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Speaker 2: probably went through different feasas where you felt like you

439
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Speaker 2: had a lot of control with your relationship with the

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Speaker 2: social media, versus like maybe feeling like things were a

441
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Speaker 2: little out of control. Talk to me a little bit

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Speaker 2: about that.

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Speaker 1: Yeah, well, social media has come a long way since

444
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Speaker 1: the beginning. And when I first started, the algorithm was

445
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Speaker 1: a lot different and you could control what you're doing,

446
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Speaker 1: and the people that were following you would see what

447
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Speaker 1: you're doing. And now not many people see it, and

448
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Speaker 1: it's so big too, So I mean, like my following,

449
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Speaker 1: there's so many people there, so it can get really

450
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Speaker 1: overwhelming for me because everything that I put out there,

451
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Speaker 1: and I'm sure a lot of people get this with

452
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Speaker 1: large followings, when you put it out there, it's out

453
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Speaker 1: there and everyone's seen it, and there's so many judgments

454
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Speaker 1: and criticisms and people always have something to say and

455
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Speaker 1: we always want to voice their opinions and their opinions right.

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Speaker 3: And it can be a lot.

457
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Speaker 1: So if you're not prepared for that, then yeah, it

458
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Speaker 1: can be really bad for you.

459
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Speaker 3: And you've got to make sure that you're strong enough

460
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Speaker 3: to be able to deal with it and resilient. That's

461
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Speaker 3: something that I've worked on for years.

462
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Speaker 1: So I think I work on it in my real

463
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Speaker 1: life offline as well as online, being resilient, working on

464
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Speaker 1: not worrying about what other people think of you, which

465
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Speaker 1: is so hard and it's easier said than done.

466
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Speaker 3: But everyone's got an opinion.

467
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Speaker 1: And once you put yourself out there, and this is

468
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Speaker 1: what I learned through Brene Brown as well.

469
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Speaker 3: If you put yourself out there and you're going to be.

470
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Speaker 1: Seen in the world, there are going to be judgments

471
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Speaker 1: and criticisms. You can't avoid it. And if you want

472
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Speaker 1: to avoid it, you've got to stay at home and

473
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Speaker 1: not do anything. And then even then, if you're online,

474
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Speaker 1: you're still out there, you know what I mean. So

475
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Speaker 1: social media has given everyone this way to be out

476
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Speaker 1: there in front of everyone's eyes all around the world,

477
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Speaker 1: but you have to know that you're going to get

478
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Speaker 1: thesems and you've got to be prepared for it. But

479
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Speaker 1: it's just part of being out there and being seen

480
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Speaker 1: and taking that step and having the confidence to put

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Speaker 1: yourself out there. And that's something that I've dealt with

482
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Speaker 1: a lot, and I've come a long way, and I

483
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Speaker 1: still have times when I feel like it's too much. Actually,

484
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Speaker 1: when I was pregnant the last time, towards the end

485
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Speaker 1: of my pregnancy, I was getting really overwhelmed with a

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Speaker 1: lot of stuff that was happening online. I mean, we've

487
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Speaker 1: had a crazy year and a half, haven't we. With

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Speaker 1: everything that's gone on, and I'm very sensitive and I

489
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Speaker 1: take a long I take on a lot of stuff

490
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Speaker 1: that's happening and other people sort of I get messages

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Speaker 1: and people need help all the time, and I want

492
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Speaker 1: to help everyone, and I get so overwhelmed by it

493
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Speaker 1: because you cannot help everyone and you can't please everyone.

494
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Speaker 1: So I ended up just saying, Okay, I need to

495
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Speaker 1: have a break from this because I'm I'm at the

496
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Speaker 1: end of my pregnancy.

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Speaker 3: I'm getting really stressed out.

498
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Speaker 1: I couldn't breathe properly, and I thought, I've got to

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Speaker 1: make changes here.

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Speaker 3: So I got off social media for a couple of

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Speaker 3: weeks and.

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Speaker 1: It was the best thing I ever did, and I

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Speaker 1: felt so freshed and recharged, and I felt like when

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Speaker 1: I came back on that I was capable of I

505
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Speaker 1: could sort of deal with anything that was sort of

506
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Speaker 1: throwing my way, and I was strong enough to I

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Speaker 1: sort of veat off topic there.

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Speaker 2: But no, no, I think it's important. And with the

509
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Speaker 2: magnitude of what you're doing over on social like, is

510
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Speaker 2: this you the person that's running all of this or

511
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Speaker 2: how do you navigate that?

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Speaker 1: Yeah, So I don't let anyone touch my Instagram. I've

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Speaker 1: got a Facebook page. I think it's eleven million or

514
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Speaker 1: something like that on there. I'm not on there as

515
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Speaker 1: much as I used to be. I used to be

516
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Speaker 1: on there a lot myself, reading all the messages, but

517
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Speaker 1: it got too much, and a lot of them are

518
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Speaker 1: customer service questions about my fitness program. So I do

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Speaker 1: have a customer service team that manage all that for me,

520
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Speaker 1: but I won't let them touch my Instagram. It's too

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Speaker 1: personal and I feel like I need to be on

522
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Speaker 1: there myself doing it. But I mean, you can't have everything,

523
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Speaker 1: so if it is just me, then I'm the only

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Speaker 1: one that's dealing with everything. And obviously I can't get

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Speaker 1: through all the dms, but I try so I sort

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Speaker 1: of scheming through and try to. I try to answer

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Speaker 1: as many as I can, but yeah, sometimes some days,

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Speaker 1: depending what I do, especially in my story, you know,

529
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Speaker 1: people can reply to stories, there's sometimes several thousand and

530
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Speaker 1: there's no way anyone can.

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Speaker 3: Get through that.

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Speaker 2: you were talking about the importance of kind of going

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Speaker 2: back to your purpose and understanding that if you want

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Speaker 2: to affect change, which you said as you came into

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Speaker 2: your mid twenties with something that you really came to

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Speaker 2: understand was part of your purpose and part of your mission,

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Speaker 2: that you're going to have to get comfortable with being

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Speaker 2: a little bit uncomfortable and understanding Heerberne Brown that you're

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Speaker 2: not going to be a person for everyone.

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Speaker 1: Yep, you cannot please every single person, and if you

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Speaker 1: try to, only sacrificing your own happiness. And that's something

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Speaker 1: I learned to and I always used to do that.

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Speaker 1: I actually put a few quotes up recently. It's funny

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Speaker 1: we're talking about it now, But yeah, I feel like

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Speaker 1: I need I always feel like I need to please everyone.

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Speaker 1: I don't know why I'm a people pleaser and That's

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Speaker 1: why I have to be aware of it and make

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Speaker 1: sure that I'm not sacrificing my own happiness to make

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Speaker 1: everyone else ha which you can't achieve anyway.

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Speaker 3: And there's nothing wrong with wanting other.

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Speaker 1: People to be happy if the people you love like

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Speaker 1: your family. But there's a difference between giving up your

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Speaker 1: own happiness for people that you barely know you know,

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Speaker 1: especially people on social media.

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Speaker 3: It just can't be done.

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Speaker 2: It cannot be done. And I actually think that's a

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Speaker 2: really great point, is that a lot of the time,

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Speaker 2: the individuals that may be coming at you with unsolicited

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Speaker 2: feedback or criticism, these are people that you don't know personally,

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Speaker 2: whether you know you do again have one hundred followers

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Speaker 2: or millions of followers. Something that I've really thought a

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Speaker 2: lot about myself in the past year is like, am

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Speaker 2: I putting enough energy into the the people I know

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Speaker 2: dearly in my own life as I am putting energy

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Speaker 2: into the people that I do not know in my life.

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Speaker 1: Yes, and energy can be even just thinking about it

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Speaker 1: or letting them affect you in some way. And I've

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Speaker 1: had this sort of I guess it was a realization.

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Speaker 1: It was a couple of weeks ago, and I go

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Speaker 1: through these cycles of sometimes I'm really strong and resilient,

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Speaker 1: I don't care what people say, I'm fine, and then

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Speaker 1: other times, if I'm at a lower point, everything affects

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Speaker 1: me and I just I can't even deal with it.

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Speaker 3: So if you get that, if you get me.

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Speaker 1: In that moment where I'm feeling a little bit down

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Speaker 1: or maybe haven't been exercising for a week or something,

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Speaker 1: because that definitely affects me too, and my confidence and

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Speaker 1: my resilience. The other day, so I was like two

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Speaker 1: weeks ago, some people were saying some things and I

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Speaker 1: sort of let them get to me. And you've got

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Speaker 1: to understand, too, people need to be responsible for the

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Speaker 1: way people affect you, for the way you allow them

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Speaker 1: to affect you. You can't control what they do, but

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Speaker 1: you can control how you let them affect you, or

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Speaker 1: if you let them, And you've got to take control

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Speaker 1: of that and not use it as an excuse and

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Speaker 1: let them beat you down and keep you there. So

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Speaker 1: this is something I've been dealing with for many years,

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Speaker 1: and it came up again two weeks ago and people

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Speaker 1: were saying these things and I was really grumpy and

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Speaker 1: I was taking it out of my kids and my partner,

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Speaker 1: and I was just feeling horrible and those depressive kind

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Speaker 1: of feelings, and then I thought, what am I doing.

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Speaker 1: I'm allowing this person who I've never met, who doesn't

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Speaker 1: know me or care about me, affect me and affect

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Speaker 1: my real life and the way I am with my kids,

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Speaker 1: and they're taking that moment away that I could have

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Speaker 1: with my kids and have a great time that you

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Speaker 1: can never get back.

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Speaker 3: You can't get that.

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Speaker 1: Time back, and I'm letting them hijacket and take it away.

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Speaker 3: And I thought, I'm not going to do this.

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Speaker 1: I'm not allowing them to and I have this process

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Speaker 1: and this might sound silly, and you can find your

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Speaker 1: own way of dealing with it. This is what I do,

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Speaker 1: and there's probably some name for it too, but I

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Speaker 1: don't know it. But when these people put their negative

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Speaker 1: comments or they throw those horrible negative things my way,

656
00:32:45,360 --> 00:32:48,400
Speaker 1: I imagine them like cords and they're attached to me

657
00:32:48,520 --> 00:32:51,520
Speaker 1: in my chest and they're taking away all my positive energy.

658
00:32:51,840 --> 00:32:55,640
Speaker 1: And then I imagine cutting it like my arm's a knife,

659
00:32:55,720 --> 00:32:59,400
Speaker 1: and I cut the cords, and then I envision this

660
00:33:00,160 --> 00:33:02,800
Speaker 1: them getting sent away, so I actually push them away

661
00:33:02,840 --> 00:33:04,640
Speaker 1: and I send them back to where they came from.

662
00:33:05,000 --> 00:33:06,720
Speaker 1: And if I get those feelings back to where I'm

663
00:33:07,000 --> 00:33:08,800
Speaker 1: letting them get to me again, I do it again.

664
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Speaker 1: I'll keep doing the same process and push it away

665
00:33:11,440 --> 00:33:15,280
Speaker 1: and just visualizing that that like, being able to see

666
00:33:15,400 --> 00:33:17,920
Speaker 1: that process helps me so much and I feel like

667
00:33:17,960 --> 00:33:20,840
Speaker 1: I'm set free. So I'll do that. And there's so

668
00:33:20,880 --> 00:33:22,320
Speaker 1: many ways you can do that too. You get to

669
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Speaker 1: find what works for you.

670
00:33:23,920 --> 00:33:27,360
Speaker 2: Such a helpful tool and such a helpful visualization. I

671
00:33:27,400 --> 00:33:31,800
Speaker 2: think also something that you were mentioning before that once

672
00:33:31,880 --> 00:33:35,440
Speaker 2: you started to move your body, you discovered or perhaps

673
00:33:35,600 --> 00:33:39,120
Speaker 2: rediscovered a sense of self worth that had been lost

674
00:33:39,280 --> 00:33:42,560
Speaker 2: along your journey. And that's something that I can certainly

675
00:33:42,600 --> 00:33:46,640
Speaker 2: relate to as well. When I was in college, I

676
00:33:46,840 --> 00:33:53,120
Speaker 2: was very much overweight. And that wasn't problematic because of necessarily,

677
00:33:53,240 --> 00:33:55,120
Speaker 2: you know, looking out at the scale and seeing a

678
00:33:55,120 --> 00:33:58,200
Speaker 2: certain number, but more so because I looked in the

679
00:33:58,240 --> 00:34:01,360
Speaker 2: mirror and I wasn't happy. I felt, I didn't love

680
00:34:01,440 --> 00:34:04,200
Speaker 2: how I felt, I didn't feel confident. In fact, at

681
00:34:04,240 --> 00:34:06,920
Speaker 2: times I would say that I was definitely depressed. And

682
00:34:07,000 --> 00:34:10,400
Speaker 2: so for me, when I started to move my body,

683
00:34:10,560 --> 00:34:14,280
Speaker 2: I started to discover similar as to you, a sense

684
00:34:14,320 --> 00:34:16,880
Speaker 2: of self worth that I didn't feel before, and it

685
00:34:17,160 --> 00:34:21,680
Speaker 2: encouraged me and motivated me to then go after other

686
00:34:21,800 --> 00:34:23,960
Speaker 2: things that I wanted in my life, whether that was

687
00:34:24,040 --> 00:34:27,600
Speaker 2: to perform better in my academics, or to go out

688
00:34:27,640 --> 00:34:29,760
Speaker 2: of my comfort zone and try to make new friends,

689
00:34:29,840 --> 00:34:32,319
Speaker 2: or perhaps connect with someone romantically in a way that

690
00:34:32,400 --> 00:34:35,439
Speaker 2: maybe I wasn't comfortable doing before. So I think that's

691
00:34:35,480 --> 00:34:37,840
Speaker 2: really important and a really big point to stress is

692
00:34:37,840 --> 00:34:42,440
Speaker 2: that for so many movement really can be that gateway

693
00:34:42,960 --> 00:34:45,520
Speaker 2: for more so for you. As you started to move

694
00:34:45,560 --> 00:34:49,320
Speaker 2: your body, as you started to feel similarly what doors

695
00:34:49,360 --> 00:34:50,480
Speaker 2: started to open up.

