WEBVTT - Ep. 48 — The Power of Single Moms 0:00:16.160 --> 0:00:18.720 Hey, hey, hey, oh, I haven't said that in a while. 0:00:18.880 --> 0:00:22.279 And we're back Brown Ambition, Manny and Tiffany. We're still 0:00:22.280 --> 0:00:24.320 looking for that intro music. Mandy like I need you 0:00:24.360 --> 0:00:24.959 to do a rap. 0:00:25.400 --> 0:00:26.920 I've kind of moved on. I feel like okay, I 0:00:26.960 --> 0:00:31.159 feel okay. The people like it. I love how you 0:00:31.160 --> 0:00:31.960 got really deep with. 0:00:31.920 --> 0:00:34.400 The Hey hey, I feel like you went a little. 0:00:35.600 --> 0:00:37.320 Very Arry Manilo, Wait. 0:00:37.200 --> 0:00:37.839 Which one? Is it? 0:00:37.960 --> 0:00:38.320 Very white? 0:00:38.360 --> 0:00:41.760 You're very white? Okay I almost said very black, but 0:00:41.760 --> 0:00:43.239 I was like, I'm pretty sure that's how the name. 0:00:47.000 --> 0:00:50.080 So yeah, so some what's buzzy? Well, first of all, 0:00:50.120 --> 0:00:51.840 I have to have to have I saw you posted 0:00:51.880 --> 0:00:55.680 it on our Brown Ambition Facebook page and I literally giggled, 0:00:56.000 --> 0:00:58.640 watched it again, giggled, and send it to everybody. 0:00:58.760 --> 0:01:00.320 Black girl, I know what? 0:01:00.400 --> 0:01:04.120 Do you know? What I mean? So the Today Show all, MG, 0:01:04.440 --> 0:01:06.520 what is happening over there? So do you want to 0:01:06.560 --> 0:01:07.640 tell the story or should I? 0:01:07.800 --> 0:01:09.720 Well, first of all, I didn't know it was just 0:01:09.760 --> 0:01:11.640 it just happened this week. I thought this was like 0:01:11.640 --> 0:01:15.440 an old clip or something, but apparently, poor Savannah Guthrie. 0:01:16.200 --> 0:01:18.959 They did a segment on The Today Show about summer 0:01:19.000 --> 0:01:22.840 hairstyles and you have three beautiful women of color sitting 0:01:22.880 --> 0:01:25.440 on stools and they're about to get one minute hairstyles. 0:01:25.440 --> 0:01:27.360 First of all, you tell any brown woman she can 0:01:27.360 --> 0:01:28.880 do her hair in one minute, and she will tell 0:01:28.880 --> 0:01:30.960 you that it is a lie, a lie, a both 0:01:31.000 --> 0:01:31.959 face lie. 0:01:31.840 --> 0:01:34.200 Unless you have locks, and even then it's just to 0:01:34.200 --> 0:01:35.160 take them out of a point deal. 0:01:35.280 --> 0:01:36.959 I can tell that producer did not do her fact 0:01:37.000 --> 0:01:41.200 checking because data and statistics what I've shown takes at 0:01:41.319 --> 0:01:45.360 least seventeen minutes to get anything resembling a good hairstyle, exactly. 0:01:45.840 --> 0:01:47.920 I digress. Anyway, So you see this woman. I don't 0:01:47.960 --> 0:01:49.920 know who she is or like what her business is, 0:01:50.440 --> 0:01:53.720 you know how she got on national television. But all 0:01:53.760 --> 0:01:55.880 you see is the girl in the middle getting the 0:01:55.920 --> 0:02:00.360 most ridiculous like hairstyle ever, and she's just like talking 0:02:00.400 --> 0:02:02.960 really fast over this poor girl, this poor model's head 0:02:03.000 --> 0:02:06.640 as she's yanking her curls and messing them up, like 0:02:06.920 --> 0:02:08.919 you see. What kills me is you see the expression 0:02:08.960 --> 0:02:11.119 of the model's face and it is like such a 0:02:11.120 --> 0:02:12.440 fake smile, like. 0:02:12.440 --> 0:02:15.440 Yeah, because she knows, she knows she can feel it. 0:02:16.000 --> 0:02:18.040 You know, first of all, she came out there with 0:02:18.080 --> 0:02:18.880 beautiful curls. 