WEBVTT - You've Got Decisions: Post IUD D 0:00:01.680 --> 0:00:04.439 If you would like to have us answer your questions. 0:00:04.559 --> 0:00:07.880 If you have a terrible job, a terrible boyfriend, or 0:00:07.920 --> 0:00:11.720 a terrible threatfle guess what you've got. 0:00:11.760 --> 0:00:19.440 Decisions, You've got. Decision long. Happy humpday, everybody. 0:00:20.040 --> 0:00:24.799 We're back for another one, and today I believe this 0:00:24.920 --> 0:00:27.200 is our first update. Y'all need to be updating us 0:00:27.240 --> 0:00:28.960 more because we really be sitting there in the comment 0:00:29.080 --> 0:00:30.000 telling a bitch what to do. 0:00:30.400 --> 0:00:33.480 We really be giving y'all the tea on what to do, 0:00:33.840 --> 0:00:36.240 and we don't know if you did it. By the way, 0:00:36.440 --> 0:00:39.760 if you have any question that you want advice from 0:00:39.880 --> 0:00:44.000 us for make sure you email us Decisions Pod at 0:00:44.040 --> 0:00:48.080 gmail dot com. We do have an update and let's 0:00:48.120 --> 0:00:52.840 see what happened. So this comes from the listener who 0:00:52.960 --> 0:00:57.320 was the only entrepreneurial friend. She said, Hi, Mandy and Weezy, 0:00:57.720 --> 0:01:00.760 I just finished the episode where you addressed my questions, 0:01:00.800 --> 0:01:03.080 and thank you, thank you, thank you. You both are 0:01:03.120 --> 0:01:06.920 incredibly motivating and helpful. I just wanted to follow up 0:01:06.959 --> 0:01:09.320 and let you know that between my email and now, 0:01:09.760 --> 0:01:12.920 I have talked with my girlfriends, made the effort to 0:01:13.000 --> 0:01:17.080 see them more, and we all understand that this chapter 0:01:17.160 --> 0:01:19.840 of mind is something I really care about and need 0:01:19.880 --> 0:01:22.640 to focus on at the moment, not only to retire 0:01:22.680 --> 0:01:25.440 my mom, but also so I can be in that 0:01:25.560 --> 0:01:28.399 first class with a late flat for my next trip. 0:01:29.040 --> 0:01:30.360 Yeah. 0:01:30.560 --> 0:01:33.120 We are in our late twenties and have been friends 0:01:33.160 --> 0:01:34.360 for eight years. 0:01:34.400 --> 0:01:36.680 Like Weezy said, they aren't going. 0:01:36.480 --> 0:01:39.080 Anywhere and they love me and will always support me, 0:01:39.440 --> 0:01:42.200 which has never wavered. I guess I just needed a 0:01:42.200 --> 0:01:44.959 reminder since this journey with my mom has been such 0:01:44.959 --> 0:01:48.520 a blessing but also isolating in ways. Thank you again, 0:01:48.600 --> 0:01:51.400 and I'm manifesting our paths crossing one day. 0:01:52.640 --> 0:01:56.160 By the way, she did o he girl? She did? 0:01:56.200 --> 0:01:58.360 Go ahead, and if you guys want to support her, 0:01:58.720 --> 0:02:02.640 the business is nan Tucket Boundcookies dot Com. 0:02:04.360 --> 0:02:08.320 Yes she did. Hold on, now I'm about to do 0:02:08.880 --> 0:02:11.240 so you. I did a whole thing that you did 0:02:11.240 --> 0:02:12.040 that sh it on purpose? 0:02:12.080 --> 0:02:12.120 Ho? 0:02:13.040 --> 0:02:16.240 What she did? What? What's the problem? Could she dropped 0:02:16.280 --> 0:02:20.280 that motherfucking shit? You know? She says? 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So 0:02:53.840 --> 0:02:55.960 maybe that's just someone else. 0:02:56.919 --> 0:03:02.560 Oh, it says fer Nandez too, so oh damn, I hope, no, no, no. 0:03:02.480 --> 0:03:03.839 I'm not gonna give the last name. 0:03:04.000 --> 0:03:06.680 I am seeing the full name in her email, and 0:03:06.720 --> 0:03:11.560 it is giving white and she says mom, so she's 0:03:11.639 --> 0:03:12.800 also British. 