1 00:00:00,160 --> 00:00:10,400 Speaker 1: Sit back cold on day trains. Okay, let's get to it. 2 00:00:12,039 --> 00:00:15,800 Speaker 1: Subject to burden sister. Hello Stephen Shirley. I'm a twenty 3 00:00:15,920 --> 00:00:19,960 Speaker 1: three year old female. I recently graduated from college. Currently 4 00:00:19,960 --> 00:00:22,799 Speaker 1: I'm working for the State of Arkansas and attending school 5 00:00:22,840 --> 00:00:25,520 Speaker 1: full time to receive my masters. I'm a person that 6 00:00:25,680 --> 00:00:28,880 Speaker 1: loved my family no matter what. However, lately there's some 7 00:00:29,000 --> 00:00:31,840 Speaker 1: things within my family that have hit me hard. My 8 00:00:31,920 --> 00:00:35,080 Speaker 1: mother raised my brothers, who are twins and me by herself, 9 00:00:35,360 --> 00:00:38,320 Speaker 1: most of the time working two jobs. I really appreciate 10 00:00:38,360 --> 00:00:40,760 Speaker 1: all that she has sacrificed for me and my brothers. 11 00:00:41,080 --> 00:00:43,080 Speaker 1: Even though my brothers and I were raised in the 12 00:00:43,120 --> 00:00:46,680 Speaker 1: same home, we turned out totally different. Both of my 13 00:00:46,720 --> 00:00:49,519 Speaker 1: brothers have been locked up since they were seventeen. They 14 00:00:49,560 --> 00:00:52,680 Speaker 1: are now nineteen. One is in prison, while the other 15 00:00:52,720 --> 00:00:55,840 Speaker 1: has been in and out of county jail back home. 16 00:00:56,200 --> 00:00:58,760 Speaker 1: He recently got out and my mother brought him to 17 00:00:58,840 --> 00:01:01,640 Speaker 1: stay with me, which I was not too happy about, 18 00:01:01,920 --> 00:01:05,000 Speaker 1: only because I have a roommate and I now and 19 00:01:05,040 --> 00:01:07,800 Speaker 1: I know how my brother acts. However, I allowed him 20 00:01:07,840 --> 00:01:10,440 Speaker 1: to come and my plan was to try and get 21 00:01:10,520 --> 00:01:14,440 Speaker 1: him enrolled in a rehabilitation vocational school. Nevertheless, I don't 22 00:01:14,480 --> 00:01:16,800 Speaker 1: feel like it's going to work out. He has been 23 00:01:16,800 --> 00:01:20,800 Speaker 1: a burden to me since he moved in. Besides being intolerable, 24 00:01:21,040 --> 00:01:23,200 Speaker 1: he tried to jump me and stole from me in 25 00:01:23,240 --> 00:01:26,440 Speaker 1: my roommate. I know he's still young, but I figured 26 00:01:26,480 --> 00:01:29,760 Speaker 1: he was ready to change his life. He blames everybody 27 00:01:29,800 --> 00:01:32,959 Speaker 1: that loves him for his situation. He goes berserk, saying 28 00:01:32,959 --> 00:01:35,959 Speaker 1: nobody loves him and my mama got him locked up, 29 00:01:36,240 --> 00:01:38,880 Speaker 1: just a bunch of nonsense. I've told him that we 30 00:01:38,959 --> 00:01:41,720 Speaker 1: all choose our own path. He doesn't want to accept 31 00:01:41,840 --> 00:01:45,280 Speaker 1: responsibility for his actions, That's what I told him. I 32 00:01:45,360 --> 00:01:46,959 Speaker 1: know it's going to be hard for him in this 33 00:01:47,080 --> 00:01:50,800 Speaker 1: society now because he has so many strikes against him. 34 00:01:50,840 --> 00:01:53,680 Speaker 1: But at the same time, I know it isn't impossible. 