1 00:00:03,480 --> 00:00:07,680 Speaker 1: Welcome to Before Breakfast, a production of iHeartRadio. 2 00:00:09,160 --> 00:00:14,680 Speaker 2: Good Morning. This is Laura. Welcome to the Before Breakfast podcast. 3 00:00:15,600 --> 00:00:17,200 Speaker 2: Today's tip is. 4 00:00:17,160 --> 00:00:22,360 Speaker 1: To be a person who does fun stuff. This tip 5 00:00:22,400 --> 00:00:25,240 Speaker 1: is inspired by one of the participants in my Tranquility 6 00:00:25,280 --> 00:00:28,360 Speaker 1: by Tuesday project, who helped me test out the nine 7 00:00:28,440 --> 00:00:31,080 Speaker 1: time rules that I'll be sharing in my forthcoming book 8 00:00:31,200 --> 00:00:34,360 Speaker 1: of the same name. One of the rules is to 9 00:00:34,400 --> 00:00:38,640 Speaker 1: have one big adventure and one little adventure each week. 10 00:00:40,120 --> 00:00:42,640 Speaker 1: A big adventure might be something like dinner and a 11 00:00:42,680 --> 00:00:45,440 Speaker 1: play with your partner, or a hike with your kids, 12 00:00:46,479 --> 00:00:50,680 Speaker 1: something that takes a few hours and feels special and different. 13 00:00:52,360 --> 00:00:54,720 Speaker 1: A little adventure might be a lunch hour trip to 14 00:00:54,760 --> 00:00:57,720 Speaker 1: an art gallery or participating in a webinar on cooking. 15 00:00:58,600 --> 00:01:01,160 Speaker 1: I'm talking just an hour or so doing something a 16 00:01:01,200 --> 00:01:06,200 Speaker 1: little out of the ordinary besides work, caregiving, or life maintenance. 17 00:01:07,800 --> 00:01:10,400 Speaker 1: After following the rule to have one big adventure and 18 00:01:10,440 --> 00:01:14,400 Speaker 1: one little adventure each week, the Tranquility by Tuesday participant 19 00:01:14,440 --> 00:01:18,240 Speaker 1: who inspired this episode commented that one of the biggest 20 00:01:18,319 --> 00:01:22,880 Speaker 1: changes was in her picture of her own life. She 21 00:01:23,000 --> 00:01:26,680 Speaker 1: now felt like the kind of person who did fun stuff. 22 00:01:28,160 --> 00:01:32,160 Speaker 1: I love that by claiming that identity for herself. She 23 00:01:32,319 --> 00:01:35,280 Speaker 1: no doubt became more confident that she could make time 24 00:01:35,319 --> 00:01:40,000 Speaker 1: for fun even with all her other commitments. Because she 25 00:01:40,240 --> 00:01:43,080 Speaker 1: was the kind of person who did fun stuff. She 26 00:01:43,200 --> 00:01:47,280 Speaker 1: started looking for fun stuff. She seized on fun stuff 27 00:01:47,280 --> 00:01:50,800 Speaker 1: that came into her life. I'd say that in general, 28 00:01:51,480 --> 00:01:56,360 Speaker 1: more fun stuff is better than less fun stuff, So 29 00:01:56,960 --> 00:01:59,680 Speaker 1: let's all aspire to be people who do fun stuff. 30 00:02:00,800 --> 00:02:03,760 Speaker 1: When we use the language of identity to remind ourselves 31 00:02:03,760 --> 00:02:07,280 Speaker 1: who we are, that is, people who do fun stuff, 32 00:02:08,240 --> 00:02:12,760 Speaker 1: then the behavior we want more of having fun will follow. 