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Speaker 1: Thank you, nephew. Subject motivational and manipulating man. Dear Stephen Shirley.

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Speaker 1: I'm married to a man that calls himself a preacher

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Speaker 1: without a church. I call him a motivational manipulator. He

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Speaker 1: goes on Facebook and says he's a prophet, and he

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Speaker 1: sees stuff differently than anyone else. He said he consents

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Speaker 1: when our dog has indigestion. Everyone in our house can

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Speaker 1: sense it too, because we can smell it, but we

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Speaker 1: humor my husband. He tries to spook our kids into

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Speaker 1: not doing things that he doesn't agree with. My daughter

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Speaker 1: wants to be a majorrette at her school, and my

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Speaker 1: husband made up a statistic about girls not getting accepted

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Speaker 1: into good schools if they had been shaking their booties

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Speaker 1: in high school. The worst thing he did recently has

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Speaker 1: made me ready to pack up and move out. I

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Speaker 1: found out he had been talking to his ex and

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Speaker 1: giving her advice on her current relationship. She was telling

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Speaker 1: him things like she's lonely because her new husband goes

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Speaker 1: days without talking to her and that gives her anxiety.

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Speaker 1: She said she's insecure because he hasn't had sex with

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Speaker 1: her in three weeks. My sweet manipulative hobby offered to

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Speaker 1: comfort her by having sex with her to restore her confidence,

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Speaker 1: and it was all in the DNS. I read it all.

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Speaker 1: Now she feels bad for cheating on her husband, but

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Speaker 1: my husband is stuck on stupid. When I asked him

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Speaker 1: about the cheating, he said the sex meant nothing to

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Speaker 1: him and it was intended to be therapeutic for her.

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Speaker 1: Does he really think that or is he hoping I'm

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Speaker 1: stupid enough to allow that. Does he need to talk

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Speaker 1: to someone or is he aware of what he's doing?

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Speaker 1: Can you believe this? Yeah? I can believe it because

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Speaker 1: he did it, And yeah, but I do think he

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Speaker 1: thinks you would fall for something like this. I really do,

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Speaker 1: because he did it, and you did, you're writing us.

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Speaker 1: I mean, he's a selfish, manipulative, controlling man, like you said,

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Speaker 1: who truly believes that he is just that good. He

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Speaker 1: can justify everything he does. That's why he told you

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Speaker 1: the truth about him sleeping with her. He thinks that

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Speaker 1: whatever he does is okay and you'll just have to

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Speaker 1: deal with it. And so far you've been doing that.

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Speaker 1: You know, he thinks because it's him and he's got

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Speaker 1: it like that. But the point is you don't have

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Speaker 1: to deal with it or take any of this crap.

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Speaker 1: Why are you taking it? Why are you dealing with this?

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Speaker 1: I mean, in what world is it acceptable for a

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Speaker 1: husband to sleep with someone because she feels insecure? And

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Speaker 1: he did it because it's therapeutic for her? He said,

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Speaker 1: come on, now, nowhere is it acceptable? And that's beyond

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Speaker 1: stupid for him to think so, and for you to

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Speaker 1: even be accepting this. He simply wanted to have sex

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Speaker 1: with her and she wanted him to. That's why she

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Speaker 1: told him she was lonely and all that. So now

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Speaker 1: what are you gonna do? That's the question, because obviously

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Speaker 1: all his ex has to do is give him a

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Speaker 1: SOB story and your husband is back in bed consoling her,

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Speaker 1: giving her therapy. This is a mess, and this is really, really,

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Speaker 1: really stupid. Steve.

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Speaker 2: You say this subject is about a motivational and manipulating man, Okay,

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Speaker 2: when really this letter should be about something else. The

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Speaker 2: subject that is letters should be did Steven Shirley, What

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Speaker 2: is wrong with me? That should be the name of

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Speaker 2: this damn letter? What is wrong with me? Now? You're

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Speaker 2: married to a man that calls himself a preacher, but

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Speaker 2: he not a preacher. He ain't got no church. He

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Speaker 2: on Facebook, he say your prophet. He say stuff differently

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Speaker 2: than anybody else. That's true, he says. He consists when

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Speaker 2: our dog has indigestion. That's true because everybody in the

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Speaker 2: house house can too, because you can smell it. He

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Speaker 2: tries to spook our kids in the not doing stuff.

