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Speaker 1: Talk, Talk Talk. We're just two unapologetically black women with

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Speaker 1: an opinion. You talked, Oh.

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Speaker 2: What's up y'all? Thank you for tuning in for a

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Speaker 2: new episode, and we talked back A show dedicated to

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Speaker 2: you dreamers and chasers and everybody else.

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Speaker 1: Yeah.

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Speaker 2: Today anyway, it's your co host AJ Holiday.

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Speaker 1: Y'all, it's me Tan Bama. I love y'all once again.

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Speaker 1: I love you, AJ girl. Thanksgiving just passed.

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Speaker 2: Did you eat a lot?

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Speaker 1: Girl? I ate everything wasn't nailed to the table. I

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Speaker 1: went down to Montgomery, Alabama, where my sister lives. She

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Speaker 1: hosted this year, and I was only supposed to make.

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Speaker 1: I set everybody up with what they were supposed to do,

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Speaker 1: and they agreed to it, right, So I made sure

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Speaker 1: to make my lists very small of what I was

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Speaker 1: supposed to do. I was supposed to make a potter

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Speaker 1: rice and some deviled eggs, no mac. Tanisha was insistent

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Speaker 1: that it was her house and she was making the

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Speaker 1: mac and cheese this year. Fine, whatever. Before I knew it,

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Speaker 1: I had done made the collar greens, dressing, rice and gravy,

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Speaker 1: some mashed potatoes and devil eggs, and I was helping

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Speaker 1: her with the mag shame. She tried to show your

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Speaker 1: mac up this year. She tried, she tried. It wasn't mine.

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Speaker 1: It was good, but it wasn't mine. You know what

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Speaker 1: I'm saying. You did anything for the weekend? Oh yeah,

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Speaker 1: we went to We went to the museum, the Legacy

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Speaker 1: Museum in Montgomery. It was very I ain't want to

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Speaker 1: be there. I ran through it. I ain't gonna lie.

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Speaker 1: I ran through it. That ship was like little chap

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Speaker 1: of horrors. It was literally like as soon as you

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Speaker 1: walk in the museum, niggas heads on the ground. God. Yeah,

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Speaker 1: it was like they was in the ocean, the people

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Speaker 1: I don't want to put myself through this. They had

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Speaker 1: looked there like, oh, some of their DNA might be

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Speaker 1: in that sand. What is wrong with people?

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Speaker 2: Like listen, I believe in witchcraft period I might do

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Speaker 2: a little something something. That shit sounds crazy as hell

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Speaker 2: to me that y'all going to take remains from people

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Speaker 1: That is weird to.

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Speaker 2: That's just like when we went to Memphis and y'all

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Speaker 1: That's what I not. That's what I said. I do

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Speaker 1: not do none of that no more. It's just doesn't

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Speaker 1: I was like, do y'all feel good now like this?

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Speaker 1: I feel I feel sad.

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Speaker 2: I have so much more, greater things that we could

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Speaker 2: put in a museum about black people.

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Speaker 1: I swear yeah. I was like, is this our legacy?

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Speaker 1: Because it's called the Legacy Museum, and what nothing but

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Speaker 1: We're living our own trauma. I understand the importantness of

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Speaker 1: importance of knowing the history, but I don't feel like

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Speaker 1: that's for us. I think white people should go to

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Speaker 2: Yes, exactly, how they do to how they how the

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Speaker 2: Jewish people do to people when they step overstep their bounds.

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Speaker 2: They send their ass to the damn the Holocaust museum.

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Speaker 2: That's what that's for. That's not for black people. Y'all

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Speaker 2: have done enough of ciphering our goddamn energy. Yeah, and

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Speaker 2: now you and I saw in the building circulating looking

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Speaker 1: Name, all this pain. So I ran through that ship,

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Speaker 1: straight up, straight up, I ran through that motherfucker, I

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Speaker 2: Like why ya YadA, like I've heard of me like that.

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Speaker 1: That made me feel better, girl, that ship is wild

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Speaker 1: no longer. It ain't over. So then that night to

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Speaker 1: the club called Infusions something like that. Montgomery. These niggas

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Speaker 1: but any other thing. Don't nobody dance? It was weird.

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Speaker 1: Only line dancing. That's the only dancing I seen them do.

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Speaker 1: So you've seen some niggas of gold teeth line dancing,

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Speaker 1: line dancing like a mom shit had seventeen steps up. Well,

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Speaker 1: I think it about you. We need to post that

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Speaker 1: video were supposed toly was doing that?

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Speaker 2: Mia up to me a dance?

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Speaker 1: Oh I tried to learn that shit over.

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Speaker 2: We can't too, No, girl, I ain't got enough coordination

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Speaker 2: for other things too much to remember.

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Speaker 2: So this weekend, So this weekend I went to Charleston

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Speaker 2: and the Thanksgiving Thanksgiving wasn't nothing major. It's just we

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Speaker 2: don't need to eat anyway. She cooked like turkey wings

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Speaker 2: Friday night, so our schools are high schools, they had

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Speaker 2: The high schools that I went to in West Ashley,

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Speaker 2: And then we went to a little hood spot after that,

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Speaker 1: I ain't see no my fucking heads in the sand. Right,

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Speaker 1: you went to a black school, I said, I said,

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Speaker 2: We don't have a well, I guess you could. You

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Speaker 2: North Charlston would be a black school. But no, I'm

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Speaker 2: two high schools we had St. Andrews and Middleton, they

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Speaker 1: So it was cool. You. I feel like black schools

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Speaker 1: I ain't seen the motherfucker since I graduated. We had nothing.

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Speaker 1: It's so weird that.

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Speaker 2: Yeah, we didn't go to all all white schools or

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Speaker 2: maybe we're the only one that actually put these stuff together.

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Speaker 2: Because I'm gonna tell you, I feel like I mentioned

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Speaker 2: like the black people planned the reunion, it was really really,

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Speaker 2: But like I said, we came from two different high schools,

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Speaker 2: so Middleton was more of the honky tongue school, you

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Speaker 2: know what I'm saying. The Snandrews, like we all raised together,

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Speaker 2: the black and white people. The white people from Middleton

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Speaker 2: They're like, I don't know any of these people. They

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Speaker 1: Girl.

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Speaker 2: They didn't even come to the reunion.

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Speaker 1: Well, welcome to South Carolina. So ooh, girl, isn't it anyway?

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Speaker 1: That was my weekend? Child.

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Speaker 2: Let's take a break right quick and get into this

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Speaker 2: stupid internet news.

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Speaker 1: All right, y'all, we back and Kingly disaster.

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Speaker 2: What we know all y'all seen King and t I

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Speaker 2: arguing over the weekend.

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Speaker 1: Tiny too oh, Tiny was there too? Right?

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Speaker 2: I can't hear a little voice in the background, just

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Speaker 2: that that fucking spoiled as bratt. Okay, it's gonna come

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Speaker 2: a day when you got to put hands on one

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Speaker 2: of your kids, at least one, it's gonna give you hell.

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Speaker 1: And he's that metal kid. He is one of the children.

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Speaker 1: He is entitled. He's just not a nice young man period.

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Speaker 1: He's not nice to his parents. How he presents on

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Speaker 1: social media. It's just not becoming. They named him King.

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Speaker 1: That's where they fucked up. He probably already got a

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Speaker 1: need to like cut him off financially so he can

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Speaker 2: I think no, I don't think they need to. I

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Speaker 2: think he needs to go to therapy. I went to

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Speaker 2: I do think he has some mental health that she

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Speaker 2: so I can see, like what his comments usually look like.

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Speaker 2: The amount of people that was calling that boy ugly

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Speaker 2: it's just me looking at it. Yeah, right, So imagine

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Speaker 2: being the recipient of these comments daily when.

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Speaker 1: You just try to live Breathe he has.

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Speaker 2: He definitely has a complex, multiple of them, and the

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Speaker 2: Internet play a big role in that. Yeah, Like, and

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Speaker 2: how do you while everybody you know he looks different,

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Speaker 2: We're just going to say that he does look different.

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Speaker 1: Right. I don't think the drags.

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Speaker 2: Help, you know, he may me just get a little

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Speaker 2: regular color haircut.

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Speaker 1: But I think, all right, So I think these young

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Speaker 1: people have like social anxieties that we didn't have, and

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Speaker 1: you know, not in the amount that has it. And

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Speaker 1: I really think that they be hiding under that hair

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Speaker 1: and that's why they grow it down in their face

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Speaker 1: so they can hide under it. Why is your hair

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Speaker 2: Now me, if that were my child, we'd be going

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Speaker 2: to therapy because now your TI's son, right, You're trying

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Speaker 2: to now, you know, have your own separate identity from

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Speaker 2: your parents, and look how you're being received by the world.

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Speaker 1: But I think cutting him off from money and excess

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Speaker 1: is a form of therapy because he wants to. It's

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Speaker 1: an exercise because you feel like you struggle and may

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Speaker 1: I won't say he don't have no traumas, because just

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Speaker 1: because you have money doesn't mean that you don't see

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Speaker 1: trauma growing up. Right, we all have things that happen

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Speaker 1: to us, whether we're poor or rich. But you want

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Speaker 1: to be hood so bad, I'm gonna give you an

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Speaker 1: Not just yeah.

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Speaker 2: But then their son might end up in prison. They

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Speaker 2: might he might end up in prison. You know what

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Speaker 2: I'm talking about the collective because this is never my mind,

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Speaker 2: King started arguing with his parents. Voices intentions continue to

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Speaker 2: You are an embarrassment to your family.

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Speaker 2: Later, King of so your exactly Later, King appeared to

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Speaker 1: So you feel like this nigga who stands on business

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Speaker 2: And even his own daddy clan in him. It says

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Speaker 1: You gotta act like you don't see that ship about

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Speaker 2: So more of the story is he needs ask well,

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Speaker 2: but he also needs their man. He going through it.

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Speaker 1: He going through it. He needs therapy, and he needs

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Speaker 2: Nah, I don't think that's the way, but anyway.

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Speaker 1: from a dark angry place. It ain't gonna come from

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Speaker 1: a dark angry place like what cut you off? No,

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Speaker 1: it's like more like we want you to experience life

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Speaker 1: so you can understand how privileged you really have been,

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Speaker 1: because there's a disconnect somewhere. It don't have to be

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Speaker 1: it don't. I ain't say put him on the street,

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Speaker 2: He might not even have the wherewithal to create something

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Speaker 2: I like, that's he.

