Speaker 1: The Nicky Glaser Podcast.
Speaker 2: Glaser, here's Nikki.
Speaker 3: Hello here, I am welcome to the show. It's Nicky
Speaker 3: Glazer Podcast. Happy to be here alone in my apartment
Speaker 3: in Saint Louis. I'm not happy to be alone, but
Speaker 3: oh maybe I am. Who knows Brian Frangie is here
Speaker 3: in Los Angeles? Yes, no, it's in Arizona. What's up, guys?
Speaker 1: Yeah?
Speaker 3: I have had dirty hair since I think the last
Speaker 3: time I watched my hair was Saturday, and it's now Wednesday.
Speaker 3: Is it Wednesday or Tuesday? It's Wednesday's typical?
Speaker 1: Is that what you're supposed to be doing?
Speaker 3: You know, it's atypical for me. That's a really long
Speaker 3: time for me. I really needed to get one in
Speaker 3: this morning, and then my apartment did not have hot water,
Speaker 3: so I took it as a sign. You know, you
Speaker 3: take things as a sign when there's no other choice,
Speaker 3: and you go, this is meant to not take a
Speaker 3: shower today.
Speaker 1: To get some dreads. Yeah exactly, Well.
Speaker 3: I have to brush through it because it is starting
Speaker 3: to dread. Give dry shambo, naughty? I did. I got some.
Speaker 3: I didn't spray it today. I sprayed it like two
Speaker 3: days ago, and that really SOPs some stuff off, but
Speaker 3: it's just a tangled mess. I'm obsessed with these new brushes.
Speaker 1: I found.
Speaker 3: Someone gave it to me in a bag of something
Speaker 3: like a gift bag, but it's I bought others. It
Speaker 3: looks like a little egg and it has plastic bristles.
Speaker 3: And I've always looked for a brush that doesn't rip
Speaker 3: your hair. I'm obsessed with not ripping my hair. I
Speaker 3: cannot believe when I watch my friends brush through their
Speaker 3: hair after it's wet from the shower. They just start
Speaker 3: at the root and go straight down and push through.
Speaker 3: And I'm like, I get it goes through, girls, but
Speaker 3: you got to start at the ends, at the very ends.
Speaker 3: Get those good. Then you slowly work up because you
Speaker 3: are ripping out your hair. And I've seen my friend
Speaker 3: Catherine does it so violently, and I'm like, treat your
Speaker 3: hair like fine papyrus that you would find in an
Speaker 3: ancient tomb. Yeah, Like that's how gentlely you have to
Speaker 3: be on your hair.
Speaker 1: Fine?
Speaker 3: What? Yes, it as a As you age, it absolutely
Speaker 3: thins and it does and it breaks, you know, especially
Speaker 3: if you treat your hair with heat and paraffins and
Speaker 3: uh and color it like you have to. I think
Speaker 3: that's why my hair. I mean, I definitely take Neutral.
Speaker 3: And I want to tell everyone that neutrafil is legit.
Speaker 3: They don't are not paid. It's just the thing that
Speaker 3: I I if I miss one supplement of Neutral, I
Speaker 3: feel it in my head. It's like, might be psychosomitic.
Speaker 3: But it's fucking works. And it's just I just take
Speaker 3: the four pills a day, don't You don't need to
Speaker 3: do all the other things.
Speaker 2: I mean, I like the serum.
Speaker 3: Oh you use the serum. I I don't do that
Speaker 3: because it's gonna make it so I have to wash
Speaker 3: my hair.
Speaker 2: Oh, I just have to it. It's probably good.
Speaker 3: The friends husband invented it, and that's and so we
Speaker 3: get they we get fit friends and family.
Speaker 4: I support, But I feel like I can always ask
Speaker 4: for a free one.
Speaker 3: You literally, I just write to her and I say,
Speaker 3: can I get some Neutral? And she sends me an
Speaker 3: entire like, uh shed which is worth? Like I have
Speaker 3: so much neutrafl. I give it to my I give
Speaker 3: it to my mom, I give it to Chris, I
Speaker 3: give it to Tim.
Speaker 1: Everyone. I'm not gonna know as saying like sometimes I'll
Speaker 1: I'll opt not to do prime on Amazon, so I
Speaker 1: can support Jeff Bezos exactly like I'll pay for the
Speaker 1: ship in her pocket.
Speaker 3: It's not the same.
Speaker 1: Like it's also why I buy a new iPhone every
Speaker 1: three months. It's like, I know that Tim doing the
Speaker 1: right thing by part yes.
Speaker 3: To help billionaires get to that one point one one
Speaker 3: point two.
Speaker 2: You know how to part of something. Let me alone.
Speaker 3: You're being a good friend because our friend's husband does
Speaker 3: own it, and that means that she owns it, and
Speaker 3: you're being a good friend. But like, it's like when
Speaker 3: people when my friends pay for tickets to my show
Speaker 3: and no offense. Everyone listening is my friend. But I
Speaker 3: can't give away that many tickets. But like I don't
Speaker 3: have that many friends my life, and when they buy tickets,
Speaker 3: it annoys me because I'm like, I get comps. You
Speaker 3: get like it's part of the deal that I can
Speaker 3: give this stuff away, and that money you're spending is
Speaker 3: kind of not really going I'm gonna get that anyway.
Speaker 3: It's kind of the deal, right. This is not a
Speaker 3: good way to sell tickets, but I do need people
Speaker 3: to buy tickets. But it's just when your when your
Speaker 3: family is like I already bought one. I'm just like,
Speaker 3: that's so nice. But if they're billionaires, yeah, buy all
Speaker 3: the tickets, buy literally all the tickets if you're But
Speaker 3: if someone is a friend and I know that they
Speaker 3: don't have all the money in the world, I'm like, no, no, no,
Speaker 3: don't do that. And that's why I say busties, don't
Speaker 3: spend your money on a meet and greet. If you
Speaker 3: just say you can't have four, one, I'll give you one.
Speaker 3: You know it.
Speaker 1: Beautiful brush is so nice. It looks like a brush
Speaker 1: for a horse.
Speaker 3: I was gonna say it looks like a pet brush. Yeah, yeah,
Speaker 3: that might be it. It's just so soft, bristled, and
Speaker 3: like I couldn't find any brushes that really do this
Speaker 3: kind of thing for me where it doesn't rip my hair.
Speaker 3: But I can kind of just get through it.
Speaker 4: Because people listening to the audio you're missing keep brushing
Speaker 4: her hair with a pet brush.
Speaker 3: I think they hear it.
Speaker 1: It looks like a brush a doll.
Speaker 3: Yes, And this one's like glittery and small, but it's small.
Speaker 3: It fits in your bag. It looks like a little egg.
Speaker 3: I don't know what they're called, but like, if you
Speaker 3: just go to the video and see what I'm looking
Speaker 3: like type an egg brush or like small circular brush.
Speaker 3: They come in all different colors. I got so many
Speaker 3: of them because I wanted to hand them out to
Speaker 3: my friends, but I lose them a lot, so I
Speaker 3: just cut them all. But but yeah, it's it's my
Speaker 3: new favorite product as a woman, and I think I
Speaker 3: probably won't go back. I used to get little because
Speaker 3: I want a little brush to keep in my purse.
Speaker 3: That doesn't because all the little brushes have so many
Speaker 3: tongs or they're combs. I would I would rather shave
Speaker 3: my head off than use a comb. Try to get
Speaker 3: through my hair with a fucking comb. It would be
Speaker 3: hell when people are trying to fix my hair on
Speaker 3: set and they use a comb.
Speaker 1: What the hell.
Speaker 3: I'm just like, get out of here with that, Like
Speaker 3: I it won't pull through my hair.
Speaker 2: Whoa.
Speaker 4: So you know how when you go on Instagram and
Speaker 4: you go to the search and it just like brings
Speaker 4: up random videos for some reason. I don't know why
Speaker 4: I'm being targeted this, but it's these videos. This is
Speaker 4: going to freak you out of It's like backs of
Speaker 4: heads getting haircuts, but it's like like snipping like really
Speaker 4: short towards the skull cap okay, and it's just like
Speaker 4: cutting hair, Like I don't understand it. I don't know
Speaker 4: why people do this. It's not selling anything. It's just
Speaker 4: cutting hair in this like very violent way. And I'm like,
Speaker 4: why am I getting targeted this?
Speaker 3: But I don't understand what it's targeting you for. On Amazon?
Speaker 2: No, No, on Instagram.
Speaker 3: On Instagram, oh oh, discover for some reason. I was
Speaker 3: picturing Amazon for some reason. Oh yeah, they they think
Speaker 3: you want to see that.
Speaker 1: Stuff social media is I think you're sick. I mean,
Speaker 1: it's just terrible.
Speaker 3: It's go searching for warp videos. They don't even know
Speaker 3: that I want that, and that is what I want.
Speaker 1: The things that I going to show this to you.
Speaker 3: To give it to her, they won't give it to me.
Speaker 3: I have to search it out. There's got to be
Speaker 3: more good, Like if you're just joining the show as
Speaker 3: a new listener, I like seeing videos. I'm not a
Speaker 3: pimple popper girl. I don't want to see things explode
Speaker 3: with gushy like puss coming out. Disgusting. There's something wrong
Speaker 3: with you if you like that, even though most people do.
Speaker 1: I like, definitely not me.
Speaker 3: Hardened things being like cut into like a wart being
Speaker 3: like severed, and then blood coming out in little the dots.
Speaker 1: I got a little doctor. You're gonna love mama to
Speaker 1: see the hoof doctor.
Speaker 3: Oh I like that guy, Yeah, because it's dry, there's
Speaker 3: nothing wet going on like that doctor.
Speaker 1: It's a guy who owns a ranch who takes care
Speaker 1: of horses hoofs, and so the video is just him like,
Speaker 1: I got a hoof here, and clearly it's got a problem.
Speaker 3: And then he hold it in the crook of their
Speaker 3: hand really like like in the crook of their arm,
Speaker 3: and the horse kind of has to just be.
Speaker 2: Like mow and then it yes.
Speaker 3: And then he just like digs into it and gets
Speaker 3: out all this dirt and stuff and like cleans out
Speaker 3: their hoof to change it.
Speaker 2: It's very satisfying.
Speaker 1: Yeah, a coconut or something it's comes off.
Speaker 3: Or have you ever scraped plaque off your teeth?
Speaker 2: Oh?
Speaker 1: No, I've never been. What do you buy a device?
