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Speaker 1: g McGuire, I'm stop from Santiago. I'm Laria And we

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Speaker 1: got a super super incredible iconic guess with us today.

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Speaker 1: We had Tommy Davidson here, thanks for having welcome. And

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Speaker 1: we got the original lip service crew here, right, gangs together. Yeah.

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Speaker 1: Once we found out you were coming, people called flights.

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Speaker 1: They came in from Atlanta. Yeah, two people came from Yeah,

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Speaker 1: just now they here. Yeah. I like that, Like you

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Speaker 1: know how that is because even for you, like with

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Speaker 1: your career from early on, you gotta make it happen.

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Speaker 1: It doesn't stop. It doesn't stop from the second I

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Speaker 1: hit the apolo here doing comedy and DC, nothing's been

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Speaker 1: the same, right, you know? And I want it um.

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Speaker 1: But I lost at the finals. Yeah, I lost the finals,

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Speaker 1: but it was kind of a set. There's still a

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Speaker 1: But but but he pulled the technicality East Coast technicality

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Speaker 1: you google Piece and the singer. It was down to

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Speaker 1: me and him. But I was a comedian. No comedian

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Speaker 1: that's when Paulo, you know, was real, you know, the

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Speaker 1: one that was sad Man came out, you know, every

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Speaker 1: So the MC goes, so that, yeah, yeah, yeah, yeah,

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Speaker 1: the yeas even right, So then the MC goes, so

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Speaker 1: who do you want? Do you want Tommy Davidson from Washington,

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Speaker 1: d C. Or David Piece from New New York? Are

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Speaker 1: David Pizza to come up here today? But you know what,

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Speaker 1: it's cool. He had a great career and you know,

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Speaker 1: but honestly, a win is like even if you look

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Speaker 1: at shows like American Idol, people who don't win and

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Speaker 1: what who was the running rock that was that's really big?

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Speaker 1: Wasn't Differ, wasn't Jennifer Hudson? She won Fantasia. Yeah, Fantasia

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Speaker 1: She won? I think Kelly she was the first winner. Okay,

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Speaker 1: all right, Well anyway, so we normally start the show off,

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Speaker 1: and by the way, before we're going to get more

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Speaker 1: into the book Living in Color, which is out right now,

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Speaker 1: which tell us a lot about your life and which

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Speaker 1: we had no idea. But as a matter of fact,

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Speaker 1: you might not remember this, but I met you a

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Speaker 1: my friend Butter he was a drummer. And where was

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Speaker 1: It might be something we've never shared before about ourselves.

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Speaker 1: So Stephanie, it's only right because you gotta do it.

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Speaker 1: not at the skill that you would have been had

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00:24:02,320 --> 00:24:05,040
Speaker 1: you just been doing that when no one was looking right,

427
00:24:05,640 --> 00:24:07,880
Speaker 1: and you were doing that for a while and perfecting

428
00:24:07,920 --> 00:24:11,119
Speaker 1: that for a while, regardless of what anybody thought of it,

429
00:24:11,680 --> 00:24:13,800
Speaker 1: you know what I mean? I mean, And that's just

430
00:24:14,760 --> 00:24:17,440
Speaker 1: it's just, you know, it's as simple as this to me.

431
00:24:18,200 --> 00:24:21,000
Speaker 1: I'm sure that people who were on horses, you know,

432
00:24:21,160 --> 00:24:23,200
Speaker 1: when they saw that first card, they were like, look

433
00:24:23,240 --> 00:24:26,840
Speaker 1: at that, you know whatever, you know what I mean,

434
00:24:27,359 --> 00:24:31,840
Speaker 1: And then after a little while, hey, it's obsolete, right,

435
00:24:32,160 --> 00:24:33,679
Speaker 1: kind of like O the CDs I have at home

436
00:24:34,600 --> 00:24:40,679
Speaker 1: rights that makes me think, like, so all right, obviously

437
00:24:41,359 --> 00:24:44,560
Speaker 1: y'all had the most one of the most legendary shows

438
00:24:45,119 --> 00:24:59,840
Speaker 1: period and Living color, right, so yeah, about what is that?

439
00:25:00,520 --> 00:25:09,920
Speaker 1: What's her name? Is that? Is that her? No? No?

440
00:25:11,280 --> 00:25:16,800
Speaker 1: Like so okay, and and like so many amazing quality

441
00:25:16,920 --> 00:25:20,640
Speaker 1: like you use that where quality comedians and performers came

442
00:25:20,680 --> 00:25:24,320
Speaker 1: from that situation. Do you think that there's anything because

443
00:25:24,359 --> 00:25:26,800
Speaker 1: I think whiling out is kind of like they're trying

444
00:25:26,840 --> 00:25:28,440
Speaker 1: to do that, like with the comedian, But do you

445
00:25:28,560 --> 00:25:30,920
Speaker 1: think that they can ever be another show in this

446
00:25:31,320 --> 00:25:35,760
Speaker 1: time where it can grow some of these comedians and

447
00:25:35,920 --> 00:25:39,359
Speaker 1: put them Togethereah, it is wilding Out because it's just

448
00:25:39,480 --> 00:25:41,960
Speaker 1: a different It's just a different set of rules. I

449
00:25:42,040 --> 00:25:45,040
Speaker 1: feel like yall have. I don't feel like wilding Out

450
00:25:45,240 --> 00:25:49,000
Speaker 1: is anything closer and living colors that it was. That's

451
00:25:49,040 --> 00:25:52,480
Speaker 1: what I talking about, the comedian. I'm talking about the

452
00:25:52,480 --> 00:25:56,520
Speaker 1: concept of quality, Okay. I though it is kind of

453
00:25:56,600 --> 00:25:59,880
Speaker 1: improv it's impress you are, It's like line is it anyway?

454
00:26:00,480 --> 00:26:03,000
Speaker 1: But I'm talking about the concept of quality. So I mean,

455
00:26:03,200 --> 00:26:05,359
Speaker 1: to me, my concept of quality is like earth and

456
00:26:05,480 --> 00:26:08,080
Speaker 1: fire when it comes to music. Okay, So that's the

457
00:26:08,119 --> 00:26:11,520
Speaker 1: concept of quality. Horn arrangements, they said, any other thing

458
00:26:11,600 --> 00:26:13,400
Speaker 1: and the way that things that, the way that that's done,

459
00:26:14,359 --> 00:26:18,520
Speaker 1: pure vocals, you know, full bands and all that. But

460
00:26:19,520 --> 00:26:22,880
Speaker 1: you know, I can't put that up against h. Dre

461
00:26:24,560 --> 00:26:27,800
Speaker 1: and the way he produces his music. I can't put

462
00:26:27,840 --> 00:26:31,480
Speaker 1: that up against these producers now who are producing stuff

463
00:26:32,280 --> 00:26:35,960
Speaker 1: machines with with different sounds, and they do a whole

464
00:26:36,160 --> 00:26:38,960
Speaker 1: whole different thing, a whole different things. So I can't

465
00:26:39,320 --> 00:26:41,960
Speaker 1: use the same, I can't equate the same because it's

466
00:26:41,960 --> 00:26:45,560
Speaker 1: just not my same perception of quality with with that,

467
00:26:45,720 --> 00:26:49,040
Speaker 1: because that's my preference. Like did you see the fifties show?

468
00:26:49,119 --> 00:26:52,120
Speaker 1: Like I feel like people have tried to do sketch

469
00:26:52,320 --> 00:26:57,119
Speaker 1: like it was. It was a show. It was a

470
00:26:57,200 --> 00:26:59,760
Speaker 1: show where he had comedians. He wasn't on it at all.

471
00:27:00,960 --> 00:27:03,000
Speaker 1: It was fifty cent. He might have came out on

472
00:27:03,160 --> 00:27:07,000
Speaker 1: the first break and just blah blah, but the show

473
00:27:07,160 --> 00:27:10,679
Speaker 1: is it was total. It was total comedians, controlled by

474
00:27:10,720 --> 00:27:12,880
Speaker 1: the comedians. But it was like no one stood out,

475
00:27:13,160 --> 00:27:14,600
Speaker 1: you know what I mean, like to me as I

476
00:27:14,720 --> 00:27:17,120
Speaker 1: was watching it. But it was also only one season. Yeah,

477
00:27:17,160 --> 00:27:22,040
Speaker 1: but even in the first at Hunt even but even

478
00:27:22,119 --> 00:27:24,080
Speaker 1: in the first season, I feel like Living Color, there

479
00:27:24,160 --> 00:27:27,119
Speaker 1: was characters that you remembered, you know, characters that stood up.