696
00:34:51,640 --> 00:34:54,440
Speaker 1: Yeah, And this is what I'm always telling people to it.

697
00:34:54,760 --> 00:34:58,080
Speaker 1: When you start moving, that feeling, the pawerful feeling that

698
00:34:58,320 --> 00:35:01,440
Speaker 1: you capable of so much, translates into other areas of.

699
00:35:01,440 --> 00:35:03,960
Speaker 3: Your life and you feel like you can do anything.

700
00:35:04,000 --> 00:35:06,880
Speaker 1: And it did for me, and I got this confidence

701
00:35:06,920 --> 00:35:10,360
Speaker 1: I never had before. I felt because obviously you getting

702
00:35:10,400 --> 00:35:13,800
Speaker 1: doorphins and all the hormones that are released when you exercise.

703
00:35:14,080 --> 00:35:15,480
Speaker 3: It makes you feel so amazing.

704
00:35:15,520 --> 00:35:18,279
Speaker 1: And I notice the difference when I haven't been exercising

705
00:35:18,280 --> 00:35:20,120
Speaker 1: for a little bit, which is it's rare. It was

706
00:35:20,160 --> 00:35:23,400
Speaker 1: more around when I was pregnant, I couldn't even string

707
00:35:23,400 --> 00:35:25,440
Speaker 1: a sentence together. I mean, I struggle now too, but

708
00:35:25,719 --> 00:35:28,120
Speaker 1: I blame that on baby brain. But I just I

709
00:35:28,160 --> 00:35:30,440
Speaker 1: didn't feel like I could. It was almost like I

710
00:35:30,480 --> 00:35:32,680
Speaker 1: was living under a cloud and I was all foggy.

711
00:35:32,960 --> 00:35:36,160
Speaker 1: But exercise removes all that for me. And I know

712
00:35:36,200 --> 00:35:37,520
Speaker 1: a lot of people are the same, and you just

713
00:35:37,560 --> 00:35:42,400
Speaker 1: said before, but I just felt like I'm so powerful,

714
00:35:42,440 --> 00:35:45,200
Speaker 1: I'm so strong, I'm so capable, and I tell myself

715
00:35:45,239 --> 00:35:48,120
Speaker 1: these things, and when I'm exercising, I go really hard,

716
00:35:48,160 --> 00:35:51,400
Speaker 1: and I even tell myself that while I'm exercising, to

717
00:35:51,480 --> 00:35:54,280
Speaker 1: push me to my limits, and that I can achieve

718
00:35:54,360 --> 00:35:56,600
Speaker 1: so much more than I think I can, and we

719
00:35:56,640 --> 00:35:57,000
Speaker 1: are so.

720
00:35:57,080 --> 00:35:58,160
Speaker 3: Amazing and powerful.

721
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Speaker 1: And after I had my kids, I felt even more

722
00:36:00,719 --> 00:36:02,759
Speaker 1: more amazing and powerful. And then I felt like I

723
00:36:02,800 --> 00:36:05,640
Speaker 1: could do anything. Anything that I wanted in my life,

724
00:36:05,719 --> 00:36:08,279
Speaker 1: I could actually do. And that's when I started my

725
00:36:08,880 --> 00:36:12,440
Speaker 1: fitness business. Easily a decade ago, I think it was,

726
00:36:12,520 --> 00:36:14,359
Speaker 1: Oh no, was it a decade ago? Maybe eight years

727
00:36:14,360 --> 00:36:17,759
Speaker 1: ago something like that. I actually started a business. So

728
00:36:17,800 --> 00:36:21,040
Speaker 1: I started building my profile around fitness. But then I

729
00:36:21,120 --> 00:36:24,000
Speaker 1: made it a business roughly seven or eight years ago,

730
00:36:24,000 --> 00:36:26,200
Speaker 1: I don't know. I lose track a while ago, and

731
00:36:27,280 --> 00:36:29,200
Speaker 1: I loved it. I love I still love what I do.

732
00:36:29,760 --> 00:36:32,960
Speaker 1: My program has evolved so much since back then. It

733
00:36:33,000 --> 00:36:35,360
Speaker 1: used to be a PDF, and now it's an app

734
00:36:35,400 --> 00:36:38,000
Speaker 1: that's got everything you could imagine in it. It's got

735
00:36:38,080 --> 00:36:41,200
Speaker 1: pregnancy post and atal it's got things for beginners.

736
00:36:41,520 --> 00:36:44,239
Speaker 3: If you're at a higher level training, you can do that.

737
00:36:44,280 --> 00:36:46,960
Speaker 1: There's so many different programs and challenges on there now,

738
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Speaker 1: and I just feel like I wouldn't have been able

739
00:36:49,440 --> 00:36:52,400
Speaker 1: to do any of that if I hadn't unlocked.

740
00:36:52,440 --> 00:36:53,800
Speaker 3: Like you're saying, you sort of unlock.

741
00:36:55,320 --> 00:36:57,520
Speaker 1: I don't know what you call it, but it opens

742
00:36:57,520 --> 00:36:59,719
Speaker 1: yourself up to being able to achieve these things that

743
00:37:00,040 --> 00:37:01,680
Speaker 1: I thought you could do before that you didn't think

744
00:37:01,680 --> 00:37:04,280
Speaker 1: were possible. It's like it gives you more possibilities.

745
00:37:04,440 --> 00:37:07,600
Speaker 2: Oh yeah, you're I mean, you're unlarking your own potential.

746
00:37:08,160 --> 00:37:12,200
Speaker 3: Yeah, exactly. That's the best way to put it, much

747
00:37:12,200 --> 00:37:13,040
Speaker 3: better with words than me.

748
00:37:13,640 --> 00:37:13,879
Speaker 2: Yeah.

749
00:37:13,920 --> 00:37:18,160
Speaker 3: So I started that and I thought, this is like incredible.

750
00:37:18,160 --> 00:37:19,440
Speaker 3: I loved it. I was passionate about it.

751
00:37:19,440 --> 00:37:20,480
Speaker 1: Don't get me wrong, though, it was a lot of

752
00:37:20,480 --> 00:37:23,719
Speaker 1: hard work, and it still is anything you don't when

753
00:37:23,719 --> 00:37:25,600
Speaker 1: you do your passion, like when you have your passion

754
00:37:25,640 --> 00:37:28,080
Speaker 1: as a job, it's not like this dream job. There's

755
00:37:28,080 --> 00:37:29,520
Speaker 1: still a lot of hard work, and I think people

756
00:37:29,520 --> 00:37:32,160
Speaker 1: aren't misunderstand that you still have to work really, really hard.

757
00:37:32,719 --> 00:37:35,160
Speaker 1: But I knew I could do it because I got

758
00:37:35,160 --> 00:37:38,839
Speaker 1: through my mental health issues and I train really hard

759
00:37:38,840 --> 00:37:39,920
Speaker 1: and I can do all these other things.

760
00:37:40,000 --> 00:37:40,759
Speaker 3: I can do this too.

761
00:37:41,360 --> 00:37:44,480
Speaker 1: And I started James Cosmetics with my friend and my

762
00:37:44,560 --> 00:37:47,319
Speaker 1: manager Sam, and we've had that for four years now,

763
00:37:47,360 --> 00:37:50,840
Speaker 1: and so like it's sort of I've gone into different things.

764
00:37:50,880 --> 00:37:53,640
Speaker 1: But when people ask me what's my biggest accomplishment, it's

765
00:37:53,680 --> 00:37:57,960
Speaker 1: not getting on I've been on how many magazine covers

766
00:37:58,000 --> 00:38:01,879
Speaker 1: like Women's Health many many times different magazines. Or it's

767
00:38:01,880 --> 00:38:04,399
Speaker 1: not being on TV or being on the Forbes list,

768
00:38:04,480 --> 00:38:06,680
Speaker 1: or it's not these things, which don't get me wrong,

769
00:38:06,680 --> 00:38:09,800
Speaker 1: they're still amazing. But for me, my biggest accomplishment is

770
00:38:10,320 --> 00:38:14,000
Speaker 1: overcoming my own mental health issues and my confidence and

771
00:38:14,080 --> 00:38:16,080
Speaker 1: make my self worth issues. So I've been able to

772
00:38:16,280 --> 00:38:21,360
Speaker 1: come so far personally that that outweighs anything else. It's

773
00:38:21,480 --> 00:38:24,360
Speaker 1: so much better than any other achievement I could achieve

774
00:38:24,440 --> 00:38:25,040
Speaker 1: in my career.

775
00:38:26,080 --> 00:38:30,960
Speaker 2: For someone who may be struggling with their own mental

776
00:38:31,000 --> 00:38:36,320
Speaker 2: health battles, what would be one jumping off point, one

777
00:38:36,360 --> 00:38:39,759
Speaker 2: piece of advice that you would offer to them to

778
00:38:39,880 --> 00:38:42,760
Speaker 2: be a life raft, to be the lifeboat that helps

779
00:38:42,800 --> 00:38:43,880
Speaker 2: them make a change.

780
00:38:45,200 --> 00:38:46,600
Speaker 3: You have to be the lifeboat.

781
00:38:47,440 --> 00:38:50,279
Speaker 1: Seriously, like I had to realize that it was up

782
00:38:50,320 --> 00:38:53,160
Speaker 1: to me to make those changes. Don't wait for anyone

783
00:38:53,200 --> 00:38:55,440
Speaker 1: else to do it. Of course, you can get support

784
00:38:55,480 --> 00:38:58,120
Speaker 1: and don't be ashamed to get support from people who

785
00:38:58,120 --> 00:39:00,880
Speaker 1: are either close with you that can about you and

786
00:39:01,440 --> 00:39:03,359
Speaker 1: know what they're doing, because you can get the wrong

787
00:39:03,400 --> 00:39:05,759
Speaker 1: person too, that can hold you back. They may love you,

788
00:39:05,840 --> 00:39:07,960
Speaker 1: but they might not be the right person. But that's

789
00:39:08,000 --> 00:39:11,399
Speaker 1: where professionals come into. So get professional help and don't

790
00:39:11,440 --> 00:39:14,640
Speaker 1: be ashamed. That's one of the biggest things. But you

791
00:39:14,680 --> 00:39:16,960
Speaker 1: still have to do the work. So you have to

792
00:39:17,320 --> 00:39:19,160
Speaker 1: when you go home. It's like training. If you want

793
00:39:19,160 --> 00:39:21,840
Speaker 1: to get fit, you can't go once a week or

794
00:39:21,880 --> 00:39:25,480
Speaker 1: once a fortnight and expect to get changes. You have

795
00:39:25,560 --> 00:39:28,719
Speaker 1: to be consistent and go five times a week or

796
00:39:28,719 --> 00:39:30,959
Speaker 1: whatever that number is. You've got to do it many

797
00:39:31,000 --> 00:39:33,800
Speaker 1: times and then you'll see changes and you'll feel changes

798
00:39:33,800 --> 00:39:34,479
Speaker 1: and you'll get fit.

799
00:39:34,840 --> 00:39:36,480
Speaker 3: But if you're.

800
00:39:36,360 --> 00:39:38,279
Speaker 1: Just going once every now and then, you're not going

801
00:39:38,320 --> 00:39:40,240
Speaker 1: to get anywhere. So it's the same with your mental health.

802
00:39:40,640 --> 00:39:42,840
Speaker 1: You need to be consistent with it and work on

803
00:39:42,880 --> 00:39:44,960
Speaker 1: it every single day. And I still work on it.

804
00:39:45,200 --> 00:39:47,880
Speaker 1: So I went through depression years ago, I went through anxiety.

