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Speaker 1: Hello, gorgeous. It's Lala Kent. Welcome to untraditionally, Laala. Hello,

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Speaker 1: my love, it is Lala Kent. Welcome back to untraditionally, Lala.

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Speaker 1: I am here with oh, one of my most favorite housewives,

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Speaker 1: and I consider you a friend through the Bravo Universe.

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Speaker 2: Christ Heather Debro or Heather Page Kent.

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Speaker 3: Is I like to call you? Don't you love that

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Speaker 3: we both have the last name of Kent Okay?

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Speaker 2: Is that your real last name? And you're you were raised?

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Speaker 2: You're Jewish?

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Speaker 1: Right?

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Speaker 2: So is Kent a Jewish name?

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Speaker 3: No? So the original name was Kestenbaum and then it

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Speaker 3: was changed. But I am Kent Okay. So it's a

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Speaker 3: made up name, but it's mine. I didn't make it up.

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Speaker 3: But there was another Heather Kent in Saga and so

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Speaker 3: you can't copy names. That's why when you see actors

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Speaker 3: and they have similar names, but they put an initial

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Speaker 3: in the middle or something. You can't have the same name.

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Speaker 3: Every name in Screen Actors Guild has to be unique.

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Speaker 3: Are you my middle name which I used to use

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Speaker 3: in high school? Anyway, like Heather Page?

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Speaker 2: Can it's a good name, it's a great name.

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Speaker 3: I oh, No, I threatened Terry sometimes if we're arguing that,

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Speaker 3: I'm going to go back to it. What do you

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Speaker 3: guys argue about? When I watch you on TV?

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Speaker 1: I'm like, this is like the perfect this is the

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Speaker 1: perfect couple from my perspective. And I grew up in

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Speaker 1: like a very traditional household. My parents were married until

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Speaker 3: And now mine too.

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Speaker 2: So you've seen was it a healthy relationship thing you saw?

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Speaker 1: Not?

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Speaker 3: Really?

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Speaker 1: No, So when you met Terry, Like, how did you

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Speaker 1: know that he was going to be the one that

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Speaker 1: you were? Like, this is so real that I'm willing

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Speaker 1: to sign a contract with you.

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Speaker 3: I didn't and that I just think that's crazy. Like

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Speaker 3: marriage is a leap of faith and you could do

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Speaker 3: the best you can, but you don't know, no, and

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Speaker 3: you are you going to grow together or are you

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Speaker 3: going to grow apart? What's what challenges are you going

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Speaker 3: to face in your life? You don't know. You can

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Speaker 3: only do the best you can.

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Speaker 2: When you're in an argument. Do you raise your voice

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Speaker 3: I'm not surprise. I don't know if that's surprising. I'm

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Speaker 3: not a big yeller. Have I ever yelled? Yes? We

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Speaker 3: don't The good news is we don't fight about real things, thankfully,

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Speaker 3: we don't have these deep seated problems, or we don't

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Speaker 3: fight about money, we don't fight about I don't know

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Speaker 3: what else do people fight about. I don't know.

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Speaker 2: I haven't been in a relationship, or really.

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Speaker 3: We don't have anything that's like this deep seated, terrible

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Speaker 3: anything we fight about nonsense. But look, we've been together

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Speaker 3: twenty nine years, a long time. It is a long time.

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Speaker 3: It is a lifetime. And you have what I say

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Speaker 3: bad years, which is true. But like I will tell you,

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Speaker 3: then we were like, we don't silent treatment, right, but

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Speaker 3: know what sucks. He is my best friend. And so

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Speaker 1: Well I feel And again, I haven't been in a

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Speaker 1: when you be cause you have although you're in a

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Speaker 1: You have four children, which I cannot believe you told

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Speaker 2: Why did you say that?

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Speaker 3: So happy because that is the goal is for them

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Speaker 1: And that actually is one of my biggest fears in

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Speaker 2: And I'm like, that is my biggest fear.

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Speaker 3: You promote relationships between them. You create memories, right and

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Speaker 3: I agree with that, unless one's like a crazy asshole.

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Speaker 1: No, they're the way that my dad was treated because

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Speaker 1: What I saw was my dad, who left the church

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Speaker 2: It was a lot of battle.

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Speaker 1: I wanted to ask you the untraditional aspect of your life.

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Speaker 3: I am the polar opposite. I have Diary of the Mouth.

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Speaker 2: Well that's rude.

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Speaker 3: I'm sorry she doesn't listen to mine. Just telling you

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Speaker 3: Someday when she is not around, I can talk about

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Speaker 2: Yeah, I know the.

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Speaker 2: Oh my gosh, Heather, You've just put another thing in

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Speaker 3: Isn't this terrible? There was not to tell the details

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Speaker 3: how they communicate, They learn from each other. What are

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Speaker 2: Yeah, that pisses me off to that ain't true.

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Speaker 1: But also if you go and you have, you know,

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Speaker 3: Not gonna tell me? I want to go get that done?

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Speaker 1: I we're going to talk about peptides on because I

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Speaker 1: do it a third time until you told me I

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00:21:46,880 --> 00:21:48,480
Speaker 1: met with a psychic though, and he told me that

438
00:21:48,520 --> 00:21:50,480
Speaker 1: I'm going to have another baby, but with a man,

439
00:21:50,560 --> 00:21:51,639
Speaker 1: and I just refuse.

440
00:21:51,800 --> 00:21:54,720
Speaker 3: No, Heather, Heather, Just so you know, my first three

441
00:21:54,760 --> 00:22:00,800
Speaker 3: were IVF and the last one apparently was the penis,

442
00:22:00,960 --> 00:22:05,359
Speaker 3: and apparently it was with Terry's and I'm telling you

443
00:22:05,359 --> 00:22:09,560
Speaker 3: it was a dry spell. I do not know. I

444
00:22:09,600 --> 00:22:11,600
Speaker 3: how that happened, I don't know.

445
00:22:12,160 --> 00:22:14,200
Speaker 2: So you did IVF with the first three.

446
00:22:14,119 --> 00:22:17,160
Speaker 3: Had twins IVF. Those are the embryos. I got. That's

447
00:22:17,200 --> 00:22:19,440
Speaker 3: what we got, okay. And then I wanted the experience

448
00:22:19,440 --> 00:22:21,960
Speaker 3: of having just one, so he did IVF again. I

449
00:22:22,040 --> 00:22:24,800
Speaker 3: ended up with three embryos, put one in okay, got

450
00:22:24,840 --> 00:22:29,120
Speaker 3: cat okay. And then she had some issues talk about gatekeeping, parenting.

451
00:22:29,560 --> 00:22:35,280
Speaker 3: She had some issues. At fifteen months, she wasn't crawling, walking, talking, nothing,

452
00:22:35,720 --> 00:22:38,639
Speaker 3: And I took her to this neurologist and they said

453
00:22:38,760 --> 00:22:40,560
Speaker 3: she wouldn't have four words by the age of four.

454
00:22:40,600 --> 00:22:43,880
Speaker 3: And she was a practic. It was so heart wrenching,

455
00:22:44,080 --> 00:22:46,600
Speaker 3: and I she went she was in speech therapy, and

456
00:22:46,600 --> 00:22:48,959
Speaker 3: she was in physical therapy and all the things. She's

457
00:22:49,000 --> 00:22:49,480
Speaker 3: at Yale.

