaker 1: it's not about who is talking to me, it's upstairs information.

641
00:31:44,000 --> 00:31:46,320
Speaker 1: How did you notice that you had that? Well, I

642
00:31:46,360 --> 00:31:48,040
Speaker 1: was adopted as a kid, and my family was not

643
00:31:48,160 --> 00:31:49,760
Speaker 1: into any of this, and they would shove it under

644
00:31:49,760 --> 00:31:51,480
Speaker 1: the rug. And I would know who's getting a divorced,

645
00:31:51,520 --> 00:31:54,160
Speaker 1: I would know who's getting pregnant. I would know who's done.

646
00:31:54,200 --> 00:31:55,880
Speaker 1: I mean, my grandmother was going to die on a

647
00:31:56,000 --> 00:31:57,960
Speaker 1: very minor surgery, and I begged my mother not to

648
00:31:58,000 --> 00:32:00,280
Speaker 1: send her to the hospital for hip replacement. She died

649
00:32:00,280 --> 00:32:03,560
Speaker 1: two weeks two weeks later from anesthesia. So it's like

650
00:32:04,040 --> 00:32:07,440
Speaker 1: there are little things I saw then. I was always

651
00:32:07,440 --> 00:32:09,480
Speaker 1: interested in the occult, so I studied with a lot

652
00:32:09,520 --> 00:32:12,000
Speaker 1: of very famous psychics. I ran the Kenny Kingston Psychic

653
00:32:12,120 --> 00:32:14,680
Speaker 1: network for four years. I was a practicing psyche in

654
00:32:14,720 --> 00:32:18,040
Speaker 1: Florida for ten years and I just studied benephysics and

655
00:32:18,080 --> 00:32:23,080
Speaker 1: then with meditation, I do transliental meditation. It hones my craft.

656
00:32:23,160 --> 00:32:25,880
Speaker 1: So when you see me on Millionaire Matchmaker and someone's

657
00:32:25,920 --> 00:32:27,640
Speaker 1: in the hot scene and I'm reading them and I'm

658
00:32:27,640 --> 00:32:30,320
Speaker 1: breaking them and they're crying and they're freaking at and

659
00:32:30,360 --> 00:32:32,920
Speaker 1: like Claudia Jordan's said, I saw I put her in

660
00:32:32,960 --> 00:32:34,320
Speaker 1: the hot scene. She was a friend of mine and

661
00:32:34,360 --> 00:32:36,200
Speaker 1: I didn't know this. And I said, they're telling me

662
00:32:36,280 --> 00:32:38,760
Speaker 1: something happened to you at eighteen. You didn't You didn't

663
00:32:38,760 --> 00:32:40,760
Speaker 1: tell your father. It caused a rift in your relationship.

664
00:32:40,800 --> 00:32:42,880
Speaker 1: What happened? And she goes, how the hell did you

665
00:32:42,920 --> 00:32:45,800
Speaker 1: know that? She starts crying, I was raped, Oh gosh,

666
00:32:45,840 --> 00:32:48,000
Speaker 1: and my father wouldn't believe me. It's like and then

667
00:32:48,000 --> 00:32:49,760
Speaker 1: we got on the phone and called the father and

668
00:32:49,800 --> 00:32:52,680
Speaker 1: we healed the situation. So there's good and there's bad

669
00:32:52,720 --> 00:32:56,080
Speaker 1: stuff that I see UM a lot of times, I

670
00:32:56,160 --> 00:32:58,640
Speaker 1: know stuff's gonna happen with celebrities and things are going

671
00:32:58,680 --> 00:33:00,880
Speaker 1: to happen, and you know things like that, How did

672
00:33:00,920 --> 00:33:03,600
Speaker 1: you turn that into doing like millionaire matchmaker coming from

673
00:33:03,640 --> 00:33:06,280
Speaker 1: this kind of background. My mom was a matchmaker and

674
00:33:06,320 --> 00:33:09,240
Speaker 1: so was my grandmother, and so I ran great expectations

675
00:33:09,320 --> 00:33:12,040
Speaker 1: for like eight years and the oldest dating service, the

676
00:33:12,080 --> 00:33:15,560
Speaker 1: original match dot com, and um, I really didn't want

677
00:33:15,560 --> 00:33:17,520
Speaker 1: to do it. I really was just doing it for

678
00:33:17,520 --> 00:33:21,320
Speaker 1: the cash at the time, and it turned into something

679
00:33:21,360 --> 00:33:22,960
Speaker 1: I was getting at a credit card dead. I was

680
00:33:22,960 --> 00:33:24,800
Speaker 1: going to be a screenwriter. I was going to be

681
00:33:24,800 --> 00:33:26,560
Speaker 1: in the I went to film school. I was like,

682
00:33:26,600 --> 00:33:28,840
Speaker 1: this is just a side gig. I never thought this

683
00:33:28,880 --> 00:33:31,720
Speaker 1: would be my main gig. Right, do you do you

684
00:33:31,760 --> 00:33:35,680
Speaker 1: hear any? Hear anything? Ron Michael birthday? Give me your

685
00:33:35,680 --> 00:33:40,040
Speaker 1: birthday February Pisces. And when's your birthday? I'm December two.

686
00:33:40,120 --> 00:33:42,840
Speaker 1: I'm gonna sit you're you're coming up in a really

687
00:33:42,840 --> 00:33:48,440
Speaker 1: good year. So you've had a terrible three years with Saturn,

688
00:33:49,280 --> 00:33:53,040
Speaker 1: which was really awful to you. Um, but see, let's see,

689
00:33:53,120 --> 00:33:57,960
Speaker 1: let's see nine, ten, eleven. Okay, so we're just about

690
00:33:58,040 --> 00:34:00,520
Speaker 1: to get into Jupiter and your son. You could meet

691
00:34:00,520 --> 00:34:02,120
Speaker 1: another man, but I'm not going to tell you that

692
00:34:03,480 --> 00:34:08,080
Speaker 1: on your son. Okay, you could also be tempted. Okay,

693
00:34:08,880 --> 00:34:10,799
Speaker 1: money is going to be really good for you and

694
00:34:10,840 --> 00:34:13,040
Speaker 1: I and you and I do see are you getting

695
00:34:13,040 --> 00:34:16,280
Speaker 1: into something to do with film? Yeah, you're doing something

696
00:34:16,280 --> 00:34:18,840
Speaker 1: film related and that's going to be really big stepping

697
00:34:18,880 --> 00:34:21,359
Speaker 1: stone for you. You're gonna Are you buying a new

698
00:34:21,360 --> 00:34:25,600
Speaker 1: house we're building? Okay, there you go. Okay, Um, third

699
00:34:25,680 --> 00:34:28,239
Speaker 1: child is possibility at the end of next year, so

700
00:34:28,360 --> 00:34:32,600
Speaker 1: be careful if you don't want it. I do see pregnancy,

701
00:34:32,640 --> 00:34:34,480
Speaker 1: as we just said yesterday, right, we think we're two

702
00:34:34,600 --> 00:34:37,800
Speaker 1: kid family. But I do see you might want to

703
00:34:37,800 --> 00:34:41,000
Speaker 1: get fixed. You have very sharp sperm. Yes, I do.

704
00:34:42,480 --> 00:34:45,400
Speaker 1: That's okay. Did you are Do you doing something sports

705
00:34:45,400 --> 00:34:47,960
Speaker 1: related to Okay, because it's what are we? What do

706
00:34:48,000 --> 00:34:51,360
Speaker 1: you do now? Yeah? What I play in the NFL?

