1 00:00:15,560 --> 00:00:17,040 Speaker 1: Hey, Hurdler's Emily. Here. 2 00:00:17,360 --> 00:00:21,520 Speaker 2: You are listening to another installment of five Minute Friday 3 00:00:21,600 --> 00:00:25,799 Speaker 2: from Hurdle. For five Minute Friday, I share a story, 4 00:00:25,880 --> 00:00:28,080 Speaker 2: I offer you a thought prompt to take you into 5 00:00:28,080 --> 00:00:31,600 Speaker 2: the weekend, and then I give you a few highlights, 6 00:00:31,640 --> 00:00:36,760 Speaker 2: whether that's content picks, movies, podcasts, courses that I think 7 00:00:36,920 --> 00:00:40,879 Speaker 2: are pretty brad to finish things off. I am always 8 00:00:41,000 --> 00:00:44,040 Speaker 2: looking for your feedback and suggestions and tips. So if 9 00:00:44,080 --> 00:00:46,360 Speaker 2: you have something you're doing that's pretty cool, if you 10 00:00:46,360 --> 00:00:48,320 Speaker 2: have a friend that's doing something pretty cool, if you've 11 00:00:48,360 --> 00:00:51,479 Speaker 2: seen something that's pretty cool, I want to hear about it. 12 00:00:51,760 --> 00:00:55,480 Speaker 2: Reach out to me over on Instagram, DM at Hurdle 13 00:00:55,520 --> 00:00:58,480 Speaker 2: podcast or at Emily a Body, and of course I'm 14 00:00:58,520 --> 00:01:02,480 Speaker 2: all yours over email. It's Emily at Hurdle. Do us 15 00:01:03,360 --> 00:01:07,679 Speaker 2: so this week for five Minute Friday, I'm talking about 16 00:01:07,720 --> 00:01:10,280 Speaker 2: something I don't talk about a lot, which includes a 17 00:01:10,319 --> 00:01:14,440 Speaker 2: little bit of my personal life a teaser to get 18 00:01:14,440 --> 00:01:17,400 Speaker 2: you really excited about this episode, but it's not actually 19 00:01:17,400 --> 00:01:20,800 Speaker 2: about my personal life. So basically, here's the thing. Last Sunday, 20 00:01:21,280 --> 00:01:24,080 Speaker 2: I put on real clothes, which is always exciting, and 21 00:01:24,160 --> 00:01:28,240 Speaker 2: I went downtown to brunch with a friend of mine, 22 00:01:28,400 --> 00:01:31,800 Speaker 2: which is something I have not done in months. It 23 00:01:31,840 --> 00:01:35,440 Speaker 2: felt so nice to use the word brunch as a 24 00:01:35,440 --> 00:01:36,560 Speaker 2: part of my vocabulary. 25 00:01:37,440 --> 00:01:41,000 Speaker 1: Went downtown in the Lower east Side. 26 00:01:41,080 --> 00:01:43,160 Speaker 2: We met a friend of my friend as well, and 27 00:01:43,240 --> 00:01:48,200 Speaker 2: afterward we decided to go get a brunch cocktail appropriately, 28 00:01:49,160 --> 00:01:51,520 Speaker 2: so we went to have one drink around the corner, 29 00:01:52,400 --> 00:01:56,400 Speaker 2: and when we got there, we met these two guys 30 00:01:56,520 --> 00:01:58,960 Speaker 2: that were friends of my friend's friend. It's like a 31 00:01:59,000 --> 00:02:03,680 Speaker 2: whole kind of web here, And basically the moral to 32 00:02:03,800 --> 00:02:06,000 Speaker 2: this story. Why I'm telling you this is because one 33 00:02:06,040 --> 00:02:09,640 Speaker 2: of those guys asked my friend's friend for my number, 34 00:02:09,680 --> 00:02:13,040 Speaker 2: and then he asked me out, and so I said yes, 35 00:02:13,840 --> 00:02:17,200 Speaker 2: and we picked a day, and then he and I 36 00:02:17,240 --> 00:02:21,560 Speaker 2: rescheduled once and in the meantime before we actually went 37 00:02:21,600 --> 00:02:23,600 Speaker 2: out on said date, of course, we start to text 38 00:02:23,600 --> 00:02:25,880 Speaker 2: about the normal things that you start to text about 39 00:02:26,360 --> 00:02:29,280 Speaker 2: with someone that you're getting to know, and he asks me, 40 00:02:29,520 --> 00:02:32,400 Speaker 2: naturally what it is that I do for work, and 41 00:02:32,480 --> 00:02:36,200 Speaker 2: so I tell him and like I have received before. 