480
00:27:27,240 --> 00:27:28,680
Speaker 1: So I just felt like, is it the fact of

481
00:27:28,800 --> 00:27:31,760
Speaker 1: social media that there's a reason why there would never

482
00:27:31,880 --> 00:27:36,199
Speaker 1: be able to be another show? I don't know, there

483
00:27:36,240 --> 00:27:38,320
Speaker 1: could be another show like that, you know, there could

484
00:27:38,320 --> 00:27:42,359
Speaker 1: be another Shout And that was definitely a right, But

485
00:27:42,480 --> 00:27:45,840
Speaker 1: I also feel like it was it was him doing everything.

486
00:27:46,440 --> 00:27:48,760
Speaker 1: They all wrote sketches, and that's not what I mean.

487
00:27:48,880 --> 00:27:51,399
Speaker 1: I mean as far as like you have a gym Carrey,

488
00:27:51,800 --> 00:27:54,280
Speaker 1: you have you get what I'm saying that Jamie FOXX

489
00:27:54,320 --> 00:27:57,080
Speaker 1: do you have? But that's because Jamie Fox didn't come

490
00:27:57,119 --> 00:28:00,320
Speaker 1: to you later and the season's right and then it

491
00:28:00,400 --> 00:28:02,680
Speaker 1: really was the way ins And you talk about that

492
00:28:02,760 --> 00:28:04,639
Speaker 1: in the book too. And it's funny because like when

493
00:28:04,680 --> 00:28:06,120
Speaker 1: you look at and Living Color, what don't you think

494
00:28:06,119 --> 00:28:08,280
Speaker 1: all of them were? Like I know, this is like

495
00:28:08,400 --> 00:28:11,120
Speaker 1: in our head, we think all of them are best friends. Yeah,

496
00:28:11,280 --> 00:28:17,680
Speaker 1: hang out like the greatest friends that. But then you're like, okay,

497
00:28:18,400 --> 00:28:24,760
Speaker 1: there's a family. We people were We may not have

498
00:28:24,840 --> 00:28:26,800
Speaker 1: been the best of friends, but let me tell you something.

499
00:28:27,600 --> 00:28:30,680
Speaker 1: When it came to our work and when it came

500
00:28:30,720 --> 00:28:34,320
Speaker 1: to respecting each other's skills, yeah, we're the best of

501
00:28:34,320 --> 00:28:38,760
Speaker 1: friends and what we what see the thing about in

502
00:28:38,880 --> 00:28:47,240
Speaker 1: Living Color was our success was dependent on our relationships.

503
00:28:48,240 --> 00:28:51,880
Speaker 1: We had to collaborate to get it done. But you

504
00:28:52,000 --> 00:28:53,720
Speaker 1: even said they were times they would have like little

505
00:28:53,800 --> 00:28:59,360
Speaker 1: parties and you wouldn't even get invited. You'd be like, yeah, people, yeah, yeah,

506
00:28:59,440 --> 00:29:01,160
Speaker 1: what do you think I was just like that? Because

507
00:29:01,160 --> 00:29:04,320
Speaker 1: your career was taken off solo, do you think that

508
00:29:04,560 --> 00:29:07,640
Speaker 1: some people had like some kind of like you know,

509
00:29:07,680 --> 00:29:10,360
Speaker 1: I hate kinda like, oh, well, how's he taking off?

510
00:29:10,400 --> 00:29:13,160
Speaker 1: And I'm doing all this? There's always the element of competition,

511
00:29:13,240 --> 00:29:15,040
Speaker 1: and no matter what we do. You know, if you

512
00:29:15,120 --> 00:29:18,200
Speaker 1: take if you take Tom Brady and um, what's it like,

513
00:29:18,280 --> 00:29:27,760
Speaker 1: skimeboy name you? If you take if you take if

514
00:29:27,800 --> 00:29:29,600
Speaker 1: you take Tom Brady and Pat Mahomes and put him

515
00:29:29,600 --> 00:29:32,000
Speaker 1: on the same team. Okay, you know, somebody gonna lose

516
00:29:32,040 --> 00:29:34,840
Speaker 1: playing time, right because both of them good. So you

517
00:29:34,960 --> 00:29:36,800
Speaker 1: got a situation where you got all these people who

518
00:29:36,840 --> 00:29:42,640
Speaker 1: got skills that are like, you know, wanting time. You know,

519
00:29:42,680 --> 00:29:45,200
Speaker 1: everybody ain't like Woutang, but they can all get on

520
00:29:45,280 --> 00:29:47,400
Speaker 1: stage and they can all blend it. Well. No, there

521
00:29:47,480 --> 00:29:51,040
Speaker 1: was definitely some standouts, I know, but I know, but

522
00:29:51,120 --> 00:29:53,920
Speaker 1: when they got on stage, when they went to really

523
00:29:53,960 --> 00:29:56,320
Speaker 1: go hard, that's the thing you liked about them the

524
00:29:56,400 --> 00:29:58,040
Speaker 1: most is that they all came to the same as

525
00:29:58,080 --> 00:30:00,360
Speaker 1: a unit. Yeah, they came as a unit, you know,

526
00:30:00,520 --> 00:30:04,200
Speaker 1: So you know, it's it's it's all beautiful. It's all

527
00:30:04,240 --> 00:30:06,760
Speaker 1: beautiful to just have the opportunities to do what you're doing.

528
00:30:07,560 --> 00:30:10,040
Speaker 1: You know. I have just as much respect for for

529
00:30:11,120 --> 00:30:13,840
Speaker 1: Trey Songs and Drake and all of them as I

530
00:30:13,880 --> 00:30:17,280
Speaker 1: do for Black Ivory and for the Shy Lights. You know,

531
00:30:17,400 --> 00:30:20,360
Speaker 1: it's it's it's it's all the same. Really, just can't

532
00:30:20,360 --> 00:30:23,200
Speaker 1: compare art, right, you know, it's art, you know. But

533
00:30:23,320 --> 00:30:27,360
Speaker 1: y'all and what the flog girls? Like? What y'all all

534
00:30:27,480 --> 00:30:29,920
Speaker 1: sleeping with the flog girls? And how did that work?

535
00:30:30,040 --> 00:30:38,320
Speaker 1: Did y'all have to stay separate? You know, what's gonna

536
00:30:38,320 --> 00:30:39,800
Speaker 1: do with them? Hey? You can have your number man

537
00:30:44,440 --> 00:30:48,360
Speaker 1: with her and what? But you did have a suspicion

538
00:30:48,360 --> 00:30:50,720
Speaker 1: that Keenan EVERYWAYNS and j LO might have had something.

539
00:30:51,360 --> 00:30:54,480
Speaker 1: It wasn't no suspicion, Okay, well yeah, I mean it

540
00:30:54,680 --> 00:30:56,880
Speaker 1: was you know, a thing I guess, you know, I

541
00:30:56,960 --> 00:31:00,120
Speaker 1: could only guess because he introduced me to her. Are

542
00:31:00,160 --> 00:31:02,360
Speaker 1: they were together? Whatever? And I looked at her and

543
00:31:02,400 --> 00:31:07,120
Speaker 1: I was like, you know, okay, you know that you

544
00:31:07,200 --> 00:31:17,680
Speaker 1: better just be hanging that word y'all just hanging out

545
00:31:17,680 --> 00:31:25,320
Speaker 1: because single life, you know. You know what's interesting about

546
00:31:25,360 --> 00:31:28,000
Speaker 1: the book? So you talk a lot about obviously work

547
00:31:28,120 --> 00:31:31,280
Speaker 1: things and other personal things, your family life, but you

548
00:31:31,400 --> 00:31:34,640
Speaker 1: don't talk a lot about your relationships like you mentioned them.