Speaker 3: So I just remember going to the doctor once and
Speaker 3: she was like, you have a lot of plaque behind
Speaker 3: your lower teeth, like you got to get in there
Speaker 3: with a brush. And I was like, oh my god.
Speaker 3: And I always have loved the feeling. And sorry trigger
Speaker 3: warning if you hate dentist stuff, tailor's not here. But
Speaker 3: I always liked I like when they scrape on your
Speaker 3: teeth and pick that stuff off. I can feel it.
Speaker 3: I like what's going on there. I can never see
Speaker 3: it though, But then she told me you're because your
Speaker 3: plaque builds up. Your gums will recess because it'll keep
Speaker 3: building and that was what makes recess gums. And then
Speaker 3: you have like spots for disease to get into your
Speaker 3: gums and stuff. So she was like, you got to
Speaker 3: really keep an eye on that, and so I was like, oh,
Speaker 3: I will, And so like once a month, I just
Speaker 3: get in there. I'll take like some metal Tweezers and
Speaker 3: I just go scrape it off, and I just like scrape.
Speaker 2: There's it's like you can get that hook thing.
Speaker 3: I know. I just never have I just use my
Speaker 3: I use Tweezers that.
Speaker 2: I getting for your birthday.
Speaker 3: Gross. Oh that would be amazing to get a dental kit. Okay,
Speaker 3: write it down, it's mine, that's my present. Oh my god? Thanks?
Speaker 1: Do you brush your tongue? Did I talk about this yet?
Speaker 1: I recently learned that people are supposed to brush their
Speaker 1: you are supposed to do and I never do, and
Speaker 1: maybe even the roof of your mouth a little bit,
Speaker 1: but mostly you brush your tongue and then you can
Speaker 1: buy this thing called the tongue scraper.
Speaker 3: Yeah, like a little you looks at me every day.
Speaker 1: Yeah, I mean, so I just learned and I just
Speaker 1: started scraping my tongue and I feel like, gag. It
Speaker 1: makes me gag a little bit. My god.
Speaker 3: Sometimes you flush your teeth and you get like something
Speaker 3: comes out and it smells and tastes so fucking bad,
Speaker 3: and you're like, how is that in my body? Yeah,
Speaker 3: it's like, you know, you have a joke about it,
Speaker 3: but I've also like thought about whatever I poop. I'm
Speaker 3: just like, I can't believe I was carrying that around
Speaker 3: walking around that it was just in me.
Speaker 1: Yeah, no, it's where it's it's.
Speaker 3: Remarkable from the outside world.
Speaker 1: It's insane that you know, people survived in ancient times
Speaker 1: because of all this shit that we have to scrape
Speaker 1: our tongues. Do you think people in ancient times were
Speaker 1: doing that?
Speaker 3: And it's just also it didn't have food that we have.
Speaker 1: Oh, you think it's all about the processed food. I think, oh,
Speaker 1: that's why we have to scrape our tongues. Well, they
Speaker 1: also died when they were like forty eight.
Speaker 2: That's true.
Speaker 3: They by the time they were scraping their tongues, they
Speaker 3: were dead.
Speaker 1: Yeah. And but also it's just absurd how much shit
Speaker 1: we have to do to maintain our fucking bodies. And
Speaker 1: I know I'm not I'm a man, blah blah blah,
Speaker 1: but I'm still I'm still a human that I.
Speaker 2: Have to do all this stuff.
Speaker 3: Yeah, you guys have to get more frequent haircuts. I've
Speaker 3: always felt bad for you in that way. Yeah, that's
Speaker 3: that's where waving sympathy ends. No, and the shaving, yes,
Speaker 3: but we should shave our legs. That's a bigger surface.
Speaker 1: But really, this indignity of falling apart. As you get
Speaker 1: older and all these things start getting worse, you get
Speaker 1: like more rashes, you know, it's like you get.
Speaker 3: I haven't been getting rashes yet. And you know what.
Speaker 3: The other day, someone I was I found myself lying
Speaker 3: when I didn't need to someone who I just like
Speaker 3: didn't really want to talk to, or like, you know,
Speaker 3: someone was just making polite conversation who I didn't really
Speaker 3: want to get into it with was complaining about getting older.
Speaker 3: They're probably my I think they're around my age, forty
Speaker 3: ish early forties, and they were complaining about how much
Speaker 3: their body hurts. Yeah, and like how they're just like, oh,
Speaker 3: it's just being old. And they just go like it
Speaker 3: just like, ugh, it sucks and everything hurts or something,
Speaker 3: and I go, yeah, and I totally don't mean that.
Speaker 3: Like I my body does not hurt at all. I'm
Speaker 3: one of the lucky ones. I guess, like, I just
Speaker 3: don't feel I don't feel age on my body yet
Speaker 3: in any way. I still, I swear to you, I
Speaker 3: feel the same maybe not the same energy levels, but
Speaker 3: in terms of aches and pains on my skeletal system,
Speaker 3: same as in my twenties. Hasn't changed yet. And I
Speaker 3: know that's coming for me, but it hasn't happened yet.
Speaker 3: But I just gave this person that because I'm like,
Speaker 3: that's just the story we like to tell ourselves about
Speaker 3: getting old. That's like, that's what you gotta say. You
Speaker 3: just gotta be like, I'm getting old, you just like
Speaker 3: say that. And I was even telling a story yesterday
Speaker 3: about when I was on Dancing with the stars, and
Speaker 3: I was like, and I felt so ridiculous. I'm in this,
Speaker 3: you know, leotard. I'm thirty five. And at the time,
Speaker 3: I'm like, you were thirty five and you felt old? Like,
Speaker 3: well bitch, but I go, I didn't even feel old then,
Speaker 3: you know what, I just that became part of the
Speaker 3: story because people just say thirty five is old, and
Speaker 3: you start to hear people on social media talking about, oh,
Speaker 3: when I'm in my thirties. Catherine Blamford, one of my
Speaker 3: favorite comedians, just did this tonight. She last night, she
Speaker 3: was talking about being in her thirties versus being in
Speaker 3: her twenties and she's thirty two and was like, well,
Speaker 3: I'm thirty two, so I don't do full body shots
Speaker 3: or whatever, like when I'm digging a picture or something
Speaker 3: like that. And I'm just like, why is this a
Speaker 3: part of And she's hilarious. That was amazing, But uh,
Speaker 3: and I do this too, But it's like we just
Speaker 3: adopt this language that like we get old, like we
Speaker 3: just fall into it, and I don't even believe it.
Speaker 3: And I gave this guy, yeah, getting older, and then
Speaker 3: he didn't mean that right, Like he said something he
Speaker 3: was talking about something else, and so then I started.
Speaker 3: Then everyone was like, oh, you mean your body is
Speaker 3: like hurting him? Like yeah, and then I'm like wait, no, wait,
Speaker 3: are you lying to agree with you? Like it was
Speaker 3: just like this, But I go, why did I just
Speaker 3: give that to him? Because it's just so much easier
Speaker 3: to say the thing that everyone bitches about, which is like, oh,
Speaker 3: you get up and you have to make a noise
Speaker 3: and it perpetuates it. In the morning, I have to
Speaker 3: stretch because everything's tight. It's like it just doesn't It's
Speaker 3: I have to embrace this time right now in my
Speaker 3: life where I don't feel that way.
Speaker 1: I know you'll never feel that way. Maybe you know
Speaker 1: there's there's like people.
Speaker 3: The people don't feel pain.
Speaker 1: There are like old men in Uha who are carrying
Speaker 1: water buckets over their head and they're like their backs
Speaker 1: are all twisted and they're like ninety eight years old,
Speaker 1: they have no teeth and they're like, I feel no pain.
Speaker 1: Or there's that story of that guy who played hockey
Speaker 1: into his nineties and he just kept playing hockey ice
Speaker 1: skating getting hit and he's like, I don't feel any
Speaker 1: pain at all, and it's because it's partially it's just
Speaker 1: all mental. It's in your head. It totally is like
Speaker 1: you just have to be like you have to treat
Speaker 1: yourself like a boomer treats emotions. When it comes to pain,
Speaker 1: just push him down. If you feel an ache in
Speaker 1: your elbow, don't focus on it. Just be like that.
Speaker 1: That's just how it is, and eventually it'll just become
Speaker 1: part of your norm and it won't bother you.
Speaker 3: No, you say, listen, I hear you. I hear you, elbow.
Speaker 3: You're hurting right now because mentally, I'm going through something
Speaker 3: tough and you're trying to get my attention about it
Speaker 3: because I'm not listening to it in my brain. Like
Speaker 3: if I get a cold, this is what my cold
Speaker 3: sore talk. If I feel a cold stor coming on,
Speaker 3: I've done it once before. I made a cold sor disappear.
Speaker 3: I've talked about it before. Yeah, I just say thank
Speaker 3: you so much, cold sort you can go. I hear
Speaker 3: the message. I'm doing too much. I'm stressed out, I'm
Speaker 3: not addressing my emotions. I got it. I will definitely
Speaker 3: work on this. You don't need to show up and
Speaker 3: it fucking went away. And like if you if you
Speaker 3: just like think of your aches and pains as like
Speaker 3: not like what is this going to be a tumor?
Speaker 3: Is this cancer? If you go to that, like, don't
Speaker 3: go there. If you can force yourself to just be like, Okay,
Speaker 3: what is my body trying to tell me right now?
Speaker 1: Oh?
Speaker 3: I overdid it yesterday at the gym. Oh, I'm back
Speaker 3: pain is ninety percent of the time. I would probably
Speaker 3: go up to ninety five percent of the time. Something
Speaker 3: you're struggling with in your brain. And I know you
Speaker 3: don't want to hear that because you're your l seven
Speaker 3: is impacted and your your pinch nerve and your bulging
Speaker 3: disc and all the things you hear about from the
Speaker 3: doctor and you can see it on the x ray.
Speaker 3: Those things are normal abnormalities in a back. They should
Speaker 3: not hurt as much as they do. Your back chooses
Speaker 3: to make them feel a lot of pain because you're
Speaker 3: rerouting your mental anguish into that nerve. That is a
Speaker 3: little bit painful, but it shouldn't be the pain that
Speaker 3: The reason you can't walk is because you need to
Speaker 3: focus on your anger with your dad. It's not about
Speaker 3: your pinch nerve unfortunately, And if you want to hear
Speaker 3: more about it read Healing Back Pain by doctor John Sarno.
