1 00:00:00,200 --> 00:00:02,800 Speaker 1: Hey, this is Jonas is Sam your og Okay Storytime 2 00:00:02,840 --> 00:00:05,720 Speaker 1: podcast hosts. We have some great stories coming up, but. 3 00:00:05,600 --> 00:00:07,120 Speaker 2: Before that, we have a quick two minute break from 4 00:00:07,120 --> 00:00:08,520 Speaker 2: the sponsors that keep the show alive. 5 00:00:09,360 --> 00:00:13,080 Speaker 3: My dramatic sister in law accused us of purposely leaving 6 00:00:13,119 --> 00:00:15,320 Speaker 3: her out. I want to back out from her wedding. 7 00:00:16,120 --> 00:00:21,079 Speaker 1: Beep beep beepee that's me, back it up, back it up. 8 00:00:21,120 --> 00:00:21,439 Speaker 1: Out of that. 9 00:00:21,680 --> 00:00:23,639 Speaker 3: I really don't know how to keep this short, so 10 00:00:23,720 --> 00:00:27,000 Speaker 3: here it goes. I apologize for the wall of text incoming. 11 00:00:27,400 --> 00:00:29,680 Speaker 3: I'm supposed to be a bridesmaid and my brother in 12 00:00:29,760 --> 00:00:32,879 Speaker 3: law and future sister in law's wedding at the beginning 13 00:00:32,880 --> 00:00:36,319 Speaker 3: of this August. She's marrying my husband's little brother. By 14 00:00:36,360 --> 00:00:40,879 Speaker 3: the way, this comes from Drama Lama No Tomama, and 15 00:00:40,920 --> 00:00:42,920 Speaker 3: if you want to submit your own stories, go to 16 00:00:42,960 --> 00:00:44,800 Speaker 3: our slash Okay story tim subreddits. 17 00:00:44,920 --> 00:00:45,760 Speaker 1: So quick facts. 18 00:00:46,120 --> 00:00:48,400 Speaker 3: My husband is the best man. Neither the bride nor 19 00:00:48,440 --> 00:00:50,280 Speaker 3: the groom have any friends, so the wedding party is 20 00:00:50,320 --> 00:00:52,960 Speaker 3: one hundred percent family, five women, five men. I'm the 21 00:00:53,040 --> 00:00:55,200 Speaker 3: last one of the women's line. My husband is the 22 00:00:55,280 --> 00:00:57,640 Speaker 3: first in the men's line. Each of the bridesmaids are 23 00:00:57,680 --> 00:01:00,120 Speaker 3: married slash stating one of the roomsmen, but of the 24 00:01:00,200 --> 00:01:02,080 Speaker 3: other couples are actually walking together. 25 00:01:02,440 --> 00:01:04,000 Speaker 1: Ah, no red flags. 26 00:01:04,040 --> 00:01:08,679 Speaker 3: There no red flag with no friends, No friends at 27 00:01:08,680 --> 00:01:09,200 Speaker 3: your wedding. 28 00:01:10,080 --> 00:01:12,120 Speaker 1: None ym. 29 00:01:13,880 --> 00:01:22,319 Speaker 3: The players Adam my husband's brother, pushover, serial monogonists, divorcee nasty, scary, terrible, 30 00:01:22,319 --> 00:01:26,479 Speaker 3: divorce doesn't sound like where the pants? No social game, 31 00:01:26,720 --> 00:01:30,960 Speaker 3: no friends, groom to be. Player two Amanda, my husband's 32 00:01:30,959 --> 00:01:35,840 Speaker 3: brother's fiance. Normal girl, where's the pants? Kind of a chameleon, 33 00:01:36,200 --> 00:01:40,360 Speaker 3: no friends, so so social skills can be dramatic, seemingly 34 00:01:40,880 --> 00:01:43,280 Speaker 3: no loyalty, bride to be. 35 00:01:43,400 --> 00:01:46,600 Speaker 2: And she has a spring loaded tongue that shoots out 36 00:01:46,600 --> 00:01:47,240 Speaker 2: and grabs in. 37 00:01:47,200 --> 00:01:51,840 Speaker 4: Something more like a man a kirby duh Sarah. 38 00:01:51,880 --> 00:01:57,160 Speaker 3: Player three Adam's twin sister, my husband's baby sister, super controlling, 39 00:01:57,200 --> 00:02:00,840 Speaker 3: bossy drama queen. Only makes friends when you can use them, 40 00:02:01,080 --> 00:02:03,640 Speaker 3: and then dumps them once they are no longer of use. 41 00:02:04,160 --> 00:02:09,200 Speaker 3: Backsteps everyone, including family, no real friends. Mom coddles her, 42 00:02:09,440 --> 00:02:12,799 Speaker 3: the rest of the family tolerates her to just keep 43 00:02:12,840 --> 00:02:15,680 Speaker 3: the peace. Player at four and five Greg and Anna, 44 00:02:16,440 --> 00:02:20,040 Speaker 3: husband's oldest brother and his wife normal people. We have 45 00:02:20,120 --> 00:02:23,680 Speaker 3: a close spond with them and their kids. Now we 46 00:02:23,720 --> 00:02:28,800 Speaker 3: have the players. Any questions, Now it's time for the game. 47 00:02:29,160 --> 00:02:31,240 Speaker 3: Time for the freaking gets it. 48 00:02:31,400 --> 00:02:32,520 Speaker 1: Time to play the game. 49 00:02:32,639 --> 00:02:35,120 Speaker 4: Why are your eyes so glossy? Why are you crying? 50 00:02:35,160 --> 00:02:35,919 Speaker 4: Are you crying? 51 00:02:36,280 --> 00:02:49,000 Speaker 3: I'm crying? Okay, the game. When Adam met Amanda, he 52 00:02:49,200 --> 00:02:52,800 Speaker 3: was just starting to go through a terribly rough divorce. 53 00:02:53,200 --> 00:02:56,480 Speaker 3: Best time to meet someone immediately. Upon meeting Amanda, we 54 00:02:56,600 --> 00:03:00,160 Speaker 3: became friends. When Adam's ex wife started making threats and 55 00:03:00,240 --> 00:03:03,360 Speaker 3: breaking to their apartment, they moved in with us. My 56 00:03:03,480 --> 00:03:07,120 Speaker 3: husband Owes pup hughes and his exes terrified of them. 57 00:03:07,600 --> 00:03:10,600 Speaker 3: Most people learn for a few months just to get 58 00:03:10,680 --> 00:03:14,200 Speaker 3: back on their feet. Over time, our friendship grew stronger. 59 00:03:14,560 --> 00:03:16,800 Speaker 3: She would talk to me about her life, and I 60 00:03:16,960 --> 00:03:19,919 Speaker 3: talked to her about mine. We did things together, et cetera. 61 00:03:20,280 --> 00:03:23,120 Speaker 3: Things were great and I consider her a very good friend. 62 00:03:23,520 --> 00:03:26,240 Speaker 3: This is about the time that she really started spending 63 00:03:26,280 --> 00:03:31,760 Speaker 3: time with Adam's twin, Sarah. Sarah took Amanda under her 64 00:03:31,800 --> 00:03:34,840 Speaker 3: wing about two months ago and began to teach Amanda 65 00:03:35,120 --> 00:03:39,400 Speaker 3: her ways. Choose a target destroy once destroyed, choose a 66 00:03:39,440 --> 00:03:41,040 Speaker 3: news target destroyed. 67 00:03:41,560 --> 00:03:42,880 Speaker 1: Oh, she's a destroyer. 68 00:03:43,640 --> 00:03:44,880 Speaker 4: She's a heat seeking missile. 69 00:03:44,920 --> 00:03:45,560 Speaker 1: I can fix her. 70 00:03:46,040 --> 00:03:47,040 Speaker 4: Oh yeah. 71 00:03:47,320 --> 00:03:51,680 Speaker 3: Slowly Amanda started changing into someone more like Sarah and 72 00:03:51,800 --> 00:03:54,600 Speaker 3: less like what she used to be. She also started 73 00:03:54,680 --> 00:03:57,480 Speaker 3: hanging out with me a lot less and accusing me 74 00:03:57,760 --> 00:04:00,600 Speaker 3: of all manner of things that I did Slash did 75 00:04:00,600 --> 00:04:03,720 Speaker 3: not do, just trying to start drama I never buy, 76 00:04:03,800 --> 00:04:07,000 Speaker 3: which makes both Amanda and Sarah even more mad, so 77 00:04:07,040 --> 00:04:10,160 Speaker 3: they try in tandem, or Amanda would even try harder 78 00:04:10,200 --> 00:04:11,080 Speaker 3: to start stuff. 79 00:04:11,800 --> 00:04:15,760 Speaker 2: Why how do people become this exhausting? Do you know, like, 80 00:04:15,800 --> 00:04:19,560 Speaker 2: how how much work goes into becoming a person like this? 81 00:04:21,040 --> 00:04:27,000 Speaker 2: How much like I can't imagine how hard you have 82 00:04:27,040 --> 00:04:30,000 Speaker 2: to try to become this dude? But dude, Loki, the 83 00:04:30,040 --> 00:04:34,839 Speaker 2: tea tea's addictive. The goss is. 84 00:04:35,320 --> 00:04:36,800 Speaker 4: That teas piping hot. 85 00:04:36,880 --> 00:04:37,559 Speaker 1: That is true. 86 00:04:37,600 --> 00:04:39,080 Speaker 4: I want some of that hot tea. 87 00:04:39,600 --> 00:04:42,760 Speaker 2: We literally had a story today where someone was like, yeah, 88 00:04:42,800 --> 00:04:45,680 Speaker 2: we lived with an narcissist, but it was just so 89 00:04:45,720 --> 00:04:47,760 Speaker 2: we could experience what their life was like. 90 00:04:49,240 --> 00:04:52,520 Speaker 3: Not anymore, not anymore from me. It has gotten to 91 00:04:52,520 --> 00:04:55,039 Speaker 3: the point where Amanda no longer talks to me. When 92 00:04:55,080 --> 00:04:58,599 Speaker 3: she does, she always defends and loves to say hurtful 93 00:04:58,600 --> 00:05:01,920 Speaker 3: things I've tolerated and cut my mouth closed to keep 94 00:05:01,960 --> 00:05:05,400 Speaker 3: the familial piece. I'm hurt, for sure, but I don't 95 00:05:05,440 --> 00:05:08,000 Speaker 3: show the hurt. I've done nothing to but continue to 96 00:05:08,040 --> 00:05:10,240 Speaker 3: try to be her friend, and I continue to invite 97 00:05:10,240 --> 00:05:12,640 Speaker 3: her to things where she does not intend for random 98 00:05:12,760 --> 00:05:17,000 Speaker 3: sometimes spite for reasons. I had been contemplating dropping her 99 00:05:17,080 --> 00:05:19,679 Speaker 3: out of the wedding for a while, but to keep 100 00:05:19,800 --> 00:05:23,200 Speaker 3: said peace, I have so far decided against it. I 101 00:05:23,240 --> 00:05:26,760 Speaker 3: am just a complete loss for A why would she 102 00:05:26,839 --> 00:05:29,560 Speaker 3: treat me this way and not just take it upon 103 00:05:29,600 --> 00:05:32,520 Speaker 3: herself to pump me out? And B why did I 104 00:05:32,640 --> 00:05:37,040 Speaker 3: keep laying there and taking it without dropping out? But regardless, 105 00:05:37,520 --> 00:05:40,440 Speaker 3: I haven't voiced these thoughts outside of my husband. You 106 00:05:40,480 --> 00:05:44,680 Speaker 3: have chronic pp op, you have chronic pp. No, what 107 00:05:44,839 --> 00:05:46,279 Speaker 3: is chronic pp? My friend? 108 00:05:46,640 --> 00:05:47,039 Speaker 1: You got to. 109 00:05:47,040 --> 00:05:51,720 Speaker 2: Emphasize the second you know opp I chronic pep P 110 00:05:52,800 --> 00:06:00,560 Speaker 2: chronic pp chronic pp pp like we we chronic we 111 00:06:00,560 --> 00:06:02,960 Speaker 2: wee chronic ppee. 112 00:06:03,080 --> 00:06:04,279 Speaker 1: You're chronic people pleaser? 