707
00:34:52,200 --> 00:34:55,200
Speaker 1: But is there something like a sports product to drink

708
00:34:55,200 --> 00:34:57,680
Speaker 1: a gadget give makes somebody gave to you and wants

709
00:34:57,719 --> 00:35:00,160
Speaker 1: to promote it. I see you having some sport it's

710
00:35:00,160 --> 00:35:03,160
Speaker 1: related product like an informercial thing that's happening in the

711
00:35:03,239 --> 00:35:05,359
Speaker 1: end of next year. But I would be loved if

712
00:35:05,400 --> 00:35:10,680
Speaker 1: you have any he said. This is coming from a buddy.

713
00:35:10,920 --> 00:35:13,960
Speaker 1: A buddy made an invention. That's what they're telling me. Interesting.

714
00:35:14,160 --> 00:35:16,279
Speaker 1: So keep your buddies, ask your buddies, is anybody your

715
00:35:16,280 --> 00:35:20,279
Speaker 1: buddies close? But the film thing, it's going to break you.

716
00:35:20,480 --> 00:35:22,480
Speaker 1: It's going to open your gates because you've been like

717
00:35:22,560 --> 00:35:26,360
Speaker 1: stagnant and you're like, Okay, I need more, I need more. Um,

718
00:35:26,440 --> 00:35:29,279
Speaker 1: where are you living right now? Here? Well? What part

719
00:35:29,040 --> 00:35:32,759
Speaker 1: a city? I see you? Like? Where do you go

720
00:35:32,800 --> 00:35:37,480
Speaker 1: to the beach? M who has a beach house? No? One,

721
00:35:37,600 --> 00:35:40,200
Speaker 1: we know again if anyone has a beach house, they'd

722
00:35:40,280 --> 00:35:43,080
Speaker 1: like to become friends with them. No, there's something like

723
00:35:43,320 --> 00:35:45,520
Speaker 1: this summer you're going two weeks to a beach house.

724
00:35:45,560 --> 00:35:47,319
Speaker 1: Because I see a beach house. But it's not like

725
00:35:47,560 --> 00:35:51,680
Speaker 1: l A. It's it's like a quiet little town. Oh, Michigan.

726
00:35:52,040 --> 00:35:54,960
Speaker 1: There that's a lake though, that's the same thing. Okay, water.

727
00:35:55,840 --> 00:35:58,200
Speaker 1: I see you going away and really having a wonderful

728
00:35:58,200 --> 00:36:00,000
Speaker 1: like the best time you've ever had in your life.

729
00:36:00,080 --> 00:36:02,640
Speaker 1: And it's peace because you say, like here you in

730
00:36:02,640 --> 00:36:05,720
Speaker 1: your in your head, you don't have enough peace pieces

731
00:36:05,800 --> 00:36:09,400
Speaker 1: really important to you, zero piece because you feel very

732
00:36:09,440 --> 00:36:15,920
Speaker 1: you feel like the organizer of everything. Ye. Yeah, so

733
00:36:15,960 --> 00:36:19,360
Speaker 1: I feel like that's what happened. But I also feel like, um,

734
00:36:19,440 --> 00:36:23,719
Speaker 1: you might also get a jewelry offer. You're getting endorsements.

735
00:36:23,760 --> 00:36:26,120
Speaker 1: You're getting endorsements, and you're going to do some kind

736
00:36:26,120 --> 00:36:28,200
Speaker 1: of I don't know if it's I can't say it's

737
00:36:28,560 --> 00:36:31,520
Speaker 1: because I feel like it's supplements or what about girls?

738
00:36:31,560 --> 00:36:33,520
Speaker 1: For him? Are we good? Is he good? Are we good?

739
00:36:33,600 --> 00:36:35,440
Speaker 1: This year? Only females in my life are you? And

740
00:36:35,520 --> 00:36:38,120
Speaker 1: Jolly Baby feel because because she told me I might

741
00:36:38,239 --> 00:36:40,600
Speaker 1: be tempted, You're gonna be tempted. You're going to meet someone,

742
00:36:40,680 --> 00:36:43,919
Speaker 1: but you you will realize the temptation. You're not. You're

743
00:36:43,960 --> 00:36:46,680
Speaker 1: not stupid. You're not stupid. Let's just put it this way.

744
00:36:46,719 --> 00:36:49,839
Speaker 1: You're not you don't have stupidity in you. Um. He's

745
00:36:50,000 --> 00:36:54,279
Speaker 1: very sensitive and he's incredibly if you talk to him

746
00:36:54,320 --> 00:36:58,279
Speaker 1: the wrong way, if you mentioned the wrong thing, that like,

747
00:36:58,360 --> 00:37:00,520
Speaker 1: if you bring up when you fight. You can never

748
00:37:00,560 --> 00:37:03,319
Speaker 1: bring up the past to him. Oh my god, you're

749
00:37:03,320 --> 00:37:06,280
Speaker 1: gonna have to learn to lit it vault it because

750
00:37:06,320 --> 00:37:09,880
Speaker 1: he's really trying right now, and he knows he's trying.

751
00:37:13,000 --> 00:37:15,279
Speaker 1: You could pull a little more romance out for her.

752
00:37:15,360 --> 00:37:18,200
Speaker 1: She's a little bit more romance. She likes date espectually,

753
00:37:18,200 --> 00:37:20,399
Speaker 1: I'm going to be tempted, and she likes date night.

754
00:37:20,640 --> 00:37:23,600
Speaker 1: She likes to dress up. You need more dressing up

755
00:37:23,600 --> 00:37:27,800
Speaker 1: occasions that theater tickets, concert tickets, Kelly Clarkson's coming in

756
00:37:27,880 --> 00:37:32,400
Speaker 1: January like concert ever? Okay, you want she wants to

757
00:37:32,520 --> 00:37:34,560
Speaker 1: dress up? Is what I see. She looks at her

758
00:37:34,600 --> 00:37:37,560
Speaker 1: closet and goes like she wants to buy a nice dress.

759
00:37:37,640 --> 00:37:40,000
Speaker 1: Is what I'm picking. But else, let me ask if

760
00:37:40,000 --> 00:37:41,959
Speaker 1: there's anything else that I missed. Okay, hold on one second,

761
00:37:41,960 --> 00:37:43,239
Speaker 1: you gotta give me a suck. Is he gonna be

762
00:37:43,320 --> 00:37:46,680
Speaker 1: good to me? He is in work mode. He's in

763
00:37:46,760 --> 00:37:49,200
Speaker 1: money mode. He's not in He's not in mode. Can

764
00:37:49,200 --> 00:37:52,359
Speaker 1: I say that on the he's in, he's in, He's

765
00:37:52,360 --> 00:37:54,880
Speaker 1: in money mode. He wants nice things. He wants a

766
00:37:54,880 --> 00:37:58,600
Speaker 1: new car. Okay, he doesn't want to drive like an

767
00:37:58,680 --> 00:38:00,680
Speaker 1: SUV for the rest of his love. I like I

768
00:38:00,719 --> 00:38:04,440
Speaker 1: see him wanting nice things, like he's looking in catalogs online,

769
00:38:04,880 --> 00:38:07,439
Speaker 1: like he has this little little wish list. Yes he does.

770
00:38:08,360 --> 00:38:10,680
Speaker 1: Can I can read? Now? Can I can read? I

771
00:38:10,680 --> 00:38:13,760
Speaker 1: don't even know that. I don't know you mar a believer.