0:02:18.880 --> 0:02:20.519 Like it fine. 0:02:20.760 --> 0:02:22.760 It looked fine, and it's all the woman had to 0:02:22.800 --> 0:02:24.960 do was maybe a bobby pin on each side and 0:02:25.000 --> 0:02:26.800 like maybe scooped it up. We would have been good, 0:02:27.200 --> 0:02:30.040 but she forceived no Mandy. When she said I'm gonna 0:02:30.040 --> 0:02:33.720 do a side ponytail, I nearly peed my pants. A 0:02:33.880 --> 0:02:36.680 side ponytail. First of all, what is she five? And 0:02:36.720 --> 0:02:40.560 then she proceeded to pull this girl's this woman's hair 0:02:40.680 --> 0:02:44.320 into the craziest looking and like, you know, she didn't 0:02:44.320 --> 0:02:47.120 have the lengths first of all, for a ponytail. If 0:02:47.160 --> 0:02:49.720 that wasn't bad enough, she took her bag and these 0:02:49.800 --> 0:02:52.720 curls that were already done. There's a you know, like 0:02:52.760 --> 0:02:55.760 if you're gonna like separate a woman of colors curls, 0:02:55.840 --> 0:02:58.480 you do so gingerly, so you keep the bounce. No no, 0:02:58.840 --> 0:03:01.400 she pulled them apart and just frizze them up. I 0:03:02.200 --> 0:03:04.480 literally I couldn't even breathe. I was laughing so hard. 0:03:04.480 --> 0:03:05.800 I was like, I have to send this to everyone. 0:03:06.240 --> 0:03:08.600 I mean, people have been posting it saying Jesus be 0:03:08.639 --> 0:03:11.440 Offence Essence posted it. It was like what is going on? 0:03:12.880 --> 0:03:15.200 But yeah, everyone is like I can't I can't. I 0:03:15.200 --> 0:03:17.239 looked it up. I did some research and I can't. 0:03:17.400 --> 0:03:18.040 I just can't. 0:03:18.280 --> 0:03:20.880 She looks like Patty Mannaise from Doug after she was 0:03:20.919 --> 0:03:21.440 done with her. 0:03:21.639 --> 0:03:22.920 Yes, it's not a cute look. 0:03:24.919 --> 0:03:27.040 Then you just see her face because I have to move. 0:03:27.040 --> 0:03:28.520 It's only supposed to take a minute, right, So they 0:03:28.520 --> 0:03:30.000 go to the next girl and all you see is 0:03:30.000 --> 0:03:32.720 this poor model like being The camera's panning away and 0:03:32.760 --> 0:03:36.160 she's just looking horrified, like what have I allowed to 0:03:36.200 --> 0:03:37.320 be happened to happen to me? 0:03:37.880 --> 0:03:38.520 Yeah? Who? 0:03:39.000 --> 0:03:40.880 Good touch? Bad touch? Everybody? You don't have to stand 0:03:40.960 --> 0:03:43.160 for that. You don't walk off the air. 0:03:43.440 --> 0:03:45.560 Yeah, it's just get up and say I won't. I won't. 0:03:46.600 --> 0:03:48.120 We have to find out who she is. If you're 0:03:48.160 --> 0:03:52.160 out there, hair model, yes, and you want to speak 0:03:52.160 --> 0:03:55.160 your mind, this is a safe split, This is a 0:03:55.200 --> 0:03:55.760 safe space. 0:03:55.920 --> 0:03:59.839 You can do that here. Oh my god. So if 0:03:59.840 --> 0:04:04.160 you are so, I've been letting my dream Dreamcatchers know 0:04:05.000 --> 0:04:07.280 that we are. You know we're here. I haven't been 0:04:07.360 --> 0:04:09.480 like sharing us as much. So if you're a new DreamCatcher, 0:04:09.960 --> 0:04:15.280 say hello, like comments, leave us a review on iTunes, 0:04:17.320 --> 0:04:18.359 the dream Catchers. 0:04:19.000 --> 0:04:20.640 I have a pretty good feeling a good chunk of 0:04:20.640 --> 0:04:23.120 our listeners are dream cutchers, and I'm not mad at that. 0:04:23.360 --> 0:04:25.000 And I'm hoping that like some new ones because you 0:04:25.040 --> 0:04:26.480 know now that I put them in a goodie email. 0:04:26.560 --> 0:04:28.640 So this is our goodie every week on top of 0:04:28.680 --> 0:04:31.200 whatever else I send out, Like in the goodie email. 0:04:31.279 --> 0:04:33.839 We started it this week, so so hopefully we have 0:04:33.880 --> 0:04:36.400 some new folks to listen and they in and they enjoy. 