Speaker 1: I'm even taking it a step further and saying, like,
Speaker 1: if you have actual physical problems of just the body
Speaker 1: degrading over a time, even those you can just learn
Speaker 1: to not bother it. Can it cannot bother you. I've
Speaker 1: seen people do it. I've seen my dad do it
Speaker 1: where it's right. He had a broken toe for like
Speaker 1: two full years and he just was not addressing this
Speaker 1: toe because he wanted to keep playing volleyball. And he
Speaker 1: was like, yeah, it's broken, it maybe hurts sometimes, I'm fine,
Speaker 1: and he just kept playing. And then eventually he addressed it.
Speaker 3: And he was beating his wife during this whole time,
Speaker 3: so he did get in other places.
Speaker 1: He beat her.
Speaker 3: You have to find another outlet. But you can't withstand
Speaker 3: the pain. No, there's a pin.
Speaker 1: He would beat her with an egg shape brush that.
Speaker 3: Would be actually soothing. This thing is very light. No,
Speaker 3: the there's a meditation I do in the waking up
Speaker 3: app called it's like for pain management. You just type
Speaker 3: in the word pain and you can find it. But
Speaker 3: I would do it when I got migraines. And he
Speaker 3: says in that you're just supposed to focus on your pain,
Speaker 3: and you if you meditate enough and have enough mindfulness,
Speaker 3: you can separate your thoughts meaning like you know, even
Speaker 3: your thoughts about pain from yourself, and you won't feel
Speaker 3: the pain. And that's why there are monks that can
Speaker 3: like self emoliate and just sit there like they're on
Speaker 3: literal fire and they're not threshing around. They're just smiling.
Speaker 3: You've seen it. He says that there is no like
Speaker 3: He's like, there's really no bound for if you become
Speaker 3: mindful enough, what pain you can't endure as a human.
Speaker 3: There's really it's it's it's it's boundless. And he's like,
Speaker 3: I'm not there where I could probably do something like that,
Speaker 3: like you know, but it is interesting that through our
Speaker 3: own minds we can figure out a way to circumnavigate pain,
Speaker 3: which is is good news for people. But that pain
Speaker 3: meditation helps so much if anyone's in chronic pain, I
Speaker 3: really recommend the Waking Up app. You can get it
Speaker 3: for free. Search pain and just do the meditation for pain.
Speaker 3: It's it made me so I could fall asleep at
Speaker 3: night when I had migraines and nothing else helped, So
Speaker 3: you know, obviously Tyland Hall as soon as they came
Speaker 3: on would help, but once it was on, Tilan all
Speaker 3: would not help. And you know what I'm talking about
Speaker 3: if you get migraines and so that meditation was really good.
Speaker 1: What was that, Brian, Well, that's a side note about
Speaker 1: people who set themselves on fire and protest. There's a
Speaker 1: guy who did it recently, and haven't we learned by
Speaker 1: now that that doesn't do anything.
Speaker 3: Like it's like throwing soup at the mona Lisa.
Speaker 1: Yeah, it's like somebody set themselves on fire. I think
Speaker 1: the protest Gaza or something recently, and it's like that
Speaker 1: will not You'll just die and I won't move the
Speaker 1: needle at all. I personally think any protests like doesn't
Speaker 1: actually do anything. But like even well, are.
Speaker 3: You marching with the writers this summer.
Speaker 1: Well that's not a protest, that's a strike. That's withholding
Speaker 1: what labor. Okay, But like I did occupy Wall Street
Speaker 1: back in twenty eleven, remember.
Speaker 3: That, God, whatever happened with.
Speaker 1: That exactly, or with the Women's March or.
Speaker 3: Just wanted to camp, that's exactly that when Manhattan just
Speaker 3: was sick of living in tiny part and you wanted
Speaker 3: and have your little coleman you know, stovetop.
Speaker 1: Well wound up being like a homeless encampment eventually after
Speaker 1: But that march, all it did was it just wasted
Speaker 1: our energy, like we could have been using that energy
Speaker 1: to organize in a more effective way like ins marching.
Speaker 3: You're just to sit like the John Lennon yoko ono
Speaker 3: fuck yeah, oh yeah, lay in.
Speaker 1: I guess sometimes it raises awareness, but like, yeah, so
Speaker 1: now we're all aware of the ninety nine percent or whatever,
Speaker 1: but nothing changed. Yeah, we all have been better off
Speaker 1: working at grocery stores putting our paycheck towards anything changed.
Speaker 3: All right, Well we'll get into this more, probably not
Speaker 3: when we get back from this. Stay with us. Yeah,
Speaker 3: how do you enact change? You know there was a
Speaker 3: person the other day on this sidewalk that had a
Speaker 3: uh how do you enact change? Well, the other day
Speaker 3: I was walking down the street and I saw a
Speaker 3: man with a clipboard. Everyone's very active in Saint Louis
Speaker 3: right now. It's spring is sprung, so there's like people
Speaker 3: singing on the sidewalk. Like yesterday there was like three
Speaker 3: girls that were just pressed play on a boombox and
Speaker 3: We're just like, show it is wing my Way. Show
Speaker 3: looks good to me. I'm like, you can just do that.
Speaker 3: What if I just took a fucking little bow speaker
Speaker 3: out on the street and just sang Taylor Swift next
Speaker 3: to a bow speaker. Yeah, I could do that and
Speaker 3: put out a little jar.
Speaker 1: But these were little girls.
Speaker 3: No, they were like in their twenties.
Speaker 1: Oh yeah, so you could do it.
Speaker 3: You don't know. If you're a little girl, you don't know.
Speaker 3: Show it is wing my Way. I guess I could
Speaker 3: do it. But it was just like wow, Everyone's just
Speaker 3: like this is That's what you do now? Instead of
Speaker 3: uber eats is you just put a fucking tin can
Speaker 3: and you start singing along to a karaokee track of
Speaker 3: your favorite song. But uh, but I loved it. But
Speaker 3: there was a guy with a clipboard that said, uh,
Speaker 3: legalize abortion. Was like, do you want to legalize abortion?
Speaker 3: I was walking with two guys and so they were like, no,
Speaker 3: I don't care, you know, And then I was like,
Speaker 3: yeah I do, And I go, what is this? You know,
Speaker 3: because here's the thing I would have usually just walked by,
Speaker 3: but I'm reading. I just finished reading this book that
Speaker 3: I recommend everyone read. And it's so funny. When I
Speaker 3: put it on my Instagram story, so many people wrote
Speaker 3: to me. I'm probably like three people probably separately said
Speaker 3: to me, I loved this so much, they should it
Speaker 3: should be required reading in high schools. And I was like,
Speaker 3: that's I don't usually get that feedback a lot on
Speaker 3: books that I mention, but this one. It's called No
Speaker 3: My Name. It's by Chanelle Miller, and Chanelle Miller was
Speaker 3: the rape victim in the brock Turner case, and she
Speaker 3: is fucking incredible. She's one of the best writers I've
Speaker 3: ever read. She just so happens to be like she
Speaker 3: was always going to be a writer. She was always
Speaker 3: going to be a name you knew because she is
Speaker 3: so incredible at writing. But she just so happens to
Speaker 3: also have been the girl that brock Turner at a
Speaker 3: frat party. She was blackout drunk and she was found
Speaker 3: being fingered by him next to a dumpster on the
Speaker 3: Stanford campus, and luckily to bicyclists saw it happening and
Speaker 3: he gave chase. They tackled him and he got caught.
Speaker 3: Otherwise she would have woken up and probably had been
Speaker 3: actually raped by this guy and not known anything because
Speaker 3: he would have left her there because he was a
Speaker 3: piece of shit. So, but the intimidation she faces from
Speaker 3: the public when she's just a Jane Doe, the like
Speaker 3: her whole experience going through this, it's just such a
Speaker 3: great read about just being a survivor, like going just
Speaker 3: going through any kind of really hard time in your
Speaker 3: life when life throws you a curveball. It's like it's
Speaker 3: just a book about not just like about rape and
Speaker 3: you know, toxic masculinity on all those things, but it's
Speaker 3: just so much more. It's like I just feel like
Speaker 3: I it opened up a part of me that I
Speaker 3: did that needed to be opened in terms of like empathy,
Speaker 3: and although obviously I already had empathy for rape victims,
Speaker 3: it's just the next level. Like literally everyone needs to
Speaker 3: read this. It will change the way you think about things.
Speaker 3: It's not just a book that I'm like it's important.
Speaker 3: It's important. It's just like it will make you a
Speaker 3: better person, and it's it is a great read, even
Speaker 3: though it's and it's not. It's not as tough of
Speaker 3: a read as it sounds like based on what I'm saying,
Speaker 3: It's actually one that you're It's kind of a page turner.
Speaker 1: I gotta say, if you're a parent and you name
Speaker 1: your kid Brock, You're just you're asking for it. I
Speaker 1: know it is.
Speaker 3: Brock Turner. Yeah, overdrive. He no, he that's a name,
Speaker 3: that's his name. He was a swimmer. It doesn't really
Speaker 3: matter what he was. All I have to say is that,
Speaker 3: like he miss, when you're a rape, when you are
Speaker 3: accused of rape, everyone goes, oh my gosh, this kid's
Speaker 3: bright future. What what could he have been? This one
Speaker 3: night he made a mistake. Think of all the things
Speaker 3: he could have been. And yet for.
Speaker 2: Her, I think everyone says that. Not everyone.
Speaker 3: Obviously I'm high perbolizing, but like the media, there was
Speaker 3: a lot of that, not just from his defense team
Speaker 3: like it was. He was even talked about, like in
Speaker 3: in the Washington Post as like a swimmer, like a
Speaker 3: future Olympic swimmer, something like that, Like a year was.
Speaker 1: A tragedy of him, but the tragedy that befell him
Speaker 1: when he tried to rape somebody.
Speaker 3: Yes it really was. A girl does not She does
Speaker 3: not go after him at all in this book. Honestly,
Speaker 3: she has so much empathy for him. More than I
Speaker 3: would ever have. And I'm pretty enriched in empathy, and
Speaker 3: and so this is not just like look at how
Speaker 3: look at all these people and how they came after me,
Speaker 3: and look what they said about him, and look at
Speaker 3: what they said about me. It really like she gives
Speaker 3: fucking evidence for it, like she like shares articles things
Speaker 3: that were written. This is a thing that happens with
Speaker 3: like rapists that maybe or just it's a date rape
Speaker 3: thing where it's like they're not a serial rapist. They
Speaker 3: did it was one night in his life, he was,
Speaker 3: he made a drunken mistake. Yet her one night, no one,
Speaker 3: no one ever mentioned about her future and how this
Speaker 3: threw her off track. It was all about what was
Speaker 3: she before this? Did she drink a lot?
Speaker 1: Well?
