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Speaker 1: This is John, this is Sam, your og Okay Storytime

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Speaker 3: I asked my family to not come to my wedding

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Speaker 3: because I can't afford it.

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Speaker 1: Maybe you shouldn't have a wedding then, if you can't

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Speaker 1: afford the wedding.

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Speaker 4: Also true, that's possible.

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Speaker 3: Made a throwaway because my man account is a super

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Speaker 3: recognizable username. I thirty five female, am set to marry

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Speaker 3: my fiance, Lawrence thirty three male this year after a

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Speaker 3: six year engagement. WHOA, you guys are very sure now.

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Speaker 1: Hey take your time.

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Speaker 3: By the way, this comes from Delorious on the Okay

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Speaker 3: story Teme severed it so important facts are A. I

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Speaker 3: was previously married to my university boyfriend for six years,

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Speaker 3: but divorced because his mental health was so bad. I

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Speaker 3: was pushing myself into depression trying to stop him from

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Speaker 3: going off the deep end. B. When I met Lawrence

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Speaker 3: in an MMO, we were living in different countries, but

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Speaker 3: we met up and fell in love, so I decided

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Speaker 3: to move to his country.

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Speaker 4: See.

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Speaker 3: We thought of getting married before, but every year, something

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Speaker 3: happened and we had to shelve the thought. Two times

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Speaker 3: I changed jobs, one time COVID, one time he changed jobs.

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Speaker 3: One time his family at health crisis and we had

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Speaker 3: to make lifestyle adjustments and d My parents at first

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Speaker 3: were apprehensive about Lawrence, especially as they had only met

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Speaker 3: him for the first time right before I moved, but

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Speaker 3: they've since warmed up him and enjoy interacting with his

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Speaker 1: Everything very sweet. Yeah, you just have some bumps in

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Speaker 1: the road.

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Speaker 4: And who doesn't have a couple bumps on the.

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Speaker 1: Road That makes the marriage even better at the destination.

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Speaker 3: Yeah, this year, me and Lawrence are moving ahead with

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Speaker 3: their wedding at full speed. Not much as concrete yet,

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Speaker 3: but it's a December wedding and it'll be a very

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Speaker 3: small affair. We have plenty of time to plan. Normally,

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Speaker 3: the bride's family would pay, but since my parents are

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Speaker 3: not well off and they already paid for half of

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Speaker 3: my first wedding, I'm not expecting them to contribute, and

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Speaker 3: Lawrence's parents are not well off either, so we're paying

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Speaker 3: for it all our Luckily, we have a good amount

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Speaker 3: debt paying for it all. Only our nearest and dearest

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Speaker 3: will be there. Lawrence has his parents, his sister Deanna,

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Speaker 3: both under twelve. We're also inviting Frank's parents because they

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Speaker 3: Deanna and mom in law Mary. I'd have my parents

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Speaker 3: Bradley thirty four Mail and Alfonse twenty eight Mail. Both

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Speaker 3: a work accident. I am not privy to the details

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Speaker 3: a five hundred euro car repair bill was a shocking amount. Naturally,

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Speaker 3: when I let them know our wedding date, my mom

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Speaker 4: Even if they go to a.

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Speaker 3: Budget chain think Holiday and Express, it'll still cost them

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Speaker 3: worry about how they'll afford it. I have mentioned from

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Speaker 3: the beginning that I don't insist on their presence. That

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Speaker 3: me happy. All while it warms my heart to know

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Speaker 3: and don't want them to scrimp and scrape to make

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Speaker 3: it to witness my wedding. How this is lovely? This

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Speaker 3: is just very you know, very thoughtful and understand it. Yeah,

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Speaker 1: It's just so much love. It's just great. But now

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Speaker 1: it comes the monetary fund.

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Speaker 4: So if I could.

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Speaker 3: Contribute to help them with the costs, I would, But

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Speaker 3: Lawrence and I can't afford to support their travel while

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Speaker 4: We're lucky.

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Speaker 3: We both want a small, simple wedding so it won't

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Speaker 3: cost too much. But I'm also realistic about the hidden

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Speaker 3: et cetera. If I were to tell my parents and

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Speaker 3: that will visit them after the wedding to celebrate our

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Speaker 3: wedding with them in my home country. We'd bring our

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Speaker 3: wedding photos and videos. If we decide to get a videographer,

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Speaker 3: we'd go for a dinner and a nice restaurant with them,

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Speaker 3: and I'd offer them a framed print of their favorite

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Speaker 3: Would that make me an ale?

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Speaker 4: And there is an update, But that is kind of

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Speaker 4: what I was going to suggest.

