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Speaker 1: Thank you, ne for you. Subject. He had nine missed

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Speaker 1: calls from his coworker. Dear Stephen Shirley. My husband and

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Speaker 1: I have been together for eight years and married for

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Speaker 1: three years. In the beginning, I told him that I

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Speaker 1: had a problem with all of his female friends. He

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Speaker 1: said he would cut them off all off for me.

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Speaker 1: He's a hairstylist in barber and his best lady friend

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Speaker 1: as he calls her, is in the same salon with him.

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Speaker 1: My husband and I are thirty nine years old, and

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Speaker 1: his best lady friend, Tammy is thirty. I've always wondered

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Speaker 1: how he and Tammy's friendship has lasted for six years.

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Speaker 1: I told him, as his wife, I should be his

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Speaker 1: best lady friend, but he is stuck on stupid. He said,

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Speaker 1: Tammy is an airhead and he is like a big

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Speaker 1: brother to her. Since I've known her, she has never

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Speaker 1: been in a relationship, so I think my husband is

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Speaker 1: fulfilling that role. When I go to the salon, Tammy

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Speaker 1: isn't there, and my husband said, it's always a coincidence.

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Speaker 1: I did pop up one day and another barber announced, wow,

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Speaker 1: look who showed up y'all, and my husband came from

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Speaker 1: the back. My husband thinks I'm making up stories in

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Speaker 1: my head, but something isn't right. The other night, I

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Speaker 1: was in the shower and my husband was on the

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Speaker 1: treadmill with his headphones on. It was almost midnight, and

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Speaker 1: I could hear his phone vibrating from the top dresser

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Speaker 1: drawer when I got his phone. When I got to

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Speaker 1: his phone, Tammy had called him nine times back to

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Speaker 1: be I didn't check her text message because I did

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Speaker 1: not want to start World War three. He had no

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Speaker 1: explanation for why she called nine times and he didn't

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Speaker 1: call her back. The salon wasn't on fire, and if

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Speaker 1: it was, she should have called the fire department, not

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Speaker 1: my husband. Should I go pay Timmy a visit at

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Speaker 1: the salon and see what's up. No, you don't have

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Speaker 1: to do that. I mean you know there's something going on.

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Speaker 1: I mean you feel it in your gut. Too much

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Speaker 1: strange stuff is happening. You feel it, like when she

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Speaker 1: knows you're coming to the salon, she's coincidentally out of

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Speaker 1: the salon. She's calling your man multiple times late at night,

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Speaker 1: and you're right, he should not be calling her his

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Speaker 1: best lady friend. That esteemed honor should go to you

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Speaker 1: and only you, his wife. Yes, she's wrong for calling

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Speaker 1: him nine times. Come on, what could be that important

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Speaker 1: that she's got to call another woman's husband nine times

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Speaker 1: back to back. He's wrong for trying to gaslight you,

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Speaker 1: saying you're making up stories in your head. But you

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Speaker 1: still don't need to pay her a visit. You're not

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Speaker 1: married to her. You need to take it up with

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Speaker 1: your husband. Of course, he will continue to deny that

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Speaker 1: anything's going on. And you did talk to him about

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Speaker 1: all of his female friends before the marriage, and he

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Speaker 1: said he would cut them off, all of them for you.

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Speaker 1: But somehow this last one has been lingering for six years.

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Speaker 1: What's so special about her? That's what you need to

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Speaker 1: find out. Your instincts are telling you there's something there,

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Speaker 1: and you never know something could be there, So try

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Speaker 1: to find out. If you can talk to your husband, Steve,

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Speaker 1: I see you holding your forehead.

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Speaker 3: Somebody that reponse feud yesterday add a question for me.

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Speaker 3: They say, Steve, why doing the Strawberry letter? Are you

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Speaker 3: always defending these men? And I told the lady at

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Speaker 3: family Feud it is because Shirley is hell bent every

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Speaker 3: damn time on ending a damn marriage.

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Speaker 2: I don't just what the circle.

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Speaker 3: I told him, and I'm saying it on that l

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Speaker 3: All I'm trying to do is offer a balance of

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Speaker 3: someone to think about it.

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Speaker 2: Look, we all know.

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Speaker 3: When something sounds shaky. We all know when something sounds wrong.