Speaker 3: How many boyfriends does she have? Why did she get
Speaker 3: so drunk? Was she looking to cheat on her boyfriend?
Speaker 3: Was she just calling this rape so that she could
Speaker 3: cover it up because she had a boyfriend and she
Speaker 3: didn't want him to know that She got fingered laying
Speaker 3: in a pile of dead leaves and pine cones and
Speaker 3: trash next with dumpster like every girl has ever dreamed of.
Speaker 3: We all love getting fingered by a dumpster, So why
Speaker 3: did she do this? And it's like it's just this,
Speaker 3: it just makes it fires you up. But anyway, part
Speaker 3: of the book was that she this judge gave him
Speaker 3: like no, no, no time, like she got fucked over
Speaker 3: by swimming.
Speaker 1: Yeah, and he's not going to be a night a swimmer,
Speaker 1: a swimmers if he's as ever.
Speaker 3: Given a fuck about swimmers until this kid, like who
Speaker 3: even get Michael Phelps is only swimmer anyway, and Mark Spitz,
Speaker 3: if you're enough those Katie Lideci, name another swimmer, Summer Sanders,
Speaker 3: you don't give a fuck about swimming. Who gives a ship?
Speaker 3: If this guy would have been a good swimmer, you
Speaker 3: wouldn't have known his name because he's not as good
Speaker 3: as Michael Phelps and he never will be. You know,
Speaker 3: it would have been so fun to follow his career.
Speaker 3: What fucking when have you gone to a swim meet
Speaker 3: in your life? Shut up? And this is obviously like
Speaker 3: twenty men.
Speaker 1: And then if he did have the career and then
Speaker 1: he went to the Olympics, they always do those uh
Speaker 1: those little those clips before they entered like where their
Speaker 1: life has been in their tragedies, and they would probably
Speaker 1: be overcome raping someone and going.
Speaker 3: Making just one bad decision changed the course of his life.
Speaker 3: It's like, yeah, that's what crime is called. I just
Speaker 3: don't even know why what do we reframing it for.
Speaker 3: It's like this tragedy and but anyway, in the in
Speaker 3: the thing she gets people, she writes the statement or like,
Speaker 3: she writes a statement to read to the judge during
Speaker 3: his sentencing. The statement gets picked up by BuzzFeed, goes
Speaker 3: completely viral. Hillary Clinton quotes it after she loses the election.
Speaker 3: She's like, I called I read this her statement again
Speaker 3: to remind myself, like that I'm you know that I'm
Speaker 3: not alone because this girl, like this girl's stay and
Speaker 3: she was a Jane Doe at the time. This is
Speaker 3: before she came out with her name, and you know,
Speaker 3: it just goes extremely viral on BuzzFeed. And then the
Speaker 3: judge gives like a very lenient sentencing and he says
Speaker 3: all these really inappropriate things during it. He's having so
Speaker 3: much compassion for Brock and his poor family, and he
Speaker 3: just barely lets her get out her statement of the.
Speaker 2: Olympic girls who were assaulted by Oh.
Speaker 3: Yeah, she talks about them. Oh my god, she found
Speaker 3: so much strength from them because while she was a
Speaker 3: Jane Doe and waiting to see if it was either
Speaker 3: she was waiting for her trial or she was waiting
Speaker 3: to see if he was gonna appeal it. She watched
Speaker 3: that trial and talks a lot about all those women
Speaker 3: and how much strength they gave her because they were
Speaker 3: just standing and looking at him dead in the eye.
Speaker 3: And she's talked about that judge and how that judge
Speaker 3: was the opposite of her judge. Her judge was like
Speaker 3: rushing her through her statement. That judge let one hundred
Speaker 3: and thirty nine women read their statements to him over
Speaker 3: the course of many days, one hundred and thirty nine.
Speaker 3: Can you believe that that is he gave that he
Speaker 3: or she gave those girls space to to have every
Speaker 3: victim heard. It was such an incredible thing to do.
Speaker 3: And she said, you know, that's a really good judge.
Speaker 3: So anyway, the people were so upset about this ruling,
Speaker 3: she had nothing to do with it. They took it
Speaker 3: upon themselves to get this persky guy thrown the fuck out.
Speaker 3: But what they needed first was signatures. And I don't know,
Speaker 3: I've always thought about signatures as like, do they really
Speaker 3: fucking mean anything. It's just like my dumb signature. And really,
Speaker 3: am I gonna end up on some list And now
Speaker 3: I'm gonna get some messages from Amy Klobashaw every day
Speaker 3: for the rest of my life. And even though I
Speaker 3: keep saying stop, stop, stop, and then they have to
Speaker 3: tell you you, oh, you unsubscribe, I'm like when I
Speaker 3: say stop, I don't need reassurance said it's unsubscribed. Just
Speaker 3: end it. Don't tell me you unsubscribe me no more.
Speaker 1: Amy Klobs' just assured we have stopped send you have
Speaker 1: we have received your stop message.
Speaker 3: We're so sad. We'll see you go.
Speaker 1: I know, give me a FU or what about the survey?
Speaker 1: Please tell us why you've decided to stop receiving our emails.
Speaker 1: And then they give you five options.
Speaker 3: And you have to read all that shit to just
Speaker 3: find other I hate this product and I never used
Speaker 3: it and I don't know how I got signed up
Speaker 3: for it in the first place.
Speaker 1: I ever signed up for it in the first place.
Speaker 1: It's almost always the answer.
Speaker 3: Yes, that is always so. Anyway, when this abortion guy
Speaker 3: yeah said hey do you want to sign I go, yeah,
Speaker 3: I'm signing because I learned she just taught me how
Speaker 3: these one hundred and ninety eight thousand signatures got this
Speaker 3: judge to be overthrown, and how it really did matter,
Speaker 3: and how all these people were out with clipboards in
Speaker 3: the sun and they were just doing something they believed in.
Speaker 3: So I went up to the guy and I go, so,
Speaker 3: is this this isn't some like trick thing where it's
Speaker 3: like I think I'm signing a thing about legalizing abortion. Yeah,
Speaker 3: it's actually the opposite. And he goes, no, no, no,
Speaker 3: read the fine print, and I go, I know how
Speaker 3: these motherfuckers do what they do, like, so I read
Speaker 3: the fine pray it actually was, so I signed it,
Speaker 3: and I go, oh, wait a second, Is this a
Speaker 3: list Trump is going to look at when he decides
Speaker 3: to have public hangings? Is this the list? And he
Speaker 3: and he laughed, and he goes, oh, well, there's uh,
Speaker 3: you know, seventy two thousand signatures so far, so he'd
Speaker 3: have to do a lot. And I go, oh, he'd
Speaker 3: do that many. Yeah, he'd he'd be like that that
Speaker 3: second judge and go through every single one of them.
Speaker 3: I'm like, is this the list? But he's going to
Speaker 3: refer to Okay, you know what I don't even want
Speaker 3: to live in that world anywhere. Hang me in public
Speaker 3: for signing for saying that I want abortion legalized, I
Speaker 3: don't care. But yeah, it does get you on a list.
Speaker 3: But I think I just want to remind people that
Speaker 3: those people out there with clipboards, they're not all uh
Speaker 3: you know, it's not it's not nefarious all the time.
Speaker 3: Sometimes it is really always most important.
Speaker 4: Well sometimes they're volunteers, but sometimes they get paid, So
Speaker 4: I like.
Speaker 1: Because yeah, just hiring people to do it, and right, yeah, and.
Speaker 4: Then and then you just look into the non profit
Speaker 4: and you see if you agree with what they're pushing.
Speaker 1: I've been a guy. I've been a signature getter guy before.
Speaker 1: Oh yeah, yeah, to try to shut down the oil
Speaker 1: field and Culver City, which has happened, I collected signatures
Speaker 1: and it's uh, you go, well, it was easy for
Speaker 1: me because I'm in Culver City. I'm a resident of
Speaker 1: Culver City, and I'm.
Speaker 3: Going to.
Speaker 1: Yeah, I'm wearing the Culver Hooters cap. It's as actually
Speaker 1: a Shaky's They ever been to a Shaky's No, yes, no,
Speaker 1: because you just go, hey, uh, trying to get the
Speaker 1: oil field shut down, you kind of like relate to
Speaker 1: them on the fact, like do you know there's an
Speaker 1: oil field right there? And they go what and they're
Speaker 1: like they're like wheeling their baby through the park, like
Speaker 1: right next to an oil field. It's like, yeah, there's
Speaker 1: an oil field over there with active oil wells that
Speaker 1: are releasing methane gas every day and it's seeping into
Speaker 1: your water. Do you want to sign this to stop that?
Speaker 3: And then yeah, for you, yeah, I just I don't
Speaker 3: think I've ever done anything like that. But were you
Speaker 3: getting paid to do it?
Speaker 1: Fifty thousand dollars an hour? Yeah, pretty good. I was
Speaker 1: actually the oil company was paying me. And then I
Speaker 1: would take the list and we would hang the well.
Speaker 3: This is the thing with those abortion you know, those
Speaker 3: clinics that are like, are you pregnant? You hear about
Speaker 3: the radio? Call us? Are you pregnant and scared? Call us,
Speaker 3: We'll give you counseling you. If I was a pregnant teen,
Speaker 3: I'd be like, oh my god, I don't great. I
Speaker 3: don't have to tell my parents I want to get
Speaker 3: an abortion. This bitch will like help me figure out
Speaker 3: a way to do that, you know, like I don't
Speaker 3: want to have this kid I'm scared. You know, they're
Speaker 3: praying on my like are you scared? Why would you
Speaker 3: be scared about a baby if you wanted it. So
Speaker 3: they're literally reaching out to girls who want to terminate
Speaker 3: pregnancies kind of is what their their messaging is. And
Speaker 3: then you go there and it's a fucking Christian organization
Speaker 3: that then talks you into having the baby and scares
Speaker 3: you and makes you feel guilty for even considering wanting
Speaker 3: to keep it. They like make you listen to its heartbeat,
Speaker 3: they make you name it, they make you start picking
Speaker 3: out colors for its nursery, like they they don't go,
Speaker 3: don't those places are fucking bad. Yeah, they make your
Speaker 3: name it brock, But I think John Oliver did a
Speaker 3: whole piece on those places. But they're everywhere, They're everywhere,
Speaker 3: and they owe it. But you see the signs for it,
Speaker 3: and it's so deceitful because if I were just if
Speaker 3: I were a girl whose parents didn't and didn't have
Speaker 3: a family that would support my decision to terminated pregnancy,
Speaker 3: I would have one hundred percent called one of those numbers.