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Speaker 1: That's like the best thing you could do, that's not

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Speaker 3: My parents. Some of you may know my mom is

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Speaker 3: from Australia. But when she and my dad got married,

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Speaker 3: one side of the family, they decided to have I

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Speaker 3: think the wedding ceremony in America, okay, and then the

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Speaker 1: And you know, I think that's the best thing. And

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Speaker 1: it seems like OPI is communicating one her feelings, which

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Speaker 1: is great and too like, okay, if this doesn't work,

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Speaker 1: this is the plan, yes, and my way to go.

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Speaker 1: I think hopefully. What I'm scared of is the family

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Speaker 1: to get into a debacle. I hope not.

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Speaker 4: I hope there's no debacle.

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Speaker 1: But we're going to find out.

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Speaker 4: Update. I got some excellent device here telling me that

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Speaker 4: ultimately my parents and siblings should make their own choices,

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Speaker 4: which is also a fair point.

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Speaker 3: Yes, And I should just indicate that I would be

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Speaker 3: situation worked itself out.

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Speaker 1: Okay, great, amazing.

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Speaker 3: My mom rang me a couple of days ago and

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Speaker 3: after some small talk about wedding preparations and small things

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Speaker 3: it's as good as certain that my brothers won't make

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Speaker 3: f while dressed up in uncomfortable clothes, Angie. While his

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Speaker 3: are really close, so don't come at me or my brother.

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Speaker 3: We have a habit of doing our own little things

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Speaker 3: to sue with each other, but obviously we can't do

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Speaker 3: Alfon's twenty eight male, we'll stay at home with him.

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Speaker 4: Just tap our profile. There is a little bit left,

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Speaker 4: but I think it seems like they're sorting it out.

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Speaker 1: This seems like there's no pressure. Yeah, which is the

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Speaker 1: best thing. There's no stress. Everyone's understanding like, hey, if

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Speaker 1: and there. That's amazing. Or do the live stream? I

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Speaker 1: love that. This is like, so oh, there's no stress.

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Speaker 3: Sometimes when our redit stories, the stress is circumstantial. Not

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Speaker 1: No, this just seems like this is well communicated and

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Speaker 1: everyone's very understanding. Wow, you don't get those very often. Here,

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Speaker 3: My mom and dad will still come, but this way

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Speaker 3: et cetera. It essentially has the cost. My brothers will

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Speaker 3: as you guys predicted. Thank you all for your advice,

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Speaker 3: and that is the end of that story.

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Speaker 1: Awesome. My father is exhausting me, so I want to

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Speaker 1: block him right before the holidays.

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Speaker 4: He doesn't deserve to be at your Christmas plan.

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Speaker 1: He's just a little grinch. To start with some background

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Speaker 1: on I twenty, a female am considering blocking my dad

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Speaker 1: via calls or texts right before the holidays. My dad,

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Speaker 1: while I know he loves me, is incredibly needy, selfish,

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Speaker 1: r slash Okay storytime Separate It. So my parents got

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Speaker 1: support of fun dad to a needy, immature, and irresponsible person.

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Speaker 1: Maybe that's why they got divorced. He doesn't respect boundaries

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Speaker 1: and incessantly contacts people. In the last twelve years, he

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Speaker 1: he had me fully believe that was not his fault.

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Speaker 1: Clear to me now he was manipulating me. Yikes. He

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Speaker 3: was discussing things with my mom that I didn't feel

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Speaker 3: like they needed to be discussing, not even twenty four

440
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Speaker 3: hours after he passed. But I stayed out of the

441
00:19:59,119 --> 00:20:01,919
Speaker 3: conversation because I didn't know if my mother had initiated

442
00:20:01,920 --> 00:20:05,159
Speaker 3: it or not. After the conversation had finished, I pulled

443
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Speaker 3: Mike aside and told him I'd like to keep the truck.

444
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Speaker 3: It had a lot of sentimental value to me, and

445
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Speaker 3: I didn't want to get rid of it. It could

446
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Speaker 3: even be something I passed on to my daughter or son,

447
00:20:15,119 --> 00:20:17,680
Speaker 3: if I ever had one. I didn't tell him that part, though.

448
00:20:18,000 --> 00:20:20,639
Speaker 3: Mike proceeds to say that Ma's gotta sell it, and

449
00:20:20,640 --> 00:20:22,840
Speaker 3: that she needs the money, and what do I need

450
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Speaker 3: it for? He says some veiled accusations like I was

451
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Speaker 3: out to get something from my parents. The truck situation

452
00:20:29,119 --> 00:20:32,200
Speaker 3: comes up one more time during that week, the day

453
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Speaker 3: after Dad's funeral, and it's another fight. I conceded both

454
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Speaker 3: times that if Mom really needed the money, then selling

455
00:20:38,560 --> 00:20:40,760
Speaker 3: it was fine. My husband and I leave and Ma

456
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Speaker 3: stays with the family for a few more weeks. A

457
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Speaker 3: few days before Ma's return, I got a text message

458
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Speaker 3: in a group chat about my brother taking the truck.

