1 00:00:02,200 --> 00:00:04,800 Speaker 1: It's time now for today's Strawberry Letter, and if you 2 00:00:04,840 --> 00:00:08,680 Speaker 1: need advice on relationships, work, sex, parenting, and more, please 3 00:00:08,720 --> 00:00:11,840 Speaker 1: submit your Strawberry Letter to Steve HARVEYFM dot com and 4 00:00:11,920 --> 00:00:15,400 Speaker 1: click submit Strawberry Letter. We could be reading your letter 5 00:00:15,520 --> 00:00:18,200 Speaker 1: live on the air, just like we're gonna read this 6 00:00:18,200 --> 00:00:20,680 Speaker 1: one right here, right now, and you never know it 7 00:00:20,720 --> 00:00:25,279 Speaker 1: could be yours. Buggle up and hold on tight. We 8 00:00:25,280 --> 00:00:27,520 Speaker 1: got it for you here. It is the Strawberry Letter. 9 00:00:28,200 --> 00:00:30,440 Speaker 1: Thank you. Nephew's subject I need to get away for 10 00:00:30,520 --> 00:00:34,599 Speaker 1: a while, Dear Stephen Shirley. I'm a forty three year 11 00:00:34,640 --> 00:00:37,639 Speaker 1: old married woman and my husband and I have four children. 12 00:00:38,000 --> 00:00:41,080 Speaker 1: The teenagers are fine, but I went and had two 13 00:00:41,159 --> 00:00:44,960 Speaker 1: younger children that get on my last nerve. They take 14 00:00:45,080 --> 00:00:47,320 Speaker 1: so much time and energy that I don't feel like 15 00:00:47,360 --> 00:00:50,440 Speaker 1: I have any time for myself. My husband doesn't help 16 00:00:50,479 --> 00:00:53,440 Speaker 1: me out at all with the children, so I'm a 17 00:00:53,479 --> 00:00:57,440 Speaker 1: full time housewife and mother. My husband used to come 18 00:00:57,480 --> 00:01:00,000 Speaker 1: home during the day for a quickie, but he stopped 19 00:01:00,160 --> 00:01:02,640 Speaker 1: doing that. Our three year old usually comes in our 20 00:01:02,720 --> 00:01:05,080 Speaker 1: room at night, so I stopped trying to have sex 21 00:01:05,120 --> 00:01:07,680 Speaker 1: a year ago. That doesn't mean that I don't need 22 00:01:07,840 --> 00:01:10,679 Speaker 1: to or want to. I just don't want to do 23 00:01:10,720 --> 00:01:14,360 Speaker 1: it with my husband or in the US at all. 24 00:01:15,080 --> 00:01:20,200 Speaker 1: My girlfriends and I are going through similar experiences, and 25 00:01:20,319 --> 00:01:23,240 Speaker 1: one of them researched a vacation spot with men there 26 00:01:23,520 --> 00:01:27,919 Speaker 1: to cater to women twenty four seven and older ladies. 27 00:01:27,959 --> 00:01:30,440 Speaker 1: She knows went there for New Years for New Year's 28 00:01:30,520 --> 00:01:33,360 Speaker 1: and she had so much good sex. She's good until 29 00:01:33,400 --> 00:01:37,319 Speaker 1: twenty twenty three. I just want the experience of being 30 00:01:37,440 --> 00:01:41,559 Speaker 1: with someone else, someone that has a lot of stamina 31 00:01:41,640 --> 00:01:44,640 Speaker 1: and knows what he's doing. I just need to get 32 00:01:44,640 --> 00:01:47,720 Speaker 1: away for a while. I know this is unbelievable for 33 00:01:47,800 --> 00:01:50,480 Speaker 1: a woman to have this type of request, but men 34 00:01:50,600 --> 00:01:53,120 Speaker 1: do it all the time. I'm pretty sure back in 35 00:01:53,120 --> 00:01:55,440 Speaker 1: the day when my husband went away with his friends, 36 00:01:55,680 --> 00:01:59,240 Speaker 1: he wasn't an angel and possibly cheated on me because 37 00:01:59,280 --> 00:02:02,280 Speaker 1: he would always come back bright eyed and bushey tailed 38 00:02:02,520 --> 00:02:06,160 Speaker 