35 00:01:54,000 --> 00:01:56,840 Speaker 1: It will just take time and effort. But he doesn't 36 00:01:57,360 --> 00:02:00,280 Speaker 1: try to do anything. I have tried all I can, 37 00:02:00,280 --> 00:02:02,280 Speaker 1: and honestly, I feel that if he doesn't want to 38 00:02:02,320 --> 00:02:04,840 Speaker 1: do good for himself, I can't help him. But at 39 00:02:04,840 --> 00:02:06,800 Speaker 1: the same time, if I put him out, where will 40 00:02:06,840 --> 00:02:09,120 Speaker 1: he go. My mother doesn't want him in her house 41 00:02:09,600 --> 00:02:14,120 Speaker 1: or she just got married. His father and grandmother don't 42 00:02:14,120 --> 00:02:16,639 Speaker 1: want him, which leaves it up to me. But like 43 00:02:16,680 --> 00:02:18,760 Speaker 1: I said at the beginning, I am in school full 44 00:02:18,760 --> 00:02:21,120 Speaker 1: time and I work full time. I love my brother 45 00:02:21,280 --> 00:02:25,120 Speaker 1: so much, but we are all grown now. Um, I 46 00:02:25,160 --> 00:02:28,160 Speaker 1: don't have any kids or no husband. I feel like 47 00:02:28,200 --> 00:02:30,880 Speaker 1: I shouldn't be stressing over a grown man that doesn't 48 00:02:30,880 --> 00:02:34,000 Speaker 1: want to do for himself. Please tell me what should 49 00:02:34,040 --> 00:02:38,440 Speaker 1: I do? Um, I'll try to get No, we don't 50 00:02:38,440 --> 00:02:44,560 Speaker 1: really have time. Huh Okay, wow, yeah that's a yeah. 51 00:02:44,680 --> 00:02:46,440 Speaker 1: You can put him out. All you gotta do is 52 00:02:46,480 --> 00:02:48,639 Speaker 1: that you can just answer in one sentence. This ain't 53 00:02:48,680 --> 00:02:51,240 Speaker 1: no long letter. Yeah no, it's not a long letter. 54 00:02:51,280 --> 00:02:54,080 Speaker 1: I just really feel for this young woman. She's really 55 00:02:54,080 --> 00:02:56,080 Speaker 1: trying to do the right thing and get her life together, 56 00:02:56,520 --> 00:02:59,160 Speaker 1: you know, but yeah she should. All right, Steve will 57 00:02:59,160 --> 00:03:01,360 Speaker 1: have part two of two Day's Strawberry Letter coming up 58 00:03:01,360 --> 00:03:03,960 Speaker 1: at twenty three after the hour. But right now, come on, 59 00:03:04,000 --> 00:03:07,000 Speaker 1: Steve with your famous self with your response to today's 60 00:03:07,000 --> 00:03:11,680 Speaker 1: Strawberry Letter. You said you had just one sentence to 61 00:03:11,760 --> 00:03:14,360 Speaker 1: answer this entire letter. Yeah, yeah, I can answer this 62 00:03:14,400 --> 00:03:17,040 Speaker 1: whole letter. I'm talking about this girl is in college show, 63 00:03:18,000 --> 00:03:22,560 Speaker 1: that's working getting her master that's got a roommate, working 64 00:03:22,600 --> 00:03:26,080 Speaker 1: two jobs full time, going to school full time, working 65 00:03:26,080 --> 00:03:28,720 Speaker 1: full time. Yeah, you know, her mama worked two jobs 66 00:03:28,720 --> 00:03:31,600 Speaker 1: to get her on her brothers in that position. She 67 00:03:31,680 --> 00:03:35,040 Speaker 1: hadn't helped out her twin brothers on other hand, one 68 00:03:35,080 --> 00:03:37,040 Speaker 1: of them being locked up since he's seventeen, and the 69 00:03:37,040 --> 00:03:41,760 Speaker 1: other one in and out of county. Now she didn't 70 00:03:41,800 --> 00:03:43,960 Speaker 1: Her mamma can't take him in her house no more 71 00:03:44,200 --> 00:03:46,600 Speaker 1: to send him over to her house because her mother 72 00:03:46,680 --> 00:03:50,240 Speaker 1: just got married, right and you know, in order to 73 00:03:50,280 --> 00:03:52,720 Speaker 1: keep him getting her boy killed by her new man, 74 00:03:53,880 --> 00:03:56,200 Speaker 1: because that what's gonna happen, because you don't come up 75 00:03:56,240 --> 00:03:58,960 