805
00:39:47,920 --> 00:39:50,480
Speaker 1: I still get anxiety every now and then. Now it

806
00:39:50,520 --> 00:39:53,719
Speaker 1: doesn't completely go away. You just stay on top of

807
00:39:53,760 --> 00:39:56,560
Speaker 1: it and you become aware of when you're starting to

808
00:39:56,560 --> 00:39:58,680
Speaker 1: get dragged back down, and you can make changes and

809
00:39:58,680 --> 00:40:03,040
Speaker 1: you can do things that that help you move forward.

810
00:40:02,800 --> 00:40:05,319
Speaker 3: And overcome it. I guess, and stay on top of it.

811
00:40:05,680 --> 00:40:07,920
Speaker 1: But yeah, the biggest thing that I can say is

812
00:40:07,960 --> 00:40:11,200
Speaker 1: that you have to realize that you have to do

813
00:40:11,239 --> 00:40:12,879
Speaker 1: the work, but you are worth it.

814
00:40:13,920 --> 00:40:16,680
Speaker 3: You are worth it like you are worthy. You are

815
00:40:16,760 --> 00:40:17,440
Speaker 3: meant to be here.

816
00:40:17,480 --> 00:40:21,680
Speaker 1: You're born for a reason, and you can have whatever

817
00:40:21,760 --> 00:40:25,160
Speaker 1: you want in your life and obviously within reason, but

818
00:40:25,760 --> 00:40:27,359
Speaker 1: you just have to And this is what I would

819
00:40:27,360 --> 00:40:30,040
Speaker 1: tell myself if I went back and spoke to myself

820
00:40:30,080 --> 00:40:35,040
Speaker 1: as a teenager, to hang on, to keep going forward

821
00:40:35,160 --> 00:40:39,000
Speaker 1: and believe in yourself that whatever there is out there

822
00:40:39,000 --> 00:40:41,759
Speaker 1: that you want. You can achieve it, but you have

823
00:40:41,840 --> 00:40:43,759
Speaker 1: to do the work. No one else can do it

824
00:40:43,840 --> 00:40:48,240
Speaker 1: for you. So there's people that struggle with these issues,

825
00:40:48,280 --> 00:40:51,480
Speaker 1: mental health issues, and they just always go to someone

826
00:40:51,480 --> 00:40:54,800
Speaker 1: else expecting them to help them, which they can, but

827
00:40:54,840 --> 00:40:55,920
Speaker 1: they can only support.

828
00:40:56,080 --> 00:40:58,439
Speaker 3: You have to do it. I think I've stressed that enough.

829
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Speaker 3: Do you think to do it?

830
00:41:00,760 --> 00:41:03,319
Speaker 2: I totally understand. I totally see where you're coming from.

831
00:41:03,400 --> 00:41:06,360
Speaker 2: I recently had a conversation with Alexi Papas. She's a runner,

832
00:41:06,360 --> 00:41:09,400
Speaker 2: and she's very vocal about dealing with her own depression

833
00:41:09,400 --> 00:41:12,200
Speaker 2: and mental health struggles, and something that I think is

834
00:41:12,360 --> 00:41:14,600
Speaker 2: super valuable that she said to me, which I'll share

835
00:41:14,640 --> 00:41:18,960
Speaker 2: with you, is thinking about depression is having an injury

836
00:41:19,040 --> 00:41:22,320
Speaker 2: on your brain, and just as though with any sort

837
00:41:22,400 --> 00:41:25,240
Speaker 2: of physical injury, where you would talk to a physical

838
00:41:25,280 --> 00:41:28,160
Speaker 2: therapist and get a sex set of exercises and start

839
00:41:28,200 --> 00:41:31,080
Speaker 2: doing rehab, and then learning from that experience that when

840
00:41:31,120 --> 00:41:33,600
Speaker 2: you have injuries going forward, you can go back to

841
00:41:33,640 --> 00:41:36,800
Speaker 2: those exercises knowing that if you put in the time

842
00:41:36,920 --> 00:41:39,640
Speaker 2: and if you put in the work, you can help

843
00:41:39,680 --> 00:41:43,520
Speaker 2: your body get better. The same thing goes for mental

844
00:41:43,560 --> 00:41:48,120
Speaker 2: health and depression and dealing with the difficulties that come

845
00:41:48,440 --> 00:41:51,360
Speaker 2: hand in hand with that understanding that we have the

846
00:41:51,440 --> 00:41:55,239
Speaker 2: power to establish and come up with, as you called it,

847
00:41:55,320 --> 00:41:59,919
Speaker 2: a toolbox, and then use that toolbox when things feel hard,

848
00:42:00,080 --> 00:42:02,919
Speaker 2: regardless of whether it's a few days in a row,

849
00:42:03,040 --> 00:42:06,040
Speaker 2: if it's different. So a few years apart, going back

850
00:42:06,040 --> 00:42:08,319
Speaker 2: to that toolbox and realizing that there are things in

851
00:42:08,360 --> 00:42:10,799
Speaker 2: yours to help you get to where you want to

852
00:42:10,840 --> 00:42:12,560
Speaker 2: be and get to a better place.

853
00:42:13,280 --> 00:42:17,640
Speaker 1: Yeah, yeah, definitely, And you need to sit there, like

854
00:42:17,719 --> 00:42:20,600
Speaker 1: even today and write a list of things or in

855
00:42:20,640 --> 00:42:23,560
Speaker 1: your phone or wherever somewhere you can access easily, and

856
00:42:23,600 --> 00:42:25,760
Speaker 1: write a list of things that make you feel better,

857
00:42:25,840 --> 00:42:28,160
Speaker 1: that you enjoy doing that you can then go to

858
00:42:28,200 --> 00:42:30,280
Speaker 1: and that can be your toolbox. So if you're feeling shitty,

859
00:42:30,360 --> 00:42:32,440
Speaker 1: you can go to that and work through it. But

860
00:42:32,480 --> 00:42:34,520
Speaker 1: you have to do it and stay on top of it.

861
00:42:34,560 --> 00:42:37,120
Speaker 1: And when you start having those feelings, act before it

862
00:42:37,160 --> 00:42:39,880
Speaker 1: gets too too late. And it's never too late, but

863
00:42:39,960 --> 00:42:41,839
Speaker 1: you want to get on top of it sooner rather

864
00:42:41,880 --> 00:42:42,320
Speaker 1: than later.

865
00:42:42,640 --> 00:42:44,360
Speaker 3: But we all have struggled.

866
00:42:44,840 --> 00:42:47,080
Speaker 2: I love what you said there about having a list

867
00:42:47,200 --> 00:42:49,400
Speaker 2: that you can go to of things that make you happy.

868
00:42:49,440 --> 00:42:52,480
Speaker 2: I remember during COVID and we're talking about how the

869
00:42:52,560 --> 00:42:55,960
Speaker 2: past year, year and change has definitely been a difficult time.

870
00:42:56,040 --> 00:42:58,719
Speaker 2: I remember as many of my friends were leaving New York,

871
00:42:59,160 --> 00:43:01,160
Speaker 2: I needed to sit down and make a list of

872
00:43:01,200 --> 00:43:03,239
Speaker 2: the things that I can do in my life on

873
00:43:03,280 --> 00:43:05,799
Speaker 2: my own that I can rely on myself for that

874
00:43:05,800 --> 00:43:06,640
Speaker 2: bring me joy.

875
00:43:07,360 --> 00:43:11,720
Speaker 1: Yeah, exactly, if you're feeling good too, you know those feelings,

876
00:43:11,800 --> 00:43:14,480
Speaker 1: so it'll flow and come easily. When you're feeling down,

877
00:43:14,520 --> 00:43:17,000
Speaker 1: it's hard to come up with things that make you

878
00:43:17,040 --> 00:43:18,640
Speaker 1: feel good. So you've got to do it when you're

879
00:43:18,680 --> 00:43:20,560
Speaker 1: in a good sort of place. I mean, there's any

880
00:43:20,760 --> 00:43:23,680
Speaker 1: any times better than no time. But when you're feeling

881
00:43:23,719 --> 00:43:25,960
Speaker 1: good and you know what makes you feel good, then

882
00:43:26,000 --> 00:43:27,800
Speaker 1: write the list down and say, if you have a

883
00:43:27,800 --> 00:43:29,239
Speaker 1: good day and you go out and I don't know

884
00:43:29,239 --> 00:43:31,560
Speaker 1: what you do ab sailing or something crazy, write it

885
00:43:31,560 --> 00:43:33,680
Speaker 1: down and go, this made me feel good, and then

886
00:43:33,719 --> 00:43:34,560
Speaker 1: you can access it.

887
00:43:35,360 --> 00:43:39,680
Speaker 2: Definitely, access is important. So you have talked about the

888
00:43:39,840 --> 00:43:44,719
Speaker 2: growth of your presence and transitioning from your beginnings and

889
00:43:44,760 --> 00:43:48,560
Speaker 2: fitness to now having a thriving APP. I think what

890
00:43:48,640 --> 00:43:52,040
Speaker 2: could be really helpful for individuals listening who are maybe

891
00:43:52,080 --> 00:43:55,200
Speaker 2: in the fitness and wellness industry interested in either following

892
00:43:55,280 --> 00:43:57,919
Speaker 2: a similar path or just gaining some more understanding about

893
00:43:57,920 --> 00:44:00,440
Speaker 2: how it is that you got to be in this

894
00:44:00,600 --> 00:44:03,760
Speaker 2: position to shut a little bit more late on going

895
00:44:03,840 --> 00:44:06,759
Speaker 2: from those early stages and what those look like to

896
00:44:06,840 --> 00:44:10,120
Speaker 2: getting to our point now where or getting to this

897
00:44:10,239 --> 00:44:12,400
Speaker 2: point as the years went on, where you were in

898
00:44:12,440 --> 00:44:14,200
Speaker 2: a place to launch an out like this.

899
00:44:15,160 --> 00:44:19,000
Speaker 1: Yeah, So I guess when I first started to I

900
00:44:19,040 --> 00:44:22,879
Speaker 1: wanted to create something for other people, and I wasn't

901
00:44:22,920 --> 00:44:25,120
Speaker 1: sure exactly what that was because we're going back when

902
00:44:25,120 --> 00:44:28,160
Speaker 1: there was no such thing as a fitness program, like

903
00:44:28,400 --> 00:44:31,120
Speaker 1: there were things you'd see on those infomercials or something.

904
00:44:32,440 --> 00:44:35,080
Speaker 1: I wanted something that would be it would make fitness

905
00:44:35,160 --> 00:44:38,680
Speaker 1: accessible and there was no barriers for entry, so people

906
00:44:38,680 --> 00:44:41,439
Speaker 1: could just do something that would make them feel good.

907
00:44:41,680 --> 00:44:44,520
Speaker 1: And that's when I started building my Facebook and my

908
00:44:44,560 --> 00:44:47,400
Speaker 1: Instagram because I was posting a lot of free workout

909
00:44:47,480 --> 00:44:50,920
Speaker 1: videos and helpful sort of posts like things that were

910
00:44:50,920 --> 00:44:52,360
Speaker 1: for free. And this is a mistake a lot of

911
00:44:52,360 --> 00:44:54,760
Speaker 1: people make too when they're starting businesses. They want to

912
00:44:54,800 --> 00:44:57,840
Speaker 1: hold everything back and make sure everyone pays for everything,

913
00:44:57,840 --> 00:45:00,440
Speaker 1: but you've got to put out things for free that

914
00:45:00,440 --> 00:45:03,640
Speaker 1: are going to help people, because otherwise you're not really

915
00:45:03,640 --> 00:45:06,120
Speaker 1: achieving anything. Or not for me anyway, I'd rather just

916
00:45:06,320 --> 00:45:08,799
Speaker 1: give a lot of free stuff that people can can

917
00:45:08,880 --> 00:45:10,560
Speaker 1: do that will make them feel better, and then if

918
00:45:10,600 --> 00:45:14,080
Speaker 1: they want more, they can then enter into your program

919
00:45:14,239 --> 00:45:16,600
Speaker 1: whatever it is that you're selling. So every single day

920
00:45:16,640 --> 00:45:18,839
Speaker 1: I was putting out a workout video so people could

921
00:45:18,880 --> 00:45:21,480
Speaker 1: just get fit at home and not have to spend

922
00:45:21,520 --> 00:45:24,440
Speaker 1: a cent. And then I guess that sort of they

923
00:45:24,440 --> 00:45:27,520
Speaker 1: built trust in me, and they realized that I had

924
00:45:27,560 --> 00:45:30,280
Speaker 1: good workouts and I was someone that they could trust,

925
00:45:30,360 --> 00:45:34,440
Speaker 1: and they wanted more. And then I developed my program

926
00:45:34,520 --> 00:45:36,680
Speaker 1: that had so it was a PDF back in the day,

927
00:45:36,719 --> 00:45:40,600
Speaker 1: and they'd access everything on my website. And then I

928
00:45:40,640 --> 00:45:43,080
Speaker 1: created an app that was a free app as well,

929
00:45:43,239 --> 00:45:45,640
Speaker 1: because I mean, I'm not really good at business, to

930
00:45:45,640 --> 00:45:47,319
Speaker 1: be honest with you, because I want to give everything

931
00:45:47,320 --> 00:45:51,480
Speaker 1: away for free. But it was an app that had

932
00:45:51,560 --> 00:45:54,840
Speaker 1: it was called Daily Workouts, so they'd get a workout

933
00:45:54,880 --> 00:45:56,719
Speaker 1: every single day that they could do and follow along

934
00:45:56,760 --> 00:45:58,520
Speaker 1: on the app, and it was really easy to use.