Speaker 3: Because it looks like they are reaching out a helping
Speaker 3: hand to help you figure out how to keep the
Speaker 3: life that you want, and they're.
Speaker 1: Not like the time in Times Square people barking people
Speaker 1: to go to a comedy show.
Speaker 3: Oh, and promising that George Carlin will be there even
Speaker 3: though he died eight years ago.
Speaker 1: Yes, and then you go there and they're just like, uh,
Speaker 1: and it's just like a bunch of people who probably
Speaker 1: should have been aboarded.
Speaker 3: Yeah, it's uh. That would happen all the time. And
Speaker 3: sometimes they would say my like someone would message me
Speaker 3: and said they were supposed to be at the show
Speaker 3: and I'm like, I don't know why they're using my name.
Speaker 3: But or they'd say a live comedy taping. I'm like,
Speaker 3: there's not a live comedy be taping tonight. And that
Speaker 3: really does real people in they want to be on TV. Yeah, yeah,
Speaker 3: I've but there's scams all over now. There's a scam
Speaker 3: I heard about where they'll call you from your bank
Speaker 3: and it will be the number of your banks customer
Speaker 3: service number. So if you google it while you're on
Speaker 3: the phone being like is this a scam? The number
Speaker 3: will come up, as you know, that's Bank of America's number.
Speaker 3: So just if your bank calls you hang up and
Speaker 3: call them back and check on whatever they were just
Speaker 3: checking on that. I think that's just a good rule,
Speaker 3: no matter who. Just if there's a fraud alert, be like, yeah,
Speaker 3: I'm gonna call you back and check this, like you
Speaker 3: you start it because it's just too shady.
Speaker 1: Man.
Speaker 4: Yeah, your phone anyway, for like an eight hundred number.
Speaker 3: I can't even imagine doing that. I can't imagine it.
Speaker 3: I don't think the one time I did it, they're
Speaker 3: asking me to do the Tonight Show. The one time
Speaker 3: I had the impulse to go it's a private number,
Speaker 3: maybe I should answer it. It was it was the
Speaker 3: Tonight Show calling to be like we had to fall out,
Speaker 3: and I was in two thousand and nine. I wasn't
Speaker 3: answering two thousand yea January two thousand and nine. I
Speaker 3: was not answering my phone back then, even because I
Speaker 3: was getting solicteners. But now I would. I would never
Speaker 3: do it. Yeah, I mean it's it really is weird
Speaker 3: when someone calls you, it's it totally means something really terrible.
Speaker 3: Now I actually do pick up when my friends call
Speaker 3: me because at one hundred percent means something's really wrong. Right.
Speaker 1: Well, I used to think that, and now I would
Speaker 1: tell that to people, and now I get more phone
Speaker 1: calls from people who are just like just calling the
Speaker 1: chat and now I'm like no longer feeling that anxiety
Speaker 1: when I get a phone call.
Speaker 3: I love a voice memo. I just say, voice memo me,
Speaker 3: if you really want to communicate this in a shorter
Speaker 3: way than typing it, because then my phone's going to
Speaker 3: type it up for me because the new update, they
Speaker 3: just transcribe it, so I don't.
Speaker 1: Well, it's not really to say something short, it's to
Speaker 1: have a long conversation about what I used to do. Yeah,
Speaker 1: I just I do.
Speaker 3: I talked on the phone last night for a while
Speaker 3: to my friend and that was really like, we probably
Speaker 3: went an hour and twenty seven minutes. I was like, man,
Speaker 3: the stupid podcast. That's all I like. I think about
Speaker 3: my wife in term of podcasting time. No, it feels
Speaker 3: so good to talk on the phone. It's something we
Speaker 3: probably should do more of and night not isolate ourselves.
Speaker 3: But we're also fucking lonely. Yeah, people are like so
Speaker 3: lonely out there. I was talking about it the other day.
Speaker 3: I was doing this shoot and me and my makeup
Speaker 3: artists we're talking about how lonely people are. And this
Speaker 3: guy was in the room kind of just like filming
Speaker 3: b roll footage and we weren't even talking to him
Speaker 3: because he was just filming and not supposed to be
Speaker 3: a part of the conversation. And he was like, I was,
Speaker 3: I have a family and during COVID I was lonely.
Speaker 1: Wow.
Speaker 3: We were just like whoh man. He's like, I have
Speaker 3: a full family that I was living with And in
Speaker 3: the middle of the night I couldn't wake up my
Speaker 3: wife to talk and I just had no one to call,
Speaker 3: and I'm like, fuck, dude. Yeah, we'll need community. People
Speaker 3: need places to go, people need friends, people need girls chats.
Speaker 3: You have boys chat.
Speaker 1: I have boys chat. Yeah. I mean no, I always
Speaker 1: say it, like it. People are seeking out community now
Speaker 1: more than ever. You can go on like Reddit, I guess,
Speaker 1: and then get feel worse.
Speaker 3: But no, there's some good areas in reddit.
Speaker 1: There's some good areas in reddit. If you're having a
Speaker 1: real problem. If you're having like a real problem, going
Speaker 1: on Reddit has been helpful for me.
Speaker 3: If you're having are you serious, like you've shared about
Speaker 3: a problem on Reddit?
Speaker 1: Yeah, like an emotional problem, like for example, like now
Speaker 1: I'm on like the TMJ reddit and I'm posting like
Speaker 1: my experiences with and like the people on there like
Speaker 1: are like supportive and want to help, and yes, give advice,
Speaker 1: and it's it's really nice to talk to some people
Speaker 1: who have gone through the same thing that you're going through.
Speaker 3: If you have a planner's word, go to the warts subreddit. Yeah,
Speaker 3: and half of us will just ask you to stick
Speaker 3: a rusty nail in it and shave it off with
Speaker 3: just cuticle clippers that you haven't cleaned. But some people
Speaker 3: there will offer you actual advice. But there are sickos
Speaker 3: in there that just want you to be We want
Speaker 3: you to like document your pain. It's like half people
Speaker 3: that are like, oh, rip that thing out, just pull
Speaker 3: it out. People always go rusty plyers, rusty pliers. And
Speaker 3: then other people are like, you can use apple cider
Speaker 3: vinegar every night, shave it down to bride it. Then
Speaker 3: you can use the Swift treatment. Like there's actual treatments,
Speaker 3: but then there's sickos, but yeah, there's there's even I
Speaker 3: follow the subreddit Depression. There are constantly people on there
Speaker 3: that are like, I'm killing myself tomorrow, and then I
Speaker 3: constantly see them get talked out of it because all
Speaker 3: these people come to the rescue and are like, call
Speaker 3: me right now. You think no one cares about you,
Speaker 3: I care about you. I'll literally talk to you right now.
Speaker 3: And it's just so beautiful.
Speaker 1: Yeah, there's something. It's like one it's like these little
Speaker 1: beautiful corner of the Internet that's like the opposite.
Speaker 3: People are really nice.
Speaker 1: I know. That's why, fuck man, the Internet is such
Speaker 1: a fucked up place because there's so much hate and
Speaker 1: there's so many people just ripping people down. But then
Speaker 1: there's this like little three percent of the Internet where
Speaker 1: there are these like little nice communities where actually people
Speaker 1: help each other. But most of it is just pure
Speaker 1: like vitriol, racism, and hatred.
Speaker 2: I know.
Speaker 4: But is that so it's like, what's natural? Is it
Speaker 4: that there's more people who are compassionate and empathetic, but
Speaker 4: we just can't find them because the algorithm pushes the
Speaker 4: other stuff up, so they could pollute.
Speaker 2: Our minds with all this negative shit.
Speaker 3: I think that there's we're all both and the side
Speaker 3: of us that is like mean and cruel and vindictive
Speaker 3: is winning out because we're so isolated and because we're
Speaker 3: all addicted to our phones, and we don't have communities,
Speaker 3: so we all have it in us to be both.
Speaker 1: I think, well the number one thing I think and that.
Speaker 3: Society is driving us towards the bad.
Speaker 1: You have the ability to be anonymous also, and when
Speaker 1: you can be anonymous, you can be a huge piece
Speaker 1: of shit.
Speaker 3: It's been talked about ad nauseum about like when you
Speaker 3: can be like the difference between being anonymous and not
Speaker 3: like it's David Spade used to tell me that the
Speaker 3: only way celebrities would ever get taken down back in
Speaker 3: the nineties was literally when he would do that weekend
Speaker 3: update segment called Showbiz Showdown. That was the only time
Speaker 3: celebrities heard actual joking, mean sometimes mean feedback about what
Speaker 3: they were doing. You know, when he said, like I
Speaker 3: went and saw the bodyguard this weekend and I want
Speaker 3: my money back, like that kind of thing. He got
Speaker 3: in so much trouble with. There's still celebrities to this
Speaker 3: day that don't talk to David's Maade because of his
Speaker 3: nineties segment because there was no can you imagine nowhere else?
Speaker 3: Sometimes maybe it was Joan Rivers on like a red
Speaker 3: carpet show that was maybe in the early two thousands
Speaker 3: that started to get mean about celebrities, and then it
Speaker 3: was US Weekly and it would be that backpage that
Speaker 3: would make fun of their outfits, and comedians would make fun.
Speaker 3: But there was not constant comments from anyone talking about
Speaker 3: anything they want all the time. And now with YouTube comments,
Speaker 3: they they they're on a scroll, so like if you
Speaker 3: don't even want to make comments, you have to read them,
Speaker 3: and they keep serving up new ones, and I'm like,
Speaker 3: I don't want anyone's fuck, I hate it. I don't
Speaker 3: want any I want to go search comments if I
Speaker 3: want to stop giving me unsolicited comments from people that
Speaker 3: I don't need that are just uh, that's true, manipulating
Speaker 3: how I perceived this thing. I used to like it,
Speaker 3: and now I don't because this fucking asshole who I
Speaker 3: don't even know who he is. And then I met
Speaker 3: I talked to someone recently who got so much criticism
Speaker 3: of about someone. I wish I've remembered what it was.
Speaker 3: It could have been something I was watching. And then
Speaker 3: someone goes, how many people have said this to your face?
Speaker 3: And it's like, this was like a megastar. I forget
Speaker 3: who I think it was something I watched it on
Speaker 3: and they go, so, how many people have said this
Speaker 3: to your face? And they're really struggling with how much
Speaker 3: backlash there was about this performance or whatever they did,
Speaker 3: and they go, no one, literally no one. Can you
Speaker 3: imagine that celebrity in the nineties would have had none
Speaker 3: of the negative feedback that they got. Yeah, none, maybe
Speaker 3: a review and your times if you were lucky, the
Speaker 3: fan mail, but you would have to write, like it
Speaker 3: was still hard to get a letter written you be
Speaker 3: happy in the nineties.