549
00:31:34,760 --> 00:31:38,120
Speaker 1: But it doesn't go into depth like about a't like

550
00:31:38,240 --> 00:31:40,160
Speaker 1: even today I was gonna say that you still I

551
00:31:40,320 --> 00:31:45,200
Speaker 1: still eight? Look my my, I'm I'm a regular person,

552
00:31:45,600 --> 00:31:49,520
Speaker 1: you know, I'm I'm an All American man, and I'm

553
00:31:49,560 --> 00:31:52,320
Speaker 1: not I'm and I'm a human being. Were you a

554
00:31:52,440 --> 00:31:54,920
Speaker 1: good guy though? Or where you like a dog? Yeah,

555
00:31:54,920 --> 00:31:57,320
Speaker 1: where you're a dog at any point? Honestly, keep it

556
00:31:57,400 --> 00:32:01,120
Speaker 1: real back then, Oh man, got a little bit of

557
00:32:02,320 --> 00:32:09,560
Speaker 1: to get it out at one. Oh my god, we

558
00:32:09,640 --> 00:32:14,600
Speaker 1: gotta go. No, no, I mean, you know, let's let's

559
00:32:14,760 --> 00:32:18,760
Speaker 1: let's like for me, it's you know, there's a certain

560
00:32:18,800 --> 00:32:21,520
Speaker 1: something about us that y'all have to have, and this

561
00:32:21,640 --> 00:32:23,160
Speaker 1: is a certain something about us do we have to

562
00:32:23,680 --> 00:32:27,320
Speaker 1: I mean, there's a certain something about y'all that we

563
00:32:27,440 --> 00:32:30,400
Speaker 1: have to have, and it's a certain thing about us

564
00:32:30,480 --> 00:32:34,360
Speaker 1: that y'all have to have. And sometimes that exceeds our

565
00:32:34,480 --> 00:32:39,480
Speaker 1: own you know, self good. You know, we start reaching

566
00:32:39,560 --> 00:32:41,479
Speaker 1: for that for what we think that thing and all

567
00:32:41,520 --> 00:32:44,080
Speaker 1: of that, and here's this person here, and we hurt

568
00:32:44,120 --> 00:32:46,160
Speaker 1: each other, we step on each other. We were not

569
00:32:46,240 --> 00:32:49,560
Speaker 1: conscious of each other's feelings. We get selfish, you know,

570
00:32:49,640 --> 00:32:51,320
Speaker 1: we we do all that stuff. We all on that,

571
00:32:51,440 --> 00:32:53,400
Speaker 1: we all on that, and that's that's not that's a

572
00:32:54,360 --> 00:32:56,880
Speaker 1: that's a road that don't end, you know, until the

573
00:32:56,920 --> 00:32:59,480
Speaker 1: stuff stopped working. You know what, I how did you

574
00:32:59,800 --> 00:33:03,240
Speaker 1: know about sex? If you if you luck didn't you yet?

575
00:33:03,360 --> 00:33:05,800
Speaker 1: How did your first then about I'm looking like your

576
00:33:05,840 --> 00:33:10,400
Speaker 1: first Okay, how did that first learn about sex? Um?

577
00:33:10,600 --> 00:33:13,200
Speaker 1: Watching porn? Probably that's not like the best way to

578
00:33:13,280 --> 00:33:17,200
Speaker 1: learn because the first port I was more sophisticated to me. No,

579
00:33:17,400 --> 00:33:19,120
Speaker 1: it was my friend's dad across the street and he

580
00:33:19,320 --> 00:33:22,480
Speaker 1: was actually dying from lung cancer. So all he would

581
00:33:22,480 --> 00:33:24,440
Speaker 1: do is smoke cigarettes and watch porn in the house.

582
00:33:24,520 --> 00:33:25,840
Speaker 1: And we would come in and he would always be

583
00:33:25,920 --> 00:33:28,040
Speaker 1: watching porn. So we would be like standing in the

584
00:33:28,120 --> 00:33:30,760
Speaker 1: hallway like no, yeah, he wouldn't even turn it off?

585
00:33:34,880 --> 00:33:42,360
Speaker 1: Can I s c? Never mind the question? Yet she

586
00:33:42,360 --> 00:33:46,280
Speaker 1: would right you the mountain. Welcome to Mr Davison. Let

587
00:33:46,360 --> 00:33:50,480
Speaker 1: us welcome you to lips. He's got to do first,

588
00:33:50,560 --> 00:33:52,600
Speaker 1: learn about sex, Like did your mom have a talk

589
00:33:52,680 --> 00:33:56,240
Speaker 1: with you? Like what happened your brother? Just it's just,

590
00:33:56,560 --> 00:33:59,400
Speaker 1: you know, it was just an adventure. Thing is eventual.

591
00:33:59,440 --> 00:34:01,239
Speaker 1: I mean, it's just it's just a nafter thing. I mean,

592
00:34:01,720 --> 00:34:03,800
Speaker 1: you come to start knowing what what works and how

593
00:34:03,880 --> 00:34:05,480
Speaker 1: it works and you got your guys and you're talking

594
00:34:05,480 --> 00:34:07,920
Speaker 1: about girls and and that whole thing. That's how I learned.

595
00:34:08,520 --> 00:34:12,600
Speaker 1: I just learned through experience. Remember your first like losing

596
00:34:12,640 --> 00:34:16,880
Speaker 1: your virginity. Everybody remembers that. How was that? It was?

597
00:34:17,000 --> 00:34:19,520
Speaker 1: It was interesting to be a little bit by surprise,

598
00:34:19,760 --> 00:34:22,440
Speaker 1: you know. And it was a girl that liked me

599
00:34:22,920 --> 00:34:25,960
Speaker 1: a lot, and I didn't really know it, you know,

600
00:34:26,840 --> 00:34:28,880
Speaker 1: and she was like, hey, I ain't going to detail,

601
00:34:29,560 --> 00:34:33,200
Speaker 1: but she was like, you know, why don't we And

602
00:34:33,320 --> 00:34:37,959
Speaker 1: so we did and that was it. The same question.

603
00:34:38,320 --> 00:34:44,879
Speaker 1: I didn't care. She's like, let me bust this poem

604
00:34:44,920 --> 00:34:51,480
Speaker 1: poem that TD Jake. I'm sorry, man, I know you

605
00:34:51,560 --> 00:34:54,920
Speaker 1: watched you. Did you know what you were doing? Or

606
00:34:55,000 --> 00:34:57,680
Speaker 1: were you terrible? Like? Was it like me? Quick everything,

607
00:34:57,760 --> 00:35:01,840
Speaker 1: take practice everything, take p disappointed in yourself? No? No, no,

608
00:35:02,800 --> 00:35:05,880
Speaker 1: I was happy, you know, like like I tell you

609
00:35:07,280 --> 00:35:10,080
Speaker 1: you should have you should have a manager of work,

610
00:35:10,520 --> 00:35:13,560
Speaker 1: you know. And he said, ain't know, ain't ain't There

611
00:35:13,600 --> 00:35:19,840
Speaker 1: ain't no such thing as bad boom boom. Anytime you

612
00:35:19,880 --> 00:35:23,520
Speaker 1: can use your hand. Everything else is a step out

613
00:35:26,400 --> 00:35:33,920
Speaker 1: when you don't got to do it yourself. Everybody is

614
00:35:34,040 --> 00:35:41,320
Speaker 1: so crazy And what I'm glad different creature. I'm gladly different.

615
00:35:44,520 --> 00:35:46,680
Speaker 1: So was that like a girlfriend after that? Or was

616
00:35:46,719 --> 00:35:49,560
Speaker 1: it like, okay, now I wasn't a girlfriend, just like

617
00:35:49,680 --> 00:35:52,600
Speaker 1: an experience. I wonder how many virginities she took because

618
00:35:52,680 --> 00:35:56,480
Speaker 1: this girl says didn't happen again? Was that the only

619
00:35:56,560 --> 00:36:05,520
Speaker 1: time you and her? With you and her and the no,

620
00:36:05,680 --> 00:36:10,480
Speaker 1: of course not but with her was one and when

621
00:36:10,520 --> 00:36:14,080
Speaker 1: she wanted from you and moved on? Oh man, all right,

622
00:36:14,160 --> 00:36:18,400
Speaker 1: now we have I have a question. What age do

623
00:36:18,520 --> 00:36:22,680
Speaker 1: you think you stop the being promiscuous like being a

624
00:36:22,719 --> 00:36:24,520
Speaker 1: good guy? When when did you start being a good guy?