458
00:22:49,560 --> 00:22:51,320
Speaker 2: By the way, that is incredible.

459
00:22:51,520 --> 00:22:54,000
Speaker 3: He was wrong he was very he was very wrong.

460
00:22:54,040 --> 00:22:57,920
Speaker 3: But she did need speech therapy, she needed a push

461
00:22:58,200 --> 00:23:01,080
Speaker 3: to get going. And she's a I mean a brilliant,

462
00:23:01,240 --> 00:23:05,520
Speaker 3: well obvious and talented and sweet. She's like we call

463
00:23:05,560 --> 00:23:08,600
Speaker 3: her the good one. Yeah, there's always the one good one.

464
00:23:08,640 --> 00:23:13,600
Speaker 3: She's really good. But because I was so scared, we

465
00:23:13,680 --> 00:23:17,120
Speaker 3: had two frozen embryos and I thought done not having

466
00:23:17,119 --> 00:23:20,320
Speaker 3: any more kids. We're very lucky, we have three healthy kids.

467
00:23:20,680 --> 00:23:23,440
Speaker 3: And we started later anyway. I'm like, we're good, check

468
00:23:23,480 --> 00:23:25,920
Speaker 3: the box, no more kids. But I was infertile, so

469
00:23:26,640 --> 00:23:29,119
Speaker 3: that's why we did IVF right, So I was like,

470
00:23:29,720 --> 00:23:33,160
Speaker 3: I wasn't really worried about it. And then I got pregnant. Wow, yeah,

471
00:23:33,200 --> 00:23:34,600
Speaker 3: I was forty one.

472
00:23:34,760 --> 00:23:36,680
Speaker 2: The higher power had a different plan for you.

473
00:23:36,960 --> 00:23:41,560
Speaker 3: Man. Try being forty one year old, pregnant, chasing three

474
00:23:41,680 --> 00:23:45,120
Speaker 3: little ones. I can't even imagine. Oh, it's exhausted.

475
00:23:45,280 --> 00:23:49,000
Speaker 1: I'm exhausted twenty four to seven, And I'm like, how

476
00:23:49,040 --> 00:23:50,800
Speaker 1: does one get unexhausted?

477
00:23:51,160 --> 00:23:53,639
Speaker 3: You don't, but it's a different kind of exhausted. You

478
00:23:53,680 --> 00:23:56,040
Speaker 3: go from that your kids are so little, it's physically

479
00:23:56,720 --> 00:24:00,800
Speaker 3: exhausting right up, and then they're sick and you chase them,

480
00:24:00,840 --> 00:24:02,600
Speaker 3: and then you play a certain way and then you're

481
00:24:02,640 --> 00:24:04,439
Speaker 3: in the pool all the time, or you're on the

482
00:24:04,480 --> 00:24:09,000
Speaker 3: slide and you're instantly going. And then you add.

483
00:24:08,720 --> 00:24:13,200
Speaker 1: The reality television aspect. Because I've been out of the

484
00:24:13,240 --> 00:24:16,000
Speaker 1: game for two years, I've been like strictly mom. And

485
00:24:16,800 --> 00:24:19,399
Speaker 1: I have to say I loved it because, as you know,

486
00:24:19,480 --> 00:24:20,919
Speaker 1: it's such a fleeting time.

487
00:24:21,119 --> 00:24:22,200
Speaker 3: It's a good break too.

488
00:24:22,320 --> 00:24:23,240
Speaker 2: It's a great break.

489
00:24:23,280 --> 00:24:25,399
Speaker 1: And I got to be at you did take a

490
00:24:25,400 --> 00:24:27,200
Speaker 1: break and you and I got to be at every

491
00:24:27,359 --> 00:24:29,520
Speaker 1: drop off and pickup and dance recital and it was

492
00:24:29,560 --> 00:24:31,800
Speaker 1: like mom time with the kids playing. I got to

493
00:24:31,880 --> 00:24:36,240
Speaker 1: experience that and it was wonderful. And now I'm juggling

494
00:24:36,320 --> 00:24:39,159
Speaker 1: trying to be a present mom then the mom guilt

495
00:24:39,240 --> 00:24:41,359
Speaker 1: on top of now filming a show again.

496
00:24:41,960 --> 00:24:44,800
Speaker 3: And did you have that shock when you went.

497
00:24:44,720 --> 00:24:46,919
Speaker 1: Back to OC where it was like, oh, we're like,

498
00:24:47,840 --> 00:24:50,560
Speaker 1: no one skipped a beat and we're thrown into the

499
00:24:51,240 --> 00:24:51,840
Speaker 1: lions den.

500
00:24:53,000 --> 00:24:57,000
Speaker 3: The show had changed from it. I mean, well, first

501
00:24:57,000 --> 00:24:59,640
Speaker 3: of all, I was gone for four seasons, which equated

502
00:24:59,680 --> 00:25:03,240
Speaker 3: to five years because of the pandemic, and that had happened,

503
00:25:03,280 --> 00:25:05,960
Speaker 3: so that kind of changed everything to you. Right, So

504
00:25:06,040 --> 00:25:09,120
Speaker 3: the world was a bit different. And when I left

505
00:25:09,160 --> 00:25:11,520
Speaker 3: the show. So I started the show when my youngest

506
00:25:11,560 --> 00:25:14,920
Speaker 3: child was nine months old and he's starting fifteen in December.

507
00:25:15,840 --> 00:25:18,800
Speaker 3: Is that crazy? So my kids were a little crazy.

508
00:25:19,000 --> 00:25:21,320
Speaker 3: They were nine months old to seven and a half.

509
00:25:21,560 --> 00:25:25,280
Speaker 3: So when I started and when I left five years later,

510
00:25:25,840 --> 00:25:27,720
Speaker 3: do the math on that, they were still little. But

511
00:25:27,800 --> 00:25:33,000
Speaker 3: when I came back, they were now older, right, And

512
00:25:33,160 --> 00:25:36,720
Speaker 3: so it was like better and worse in a way

513
00:25:36,760 --> 00:25:39,439
Speaker 3: because everyone was in real school, which is a lot

514
00:25:39,520 --> 00:25:42,119
Speaker 3: easier because you can film a lot while they're at school,

515
00:25:42,880 --> 00:25:46,080
Speaker 3: which is nice. Yeah, that is nice. Yeah, it was

516
00:25:46,680 --> 00:25:49,280
Speaker 3: very strange to come back. But I was still working

517
00:25:49,359 --> 00:25:52,600
Speaker 3: in between. I wasn't just home YouTube channel. I've had

518
00:25:52,600 --> 00:25:55,119
Speaker 3: a podcast for a decade, like Hustle. I was like

519
00:25:55,200 --> 00:25:57,480
Speaker 3: I was always and little guest stars here and there,

520
00:25:57,600 --> 00:26:01,480
Speaker 3: stuff like that, scripted and know, writing books with Terry

521
00:26:01,600 --> 00:26:02,800
Speaker 3: and doing stuff like that.

522
00:26:03,680 --> 00:26:06,000
Speaker 2: I need a nap just thinking about all that stuff.

523
00:26:07,240 --> 00:26:10,280
Speaker 3: Yes, so you know we've done TV shows together and

524
00:26:10,320 --> 00:26:12,600
Speaker 3: what you know, I'm always doing something.