0:03:13.000 --> 0:03:16.840 I assume. Anyway, let me tell you something, white lady, 0:03:17.520 --> 0:03:18.160 you lucky it was. 0:03:18.160 --> 0:03:20.520 I'm gonna just pretend that you might be a little 0:03:20.520 --> 0:03:21.840 gay because it was Pride week. 0:03:21.880 --> 0:03:23.160 It would do a free ad for that. 0:03:23.440 --> 0:03:25.520 And you know, I'm allergic to egg So whenever we're 0:03:25.520 --> 0:03:27.720 in Boston, because I feel like that's close to Nantucket, 0:03:27.880 --> 0:03:29.480 I expect eggless cookies. 0:03:30.080 --> 0:03:31.720 Oh my goodness. 0:03:32.400 --> 0:03:36.240 All right, Well, for this week's You've Got Decisions, here 0:03:36.400 --> 0:03:41.240 is the subject line posts I ud dick a blessing 0:03:41.600 --> 0:03:42.960 curse or a challenge. 0:03:44.040 --> 0:03:44.600 Hey, y'all. 0:03:44.720 --> 0:03:47.000 First off, I just want to say how much I 0:03:47.040 --> 0:03:52.000 love you both. I seriously admire your tenacity, grit, vulnerability, 0:03:52.240 --> 0:03:54.680 boss bitch energy, and the way you show up so 0:03:54.760 --> 0:03:58.000 authentically for the world. Thank you for being exactly who 0:03:58.040 --> 0:04:02.200 you are. And congrats on your new slash tour. That's right, baby, 0:04:02.200 --> 0:04:03.960 make sure you get your tickets now at HP tour 0:04:04.000 --> 0:04:07.840 dot com. Now onto my reason for writing, your girl 0:04:07.920 --> 0:04:10.680 needs some advice. I've been with my man for six 0:04:10.800 --> 0:04:13.840 years now. I love him down. He's my best friend, 0:04:13.880 --> 0:04:16.600 my ride or die, and our sex life is thriving 0:04:16.960 --> 0:04:19.800 like one hundred out of ten best dick I've ever had. 0:04:20.080 --> 0:04:22.680 I always knew he was packing. Don't ask me the 0:04:22.720 --> 0:04:25.400 exact size. Neither of us have measured, not for the 0:04:25.480 --> 0:04:28.919 lack of trying on my part, But ever since I 0:04:28.960 --> 0:04:32.240 got my IUD out, which I had for almost ten years, 0:04:32.600 --> 0:04:37.720 even before we met, things have felt intense. As a 0:04:38.160 --> 0:04:42.039 proud hope for life, I've always prided myself on being 0:04:42.040 --> 0:04:45.280 able to handle whatever dick comes my way, but this 0:04:45.400 --> 0:04:48.320 is next level. Honestly, it feels like he's hitting my 0:04:48.360 --> 0:04:52.120 cervix when he's all the way in. It's not just full. 0:04:52.640 --> 0:04:56.600 Sometimes it's straight up uncomfortable, even unpleasant, to the point 0:04:56.640 --> 0:04:58.919 where I have to ask him not to go so 0:04:59.040 --> 0:05:03.200 deep and trust he does everything right. He'll finger me 0:05:03.640 --> 0:05:06.680 or eat me out until I'm super wet slash squirting 0:05:07.160 --> 0:05:10.560 before moving on too penetrative sex. He takes his time, 0:05:10.839 --> 0:05:15.400 tries different positions, focuses on my pleasure, gives me positive reinforcement, 0:05:15.560 --> 0:05:18.720 and coaches me through all of it. When I asked 0:05:18.760 --> 0:05:22.400 him if sex feels different for him, he said it doesn't, 0:05:22.720 --> 0:05:24.719 but you can tell when it's too much for me 0:05:25.200 --> 0:05:27.640 and will pull out a bit. He also told me 0:05:27.880 --> 0:05:30.799 he used to feel the strings for my IUD, even 0:05:30.839 --> 0:05:34.599 after my ghyo cut them shorter, so he'd pull out 0:05:34.600 --> 0:05:36.599 a few inches so they wouldn't poke him. 0:05:37.080 --> 0:05:39.440 I was like, sorry, a few inches. 