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Speaker 1: Ain't kid give him like take He probably still live

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Speaker 1: only nineteen years old. He's only nineteen years old. I

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Speaker 1: doubt that he's got his own place. So it an't

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Speaker 1: He's just a kid. Parents, That's what I'm saying, giving

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Speaker 2: M I feel I have a lot of I think

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Speaker 2: seen how people be talking to him and then you're

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Speaker 1: At you, like what the fuck?

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Speaker 2: Like, why is that even happening? How did he cause

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Speaker 2: was he's talking shit to somebody? Like why is that happening?

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Speaker 1: I think it's been his social media persona that he gives,

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Speaker 2: All right, let's move on from King a little badass. Anyway,

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Speaker 2: We're gonna pray finally, we love you, my young boy.

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Speaker 2: Y'all listen, if you are on dating websites hinge, uh,

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Speaker 2: plenty of fish.

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Speaker 1: What's the other one? I know? You know, I'm dam

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Speaker 1: give me another talking about you know. I know, because

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Speaker 1: I ain't got no money. There's hinge plenty of fish, tender,

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Speaker 1: there's rayah.

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Speaker 2: That's how I want to get on, riya bitch, get on.

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Speaker 1: No, they won't let me on. I don't think I

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Speaker 1: think it's on Riyah. I deleted that app. I got

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Speaker 1: mad because it's been months the.

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Speaker 2: Fuck so black people think, oh yeah, black people meet.

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Speaker 2: So apparently there's this thing called food Digger. This article

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Speaker 2: says food Digger scam. Beware of new scam on dating

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Speaker 1: Y'all.

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Speaker 2: So apparently the restaurants, the restaurants are using bots and

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Speaker 2: they're on these dating websites. They are courting women and

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Speaker 2: Your mindset is like, well shit, I'm here already, let

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Speaker 2: me go ahead and eat. The date unfollows you, unmatches

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Speaker 2: with you on the dating app, and now you're spending

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Speaker 2: drinks because now you're depressed. They need a fucking ass fud.

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Speaker 1: Listen, and you sitting at the Cheesecake Factor like I

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Speaker 1: That's fucked up. That's real, fucked up people is just

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Speaker 2: Yeah, like what like I would have never ever, like

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Speaker 1: Like imagine Red Loss to be a real charming with

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Speaker 1: you in the app so you can go have cheddar

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Speaker 1: bag biscuits. It's crazy, Red Loss of Like, so where

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Speaker 1: are you from? Bro?

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Speaker 2: That's crazy.

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Speaker 1: That's fucking crazy.

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Speaker 2: They need their ass what so the restaurants to like say,

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Speaker 2: for instance, what you like to eat?

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Speaker 2: But they're not like on the apps as Red Lobster

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Speaker 1: I'm just saying it's really Red Lobster, but it's a person.

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Speaker 1: It's a buy right. Yep. That's terrible. I really love people.

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Speaker 1: I really love Red Lobster. We should meet there.

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Speaker 2: Did you see that video of Red Lobster had like

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Speaker 1: In the food? Oh no, let's gross.

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Speaker 2: Yeah yeah, I like a lot of them too. I

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Speaker 1: But yeah, but in the same breath, the food I

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Speaker 1: that is the case, y'all.

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Speaker 2: So did I know everybody pretty much watched Squid Squid Games?

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Speaker 1: I think what year was that.

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Speaker 2: H Squid Games came out so right now, and I

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Speaker 1: Now they have a real life.

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Speaker 2: Challenge, like a real life challenge, Square Games Challenge on

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Speaker 2: Netflix right now.

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Speaker 1: You couldn't get me to sign up for that shit,

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Speaker 1: absolutely not.

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Speaker 2: And apparently the players want compensation for injuries.

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Speaker 1: Did y'all not watch the movie, right, y'all? Lucky y'all

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Speaker 1: ain't dead. Stupid ass took y'all out there and put

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Speaker 1: on that green Dicky soup. No, it's a sweat, isn't.

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Speaker 1: Is it green or orange? It's green?

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Speaker 2: Oh oh yeah, okay, And it says contestants on Netflix

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Speaker 2: Squid Game the challenge are seeking compensation for alleged injuries,

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Speaker 2: Express Solicitors, they claimed poor health and safety standards are

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Speaker 2: I mean, and essentially it is a job, So why

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Speaker 2: would you not be able to get some type of

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Speaker 2: workers compensation? But they need to check the contract that

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Speaker 2: they signed when they signed up for this fucking challenge

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Speaker 2: where people actually were dying on the movie.

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Speaker 1: Yeah, how would y'all expect I don't understand you could,

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Speaker 1: like we're doing a real squid games. Would you like

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Speaker 1: to sign up? No, niggas die, I'm not playing that game.

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Speaker 1: I might you would. I can see you right now.

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Speaker 1: Number four fifty six, Oh yeah, I.

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Speaker 1: No you like six ' nine?

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Speaker 2: I don't like six nine? Actually do you like it?

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Speaker 1: I don't know's I can't enjoy it.

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Speaker 2: If I got a word, I like to see my

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Speaker 2: do this and that at the same time, like, what

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00:24:23,000 --> 00:24:28,359
Speaker 2: is happening? It's not enjoyable for real, yang, y'all. So

440
00:24:28,440 --> 00:24:30,160
Speaker 2: that sence for the week, y'all.

441
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Speaker 1: So on Sunday, I was laying in bed and I

442
00:24:33,040 --> 00:24:37,560
Speaker 1: was just like I had this pensive spirit. I was melancholy.

443
00:24:37,640 --> 00:24:39,159
Speaker 1: I don't even know what to call it. I just

444
00:24:39,280 --> 00:24:44,240
Speaker 1: was not feeling my joy yourself at all. It felt

445
00:24:44,320 --> 00:24:47,880
Speaker 1: real low. I was feeling mindy bad. I was feeling

446
00:24:47,960 --> 00:24:52,840
Speaker 1: real down like Sophia from Colorful. And I was like thinking,

447
00:24:52,920 --> 00:24:56,520
Speaker 1: like does it have something to do with the season?

448
00:24:57,040 --> 00:24:59,280
Speaker 1: And I know a lot of people are suffering from

449
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Speaker 1: seasonal to pre so I wanted us to give into

450
00:25:02,040 --> 00:25:04,360
Speaker 1: the conversation of what that is and how we can

451
00:25:04,440 --> 00:25:08,959
Speaker 1: cope as black people are all people can use these tools,

452
00:25:08,960 --> 00:25:11,600
Speaker 1: but this was specific to black people because I am Black.

453
00:25:12,280 --> 00:25:16,640
Speaker 1: So I have seven ways to cope with seasonal depression.

454
00:25:17,040 --> 00:25:23,560
Speaker 1: So after this break, we'll get into it. And where

455
00:25:23,600 --> 00:25:23,840
Speaker 1: have I.

456
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Speaker 2: So, Tam, what exactly is seasonal depression? Do we know

457
00:25:30,200 --> 00:25:31,200
Speaker 2: exactly what it is?

458
00:25:31,359 --> 00:25:36,280
Speaker 1: All right? So? Seasonal depression, also known as seasonal effective

459
00:25:36,280 --> 00:25:40,639
Speaker 1: disorder SAD, is the acronym for it is a mood

460
00:25:40,640 --> 00:25:43,879
Speaker 1: disorder characterized by depression that occurs at the same time

461
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Speaker 1: every year. Typically it's when during the climate change, when

462
00:25:50,640 --> 00:25:55,800
Speaker 1: there's less sunlight. Typically people aren't typically depressed during the summertime.

463
00:25:55,840 --> 00:25:59,239
Speaker 1: It's usually when it's colder. And I think for you know,

464
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Speaker 1: African Americans, you know, we already have a vitamin D

465
00:26:02,920 --> 00:26:08,399
Speaker 1: deficiency because we are we have melanin and it blocks

466
00:26:08,400 --> 00:26:11,720
Speaker 1: out the sun more than others. So that vitamin D,

467
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Speaker 1: you know, I think it's important for us to add

468
00:26:14,960 --> 00:26:17,960
Speaker 1: it to our diet during the winter months because I

469
00:26:17,960 --> 00:26:21,440
Speaker 1: think that does help with seasonal depression. I'm not sure though,

470
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Speaker 1: but no.

471
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Speaker 2: That I mean that makes sense yet because black people

472
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Speaker 2: do our son, I mean, excuse me, our son, that

473
00:26:29,800 --> 00:26:32,919
Speaker 2: is our son, Okay, it is literally for us, and

474
00:26:32,960 --> 00:26:35,359
Speaker 2: that's why. And it winter times, black people may be

475
00:26:35,440 --> 00:26:37,560
Speaker 2: a little bit more depressed because you know, we white

476
00:26:37,560 --> 00:26:40,280
Speaker 2: people can stand the coal a little bit more than

477
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Speaker 2: we can.

478
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Speaker 1: It's just a known fact, okay. And so.

479
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Speaker 2: I would say, yeah, man, get you a good ass

480
00:26:48,400 --> 00:26:52,600
Speaker 2: vitamin D and and add it beef up on it,

481
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Speaker 2: because I mean, I feel like, I feel like black

482
00:26:54,359 --> 00:26:56,480
Speaker 2: we should already be taking some extra vitamin.

483
00:26:56,240 --> 00:27:01,040
Speaker 1: D and not penis. Not penis girls, I know it's

484
00:27:01,080 --> 00:27:04,440
Speaker 1: a busual listening. I get vitamin D every night. Not that.

485
00:27:06,840 --> 00:27:12,280
Speaker 2: When it's cold outside, No, I feel it. I feel

486
00:27:12,280 --> 00:27:14,840
Speaker 2: it because I feel like when it's Yeah, I like

487
00:27:14,920 --> 00:27:17,439
Speaker 2: when it's I like the summertime. I like to go

488
00:27:17,560 --> 00:27:19,600
Speaker 2: sit out in the grass and just you know, absorb

489
00:27:19,720 --> 00:27:22,400
Speaker 2: the sun. And in the winter, I mean the sun

490
00:27:22,480 --> 00:27:25,600
Speaker 2: is still out, but it's like cold.

491
00:27:26,760 --> 00:27:30,560
Speaker 1: I'm not sitting outside. I'd be feeling like more said,

492
00:27:31,560 --> 00:27:35,159
Speaker 1: even like at night. And I think it's because my

493
00:27:35,280 --> 00:27:39,360
Speaker 1: bed is empty every night and I reminded that I'm alone. No,

494
00:27:39,400 --> 00:27:39,719
Speaker 1: I'm not.

495
00:27:40,440 --> 00:27:41,840
Speaker 2: Do you have sads?

496
00:27:42,040 --> 00:27:43,000
Speaker 1: Is that really sad?