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Speaker 2: Your daughter want to be a major red at school.

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Speaker 2: My husband made us a static about girls not being

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Speaker 2: accepted into good schools that shake their booties in high school. Dog,

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Speaker 2: she a major red. She's a major red. It's okay.

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Speaker 2: It's okay. She can still go to college and have

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Speaker 2: been a major red. It's okay.

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Speaker 1: In college, that's okay. Dog, answering that.

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Speaker 2: Yeah, they're gonna have that in college too, They're gonna

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Speaker 2: have a dance squad. All that. What's wrong? But what's

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Speaker 2: wrong with this lady? The worst thing he did was

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Speaker 2: was he made me pack up. He got you ready

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Speaker 2: talking to it. Now, this is where the letter really

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Speaker 2: got confusing to me. She said, the worst he did

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Speaker 2: recently has me ready to pack up and move out.

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Speaker 2: I found out he's been talking to his ex giving

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Speaker 2: her advice on her current relationship. She was telling them

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Speaker 2: things like she lonely because her husband go days without

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Speaker 2: talking to her, insecure because they ain't had sex in

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Speaker 2: three weeks. Then this is what her letter says, My

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Speaker 2: sweet malipative husband offered to comfort her by having sex

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Speaker 2: with her to restore her confidence, and it was all

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Speaker 2: in the deal. I read it all, did she jumped

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Speaker 2: to Now she feel bad for cheating on her husband,

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Speaker 2: which means they had sex. Yeah, but my husband is

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Speaker 2: stuck on stupid. Your husband is stuck on stupid. When

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Speaker 2: I asked him about the cheating, he said this sex

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Speaker 2: meant nothing to him, and it was intended to be

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Speaker 2: therapeutic for her good Lord Almighty. This is when lion

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Speaker 2: has taped see this. This is what people who lie

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Speaker 2: give us that know how to lie or bad name.

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Speaker 2: This is the word show.

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Speaker 1: You're mad at the lie? All right, hang on, we'll

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Speaker 1: have part two of Steve's response coming up at twenty

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Speaker 1: three minutes after the hour. Today's Strawberry Letters subject motivational

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Speaker 1: and manipulating man. We'll get back into it right after this.

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Speaker 1: You're listening hard morning show. All right, Come on, Steve,

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Speaker 1: let's recap today's strawberry letter. The subject is motivation and

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Speaker 1: manipulating man.

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Speaker 2: The dialute's letter should be what the hell is wrong

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Speaker 2: with me? And we found out her husband claims to

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Speaker 2: be a prophet. He's not. He claims to be psychic

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Speaker 2: to be able to see stuff. He does it. He

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Speaker 2: makes up stories to keep your daughter from being a

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Speaker 2: major read by telling her she can't get into a

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Speaker 2: good school being a majorrette. Okay, what's wrong with you?

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Speaker 2: They have majorrets in college anyway. The thing that's got

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Speaker 2: this lady ready to pack up and move out, though,

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Speaker 2: is he'd been talking to his ex, and she had

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Speaker 2: been complaining that she's distant from her husband because sometimes

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Speaker 2: he don't talk to her, and they haven't had sex

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Speaker 2: in three weeks, and now that's making her insecure. So

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Speaker 2: to help out, she said, my sweet malipitive husband offered

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Speaker 2: her confidence. And it was all in the DMS. I

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Speaker 2: read it all. Now she feels bad for cheating on

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Speaker 2: her husband, which means they had sex. And he said

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Speaker 2: the sex ment when you asked him about the cheating,

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Speaker 2: asked him, asked you read it all in the DMS,

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Speaker 2: Then you wanted to asked him about He said the

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Speaker 2: sex meant nothing to him, and it was intended to

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Speaker 2: be therapeutic for her. See, this is when people who

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Speaker 2: lie give those of us who use lies for for

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Speaker 2: for real purposes, you give us a bad name because

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Speaker 2: what you're gonna have to say, yeah, we have to

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Speaker 2: have a real purpose this lie. You told you you

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Speaker 2: overdoing it, You overstated the lie, didn't put no thought

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Speaker 2: into it.

