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Speaker 3: see what happened. So this comes from the listener who
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Speaker 3: I just finished the episode where you addressed my questions,
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Speaker 3: incredibly motivating and helpful. I just wanted to follow up
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Speaker 3: I have talked with my girlfriends, made the effort to
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Speaker 3: reminder since this journey with my mom has been such
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Speaker 3: All right, Well, for this week's You've Got Decisions, here
Speaker 3: is the subject line posts I ud dick a blessing
Speaker 3: curse or a challenge.
Speaker 1: Hey, y'all.
Speaker 3: First off, I just want to say how much I
Speaker 3: love you both. I seriously admire your tenacity, grit, vulnerability,
Speaker 3: boss bitch energy, and the way you show up so
Speaker 3: authentically for the world. Thank you for being exactly who
Speaker 3: you are. And congrats on your new slash tour. That's right, baby,
Speaker 3: make sure you get your tickets now at HP tour
Speaker 3: dot com. Now onto my reason for writing, your girl
Speaker 3: needs some advice. I've been with my man for six
Speaker 3: years now. I love him down. He's my best friend,
Speaker 3: my ride or die, and our sex life is thriving
Speaker 3: like one hundred out of ten best dick I've ever had.
Speaker 3: I always knew he was packing. Don't ask me the
Speaker 3: exact size. Neither of us have measured, not for the
Speaker 3: lack of trying on my part, But ever since I
Speaker 3: got my IUD out, which I had for almost ten years,
Speaker 3: even before we met, things have felt intense. As a
Speaker 3: proud hope for life, I've always prided myself on being
Speaker 3: able to handle whatever dick comes my way, but this
Speaker 3: is next level. Honestly, it feels like he's hitting my
Speaker 3: cervix when he's all the way in. It's not just full.
Speaker 3: Sometimes it's straight up uncomfortable, even unpleasant, to the point
Speaker 3: where I have to ask him not to go so
Speaker 3: deep and trust he does everything right. He'll finger me
Speaker 3: or eat me out until I'm super wet slash squirting
Speaker 3: before moving on too penetrative sex. He takes his time,
Speaker 3: tries different positions, focuses on my pleasure, gives me positive reinforcement,
Speaker 3: and coaches me through all of it. When I asked
Speaker 3: him if sex feels different for him, he said it doesn't,
Speaker 3: but you can tell when it's too much for me
Speaker 3: and will pull out a bit. He also told me
Speaker 3: he used to feel the strings for my IUD, even
Speaker 3: after my ghyo cut them shorter, so he'd pull out
Speaker 3: a few inches so they wouldn't poke him.
Speaker 1: I was like, sorry, a few inches.
Speaker 3: Part of me feels rob slash bamboozled, but another part
Speaker 3: of me is like, Wow, this man really loves me
Speaker 3: and is attentive to my knees. Quickbackstory. When we first
Speaker 3: started dating, he mentioned a stabbing feeling during sex, so
Speaker 3: I went to my guano and asked her to trim
Speaker 3: the IUD strings. She was surprised he could feel them
Speaker 3: at all, but she cut them as short as possible,
Speaker 3: just enough still check that they were in place. Well,
Speaker 3: maybe it's a pride thing, but I really want to
Speaker 3: be able to take all of him and enjoy it.
Speaker 3: We're still having same tantalizing to curling my numbing, nasty,
Speaker 3: sexy sex, but I want to be able to handle
Speaker 3: everything he's got. Would love to hear your thoughts now.
Speaker 2: I've holed up a little something about iud's just so
Speaker 2: we can all hear it. So while most partners don't
Speaker 2: feel anything, twenty seven percent of men steal the strings,
Speaker 2: around half of it believe it interviews with sex, and
Speaker 2: if the strings are too long or haven't softened, it's
Speaker 2: more notable.
Speaker 1: Noticeable. For the strings are.