625
00:36:26,080 --> 00:36:28,480
Speaker 1: You know what? You know? I never stopped being a

626
00:36:28,560 --> 00:36:32,919
Speaker 1: good guy, being a good guy, like your whole face,

627
00:36:34,120 --> 00:36:39,640
Speaker 1: like yeah, like when you were so you don't know

628
00:36:39,760 --> 00:36:43,000
Speaker 1: the age. You don't know the age. There really was

629
00:36:43,160 --> 00:36:45,759
Speaker 1: no age. It was really just it was really just

630
00:36:45,880 --> 00:36:49,480
Speaker 1: a progression of experiences that led to a revelation that

631
00:36:49,680 --> 00:36:52,680
Speaker 1: if I ever wanted anything, if I ever wanted anything

632
00:36:52,760 --> 00:36:56,880
Speaker 1: that was going to be real, that I had stop that,

633
00:36:57,840 --> 00:36:59,839
Speaker 1: you know what I mean? And that took some time,

634
00:37:00,160 --> 00:37:02,239
Speaker 1: right okay, and put all that together, because to treat

635
00:37:02,280 --> 00:37:05,400
Speaker 1: somebody in order for you to be treated well, you

636
00:37:05,480 --> 00:37:08,040
Speaker 1: have to treat somebody well, you know, you also have

637
00:37:08,120 --> 00:37:10,480
Speaker 1: to be treating well too. You know, it ain't like

638
00:37:11,000 --> 00:37:13,040
Speaker 1: men are dealing with an army of girls that don't cheat.

639
00:37:13,800 --> 00:37:17,399
Speaker 1: What who? It ain't like like, it ain't like guys

640
00:37:21,640 --> 00:37:24,200
Speaker 1: like hey, you know what I mean? That seems to

641
00:37:24,239 --> 00:37:25,959
Speaker 1: be That seems to be the question that we're asked

642
00:37:25,960 --> 00:37:27,920
Speaker 1: a lot, you know what I mean. That's yeah, that

643
00:37:27,960 --> 00:37:29,560
Speaker 1: seems to be the question that women ask, you know,

644
00:37:29,960 --> 00:37:37,520
Speaker 1: when you're gonna be When did you finally start? That's it.

645
00:37:37,640 --> 00:37:39,440
Speaker 1: That seems to be the question that we always get

646
00:37:39,560 --> 00:37:49,960
Speaker 1: when did you finally when did you? But never but

647
00:37:50,200 --> 00:37:52,879
Speaker 1: never gets asked the other way around. You know. One

648
00:37:52,920 --> 00:37:54,560
Speaker 1: of the things that one of the things that we

649
00:37:54,680 --> 00:37:58,440
Speaker 1: got to deal with is the fact that you know,

650
00:37:58,800 --> 00:38:03,440
Speaker 1: this is opinion, is the fact that you know, we're

651
00:38:03,520 --> 00:38:09,120
Speaker 1: just stupid. You know, we were and were careless agree

652
00:38:09,160 --> 00:38:10,799
Speaker 1: with that you do something like that. We won't worry

653
00:38:10,800 --> 00:38:13,040
Speaker 1: about nobody's feeling or whatever. We're just gonna go for whatever.

654
00:38:13,960 --> 00:38:16,560
Speaker 1: But women are a little bit more calculated, you know,

655
00:38:16,800 --> 00:38:18,359
Speaker 1: and a little to me, a little bit more slick.

656
00:38:18,440 --> 00:38:20,439
Speaker 1: You might not never know, and I think women cheat

657
00:38:20,480 --> 00:38:24,440
Speaker 1: for different reasons. Than men too, and not even just

658
00:38:24,600 --> 00:38:27,640
Speaker 1: cheat or even have more say they're not in a relationship.

659
00:38:27,680 --> 00:38:29,800
Speaker 1: I'll tell me about that. So I would feel like

660
00:38:29,840 --> 00:38:31,960
Speaker 1: a woman would deal. Well, you can say why they cheated,

661
00:38:32,000 --> 00:38:33,520
Speaker 1: you can say why they cheat, But I think why

662
00:38:33,600 --> 00:38:35,719
Speaker 1: a woman would deal with more than one man is

663
00:38:35,840 --> 00:38:40,000
Speaker 1: because men are showing that they're not seriously as certain

664
00:38:40,040 --> 00:38:43,080
Speaker 1: men in their life, Like I'm going to emulate what

665
00:38:43,280 --> 00:38:45,480
Speaker 1: the man is doing because obviously I don't want to

666
00:38:45,520 --> 00:38:47,560
Speaker 1: put all my feelings, all my age in this back

667
00:38:48,440 --> 00:38:50,360
Speaker 1: doing everything. So I was like, I guess this is

668
00:38:50,400 --> 00:38:57,400
Speaker 1: the thing to do, but like the man personally, I

669
00:38:57,480 --> 00:39:02,480
Speaker 1: feel like I slowed down, like Swanny nine thirty. I

670
00:39:02,600 --> 00:39:06,000
Speaker 1: feel like I'm tired now. I'm so tired to do

671
00:39:06,280 --> 00:39:08,400
Speaker 1: a lot of guys. I don't. I have too much

672
00:39:08,480 --> 00:39:11,160
Speaker 1: a d D To be talking to so many different

673
00:39:11,200 --> 00:39:14,520
Speaker 1: guys like just one it's fine, and he gets on

674
00:39:14,600 --> 00:39:17,400
Speaker 1: my nerves and then I'll go to another one. Like

675
00:39:17,560 --> 00:39:20,600
Speaker 1: my grand My grandfather used to say to me, if

676
00:39:20,640 --> 00:39:23,280
Speaker 1: everybody liked the same things, everybody be chasing after your grandma.

677
00:39:23,680 --> 00:39:28,000
Speaker 1: You know, we all different, you know we all you know,

678
00:39:28,719 --> 00:39:32,440
Speaker 1: can't one experience, you know, trump the other you know,

679
00:39:32,719 --> 00:39:35,920
Speaker 1: everybody on this on this dag on thing, this this

680
00:39:36,120 --> 00:39:38,680
Speaker 1: thing that turns you know, we did not become a

681
00:39:38,800 --> 00:39:44,360
Speaker 1: billion people deserve, you know, but being pious, you know

682
00:39:44,400 --> 00:39:46,000
Speaker 1: what I mean, it's just a natural thing. And you

683
00:39:46,080 --> 00:39:48,920
Speaker 1: find out what's good for you. You find out what's

684
00:39:48,920 --> 00:39:51,000
Speaker 1: good for you, you know what I mean, and what

685
00:39:51,120 --> 00:39:53,800
Speaker 1: works for you, and that's the comfortability. You know. Some

686
00:39:53,880 --> 00:39:56,440
Speaker 1: people don't want to be married. That's not that that's

687
00:39:56,480 --> 00:39:58,320
Speaker 1: not the life that they want. I mean, or some

688
00:39:58,440 --> 00:40:01,480
Speaker 1: people got married before say that's not for me. Some

689
00:40:01,600 --> 00:40:03,200
Speaker 1: people might have messed up a marriage and said, you

690
00:40:03,200 --> 00:40:04,880
Speaker 1: know what, I can do that better the next time around.

691
00:40:05,360 --> 00:40:07,320
Speaker 1: But some people will convince you that they want to

692
00:40:07,360 --> 00:40:11,480
Speaker 1: be married and they don't. What happened girl, Yeah, she's

693
00:40:11,480 --> 00:40:15,960
Speaker 1: going I'm going through a situation. It just happened like

694
00:40:16,320 --> 00:40:20,839
Speaker 1: yesterday the day before. So like with me, yeah, it's new.

695
00:40:21,040 --> 00:40:24,799
Speaker 1: So you're the enemy right now if anything. And I'm

696
00:40:24,920 --> 00:40:26,719
Speaker 1: taking things that you know what I mean, because I

697
00:40:26,840 --> 00:40:30,120
Speaker 1: know how to listen and learn as well, because when

698
00:40:30,160 --> 00:40:32,560
Speaker 1: you go through certain things, you want to just see.

699
00:40:32,640 --> 00:40:36,600
Speaker 1: Obviously everybody has been through trains, through things. And since

700
00:40:36,600 --> 00:40:40,600
Speaker 1: you're a man, you have a different perspective obviously, and um,

701
00:40:40,840 --> 00:40:44,120
Speaker 1: it's just weird because a person will let you believe

702
00:40:44,920 --> 00:40:46,839
Speaker 1: that they want the same things as you to keep

703
00:40:46,880 --> 00:40:49,360
Speaker 1: you around, you know, and then they'll be like a

704
00:40:49,440 --> 00:40:51,439
Speaker 1: different person with somebody else. I don't know the person

705
00:40:51,520 --> 00:40:53,680
Speaker 1: they are with anybody else, and I don't care. But

706
00:40:53,840 --> 00:40:57,240
Speaker 1: what I'm saying, you're you're I think, like a certain

707
00:40:57,320 --> 00:41:00,040
Speaker 1: person to me. Why you know what I mean? And

708
00:41:00,040 --> 00:41:01,800
Speaker 1: said it just being yourself. That's why it's hard to

709
00:41:01,840 --> 00:41:07,439
Speaker 1: be with an actor. And I feel like I'm such

710
00:41:07,440 --> 00:41:10,680
Speaker 1: an honest and forgiving person. I feel like I'm very forgiving.