459
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Speaker 3: He already spoke to Mom about it and she agreed,

460
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Speaker 3: and that he's coming to my house in a few

461
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Speaker 3: days to pick it up, take it and sell it

462
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Speaker 3: and give her the money.

463
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Speaker 1: It sounds like he's just taking it. It sounds like

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Speaker 1: he wants to trust.

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Speaker 4: Yes.

466
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Speaker 3: In the same group chat, I voiced that I had

467
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Speaker 3: wanted Dad's truck, and that he said MO needed the

468
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Speaker 3: money and I couldn't keep it. But all of a sudden,

469
00:21:07,200 --> 00:21:10,120
Speaker 3: he wanted it. He reiterated his first text, and as

470
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Speaker 3: everyone else in the group chat debated, I stayed silent

471
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Speaker 3: and raged. Why was he, who barely stepped foot in

472
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Speaker 3: that truck, more entitled to it than me? Why was

473
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Speaker 3: I the greedy daughter who was out to get something

474
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Speaker 3: from my parents when I wanted it, but everyone was

475
00:21:24,560 --> 00:21:26,720
Speaker 3: fine when he did. Why was I always the one

476
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Speaker 3: that needed to calm down when I voiced how I

477
00:21:28,840 --> 00:21:31,399
Speaker 3: was feeling, but he could say whatever he wanted and

478
00:21:31,440 --> 00:21:34,440
Speaker 3: it was always explained away. So here I am again,

479
00:21:35,040 --> 00:21:37,679
Speaker 3: trying to get through a day without breaking down because

480
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Speaker 3: my Daddy's gone, and while I'm stressing about how my

481
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Speaker 3: mother is going to cope in a house without her

482
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Speaker 3: partner of over half a century, this crap is happening,

483
00:21:45,760 --> 00:21:49,560
Speaker 3: a pingpong between anger, betrayal, feeling stupid about being mad

484
00:21:49,560 --> 00:21:52,399
Speaker 3: about a truck, knowing it won't bring my dad back,

485
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Speaker 3: and thinking that keeping the truck might hurt my mom

486
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Speaker 3: more than letting it go would. Some of my siblings

487
00:21:58,440 --> 00:22:01,960
Speaker 3: call saying the same things. So it solidifies my choice

488
00:22:02,080 --> 00:22:05,040
Speaker 3: that fighting for it will only bring more stress to everyone,

489
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Speaker 3: and I could have fought for it, so I let

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Speaker 3: it go. Text the group chat that night that he

491
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Speaker 3: should go on KBB and see how much it's worth,

492
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Speaker 3: just in case the one thousand dollars he offered my

493
00:22:14,720 --> 00:22:17,600
Speaker 3: mom was less than it was actually worth, since he

494
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Speaker 3: said she needed the money so much. And I guess

495
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Speaker 3: I kicked a warnet's nest.

496
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Speaker 4: Again.

497
00:22:22,760 --> 00:22:24,639
Speaker 3: I think that was a really fair thing to be, like, hey,

498
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Speaker 3: just check if it's you know, if she can get

499
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Speaker 3: more out of it, because it wouldn't be fair to

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Speaker 3: just give her a thousand if it's worth like five thousands.

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Speaker 1: I was gonna say. I think right now everyone is

502
00:22:32,840 --> 00:22:37,679
Speaker 1: in like a very vulnerable yeah, just like sadness, anger,

503
00:22:38,240 --> 00:22:40,880
Speaker 1: Other people are feeling these things. But again, this truck

504
00:22:40,960 --> 00:22:44,480
Speaker 1: situation just seems like, yeah, it's heightened everyone, yeah, and

505
00:22:45,359 --> 00:22:45,960
Speaker 1: of them.

506
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Speaker 3: Yeah, if they already kind of behave like this towards you,

507
00:22:47,960 --> 00:22:51,560
Speaker 3: it's just yeah, yeah, people are texting calling that I'm wrong.

508
00:22:51,760 --> 00:22:54,320
Speaker 3: Mommy gave him the truck and didn't want anything for it,

509
00:22:54,440 --> 00:22:56,520
Speaker 3: and I'm wrong again for asking him to pay for

510
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Speaker 3: it even though he offered to pay for it. After

511
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Speaker 3: informing the crew that I was trying to tell them

512
00:23:00,960 --> 00:23:03,640
Speaker 3: that I had let the situation go and I wasn't

513
00:23:03,680 --> 00:23:06,040
Speaker 3: trying to start up anything. I just thought he was

514
00:23:06,080 --> 00:23:07,879
Speaker 3: offering to buy it, so he should pay Mom what

515
00:23:07,920 --> 00:23:10,200
Speaker 3: it's worth. If it's worth more than what he's offering,

516
00:23:10,680 --> 00:23:13,000
Speaker 3: things calm down. Cut to a day before Mike was

517
00:23:13,040 --> 00:23:15,040
Speaker 3: supposed to come and pick up the truck. That was

518
00:23:15,080 --> 00:23:17,520
Speaker 3: the day Mom had slated to clean out Dad's truck.