Speaker 2: Plastic strings that are long enough for a doctor to
Speaker 2: remove the IUD, so that's basically why the strings are there,
Speaker 2: and they're usually trimmed to a link that lies against
Speaker 2: the cervix, so it's not supposed to be painful for
Speaker 2: a partner, but it does kind of change the way
Speaker 2: that the vagina can feel. And honestly, like there's just
Speaker 2: so many things that I've been hearing about the i D.
Speaker 2: I'm just pulling up something from NPR. We might have
Speaker 2: already read it where doctors are urged to treat pain
Speaker 2: for IUD insertion.
Speaker 1: Have you seen this? Do we talk about?
Speaker 2: So basically, the IUD is known to be so painful
Speaker 2: that and people say it's excruciating.
Speaker 1: I think there was even someone as that.
Speaker 2: Said it was close to like a quick feeling of childbirth,
Speaker 2: Like that's how painful. And so basically it's now recommended
Speaker 2: by the American College of Obgyns that these procedures have
Speaker 2: an urgent need for Lyda Kane and local anesthetic, not
Speaker 2: like you know when they do the dental blocks, like
Speaker 2: in some cases even anesthesia because it's that painful. So
Speaker 2: I say all that to say, there's been so many
Speaker 2: things that have come about with the IUD, so many changes,
Speaker 2: so many conversations. I have always felt like the IUD
Speaker 2: is not in its best form.
Speaker 1: Yet oh I agree. I agree, because it's just a
Speaker 1: little too much.
Speaker 2: And don't get me wrong, when I was on the
Speaker 2: show talking about how I was getting weight from pills, people.
Speaker 1: Were like, IUD, IUD. But an issue I hear.
Speaker 2: Most often is pain or some kind of sensation with
Speaker 2: the IUD. So the one thing I will say, is
Speaker 2: if it's prohibiting your sex life in a way that's
Speaker 2: bothers them to both of you, I would get rid
Speaker 2: of it, like if it was uncomfortable, but the fact
Speaker 2: that he's happy you guys are still having mind blowing sex.
Speaker 2: I wouldn't take it out. Wait, I don't know if
Speaker 2: you listened she removed it. No, no, no, I'm saying
Speaker 2: like I wouldn't take it out. I'm just like giving no.
Speaker 1: She does take it out. She did take it out,
Speaker 1: that's what she's saying. But she was saying, what do
Speaker 1: I do? No? The letter, no, no, no, no.
Speaker 3: The letter was saying that she had the IUD for
Speaker 3: ten years. Even with the IUD, she cut the strings
Speaker 3: while she had it because that was she now has
Speaker 3: taken out the IUD and sex is painful for her,
Speaker 3: and she doesn't know why she can't take the dick.
Speaker 1: On the i D was blocking a dick.
Speaker 4: No.
Speaker 1: It literally says post IUD dick, she can't take it.
Speaker 3: She doesn't know what's wrong with her. So for me,
Speaker 3: so there's a few things right. I don't know if
Speaker 3: removing the IUD caused any sort of trauma. That maybe
Speaker 3: what you're experiencing is the level of vaginismus where it's
Speaker 3: getting or like maybe you need to go to pulvic
Speaker 3: floor therapy to like maybe there's literally something contracting.
Speaker 1: From the removal of it, or.
Speaker 3: Or only because I had a friend who used to
Speaker 3: say that pain was excruciatingly painful to her and it
Speaker 3: was because of a fibroid, which I don't know if y'all, y'all,
Speaker 3: y'all will listen to the episode coming up. But I
Speaker 3: recently got a new sex partner whose dick is massive,
Speaker 3: and the first two times we fucked, it was excruciating like.
Speaker 1: It was painful. It was so painful, and I was like, damn,
Speaker 1: like it was so painful.
Speaker 3: It made me want to go see my primary care
Speaker 3: physician because I was like, bitch, if there's something in me,
Speaker 3: do I have a pybroid? Has my anatomy change? Like
Speaker 3: I literally was like, something ain't right because bit me too.