711
00:41:10,960 --> 00:41:13,120
Speaker 1: And you could tell me you don't have to pretend

712
00:41:13,239 --> 00:41:15,600
Speaker 1: that you want to marry me for me to be around.

713
00:41:15,960 --> 00:41:21,120
Speaker 1: I respect you more from being this problem. The problem

714
00:41:21,239 --> 00:41:23,439
Speaker 1: is with men is that they feel like every woman

715
00:41:23,520 --> 00:41:25,800
Speaker 1: wants the same thing. They feel like every woman is

716
00:41:25,840 --> 00:41:27,880
Speaker 1: looking for marriage, every woman is looking for a commitment.

717
00:41:27,920 --> 00:41:30,600
Speaker 1: Every woman is looking to have their man's only mine.

718
00:41:30,640 --> 00:41:32,480
Speaker 1: He's mine, he's mine, he's mine. So they come at

719
00:41:32,560 --> 00:41:33,759
Speaker 1: you with this is what I have to do in

720
00:41:33,840 --> 00:41:36,239
Speaker 1: order to get her. So they go to they go

721
00:41:36,400 --> 00:41:38,279
Speaker 1: through this. Okay, well I'm gonna tell her this this

722
00:41:38,360 --> 00:41:39,520
Speaker 1: that in the third because I know this is what

723
00:41:39,640 --> 00:41:41,680
Speaker 1: she wants to hear. But what they don't realize is

724
00:41:41,719 --> 00:41:43,920
Speaker 1: there's woman out here who don't really care to be

725
00:41:44,200 --> 00:41:47,480
Speaker 1: with one person forever or don't really care to just

726
00:41:48,200 --> 00:41:50,920
Speaker 1: be with a guy to just for marriage. Like um So,

727
00:41:51,239 --> 00:41:53,520
Speaker 1: instead of keeping it real and letting a woman decide

728
00:41:53,640 --> 00:41:55,880
Speaker 1: what she wants or telling them what she wants, they

729
00:41:55,960 --> 00:41:57,719
Speaker 1: put everybody in the same box and then she just

730
00:41:57,800 --> 00:41:59,839
Speaker 1: don't work out. And I also felt like, it's okay,

731
00:42:00,040 --> 00:42:02,880
Speaker 1: you don't want that stuff. But if as a woman

732
00:42:03,080 --> 00:42:05,799
Speaker 1: you can want that stuff. But if you said don't

733
00:42:05,880 --> 00:42:08,400
Speaker 1: want that, don't sell me a dream just because you

734
00:42:08,440 --> 00:42:10,880
Speaker 1: want me, you know what I mean, Allow me to

735
00:42:11,200 --> 00:42:16,160
Speaker 1: make the decision on with you. Yeah, I like, let me,

736
00:42:16,480 --> 00:42:19,359
Speaker 1: let me choose, like make my choice, let me use

737
00:42:19,400 --> 00:42:21,040
Speaker 1: what I want to be a jass in it like

738
00:42:21,160 --> 00:42:24,760
Speaker 1: you're gonna, oh, we're gonna get married x y Z time,

739
00:42:24,960 --> 00:42:27,680
Speaker 1: and mean, while it's not even in your head. Yeah,

740
00:42:29,920 --> 00:42:37,640
Speaker 1: have an opinion. He's like, I got we need you. Okay,

741
00:42:38,320 --> 00:42:42,359
Speaker 1: it's a main ingredient. It's a main ingredient. Okay. Main

742
00:42:42,520 --> 00:42:45,880
Speaker 1: ingredient being being a group from the seventies, right, And

743
00:42:45,960 --> 00:42:53,440
Speaker 1: they said, everybody play plays the food, hold on the time,

744
00:42:53,520 --> 00:42:59,600
Speaker 1: hold on, there's no exception to the room. Listen hey

745
00:43:00,160 --> 00:43:07,360
Speaker 1: maybe fact you maybe, but I can't lie. And everybody

746
00:43:07,880 --> 00:43:13,080
Speaker 1: pleasing food now hold on song that music starts to play,

747
00:43:15,160 --> 00:43:23,080
Speaker 1: and your ability to reason just when you throw it

748
00:43:23,120 --> 00:43:24,680
Speaker 1: all away and you're like, hey, I'm gonna go with

749
00:43:24,719 --> 00:43:32,879
Speaker 1: you the next night because he goes high next. All right, well,

750
00:43:32,960 --> 00:43:35,600
Speaker 1: since reasoning advice. Now, somebody emailed in a question, so

751
00:43:35,719 --> 00:43:37,800
Speaker 1: we went to your advice. We're going off the internet,

752
00:43:38,800 --> 00:43:41,040
Speaker 1: all right, So this is ask the service question. I

753
00:43:41,120 --> 00:43:43,239
Speaker 1: hope you can help me out. My boyfriend and I

754
00:43:43,320 --> 00:43:45,279
Speaker 1: have been dating for some time and we are having

755
00:43:45,360 --> 00:43:47,960
Speaker 1: some concerns, concerns with my ability to have an orgasm.

756
00:43:48,360 --> 00:43:50,200
Speaker 1: He got kind of sad about it because he thought

757
00:43:50,239 --> 00:43:52,719
Speaker 1: that I wasn't being pleased because he's not able to

758
00:43:52,760 --> 00:43:54,919
Speaker 1: give me an orgasm. Even if we're go on several

759
00:43:55,000 --> 00:43:57,160
Speaker 1: rounds back to back, I still have trouble. I know

760
00:43:57,280 --> 00:43:59,480
Speaker 1: this might be t m I, but his size is perfect.

761
00:43:59,520 --> 00:44:01,680
Speaker 1: He has a nice curve, which that that would be

762
00:44:01,680 --> 00:44:03,680
Speaker 1: a benefit. But here we are to be honest. I've

763
00:44:03,719 --> 00:44:05,680
Speaker 1: never had a guy give me one unless I'm on top,

764
00:44:05,960 --> 00:44:09,280
Speaker 1: and I get myself there. So is this common? Should

765
00:44:09,280 --> 00:44:11,520
Speaker 1: I stop using my vibrator due to the possibility of

766
00:44:11,600 --> 00:44:14,160
Speaker 1: becoming desensitized? And what are some things we can do

767
00:44:14,239 --> 00:44:15,920
Speaker 1: in order for him to give me an orgasm? We've

768
00:44:15,960 --> 00:44:18,760
Speaker 1: tried a vibrator for play and oral is that question

769
00:44:18,800 --> 00:44:29,879
Speaker 1: for me? Yeah? What work? Hold on? Hold on? Hold

770
00:44:29,880 --> 00:44:32,759
Speaker 1: on now? Can you do what the section need to say? Okay?

771
00:44:32,840 --> 00:44:36,239
Speaker 1: So the advice is okay. She wants to know um

772
00:44:37,360 --> 00:44:39,480
Speaker 1: about her ability to have an orgasm. She'd only get

773
00:44:39,480 --> 00:44:41,320
Speaker 1: it if she's on top, and she does it herself.

774
00:44:41,440 --> 00:44:47,239
Speaker 1: So I guess one. No, he can't give You can't

775
00:44:47,280 --> 00:44:50,480
Speaker 1: give her and give it to herself. So she goes

776
00:44:50,520 --> 00:44:52,960
Speaker 1: on top, grimes on him. She probably plays with herself

777
00:44:52,960 --> 00:44:54,759
Speaker 1: a little and that's how she why she need him

778
00:44:54,800 --> 00:44:57,600
Speaker 1: there if he didn't have part in it. She likes it,

779
00:44:57,719 --> 00:45:01,279
Speaker 1: but she just isn't orgasming and it's making him feel bad. No,

780
00:45:01,440 --> 00:45:03,360
Speaker 1: but she can go and do that. To do that

781
00:45:03,440 --> 00:45:06,920
Speaker 1: in corner where you lay there, come on now to

782
00:45:07,000 --> 00:45:13,520
Speaker 1: make it. Tell me have you given every woman? Because

783
00:45:14,239 --> 00:45:17,480
Speaker 1: the answers even if you thought the answer the answer

784
00:45:17,560 --> 00:45:19,719
Speaker 1: is I don't really know, but you know I don't.