525
00:26:12,359 --> 00:26:15,320
Speaker 2: I know you are and it's amazing to watch. By

526
00:26:15,359 --> 00:26:16,120
Speaker 2: the way, I don't.

527
00:26:15,960 --> 00:26:20,679
Speaker 3: Feel guilty because here's the thing, you know this is

528
00:26:20,720 --> 00:26:24,919
Speaker 3: your path. And part of what's incredible about you is

529
00:26:25,040 --> 00:26:28,520
Speaker 3: how you are this single parent with these incredible kids

530
00:26:28,920 --> 00:26:31,800
Speaker 3: and you have a career and a podcast and you're

531
00:26:32,040 --> 00:26:34,239
Speaker 3: a book and the thing, and you hustle, you do

532
00:26:34,320 --> 00:26:37,760
Speaker 3: all these things and making it work. You are a

533
00:26:37,760 --> 00:26:40,560
Speaker 3: balancing Yet, yes, there is no perfect balance.

534
00:26:40,600 --> 00:26:44,440
Speaker 1: I don't think so either there's not, there's And there

535
00:26:44,520 --> 00:26:46,960
Speaker 1: was a woman who said to me, and I passed

536
00:26:46,960 --> 00:26:48,960
Speaker 1: this along to all my other mom friends who are

537
00:26:48,960 --> 00:26:52,000
Speaker 1: feeling mom guilt. But I was saying to her that

538
00:26:53,160 --> 00:26:56,840
Speaker 1: I was struggling with the mom guilt and you know,

539
00:26:57,040 --> 00:26:58,840
Speaker 1: I feel like I've been dropping the ball. And she

540
00:26:59,000 --> 00:27:00,960
Speaker 1: was like, they are going to be day is where

541
00:27:01,160 --> 00:27:03,919
Speaker 1: your kids are simply loved and fed, and that's a

542
00:27:03,920 --> 00:27:05,000
Speaker 1: win and fucking take it.

543
00:27:05,160 --> 00:27:07,600
Speaker 2: Yes, and I would like it. Okay, you know what

544
00:27:07,840 --> 00:27:08,639
Speaker 2: all is good?

545
00:27:08,880 --> 00:27:12,000
Speaker 3: Listen. The other day, Terry and I were going because

546
00:27:12,040 --> 00:27:16,440
Speaker 3: with four two, even with two, one one's up, one's down,

547
00:27:16,520 --> 00:27:20,520
Speaker 3: one's sick, one's healthy, one's happy. One said like, there

548
00:27:20,560 --> 00:27:24,439
Speaker 3: are very rare moments where everyone's okay. And when I

549
00:27:24,480 --> 00:27:26,880
Speaker 3: tell you, I soak. I don't care if it's an hour,

550
00:27:27,600 --> 00:27:28,359
Speaker 3: everyone's good.

551
00:27:28,880 --> 00:27:29,399
Speaker 1: That hour.

552
00:27:29,880 --> 00:27:32,520
Speaker 3: That's a win. I don't know from Terry.

553
00:27:32,560 --> 00:27:33,800
Speaker 2: Oh nudies.

554
00:27:34,200 --> 00:27:37,840
Speaker 3: No, I never sent a nude in my life. By

555
00:27:37,880 --> 00:27:41,920
Speaker 3: the way, if you saw Terry's camera, but it's all nudes.

556
00:27:43,480 --> 00:27:48,040
Speaker 3: This does nothing for me. It's funny. I did say

557
00:27:48,040 --> 00:27:50,000
Speaker 3: to him. I remember we first got together. I was like,

558
00:27:50,440 --> 00:27:53,600
Speaker 3: it's gonna be okay, this is all real, you know,

559
00:27:53,800 --> 00:27:56,480
Speaker 3: like I think I still am the only yes, good

560
00:27:56,480 --> 00:27:58,400
Speaker 3: for you. I think I'm the only plastic surgeon's wife

561
00:27:58,440 --> 00:28:02,640
Speaker 3: with real boobs. Oh yeah, it's possible. But anyway, I'm

562
00:28:02,680 --> 00:28:05,160
Speaker 3: just saying like, yeah, I don't know that nudes would

563
00:28:05,200 --> 00:28:07,600
Speaker 3: do it for him. He likes silly stuff.

564
00:28:07,480 --> 00:28:09,000
Speaker 2: Okay, so like what is silly?

565
00:28:09,040 --> 00:28:10,840
Speaker 1: What would you send Terry if you guys hadn't seen

566
00:28:10,880 --> 00:28:12,200
Speaker 1: each other he was like out of town for a

567
00:28:12,240 --> 00:28:13,000
Speaker 1: weekend or whatever.

568
00:28:13,280 --> 00:28:16,159
Speaker 3: Well, I would probably make noise. We make noises to

569
00:28:16,200 --> 00:28:18,000
Speaker 3: each other, and they're like mating sounds. I don't know,

570
00:28:18,040 --> 00:28:20,360
Speaker 3: like he could like if if we're if we are,

571
00:28:21,640 --> 00:28:23,680
Speaker 3: if we're like at a restaurant, right and we both

572
00:28:23,680 --> 00:28:25,879
Speaker 3: go to the restroom and he's waiting for you outside

573
00:28:25,880 --> 00:28:29,480
Speaker 3: of goh nuh, and I'll go, oh no, it's like

574
00:28:29,520 --> 00:28:31,879
Speaker 3: we call each other that's so fucking cute. We're so

575
00:28:32,040 --> 00:28:34,679
Speaker 3: ridiculous and we've been together so long that we have

576
00:28:34,760 --> 00:28:37,840
Speaker 3: so many private jokes together. Our kids, I mean they

577
00:28:38,000 --> 00:28:39,800
Speaker 3: laugh and they roll their eyes at us, but we

578
00:28:39,880 --> 00:28:41,840
Speaker 3: have like he could say one word to me in

579
00:28:41,880 --> 00:28:45,800
Speaker 3: a crack up like we're just stupid stuff. I mean.

580
00:28:45,880 --> 00:28:47,400
Speaker 3: But that's not to say we don't have a great

581
00:28:47,400 --> 00:28:49,640
Speaker 3: sex life. We have a great sex life.

582
00:29:00,560 --> 00:29:02,440
Speaker 1: Can I ask you, as a woman who's been married

583
00:29:02,560 --> 00:29:07,240
Speaker 1: for twenty nine years, what is a great sex life? Like?

584
00:29:07,280 --> 00:29:08,480
Speaker 2: How many times a week?

585
00:29:08,600 --> 00:29:08,719
Speaker 1: Like?

586
00:29:08,760 --> 00:29:12,160
Speaker 3: What can? It? Depends? It depends, Yeah, okay, depends this

587
00:29:12,200 --> 00:29:14,720
Speaker 3: week not to be TMI a lot. Good for you

588
00:29:14,880 --> 00:29:16,880
Speaker 3: because we were fighting so we just made up. So

589
00:29:16,920 --> 00:29:18,880
Speaker 3: we're like and we're in a good spot right now,

590
00:29:19,280 --> 00:29:21,280
Speaker 3: and then we're going to be in the Bahamas next week.

591
00:29:21,280 --> 00:29:23,680
Speaker 3: That's gonna be like hotel sex for us. Game on.

592
00:29:23,800 --> 00:29:26,760
Speaker 2: Do you still put it in the mouth sometimes?