113 00:06:04,600 --> 00:06:09,680 Speaker 3: Yes, chronic ppe chronic pp. Boys, your thoughts, even if 114 00:06:09,680 --> 00:06:14,080 Speaker 3: it ruins families. Last weekend, she finally told me that 115 00:06:14,120 --> 00:06:18,520 Speaker 3: I hurt her feelings because I personsely excluded her from 116 00:06:18,560 --> 00:06:21,200 Speaker 3: my wedding. I only knew her for about a month 117 00:06:21,279 --> 00:06:24,000 Speaker 3: at the time of my wedding, and that I hurt 118 00:06:24,080 --> 00:06:26,880 Speaker 3: so many people's feelings, but I'm too blind on my 119 00:06:27,080 --> 00:06:28,160 Speaker 3: high horse to see it. 120 00:06:29,000 --> 00:06:33,040 Speaker 1: Are you sure about that? Are you sure about that? 121 00:06:33,920 --> 00:06:36,440 Speaker 3: Sarah has told me this before, and I know it's 122 00:06:36,520 --> 00:06:40,479 Speaker 3: not true. But I also didn't include Sarah either, And 123 00:06:40,680 --> 00:06:43,640 Speaker 3: this is how she works. You hurt me, you hurt 124 00:06:43,640 --> 00:06:47,320 Speaker 3: my family. I've long since confirmed with her family. No 125 00:06:47,400 --> 00:06:51,240 Speaker 3: feelings were hurt beyond hers. I responded and let Amna 126 00:06:51,320 --> 00:06:54,080 Speaker 3: know that she doesn't realize it, but she is also 127 00:06:54,200 --> 00:06:57,039 Speaker 3: hurting many people's feelings with her actions as of late. 128 00:06:57,440 --> 00:07:01,080 Speaker 3: It was very rational and level headed response once no anger, 129 00:07:01,520 --> 00:07:05,520 Speaker 3: very neutral tone, but one I regretted immediately because I 130 00:07:05,720 --> 00:07:08,599 Speaker 3: wasn't sure if it would cause an explosion or not. 131 00:07:09,200 --> 00:07:12,320 Speaker 3: It actually seemed to help a little. She invited me 132 00:07:12,360 --> 00:07:14,600 Speaker 3: over to chat in person about things. The next night, 133 00:07:15,000 --> 00:07:17,080 Speaker 3: she came straight out and told me that she was 134 00:07:17,120 --> 00:07:19,960 Speaker 3: worried I'd drop out of her wedding because how she 135 00:07:20,080 --> 00:07:22,880 Speaker 3: had been treating me, which shocked me because I'd figure 136 00:07:22,960 --> 00:07:25,800 Speaker 3: she didn't care, and said that if I didn't drop out, 137 00:07:25,840 --> 00:07:29,600 Speaker 3: she'd pump my husband out too, since it's a couple's wedding. 138 00:07:30,040 --> 00:07:33,160 Speaker 3: I still did not hint how I felt about that topic, 139 00:07:33,480 --> 00:07:35,640 Speaker 3: but I did tell her that my feelings were hurt 140 00:07:35,960 --> 00:07:39,080 Speaker 3: and I understand why I was getting treated that way. 141 00:07:39,360 --> 00:07:42,920 Speaker 3: She mentioned that she felt stressed and apologized. I told 142 00:07:42,960 --> 00:07:46,040 Speaker 3: her I felt she acted differently around Sarah than when 143 00:07:46,040 --> 00:07:48,960 Speaker 3: we were by ourselves, and that if she didn't want 144 00:07:49,000 --> 00:07:51,200 Speaker 3: to have a friendship with me, all she has to 145 00:07:51,240 --> 00:07:53,440 Speaker 3: do was tell me. She told me she wanted to 146 00:07:53,480 --> 00:07:58,800 Speaker 3: be friends and she was going to change. Things actually 147 00:07:58,840 --> 00:08:01,200 Speaker 3: started to get better over the course of the next week. 148 00:08:01,440 --> 00:08:04,000 Speaker 3: Oh she called me a few times and we hung 149 00:08:04,040 --> 00:08:07,440 Speaker 3: out more since. In fact, this past weekend we were 150 00:08:07,440 --> 00:08:10,880 Speaker 3: at Sarah's wedding together where she was the only bridesmaid, 151 00:08:10,920 --> 00:08:14,640 Speaker 3: and Amanda was very cheery and happy and went out 152 00:08:14,680 --> 00:08:16,840 Speaker 3: of her way to hang out with me quite a 153 00:08:16,840 --> 00:08:19,360 Speaker 3: few times. It kind of felt like old times again. 154 00:08:19,680 --> 00:08:22,800 Speaker 3: I thought, perhaps we had moved past the rough part. Okay, 155 00:08:24,080 --> 00:08:26,440 Speaker 3: I'm just waiting for the butt or the until or 156 00:08:26,600 --> 00:08:27,440 Speaker 3: and then happened. 157 00:08:27,800 --> 00:08:28,760 Speaker 1: Here comes the butt. 158 00:08:29,120 --> 00:08:31,960 Speaker 2: It's hampering the butts, the butts on on the way, 159 00:08:32,240 --> 00:08:35,280 Speaker 2: big fat juicy butt. The butt is on is on 160 00:08:35,320 --> 00:08:39,440 Speaker 2: a flight right now, Express one way private jet. 161 00:08:39,440 --> 00:08:42,679 Speaker 3: Delivered tomorrow overnight. It's overnight. 162 00:08:43,160 --> 00:08:45,520 Speaker 1: It's it's landing imminently. 163 00:08:46,440 --> 00:08:50,000 Speaker 2: It's gotta because you can talk and you can change 164 00:08:50,120 --> 00:08:52,400 Speaker 2: just for a little bit. But it's like, I think, 165 00:08:52,440 --> 00:08:54,640 Speaker 2: what is it three weeks? Is the longest? Is it 166 00:08:54,679 --> 00:08:55,760 Speaker 2: three weeks or three months? 167 00:08:56,040 --> 00:08:56,439 Speaker 3: Said three? 168 00:08:56,640 --> 00:08:58,600 Speaker 1: It's like either it's either one of those. It's either 169 00:08:58,600 --> 00:08:59,520 Speaker 1: three weeks or three months. 170 00:08:59,559 --> 00:09:02,320 Speaker 2: That that's the longest someone can usually pretend to be 171 00:09:02,440 --> 00:09:05,080 Speaker 2: someone else where. It's like if you're masking to like 172 00:09:05,480 --> 00:09:07,319 Speaker 2: try to get someone to like you or like you're 173 00:09:07,320 --> 00:09:10,040 Speaker 2: trying to you can only be fake. 174 00:09:09,880 --> 00:09:12,280 Speaker 1: For so long before the real version of you is 175 00:09:12,559 --> 00:09:13,440 Speaker 1: seized the light of day. 176 00:09:13,920 --> 00:09:16,520 Speaker 3: The wedding was over an hour away from where most 177 00:09:16,520 --> 00:09:19,680 Speaker 3: of us, including Amanda and Adam live. They had been 178 00:09:19,760 --> 00:09:23,080 Speaker 3: away from home for a week so went home afterwards. 179 00:09:23,320 --> 00:09:25,880 Speaker 3: We stayed with my husband's father, who lives in the 180 00:09:25,880 --> 00:09:29,360 Speaker 3: same town as the wedding. My husband's older brother, Greg 181 00:09:29,360 --> 00:09:32,120 Speaker 3: and his wife Anna also stayed with my father in 182 00:09:32,200 --> 00:09:35,320 Speaker 3: law rather than make the long drive home and nearly 183 00:09:35,360 --> 00:09:38,680 Speaker 3: midnight that's when I usually drive home. 184 00:09:42,559 --> 00:09:43,040 Speaker 1: Midnight. 185 00:09:43,480 --> 00:09:45,960 Speaker 3: Yeah. Sometimes when I'm at my girls place, I do 186 00:09:46,000 --> 00:09:48,440 Speaker 3: not want to go through that LA traffic from OC 187 00:09:48,800 --> 00:09:52,840 Speaker 3: to LA. Yeah, that makes sense, So I like just 188 00:09:52,880 --> 00:09:54,960 Speaker 3: like leave at midnight. Yeah, in my head you were 189 00:09:54,960 --> 00:09:56,679 Speaker 3: talking about work and I was like, what you're talking about? 190 00:09:57,080 --> 00:09:59,440 Speaker 3: Sometimes sometimes do it? I really do that, but I 191 00:09:59,480 --> 00:10:02,720 Speaker 3: do like a I drive at midnight. Yesterday's Sunday was 192 00:10:02,720 --> 00:10:05,480 Speaker 3: Father's Day. We asked my husband's father if we could 193 00:10:05,480 --> 00:10:08,200 Speaker 3: take him out to lunch. He said, Greg and Anna 194 00:10:08,240 --> 00:10:10,560 Speaker 3: had already asked, so we asked him if we could 195 00:10:10,600 --> 00:10:13,400 Speaker 3: join and they said sure. It was a lovely day 196 00:10:13,480 --> 00:10:16,240 Speaker 3: spent with all of them. An incident's status about the 197 00:10:16,320 --> 00:10:19,200 Speaker 3: lunch made it onto Facebook with the five of us tagged, 198 00:10:19,320 --> 00:10:22,360 Speaker 3: and that's where the crat hit the fan. Last night, 199 00:10:22,400 --> 00:10:26,080 Speaker 3: Amanda started posting dramatic comments on the status about how 200 00:10:26,160 --> 00:10:29,360 Speaker 3: we were persistly leaving her out, and then blocked us 201 00:10:29,400 --> 00:10:32,800 Speaker 3: after posting an incredibly hurtful and dramatic status about how 202 00:10:32,880 --> 00:10:36,720 Speaker 3: we all hate her and she's never included. Shortly after, 203 00:10:37,200 --> 00:10:40,400 Speaker 3: Adam also posted a very similar status, and I think 204 00:10:40,440 --> 00:10:43,439 Speaker 3: Amanda posted it for him because Adam doesn't speak as 205 00:10:43,480 --> 00:10:47,240 Speaker 3: clearly as the language that was posted. I think Sarah 206 00:10:47,679 --> 00:10:52,240 Speaker 3: has isolated her in these incidents and then warm tongued 207 00:10:53,240 --> 00:10:57,600 Speaker 3: Amanda to think that she is being blocked, that she 208 00:10:57,800 --> 00:10:58,679 Speaker 3: is being isolated. 209 00:10:59,000 --> 00:11:02,240 Speaker 1: Yeah, that sounds right to me. Sounds like you got 210 00:11:02,240 --> 00:11:03,640 Speaker 1: a grima worm tongue in your. 211 00:11:03,480 --> 00:11:10,920 Speaker 3: Midst jet into your ear. And then contacted Adam via 212 00:11:10,960 --> 00:11:14,520 Speaker 3: face book message to ask if things were okay. She 213 00:11:14,640 --> 00:11:17,480 Speaker 3: explained the situation and made it clear that it wasn't 214 00:11:17,520 --> 00:11:22,640 Speaker 3: a planned thing and that no one was personally excluding anyone. 215 00:11:22,960 --> 00:11:25,839 Speaker 3: He got us all liars, cussed her out, said a 216 00:11:25,880 --> 00:11:28,840 Speaker 3: bunch of hurtful things, and then has ignored any form 217 00:11:28,880 --> 00:11:31,839 Speaker 3: of contact from either my husband or Greg ever since. 