497
00:27:43,680 --> 00:27:49,680
Speaker 2: Which is the the seasonal depression or is it something else?

498
00:27:51,080 --> 00:27:54,320
Speaker 1: Uh? No, it's really it is, because I've read that

499
00:27:54,560 --> 00:27:59,600
Speaker 1: it can increase at night during the night time that you're.

500
00:27:58,960 --> 00:28:01,760
Speaker 2: If you think about animal like think about beers, they say,

501
00:28:01,760 --> 00:28:04,239
Speaker 2: animals who end up having to hibernate by themselves, they

502
00:28:04,320 --> 00:28:06,919
Speaker 2: usually die. Like you are supposed to be partnered up,

503
00:28:07,080 --> 00:28:11,560
Speaker 2: especially in the winter, especially in the winter months, like

504
00:28:13,000 --> 00:28:16,439
Speaker 2: humans just sophisticated animals. So where's your partner, you know,

505
00:28:16,480 --> 00:28:20,239
Speaker 2: to help you because hugs safe lives. Rubbing feet on

506
00:28:20,240 --> 00:28:22,040
Speaker 2: the nigga feet saved lives.

507
00:28:23,160 --> 00:28:27,240
Speaker 1: Right. Why ain't got about that? I don't know, because

508
00:28:27,280 --> 00:28:29,800
Speaker 1: I can't just invite somebody to my bed, you know,

509
00:28:29,920 --> 00:28:32,640
Speaker 1: and I don't want to just be in someone else's bed.

510
00:28:33,240 --> 00:28:34,880
Speaker 1: You know. It has to be right because you fucking

511
00:28:34,920 --> 00:28:36,680
Speaker 1: around and have the wrong nigga. Then you be sad

512
00:28:36,680 --> 00:28:41,360
Speaker 1: because you rob you know, you know, stole at your house.

513
00:28:43,040 --> 00:28:46,280
Speaker 2: It really stole five dollars out your pocketbook while you

514
00:28:46,360 --> 00:28:48,040
Speaker 2: had right all that bullshit.

515
00:28:48,400 --> 00:28:51,200
Speaker 1: Now you really said, Now you got seasonal depression and

516
00:28:51,360 --> 00:28:56,640
Speaker 1: you're missing money? Like that? Ain't cool? TV gone, I

517
00:28:56,680 --> 00:28:59,479
Speaker 1: got my I got my eyes set on one person.

518
00:29:00,160 --> 00:29:02,560
Speaker 1: But I'm gonna talk about it in my therapy session

519
00:29:02,600 --> 00:29:06,440
Speaker 1: because I feel like I be too excited about these

520
00:29:06,520 --> 00:29:10,959
Speaker 1: niggas when I like them and they be noticing, like,

521
00:29:11,120 --> 00:29:14,200
Speaker 1: is am I thirsty? Is it given? Thirsty? And running

522
00:29:14,280 --> 00:29:15,040
Speaker 1: like a nigga off?

523
00:29:17,240 --> 00:29:21,800
Speaker 2: Unfortunately, we have to play a game with men. Sometimes

524
00:29:21,920 --> 00:29:25,600
Speaker 2: some men will match your energy, but others is like

525
00:29:25,720 --> 00:29:28,160
Speaker 2: you have to act like you despise them niggas for

526
00:29:28,240 --> 00:29:30,360
Speaker 2: them to fall in love with you. And I just

527
00:29:30,360 --> 00:29:32,960
Speaker 2: don't have that type of time. Yeah, I can't have

528
00:29:33,040 --> 00:29:34,600
Speaker 2: that type of time. And in a minute, you stop

529
00:29:34,840 --> 00:29:37,360
Speaker 2: answering the phone or a minute, you stop responding immediately,

530
00:29:37,520 --> 00:29:40,360
Speaker 2: then they start ramping up on you. Those are niggas

531
00:29:40,360 --> 00:29:43,120
Speaker 2: you gotta stay away from because see they they got

532
00:29:43,160 --> 00:29:45,400
Speaker 2: mental issues. Now they trying to love bomb you and

533
00:29:45,400 --> 00:29:47,920
Speaker 2: shit when you've removed your energy from them.

534
00:29:48,840 --> 00:29:51,080
Speaker 1: Should I feel a way if I'm having a text

535
00:29:51,080 --> 00:29:55,880
Speaker 1: conversation with someone and they just stop responding abruptly, Yes.

536
00:29:56,120 --> 00:29:58,800
Speaker 2: Nobody does that to somebody they like they want to

537
00:29:58,840 --> 00:30:00,960
Speaker 2: make sure you know these times.

538
00:30:00,760 --> 00:30:05,160
Speaker 1: Just come back when like a day later, finishing the conversation.

539
00:30:05,280 --> 00:30:05,760
Speaker 1: That's wow.

540
00:30:06,440 --> 00:30:08,440
Speaker 2: Well, if you in the stages are trying to get

541
00:30:08,520 --> 00:30:11,200
Speaker 2: to know somebody like via text is never the way anyway,

542
00:30:11,280 --> 00:30:13,040
Speaker 2: Like why we're not on the phone, because once you're

543
00:30:13,040 --> 00:30:14,880
Speaker 2: don't talk for like thirty minutes an hour. I really

544
00:30:14,920 --> 00:30:16,560
Speaker 2: don't need to be texting no more for the day.

545
00:30:17,040 --> 00:30:18,920
Speaker 2: I've already gotten out everything I need to say to

546
00:30:18,960 --> 00:30:22,760
Speaker 2: you on the phone. Call men who like the text,

547
00:30:22,800 --> 00:30:25,240
Speaker 2: women who like the text they have they don't like conversation.

548
00:30:25,640 --> 00:30:27,120
Speaker 2: I like to converse me too.

549
00:30:27,160 --> 00:30:30,200
Speaker 1: I like to be on the phone, So no, don't

550
00:30:30,240 --> 00:30:33,400
Speaker 1: fucking start a conversation with me via text. And then

551
00:30:33,520 --> 00:30:38,080
Speaker 1: as I'm responding. You just stop responding. That's so rude.

552
00:30:38,480 --> 00:30:41,160
Speaker 2: Because it might be flying, driving, all type of shit

553
00:30:41,200 --> 00:30:42,960
Speaker 2: be going on. That's what I'm saying, And just call

554
00:30:43,040 --> 00:30:45,240
Speaker 2: and have a conversation right quick when you get a moment,

555
00:30:45,640 --> 00:30:49,160
Speaker 2: then that way it won't be no text balls dropped.

556
00:30:49,080 --> 00:30:51,680
Speaker 1: All right, So let me get into this list, you guys.

557
00:30:51,960 --> 00:30:55,280
Speaker 1: The first way, there's a therapist named Harris, and this

558
00:30:55,400 --> 00:30:59,200
Speaker 1: is from isy inlive dot com. And the first thing

559
00:30:59,280 --> 00:31:02,320
Speaker 1: for you to do, it's feel your feelings. So Harris

560
00:31:02,360 --> 00:31:06,680
Speaker 1: suggests spending intentional time to acknowledge and assess your feelings,

561
00:31:06,840 --> 00:31:09,800
Speaker 1: but don't wallow in them. Black women don't often give

562
00:31:09,840 --> 00:31:13,280
Speaker 1: themselves permission to feel tender emotions because they are often

563
00:31:13,640 --> 00:31:16,880
Speaker 1: encouraged to be strong. Share your feelings, whether it be

564
00:31:16,880 --> 00:31:19,720
Speaker 1: with friends and family or therapists. Make sure that you

565
00:31:19,800 --> 00:31:23,920
Speaker 1: aren't suffering in silence. Now that's a lot of people. Yeah,

566
00:31:24,120 --> 00:31:26,360
Speaker 1: people don't even know how to identify what they feel,

567
00:31:26,360 --> 00:31:30,680
Speaker 1: and they just walk around feeling miserable and not saying shit.

568
00:31:31,160 --> 00:31:34,480
Speaker 1: Because we've been talking to cope with everything.

569
00:31:35,280 --> 00:31:37,840
Speaker 2: And that's why I put on I mean, we are

570
00:31:37,880 --> 00:31:40,600
Speaker 2: not licensed therapists, but I think I give pretty good advice,

571
00:31:40,680 --> 00:31:45,120
Speaker 2: and I'm definitely a good listening heir. That's why I

572
00:31:45,120 --> 00:31:47,920
Speaker 2: put on the story, Like, if anybody want to chat,

573
00:31:47,960 --> 00:31:48,840
Speaker 2: this is what we're talking about.

574
00:31:48,920 --> 00:31:49,760
Speaker 1: If anybody need.

575
00:31:49,600 --> 00:31:51,640
Speaker 2: To talk, just to get people out, like because people

576
00:31:51,680 --> 00:31:53,760
Speaker 2: DMUs stuff all the time. But maybe they didn't see

577
00:31:53,960 --> 00:31:58,560
Speaker 2: the story so they can could have could have called

578
00:31:58,600 --> 00:32:00,480
Speaker 2: in and had a conversation right us.

579
00:32:00,520 --> 00:32:04,400
Speaker 1: How you feeling shit? How you getting through sads right now?

580
00:32:05,480 --> 00:32:08,480
Speaker 1: I don't think it's no ass on it. How you

581
00:32:08,520 --> 00:32:13,960
Speaker 1: getting through sad right now? Yoh yeah. So then the

582
00:32:14,040 --> 00:32:16,080
Speaker 1: list goes on to say what we already said, reach

583
00:32:16,120 --> 00:32:18,960
Speaker 1: for your vitamin D. Y'all. Guys, they have h one

584
00:32:19,000 --> 00:32:22,120
Speaker 1: called Black Girl Vitamin D. Y'all should check that one out, Uh,

585
00:32:22,360 --> 00:32:25,920
Speaker 1: specific to your black body, created by other black women.

586
00:32:26,440 --> 00:32:29,760
Speaker 1: So try that. But we're gonna move on from that one.

587
00:32:30,160 --> 00:32:32,920
Speaker 1: Move your body, so this is an important one.

588
00:32:32,960 --> 00:32:36,120
Speaker 2: I think that's why I got sad right now. I

589
00:32:36,160 --> 00:32:38,960
Speaker 2: am not moving my fucking body.