0:05:39.920 --> 0:05:43.440 Part of me feels rob slash bamboozled, but another part 0:05:43.480 --> 0:05:45.839 of me is like, Wow, this man really loves me 0:05:46.080 --> 0:05:49.920 and is attentive to my knees. Quickbackstory. When we first 0:05:49.960 --> 0:05:53.880 started dating, he mentioned a stabbing feeling during sex, so 0:05:53.920 --> 0:05:56.000 I went to my guano and asked her to trim 0:05:56.040 --> 0:05:58.680 the IUD strings. She was surprised he could feel them 0:05:58.720 --> 0:06:00.920 at all, but she cut them as short as possible, 0:06:01.320 --> 0:06:04.960 just enough still check that they were in place. Well, 0:06:05.200 --> 0:06:07.320 maybe it's a pride thing, but I really want to 0:06:07.320 --> 0:06:10.040 be able to take all of him and enjoy it. 0:06:10.400 --> 0:06:14.640 We're still having same tantalizing to curling my numbing, nasty, 0:06:14.720 --> 0:06:17.120 sexy sex, but I want to be able to handle 0:06:17.200 --> 0:06:21.440 everything he's got. Would love to hear your thoughts now. 0:06:21.520 --> 0:06:25.080 I've holed up a little something about iud's just so 0:06:25.200 --> 0:06:28.839 we can all hear it. So while most partners don't 0:06:28.839 --> 0:06:32.360 feel anything, twenty seven percent of men steal the strings, 0:06:33.120 --> 0:06:36.680 around half of it believe it interviews with sex, and 0:06:36.720 --> 0:06:40.200 if the strings are too long or haven't softened, it's 0:06:40.240 --> 0:06:40.920 more notable. 0:06:41.279 --> 0:06:43.240 Noticeable. For the strings are. 0:06:43.120 --> 0:06:45.599 Plastic strings that are long enough for a doctor to 0:06:45.720 --> 0:06:50.440 remove the IUD, so that's basically why the strings are there, 0:06:50.839 --> 0:06:53.640 and they're usually trimmed to a link that lies against 0:06:53.680 --> 0:06:56.880 the cervix, so it's not supposed to be painful for 0:06:56.920 --> 0:07:00.479 a partner, but it does kind of change the way 0:07:00.600 --> 0:07:04.280 that the vagina can feel. And honestly, like there's just 0:07:04.320 --> 0:07:06.240 so many things that I've been hearing about the i D. 0:07:06.320 --> 0:07:08.200 I'm just pulling up something from NPR. We might have 0:07:08.279 --> 0:07:12.080 already read it where doctors are urged to treat pain 0:07:12.160 --> 0:07:13.200 for IUD insertion. 0:07:13.320 --> 0:07:15.080 Have you seen this? Do we talk about? 0:07:15.440 --> 0:07:19.160 So basically, the IUD is known to be so painful 0:07:19.560 --> 0:07:21.240 that and people say it's excruciating. 0:07:21.640 --> 0:07:23.280 I think there was even someone as that. 0:07:23.240 --> 0:07:26.080 Said it was close to like a quick feeling of childbirth, 0:07:26.120 --> 0:07:30.280 Like that's how painful. And so basically it's now recommended 0:07:30.280 --> 0:07:35.320 by the American College of Obgyns that these procedures have 0:07:35.400 --> 0:07:41.880 an urgent need for Lyda Kane and local anesthetic, not 0:07:42.160 --> 0:07:44.640 like you know when they do the dental blocks, like 0:07:44.720 --> 0:07:48.080 in some cases even anesthesia because it's that painful. So 0:07:49.200 --> 0:07:51.320 I say all that to say, there's been so many 0:07:51.320 --> 0:07:53.680 things that have come about with the IUD, so many changes, 0:07:53.720 --> 0:07:56.760 so many conversations. I have always felt like the IUD 0:07:56.920 --> 0:07:58.040 is not in its best form. 0:07:58.120 --> 0:08:01.880 Yet oh I agree. I agree, because it's just a 0:08:01.920 --> 0:08:02.680 little too much. 0:08:02.680 --> 0:08:05.280 And don't get me wrong, when I was on the 0:08:05.320 --> 0:08:09.240 show talking about how I was getting weight from pills, people. 