935
00:45:59,080 --> 00:46:02,520
Speaker 1: And then as years went on, I wanted to make

936
00:46:02,800 --> 00:46:06,040
Speaker 1: the app have more and more in it, so they're

937
00:46:06,120 --> 00:46:08,920
Speaker 1: are meal plan so to this day, there's meal plans

938
00:46:08,960 --> 00:46:11,440
Speaker 1: that are customizable, so you can pick and choose what

939
00:46:11,480 --> 00:46:13,040
Speaker 1: you want to eat. You can choose how many people

940
00:46:13,080 --> 00:46:15,800
Speaker 1: you're cooking for. It spits out a shopping list to

941
00:46:15,840 --> 00:46:18,440
Speaker 1: make it easy, and if there's something you can't eat,

942
00:46:18,440 --> 00:46:20,799
Speaker 1: you put that in there and you can do like

943
00:46:20,880 --> 00:46:25,160
Speaker 1: dairy free or vegetarian or whatever. And then there's multiple

944
00:46:25,239 --> 00:46:29,600
Speaker 1: challenges and programs. I think there's about seven now. So

945
00:46:29,640 --> 00:46:32,080
Speaker 1: there's the daily workouts in the app. Then there's the

946
00:46:32,440 --> 00:46:35,960
Speaker 1: Start Strong program, which is for beginners. It's a really basic,

947
00:46:36,400 --> 00:46:39,279
Speaker 1: fundamental program that will go back to basics and teach

948
00:46:39,280 --> 00:46:42,440
Speaker 1: you how to do form for each exercise. Then I've

949
00:46:42,440 --> 00:46:45,520
Speaker 1: got the pregnancy program with different stages of pregnancy, the

950
00:46:45,560 --> 00:46:47,799
Speaker 1: three trimesters and two different intensities that.

951
00:46:47,760 --> 00:46:48,720
Speaker 3: You can choose from.

952
00:46:48,840 --> 00:46:52,160
Speaker 1: Then there's the post natal program that's each it's got

953
00:46:52,200 --> 00:46:56,239
Speaker 1: six week blocks, so it goes through each phase so

954
00:46:56,320 --> 00:46:59,359
Speaker 1: as you get stronger. It's sort of getting women strong

955
00:46:59,480 --> 00:47:02,640
Speaker 1: enough to get back into normal fitness because there's a

956
00:47:02,640 --> 00:47:04,560
Speaker 1: lot of obviously a lot of changes that happen when

957
00:47:04,600 --> 00:47:08,120
Speaker 1: you're pregnant with your ab separation and your pelvic flow

958
00:47:08,440 --> 00:47:10,600
Speaker 1: not being as strong or functioning as well as it

959
00:47:10,719 --> 00:47:12,880
Speaker 1: was before. And you've got relaxing, which is a hormone

960
00:47:12,920 --> 00:47:15,400
Speaker 1: that softens all your ligaments, so you've got to do

961
00:47:16,000 --> 00:47:18,920
Speaker 1: certain sort of training that takes that into account. So

962
00:47:19,000 --> 00:47:20,880
Speaker 1: it goes through all that, and I've got experts that

963
00:47:21,000 --> 00:47:23,560
Speaker 1: work on it as well. Then there's the Booty program,

964
00:47:23,640 --> 00:47:27,279
Speaker 1: there's ABS to Core, there's Body sculpt which is the

965
00:47:27,320 --> 00:47:30,040
Speaker 1: most recent one. That's a full body workout, which is

966
00:47:30,160 --> 00:47:32,200
Speaker 1: at home stuff. So I've really made sure there's a

967
00:47:32,239 --> 00:47:35,120
Speaker 1: lot of at home workouts, especially because of COVID and

968
00:47:35,239 --> 00:47:38,360
Speaker 1: people can't get to the gym, so there's no excuse.

969
00:47:38,480 --> 00:47:40,680
Speaker 1: You can get fit at home, in your laundroom or

970
00:47:40,719 --> 00:47:44,240
Speaker 1: in your backyard. So it's pretty much got everything now.

971
00:47:44,440 --> 00:47:47,239
Speaker 1: I mean there's always more. I'll keep adding, but it's

972
00:47:47,320 --> 00:47:49,399
Speaker 1: just it's endless and they can choose what they want

973
00:47:49,400 --> 00:47:51,600
Speaker 1: to do and what their goal is, whether it's to

974
00:47:51,640 --> 00:47:56,200
Speaker 1: build strength and muscle or lose body fat. Yeah, it's

975
00:47:56,239 --> 00:47:59,040
Speaker 1: pretty much all song and dance. Very happy with it.

976
00:47:59,040 --> 00:47:59,839
Speaker 1: It's come a long way.

977
00:48:00,280 --> 00:48:04,359
Speaker 2: And you mentioned nutritional programs and of course the diversity

978
00:48:04,400 --> 00:48:07,279
Speaker 2: that happens within the app in terms of the programming

979
00:48:07,320 --> 00:48:10,040
Speaker 2: and working with other experts. I think that this is

980
00:48:10,080 --> 00:48:13,120
Speaker 2: a really important chord to make sure that we hit

981
00:48:13,160 --> 00:48:16,600
Speaker 2: on here, is that you are working with experts outside

982
00:48:16,719 --> 00:48:19,920
Speaker 2: of being a certified personal trainer yourself.

983
00:48:20,520 --> 00:48:23,080
Speaker 3: Yeah, and I can't do everything. I'd like to think

984
00:48:23,120 --> 00:48:24,000
Speaker 3: I can, but I can't.

985
00:48:24,360 --> 00:48:27,719
Speaker 1: And I've got doctors on there as well, and physios,

986
00:48:27,719 --> 00:48:30,680
Speaker 1: I've got mental health experts. I don't want to be

987
00:48:30,800 --> 00:48:32,480
Speaker 1: the person that sits there going, oh no, it's all

988
00:48:32,520 --> 00:48:34,239
Speaker 1: me and I'm the only one that can help you

989
00:48:34,280 --> 00:48:37,239
Speaker 1: here I need to. I think it's so important to

990
00:48:37,320 --> 00:48:40,759
Speaker 1: have many people working together and everyone's experts in their

991
00:48:40,800 --> 00:48:44,600
Speaker 1: own field, and together we can help people. And I

992
00:48:44,640 --> 00:48:47,439
Speaker 1: also love the idea of having because they're all women too,

993
00:48:47,880 --> 00:48:50,120
Speaker 1: And I love that we're all women that are all

994
00:48:50,239 --> 00:48:52,759
Speaker 1: good at our different things and we're all supporting each

995
00:48:52,760 --> 00:48:56,240
Speaker 1: other like this is in the app. Like the people

996
00:48:56,239 --> 00:48:58,799
Speaker 1: that work on the app and part of my fit fit.

997
00:48:59,360 --> 00:49:01,920
Speaker 1: I don't know what you can like the fit fam that,

998
00:49:02,120 --> 00:49:04,520
Speaker 1: like the doctor's experts, all those people. I love that

999
00:49:04,560 --> 00:49:07,120
Speaker 1: we're all working together and supporting each other, and it's

1000
00:49:07,160 --> 00:49:11,240
Speaker 1: really empowering as well as also having my fit fam

1001
00:49:11,320 --> 00:49:13,560
Speaker 1: as in the people that are part of the program

1002
00:49:13,600 --> 00:49:16,520
Speaker 1: that have bought into it. They're all so amazing. We're

1003
00:49:16,560 --> 00:49:19,120
Speaker 1: all women that come together. We want to see each

1004
00:49:19,160 --> 00:49:21,759
Speaker 1: other succeed, and we support each other, and we have

1005
00:49:22,040 --> 00:49:24,400
Speaker 1: different goals but similar We want to get better and

1006
00:49:24,400 --> 00:49:26,839
Speaker 1: we want to feel better mentally and physically, and it's

1007
00:49:26,880 --> 00:49:29,280
Speaker 1: about the feeling. How you feel so much more important

1008
00:49:29,320 --> 00:49:31,719
Speaker 1: than how you look. It doesn't mean you don't want

1009
00:49:31,760 --> 00:49:33,839
Speaker 1: to look good or it's bad to want to look good,

1010
00:49:33,880 --> 00:49:36,919
Speaker 1: but not at the detriment of your health. So it's

1011
00:49:36,960 --> 00:49:40,400
Speaker 1: just such a really amazing feeling knowing that we're literally

1012
00:49:40,880 --> 00:49:44,000
Speaker 1: hundreds of thousands of women that are just all in

1013
00:49:44,040 --> 00:49:46,720
Speaker 1: this together and we all want to see each other succeed.

1014
00:49:46,840 --> 00:49:49,440
Speaker 1: So it's hard when you're making changes in your life.

1015
00:49:49,480 --> 00:49:51,520
Speaker 1: And I went through this myself. When I first started

1016
00:49:51,719 --> 00:49:54,200
Speaker 1: getting into health and fitness, I had people around me

1017
00:49:54,239 --> 00:49:56,719
Speaker 1: and they were the wrong people and I ended up

1018
00:49:57,120 --> 00:49:59,759
Speaker 1: removing them from my life, which was hard, but I

1019
00:49:59,800 --> 00:50:02,239
Speaker 1: had to do it. When I was lifting weights, I

1020
00:50:02,280 --> 00:50:05,480
Speaker 1: was starting to get muscle, and some of my friends

1021
00:50:05,480 --> 00:50:07,680
Speaker 1: were saying, you're taking this too far and you're looking

1022
00:50:07,719 --> 00:50:10,479
Speaker 1: manly and oh, it's disgusting. And I had a friend

1023
00:50:10,520 --> 00:50:12,080
Speaker 1: of mine, he was supposed to be my best friend.

1024
00:50:12,360 --> 00:50:14,360
Speaker 1: Look at my arms and I was doing boxing.

1025
00:50:14,400 --> 00:50:15,080
Speaker 3: I was trying to get.

1026
00:50:15,040 --> 00:50:18,359
Speaker 1: Her to get into fitness too, and she said, ooh,

1027
00:50:18,400 --> 00:50:19,160
Speaker 1: look at your arms.

1028
00:50:19,200 --> 00:50:20,000
Speaker 3: You look like a man.

1029
00:50:20,760 --> 00:50:23,160
Speaker 1: And I thought, I feel the best I've ever felt

1030
00:50:23,200 --> 00:50:25,680
Speaker 1: in my life. And I love this feeling. I love

1031
00:50:25,800 --> 00:50:28,560
Speaker 1: what it's doing for my mind and my body. And

1032
00:50:28,600 --> 00:50:31,640
Speaker 1: you're here telling me that I look manly, and I'm

1033
00:50:31,680 --> 00:50:35,719
Speaker 1: taking it too far. So I realized she wasn't right

1034
00:50:35,760 --> 00:50:37,600
Speaker 1: for me and the right sort of friend to have around.

1035
00:50:37,680 --> 00:50:40,360
Speaker 1: But it is hard when you're making changes if you

1036
00:50:40,400 --> 00:50:42,600
Speaker 1: feel like you're on your own and you don't have support,

1037
00:50:42,719 --> 00:50:46,080
Speaker 1: especially if your family and friends aren't supportive. But in

1038
00:50:46,120 --> 00:50:49,680
Speaker 1: my family, we are all there to support each other

1039
00:50:49,719 --> 00:50:52,680
Speaker 1: and encourage each other. And a lot of the women

1040
00:50:52,719 --> 00:50:54,839
Speaker 1: will get on and they will have problems and they

1041
00:50:54,880 --> 00:50:56,960
Speaker 1: sort of talk it through with the other girls and

1042
00:50:57,000 --> 00:50:58,239
Speaker 1: they just support each other.

1043
00:50:58,239 --> 00:50:59,399
Speaker 3: It's the most amazing thing.

1044
00:50:59,719 --> 00:51:02,920
Speaker 1: And they I feel like I'm alone in my sort

1045
00:51:02,960 --> 00:51:04,520
Speaker 1: of real life, but I come on here and I

1046
00:51:04,520 --> 00:51:06,200
Speaker 1: get the support and I feel like I can do it.

1047
00:51:06,280 --> 00:51:08,480
Speaker 3: So It's just amazing to be able to offer that

1048
00:51:08,840 --> 00:51:09,360
Speaker 3: for people.