0:04:36.640 --> 0:04:39.120 Make sure you follow Mandy cause sometimes you guys will 0:04:39.120 --> 0:04:41.680 tag me. I'm like, where's Mandy? So make sure you 0:04:41.720 --> 0:04:44.920 follow Mandy Money right on Instagram. I'm right here. 0:04:45.040 --> 0:04:46.040 I've been here all along. 0:04:46.400 --> 0:04:49.560 Mandy with an eye though, Mandy Money on Instagram. So yeah, 0:04:49.720 --> 0:04:52.320 because someone tagged me in something and it was hilarious. 0:04:52.520 --> 0:04:55.039 They're like, I'm listening and they tagged me. I was like, 0:04:55.120 --> 0:04:55.719 tag Mandy. 0:04:57.440 --> 0:04:58.800 Thanks, always looks out for me. 0:05:00.640 --> 0:05:03.359 So yeah, any other buzzworthies, I'm like looking through like 0:05:03.400 --> 0:05:06.360 our feed, like what else is buzzy? 0:05:06.839 --> 0:05:08.400 Well? I want to go ahead and tease. We have 0:05:08.440 --> 0:05:10.359 a really special guest on the show today that we 0:05:10.400 --> 0:05:14.040 talked about last week. Yes, our first guest in a while, 0:05:14.160 --> 0:05:17.680 miss Keana, and we've had our conversation with her, get 0:05:17.720 --> 0:05:21.280 a tissue. I'm just gonna say, get a tissue, grab 0:05:21.320 --> 0:05:23.880 a friend, call your mom, do whatever you can before 0:05:24.000 --> 0:05:27.640 because this interview will just give you life and inspiration 0:05:27.800 --> 0:05:28.440 in a good way. 0:05:29.640 --> 0:05:31.480 Yeah, no, it will. It just it'll give you the 0:05:31.520 --> 0:05:34.240 warm and fuzzies, and then it's gonna make you say 0:05:34.279 --> 0:05:35.120 I can do it too. 0:05:36.160 --> 0:05:38.080 I'm just gonna tease it and say that she may 0:05:38.160 --> 0:05:40.960 or may not be a DC. Is that what you 0:05:41.000 --> 0:05:41.640 call yourselves? 0:05:41.680 --> 0:05:45.240 A DC DC DreamCatcher? So we don't have to be high. 0:05:45.520 --> 0:05:48.680 We've got the dream catchers. I like it, right? 0:05:49.279 --> 0:05:49.680 What else? 0:05:49.800 --> 0:05:50.000 Man? 0:05:50.040 --> 0:05:53.600 This week at work? I yeah, I've been leaning in 0:05:55.040 --> 0:05:57.960 and I'm feeling the pain. It's a lot. I just 0:05:57.960 --> 0:06:00.000 feel really overwhelmed. I'm not gonna lie. Work has been 0:06:00.080 --> 0:06:05.240 overwhelming overwhelming. Okay, yeah, so it's been I don't know 0:06:05.279 --> 0:06:08.160 if but if you've ever well people out there, you've 0:06:08.160 --> 0:06:09.560 been running your business for a while, but when you 0:06:09.600 --> 0:06:12.640 start a new job the first it's always kind of 0:06:12.680 --> 0:06:17.360 like there's a transition period in the beginning, and there's 0:06:17.400 --> 0:06:19.440 just so much to do and everyone's pulling you in 0:06:19.440 --> 0:06:21.360 different directions, and it's kind of it's taking me a 0:06:21.360 --> 0:06:23.920 little while to sort of like focus, like a little 0:06:23.920 --> 0:06:27.080 bit longer than I would have liked to say, but 0:06:27.080 --> 0:06:29.000 I'm trying to be a little bit nice to myself 0:06:29.000 --> 0:06:31.080 and just say, Okay, it's a brand new job, like 0:06:31.200 --> 0:06:34.279 you'll get the hang of it, and I am. But 0:06:35.440 --> 0:06:37.520 since we're not going to do a tip section later, 0:06:37.560 --> 0:06:40.479 I want to do my little book recommendation now, okay, 0:06:40.520 --> 0:06:42.599 because this week I was really struggling, like I was like, 0:06:42.640 --> 0:06:44.600 oh my god, I don't know if I can handle this. 0:06:44.800 --> 0:06:48.000 I was like working twelve hours and coming home late, 0:06:48.640 --> 0:06:51.320 and I downloaded