0:08:08.960 --> 0:08:13.760 Were like, IUD, IUD. But an issue I hear. 0:08:13.640 --> 0:08:17.760 Most often is pain or some kind of sensation with 0:08:17.800 --> 0:08:21.760 the IUD. So the one thing I will say, is 0:08:22.360 --> 0:08:25.680 if it's prohibiting your sex life in a way that's 0:08:25.720 --> 0:08:28.480 bothers them to both of you, I would get rid 0:08:28.520 --> 0:08:30.640 of it, like if it was uncomfortable, but the fact 0:08:30.720 --> 0:08:33.720 that he's happy you guys are still having mind blowing sex. 0:08:34.679 --> 0:08:37.320 I wouldn't take it out. Wait, I don't know if 0:08:37.360 --> 0:08:41.680 you listened she removed it. No, no, no, I'm saying 0:08:41.720 --> 0:08:44.280 like I wouldn't take it out. I'm just like giving no. 0:08:44.480 --> 0:08:46.160 She does take it out. She did take it out, 0:08:46.200 --> 0:08:49.000 that's what she's saying. But she was saying, what do 0:08:49.080 --> 0:08:51.199 I do? No? The letter, no, no, no, no. 0:08:51.320 --> 0:08:54.480 The letter was saying that she had the IUD for 0:08:54.559 --> 0:08:57.680 ten years. Even with the IUD, she cut the strings 0:08:58.520 --> 0:09:01.520 while she had it because that was she now has 0:09:01.600 --> 0:09:04.760 taken out the IUD and sex is painful for her, 0:09:04.920 --> 0:09:06.959 and she doesn't know why she can't take the dick. 0:09:08.559 --> 0:09:10.280 On the i D was blocking a dick. 0:09:10.440 --> 0:09:10.480 No. 0:09:12.000 --> 0:09:15.559 It literally says post IUD dick, she can't take it. 0:09:16.360 --> 0:09:18.640 She doesn't know what's wrong with her. So for me, 0:09:20.960 --> 0:09:23.480 so there's a few things right. I don't know if 0:09:23.640 --> 0:09:27.959 removing the IUD caused any sort of trauma. That maybe 0:09:28.000 --> 0:09:32.200 what you're experiencing is the level of vaginismus where it's 0:09:32.280 --> 0:09:35.160 getting or like maybe you need to go to pulvic 0:09:35.200 --> 0:09:40.000 floor therapy to like maybe there's literally something contracting. 0:09:39.960 --> 0:09:42.000 From the removal of it, or. 0:09:43.480 --> 0:09:47.439 Or only because I had a friend who used to 0:09:47.480 --> 0:09:53.559 say that pain was excruciatingly painful to her and it 0:09:53.600 --> 0:09:57.760 was because of a fibroid, which I don't know if y'all, y'all, 0:09:57.840 --> 0:10:00.840 y'all will listen to the episode coming up. But I 0:10:00.960 --> 0:10:05.520 recently got a new sex partner whose dick is massive, 0:10:05.960 --> 0:10:10.240 and the first two times we fucked, it was excruciating like. 0:10:11.000 --> 0:10:14.760 It was painful. It was so painful, and I was like, damn, 0:10:14.840 --> 0:10:15.800 like it was so painful. 0:10:15.840 --> 0:10:17.640 It made me want to go see my primary care 0:10:17.679 --> 0:10:22.000 physician because I was like, bitch, if there's something in me, 0:10:22.360 --> 0:10:24.920 do I have a pybroid? Has my anatomy change? Like 0:10:25.400 --> 0:10:28.840 I literally was like, something ain't right because bit me too. 0:10:29.280 --> 0:10:33.080 I am prideful about how well I can take some dick, 0:10:33.520 --> 0:10:38.640 especially big, long, girthy dick. So to me, if you're 0:10:38.679 --> 0:10:41.800 experiencing this pain, it is something that I would actually 0:10:41.840 --> 0:10:45.840 bring up to my doctor. I would advocate to get 0:10:45.840 --> 0:10:49.160 an ultrasound and just see kind of what's happening, because 0:10:49.200 --> 0:10:53.000 it could actually be something completely different. And it is 0:10:53.040 --> 0:10:58.560 strange that with the IUD the sex was fine. Before 0:10:58.600 --> 0:11:00.880 the IUD, the sex was fine and he had an 0:11:00.960 --> 0:11:03.560 issue with filling the strings. But now that the ID 0:11:03.720 --> 0:11:07.680 has removed, you literally don't you can't take his dick. 0:11:08.160 --> 0:11:11.480 I would say that there's probably something else happening, and 0:11:11.600 --> 0:11:13.800 I would I would say, go get that checked. 