1049
00:51:18,360 --> 00:51:21,399
Speaker 2: Taking a break from today's episode to give some love

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Speaker 2: the evolution of your business and of course your mental

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00:54:21,840 --> 00:54:25,200
Speaker 2: health journey, but what we haven't touched on yet is

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00:54:25,440 --> 00:54:28,879
Speaker 2: the beautiful chapter of you becoming a mom. So talk

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00:54:28,920 --> 00:54:32,359
Speaker 2: to me a little bit about getting pregnant with your

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00:54:32,480 --> 00:54:36,319
Speaker 2: daughter and how that impacted you and your mental health

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00:54:36,360 --> 00:54:37,040
Speaker 2: and your family.

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Speaker 1: I think it did so many wonderful things for me,

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00:54:41,560 --> 00:54:45,279
Speaker 1: obviously on my journey. I've been getting stronger mentally over

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00:54:45,320 --> 00:54:47,680
Speaker 1: the years, and I'm still getting stronger to this day.

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00:54:48,440 --> 00:54:51,360
Speaker 1: But that was a real turning point for me as well,

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00:54:51,960 --> 00:54:55,040
Speaker 1: because even though I'd come so far, I was still

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00:54:55,239 --> 00:54:57,440
Speaker 1: sort of caught up in the perfection thing, and it's

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00:54:57,440 --> 00:55:00,560
Speaker 1: something I always struggled with. I thought perfection existed, and

1110
00:55:00,560 --> 00:55:03,719
Speaker 1: I always aimed for that. Obviously it doesn't, but I

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00:55:03,760 --> 00:55:06,960
Speaker 1: still wanted to be that. So when I fell pregnant

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00:55:07,360 --> 00:55:09,319
Speaker 1: and I gained twenty five kilos, I'm not sure how

1113
00:55:09,400 --> 00:55:11,200
Speaker 1: much that is in pounds, but it's a fair bit.

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00:55:11,960 --> 00:55:13,520
Speaker 2: That's fifty five pounds.

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Speaker 1: Yeah, I was going to say a bit below sixty,

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00:55:16,040 --> 00:55:18,200
Speaker 1: so a fair bit, especially because I was a small

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00:55:18,280 --> 00:55:23,320
Speaker 1: frame and then having that much weight on. I guess

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00:55:24,040 --> 00:55:27,200
Speaker 1: people assumed, and I sort of assumed because I was

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00:55:27,239 --> 00:55:29,680
Speaker 1: in the fitness industry and I'd been fit for so long,

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00:55:30,320 --> 00:55:33,160
Speaker 1: that I would not gain so much and I'd sort

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00:55:33,160 --> 00:55:36,279
Speaker 1: of be one of those super fit pregnant women that

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00:55:36,800 --> 00:55:38,920
Speaker 1: would have the baby and they're back in their skinny

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00:55:39,000 --> 00:55:39,480
Speaker 1: jeans and.

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Speaker 3: The weights will gone and they're back to normal.

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Speaker 1: So I sort of thought that maybe that would be me,

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00:55:45,680 --> 00:55:48,359
Speaker 1: and a lot of people, I guess thought the same thing.

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00:55:49,000 --> 00:55:50,839
Speaker 1: And then because I did gain all the weight and

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Speaker 1: had my daughter, And don't get me wrong, I wasn't

1129
00:55:55,400 --> 00:55:58,839
Speaker 1: ever feeling bad about my body or anything. I just

1130
00:55:58,880 --> 00:56:01,480
Speaker 1: I loved being even though pregnancy, I was in a

1131
00:56:01,480 --> 00:56:03,600
Speaker 1: lot of pain. I had back problems and psiatica and

1132
00:56:03,640 --> 00:56:05,520
Speaker 1: all the things that come with it, all those wonderful things.

1133
00:56:06,160 --> 00:56:08,680
Speaker 1: I still was so grateful for it because I wanted

1134
00:56:08,680 --> 00:56:11,360
Speaker 1: a baby so badly, and I would overlook all that

1135
00:56:11,440 --> 00:56:14,120
Speaker 1: other stuff. And I guess I probably thought i'd lose

1136
00:56:14,160 --> 00:56:17,239
Speaker 1: the weight very quickly anyway, that it'd be fine, And

1137
00:56:17,280 --> 00:56:18,000
Speaker 1: then so I.

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00:56:17,960 --> 00:56:21,520
Speaker 3: Had had her, and the weight didn't drop off fast.

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00:56:21,800 --> 00:56:22,160
Speaker 2: It was.

1140
00:56:22,239 --> 00:56:24,600
Speaker 1: It was very hard to get rid of and I

1141
00:56:24,640 --> 00:56:28,319
Speaker 1: had to work extremely hard, and especially when you've got

1142
00:56:28,320 --> 00:56:30,600
Speaker 1: a new board. Anyone who's got babies knows what it's like.

1143
00:56:31,680 --> 00:56:35,320
Speaker 1: I was training every day at midnight. By the time

1144
00:56:35,440 --> 00:56:37,399
Speaker 1: she got to sleep, it was midnight, so I had

1145
00:56:37,440 --> 00:56:39,920
Speaker 1: to just do it when I could, and I worked

1146
00:56:40,320 --> 00:56:45,120
Speaker 1: so hard, and eventually I started losing the fact that

1147
00:56:45,160 --> 00:56:45,800
Speaker 1: i'd gained.

1148
00:56:45,920 --> 00:56:47,560
Speaker 3: But it wasn't just overnight.

1149
00:56:47,680 --> 00:56:50,040
Speaker 1: It took time, and that was a lesson that I learned,

1150
00:56:50,080 --> 00:56:53,000
Speaker 1: and I'm so glad I went through it and experienced it.

1151
00:56:53,560 --> 00:56:56,239
Speaker 1: That it's harder for some people, and this is why

1152
00:56:56,239 --> 00:56:59,120
Speaker 1: we can't compare. I'm huge on not comparing with other

1153
00:56:59,160 --> 00:57:01,799
Speaker 1: people and making sure you're focusing on your own life

1154
00:57:01,800 --> 00:57:04,480
Speaker 1: and your own journey and just being grateful for what

1155
00:57:04,520 --> 00:57:07,880
Speaker 1: you've got and make your own achievable goals that you

1156
00:57:08,000 --> 00:57:10,640
Speaker 1: know that you can that are attainable, and not getting

1157
00:57:10,680 --> 00:57:12,680
Speaker 1: distracted by other people because it's the worst thing you

1158
00:57:12,719 --> 00:57:16,320
Speaker 1: can do. And I sort of went through it too,

1159
00:57:16,440 --> 00:57:20,280
Speaker 1: because social media is full of these perfect bodies, or

1160
00:57:20,280 --> 00:57:22,520
Speaker 1: they appear to be perfect, and we know it doesn't exist,

1161
00:57:22,600 --> 00:57:26,520
Speaker 1: but there they are in our faces. And I remember

1162
00:57:26,560 --> 00:57:30,480
Speaker 1: seeing some other fitness professionals who had had a baby

1163
00:57:30,480 --> 00:57:32,360
Speaker 1: around the same time as me, and they were back,

1164
00:57:32,560 --> 00:57:35,680
Speaker 1: you know, with their six pack abs, And don't get

1165
00:57:35,680 --> 00:57:38,280
Speaker 1: me wrong, I think it's amazing and good for them.

1166
00:57:38,400 --> 00:57:40,520
Speaker 1: But the worst thing I could do was compare and

1167
00:57:41,440 --> 00:57:43,840
Speaker 1: say why aren't I like that? Which I said to myself,

1168
00:57:43,880 --> 00:57:46,200
Speaker 1: I thought, why am I not back like that? What's

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00:57:46,240 --> 00:57:48,400
Speaker 1: wrong with me? People are going to think I'm not

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00:57:48,600 --> 00:57:51,560
Speaker 1: really a fitness expert, like I should be back back

1171
00:57:51,600 --> 00:57:53,480
Speaker 1: to that. Like I sort of put that pressure on myself,

1172
00:57:53,480 --> 00:57:56,160
Speaker 1: But then I'd say to myself, no, am practice what

1173
00:57:56,200 --> 00:57:57,760
Speaker 1: you preach, it's not about that.

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00:57:57,840 --> 00:57:58,600
Speaker 3: Don't compare.

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00:57:58,880 --> 00:58:01,840
Speaker 1: We're all in our own journ were all different, and

1176
00:58:02,320 --> 00:58:05,040
Speaker 1: I'm I'm not gonna beat myself down because I don't

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00:58:05,080 --> 00:58:06,400
Speaker 1: look like the way they are looking.

1178
00:58:07,080 --> 00:58:10,160
Speaker 3: So that's when I just did my work.

1179
00:58:10,200 --> 00:58:13,360
Speaker 1: I worked hard on getting my fitness back, and I

1180
00:58:13,400 --> 00:58:16,400
Speaker 1: focused on how I felt over how my body was changing.

1181
00:58:16,400 --> 00:58:18,560
Speaker 3: And it's not it doesn't come naturally to me.

1182
00:58:18,600 --> 00:58:20,280
Speaker 1: I don't just go I don't care how I look,

1183
00:58:20,320 --> 00:58:22,120
Speaker 1: and I just I just want to feel good. Of

1184
00:58:22,160 --> 00:58:24,400
Speaker 1: course I want to look good too, but I just

1185
00:58:24,480 --> 00:58:27,800
Speaker 1: kept focusing on how I was feeling, and even when

1186
00:58:27,800 --> 00:58:30,200
Speaker 1: it came to how when I was losing the body fat,

1187
00:58:30,240 --> 00:58:32,680
Speaker 1: I wouldn't worry about the scales and what I was weighing.

1188
00:58:33,040 --> 00:58:35,960
Speaker 1: I just would look at how my clothes were fitting

1189
00:58:36,000 --> 00:58:39,720
Speaker 1: and how you know, I was changing. My waist was changing,

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00:58:39,720 --> 00:58:41,760
Speaker 1: it was getting smaller, and those sorts of things. But

1191
00:58:41,920 --> 00:58:44,200
Speaker 1: I always went back to how I was feeling mentally

1192
00:58:44,280 --> 00:58:46,720
Speaker 1: and making sure that I was healthy, and I didn't

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00:58:46,760 --> 00:58:48,800
Speaker 1: do anything too extreme to get there. So I learnt

1194
00:58:48,840 --> 00:58:52,200
Speaker 1: that in the first pregnancy, and then the second time around,

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00:58:52,240 --> 00:58:54,240
Speaker 1: I could deal with it a lot better because I

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00:58:54,280 --> 00:58:56,600
Speaker 1: knew what I was in for and I knew.

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Speaker 3: That i'd probably gain a lot, which I did.

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Speaker 1: I gained pretty much the same sort of wait, and

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Speaker 1: I'm on that journey now to get getting back to

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Speaker 1: being strong and super fit and healthy again. And I'm

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00:59:08,240 --> 00:59:12,520
Speaker 1: eight months postpartum today actually, and yeah, it's taken. It's

1202
00:59:12,560 --> 00:59:14,760
Speaker 1: been actually even harder this time, and I guess being

1203
00:59:14,800 --> 00:59:15,760
Speaker 1: older hasn't helped.

1204
00:59:16,480 --> 00:59:17,760
Speaker 3: But that's the thing, Like.

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00:59:17,760 --> 00:59:21,000
Speaker 1: I think it's good and I'm actually grateful that I've

1206
00:59:21,040 --> 00:59:23,440
Speaker 1: been able to go through this. Of course to have

1207
00:59:23,480 --> 00:59:26,640
Speaker 1: my babies, because they're just miracles, but also to show

1208
00:59:26,680 --> 00:59:29,080
Speaker 1: other women that it's sort of been an example to

1209
00:59:29,160 --> 00:59:31,920
Speaker 1: them and show them that I can love my body

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00:59:32,160 --> 00:59:36,600
Speaker 1: through everything, through putting on the extra way, through having

1211
00:59:36,600 --> 00:59:38,760
Speaker 1: the wrinkly skin and the cellulate and stretch marks and

1212
00:59:38,760 --> 00:59:40,960
Speaker 1: all that stuff that I still and I truly do.

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00:59:41,040 --> 00:59:43,480
Speaker 1: I'm not just saying that I love my body. I've

1214
00:59:43,520 --> 00:59:46,840
Speaker 1: never loved it more than I do now. I think

1215
00:59:46,880 --> 00:59:48,920
Speaker 1: it's incredible for what it's done. And whether you've had

1216
00:59:48,920 --> 00:59:51,240
Speaker 1: a baby or not, our bodies are amazing what they

1217
00:59:51,280 --> 00:59:53,560
Speaker 1: do every single day for us that we don't even

1218
00:59:53,560 --> 00:59:56,960
Speaker 1: think about. We are so lucky to have that, to

1219
00:59:57,000 --> 00:59:59,600
Speaker 1: be here and have our health, and that's why health

1220
00:59:59,640 --> 01:00:00,560
Speaker 1: is so we important.

1221
01:00:01,280 --> 01:00:03,760
Speaker 3: And yeah, here I am eight.