772
00:38:14,480 --> 00:38:19,799
Speaker 1: I believe her. I'm not gonna saying I believe every

773
00:38:19,880 --> 00:38:22,440
Speaker 1: Joe Schmo out there I'm picky bad believe that. Do

774
00:38:22,480 --> 00:38:24,799
Speaker 1: you see it happily ever after for these two? Well,

775
00:38:24,840 --> 00:38:28,200
Speaker 1: you can never do that. You only read five years

776
00:38:28,200 --> 00:38:32,960
Speaker 1: out because things can change. I feel five years together,

777
00:38:33,040 --> 00:38:35,319
Speaker 1: I feel I just keep seeing that third child. It's

778
00:38:35,320 --> 00:38:37,120
Speaker 1: a boy too. I don't know why I see a

779
00:38:37,160 --> 00:38:40,880
Speaker 1: boy another boy? Yeah, like, do you have two girls?

780
00:38:40,880 --> 00:38:42,319
Speaker 1: What do you have? You have a boy and a girl. Okay,

781
00:38:42,360 --> 00:38:45,000
Speaker 1: if I see another boy, this boy special. If you

782
00:38:45,080 --> 00:38:47,040
Speaker 1: get the next one, I'm telling you, he's going to

783
00:38:47,160 --> 00:38:52,480
Speaker 1: be very artistic, like incredibly like theater, movies, painting, drawing, like,

784
00:38:52,560 --> 00:38:55,560
Speaker 1: he's super artistic. He's not an athlete. This one will

785
00:38:55,600 --> 00:38:57,640
Speaker 1: want to make him an athlete. He's not an athlete,

786
00:38:57,680 --> 00:39:00,480
Speaker 1: and you will love that he's artistic. It's not. He's

787
00:39:00,520 --> 00:39:05,080
Speaker 1: just I don't start to say no, he's just artistic.

788
00:39:05,200 --> 00:39:08,720
Speaker 1: I just see an artistic child, like painting and doing

789
00:39:08,800 --> 00:39:12,160
Speaker 1: like creative stuff with you. You you like to decorate also,

790
00:39:12,400 --> 00:39:14,440
Speaker 1: I do like to decorate. Yeah, that's your that's your

791
00:39:14,440 --> 00:39:17,600
Speaker 1: little jam it's peace. Yeah, I do like it. Who's

792
00:39:17,640 --> 00:39:20,920
Speaker 1: who's the cooker in the family? Okay, alright, you just

793
00:39:21,160 --> 00:39:23,719
Speaker 1: you just hopped on that so fast? Okay, is this.

794
00:39:23,800 --> 00:39:26,600
Speaker 1: Are you making a major kitchen, a stellar kitchen we

795
00:39:26,640 --> 00:39:29,759
Speaker 1: are making beautiful and are you making an outdoor grill patio? Okay,

796
00:39:29,760 --> 00:39:32,759
Speaker 1: because I see really big parties of you guys having

797
00:39:32,760 --> 00:39:35,040
Speaker 1: with your friends and cooking. Because I see there's someone's

798
00:39:35,080 --> 00:39:37,120
Speaker 1: a cooker. They said, do you see a game room

799
00:39:37,120 --> 00:39:39,719
Speaker 1: with a poker table, because I'm trying to nix that

800
00:39:39,840 --> 00:39:41,560
Speaker 1: right now. So if you don't see it, then maybe

801
00:39:41,600 --> 00:39:44,319
Speaker 1: we can nix it out of them. I see you

802
00:39:44,320 --> 00:39:47,920
Speaker 1: know what I see. I see a foldable poker table

803
00:39:48,000 --> 00:39:51,439
Speaker 1: where he can take it out and put it away. Yeah,

804
00:39:51,480 --> 00:39:54,560
Speaker 1: he's not getting his full poker. Now you're you're nixing it.

805
00:39:54,640 --> 00:39:58,440
Speaker 1: You're you're gonna already have it. I nixed the chairs

806
00:39:58,480 --> 00:40:01,000
Speaker 1: and what with the interior ladies. All I'm telling me

807
00:40:01,160 --> 00:40:02,880
Speaker 1: was right now, it's like it's like it's like a

808
00:40:02,960 --> 00:40:05,279
Speaker 1: game room kind of thing. I say, But it's not

809
00:40:05,320 --> 00:40:07,000
Speaker 1: going to be what he thinks it is. Let's just

810
00:40:07,000 --> 00:40:09,080
Speaker 1: put it there. No, I already found that out. It's

811
00:40:09,080 --> 00:40:10,880
Speaker 1: not going to be let in other words, you're gonna

812
00:40:10,920 --> 00:40:15,040
Speaker 1: make it cool. He doesn't have cool style. Sorry, you,

813
00:40:16,040 --> 00:40:18,560
Speaker 1: I'm just telling it like I see it, Patty, where

814
00:40:18,560 --> 00:40:20,560
Speaker 1: can our listeners find you because you are awesome and

815
00:40:20,600 --> 00:40:22,080
Speaker 1: I want to I want to know more about we.

816
00:40:22,160 --> 00:40:24,560
Speaker 1: Just follow me on Instagram at Patti Stangard dot com,

817
00:40:24,880 --> 00:40:26,960
Speaker 1: Patti stang around Instagram, or with an ie, or go

818
00:40:27,040 --> 00:40:30,080
Speaker 1: to Patty Knows. Patty Knows. We're doing webinars, We're going

819
00:40:30,080 --> 00:40:33,120
Speaker 1: on tour. We're here to heal you. So register, get

820
00:40:33,160 --> 00:40:35,440
Speaker 1: in there and buy the ticket to tell your friends

821
00:40:35,440 --> 00:40:37,800
Speaker 1: and family. I don't care if you bring your grandmother.

822
00:40:37,880 --> 00:40:40,200
Speaker 1: I got something for her. I'm amazing you guys. Patty,

823
00:40:40,200 --> 00:40:44,719
Speaker 1: give it up, thank you, thank you. Uh So. Mark

824
00:40:44,800 --> 00:40:47,680
Speaker 1: just asked when we were saying by to her, if

825
00:40:48,040 --> 00:40:49,799
Speaker 1: I was getting annoyed with her? Did you sense my

826
00:40:49,800 --> 00:40:54,480
Speaker 1: annoyance with her? I think the whole office building sensed

827
00:40:54,480 --> 00:40:56,439
Speaker 1: your annoyance with her. No, I just want to say

828
00:40:56,440 --> 00:40:57,920
Speaker 1: I love her. I think she's so sweep in the

829
00:40:58,040 --> 00:40:59,759
Speaker 1: very beginning. I don't know what it is. I just

830
00:40:59,760 --> 00:41:01,839
Speaker 1: don't like it when females. I don't like it when

831
00:41:01,920 --> 00:41:04,120
Speaker 1: you do the high and hold the hair. It's just

832
00:41:04,560 --> 00:41:07,000
Speaker 1: that's not how I want Jolia to be in front

833
00:41:07,000 --> 00:41:09,719
Speaker 1: of someone. I wanted to be confident. I want her

834
00:41:09,760 --> 00:41:12,600
Speaker 1: to stand tall and Tori yes, you're tall, but don't

835
00:41:12,600 --> 00:41:14,439
Speaker 1: turn into it one of those. So if you don't

836
00:41:14,480 --> 00:41:16,800
Speaker 1: like me, get out, you know, I mean, you know,

837
00:41:17,360 --> 00:41:21,480
Speaker 1: I don't know, just be you be confident. I don't don't. Yeah, no,

838
00:41:21,640 --> 00:41:23,880
Speaker 1: I I definitely took with a grain of salt, being like,

839
00:41:23,960 --> 00:41:26,840
Speaker 1: if I'm lugging luggage around, sure i can have the

840
00:41:26,840 --> 00:41:29,240
Speaker 1: guy next to me carry my luggage. Hey, I'm helping

841
00:41:29,239 --> 00:41:33,120
Speaker 1: her out, but I'm not going to be like And honestly,

842
00:41:33,120 --> 00:41:35,000
Speaker 1: the to drink maximum made me laugh too, because I

843
00:41:35,040 --> 00:41:38,560
Speaker 1: was like, I'm like, this is Yeah, you don't like it.