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Speaker 3: I am the first person to tell a woman that

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Speaker 3: God gave women intuition.

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Speaker 2: You should use it.

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Speaker 3: I've said it a hundred times, but Damn surely writes

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Speaker 3: these men off every Now I'm gonna be honest with

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Speaker 3: you on this letter right here. I will tell you

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Speaker 3: when it's shaky, and I will tell you when there's

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Speaker 3: a possibility. Okay, you're dating a man, y'all been married

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Speaker 3: three years. You told him you had a problem with

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Speaker 3: his female friends. He said he cut him all off.

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Speaker 3: Now he's a half stylist and barble oh oh oh

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Speaker 3: red flag, half stylist and a barber. These are pronouns.

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Speaker 3: Half stylists is a pronoun and barber is a pronoun.

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Speaker 3: Half stylist and barber two different pronouns.

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Speaker 2: You know that. Yeah, you decide what you want to

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Speaker 2: do with this.

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Speaker 3: I'm just putting out some information his best lady friend

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Speaker 3: that he called this the same salaon my husband now

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Speaker 3: thirty nine, his best lady friend, Tammy's thirty, she found.

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Speaker 3: I've always wondered how he and Tammy's friendship has lasted

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Speaker 3: for six years. I told him, as his wife, I

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Speaker 3: should be his best lady. Fred and I agree with

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Speaker 3: you one hundred percent. But you say he's stuck on stupid, Well,

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Speaker 3: then if you gonna let him keep calling her the

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Speaker 3: best lady Freed, he ain't the only one stuck on stupid.

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Speaker 3: You stupid too. Okay, let's just call it like it is.

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Speaker 3: He said Tammy is an airhead and he's like a

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Speaker 3: big brother to her. That could possibly be true. Tammy

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Speaker 3: could be a ad head. The lord, Lord, Lord, I

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Speaker 3: have seen some fine yeah, I come on here, boys,

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Speaker 3: so fine, Yes, I'm talking about dumb as a doknob. Yes,

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Speaker 3: lodge God almighty fine. And since I've known us, she's

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Speaker 3: never been in a relationship. So I think my husband

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Speaker 3: is for filling that role now, is fine? Woman, that's

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Speaker 3: a he. It ain't been in a relationship in six years.

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Speaker 3: Thank your husband and filling that role that has possibilities.

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Speaker 1: Just hang on for a second. Part two of Steve's

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Speaker 1: response is coming up at twenty three minutes after the hour.

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Speaker 1: Today's Strawberry letter, subject he had nine misscalled from his coworker.

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Speaker 1: We'll talk about that, get into that right after this.

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Speaker 1: You're listening Steve Harvey Morning Show. All right, come on, Steve,

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Speaker 1: let's recap today's Strawberry letter. The subject is he had

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Speaker 1: no calls from his coworker.

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Speaker 3: Here I am, and as I promised you in this letter,

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Speaker 3: I try to offer some counter for Shirley's answer, because

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Speaker 3: she is in the kill it business. Surely if every

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Speaker 3: man come along in these strawberry letters. She got that roll,

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Speaker 3: she got that sword out, and she letting them have it.

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Speaker 3: I'm gonna call her as she's the executioner, and I

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Speaker 3: try to offer a balance. But I will tell you

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Speaker 3: when there's a possibility this moment has been married three years.

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Speaker 3: Her her husband had a lot of lady friends, and

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Speaker 3: he said he cut them all off of her said,

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Speaker 3: but he kept this one, little Tammy.

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Speaker 2: She thirty, they thirty nine. Tammy fine. I think he

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Speaker 2: didn't say it in the letter. But she fine.

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Speaker 3: But Tam is an airhead and she's wonder how Tammy's

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Speaker 3: friendship has lasted as long. And she told him, as

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Speaker 3: his wife, I should be your best lady friend, and

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Speaker 3: you're right about that. You should. But he's stuck on stupid.

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Speaker 3: He keep calling her that, and you stupid too. For

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Speaker 3: a lot, I done told y'all, I'm told y'all about

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Speaker 3: these friends. I'n't told you about these opposite sex best friends.

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Speaker 3: I done told y'all that they gonna always create a problem.

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Speaker 2: And here we go again. I don't see how y'all

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Speaker 2: don't see this? All right?