1222
01:00:03,600 --> 01:00:06,520
Speaker 1: Months later, still training very hard, but I'm enjoying it.

1223
01:00:06,560 --> 01:00:09,120
Speaker 1: And it's not because anyone else expects me to or

1224
01:00:09,840 --> 01:00:11,240
Speaker 1: I've put pressure on myself.

1225
01:00:11,240 --> 01:00:12,960
Speaker 3: It's because I want to be my best.

1226
01:00:13,000 --> 01:00:15,840
Speaker 1: I want to feel my best for me, for myself

1227
01:00:15,880 --> 01:00:17,919
Speaker 1: and for my family, so I can be the best

1228
01:00:17,960 --> 01:00:21,080
Speaker 1: mother possible and the best person, and the best friend,

1229
01:00:21,160 --> 01:00:22,040
Speaker 1: and just.

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01:00:22,040 --> 01:00:23,280
Speaker 3: The best that I can possibly be.

1231
01:00:24,240 --> 01:00:28,400
Speaker 2: What piece of advice would the Emily that's in this

1232
01:00:28,600 --> 01:00:34,080
Speaker 2: headspace now offer that Emily that was back in her

1233
01:00:34,280 --> 01:00:37,680
Speaker 2: late teens early twenties in the modeling industry.

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01:00:40,120 --> 01:00:44,000
Speaker 1: I would say, learn as much as you can and

1235
01:00:44,600 --> 01:00:47,760
Speaker 1: make sure you're taking something. Not everything's going to be positive,

1236
01:00:47,800 --> 01:00:51,160
Speaker 1: but try to see something positive out of every situation.

1237
01:00:51,240 --> 01:00:53,840
Speaker 1: And I truly believe even if it's a really terrible situation,

1238
01:00:53,880 --> 01:00:56,320
Speaker 1: and I've been through many of them, there is something

1239
01:00:56,360 --> 01:00:59,040
Speaker 1: to learn from that and grow as a person.

1240
01:00:59,600 --> 01:01:01,440
Speaker 3: But the biggest thing for me is to.

1241
01:01:02,240 --> 01:01:06,920
Speaker 1: Know your worth and you are worthy of being loved,

1242
01:01:07,400 --> 01:01:11,520
Speaker 1: and you're worthy of achieving things, of achieving whatever it

1243
01:01:11,600 --> 01:01:13,560
Speaker 1: is you want to do. Because I always used to

1244
01:01:13,640 --> 01:01:15,640
Speaker 1: think I wasn't good enough or I can't do that

1245
01:01:15,640 --> 01:01:18,240
Speaker 1: because I'm not good enough. And my partner Declin helped

1246
01:01:18,240 --> 01:01:20,360
Speaker 1: me a lot to believe in myself and to know

1247
01:01:20,400 --> 01:01:23,400
Speaker 1: that I am capable and worthy of it. But the

1248
01:01:23,400 --> 01:01:26,440
Speaker 1: biggest thing is your self worth and knowing that things

1249
01:01:26,720 --> 01:01:28,880
Speaker 1: can get better and no matter no matter how bad

1250
01:01:28,880 --> 01:01:31,640
Speaker 1: it gets at the time, there is a way out

1251
01:01:32,120 --> 01:01:35,439
Speaker 1: and things will get better. So push through, push through,

1252
01:01:35,600 --> 01:01:36,800
Speaker 1: keep going, don't give up.

1253
01:01:38,000 --> 01:01:42,280
Speaker 2: Right now. When someone comes to your Instagram page, they

1254
01:01:42,400 --> 01:01:45,720
Speaker 2: see a woman that is a mother of two, well

1255
01:01:45,960 --> 01:01:49,640
Speaker 2: versed in fitness. She's got a handful a couple of

1256
01:01:49,640 --> 01:01:53,680
Speaker 2: million followers. When you look in the mirror, what is

1257
01:01:53,680 --> 01:01:55,520
Speaker 2: it that you see looking back at you?

1258
01:01:57,640 --> 01:02:01,800
Speaker 1: I see an amazing woman who has achieved so much,

1259
01:02:01,920 --> 01:02:06,280
Speaker 1: especially mentally. I see a body that's carried my two

1260
01:02:06,400 --> 01:02:11,760
Speaker 1: babies and kept grown them, kept them alive, breastfed. I've

1261
01:02:12,800 --> 01:02:16,760
Speaker 1: I'm extremely strong mentally and physically because the strength, like

1262
01:02:16,760 --> 01:02:20,600
Speaker 1: we're talking about before, translates into other areas. But the

1263
01:02:20,720 --> 01:02:25,000
Speaker 1: physical strength of my fitness for me, translates into my

1264
01:02:25,040 --> 01:02:28,080
Speaker 1: mental health. And I feel like I'm so strong and capable.

1265
01:02:28,440 --> 01:02:32,680
Speaker 1: I feel like I'm super woman, and I'm appreciative. And

1266
01:02:32,720 --> 01:02:34,560
Speaker 1: I'm not even just saying this because I think it's

1267
01:02:34,600 --> 01:02:36,920
Speaker 1: what I should say. I'm saying it because this is

1268
01:02:36,920 --> 01:02:39,720
Speaker 1: how I truly feel. And there was a moment after

1269
01:02:39,760 --> 01:02:41,840
Speaker 1: I had my son. I actually had my son on

1270
01:02:41,880 --> 01:02:44,840
Speaker 1: the landroom floor at home because I didn't make it

1271
01:02:44,880 --> 01:02:47,520
Speaker 1: to the hospital. It happened so fast, and this was

1272
01:02:47,560 --> 01:02:51,920
Speaker 1: something that also made me feel like I'm so strong

1273
01:02:51,920 --> 01:02:55,800
Speaker 1: and amazing because my body and so many women do this,

1274
01:02:55,960 --> 01:02:58,040
Speaker 1: I know, but I actually had this feeling myself.

1275
01:02:58,280 --> 01:02:59,080
Speaker 3: My body did it.

1276
01:02:59,160 --> 01:03:01,280
Speaker 1: My body burn him on its egn and I didn't

1277
01:03:01,280 --> 01:03:06,160
Speaker 1: have to do anything, and he's healthy, and everything sort

1278
01:03:06,160 --> 01:03:08,880
Speaker 1: of went how it should go, I guess, or how

1279
01:03:08,920 --> 01:03:11,000
Speaker 1: you would hope it would go. And I didn't have

1280
01:03:11,040 --> 01:03:13,480
Speaker 1: any sort of medical support to write. At the end,

1281
01:03:13,520 --> 01:03:16,840
Speaker 1: he was already half out and I had the ambulance

1282
01:03:16,840 --> 01:03:18,720
Speaker 1: officers come and then I got taken to the hospital

1283
01:03:18,760 --> 01:03:20,640
Speaker 1: in the ambulance. But I did it all and I

1284
01:03:20,640 --> 01:03:23,560
Speaker 1: felt like, wow, I am capable. I had this really strong,

1285
01:03:24,000 --> 01:03:26,120
Speaker 1: powered sort of feeling. And then when I got to

1286
01:03:26,120 --> 01:03:29,280
Speaker 1: the hospital and I had my first shower, so you

1287
01:03:29,320 --> 01:03:32,360
Speaker 1: go in and wash off because it gets pretty messy childbirth.

1288
01:03:32,880 --> 01:03:36,160
Speaker 1: I went into the bathroom and I looked in the

1289
01:03:36,200 --> 01:03:39,760
Speaker 1: mirror and I had this smile on my face, because

1290
01:03:40,160 --> 01:03:42,320
Speaker 1: after you've had a baby, you still have the big

1291
01:03:42,760 --> 01:03:44,120
Speaker 1: tummy and you've got extra skin.

1292
01:03:44,200 --> 01:03:47,320
Speaker 3: It's all sort of hanging and it's very different.

1293
01:03:47,320 --> 01:03:49,360
Speaker 1: And I could see how women would be very they

1294
01:03:49,360 --> 01:03:50,480
Speaker 1: could get upset by it.

1295
01:03:50,840 --> 01:03:51,960
Speaker 3: But I felt the opposite.

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01:03:52,400 --> 01:03:55,120
Speaker 1: And I thought, because I went through all those years

1297
01:03:55,160 --> 01:03:57,960
Speaker 1: of hating myself and hating my body and always criticizing

1298
01:03:58,000 --> 01:04:00,680
Speaker 1: it and I'm not enough or to this, or I'm

1299
01:04:00,720 --> 01:04:02,800
Speaker 1: too skinny, or I'm I don't have enough of this,

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Speaker 1: there's always something that's not that wasn't enough.

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Speaker 3: It was always I was lacking.

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Speaker 1: It's as scarcity sort of mentality, I don't have enough

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01:04:08,480 --> 01:04:13,280
Speaker 1: of something, or I'm you know, just not right. But

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01:04:13,320 --> 01:04:16,720
Speaker 1: I had that feeling of wow, look what my body

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01:04:16,720 --> 01:04:17,160
Speaker 1: has done.

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Speaker 3: Isn't it incredible?

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Speaker 1: And I had this overwhelming love and appreciation for it.

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01:04:21,800 --> 01:04:24,120
Speaker 1: And I put my hands on my tummy and I

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01:04:24,160 --> 01:04:26,280
Speaker 1: and I said thank you. I actually said those words

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Speaker 1: out loud, thank you so much. Look what you've done.

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01:04:29,200 --> 01:04:32,040
Speaker 1: You've birthed my baby boy and he's healthy and we're

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Speaker 1: both fine. And I felt so powerful, like I was

1313
01:04:36,640 --> 01:04:39,360
Speaker 1: actually wonder woman or superwoman or something like that like

1314
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Speaker 1: a superhero. And then I said to myself, don't ever

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Speaker 1: hate yourself again, Like, don't ever have that hate for

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Speaker 1: your body ever again. And if you do, you got

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Speaker 1: to remember this moment. And I haven't yet had to

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Speaker 1: remind myself because I just I am so grateful for

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Speaker 1: what my body does. And this is what I'm all

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Speaker 1: about to I tell women that focus on what your

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Speaker 1: body does for you, not how it looks.

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01:05:01,960 --> 01:05:05,200
Speaker 3: And again, it's it's all good to want to look good.

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Speaker 1: That's okay, but don't sacrifice your health to get there,

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Speaker 1: and don't beat yourself up. And we're not trying to

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01:05:09,960 --> 01:05:12,600
Speaker 1: get perfection here. We just want to feel the best

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Speaker 1: we can. But we have to remember that we are

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Speaker 1: amazing and our bodies do so much for us, and

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Speaker 1: have gratitude for it.

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Speaker 2: What excites you right now?

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Speaker 1: This is going to sound so weird and stupid, but

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01:05:27,160 --> 01:05:31,440
Speaker 1: going to the gym that stupid, Isn't it strange? But

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01:05:31,520 --> 01:05:33,919
Speaker 1: people think, oh, you know, you don't you don't wake

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01:05:34,000 --> 01:05:35,480
Speaker 1: up and you want to get to the gym to

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01:05:35,520 --> 01:05:36,080
Speaker 1: be excited.

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Speaker 3: No one, no one feels like that.

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01:05:37,680 --> 01:05:39,920
Speaker 1: But I actually do feel like that now because I'm

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01:05:39,920 --> 01:05:42,480
Speaker 1: at that point I've pushed through the start where it's

1338
01:05:42,480 --> 01:05:43,720
Speaker 1: horrible and you don't want to do it and you

1339
01:05:43,720 --> 01:05:44,680
Speaker 1: feel unmotivated.

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Speaker 3: I've pushed through all that.

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01:05:45,880 --> 01:05:50,880
Speaker 1: Now and I've started feeling really strong and capable, and

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01:05:51,280 --> 01:05:54,080
Speaker 1: I feel like I've pushed my fitness further than I

1343
01:05:54,120 --> 01:05:56,720
Speaker 1: ever have because my mental strength now is so strong,

1344
01:05:57,600 --> 01:06:00,840
Speaker 1: and like we'll say before, it translates into other areas

1345
01:06:01,360 --> 01:06:04,880
Speaker 1: of our lives, and I feel just amazing, on top

1346
01:06:04,920 --> 01:06:06,320
Speaker 1: of the world. And this is what I felt when

1347
01:06:06,360 --> 01:06:08,480
Speaker 1: I first started health and fitness. I felt like I

1348
01:06:08,520 --> 01:06:10,040
Speaker 1: was on top of the world, and I wanted other

1349
01:06:10,080 --> 01:06:12,680
Speaker 1: people to feel that way. So that excites me, that

1350
01:06:12,720 --> 01:06:17,920
Speaker 1: feeling of I'm pushing myself further, obviously listening to my

1351
01:06:17,960 --> 01:06:21,480
Speaker 1: body too and not going too far, but we can

1352
01:06:21,600 --> 01:06:23,280
Speaker 1: do so much more than we think we can. And

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01:06:23,320 --> 01:06:26,280
Speaker 1: then I get excited because I've achieved this, and then

1354
01:06:26,560 --> 01:06:28,360
Speaker 1: I know that other people can achieve it too, and

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01:06:28,400 --> 01:06:31,320
Speaker 1: I know that all the women doing my programs. I've

1356
01:06:31,360 --> 01:06:33,960
Speaker 1: just launched another one the other day, body sculpt and

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01:06:34,040 --> 01:06:36,880
Speaker 1: I'm seeing people posting about that and they're excited and

1358
01:06:36,880 --> 01:06:39,040
Speaker 1: they're doing workouts and they're saying it's really hard and

1359
01:06:39,160 --> 01:06:41,160
Speaker 1: laying who's sitting next to me here is doing body

1360
01:06:41,160 --> 01:06:43,440
Speaker 1: sculpt and she's saying, I hate you and this is

1361
01:06:43,640 --> 01:06:46,760
Speaker 1: it's so hard today, And I say, yeah, well it's

1362
01:06:46,760 --> 01:06:48,520
Speaker 1: going to get better as you get stronger, it's going

1363
01:06:48,560 --> 01:06:50,640
Speaker 1: to feel easier and you're you're going to love it.