Speaker 1: Someone just trying to write You're a fucking loser and
Speaker 1: write that in a letter.
Speaker 3: And they would those people would kill you. It would
Speaker 3: be the easiest way to find the people that were
Speaker 3: gonna kill you, you know, amongst all of the comments
Speaker 3: that you get, because somewhere in there someone would kill
Speaker 3: you and it's hard to find which But that was that's.
Speaker 1: Such a funny if people have if people have to
Speaker 1: write their letters, I just don't find women funny. And
Speaker 1: then they go.
Speaker 3: To the the whole time.
Speaker 1: I mean, then if they went through that much trouble.
Speaker 3: The effort, cameltoe t o W, you're like, you couldn't
Speaker 3: even okay, thanks, Yeah, it's it's it's just we should
Speaker 3: not have all these opinions, and not only me as
Speaker 3: like a celebrity or whatever. Shouldn't have these opinions. You
Speaker 3: and me as a consumer should not have everyone's opinions
Speaker 3: about everything we fucking consume. Except I'm just ken is
Speaker 3: the best thing ever?
Speaker 4: Just don't have to comment on positive.
Speaker 3: My new thing is like I do not. I am
Speaker 3: trying my damn this. I'll tell you after the break. Wait, oh,
Speaker 3: Brian has to go. Okay, Brian, where you're gonna miss
Speaker 3: what I'm gonna tell you? But it doesn't matter. You'll
Speaker 3: hear it later. Brian has to go, where are you
Speaker 3: going a meeting or something?
Speaker 1: Yeah?
Speaker 3: Oh cool? All right, I can't tell us what happens
Speaker 3: with that oil rig? All right, thanks Brian. Later, all right,
Speaker 3: we're back. Okay. This new thing I'm doing is I
Speaker 3: am trying to be zero negativity online anymore.
Speaker 4: Okay, I'm trying to be zero negativity in general.
Speaker 3: Okay, let's share. Let's share what we've been doing, Like,
Speaker 3: what's something, What's something that you found yourself going like
Speaker 3: I would have done it? And then I just stopped myself.
Speaker 3: Have you done it?
Speaker 1: Well?
Speaker 4: So for me, it's more about like negative self talk
Speaker 4: and just like reframing how I would say something about
Speaker 4: myself or that I want or.
Speaker 2: Like I look forward to or something.
Speaker 3: Like that, instead of I have to go do this again,
Speaker 3: like instead.
Speaker 4: Of I need, there's no need, there's I would enjoy
Speaker 4: having that or something like that, or I'm going to work.
Speaker 3: I would enjoy food, shelter and water and air.
Speaker 4: But yeah, so mine is more like it's actually what
Speaker 4: you were talking about earlier about like those monks who
Speaker 4: don't feel pain. I'm trying to do gentle birthing, which
Speaker 4: is like a form of natural birth, just gonna try.
Speaker 4: I don't know how it works, but I'm putting any expectations.
Speaker 3: I asked my mom yesterday she had us both naturally.
Speaker 4: Oh okay, great, I'll text her and ask her.
Speaker 3: You really should. I don't know how she did it. Well,
Speaker 3: it's incredible.
Speaker 4: From what I'm reading this, it's like it's like labor
Speaker 4: and childbirth and all that, like the whole thing about
Speaker 4: it being painful and like a terrible experience and you're
Speaker 4: just kind of like wrung out at the end. That's
Speaker 4: all that was awful, Like the thirteen hundreds shuttled in
Speaker 4: by priests to punish women, where before that women were celebrated,
Speaker 4: it involved community. It was you know like you just
Speaker 4: kind of squat down, pull the baby out, and that's it.
Speaker 4: Like it's not your body is doesn't it could be painless?
Speaker 3: Just crazy. Well, I think you're so right, Like we
Speaker 3: just go along with whatever society is kind of telling
Speaker 3: us what that experience is. Oh you're turning forty okay,
Speaker 3: well back pain starts. It's just like these this mean
Speaker 3: culture of like what what we are, how we should
Speaker 3: experience life. We just fall in line with in so
Speaker 3: many ways.
Speaker 4: Well that's what I'm saying, Like good us taking that
Speaker 4: in and then speaking it out loud is perpetuating it.
Speaker 4: We can Yeah, like I really believe that we can
Speaker 4: change that.
Speaker 3: I do too. I had to, I like flew in
Speaker 3: my music producer this week to write a song because
Speaker 3: I just want to work on writing an album. Maybe
Speaker 3: we wrote a song before together so easily, so I didn't.
Speaker 3: But I didn't write a song prior to this. Like
Speaker 3: last time I brought in a song and then he
Speaker 3: helped me shape it. But this time I just didn't
Speaker 3: get around to writing the song. But the night I
Speaker 3: gave myself. On Monday night, I was like, I have
Speaker 3: to write the song was starting yesterday morning, Tuesday, and
Speaker 3: Monday night. I was just like couldn't bring myself to
Speaker 3: do it. So I just started being like, I can't
Speaker 3: believe we wrote like the greatest song. Like I kept
Speaker 3: doing that thing of like can't believe I'm writing the
Speaker 3: greatest song I will ever write this week, Like I
Speaker 3: can't believe. This song just flow out of me so
Speaker 3: naturally and helped me deal with like what I was
Speaker 3: actually experiencing life. Like I just started talking about what
Speaker 3: the song would bring me like, and and it's yesterday.
Speaker 3: He got here and we kind of worked on something.
Speaker 3: He had like brought an idea, and so we were
Speaker 3: like writing to track. I guess is what it's called.
Speaker 3: Like he came in with a track and then we
Speaker 3: were writing to that, and I started with the like concept.
Speaker 3: I was really struggling with it because like, I am
Speaker 3: going through feelings that I'm not ready to like share
Speaker 3: publicly yet. I guess is my point, Like I would,
Speaker 3: I would kind of compare it. It's not the same thing,
Speaker 3: but I think Taylor Swift get Ready for Swift Corner,
Speaker 3: She released Midnights in October of twenty twenty two, and
Speaker 3: then she and Joe broke up in the spring of
Speaker 3: twenty twenty three. But when she released Midnights, there's like
Speaker 3: lots of love songs on there. And I've talked about
Speaker 3: this before, but Midnights has always even when it came out,
Speaker 3: it was a breakup album. To me, I was like,
Speaker 3: this is about ultimately, this is about a relationship that
Speaker 3: is not doing well. But she couldn't say that explicitly.
Speaker 3: It's all like when you when you now look at
Speaker 3: it through the lens of oh my god, the relationship
Speaker 3: is falling apart during this you see it so clearly.
Speaker 3: But she wasn't free to do that because you was
Speaker 3: still in the relationship. So here's the things I want
Speaker 3: to talk about. I can't because I'm it's I'm still
Speaker 3: struggling with them, like the career decisions that I'm wanting
Speaker 3: to write about.
Speaker 4: But by the time it comes out, because it takes
Speaker 4: a little bit of time to produce an album and
Speaker 4: to master the tracks and all of that. Just think
Speaker 4: about you in the future and how you'll feel probably
Speaker 4: a lot better.
Speaker 3: I have to write metaphorically, and you have to go. Oh, like,
Speaker 3: even if they the people that I don't want to
Speaker 3: hear this hear this, they won't think it's about them.
Speaker 4: Yeah, well, I mean, doesn't that kind of relate to
Speaker 4: right comedy and performing stuff on stage?
Speaker 3: Yeah? With commed it totally does comedy, though it's not
Speaker 3: as emotional, and it can be and comedy. I feel safe.
Speaker 3: I can say whatever I want because at live shows,
Speaker 3: none of the people that I'm talking about are ever there,
Speaker 3: and no one's recording because you can't record stuff there.
Speaker 3: So it's not going to live anywhere until I decide
Speaker 3: it's ready to live somewhere, and by the time I
Speaker 3: take my next special, this issue will be resolved that
Speaker 3: I'm working on stage. So my live shows really are
Speaker 3: a place where I feel the most free to express
Speaker 3: myself and I don't struggle with this thing. And it's
Speaker 3: kind of weird because when you're struggling, I got If
Speaker 3: I could ask Taylor Swift anything today, I would ask her,
Speaker 3: how weird is it when you have written like a
Speaker 3: very vulnerable song that is so emotional and you have
Speaker 3: to present it to like your guy friends and it's
Speaker 3: like filled with girl feelings, you know, and like you like,
Speaker 3: is that how does that feel? And I guess I
Speaker 3: could ask any female musician that, like, or any musician
Speaker 3: really just like what does it feel like to write
Speaker 3: a let's say, a breakup song if you're going through
Speaker 3: like really woe is me? Like really sappy feelings? And
Speaker 3: then you're like this, like cool guy.
Speaker 4: I mean if they're if they're music, I mean, Anya
Speaker 4: would be a great person to ask, but they probably
Speaker 4: enjoy letting that out and just kidding.
Speaker 3: Yeah, you're right. He can ask her. She literally is
Speaker 3: a phone call away. But would she pick up, Yes,
Speaker 3: she would. Yeah, you're right, it's it's probably they probably
Speaker 3: like it, and and and the thing is, I've just
Speaker 3: that was something that was really scary for me to
Speaker 3: do in starting to write music, was like, Okay, I'm
Speaker 3: gonna share this with like actual musicians who've been doing
Speaker 3: this for twenty years, Like are they gonna be like, yeah,
Speaker 3: that's a good idea, Like the way sometimes when people
Speaker 3: tell me to here's a joke idea, and I'm like, oh, boy, Like,
Speaker 3: but these guys I'm paying them to like actually treat
Speaker 3: this like a real thing, Like if someone brought me
Speaker 3: a joke. Some of the joke ideas I've been brought
Speaker 3: that are so bad. I couldn't You couldn't pay me
Speaker 3: to lie to them and say it's good. So I'm like,
Speaker 3: are these guys going are they being?
Speaker 4: Now You're making it negative because you're saying, oh, they
Speaker 4: only want to work with shit because I'm paying them.
Speaker 2: This is only Well.
Speaker 3: I've sent several times to them, and he's like, no,
Speaker 3: I said, oh.
Speaker 4: They could turn you down and say, actually I can't, like,
Speaker 4: I only take your Donna.