593
00:29:26,880 --> 00:29:29,840
Speaker 3: Good for you? Yeah, But he's a reverse cowgirl kind

594
00:29:29,880 --> 00:29:34,560
Speaker 3: of guy, yes, yeah, of course he is. Yeah, but

595
00:29:34,600 --> 00:29:38,360
Speaker 3: like we're still like interested and interesting and you know,

596
00:29:38,520 --> 00:29:40,960
Speaker 3: bring things in the bedroom and have like toys.

597
00:29:41,040 --> 00:29:43,480
Speaker 1: Yeah, can I tell you my favorite toy is the

598
00:29:43,560 --> 00:29:46,200
Speaker 1: vibrator that goes in the underwear and then the.

599
00:29:45,960 --> 00:29:48,920
Speaker 2: Guy gets to hold the little clicker. So wherever you

600
00:29:49,000 --> 00:29:50,120
Speaker 2: are in the party and you're like.

601
00:29:52,600 --> 00:29:56,520
Speaker 3: I've seen that. That is not us. That do Harry?

602
00:29:56,880 --> 00:29:57,800
Speaker 2: I think it's hot.

603
00:29:58,000 --> 00:30:02,360
Speaker 3: Terry's like not like he's very different. Once the bedroom

604
00:30:02,400 --> 00:30:05,760
Speaker 3: door is closed, Well it sounds like it he wants

605
00:30:06,160 --> 00:30:07,880
Speaker 3: you know, Yeah, we have a good time.

606
00:30:08,200 --> 00:30:10,400
Speaker 2: Ask towards the face. Does he do BBLS.

607
00:30:11,160 --> 00:30:14,320
Speaker 3: No, he's against them. He thinks they should be completely outlawed.

608
00:30:14,400 --> 00:30:18,480
Speaker 3: It's the most dangerous procedure. Okay, people die from it. Yeah,

609
00:30:18,520 --> 00:30:19,000
Speaker 3: I want to.

610
00:30:19,120 --> 00:30:21,440
Speaker 1: I want to get into like the plastic surgery and

611
00:30:21,440 --> 00:30:22,920
Speaker 1: stuff on the bonus, But I just wanted to know

612
00:30:22,920 --> 00:30:25,840
Speaker 1: if he did BBLS. Is there has there ever been

613
00:30:25,880 --> 00:30:27,680
Speaker 1: a point in time where you and arrygo do we

614
00:30:27,920 --> 00:30:29,320
Speaker 1: do we do housewives anymore?

615
00:30:29,360 --> 00:30:30,920
Speaker 2: Do we do the TV thing anymore?

616
00:30:31,520 --> 00:30:34,240
Speaker 3: I mean, definitely not do we do the TV thing anymore?

617
00:30:34,240 --> 00:30:36,800
Speaker 3: I mean we always have something in development, like literally

618
00:30:36,920 --> 00:30:41,360
Speaker 3: right now, Okay, there's a game show. There's a fun show.

619
00:30:41,480 --> 00:30:45,400
Speaker 1: Don't you think like the competition shows, it's a different level,

620
00:30:45,480 --> 00:30:47,600
Speaker 1: Like the stakes are higher in a different way.

621
00:30:47,720 --> 00:30:48,360
Speaker 3: Yeah, filmy.

622
00:30:48,440 --> 00:30:50,200
Speaker 2: Reality TV is tough.

623
00:30:50,360 --> 00:30:50,880
Speaker 3: It's tough.

624
00:30:50,920 --> 00:30:53,000
Speaker 2: They come in, you know, what have you been up to?

625
00:30:53,120 --> 00:30:54,280
Speaker 2: It's like, oh, I know what we're doing.

626
00:30:54,320 --> 00:30:57,240
Speaker 1: We're talking about our storyline and it's like, well, my

627
00:30:57,280 --> 00:30:59,320
Speaker 1: life's pretty peaceful right now, which I know you guys don't.

628
00:30:59,200 --> 00:31:03,400
Speaker 3: Want to DIY. Sorry, everything's okay. Maybe something tragical happened

629
00:31:03,440 --> 00:31:07,680
Speaker 3: in the next forty minutes. Yeah, no, it is. It's

630
00:31:07,720 --> 00:31:09,360
Speaker 3: a tough show to do. I mean, I'm not gonna

631
00:31:09,360 --> 00:31:12,720
Speaker 3: be at it forever obviously, but you know, I'm so

632
00:31:12,840 --> 00:31:16,440
Speaker 3: grateful for the platform. I really mean this that what

633
00:31:16,600 --> 00:31:20,360
Speaker 3: is important to me after having been such a piece

634
00:31:20,400 --> 00:31:25,000
Speaker 3: of pop culture, is that I wanted to live on appropriately.

635
00:31:25,080 --> 00:31:27,960
Speaker 3: Like I'm not of the mind like when I leave,

636
00:31:28,040 --> 00:31:31,560
Speaker 3: I mean to burn the house down, you know. I'm

637
00:31:31,560 --> 00:31:35,520
Speaker 3: not like that. I'm like, hey, let's keep bringing on

638
00:31:35,760 --> 00:31:40,320
Speaker 3: interesting people and so it's gonna have a life. I

639
00:31:40,360 --> 00:31:41,440
Speaker 3: love that. Can I tell you.

640
00:31:41,520 --> 00:31:43,360
Speaker 1: I was in full panic in the bath last night

641
00:31:43,360 --> 00:31:46,440
Speaker 1: and I was like, the Housewives, You're going to start

642
00:31:46,440 --> 00:31:47,920
Speaker 1: getting older and not want to do it?

643
00:31:48,840 --> 00:31:51,120
Speaker 3: What would happen? What will happen? What am I going

644
00:31:51,200 --> 00:31:51,680
Speaker 3: to watch?

645
00:31:52,360 --> 00:31:54,360
Speaker 2: Because you all of us are going to get older

646
00:31:54,360 --> 00:31:55,640
Speaker 2: and I'm.

647
00:31:55,520 --> 00:31:59,920
Speaker 3: Already old, but there could you like, we love our house.

648
00:32:00,120 --> 00:32:02,040
Speaker 1: I have so much and I hate change, Like when

649
00:32:02,040 --> 00:32:03,720
Speaker 1: a new face appears, I'm like, I don't know about this.

650
00:32:03,800 --> 00:32:05,280
Speaker 3: I don't know. I don't know. But that's why it's

651
00:32:05,280 --> 00:32:07,160
Speaker 3: got people have to come in slowly. But we've had

652
00:32:07,240 --> 00:32:11,800
Speaker 3: really great hires that have blended in really seamlessly. Yeah,

653
00:32:12,200 --> 00:32:14,920
Speaker 3: and that have longevity and I love that. Okay, So

654
00:32:14,960 --> 00:32:18,160
Speaker 3: I'm looking forward to seeing you know what happened because

655
00:32:18,200 --> 00:32:21,240
Speaker 3: next season for us is season twenty. It's amazing, which

656
00:32:21,280 --> 00:32:23,040
Speaker 3: is the first house I've season to go to. Twenty

657
00:32:23,080 --> 00:32:25,760
Speaker 3: obviously were the first sorts of you know, it's iconic,

658
00:32:25,840 --> 00:32:27,920
Speaker 3: it's cool, and I think they have a lot of

659
00:32:27,960 --> 00:32:29,960
Speaker 3: fun stuff planned. So I'm excited for that.