42 00:02:36,680 --> 00:02:41,040 Speaker 2: He says, wow, you're all over the internet, huh, And 43 00:02:41,080 --> 00:02:45,240 Speaker 2: I'm like, yep, And he jokes about wanting to listen 44 00:02:45,280 --> 00:02:49,720 Speaker 2: to the show before we go out. The morning comes 45 00:02:49,880 --> 00:02:52,440 Speaker 2: that we're supposed to link up, and he reaches out 46 00:02:52,480 --> 00:02:55,080 Speaker 2: to me and he says, I'm really sorry to do this, 47 00:02:55,120 --> 00:02:57,079 Speaker 2: but I've got to pull the pin on tonight. I'm 48 00:02:57,080 --> 00:02:59,160 Speaker 2: heading upstate with a friend and they wanted to leave 49 00:02:59,200 --> 00:03:01,960 Speaker 2: earlier than I. I'd love to reschedule, but I know 50 00:03:02,000 --> 00:03:04,160 Speaker 2: that if the shoe was on the other foot, I 51 00:03:04,320 --> 00:03:05,280 Speaker 2: probably wouldn't. 52 00:03:05,639 --> 00:03:06,240 Speaker 1: I'm sorry. 53 00:03:06,639 --> 00:03:09,680 Speaker 2: And it's interesting because, like, Okay, plans happen, and in 54 00:03:09,720 --> 00:03:12,839 Speaker 2: normal circumstances, I might just think like, okay, no big deal, 55 00:03:12,919 --> 00:03:15,000 Speaker 2: we'll figure something else out. But it was what he 56 00:03:15,160 --> 00:03:18,640 Speaker 2: said at the end, insinuating that I should not want 57 00:03:18,680 --> 00:03:21,840 Speaker 2: to reschedule and kind of telling me what my behavior 58 00:03:21,919 --> 00:03:22,400 Speaker 2: should be. 59 00:03:23,240 --> 00:03:25,079 Speaker 1: That made me kind of wonder. 60 00:03:25,520 --> 00:03:28,120 Speaker 2: Of course, I wondered if he was actually going upstate, 61 00:03:28,240 --> 00:03:32,119 Speaker 2: but then I kind of internalized it, and I said 62 00:03:32,160 --> 00:03:34,800 Speaker 2: to myself, maybe he didn't really like. 63 00:03:34,800 --> 00:03:35,840 Speaker 1: What he saw online. 64 00:03:36,280 --> 00:03:39,640 Speaker 2: And I tell you this story not because this guy 65 00:03:39,720 --> 00:03:42,960 Speaker 2: deserves all this airtime. In fact, I didn't respond to 66 00:03:43,000 --> 00:03:45,000 Speaker 2: the text. I don't know if we'll ever go out. 67 00:03:45,440 --> 00:03:49,240 Speaker 2: Whatever about that. I'm telling you this story because that interaction, 68 00:03:49,440 --> 00:03:54,720 Speaker 2: for just a second actually made me doubt my awesomeness, 69 00:03:55,320 --> 00:04:00,440 Speaker 2: and that's so fucked up. I'm gonna mark this episode explicit. Listen, 70 00:04:00,800 --> 00:04:04,400 Speaker 2: I'm a confident human and I'm proud of the things 71 00:04:04,440 --> 00:04:07,760 Speaker 2: that I've done. And I've worked really hard, not just 72 00:04:07,840 --> 00:04:11,080 Speaker 2: on coming into my own but also building this business 73 00:04:11,120 --> 00:04:14,400 Speaker 2: from the ground up. And I make big asks and 74 00:04:14,480 --> 00:04:17,760 Speaker 2: I'm okay with no because I look for the yeses. 75 00:04:17,839 --> 00:04:20,559 Speaker 2: And I've learned how to be my own hype woman. 