785
00:45:19,719 --> 00:45:21,680
Speaker 1: I don't don't write, I don't. I don't go into

786
00:45:21,719 --> 00:45:24,000
Speaker 1: the situation going okay, now, how many of them are

787
00:45:24,080 --> 00:45:27,960
Speaker 1: gonna get here? But but but but the thing is here.

788
00:45:28,360 --> 00:45:30,759
Speaker 1: The thing is here, you know. Or my advice to

789
00:45:30,880 --> 00:45:35,440
Speaker 1: her would be, you know, don't tell us tell him

790
00:45:36,000 --> 00:45:38,759
Speaker 1: and that would be my advice. But she did just

791
00:45:38,880 --> 00:45:41,560
Speaker 1: sad about it, you know, not tell him that he's

792
00:45:41,560 --> 00:45:43,239
Speaker 1: not making it heap and tell him how to make

793
00:45:43,280 --> 00:45:47,919
Speaker 1: it happenn't, don't. Don't tell your lives. Don't tell lies

794
00:45:47,920 --> 00:45:53,600
Speaker 1: to tell me him. But sher house. It's like if

795
00:45:53,640 --> 00:45:58,719
Speaker 1: you want somebody to come in your house. She was,

796
00:46:00,360 --> 00:46:04,839
Speaker 1: I don't know what I'm sair. The house is the house. Sorry,

797
00:46:04,920 --> 00:46:07,160
Speaker 1: our house in the middle of the street. Our house

798
00:46:07,680 --> 00:46:10,520
Speaker 1: in the middle of the street, in the house that's

799
00:46:10,560 --> 00:46:12,800
Speaker 1: for the white board back there. They know what it is.

800
00:46:12,840 --> 00:46:16,080
Speaker 1: See they're going to there, They're going, they're going, yeah,

801
00:46:16,280 --> 00:46:21,480
Speaker 1: see white people know that our house in the middle

802
00:46:21,560 --> 00:46:22,920
Speaker 1: of the street. You know what the middle of the

803
00:46:22,960 --> 00:46:27,080
Speaker 1: street is. I'm not making it about. I just know

804
00:46:27,200 --> 00:46:29,800
Speaker 1: what I know. I just know what I just I know.

805
00:46:29,920 --> 00:46:33,400
Speaker 1: Somebody comes in your house in the middle of the

806
00:46:33,840 --> 00:46:37,600
Speaker 1: right or your house can be in the middle. You know,

807
00:46:37,640 --> 00:46:38,879
Speaker 1: you don't want to do it in the middle of street.

808
00:46:39,320 --> 00:46:40,640
Speaker 1: You'd rather do it in the house. But if it's

809
00:46:40,680 --> 00:46:43,279
Speaker 1: our house in the middle of the street, okay. So

810
00:46:44,239 --> 00:46:46,120
Speaker 1: if you if you want something done in your house

811
00:46:46,880 --> 00:46:49,200
Speaker 1: and you want it done right, you want it done

812
00:46:49,480 --> 00:46:52,120
Speaker 1: exactly the way that you want it. You guys aren't

813
00:46:52,120 --> 00:46:54,480
Speaker 1: shy about that. You say no, no, no, no, no,

814
00:46:54,600 --> 00:46:56,080
Speaker 1: that's not what I want. I don't want it. I

815
00:46:56,120 --> 00:46:59,280
Speaker 1: want I want I want it to be painted Oh sorry,

816
00:46:59,719 --> 00:47:03,080
Speaker 1: I want it to be painted purple. But I want

817
00:47:03,120 --> 00:47:05,719
Speaker 1: the framing to be white. And you and then you

818
00:47:05,800 --> 00:47:07,759
Speaker 1: start with different. No, but I don't want that kind

819
00:47:07,760 --> 00:47:10,840
Speaker 1: of white. I want to I want like an eracer

820
00:47:11,840 --> 00:47:14,120
Speaker 1: kind of white, not like not like a hospital white.

821
00:47:14,360 --> 00:47:16,799
Speaker 1: You know, you know exactly what you want. So if

822
00:47:16,840 --> 00:47:19,640
Speaker 1: you're if you're seeking, you know, a result that you

823
00:47:19,719 --> 00:47:21,960
Speaker 1: can't get, then I guess the best thing that you

824
00:47:22,040 --> 00:47:26,279
Speaker 1: can do in any situation is to communicate the specifics

825
00:47:27,000 --> 00:47:30,239
Speaker 1: so you can help the person help you. Well, she

826
00:47:30,400 --> 00:47:33,359
Speaker 1: did say that they tried different things. She said they've

827
00:47:33,440 --> 00:47:37,160
Speaker 1: tried UM four play, they've tried oral, and she also

828
00:47:37,239 --> 00:47:39,600
Speaker 1: said it wasn't the only man that this happened, and

829
00:47:40,080 --> 00:47:44,120
Speaker 1: I think she should do She should, you know, practice throbbing,

830
00:47:44,239 --> 00:47:49,759
Speaker 1: you know, a little keygel action and it because you're

831
00:47:49,800 --> 00:47:54,640
Speaker 1: getting she's coming anyway. She's coming anyway, So just just

832
00:47:54,800 --> 00:48:00,320
Speaker 1: to make him feel you feel coming, and and you

833
00:48:00,360 --> 00:48:02,759
Speaker 1: could beat you can take it, oh, and then get

834
00:48:02,800 --> 00:48:05,839
Speaker 1: on top, do your thing. He find that he's sad.

835
00:48:10,320 --> 00:48:15,960
Speaker 1: He might happen, but then you might wake up and

836
00:48:16,040 --> 00:48:21,239
Speaker 1: marks are all over you and you don't know what happened. Yeah,

837
00:48:21,360 --> 00:48:25,000
Speaker 1: I think I think that I think that she should

838
00:48:25,000 --> 00:48:27,200
Speaker 1: spend some alone time with herself and get to know herself.

839
00:48:27,239 --> 00:48:29,319
Speaker 1: The problem is she's spending too much A long time.

840
00:48:29,360 --> 00:48:33,200
Speaker 1: Did you vibrate? Said? Should I stopped using? I didn't

841
00:48:33,239 --> 00:48:35,200
Speaker 1: say she should use a vibe note there's other ways

842
00:48:35,239 --> 00:48:36,840
Speaker 1: for you to get Yeah, there's other ways for you

843
00:48:36,880 --> 00:48:40,040
Speaker 1: to get there without using the vibrator. But but there's

844
00:48:40,040 --> 00:48:42,960
Speaker 1: also two different types of organs. There's an internal on

845
00:48:43,000 --> 00:48:46,120
Speaker 1: an external. So she's probably provided she said, to her sensitivity.

846
00:48:46,360 --> 00:48:48,440
Speaker 1: So if she's using the vibrator on her clitteress and

847
00:48:48,520 --> 00:48:50,799
Speaker 1: she's having those type of orgasms, but then she wants

848
00:48:50,840 --> 00:48:53,520
Speaker 1: an internal orgasm from the d Okay, okay, you guys.

849
00:48:53,800 --> 00:48:55,320
Speaker 1: I know you guys got a lot of ways that

850
00:48:55,400 --> 00:48:58,279
Speaker 1: that thing works. We just got one way. Y'all got

851
00:48:58,320 --> 00:49:01,680
Speaker 1: all this so so. But but I think I think

852
00:49:01,800 --> 00:49:06,080
Speaker 1: this is a subjective. Well she asked for my advice, Yeah,

853
00:49:06,640 --> 00:49:11,480
Speaker 1: I think I I think the best way because obviously

854
00:49:11,560 --> 00:49:14,840
Speaker 1: she likes him, she does, she likes him him to

855
00:49:14,880 --> 00:49:17,040
Speaker 1: feel bad that he can't do it. So I think

856
00:49:17,080 --> 00:49:18,839
Speaker 1: the best way that the best way that she can

857
00:49:18,880 --> 00:49:22,680
Speaker 1: deal with it is just to communicate to him. Community,

858
00:49:22,880 --> 00:49:26,319
Speaker 1: communicate to him what she wants, you know, in the moment. Well,

859
00:49:26,400 --> 00:49:30,200
Speaker 1: that's intimacy, m You know, Intimacy isn't just the action

860
00:49:30,280 --> 00:49:34,279
Speaker 1: of recent climax or whatever. Intimacy is reaching a place

861
00:49:34,440 --> 00:49:38,040
Speaker 1: for both of you where you feel so uninhibited that

862
00:49:38,200 --> 00:49:42,520
Speaker 1: you feel this this elation, this joy, this ultimate connection.