660
00:32:30,160 --> 00:32:33,400
Speaker 1: Okay, So we can expect because a lot of people

661
00:32:33,440 --> 00:32:35,400
Speaker 1: are wanting to see you on Beverly Hills and it

662
00:32:35,400 --> 00:32:36,800
Speaker 1: makes sense because you live here.

663
00:32:37,440 --> 00:32:40,040
Speaker 3: But you know what, here's the thing about that, because yeah,

664
00:32:40,080 --> 00:32:42,760
Speaker 3: here's the thing about that. You know where I live

665
00:32:43,040 --> 00:32:45,680
Speaker 3: to Newport Beach is the same distance from Newport Beach

666
00:32:45,720 --> 00:32:48,480
Speaker 3: to Cota Dekaza, Right, So I mean.

667
00:32:48,760 --> 00:32:51,880
Speaker 1: People, I really don't understand how the traffic works around here, right.

668
00:32:51,840 --> 00:32:54,200
Speaker 3: So it's this, It's it's really if I lived in

669
00:32:54,400 --> 00:32:57,840
Speaker 3: Laguna Miguel or Dana Point, it would take me the

670
00:32:57,880 --> 00:32:59,440
Speaker 3: same amount to get to to the coort to go

671
00:32:59,520 --> 00:33:02,640
Speaker 3: to someone's, but it would still be in Orange County

672
00:33:02,880 --> 00:33:06,200
Speaker 3: just because I'm over the county line. Whatever. They're my friends.

673
00:33:06,240 --> 00:33:08,640
Speaker 3: I've been involved with the show for almost fifteen years,

674
00:33:08,840 --> 00:33:11,080
Speaker 3: and I'm very happy where I am.

675
00:33:11,280 --> 00:33:13,840
Speaker 2: You gotta be a part of twenty Yeah, But.

676
00:33:13,840 --> 00:33:15,880
Speaker 3: The reason why I said that, honestly, I mean I

677
00:33:15,960 --> 00:33:18,920
Speaker 3: joked it was the commute, which partially is. But also,

678
00:33:19,320 --> 00:33:22,200
Speaker 3: you know, we film in Orange Counties, so sometimes I

679
00:33:22,280 --> 00:33:24,640
Speaker 3: worry that there's a faction of my life that they

680
00:33:24,640 --> 00:33:28,560
Speaker 3: don't get to see, right, So that's a little bit

681
00:33:28,560 --> 00:33:31,360
Speaker 3: of a bummer. But I look, I'm very happy where

682
00:33:31,400 --> 00:33:34,080
Speaker 3: I am, very grateful for all that. But as far

683
00:33:34,120 --> 00:33:37,640
Speaker 3: as doing reality TV, there's other things that I'm like

684
00:33:37,960 --> 00:33:42,360
Speaker 3: developing and working on the reality space. I do, but

685
00:33:42,880 --> 00:33:48,120
Speaker 3: not necessarily my story, right, pass it on and yeah,

686
00:33:48,160 --> 00:33:51,960
Speaker 3: and also I like producing, so you know, I'm also

687
00:33:52,040 --> 00:33:53,600
Speaker 3: developing things that I don't have to be in.

688
00:33:54,080 --> 00:33:56,480
Speaker 2: That's nice, which I love. Yeah, that's fun.

689
00:33:56,520 --> 00:33:58,760
Speaker 1: Takes the pressure off totally, and now you get to

690
00:33:58,760 --> 00:34:00,880
Speaker 1: be the guy that's like, you're really not bringing it.

691
00:34:00,960 --> 00:34:01,920
Speaker 2: You need to share more.

692
00:34:01,880 --> 00:34:04,160
Speaker 3: You the tears.

693
00:34:04,440 --> 00:34:06,240
Speaker 2: We'd really like to see more tears from you.

694
00:34:06,360 --> 00:34:09,000
Speaker 3: Yes, please? Did you hit the left eye?

695
00:34:08,560 --> 00:34:12,440
Speaker 1: Did you like having Gretchen a part of the season?

696
00:34:12,760 --> 00:34:15,560
Speaker 3: It did? I mean, I'm not really sure from the

697
00:34:15,560 --> 00:34:17,360
Speaker 3: top that I realized how much it was going to

698
00:34:17,400 --> 00:34:23,520
Speaker 3: affect camera. Yeah. I stupidly thought that they would hit

699
00:34:23,560 --> 00:34:26,280
Speaker 3: the restart button, right because when I joined the show,

700
00:34:27,480 --> 00:34:29,200
Speaker 3: and I said this on the after show, but when

701
00:34:29,239 --> 00:34:32,120
Speaker 3: I joined Housewives, they became friends.

702
00:34:33,280 --> 00:34:36,800
Speaker 2: Right, So I know, was that the friendship bracelets giving?

703
00:34:36,920 --> 00:34:41,200
Speaker 3: Yeah? Season seven, like they were friends right, travel together,

704
00:34:41,239 --> 00:34:43,640
Speaker 3: we had a lot of fun together. And then on

705
00:34:44,200 --> 00:34:48,160
Speaker 3: Gretchen's last reunion, things didn't go that great, and so

706
00:34:48,920 --> 00:34:51,640
Speaker 3: you know, we had some issues, all of us, but

707
00:34:51,680 --> 00:34:55,120
Speaker 3: I didn't think it was insurmountable, right. And then I

708
00:34:55,160 --> 00:34:58,720
Speaker 3: don't know why their relationship went south over the last decade,

709
00:34:58,760 --> 00:35:01,280
Speaker 3: but it did. Don't really know why that happened.

710
00:35:01,320 --> 00:35:04,440
Speaker 1: So the podcast, man, Yeah, the podcast and everyone in

711
00:35:04,480 --> 00:35:06,319
Speaker 1: control and all the things, all of it.

712
00:35:06,600 --> 00:35:08,640
Speaker 3: So I thought, you know what, maybe they'll she'll come

713
00:35:08,680 --> 00:35:11,239
Speaker 3: back on, they'll have a conversation and we'll move on,

714
00:35:11,600 --> 00:35:13,480
Speaker 3: because no one wants to argue about stuff from fifteen

715
00:35:13,560 --> 00:35:13,920
Speaker 3: years ago.

716
00:35:14,120 --> 00:35:16,280
Speaker 1: No, And it was a lot. It was a lot

717
00:35:16,960 --> 00:35:19,799
Speaker 1: on a pent up anger for fifteen years, happy for

718
00:35:19,840 --> 00:35:20,319
Speaker 1: her to come.

719
00:35:20,360 --> 00:35:23,480
Speaker 3: And I thought, you know, it's interesting to see where

720
00:35:23,480 --> 00:35:25,040
Speaker 3: she is all these years later, and she still was

721
00:35:25,120 --> 00:35:27,239
Speaker 3: slated and she is like a five year old and

722
00:35:27,280 --> 00:35:30,759
Speaker 3: it's just fun. Yeah. I do you think she'll be back?

723
00:35:30,840 --> 00:35:34,040
Speaker 3: I don't know. Will they ask me back? Yes, I

724
00:35:34,040 --> 00:35:35,200
Speaker 3: mean I think.

725
00:35:35,000 --> 00:35:38,239
Speaker 2: So, because you're a fucking icon. Well, thank you, we

726
00:35:38,400 --> 00:35:40,680
Speaker 2: love Heather Page Kent, thank you.