218 00:11:32,280 --> 00:11:35,160 Speaker 3: I believe once again that Amanda was the one behind 219 00:11:35,200 --> 00:11:38,760 Speaker 3: the words, because Adam doesn't swear, doesn't talk the same 220 00:11:38,840 --> 00:11:42,359 Speaker 3: as the post, and has never acted this way. Uh oh. 221 00:11:42,480 --> 00:11:45,319 Speaker 3: Now that this has happened, I'm back to thinking that 222 00:11:45,480 --> 00:11:48,800 Speaker 3: maybe I should be dropping out. I don't know who 223 00:11:48,840 --> 00:11:51,800 Speaker 3: treats their bridesmaid like this, Not to mention the past 224 00:11:51,840 --> 00:11:55,760 Speaker 3: few months of abuse that I've received, I cannot imagine 225 00:11:55,760 --> 00:11:58,400 Speaker 3: how awkward it will be to her wedding and standing 226 00:11:58,520 --> 00:12:00,960 Speaker 3: up there with her If things the way that they 227 00:12:01,040 --> 00:12:03,680 Speaker 3: are right now. Not only that, but I feel like 228 00:12:03,840 --> 00:12:06,960 Speaker 3: I'm losing my sanity with this whole ordeal. My mom 229 00:12:07,040 --> 00:12:09,960 Speaker 3: keeps telling me I should drop out, especially now that 230 00:12:10,000 --> 00:12:11,200 Speaker 3: this weekend has happened. 231 00:12:11,480 --> 00:12:16,679 Speaker 2: Drop out or nah, I say, drop out, and then also. 232 00:12:16,760 --> 00:12:21,120 Speaker 1: Tell your brother that his wife sucks. I think we're 233 00:12:21,160 --> 00:12:23,880 Speaker 1: all in a unanimous decision here. 234 00:12:24,000 --> 00:12:28,960 Speaker 2: I'm in dropout, and it's like, clearly, I don't think 235 00:12:28,960 --> 00:12:31,920 Speaker 2: the brother is sending any of this. I think the 236 00:12:31,920 --> 00:12:37,600 Speaker 2: wife or the poquitch sister in law has hijacked his 237 00:12:37,920 --> 00:12:41,520 Speaker 2: life and you gotta step in because he's not strong 238 00:12:41,640 --> 00:12:42,600 Speaker 2: enough to get himself out of it. 239 00:12:42,640 --> 00:12:44,400 Speaker 1: Clearly, Okay, the. 240 00:12:44,320 --> 00:12:47,319 Speaker 3: Brother probably doesn't even know he has a Facebook, right, 241 00:12:48,160 --> 00:12:50,760 Speaker 3: He's like, oh, I have a Facebook, a Facebook more 242 00:12:50,800 --> 00:12:52,079 Speaker 3: like a fake book, because that ain't. 243 00:12:51,920 --> 00:12:52,559 Speaker 2: Me a. 244 00:12:54,559 --> 00:12:59,120 Speaker 3: Whoa jokes are rubbing off on him that that was 245 00:12:59,200 --> 00:13:02,920 Speaker 3: pure wordociation. But at the same time, I don't want 246 00:13:02,920 --> 00:13:05,680 Speaker 3: to disturb whatever piece may be left between Adam and 247 00:13:05,720 --> 00:13:08,400 Speaker 3: the rest of the family if I drop. My husband 248 00:13:08,480 --> 00:13:11,320 Speaker 3: is punted. He already said that he will support whatever 249 00:13:11,360 --> 00:13:15,320 Speaker 3: decision I make, and after last night, doesn't really care 250 00:13:15,440 --> 00:13:18,080 Speaker 3: to be in the wedding either, but like me, he's 251 00:13:18,160 --> 00:13:21,160 Speaker 3: keeping the peace. My father in law has already said 252 00:13:21,160 --> 00:13:24,600 Speaker 3: if my husband is punted out, he will very publicly 253 00:13:24,679 --> 00:13:28,120 Speaker 3: let them know that he will refuse to attend, and 254 00:13:28,200 --> 00:13:30,880 Speaker 3: Greg slash Ana have both said they would likely drop 255 00:13:30,880 --> 00:13:34,559 Speaker 3: out to as a result. I don't want those dominoes 256 00:13:34,600 --> 00:13:41,880 Speaker 3: to fall though, No way, no how, Rock Meet Hard Place. Now, Hey, 257 00:13:42,520 --> 00:13:46,920 Speaker 3: what are you a writer? Op ah? I tell my 258 00:13:46,920 --> 00:13:47,839 Speaker 3: pet rock every night. 259 00:13:51,040 --> 00:13:54,520 Speaker 2: Brother, you gotta give the pet rock a break every night, 260 00:13:55,440 --> 00:13:58,680 Speaker 2: every night. I know some people would focus on another 261 00:13:58,720 --> 00:14:01,680 Speaker 2: aspect of that, but everyvery night. 262 00:14:02,400 --> 00:14:06,640 Speaker 3: Oh dude, I had to make that joke. It's a joke, 263 00:14:06,800 --> 00:14:08,760 Speaker 3: but I don't know is that good. I want to 264 00:14:08,800 --> 00:14:11,080 Speaker 3: put this out of my rock Meat Hard Plays. Let 265 00:14:11,080 --> 00:14:11,920 Speaker 3: me put that down. 266 00:14:13,440 --> 00:14:16,320 Speaker 1: Rock Meat Hard Plays or rock my Hard Place. 267 00:14:18,360 --> 00:14:19,360 Speaker 3: Dude. 268 00:14:19,520 --> 00:14:21,760 Speaker 1: God, dang, I said it at the wrong time. That 269 00:14:21,840 --> 00:14:22,440 Speaker 1: was funny. 270 00:14:22,680 --> 00:14:25,120 Speaker 3: My husband is I rate. He hasn't been happy about 271 00:14:25,160 --> 00:14:27,600 Speaker 3: her treatment of me in a long time and is 272 00:14:27,680 --> 00:14:31,000 Speaker 3: now appalled at how they are both handling this. He's 273 00:14:31,040 --> 00:14:32,920 Speaker 3: cooling off for a few days before he wants to 274 00:14:33,000 --> 00:14:36,400 Speaker 3: attempt to talk to Adam. Once he does, and we 275 00:14:36,480 --> 00:14:38,880 Speaker 3: can see what kind of effect this has we can 276 00:14:38,920 --> 00:14:42,080 Speaker 3: all have a better idea how the future might play out. 277 00:14:42,240 --> 00:14:44,840 Speaker 3: I have no idea what I should do if things 278 00:14:44,880 --> 00:14:48,760 Speaker 3: don't start getting better. Any advice would be appreciated. Come 279 00:14:48,760 --> 00:14:51,360 Speaker 3: it to just a point to consider. It seems like 280 00:14:51,480 --> 00:14:54,760 Speaker 3: everyone is on the logic here father in law, you're 281 00:14:54,760 --> 00:14:58,480 Speaker 3: a hubby, Greg and Anna right now, you all not 282 00:14:58,640 --> 00:15:01,160 Speaker 3: just you personally have an opportunity to show it. You 283 00:15:01,240 --> 00:15:04,280 Speaker 3: not in front, as everyone is disgusted with her behavior. 284 00:15:04,640 --> 00:15:07,320 Speaker 3: If you let this grow unchecked, it will make the 285 00:15:07,360 --> 00:15:11,080 Speaker 3: rest of your lives miserable, and as an added bonus, 286 00:15:11,120 --> 00:15:14,600 Speaker 3: you may never have a perfect balance of irritation with 287 00:15:14,640 --> 00:15:20,120 Speaker 3: her and DGAF from your family to be able to 288 00:15:20,160 --> 00:15:24,680 Speaker 3: do something like this United Front ever again. I know 289 00:15:24,760 --> 00:15:28,040 Speaker 3: you don't want to make waves, but you really need 290 00:15:28,080 --> 00:15:31,160 Speaker 3: to make your husband be the bad guy. His family, 291 00:15:31,200 --> 00:15:35,840 Speaker 3: at least the emotional contempt ones won't turn on him, 292 00:15:36,040 --> 00:15:37,960 Speaker 3: and there's a chance they could turn on you and 293 00:15:38,040 --> 00:15:41,640 Speaker 3: teach this child a lesson. Best case scenario, she comes 294 00:15:41,680 --> 00:15:45,240 Speaker 3: to her senses. Worst case scenario, she's a raging witch 295 00:15:45,720 --> 00:15:48,400 Speaker 3: and your family that you like is all on the 296 00:15:48,400 --> 00:15:51,840 Speaker 3: same page as you, Opie. Only if it was easier, 297 00:15:52,280 --> 00:15:55,520 Speaker 3: I do worry immensely about causing waves, and if we 298 00:15:55,720 --> 00:16:00,160 Speaker 3: did this show of solidarity, waves would be felt by everyone. 299 00:16:00,560 --> 00:16:03,560 Speaker 3: I just don't want to be the reason things fall apart. 300 00:16:03,880 --> 00:16:08,240 Speaker 3: They have balanced a rather complicated ecosystem for decades, though 301 00:16:08,280 --> 00:16:10,960 Speaker 3: who knows, I may not have a choice. We got 302 00:16:10,960 --> 00:16:14,320 Speaker 3: an update. How are you feeling about this guys? 303 00:16:14,440 --> 00:16:15,320 Speaker 1: Trade proposal? 304 00:16:17,240 --> 00:16:20,120 Speaker 2: You trade your your brother and sister in law for 305 00:16:20,320 --> 00:16:21,800 Speaker 2: new versions of them? 306 00:16:22,480 --> 00:16:25,320 Speaker 3: Can we can we trade the brother and sister in 307 00:16:25,360 --> 00:16:27,400 Speaker 3: law out for Greg and Anna? 308 00:16:27,760 --> 00:16:31,600 Speaker 2: Yes, I'm gonna say yes. I'm gonna say we can 309 00:16:31,760 --> 00:16:36,120 Speaker 2: do that. Trade clause trade clause, trade clause There was 310 00:16:36,160 --> 00:16:39,280 Speaker 2: no There was no clause that said they couldn't be traded. 311 00:16:39,600 --> 00:16:40,000 Speaker 1: Update. 312 00:16:40,240 --> 00:16:43,360 Speaker 3: Well, things got definitely worse. After an entire week of 313 00:16:43,400 --> 00:16:46,120 Speaker 3: no contact, I decided I wanted to talk with her. 314 00:16:46,440 --> 00:16:48,960 Speaker 3: Her bridal shower was Sunday, and I wasn't about to 315 00:16:49,000 --> 00:16:52,240 Speaker 3: attend With things left as they were. I texted Amanda 316 00:16:52,400 --> 00:16:55,280 Speaker 3: and asked what she was up to Friday night. She 317 00:16:55,440 --> 00:16:58,800 Speaker 3: was oddly responsive, but shut down quick when I told 318 00:16:58,840 --> 00:17:01,520 Speaker 3: her that I really wanted to talk to her. At 319 00:17:01,560 --> 00:17:05,920 Speaker 3: that point, she became proactive and tried to ruffle my feathers. 