76 00:04:20,680 --> 00:04:23,839 Speaker 2: I talk to other women about being their own hype woman. 77 00:04:24,800 --> 00:04:27,720 Speaker 2: And I do all of these things because I hope 78 00:04:27,720 --> 00:04:30,560 Speaker 2: that my work inspires other people to work hard to 79 00:04:31,760 --> 00:04:35,640 Speaker 2: I do these things because I want to inspire others 80 00:04:35,680 --> 00:04:40,440 Speaker 2: to live a healthier, happier life, whatever that looks like 81 00:04:40,480 --> 00:04:40,840 Speaker 2: for them. 82 00:04:41,400 --> 00:04:42,920 Speaker 1: I remember that I used to. 83 00:04:42,880 --> 00:04:47,040 Speaker 2: Feel like I had to kind of disclaim that I'm 84 00:04:47,120 --> 00:04:50,000 Speaker 2: a lot. I used to think, in terms of dating, 85 00:04:50,040 --> 00:04:53,159 Speaker 2: that maybe the right partner for me would be someone 86 00:04:53,160 --> 00:04:56,680 Speaker 2: that balanced me out, whatever that means, Like, perhaps I 87 00:04:56,760 --> 00:04:58,640 Speaker 2: needed to be with someone who was more of like 88 00:04:58,720 --> 00:05:04,360 Speaker 2: the strong and silent type, because that Goldilocks relationship would 89 00:05:04,400 --> 00:05:08,560 Speaker 2: help me real things in If this sounds familiar to you, 90 00:05:09,240 --> 00:05:11,000 Speaker 2: I'm going to be the first person to tell you 91 00:05:11,120 --> 00:05:15,680 Speaker 2: right now that you don't need anyone to reel you in. 92 00:05:15,680 --> 00:05:19,080 Speaker 2: In fact, you're pretty fucking great as you are. And 93 00:05:19,320 --> 00:05:22,200 Speaker 2: while we're at it, if you happen to be wondering, 94 00:05:22,640 --> 00:05:25,520 Speaker 2: if you happen to be single and you're wondering, if 95 00:05:25,520 --> 00:05:27,400 Speaker 2: there is something wrong with you because you are not 96 00:05:27,440 --> 00:05:31,320 Speaker 2: in a relationship, there is nothing wrong with you. If 97 00:05:31,400 --> 00:05:34,000 Speaker 2: there are people in your life that make you feel 98 00:05:34,040 --> 00:05:36,440 Speaker 2: like you are too much, whether it is in a 99 00:05:36,560 --> 00:05:40,480 Speaker 2: friendship or a working relationship or a romantic relationship, then those. 100 00:05:40,400 --> 00:05:42,320 Speaker 1: Probably aren't your people. 101 00:05:42,920 --> 00:05:48,160 Speaker 2: Listen, I definitely always always have work to do. But 102 00:05:48,360 --> 00:05:51,120 Speaker 2: I am telling you all of this because that I 103 00:05:51,240 --> 00:05:54,960 Speaker 2: just want to reiterate that yes, at times you may 104 00:05:55,080 --> 00:05:58,479 Speaker 2: be quote unquote too much for some people, but you 105 00:05:58,600 --> 00:06:02,880 Speaker 2: are not too much peer You are great as you are, 106 00:06:02,920 --> 00:06:06,120 Speaker 2: and the people that make you doubt this in your life, 107 00:06:06,760 --> 00:06:10,599 Speaker 2: those aren't your people. And so, yeah, I didn't go 108 00:06:10,680 --> 00:06:14,120 Speaker 2: on a date last Wednesday, but you know what, it's 109 00:06:14,160 --> 00:06:17,000 Speaker 2: the best date I haven't had in a really long time. 110 00:06:17,040 --> 00:06:22,200 Speaker 2: That gave me exactly what I needed, this reminder that 111 00:06:22,279 --> 00:06:26,560 Speaker 2: I'm good just as I am. Prompt for you, what 112 00:06:26,720 --> 00:06:30,240 Speaker 2: is one personality trait that you love about yourself and 113 00:06:30,279 --> 00:06:33,240 Speaker 2: what is one trait that you would like to change again? 