590
00:32:40,400 --> 00:32:44,360
Speaker 1: Physical activities such as exercise has shown the decreased symptoms

591
00:32:44,400 --> 00:32:49,680
Speaker 1: of depression. Exercise benefits your brain by increasing memory, relieving stress,

592
00:32:49,680 --> 00:32:52,400
Speaker 1: and improving your sleep, all things that can be beneficial

593
00:32:52,400 --> 00:32:55,760
Speaker 1: to improving your daily function. So y'all get y'all ass

594
00:32:55,800 --> 00:32:57,360
Speaker 1: up and go to that gym. You got in the

595
00:32:57,400 --> 00:32:59,840
Speaker 1: gym in your apartment complex. But you don't have no

596
00:33:00,800 --> 00:33:05,400
Speaker 1: not to take your ass over there. Yo, it's a

597
00:33:05,400 --> 00:33:07,680
Speaker 1: bitch listening. Damn, she's talking to me. I do gotta

598
00:33:07,760 --> 00:33:08,760
Speaker 1: give me this month.

599
00:33:10,880 --> 00:33:13,040
Speaker 2: Even if you just got some ten pounds weights, just

600
00:33:13,080 --> 00:33:14,680
Speaker 2: do some of her calisthetics.

601
00:33:15,080 --> 00:33:16,880
Speaker 1: Yeah, I'm gonna do a workout today.

602
00:33:17,560 --> 00:33:18,520
Speaker 2: I like work out today.

603
00:33:18,840 --> 00:33:20,760
Speaker 1: I went back to spend. I had took like literally

604
00:33:20,840 --> 00:33:24,000
Speaker 1: a month off again half of my way back just

605
00:33:24,040 --> 00:33:27,960
Speaker 1: in a month. So I went back and I really

606
00:33:28,040 --> 00:33:29,959
Speaker 1: enjoyed it. I did twelve miles on that bike, and

607
00:33:29,960 --> 00:33:32,440
Speaker 1: that night I did sleep a lot more peacefully than

608
00:33:33,240 --> 00:33:38,480
Speaker 1: the other nights. So gotta get yourself physically active.

609
00:33:38,400 --> 00:33:41,240
Speaker 2: Or if you got a man, If you got a man,

610
00:33:41,320 --> 00:33:43,720
Speaker 2: stop being a pillow princess and ride that dick.

611
00:33:43,880 --> 00:33:45,320
Speaker 1: Okay, get some cardio in.

612
00:33:45,520 --> 00:33:48,680
Speaker 2: I literally wear my fitbit when I'm riding dick, okay,

613
00:33:49,080 --> 00:33:51,480
Speaker 2: because I like to count calories. I like to see

614
00:33:51,480 --> 00:33:53,920
Speaker 2: how many calories I've burned, and you can actually burn

615
00:33:53,960 --> 00:33:55,440
Speaker 2: a lot of calories having sex.

616
00:33:56,200 --> 00:33:59,080
Speaker 1: Oh my god, I was what that? But you're right,

617
00:33:59,120 --> 00:34:03,680
Speaker 1: You're absolutely right if you go. But they need.

618
00:34:05,240 --> 00:34:07,520
Speaker 2: You know how you can select your exercise. They need

619
00:34:07,560 --> 00:34:09,759
Speaker 2: to add sex to it. Why sex in on there?

620
00:34:10,160 --> 00:34:13,160
Speaker 2: I gotta just indoor physical activity.

621
00:34:13,640 --> 00:34:17,680
Speaker 1: Because how you're gonna like decide like a bitch a

622
00:34:17,760 --> 00:34:20,080
Speaker 1: lay on her back and say, yeah, I burned seven

623
00:34:20,120 --> 00:34:22,359
Speaker 1: hand the calories. That's why I said, ride dick.

624
00:34:22,680 --> 00:34:25,200
Speaker 2: Okay, you gotta get up and ride it.

625
00:34:25,320 --> 00:34:28,160
Speaker 1: You can't imagine your app have it ride dick as

626
00:34:28,200 --> 00:34:30,440
Speaker 1: an option. Imagine it. It's just sex.

627
00:34:30,800 --> 00:34:31,640
Speaker 2: Just put sex.

628
00:34:33,000 --> 00:34:35,520
Speaker 1: But sex isn't always exercise.

629
00:34:36,440 --> 00:34:38,800
Speaker 2: It is even with laying on your back, like the breathing,

630
00:34:38,880 --> 00:34:41,359
Speaker 2: all of that causes you to burn calories, even if

631
00:34:41,400 --> 00:34:42,560
Speaker 2: you know are not the one.

632
00:34:42,640 --> 00:34:45,200
Speaker 1: Actually, I know some bitches they burned not a liquor

633
00:34:45,239 --> 00:34:47,759
Speaker 1: calorie laying there getting humped by a nigga breathing in

634
00:34:47,800 --> 00:35:02,320
Speaker 1: the face. Get off, Get off, all right? So it says,

635
00:35:03,800 --> 00:35:07,520
Speaker 1: take advantage of natural light. Avoid me up and open

636
00:35:07,520 --> 00:35:11,240
Speaker 1: the windows, y'all. Yeah, open your blinds. Avoid being cooped

637
00:35:11,320 --> 00:35:13,319
Speaker 1: up in doors all day. If you can do your

638
00:35:13,320 --> 00:35:15,160
Speaker 1: best to go out as much as you can during

639
00:35:15,200 --> 00:35:18,279
Speaker 1: the daylight hours, A quick walk around the block may help.

640
00:35:18,360 --> 00:35:21,399
Speaker 1: Elevate your mood, clear your mind, and give extra bit

641
00:35:21,440 --> 00:35:24,920
Speaker 1: of energy. Many of us are home more than ever before,

642
00:35:25,080 --> 00:35:28,359
Speaker 1: so to decrease the likelihood of cabin fever, make sure

643
00:35:28,360 --> 00:35:31,080
Speaker 1: to step outside, even if it's for five to ten minutes.

644
00:35:31,920 --> 00:35:34,839
Speaker 2: Yeah, so even if it's coal outside, like, just go out.

645
00:35:34,840 --> 00:35:38,800
Speaker 2: The sun is still out right, So like twelve o'clock

646
00:35:38,880 --> 00:35:41,799
Speaker 2: is when the sun is the hottest. Usually between like

647
00:35:41,840 --> 00:35:44,399
Speaker 2: twelve and three right now, because it is getting dark

648
00:35:44,400 --> 00:35:48,520
Speaker 2: at five forty five, yeah, I know, yeah, maybe even

649
00:35:48,560 --> 00:35:52,000
Speaker 2: even earlier than that, ten between ten and two. Go outside,

650
00:35:52,280 --> 00:35:52,919
Speaker 2: can't you get?

651
00:35:52,960 --> 00:35:56,680
Speaker 1: Like I've seen where people had like artificial sun lamps

652
00:35:57,120 --> 00:36:00,120
Speaker 1: that's not the UV, like, yeah, to get put it

653
00:36:00,160 --> 00:36:02,160
Speaker 1: in your room and just lay up under it.

654
00:36:02,960 --> 00:36:07,320
Speaker 2: I remember, I have a skin disease called pity yourized rosia.

655
00:36:07,360 --> 00:36:08,320
Speaker 1: It don't bother me anymore.

656
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Speaker 2: When I stopped being chicken, I don't have the issues

657
00:36:10,239 --> 00:36:12,919
Speaker 2: no more. But I used to go to the tanning bed,

658
00:36:13,120 --> 00:36:17,440
Speaker 2: and that shit gave me hives. Tanning bed, yes, so

659
00:36:17,680 --> 00:36:18,600
Speaker 2: I'm allergic to.

660
00:36:18,920 --> 00:36:24,440
Speaker 1: That fake light. So what you was doing there, I

661
00:36:24,520 --> 00:36:25,439
Speaker 1: was in the tanning bed.

662
00:36:25,520 --> 00:36:27,560
Speaker 2: That's all I did is went there with a bathing

663
00:36:27,600 --> 00:36:30,520
Speaker 2: suit on and for what turn the tanner bed on.

664
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Speaker 2: It helps your skin, It helps the skin heel.

665
00:36:34,000 --> 00:36:39,160
Speaker 1: Oh from the sick Yeah that's yeah, but it wasn't

666
00:36:39,200 --> 00:36:39,640
Speaker 1: helping me.

667
00:36:40,239 --> 00:36:43,720
Speaker 2: That shit gave me fucking hives on top of the

668
00:36:43,760 --> 00:36:44,919
Speaker 2: other skin is shoe I got.

669
00:36:45,000 --> 00:36:51,120
Speaker 1: Now I'm fucking itching from UV allergy. I guess you

670
00:36:51,160 --> 00:36:53,160
Speaker 1: couldn't get me to get my whole body under their

671
00:36:53,160 --> 00:37:01,279
Speaker 1: fingernail light A light for your whole I would like

672
00:37:01,320 --> 00:37:03,200
Speaker 1: sticking my hands in that motherfucking thing.

673
00:37:03,680 --> 00:37:06,400
Speaker 2: Oh, the sauna, even if you know, even if you

674
00:37:06,400 --> 00:37:08,839
Speaker 2: don't work out, go to the sauna, just like that's

675
00:37:08,960 --> 00:37:12,080
Speaker 2: the heat, the steam and all that. That should make

676
00:37:12,120 --> 00:37:14,239
Speaker 2: you feel good too. A you do burn calories in

677
00:37:14,239 --> 00:37:17,000
Speaker 2: the sauna. Yeah, so it's like a little tiny little

678
00:37:17,040 --> 00:37:19,320
Speaker 2: workout and it might make you feel better too, sleep

679
00:37:19,360 --> 00:37:20,080
Speaker 2: better for sure.

680
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Speaker 1: I love the song, dude.

681
00:37:22,040 --> 00:37:24,040
Speaker 2: Yeah, so do like thirty minutes in the sauna if

682
00:37:24,040 --> 00:37:25,960
Speaker 2: you can. You might have to step out and breathe

683
00:37:25,960 --> 00:37:26,839
Speaker 2: a little bit and come back.

684
00:37:27,239 --> 00:37:30,560
Speaker 1: The problem with the sauna is Black women we have

685
00:37:30,640 --> 00:37:33,680
Speaker 1: like this relationship with our hair in exercise that just

686
00:37:33,719 --> 00:37:36,319
Speaker 1: has been like unhealthy. Man.

687
00:37:37,360 --> 00:37:38,880
Speaker 2: I don't think they just give a fuck no more.

688
00:37:38,920 --> 00:37:41,160
Speaker 2: Everybody won't look fine now man, y'all.

689
00:37:41,040 --> 00:37:41,640
Speaker 1: Care about hair?

690
00:37:42,120 --> 00:37:46,120
Speaker 2: Y'all still care about y'all hair. I do y'all snatches

691
00:37:46,160 --> 00:37:49,160
Speaker 2: fucking wig off, man, because you got them a wig.