Speaker 3: Well, you know my friend Dan Monahan, who's from the
Speaker 3: band The Dog and Everything. He and he writes with
Speaker 3: the Plain White Tea's he's my guy and we have
Speaker 3: become such good friends that I flew him in this
Speaker 3: week and yesterday I was like, who's not as soon
Speaker 3: as Tim are? Like Tim Convey, my boyfriend's brother is
Speaker 3: like kind of the task master of the group and
Speaker 3: like really wants to move things along and like, you know,
Speaker 3: he's just a musician producer vibe. Yeah, he's a musician
Speaker 3: as well, but he also has a baby and a
Speaker 3: family and a house far away. So I flew Dan
Speaker 3: in from Chicago to come write with me, and he's
Speaker 3: staying at the hotel next to my apartment. So him
Speaker 3: and I like didn't have a talk about what this
Speaker 3: week was. Even I was just like, hey, I want
Speaker 3: to write another song. Come down. This was a few
Speaker 3: weeks ago. So he's here and we meet up yesterday
Speaker 3: and I said him a few songs of like things
Speaker 3: I wanted to it to sound like. And we said
Speaker 3: down yesterday and go, I just want to tell you
Speaker 3: I did not write a song because last time I
Speaker 3: wrote a song and I had something for us to
Speaker 3: work on, and I was like, I got nothing. I
Speaker 3: got a couple ideas in my phone, a couple of lines,
Speaker 3: and he's like, it's fine, dude, it's fine. Starts so that, yeah,
Speaker 3: I didn't and I don't know this. So I was
Speaker 3: just like felt guilty. But then I was like, oh wait,
Speaker 3: even if I do nothing, I'm gonna pay this person
Speaker 3: and I'll feel okay about it because they I won't
Speaker 3: have wasted his time. My fear is that I'm wasting
Speaker 3: his time. He could be off writing and producing with
Speaker 3: someone else that would actually you know, they produce something,
Speaker 3: and and I might night this week, like I thought
Speaker 3: i'd be in the mood to write a.
Speaker 4: Song this week you could also not You could also
Speaker 4: see it as like this is this guy's profession and
Speaker 4: he probably gets a lot of joy and you know
Speaker 4: he does self worth or you know, like just like
Speaker 4: like he's amazing, purposeful helping people get from Oh I
Speaker 4: came here with nothing to a fully produced.
Speaker 3: And that is so true about him. He does love it.
Speaker 3: And he told me, I go, this is like a
Speaker 3: passion project for me. I really don't have a deadline.
Speaker 3: I'm not like super like we gotta get this done,
Speaker 3: so it's it's it might be like a gradual process.
Speaker 3: And I was like, so if you ever just so
Speaker 3: you know, that's kind of how I'm approaching it. And
Speaker 3: I'll always pay you for your time. Like if we
Speaker 3: don't write anything, don't think of that that's like a
Speaker 3: failure unless you want to and then you don't have
Speaker 3: to show up, like it's totally up to you. And
Speaker 3: he was like, this is a passion project for me too,
Speaker 3: like I and he was like, I just like hanging out.
Speaker 3: So yesterday as soon as Tim left to go like
Speaker 3: take care of his family, he was like, Okay, so
Speaker 3: you guys are gonna work on this. We're gonna get
Speaker 3: the bridge we're gonna do this final thought, tim Confy's like,
Speaker 3: you're gonna get this, You're gonna work on the bridge,
Speaker 3: You're gonna finish up that thought. I think maybe we
Speaker 3: should take the lyrics in the destruction. He like gives
Speaker 3: us all these prompts and then he leaves, and then
Speaker 3: Dan I was like, can I play you a couple
Speaker 3: of songs that I liked listening to. I'm like, now
Speaker 3: I'm like trying to get him into Taylor Swift. And
Speaker 3: then I was like, wait, can wait? Can you tease
Speaker 3: me how to play this on the guitar. So now
Speaker 3: we are like Nicky Glazer has gotten the thing off
Speaker 3: track as I do like. He's like he said something
Speaker 3: yesterday about like, yeah, if I really wanna work on
Speaker 3: a song, I'll work with this person who like will
Speaker 3: keep me on track. And I'm like, and if you
Speaker 3: want to eat skinny pop all day and hang out
Speaker 3: on my balcony and talk about life, you'll work with
Speaker 3: Nicki Glazer because I will. I love not doing work.
Speaker 3: I love finding other things to like waste our time.
Speaker 3: So we watched Seinfeld, we jammed out to Taylor Swift,
Speaker 3: we sang karaoke, We we just did, and by the
Speaker 3: end of the day, I was like. Tim wrote back
Speaker 3: and was like, so, how's it going. I'm like, we
Speaker 3: literally haven't done anything for the song since you left.
Speaker 3: And he was like, okay, but I think we have
Speaker 3: a hit on our hands, and I'm like, you're right,
Speaker 3: we do. We have not taken even a single step
Speaker 3: in that direction. But we just had a good bonding
Speaker 3: day and we are closer than ever and that's what
Speaker 3: this day was about. So it ended up being such
Speaker 3: a great day. He left at like ten o'clock and
Speaker 3: was like, I think this was one of the best
Speaker 3: days of my life. And I was like, dude, this
Speaker 3: is the life, Like beautiful spring day in Saint Louis,
Speaker 3: walking around getting Starbucks, getting takeout, talking about life, sharing
Speaker 3: like as friends. It was just so fun and like
Speaker 3: just playing and singing music. So today we got to
Speaker 3: buckle down and write and I am looking forward to
Speaker 3: it because I think I have an actual promise for
Speaker 3: the for the song. But oh so, what I've been
Speaker 3: doing though on Instagram, like I've been wanting Usually if
Speaker 3: I see something on Instagram, I want to make fun of.
Speaker 3: It's the way someone's dressed, the way someone looks something
Speaker 3: they've done to their face that I want to go,
Speaker 3: what does she do to her a face? Or like
Speaker 3: when an Innette, I just shoot it off to Anya
Speaker 3: and we make fun of it in our DMS like
Speaker 3: it is. That's just what I do. That's what I've
Speaker 3: always done. If I want to make fun of someone,
Speaker 3: if I want to go, I just I love making
Speaker 3: fun of people behind their backs on Instagram. It's one
Speaker 3: of my favorite things to do with my personal friends,
Speaker 3: my close friends who I trust, who will not like
Speaker 3: that would never get out. I always double check that
Speaker 3: I'm not sending the post of the person to the person.
Speaker 2: Oh you know, yes.
Speaker 3: But then yesterday I was about to send one off
Speaker 3: and I was like, why, why, right? Could would you
Speaker 3: say this to their face?
Speaker 2: Nikki?
Speaker 3: No, never would And if this actually excellently you did
Speaker 3: send it to them instead of her, well, how would
Speaker 3: that affect your life so fucking negatively? And also do
Speaker 3: you want people doing this about you? One percent?
Speaker 1: No?
Speaker 3: So I just didn't send it. And you know what,
Speaker 3: I don't even remember what it was. It was not important.
Speaker 3: I didn't you need to send off that negative, judgmental
Speaker 3: bullshit that I usually send off, and will it ruin
Speaker 3: my relationships with certain people? Sure, because like drinking, when
Speaker 3: you stop drinking, yep, you fall away from the people
Speaker 3: used to drink with. And people go, I don't want
Speaker 3: to lose those friends. You won't want them because you'll
Speaker 3: realize all that was keeping you together was drinking. So
Speaker 3: if I have, if Anya and I have so much
Speaker 3: more of a friendship than talking shit about celebrities, so
Speaker 3: that that I know can slip away without me losing
Speaker 3: anything that we have. And also I was talking shit
Speaker 3: about to Dan, my producer. I was telling some story. No, no, no,
Speaker 3: this was the other night. I was talking to a
Speaker 3: friend about a comedian who just had had a like
Speaker 3: a scam last week, and oh, I was asking Brian,
Speaker 3: I go, do you hear about blah blah blah? And
Speaker 3: he goes no, And I was like, oh so, and
Speaker 3: I go, actually, if you haven't heard about it, let's
Speaker 3: pretend it didn't happen. Like, actually, I don't even think
Speaker 3: the thing was true because the person is like suing
Speaker 3: for defamation, So like, I'm gonna support this person and
Speaker 3: not spread it more. Even though it sounded so juicy
Speaker 3: the way, I was like, oh my God, did you
Speaker 3: hear about it? And he was like, wait what I go.
Speaker 3: I'm sad, I'm even put that out there. I am not,
Speaker 3: I'm not. I don't want to talk shit anymore. I
Speaker 3: really my friend Rick Lastman, I talked to him recently
Speaker 3: and I hung out with him for an extended amount
Speaker 3: of time, and he's just like, doesn't talk shit about people.
Speaker 2: Gossip It's really sick and you know.
Speaker 3: Something annoying at first, but it's He's right.
Speaker 4: It's kind of like what you said about sobriety because
Speaker 4: when I was consciously trying to stop gossiping in like
Speaker 4: at like a work environment, because I realized at the
Speaker 4: end of gossip session this like gossip circle, everyone feels frustrated,
Speaker 4: everyone feels demoralized, and nothing is changing.
Speaker 3: So when you feel alive, I know, but I feel
Speaker 3: connected with people, it's fake intimacy.
Speaker 2: It's fake intimacy.
Speaker 4: But you'll see that when you start to pull away
Speaker 4: from that, you really will lose people, Like they'll get
Speaker 4: annoyed with you, because misery loves company.
Speaker 3: Oh, I've been around people who won't talk shit Glassman.
Speaker 3: I mean I tried to talk shit around him about
Speaker 3: someone I think and he just didn't pick it up,
Speaker 3: and I knew, I know he's able to pick this.
Speaker 2: Did it irritate you?
Speaker 3: No, it really was like it it made me. I
Speaker 3: think there was a little bit of shame that I
Speaker 3: felt at first because I felt like he was then
Speaker 3: judging me for being that way. So I maybe internalize
Speaker 3: some shame there that he wasn't even meaning to bestow
Speaker 3: onto me. But then at one point we got to talking,
Speaker 3: I think hours later after we were hanging out, and
Speaker 3: he's just said something about like, I don't really gossip,
Speaker 3: and I was like, well, you know, I don't like
Speaker 3: to talk bad about people that I wouldn't say to
Speaker 3: their face. And I said that like that, and he goes,
Speaker 3: but you're not saying it to their face. Even if
Speaker 3: you say, but I would say this to their face,
Speaker 3: well then call them up first and say it to
Speaker 3: their face, and then say it to your friend if
Speaker 3: you really would, Like the truth is when I say
Speaker 3: i'd and i'd say this to her face, I don't
Speaker 3: mean that ninety nine percent of the time. And he
Speaker 3: was right. And so it's like I do find really excitement,
Speaker 3: a lot of excitement and secrets. But here's the thing.
