Speaker 1: What's up this slip service? I mean lay, I'm g
Speaker 1: g McGuire, I'm stop from Santiago. I'm Laria And we
Speaker 1: got a super super incredible iconic guess with us today.
Speaker 1: We had Tommy Davidson here, thanks for having welcome. And
Speaker 1: we got the original lip service crew here, right, gangs together. Yeah.
Speaker 1: Once we found out you were coming, people called flights.
Speaker 1: They came in from Atlanta. Yeah, two people came from Yeah,
Speaker 1: just now they here. Yeah. I like that, Like you
Speaker 1: know how that is because even for you, like with
Speaker 1: your career from early on, you gotta make it happen.
Speaker 1: It doesn't stop. It doesn't stop from the second I
Speaker 1: hit the apolo here doing comedy and DC, nothing's been
Speaker 1: the same, right, you know? And I want it um.
Speaker 1: But I lost at the finals. Yeah, I lost the finals,
Speaker 1: but it was kind of a set. There's still a
Speaker 1: win though, because the win is that a lot of
Speaker 1: people had the opportunity to see you. And then it
Speaker 1: kind of jumped started more than it was the thing.
Speaker 1: But but but he pulled the technicality East Coast technicality
Speaker 1: on so the audience with the audience was voting, So
Speaker 1: it came down to that. David Peason, remember David Peason,
Speaker 1: the singer that was a while back. I only think
Speaker 1: you google Piece and the singer. It was down to
Speaker 1: me and him. But I was a comedian. No comedian
Speaker 1: had ever won that thing because all these singers, and
Speaker 1: that's when Paulo, you know, was real, you know, the
Speaker 1: one that was sad Man came out, you know, every
Speaker 1: five minutes. Sam Man never got a chance to hit
Speaker 1: the stage back in the day because everybody was so good.
Speaker 1: So the MC goes, so that, yeah, yeah, yeah, yeah,
Speaker 1: the yeas even right, So then the MC goes, so
Speaker 1: who do you want? Do you want Tommy Davidson from Washington,
Speaker 1: d C. Or David Piece from New New York? Are
Speaker 1: David Pizza to come up here today? But you know what,
Speaker 1: it's cool. He had a great career and you know,
Speaker 1: but honestly, a win is like even if you look
Speaker 1: at shows like American Idol, people who don't win and
Speaker 1: are like runner up, sometimes they end up being the bigger, right,
Speaker 1: what who was the running rock that was that's really big?
Speaker 1: Wasn't Differ, wasn't Jennifer Hudson? She won Fantasia. Yeah, Fantasia
Speaker 1: did one right, you know, but it wasn't Jennifer Hudson
Speaker 1: and runner up. I'm gonna be honest with you, watching
Speaker 1: the show just can't stand it now. I think, yeah,
Speaker 1: she might be the biggest. Yeah besides Kelly Clarkson. Did
Speaker 1: she win or she was a running up to Kelly?
Speaker 1: She won? I think Kelly she was the first winner. Okay,
Speaker 1: all right, Well anyway, so we normally start the show off,
Speaker 1: and by the way, before we're going to get more
Speaker 1: into the book Living in Color, which is out right now,
Speaker 1: which tell us a lot about your life and which
Speaker 1: we had no idea. But as a matter of fact,
Speaker 1: you might not remember this, but I met you a
Speaker 1: while ago when you were performing and singing at like
Speaker 1: my friend Butter he was a drummer. And where was
Speaker 1: it that was it down to it here? Yeah? It
Speaker 1: was in New York and there was all these clubs
Speaker 1: and you would be like and I thought you were
Speaker 1: going to really like launch this real singing career at
Speaker 1: that time, and he was like, yeah, I'm working with
Speaker 1: Tommy David saying, you know, he could sing da da
Speaker 1: da da da. And so during that time I did
Speaker 1: get a chance to see you like do some stuff. Okay, Yeah,
Speaker 1: I got, I got some singing in me, and Butter's
Speaker 1: real talented. So that's that's I'm waiting on that. That's
Speaker 1: the next That's a phase, a couple of phases off.
Speaker 1: But now I'm starting to think that's apollo. Loss was
Speaker 1: your fault because you could sing, and you had the jokes,
Speaker 1: so you could have just snatched the mic. And Black
Speaker 1: he could sing, sing, sing, he could sing. No, I
Speaker 1: think I think I improved my chances because I was
Speaker 1: so unique being a comedian. Yeah, back then, the younger
Speaker 1: black comics hadn't really blown I came into the scene
Speaker 1: where the only young black comics that were really blowing
Speaker 1: up were sin Bad. You know, Martin. Martin hadn't hit
Speaker 1: the scene. Uh, nobody had hit the scene. Chris Rock
Speaker 1: hadn't He hadn't hit the scene. Day Chappelle you came
Speaker 1: up with. Chappelle hadn't hit the scene. Nobody had hit
Speaker 1: the scene. I was the first one to like hit
Speaker 1: the scene and come with comedy. There was another generation
Speaker 1: in front of me. It was Eddie Murphy generation, which
Speaker 1: simbadis in that age. So plus I had lost in
Speaker 1: d C because I tried to sing. Yeah No, But
Speaker 1: then one of my friends pulled me to the side.
Speaker 1: He said, you're not unique. Everybody sings. You sing everybody singing,
Speaker 1: so why don't you do comedy? So when I went
Speaker 1: to the Apollo, I was like, okay, I'm funny. We
Speaker 1: try comedy, but in comedy I sing. Okay, yeah, fed
Speaker 1: your rund zogy you bigg made me live again. You've
Speaker 1: turned on mom, fine bay, come on nine to reach out.
Speaker 1: You know what else too? That's fascinating that you actually
Speaker 1: got to performer greats like Eddie Murphy and Richard Pryor.
Speaker 1: And you met Paul Mooney too, right, Yeah, yeah, we
Speaker 1: had an interesting interview with him on the Breakfast Cup
Speaker 1: that never made it to the air. I don't know,
Speaker 1: it got a little weird. We got weird about it.
Speaker 1: I can imagine Paul isn't his old self put it
Speaker 1: that way, all right. So we usually set the show
Speaker 1: up with a full disclosure and that's when a couple
Speaker 1: of us tell full disclosure stories. We don't have anything.
Speaker 1: It might be something we've never shared before about ourselves.
Speaker 1: So Stephanie, it's only right because you gotta do it.
Speaker 1: Go ahead, you might um you're bruised up today, so yeah,
Speaker 1: we need to hear. So the last that I decided
Speaker 1: to go out and drink, and I haven't been drinking
Speaker 1: for like two years. For the most part, I don't
Speaker 1: get really drink. So I had like fifteen shots of
Speaker 1: patrol and I don't even drink. Way to go in.
Speaker 1: That's disgusting. Shots a drinking problem, but there is celebration one. No.
Speaker 1: I was just like, oh, oh, everybody's elside. I'm not
Speaker 1: sayingbody drink right exactly. So I went crazy and this
Speaker 1: morning I woke up with a black eye and I
Speaker 1: got this scrape. I don't know what that is. I
Speaker 1: don't I took two showers. I don't know what that is,
Speaker 1: and it can't be the same thing you got to
Speaker 1: the fight. I called everybody, and I'm like, yo, was
Speaker 1: I fighting like everybody like yourself should see the other part.
Speaker 1: We were having so much fun. Somebody else is waking
Speaker 1: up like I got a black eye, rules nuck straight something?