this book on my kindle. It's called 0:06:51.360 --> 0:06:54.560 The First ninety Days. Now I know I'm sixty days late, 0:06:55.120 --> 0:06:59.320 but I'm catching up this book. Let me make sure 0:06:59.320 --> 0:07:00.920 I got that. It's like a it's one of the 0:07:01.440 --> 0:07:04.479 it's constantly on the bestseller business books. But it's not 0:07:04.520 --> 0:07:06.960 the kind of book that's like super sexy that you would, 0:07:07.080 --> 0:07:09.000 you know, just pick up at Barnes and Noble. But 0:07:09.440 --> 0:07:11.680 if you are starting a new job, or you've been 0:07:11.720 --> 0:07:16.320 recently promoted or something, I would absolutely recommend getting this book. 0:07:16.960 --> 0:07:19.520 The First ninety Days is by Michael Watkins, and it's 0:07:19.560 --> 0:07:21.800 been out for like a decade, but it's still like 0:07:21.840 --> 0:07:24.800 the advice is so good. It was recently updated, and 0:07:24.840 --> 0:07:27.920 it basically helps you navigate your first ninety days on 0:07:27.960 --> 0:07:30.640 a new job, like whether you've been promoted or you 0:07:30.760 --> 0:07:34.560 did what I did and you're switching companies completely. And 0:07:34.680 --> 0:07:36.720 I think one of the things that resonated for me 0:07:36.800 --> 0:07:38.840 so well that he says in the book. And this 0:07:38.880 --> 0:07:42.040 is a guy who has worked. He's a Harvard Business 0:07:42.040 --> 0:07:43.520 School professor, so he knows this stuff. 0:07:44.200 --> 0:07:44.600 He said. 0:07:44.680 --> 0:07:47.000 He talks about how when you start a new job, 0:07:47.560 --> 0:07:49.360 especially if it's like a step up. So for me, 0:07:49.440 --> 0:07:51.760 I was going from being a reporter to now running 0:07:51.760 --> 0:07:54.080 a team and like being a manager for the first time. 0:07:54.880 --> 0:07:56.520 And he said that what we so often do is 0:07:56.520 --> 0:07:59.240 we focus on the thing we were good at that 0:07:59.280 --> 0:08:01.080 like made us really good at her old job. So 0:08:01.120 --> 0:08:02.680 for me, that was being a writer, and then we 0:08:02.760 --> 0:08:05.640 lose sight of like all the other stuff that is 0:08:05.760 --> 0:08:07.840 sort of like part of your new job, and then 0:08:07.840 --> 0:08:10.080 it can kind of lead you to fail. And I 0:08:10.120 --> 0:08:12.000 was sort of seeing that in myself. When you get scared, 0:08:12.000 --> 0:08:13.400 you go back to what you know, and I was 0:08:13.400 --> 0:08:15.720 focusing a little bit on, you know, a little too 0:08:15.840 --> 0:08:17.640 much on writing when I should have been focusing on 0:08:17.720 --> 0:08:20.520 other stuff that was sort of more scary to me. Okay, 0:08:20.520 --> 0:08:24.280 so he kind of like he like shook me, shook 0:08:24.280 --> 0:08:26.000 me awake a little bit this week, and I'm feeling 0:08:26.040 --> 0:08:27.120 like I'm getting back on track. 0:08:27.920 --> 0:08:30.800 Oh that's good and honestly too, sometimes, you know, I've 0:08:31.320 --> 0:08:32.760 I was talking to my sister the other day because 0:08:32.760 --> 0:08:34.720 she was like so disappointed that she applied for something 0:08:34.760 --> 0:08:36.439 and she didn't get it. She's trying to switch jobs, 0:08:36.440 --> 0:08:38.920 and I told her, you know, sometimes it's it's the 0:08:39.120 --> 0:08:43.280 overwhelming feeling that helps you grow and push to the 0:08:43.320 --> 0:08:44.200 next level. 0:08:44.760 --> 0:08:47.640 Oh my god. Yeah, if you're not terrified, then it's 0:08:47.640 --> 0:08:48.280 not worth. 