519
00:23:17,880 --> 00:23:19,679
Speaker 3: I heard a male voice speaking to him in the

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Speaker 3: living room, and I came out of my office to

521
00:23:22,160 --> 00:23:24,640
Speaker 3: see who it was because I knew it wasn't my husband,

522
00:23:24,840 --> 00:23:27,560
Speaker 3: and lo and behold, it was a different brother who

523
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Speaker 3: I didn't expect to be there. I proceed to look outside,

524
00:23:30,480 --> 00:23:33,679
Speaker 3: and there is Dad's truck already loaded up on a

525
00:23:33,720 --> 00:23:37,160
Speaker 3: loader thingy, and Mike is outside and hasn't come in yet.

526
00:23:37,320 --> 00:23:39,920
Speaker 3: My eyebrow raised a bit, but I greet the one

527
00:23:39,960 --> 00:23:42,000
Speaker 3: brother that is in the house and then go outside

528
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Speaker 3: and ask I don't know why. I asked if I

529
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Speaker 3: could grab some stuff out of the truck. There were

530
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Speaker 3: specific things that I wanted out of there, and I

531
00:23:48,520 --> 00:23:50,800
Speaker 3: got them. After that, I went inside to grab a

532
00:23:50,840 --> 00:23:53,040
Speaker 3: bag and cleared out the rest of the stuff that

533
00:23:53,240 --> 00:23:56,040
Speaker 3: was of course going to be a problem. After he

534
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Speaker 3: asked me if I had cleared up the truck, which

535
00:23:57,800 --> 00:23:59,520
Speaker 3: I said no to because I hadn't gotten too the

536
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Speaker 3: back seats yet, Mike stormed outside and then proceeded to

537
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Speaker 3: bust into my house and think it was okay to

538
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Speaker 3: start yelling at me in front of our mother.

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Speaker 4: Everyone.

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Speaker 3: If there's one thing you need to know about me

541
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Speaker 3: and who I am, is that I am and will

542
00:24:12,880 --> 00:24:16,720
Speaker 3: always be fiercely protective of my parents' well being. So

543
00:24:16,760 --> 00:24:19,320
Speaker 3: the fact that this person, who has never considered me

544
00:24:19,359 --> 00:24:22,000
Speaker 3: a sibling until our dad passed away, was trying to

545
00:24:22,040 --> 00:24:24,840
Speaker 3: fight with me in front of our mourning mother made

546
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Speaker 3: me snap, but not as much as I could have.

547
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Speaker 3: After he called me selfish for the fourth time, I

548
00:24:29,560 --> 00:24:32,720
Speaker 3: brought up an issue dumb Dumb had caused for my

549
00:24:32,840 --> 00:24:35,600
Speaker 3: parents a year ago, and it silenced him a little

550
00:24:35,720 --> 00:24:37,840
Speaker 3: kind of hard to bite back after being muzzled by

551
00:24:37,840 --> 00:24:41,000
Speaker 3: one's wrongdoings. A few more choice words were spoken, and

552
00:24:41,040 --> 00:24:43,840
Speaker 3: then he left with my brother and my dad's truck.

553
00:24:44,320 --> 00:24:48,119
Speaker 3: But you can never leave because we want you to

554
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Speaker 3: join us live every week to at three pm PSD

555
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Speaker 3: on Facebook, YouTube, TikTok, and Twitch.

556
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Speaker 4: Just tap her profile step We're probably live right now.

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Speaker 1: Go check not right now right after the story.

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Speaker 4: Yeah, but there is a little bit more. Do you

559
00:25:00,440 --> 00:25:01,439
Speaker 4: have any final thoughts?

560
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Speaker 1: I don't understand why he's being again. I get it,

561
00:25:05,040 --> 00:25:08,080
Speaker 1: the passing of your father is everyone's heightened T eleven,

562
00:25:08,359 --> 00:25:10,360
Speaker 1: But I think he's just taking all that anger out

563
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Speaker 1: on you.

564
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Speaker 3: It's happening, it's cemented, or at least it's a continuation

565
00:25:13,560 --> 00:25:16,680
Speaker 3: of the kind of dynamic they had growing up, which

566
00:25:16,720 --> 00:25:18,639
Speaker 3: OPI has said. And he thinks that he can just

567
00:25:18,680 --> 00:25:20,040
Speaker 3: kind of walk all over OP you OP.