Speaker 1: What I got penis has teeth marks on it? Like
Speaker 1: home for yourself? Did you check your photos because sometimes
Speaker 1: like I find day oh, and I lost my phone
Speaker 1: main phone, so let me see you probably was fighting
Speaker 1: for your phone Larry, Larry, I had some great fight
Speaker 1: for your phone. You want happy. I woke up in
Speaker 1: the ambulance, but I got myself now. But I woke
Speaker 1: up in bed and my person was there. I was like, oh,
Speaker 1: I made it. Well, we're happy. You're hearing this right?
Speaker 1: And what would you start? What's that? Because I'm done
Speaker 1: and here it is now. I was gonna say, me
Speaker 1: and Larry I have had some good times that we
Speaker 1: found out about on Snapchat. Yeah, because we first we
Speaker 1: got some men that we don't remember it, and then
Speaker 1: the next day we were like, look look at chat
Speaker 1: and we saw all kinds of things that we were
Speaker 1: doing that we didn't know. The crazy thing was fast
Speaker 1: right that how are you guys able to do that?
Speaker 1: So so basically because one night I could think of
Speaker 1: in particular, we went out to eat and we went
Speaker 1: to the first foot Prince and then Stephanie, what the
Speaker 1: hell out we're doing the show? So it's like to
Speaker 1: hangoverd No. We were out of a baby shower the
Speaker 1: next day and the night before we had went to
Speaker 1: foot Prints and we ended up at Swede. We was
Speaker 1: only supposed to go to one restaurant and we thought
Speaker 1: that we went out, had a good time, and DJ
Speaker 1: Scratch was with us, and DJ Scratches was us. We
Speaker 1: thought we just went home and I remember, to my ability,
Speaker 1: I swear I remembered everything. She couldn't make it up
Speaker 1: the stairs. I put a blanket off, fell on the floor.
Speaker 1: It was like a hundred and ten degrees. I was like, oh,
Speaker 1: she keeps the blanks. No, no, no, in my house.
Speaker 1: But I done that, said when I looked at next
Speaker 1: day we were on snapchat, I'm like, I snatched the
Speaker 1: thing out of the floor, like you know, like the
Speaker 1: advertisement flags in front of businesses. I took it in
Speaker 1: front of a pizza place, was waving the flag. It
Speaker 1: was like pizza Pizza, Pizzai, like the sign spinners. It
Speaker 1: was like the ship that stands up. But when I
Speaker 1: tell you I thought I remembered everything, I don't remember
Speaker 1: none of that. But we had a whole night on
Speaker 1: that snapchat that neither. There were people we were hanging
Speaker 1: out with. We don't remember them being there. I was
Speaker 1: like my cousin's husband. That husband now at the time,
Speaker 1: he was like, yeah, I've seen your cousin and she
Speaker 1: was buying the shots. I was like, why no, that's
Speaker 1: what's happening to me today. People are calling me like, yo,
Speaker 1: you yo, he was outside us, that was crazed, Like
Speaker 1: I don't even see you in years, like the last night.
Speaker 1: So yeah, so that's a couple of focus wells. Just
Speaker 1: so time me. It's your turn. I ain't got all
Speaker 1: that stop you definitely, And that's last. But there every
Speaker 1: time that you had a night that you didn't remember
Speaker 1: and people have to tell you about it, of course, yeah,
Speaker 1: of course I grew up in d C two. Yeah,
Speaker 1: but that's been a long time ago. I ain't visited
Speaker 1: that for a while. That was a long long time ago.
Speaker 1: I don't recommend it, but yeah, my disclosure is like
Speaker 1: you know, I um fell asleep watching forensic files and
Speaker 1: you know what I mean, Yeah, and then you have
Speaker 1: a bad second ye go to that you wasn't that
Speaker 1: good and then that's when you have a bad dream
Speaker 1: with forensic foles. I can't wake up white dude in
Speaker 1: front of me with a gun now, Yeah, but that
Speaker 1: that's um. Remember those adventurous times though, you know, if
Speaker 1: you been through it, you know you ain't been through
Speaker 1: nothing right exactly like those things though, I really would
Speaker 1: make you like who you are, just being able to
Speaker 1: go through certain things and survive it, and it makes
Speaker 1: you like a stronger person as long as you can
Speaker 1: come through on the other side and be okay. Yeah,
Speaker 1: I mean, is it just a part of adulthood, you know?
Speaker 1: You know, the stuff is put in front of us
Speaker 1: to do. You know, it's it's supposed to be called
Speaker 1: enjoyment and all that stuff, and you can enjoy it
Speaker 1: to a certain extent. But you know, everything got that
Speaker 1: flip side, right, You put that flip on your ass,
Speaker 1: and you the only one to know when to gauge it.
Speaker 1: You do only want to know, you know. And with today,
Speaker 1: with what's going on now, especially in the club world
Speaker 1: and and everything that's going on. Man, it's like y'all
Speaker 1: got it a lot better than read it, you think. So, yeah,
Speaker 1: are you kidding me that? Because there's like, you know,
Speaker 1: there's so much going on. You know, we used to
Speaker 1: walk to a party. See look, I disagree with that
Speaker 1: because back then you could do stuff and get away
Speaker 1: with it. Now you can't get away with ship. Well yeah,
Speaker 1: because people are on the me and it's not even
Speaker 1: fun anymore. Everybody's out and they want to like take pictures,
Speaker 1: take selfies and their stuff there, like look back then,
Speaker 1: all the stories you told them the book. We had
Speaker 1: no idea about some of these things. Right, if this
Speaker 1: is happening today, we got y'all got y'all got chat
Speaker 1: snap snap like that thing actually, man, that cat baby,
Speaker 1: y'all got book face. You find out now you're still
Speaker 1: in the club and they like put up the whatever
Speaker 1: happened to you? And you're still outside. Every time I
Speaker 1: catch my man in the club is because somebody put
Speaker 1: him on snapshot, right every time anything, Everything is always
Speaker 1: okay in the club. Right now, is that not your sweater?
Speaker 1: I can see you in the back of the back
Speaker 1: of the back, I'll see you right there, zoom in
Speaker 1: on it and everything, and like so you can't even
Speaker 1: cheating piece now, you can't chat. You can't be a
Speaker 1: bitch now Instagram what you call it cat snaps chat
Speaker 1: snap But think about it, like all the things that
Speaker 1: you went through and everything that happened, that she would
Speaker 1: have been all on blast, yeah you know, and so
Speaker 1: and sometimes that makes it hard for you to recover
Speaker 1: from things in peace because when everyone's talking about to
Speaker 1: everyone's coming up to everybody's weighing in on things. You
Speaker 1: can't even like deal with it because everyone else is
Speaker 1: dealing with it. For you. I don't know. It's like
Speaker 1: everything everything is, you know, everything is different, nothing stays
Speaker 1: the same, you know what I mean. The thing I
Speaker 1: noticed about when I go to clubs now, you know,
Speaker 1: as as as as recent is probably about maybe six
Speaker 1: years ago. You know, six years ago, I go to Miami.
Speaker 1: You know, see people in the VI I P Section talking,
Speaker 1: you know, they are dancing on the dance floor. Never
Speaker 1: everybody's like this, Oh my god, Oh my god. Everybody's
Speaker 1: back been sitting next to like all these hot chicks
Speaker 1: and right, come on and everybody's kind of like nodding
Speaker 1: their head to the hot song. Oh see them having
Speaker 1: a great time on their phone. It's just it's just
Speaker 1: an observation. It's so boring. Now. I feel like even
Speaker 1: even when I'm at a concert or I'm on vacation,
Speaker 1: you know, I've been I feel like I've been taking
Speaker 1: pictures for so many years on my phone. I'm sick
Speaker 1: of it. Like I don't I'm not at the concert
Speaker 1: recording Beyonce. I'm watching it like I want to enjoy that.