844
00:41:38,600 --> 00:41:40,440
Speaker 1: I don't believe that. I don't really need alcohol to

845
00:41:40,440 --> 00:41:42,880
Speaker 1: make me feel comfortable, Like, yeah, pretty pretty comfortable. Who

846
00:41:42,920 --> 00:41:46,520
Speaker 1: I am? I know, I think, I mean, I understand,

847
00:41:47,040 --> 00:41:48,640
Speaker 1: you know. Some of it is hard to take not

848
00:41:48,880 --> 00:41:51,560
Speaker 1: literally because some of the thinks she's saying seemed very literal.

849
00:41:51,600 --> 00:41:53,320
Speaker 1: I don't think she was speaking in that sense. So

850
00:41:53,440 --> 00:41:55,359
Speaker 1: I defend that aspect because I think it is more

851
00:41:55,360 --> 00:41:59,239
Speaker 1: about just playing the game. But which I think the

852
00:41:59,360 --> 00:42:01,480
Speaker 1: game it's so has changed over the years because of

853
00:42:01,520 --> 00:42:04,680
Speaker 1: all the social media access to other people, because of

854
00:42:04,680 --> 00:42:06,719
Speaker 1: the bumbles, tenders and all that stuff. So the game

855
00:42:06,840 --> 00:42:09,080
Speaker 1: isn't the same. So I think she's still trying to

856
00:42:09,160 --> 00:42:13,080
Speaker 1: like teach that in a way, teach so you know

857
00:42:13,120 --> 00:42:16,360
Speaker 1: the girl isn't if she's alpha all day. You know,

858
00:42:16,400 --> 00:42:18,759
Speaker 1: say someone here, she's tory all day doing her thing,

859
00:42:18,800 --> 00:42:21,359
Speaker 1: handling business and kicking ass, and then they see her

860
00:42:21,400 --> 00:42:24,279
Speaker 1: out and she's the same exact way. What's wrong with that? No,

861
00:42:24,360 --> 00:42:26,839
Speaker 1: I'm saying, where like he doesn't feel like he can

862
00:42:26,880 --> 00:42:30,719
Speaker 1: do anything for her because it's wrong with that? Why

863
00:42:30,719 --> 00:42:32,719
Speaker 1: can't Why can't you just love her and love her

864
00:42:32,760 --> 00:42:34,640
Speaker 1: for who she is? And why do you have to

865
00:42:34,680 --> 00:42:36,080
Speaker 1: do something you don't? What do you? What do you

866
00:42:36,120 --> 00:42:38,480
Speaker 1: do for me? You support me? You're my partner? What

867
00:42:38,520 --> 00:42:40,160
Speaker 1: do you What do you do if you had to

868
00:42:40,200 --> 00:42:42,400
Speaker 1: do everything? If I didn't make you feel I do

869
00:42:42,520 --> 00:42:49,640
Speaker 1: do everything? He led yourself into that poot. That was

870
00:42:49,680 --> 00:42:54,400
Speaker 1: a complete soft talk. But what by me being softer?

871
00:42:54,880 --> 00:42:59,919
Speaker 1: That doesn't well, I don't understand that. What what would

872
00:43:00,080 --> 00:43:03,319
Speaker 1: do if I'm if I'm softer? All I'm saying is

873
00:43:04,840 --> 00:43:06,480
Speaker 1: you still need to allow your man to feel like

874
00:43:06,520 --> 00:43:08,640
Speaker 1: a man sometimes to be taken care of. Like if

875
00:43:08,680 --> 00:43:10,560
Speaker 1: you didn't, if you didn't feel anything like that, you

876
00:43:10,600 --> 00:43:13,120
Speaker 1: opened my door. I'm not just talking about opening door.

877
00:43:13,200 --> 00:43:15,240
Speaker 1: I'm talking about making you feel secure, making me feel

878
00:43:15,239 --> 00:43:17,439
Speaker 1: taken care of. Well, that's sure, but I can still

879
00:43:17,440 --> 00:43:19,799
Speaker 1: be a strong woman, that's it for sure. But I'm

880
00:43:19,800 --> 00:43:22,240
Speaker 1: saying some of those mentalities out there, there are women

881
00:43:22,280 --> 00:43:24,239
Speaker 1: that that don't ask her, that don't want that and

882
00:43:24,280 --> 00:43:26,440
Speaker 1: don't show that they need to be taken care of. Well,

883
00:43:26,480 --> 00:43:27,759
Speaker 1: if you're just saying I don't want you to do this,

884
00:43:27,800 --> 00:43:29,680
Speaker 1: and then of course, and yeah, you're being a little hard,

885
00:43:29,719 --> 00:43:32,239
Speaker 1: soften up a little. But right, that's the whole thing.

886
00:43:32,440 --> 00:43:34,320
Speaker 1: She went to the extreme. But I think that's the

887
00:43:34,760 --> 00:43:38,880
Speaker 1: kind of mindset that she's talking about, not to her extent,

888
00:43:38,960 --> 00:43:42,080
Speaker 1: but well, I ended up liking her. I ended up

889
00:43:42,239 --> 00:43:47,640
Speaker 1: liking her. So for those of you who are new

890
00:43:47,719 --> 00:43:50,439
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891
00:43:50,640 --> 00:43:53,080
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892
00:43:53,120 --> 00:43:54,919
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893
00:43:54,880 --> 00:43:57,239
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894
00:43:57,520 --> 00:43:59,680
Speaker 1: what they're looking at on their phone. Yeah, I'm like,

895
00:43:59,680 --> 00:44:01,840
Speaker 1: what the hell y'all looking at? And from someone like

896
00:44:01,880 --> 00:44:04,120
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897
00:44:04,200 --> 00:44:06,640
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898
00:44:06,719 --> 00:44:09,280
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904
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909
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910
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Speaker 1: we've been using with Jolie because she's honestly, she's been

911
00:44:43,080 --> 00:44:45,200
Speaker 1: difficult to put down lately. She doesn't want to go

912
00:44:45,239 --> 00:44:48,279
Speaker 1: to bed, she doesn't want a napp. She for the

913
00:44:48,320 --> 00:44:50,600
Speaker 1: first time, she just realized that she can get out

914
00:44:50,600 --> 00:44:52,440
Speaker 1: of bed and open the door and out of her

915
00:44:52,520 --> 00:44:56,799
Speaker 1: room by herself. So it's happened for the last day

916
00:44:56,840 --> 00:44:58,839
Speaker 1: and a half. Every time she's gone down for bed,

917
00:44:58,960 --> 00:45:01,200
Speaker 1: she gets out of her room and you think, like

918
00:45:01,360 --> 00:45:03,440
Speaker 1: because we're not used to it. So it's like last night,

919
00:45:03,480 --> 00:45:05,000
Speaker 1: I was like watching TV and I just heard like

920
00:45:05,080 --> 00:45:08,440
Speaker 1: her door open and her sound machine and her mossy stuff.