0:08:48.080 --> 0:08:51.320 It exactly, and you just you're And I told her, like, 0:08:51.320 --> 0:08:54.000 you know, there's always going to be something that makes 0:08:54.040 --> 0:08:55.640 you say, oh my god, I can't I totally can't 0:08:55.640 --> 0:08:58.360 do this, and then you'll stretch and you'll grow, and 0:08:58.440 --> 0:09:00.560 you'll grow in your stretch, and then that thing that 0:09:00.640 --> 0:09:02.200 used to be so hard won't be so hard, but 0:09:02.240 --> 0:09:04.320 it'll be something new. And I said, you know what 0:09:04.320 --> 0:09:08.240 will happen is you'll get better at managing the emotion 0:09:08.400 --> 0:09:10.000 of I don't know how to do this, honestly, I 0:09:10.000 --> 0:09:11.520 don't know how to do anything at the budget East, 0:09:11.960 --> 0:09:15.760 Like everything we knew that we do is always like 0:09:16.640 --> 0:09:19.360 there's no precedent for it as far as in my life, 0:09:19.679 --> 0:09:22.480 you know, so there's always like, so, how do you 0:09:22.520 --> 0:09:23.600 build an online academy? 0:09:23.600 --> 0:09:26.760 And I don't know, but you figure it out. How 0:09:26.760 --> 0:09:27.720 do you start a podcast? 0:09:27.800 --> 0:09:30.840 I didn't know exactly, you didn't know you were, Like, 0:09:30.880 --> 0:09:35.000 so I did some googles and but you figure it 0:09:35.000 --> 0:09:37.840 out if you want it, and so yeah, I just 0:09:37.880 --> 0:09:40.839 think that, like I it's okay not to know, it's 0:09:40.880 --> 0:09:43.600 okay to be overwhelmed, but you won't always feel like that, 0:09:43.640 --> 0:09:46.320 and putting one foot in front of the other really 0:09:46.320 --> 0:09:48.120 can create something magical. 0:09:48.280 --> 0:09:50.640 Totally, and it's easy to be really hard on yourself. 0:09:50.640 --> 0:09:53.240 Like I'm very ambitious obviously, I got the brown ambition 0:09:53.320 --> 0:09:56.200 bug and money. When you feel like you're not, you 0:09:56.200 --> 0:09:59.040 know you I talk a lot of I just like 0:09:59.080 --> 0:10:01.640 I said, you know, it's not terrifying, it's not worth it, 0:10:01.679 --> 0:10:03.840 Like I always get that advice, but this is like 0:10:03.880 --> 0:10:06.840 I genuinely take my own advice. And it's it keeps 0:10:06.880 --> 0:10:09.080 being terrifying and it keeps being stressful, and you kind 0:10:09.080 --> 0:10:11.240 of have to like learn how to trust yourself and 0:10:11.280 --> 0:10:14.280 be nice as you're going through those growing pains, because 0:10:14.280 --> 0:10:16.960 they're real and it like can bleed into all the 0:10:17.160 --> 0:10:19.840 you know, I'd be like a little bit snappier to 0:10:20.320 --> 0:10:23.319 for fiance boo. You know you you always have your 0:10:23.360 --> 0:10:25.440 like pretty game face on during the day, and then 0:10:25.440 --> 0:10:27.240 you go home and it's like you I turn into 0:10:27.320 --> 0:10:30.920 like the monster from the crypt. It's like, what did 0:10:30.960 --> 0:10:32.839 I do that? 0:10:32.960 --> 0:10:34.679 You're breathing. 0:10:36.520 --> 0:10:39.920 But it's not okay. So I'm I you have to 0:10:40.000 --> 0:10:42.200 sort of like I'm trying to get better at like 0:10:42.280 --> 0:10:47.400 managing my emotions and not letting every little setback like 0:10:47.920 --> 0:10:50.720 pile up on top of itself. Yeah, and just like 0:10:50.760 --> 0:10:51.920 put me in a funk. 0:10:52.480 --> 0:10:54.880 You know what I've been doing lately, I've been I've 0:10:54.920 --> 0:10:56.520 been telling this to other people too, but I've been 0:10:56.559 --> 0:10:59.240 doing this for myself lately. That helps, But because I 0:10:59.440 --> 0:11:01.360 you know, you're going to get in a funk sometimes, 0:11:01.400 --> 0:11:04.439 and some funks you're really just supposed to stay there 0:11:04.480 --> 0:11:07.959 for a little bit, but most of them are barely temporary. 