1364
01:06:50,680 --> 01:06:53,600
Speaker 1: But the start's really really hard. But that's what excites me,

1365
01:06:53,640 --> 01:06:56,480
Speaker 1: and that's when I started. That's what made me want

1366
01:06:56,480 --> 01:06:59,240
Speaker 1: to do what I'm doing now and start my programs.

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01:07:00,040 --> 01:07:02,720
Speaker 1: Still get that feeling now, I still get excited about it,

1368
01:07:02,800 --> 01:07:06,040
Speaker 1: So that's probably something that I'm most excited about. But

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01:07:06,080 --> 01:07:09,000
Speaker 1: of course there's many things coming in the future that

1370
01:07:09,040 --> 01:07:11,560
Speaker 1: I don't even know a lot of them yet, but

1371
01:07:11,720 --> 01:07:13,880
Speaker 1: a lot of things are coming to the app this

1372
01:07:13,960 --> 01:07:17,080
Speaker 1: year and James Cosmetics, my other business, which is a

1373
01:07:17,080 --> 01:07:20,680
Speaker 1: beauty business. There's so much happening that I think the

1374
01:07:20,760 --> 01:07:23,440
Speaker 1: main thing for me is that it has a positive

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Speaker 1: impact on women.

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Speaker 3: Even the beauty business.

1377
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Speaker 1: We're all about spending a few minutes per week just

1378
01:07:30,000 --> 01:07:32,240
Speaker 1: on yourself. It's really important that you put that time

1379
01:07:32,280 --> 01:07:36,160
Speaker 1: aside and you do something for you that is showing

1380
01:07:36,200 --> 01:07:39,240
Speaker 1: yourself love. So whatever you need to do, whatever makes

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01:07:39,280 --> 01:07:42,400
Speaker 1: you feel good, You've got to make that time. Otherwise

1382
01:07:42,400 --> 01:07:44,200
Speaker 1: we just get so caught up in life because we're

1383
01:07:44,200 --> 01:07:47,040
Speaker 1: so busy. But if you just spend even ten minutes

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01:07:47,040 --> 01:07:49,600
Speaker 1: a couple of times a week on doing something, whether

1385
01:07:49,680 --> 01:07:51,600
Speaker 1: it's you can even do a quick workout for ten

1386
01:07:51,600 --> 01:07:54,200
Speaker 1: minutes at home, or or you can do a facial

1387
01:07:54,320 --> 01:07:56,640
Speaker 1: or something that's taking that time out that you're investing

1388
01:07:56,680 --> 01:07:59,160
Speaker 1: into yourself will make you feel so much better. And

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Speaker 1: that's what I'm all about, and that's what my businesses

1390
01:08:00,960 --> 01:08:01,720
Speaker 1: are about.

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Speaker 2: For sure, And I think that's something could be really helpful.

1392
01:08:04,520 --> 01:08:07,240
Speaker 2: You're talking about feeling so excited to work out, But

1393
01:08:07,280 --> 01:08:09,480
Speaker 2: for the person that's not there yet, for the person

1394
01:08:09,520 --> 01:08:12,840
Speaker 2: that really is closer to the start of their journey,

1395
01:08:12,840 --> 01:08:17,040
Speaker 2: the person that's struggling to find that motivation to either

1396
01:08:17,640 --> 01:08:19,960
Speaker 2: do something un demanded in their living room or go

1397
01:08:20,000 --> 01:08:22,559
Speaker 2: to the gym or go for a run, what piece

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01:08:22,600 --> 01:08:25,839
Speaker 2: of advice do you offer to them at the beginning.

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01:08:26,920 --> 01:08:29,759
Speaker 1: Yeah, this is a good point and I need people

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01:08:29,800 --> 01:08:33,040
Speaker 1: to realize, which if you follow me, you'll see that

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01:08:33,080 --> 01:08:35,439
Speaker 1: I've posted this a lot, and I've posted it.

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01:08:35,400 --> 01:08:37,840
Speaker 3: From the start and me really struggling.

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01:08:38,120 --> 01:08:41,800
Speaker 1: But the biggest thing is the motivation people think, or

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01:08:41,840 --> 01:08:43,879
Speaker 1: they say to me, I wish I had your motivation,

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01:08:44,200 --> 01:08:47,200
Speaker 1: or I need to find motivation. You don't find it,

1406
01:08:47,320 --> 01:08:49,920
Speaker 1: you create it, and it sucks at the beginning. It

1407
01:08:49,960 --> 01:08:52,320
Speaker 1: really does, and it does for me too, and I'm

1408
01:08:52,320 --> 01:08:55,439
Speaker 1: not exempt from that. I still went through the tough

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Speaker 1: times of not feeling motivated, especially after having a baby,

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01:08:58,320 --> 01:09:01,880
Speaker 1: and you're tied and real I have a todd live

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01:09:01,920 --> 01:09:04,639
Speaker 1: a three year old and a eight month old now,

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01:09:04,680 --> 01:09:07,479
Speaker 1: but earlier on he was really difficult because he's got

1413
01:09:07,520 --> 01:09:09,960
Speaker 1: severe reflux, so's he cries a lot.

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01:09:10,000 --> 01:09:13,120
Speaker 3: He's vomiting multiple times a day, and it was really hard.

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01:09:13,640 --> 01:09:16,400
Speaker 1: But I knew that if I started exercising, because I'd

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01:09:16,400 --> 01:09:20,639
Speaker 1: been healthy and fit before, I know how good it feels.

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01:09:20,760 --> 01:09:23,600
Speaker 1: So I sort of have that to remind me and

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01:09:24,040 --> 01:09:25,519
Speaker 1: give me that motivation, I guess.

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01:09:25,800 --> 01:09:26,360
Speaker 2: But I just.

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01:09:26,280 --> 01:09:28,840
Speaker 1: Focused on I'm going to feel so much better for this,

1421
01:09:28,920 --> 01:09:30,600
Speaker 1: and I'll be able to handle so much more in

1422
01:09:30,640 --> 01:09:34,040
Speaker 1: my life. So I wanted to sit on the couch

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01:09:34,080 --> 01:09:37,200
Speaker 1: all day every day and watch TV and watch Netflix

1424
01:09:37,439 --> 01:09:39,960
Speaker 1: and have my baby and cuddle my baby and just

1425
01:09:40,040 --> 01:09:42,320
Speaker 1: not do anything. And I thought, I've got to go.

1426
01:09:42,439 --> 01:09:45,360
Speaker 1: I've got to start exercising. I just have to start moving.

1427
01:09:45,760 --> 01:09:47,479
Speaker 1: And then I thought, well, what do I tell other people?

1428
01:09:47,560 --> 01:09:49,559
Speaker 3: Let's do that? Maybe I should practice what I preach.

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01:09:50,200 --> 01:09:50,639
Speaker 2: So I just.

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01:09:50,640 --> 01:09:53,879
Speaker 1: Started one foot in front of the other and started walking.

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01:09:54,280 --> 01:09:57,320
Speaker 1: So don't over commit. Don't think, oh, I've got to

1432
01:09:57,360 --> 01:09:59,400
Speaker 1: train an hour and a half every day, six days

1433
01:09:59,439 --> 01:10:01,680
Speaker 1: a week too much. You've got to make it achievable.

1434
01:10:02,240 --> 01:10:05,439
Speaker 1: So start small, create these smaller goals. Don't have a

1435
01:10:05,520 --> 01:10:08,960
Speaker 1: huge goal like I want to be ten percent body fat,

1436
01:10:09,000 --> 01:10:11,519
Speaker 1: and I want to I want that in six months.

1437
01:10:11,520 --> 01:10:14,160
Speaker 1: Like you've got to be realistic here and not look

1438
01:10:14,160 --> 01:10:15,560
Speaker 1: at anyone else on what they're doing. Like I was

1439
01:10:15,560 --> 01:10:18,360
Speaker 1: talking about before, you're not comparing. You're making your own

1440
01:10:18,400 --> 01:10:21,360
Speaker 1: goals and you're focusing on your own journey there and

1441
01:10:21,400 --> 01:10:24,679
Speaker 1: make those smaller achievable goals. So I went for walks

1442
01:10:24,680 --> 01:10:26,400
Speaker 1: at the start. Then i'd do a little bit of

1443
01:10:26,400 --> 01:10:29,639
Speaker 1: a slow jog, and I started lifting weights. But I

1444
01:10:29,680 --> 01:10:32,080
Speaker 1: obviously dropped the weights that I was lifting. It wasn't

1445
01:10:32,080 --> 01:10:34,120
Speaker 1: anywhere near as heavy as it used to be. And

1446
01:10:34,160 --> 01:10:35,920
Speaker 1: I had to not compare to how I used to

1447
01:10:36,520 --> 01:10:38,679
Speaker 1: train because before I fell pregnant.

1448
01:10:38,760 --> 01:10:40,120
Speaker 3: The second time, I was at my peak.

1449
01:10:40,160 --> 01:10:42,320
Speaker 1: I was fitter and stronger than I'd ever ever been

1450
01:10:42,360 --> 01:10:45,439
Speaker 1: in my life, and I had moments where I thought, oh,

1451
01:10:45,479 --> 01:10:46,719
Speaker 1: this is horrible.

1452
01:10:46,720 --> 01:10:48,919
Speaker 3: I can't even do one knee push up anymore.

1453
01:10:48,960 --> 01:10:51,519
Speaker 1: And I used to do full ones and do thirty

1454
01:10:51,560 --> 01:10:53,800
Speaker 1: of them in a row, and I'm never going to

1455
01:10:53,840 --> 01:10:55,240
Speaker 1: get back there. And I had to get rid of

1456
01:10:55,240 --> 01:10:59,040
Speaker 1: those feelings and go, Okay, I'm starting from scratch here.

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01:10:59,080 --> 01:11:02,080
Speaker 1: I'm starting at the body, and it's all about progress

1458
01:11:02,479 --> 01:11:04,120
Speaker 1: and I need to remember that.

1459
01:11:04,320 --> 01:11:08,040
Speaker 3: So I just do what I could and get uncomfortable.

1460
01:11:08,080 --> 01:11:08,760
Speaker 3: That's a huge one.

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01:11:08,840 --> 01:11:11,479
Speaker 1: You have to get uncomfortable to make changes, get out

1462
01:11:11,520 --> 01:11:14,320
Speaker 1: of your comfort zone, make it challenging. And then each

1463
01:11:14,360 --> 01:11:17,920
Speaker 1: time you exercise, obviously listening to your body, and if

1464
01:11:18,000 --> 01:11:19,760
Speaker 1: you really need a break, you've got to take one

1465
01:11:20,000 --> 01:11:23,120
Speaker 1: and get enough sleep as well, and make sure nutrition's good.

1466
01:11:23,120 --> 01:11:26,160
Speaker 1: There's a lot of parts to this, but you slowly

1467
01:11:26,200 --> 01:11:28,759
Speaker 1: work your way up, and that's the point. It takes time,

1468
01:11:29,400 --> 01:11:31,080
Speaker 1: but the start is the hardest.

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01:11:31,120 --> 01:11:31,840
Speaker 3: It truly is.

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01:11:31,960 --> 01:11:34,840
Speaker 1: I did not start feeling motivated and jumping out of

1471
01:11:34,840 --> 01:11:37,519
Speaker 1: bread bed excited to go to the gym, and because

1472
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Speaker 1: I started training at home as well, so I was

1473
01:11:39,280 --> 01:11:41,519
Speaker 1: doing a lot of stuff at home and walking around

1474
01:11:41,680 --> 01:11:44,719
Speaker 1: my neighborhood. Now I've just started going to the gym,

1475
01:11:44,920 --> 01:11:48,080
Speaker 1: probably about two months ago, because our gym's all opened up.

1476
01:11:48,360 --> 01:11:50,559
Speaker 3: Luckily. We're very grateful for that here.