Speaker 1: But sometimes I'm there and I'm like, but I'm not.
Speaker 1: Is You have to balance, You have to get a
Speaker 1: little bit to remember and to have the memory to
Speaker 1: post the show off, and then you enjoy it. That's
Speaker 1: all it's all about. Yeah, yeah, I figured, like Facebook
Speaker 1: friends and stuff like that, they don't deserve to be
Speaker 1: with me because exactly, yeah, I purposed him purpose I
Speaker 1: purposely don't post like everything. I purposely don't post everywhere
Speaker 1: I met everything I do everywhere because it's just not
Speaker 1: for everybody. For one, and for two, I do so
Speaker 1: much that people would think I was like bragging there
Speaker 1: being obnoxious, and I'm just like, let me just not.
Speaker 1: I just so even believeing some ship you were definitely
Speaker 1: catch pure she was I was important and I didn't
Speaker 1: even I got on the airplane to but no, but
Speaker 1: you didn't see me at the beach or smoking. Like
Speaker 1: I only posted a couple of pictures in the ghetto
Speaker 1: of Puerto Rico just to show that I'm not scary,
Speaker 1: and I could go to the yeah, like picture on
Speaker 1: the beach and the marcula snapped to the pool, and
Speaker 1: then I didn't already post a real picture until I
Speaker 1: was already back home. It was like days later when
Speaker 1: I posted that, I was, yeah, because they'll break into
Speaker 1: your house. Now you posted you somewhere and next thing
Speaker 1: you know, they're break into your house and they gotta
Speaker 1: got a low jack on your ass. You know where
Speaker 1: you're at. Now, let me ask you this, How hard
Speaker 1: was it for you to discuss certain things in the book?
Speaker 1: Was it ever? Was there anything that you are hesitant about?
Speaker 1: Like not really, not really, because it was it was
Speaker 1: I wouldn't be me, I wouldn't mean me if I
Speaker 1: didn't go through the experiences. So you know, when I
Speaker 1: when I finally really started thinking about it, I didn't
Speaker 1: even realize that all that stuff was like twenty something
Speaker 1: years ago, right, you know, that's a lot of a
Speaker 1: lot of growth took place. But you know, I had
Speaker 1: to have my own experiences. Yeah, you know what I mean,
Speaker 1: to learn who I'm going to be. You know, I
Speaker 1: went from an assistant chef at Ramada in something that
Speaker 1: I thought was a great accomplishment, you know, at eighteen,
Speaker 1: to be doing that. My friend Howard told me he's
Speaker 1: about the stupidest ass person I ever seen. You know,
Speaker 1: because you should go to Hollywood and you should be
Speaker 1: doing movies and you should be doing that, you should
Speaker 1: be doing this. And I was like you no, you
Speaker 1: stupid because you ain't got no job and you make
Speaker 1: me lose my job, but loved me to death. That's
Speaker 1: my friend Howard who I grew up with INDC. You know,
Speaker 1: he's the one you give a watch too, because yeah,
Speaker 1: yeah yeah. And Howard was like, Howard was the poorest
Speaker 1: person I knew. I had eleven brothers and sisters. He
Speaker 1: had moving blankets, you know, the moving blankets that you
Speaker 1: see Evans had them on a bit, you know, they
Speaker 1: eating shifts. You know how it was from the worst
Speaker 1: building around thee where I lived. Step Step used to
Speaker 1: beat his my other ass man, the whole family to
Speaker 1: be out there. She'd be bleeding naked, you know. And
Speaker 1: he come over to my house one Christmas morning and
Speaker 1: he had a paper bag with three plastic army men
Speaker 1: in it and an orange and his bag had a
Speaker 1: bow on it. That's what he got for Christmas. And
Speaker 1: imagine that your Christmas president is an orange. You think somebod.
Speaker 1: So my mother was like come here. And when she
Speaker 1: said come here, I'm like, oh man, because I used
Speaker 1: to think she's crazy, you know, come here, come here me,
Speaker 1: and she's gonna say something crazy to me. And she did.
Speaker 1: She was like, give him one of your watches. Why
Speaker 1: should I give him one of my watch? She said,
Speaker 1: because you got two of them. Your grandparents gave you
Speaker 1: one and I gave you one. So take the one
Speaker 1: that you like and give the other one to him.
Speaker 1: And I was like there. You know, for years, I
Speaker 1: was like, right, do you know that it's Howard? That
Speaker 1: there is the reason I'm sitting here Because Howard wouldn't
Speaker 1: give me a break about comedy. Howard kept saying, man, dude,
Speaker 1: you gotta do something in comedy. You'd be the best.
Speaker 1: I'm telling you, you'd be a huge star. And so
Speaker 1: he finally got me a job at the worst strip
Speaker 1: club in d C. I mean the worst. He got
Speaker 1: me five minutes on stage. He even came over to
Speaker 1: my house February cold and ship okay, came over to
Speaker 1: my house a little dots and beat you tier with
Speaker 1: rope on the hood so it wouldn't come up when
Speaker 1: I'm driving my radiator bust the middle of February cold.
Speaker 1: He just got out. He just got out the car.
Speaker 1: He was smiling and just went to the bus stop.
Speaker 1: He said, I'd be back here next next week, fix
Speaker 1: that ship. He came back next week. We went to
Speaker 1: the club. I walked in. The guy looked at me
Speaker 1: and he was like, is this the guy you keep
Speaker 1: talking about? And how I was like yeah. He said,
Speaker 1: you got five minutes. I turned to Howard. I was like,
Speaker 1: what what do you want me to do? He was like,
Speaker 1: and I don't care what you do. He said, get
Speaker 1: up there and say something. And I got up there
Speaker 1: and from the first thing I said, people laughed. And
Speaker 1: I haven't stopped since. I swear that the first time
Speaker 1: I even said anything, people laughter. I stayed at that
Speaker 1: club for probably about probably about three months. Reputation went around,
Speaker 1: promoters started coming around. I started opening for concerts. Within
Speaker 1: a year. I was at the Apollo and that's where
Speaker 1: I met my manager there who became my manager. He
Speaker 1: was attorney and he was like, hey, man, you can
Speaker 1: do anything you want. You can write your own ticket,
Speaker 1: I can take you to l A with me for
Speaker 1: a week, see how it feels. If you like it,
Speaker 1: let's move out there. So I went out there. That's
Speaker 1: when I met Eddie Murphy, Robert Townsend, Keenan and all
Speaker 1: them because I went into the Comedy Act Theater, which
Speaker 1: was the hot spot right and blew it up, and
Speaker 1: I said, I think we can do this. So we
Speaker 1: saved our money for like three months, got on his
Speaker 1: Nissan Center. He rode down to d C, put my
Speaker 1: big gass TV in the back with glad bags full
Speaker 1: of clothes, and we drove all the way over. They're
Speaker 1: not knowing nobody, and that's just just built from there.