Speaker 1: in another man house with this foolishness. Her mama, see 76 00:03:59,000 --> 00:04:01,480 Speaker 1: that doesn't sent the girl sent a boy over to 77 00:04:01,560 --> 00:04:03,960 Speaker 1: her house. Now she had to take him in that 78 00:04:04,080 --> 00:04:08,280 Speaker 1: she ha college dude, right rye? No money tight, right, 79 00:04:09,480 --> 00:04:12,560 Speaker 1: money tight, So she ain't really got no money be 80 00:04:12,640 --> 00:04:18,320 Speaker 1: feeding his grown man. Because that's what we're talking here, here, 81 00:04:18,360 --> 00:04:22,559 Speaker 1: we're here. That's what that pissed me off. He has 82 00:04:22,720 --> 00:04:25,320 Speaker 1: been a burden to me since he has moved in. 83 00:04:26,000 --> 00:04:29,880 Speaker 1: Besides being intolerable, he tried to jump me and stole 84 00:04:29,960 --> 00:04:33,720 Speaker 1: from me in my room. Manh uh then at the bottom. 85 00:04:33,760 --> 00:04:36,400 Speaker 1: But at the same time, if I put I feel 86 00:04:36,520 --> 00:04:38,960 Speaker 1: that he doesn't want to do good for himself, I 87 00:04:39,000 --> 00:04:40,680 Speaker 1: can't help him. But at the same time, if I 88 00:04:40,680 --> 00:04:43,040 Speaker 1: put him out, where will he go? My mother doesn't 89 00:04:43,080 --> 00:04:46,479 Speaker 1: want him in her house. She just got married. His 90 00:04:46,600 --> 00:04:50,000 Speaker 1: father and grandmama don't want this, don't want him. See, 91 00:04:50,160 --> 00:04:52,320 Speaker 1: so we we'll be talking about a complete food hill, 92 00:04:53,160 --> 00:04:55,719 Speaker 1: which leaves it up to me. But like I said 93 00:04:55,720 --> 00:04:58,000 Speaker 1: in the beginning, I'm in school full time. I worked 94 00:04:58,000 --> 00:05:00,040 Speaker 1: for it. I love my brother so much. We a 95 00:05:00,160 --> 00:05:02,360 Speaker 1: grown up. I don't have any kids or no husband. 96 00:05:02,600 --> 00:05:04,760 Speaker 1: I feel like I shouldn't be stressing over grown man 97 00:05:04,880 --> 00:05:07,520 Speaker 1: that doesn't want to do for himself. Please tell me 98 00:05:07,560 --> 00:05:11,880 Speaker 1: what should I do? I have one line answer for 99 00:05:11,960 --> 00:05:19,040 Speaker 1: all this. All right, Steve, put his ass out. I 100 00:05:19,120 --> 00:05:21,960 Speaker 1: knew you were going to say that one more time. 101 00:05:23,080 --> 00:05:27,000 Speaker 1: I've almost cut I've cut back on cussing completely, but 102 00:05:27,560 --> 00:05:31,440 Speaker 1: I have no other way to phrase this. Put his 103 00:05:31,680 --> 00:05:38,280 Speaker 1: ass out, I mean the whole, his whole, take all 104 00:05:38,320 --> 00:05:42,800 Speaker 1: of it and put it out. You know the word 105 00:05:42,839 --> 00:05:44,160 Speaker 1: I want to say, But I just don't want to 106 00:05:44,200 --> 00:05:52,359 Speaker 1: go there. Put his whole put it out ahead, he 107 00:05:52,560 --> 00:05:55,320 Speaker 1: I mean, you know, he needs some male guidance. He 108 00:05:55,640 --> 00:05:58,600 Speaker 1: some some sort of mentorship from from a man he 109 00:05:58,640 --> 00:06:01,279 Speaker 1: has not had that. He's acting that out. You know, 110 00:06:01,480 --> 00:06:03,640 Speaker 1: so much going on with this young man, and it's 111 00:06:03,680 --> 00:06:05,679 Speaker 1: hard on her. I mean, I feel for her because 112 00:06:05,680 --> 00:06:09,000 Speaker 1: this is a lot for twenty three thirty three, forty 113 00:06:09,080 --> 00:06:12,279 Speaker 1: three fifty three