Speaker 3: I am prideful about how well I can take some dick,
Speaker 3: especially big, long, girthy dick. So to me, if you're
Speaker 3: experiencing this pain, it is something that I would actually
Speaker 3: bring up to my doctor. I would advocate to get
Speaker 3: an ultrasound and just see kind of what's happening, because
Speaker 3: it could actually be something completely different. And it is
Speaker 3: strange that with the IUD the sex was fine. Before
Speaker 3: the IUD, the sex was fine and he had an
Speaker 3: issue with filling the strings. But now that the ID
Speaker 3: has removed, you literally don't you can't take his dick.
Speaker 3: I would say that there's probably something else happening, and
Speaker 3: I would I would say, go get that checked.
Speaker 2: A lot of women are experiencing pain during sex and
Speaker 2: shalking it up to anything but getting checked, like they're
Speaker 2: not using enough flube, they're not.
Speaker 1: Accounting for dryness.
Speaker 2: Also, the second that you're assuming you're about to feel pain,
Speaker 2: your body's gonna tense up, right.
Speaker 1: So I did pelvic.
Speaker 2: Floor therapy for a few months and it helped me tremendously,
Speaker 2: Like my body started to clench at the thought of
Speaker 2: entry because I had experienced pain. So I'm not really
Speaker 2: sure why it's happening. I'm also not really sure why
Speaker 2: you think. Mandy and I got the answers. But what
Speaker 2: I would say is, I'm glad you took it out
Speaker 2: because it seems like it was something that was like
Speaker 2: an issue in your head. But I'm also really scared
Speaker 2: for the future of like I don't know, contraceptives, Like
Speaker 2: knowing that you've already had this traumatic issue, it's like, fuck,
Speaker 2: are you going to be scared for the next thing?
Speaker 2: Because the most women that choose the IUD want something
Speaker 2: non hormonal, like they want to not be able to
Speaker 2: get those cravings and pimples or acne or mood twings
Speaker 2: all that shit, So it's like, fuck.
Speaker 1: I did.
Speaker 3: I did also end up because when I took the y'all,
Speaker 3: y'all don't understand, I literally could not take this man's dick.
Speaker 1: And I was embarrassed because bitch I.
Speaker 3: Was a runner in a track star because I was
Speaker 3: running really fast from that goddamn dick. And so for me,
Speaker 3: the next time we fucked was like maybe two weeks later,
Speaker 3: and I was able to take it. And so what's
Speaker 3: crazy is I actually ended up looking up if it
Speaker 3: had anything to do with my cycle, and in fact,
Speaker 3: there is a correlation between your pussy and size and
Speaker 3: where you are in your ovulation cycle. So I do
Speaker 3: want to share this because I just looked at it
Speaker 3: and then you're in your ovulation.
Speaker 1: Cycle nothing to do with dick size, like.
Speaker 3: Especially if you're a woman who just you feel like
Speaker 3: you could take dick like good For me, I was like, damn,
Speaker 3: I was trying to blame everything, but having a size
Speaker 3: that's but no, anyone would a pussy.
Speaker 1: During your cycle.
Speaker 3: Literally, I don't know if y'all have the flow app
Speaker 3: or whatever you do, but your pussy actually does change
Speaker 3: in size during different moments within your ovulation cycle. So
Speaker 3: after ovulation, hormones drop and the vagina may feel less
Speaker 3: flexible and even drier, leading to the perception of tightness.
Speaker 3: And then of course with increased levels of estrogen and
Speaker 3: progesterone that makes the vagina more lubricated and actually.
Speaker 1: Elastic during that time.
Speaker 3: So if you look at your and maybe I'll put
Speaker 3: this on Patreon or maybe I'll see if there's a
Speaker 3: chart that I could put it on our our thing.
Speaker 3: But there are little moments within your cycle where your
Speaker 3: vagina will be tighter than other moments, and so I
Speaker 3: would look and maybe use that track when your cycle
Speaker 3: is I know you may be someone who fucks often, especially.
Speaker 1: If you really really really really really.