Speaker 1: You think things like that can happen nowadays, things like
Speaker 1: that can happen forever and a day, okay, because I
Speaker 1: feel like with like online and I felt like, also,
Speaker 1: I don't know, I feel like sometimes I think, yeah, yeah,
Speaker 1: go ahead. You know. I just felt like people have
Speaker 1: these different types of shortcuts where they don't even have
Speaker 1: to like put all of that leg work in like
Speaker 1: you used to have to. There's nothing like seeing somebody
Speaker 1: live in person killing a room. And there's such a
Speaker 1: difference between people being online and being funny and then
Speaker 1: being live in front of Being live and funny in
Speaker 1: front of an audience is completely Like we've seen a
Speaker 1: lot of people who are social media starts that are
Speaker 1: funny have a great following, but then they try to
Speaker 1: do stand up comedy and it doesn't right. You know,
Speaker 1: you actually built yourself from the ground up, like you
Speaker 1: took the leg work to do everything. Like you started
Speaker 1: with the crowd, you went to bigger crowds. You know,
Speaker 1: you went from five minutes to a full set. And
Speaker 1: like you're saying, these people put up a thirty second
Speaker 1: clip and next thing that the funniest people in the world.
Speaker 1: And then you're like, how, you know what I mean,
Speaker 1: Like they didn't even no, not going well, the how
Speaker 1: is that? The howard is just just changed. It's just
Speaker 1: it's just you get more eyeballs on you because of
Speaker 1: social media, right, that's all. It doesn't mean you can't
Speaker 1: take advantage of it though as a performer. Kevin Hart
Speaker 1: was an example or somebody who you know, used social
Speaker 1: media as a platform and got a lot of eyes
Speaker 1: on her. But he had done the work right before that.
Speaker 1: He had already been in the clubs and done all
Speaker 1: that stuff. But I forgot who I saw on a
Speaker 1: movie last night, little light skinned chick. She was on
Speaker 1: the reality show. My wife had told me she was
Speaker 1: on reality billion. So here she is doing a movie,
Speaker 1: you know what I mean? And then there was a
Speaker 1: comedian from that I worked with on Martin Lawrences lit tour.
Speaker 1: We just started started. It was Morton also Jack Hurler's hype.
Speaker 1: It's hype. But what's her name? I forgot her name?
Speaker 1: And she wife knows everything. We don't get in all
Speaker 1: that don't even stop me. But but you know, her
Speaker 1: social media following is what brought her comedy, you know
Speaker 1: what I mean. And she's got some skills. Yeah, you
Speaker 1: just have to work at some skills. But you're not
Speaker 1: gonna be able to build the same skills if it's
Speaker 1: social media, because it's non applied, it's not applied. That
Speaker 1: this is all opinion, that that all has to do
Speaker 1: with just being able to generate a lot of attention,
Speaker 1: you know. And I was talking to Chris Rock one
Speaker 1: time about movie projects and this any other thing, and
Speaker 1: he was like, he's like, what you know that um
Speaker 1: quality is out of style. I was like, he's like
Speaker 1: popularities and style. You see what I'm saying. So the
Speaker 1: more likes, the more this, the more hits, the more
Speaker 1: this you get, you're gonna have a movie deal. You
Speaker 1: can do all that stuff. But what I've seen is
Speaker 1: when you actually have to do the tactile doing of
Speaker 1: that thing that you've got so much attention for. You're
Speaker 1: not at the skill that you would have been had
Speaker 1: you just been doing that when no one was looking right,
Speaker 1: and you were doing that for a while and perfecting
Speaker 1: that for a while, regardless of what anybody thought of it,
Speaker 1: you know what I mean? I mean, And that's just
Speaker 1: it's just, you know, it's as simple as this to me.
Speaker 1: I'm sure that people who were on horses, you know,
Speaker 1: when they saw that first card, they were like, look
Speaker 1: at that, you know whatever, you know what I mean,
Speaker 1: And then after a little while, hey, it's obsolete, right,
Speaker 1: kind of like O the CDs I have at home
Speaker 1: rights that makes me think, like, so all right, obviously
Speaker 1: y'all had the most one of the most legendary shows
Speaker 1: period and Living color, right, so yeah, about what is that?
Speaker 1: What's her name? Is that? Is that her? No? No?
Speaker 1: Like so okay, and and like so many amazing quality
Speaker 1: like you use that where quality comedians and performers came
Speaker 1: from that situation. Do you think that there's anything because
Speaker 1: I think whiling out is kind of like they're trying
Speaker 1: to do that, like with the comedian, But do you
Speaker 1: think that they can ever be another show in this
Speaker 1: time where it can grow some of these comedians and
Speaker 1: put them Togethereah, it is wilding Out because it's just
Speaker 1: a different It's just a different set of rules. I
Speaker 1: feel like yall have. I don't feel like wilding Out
Speaker 1: is anything closer and living colors that it was. That's
Speaker 1: what I talking about, the comedian. I'm talking about the
Speaker 1: concept of quality, Okay. I though it is kind of
Speaker 1: improv it's impress you are, It's like line is it anyway?
Speaker 1: But I'm talking about the concept of quality. So I mean,
Speaker 1: to me, my concept of quality is like earth and
Speaker 1: fire when it comes to music. Okay, So that's the
Speaker 1: concept of quality. Horn arrangements, they said, any other thing
Speaker 1: and the way that things that, the way that that's done,
Speaker 1: pure vocals, you know, full bands and all that. But
Speaker 1: you know, I can't put that up against h. Dre
Speaker 1: and the way he produces his music. I can't put
Speaker 1: that up against these producers now who are producing stuff
Speaker 1: machines with with different sounds, and they do a whole
Speaker 1: whole different thing, a whole different things. So I can't
Speaker 1: use the same, I can't equate the same because it's
Speaker 1: just not my same perception of quality with with that,
Speaker 1: because that's my preference. Like did you see the fifties show?
Speaker 1: Like I feel like people have tried to do sketch
Speaker 1: like it was. It was a show. It was a
Speaker 1: show where he had comedians. He wasn't on it at all.
Speaker 1: It was fifty cent. He might have came out on
Speaker 1: the first break and just blah blah, but the show
Speaker 1: is it was total. It was total comedians, controlled by
Speaker 1: the comedians. But it was like no one stood out,
Speaker 1: you know what I mean, like to me as I
Speaker 1: was watching it. But it was also only one season. Yeah,
Speaker 1: but even in the first at Hunt even but even
Speaker 1: in the first season, I feel like Living Color, there
Speaker 1: was characters that you remembered, you know, characters that stood up.
Speaker 1: So I just felt like, is it the fact of
Speaker 1: social media that there's a reason why there would never
Speaker 1: be able to be another show? I don't know, there
Speaker 1: could be another show like that, you know, there could
Speaker 1: be another Shout And that was definitely a right, But
Speaker 1: I also feel like it was it was him doing everything.
Speaker 1: They all wrote sketches, and that's not what I mean.
Speaker 1: I mean as far as like you have a gym Carrey,
Speaker 1: you have you get what I'm saying that Jamie FOXX
Speaker 1: do you have? But that's because Jamie Fox didn't come
Speaker 1: to you later and the season's right and then it
Speaker 1: really was the way ins And you talk about that
Speaker 1: in the book too. And it's funny because like when
Speaker 1: you look at and Living Color, what don't you think
Speaker 1: all of them were? Like I know, this is like
Speaker 1: in our head, we think all of them are best friends. Yeah,
Speaker 1: hang out like the greatest friends that. But then you're like, okay,
Speaker 1: there's a family. We people were We may not have
Speaker 1: been the best of friends, but let me tell you something.
Speaker 1: When it came to our work and when it came
Speaker 1: to respecting each other's skills, yeah, we're the best of
Speaker 1: friends and what we what see the thing about in
Speaker 1: Living Color was our success was dependent on our relationships.