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01:11:52,040 --> 01:11:55,200
Speaker 1: But yeah, it's about progress and just move and stop

1478
01:11:55,240 --> 01:11:58,840
Speaker 1: thinking about it. I go into robot mode. So that's

1479
01:11:58,880 --> 01:12:00,559
Speaker 1: what I like to call it. You don't think about

1480
01:12:00,560 --> 01:12:01,960
Speaker 1: it because you'll talk yourself out of it.

1481
01:12:02,120 --> 01:12:03,280
Speaker 3: Just just do it.

1482
01:12:03,560 --> 01:12:06,760
Speaker 1: Put your gym clothes near your bed, get up, put

1483
01:12:06,760 --> 01:12:09,000
Speaker 1: them on, have you banana or whatever you have in

1484
01:12:09,040 --> 01:12:11,479
Speaker 1: the morning, and big drink of water, and just start

1485
01:12:11,600 --> 01:12:14,360
Speaker 1: moving and adding to it over time. But don't expect

1486
01:12:14,640 --> 01:12:18,439
Speaker 1: results too soon, because it's consistency that will get you there.

1487
01:12:18,880 --> 01:12:20,799
Speaker 3: And I've done the same thing. I'm not perfect.

1488
01:12:21,360 --> 01:12:24,720
Speaker 1: I still at the start thought why aren't I dropping? Like,

1489
01:12:24,760 --> 01:12:26,960
Speaker 1: why aren't I losing the fats? This is going to

1490
01:12:27,040 --> 01:12:29,200
Speaker 1: be really hard what I'm going to do. I'm supposed

1491
01:12:29,200 --> 01:12:31,080
Speaker 1: to be Emily sky Fit on Instagram.

1492
01:12:31,120 --> 01:12:32,479
Speaker 3: What am I going to do? I'm not fit?

1493
01:12:32,600 --> 01:12:35,120
Speaker 1: And I had those feelings, but I just I push

1494
01:12:35,160 --> 01:12:37,800
Speaker 1: it away and kept pushing forward and kept being consistent

1495
01:12:38,240 --> 01:12:40,599
Speaker 1: and kept going. You can do this, and you're stronger

1496
01:12:40,640 --> 01:12:42,320
Speaker 1: than you think you are. And I tell myself all

1497
01:12:42,320 --> 01:12:45,400
Speaker 1: those things, and now I'm feeling amazing, And like I

1498
01:12:45,439 --> 01:12:48,040
Speaker 1: said before, I do jump out of bed looking forward

1499
01:12:48,080 --> 01:12:52,160
Speaker 1: to my training session because I'm starting well. I started

1500
01:12:52,160 --> 01:12:54,880
Speaker 1: to probably about two months ago. Now I started to

1501
01:12:54,920 --> 01:12:58,000
Speaker 1: feel the results. I started feeling stronger and fitter, and

1502
01:12:58,040 --> 01:13:02,200
Speaker 1: I started losing fat and getting light and it pays off.

1503
01:13:02,200 --> 01:13:04,960
Speaker 1: But it's like I always say, persistence pays off. You

1504
01:13:05,040 --> 01:13:07,160
Speaker 1: have to be persistent with it and then you'll get there.

1505
01:13:07,439 --> 01:13:09,559
Speaker 1: And I feel incredible now and I don't want to stop,

1506
01:13:09,760 --> 01:13:11,840
Speaker 1: and you'll get the same too. Like if for you

1507
01:13:11,880 --> 01:13:14,679
Speaker 1: guys out there that want to embark on this fitness journey,

1508
01:13:14,880 --> 01:13:16,479
Speaker 1: you've got to realize that this has got to be

1509
01:13:16,520 --> 01:13:20,160
Speaker 1: a lifestyle change. It's not short term. So start making

1510
01:13:20,240 --> 01:13:23,000
Speaker 1: changes that you know you can keep doing, and you

1511
01:13:23,040 --> 01:13:25,920
Speaker 1: can you can maintain and believe that you can do

1512
01:13:26,040 --> 01:13:28,400
Speaker 1: it as long as you can just get past the start,

1513
01:13:28,920 --> 01:13:29,759
Speaker 1: keep pushing through.

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Speaker 3: I love and get the Emily Sky feed up.

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Speaker 2: I love all of that advice, and I think what's

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Speaker 2: really beautiful in there is that you articulated that yes,

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Speaker 2: there may be one time that you think like this

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Speaker 2: is going to be the only time in the beginner.

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Speaker 2: But this is a journey and there are going to

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Speaker 2: be different chapters in it, and there are going to

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01:13:47,800 --> 01:13:51,200
Speaker 2: be different points where, whether it's because of something that's

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01:13:51,240 --> 01:13:54,479
Speaker 2: going on physically or mentally, that you feel as though

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01:13:54,520 --> 01:13:57,520
Speaker 2: that you are back at square one. But the reality

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Speaker 2: is is that once that you know what you feel

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01:14:00,280 --> 01:14:02,559
Speaker 2: like to be a beginner, that means that you also

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01:14:02,720 --> 01:14:04,960
Speaker 2: know what it feels like to get to that next

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01:14:04,960 --> 01:14:07,439
Speaker 2: step and that next step and that next step. So

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Speaker 2: understanding that with time it gets easier, and that there

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01:14:10,680 --> 01:14:12,800
Speaker 2: are going to be a lot of other people in

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Speaker 2: the world who understand exactly what you're going through, and

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Speaker 2: that you are never alone in that final question for you, Emily, you.

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Speaker 3: Ready, Yes, I'm scared right now, And.

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Speaker 2: I know you touched a little bit on this before,

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Speaker 2: but I'm going to give you an opportunity to expand

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01:14:30,439 --> 01:14:34,680
Speaker 2: upon it again. You have an opportunity to offer yourself

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01:14:34,720 --> 01:14:39,120
Speaker 2: a piece of advice going through that hurdle moment when

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01:14:39,200 --> 01:14:45,960
Speaker 2: you are thinking about and attempting to take your own life.

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01:14:46,080 --> 01:14:48,240
Speaker 2: You have an opportunity to give yourself a piece of

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01:14:48,280 --> 01:14:50,960
Speaker 2: advice looking back on that hurdle moment right now, what

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01:14:51,320 --> 01:14:52,680
Speaker 2: do you tell yourself?

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01:14:53,400 --> 01:14:58,400
Speaker 1: It would be that you are worth so much more

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01:14:58,439 --> 01:15:01,160
Speaker 1: than you think you are. You're meant to be here,

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01:15:01,479 --> 01:15:04,839
Speaker 1: and you're here for a reason, and there's something amazing

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01:15:04,880 --> 01:15:06,960
Speaker 1: that you're going to do in the future, and you're

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01:15:06,960 --> 01:15:08,720
Speaker 1: going to be able to help other people through it,

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01:15:09,240 --> 01:15:13,040
Speaker 1: especially through this experience, because this is the worst that

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01:15:13,120 --> 01:15:17,040
Speaker 1: you can feel. You're at the absolute worst point of

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01:15:17,080 --> 01:15:20,760
Speaker 1: your life and it's horrible, and I know it is,

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01:15:20,800 --> 01:15:24,120
Speaker 1: and it's painful, but there's always a way out, and

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01:15:24,160 --> 01:15:27,400
Speaker 1: the only way now is up, because you can't get

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01:15:27,400 --> 01:15:31,840
Speaker 1: any lower. But you have to save yourself and you

1552
01:15:31,960 --> 01:15:35,960
Speaker 1: have to believe that you're worthy of saving and searching

1553
01:15:36,000 --> 01:15:38,120
Speaker 1: for love from everyone else is not the way. You've

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01:15:38,120 --> 01:15:40,720
Speaker 1: got to learn to love yourself. And this is such

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01:15:41,680 --> 01:15:43,640
Speaker 1: a difficult thing to do, and I totally get it.

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01:15:43,640 --> 01:15:46,000
Speaker 1: It's really hard to love yourself, but I truly do now.

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01:15:46,640 --> 01:15:49,240
Speaker 1: But I think the first step is just knowing that

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01:15:49,280 --> 01:15:54,040
Speaker 1: you are worth living, You're worth living for and you're

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01:15:54,040 --> 01:15:55,960
Speaker 1: so blessed to be able to be here. I mean,

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01:15:56,000 --> 01:15:59,800
Speaker 1: even just conception is miraculous, isn't it. Keep pushing through

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01:16:00,040 --> 01:16:03,480
Speaker 1: and keep going back to I'm worthy and I'm lovable

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01:16:03,720 --> 01:16:07,280
Speaker 1: and you will get there, and you've got to believe

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01:16:07,280 --> 01:16:07,920
Speaker 1: in yourself.

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Speaker 3: But yeah, there's a way out. That's something I would

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Speaker 3: tell myself.

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Speaker 1: There's always a way out, and don't feel ashamed to

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01:16:15,240 --> 01:16:19,360
Speaker 1: seek help. And it's take one step at a time.

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01:16:19,640 --> 01:16:22,240
Speaker 1: When you make changes. It's not an overnight thing. Even

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01:16:22,280 --> 01:16:25,280
Speaker 1: when you realize I'm going to do this now, it's

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01:16:25,680 --> 01:16:27,080
Speaker 1: consistent effort.

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Speaker 3: Every single day you have to put in.

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Speaker 1: You can't just go, Okay, I'm going to make changes

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01:16:31,760 --> 01:16:35,000
Speaker 1: now and work on myself and then you think you're

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01:16:35,000 --> 01:16:38,320
Speaker 1: going to be automatically changed. Every single day you have

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01:16:38,400 --> 01:16:41,400
Speaker 1: to wake up and go, no, I've chosen to make

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01:16:41,520 --> 01:16:43,880
Speaker 1: changes and to live this day differently to what I

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01:16:43,920 --> 01:16:46,519
Speaker 1: have in the past because that hasn't served me. It

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01:16:46,560 --> 01:16:50,559
Speaker 1: hasn't made me happy. So you can do it. You

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01:16:50,600 --> 01:16:51,960
Speaker 1: can do it, you can get through it.

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Speaker 2: I think all of your takeaways are just so beautiful,

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Speaker 2: and I just I want to reiterate from my end

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01:16:58,240 --> 01:17:02,000
Speaker 2: that I'm appreciative of your time, and what I'm really appreciative,

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01:17:03,080 --> 01:17:06,080
Speaker 2: to be honest, is that it's very clear in the

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Speaker 2: way that you speak about your journey and in the

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01:17:08,439 --> 01:17:11,519
Speaker 2: way that you speak with me that you're very present

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01:17:11,600 --> 01:17:15,479
Speaker 2: here in this moment, and I think that is It's

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01:17:15,720 --> 01:17:18,840
Speaker 2: awesome because with so much going on and being a

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01:17:18,880 --> 01:17:22,040
Speaker 2: mother of two and owning this business and showing up

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01:17:22,080 --> 01:17:25,040
Speaker 2: for your community, I know that it can be a

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01:17:25,080 --> 01:17:29,519
Speaker 2: little challenging at times to just fully show up somewhere,

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01:17:29,720 --> 01:17:33,400
Speaker 2: especially for an hour and change. So thank you so much.

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01:17:33,760 --> 01:17:35,280
Speaker 2: It means the world to me, and I know that

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Speaker 2: it's going to mean the world to the Hurdlers as

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Speaker 2: they listen to this episode.

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Speaker 1: Thank you so much for having me, Emily. And you

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Speaker 1: know what, I actually really love talking about all this stuff.

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01:17:45,200 --> 01:17:47,120
Speaker 1: I am very passionate about it and if it can

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Speaker 1: help someone, even just one person, then it's worth it.

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Speaker 1: But even for me to reflect on how far I've gone,

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Speaker 1: it's really important to stop, I think, in your life

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01:17:56,200 --> 01:18:00,320
Speaker 1: because it is so busy, insane, but stop and realize, hey,

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Speaker 1: I have come so far. Because a lot of us think, oh,

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01:18:03,280 --> 01:18:05,680
Speaker 1: I've got so far to go, but look how far

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Speaker 1: we've come. I think it's the only the only time

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01:18:07,680 --> 01:18:09,519
Speaker 1: we should really look back is to see how far

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Speaker 1: we've come. And it's true, definitely should be proud of ourselves.

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Speaker 1: Every small step we take, we should be proud of ourselves.

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Speaker 2: Emily, how do the hurdlers keep up with you? Give

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Speaker 2: me all of your details?

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Speaker 1: So Instagram is Emily sky Fit, make sure you've got

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Speaker 1: the E on the sky and Facebook is Emily sky

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Speaker 1: Model and I was back in my modeling days, so

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Speaker 1: I haven't been able to change the names.

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Speaker 3: It's stuck with.

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Speaker 1: The model and my website's Emily Skyfit dot com.

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Speaker 2: I love it. I'm at Emily Aabardi and at Hurdle

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Speaker 2: Podcast Another Hurdle. Can't go catch you guys next time