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Speaker 3: He said, Tam is an ahead and he's like a

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Speaker 3: big brother to her. She probably is an adhead.

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Speaker 2: Lord her mess, come on head top that.

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Speaker 3: How many fine airheads have I seen in my lifetime?

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Speaker 3: Got lord her mess? You ever seen a woman find

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Speaker 3: then she hoped my mouth and start talking. You go

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Speaker 3: damn all right there? Yeh, dumb as a donog. Anyway,

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Speaker 3: since I've known her, she's never been in a relationship.

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Speaker 3: So I think my husband is fulfilling that road now

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Speaker 3: that has possibilities on fine airhead that ain't been in

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Speaker 3: the relationship in six years. Somebody got to push up

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Speaker 3: on her, somebody somehow. But you think it's your hust Well,

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Speaker 3: let's find out. Uh, let me see where did I

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Speaker 3: stop at? And so I think my husband filling that role.

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Speaker 3: When I go to the salon, Tammy isn't there. And

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Speaker 3: my husband said, it's always a coincidence. Well do you

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Speaker 3: always tell him you coming? And then if they got

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Speaker 3: a relationship, why she got to leave? They've obviously hid

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Speaker 3: it for six years, So why she got to.

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Speaker 2: Leave the salon?

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Speaker 3: She can go over there and do somebody's head or something,

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Speaker 3: you know, I mean hair, hair, it sound better. She's

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Speaker 3: probably doing somebody's hair over there. Anyway, I did pop

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Speaker 3: up one day and another barber. Now, wow, look who

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Speaker 3: showed up, y'all, And my husband came.

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Speaker 2: From the back. That's a good move. Wow, look showed up, y'all. Louder,

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Speaker 2: and then your husband came out to back. Hey, I

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Speaker 2: don't know what was going.

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Speaker 3: My husband thinks I'm making up stories in my head,

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Speaker 3: but something isn't right. The other night, I was in

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Speaker 3: called him nine times, back to back to.

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Speaker 1: Back, back to back, back, back back back.

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Speaker 3: I didn't check her text message because I didn't want

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Speaker 3: to start World War three.

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Speaker 2: Well, at Carlin Farrell's house it was a World War three.

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Speaker 2: That is, oh easily it would be United Nations or

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Speaker 2: blow up it on.

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Speaker 3: It's been hell up in here now me, I'd have

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Speaker 3: had an answer for them nine calls. He had no

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Speaker 3: explanation on why she called nine times, and he didn't

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Speaker 3: call her back. Excellent move. Did not call her Pa.

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Speaker 3: I'm thinking butt dial. I'm gonna go with butt die.

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Speaker 3: It happened all the time, butt dial, back to back,

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Speaker 3: Who do that?

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Speaker 2: Baby?

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Speaker 3: Probably butt dow. The salon wasn't on fire. If it was,

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Speaker 3: she'd have called the fire department, not my husband. Should

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Speaker 3: I go pay tam me a visit at the salon?

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Speaker 3: See what's up? Let me ask you something. Either you

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Speaker 3: want to start World War three or you don't this,

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Speaker 3: But really, you, lady, you're not You're not handling this

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Speaker 3: the right way too. The only thing I agree with

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Speaker 3: sure in this whole response was what you're going up there?

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Speaker 2: Talk to tamm before you scared that?

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Speaker 3: You don't want to check your husband's messages because you

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Speaker 3: don't want to start what you're scared of?

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Speaker 2: Who you scared of? Tammy didn't say no viows to you.

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Speaker 2: He did. Now listen to me.

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Speaker 3: Women always want to ask this question, why do men cheat?

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Speaker 3: Now you want to answer because there are so many

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Speaker 3: women out there willing.

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Speaker 2: To cheat with them. That's the real answer.

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Speaker 3: We couldn't do it if we didn't have so many

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Speaker 2: Men know that as more women on this world than

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Speaker 2: it is men and the one. So now you got

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Speaker 2: a decision you got to make.

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Speaker 3: When all I need to know is when is World

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Speaker 3: War three starting? Because it's gonna have to pop off.

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Speaker 1: On today's Strawberry Letter on Instagram, at Steve Harvey FM,

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Speaker 1: iHeartRadio app coming up next to his Junior and sports talk.

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Speaker 1: Right after this, you're listening to the Steve Harvey Morning

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