692
00:37:49,360 --> 00:37:51,200
Speaker 1: But if you got clippings and you got like a

693
00:37:51,200 --> 00:37:55,759
Speaker 1: silk press, it's like fucked up. Now. I'm getting some

694
00:37:55,760 --> 00:37:58,600
Speaker 1: brace today. I'm getting some brace today for that very reason,

695
00:37:58,640 --> 00:38:01,759
Speaker 1: because I want to lose at least ten pounds before

696
00:38:01,760 --> 00:38:05,640
Speaker 1: the new year, if possible, before the new year. So

697
00:38:05,760 --> 00:38:10,240
Speaker 1: we'll see, all right, next one, write it out. Harris

698
00:38:10,280 --> 00:38:14,000
Speaker 1: suggests taking inventory of your thoughts and emotions by journaling,

699
00:38:14,440 --> 00:38:17,279
Speaker 1: recognize your triggers, and possibly log in the time of

700
00:38:17,400 --> 00:38:20,080
Speaker 1: day in which you experience a decline and mood and energy.

701
00:38:20,360 --> 00:38:23,280
Speaker 1: This way you can be proactive and self care and mindset.

702
00:38:24,360 --> 00:38:25,960
Speaker 1: I gotta get better at it. Writing down.

703
00:38:26,000 --> 00:38:28,799
Speaker 2: I know your ass, write down every fucking thing, y'all.

704
00:38:28,800 --> 00:38:30,880
Speaker 2: When we first started this podcast, this bitch ain't have

705
00:38:30,960 --> 00:38:31,840
Speaker 2: no computer, y'all.

706
00:38:32,280 --> 00:38:34,200
Speaker 1: Tammy letter used to be like, hold on, let me

707
00:38:34,239 --> 00:38:35,400
Speaker 1: go get I had an iPad.

708
00:38:36,080 --> 00:38:38,520
Speaker 2: Let me go get my computer. It'll be the notepad.

709
00:38:38,600 --> 00:38:39,880
Speaker 2: She gotta run to the car again.

710
00:38:43,200 --> 00:38:46,400
Speaker 1: I write it down. I still I prefer it instead.

711
00:38:46,680 --> 00:38:49,680
Speaker 2: That's a good practice. That's a good practice because when

712
00:38:49,719 --> 00:38:52,400
Speaker 2: I write, my hand hurts. It's like it's an exercise

713
00:38:52,480 --> 00:38:53,359
Speaker 2: for me. God damn.

714
00:38:53,719 --> 00:38:56,840
Speaker 1: But you starting good then to get bad, y'all. I

715
00:38:56,920 --> 00:38:59,120
Speaker 1: see she sent me a video on her jacking off,

716
00:38:59,160 --> 00:39:01,520
Speaker 1: and she's a jackar master and never risks be working.

717
00:39:01,600 --> 00:39:02,760
Speaker 1: But now you can't write?

718
00:39:02,840 --> 00:39:08,960
Speaker 2: What what are you talking to somebody else on his life?

719
00:39:12,160 --> 00:39:14,919
Speaker 2: Listen for the record, I never said this bitch send

720
00:39:14,960 --> 00:39:15,480
Speaker 2: her nothing.

721
00:39:16,200 --> 00:39:16,359
Speaker 1: Nah.

722
00:39:16,480 --> 00:39:18,480
Speaker 2: I've seen her doing some ship, but she ain't never

723
00:39:18,520 --> 00:39:19,640
Speaker 2: seen me doing nothing.

724
00:39:20,480 --> 00:39:26,400
Speaker 1: I have, lie, black girl. We you see remember you.

725
00:39:26,600 --> 00:39:31,319
Speaker 1: I ain't gonna say it, but you first of all,

726
00:39:31,320 --> 00:39:38,600
Speaker 1: I see you do some things. Lie. Oh you forgot

727
00:39:39,400 --> 00:39:47,880
Speaker 1: see how forget? I remember? But now you can't write?

728
00:39:47,920 --> 00:39:49,080
Speaker 1: Get your pay and paper.

729
00:39:49,360 --> 00:39:51,960
Speaker 2: Yeah, niggas women do this type of ship too, right,

730
00:39:54,280 --> 00:39:56,439
Speaker 2: y'all think y'all are only trifling ones out here?

731
00:40:00,280 --> 00:40:03,959
Speaker 1: Get trifling too. I'm not trifling. I just I didn't.

732
00:40:04,000 --> 00:40:09,080
Speaker 1: I clicked on the face time. It was like, but

733
00:40:09,160 --> 00:40:16,120
Speaker 1: I need you're returned? All right? The last the next

734
00:40:16,160 --> 00:40:21,920
Speaker 1: one is set a realistic sleep schedule. Y'all. Stop scrolling

735
00:40:21,960 --> 00:40:25,640
Speaker 1: all night and take your ass to beg why is

736
00:40:25,680 --> 00:40:29,880
Speaker 1: this talking to me? Because it's you. I'm looking directly

737
00:40:29,920 --> 00:40:32,680
Speaker 1: at you saying that, because I be getting memes and

738
00:40:32,760 --> 00:40:35,640
Speaker 1: videos from this bit two thirty in the morning of

739
00:40:35,719 --> 00:40:39,840
Speaker 1: a fat lady shaking her ass during the water dance

740
00:40:39,960 --> 00:40:44,000
Speaker 1: and talking about this. You girl? Fuck you going to sleep?

741
00:40:44,719 --> 00:40:48,839
Speaker 1: Make me hall up in LA with this big old

742
00:40:49,000 --> 00:40:54,040
Speaker 1: bookie huge as fuck? Is she talking about this? You girl?

743
00:40:54,120 --> 00:40:56,520
Speaker 1: Go to sleep? I need to go to sleep.

744
00:40:56,600 --> 00:40:59,680
Speaker 2: I literally have Instagram set for two hours a day

745
00:41:00,080 --> 00:41:02,960
Speaker 2: that I always be taking the timer off.

746
00:41:03,280 --> 00:41:04,959
Speaker 1: You might as well just cut that shit off.

747
00:41:05,400 --> 00:41:08,000
Speaker 2: I have my sleep timer. When my phone goes on

748
00:41:08,160 --> 00:41:11,560
Speaker 2: D and D at nine forty five, I be turning

749
00:41:11,600 --> 00:41:14,080
Speaker 2: that off. And then I just stay up till one

750
00:41:14,160 --> 00:41:16,640
Speaker 2: or two o'clock in the morning. And shit is fucking ridiculous.

751
00:41:16,920 --> 00:41:20,000
Speaker 2: And it's a known fact. It's a scientific fact that

752
00:41:20,200 --> 00:41:25,480
Speaker 2: women need more sleep than men. So I gotta find

753
00:41:25,480 --> 00:41:28,000
Speaker 2: a way to get some rest. Man, I never get

754
00:41:28,400 --> 00:41:30,200
Speaker 2: first of all, and then when I do, like leave

755
00:41:30,239 --> 00:41:32,600
Speaker 2: everything off, it just so takes me a long time

756
00:41:32,680 --> 00:41:33,840
Speaker 2: to actually fall asleep.

757
00:41:34,360 --> 00:41:36,080
Speaker 1: And I don't want to do no melotone and none

758
00:41:36,120 --> 00:41:40,040
Speaker 1: of that shit. Weed weed helps. Yeah, that's why you

759
00:41:40,120 --> 00:41:43,520
Speaker 1: be going to sleep. Yeah, for sure. I love my

760
00:41:43,640 --> 00:41:48,520
Speaker 1: little weed and the edibles going crazy. I last night

761
00:41:48,600 --> 00:41:52,120
Speaker 1: I put on andre three thousands albums.

762
00:41:52,160 --> 00:41:53,640
Speaker 2: I listen to sounds every night.

763
00:41:53,680 --> 00:41:56,480
Speaker 1: It don't matter every night. Let me tell you what

764
00:41:56,560 --> 00:41:59,680
Speaker 1: you need to try. Try brown noise, y'all, if you're

765
00:41:59,719 --> 00:42:03,200
Speaker 1: not at night, go on YouTube and put in brown

766
00:42:03,239 --> 00:42:07,280
Speaker 1: noise and it just sounds like it's not white noise,

767
00:42:07,640 --> 00:42:10,959
Speaker 1: like the one from the TV is brown. I don't

768
00:42:10,960 --> 00:42:14,000
Speaker 1: know what the difference is, but it works. It helped

769
00:42:14,000 --> 00:42:16,640
Speaker 1: me fall asleep. And I even have an app.

770
00:42:17,840 --> 00:42:19,799
Speaker 2: I have an app I paid eighty four ninety nine

771
00:42:19,840 --> 00:42:24,480
Speaker 2: a year for. It's called Sinctuition, and that helps. But

772
00:42:24,760 --> 00:42:28,040
Speaker 2: you know, I have a new I've been using the

773
00:42:28,080 --> 00:42:31,879
Speaker 2: Beats headphones and them should be doing something in my ear,

774
00:42:31,960 --> 00:42:35,200
Speaker 2: so I'll be wanting to fall asleep with them in

775
00:42:35,239 --> 00:42:35,680
Speaker 2: my brain.

776
00:42:36,120 --> 00:42:36,799
Speaker 1: You know what I'm saying.

777
00:42:36,840 --> 00:42:38,360
Speaker 2: But I used to when I need to give me

778
00:42:38,400 --> 00:42:40,800
Speaker 2: another set of wired headphones, because with the wired headphones,

779
00:42:40,840 --> 00:42:43,760
Speaker 2: I would plug it in and just listen to sc tuition.

780
00:42:44,000 --> 00:42:44,799
Speaker 2: I'll be out of there.

781
00:42:45,640 --> 00:42:50,040
Speaker 1: Just don't even use headphones, just put on put it on.

782
00:42:50,120 --> 00:42:54,080
Speaker 2: Yeah, sometimes I do speak mm hmm, yeah.

783
00:42:54,120 --> 00:42:58,160
Speaker 1: So yeah, we gotta have better us. Yeah, me too, scrolling.

784
00:42:59,040 --> 00:43:01,640
Speaker 1: Don't let me get on ticks talk. I'll be watching

785
00:43:01,680 --> 00:43:05,640
Speaker 1: bitches cook, watching how to fold. I do not know

786
00:43:05,680 --> 00:43:10,920
Speaker 1: how to fold a finish sheet. Still, do y'all know

787
00:43:10,960 --> 00:43:15,200
Speaker 1: how to really fold the finish sheet I just put?

788
00:43:15,320 --> 00:43:16,200
Speaker 2: Yeah, I can fool it.