Speaker 1: We had to collaborate to get it done. But you
Speaker 1: even said they were times they would have like little
Speaker 1: parties and you wouldn't even get invited. You'd be like, yeah, people, yeah, yeah,
Speaker 1: what do you think I was just like that? Because
Speaker 1: your career was taken off solo, do you think that
Speaker 1: some people had like some kind of like you know,
Speaker 1: I hate kinda like, oh, well, how's he taking off?
Speaker 1: And I'm doing all this? There's always the element of competition,
Speaker 1: and no matter what we do. You know, if you
Speaker 1: take if you take Tom Brady and um, what's it like,
Speaker 1: skimeboy name you? If you take if you take if
Speaker 1: you take Tom Brady and Pat Mahomes and put him
Speaker 1: on the same team. Okay, you know, somebody gonna lose
Speaker 1: playing time, right because both of them good. So you
Speaker 1: got a situation where you got all these people who
Speaker 1: got skills that are like, you know, wanting time. You know,
Speaker 1: everybody ain't like Woutang, but they can all get on
Speaker 1: stage and they can all blend it. Well. No, there
Speaker 1: was definitely some standouts, I know, but I know, but
Speaker 1: when they got on stage, when they went to really
Speaker 1: go hard, that's the thing you liked about them the
Speaker 1: most is that they all came to the same as
Speaker 1: a unit. Yeah, they came as a unit, you know,
Speaker 1: So you know, it's it's it's all beautiful. It's all
Speaker 1: beautiful to just have the opportunities to do what you're doing.
Speaker 1: You know. I have just as much respect for for
Speaker 1: Trey Songs and Drake and all of them as I
Speaker 1: do for Black Ivory and for the Shy Lights. You know,
Speaker 1: it's it's it's it's all the same. Really, just can't
Speaker 1: compare art, right, you know, it's art, you know. But
Speaker 1: y'all and what the flog girls? Like? What y'all all
Speaker 1: sleeping with the flog girls? And how did that work?
Speaker 1: Did y'all have to stay separate? You know, what's gonna
Speaker 1: do with them? Hey? You can have your number man
Speaker 1: with her and what? But you did have a suspicion
Speaker 1: that Keenan EVERYWAYNS and j LO might have had something.
Speaker 1: It wasn't no suspicion, Okay, well yeah, I mean it
Speaker 1: was you know, a thing I guess, you know, I
Speaker 1: could only guess because he introduced me to her. Are
Speaker 1: they were together? Whatever? And I looked at her and
Speaker 1: I was like, you know, okay, you know that you
Speaker 1: better just be hanging that word y'all just hanging out
Speaker 1: because single life, you know. You know what's interesting about
Speaker 1: the book? So you talk a lot about obviously work
Speaker 1: things and other personal things, your family life, but you
Speaker 1: don't talk a lot about your relationships like you mentioned them.
Speaker 1: But it doesn't go into depth like about a't like
Speaker 1: even today I was gonna say that you still I
Speaker 1: still eight? Look my my, I'm I'm a regular person,
Speaker 1: you know, I'm I'm an All American man, and I'm
Speaker 1: not I'm and I'm a human being. Were you a
Speaker 1: good guy though? Or where you like a dog? Yeah,
Speaker 1: where you're a dog at any point? Honestly, keep it
Speaker 1: real back then, Oh man, got a little bit of
Speaker 1: to get it out at one. Oh my god, we
Speaker 1: gotta go. No, no, I mean, you know, let's let's
Speaker 1: let's like for me, it's you know, there's a certain
Speaker 1: something about us that y'all have to have, and this
Speaker 1: is a certain something about us do we have to
Speaker 1: I mean, there's a certain something about y'all that we
Speaker 1: have to have, and it's a certain thing about us
Speaker 1: that y'all have to have. And sometimes that exceeds our
Speaker 1: own you know, self good. You know, we start reaching
Speaker 1: for that for what we think that thing and all
Speaker 1: of that, and here's this person here, and we hurt
Speaker 1: each other, we step on each other. We were not
Speaker 1: conscious of each other's feelings. We get selfish, you know,
Speaker 1: we we do all that stuff. We all on that,
Speaker 1: we all on that, and that's that's not that's a
Speaker 1: that's a road that don't end, you know, until the
Speaker 1: stuff stopped working. You know what, I how did you
Speaker 1: know about sex? If you if you luck didn't you yet?
Speaker 1: How did your first then about I'm looking like your
Speaker 1: first Okay, how did that first learn about sex? Um?
Speaker 1: Watching porn? Probably that's not like the best way to
Speaker 1: learn because the first port I was more sophisticated to me. No,
Speaker 1: it was my friend's dad across the street and he
Speaker 1: was actually dying from lung cancer. So all he would
Speaker 1: do is smoke cigarettes and watch porn in the house.
Speaker 1: And we would come in and he would always be
Speaker 1: watching porn. So we would be like standing in the
Speaker 1: hallway like no, yeah, he wouldn't even turn it off?
Speaker 1: Can I s c? Never mind the question? Yet she
Speaker 1: would right you the mountain. Welcome to Mr Davison. Let
Speaker 1: us welcome you to lips. He's got to do first,
Speaker 1: learn about sex, Like did your mom have a talk
Speaker 1: with you? Like what happened your brother? Just it's just,
Speaker 1: you know, it was just an adventure. Thing is eventual.
Speaker 1: I mean, it's just it's just a nafter thing. I mean,
Speaker 1: you come to start knowing what what works and how
Speaker 1: it works and you got your guys and you're talking
Speaker 1: about girls and and that whole thing. That's how I learned.
Speaker 1: I just learned through experience. Remember your first like losing
Speaker 1: your virginity. Everybody remembers that. How was that? It was?
Speaker 1: It was interesting to be a little bit by surprise,
Speaker 1: you know. And it was a girl that liked me
Speaker 1: a lot, and I didn't really know it, you know,
Speaker 1: and she was like, hey, I ain't going to detail,
Speaker 1: but she was like, you know, why don't we And
Speaker 1: so we did and that was it. The same question.
Speaker 1: I didn't care. She's like, let me bust this poem
Speaker 1: poem that TD Jake. I'm sorry, man, I know you
Speaker 1: watched you. Did you know what you were doing? Or
Speaker 1: were you terrible? Like? Was it like me? Quick everything,
Speaker 1: take practice everything, take p disappointed in yourself? No? No, no,
Speaker 1: I was happy, you know, like like I tell you
Speaker 1: you should have you should have a manager of work,
Speaker 1: you know. And he said, ain't know, ain't ain't There
Speaker 1: ain't no such thing as bad boom boom. Anytime you
Speaker 1: can use your hand. Everything else is a step out
Speaker 1: when you don't got to do it yourself. Everybody is
Speaker 1: so crazy And what I'm glad different creature. I'm gladly different.
Speaker 1: So was that like a girlfriend after that? Or was
Speaker 1: it like, okay, now I wasn't a girlfriend, just like
Speaker 1: an experience. I wonder how many virginities she took because
Speaker 1: this girl says didn't happen again? Was that the only
Speaker 1: time you and her? With you and her and the no,
Speaker 1: of course not but with her was one and when
Speaker 1: she wanted from you and moved on? Oh man, all right,
Speaker 1: now we have I have a question. What age do
Speaker 1: you think you stop the being promiscuous like being a
Speaker 1: good guy? When when did you start being a good guy?