921
00:45:09,120 --> 00:45:13,840
Speaker 1: Uh sound louder nice to try to plug and uh

922
00:45:13,960 --> 00:45:15,319
Speaker 1: and I heard it and I was like, what the

923
00:45:15,360 --> 00:45:17,160
Speaker 1: world is that? Then I heard the door close. I

924
00:45:17,200 --> 00:45:19,000
Speaker 1: look back in the hallway and altsee is just the

925
00:45:19,000 --> 00:45:22,080
Speaker 1: top from her nose up to her forehead peeking out,

926
00:45:22,160 --> 00:45:24,279
Speaker 1: laying on the floor trying to watch the TV. So

927
00:45:24,320 --> 00:45:27,080
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928
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930
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931
00:45:40,360 --> 00:45:43,759
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932
00:45:43,840 --> 00:45:45,919
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949
00:46:36,080 --> 00:46:39,800
Speaker 1: I do have to bring up something because no, no,

950
00:46:40,120 --> 00:46:42,960
Speaker 1: because I want to talk about it in future podcast episodes.

951
00:46:43,080 --> 00:46:45,959
Speaker 1: But remember when we had our party at the Pier

952
00:46:46,600 --> 00:46:51,239
Speaker 1: and the US Weekly girl kind of said, well, she

953
00:46:51,320 --> 00:46:54,120
Speaker 1: basically brought up, oh, you're not breastfeeding with Jason. I

954
00:46:54,200 --> 00:46:59,840
Speaker 1: kind of startled and said, I didn't. I didn't say that, remember,

955
00:47:00,719 --> 00:47:03,239
Speaker 1: And she's like, oh, I thought you said that, you

956
00:47:03,520 --> 00:47:07,040
Speaker 1: said you want breastfeeding, and you're like, I don't remember

957
00:47:07,080 --> 00:47:09,600
Speaker 1: not saying that. Yeah, I don't. I don't remember saying

958
00:47:09,640 --> 00:47:12,480
Speaker 1: anything about it, and finally I said, you know what, fine,

959
00:47:12,560 --> 00:47:15,759
Speaker 1: I'm gonna go out there and say that I'm not breastfeeding.

960
00:47:15,880 --> 00:47:21,160
Speaker 1: And so the article was out on US Weekly UM

961
00:47:21,239 --> 00:47:24,680
Speaker 1: last week and online, and I've had so many people

962
00:47:24,760 --> 00:47:26,680
Speaker 1: reach out to me on d m S and it's

963
00:47:26,719 --> 00:47:30,120
Speaker 1: just been really it's been really great. But also again

964
00:47:30,400 --> 00:47:31,799
Speaker 1: I don't know what it is, and I think it

965
00:47:31,800 --> 00:47:34,879
Speaker 1: seems to be a bigger conversation on another episode, but

966
00:47:35,239 --> 00:47:38,440
Speaker 1: it's just really frustrating that I felt, especially moms, have

967
00:47:38,480 --> 00:47:41,880
Speaker 1: all this pressure to to do it well, all the

968
00:47:41,920 --> 00:47:44,080
Speaker 1: moms shaming to which is why you know, I want

969
00:47:44,120 --> 00:47:45,719
Speaker 1: to bring on other women that have been mom shamed

970
00:47:45,760 --> 00:47:47,800
Speaker 1: to talk about it, because it's just really frustrating. Whether

971
00:47:48,120 --> 00:47:50,000
Speaker 1: it didn't work for me or doesn't work for other people,

972
00:47:50,080 --> 00:47:52,080
Speaker 1: or maybe just in general, we didn't want to, but

973
00:47:52,239 --> 00:47:54,680
Speaker 1: I feel it's almost like we feel like we have

974
00:47:54,719 --> 00:47:58,600
Speaker 1: to explain ourselves because we're not doing how what we're

975
00:47:58,600 --> 00:48:05,160
Speaker 1: told we're supposed to do. Yeah, I mean, it's I

976
00:48:05,200 --> 00:48:09,759
Speaker 1: can't imagine like how that feels. I mean, I think

977
00:48:09,880 --> 00:48:13,160
Speaker 1: I even from the dad's side of the husband's side

978
00:48:15,120 --> 00:48:16,839
Speaker 1: is obviously we don't feel it nearly as much as

979
00:48:16,880 --> 00:48:19,360
Speaker 1: y'all do, but I can. I can still sense that

980
00:48:19,520 --> 00:48:24,960
Speaker 1: tension a little bit um when pete when it's asked

981
00:48:25,800 --> 00:48:31,080
Speaker 1: and feeding. No, not not not when it's asked directly

982
00:48:31,120 --> 00:48:33,279
Speaker 1: to me, but when it's asked to you and I'm

983
00:48:33,320 --> 00:48:36,239
Speaker 1: there with you, So I can like kind of sense that.

984
00:48:36,480 --> 00:48:44,200
Speaker 1: And but I also I get like people's not not

985
00:48:44,280 --> 00:48:48,000
Speaker 1: their reservation around it, but I get why because that's

986
00:48:48,040 --> 00:48:52,200
Speaker 1: the way humans have done it for so long. So

987
00:48:52,360 --> 00:48:55,919
Speaker 1: anything other than the way you're biologically created to feed

988
00:48:55,960 --> 00:49:03,040
Speaker 1: your child, I can see why. It's still a lasting Yeah, um,

989
00:49:03,080 --> 00:49:06,120
Speaker 1: you know, a lasting thing, lasting stigma. It's just I

990
00:49:06,480 --> 00:49:08,759
Speaker 1: totally get that. It's just frustrating when women are well.

991
00:49:08,760 --> 00:49:11,440
Speaker 1: Breast milk is the breast milk is the best and

992
00:49:11,440 --> 00:49:14,520
Speaker 1: and all the nutrients. I understand that you don't need

993
00:49:14,560 --> 00:49:16,200
Speaker 1: to tell me something that I don't know, but I

994
00:49:16,200 --> 00:49:18,839
Speaker 1: also need to explain to you why it's either not

995
00:49:18,880 --> 00:49:20,920
Speaker 1: working or we're not doing it or we chose not to.

996
00:49:21,160 --> 00:49:23,160
Speaker 1: So I don't know why we have to feel like

997
00:49:23,160 --> 00:49:24,799
Speaker 1: we have to explained, just like we can't feel like

998
00:49:24,840 --> 00:49:28,520
Speaker 1: we can say what we want to say exactly. Ties

999
00:49:28,560 --> 00:49:30,279
Speaker 1: into the beginning of the episode, No, I was going

1000
00:49:30,320 --> 00:49:32,400
Speaker 1: to say the exact same thing. It's it's true, like

1001
00:49:32,400 --> 00:49:34,800
Speaker 1: why I feel like I have to hide the bottle

1002
00:49:35,320 --> 00:49:38,279
Speaker 1: when I'm in public because people are judging me. I

1003
00:49:38,320 --> 00:49:43,239
Speaker 1: feel judged. But again, this is worrying about. That's why

1004
00:49:43,239 --> 00:49:45,160
Speaker 1: I'm circling back to the top because it's like, it's

1005
00:49:45,160 --> 00:49:49,279
Speaker 1: so frustrating, but we get shamed so many people, so

1006
00:49:49,320 --> 00:49:52,200
Speaker 1: many people about the breast milk. It's like, I get it, Okay,

1007
00:49:52,280 --> 00:49:54,120
Speaker 1: I understand that, and there's a lot of women that

1008
00:49:54,160 --> 00:49:56,239
Speaker 1: physically can't maybe I physically can't do I have to

1009
00:49:56,239 --> 00:50:00,120
Speaker 1: explain to us, to everyone why we're not breastfeeding, but

1010
00:50:00,160 --> 00:50:01,919
Speaker 1: I feel like I have to, and really, you don't

1011
00:50:01,920 --> 00:50:04,399
Speaker 1: want to talk about it here the y. I mean,

1012
00:50:04,520 --> 00:50:06,640
Speaker 1: I have no problem talking about it, but I feel

1013
00:50:06,760 --> 00:50:09,440
Speaker 1: but it also it almost defeats the purpose of why

1014
00:50:09,520 --> 00:50:11,279
Speaker 1: can't it just be okay that we're not Why do

1015
00:50:11,360 --> 00:50:15,399
Speaker 1: we have to always explain our decisions? I agree with you, Yeah,

1016
00:50:15,560 --> 00:50:17,880
Speaker 1: I actually don't even think we should or need to,

1017
00:50:18,000 --> 00:50:20,000
Speaker 1: because then it's like you feel like you have to

1018
00:50:20,000 --> 00:50:24,000
Speaker 1: defend why we're not, and that's the whole that defeats

1019
00:50:24,000 --> 00:50:25,600
Speaker 1: the whole purpose. But I feel like I have to

1020
00:50:25,640 --> 00:50:27,720
Speaker 1: because I feel like I'm getting judged right, but we shouldn't.