568
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Speaker 1: He won't do anything that's not right.

569
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Speaker 3: And now OP he's kind of questioning things and asking

570
00:25:24,480 --> 00:25:28,480
Speaker 3: for like seemingly the one thing, and he's like, you

571
00:25:28,520 --> 00:25:30,040
Speaker 3: yet the truck And then she's like, okay, I'm going

572
00:25:30,080 --> 00:25:31,960
Speaker 3: to clean out the truck. And he's like, I can't

573
00:25:31,960 --> 00:25:33,320
Speaker 3: believe he'r doing this, and she's like, you know, what

574
00:25:33,400 --> 00:25:34,240
Speaker 3: stop talking to me like that?

575
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Speaker 1: Is there not a will? I know Opie's father passed

576
00:25:36,760 --> 00:25:39,159
Speaker 1: away out of the blue. What I don't get is

577
00:25:39,480 --> 00:25:43,040
Speaker 1: did Opie not communicate the sentiment toward the truck. I

578
00:25:43,080 --> 00:25:43,600
Speaker 1: think she did.

579
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Speaker 4: It seems like your siblings are pretty rude, which but

580
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Speaker 4: there's a little bit left.

581
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Speaker 3: My husband got home a few minutes later and was

582
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Speaker 3: trying to go outside before they left, but I stopped him,

583
00:25:52,600 --> 00:25:55,520
Speaker 3: told him and the siblings what happened, so the situation

584
00:25:55,560 --> 00:25:58,720
Speaker 3: couldn't get spun on me and blocked the idiot who

585
00:25:58,800 --> 00:26:02,119
Speaker 3: wanted a bunch of junk and sentimental stuff that only

586
00:26:02,160 --> 00:26:05,840
Speaker 3: symbolized dad, damn, but meant dad to me. And that

587
00:26:06,080 --> 00:26:09,520
Speaker 3: is the end of that story. So I'm done with

588
00:26:09,560 --> 00:26:11,320
Speaker 3: this guy. This is all my brother is going to

589
00:26:11,359 --> 00:26:12,840
Speaker 3: be treating me. I won't put up with it.

590
00:26:12,880 --> 00:26:16,000
Speaker 1: Yeah, worth it, especially in this time of you know,

591
00:26:16,440 --> 00:26:19,320
Speaker 1: just a loss. So as long as you got some

592
00:26:19,640 --> 00:26:23,159
Speaker 1: trinkets or something to remember your dad by great. I know.

593
00:26:23,480 --> 00:26:25,280
Speaker 1: So you didn't get the truck, but at least you

594
00:26:25,359 --> 00:26:28,400
Speaker 1: got something, hopefully, And just screw that guy.

595
00:26:28,600 --> 00:26:30,520
Speaker 4: But that is the end of that story. Sam.

596
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Speaker 2: Here, we're gonna get back to the stories, but here's

597
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598
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Speaker 5: My entitled cousin demanded my engagement ring. She lost her

599
00:26:38,920 --> 00:26:40,680
Speaker 5: mind when I refuse.

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Speaker 4: What was that conversation?

601
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Speaker 3: She's like, I'm actually gonna take that ring from me

602
00:26:45,400 --> 00:26:47,920
Speaker 3: because it doesn't have any sort of special meaning.

603
00:26:47,960 --> 00:26:50,560
Speaker 4: Of course, So this happened three months ago.

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Speaker 5: Me and my boyfriend at the time had decided to

605
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Speaker 5: get married, but he still wanted to have a proper proposal,

606
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Speaker 5: so he went out for dinner, nothing really fancy, and

607
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Speaker 5: then he asked, and I said, yeah, yes, obviously. And

608
00:27:01,600 --> 00:27:03,560
Speaker 5: the ring he bought is kind of expensive, with a

609
00:27:03,640 --> 00:27:06,119
Speaker 5: huge diamond in the middle and small ones surrounding it.

610
00:27:06,520 --> 00:27:09,760
Speaker 5: This is obviously important to the story. By the way,

611
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Speaker 5: this comes from Vortec's child on the r slash Okay

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Speaker 5: storytime subprendit.

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Speaker 4: So I don't really care though. He could give me.

614
00:27:17,440 --> 00:27:19,600
Speaker 5: A plastic ring and I'd still be happy since I'm

615
00:27:19,600 --> 00:27:21,159
Speaker 5: going to spend the rest of my life with the

616
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Speaker 5: love of my life.

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Speaker 4: So as you can guess, I was giddy with happiness.

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Speaker 5: A couple of days later, my cousin shared one of

619
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Speaker 5: those I said yes posts on Instagram, and I called

620
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Speaker 5: to congratulate her.