whoever, this is a lot um. He 114 00:06:12,360 --> 00:06:15,600 Speaker 1: needs like a halfway house type situation, you know, talk 115 00:06:15,680 --> 00:06:19,520 Speaker 1: to probation officer or something, because if she puts them out, Steve, 116 00:06:19,839 --> 00:06:22,600 Speaker 1: it's just going to be more of the same. No, Sherley, 117 00:06:22,680 --> 00:06:24,719 Speaker 1: I have to talk, and I agree that she should 118 00:06:24,720 --> 00:06:26,640 Speaker 1: be out of her out, So so I don't cuss 119 00:06:26,680 --> 00:06:30,680 Speaker 1: anymore because I've done my Limita. We're talking about the 120 00:06:30,760 --> 00:06:33,359 Speaker 1: A word here. That's the word I keep wanting to you. 121 00:06:35,160 --> 00:06:40,680 Speaker 1: He needs his whole A word he needed by many 122 00:06:40,760 --> 00:06:45,440 Speaker 1: mane Um. This dude right here, him and his twin 123 00:06:45,520 --> 00:06:50,960 Speaker 1: brother's stupid. He doesn't respect women, He don't respect what 124 00:06:51,040 --> 00:06:53,000 Speaker 1: his mother's down for him, to the point where the 125 00:06:53,040 --> 00:06:57,520 Speaker 1: grandparents don't even want see. He needs his a whipped. 126 00:06:57,760 --> 00:06:59,640 Speaker 1: So the best way to let it whip is put 127 00:06:59,680 --> 00:07:03,960 Speaker 1: him out there where he just on a and then 128 00:07:04,080 --> 00:07:06,280 Speaker 1: let a few things happen to him and get it 129 00:07:06,320 --> 00:07:08,520 Speaker 1: straighten up. Because see, guess what, they have a place 130 00:07:08,560 --> 00:07:12,120 Speaker 1: for you to act a fool in seven his brother. Now, 131 00:07:13,160 --> 00:07:15,960 Speaker 1: see that got a place for you. You're like acting. 132 00:07:16,480 --> 00:07:19,000 Speaker 1: What we can do for you, sir, is we can 133 00:07:19,040 --> 00:07:25,240 Speaker 1: put you in a place feel with fools. Do you 134 00:07:25,320 --> 00:07:33,240 Speaker 1: have food Friday? Ignorant? Mondays? Temper tantrum? Tuesdays will pass, Wednesdays, 135 00:07:34,320 --> 00:07:42,120 Speaker 1: tumuntulous Thursdays? What to whatever the word is? Trauma Thursdays, 136 00:07:42,160 --> 00:07:48,920 Speaker 1: just simplified trauma and funky Fridays you can ask sadistic 137 00:07:49,000 --> 00:07:53,160 Speaker 1: Saddays and somebody are to come get me Sundays. But 138 00:07:53,480 --> 00:07:58,120 Speaker 1: don't you think he's had that already? No, no, he hasn't. No, No, 139 00:07:58,240 --> 00:08:04,320 Speaker 1: he in and out of jail, jail, jail, mean you're 140 00:08:04,400 --> 00:08:10,679 Speaker 1: going home? Prison, mean you is home. We don't send 141 00:08:10,720 --> 00:08:13,920 Speaker 1: them to prison, those teams. But that's why he needs 142 00:08:14,240 --> 00:08:16,320 Speaker 1: to see if he ain't gonna get it. See, if 143 00:08:16,320 --> 00:08:19,720 Speaker 1: you keep on disobeying the laws, we're gonna send you 144 00:08:19,760 --> 00:08:22,520 Speaker 1: to jail. But if you keep on, we're gonna quit 145 00:08:22,600 --> 00:08:24,960 Speaker 1: letting you out. All right, thank you, sir. Well, you 146 00:08:25,000 --> 00:08:26,720 Speaker 1: know we gotta get out of here. We gotta go. 147 00:08:27,200 --> 00:08:30,000 Speaker 1: A good job as always, Steve Instagram us your thoughts 148 00:08:30,080 --> 00:08:33,040 Speaker 1: or email us your thoughts on today's Strawberry Letter. At 149 00:08:33,080 --> 00:08:37,040 Speaker 1: My Girls Shirlotte, you're listening to The Steve Harvey Morning Show.