WEBVTT - Second Cup: Be a person who does fun stuff

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<v Speaker 1>Welcome to Before Breakfast, a production of iHeartRadio.

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<v Speaker 2>Good Morning. This is Laura. Welcome to the Before Breakfast podcast.

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<v Speaker 2>Today's tip is.

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<v Speaker 1>To be a person who does fun stuff. This tip

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<v Speaker 1>is inspired by one of the participants in my Tranquility

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<v Speaker 1>by Tuesday project, who helped me test out the nine

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<v Speaker 1>time rules that I'll be sharing in my forthcoming book

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<v Speaker 1>of the same name. One of the rules is to

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<v Speaker 1>have one big adventure and one little adventure each week.

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<v Speaker 1>A big adventure might be something like dinner and a

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<v Speaker 1>play with your partner, or a hike with your kids,

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<v Speaker 1>something that takes a few hours and feels special and different.

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<v Speaker 1>A little adventure might be a lunch hour trip to

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<v Speaker 1>an art gallery or participating in a webinar on cooking.

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<v Speaker 1>I'm talking just an hour or so doing something a

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<v Speaker 1>little out of the ordinary besides work, caregiving, or life maintenance.

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<v Speaker 1>After following the rule to have one big adventure and

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<v Speaker 1>one little adventure each week, the Tranquility by Tuesday participant

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<v Speaker 1>who inspired this episode commented that one of the biggest

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<v Speaker 1>changes was in her picture of her own life. She

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<v Speaker 1>now felt like the kind of person who did fun stuff.

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<v Speaker 1>I love that by claiming that identity for herself. She

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<v Speaker 1>no doubt became more confident that she could make time

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<v Speaker 1>for fun even with all her other commitments. Because she

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<v Speaker 1>was the kind of person who did fun stuff. She

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<v Speaker 1>started looking for fun stuff. She seized on fun stuff

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<v Speaker 1>that came into her life. I'd say that in general,

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<v Speaker 1>more fun stuff is better than less fun stuff, So

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<v Speaker 1>let's all aspire to be people who do fun stuff.

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<v Speaker 1>When we use the language of identity to remind ourselves

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<v Speaker 1>who we are, that is, people who do fun stuff,

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<v Speaker 1>then the behavior we want more of having fun will follow.

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<v Speaker 1>Because we are the kind of people who do fun stuff,

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<v Speaker 1>we're more likely to say yes to the fun opportunities

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<v Speaker 1>that come along, perhaps the last minute invitation to join

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<v Speaker 1>a friend at a weeknight pro basketball game, or pulling

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<v Speaker 1>off the interstate to follow a sign for a roadside attraction.

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<v Speaker 1>You spot a bubble wand at the dollar store and

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<v Speaker 1>buy it. You blow bubbles in the parking lot because

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<v Speaker 1>that feels like something that someone who has fun would do,

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<v Speaker 1>and you are the kind of person who does fun stuff.

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<v Speaker 1>People who do fun stuff are also more likely to

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<v Speaker 1>seek out fun and build in time for it. When

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<v Speaker 1>you are a person who does fun stuff. You will

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<v Speaker 1>expect fun every weekend, and you will be sure to

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<v Speaker 1>make it happen. You will seek out experiences that are

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<v Speaker 1>fun or special or unusual, instead of letting your weekends

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<v Speaker 1>be consumed by errands and laundry. You'll find room for

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<v Speaker 1>fun stuff during the week too. You'll be open to

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<v Speaker 1>quick adventures on your lunch break. You'll look for ways

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<v Speaker 1>to do something on week nights other than wash dishes,

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<v Speaker 1>and make sure your kids practice their instruments. After all,

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<v Speaker 1>that's what people who do fun stuff do. So try

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<v Speaker 1>telling yourself, I'm the kind of person who does fun stuff.

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<v Speaker 2>See what happens. Let this statement of identity shape how

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<v Speaker 2>you respond to invitations and opportunities and how you plan

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<v Speaker 2>your time. Enjoy having a little more fun in your

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<v Speaker 2>life and thinking of yourself as someone who is definitely

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<v Speaker 2>not a drudge. In the meantime, This is Laura. Thanks

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<v Speaker 2>for listening, and here's to making the most of our time. Hey, everybody,

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