621
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Speaker 4: Wow, so she also got engaged. Wow takes that season

622
00:27:35,400 --> 00:27:36,040
Speaker 4: time of year.

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Speaker 5: Yues so, and she immediately starts bragging about the proposal,

624
00:27:39,520 --> 00:27:43,119
Speaker 5: a big surprise on a boat, live music, expensive wine,

625
00:27:43,200 --> 00:27:47,040
Speaker 5: as she mentioned about ten times in five minutes, etc.

626
00:27:47,800 --> 00:27:50,080
Speaker 5: Then she says, we should meet up with our other

627
00:27:50,160 --> 00:27:53,240
Speaker 5: two girl cousins. We normally get together once every few

628
00:27:53,240 --> 00:27:56,160
Speaker 5: months anyway, so I agree we'll get together and celebrate

629
00:27:56,200 --> 00:27:58,800
Speaker 5: both our engagements. So the day comes and I do

630
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Speaker 5: all the preparation as were meeting at my place. Although

631
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Speaker 5: I did expect her to help out since it was

632
00:28:03,840 --> 00:28:05,760
Speaker 5: a celebration for both of us, I.

633
00:28:05,680 --> 00:28:06,520
Speaker 4: Didn't say anything.

634
00:28:06,880 --> 00:28:08,480
Speaker 5: So the four of us are sitting in the living

635
00:28:08,520 --> 00:28:10,920
Speaker 5: room and the cousin once again starts telling us about

636
00:28:10,920 --> 00:28:13,359
Speaker 5: the proposal, which all of us knew about as she

637
00:28:13,400 --> 00:28:15,679
Speaker 5: had told every one of us this story already, but

638
00:28:15,800 --> 00:28:18,120
Speaker 5: we listened to her, thinking she is just so excited

639
00:28:18,119 --> 00:28:20,000
Speaker 5: that she wants to talk about it all the time.

640
00:28:20,320 --> 00:28:23,080
Speaker 5: It's fine, but she also keeps bringing up how her

641
00:28:23,119 --> 00:28:25,800
Speaker 5: diamond ring is just not her style and how she

642
00:28:25,840 --> 00:28:30,040
Speaker 5: would rather something more appropriate, whatever that means. Then she

643
00:28:30,119 --> 00:28:33,199
Speaker 5: asks me how my proposal was in this condescending way.

644
00:28:33,440 --> 00:28:35,600
Speaker 5: I tell her that it was nothing fancy, just dinner,

645
00:28:35,640 --> 00:28:38,280
Speaker 5: and he pops a question. My other cousins thought it

646
00:28:38,360 --> 00:28:41,280
Speaker 5: was sweet since they knew I didn't like big surprises and.

647
00:28:41,280 --> 00:28:42,560
Speaker 4: Over the top proposals.

648
00:28:42,760 --> 00:28:45,440
Speaker 5: But the entitled cousin gets this weird look on her

649
00:28:45,440 --> 00:28:48,080
Speaker 5: face and says, guess he had no money left after

650
00:28:48,120 --> 00:28:50,200
Speaker 5: buying that ring, points to it with a judging look

651
00:28:50,240 --> 00:28:52,680
Speaker 5: on her face. No, wonder he didn't do anything special.

652
00:28:52,800 --> 00:28:54,680
Speaker 5: If you weren't focused so much on the size of

653
00:28:54,680 --> 00:28:56,720
Speaker 5: the diamonds, maybe you would get a special night like

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Speaker 5: I did. I am out of words. I didn't expect

655
00:29:00,080 --> 00:29:02,760
Speaker 5: to this at all. My other cousins are just looking

656
00:29:02,760 --> 00:29:06,480
Speaker 5: at one another and then to me as if saying, oh,

657
00:29:06,640 --> 00:29:09,560
Speaker 5: wtf just happened. I tried to explain how I didn't

658
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Speaker 5: like big events, so min night was special enough, and

659
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Speaker 5: that I didn't ask for any kind of ring, and

660
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Speaker 5: my boyfriend just picked something himself for me, and I'd

661
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Speaker 5: be fine with any other ring he gave me, And

662
00:29:18,960 --> 00:29:22,040
Speaker 5: she says, half jokingly, why don't we switch then, since

663
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Speaker 5: you don't care anyways, I decide she's joking and laughing

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Speaker 5: and say something along the lines of yeah.

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Speaker 4: Sure, why not, It's only an engagement ring after all.

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Speaker 5: I'm not really sure what exactly I said, as I

667
00:29:34,680 --> 00:29:36,840
Speaker 5: was still trying to figure out what the f I

668
00:29:36,880 --> 00:29:39,920
Speaker 5: had just been dragged into. She laughs and says something

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Speaker 5: like it would look better on me anyways, since your

670
00:29:42,320 --> 00:29:43,760
Speaker 5: fingers are all chubby.