320 00:17:06,160 --> 00:17:09,560 Speaker 3: I persistently and politely kept asking to talk in person 321 00:17:09,920 --> 00:17:13,119 Speaker 3: and to keep it off text. She eventually said she 322 00:17:13,200 --> 00:17:15,280 Speaker 3: had nothing nice to say to me and dismissed me. 323 00:17:15,640 --> 00:17:18,439 Speaker 3: This aggravated me. Though I didn't respond to that text, 324 00:17:18,760 --> 00:17:21,880 Speaker 3: my husband told me I should just cool down and 325 00:17:22,040 --> 00:17:24,679 Speaker 3: not go over, so I decided to stay home. I 326 00:17:24,720 --> 00:17:26,880 Speaker 3: was starting to lose the gumption to try to make 327 00:17:27,000 --> 00:17:30,439 Speaker 3: nice anyway. A few hours later, she texted me asking 328 00:17:30,480 --> 00:17:32,639 Speaker 3: why I didn't come over, and told me I ruined 329 00:17:32,640 --> 00:17:34,560 Speaker 3: her night because she dropped what she was doing and 330 00:17:34,640 --> 00:17:36,879 Speaker 3: rushed home in order for me to come. What she 331 00:17:36,920 --> 00:17:40,000 Speaker 3: had previously told me she wasn't doing anything and was 332 00:17:40,040 --> 00:17:42,320 Speaker 3: home so I would be home all night by herself. 333 00:17:42,440 --> 00:17:45,199 Speaker 3: She again said one or two things in an attempt 334 00:17:45,280 --> 00:17:48,480 Speaker 3: to provoke me, which didn't really work. She eventually said 335 00:17:48,480 --> 00:17:50,800 Speaker 3: she wanted to talk and asked if i'd come over 336 00:17:51,040 --> 00:17:53,480 Speaker 3: so we could chat. I again shared the text with 337 00:17:53,520 --> 00:17:55,959 Speaker 3: my husband and he told me to just get it 338 00:17:56,040 --> 00:18:00,800 Speaker 3: over with, so I did. Boy, that was a mistake. 339 00:18:01,240 --> 00:18:03,560 Speaker 3: I walked into her trap the instant I opened the 340 00:18:03,600 --> 00:18:07,080 Speaker 3: gate to her deck. The entirety of our conversation took place. 341 00:18:07,440 --> 00:18:10,200 Speaker 3: She had a nasty look on her face. I meekly said, 342 00:18:10,320 --> 00:18:12,720 Speaker 3: I just want to tell you what's on my mind. 343 00:18:13,119 --> 00:18:15,119 Speaker 3: You can do the same if you want, but I 344 00:18:15,160 --> 00:18:18,399 Speaker 3: really don't want to do anything else. She instantly yelled 345 00:18:18,440 --> 00:18:21,280 Speaker 3: at me and told me not to disrespect her and 346 00:18:21,359 --> 00:18:24,480 Speaker 3: her own home. Mind you, we're outside, and the town 347 00:18:24,560 --> 00:18:27,600 Speaker 3: we live in is small. I'm positive most of her 348 00:18:27,640 --> 00:18:30,679 Speaker 3: neighbors heard her, even if they were inside with her 349 00:18:30,680 --> 00:18:34,160 Speaker 3: TVs blaring. I sat there and took it, though. I'm 350 00:18:34,200 --> 00:18:37,320 Speaker 3: not one for reacting to dramatic tantrums really, so I 351 00:18:37,400 --> 00:18:40,240 Speaker 3: calmly waited for her to finish yelling. Before I continued. 352 00:18:40,840 --> 00:18:43,320 Speaker 3: I let her know that she hurt my feelings. Mind you, 353 00:18:43,359 --> 00:18:46,520 Speaker 3: at this point, getting a full sentence in edgewise was 354 00:18:46,560 --> 00:18:50,200 Speaker 3: nearly impossible. She interrupted me and yell at me, calling 355 00:18:50,240 --> 00:18:54,760 Speaker 3: me names and such, your feelings are hurt, what about mine? Etc. Again, 356 00:18:54,880 --> 00:18:57,960 Speaker 3: after she was finished, I reaffirmed that we didn't do 357 00:18:58,040 --> 00:19:02,040 Speaker 3: anything intentionally to her her, and that Father's Day plans 358 00:19:02,080 --> 00:19:05,080 Speaker 3: were made well in advanced and that my husband and 359 00:19:05,119 --> 00:19:08,320 Speaker 3: I barged in on them. She proceeded to call me 360 00:19:08,400 --> 00:19:11,320 Speaker 3: a piece of crap liar and said that I'm trying 361 00:19:11,359 --> 00:19:14,520 Speaker 3: to hurt her feelings even more. Now, at this point, 362 00:19:14,680 --> 00:19:17,399 Speaker 3: I was starting to lose my cool. My heart was racing, 363 00:19:17,600 --> 00:19:20,119 Speaker 3: and I was still staying calm on the outside, but 364 00:19:20,200 --> 00:19:23,400 Speaker 3: inside I was starting to lose it. I simply said, 365 00:19:23,440 --> 00:19:26,200 Speaker 3: the only person I have seen lately trying to purposely 366 00:19:26,320 --> 00:19:30,359 Speaker 3: hurt anyone else is you. In hindsight, I shouldn't have 367 00:19:30,400 --> 00:19:34,119 Speaker 3: been so blunt, but it was. Slash is true. This, 368 00:19:34,520 --> 00:19:38,280 Speaker 3: of course sent her over the edge. She continued to 369 00:19:38,400 --> 00:19:42,359 Speaker 3: yell obscenities at me. You effing disrespect me in my 370 00:19:42,440 --> 00:19:45,800 Speaker 3: own house, on my own deck. There's the effing door. 371 00:19:46,200 --> 00:19:47,600 Speaker 3: She continued to call me names. 372 00:19:47,640 --> 00:19:51,280 Speaker 2: Well, baby, what a what a stinky baby with a 373 00:19:51,320 --> 00:19:57,160 Speaker 2: poopy diaper? Like, grow up, take some criticism. Yeah, disrespectful. 374 00:19:57,200 --> 00:19:59,760 Speaker 2: This is someone having a dialogue with you. 375 00:20:00,000 --> 00:20:03,080 Speaker 1: That makes no sense, Like, like, where is this coming from. 376 00:20:03,200 --> 00:20:04,760 Speaker 1: It's because she's awful. 377 00:20:04,920 --> 00:20:08,600 Speaker 2: It's because she's awful, And you need to tell your 378 00:20:08,600 --> 00:20:14,639 Speaker 2: brother to leave this wench in the past because she's 379 00:20:14,920 --> 00:20:15,520 Speaker 2: poisoning it. 380 00:20:16,040 --> 00:20:21,200 Speaker 3: Yeah yep, So I point blank asked, do you even 381 00:20:21,320 --> 00:20:22,760 Speaker 3: want me in your wedding anymore? 382 00:20:23,400 --> 00:20:24,880 Speaker 1: I don't give a f what you do. 383 00:20:25,440 --> 00:20:27,639 Speaker 3: I don't care about you, and I don't care what 384 00:20:27,960 --> 00:20:30,639 Speaker 3: you do. I'm sure zech not going to punt you 385 00:20:30,680 --> 00:20:33,600 Speaker 3: out because that'll make me look bad. But if you 386 00:20:33,720 --> 00:20:36,440 Speaker 3: don't drop out, things will get worse for you. At 387 00:20:36,440 --> 00:20:38,960 Speaker 3: this point, I turned and walked to my car. As 388 00:20:39,080 --> 00:20:42,879 Speaker 3: I was leaving, she screamed, what a worthless sea word 389 00:20:42,960 --> 00:20:45,639 Speaker 3: you are, and call me some more names under her 390 00:20:45,680 --> 00:20:48,320 Speaker 3: breath as she went back into her house. I was 391 00:20:48,359 --> 00:20:50,640 Speaker 3: shaking as I got in my car, and I managed 392 00:20:50,640 --> 00:20:53,640 Speaker 3: to drive a few blocks away before I completely lost it. 393 00:20:54,119 --> 00:20:59,920 Speaker 3: I bawled, Oh dang. I know many of you probably 394 00:21:00,080 --> 00:21:02,680 Speaker 3: think words are just words, but me, that sort of 395 00:21:02,760 --> 00:21:06,119 Speaker 3: name calling is outside my family values. There was nothing 396 00:21:06,200 --> 00:21:09,480 Speaker 3: that word is meant for to me other than to 397 00:21:09,560 --> 00:21:12,920 Speaker 3: stab a knife deeply into another's heart. And I wouldn't 398 00:21:12,920 --> 00:21:16,159 Speaker 3: call my worst enemy such a name. It's outside my 399 00:21:16,320 --> 00:21:19,840 Speaker 3: husband's family's values as well. I got home and told 400 00:21:19,840 --> 00:21:22,400 Speaker 3: my husband the story, and he basically sent me to bed. 401 00:21:23,200 --> 00:21:27,600 Speaker 3: It was late. I was emotionally exhausted and upset beyond comfort. 402 00:21:28,000 --> 00:21:31,200 Speaker 3: After I fell asleep, he invited Adam over and spoke 403 00:21:31,240 --> 00:21:34,280 Speaker 3: with him. He recorded the conversation on his phone secretly 404 00:21:34,600 --> 00:21:37,480 Speaker 3: and let me listen to it. Afterwards, he asked what 405 00:21:37,760 --> 00:21:41,160 Speaker 3: Amanda's problem was, and Adam basically said, I don't know. 406 00:21:41,560 --> 00:21:42,520 Speaker 3: I'm staying out of it. 407 00:21:45,320 --> 00:21:49,840 Speaker 1: So that's your husband plan, that's your blueprint. 408 00:21:50,080 --> 00:21:53,679 Speaker 2: Yep, staying out of it. Hey, I'm just staying out 409 00:21:53,760 --> 00:21:54,160 Speaker 2: the way. 410 00:21:54,280 --> 00:21:54,480 Speaker 1: You know. 411 00:21:54,680 --> 00:21:56,320 Speaker 3: She's going through stuff. I'm staying out. 412 00:21:56,520 --> 00:22:04,200 Speaker 1: That's Do you hit that one more time? I want 413 00:22:04,200 --> 00:22:04,719 Speaker 1: to mimic it. 414 00:22:04,840 --> 00:22:06,359 Speaker 3: No, I'm staying at it one more time. 415 00:22:09,160 --> 00:22:10,560 Speaker 1: I can't like. 416 00:22:12,600 --> 00:22:13,120 Speaker 3: The fallout. 417 00:22:13,280 --> 00:22:16,280 Speaker 2: Oh yeah, the pit boy. 418 00:22:16,760 --> 00:22:19,679 Speaker 3: My husband said, your fiance is really upset at my wife, 419 00:22:20,119 --> 00:22:24,000 Speaker 3: and proceeded to give excuses for his fiance's behavior both 420 00:22:24,040 --> 00:22:28,200 Speaker 3: Friday night and lately. She stretched her mom yelled at her, 421 00:22:28,400 --> 00:22:30,880 Speaker 3: her job is hard, her coworkers aren't. 422 00:22:30,680 --> 00:22:32,720 Speaker 1: Mean, YadA, YadA, YadA. 423 00:22:33,160 --> 00:22:38,000 Speaker 3: It went on. Finally, my husband goes, that's all good 424 00:22:38,119 --> 00:22:41,000 Speaker 3: and nice, But the part where I draw the moral 425 00:22:41,040 --> 00:22:43,159 Speaker 3: line is where a man I called my wife a 426 00:22:43,200 --> 00:22:46,160 Speaker 3: worthless sea word, and that's where I draw the line. 427 00:22:46,200 --> 00:22:46,560 Speaker 1: Wow. 428 00:22:46,760 --> 00:22:49,359 Speaker 3: Adam kind of scurried around it and said that she 429 00:22:49,680 --> 00:22:53,000 Speaker 3: had told him that I called her white trash, and 430 00:22:53,040 --> 00:22:58,240 Speaker 3: that she said that Sarah Adams recently married twin remember, 431 00:22:59,240 --> 00:23:04,800 Speaker 3: is stabbing her in the back, none of which is true. 432 00:23:04,840 --> 00:23:09,320 Speaker 3: The conversation basically ended there. Ever, since I've not been 433 00:23:09,400 --> 00:23:13,160 Speaker 3: okay with it. I blocked her number with my cellular provider. 