0:11:08.000 --> 0:11:10.640 So what I've done is I created like my like 0:11:10.760 --> 0:11:13.760 anti funcalists, like things that I like to do that 0:11:13.920 --> 0:11:17.240 usually lift my spirits, so like taking a walk. I 0:11:17.280 --> 0:11:21.520 love reading like random books, you know, not like I'm 0:11:21.520 --> 0:11:23.800 not talking like I love reading marketing books. But if 0:11:23.800 --> 0:11:25.440 I'm in a funk, I want to read like the Devil, 0:11:25.440 --> 0:11:29.240 Where's Prada? You know, like just something fun. I love 0:11:29.320 --> 0:11:33.640 Fixer Upper on HGTV. My jail right, isn't the first 0:11:33.640 --> 0:11:36.720 of all? Joanna and Chip games. They are so freaking 0:11:36.720 --> 0:11:37.760 and adorable, aren't they. 0:11:37.880 --> 0:11:40.240 I don't think they're real. I think they're like aliens. 0:11:41.080 --> 0:11:44.160 I just love Joanna. I'm just like Chip Chip. 0:11:44.240 --> 0:11:47.400 I'm gonna do some recess lighting in here, Chip Chip, 0:11:47.440 --> 0:11:48.960 stop throwing that football. Chip. 0:11:49.040 --> 0:11:53.679 I told you right, And her taste is amazing. I'm 0:11:53.720 --> 0:11:58.480 like Joanna fixed my life and so I you know, 0:11:58.520 --> 0:12:01.360 so that's another one of my life, you know, feeling 0:12:01.440 --> 0:12:04.040 like my uplifting things I can do. It's all like 0:12:04.080 --> 0:12:06.640 all my lists. Indri is another one. So I have 0:12:06.760 --> 0:12:08.960 like a list of things that when I'm in a funk, 0:12:09.000 --> 0:12:10.840 maybe take a nap. So when I'm in a funk, 0:12:10.880 --> 0:12:12.680 I'll run through them, like, let me take a nap, 0:12:12.960 --> 0:12:15.079 still mad, let me go for a walk. Oh I'm 0:12:15.080 --> 0:12:17.360 feeling better. Let me call Cabral and ask him to 0:12:17.360 --> 0:12:19.560 go out to dinner. He's one of my really great friends, 0:12:19.559 --> 0:12:21.880 and he just has such a great, warm spirit and 0:12:21.960 --> 0:12:24.640 so and usually once I get down to two or 0:12:24.640 --> 0:12:27.240 three or four of the list, it will have broken 0:12:27.320 --> 0:12:29.880 or at least receded some. And so I encourage people 0:12:29.920 --> 0:12:31.640 to do that, to make a list of the things 0:12:31.960 --> 0:12:35.280 that really bring you genuine joy, and like, if you're 0:12:35.280 --> 0:12:37.200 feeling some kind of way, to kind of work your 0:12:37.240 --> 0:12:40.320 way through them. And sometimes none of them work, honestly, 0:12:40.360 --> 0:12:42.200 and I'm just like, well, I'm just in a bad mood, 0:12:42.240 --> 0:12:43.599 and so I just try to avoid people for a 0:12:43.679 --> 0:12:50.400 few days. 0:12:51.360 --> 0:12:54.520 All right, Guys, Tiffany, I'm so excited for our guest today. 0:12:55.160 --> 0:12:57.640 I am super excited for her too. 0:12:57.920 --> 0:13:00.760 We don't often just invite random pace bowl off the 0:13:00.800 --> 0:13:04.800 streets of America onto the podcast, but when you get 0:13:04.800 --> 0:13:06.840 an email like the one that I got from miss 0:13:06.920 --> 0:13:10.200 Keona Harris from Houston, Texas, you just got to have 0:13:10.240 --> 0:13:12.800 her on. We talked about her last week, but just 0:13:12.840 --> 0:13:16.360 to recap, Keona decided to do her summer break for 0:13:16.400 --> 0:13:18.640 her daughter, her thirteen year old, just a little bit differently, 0:13:19.360 --> 0:13:21.720 you know, no camp. She decided to do a fifty 0:13:21.800 --> 0:13:25.880 state road trip throughout the entire United States that she's 0:13:25.880 --> 0:13:29.040 doing a little chunks and pieces this year. So far, 0:13:29.120 --> 0:13:31.600 she's already been to twelve states with her daughter, which 0:13:31.640 --> 0:13:36.280 is pretty impressive. But they're not just like taking pictures 0:13:36.280 --> 0:13:39.640 in from the world's largest like porch chair and stuff 0:13:39.679 --> 0:13:42.280 like that along the way and eating at cracker Barrel. 