Speaker 3: Is like, I share all of my secrets. So if
Speaker 3: we just became more honest with ourselves, we wouldn't have
Speaker 3: to be talking shit because talking shit comes from a
Speaker 3: place of like can you believe she did this? And
Speaker 3: it comes from like wanting to shame other people. But
Speaker 3: if everyone was just what was that?
Speaker 2: Or self hatred?
Speaker 1: Yeah?
Speaker 3: I mean pretty much every time that I'm judging anyone
Speaker 3: for anything, it's always about my own insecurity. I don't care.
Speaker 3: If something it doesn't have anything to do with me,
Speaker 3: and it looks bad, I'm like, I don't care. But
Speaker 3: if something looks bad, then I'm like, oh, I might
Speaker 3: do that to my face? I'm like, what did she
Speaker 3: do it? Like cat, It's just there's I love. I
Speaker 3: love what I catch myself about to be negative. I
Speaker 3: might I like, I stop downvoting things on Reddit or
Speaker 3: up voting negative comments if someone like used to talk
Speaker 3: shit about someone that I didn't like. I would never
Speaker 3: write a negative comment about a comedian I didn't like.
Speaker 3: But if someone said a comment that I was like, yeah,
Speaker 3: this person fucking gets that they're a charlatan, I would
Speaker 3: like upvote it. I don't even do that anymore. I
Speaker 3: won't even support negative comments anymore. I'm really this is
Speaker 3: like me in the past month, I've weeded it out
Speaker 3: of my system. Talking about it feels good because it'll
Speaker 3: make me do it even even more.
Speaker 1: So.
Speaker 4: You're not sending posts to your friend to be like,
Speaker 4: oh my god, look at that. You're not down voting
Speaker 4: or up things in up voting, negative comments, anything else.
Speaker 3: I saw a guy at the airport writing a comment
Speaker 3: on an Instagram post. Have you ever witnessed someone writing
Speaker 3: a comments. It's such a weird thing to see because
Speaker 3: you don't even attach a person to these things. And
Speaker 3: so to see him writing a comment. I saw him
Speaker 3: look at a picture. Then I saw him go to
Speaker 3: the bubble and then start writing a comment on Instagram,
Speaker 3: a big paragraph, and men, did I want to see
Speaker 3: what he was writing because I was just I was
Speaker 3: dying to go find the comment and go I just
Speaker 3: watched him write this. This is like, she's a disgusting
Speaker 3: guy sitting at start like causing more hate. I wouldn't
Speaker 3: have done that, but I would have been like, I
Speaker 3: saw you write this, I caught you gate thirty seven
Speaker 3: cy Like. It would have just been so funny to
Speaker 3: be like I just saw you do this and be this.
Speaker 3: And actually I wouldn't have been anonymouscause I would have
Speaker 3: written it from mine. But it just seeing someone write
Speaker 3: a comment is so vulnerable. You're just like, ew, why
Speaker 3: are you wasting your time typing a sentence to strangers?
Speaker 3: No one cares what you think. Keep this inside unless
Speaker 3: it's positive, unless it's like slag girl, you look amazing.
Speaker 3: Oh my god, I can't wait to see this. Whatever,
Speaker 3: just don't do it. Just challenge yourself today to not
Speaker 3: text or write or vote anything negative. See what happens.
Speaker 3: Because you won't, you won't have this longing for it.
Speaker 3: I always do this with like things i'm buying. If
Speaker 3: I'm like, if I'm going on a shopping online and
Speaker 3: I'm feeling a little bit manic, I'll add a bunch
Speaker 3: of stuff to my cart and I go, you can
Speaker 3: check this cart out tomorrow if you're still thinking about
Speaker 3: these things. And I never am. Ever, the next day
Speaker 3: I can't even remember one. Maybe once or twice I've
Speaker 3: been like, no, I do really want that bag or
Speaker 3: that suitcase or whatever. And sometimes I'll go through my
Speaker 3: Poshmark likes and I'm like, oh, she offered me, you
Speaker 3: know ten percent off. Let me you know what I
Speaker 3: actually do want this I forgot like, but just add
Speaker 3: things to cart before you press go. My voice teacher
Speaker 3: has a thing written on his wall in his room,
Speaker 3: and I wish I could remember the exact phrasing. But
Speaker 3: it's like engaged brain before opening mouth. And that's for singing,
Speaker 3: Like think about what you're about to sing before you
Speaker 3: just sing it. Think about what you're about to speak
Speaker 3: before you speak it. When I did not have a
Speaker 3: voice for those three weeks when I was having vocal
Speaker 3: cord surgery, the biggest lesson I learned was that in
Speaker 3: order for me to communicate, I had to think the thought.
Speaker 3: Then I had to go to my phone and type
Speaker 3: in right, and then I had to hold it up.
Speaker 3: There were I would say half of the time I
Speaker 3: would just start typing and go, this isn't worth like
Speaker 3: whatever it is. But I would not have even had
Speaker 3: that moment because it would have just flown out of
Speaker 3: my mouth. There would be no thought. So so much
Speaker 3: of what we say, including this most of this podcast,
Speaker 3: is just there's no plan for it. It just flies
Speaker 3: out of your mouth. And like, I just want to
Speaker 3: take more of a beat in life and go like,
Speaker 3: is this really what I want to say?
Speaker 2: Good for you?
Speaker 3: Is this really what I want to do? And it's
Speaker 3: like you feel very in control when you're able to
Speaker 3: catch those moments before they happen, and you're like, am
Speaker 3: I fucking gandhi because I didn't just send this picture
Speaker 3: of this girl and I'm where I'm questioning if she's
Speaker 3: pregnant or not or whatever it is. I'm ready to
Speaker 3: talk shit or speculate on that's not on my fucking business. Yeah,
Speaker 3: it feels really good. It feels really good to just
Speaker 3: only be sending pictures of Emily Blunt at the Oscars
Speaker 3: and saying, this is the most gorgeous human being I've
Speaker 3: ever seen in my life, and I don't understand it.
Speaker 3: I am Her look at the Oscars is my favorite
Speaker 3: look I think of all time of Anyone's the glow,
Speaker 3: the hair, the dress that has the elevated Did you
Speaker 3: see these straps They're like elevated. This new thing is
Speaker 3: like the strap comes off the shoulder like a plastic
Speaker 3: bag that's been like picked up. You know, Yes, it's
Speaker 3: so cool. I love it. God, I loved her look
Speaker 3: so much. We didn't even talk about Oscar Margot Robbie.
Speaker 3: I loved her look for the Oscars because it was
Speaker 3: like a dark purple brown blackish dress, which is her
Speaker 3: first time not wearing Barbiecore in like a year and
Speaker 3: a half, like she's always dressed in Barbiecore something Barbie.
Speaker 3: I loved Ariana Grande's. I loved Florence Pugh. She also
Speaker 3: had the elevated strap look, and I think that was
Speaker 3: all my like real favorites. But that fucking Emily Blunt look.
Speaker 3: I can't stop thinking about it. I want that dewey skin.
Speaker 3: I'm gonna figure out, Like that's the plastic surgeon. I
Speaker 3: want whoever she has, Like that's the name I have
Speaker 3: to get, and I don't know how to get it,
Speaker 3: but I shan't have any work done until I find
Speaker 3: that person.
Speaker 2: Pretty sure. A part of it was the makeup that
Speaker 2: she was wearing.
Speaker 3: Absolutely, oh my god, make up springe a difference when
Speaker 3: these people fucking know what they're doing, because I think
Speaker 3: I know what I'm doing, and when I do a
Speaker 3: makeup it's disgusting, Like actually, I'm trying my best. It's
Speaker 3: really good when I do my bakeup, but it's Fantastic'm
Speaker 3: trying to say positive. It's fantastic. When makeup with actual
Speaker 3: artists professional, it's like someone you know, it's like me
Speaker 3: drawing a picture of a like mountain range versus Bob
Speaker 3: Ross doing it or whatever. You know what I mean,
Speaker 3: Like I think I can oh these are mountains, and
Speaker 3: you can go, oh, yeah they are. But like I'm
Speaker 3: not makeup. We don't think of it like that is
Speaker 3: like such an art that has such a learning curve.
Speaker 3: But yeah, so we covered a lot today. Brian's on here,
Speaker 3: but we have shows this weekend. Oh god do we
Speaker 3: have shows Grand Rapids and Columbus, And then next week
Speaker 3: we have Cincinnati and Gary, Indiana. And then I just
Speaker 3: announced a bunch of tour dates over the summer that
Speaker 3: just went on presale and you can get them now
Speaker 3: on pre sale using code good. They go on actual
Speaker 3: sale on Friday, but they're on presale right now. You
Speaker 3: use code good and just go find it out my website.
Speaker 3: I'm going to Boulder, I'm going to Cleveland, I'm going
Speaker 3: to God, what are the other cities? They're all like Charlotte.
Speaker 4: And you also have Vegas with David Spide When is
Speaker 4: that you have one in May? May seventeen, Oh my God,
Speaker 4: May seventeenth with David's Made in Vegas.
Speaker 3: The please go to that. That'll be oh my god.
Speaker 3: At the Venetian. There's such amazing shows. If you want
Speaker 3: to plan like a girls tripper, boys trip to Vegas,
Speaker 3: or just a trip alone, it's worth it to go
Speaker 3: see that show. But h yes, Boulder, Salt Lake City, Cleveland, Indianapolis,
Speaker 3: and Charlotte all on sale. These are June and July
Speaker 3: dates this summer. Have your first summer plans started now
Speaker 3: by getting tickets and you can get special ticket prices
Speaker 3: right now on the pre sale. But tomorrow on Friday,
Speaker 3: they do go on sale for everyone and you'll get
Speaker 3: regular prices. But right now you can use code good
Speaker 3: and get on presale prices for these summer day days Thursday.
Speaker 3: Technically right, That's what I'm saying. So today you have
Speaker 3: today today until tomorrow that they go on sale at
Speaker 3: ten am and they go switch to the regular price.
Speaker 3: But right now, get it now, get it now, use
Speaker 3: code good. Okay, thank you guys, I will see you
Speaker 3: at those shows see this weekend, busties. Thank you for
Speaker 3: listening to the show this week. Thank you, Noah, thank
Speaker 3: you Brian, Dolbeka and Bye