1021
00:50:27,760 --> 00:50:29,759
Speaker 1: We we don't. We don't have to do anything. That's

1022
00:50:29,760 --> 00:50:32,360
Speaker 1: the thing. We we have discussed this. You and I

1023
00:50:32,400 --> 00:50:34,200
Speaker 1: are in the same page. We're the only two people

1024
00:50:34,239 --> 00:50:36,560
Speaker 1: that matter and this entire But then someone can say, well,

1025
00:50:36,560 --> 00:50:38,520
Speaker 1: actually the child matters because you're not giving them the

1026
00:50:38,520 --> 00:50:41,440
Speaker 1: proper I get that, And guess what. That's why I say,

1027
00:50:41,440 --> 00:50:43,279
Speaker 1: what's best for you is best for the child. And

1028
00:50:43,320 --> 00:50:44,960
Speaker 1: do you think that people are assuming the worst of

1029
00:50:45,000 --> 00:50:47,640
Speaker 1: you because you're in Hollywood and you have a certain

1030
00:50:47,680 --> 00:50:50,399
Speaker 1: amount of fame. Do you think there's an element there? Yeah,

1031
00:50:50,480 --> 00:50:52,400
Speaker 1: the thing, Oh, she just wants to protect her body

1032
00:50:52,560 --> 00:50:54,640
Speaker 1: or something like that. Which, by the way, if you breastfeed,

1033
00:50:54,680 --> 00:50:58,879
Speaker 1: you lose more weight. So that's that's the argument there.

1034
00:50:58,920 --> 00:51:01,279
Speaker 1: It's it's not about that at all. And you know,

1035
00:51:01,880 --> 00:51:04,239
Speaker 1: I don't know. I just we gotta figure that out.

1036
00:51:04,239 --> 00:51:06,600
Speaker 1: I got to talk to someone about that, you know,

1037
00:51:06,800 --> 00:51:08,879
Speaker 1: acording to Patty, we're going to have like a third child.

1038
00:51:08,960 --> 00:51:13,520
Speaker 1: So if you were dry in next time, were you breastfed?

1039
00:51:13,719 --> 00:51:16,920
Speaker 1: Excuse me, I was not breastfed. I was so was

1040
00:51:16,960 --> 00:51:19,759
Speaker 1: not breast fed. While we turned out pretty great. What

1041
00:51:19,800 --> 00:51:21,879
Speaker 1: I was just going to say, is it clearly it's

1042
00:51:21,920 --> 00:51:24,480
Speaker 1: not the only way to raise a child. Yeah. So

1043
00:51:24,640 --> 00:51:28,160
Speaker 1: I guess I'm saying this to also the moms out

1044
00:51:28,200 --> 00:51:30,759
Speaker 1: there that feel this way too. Let's just not feel

1045
00:51:30,760 --> 00:51:32,279
Speaker 1: like we have to defend our decision. Let's just be

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00:51:32,320 --> 00:51:35,040
Speaker 1: the best moms that we are and just be able

1047
00:51:35,080 --> 00:51:39,160
Speaker 1: to say a one word answer response is are you breasting? Nope,

1048
00:51:40,200 --> 00:51:42,360
Speaker 1: but I can't. I'm always well because of this happened,

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00:51:45,080 --> 00:51:46,560
Speaker 1: I know. And it's fun because I get the guilt

1050
00:51:46,600 --> 00:51:48,960
Speaker 1: my own mother about it. Really, Yeah, you know I

1051
00:51:49,000 --> 00:51:51,880
Speaker 1: can't have dairy, I think because I wasn't breastfed mom. Honestly,

1052
00:51:52,080 --> 00:51:57,280
Speaker 1: that's fantastic. That is fantastic. Oh. We have some emails

1053
00:51:57,320 --> 00:51:59,040
Speaker 1: and this was the first one. We are like Sarah

1054
00:51:59,080 --> 00:52:01,640
Speaker 1: and Ty don't even know if I want to read it.

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Speaker 1: This is from Megan. No have Margarita, here's your voice plenty.

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Speaker 1: I'm over your boy, Megan says. My husband James and

1057
00:52:12,680 --> 00:52:15,479
Speaker 1: I did it for fifteen years before I got married. Yes,

1058
00:52:15,680 --> 00:52:19,400
Speaker 1: fifteen years, so I know exactly how Sarah feels. I

1059
00:52:19,440 --> 00:52:21,680
Speaker 1: went through all of college, all of grad school knowing

1060
00:52:21,680 --> 00:52:24,839
Speaker 1: we would get married after graduating college. I expected him

1061
00:52:24,840 --> 00:52:28,000
Speaker 1: to propose at every vacation, anniversary or major life event.

1062
00:52:28,400 --> 00:52:31,400
Speaker 1: I was driving myself crazy. Finally, a year and a

1063
00:52:31,440 --> 00:52:33,840
Speaker 1: half ago, while on our way to the beach, he proposed.

1064
00:52:34,000 --> 00:52:35,919
Speaker 1: My advice to Sarah is to try to stop thinking

1065
00:52:35,920 --> 00:52:38,279
Speaker 1: about it, because that's when it will come. It's outrageingly

1066
00:52:38,320 --> 00:52:40,960
Speaker 1: hard to do, but try. But I recently learned my

1067
00:52:41,000 --> 00:52:43,000
Speaker 1: husband would have done it sooner. But he felt a

1068
00:52:43,040 --> 00:52:45,920
Speaker 1: lot of pressure to pick out the right ring. He

1069
00:52:45,960 --> 00:52:48,200
Speaker 1: said he looked at rings for about nine months before

1070
00:52:48,239 --> 00:52:50,719
Speaker 1: finally picking one. I'm not saying Tide doesn't need a

1071
00:52:50,760 --> 00:52:53,000
Speaker 1: solid push in the right direction most men do, but

1072
00:52:53,080 --> 00:52:55,080
Speaker 1: keep in mind as a serious life event for him

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Speaker 1: as well. Megan, kudos to you girl for fifteen years.

1074
00:52:58,840 --> 00:53:02,719
Speaker 1: How do you hang in? I would? I mean you

1075
00:53:02,800 --> 00:53:05,600
Speaker 1: must have been unless you're fifteen when you guys started dating.