0:13:42.440 --> 0:13:46.160 They are doing all kinds of volunteer work and just 0:13:46.200 --> 0:13:50.520 being all around a super cute mom and daughter pair. So, 0:13:50.600 --> 0:13:52.880 Keona want to welcome you to Brown Ambition. 0:13:53.400 --> 0:13:57.520 Yes, thank you, Mandy, Thank you Tiffany for having me. 0:13:58.840 --> 0:14:02.520 So why we decide to do a cross country road 0:14:02.520 --> 0:14:05.160 trip with your daughter when she's thirteen? Like, does she 0:14:05.200 --> 0:14:06.800 appreciate it? How cool you are? 0:14:07.679 --> 0:14:08.080 You know what? 0:14:08.160 --> 0:14:09.280 I don't think she does. 0:14:10.480 --> 0:14:14.920 No, she's she's nine, So she's she doesn't nine? 0:14:15.440 --> 0:14:16.679 Yeah, she's nine years old. 0:14:17.320 --> 0:14:20.040 Yeah, at the time she's thirteen. You want to finish it? Oh, okay, 0:14:20.120 --> 0:14:21.040 I got it right. 0:14:21.120 --> 0:14:25.560 So I'll tell you I've always wanted to travel with her. 0:14:25.560 --> 0:14:29.000 Travel experience is a big deal to me, and so 0:14:29.560 --> 0:14:33.800 a couple of years ago I decided to you know, 0:14:34.040 --> 0:14:37.320 start our our fifty state World tour or you know 0:14:37.480 --> 0:14:40.920 us tour we did a road trip with some fam 0:14:41.040 --> 0:14:43.960 with some cousins and we went from the South up 0:14:44.000 --> 0:14:46.640 through like DC and back, and so that kind of 0:14:46.720 --> 0:14:52.320 was the catalyst of it. And so each up until 0:14:52.320 --> 0:14:53.960 she's thirteen years old, I want to see all fifty 0:14:54.000 --> 0:14:56.680 states by the time she's thirteen, and then when she's thirteen, 0:14:56.880 --> 0:14:59.880 we're gonna go internationally and hit one continent each year, 0:15:00.280 --> 0:15:02.080 so that by the time she's twenty years old, she's 0:15:02.080 --> 0:15:02.800 seen the world. 0:15:02.880 --> 0:15:05.200 That's the bigger vision. 0:15:05.760 --> 0:15:08.480 Seeing the world, seeing the United States, especially at a 0:15:08.520 --> 0:15:10.280 young age, it's really just going to open. 0:15:10.120 --> 0:15:11.960 Up her, just her. 0:15:11.960 --> 0:15:14.120 The way she thinks about things. But yeah, go ahead, Mandy, 0:15:14.160 --> 0:15:15.280 I'm just like, Wow, I'm in awe. 0:15:15.280 --> 0:15:18.000 Honestly, I want to know. I mean, this must have 0:15:18.040 --> 0:15:19.720 come from a personal place for you. Why was it 0:15:19.760 --> 0:15:21.560 so important for your daughter to see the world. Did 0:15:21.640 --> 0:15:23.760 you do a lot of traveling when you were younger? 0:15:24.560 --> 0:15:25.720 Actually, not at all. 0:15:26.360 --> 0:15:29.680 I am born and raised in Sacramento, California, and I 0:15:29.800 --> 0:15:33.920 didn't leave California until I went away to college. So 0:15:34.080 --> 0:15:38.360 at seventeen, I went to Xavier University in New Orleans 0:15:38.800 --> 0:15:40.360 and that was my first time out of the state. 0:15:41.080 --> 0:15:41.360 Wow. 0:15:41.400 --> 0:15:42.040 And then. 0:15:44.320 --> 0:15:46.000 And then I did a lot of traveling in college. 