Speaker 1: You know what? You know? I never stopped being a
Speaker 1: good guy, being a good guy, like your whole face,
Speaker 1: like yeah, like when you were so you don't know
Speaker 1: the age. You don't know the age. There really was
Speaker 1: no age. It was really just it was really just
Speaker 1: a progression of experiences that led to a revelation that
Speaker 1: if I ever wanted anything, if I ever wanted anything
Speaker 1: that was going to be real, that I had stop that,
Speaker 1: you know what I mean? And that took some time,
Speaker 1: right okay, and put all that together, because to treat
Speaker 1: somebody in order for you to be treated well, you
Speaker 1: have to treat somebody well, you know, you also have
Speaker 1: to be treating well too. You know, it ain't like
Speaker 1: men are dealing with an army of girls that don't cheat.
Speaker 1: What who? It ain't like like, it ain't like guys
Speaker 1: like hey, you know what I mean? That seems to
Speaker 1: be That seems to be the question that we're asked
Speaker 1: a lot, you know what I mean. That's yeah, that
Speaker 1: seems to be the question that women ask, you know,
Speaker 1: when you're gonna be When did you finally start? That's it.
Speaker 1: That seems to be the question that we always get
Speaker 1: when did you finally when did you? But never but
Speaker 1: never gets asked the other way around. You know. One
Speaker 1: of the things that one of the things that we
Speaker 1: got to deal with is the fact that you know,
Speaker 1: this is opinion, is the fact that you know, we're
Speaker 1: just stupid. You know, we were and were careless agree
Speaker 1: with that you do something like that. We won't worry
Speaker 1: about nobody's feeling or whatever. We're just gonna go for whatever.
Speaker 1: But women are a little bit more calculated, you know,
Speaker 1: and a little to me, a little bit more slick.
Speaker 1: You might not never know, and I think women cheat
Speaker 1: for different reasons. Than men too, and not even just
Speaker 1: cheat or even have more say they're not in a relationship.
Speaker 1: I'll tell me about that. So I would feel like
Speaker 1: a woman would deal. Well, you can say why they cheated,
Speaker 1: you can say why they cheat, But I think why
Speaker 1: a woman would deal with more than one man is
Speaker 1: because men are showing that they're not seriously as certain
Speaker 1: men in their life, Like I'm going to emulate what
Speaker 1: the man is doing because obviously I don't want to
Speaker 1: put all my feelings, all my age in this back
Speaker 1: doing everything. So I was like, I guess this is
Speaker 1: the thing to do, but like the man personally, I
Speaker 1: feel like I slowed down, like Swanny nine thirty. I
Speaker 1: feel like I'm tired now. I'm so tired to do
Speaker 1: a lot of guys. I don't. I have too much
Speaker 1: a d D To be talking to so many different
Speaker 1: guys like just one it's fine, and he gets on
Speaker 1: my nerves and then I'll go to another one. Like
Speaker 1: my grand My grandfather used to say to me, if
Speaker 1: everybody liked the same things, everybody be chasing after your grandma.
Speaker 1: You know, we all different, you know we all you know,
Speaker 1: can't one experience, you know, trump the other you know,
Speaker 1: everybody on this on this dag on thing, this this
Speaker 1: thing that turns you know, we did not become a
Speaker 1: billion people deserve, you know, but being pious, you know
Speaker 1: what I mean, it's just a natural thing. And you
Speaker 1: find out what's good for you. You find out what's
Speaker 1: good for you, you know what I mean, and what
Speaker 1: works for you, and that's the comfortability. You know. Some
Speaker 1: people don't want to be married. That's not that that's
Speaker 1: not the life that they want. I mean, or some
Speaker 1: people got married before say that's not for me. Some
Speaker 1: people might have messed up a marriage and said, you
Speaker 1: know what, I can do that better the next time around.
Speaker 1: But some people will convince you that they want to
Speaker 1: be married and they don't. What happened girl, Yeah, she's
Speaker 1: going I'm going through a situation. It just happened like
Speaker 1: yesterday the day before. So like with me, yeah, it's new.
Speaker 1: So you're the enemy right now if anything. And I'm
Speaker 1: taking things that you know what I mean, because I
Speaker 1: know how to listen and learn as well, because when
Speaker 1: you go through certain things, you want to just see.
Speaker 1: Obviously everybody has been through trains, through things. And since
Speaker 1: you're a man, you have a different perspective obviously, and um,
Speaker 1: it's just weird because a person will let you believe
Speaker 1: that they want the same things as you to keep
Speaker 1: you around, you know, and then they'll be like a
Speaker 1: different person with somebody else. I don't know the person
Speaker 1: they are with anybody else, and I don't care. But
Speaker 1: what I'm saying, you're you're I think, like a certain
Speaker 1: person to me. Why you know what I mean? And
Speaker 1: said it just being yourself. That's why it's hard to
Speaker 1: be with an actor. And I feel like I'm such
Speaker 1: an honest and forgiving person. I feel like I'm very forgiving.
Speaker 1: And you could tell me you don't have to pretend
Speaker 1: that you want to marry me for me to be around.
Speaker 1: I respect you more from being this problem. The problem
Speaker 1: is with men is that they feel like every woman
Speaker 1: wants the same thing. They feel like every woman is
Speaker 1: looking for marriage, every woman is looking for a commitment.
Speaker 1: Every woman is looking to have their man's only mine.
Speaker 1: He's mine, he's mine, he's mine. So they come at
Speaker 1: you with this is what I have to do in
Speaker 1: order to get her. So they go to they go
Speaker 1: through this. Okay, well I'm gonna tell her this this
Speaker 1: that in the third because I know this is what
Speaker 1: she wants to hear. But what they don't realize is
Speaker 1: there's woman out here who don't really care to be
Speaker 1: with one person forever or don't really care to just
Speaker 1: be with a guy to just for marriage. Like um So,
Speaker 1: instead of keeping it real and letting a woman decide
Speaker 1: what she wants or telling them what she wants, they
Speaker 1: put everybody in the same box and then she just
Speaker 1: don't work out. And I also felt like, it's okay,
Speaker 1: you don't want that stuff. But if as a woman
Speaker 1: you can want that stuff. But if you said don't
Speaker 1: want that, don't sell me a dream just because you
Speaker 1: want me, you know what I mean, Allow me to
Speaker 1: make the decision on with you. Yeah, I like, let me,
Speaker 1: let me choose, like make my choice, let me use
Speaker 1: what I want to be a jass in it like
Speaker 1: you're gonna, oh, we're gonna get married x y Z time,
Speaker 1: and mean, while it's not even in your head. Yeah,
Speaker 1: have an opinion. He's like, I got we need you. Okay,
Speaker 1: it's a main ingredient. It's a main ingredient. Okay. Main
Speaker 1: ingredient being being a group from the seventies, right, And
Speaker 1: they said, everybody play plays the food, hold on the time,
Speaker 1: hold on, there's no exception to the room. Listen hey
Speaker 1: maybe fact you maybe, but I can't lie. And everybody
Speaker 1: pleasing food now hold on song that music starts to play,
Speaker 1: and your ability to reason just when you throw it
Speaker 1: all away and you're like, hey, I'm gonna go with
Speaker 1: you the next night because he goes high next. All right, well,
Speaker 1: since reasoning advice. Now, somebody emailed in a question, so
Speaker 1: we went to your advice. We're going off the internet,
Speaker 1: all right, So this is ask the service question. I
Speaker 1: hope you can help me out. My boyfriend and I
Speaker 1: have been dating for some time and we are having
Speaker 1: some concerns, concerns with my ability to have an orgasm.