1: and want to please me over and over. These days 39 00:02:06,200 --> 00:02:09,120 Speaker 1: are long Those days are long gone, and now I 40 00:02:09,160 --> 00:02:12,120 Speaker 1: need to go and sew my royal oats before I 41 00:02:12,200 --> 00:02:16,200 Speaker 1: lose my mind. I love my husband dearly, so I'm 42 00:02:16,240 --> 00:02:19,919 Speaker 1: doing this for us and so our marital bond can 43 00:02:20,000 --> 00:02:24,880 Speaker 1: stay strong. Just like a man might ask you. I'm asking, 44 00:02:25,200 --> 00:02:27,200 Speaker 1: how do I get my husband to agree to me 45 00:02:27,320 --> 00:02:37,760 Speaker 1: leaving him with the children? Where just yeah, yeah, you 46 00:02:37,880 --> 00:02:42,160 Speaker 1: heard it. So you're a full time housewife and mother, okay, 47 00:02:42,520 --> 00:02:45,720 Speaker 1: whose children get on your nerves and your husband doesn't help. 48 00:02:45,919 --> 00:02:49,400 Speaker 1: Your husband doesn't help with them. You said you went 49 00:02:49,440 --> 00:02:52,200 Speaker 1: and had two younger children, so I'm going to assume 50 00:02:52,280 --> 00:02:55,280 Speaker 1: you wanted them at the time. Now you're acting like 51 00:02:55,320 --> 00:02:58,519 Speaker 1: you forgot what three year olds do. I mean, come on, now, 52 00:02:58,880 --> 00:03:01,480 Speaker 1: every mom I agree with you here. Every mom needs 53 00:03:01,480 --> 00:03:04,360 Speaker 1: a break from time to time, a nice girl's night out, 54 00:03:04,960 --> 00:03:08,320 Speaker 1: fun girl's trip or something like that, but not a 55 00:03:08,680 --> 00:03:13,120 Speaker 1: sexcation like you're talking about, to get done by some 56 00:03:13,280 --> 00:03:17,440 Speaker 1: random man at a resort. I mean, you're a married woman. 57 00:03:17,840 --> 00:03:19,840 Speaker 1: I know you know that, even though you said you 58 00:03:19,880 --> 00:03:22,600 Speaker 1: don't want to do it with your husband or anywhere 59 00:03:22,639 --> 00:03:26,000 Speaker 1: in the US. But you sound crazy. I mean, you 60 00:03:26,160 --> 00:03:29,720 Speaker 1: are married. Don't you even care about that? Your husband 61 00:03:29,800 --> 00:03:32,600 Speaker 1: is right there? I mean, why can't you guys try 62 00:03:32,639 --> 00:03:36,000 Speaker 1: to reignite that spark. There's nothing going on there. I 63 00:03:36,000 --> 00:03:38,160 Speaker 1: mean that seems to be the problem to me. You 64 00:03:38,200 --> 00:03:40,480 Speaker 1: don't care about your marriage right now, you've given up. 65 00:03:40,920 --> 00:03:44,400 Speaker 1: There's no romance, no excitement, no more working on the marriage. 66 00:03:44,400 --> 00:03:47,880 Speaker 1: You think going outside, going to the sex resort is 67 00:03:47,920 --> 00:03:51,720 Speaker 1: going to fix everything, It'll probably cause even more problems 68 00:03:51,760 --> 00:03:54,760 Speaker 1: for you. You gotta at least try to honor your vows. 69 00:03:54,840 --> 00:03:57,960 Speaker 1: And as for the kids, your husband doesn't get a pass. 70 00:03:58,040 --> 00:04:00,920 Speaker 1: They're his kids too, so he definitely should hold up 71 00:04:00,960 --> 00:04:03,640 Speaker 1: his end and watch them while you go to you know, 72 00:04:04,320 --> 00:04:07,000 Speaker 1: get away, go to lunch with your girls, get your nails, 73 00:04:07,000 --> 00:04:10,400 Speaker 1: get your hair done, have your teenagers pitch in sometimes too. 74 00:04:10,440 --> 00:04:13,760 Speaker 1: I mean, there are solutions to these problems that you're 75 00:04:13,960 --> 00:04:16,280 Speaker 1: that you say you're having here. I mean I would 76 00:04:16,320 --> 00:04:19,479 Speaker 1: try these things out before I run off and cheat 77 00:04:19,520 --> 00:04:23,080 Speaker 1: with another man. You know, I don't know. This just 78 00:04:23,279 --> 00:04:29,760 Speaker 1: is really crazy what you're asking right now to me, Steve, Well, 79 00:04:30,880 --> 00:04:34,680 Speaker 1: you know, the thing about being second in the Strawberry 80 00:04:34,839 --> 00:04:38,280 Speaker 1: Letter is I have an advantage where I get to 81 00:04:38,360 --> 00:04:41,640 Speaker 1: hear what Shirley's going to say, not that it affects her. 82 00:04:41,720 --> 00:04:45,680 Speaker 1: Change is what she's gonna say, and I've discovered it 83 00:04:45,800 --> 00:04:49,520 Speaker 1: don't affect or change nothing I'm gonna say either. It's 84 00:04:49,560 --> 00:04:55,120 Speaker 1: just I read different than Shirley, because Shirley's a better reader. 85 00:04:55,120 --> 00:04:59,240 Speaker 1: Than I am. Shirley's more educated than I am. Shirley's 86 00:04:59,279 --> 00:05:02,400 Speaker 1: more wells spoken than I am, more well read than 87 00:05:02,440 --> 00:05:05,840 Speaker 1: I am. When I read these letters, I don't know 88 00:05:05,960 --> 00:05:10,599 Speaker 1: what I'll be reading, but I I don't know. I 89 00:05:10,760 --> 00:05:17,760 Speaker 1: just see other stuff. So here I go, reading as 90 00:05:17,800 --> 00:05:22,800 Speaker 1: an ignorant person that ain't really ignorant, though. Here we go. 91 00:05:23,680 --> 00:05:26,400 Speaker 1: Now you're forty through. Y'all married woman, your husband, y'all 92 00:05:26,400 --> 00:05:29,479 Speaker 1: got folk kids teenagers, fine, and had two young kids 93 00:05:29,480 --> 00:05:32,560 Speaker 1: to get on your last nerve. I got seven and 94 00:05:32,680 --> 00:05:34,520 Speaker 1: ain't none of them young, and they get on my 95 00:05:34,600 --> 00:05:39,840 Speaker 1: damn there. Hello, Shelley's baby, get on her nerves. Carla daughter, 96 00:05:39,920 --> 00:05:42,720 Speaker 1: get on her damn nerves sometimes too. Oh, we hear 97 00:05:42,760 --> 00:05:44,680 Speaker 1: all about the cheer leading and that thing. But then 98 00:05:44,760 --> 00:05:48,280 Speaker 1: all peaches and cream. Now you want what you gotta go? 99 00:05:48,360 --> 00:05:52,440 Speaker 1: Where you want to have a sleepover? It's COVID. You 100 00:05:52,440 --> 00:05:57,200 Speaker 1: know she going through it too, you know, And then 101 00:05:57,279 --> 00:05:59,200 Speaker 1: you know you know your husband don't help you out 102 00:05:59,240 --> 00:06:01,520 Speaker 1: with the kids. You a full time housewife and mother. 103 00:06:01,640 --> 00:06:04,799 Speaker 1: That's a big job. That's a huge job, folk kids. 104 00:06:04,880 --> 00:06:07,320 Speaker 1: I gotta give it to it. Then your husband used 105 00:06:07,320 --> 00:06:09,520 Speaker 1: to come home doing today for a quickie. He stopped 106 00:06:09,520 --> 00:06:13,880 Speaker 1: doing that well because it in folk kids. That's why 107 00:06:13,880 --> 00:06:16,839 Speaker 1: he quick coming home for them quickies, because we got 108 00:06:16,839 --> 00:06:21,200 Speaker 1: folk and he don't won't five, so that stops the quickies. 