1076
00:53:06,480 --> 00:53:09,879
Speaker 1: That's the only exception through all of college, so maybe

1077
00:53:09,920 --> 00:53:14,399
Speaker 1: they were seventy Kudos to her for the fifteen years,

1078
00:53:14,440 --> 00:53:17,080
Speaker 1: not only for sticking out that long, but I make

1079
00:53:17,200 --> 00:53:21,200
Speaker 1: up that her mindset was just, you know what, whether

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Speaker 1: I'm married or not, I'm with the person I wanted

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00:53:23,040 --> 00:53:27,440
Speaker 1: to be with, and I'm just gonna live each day

1082
00:53:27,480 --> 00:53:29,040
Speaker 1: like I'm gonna live in the present and just be

1083
00:53:29,120 --> 00:53:31,560
Speaker 1: with him, and I know we're meant to be together

1084
00:53:31,600 --> 00:53:34,520
Speaker 1: and it will happen. Granted that's a long time. Yeah,

1085
00:53:34,520 --> 00:53:38,799
Speaker 1: it's way too long. But I don't know. Maybe I'm

1086
00:53:38,840 --> 00:53:41,960
Speaker 1: not saying that Sarah hasn't, but he knows the like

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00:53:42,040 --> 00:53:44,560
Speaker 1: he I hoped t I gets it now, like how

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00:53:44,680 --> 00:53:46,800
Speaker 1: much we've talked about this and how much pressure is

1089
00:53:46,800 --> 00:53:49,319
Speaker 1: on him that now at this point, just like you

1090
00:53:49,320 --> 00:53:53,080
Speaker 1: know what, accept it for what it is, and if

1091
00:53:53,080 --> 00:53:54,319
Speaker 1: you love them and you want to be with them,

1092
00:53:54,320 --> 00:53:57,040
Speaker 1: then just keep going. Is there something to that where

1093
00:53:57,040 --> 00:53:58,319
Speaker 1: you can just be like, you know what, I love

1094
00:53:58,400 --> 00:54:00,879
Speaker 1: this person and we're just if end up Goldie Han

1095
00:54:01,040 --> 00:54:03,520
Speaker 1: Kurt rustling it the rest of our lives. If you're okay,

1096
00:54:03,640 --> 00:54:05,839
Speaker 1: If you're okay with it, that's fine. I just don't

1097
00:54:05,840 --> 00:54:07,759
Speaker 1: think people like me and Sarah are okay with that.

1098
00:54:07,840 --> 00:54:09,359
Speaker 1: It's rare that both people would be on the same

1099
00:54:09,360 --> 00:54:12,359
Speaker 1: page for that. It's very rare. I think it's kind

1100
00:54:12,400 --> 00:54:14,799
Speaker 1: of like you can, can you ever really believe if

1101
00:54:14,840 --> 00:54:16,959
Speaker 1: the other person is because people will change their mind, right,

1102
00:54:17,280 --> 00:54:20,879
Speaker 1: and so there'd be people that change their mind and

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00:54:21,040 --> 00:54:22,560
Speaker 1: they tell the person, Hey, I want to get married,

1104
00:54:22,560 --> 00:54:23,920
Speaker 1: I want to have kids. Now it's like, no, I

1105
00:54:23,960 --> 00:54:26,400
Speaker 1: got into this because we had the same agreement with

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00:54:26,520 --> 00:54:28,680
Speaker 1: the same point of view. So it's like, even if

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00:54:28,680 --> 00:54:31,480
Speaker 1: you have that agreement at the beginning, is there leeway

1108
00:54:31,520 --> 00:54:35,680
Speaker 1: to change? Also, how do you bring it up right

1109
00:54:35,760 --> 00:54:37,840
Speaker 1: without putting the pressure on him because he wants it

1110
00:54:37,880 --> 00:54:40,280
Speaker 1: to be a surprise. I was years is not pressure.

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00:54:41,320 --> 00:54:46,320
Speaker 1: Six years is not pressure in my opinion, what you

1112
00:54:46,360 --> 00:54:50,960
Speaker 1: mean it's not pressure? You that's expected? Fifteen years, six years,

1113
00:54:51,000 --> 00:54:53,840
Speaker 1: five years? Four years? Been four years? Hey? Kind of

1114
00:54:53,920 --> 00:54:56,480
Speaker 1: five years? I think is the window, like it's time

1115
00:54:56,520 --> 00:54:59,600
Speaker 1: to get off the pot or produce, take a big dumper,

1116
00:54:59,640 --> 00:55:02,920
Speaker 1: get out Janna's windows about three to six months. So

1117
00:55:03,480 --> 00:55:06,120
Speaker 1: that is my window. But if you do bring it up,

1118
00:55:06,120 --> 00:55:08,160
Speaker 1: I feel like it delays things. I feel like if

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00:55:08,200 --> 00:55:10,239
Speaker 1: I was dating somebody and they said, hey, we should

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00:55:10,280 --> 00:55:12,160
Speaker 1: get married, I feel like even if I was planning

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00:55:12,160 --> 00:55:14,759
Speaker 1: and proposing, I can't do it now because it'll seem

1122
00:55:14,760 --> 00:55:17,360
Speaker 1: like I'm just responding to her request. I got to

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00:55:17,400 --> 00:55:19,120
Speaker 1: push it off a few months to get it out

1124
00:55:19,120 --> 00:55:20,920
Speaker 1: of her mind. So then every time she brings it up.

1125
00:55:20,960 --> 00:55:22,920
Speaker 1: It's gonna get pushed off farther because you want to

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00:55:22,920 --> 00:55:24,719
Speaker 1: blow her mind. You want to surprise, or you want

1127
00:55:24,719 --> 00:55:26,760
Speaker 1: her to cry. You don't want her to be totally

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00:55:26,840 --> 00:55:29,439
Speaker 1: expecting it. It's not all about you, guys, it's about

1129
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Speaker 1: us to thank you. Guys overthink as women, though. I

1130
00:55:32,160 --> 00:55:36,080
Speaker 1: totally think you guys overthink it, because especially when the

1131
00:55:36,080 --> 00:55:38,640
Speaker 1: girl is wanting it, she's gonna know, she's going to

1132
00:55:38,719 --> 00:55:41,000
Speaker 1: read an email, she's gonna go through your phone. Did

1133
00:55:41,000 --> 00:55:47,279
Speaker 1: you know? Maybe? Did you know? Maybe? Tell me now,

1134
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Speaker 1: Janna Ray. Maybe I'm just saying, girls, you have you

1135
00:55:51,320 --> 00:55:54,120
Speaker 1: been lying to me this whole? I'm just saying what

1136
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Speaker 1: tor Yeah? I think everyone wants to know. I'm just

1137
00:55:58,480 --> 00:56:02,359
Speaker 1: saying you did you know? I'm not maybe because maybe

1138
00:56:02,360 --> 00:56:05,600
Speaker 1: it's my answer. Maybe it's not an answer, Sure it is.

1139
00:56:05,640 --> 00:56:08,040
Speaker 1: It's my answer changeable. It's either yes or no. Did

1140
00:56:08,120 --> 00:56:09,680
Speaker 1: you have an idea that I was proposing you? I

1141
00:56:09,719 --> 00:56:11,440
Speaker 1: feel like we've had this conversation before. I said, and

1142
00:56:11,480 --> 00:56:13,239
Speaker 1: I said yes or no, and you say I don't.

1143
00:56:13,000 --> 00:56:15,320
Speaker 1: I don't remember. So that's my answer. I don't remember.

1144
00:56:15,719 --> 00:56:18,480
Speaker 1: Where was it? Where did you propose? I proposed? In

1145
00:56:18,560 --> 00:56:22,399
Speaker 1: our in our house, our first house in Nashville on

1146
00:56:22,400 --> 00:56:26,239
Speaker 1: her birthday in front of like thirty people. Oh, it's

1147
00:56:26,280 --> 00:56:32,000
Speaker 1: just a surprise birthday party turned engagement, so you knew

1148
00:56:32,160 --> 00:56:35,960
Speaker 1: you had a feeling. I'm not answering these questions because

1149
00:56:36,080 --> 00:56:38,839
Speaker 1: I don't have to. It's it's time, it's water. There

1150
00:56:39,960 --> 00:56:42,000
Speaker 1: were two kids, we're about to have a third, according

1151
00:56:42,000 --> 00:56:46,560
Speaker 1: to Patty, so like, what's going on? I don't remember. Sweet,

1152
00:56:46,719 --> 00:56:48,239
Speaker 1: youre gonna take this to your grade. I am going

1153
00:56:48,280 --> 00:56:50,120
Speaker 1: to take this one to my grade. Clearly it's a yes,

1154
00:56:50,160 --> 00:56:51,719
Speaker 1: because if it wasn't no, you would just say no.