Speaker 1: He got kind of sad about it because he thought
Speaker 1: that I wasn't being pleased because he's not able to
Speaker 1: give me an orgasm. Even if we're go on several
Speaker 1: rounds back to back, I still have trouble. I know
Speaker 1: this might be t m I, but his size is perfect.
Speaker 1: He has a nice curve, which that that would be
Speaker 1: a benefit. But here we are to be honest. I've
Speaker 1: never had a guy give me one unless I'm on top,
Speaker 1: and I get myself there. So is this common? Should
Speaker 1: I stop using my vibrator due to the possibility of
Speaker 1: becoming desensitized? And what are some things we can do
Speaker 1: in order for him to give me an orgasm? We've
Speaker 1: tried a vibrator for play and oral is that question
Speaker 1: for me? Yeah? What work? Hold on? Hold on? Hold
Speaker 1: on now? Can you do what the section need to say? Okay?
Speaker 1: So the advice is okay. She wants to know um
Speaker 1: about her ability to have an orgasm. She'd only get
Speaker 1: it if she's on top, and she does it herself.
Speaker 1: So I guess one. No, he can't give You can't
Speaker 1: give her and give it to herself. So she goes
Speaker 1: on top, grimes on him. She probably plays with herself
Speaker 1: a little and that's how she why she need him
Speaker 1: there if he didn't have part in it. She likes it,
Speaker 1: but she just isn't orgasming and it's making him feel bad. No,
Speaker 1: but she can go and do that. To do that
Speaker 1: in corner where you lay there, come on now to
Speaker 1: make it. Tell me have you given every woman? Because
Speaker 1: the answers even if you thought the answer the answer
Speaker 1: is I don't really know, but you know I don't.
Speaker 1: I don't don't write, I don't. I don't go into
Speaker 1: the situation going okay, now, how many of them are
Speaker 1: gonna get here? But but but but the thing is here.
Speaker 1: The thing is here, you know. Or my advice to
Speaker 1: her would be, you know, don't tell us tell him
Speaker 1: and that would be my advice. But she did just
Speaker 1: sad about it, you know, not tell him that he's
Speaker 1: not making it heap and tell him how to make
Speaker 1: it happenn't, don't. Don't tell your lives. Don't tell lies
Speaker 1: to tell me him. But sher house. It's like if
Speaker 1: you want somebody to come in your house. She was,
Speaker 1: I don't know what I'm sair. The house is the house. Sorry,
Speaker 1: our house in the middle of the street. Our house
Speaker 1: in the middle of the street, in the house that's
Speaker 1: for the white board back there. They know what it is.
Speaker 1: See they're going to there, They're going, they're going, yeah,
Speaker 1: see white people know that our house in the middle
Speaker 1: of the street. You know what the middle of the
Speaker 1: street is. I'm not making it about. I just know
Speaker 1: what I know. I just know what I just I know.
Speaker 1: Somebody comes in your house in the middle of the
Speaker 1: right or your house can be in the middle. You know,
Speaker 1: you don't want to do it in the middle of street.
Speaker 1: You'd rather do it in the house. But if it's
Speaker 1: our house in the middle of the street, okay. So
Speaker 1: if you if you want something done in your house
Speaker 1: and you want it done right, you want it done
Speaker 1: exactly the way that you want it. You guys aren't
Speaker 1: shy about that. You say no, no, no, no, no,
Speaker 1: that's not what I want. I don't want it. I
Speaker 1: want I want I want it to be painted Oh sorry,
Speaker 1: I want it to be painted purple. But I want
Speaker 1: the framing to be white. And you and then you
Speaker 1: start with different. No, but I don't want that kind
Speaker 1: of white. I want to I want like an eracer
Speaker 1: kind of white, not like not like a hospital white.
Speaker 1: You know, you know exactly what you want. So if
Speaker 1: you're if you're seeking, you know, a result that you
Speaker 1: can't get, then I guess the best thing that you
Speaker 1: can do in any situation is to communicate the specifics
Speaker 1: so you can help the person help you. Well, she
Speaker 1: did say that they tried different things. She said they've
Speaker 1: tried UM four play, they've tried oral, and she also
Speaker 1: said it wasn't the only man that this happened, and
Speaker 1: I think she should do She should, you know, practice throbbing,
Speaker 1: you know, a little keygel action and it because you're
Speaker 1: getting she's coming anyway. She's coming anyway, So just just
Speaker 1: to make him feel you feel coming, and and you
Speaker 1: could beat you can take it, oh, and then get
Speaker 1: on top, do your thing. He find that he's sad.
Speaker 1: He might happen, but then you might wake up and
Speaker 1: marks are all over you and you don't know what happened. Yeah,
Speaker 1: I think I think that I think that she should
Speaker 1: spend some alone time with herself and get to know herself.
Speaker 1: The problem is she's spending too much A long time.
Speaker 1: Did you vibrate? Said? Should I stopped using? I didn't
Speaker 1: say she should use a vibe note there's other ways
Speaker 1: for you to get Yeah, there's other ways for you
Speaker 1: to get there without using the vibrator. But but there's
Speaker 1: also two different types of organs. There's an internal on
Speaker 1: an external. So she's probably provided she said, to her sensitivity.
Speaker 1: So if she's using the vibrator on her clitteress and
Speaker 1: she's having those type of orgasms, but then she wants
Speaker 1: an internal orgasm from the d Okay, okay, you guys.
Speaker 1: I know you guys got a lot of ways that
Speaker 1: that thing works. We just got one way. Y'all got
Speaker 1: all this so so. But but I think I think
Speaker 1: this is a subjective. Well she asked for my advice, Yeah,
Speaker 1: I think I I think the best way because obviously
Speaker 1: she likes him, she does, she likes him him to
Speaker 1: feel bad that he can't do it. So I think
Speaker 1: the best way that the best way that she can
Speaker 1: deal with it is just to communicate to him. Community,
Speaker 1: communicate to him what she wants, you know, in the moment. Well,
Speaker 1: that's intimacy, m You know, Intimacy isn't just the action
Speaker 1: of recent climax or whatever. Intimacy is reaching a place
Speaker 1: for both of you where you feel so uninhibited that
Speaker 1: you feel this this elation, this joy, this ultimate connection.
Speaker 1: How are you gonna get that connection if you don't communicate,
Speaker 1: He doesn't know and how's he going to do it?
Speaker 1: She should also think about things that helped her get
Speaker 1: there and stop thinking about the fact that she is
Speaker 1: not happening and think about what y'all come up with?
Speaker 1: Something else? We do him not I'm the only one ever.
Speaker 1: Everybody you're saying you but as a woman that if
Speaker 1: that thing right there like that, you seem like, you
Speaker 1: know what, that's a good point. Now, let me ask
Speaker 1: you this, right because they always say that women are
Speaker 1: always trying to make ourselves come by focusing, and men
Speaker 1: are always trying to make themselves not come by thinking
Speaker 1: about other things. You think that's true. I think it's
Speaker 1: sickly you ever had to like try to stop yourself
Speaker 1: by thinking about something else? I wonder what, guy? Because guys,
Speaker 1: but I mean, everybody is different. Everybody's different, you know,
Speaker 1: everybody's different. I mean I can't ever come if I
Speaker 1: try to think about it, I won't. I mean, fortunately,
Speaker 1: You'll got a lot more bullets in the chamber always
Speaker 1: like you know, you know, it's not everybody everybody different.