0:11:14.600 --> 0:11:17.720 A lot of women are experiencing pain during sex and 0:11:17.720 --> 0:11:20.880 shalking it up to anything but getting checked, like they're 0:11:20.920 --> 0:11:23.080 not using enough flube, they're not. 0:11:23.000 --> 0:11:24.080 Accounting for dryness. 0:11:24.080 --> 0:11:27.920 Also, the second that you're assuming you're about to feel pain, 0:11:28.040 --> 0:11:29.480 your body's gonna tense up, right. 0:11:29.920 --> 0:11:31.080 So I did pelvic. 0:11:30.760 --> 0:11:33.640 Floor therapy for a few months and it helped me tremendously, 0:11:33.760 --> 0:11:36.400 Like my body started to clench at the thought of 0:11:36.640 --> 0:11:41.000 entry because I had experienced pain. So I'm not really 0:11:41.040 --> 0:11:44.480 sure why it's happening. I'm also not really sure why 0:11:44.480 --> 0:11:46.440 you think. Mandy and I got the answers. But what 0:11:46.520 --> 0:11:49.520 I would say is, I'm glad you took it out 0:11:49.720 --> 0:11:51.760 because it seems like it was something that was like 0:11:51.840 --> 0:11:55.079 an issue in your head. But I'm also really scared 0:11:55.280 --> 0:11:59.679 for the future of like I don't know, contraceptives, Like 0:12:00.200 --> 0:12:02.800 knowing that you've already had this traumatic issue, it's like, fuck, 0:12:02.840 --> 0:12:04.160 are you going to be scared for the next thing? 0:12:04.200 --> 0:12:07.040 Because the most women that choose the IUD want something 0:12:07.080 --> 0:12:10.720 non hormonal, like they want to not be able to 0:12:11.280 --> 0:12:14.880 get those cravings and pimples or acne or mood twings 0:12:14.920 --> 0:12:17.120 all that shit, So it's like, fuck. 0:12:18.360 --> 0:12:18.679 I did. 0:12:19.280 --> 0:12:22.680 I did also end up because when I took the y'all, 0:12:22.840 --> 0:12:27.319 y'all don't understand, I literally could not take this man's dick. 0:12:27.360 --> 0:12:29.520 And I was embarrassed because bitch I. 0:12:29.480 --> 0:12:32.120 Was a runner in a track star because I was 0:12:32.200 --> 0:12:35.160 running really fast from that goddamn dick. And so for me, 0:12:36.559 --> 0:12:39.800 the next time we fucked was like maybe two weeks later, 0:12:40.200 --> 0:12:42.440 and I was able to take it. And so what's 0:12:42.480 --> 0:12:45.120 crazy is I actually ended up looking up if it 0:12:45.160 --> 0:12:48.600 had anything to do with my cycle, and in fact, 0:12:48.880 --> 0:12:54.120 there is a correlation between your pussy and size and 0:12:54.320 --> 0:12:56.640 where you are in your ovulation cycle. So I do 0:12:56.720 --> 0:12:58.360 want to share this because I just looked at it 0:12:59.400 --> 0:13:01.920 and then you're in your ovulation. 0:13:01.559 --> 0:13:03.760 Cycle nothing to do with dick size, like. 0:13:03.800 --> 0:13:06.199 Especially if you're a woman who just you feel like 0:13:06.240 --> 0:13:10.160 you could take dick like good For me, I was like, damn, 0:13:10.480 --> 0:13:13.880 I was trying to blame everything, but having a size 0:13:13.960 --> 0:13:16.760 that's but no, anyone would a pussy. 0:13:18.280 --> 0:13:19.440 During your cycle. 0:13:19.640 --> 0:13:21.240 Literally, I don't know if y'all have the flow app 0:13:21.320 --> 0:13:24.400 or whatever you do, but your pussy actually does change 0:13:24.400 --> 0:13:28.440 in size during different moments within your ovulation cycle. So 0:13:29.720 --> 0:13:34.679 after ovulation, hormones drop and the vagina may feel less 0:13:34.720 --> 0:13:39.239 flexible and even drier, leading to the perception of tightness. 