1155
00:56:51,800 --> 00:56:54,520
Speaker 1: I had no idea. I was shocked. Maybe I don't know,

1156
00:56:54,719 --> 00:56:58,560
Speaker 1: but don't remember. I'm saying girls, no, they have emails,

1157
00:56:59,120 --> 00:57:03,120
Speaker 1: they have phones, They have certain things that they know,

1158
00:57:03,239 --> 00:57:05,319
Speaker 1: and they when they when they're when they're wanting it,

1159
00:57:05,400 --> 00:57:08,239
Speaker 1: they search. We don't care about being surprised. We want

1160
00:57:08,400 --> 00:57:11,000
Speaker 1: the thing ring. We don't care you guys want us

1161
00:57:11,040 --> 00:57:13,720
Speaker 1: to be surprised. We don't give up lying f about

1162
00:57:13,719 --> 00:57:16,680
Speaker 1: being surprised. That's BS. I call BS because you guys

1163
00:57:16,720 --> 00:57:19,160
Speaker 1: want to write Janna Kramer. I heart media dot com.

1164
00:57:19,160 --> 00:57:21,840
Speaker 1: But it's important to have your hair done and your

1165
00:57:21,880 --> 00:57:24,480
Speaker 1: nails done right when you get proposed to let me

1166
00:57:24,560 --> 00:57:27,280
Speaker 1: just say you almost don't want to be surprised. Were

1167
00:57:27,320 --> 00:57:30,240
Speaker 1: my nails done? Yeah? Because it was your birthday and

1168
00:57:30,280 --> 00:57:34,040
Speaker 1: I sent you. And you can't say someone told you

1169
00:57:34,120 --> 00:57:39,560
Speaker 1: because nobody knew. Okay, sweetheart, Well, I didn't tell any

1170
00:57:39,560 --> 00:57:43,120
Speaker 1: of reference. Any portrayal was their email, was their web receipts.

1171
00:57:43,760 --> 00:57:47,960
Speaker 1: She wouldn't have been able to see that stuff. Warmer.

1172
00:57:50,760 --> 00:57:53,280
Speaker 1: She's just flustering me on purpose. Right now. You didn't

1173
00:57:53,280 --> 00:57:55,400
Speaker 1: have any emails going back and forth with the jeweler

1174
00:57:56,520 --> 00:58:07,920
Speaker 1: that I might have read everything? Why did you cry?

1175
00:58:08,880 --> 00:58:10,320
Speaker 1: Did you play it up vague? Like here, I have

1176
00:58:10,520 --> 00:58:12,040
Speaker 1: no idea what you guys are talking about. I might

1177
00:58:12,080 --> 00:58:14,720
Speaker 1: be making that up. I don't know. She's she's an

1178
00:58:14,760 --> 00:58:17,920
Speaker 1: actress totally. She's totally making up because we literally, no,

1179
00:58:17,960 --> 00:58:21,160
Speaker 1: we're not knowing this. We literally we got in a fight,

1180
00:58:21,280 --> 00:58:24,880
Speaker 1: a huge fight, not uh soon before that, because I

1181
00:58:24,960 --> 00:58:27,320
Speaker 1: told her. I was like, look, she gave me the whole.

1182
00:58:27,440 --> 00:58:28,640
Speaker 1: I don't want to play house with you like I

1183
00:58:28,720 --> 00:58:30,080
Speaker 1: want to ring. I want to start a family x

1184
00:58:30,160 --> 00:58:33,000
Speaker 1: Y and Z and I told her at the time

1185
00:58:33,040 --> 00:58:37,240
Speaker 1: I started my house in Baltimore so I owned that house.

1186
00:58:37,320 --> 00:58:40,360
Speaker 1: We just bought this house together fifty and I'm like,

1187
00:58:40,920 --> 00:58:43,240
Speaker 1: I gotta wait for my Baltimore house to sell, like

1188
00:58:43,280 --> 00:58:47,440
Speaker 1: I don't want to strap myself financially. And she didn't

1189
00:58:47,440 --> 00:58:49,760
Speaker 1: really care about that. She's like, well, I want to ring,

1190
00:58:49,960 --> 00:58:52,720
Speaker 1: but if it's done so for five years. Well, because

1191
00:58:52,720 --> 00:58:56,000
Speaker 1: this guy thinks his house is going to sell tomorrow.

1192
00:58:56,040 --> 00:58:59,200
Speaker 1: How like you have to be more realistic as he's like, well,

1193
00:58:59,240 --> 00:59:01,320
Speaker 1: if it takes five years. So that's when we got

1194
00:59:01,320 --> 00:59:03,280
Speaker 1: into the fight was because I said I don't want

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Speaker 1: to wait five years. Too bad, honey. Clearly I didn't

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Speaker 1: have to because we're not even five years. We haven't

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Speaker 1: even know each other for five years. Yes we have.

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Speaker 1: It won't be five years. It won't be five years

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Speaker 1: Did you know Oh my gosh, Michael, I didn't know

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Speaker 1: what day that. I don't believe that because your birthday.

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Speaker 1: We made this big thing out of your birthday and

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Speaker 1: you're like, oh, you didn't suspect it to be your

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Speaker 1: birthday with all the stuff. Okay, would you like to

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Speaker 1: know the truth? Are you going to be mad at me? Okay?

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Speaker 1: So I read your email, But the email that I've

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Speaker 1: read from the jeweler was that it was it was

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Speaker 1: stamp Why are you looking sad? Please? It was stamp

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Speaker 1: marked in November, okay. And the email that I read

1223
01:00:45,560 --> 01:00:50,760
Speaker 1: was that you couldn't get the ring. So I did

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01:00:50,800 --> 01:00:53,000
Speaker 1: not think I knew that you were working on it.

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01:00:53,920 --> 01:00:57,200
Speaker 1: But then I stopped myself. I said okay, because you

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01:00:57,240 --> 01:00:58,360
Speaker 1: said that you were going to do it by one

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01:00:58,400 --> 01:01:00,880
Speaker 1: weekend and then the email and didn't happen. So I

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01:01:00,960 --> 01:01:02,960
Speaker 1: knew that you were working on it, but that you

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Speaker 1: didn't have the ring. So that's that's what I knew.

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Speaker 1: But I didn't know when I had a suspicion it

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Speaker 1: was maybe on my birthday since we were we were

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Speaker 1: making it such a big thing. But then I also

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Speaker 1: didn't know because when I saw the surprise party, as like, God,

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Speaker 1: there's no way he's doing it here with the surprise party.

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Speaker 1: So I did not know the date, but I knew

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Speaker 1: you were working on it because I did look at

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Speaker 1: your email. So I was surprised, and I'm glad I

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Speaker 1: was surprised, and I am glad that I didn't go

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Speaker 1: back on your email to see if you purchased the

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Speaker 1: and share your thoughts with the wine down crew at

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Speaker 1: Janna Craneer. I heart media dot com. This is really

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Speaker 1: fun and now we're going to have a fight in

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Speaker 1: the car, So I can't wait to wind down next week.