789
00:43:16,120 --> 00:43:18,239
Speaker 1: But it's so it's not gonna look as neat as

790
00:43:18,239 --> 00:43:20,799
Speaker 1: a top sheet. It don't never look good. My shit

791
00:43:21,000 --> 00:43:22,960
Speaker 1: be like in a neat little ball in the club.

792
00:43:28,080 --> 00:43:30,480
Speaker 1: Stupid y'all. If y'all know how to fold the fish sheet,

793
00:43:30,480 --> 00:43:32,880
Speaker 1: please send me a video because I can't do that

794
00:43:32,880 --> 00:43:35,200
Speaker 1: shit and be pissing me off. All right. The last

795
00:43:35,239 --> 00:43:39,960
Speaker 1: one is choose joy. So you need to find happiness

796
00:43:39,960 --> 00:43:44,280
Speaker 1: by any means necessary. Everything isn't all sad and dying

797
00:43:44,360 --> 00:43:46,920
Speaker 1: during this time. Be intentional and finding things that you

798
00:43:47,000 --> 00:43:50,560
Speaker 1: do enjoy about this time. Is it snuggling under warm blankets?

799
00:43:50,680 --> 00:43:54,480
Speaker 1: Is it pump pumpkin spiced lattes? Is it fall? Is

800
00:43:54,480 --> 00:43:58,160
Speaker 1: it holiday? Decre Like? Whatever you delight in, do more

801
00:43:58,200 --> 00:44:00,680
Speaker 1: of that. So you have to choose to be happy,

802
00:44:01,440 --> 00:44:03,960
Speaker 1: and I mean just try to. But what if you

803
00:44:04,080 --> 00:44:08,440
Speaker 1: like to eat well, then eat, but in moderation eat

804
00:44:08,520 --> 00:44:12,680
Speaker 1: find good things to eat, find healthier ways to enjoy food.

805
00:44:12,440 --> 00:44:15,799
Speaker 2: I have started eating olives like a lot. Well, I

806
00:44:15,880 --> 00:44:18,279
Speaker 2: like all of Yeah, I never knew I like them.

807
00:44:18,560 --> 00:44:22,799
Speaker 1: Do you like dirty martinis? No? I love. Oh you

808
00:44:22,840 --> 00:44:25,480
Speaker 1: gotta try it if you like all. Well, now, but

809
00:44:25,560 --> 00:44:29,160
Speaker 1: that's vodka, right mm hmm, Well you don't have to

810
00:44:29,200 --> 00:44:31,080
Speaker 1: have you can get it made. Yeah, you can get

811
00:44:31,080 --> 00:44:33,239
Speaker 1: it made different. It doesn't have to be vodka. But

812
00:44:33,280 --> 00:44:37,600
Speaker 1: I'll give me a nice little kettle warmart dirty martini extra.

813
00:44:37,680 --> 00:44:44,239
Speaker 1: I like my extra dirty, making extra dirty stir with food,

814
00:44:44,880 --> 00:44:47,200
Speaker 1: and you can get the blue cheese olives with it.

815
00:44:47,800 --> 00:44:50,920
Speaker 2: Oh, girl, girl, listen, I'd be going to Whole Foods

816
00:44:50,920 --> 00:44:52,920
Speaker 2: to getting them alives. You know how expensive that fucking

817
00:44:52,960 --> 00:44:56,120
Speaker 2: bar is. Yeah, that those blue cheese. They have a

818
00:44:56,200 --> 00:44:56,960
Speaker 2: ranch one too.

819
00:44:57,360 --> 00:44:58,600
Speaker 1: Oh that sound good?

820
00:44:59,040 --> 00:45:01,759
Speaker 2: Why is this happening? But yes, I never knew all

821
00:45:01,800 --> 00:45:02,840
Speaker 2: of this was that good.

822
00:45:03,040 --> 00:45:06,640
Speaker 1: Olives is a good snack. Damn. I mean they hire

823
00:45:06,680 --> 00:45:08,400
Speaker 1: in sodium though, so you gotta be careful.

824
00:45:08,880 --> 00:45:11,680
Speaker 2: But I know so I did one of those little

825
00:45:11,719 --> 00:45:13,839
Speaker 2: things with like maybe about fifteen of them in there.

826
00:45:14,239 --> 00:45:17,880
Speaker 1: That's five dollars. Yeah, that's expensive, and I'll eat that

827
00:45:17,920 --> 00:45:24,160
Speaker 1: whole shit. But fifteen hours ain't bad. You know that's

828
00:45:24,200 --> 00:45:26,600
Speaker 1: not bad versus fifteen cookies.

829
00:45:27,719 --> 00:45:29,759
Speaker 2: Or I ain't never eat no fifteen cookies. Bit you're

830
00:45:29,840 --> 00:45:30,560
Speaker 2: running out.

831
00:45:31,600 --> 00:45:34,560
Speaker 1: I'm saying you, I'll easily run through a sleeve of

832
00:45:34,600 --> 00:45:36,080
Speaker 1: oreoles chilling on the couch.

833
00:45:36,760 --> 00:45:38,919
Speaker 2: I don't eat orioles no more ever since I've seen

834
00:45:38,960 --> 00:45:41,719
Speaker 2: his TikTok video. Well, actually I hadn't been eating them

835
00:45:41,719 --> 00:45:43,920
Speaker 2: before then because they just don't taste the same anymore

836
00:45:43,960 --> 00:45:48,520
Speaker 2: to me. But they have some I'm singing the video.

837
00:45:49,360 --> 00:45:55,080
Speaker 2: They were pointing out how the orioles have these sadist

838
00:45:55,800 --> 00:45:56,640
Speaker 2: symbols on them.

839
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Speaker 1: You said, what's true? Oreosy, you know how to ruin

840
00:46:05,640 --> 00:46:10,480
Speaker 1: a good snack for me? I'm helping. Look, you know yours.

841
00:46:11,000 --> 00:46:13,440
Speaker 1: You know your oreos got the devil in them, like

842
00:46:13,480 --> 00:46:15,000
Speaker 1: we knows evil.

843
00:46:18,120 --> 00:46:24,880
Speaker 2: God, Damn, Listen, everything is not what we think.

844
00:46:25,360 --> 00:46:26,040
Speaker 1: That's just it.

845
00:46:26,640 --> 00:46:28,160
Speaker 2: And I feel like a lot of the veil has

846
00:46:28,200 --> 00:46:30,080
Speaker 2: been lifted, so a lot of people noticing shit that

847
00:46:30,120 --> 00:46:33,319
Speaker 2: they didn't notice before. That's it.

848
00:46:33,840 --> 00:46:35,600
Speaker 1: You could have just kept that one and let me

849
00:46:35,719 --> 00:46:39,399
Speaker 1: just have my oreos. So like sometimes ignorance. Ignorance can

850
00:46:39,400 --> 00:46:40,520
Speaker 1: be blissed.

851
00:46:40,800 --> 00:46:42,400
Speaker 2: Let me see what else I can ruin for you,

852
00:46:42,440 --> 00:46:48,200
Speaker 2: because you can lose them ten pounds by New Year's No, girls.

853
00:46:47,920 --> 00:46:49,560
Speaker 1: Shout the fuck up. We about to go to commercial.

854
00:46:49,560 --> 00:46:50,560
Speaker 1: We'll be right back, y'all.

855
00:46:55,000 --> 00:46:58,200
Speaker 2: So we have a Somebody commented on the post. It

856
00:46:58,239 --> 00:47:01,440
Speaker 2: says it's coming. I'm getting sick of myself that that

857
00:47:01,520 --> 00:47:04,319
Speaker 2: New Year New meat stigmas engraved in my mind. I'm

858
00:47:04,360 --> 00:47:08,600
Speaker 2: working on being okay in the now. Stop over planning, overthinking,

859
00:47:08,640 --> 00:47:12,360
Speaker 2: and overly growing. I'm not a I'm not a GMO plant,

860
00:47:12,400 --> 00:47:15,040
Speaker 2: So why am I forcing myself to be one? Thanks

861
00:47:15,040 --> 00:47:15,640
Speaker 2: for listening.

862
00:47:18,000 --> 00:47:18,680
Speaker 1: Who said that?

863
00:47:21,640 --> 00:47:24,560
Speaker 2: It's me Auntie Energy I n n e er.

864
00:47:24,719 --> 00:47:29,840
Speaker 1: I like, hey, hey Auntie, I oh, I agree. Stop

865
00:47:30,600 --> 00:47:32,440
Speaker 1: We don't pat ourselves on the back and of for

866
00:47:32,520 --> 00:47:35,920
Speaker 1: what we already doing. Yeah, sometimes y'all beat yourself up

867
00:47:35,960 --> 00:47:40,319
Speaker 1: for not getting nothing done. Sometimes it's okay to just

868
00:47:40,480 --> 00:47:44,120
Speaker 1: not do shit. You know you do already do so much.

869
00:47:44,800 --> 00:47:47,120
Speaker 1: Just not do shit sometimes, and don't beat yourself up

870
00:47:47,120 --> 00:47:52,840
Speaker 1: about it. Shit fucking clothes, they'll get folded.

871
00:47:53,520 --> 00:47:56,160
Speaker 2: No, no, no, no. See, that's the thing that we

872
00:47:56,440 --> 00:48:01,440
Speaker 2: can't do. You can't let your space get messy, because

873
00:48:01,480 --> 00:48:03,360
Speaker 2: that's how your mind then starts to feel.

874
00:48:03,800 --> 00:48:06,719
Speaker 1: If you go one day without folding some clothes, you'll

875
00:48:06,760 --> 00:48:08,239
Speaker 1: be it ain't gonna it, ain't there bad.

876
00:48:08,480 --> 00:48:10,879
Speaker 2: But if you depressed, one day turns into two, two

877
00:48:10,920 --> 00:48:13,320
Speaker 2: days turns into three. I think you remember that movie

878
00:48:15,280 --> 00:48:17,279
Speaker 2: where a guy took the pill and he got like

879
00:48:17,360 --> 00:48:18,000
Speaker 2: real smart.

880
00:48:18,680 --> 00:48:21,880
Speaker 1: The first thing he did was clean up his home. Yes, exactly.

881
00:48:21,960 --> 00:48:24,120
Speaker 2: You got to keep the house clean, no matter what,

882
00:48:24,520 --> 00:48:26,640
Speaker 2: No matter what, y'all keep your house clean.