727
00:35:42,520 --> 00:35:47,040
Speaker 3: I don't know, I don't know. Yeah, the reunion was

728
00:35:47,080 --> 00:35:48,000
Speaker 3: a lot.

729
00:35:48,280 --> 00:35:52,480
Speaker 2: You guys just filmed that. Have you recovered? Are you

730
00:35:53,080 --> 00:35:54,080
Speaker 2: exhausted mentally?

731
00:35:54,160 --> 00:35:56,080
Speaker 3: Still? I'm still a little tired. But I thought it

732
00:35:56,120 --> 00:35:59,760
Speaker 3: was really good. The audience is going to really like it, Okay,

733
00:36:00,200 --> 00:36:02,640
Speaker 3: a lot. It'll definitely be three parts. Well, good for

734
00:36:02,680 --> 00:36:03,880
Speaker 3: you guys.

735
00:36:04,480 --> 00:36:07,400
Speaker 2: Can you tell us where were you placed in the

736
00:36:07,400 --> 00:36:08,600
Speaker 2: middle of the couch.

737
00:36:08,960 --> 00:36:10,680
Speaker 3: They put the seating up already?

738
00:36:10,880 --> 00:36:12,360
Speaker 2: Oh did they? Where were you seated?

739
00:36:12,880 --> 00:36:19,760
Speaker 3: I was seated? It went Andy, Tamar, Gina, Me, Katie.

740
00:36:19,880 --> 00:36:21,439
Speaker 2: Okay, Oh so Katie did come.

741
00:36:21,719 --> 00:36:29,200
Speaker 3: Yeah, great, and then it went Jen, Emily, Shannon Gretchen. Okay.

742
00:36:29,760 --> 00:36:32,200
Speaker 3: I thought the seating was really good and I think

743
00:36:32,200 --> 00:36:35,520
Speaker 3: people will understand it when they see the reunion. And

744
00:36:35,960 --> 00:36:39,560
Speaker 3: I thought it was a really good reunion. Well.

745
00:36:39,600 --> 00:36:41,200
Speaker 2: As a viewer, I'm excited.

746
00:36:41,320 --> 00:36:43,520
Speaker 1: It's hard for me because I know how the sausage

747
00:36:43,560 --> 00:36:47,120
Speaker 1: is made, but I'm also enjoying it as just a viewer. Yeah,

748
00:36:47,200 --> 00:36:50,319
Speaker 1: I thought you guys crushed this season. I found it

749
00:36:50,360 --> 00:36:53,439
Speaker 1: to be amazing. Are you and Tamra are you guys good?

750
00:36:53,560 --> 00:36:53,960
Speaker 3: We're good.

751
00:36:54,560 --> 00:36:56,280
Speaker 2: You guys have a really sweet friendship.

752
00:36:56,680 --> 00:36:59,239
Speaker 3: We have been friends a very long time. You know

753
00:36:59,239 --> 00:37:01,160
Speaker 3: what the hard part is. I can't stand when people

754
00:37:01,200 --> 00:37:03,440
Speaker 3: are like, what if she have on you? Why are

755
00:37:03,440 --> 00:37:06,080
Speaker 3: you always sticking up? Or it's like, dude, when you

756
00:37:06,120 --> 00:37:09,360
Speaker 3: are in a room and everyone is against one person,

757
00:37:09,520 --> 00:37:11,640
Speaker 3: isn't it nice that you're the friend that tried Hey,

758
00:37:11,880 --> 00:37:14,960
Speaker 3: maybe let's look at the other side. Maybe. Isn't that

759
00:37:15,000 --> 00:37:16,680
Speaker 3: what you do for a friend? Yeah?

760
00:37:16,680 --> 00:37:20,000
Speaker 1: And you're just like amazing at being able to hold

761
00:37:20,040 --> 00:37:22,839
Speaker 1: her accountable and point out the things that she did

762
00:37:22,880 --> 00:37:27,680
Speaker 1: wrong while also maintaining that you're on her team.

763
00:37:28,080 --> 00:37:31,120
Speaker 3: I tried you because my take home to a friend

764
00:37:31,320 --> 00:37:35,400
Speaker 3: is we are friends, and so that's the basis of

765
00:37:35,440 --> 00:37:37,480
Speaker 3: what we're doing here, right, And we can still have

766
00:37:37,520 --> 00:37:41,200
Speaker 3: an argument, and we can still you know, disagree and

767
00:37:41,320 --> 00:37:45,799
Speaker 3: all those things, but you got to remember we're friends. Yeah,

768
00:37:45,840 --> 00:37:50,239
Speaker 3: So don't cross the line, don't get shitty. That's how

769
00:37:50,239 --> 00:37:51,839
Speaker 3: we have to work with each other.

770
00:37:52,120 --> 00:37:55,760
Speaker 1: You have conquered the art of the way you speak.

771
00:37:55,800 --> 00:37:57,560
Speaker 1: I'd give a lot of money. Where'd you go to school?

772
00:37:58,080 --> 00:37:59,919
Speaker 3: I went to Syracuse. I was a musical theater major.

773
00:38:00,160 --> 00:38:02,359
Speaker 3: We did I heard you? I w I heard you

774
00:38:02,440 --> 00:38:05,719
Speaker 3: quoted me at a reunion. Yes, I did.

775
00:38:06,239 --> 00:38:08,760
Speaker 2: I did, And I wanted them to air it so badly.

776
00:38:09,520 --> 00:38:10,360
Speaker 3: What'd you say?

777
00:38:10,480 --> 00:38:13,960
Speaker 1: I said to Tom Sandoval, I said, in the words

778
00:38:13,960 --> 00:38:16,480
Speaker 1: of Heather Dubro, when everyone around you says you're dead,

779
00:38:16,480 --> 00:38:18,840
Speaker 1: it's time to lie down. God bless Because he just

780
00:38:18,920 --> 00:38:21,240
Speaker 1: kept going. I was like, fuck it, we're all you're dead.

781
00:38:21,640 --> 00:38:22,440
Speaker 1: We all agree.

782
00:38:22,520 --> 00:38:24,800
Speaker 3: Someone texted me and goes, oh my god, Lalla's quoting

783
00:38:24,800 --> 00:38:25,399
Speaker 3: you on set.

784
00:38:25,640 --> 00:38:28,040
Speaker 1: Well, because everything that comes out of your mouth is

785
00:38:28,120 --> 00:38:31,320
Speaker 1: just like dripping in just gold.

786
00:38:31,560 --> 00:38:33,920
Speaker 2: And I just love everything you say.

787
00:38:34,440 --> 00:38:37,480
Speaker 1: And you stay level headed, but you're so fucking interesting,

788
00:38:37,800 --> 00:38:40,040
Speaker 1: whereas like I think I'm only interesting if I'm ripping

789
00:38:40,120 --> 00:38:41,480
Speaker 1: someone's head off. That is.

790
00:38:42,520 --> 00:38:45,880
Speaker 3: Ask. There's a reason your podcast does so well. Everyone

791
00:38:45,920 --> 00:38:47,520
Speaker 3: wants to hang out with you and hear you speak.

792
00:38:47,520 --> 00:38:49,399
Speaker 3: But I have to ask you about the diamond. Oh,

793
00:38:49,440 --> 00:38:49,880
Speaker 3: the diamond.