109 00:06:22,120 --> 00:06:24,880 Speaker 1: That's why he don't come home no more. He don't 110 00:06:24,920 --> 00:06:28,160 Speaker 1: want number five. Now, this letter gonna take a turn 111 00:06:28,240 --> 00:06:30,400 Speaker 1: when we come back, and I'll have to get into 112 00:06:30,440 --> 00:06:32,120 Speaker 1: it because the three year old and started coming to 113 00:06:32,200 --> 00:06:34,159 Speaker 1: get in the bed. And now y'all ain't had sex 114 00:06:34,200 --> 00:06:36,960 Speaker 1: in over a year, and that don't mean you don't 115 00:06:36,960 --> 00:06:38,760 Speaker 1: want to. And we're gonna get into that when we 116 00:06:38,880 --> 00:06:42,520 Speaker 1: come back. All right, all right, hang on Part two 117 00:06:42,520 --> 00:06:45,200 Speaker 1: of Steve's response to the Strawberry letter, coming up at 118 00:06:45,240 --> 00:06:49,320 Speaker 1: twenty three minutes after the hour. The subject is I 119 00:06:49,400 --> 00:06:51,800 Speaker 1: need to get away for a while. Okay, we'll get 120 00:06:51,800 --> 00:06:55,920 Speaker 1: back into it right after this. You're listening Steve Harvey 121 00:06:55,960 --> 00:06:59,000 Speaker 1: Morning Show. All right, come on, Steve, let's recap today's 122 00:06:59,000 --> 00:07:03,640 Speaker 1: strawberry letter. This subject is I need to get away 123 00:07:03,839 --> 00:07:06,839 Speaker 1: for a while. Well, the recap is easy because we 124 00:07:06,839 --> 00:07:09,000 Speaker 1: ain't really said nothing. Forty three year old woman with 125 00:07:09,080 --> 00:07:11,280 Speaker 1: four kids, married to a husband that don't help with 126 00:07:11,320 --> 00:07:16,760 Speaker 1: the kids. She's frustrated, she's overworked, underappreciated. That's the story 127 00:07:16,800 --> 00:07:19,320 Speaker 1: of a lot of women. Being a full time housewife 128 00:07:19,320 --> 00:07:22,720 Speaker 1: and mother is a huge job. Understood, sister, can't take 129 00:07:22,760 --> 00:07:27,160 Speaker 1: nothing front. Oh, your husband don't help out? Ye and 130 00:07:27,200 --> 00:07:29,200 Speaker 1: your man because he used to come home for a quickie, 131 00:07:29,200 --> 00:07:31,200 Speaker 1: but he quit doing that. He quit doing that. Well, 132 00:07:31,280 --> 00:07:33,440 Speaker 1: like I said, you got four kids, he don't want 133 00:07:33,480 --> 00:07:35,760 Speaker 1: number five? Ain't don't need to come into the house 134 00:07:35,800 --> 00:07:38,680 Speaker 1: for quickis no both. Then the three year old has 135 00:07:38,680 --> 00:07:40,880 Speaker 1: started coming sleeping in the bed with y'all. Y'all don't 136 00:07:40,920 --> 00:07:42,680 Speaker 1: stop us. Or now you ain't even had to try 137 00:07:42,720 --> 00:07:45,560 Speaker 1: to have sex in a year. Then you say that 138 00:07:45,680 --> 00:07:48,960 Speaker 1: doesn't mean that I don't need to or want to. 139 00:07:49,560 --> 00:07:52,160 Speaker 1: I just don't want to do it with my husband 140 00:07:52,560 --> 00:07:56,760 Speaker 1: or in the US at all. Wait a minute, that 141 00:07:56,920 --> 00:08:01,360 Speaker 1: come from everybody heard that line and letter? I don't 142 00:08:01,400 --> 00:08:04,000 Speaker 1: want to do it with my husband or in the 143 00:08:04,160 --> 00:08:09,240 Speaker 1: US at all? What is wrong with United States six? 144 00:08:11,960 --> 00:08:16,480 Speaker 1: I don't, I am telling you right now. I'm a 145 00:08:16,560 --> 00:08:21,960 Speaker 1: global world traveler are but United States six is where 146 00:08:22,000 --> 00:08:34,520 Speaker 1: I've had the absolute most of them. Alabama, Florida, Michigan, Ohio, 147 00:08:34,880 --> 00:08:53,000 Speaker 1: West Virginia. All I'm down Kentucky, Texas, Yeah, Oklahoma, coat, Yeah, California, Yes, Vegas, 148 00:08:53,000 --> 