0:13:39.640 --> 0:13:42.160 And then of course with increased levels of estrogen and 0:13:42.200 --> 0:13:47.240 progesterone that makes the vagina more lubricated and actually. 0:13:46.880 --> 0:13:48.920 Elastic during that time. 0:13:55.800 --> 0:13:58.559 So if you look at your and maybe I'll put 0:13:58.600 --> 0:14:00.920 this on Patreon or maybe I'll see if there's a 0:14:01.000 --> 0:14:02.760 chart that I could put it on our our thing. 0:14:03.120 --> 0:14:06.520 But there are little moments within your cycle where your 0:14:06.600 --> 0:14:11.160 vagina will be tighter than other moments, and so I 0:14:11.200 --> 0:14:15.160 would look and maybe use that track when your cycle 0:14:15.240 --> 0:14:18.199 is I know you may be someone who fucks often, especially. 0:14:17.800 --> 0:14:20.280 If you really really really really really. 0:14:20.040 --> 0:14:23.120 Like having sex with this man and y'all been together 0:14:23.200 --> 0:14:26.120 for so long, I would say maybe track that and 0:14:26.160 --> 0:14:26.640 I think. 0:14:26.440 --> 0:14:28.440 My favorite person is probably thrown off because of the 0:14:28.440 --> 0:14:32.680 IUD too, Like what do you mean just I'm saying, 0:14:32.800 --> 0:14:36.880 just like you knowing removing the ID, Like, who knows, 0:14:36.920 --> 0:14:38.680 maybe her cycle is not the same, Like I'm really 0:14:38.720 --> 0:14:41.440 hoping that it is, because I think it's really helpful 0:14:41.440 --> 0:14:44.280 to give to any guyno your last period and the 0:14:44.320 --> 0:14:47.760 trends of your period, like that is so important, especially 0:14:47.800 --> 0:14:50.160 when there was a Sex and the City episode. Y'all know, 0:14:50.160 --> 0:14:52.920 I referenced it all the time, but basically Charlotte had 0:14:52.960 --> 0:14:56.920 vaginus miss or no it was volvidinia, and she had 0:14:56.920 --> 0:14:59.240 to do a vagina journal of what it felt like 0:14:59.360 --> 0:15:02.560 for the day, if there was dryness, wetness, like whatever 0:15:02.680 --> 0:15:05.560 was going on. And so in the slow app or 0:15:05.600 --> 0:15:08.480 different period apps, I use a different one. There's literally 0:15:08.520 --> 0:15:10.840 notes for that. I do the same thing, like if 0:15:10.880 --> 0:15:12.840 I see a little blood earlier, I'm like boo boop 0:15:12.920 --> 0:15:15.160 like and not track it. And I literally handed to 0:15:15.160 --> 0:15:16.600 the guy and I'm like, here was my fussy. 0:15:16.920 --> 0:15:20.000 Here are the details I also wanted to add to 0:15:20.200 --> 0:15:23.720 in terms of your period, because y'all listen. First off, 0:15:23.800 --> 0:15:27.480 y'all got us being googlers over here and doctors. 0:15:27.520 --> 0:15:28.360 We are not doctors. 0:15:28.400 --> 0:15:31.640 However, I wanted to add though, because you mentioned in 0:15:31.680 --> 0:15:34.480 your email that you feel like he's hitting your cervix. 0:15:35.200 --> 0:15:39.080 The position of your cervix actually does change throughout your 0:15:39.120 --> 0:15:44.680 tie your cycle, so it gets typically the lowest mid 0:15:44.760 --> 0:15:47.680 cycle and at its highest at the start and end. 0:15:48.040 --> 0:15:51.320 So that clearly makes the amount of room inside of 0:15:51.360 --> 0:15:55.960 your vagina different. And of course changes in hormones too 0:15:57.400 --> 0:16:00.640 could have your cervix move in cervical mute. Some vaginal 0:16:00.640 --> 0:16:03.720 fluids changes well during your mental cycle. But that's the thing. 0:16:03.760 --> 0:16:06.720 If you feel like he's hitting something, he actually may be, 0:16:07.280 --> 0:16:08.920 and it may be because of where you're at in 0:16:08.960 --> 0:16:09.480 your cycle. 