434 00:23:13,359 --> 00:23:16,919 Speaker 3: I've blocked her email and Facebook. I toiled even harder 435 00:23:16,960 --> 00:23:20,639 Speaker 3: with how to handle the situation. My main thoughts compete 436 00:23:20,720 --> 00:23:24,000 Speaker 3: against each other. Hey, I don't want to give her 437 00:23:24,000 --> 00:23:26,800 Speaker 3: what she wants for me to drop out b I 438 00:23:26,840 --> 00:23:29,520 Speaker 3: also don't want to show her that I'm okay with 439 00:23:29,600 --> 00:23:32,679 Speaker 3: this treatment. After speaking in depth with my mom, father 440 00:23:32,760 --> 00:23:34,679 Speaker 3: in law, and husband, I decided to go to the 441 00:23:34,680 --> 00:23:37,800 Speaker 3: bridal shower with Anna. I had long since had a 442 00:23:37,800 --> 00:23:41,399 Speaker 3: gift and card purchased. I decided to go, but not 443 00:23:41,520 --> 00:23:45,400 Speaker 3: to make eye contact or talk to her. It was successful, awkward, 444 00:23:45,560 --> 00:23:49,840 Speaker 3: but successful. I think it was an incredible shock to 445 00:23:49,920 --> 00:23:53,440 Speaker 3: her that Anna and I even win, and even more 446 00:23:53,520 --> 00:23:56,600 Speaker 3: so that I actually brought a gift. She texted Anna 447 00:23:56,680 --> 00:24:00,000 Speaker 3: that night and thanked her for coming. Anna was gracious 448 00:24:00,240 --> 00:24:02,520 Speaker 3: and said, of course, you're my future sister in law. 449 00:24:03,040 --> 00:24:05,560 Speaker 3: Amanda then said she was so sorry for the way 450 00:24:05,680 --> 00:24:10,720 Speaker 3: she overreacted, and then said she knew I'd never forgive her, 451 00:24:11,000 --> 00:24:14,160 Speaker 3: but gave some random excuses about how she never knew 452 00:24:14,200 --> 00:24:17,400 Speaker 3: what family truly was until she lost her cousin last year. 453 00:24:17,760 --> 00:24:20,320 Speaker 3: Who is this? Who are we talking to? 454 00:24:20,760 --> 00:24:22,440 Speaker 1: This is the terrible woman. 455 00:24:23,440 --> 00:24:25,720 Speaker 3: No, it's not. I don't know who we're talking to right. 456 00:24:25,680 --> 00:24:28,760 Speaker 1: Now, but exactly who are you? Who are you right now? 457 00:24:29,000 --> 00:24:31,160 Speaker 3: It's because you got all dressed up fine and danny 458 00:24:31,200 --> 00:24:33,920 Speaker 3: for your special day and now you act like an angel. 459 00:24:35,080 --> 00:24:39,480 Speaker 2: Fake, calling it fake, super fake fake, af the fakest. 460 00:24:39,880 --> 00:24:42,280 Speaker 3: She has yet to apologize to me. If she wants 461 00:24:42,280 --> 00:24:44,239 Speaker 3: to do it, she's going to have to get the 462 00:24:44,240 --> 00:24:47,440 Speaker 3: balls to do it in person. And even if she does, 463 00:24:48,359 --> 00:24:51,960 Speaker 3: if she gives me those same excuses, it's not good enough. 464 00:24:52,480 --> 00:24:57,240 Speaker 3: She was shrinking responsibility in that text, and I honestly 465 00:24:57,240 --> 00:25:00,480 Speaker 3: don't expect an apology anytime soon. I think to do 466 00:25:00,560 --> 00:25:03,280 Speaker 3: so in person after being such a horrible person can't 467 00:25:03,280 --> 00:25:06,200 Speaker 3: be easy. At this point, I don't even think I'm 468 00:25:06,200 --> 00:25:09,400 Speaker 3: going to be in her wedding, even if she does apologize. 469 00:25:09,440 --> 00:25:12,600 Speaker 3: Friends don't treat friends like that. Family doesn't treat family 470 00:25:12,640 --> 00:25:16,520 Speaker 3: like that. Everyone supports that, with the exception of my husband. 471 00:25:16,760 --> 00:25:21,359 Speaker 3: Oh interesting, I did mention in a comment that his 472 00:25:21,520 --> 00:25:24,199 Speaker 3: ex wife kept him from his family. I know he 473 00:25:24,280 --> 00:25:27,160 Speaker 3: is his own person, but again he lets this woman 474 00:25:27,200 --> 00:25:31,400 Speaker 3: dictate his life anyway. My husband doesn't support me dropping out. 475 00:25:31,800 --> 00:25:34,320 Speaker 3: He thinks I should stay in and not give her 476 00:25:34,359 --> 00:25:37,560 Speaker 3: what she wants, but most importantly, so that he doesn't 477 00:25:37,600 --> 00:25:40,720 Speaker 3: lose his brother again. His father has told him to 478 00:25:40,720 --> 00:25:43,919 Speaker 3: support my decision, but I'm not entirely sure what my 479 00:25:44,000 --> 00:25:47,119 Speaker 3: decision is because at first I thought he was supportive 480 00:25:47,600 --> 00:25:48,040 Speaker 3: of that. 481 00:25:50,000 --> 00:25:53,840 Speaker 2: And there seems to be a lot of like flip 482 00:25:53,880 --> 00:25:55,040 Speaker 2: flopping in this story. 483 00:25:55,080 --> 00:25:57,240 Speaker 1: There's a lot of waffling going on here. 484 00:25:57,880 --> 00:26:03,399 Speaker 2: Lots of waffles is one second, Amanda's like, and She's like, 485 00:26:03,720 --> 00:26:06,399 Speaker 2: I realized how important family was once I lost my cousin. 486 00:26:06,440 --> 00:26:07,520 Speaker 1: It's like, who are you? 487 00:26:08,040 --> 00:26:09,080 Speaker 3: Yeah, what's going on? 488 00:26:09,119 --> 00:26:12,119 Speaker 1: Who are you now? The husband's like, actually everyone should 489 00:26:12,119 --> 00:26:15,040 Speaker 1: hate you. M h am I wrong? Or is that 490 00:26:15,119 --> 00:26:18,160 Speaker 1: basically what he's say. I feel that's what he's saying. 491 00:26:21,600 --> 00:26:24,240 Speaker 1: Day weird, weird, weird weird. 492 00:26:25,520 --> 00:26:28,000 Speaker 3: I get that they're brothers, and up until Friday night, 493 00:26:28,160 --> 00:26:30,760 Speaker 3: I was still willing to do what was necessary to 494 00:26:30,800 --> 00:26:33,800 Speaker 3: keep the family together, even if it meant awkwardly standing 495 00:26:33,840 --> 00:26:38,000 Speaker 3: next to her. Now I'm of the thought that if 496 00:26:38,040 --> 00:26:41,040 Speaker 3: his brother supports his wife calling me such nasty names 497 00:26:41,080 --> 00:26:44,040 Speaker 3: and treating us in such a childish way that he 498 00:26:44,119 --> 00:26:45,840 Speaker 3: doesn't deserve our good graces. 499 00:26:45,960 --> 00:26:46,639 Speaker 1: That is true. 500 00:26:46,840 --> 00:26:48,520 Speaker 3: I'm not saying we need to go out of our 501 00:26:48,560 --> 00:26:51,160 Speaker 3: way to be rude, but things like giving him free 502 00:26:51,160 --> 00:26:54,240 Speaker 3: will to use our workshop at his leisure or being 503 00:26:54,359 --> 00:26:57,760 Speaker 3: in their wedding are things we should be rethinking. And 504 00:26:57,960 --> 00:27:00,560 Speaker 3: I don't think we should be bending over back to 505 00:27:00,600 --> 00:27:04,000 Speaker 3: try and save that relationship when absolutely none of us 506 00:27:04,040 --> 00:27:07,359 Speaker 3: did anything wrong to cause it to fall to ruin. 507 00:27:08,160 --> 00:27:10,520 Speaker 3: I get that he can't see it from that angle, too, 508 00:27:11,040 --> 00:27:14,240 Speaker 3: and it makes my decision even harder. He says he'll 509 00:27:14,280 --> 00:27:16,720 Speaker 3: support me no matter what, but he constantly tells me 510 00:27:16,800 --> 00:27:19,760 Speaker 3: I should just stay in so that the family doesn't 511 00:27:19,760 --> 00:27:23,320 Speaker 3: fall apart. I have about forty days to make my decision. 512 00:27:23,359 --> 00:27:25,680 Speaker 3: Now I'm not sure what to do. My father in 513 00:27:25,760 --> 00:27:28,040 Speaker 3: law tells me I should drop out and not even 514 00:27:28,119 --> 00:27:30,760 Speaker 3: tell her. Anna says I should drop out. Greg is 515 00:27:30,800 --> 00:27:32,920 Speaker 3: ready to drop out with me. My mom thinks I 516 00:27:32,920 --> 00:27:35,320 Speaker 3: should drop out, My husband wants me to stay in, 517 00:27:35,440 --> 00:27:37,280 Speaker 3: and deren lies the paralysis I have. 518 00:27:37,520 --> 00:27:39,359 Speaker 1: Don't listen to your husband. 519 00:27:39,359 --> 00:27:41,159 Speaker 2: He's got doodo brain right now listen to all the 520 00:27:41,160 --> 00:27:42,680 Speaker 2: other people who are giving you the good advice to 521 00:27:42,760 --> 00:27:49,639 Speaker 2: dropping out. Prioritize your own mental tranquility. Prioritize tranquility in 522 00:27:49,640 --> 00:27:50,400 Speaker 2: your life. 523 00:27:50,560 --> 00:27:53,480 Speaker 3: One comment real quick comment. Three. Considering how OPI is 524 00:27:53,520 --> 00:27:57,280 Speaker 3: being treated, her husband also needs to work towards maintaining 525 00:27:57,280 --> 00:27:59,760 Speaker 3: his relationship with his brother. One, he should make it 526 00:28:00,280 --> 00:28:03,960 Speaker 3: to his brother that his fiance's behavior is not acceptable. Two. 527 00:28:04,080 --> 00:28:08,320 Speaker 3: While brother may be implicitly condoning said behavior, I'm sure 528 00:28:08,440 --> 00:28:11,919 Speaker 3: he's also reacting to what he's being told by his fiance. 529 00:28:12,400 --> 00:28:14,639 Speaker 3: When it comes down to it, he's probably gonna be 530 00:28:14,720 --> 00:28:18,359 Speaker 3: more believing of what she said rather than ope. Three. 