0:15:46.240 --> 0:15:49.520 I had friends from DC, from Atlanta. We were everywhere 0:15:49.560 --> 0:15:52.520 in my little red sunfire. Wherever the sunfire could get to, 0:15:53.040 --> 0:15:57.480 you got there. And then I went internationally for the 0:15:57.520 --> 0:15:59.480 first time. I was actually pregnant with my daughter and 0:15:59.520 --> 0:16:03.840 went to to Italy to Europe, and there was a 0:16:03.840 --> 0:16:06.760 little and I was super nervous being on a plane 0:16:06.920 --> 0:16:09.200 going out of the country. But there was a little 0:16:09.240 --> 0:16:11.640 boy who was like seven years old, flying by hisself, 0:16:12.160 --> 0:16:13.840 and I asked him, I said, are you nervous? 0:16:13.880 --> 0:16:15.600 Are you scared? He's like, no, I do this all 0:16:15.640 --> 0:16:17.320 the time, and now here I am this. 0:16:17.280 --> 0:16:20.720 Big, twenty six, twenty seven year old woman, all scary. 0:16:21.480 --> 0:16:25.440 But I love meeting new people and learning new cultures 0:16:25.520 --> 0:16:29.280 and just experiencing life outside of you know, the world 0:16:29.400 --> 0:16:31.200 is bigger than your corner store. 0:16:31.600 --> 0:16:32.320 You know all of that. 0:16:32.520 --> 0:16:35.800 So I've always wanted I think that's important and important lesson. 0:16:35.800 --> 0:16:36.440 I want to. 0:16:36.360 --> 0:16:38.920 Leave with her, leave her with Okay, it's let me 0:16:38.960 --> 0:16:42.040 get out of your your box. So I think the 0:16:42.080 --> 0:16:45.080 burning question that a ton of people are thinking is 0:16:45.240 --> 0:16:47.720 how how can you afford to do this? How are 0:16:47.760 --> 0:16:48.480 you making this happen? 0:16:48.520 --> 0:16:53.080 Financially well, last maybe it was last year or the 0:16:53.160 --> 0:16:56.280 year before, Tiffany, I thought I joined your I joined 0:16:56.280 --> 0:16:58.840 your dream Catchers. Look at that, and that was not 0:16:58.880 --> 0:17:02.000 a set of as, it was not a setup. I 0:17:02.040 --> 0:17:06.000 found brown ambition because of dream Catchers. So I've started 0:17:06.040 --> 0:17:08.280 following you. I think a friend of mine told me 0:17:08.840 --> 0:17:12.960 about the liver Riture Challenge, and so I did that 0:17:13.040 --> 0:17:15.000 and I followed it to a tea. It was two 0:17:15.080 --> 0:17:18.320 years ago, and within that year, just following your ten 0:17:18.400 --> 0:17:21.520 day program, I paid off all of my debt except 0:17:21.560 --> 0:17:22.160 student loans. 0:17:22.160 --> 0:17:27.440 Those are forever and give her take, give or take. 0:17:27.440 --> 0:17:29.199 Still working on that, but I paid off all of 0:17:29.240 --> 0:17:31.840 my debt, and I opened up my money buckets and 0:17:31.880 --> 0:17:35.560 my savings and my budgeting, did everything that you suggested 0:17:35.640 --> 0:17:39.800 and really didn't change my life and how I view money. 0:17:39.920 --> 0:17:42.800 And one of my money buckets was my travel my 0:17:43.280 --> 0:17:47.280 vacation bucket, and so I bought a house that year, 0:17:47.320 --> 0:17:49.359 like all kinds of stuff. So now I have student 0:17:49.400 --> 0:17:53.800 loans and a mortgage that's gonna be forever. But this 0:17:54.000 --> 0:17:58.640 year and my money bucket for our vacation, I've been 0:17:58.680 --> 0:17:59.879 saving like one hundred. 0:17:59.640 --> 0:18:00.359 Dollars a month. 0:18:00.760 --> 0:18:04.159 Okay, so equals twelve hundred dollars, right, And that was 0:18:04.200 --> 0:18:06.399 the budget, the cash that I took on this trip, 0:18:06.440 --> 0:18:09.440 and I stayed accordingly. I wanted We're going through twelve 0:18:09.480 --> 0:18:11.240 different states, so I said, I want to spend at 0:18:11.280 --> 0:18:13.120 least one hundred dollars in estates. 0:18:12.800 --> 0:18:14.840 Including gas, lodging, food. 0:18:15.240 --> 0:18:17.320 So the cities where we went and we could stay 0:18:17.359 --> 0:18:21.600