883
00:48:26,840 --> 00:48:31,000
Speaker 1: No, I disagree. If you need a break, break bitch,

884
00:48:31,160 --> 00:48:33,319
Speaker 1: whenever it is clean or not clean. If you need

885
00:48:33,320 --> 00:48:35,319
Speaker 1: a break, if you're tired, you just don't feel like it,

886
00:48:35,400 --> 00:48:39,000
Speaker 1: don't fucking do it till you can't, till you can't.

887
00:48:39,640 --> 00:48:41,880
Speaker 2: When a person is depressed, you're saying and telling them

888
00:48:41,920 --> 00:48:45,120
Speaker 2: to do some shit when they can you might. I

889
00:48:45,120 --> 00:48:47,600
Speaker 2: didn't say, God, force yourself to keep the space clean

890
00:48:47,640 --> 00:48:48,160
Speaker 2: at least man.

891
00:48:48,239 --> 00:48:51,520
Speaker 1: No, we're talking about we're talking about what Auntie said,

892
00:48:52,239 --> 00:48:56,080
Speaker 1: and she said, you know, giving herself to she don't

893
00:48:56,120 --> 00:48:59,040
Speaker 1: have to grow so fast out growing and doing no.

894
00:48:59,120 --> 00:49:02,640
Speaker 2: But she was more so talking about, you know, thinking

895
00:49:02,640 --> 00:49:04,799
Speaker 2: about the next year and resolutions and things you gotta

896
00:49:04,840 --> 00:49:07,239
Speaker 2: do like that. Stuff can't cause you anxiety thinking about

897
00:49:07,239 --> 00:49:10,279
Speaker 2: the future oftentimes, so live in the now. What I'm

898
00:49:10,320 --> 00:49:12,560
Speaker 2: saying is in order to even plan or do anything,

899
00:49:12,560 --> 00:49:13,960
Speaker 2: you got to keep a clean space.

900
00:49:14,120 --> 00:49:16,640
Speaker 1: You just you have to. I agree to me. But

901
00:49:16,840 --> 00:49:19,239
Speaker 1: if you want to take a break, take it.

902
00:49:19,760 --> 00:49:22,279
Speaker 2: Nobody's saying not take a break, Tommy. Of course, that's

903
00:49:22,560 --> 00:49:24,840
Speaker 2: all I wanted two days, but that turns into a

904
00:49:24,880 --> 00:49:25,800
Speaker 2: week for some people.

905
00:49:26,040 --> 00:49:27,880
Speaker 1: That's all I'm saying is if you need a break,

906
00:49:27,880 --> 00:49:29,160
Speaker 1: take it. That's all I'm saying.

907
00:49:29,640 --> 00:49:34,000
Speaker 2: Yeah, that could turn into a whole two weeks of

908
00:49:34,040 --> 00:49:37,520
Speaker 2: ship on your floor, stuff in the closet, all and disarray,

909
00:49:37,560 --> 00:49:43,040
Speaker 2: your kitchen ain't clean day or two. That's that's become

910
00:49:43,040 --> 00:49:45,880
Speaker 2: a thing on social media. These I call them hoiters

911
00:49:45,880 --> 00:49:50,560
Speaker 2: because that's what the house looks like. House girl. Listen,

912
00:49:51,320 --> 00:49:51,839
Speaker 2: I don't care.

913
00:49:52,200 --> 00:49:57,200
Speaker 1: Hoiter. That's not It's a hoiter, that's what it is.

914
00:49:57,239 --> 00:49:59,760
Speaker 1: It's a hoarder. Hoiter.

915
00:50:00,120 --> 00:50:02,760
Speaker 2: That's my dialect. Okay, I know how to spell hoiter.

916
00:50:03,239 --> 00:50:05,719
Speaker 2: This is how it's This is how I'm going to

917
00:50:05,800 --> 00:50:08,200
Speaker 2: pronounce it. I say a lot of words. You say

918
00:50:08,239 --> 00:50:12,560
Speaker 2: a lot of words that may not be correct and

919
00:50:12,600 --> 00:50:23,000
Speaker 2: because of a dialect. Okay, so the hoiters, okay, you British.

920
00:50:23,120 --> 00:50:25,600
Speaker 2: They have these videos. Now these women are like the

921
00:50:26,120 --> 00:50:28,799
Speaker 2: cars are nasty, the houses are nasty, and they like

922
00:50:28,880 --> 00:50:32,160
Speaker 2: they post the videos cleaning it like did you make

923
00:50:32,200 --> 00:50:33,920
Speaker 2: your shit get that nasty so you can make a

924
00:50:34,000 --> 00:50:36,000
Speaker 2: video like content cleaning it up.

925
00:50:36,280 --> 00:50:39,520
Speaker 1: I follow this one black lady. She is actually a therapist,

926
00:50:39,680 --> 00:50:43,960
Speaker 1: and her home got really, really really out of control

927
00:50:44,040 --> 00:50:48,400
Speaker 1: because she was depressed, and she posted making videos to

928
00:50:48,480 --> 00:50:51,480
Speaker 1: her like getting rid of all the clutter and the

929
00:50:51,600 --> 00:50:53,719
Speaker 1: nasty because it was a lot of nasty going on,

930
00:50:54,120 --> 00:50:57,160
Speaker 1: and people were in the videos judging all the perfect

931
00:50:57,160 --> 00:51:01,960
Speaker 1: people judging her life, and she was like, you know,

932
00:51:02,080 --> 00:51:04,879
Speaker 1: I'm sorry, I'm not perfect, Like y'all, I went through

933
00:51:04,880 --> 00:51:06,880
Speaker 1: a rough patch. This is me getting out of it.

934
00:51:08,360 --> 00:51:10,360
Speaker 1: And then a lot of people aligned with her, like,

935
00:51:10,440 --> 00:51:14,000
Speaker 1: you know, I applaud you for showing your reality to us.

936
00:51:14,680 --> 00:51:20,120
Speaker 1: So everybody got their own shit. But I'm not saying

937
00:51:20,200 --> 00:51:22,160
Speaker 1: let your house go. I'm just saying, if you need

938
00:51:22,200 --> 00:51:25,040
Speaker 1: to take a day to not, take a day to

939
00:51:25,120 --> 00:51:30,759
Speaker 1: not there's nothing wrong with that. Either. Some people got

940
00:51:30,760 --> 00:51:33,960
Speaker 1: their hand, they played soul full, they juggling, They single mothers,

941
00:51:33,960 --> 00:51:38,080
Speaker 1: they juggling kids, job, sick parents, all these things. And

942
00:51:38,120 --> 00:51:40,080
Speaker 1: then they come home and they see a polo clothes,

943
00:51:40,440 --> 00:51:43,719
Speaker 1: clean clothes on the bed, fucking clothes for a night.

944
00:51:43,840 --> 00:51:47,080
Speaker 1: It's okay, No, you're not gonna die if the clothes

945
00:51:47,120 --> 00:51:52,120
Speaker 1: don't get folded tonight. Give yourself some grace. You're already

946
00:51:52,120 --> 00:52:04,879
Speaker 1: a superhero. Shit fuck it for one day. Yeah, ok,

947
00:52:05,520 --> 00:52:21,239
Speaker 1: Hold on horders, hoarders, hoiters, No hoarders, hoarders, hoarders not no,

948
00:52:21,320 --> 00:52:22,280
Speaker 1: not no hoiters.

949
00:52:22,400 --> 00:52:25,600
Speaker 2: So it's a hoiter? What what out the extra land

950
00:52:25,640 --> 00:52:26,080
Speaker 2: at my bust?

951
00:52:26,680 --> 00:52:37,360
Speaker 1: Hoarders not hoiters, hods hoarders hoarders. You're saying hoiters is hoarders?

952
00:52:37,719 --> 00:52:42,719
Speaker 1: What it's the same thing, It's not. It's not.

953
00:52:42,920 --> 00:52:47,360
Speaker 2: Bitch's god damn aionaires hoiters hoarders.

954
00:52:48,040 --> 00:52:48,480
Speaker 1: What's one?

955
00:52:48,520 --> 00:52:53,560
Speaker 2: Y'all like betting You're like, you're like hoarders whore because

956
00:52:53,560 --> 00:52:55,080
Speaker 2: see that's the that's the part she likes.

957
00:52:55,480 --> 00:53:01,520
Speaker 3: She's like, that's what you deflect from. I don't like

958
00:53:02,440 --> 00:53:06,000
Speaker 3: out like that that you're a hoarder.

959
00:53:07,760 --> 00:53:10,360
Speaker 2: You aarder and you're a hoarder.

960
00:53:10,719 --> 00:53:15,960
Speaker 1: Yeah, No, I am a hoarder of clothing.

961
00:53:16,800 --> 00:53:19,480
Speaker 2: No, I'm a hoarder of hair products and mail.

962
00:53:21,000 --> 00:53:27,319
Speaker 1: Mail. Yes, oh that ship out never make it in

963
00:53:27,360 --> 00:53:31,359
Speaker 1: my house, especially the bills. I ain't opening that fuck that.

964
00:53:31,280 --> 00:53:34,040
Speaker 1: That should be a short in the car. That should

965
00:53:34,040 --> 00:53:37,200
Speaker 1: be going to the trash at the mailbox.

966
00:53:37,800 --> 00:53:39,359
Speaker 2: Like, bitch, I know what I need to pay. Why

967
00:53:39,400 --> 00:53:40,160
Speaker 2: are y'all talking to me?

968
00:53:40,239 --> 00:53:42,160
Speaker 1: Why are y'all sending me a paper mail? Y'all are

969
00:53:42,239 --> 00:53:44,799
Speaker 1: wasting paper where you you don't give a fuck about

970
00:53:44,800 --> 00:53:45,360
Speaker 1: the environment.

971
00:53:45,400 --> 00:53:49,440
Speaker 2: That'd be the final notices you're getting mail. Now that

972
00:53:49,760 --> 00:53:52,440
Speaker 2: email you fifty eleven times, that's the final notice.

973
00:53:52,520 --> 00:53:55,040
Speaker 1: Mail neck can go to hell. That's all I'm saying.

974
00:53:59,200 --> 00:54:02,960
Speaker 1: Pray you boys, nothing give you reggedly motherfuck is nothing.

975
00:54:03,200 --> 00:54:05,120
Speaker 1: Now I'm joking, I'm gonna pay my student loans. I

976
00:54:05,160 --> 00:54:05,960
Speaker 1: fuck with you, Sally.

977
00:54:07,000 --> 00:54:10,279
Speaker 2: Now, I'm fucking Sally because they't forgive none of my shit. Yeh,

978
00:54:10,840 --> 00:54:18,520
Speaker 2: look I probably don't have enough qualifying payments. Fuck them

979
00:54:18,680 --> 00:54:22,719
Speaker 2: student loans. Okay, that shit is a burden. It is

980
00:54:24,080 --> 00:54:24,920
Speaker 2: and our generation.