863
00:49:43,120 --> 00:49:45,640
Speaker 1: How are you gonna get that connection if you don't communicate,

864
00:49:46,400 --> 00:49:48,520
Speaker 1: He doesn't know and how's he going to do it?

865
00:49:48,719 --> 00:49:50,920
Speaker 1: She should also think about things that helped her get

866
00:49:51,000 --> 00:49:52,840
Speaker 1: there and stop thinking about the fact that she is

867
00:49:52,880 --> 00:49:55,800
Speaker 1: not happening and think about what y'all come up with?

868
00:49:55,880 --> 00:50:00,920
Speaker 1: Something else? We do him not I'm the only one ever.

869
00:50:01,480 --> 00:50:05,200
Speaker 1: Everybody you're saying you but as a woman that if

870
00:50:05,239 --> 00:50:09,320
Speaker 1: that thing right there like that, you seem like, you

871
00:50:09,400 --> 00:50:11,759
Speaker 1: know what, that's a good point. Now, let me ask

872
00:50:11,760 --> 00:50:13,840
Speaker 1: you this, right because they always say that women are

873
00:50:13,840 --> 00:50:17,080
Speaker 1: always trying to make ourselves come by focusing, and men

874
00:50:17,120 --> 00:50:19,560
Speaker 1: are always trying to make themselves not come by thinking

875
00:50:19,600 --> 00:50:22,920
Speaker 1: about other things. You think that's true. I think it's

876
00:50:23,000 --> 00:50:26,680
Speaker 1: sickly you ever had to like try to stop yourself

877
00:50:26,719 --> 00:50:32,040
Speaker 1: by thinking about something else? I wonder what, guy? Because guys,

878
00:50:32,080 --> 00:50:35,200
Speaker 1: but I mean, everybody is different. Everybody's different, you know,

879
00:50:35,400 --> 00:50:37,680
Speaker 1: everybody's different. I mean I can't ever come if I

880
00:50:37,800 --> 00:50:40,840
Speaker 1: try to think about it, I won't. I mean, fortunately,

881
00:50:40,880 --> 00:50:43,760
Speaker 1: You'll got a lot more bullets in the chamber always

882
00:50:43,800 --> 00:50:48,640
Speaker 1: like you know, you know, it's not everybody everybody different.

883
00:50:48,680 --> 00:50:52,000
Speaker 1: You know, I have one bullet, you know, Yeah, I

884
00:50:52,160 --> 00:50:57,319
Speaker 1: just it all comes down to the individual. Yeah, exactly. Yeah.

885
00:50:57,440 --> 00:51:00,120
Speaker 1: For me, whenever like I'm whenever i'm getting or I

886
00:51:00,239 --> 00:51:02,279
Speaker 1: think about porn, I think about, like the best porn

887
00:51:02,400 --> 00:51:04,680
Speaker 1: scene that I've seen in a while, And that makes me,

888
00:51:04,760 --> 00:51:07,399
Speaker 1: what's the best one you've seen in a while. She's

889
00:51:07,440 --> 00:51:10,480
Speaker 1: not going to say she almost and then she put

890
00:51:11,800 --> 00:51:19,759
Speaker 1: every definitely I would. I'm gonna go and she's not

891
00:51:19,840 --> 00:51:22,920
Speaker 1: gonna say that the best and Bruce is all over

892
00:51:23,000 --> 00:51:26,239
Speaker 1: her body, she can't find her phone, her person in

893
00:51:26,320 --> 00:51:29,399
Speaker 1: a bed with her. The ways to be thinking about

894
00:51:29,480 --> 00:51:31,960
Speaker 1: right now? When am I thinking about? Now? The show? No,

895
00:51:32,160 --> 00:51:36,200
Speaker 1: the best porn She's not going to say is the

896
00:51:36,800 --> 00:51:40,920
Speaker 1: scene I said, Cornio, I watched gay porn and like

897
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Speaker 1: it's like three guys they're all together and they're sucking

898
00:51:44,640 --> 00:51:46,600
Speaker 1: on each other and they're sucking on each other. See,

899
00:51:46,640 --> 00:51:52,719
Speaker 1: I've never that is what I like. I know I

900
00:51:52,800 --> 00:51:55,120
Speaker 1: knew and I knew that, and y'all forced her to

901
00:51:55,200 --> 00:51:59,120
Speaker 1: say that. I know not y'all forced her. Don't let

902
00:51:59,200 --> 00:52:05,479
Speaker 1: her say it, y'all. We usually have in common, like dicks,

903
00:52:05,520 --> 00:52:08,839
Speaker 1: and I know that's my second goal. Yeah, lately I've

904
00:52:08,880 --> 00:52:13,279
Speaker 1: been watching gay porn all right, But before everybody, you know,

905
00:52:14,760 --> 00:52:19,160
Speaker 1: everybody and everybody's fine, dark skinned goes and they look

906
00:52:19,400 --> 00:52:22,600
Speaker 1: good out with and they'd be like what And I'm

907
00:52:22,600 --> 00:52:26,600
Speaker 1: be like, have you seen those those barbaras? Oh my god?

908
00:52:26,680 --> 00:52:32,360
Speaker 1: That ship is so so living in color, living but

909
00:52:32,520 --> 00:52:39,480
Speaker 1: living in color. The book is about it's it's amazing read. Yeah,

910
00:52:43,120 --> 00:52:49,480
Speaker 1: we can in either the heterosexual box one time, just once, okay,

911
00:52:49,520 --> 00:52:51,279
Speaker 1: because I know back in the day they always used

912
00:52:51,280 --> 00:52:53,480
Speaker 1: to be like so and so in the industry, they

913
00:52:53,520 --> 00:52:55,759
Speaker 1: all but like there ever a time where someone in

914
00:52:55,800 --> 00:52:58,440
Speaker 1: the industry, a man hit on you and you had

915
00:52:58,520 --> 00:53:01,600
Speaker 1: to shut them down. That's every man, oh my god,

916
00:53:02,600 --> 00:53:07,120
Speaker 1: all of us. Any man that's attract another famous man though,

917
00:53:07,680 --> 00:53:09,200
Speaker 1: And I'm not saying don't say his name or I'm

918
00:53:09,200 --> 00:53:12,520
Speaker 1: not asking for that. He said, that's never happened, all right,

919
00:53:12,640 --> 00:53:15,680
Speaker 1: because it has happened. That's happened to every man. Is

920
00:53:15,719 --> 00:53:17,520
Speaker 1: it awkward, like did you have to work with the

921
00:53:17,600 --> 00:53:20,160
Speaker 1: person after that? And was it awkward for you? I

922
00:53:20,640 --> 00:53:22,880
Speaker 1: don't think it's I don't think it's awkward for for

923
00:53:22,960 --> 00:53:25,719
Speaker 1: head or sexual men at all, you know what I mean.

924
00:53:25,760 --> 00:53:27,239
Speaker 1: I don't think it's award at all. It's just a

925
00:53:27,320 --> 00:53:30,440
Speaker 1: simple fact, you know. I think men are really factual.

926
00:53:30,760 --> 00:53:32,560
Speaker 1: You know. It's the same as I like, you know,

927
00:53:32,680 --> 00:53:35,440
Speaker 1: that's that's not me. You know. It's the same as

928
00:53:35,480 --> 00:53:36,800
Speaker 1: if a woman tries to hit on you, you know,

929
00:53:36,960 --> 00:53:38,560
Speaker 1: like I'm sure, yeah, but I think it's just a

930
00:53:38,600 --> 00:53:41,800
Speaker 1: little different because guys are supposed like so more macho.