Speaker 3: Like having sex with this man and y'all been together
Speaker 3: for so long, I would say maybe track that and
Speaker 3: I think.
Speaker 2: My favorite person is probably thrown off because of the
Speaker 2: IUD too, Like what do you mean just I'm saying,
Speaker 2: just like you knowing removing the ID, Like, who knows,
Speaker 2: maybe her cycle is not the same, Like I'm really
Speaker 2: hoping that it is, because I think it's really helpful
Speaker 2: to give to any guyno your last period and the
Speaker 2: trends of your period, like that is so important, especially
Speaker 2: when there was a Sex and the City episode. Y'all know,
Speaker 2: I referenced it all the time, but basically Charlotte had
Speaker 2: vaginus miss or no it was volvidinia, and she had
Speaker 2: to do a vagina journal of what it felt like
Speaker 2: for the day, if there was dryness, wetness, like whatever
Speaker 2: was going on. And so in the slow app or
Speaker 2: different period apps, I use a different one. There's literally
Speaker 2: notes for that. I do the same thing, like if
Speaker 2: I see a little blood earlier, I'm like boo boop
Speaker 2: like and not track it. And I literally handed to
Speaker 2: the guy and I'm like, here was my fussy.
Speaker 3: Here are the details I also wanted to add to
Speaker 3: in terms of your period, because y'all listen. First off,
Speaker 3: y'all got us being googlers over here and doctors.
Speaker 1: We are not doctors.
Speaker 3: However, I wanted to add though, because you mentioned in
Speaker 3: your email that you feel like he's hitting your cervix.
Speaker 3: The position of your cervix actually does change throughout your
Speaker 3: tie your cycle, so it gets typically the lowest mid
Speaker 3: cycle and at its highest at the start and end.
Speaker 3: So that clearly makes the amount of room inside of
Speaker 3: your vagina different. And of course changes in hormones too
Speaker 3: could have your cervix move in cervical mute. Some vaginal
Speaker 3: fluids changes well during your mental cycle. But that's the thing.
Speaker 3: If you feel like he's hitting something, he actually may be,
Speaker 3: and it may be because of where you're at in
Speaker 3: your cycle.
Speaker 1: Kind of like what Weezy said though, the.
Speaker 3: Fact that hormonal changes are probably different now that you've
Speaker 3: removed the IUD, it could just be thrown all of
Speaker 3: it and maybe you'll starvex the sin lower than normal.
Speaker 1: Because if you have the IUD for this long, for.
Speaker 2: Anyone listening when you have vaginal pain, the best advice
Speaker 2: I've got from a doctor was like being able to
Speaker 2: describe your pain, because I was really even confused even
Speaker 2: when you mentioned removal in the beginning of the thing.
Speaker 2: It's so confusing because you associate the entry of the
Speaker 2: IUD and the IUD itself to be the pain. So
Speaker 2: what I would say is describing the pain so that
Speaker 2: you can figure out what it is. For example, sharpness, poking, tightness.
Speaker 2: There's another one that I remember my doctor was telling
Speaker 2: me it like burning. When we hear burning, we.
Speaker 1: Think a lot of times like STD type of p burn.
Speaker 1: And it's not that. It's just like, you know, if
Speaker 1: something's really raw.
Speaker 2: Almost think if you're like putting on lotion and you're
Speaker 2: like sunburned like that, that's the burn where it.
Speaker 1: Feels very tender.
Speaker 2: Like figuring out the words to describe your pain because
Speaker 2: you're gonna go down to google hole, bitch and.
Speaker 3: Wait a second, now you now you got me thinking
Speaker 3: when I was taking that dick, how would I describe
Speaker 3: the pain?
Speaker 1: You know what's crazy?
Speaker 3: I literally, first off, I felt he was right in
Speaker 3: my belly button, So I literally felt like he was
Speaker 3: in my stomach like for one and I was just
Speaker 3: like what the fog like to the point where like
Speaker 3: after we were done, I felt like I could still
Speaker 3: feel him in me, like in my stomach, Like I
Speaker 3: felt like he punched me in my stomach.