33 00:02:14,240 --> 00:02:16,800 Speaker 1: Because we are the kind of people who do fun stuff, 34 00:02:17,360 --> 00:02:19,880 Speaker 1: we're more likely to say yes to the fun opportunities 35 00:02:19,919 --> 00:02:23,519 Speaker 1: that come along, perhaps the last minute invitation to join 36 00:02:23,560 --> 00:02:27,519 Speaker 1: a friend at a weeknight pro basketball game, or pulling 37 00:02:27,520 --> 00:02:30,960 Speaker 1: off the interstate to follow a sign for a roadside attraction. 38 00:02:32,320 --> 00:02:34,600 Speaker 1: You spot a bubble wand at the dollar store and 39 00:02:34,639 --> 00:02:38,760 Speaker 1: buy it. You blow bubbles in the parking lot because 40 00:02:38,760 --> 00:02:42,320 Speaker 1: that feels like something that someone who has fun would do, 41 00:02:43,480 --> 00:02:47,000 Speaker 1: and you are the kind of person who does fun stuff. 42 00:02:48,600 --> 00:02:51,040 Speaker 1: People who do fun stuff are also more likely to 43 00:02:51,120 --> 00:02:54,639 Speaker 1: seek out fun and build in time for it. When 44 00:02:54,639 --> 00:02:57,519 Speaker 1: you are a person who does fun stuff. You will 45 00:02:57,560 --> 00:03:01,320 Speaker 1: expect fun every weekend, and you will be sure to 46 00:03:01,320 --> 00:03:05,040 Speaker 1: make it happen. You will seek out experiences that are 47 00:03:05,120 --> 00:03:09,400 Speaker 1: fun or special or unusual, instead of letting your weekends 48 00:03:09,440 --> 00:03:14,120 Speaker 1: be consumed by errands and laundry. You'll find room for 49 00:03:14,240 --> 00:03:18,360 Speaker 1: fun stuff during the week too. You'll be open to 50 00:03:18,520 --> 00:03:22,320 Speaker 1: quick adventures on your lunch break. You'll look for ways 51 00:03:22,400 --> 00:03:25,639 Speaker 1: to do something on week nights other than wash dishes, 52 00:03:26,080 --> 00:03:30,040 Speaker 1: and make sure your kids practice their instruments. After all, 53 00:03:30,880 --> 00:03:36,240 Speaker 1: that's what people who do fun stuff do. So try 54 00:03:36,320 --> 00:03:40,800 Speaker 1: telling yourself, I'm the kind of person who does fun stuff. 55 00:03:41,920 --> 00:03:46,840 Speaker 2: See what happens. Let this statement of identity shape how 56 00:03:46,840 --> 00:03:50,920 Speaker 2: you respond to invitations and opportunities and how you plan 57 00:03:51,000 --> 00:03:54,760 Speaker 2: your time. Enjoy having a little more fun in your 58 00:03:54,800 --> 00:03:59,520 Speaker 2: life and thinking of yourself as someone who is definitely 59 00:04:00,320 --> 00:04:06,480 Speaker 2: not a drudge. In the meantime, This is Laura. Thanks 60 00:04:06,520 --> 00:04:18,160 Speaker 2: for listening, and here's to making the most of our time. Hey, everybody, 61 00:04:18,360 --> 00:04:20,440 Speaker 2: I'd love to hear from you. You can send me 62 00:04:20,480 --> 00:04:22,799 Speaker 2: your tips, your questions, or anything else. 63 00:04:23,560 --> 00:04:27,120 Speaker 1: Just connect with me on Twitter, Facebook and Instagram at 64 00:04:27,160 --> 00:04:33,560 Speaker 1: before Breakfast Pod. That's b the number four then Breakfast Pod. 65 00:04:34,440 --> 00:04:37,320 Speaker 1: You can also shoot me an email at before Breakfast 66 00:04:37,360 --> 00:04:41,279 Speaker 1: podcast at iHeartMedia dot com that Before Breakfast is spelled 67 00:04:41,279 --> 00:04:43,760 Speaker 1: out with all the letters, thanks so much, should I 68 00:04:43,760 --> 00:04:51,840 Speaker 1: look forward to staying in touch. 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