794
00:38:50,000 --> 00:38:54,160
Speaker 1: Yes, this was my engagement ring and I popped out

795
00:38:54,280 --> 00:38:58,040
Speaker 1: the middle stone. I kept the setting in case Ocean

796
00:38:58,040 --> 00:39:00,520
Speaker 1: wants it one day, and I put on my neck

797
00:39:00,560 --> 00:39:01,160
Speaker 1: because it was just.

798
00:39:01,080 --> 00:39:02,840
Speaker 2: Sitting there so smart.

799
00:39:03,880 --> 00:39:06,320
Speaker 3: Yeah, I just how do you feel about lab diamonds.

800
00:39:08,840 --> 00:39:12,359
Speaker 1: I am of the mindset of whatever you want, that

801
00:39:12,520 --> 00:39:13,640
Speaker 1: is what you should go and get.

802
00:39:13,719 --> 00:39:15,520
Speaker 2: If you don't care about the lab diamonds.

803
00:39:15,560 --> 00:39:16,840
Speaker 1: I don't want to get in trouble because if I

804
00:39:16,840 --> 00:39:18,920
Speaker 1: say I love diamonds, that mean I love blood diamonds.

805
00:39:19,280 --> 00:39:20,919
Speaker 3: Yeah, it's a really good point.

806
00:39:20,960 --> 00:39:23,400
Speaker 2: It's a slippery slope, and that's why I prefer.

807
00:39:25,200 --> 00:39:28,920
Speaker 3: Yeah, I don't know. I have this conversation with every

808
00:39:28,960 --> 00:39:31,399
Speaker 3: someone people that I know that love jewelry. I ask

809
00:39:32,280 --> 00:39:34,759
Speaker 3: because I'm curious what people think, and I've spent so

810
00:39:34,840 --> 00:39:36,680
Speaker 3: much money on diamonds.

811
00:39:36,680 --> 00:39:37,320
Speaker 2: We can't tell.

812
00:39:37,440 --> 00:39:40,360
Speaker 3: Yeah, Well, it irritates me that you could get it

813
00:39:40,400 --> 00:39:43,160
Speaker 3: so much less and you can you can't tell. And

814
00:39:43,200 --> 00:39:47,040
Speaker 3: apparently the only machine you buy that can tell is

815
00:39:47,080 --> 00:39:49,480
Speaker 3: twenty thousand dollars, so no one has the machine. I know,

816
00:39:49,719 --> 00:39:51,200
Speaker 3: but I don't know. Am I too much of a

817
00:39:51,360 --> 00:39:56,080
Speaker 3: snob to do it? I know you I have a girlfriend.

818
00:39:56,840 --> 00:39:59,400
Speaker 3: We can't tell you it is. But she's famous and wealthy.

819
00:39:59,680 --> 00:40:03,480
Speaker 3: And you bought some lab diamonds and I was like, no, did.

820
00:40:03,440 --> 00:40:04,759
Speaker 2: You did you see that?

821
00:40:04,920 --> 00:40:07,920
Speaker 3: Yes? I did? Did you see them? I did? I

822
00:40:07,960 --> 00:40:11,080
Speaker 3: don't know, I mean, could I tell? But then I

823
00:40:11,160 --> 00:40:13,400
Speaker 3: think about this. Maybe it's the way they were set

824
00:40:13,680 --> 00:40:15,799
Speaker 3: because she didn't spend that much money on these. She

825
00:40:15,920 --> 00:40:18,200
Speaker 3: just bottom she was at a thing. So then I

826
00:40:18,239 --> 00:40:21,440
Speaker 3: was like, all right, well a lab diamond, all right?

827
00:40:21,480 --> 00:40:25,120
Speaker 3: So I heard someone say it's like flowers. Whether the

828
00:40:25,239 --> 00:40:28,840
Speaker 3: rose is grown in the wild or it's grown in

829
00:40:28,840 --> 00:40:33,719
Speaker 3: a hothouse, it's still a rose. That's true. Okay, So

830
00:40:33,800 --> 00:40:36,759
Speaker 3: if you're growing a diamond, it's still you have to

831
00:40:36,800 --> 00:40:39,080
Speaker 3: look at the I mean, they can't grow it perfect.

832
00:40:39,160 --> 00:40:42,920
Speaker 3: It grows however, it grows, right, So there's still different qualities.

833
00:40:44,000 --> 00:40:47,400
Speaker 3: But then it comes to the diamond cutter, right, because

834
00:40:47,400 --> 00:40:50,040
Speaker 3: there's an art arm to cutting a diamond for the

835
00:40:50,040 --> 00:40:51,600
Speaker 3: most brilliant and the most this and the most that,

836
00:40:51,800 --> 00:40:53,759
Speaker 3: and the way you set it and the design of

837
00:40:53,800 --> 00:40:56,319
Speaker 3: the setting and all the things. So I mean, I

838
00:40:56,360 --> 00:40:58,160
Speaker 3: guess you could get a LAB diamond.

839
00:40:58,200 --> 00:40:59,719
Speaker 2: I don't think you're sold on the lab diamonds, and

840
00:40:59,719 --> 00:41:01,720
Speaker 2: I don't. I don't think you should.

841
00:41:01,920 --> 00:41:04,040
Speaker 3: I got this, like right under the wire, because if

842
00:41:04,120 --> 00:41:07,120
Speaker 3: Terry had known that lab diamonds were a thing, he

843
00:41:07,320 --> 00:41:08,000
Speaker 3: never would have.

844
00:41:08,400 --> 00:41:09,800
Speaker 2: It is so gorgeous.

845
00:41:09,840 --> 00:41:14,560
Speaker 1: I I cannot see that.

846
00:41:15,520 --> 00:41:18,880
Speaker 3: So yeah, I put my initials diamonds on the side,

847
00:41:19,120 --> 00:41:23,080
Speaker 3: and then underneath are Terry's diamonds. And he says it's

848
00:41:23,120 --> 00:41:25,759
Speaker 3: because he's holding the weight of the diamond like that,

849
00:41:25,960 --> 00:41:27,319
Speaker 3: and I go, no, it's because I like to be

850
00:41:27,360 --> 00:41:33,080
Speaker 3: on top. Oh my god, I fucking love you. Can

851
00:41:33,080 --> 00:41:35,560
Speaker 3: I ask you about your nails? Yes, that's what about

852
00:41:35,560 --> 00:41:37,360
Speaker 3: the nails? Okay? So I used to have square nails,

853
00:41:37,520 --> 00:41:39,200
Speaker 3: and then a couple of years ago my kids were like,

854
00:41:39,480 --> 00:41:42,560
Speaker 3: you look old, you can't have square nails whatever, So

855
00:41:42,600 --> 00:41:45,239
Speaker 3: I changed to this. So I've been wearing this very

856
00:41:45,280 --> 00:41:48,440
Speaker 3: similar to yours, and oval. I really like it. It elongates

857
00:41:48,440 --> 00:41:51,280
Speaker 3: the finger. I enjoy it. But lately I'm a pilates

858
00:41:51,280 --> 00:41:53,799
Speaker 3: girl now, and all of the plates girlies that are

859
00:41:53,840 --> 00:41:57,759
Speaker 3: all like you, young and fit and gorgeous, they all

860
00:41:57,800 --> 00:42:00,759
Speaker 3: have shorter, square nails. And I need to know, La, La,

861
00:42:00,920 --> 00:42:01,920
Speaker 3: what is the thing it's.