931
00:53:42,000 --> 00:53:44,560
Speaker 1: So I think it would even take a man a

932
00:53:44,640 --> 00:53:47,160
Speaker 1: little bit more time to ask a man or approach

933
00:53:47,239 --> 00:53:49,560
Speaker 1: a man than a woman, Like I say, take a

934
00:53:49,600 --> 00:53:54,040
Speaker 1: little more risk. Risk is risk. But I mean, you know,

935
00:53:54,200 --> 00:53:58,160
Speaker 1: like any you know this is my opinion, you know,

936
00:53:58,280 --> 00:54:00,680
Speaker 1: any you do this cool? And or where he is,

937
00:54:01,480 --> 00:54:05,480
Speaker 1: he's not going to like breaks my nose, right as

938
00:54:05,480 --> 00:54:08,200
Speaker 1: long as nobody that's not appropriate, you know that's not

939
00:54:08,320 --> 00:54:10,120
Speaker 1: me and just kind of leave it at that. You know,

940
00:54:10,719 --> 00:54:14,560
Speaker 1: was there ever any in Living color porn? You know

941
00:54:14,600 --> 00:54:26,160
Speaker 1: how they do spoof? Not right now? Right there, keep

942
00:54:26,200 --> 00:54:28,320
Speaker 1: that right there. I'm not looking at that. It is

943
00:54:28,400 --> 00:54:34,800
Speaker 1: this definitely is. Can you show me and they to

944
00:54:34,800 --> 00:54:41,560
Speaker 1: have a head detective? Oh that makes sense. That's so funny,

945
00:54:42,880 --> 00:54:46,480
Speaker 1: look at it. What else would be a really good

946
00:54:46,560 --> 00:54:49,719
Speaker 1: thing with. Yeah, let's come up with something like y'all

947
00:54:49,719 --> 00:54:56,719
Speaker 1: go ahead. I got my book right here, y'all right now,

948
00:54:56,800 --> 00:54:58,279
Speaker 1: but thank you so much for joining us. I know

949
00:54:58,360 --> 00:55:03,239
Speaker 1: you have a lot going on and we do appreciate it. Listen, listen,

950
00:55:03,920 --> 00:55:07,880
Speaker 1: listen listen. No no, no, no, no no. The reason

951
00:55:07,960 --> 00:55:10,640
Speaker 1: why I did this book, The reason why I did

952
00:55:10,719 --> 00:55:13,600
Speaker 1: this book is because this book is like for everybody.

953
00:55:14,360 --> 00:55:17,080
Speaker 1: You know, when I just when I discovered that, you know,

954
00:55:17,640 --> 00:55:21,680
Speaker 1: that I was black and my family is white, and

955
00:55:21,800 --> 00:55:24,080
Speaker 1: I love them, you know, And that was like the

956
00:55:24,160 --> 00:55:26,200
Speaker 1: worst day of my life when I found that out,

957
00:55:26,280 --> 00:55:28,880
Speaker 1: because I was like, you know, how could people be

958
00:55:29,040 --> 00:55:32,120
Speaker 1: so stupid that they let something as simple as color

959
00:55:33,440 --> 00:55:37,640
Speaker 1: separate them. But as I started, and so at that age,

960
00:55:37,800 --> 00:55:40,520
Speaker 1: like five, I started really seeking out the answer to

961
00:55:40,800 --> 00:55:43,560
Speaker 1: questions like that, and the question just started getting bigger.

962
00:55:44,040 --> 00:55:47,480
Speaker 1: How can people with money or how can people do

963
00:55:47,880 --> 00:55:51,440
Speaker 1: things to people over money? Or how can people do

964
00:55:51,600 --> 00:55:55,480
Speaker 1: things to people over relationships? Or how can people do this?

965
00:55:55,680 --> 00:55:57,600
Speaker 1: Or how can people do that? That can be? And

966
00:55:57,960 --> 00:56:01,360
Speaker 1: after a little while I stopped asking why and just

967
00:56:01,800 --> 00:56:09,399
Speaker 1: putting into an index all of the reasons that life

968
00:56:09,520 --> 00:56:13,239
Speaker 1: is good and all of the reasons that you can

969
00:56:13,320 --> 00:56:16,560
Speaker 1: be happy, you know, and all the things that I

970
00:56:16,680 --> 00:56:19,560
Speaker 1: went through, all of the experiences that I had, I

971
00:56:19,680 --> 00:56:22,920
Speaker 1: took them and put it in a place where if

972
00:56:22,960 --> 00:56:26,600
Speaker 1: you're ever in a situation where you don't know where

973
00:56:26,600 --> 00:56:29,439
Speaker 1: you're gonna turn emotionally, or you don't know you don't

974
00:56:29,560 --> 00:56:33,040
Speaker 1: know how you feel about something that's coming around the corner,

975
00:56:33,320 --> 00:56:36,600
Speaker 1: are you so scared you saw motherfucking scared to share

976
00:56:36,680 --> 00:56:39,800
Speaker 1: something with somebody, you know what I mean? Or you

977
00:56:39,800 --> 00:56:43,960
Speaker 1: you you lose something that you loved so much. I

978
00:56:44,040 --> 00:56:46,400
Speaker 1: lost my mother. I lost my best friend Keith, he

979
00:56:46,480 --> 00:56:50,120
Speaker 1: got murdered right before it moved to d C. You know,

980
00:56:50,280 --> 00:56:53,000
Speaker 1: or how people do you? How you can love somebody

981
00:56:53,040 --> 00:56:54,440
Speaker 1: and give them everything and they can turn on you

982
00:56:54,960 --> 00:56:57,440
Speaker 1: and and and and and feed you to the sharks.

983
00:56:58,280 --> 00:57:00,680
Speaker 1: You know. I put all of that off in there

984
00:57:01,560 --> 00:57:05,360
Speaker 1: to show how I negotiating my path around there and

985
00:57:05,480 --> 00:57:08,560
Speaker 1: it was able to maintain happy and was able to

986
00:57:08,680 --> 00:57:13,040
Speaker 1: maintain growth, and was able to maintain balance within the

987
00:57:13,120 --> 00:57:15,440
Speaker 1: world that I don't have no control over. I know

988
00:57:15,560 --> 00:57:17,520
Speaker 1: one thing. I don't know about no heaven. I don't

989
00:57:17,520 --> 00:57:20,920
Speaker 1: never know hell. But I know about here, and I

990
00:57:21,040 --> 00:57:25,160
Speaker 1: know here. I wasn't in the helicopter with my daughter

991
00:57:25,840 --> 00:57:29,720
Speaker 1: right the other day. And so if I am here

992
00:57:29,760 --> 00:57:33,439
Speaker 1: with you and you were here with me, then that's

993
00:57:33,560 --> 00:57:36,520
Speaker 1: the good part and the other stuff is just life.

994
00:57:37,360 --> 00:57:40,520
Speaker 1: That's where I made the book. Ah, well, that's amazing.

995
00:57:41,640 --> 00:57:44,480
Speaker 1: That is great. And listen if you and for guys,

996
00:57:44,560 --> 00:57:49,640
Speaker 1: if you're fans of Tommy Davidson, fans of Common, your

997
00:57:49,720 --> 00:57:52,960
Speaker 1: fans of anybody that is trying to aspire to something great.

998
00:57:53,000 --> 00:57:55,240
Speaker 1: If you're aspiring to something greater, it is a great

999
00:57:55,280 --> 00:57:57,160
Speaker 1: read for you to get. And you have such a

1000
00:57:57,280 --> 00:58:00,040
Speaker 1: unique background, so it's important for you to see of

1001
00:58:00,160 --> 00:58:02,040
Speaker 1: that story because guess what, there's people out there that

1002
00:58:02,120 --> 00:58:04,800
Speaker 1: are going through similar things, and I'm sure reading a

1003
00:58:04,880 --> 00:58:07,720
Speaker 1: book like Living in Color, they might see themselves in you.

1004
00:58:08,440 --> 00:58:11,080
Speaker 1: Or it might be inspirational for people to say, Okay,

1005
00:58:11,120 --> 00:58:13,160
Speaker 1: I'm about to go and take a risk, and you know,

1006
00:58:13,320 --> 00:58:15,160
Speaker 1: risk it off of something that I know I'm great

1007
00:58:15,200 --> 00:58:18,720
Speaker 1: at and that I love and not care about. Okay,

1008
00:58:18,800 --> 00:58:20,880
Speaker 1: what if this doesn't work, because it has to work,

1009
00:58:21,480 --> 00:58:24,240
Speaker 1: you know, Well, I can't wait to read this book

1010
00:58:24,280 --> 00:58:29,320
Speaker 1: and I get mine. Oh that's yours, that's mine, that's mine,

1011
00:58:30,440 --> 00:58:38,000
Speaker 1: all right, but thank you again. Yes, Tommy Davidson, no more.

1012
00:58:38,200 --> 00:58:41,640
Speaker 1: I'm never drinking again. I recon my drink. I say

1013
00:58:41,640 --> 00:58:43,800
Speaker 1: I'm never drinking again, but I think I'm really not

1014
00:58:44,000 --> 00:58:45,920
Speaker 1: doing too I say that every day. I'm about me

1015
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Speaker 1: a T shirt. Today Show