0:16:09.760 --> 0:16:12.440 Kind of like what Weezy said though, the. 0:16:12.400 --> 0:16:17.520 Fact that hormonal changes are probably different now that you've 0:16:17.560 --> 0:16:20.080 removed the IUD, it could just be thrown all of 0:16:20.120 --> 0:16:22.760 it and maybe you'll starvex the sin lower than normal. 0:16:22.640 --> 0:16:25.560 Because if you have the IUD for this long, for. 0:16:25.600 --> 0:16:29.520 Anyone listening when you have vaginal pain, the best advice 0:16:29.560 --> 0:16:31.960 I've got from a doctor was like being able to 0:16:32.000 --> 0:16:36.040 describe your pain, because I was really even confused even 0:16:36.040 --> 0:16:38.200 when you mentioned removal in the beginning of the thing. 0:16:38.880 --> 0:16:42.200 It's so confusing because you associate the entry of the 0:16:42.200 --> 0:16:45.600 IUD and the IUD itself to be the pain. So 0:16:45.880 --> 0:16:48.240 what I would say is describing the pain so that 0:16:48.480 --> 0:16:53.880 you can figure out what it is. For example, sharpness, poking, tightness. 0:16:54.400 --> 0:16:56.720 There's another one that I remember my doctor was telling 0:16:56.720 --> 0:16:59.480 me it like burning. When we hear burning, we. 0:16:59.480 --> 0:17:02.920 Think a lot of times like STD type of p burn. 0:17:03.080 --> 0:17:04.560 And it's not that. It's just like, you know, if 0:17:04.560 --> 0:17:05.480 something's really raw. 0:17:05.840 --> 0:17:07.840 Almost think if you're like putting on lotion and you're 0:17:07.880 --> 0:17:10.880 like sunburned like that, that's the burn where it. 0:17:10.800 --> 0:17:11.720 Feels very tender. 0:17:11.840 --> 0:17:14.600 Like figuring out the words to describe your pain because 0:17:14.600 --> 0:17:16.960 you're gonna go down to google hole, bitch and. 0:17:16.880 --> 0:17:19.320 Wait a second, now you now you got me thinking 0:17:20.119 --> 0:17:23.840 when I was taking that dick, how would I describe 0:17:23.840 --> 0:17:24.280 the pain? 0:17:24.960 --> 0:17:25.800 You know what's crazy? 0:17:25.880 --> 0:17:28.679 I literally, first off, I felt he was right in 0:17:28.720 --> 0:17:31.560 my belly button, So I literally felt like he was 0:17:31.600 --> 0:17:35.359 in my stomach like for one and I was just 0:17:35.480 --> 0:17:39.199 like what the fog like to the point where like 0:17:40.520 --> 0:17:44.080 after we were done, I felt like I could still 0:17:44.119 --> 0:17:46.960 feel him in me, like in my stomach, Like I 0:17:47.040 --> 0:17:48.840 felt like he punched me in my stomach. 0:17:49.520 --> 0:17:52.480 I don't think I was feeling poking as much. 0:17:52.800 --> 0:17:55.240 You know what that that what I heard too, is 0:17:55.520 --> 0:17:59.000 that's a uti. Could be tenderness. I don't know if 0:17:59.040 --> 0:18:00.560 you just got back from can I was just going 0:18:00.600 --> 0:18:00.920 or whatever. 0:18:00.960 --> 0:18:07.840 But water, bitch, a uk dehydration feeling like when when 0:18:07.880 --> 0:18:11.440 you are UTI during sex can give you that feeling too. 0:18:12.000 --> 0:18:14.800 It's like inflammation. And then there's another thing. 0:18:15.960 --> 0:18:18.320 Oh well, not just scary because I mean, well this 0:18:18.320 --> 0:18:20.919 didn't happen, because you want to know, my homegirl's uterus 0:18:20.960 --> 0:18:24.680 tilted from a big dick. And she said that she remembered. 0:18:24.840 --> 0:18:27.000 She like tells the joke all the time when we're drunk. 0:18:27.440 --> 0:18:29.719 She's like, bitch, I'm gonna tell you what have thee 0:18:29.720 --> 0:18:30.159 with Disney? 