Speaker 1: You know, I have one bullet, you know, Yeah, I
Speaker 1: just it all comes down to the individual. Yeah, exactly. Yeah.
Speaker 1: For me, whenever like I'm whenever i'm getting or I
Speaker 1: think about porn, I think about, like the best porn
Speaker 1: scene that I've seen in a while, And that makes me,
Speaker 1: what's the best one you've seen in a while. She's
Speaker 1: not going to say she almost and then she put
Speaker 1: every definitely I would. I'm gonna go and she's not
Speaker 1: gonna say that the best and Bruce is all over
Speaker 1: her body, she can't find her phone, her person in
Speaker 1: a bed with her. The ways to be thinking about
Speaker 1: right now? When am I thinking about? Now? The show? No,
Speaker 1: the best porn She's not going to say is the
Speaker 1: scene I said, Cornio, I watched gay porn and like
Speaker 1: it's like three guys they're all together and they're sucking
Speaker 1: on each other and they're sucking on each other. See,
Speaker 1: I've never that is what I like. I know I
Speaker 1: knew and I knew that, and y'all forced her to
Speaker 1: say that. I know not y'all forced her. Don't let
Speaker 1: her say it, y'all. We usually have in common, like dicks,
Speaker 1: and I know that's my second goal. Yeah, lately I've
Speaker 1: been watching gay porn all right, But before everybody, you know,
Speaker 1: everybody and everybody's fine, dark skinned goes and they look
Speaker 1: good out with and they'd be like what And I'm
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Speaker 1: That ship is so so living in color, living but
Speaker 1: living in color. The book is about it's it's amazing read. Yeah,
Speaker 1: we can in either the heterosexual box one time, just once, okay,
Speaker 1: because I know back in the day they always used
Speaker 1: to be like so and so in the industry, they
Speaker 1: all but like there ever a time where someone in
Speaker 1: the industry, a man hit on you and you had
Speaker 1: to shut them down. That's every man, oh my god,
Speaker 1: all of us. Any man that's attract another famous man though,
Speaker 1: And I'm not saying don't say his name or I'm
Speaker 1: not asking for that. He said, that's never happened, all right,
Speaker 1: because it has happened. That's happened to every man. Is
Speaker 1: it awkward, like did you have to work with the
Speaker 1: person after that? And was it awkward for you? I
Speaker 1: don't think it's I don't think it's awkward for for
Speaker 1: head or sexual men at all, you know what I mean.
Speaker 1: I don't think it's award at all. It's just a
Speaker 1: simple fact, you know. I think men are really factual.
Speaker 1: You know. It's the same as I like, you know,
Speaker 1: that's that's not me. You know. It's the same as
Speaker 1: if a woman tries to hit on you, you know,
Speaker 1: like I'm sure, yeah, but I think it's just a
Speaker 1: little different because guys are supposed like so more macho.
Speaker 1: So I think it would even take a man a
Speaker 1: little bit more time to ask a man or approach
Speaker 1: a man than a woman, Like I say, take a
Speaker 1: little more risk. Risk is risk. But I mean, you know,
Speaker 1: like any you know this is my opinion, you know,
Speaker 1: any you do this cool? And or where he is,
Speaker 1: he's not going to like breaks my nose, right as
Speaker 1: long as nobody that's not appropriate, you know that's not
Speaker 1: me and just kind of leave it at that. You know,
Speaker 1: was there ever any in Living color porn? You know
Speaker 1: how they do spoof? Not right now? Right there, keep
Speaker 1: that right there. I'm not looking at that. It is
Speaker 1: this definitely is. Can you show me and they to
Speaker 1: have a head detective? Oh that makes sense. That's so funny,
Speaker 1: look at it. What else would be a really good
Speaker 1: thing with. Yeah, let's come up with something like y'all
Speaker 1: go ahead. I got my book right here, y'all right now,
Speaker 1: but thank you so much for joining us. I know
Speaker 1: you have a lot going on and we do appreciate it. Listen, listen,
Speaker 1: listen listen. No no, no, no, no no. The reason
Speaker 1: why I did this book, The reason why I did
Speaker 1: this book is because this book is like for everybody.
Speaker 1: You know, when I just when I discovered that, you know,
Speaker 1: that I was black and my family is white, and
Speaker 1: I love them, you know, And that was like the
Speaker 1: worst day of my life when I found that out,
Speaker 1: because I was like, you know, how could people be
Speaker 1: so stupid that they let something as simple as color
Speaker 1: separate them. But as I started, and so at that age,
Speaker 1: like five, I started really seeking out the answer to
Speaker 1: questions like that, and the question just started getting bigger.
Speaker 1: How can people with money or how can people do
Speaker 1: things to people over money? Or how can people do
Speaker 1: things to people over relationships? Or how can people do this?
Speaker 1: Or how can people do that? That can be? And
Speaker 1: after a little while I stopped asking why and just
Speaker 1: putting into an index all of the reasons that life
Speaker 1: is good and all of the reasons that you can
Speaker 1: be happy, you know, and all the things that I
Speaker 1: went through, all of the experiences that I had, I
Speaker 1: took them and put it in a place where if
Speaker 1: you're ever in a situation where you don't know where
Speaker 1: you're gonna turn emotionally, or you don't know you don't
Speaker 1: know how you feel about something that's coming around the corner,
Speaker 1: are you so scared you saw motherfucking scared to share
Speaker 1: something with somebody, you know what I mean? Or you
Speaker 1: you you lose something that you loved so much. I
Speaker 1: lost my mother. I lost my best friend Keith, he
Speaker 1: got murdered right before it moved to d C. You know,
Speaker 1: or how people do you? How you can love somebody
Speaker 1: and give them everything and they can turn on you
Speaker 1: and and and and and feed you to the sharks.
Speaker 1: You know. I put all of that off in there
Speaker 1: to show how I negotiating my path around there and
Speaker 1: it was able to maintain happy and was able to
Speaker 1: maintain growth, and was able to maintain balance within the
Speaker 1: world that I don't have no control over. I know
Speaker 1: one thing. I don't know about no heaven. I don't
Speaker 1: never know hell. But I know about here, and I
Speaker 1: know here. I wasn't in the helicopter with my daughter
Speaker 1: right the other day. And so if I am here
Speaker 1: with you and you were here with me, then that's
Speaker 1: the good part and the other stuff is just life.
Speaker 1: That's where I made the book. Ah, well, that's amazing.
Speaker 1: That is great. And listen if you and for guys,
Speaker 1: if you're fans of Tommy Davidson, fans of Common, your
Speaker 1: fans of anybody that is trying to aspire to something great.
Speaker 1: If you're aspiring to something greater, it is a great
Speaker 1: read for you to get. And you have such a
Speaker 1: unique background, so it's important for you to see of
Speaker 1: that story because guess what, there's people out there that
Speaker 1: are going through similar things, and I'm sure reading a
Speaker 1: book like Living in Color, they might see themselves in you.
Speaker 1: Or it might be inspirational for people to say, Okay,
Speaker 1: I'm about to go and take a risk, and you know,
Speaker 1: risk it off of something that I know I'm great
Speaker 1: at and that I love and not care about. Okay,
Speaker 1: what if this doesn't work, because it has to work,
Speaker 1: you know, Well, I can't wait to read this book
Speaker 1: and I get mine. Oh that's yours, that's mine, that's mine,
Speaker 1: all right, but thank you again. Yes, Tommy Davidson, no more.
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