00:08:59,000 Speaker 1: everyone New, Mexico, Colorado, asked the rockets. I've been everyone 149 00:08:59,400 --> 00:09:04,600 Speaker 1: I don't like, like high altitude sex that I don't like. 150 00:09:04,679 --> 00:09:10,719 Speaker 1: How to pull yourself together, you need the oxygen. I 151 00:09:11,000 --> 00:09:13,240 Speaker 1: have to get on the tank. After that, I tried that. 152 00:09:13,360 --> 00:09:16,520 Speaker 1: How to do sex, I have to stop. I get 153 00:09:16,160 --> 00:09:19,439 Speaker 1: back all right, here we go anyway. So that's I 154 00:09:19,440 --> 00:09:22,560 Speaker 1: don't done. Ain't what this letter is about. All my 155 00:09:22,640 --> 00:09:25,320 Speaker 1: girlfriends are going through some similar experiences. And one of 156 00:09:25,360 --> 00:09:28,720 Speaker 1: them researched a vacation spot with men there to cater 157 00:09:28,880 --> 00:09:32,559 Speaker 1: to women twenty four seven and older ladies. She knows 158 00:09:32,720 --> 00:09:34,880 Speaker 1: we're there for New Year's and she had so much 159 00:09:34,920 --> 00:09:38,360 Speaker 1: good sex. She good in to twenty twenty three. Now 160 00:09:38,640 --> 00:09:41,840 Speaker 1: let me ask you something. First of all, and older ladies, 161 00:09:41,880 --> 00:09:45,080 Speaker 1: she knows you already forty three. So you know an 162 00:09:45,120 --> 00:09:48,200 Speaker 1: older lady that went there and had so much sex. 163 00:09:48,280 --> 00:09:51,880 Speaker 1: She good for twenty twenty three. So now you and 164 00:09:51,920 --> 00:09:53,760 Speaker 1: your girls and got together. And this is what y'all 165 00:09:53,800 --> 00:09:58,480 Speaker 1: want to do. Okay, I just want the experience of 166 00:09:58,640 --> 00:10:03,640 Speaker 1: being with someone else. Oh, so well, you are telling 167 00:10:03,679 --> 00:10:05,640 Speaker 1: the truth. You just want to see what it is 168 00:10:05,679 --> 00:10:08,680 Speaker 1: to be with somebody else, some varieties what you want 169 00:10:08,760 --> 00:10:11,679 Speaker 1: right now and you don't want it in the US. 170 00:10:11,960 --> 00:10:17,559 Speaker 1: Where is this resorting? Thank you shut up? We all 171 00:10:17,600 --> 00:10:21,920 Speaker 1: need to know. I'm trying to well, I don't want 172 00:10:21,920 --> 00:10:23,560 Speaker 1: to know. I just want to know where they then 173 00:10:23,679 --> 00:10:25,719 Speaker 1: found these me and that what country you're going to, 174 00:10:25,800 --> 00:10:28,400 Speaker 1: because I tell you right now, if it ain't in 175 00:10:28,440 --> 00:10:32,520 Speaker 1: the right country, you're gonna be disappointed out from. Mexico 176 00:10:32,760 --> 00:10:42,000 Speaker 1: is not known for that. I've been a lock can 177 00:10:42,120 --> 00:10:45,520 Speaker 1: com hard rock moon Baby, I'm in the all and 178 00:10:45,600 --> 00:10:50,360 Speaker 1: they're not known for that. Losting times and I ain't 179 00:10:50,360 --> 00:10:53,040 Speaker 1: seen nobody walking through that look like they've feel to 180 00:10:53,080 --> 00:10:56,200 Speaker 1: be ringing veils and knocking boots and putting your eyes 181 00:10:56,240 --> 00:10:58,040 Speaker 1: in the back of your head. I ain't seen it, 182 00:10:58,120 --> 00:11:07,080 Speaker 1: just size wise. I ain't now go to Jamaica. Go 183 00:11:07,160 --> 00:11:10,480 Speaker 1: to Jamaica. Some stuff could happen. They're over there handling it. 184 00:11:11,200 --> 00:11:14,400 Speaker 1: If you're going to Jamaica, it's something like that has possibility. 