0:18:30.560 --> 0:18:33.600 And she always says, I said, it's in my stamach 0:18:34.440 --> 0:18:36.320 And she said when he pulled out, she felt a 0:18:36.440 --> 0:18:40.119 movement getting the fuck out of here. Bruh. She's been 0:18:40.160 --> 0:18:42.080 to r LA, shows you met her. I'm telling you 0:18:42.080 --> 0:18:44.560 the bitch every time she told the story. And the 0:18:44.600 --> 0:18:47.440 last time I saw her too, we were out somewhere 0:18:47.440 --> 0:18:49.600 and I was like, bitch, tell so, and so she. 0:18:49.600 --> 0:18:50.560 Was like, how he fuck off? 0:18:50.560 --> 0:18:52.600 Puss you up, and I was like, girl, no about 0:18:52.640 --> 0:18:55.879 your recent move, like no, like she's so used to 0:18:55.920 --> 0:18:57.720 telling the story because it's so unbelievable. 0:18:58.480 --> 0:19:03.600 But I'm not gonna lie like I wouldn't think that 0:19:03.640 --> 0:19:06.119 a dick could be too big to move anything around. 0:19:06.520 --> 0:19:09.200 But not only is this dick really big, it got 0:19:09.200 --> 0:19:09.600 a curve. 0:19:09.960 --> 0:19:12.359 So I'm not gonna hold you. I feel like he 0:19:12.359 --> 0:19:14.800 he rearranged my pussy. I ain't even gonna hold you 0:19:15.160 --> 0:19:19.600 like so, I wouldn't doubt that something is happening up 0:19:19.680 --> 0:19:25.000 in there and that he might tilt drop something with something. 0:19:25.400 --> 0:19:32.200 Nigga, what's she? This ain't an tucky No, no, no, 0:19:32.280 --> 0:19:35.560 no no, this is no no, we not no wait 0:19:35.560 --> 0:19:36.119 hold on, let me. 0:19:37.880 --> 0:19:40.520 I don't look gonna same nigga because she said he 0:19:40.640 --> 0:19:42.880 said that she been with this man for six years, 0:19:43.040 --> 0:19:45.439 So I don't fucking. I am not fucking anybody with 0:19:45.480 --> 0:19:51.679 a girlfriend. This is not horrible decisions from eight years ago. Okay, 0:19:52.440 --> 0:19:58.960 the nigga is very single, very single, and destroying my insights. Anyways, 0:19:58.960 --> 0:20:02.000 we do hope that you go to a doctor. I 0:20:02.040 --> 0:20:04.920 would say that and like Wes said, explain your pain 0:20:05.000 --> 0:20:08.760 to them. I would advocate for an ultrasound and make 0:20:08.800 --> 0:20:12.000 sure that everything is where it needs to be, or 0:20:12.040 --> 0:20:15.320 that you don't have anything extra growing inside of you, 0:20:15.400 --> 0:20:16.920 because we don't think you both. 0:20:16.840 --> 0:20:19.360 Wheeling you and Mandy around on. 0:20:19.359 --> 0:20:22.520 The NHB tour. Make sure you go, because we are 0:20:22.560 --> 0:20:25.560 still horrible. Go and get your tickets right now for 0:20:25.840 --> 0:20:29.439 nhbtour dot com. There, it's gonna be the live shows 0:20:29.480 --> 0:20:32.040 that you always know. We are literally blending in the 0:20:32.080 --> 0:20:34.959 book into our live shows. So some of the stories 0:20:34.960 --> 0:20:37.440 you read, we're bringing the pages to the stages. 0:20:37.920 --> 0:20:41.600 That's all right, and we're excited to see you guys 0:20:41.640 --> 0:20:44.280 are there. I really really really hope we were able 0:20:44.280 --> 0:20:46.920 to help you. We clearly you just made me talk 0:20:46.960 --> 0:20:50.920 about addict. That's big to me too and was painful, 0:20:51.200 --> 0:20:53.600 but now I feel like I'm used to it. 0:20:53.680 --> 0:20:56.200 So I did take it the third time, but I 0:20:56.240 --> 0:20:57.360 would maybe do that too. 0:20:57.480 --> 0:21:02.720 Maybe just keep fucking yeah men, follow the thread and 0:21:02.720 --> 0:21:04.040 be like, let me tell you what's going on my mind. 0:21:04.080 --> 0:21:09.159 Pussys listen. 0:21:09.320 --> 0:21:12.359