114 00:06:33,400 --> 00:06:37,560 Speaker 2: What is one personality trait you love about yourself and 115 00:06:37,600 --> 00:06:41,159 Speaker 2: what is one you'd like to change. Highlights of the week. 116 00:06:41,279 --> 00:06:43,960 Speaker 2: Links to all of this goodness can be found in 117 00:06:44,279 --> 00:06:48,120 Speaker 2: the show notes. First up, listen to Almost thirty Bearing 118 00:06:48,160 --> 00:06:51,280 Speaker 2: it All with the Birds Papaya. I had Lindsay Simsick, 119 00:06:51,360 --> 00:06:54,520 Speaker 2: she's the co host of Almost thirty with Crystal Williams 120 00:06:54,520 --> 00:06:58,400 Speaker 2: on the show last year, and I really really really 121 00:06:58,440 --> 00:07:02,440 Speaker 2: loved this episode feature during Sarah Nicole Landry, otherwise known 122 00:07:02,560 --> 00:07:06,839 Speaker 2: to her social media followers as at the Bird's Papaya. 123 00:07:07,080 --> 00:07:10,040 Speaker 2: I just I love everything she was talking about about 124 00:07:10,080 --> 00:07:12,520 Speaker 2: coming into her own later in life, saying that it's 125 00:07:12,680 --> 00:07:16,680 Speaker 2: never too late to do a self audit and asking 126 00:07:16,720 --> 00:07:18,920 Speaker 2: yourself questions like what is it that I want and 127 00:07:18,960 --> 00:07:21,880 Speaker 2: who is it that I want to be? Definitely definitely 128 00:07:21,880 --> 00:07:27,280 Speaker 2: give it to listen. Read this week Mindset by Carol S. Dweck, PhD. 129 00:07:27,720 --> 00:07:29,680 Speaker 1: Welcome to the Hurdle Book Club. This is a new 130 00:07:29,680 --> 00:07:31,160 Speaker 1: thing that happened on Monday. 131 00:07:31,200 --> 00:07:33,160 Speaker 2: And by it happened, I mean I put it out 132 00:07:33,400 --> 00:07:36,000 Speaker 2: into social media and got some really great response, so 133 00:07:36,040 --> 00:07:39,960 Speaker 2: I am so amped to make this a thing again. 134 00:07:40,160 --> 00:07:43,119 Speaker 2: The book Mindset by Carol S. Dweck is the first pick. 135 00:07:43,160 --> 00:07:45,920 Speaker 2: I'm going to set up a zoom call for us 136 00:07:45,960 --> 00:07:48,440 Speaker 2: to chat about it, probably the first or second week 137 00:07:48,480 --> 00:07:52,160 Speaker 2: in September. The book is basically about the power of 138 00:07:52,200 --> 00:07:55,360 Speaker 2: mindset and how successes in so many areas of our 139 00:07:55,400 --> 00:07:58,520 Speaker 2: lives can be triggered by how we think about our 140 00:07:58,560 --> 00:08:02,560 Speaker 2: talents and abilities. Just really amped, especially because so many 141 00:08:02,640 --> 00:08:07,360 Speaker 2: past Hurdle guests have suggested that I check this out. 142 00:08:07,880 --> 00:08:09,760 Speaker 2: In the show notes, there is a link to a 143 00:08:09,760 --> 00:08:13,560 Speaker 2: Google form that you can sign up for the book club, 144 00:08:13,760 --> 00:08:17,760 Speaker 2: so I highly recommend let you join in. Next up, 145 00:08:18,000 --> 00:08:20,920 Speaker 2: check out the Honeyhouse. I've talked about my friend Nick 146 00:08:20,960 --> 00:08:22,720 Speaker 2: Dio on the show, and he is up to some 147 00:08:22,800 --> 00:08:26,360 Speaker 2: funny stuff, some good stuff out in Los Angeles with 148 00:08:26,400 --> 00:08:29,600 Speaker 2: his girlfriend Aaron, and a slew of other couples. They 149 00:08:29,640 --> 00:08:32,440 Speaker 2: are all posted up in a creator house, which is 150 00:08:32,480 --> 00:08:34,640 Speaker 2: definitely a term of twenty twenty if I've ever. 151 00:08:34,520 --> 00:08:36,760 Speaker 1: Heard one, and it's called the honeyhouse. 