185 00:11:14,400 --> 00:11:16,120 Speaker 1: I can tell you right now. Don't go to France. 186 00:11:16,200 --> 00:11:25,599 Speaker 1: It ain't what you think said who that last? You 187 00:11:25,600 --> 00:11:27,160 Speaker 1: ain't gonna know what hell they're saying it's gonna be 188 00:11:27,240 --> 00:11:30,719 Speaker 1: like disappointment over there. But I don't recommend German and 189 00:11:30,880 --> 00:11:43,199 Speaker 1: either because it's rough, don't feels, don't nobody want to 190 00:11:43,240 --> 00:11:47,040 Speaker 1: give holiday. That's evil sex in Germany. So I don't 191 00:11:47,120 --> 00:11:51,640 Speaker 1: recommend you're going to Germany. Africa not Africa. You can 192 00:11:51,720 --> 00:11:54,240 Speaker 1: go to Africa, gonna be a whole lot like us, 193 00:11:54,640 --> 00:11:58,880 Speaker 1: because that ain't nobody but us. That's Detroit is over there, Chicago, 194 00:11:59,600 --> 00:12:02,520 Speaker 1: Cleveland is over there, and they all look like us 195 00:12:02,720 --> 00:12:04,760 Speaker 1: that it's gonna be some It's gonna be some good 196 00:12:04,840 --> 00:12:06,600 Speaker 1: loving over there, but it's gonna be a little it's 197 00:12:06,640 --> 00:12:09,800 Speaker 1: gonna be a little bit different though. So I'm trying 198 00:12:09,840 --> 00:12:11,640 Speaker 1: to figure out the country. The only country I could 199 00:12:11,640 --> 00:12:15,280 Speaker 1: recommend you go to is Jamaica. Um, you know, because 200 00:12:15,360 --> 00:12:18,160 Speaker 1: they down there and the boys down there bringing it 201 00:12:18,720 --> 00:12:22,120 Speaker 1: and they bring it all. Lot of them over there, 202 00:12:22,200 --> 00:12:24,800 Speaker 1: look like dress is over there's a lot of indresses. 203 00:12:25,559 --> 00:12:28,160 Speaker 1: So you're going over there, sould. That's why I ain't. 204 00:12:28,200 --> 00:12:30,520 Speaker 1: I ain't really got no news for you, except let 205 00:12:30,600 --> 00:12:32,319 Speaker 1: me just help you with this last part. How do 206 00:12:32,400 --> 00:12:35,240 Speaker 1: I get my husband to agree with me leaving the children? 207 00:12:35,280 --> 00:12:37,440 Speaker 1: First of all, you cannot tell him where you're going 208 00:12:37,960 --> 00:12:40,800 Speaker 1: that you cannot do that, and then next you have 209 00:12:41,160 --> 00:12:44,839 Speaker 1: got to lie. See I've told y'all about the truth. 210 00:12:45,360 --> 00:12:49,880 Speaker 1: Truth is overrated. You have got to lie. You cannot 211 00:12:49,960 --> 00:12:54,240 Speaker 1: even remotely suggest that this is where you're going. So 212 00:12:54,480 --> 00:12:56,640 Speaker 1: I would just tell him that you and your girlfriends 213 00:12:56,640 --> 00:12:59,160 Speaker 1: are going to a fat bomb. That's what you need 214 00:12:59,240 --> 00:13:02,000 Speaker 1: to say. You're going go to a fact phone and 215 00:13:02,440 --> 00:13:05,040 Speaker 1: go over there and get worked out till you lose weight, 216 00:13:05,160 --> 00:13:07,360 Speaker 1: and then you come back and he'll believe. That's all 217 00:13:07,400 --> 00:13:09,880 Speaker 1: I have for your ship. And when I are you 218 00:13:09,960 --> 00:13:11,920 Speaker 1: want me to come back, I tell you other countries 219 00:13:11,960 --> 00:13:18,640 Speaker 1: to avoid, But he don't go to Germany going up 220 00:13:18,679 --> 00:13:24,120 Speaker 1: with Junior coming up nesting. You're listening to the Stave 221 00:13:24,240 --> 00:13:25,200 Speaker 1: Harvey Morning Show.