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Speaker 2: He's trash. Am I thele evicted from the home and

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Speaker 1: Baby. My twenty one male sister seventeen female has this

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Speaker 2: I hate it. It's disgusting. They're hanging out together. He

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Speaker 1: They've been dating for two years, so he's gotten really

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Speaker 2: Boyfriend, literally the freaking devil. Yep.

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Speaker 1: He asked me if I wanted help cooking, and I

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Speaker 2: Guy goes in and is like, hey, do you need help.

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Speaker 1: The way that ope he was leading up to this,

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Speaker 1: And he's like, what, We'll see how this ends. There's

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Speaker 1: probably more under the iceberg. He then proceeded to just

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Speaker 1: I told him that maybe he should go to his

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Speaker 2: Then that is a good point. He said he wasn't

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Speaker 1: I said that he is bothering me, and I'm sick

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Speaker 1: He said that I wasn't being fair and he's scared

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Speaker 1: Yeah, oh man, gravy dude. I also feel like he's

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Speaker 1: Then he said it's important to stick together when there's

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Speaker 1: Antics there we go, Yeah, let's keep on okay, my

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Speaker 1: Why is that guy always here? There is an update?

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Speaker 1: But uh, this guy is just too damn salty. You

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Speaker 2: Yeah, this this guy is just too salty. You know

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Speaker 2: My dad also put my brother's games in my brother's

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Speaker 2: And it's their house and he's probably still in high school.

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Speaker 2: Read together? Yeah? Read? Of course they go to book balls?

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Speaker 1: Woo one more baby. My dad asked her if he's

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Speaker 1: My sister's boyfriend was pretty embarrassed and apologize to my dad,

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Speaker 2: Yeah, dude, I would be mortified. I remember one time

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Speaker 2: Do not accept, and you're no longer allowed to basically

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Speaker 1: Then, I know, I know, Sam, Uh, could you please

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Speaker 2: You're like, I just made ten dollars an hour, yeah,

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Speaker 1: The boyfriend said that he didn't realize that he was

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Speaker 2: So I think everyone is good, even though my sister

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Speaker 1: My wife gave birth to a biracial baby, which clearly

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Speaker 1: The big takeaway for me was that I'd need to

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Speaker 2: I've spoken to my wife about this. I love he's

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Speaker 1: You're getting rid like you're just mentally and then that

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Speaker 2: This kid's is why you don't cheat in her marriage?

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Speaker 2: What would you do? Would I do? I mean, I think,

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Speaker 1: DNA test. But yeah, I guess it is the right

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Speaker 1: cheated with, because at the end of the day, that

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Speaker 1: is their kid and they should know about it. But yeah,

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Speaker 1: it does, it does PoTA. There's the risk of making

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Speaker 1: guess it is. Yeah, It's like I think in this

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Speaker 1: situation is who do you want to do right by?

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Speaker 1: Do you want to do right by the baby girl

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Speaker 1: or this or the guy? And I feel like it

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Speaker 1: might be more important to do right by the baby girl.

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Speaker 2: It should be. It's freaking complicentd Yeah, what would you do?

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Speaker 1: Yeah?

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Speaker 2: Comment below what you do and why, because I'm We're stumped.

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Speaker 2: We're stumped.

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Speaker 1: If you thought this story was crazy, check out this

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Speaker 1: one where the stepmom tries to steal the baby.

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Speaker 2: Watch right here or check the link in the description