Speaker 1: I don't think I was feeling poking as much.
Speaker 2: You know what that that what I heard too, is
Speaker 2: that's a uti. Could be tenderness. I don't know if
Speaker 2: you just got back from can I was just going
Speaker 2: or whatever.
Speaker 4: But water, bitch, a uk dehydration feeling like when when
Speaker 4: you are UTI during sex can give you that feeling too.
Speaker 1: It's like inflammation. And then there's another thing.
Speaker 2: Oh well, not just scary because I mean, well this
Speaker 2: didn't happen, because you want to know, my homegirl's uterus
Speaker 2: tilted from a big dick. And she said that she remembered.
Speaker 2: She like tells the joke all the time when we're drunk.
Speaker 1: She's like, bitch, I'm gonna tell you what have thee
Speaker 1: with Disney?
Speaker 2: And she always says, I said, it's in my stamach
Speaker 2: And she said when he pulled out, she felt a
Speaker 2: movement getting the fuck out of here. Bruh. She's been
Speaker 2: to r LA, shows you met her. I'm telling you
Speaker 2: the bitch every time she told the story. And the
Speaker 2: last time I saw her too, we were out somewhere
Speaker 2: and I was like, bitch, tell so, and so she.
Speaker 1: Was like, how he fuck off?
Speaker 2: Puss you up, and I was like, girl, no about
Speaker 2: your recent move, like no, like she's so used to
Speaker 2: telling the story because it's so unbelievable.
Speaker 3: But I'm not gonna lie like I wouldn't think that
Speaker 3: a dick could be too big to move anything around.
Speaker 1: But not only is this dick really big, it got
Speaker 1: a curve.
Speaker 3: So I'm not gonna hold you. I feel like he
Speaker 3: he rearranged my pussy. I ain't even gonna hold you
Speaker 3: like so, I wouldn't doubt that something is happening up
Speaker 3: in there and that he might tilt drop something with something.
Speaker 1: Nigga, what's she? This ain't an tucky No, no, no,
Speaker 1: no no, this is no no, we not no wait
Speaker 1: hold on, let me.
Speaker 3: I don't look gonna same nigga because she said he
Speaker 3: said that she been with this man for six years,
Speaker 3: So I don't fucking. I am not fucking anybody with
Speaker 3: a girlfriend. This is not horrible decisions from eight years ago. Okay,
Speaker 3: the nigga is very single, very single, and destroying my insights. Anyways,
Speaker 3: we do hope that you go to a doctor. I
Speaker 3: would say that and like Wes said, explain your pain
Speaker 3: to them. I would advocate for an ultrasound and make
Speaker 3: sure that everything is where it needs to be, or
Speaker 3: that you don't have anything extra growing inside of you,
Speaker 3: because we don't think you both.
Speaker 1: Wheeling you and Mandy around on.
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Speaker 2: that you always know. We are literally blending in the
Speaker 2: book into our live shows. So some of the stories
Speaker 2: you read, we're bringing the pages to the stages.
Speaker 3: That's all right, and we're excited to see you guys
Speaker 3: are there. I really really really hope we were able
Speaker 3: to help you. We clearly you just made me talk
Speaker 3: about addict. That's big to me too and was painful,
Speaker 3: but now I feel like I'm used to it.
Speaker 1: So I did take it the third time, but I
Speaker 1: would maybe do that too.
Speaker 2: Maybe just keep fucking yeah men, follow the thread and
Speaker 2: be like, let me tell you what's going on my mind.
Speaker 1: Pussys listen.
Speaker 3: Anyways, guys, thank y'all, and once again, if you want
Speaker 3: advice from us or you want us to share our
Speaker 3: big dick stories, just like y'all big dick stories go
Speaker 3: ahead and send it into us Decisions Pod at gmail
Speaker 3: dot com, and we will see y'all next week.
Speaker 1: Bye, everybody,