152 00:08:37,160 --> 00:08:40,000 Speaker 2: Basically, they're making a ton of content, they're having a 153 00:08:40,040 --> 00:08:44,120 Speaker 2: good time and watching it unfold via TikTok and Instagram 154 00:08:44,320 --> 00:08:48,840 Speaker 2: is absolutely addictive. Last highlight of the week, A recommendation 155 00:08:48,920 --> 00:08:51,320 Speaker 2: for you if you want to get stronger, if you 156 00:08:51,679 --> 00:08:54,640 Speaker 2: want to learn all about kettlebals how to use them 157 00:08:54,640 --> 00:08:58,000 Speaker 2: on your own at home. I cannot recommend this enough. 158 00:08:58,080 --> 00:09:01,200 Speaker 2: It's bells Up Level one and course. It's a five 159 00:09:01,280 --> 00:09:05,120 Speaker 2: week breathing a body weight and bell's course for absolute beginners. 160 00:09:05,320 --> 00:09:09,080 Speaker 2: Lacy is without a doubt, one of the most knowledgeable 161 00:09:09,280 --> 00:09:13,679 Speaker 2: trainers I know, and she really really cares about providing 162 00:09:13,800 --> 00:09:17,480 Speaker 2: a quality service and good intel to her clients. 163 00:09:18,240 --> 00:09:19,400 Speaker 1: She's the kettlebell Queen. 164 00:09:19,800 --> 00:09:23,600 Speaker 2: She is such a kind hearted, beautiful human and having 165 00:09:23,600 --> 00:09:27,520 Speaker 2: trained with her myself before, I promise. 166 00:09:27,080 --> 00:09:28,319 Speaker 1: You you will be. 167 00:09:28,360 --> 00:09:33,720 Speaker 2: Put through the ringer, So definitely check that out as well. 168 00:09:33,760 --> 00:09:36,600 Speaker 2: And last little shout out this week. I recently launched 169 00:09:36,679 --> 00:09:39,800 Speaker 2: two new hurdle sessions that are now live on the 170 00:09:39,880 --> 00:09:42,960 Speaker 2: Hurdle Podcast event bright page. We've got Finding your Power 171 00:09:43,040 --> 00:09:47,640 Speaker 2: Alone and Handling Hurdle Moments. Finding your Power Alone all 172 00:09:47,760 --> 00:09:53,079 Speaker 2: about getting good doing things solo, getting good with being solo. 173 00:09:53,800 --> 00:09:56,400 Speaker 2: It's a topic that I have a lot of conversations 174 00:09:56,440 --> 00:09:59,160 Speaker 2: about in my DMS, and I know that it is 175 00:09:59,200 --> 00:10:02,760 Speaker 2: a workshop that is going to be really empowering for 176 00:10:02,880 --> 00:10:05,600 Speaker 2: so many of you. And lastly, as I mentioned handling 177 00:10:05,800 --> 00:10:08,040 Speaker 2: hurdle Moments, this is going to be the new token 178 00:10:08,280 --> 00:10:11,840 Speaker 2: hurdle session. It's one that you can only take live 179 00:10:11,920 --> 00:10:15,680 Speaker 2: and it's a deep dive an overcoming challenge and emerging 180 00:10:15,880 --> 00:10:21,440 Speaker 2: powerful and confident on the other side. I'm really excited 181 00:10:21,440 --> 00:10:23,440 Speaker 2: about both of these and if you have any questions 182 00:10:23,440 --> 00:10:26,960 Speaker 2: about either, I'm all ears again Emily at Hurdle US, 183 00:10:27,080 --> 00:10:31,080 Speaker 2: over email at Emily Body at Hurdle Podcast. 184 00:10:31,679 --> 00:10:35,080 Speaker 1: Another hurdle conquered. Catch you guys next time.