671
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Speaker 4: Literally, stop talking.

672
00:29:45,280 --> 00:29:48,920
Speaker 5: Girl sounds like the most like superficial person I've ever met.

673
00:29:48,960 --> 00:29:52,680
Speaker 5: She cares about like what happened around, like what happened

674
00:29:52,680 --> 00:29:55,920
Speaker 5: in the proposal, rather than like the meaning of the proposal.

675
00:29:55,520 --> 00:29:57,920
Speaker 3: Yeah, and also is like talking about how much she

676
00:29:57,960 --> 00:29:58,880
Speaker 3: hates her ring.

677
00:29:58,840 --> 00:30:01,200
Speaker 5: Yeah, and then like so her the other ring and

678
00:30:01,360 --> 00:30:04,720
Speaker 5: thinks it doesn't matter because it's just the looks.

679
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Speaker 4: Oh my gosh, this is just so crazy.

680
00:30:06,720 --> 00:30:08,800
Speaker 5: I'm a chubby girl, so yeah, my fingers are a

681
00:30:08,840 --> 00:30:12,520
Speaker 5: little thick, so I'm offended. Obviously, I do feel bad

682
00:30:12,560 --> 00:30:14,960
Speaker 5: about my weight already, so her bringing it up as

683
00:30:15,000 --> 00:30:18,800
Speaker 5: a joke was annoying, as if one of the other cousins,

684
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Speaker 5: who is eight years older than us, realizes I'm about

685
00:30:21,400 --> 00:30:24,680
Speaker 5: to explode, so she interrupts and changes the subject and

686
00:30:24,800 --> 00:30:27,640
Speaker 5: asks about the wedding plans, and the ring issue is

687
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Speaker 5: over or so I thought.

688
00:30:30,560 --> 00:30:32,280
Speaker 4: Entitled cousin talks about how.

689
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Speaker 5: Her wedding will be the dream, fairytale wedding, etc. And

690
00:30:35,640 --> 00:30:38,400
Speaker 5: when they ask me, I'll say, we'll have a small

691
00:30:38,440 --> 00:30:40,720
Speaker 5: ceremony since we want to go to a tour around

692
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Speaker 5: Europe and want to spend the minimum on the wedding

693
00:30:43,040 --> 00:30:45,480
Speaker 5: in order to save more for the tour. Then titled

694
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Speaker 5: cousin just chuckles and says, you don't have to pretend

695
00:30:48,280 --> 00:30:49,120
Speaker 5: with that, sweetheart.

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Speaker 4: We're family. There's nothing wrong with not being able to

697
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Speaker 4: afford a nice wedding. Oh my gosh, I think I

698
00:30:55,120 --> 00:30:56,040
Speaker 4: told her to stop talking.

699
00:30:56,240 --> 00:30:59,719
Speaker 5: That's so insane to anyone, even to your family.

700
00:30:59,800 --> 00:31:03,400
Speaker 4: If if you're comfortable like that's so rude. It's so

701
00:31:03,600 --> 00:31:04,520
Speaker 4: incredibly rude.

702
00:31:04,560 --> 00:31:07,600
Speaker 5: Oh my gosh. In calling her sweetheart with it too, dude,

703
00:31:07,680 --> 00:31:09,400
Speaker 5: pop paw paw, That's what I would do.

704
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Speaker 4: Paw paw paw. Don't call me sweetheart.

705
00:31:12,120 --> 00:31:15,640
Speaker 5: I just snap at her and I say, I'm sure

706
00:31:15,720 --> 00:31:18,320
Speaker 5: someone with enough money to buy a huge diamond also

707
00:31:18,400 --> 00:31:20,320
Speaker 5: has money to have a big wedding. We just don't

708
00:31:20,320 --> 00:31:22,880
Speaker 5: want to spend money on something as extravagant as.

709
00:31:22,760 --> 00:31:24,200
Speaker 4: A horse pulled carriage.

710
00:31:24,320 --> 00:31:26,040
Speaker 5: She wanted to get one of those for her wedding,

711
00:31:26,080 --> 00:31:28,040
Speaker 5: and it's not like me to brag about money, but

712
00:31:28,120 --> 00:31:29,920
Speaker 5: I knew this would affect her the most.

713
00:31:30,400 --> 00:31:32,400
Speaker 4: After this point, it was just the two of us.