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Speaker 1: He said it was for you know, therapeutic reasons. He

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Speaker 1: did say that.

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Speaker 2: When she come in and asked you about she not

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Speaker 2: accuse you, but ask you about it. Ask is your out?

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Speaker 2: Your whole thing should be I never had sex with her.

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Speaker 2: I don't know who got my phone. I don't know who,

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Speaker 2: and I don't even know who DM is. He is?

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Speaker 2: Is that Donovan Mitchell? See, I'll say anything.

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Speaker 1: Athlete, But anyway, Yeah.

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Speaker 2: Does he really think that? Or is hoping that I'm

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Speaker 2: stupid enough to allow that? Wait a minute, does he

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Speaker 2: really think that? If he thought that, that's crazy And

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Speaker 2: for you to be saying hoping you allow it, that's crazy.

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Speaker 2: Does he need to talk to someone? Talk to who?

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Speaker 2: He don't need no therapist? Does he need to talk

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Speaker 2: to him someone? Or is he aware of what he's doing? What?

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Speaker 2: Don't it sound like he aware?

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Speaker 1: Yes, he is, very much.

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Speaker 2: And then her question is can you believe is I

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Speaker 2: can't believe you wrote the letter in and ask him?

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Speaker 2: Does he need help? And is he really aware of this?

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Speaker 2: That's what I'm surprised that, ma'am. Listen to me. Let

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Speaker 2: me just tell you this right here is not even

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Speaker 2: an issue as to whether he's cheating or not, because

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Speaker 2: he didn't even deny the cheating. See, I can't help

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Speaker 2: you if you want to deny it, I'll ride with you.

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Speaker 2: But you admitted to cheating and said the sex meant nothing,

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Speaker 2: it was therapeutic for her. What about your marriage though,

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Speaker 2: What about this woman you married to now that she

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Speaker 2: found out? Where is the comforting words to her?

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Speaker 1: He's trying to help people, Steve. He's trying to help

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Speaker 1: people by having sex with them. That's what he's That's

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Speaker 1: what he's doing, trying to help them. It doesn't mean

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Speaker 2: That's what he's saying. I'm listening.

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Speaker 1: He's trying to help people. It was therapeutic for her.

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Speaker 2: Uh yeah, yeah, I read that. I read that where.

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Speaker 1: You're ashamed of him as a man.

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Speaker 2: I'm ashamed. I'm ashamed for the other men out there

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Speaker 2: who are going to have to lie for the remainder

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Speaker 2: of the year, and this type of stuff is out there.

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Speaker 2: This is why women don't believe nothing we say because

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Speaker 2: of dudes like this. When you make up such an

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Speaker 2: unbelievable lie for those of us that need lies, you

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Speaker 2: hurt us. It's like when people false life accused of

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Speaker 2: falsely claimed to be a victim and they not. This

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Speaker 2: man is using a lie in it'll reverse. This is

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Speaker 2: called in appropriate lie application.

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Speaker 1: Do you hear yourself?

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Speaker 2: This is iller There's a new foundation called I L

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Speaker 2: A is like I S. This is the Illegal Illegal

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Speaker 2: Lying Association. And what we're going to do is we're

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Speaker 2: gonna start coaching. I'm gonna have a coaching on how

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Speaker 2: to lie, how to lie and why to lie? Uh?

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Speaker 1: How to lie? Okay, Like, what what are you gonna do?

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Speaker 1: For instance?

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Speaker 2: Give me ask me my question, any question. I don't

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Speaker 2: care what it is anything.

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Speaker 1: What's the weather going to be like today?

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Speaker 2: It's gonna snow today, Reue, I know. Watch this though,

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Speaker 2: See how balance you are? Yes? What do you mean?

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Speaker 1: It's gonna snow?

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Speaker 2: All right?

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