981
00:54:25,880 --> 00:54:26,399
Speaker 1: You know what I'm saying.

982
00:54:26,400 --> 00:54:29,280
Speaker 2: They doing so much to help, like the party and stuff,

983
00:54:29,320 --> 00:54:33,280
Speaker 2: we had this weekend, that is to give out scholarships.

984
00:54:34,360 --> 00:54:37,080
Speaker 2: That's nice for the graduating class of twenty twenty four

985
00:54:37,160 --> 00:54:42,000
Speaker 2: from high school. Dog, we ain't have no help for

986
00:54:42,040 --> 00:54:45,080
Speaker 2: our generation. We just got all of these fucking student loans.

987
00:54:45,160 --> 00:54:46,960
Speaker 2: That is calling me causing me sad.

988
00:54:48,800 --> 00:54:51,879
Speaker 1: It's causing you said, it's definitely causing me some saying

989
00:54:52,960 --> 00:54:55,520
Speaker 1: that shit though a seasonal, that shit all year long,

990
00:54:55,760 --> 00:54:56,480
Speaker 1: behind that shit.

991
00:54:57,320 --> 00:55:00,120
Speaker 2: Fuck them student loans, man, y'all fuck them bills. If

992
00:55:00,160 --> 00:55:04,520
Speaker 2: you don't clean at least listen, fuck the.

993
00:55:03,440 --> 00:55:08,439
Speaker 1: Fuck them bills and fuck them clothes. Fuck all that shit.

994
00:55:09,200 --> 00:55:13,399
Speaker 1: Fuck them kids. No, I call CPS on you now.

995
00:55:13,840 --> 00:55:16,399
Speaker 1: Don't do that. Girl. Fuck them kids for a day.

996
00:55:16,400 --> 00:55:18,359
Speaker 2: Girl, if you a single parent, go drop them damn

997
00:55:18,440 --> 00:55:21,919
Speaker 2: kids off to the gam granny house. Okay, once they're

998
00:55:21,960 --> 00:55:23,680
Speaker 2: on the porch, they ain't gonna do nothing.

999
00:55:24,280 --> 00:55:27,799
Speaker 1: Just don't leave them somewhere. Now, fuck them kids. We

1000
00:55:27,840 --> 00:55:31,319
Speaker 1: talk bad time. She got to No, make sure it's

1001
00:55:31,320 --> 00:55:34,640
Speaker 1: safe though. I mean, you can drop them off the grandma,

1002
00:55:34,719 --> 00:55:36,800
Speaker 1: but don't be dropping them off the grandma and grandma

1003
00:55:36,840 --> 00:55:40,240
Speaker 1: don't know. That's fucked up. I just see the video

1004
00:55:40,239 --> 00:55:42,480
Speaker 1: of that where they girl want to leave her kids

1005
00:55:42,480 --> 00:55:45,600
Speaker 1: with her grandma. She just wanted with her mama because

1006
00:55:45,640 --> 00:55:51,960
Speaker 1: she want to be free. Man, that postpartum depression is real.

1007
00:55:52,280 --> 00:55:54,680
Speaker 2: It might even get any even worse during the summertime,

1008
00:55:54,800 --> 00:55:57,840
Speaker 2: during the winter sorter, when you don't have support. Yeah,

1009
00:55:57,920 --> 00:56:00,279
Speaker 2: sometimes like that's the best thing to do us as

1010
00:56:00,280 --> 00:56:03,000
Speaker 2: oppose to killing the ass, because women be killing their

1011
00:56:03,080 --> 00:56:06,280
Speaker 2: kids out here because they're overwhelmed. They don't have any support,

1012
00:56:06,320 --> 00:56:07,680
Speaker 2: they don't have any help. So if I got to

1013
00:56:07,760 --> 00:56:10,680
Speaker 2: drop them, if you got to drop me, because i mean, listen,

1014
00:56:11,239 --> 00:56:13,759
Speaker 2: I'm about to have a baby by my goddamn self.

1015
00:56:13,800 --> 00:56:15,920
Speaker 2: Because if a nigga leave you better take your kid

1016
00:56:15,960 --> 00:56:19,520
Speaker 2: with you and this child support check.

1017
00:56:21,440 --> 00:56:22,000
Speaker 1: You're gonna pay.

1018
00:56:22,680 --> 00:56:26,359
Speaker 2: Leave me with a baby, Yes the fuck I will.

1019
00:56:27,600 --> 00:56:29,719
Speaker 2: If a nigga thinks he's about to leave me with

1020
00:56:29,760 --> 00:56:35,040
Speaker 2: a kid, you're sadly mistaken, my nigga. This baby started

1021
00:56:35,080 --> 00:56:38,799
Speaker 2: in you, this baby came out of you first, and

1022
00:56:38,840 --> 00:56:42,040
Speaker 2: you think you're just gonna leave the seed in me

1023
00:56:43,080 --> 00:56:46,399
Speaker 2: and walk away, go with your daddy. What I'm gonna

1024
00:56:46,400 --> 00:56:47,560
Speaker 2: do with two more keys?

1025
00:56:48,000 --> 00:56:49,359
Speaker 1: What I'm do with keys?

1026
00:56:49,520 --> 00:56:54,399
Speaker 2: You should have thought about that before you got pregnant. Nigga.

1027
00:56:56,640 --> 00:56:58,600
Speaker 2: I should have thought about that shit. I remember one

1028
00:56:58,680 --> 00:57:01,480
Speaker 2: of my homegirls. Man, we used to work at the

1029
00:57:01,520 --> 00:57:03,560
Speaker 2: same job and she had a baby, young girl, she

1030
00:57:03,600 --> 00:57:05,960
Speaker 2: was younger than me, and she had the baby. She

1031
00:57:06,040 --> 00:57:08,239
Speaker 2: kept missing work. I'm like, listen, you gotta lose your job.

1032
00:57:08,840 --> 00:57:11,520
Speaker 2: Your baby daddy don't work nowhere, his mom doesn't work anywhere.

1033
00:57:11,560 --> 00:57:13,280
Speaker 2: If you won't drop that baby off on the porch

1034
00:57:13,320 --> 00:57:17,160
Speaker 2: and call him from the car, she ended up losing

1035
00:57:17,160 --> 00:57:21,880
Speaker 2: her job. Damn you had you have child care. You

1036
00:57:21,920 --> 00:57:23,800
Speaker 2: shouldn't be trying to figure out how you're gonna work

1037
00:57:24,160 --> 00:57:25,960
Speaker 2: and take care of your kid and watch your kid.

1038
00:57:26,160 --> 00:57:28,920
Speaker 2: When you have you have support. Sometimes you just have

1039
00:57:28,960 --> 00:57:31,919
Speaker 2: to nudge people a little bit. Drop that fucking baby off.

1040
00:57:32,000 --> 00:57:37,320
Speaker 1: Yeah shit, not that fucking drop that fucking baby off.

1041
00:57:39,840 --> 00:57:42,760
Speaker 2: Just get the fuck up out of here, y'all. If

1042
00:57:42,760 --> 00:57:45,440
Speaker 2: you have see those depression, seek therapy, go to go

1043
00:57:45,520 --> 00:57:46,320
Speaker 2: talk to somebody.

1044
00:57:46,400 --> 00:57:50,000
Speaker 1: Call me, y' can car up on you. Yeah, it

1045
00:57:50,120 --> 00:57:51,600
Speaker 1: might cost you a couple of dollars, But.

1046
00:57:54,720 --> 00:57:57,400
Speaker 2: Look, we should have did a little Thanksgiving, little Thanksgiving

1047
00:57:57,440 --> 00:58:00,560
Speaker 2: discount code or something for the New Year years.

1048
00:58:01,120 --> 00:58:03,840
Speaker 1: Maybe we can implement that. Yeah, yeah, hit us up.

1049
00:58:04,080 --> 00:58:07,520
Speaker 2: You know I'm not a licensed therapist, but I'm like

1050
00:58:07,760 --> 00:58:08,120
Speaker 2: we do.

1051
00:58:09,280 --> 00:58:10,959
Speaker 1: I don't know if I'm gonna give you any real

1052
00:58:11,080 --> 00:58:15,400
Speaker 1: solid advice outside of the last, but you gonna laugh, bitch,

1053
00:58:15,480 --> 00:58:17,440
Speaker 1: That's all I can saying. That might help a little bit.

1054
00:58:21,080 --> 00:58:22,080
Speaker 1: All Right, y'all listen.

1055
00:58:22,160 --> 00:58:24,840
Speaker 2: If you enjoy this episode, tune in every Thursday on

1056
00:58:24,880 --> 00:58:28,960
Speaker 2: the iHeartRadio app wherever the fuck your sad ass get

1057
00:58:28,960 --> 00:58:32,320
Speaker 2: your podcast at. This is your co host, AJ Holiday

1058
00:58:32,440 --> 00:58:36,640
Speaker 2: two point zero. Hit us up on www dot We

1059
00:58:36,840 --> 00:58:39,840
Speaker 2: Talked back eant dot com. If you want to schedule

1060
00:58:39,840 --> 00:58:43,600
Speaker 2: a consultation, you want to schedule a little meet and greet,

1061
00:58:43,920 --> 00:58:44,440
Speaker 2: hit us up.

1062
00:58:44,520 --> 00:58:47,959
Speaker 1: What's up? Tam, y'all's official tambam on Instagram. Y'all please

1063
00:58:47,960 --> 00:58:50,600
Speaker 1: follow me. Remember I really do love y'all. I don't

1064
00:58:50,640 --> 00:58:53,240
Speaker 1: just be saying that shit because it's something to say.

1065
00:58:53,440 --> 00:58:55,520
Speaker 1: I really do love y'all, and I appreciate all of

1066
00:58:55,600 --> 00:58:58,880
Speaker 1: y'all for tuning in every week. Y'all. If you're sad,

1067
00:58:58,960 --> 00:59:02,560
Speaker 1: you know, take some of these the seven tools that

1068
00:59:02,640 --> 00:59:04,560
Speaker 1: I gave you, and please apply it to your life

1069
00:59:04,560 --> 00:59:06,560
Speaker 1: because we need you here and we want you happy

1070
00:59:06,560 --> 00:59:09,240
Speaker 1: and healthy. Y'all. Remember to speak now.

1071
00:59:09,800 --> 00:59:12,200
Speaker 2: And never hold y'all.

1072
00:59:13,480 --> 00:59:17,920
Speaker 1: Peace do sis Bye,