531 00:28:18,400 --> 00:28:21,320 Speaker 3: Back to Opie's husband dropping out with the wedding and 532 00:28:21,440 --> 00:28:24,840 Speaker 3: all the waves that may cause. It may end up 533 00:28:24,880 --> 00:28:27,960 Speaker 3: being what's best for his relationship with his family. Maybe 534 00:28:28,040 --> 00:28:30,040 Speaker 3: not for them and his brother, but them and the 535 00:28:30,080 --> 00:28:33,120 Speaker 3: rest of the family. You cannot have one member poison 536 00:28:33,200 --> 00:28:37,960 Speaker 3: and dictate the terms for the family relationships. Op You 537 00:28:38,040 --> 00:28:39,880 Speaker 3: hit the nail on the head with number two. My 538 00:28:40,040 --> 00:28:43,560 Speaker 3: husband believes what I'm saying because I'm his wife. I'm 539 00:28:43,600 --> 00:28:46,720 Speaker 3: sure Amanda were his wife, he believe what she was 540 00:28:46,760 --> 00:28:50,560 Speaker 3: saying too, And it makes it more complicated because Adam's 541 00:28:50,560 --> 00:28:54,440 Speaker 3: power comes through his woman. In the end, he makes 542 00:28:54,440 --> 00:28:57,320 Speaker 3: his own choices, and I know, I'm sure he's being 543 00:28:57,360 --> 00:29:01,080 Speaker 3: fed a story where she was a good guy, though 544 00:29:01,120 --> 00:29:03,800 Speaker 3: I do not know he was told that she did 545 00:29:03,840 --> 00:29:06,680 Speaker 3: explode on me and she did admit to calling me 546 00:29:06,720 --> 00:29:09,440 Speaker 3: that name. I do also agree with point three after 547 00:29:09,480 --> 00:29:12,160 Speaker 3: reading all of the responses to this post. Thank you. 548 00:29:12,800 --> 00:29:17,640 Speaker 3: We have a second update. Guys, what was up? Hold again? 549 00:29:17,680 --> 00:29:20,720 Speaker 3: People were dropping out? Yeah? 550 00:29:20,920 --> 00:29:21,640 Speaker 2: Drop out or not? 551 00:29:21,840 --> 00:29:22,680 Speaker 1: I say drop out? 552 00:29:22,800 --> 00:29:24,920 Speaker 3: It sucks that everyone's sewing you drop out except for 553 00:29:24,960 --> 00:29:28,920 Speaker 3: your husband. I see your husband's point. That's a hard one. 554 00:29:29,680 --> 00:29:32,600 Speaker 2: Who cares if it's what she wants At this point, 555 00:29:32,640 --> 00:29:35,000 Speaker 2: it just matters how it affects you. If you you're 556 00:29:35,000 --> 00:29:36,800 Speaker 2: gonna go there and it's gonna suck, and it's gonna 557 00:29:36,800 --> 00:29:37,960 Speaker 2: be like pulling teeth. 558 00:29:38,040 --> 00:29:38,880 Speaker 1: So why go? 559 00:29:39,400 --> 00:29:39,960 Speaker 3: Yeah? 560 00:29:40,080 --> 00:29:42,560 Speaker 2: Why go be around someone who's clearly so just like 561 00:29:42,800 --> 00:29:46,280 Speaker 2: deranged and is out to get you? Yeah? You know, like. 562 00:29:48,240 --> 00:29:50,480 Speaker 1: It just did, don't you know? Don't go? Don't go? 563 00:29:50,600 --> 00:29:51,440 Speaker 1: How does they drop out? 564 00:29:52,600 --> 00:29:56,720 Speaker 2: And also, uh, get your husband to be like, hey, 565 00:29:58,400 --> 00:30:01,440 Speaker 2: tell your brother that his creature from the Black Lagoon 566 00:30:01,520 --> 00:30:04,640 Speaker 2: needs to come correct, all right, she can't be saying 567 00:30:04,680 --> 00:30:05,800 Speaker 2: all this stuff about me. 568 00:30:06,160 --> 00:30:09,160 Speaker 1: Yeah, and then you be having a complete non reaction 569 00:30:09,320 --> 00:30:09,600 Speaker 1: to it. 570 00:30:09,880 --> 00:30:16,760 Speaker 2: Yeah, you know, respect, there's to be a mutual respect 571 00:30:16,840 --> 00:30:20,640 Speaker 2: between both groups here, and if there isn't, then why 572 00:30:20,760 --> 00:30:23,280 Speaker 2: would I want to be around you anyway? 573 00:30:24,920 --> 00:30:28,920 Speaker 1: Yeah, don't care that you're in law. He shouldn't even 574 00:30:28,920 --> 00:30:31,120 Speaker 1: care that. He should be more on his brother. 575 00:30:31,360 --> 00:30:34,400 Speaker 2: Facts like why are you letting my wife or your 576 00:30:34,440 --> 00:30:36,200 Speaker 2: wife bad mouth my wife. 577 00:30:37,480 --> 00:30:38,400 Speaker 3: I'm gonna stay out of it. 578 00:30:38,640 --> 00:30:40,400 Speaker 1: Hey, it's say I'm your og host here, bring to 579 00:30:40,440 --> 00:30:42,200 Speaker 1: get back to the stories. But here's three minutes bads 580 00:30:42,240 --> 00:30:42,840 Speaker 1: from our sponsor. 581 00:30:43,560 --> 00:30:45,560 Speaker 3: I know he doesn't even care. He's like, I'm just 582 00:30:45,600 --> 00:30:48,400 Speaker 3: gonna stand. I'm just I'm just here, Jim. Or if 583 00:30:48,400 --> 00:30:50,160 Speaker 3: you care about your mental health, yeah, you gotta get 584 00:30:50,160 --> 00:30:52,160 Speaker 3: out of it. It depends on if you want to 585 00:30:52,160 --> 00:30:55,040 Speaker 3: be principled or care about your own mental mental health. 586 00:30:55,680 --> 00:30:59,520 Speaker 3: Update two, So to recap my future system lines and 587 00:30:59,560 --> 00:31:01,920 Speaker 3: treat me terribly. And it came to head about four 588 00:31:01,960 --> 00:31:04,000 Speaker 3: weeks ago with her calling me a worthless sea word 589 00:31:04,040 --> 00:31:06,920 Speaker 3: after yelling at me. I basically cut all contact with her. 590 00:31:07,120 --> 00:31:09,680 Speaker 3: I blocked her on Facebook email and all other social media. 591 00:31:09,920 --> 00:31:15,040 Speaker 3: Also blocked her phone number at the cellular providal level. 592 00:31:15,160 --> 00:31:17,880 Speaker 3: I've given it four weeks to kind of munch over 593 00:31:18,000 --> 00:31:21,360 Speaker 3: all the advice I was given both here in IRL. 594 00:31:21,480 --> 00:31:24,200 Speaker 3: I finally decided to talk to my mother in law 595 00:31:24,400 --> 00:31:27,720 Speaker 3: about it last week. She us a drama lama. It 596 00:31:27,880 --> 00:31:31,160 Speaker 3: was always hungry, so I was very careful with what 597 00:31:31,280 --> 00:31:34,880 Speaker 3: I said. I briefly and neutrally summed up the events 598 00:31:35,560 --> 00:31:39,120 Speaker 3: I had her blocked on all levels, and that I 599 00:31:39,360 --> 00:31:41,280 Speaker 3: was at the stage where I needed to make a 600 00:31:41,320 --> 00:31:45,000 Speaker 3: decision about the wedding, and that I was leaning towards 601 00:31:45,080 --> 00:31:48,560 Speaker 3: dropping out. What surprised me most is that she said 602 00:31:48,560 --> 00:31:51,760 Speaker 3: Amanda was actually adamant to calling me a sea word, 603 00:31:52,080 --> 00:31:54,440 Speaker 3: and for the most part, admitted to the terrible way 604 00:31:54,520 --> 00:31:56,960 Speaker 3: she treated me. I wasn't given the exact details of 605 00:31:56,960 --> 00:31:59,440 Speaker 3: what she was saying, but my mother in law did 606 00:31:59,520 --> 00:32:02,880 Speaker 3: say that my story lined up with Amanda's. What surprised 607 00:32:02,880 --> 00:32:05,360 Speaker 3: me even more was that my mother in law said 608 00:32:05,360 --> 00:32:08,920 Speaker 3: she supported me if I do, in fact decide to 609 00:32:09,000 --> 00:32:15,440 Speaker 3: drop out. Huh, so, drama Mama Lama is on your side. 610 00:32:16,720 --> 00:32:19,400 Speaker 3: This just shows how terrible of a person Amanda has 611 00:32:19,440 --> 00:32:21,560 Speaker 3: been towards you, and you don't need to be dealing 612 00:32:21,600 --> 00:32:21,840 Speaker 3: with this. 613 00:32:22,040 --> 00:32:25,280 Speaker 2: Everyone is starting to see that's what Amanda is plotting 614 00:32:25,320 --> 00:32:30,880 Speaker 2: her own demise. Everyone's eyes will open to Amanda in time. Yep, 615 00:32:31,440 --> 00:32:33,120 Speaker 2: even it's opening to Amanda herself. 616 00:32:35,800 --> 00:32:37,960 Speaker 1: She only lied about that. She was like, I've seen 617 00:32:38,040 --> 00:32:40,720 Speaker 1: now that it's I understand, and it's like now she's not. 618 00:32:40,840 --> 00:32:41,880 Speaker 1: She doesn't understand anymore. 619 00:32:42,400 --> 00:32:45,120 Speaker 3: Be like the legal law you can do in tenth 620 00:32:45,200 --> 00:32:49,720 Speaker 3: grade and drop out. 621 00:32:49,800 --> 00:32:50,200 Speaker 1: Can you? 622 00:32:50,200 --> 00:32:50,440 Speaker 2: You can? 623 00:32:50,680 --> 00:32:51,840 Speaker 1: You can't drop out before that? 624 00:32:52,120 --> 00:33:00,800 Speaker 3: Nope, legally legally Okay, I'll keep that in mind. Anyways, 625 00:33:01,840 --> 00:33:03,560 Speaker 3: talking to my mother in law was kind of a 626 00:33:03,600 --> 00:33:06,680 Speaker 3: double edged sword for me. It was a way to 627 00:33:06,720 --> 00:33:09,880 Speaker 3: get into as I know she and Amanda talk a lot. 628 00:33:10,320 --> 00:33:12,440 Speaker 3: It was also one of those situations where I know 629 00:33:12,560 --> 00:33:15,120 Speaker 3: mother in law will tell her basically everything I said, 630 00:33:15,640 --> 00:33:17,760 Speaker 3: so in a way, I was kind of hoping it 631 00:33:17,760 --> 00:33:21,400 Speaker 3: would inspire Amanda to reach out or apologize. Well, it 632 00:33:21,480 --> 00:33:24,280 Speaker 3: kind of worked, but not in a satisfactory kind of way, 633 00:33:24,320 --> 00:33:27,840 Speaker 3: if you will. Amanda tried texting me the next day apparently, 634 00:33:28,080 --> 00:33:30,440 Speaker 3: and when I didn't respond after a few days because 635 00:33:30,480 --> 00:33:33,200 Speaker 3: she's blocked and her messages won't go through. She texted 636 00:33:33,200 --> 00:33:36,280 Speaker 3: my mother in law and she said she was worried 637 00:33:36,320 --> 00:33:39,120 Speaker 3: because I wasn't responding to her apology. My mother in 638 00:33:39,240 --> 00:33:42,160 Speaker 3: law let me know, of course, as an FYI. Two 639 00:33:42,240 --> 00:33:45,400 Speaker 3: nights ago, Amanda texted my husband asking if she if 640 00:33:45,400 --> 00:33:49,120 Speaker 3: he had his wedding clothes in order. He said he did. 641 00:33:49,520 --> 00:33:51,600 Speaker 3: She then asked if I had received my dress and 642 00:33:51,640 --> 00:33:55,440 Speaker 3: if it fit. He never responded. Yesterday morning, adam also 643 00:33:55,520 --> 00:33:58,280 Speaker 3: texted my husband asking the same question, did she get 644 00:33:58,320 --> 00:34:00,760 Speaker 3: her addressed? Does it fit? Again? No response was given, 645 00:34:01,600 --> 00:34:04,040 Speaker 3: and then last night I met A texted again, asking 646 00:34:04,120 --> 00:34:07,720 Speaker 3: more instantly and indicated that she needed to know since 647 00:34:07,720 --> 00:34:11,000 Speaker 3: it was her wedding and it's only twenty two days away. 648 00:34:11,920 --> 00:34:14,799 Speaker 3: She got a little rigid and said she apologized to me, 649 00:34:15,040 --> 00:34:18,480 Speaker 3: but that I wouldn't accept it. So he basically told her, 650 00:34:18,560 --> 00:34:22,759 Speaker 3: your communications aren't getting through, maybe you should come talk 651 00:34:22,840 --> 00:34:28,200 Speaker 3: to her in person. This sparked a huge, nasty barrage 652 00:34:28,200 --> 00:34:31,120 Speaker 3: of text from her. She basically accused me of doing 653 00:34:31,200 --> 00:34:34,720 Speaker 3: everything she did to me, while claiming she was the calm, 654 00:34:34,880 --> 00:34:35,840 Speaker 3: innocent angel. 