862
00:42:01,760 --> 00:42:02,320
Speaker 2: Not happening for?

863
00:42:02,400 --> 00:42:05,960
Speaker 1: Okay, I like Heather, I have hands the size of

864
00:42:06,000 --> 00:42:10,120
Speaker 1: Shaquille O'Neal. You joking, I cut these nails off. You're

865
00:42:10,160 --> 00:42:12,520
Speaker 1: gonna think that you're getting a hand job from a man.

866
00:42:13,880 --> 00:42:17,960
Speaker 1: Happening I love, And the only reason is be a

867
00:42:18,080 --> 00:42:21,520
Speaker 1: thing to make your nails suter you would think, you

868
00:42:21,520 --> 00:42:22,040
Speaker 1: would think.

869
00:42:22,719 --> 00:42:25,080
Speaker 2: Now, look at the size of my hands.

870
00:42:26,520 --> 00:42:30,920
Speaker 3: You do have tons the veiggest very long fingers, but

871
00:42:30,960 --> 00:42:32,160
Speaker 3: that's very elegant though.

872
00:42:32,719 --> 00:42:35,080
Speaker 2: Yeah, well my mom like their piano fingers.

873
00:42:34,760 --> 00:42:37,040
Speaker 3: And the piano. The piano.

874
00:42:37,560 --> 00:42:39,080
Speaker 2: No, but I have a gorgeous piano.

875
00:42:39,400 --> 00:42:43,279
Speaker 1: So you and Terry have a new podcast because now

876
00:42:43,280 --> 00:42:45,560
Speaker 1: we're both a part of Bravo. We're both a part

877
00:42:45,560 --> 00:42:49,359
Speaker 1: of the iHeart Family, the Kent Sisters, the Kent I'm

878
00:42:49,400 --> 00:42:53,040
Speaker 1: loving all of this. It's called between us. You had

879
00:42:53,040 --> 00:42:55,800
Speaker 1: a podcast solo though first, right, for like a decade,

880
00:42:55,920 --> 00:42:58,000
Speaker 1: for a decade, yes, So what is it like? Now

881
00:42:58,040 --> 00:42:59,440
Speaker 1: having your husband as your co host.

882
00:42:59,640 --> 00:43:02,320
Speaker 3: You know it's We have written three books together, okay,

883
00:43:02,400 --> 00:43:06,960
Speaker 3: we have done TV shows together, and I mean so

884
00:43:07,120 --> 00:43:12,440
Speaker 3: many things that you know. Some couple's golf, some have hobbies.

885
00:43:12,719 --> 00:43:14,560
Speaker 3: We like to work, we like to make content. We've

886
00:43:14,560 --> 00:43:17,560
Speaker 3: had a skincare and supple bedline for eleven twelve years.

887
00:43:17,560 --> 00:43:19,200
Speaker 2: Feel free to send me some Oh do you want

888
00:43:19,200 --> 00:43:20,160
Speaker 2: to forgive me a link?

889
00:43:20,239 --> 00:43:21,040
Speaker 3: No? No, I'll buye.

890
00:43:21,120 --> 00:43:24,760
Speaker 1: I'm not stingy Noppin either. I am a skinny.

891
00:43:25,120 --> 00:43:27,520
Speaker 3: Our skincare is great, it's all I use. It's really great.

892
00:43:27,920 --> 00:43:31,239
Speaker 3: I have really sensitive skin. So anyway, but we have

893
00:43:31,360 --> 00:43:33,799
Speaker 3: done all these things together, and so we started doing

894
00:43:33,800 --> 00:43:36,440
Speaker 3: these tiktoks, which, according to my children, are very cringing,

895
00:43:36,719 --> 00:43:39,959
Speaker 3: but we were getting millions and millions of hits on them.

896
00:43:40,600 --> 00:43:45,080
Speaker 3: So after being so long with my podcast, I was

897
00:43:45,160 --> 00:43:48,160
Speaker 3: really just ready for something a little bit different, okay.

898
00:43:48,440 --> 00:43:51,120
Speaker 3: And after the TikTok thing, I said to Terry, I go,

899
00:43:51,200 --> 00:43:53,200
Speaker 3: this is so crazy. Why don't why don't we just

900
00:43:53,239 --> 00:43:56,080
Speaker 3: do a podcast together? And he was like, oh, I

901
00:43:56,120 --> 00:43:58,560
Speaker 3: love this idea. Let's so so we've been doing it.

902
00:43:58,560 --> 00:44:01,680
Speaker 3: It's been so good for us. But I will tell

903
00:44:01,719 --> 00:44:07,520
Speaker 3: you I will eventually probably do another one that's a

904
00:44:07,560 --> 00:44:11,120
Speaker 3: little more girl coded love it and probably be with

905
00:44:11,200 --> 00:44:13,440
Speaker 3: one or two I'm talking about it right now, but

906
00:44:13,480 --> 00:44:19,960
Speaker 3: probably with one or two other women, because I miss

907
00:44:20,480 --> 00:44:24,359
Speaker 3: the girl part of the conversation right and there is

908
00:44:24,400 --> 00:44:26,959
Speaker 3: such a big part, Like everyone loves being tear together

909
00:44:26,960 --> 00:44:29,360
Speaker 3: and they love the relationship stuff and the money talk

910
00:44:29,600 --> 00:44:33,920
Speaker 3: and the real love about money stuff, but all that stuff,

911
00:44:33,920 --> 00:44:37,200
Speaker 3: and I think it's such great conversation and it's stuff

912
00:44:37,200 --> 00:44:39,960
Speaker 3: that people haven't been privy to before with us, so

913
00:44:40,400 --> 00:44:44,240
Speaker 3: that's really fun. But I know also people are missing

914
00:44:44,640 --> 00:44:48,160
Speaker 3: that side of catching up about the kids and you know,

915
00:44:48,360 --> 00:44:49,760
Speaker 3: that kind of day to day stuff.

916
00:44:49,920 --> 00:44:51,840
Speaker 2: Yeah, the stuff that you talk about with your girlfriends

917
00:44:51,960 --> 00:44:54,480
Speaker 2: that like bonds women. I love that.

918
00:44:54,600 --> 00:44:58,440
Speaker 1: Where can we listen to your podcasts? Yours and Terry's.

919
00:44:59,000 --> 00:45:02,080
Speaker 3: It's called between us and it's anywhere you get your podcasts.

920
00:45:02,320 --> 00:45:04,560
Speaker 3: Let's do it on iHeart or anywhere you get them.

921
00:45:04,760 --> 00:45:05,880
Speaker 3: I love it. What day is it air?

922
00:45:05,920 --> 00:45:08,399
Speaker 2: Did you say Wednesday?

923
00:45:09,360 --> 00:45:09,880
Speaker 3: I love it.

924
00:45:09,880 --> 00:45:12,080
Speaker 1: Thank you so much for coming on untraditionally La La.

925
00:45:12,200 --> 00:45:13,880
Speaker 1: I appreciate it. Thank you guys for listening.

926
00:45:13,920 --> 00:45:15,480
Speaker 2: I'm going to catch you on Monday for the bonus,

927
00:45:15,480 --> 00:45:16,319
Speaker 2: and again next week.

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Speaker 1: Bye.