655 00:34:36,080 --> 00:34:40,600 Speaker 5: She's just a compulsed she's a liar, She's a compulsive liar. 656 00:34:40,640 --> 00:34:42,240 Speaker 1: At this point, she. 657 00:34:42,160 --> 00:34:45,080 Speaker 3: Claimed I called her all manner of names, that I 658 00:34:45,120 --> 00:34:47,880 Speaker 3: told her I didn't want her marrying Adam, that I 659 00:34:47,960 --> 00:34:51,360 Speaker 3: called her by Adam's ex wife's name, that's pretty funny, 660 00:34:51,480 --> 00:34:54,800 Speaker 3: and that I belittled Sarah, Adam's twin sister, and that 661 00:34:54,880 --> 00:34:58,759 Speaker 3: I called her nasty names. She admitted to saying she 662 00:34:58,920 --> 00:35:02,200 Speaker 3: called me two names, but didn't clarify. I don't really 663 00:35:02,239 --> 00:35:05,480 Speaker 3: remember in much of the terrible names now, except for 664 00:35:05,520 --> 00:35:09,000 Speaker 3: the SeeU next Tuesday part. He kept being persistent that 665 00:35:09,040 --> 00:35:11,400 Speaker 3: if she wants to talk to me, she needs to 666 00:35:11,400 --> 00:35:13,800 Speaker 3: come talk to me in person, and that if she's 667 00:35:14,160 --> 00:35:17,560 Speaker 3: kept sending nasty texts after nasty texts about how I'm 668 00:35:17,600 --> 00:35:20,640 Speaker 3: the villain and all this, regardless, she kept barraging him 669 00:35:20,680 --> 00:35:24,640 Speaker 3: with texts. She eventually said, Look, this is all probably 670 00:35:24,680 --> 00:35:26,799 Speaker 3: comes down to the fact that your wife hasn't got 671 00:35:26,840 --> 00:35:29,640 Speaker 3: her dress yet, so she can't even be in my wedding. 672 00:35:30,000 --> 00:35:32,080 Speaker 3: Since you two are a couple, I think it's only 673 00:35:32,080 --> 00:35:35,960 Speaker 3: fair that since one guy also has to be punted out, 674 00:35:36,000 --> 00:35:39,320 Speaker 3: that I punt you. So either you drop out together 675 00:35:39,440 --> 00:35:41,680 Speaker 3: or I'll punt you out. My husband sent her a 676 00:35:41,719 --> 00:35:43,719 Speaker 3: picture of the dress hanging in her room and told 677 00:35:43,760 --> 00:35:46,960 Speaker 3: her if that's how Adam really feels, he can tell 678 00:35:47,000 --> 00:35:49,480 Speaker 3: me to my face when he gets off work tomorrow. 679 00:35:50,000 --> 00:35:52,680 Speaker 3: She told him to stop texting her as it was 680 00:35:52,760 --> 00:35:56,040 Speaker 3: making her mad, and my husband, being my husband, sent 681 00:35:56,120 --> 00:35:59,520 Speaker 3: her one last text said good night, winky face. I'm 682 00:35:59,520 --> 00:36:01,799 Speaker 3: not really sure sure what hour or even what my 683 00:36:02,000 --> 00:36:05,200 Speaker 3: next move should be. Greg and Anna are still blocked. 684 00:36:05,480 --> 00:36:08,480 Speaker 3: She shared some pitiful apologies with Anna that I think 685 00:36:08,520 --> 00:36:12,359 Speaker 3: she was hoping I'd be shown, which I was. Basically said, 686 00:36:12,400 --> 00:36:15,239 Speaker 3: I never knew what family was until my dear cousin 687 00:36:15,280 --> 00:36:18,240 Speaker 3: passed away last year. It's clear to us she still 688 00:36:18,280 --> 00:36:21,799 Speaker 3: doesn't know, but she never had any action back to 689 00:36:21,920 --> 00:36:23,080 Speaker 3: that apology. 690 00:36:22,680 --> 00:36:26,680 Speaker 2: Up action speak louder than words. 691 00:36:27,840 --> 00:36:35,800 Speaker 5: That's you know, that's the way the boat floats. Shrimp 692 00:36:35,840 --> 00:36:40,360 Speaker 5: on a steak, dude. 693 00:36:39,920 --> 00:36:43,560 Speaker 3: Yeah, dude, Adam is doomed and Adam is cooked. Adam 694 00:36:43,760 --> 00:36:46,840 Speaker 3: is spicy cat whipped. 695 00:36:47,520 --> 00:36:50,480 Speaker 2: If Adam can't get out of this, I don't think 696 00:36:50,480 --> 00:36:53,359 Speaker 2: he's getting out. If Adam can't see that he needs 697 00:36:53,400 --> 00:36:55,719 Speaker 2: to get out, I don't think he's ever gonna see 698 00:36:55,719 --> 00:36:56,359 Speaker 2: he needs to get out. 699 00:36:56,640 --> 00:36:56,960 Speaker 3: Yeah. 700 00:36:57,080 --> 00:36:59,800 Speaker 1: If I if this was my brother I'd be like, dude, look. 701 00:37:01,320 --> 00:37:04,080 Speaker 3: Yo, girls, Craig great, and you need to leave, leave, 702 00:37:05,120 --> 00:37:10,120 Speaker 3: you need to escapescape there, escape gape, escape gape. Thanks 703 00:37:10,120 --> 00:37:13,920 Speaker 3: for let me cook, guys. So these two are planning 704 00:37:13,960 --> 00:37:16,880 Speaker 3: to go over and talk to both Adam and Amanda 705 00:37:16,880 --> 00:37:20,120 Speaker 3: tonight to formulate their next move. They're both aware of 706 00:37:20,120 --> 00:37:23,400 Speaker 3: what happened last time, text messages screenshots were shared, so 707 00:37:23,440 --> 00:37:26,080 Speaker 3: they are completely prepared with the one hundred percent picture 708 00:37:26,239 --> 00:37:29,800 Speaker 3: fact proof. I also had Anna act as a second 709 00:37:29,800 --> 00:37:31,759 Speaker 3: pair of arms on my letter before I sent it, 710 00:37:32,000 --> 00:37:34,640 Speaker 3: so she knows that too. My father in law has 711 00:37:34,680 --> 00:37:38,080 Speaker 3: been made aware. He's the one who originally is telling 712 00:37:38,160 --> 00:37:40,600 Speaker 3: us that she made good on her blackmail to pump 713 00:37:40,600 --> 00:37:44,600 Speaker 3: my husband that he boycott the wedding completely. He's still asleep. 714 00:37:44,640 --> 00:37:48,080 Speaker 3: I'm sure it's early morning here. I really have no 715 00:37:48,200 --> 00:37:52,080 Speaker 3: idea which way his reaction will go. I'm basically cutting 716 00:37:52,120 --> 00:37:54,280 Speaker 3: her out of my life for now. How my husband 717 00:37:54,360 --> 00:37:56,799 Speaker 3: handles his brother is up to him, and I really 718 00:37:56,880 --> 00:38:00,400 Speaker 3: don't care. I'm documenting everything that happens. I'm sure I 719 00:38:00,440 --> 00:38:02,600 Speaker 3: wish I had recorded that argument so I could play 720 00:38:02,600 --> 00:38:05,360 Speaker 3: it back for her to hear how much I actually 721 00:38:05,360 --> 00:38:08,600 Speaker 3: did yell at her, which was zip and how little 722 00:38:08,600 --> 00:38:11,480 Speaker 3: of a victim she actually was, which is Z. 723 00:38:13,600 --> 00:38:14,279 Speaker 1: Zip and Z. 724 00:38:15,600 --> 00:38:18,200 Speaker 3: I'm just not sure if there are additional steps I 725 00:38:18,239 --> 00:38:21,840 Speaker 3: should be taking at this point. Help and guys, we 726 00:38:21,880 --> 00:38:24,120 Speaker 3: can help you if you go to your favorite podcast platform, 727 00:38:24,160 --> 00:38:26,719 Speaker 3: search up okay story Tom, and you're gonna hear so 728 00:38:26,840 --> 00:38:30,359 Speaker 3: many stories just like this one. You got to go 729 00:38:30,600 --> 00:38:32,920 Speaker 3: over there. We have a little bit left with the story, 730 00:38:33,000 --> 00:38:36,799 Speaker 3: Dakota keon, go how are we feeling? Go over to 731 00:38:37,000 --> 00:38:39,000 Speaker 3: your favorite podcast platform and search okay story time. 732 00:38:39,000 --> 00:38:43,480 Speaker 1: I heart radio like Apple, podcasts like Spotify, yep. 733 00:38:45,239 --> 00:38:51,720 Speaker 4: Er up, dude, more like sorry Adam, more like a dumb. 734 00:38:53,040 --> 00:39:00,279 Speaker 2: Copal zing zing that's a singer or a done. You 735 00:39:00,400 --> 00:39:04,200 Speaker 2: don't have to do any extra steps. It's over. She's 736 00:39:04,320 --> 00:39:07,520 Speaker 2: like I'm gonna kick you out. It's like, actually I'm 737 00:39:07,520 --> 00:39:09,680 Speaker 2: gonna leave. It's like, you can't fire me. 738 00:39:09,880 --> 00:39:15,760 Speaker 1: I quit. It's it's okay, yeah, put your chronic pepee. 739 00:39:15,560 --> 00:39:21,080 Speaker 3: Out of rest. Nice chronic people pleasing. 740 00:39:21,160 --> 00:39:23,160 Speaker 1: I'll take that. I'll take that. I still think you 741 00:39:23,160 --> 00:39:25,320 Speaker 1: can hit the second p a little harder. You know 742 00:39:25,360 --> 00:39:28,719 Speaker 1: what you do you and I'll do me. But it's 743 00:39:28,800 --> 00:39:30,800 Speaker 1: just it's it's part of the See. 744 00:39:30,560 --> 00:39:33,560 Speaker 3: How we're disagreeing and I'm gonna go my own way 745 00:39:34,080 --> 00:39:35,480 Speaker 3: and you're gonna go your own way and we can 746 00:39:35,640 --> 00:39:38,839 Speaker 3: both live in that world. Pee, But yet you still 747 00:39:38,840 --> 00:39:41,000 Speaker 3: want me to live in your world. But we decided, 748 00:39:41,520 --> 00:39:44,840 Speaker 3: you decided that part ipp I said, chronic Pepe. 749 00:39:46,480 --> 00:39:48,080 Speaker 1: I know you got chronic Pep. 750 00:39:49,239 --> 00:39:53,120 Speaker 3: No, No, not anymore. I feel so embarrassed for you. 751 00:39:53,120 --> 00:39:55,040 Speaker 1: No, I'm talking about the other one. 752 00:39:55,600 --> 00:40:00,359 Speaker 3: Update or edit to add I'm dropping out. I mailed 753 00:40:00,400 --> 00:40:04,160 Speaker 3: her a resignation letter yesterday morning, before all this sparked 754 00:40:04,200 --> 00:40:07,080 Speaker 3: last night, and I know she hasn't gotten the letter yet, 755 00:40:07,200 --> 00:40:09,880 Speaker 3: so that might be worse yet coming. So why didn't 756 00:40:09,880 --> 00:40:12,200 Speaker 3: include This is a decision that I made a few 757 00:40:12,239 --> 00:40:15,200 Speaker 3: days ago, and I thought I had that very important 758 00:40:15,239 --> 00:40:18,080 Speaker 3: detail in my original post. At this point, my advice 759 00:40:18,239 --> 00:40:21,600 Speaker 3: is what I do going forward. I'm not in her wedding. 760 00:40:21,920 --> 00:40:23,680 Speaker 3: I won't be in her wedding. No, I'm out of 761 00:40:23,719 --> 00:40:25,879 Speaker 3: anything will change my mind, especially after last night. 762 00:40:26,040 --> 00:40:28,840 Speaker 1: They don't be in the wedding. Wow, Opie, I'm so 763 00:40:28,920 --> 00:40:29,720 Speaker 1: happy for you. 764 00:40:29,719 --> 00:40:33,760 Speaker 3: You just gotta like let him out of go like yeah, Adam, 765 00:40:34,160 --> 00:40:37,640 Speaker 3: Adam did exclude his family when he was with his X. 766 00:40:37,680 --> 00:40:40,400 Speaker 3: But he continues to make this decision somehow, he continues 767 00:40:40,440 --> 00:40:42,839 Speaker 3: to somehow find a way to exclude his family with 768 00:40:42,880 --> 00:40:47,120 Speaker 3: his partner, and that's on him. 769 00:40:47,239 --> 00:40:50,400 Speaker 2: It really is, like, it's it's sad. 770 00:40:51,160 --> 00:40:51,560 Speaker 1: It's not. 771 00:40:53,520 --> 00:40:59,719 Speaker 2: Your responsibility to get him out of there. It's anyone's responsibility. 772 00:40:59,719 --> 00:41:03,680 Speaker 2: It would be like the brother or the family. But 773 00:41:03,920 --> 00:41:06,360 Speaker 2: like in terms of you dealing with Amanda, just don't 774 00:41:06,560 --> 00:41:10,200 Speaker 2: don't do it. Why she's terrible, She's awful, not normalise, 775 00:41:10,600 --> 00:41:13,399 Speaker 2: not catering to the whims. 776 00:41:12,840 --> 00:41:15,800 Speaker 1: Of awful people. Hey, it's Sean here, og host of 777 00:41:15,800 --> 00:41:17,520 Speaker 1: the show. We're gonna get back to these juicy stories. 778 00:41:17,520 --> 00:41:19,040 Speaker 1: But here's a quick three minutes of ads from our 779 00:41:19,040 --> 00:41:20,960 Speaker 1: sponsors comments. 780 00:41:21,160 --> 00:41:23,760 Speaker 3: This is the last little update OPI has. My intention 781 00:41:23,880 --> 00:41:26,160 Speaker 3: with my mother in law wasn't for any purpose other 782 00:41:26,239 --> 00:41:29,080 Speaker 3: to find out if Amanda showed remorse. I think he 783 00:41:29,160 --> 00:41:32,400 Speaker 3: might be misunderstanding. I blocked her on the cellular level 784 00:41:32,480 --> 00:41:34,799 Speaker 3: the minute I pulled out of her driveway that night. 785 00:41:35,200 --> 00:41:37,759 Speaker 3: She's the type that to get dirty via text and 786 00:41:37,800 --> 00:41:40,560 Speaker 3: I was gonna have that, so she wasn't able to 787 00:41:40,600 --> 00:41:43,799 Speaker 3: text me an apology. She might have tried but with 788 00:41:43,920 --> 00:41:47,239 Speaker 3: the way it works my salutor provider, I'm gonna even 789 00:41:47,280 --> 00:41:50,399 Speaker 3: notified when a block contact attempts to text or call. 790 00:41:50,880 --> 00:41:54,000 Speaker 3: So I had not been otherwise told, I would have 791 00:41:54,040 --> 00:41:56,880 Speaker 3: not known at the time I blocked her. I honestly 792 00:41:56,920 --> 00:42:00,960 Speaker 3: did not know which choice I chose. This has been 793 00:42:01,000 --> 00:42:03,799 Speaker 3: a very long few weeks of twirling over it in 794 00:42:03,880 --> 00:42:06,880 Speaker 3: my head. As time went on, I was able to 795 00:42:07,239 --> 00:42:10,920 Speaker 3: fully digest things, the option of dropping out became the 796 00:42:10,960 --> 00:42:14,560 Speaker 3: smart one. Her asking about my dress at home was 797 00:42:14,600 --> 00:42:18,080 Speaker 3: something I wasn't made aware of until last night, after 798 00:42:18,120 --> 00:42:21,000 Speaker 3: she'd blown up. We were still friends when I ordered it, 799 00:42:21,320 --> 00:42:24,160 Speaker 3: so she wasn't aware that I had it ordered and 800 00:42:24,239 --> 00:42:27,520 Speaker 3: that it be here in thirty days. Adam has been 801 00:42:27,600 --> 00:42:30,800 Speaker 3: over many times since we got it. It is hanging 802 00:42:30,880 --> 00:42:33,960 Speaker 3: in clear sight. I know he's seen it. I guess 803 00:42:34,040 --> 00:42:37,880 Speaker 3: I just figured she was aware, So her even asking 804 00:42:38,040 --> 00:42:41,240 Speaker 3: was kind of something I didn't expect. At the time 805 00:42:41,320 --> 00:42:43,600 Speaker 3: I talked to my mother in law, I did not 806 00:42:43,760 --> 00:42:45,840 Speaker 3: know if I should drop out or not. I was 807 00:42:45,880 --> 00:42:51,080 Speaker 3: finding myself at a complete deadlock. My full intention, untel wise, 808 00:42:51,239 --> 00:42:53,960 Speaker 3: was to find out if she was remorseful. I also 809 00:42:54,000 --> 00:42:56,320 Speaker 3: wanted to support her if I chose to drop out. 810 00:42:56,760 --> 00:43:00,400 Speaker 3: I found out she was not remorseful and was actually 811 00:43:00,400 --> 00:43:03,080 Speaker 3: prideful in the whole thing. My hope in talking to 812 00:43:03,120 --> 00:43:06,719 Speaker 3: my mother in law was that I'd find out that 813 00:43:06,800 --> 00:43:11,080 Speaker 3: she was remorseful or regret her actions, as that would 814 00:43:11,120 --> 00:43:13,480 Speaker 3: have been told to me that the friendship could have 815 00:43:13,560 --> 00:43:17,799 Speaker 3: been salvage. It was also that she'd tell Amanda, which 816 00:43:17,840 --> 00:43:21,400 Speaker 3: I'm sure she did. Led her attempt to apologize after 817 00:43:21,400 --> 00:43:24,799 Speaker 3: that conversation took place so that Amanda would realize I 818 00:43:24,880 --> 00:43:29,680 Speaker 3: was hurt. Amanda knows I'm her. That's as schemey as 819 00:43:29,680 --> 00:43:33,080 Speaker 3: I get. Greg and Anna have been battling their own issues, 820 00:43:33,360 --> 00:43:36,239 Speaker 3: starting with the whole Facebook thing. There have been other 821 00:43:36,320 --> 00:43:39,560 Speaker 3: incidents with them and a man of slush Adam that 822 00:43:39,680 --> 00:43:42,200 Speaker 3: I won't get into as it has no effect on 823 00:43:42,239 --> 00:43:45,760 Speaker 3: my story or decision. They are formulating their next steps 824 00:43:45,800 --> 00:43:49,279 Speaker 3: as they too are considering dropping out. The events of 825 00:43:49,360 --> 00:43:52,759 Speaker 3: last night just added fury to Greg. My husband was 826 00:43:52,800 --> 00:43:56,880 Speaker 3: telling Greg about it. He said it seemed crazy that 827 00:43:57,000 --> 00:44:00,480 Speaker 3: my husband shared the screenshots to show exactly factly what 828 00:44:00,600 --> 00:44:03,520 Speaker 3: was said. I wrote my registation letter more as a 829 00:44:03,560 --> 00:44:05,759 Speaker 3: way to vent to myself. I do that from time 830 00:44:05,800 --> 00:44:08,719 Speaker 3: to time write myself letters when I get upset. It 831 00:44:08,880 --> 00:44:11,480 Speaker 3: helps me calm down. In this case, the letter was 832 00:44:11,520 --> 00:44:16,360 Speaker 3: severely watered down to serve a dual purpose to also resign. 833 00:44:16,719 --> 00:44:18,520 Speaker 3: I let my sister in law read it. My father 834 00:44:18,520 --> 00:44:20,839 Speaker 3: in law hasn't seen it yet knows that I sent 835 00:44:20,880 --> 00:44:23,840 Speaker 3: one to make sure it was a neutral and calm 836 00:44:23,880 --> 00:44:26,719 Speaker 3: which it was. I also do not dictate who my 837 00:44:26,840 --> 00:44:29,840 Speaker 3: husband can or cannot see. When I said he doesn't 838 00:44:29,880 --> 00:44:33,040 Speaker 3: deserve our good graces, I was meaning that I wasn't 839 00:44:33,120 --> 00:44:35,520 Speaker 3: going out of my way to be nice anymore. I'd 840 00:44:35,520 --> 00:44:38,640 Speaker 3: be civil, but i'd no longer been over backwards. The 841 00:44:38,719 --> 00:44:42,239 Speaker 3: thought of asking them to no longer burn trash on 842 00:44:42,280 --> 00:44:45,040 Speaker 3: our property did cross my mind, but I let that 843 00:44:45,120 --> 00:44:48,840 Speaker 3: go that first night. This is a problem between me 844 00:44:49,040 --> 00:44:51,799 Speaker 3: and Amanda, and I would never control my husband in 845 00:44:51,840 --> 00:44:55,560 Speaker 3: any way. I'm not sure what my end goal is. Honestly, 846 00:44:55,760 --> 00:44:58,359 Speaker 3: I don't care that they get married. If that's what 847 00:44:58,440 --> 00:45:01,400 Speaker 3: makes them happy, then so be it. I'm not looking 848 00:45:01,440 --> 00:45:03,600 Speaker 3: for anyone to drop out, nor threaten to drop out. 849 00:45:03,640 --> 00:45:07,120 Speaker 3: I'm sharing what has been told to me organically through 850 00:45:07,239 --> 00:45:09,920 Speaker 3: this long chain of events. If father in law doesn't 851 00:45:09,920 --> 00:45:12,000 Speaker 3: attend it's one hundred percent his idea from the start. 852 00:45:12,280 --> 00:45:14,280 Speaker 3: He was the one who initially told me I should 853 00:45:14,320 --> 00:45:17,640 Speaker 3: drop out, and even said I should do so without 854 00:45:17,680 --> 00:45:19,000 Speaker 3: telling her. 855 00:45:19,719 --> 00:45:24,920 Speaker 2: Whoo, that's it, that is it, and I got down votes? 856 00:45:25,000 --> 00:45:26,160 Speaker 1: Why was that downvoted? 857 00:45:26,239 --> 00:45:28,240 Speaker 3: I don't know. Guys. It's the end of the stream. 858 00:45:28,560 --> 00:45:31,279 Speaker 3: If you love us, make sure to subscribe. We love 859 00:45:31,400 --> 00:45:33,680 Speaker 3: you and see you tomorrow.