714
00:31:32,240 --> 00:31:34,560
Speaker 5: Taking digs at each other while the other cousins try

715
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Speaker 5: to find a middle ground between us. This continues until

716
00:31:37,520 --> 00:31:40,400
Speaker 5: the two cousins decide it's time to leave. I expected

717
00:31:40,400 --> 00:31:43,320
Speaker 5: the entitled cousin to leave with them, but she stays

718
00:31:43,360 --> 00:31:46,160
Speaker 5: behind to help with the cleaning up, but I don't

719
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Speaker 5: buy it. After we see them out, the entitled cousin

720
00:31:49,200 --> 00:31:52,200
Speaker 5: pretends to help me while still annoying the f out

721
00:31:52,240 --> 00:31:54,080
Speaker 5: of me until I clean everything up.

722
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Speaker 4: Then we sort of stand.

723
00:31:55,440 --> 00:31:59,120
Speaker 5: There awkwardly with her looking at me expectantly. I asked

724
00:31:59,120 --> 00:32:02,840
Speaker 5: her if she wanted thing, and oh boy, she says

725
00:32:03,320 --> 00:32:06,160
Speaker 5: she would like to leave, so I should give her

726
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Speaker 5: the ring. There's no way, there's no way she actually

727
00:32:10,240 --> 00:32:13,360
Speaker 5: thought that. That's like what was gonna happen here.

728
00:32:13,680 --> 00:32:16,360
Speaker 4: I don't understand. I don't understand.

729
00:32:16,000 --> 00:32:19,280
Speaker 5: Leave just so, like the only reason this is awkward

730
00:32:19,520 --> 00:32:22,440
Speaker 5: and then I'm overstaying here is because someone didn't give

731
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Speaker 5: it up.

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Speaker 2: By the way, if you want to see bonus videos

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Speaker 4: What the f she was serious? She thought I was

737
00:32:33,000 --> 00:32:36,840
Speaker 4: going to switch rings with her my engagement ring for real.

738
00:32:37,480 --> 00:32:39,480
Speaker 4: I asked her what the f she is talking about?

739
00:32:39,480 --> 00:32:42,240
Speaker 5: And she says, well, you promised me your ring, with

740
00:32:42,400 --> 00:32:44,880
Speaker 5: this look on her face that says, are you stupid

741
00:32:44,960 --> 00:32:45,480
Speaker 5: or something?

742
00:32:45,800 --> 00:32:47,120
Speaker 4: I say, I was only.

743
00:32:46,960 --> 00:32:49,360
Speaker 5: Joking and I wouldn't give her my ring, not because

744
00:32:49,360 --> 00:32:51,800
Speaker 5: it was expensive, but because it was my e.

745
00:32:51,880 --> 00:32:56,400
Speaker 4: Fane engagement ring. And then she flips, what do you

746
00:32:56,480 --> 00:32:58,320
Speaker 4: mean you were joking? You promise?

747
00:32:58,520 --> 00:33:01,560
Speaker 5: You promised in front of cousin Won and cousin too.

748
00:33:01,840 --> 00:33:04,640
Speaker 5: Were you lying to them so that they wouldn't know?

749
00:33:04,720 --> 00:33:09,160
Speaker 5: How selfish and how superficial you are? Sorry, how superficial?

750
00:33:09,200 --> 00:33:09,920
Speaker 4: Oh p is?

751
00:33:10,960 --> 00:33:14,400
Speaker 3: So, how does this girl's fiance feel about this? Because

752
00:33:14,920 --> 00:33:17,000
Speaker 3: she's actively like, I don't want this ring?

753
00:33:17,400 --> 00:33:21,560
Speaker 4: Yeah? Does he imagine this isn't a freaking white elephant.

754
00:33:21,880 --> 00:33:23,360
Speaker 1: You can't you can't trade.

755
00:33:23,040 --> 00:33:24,959
Speaker 5: But it's an engagement ring. Like it's not even just

756
00:33:25,000 --> 00:33:28,360
Speaker 5: like a gift. It's like this is a literal engagement ring.

757
00:33:28,400 --> 00:33:32,000
Speaker 5: And also too, like money can definitely be in question here, Like,

758
00:33:32,040 --> 00:33:35,520
Speaker 5: can you imagine either of the fiances being like, I

759
00:33:35,640 --> 00:33:38,160
Speaker 5: just spent all this money on this. Even if the

760
00:33:38,280 --> 00:33:41,280
Speaker 5: sister or the cousin doesn't like this the ring, it

761
00:33:41,320 --> 00:33:43,360
Speaker 5: could be still super expensive.

762
00:33:43,080 --> 00:33:44,080
Speaker 4: Exactly like that.

763
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Speaker 3: That's a thing where you say, like, oh, you know,

764
00:33:46,680 --> 00:33:48,920
Speaker 3: you should have had a Pinter's board right full of

765
00:33:49,000 --> 00:33:51,720
Speaker 3: all of your rings that you wanted, and then your

766
00:33:51,760 --> 00:33:52,960
Speaker 3: friends should have been like, hey, these are all the

767
00:33:53,040 --> 00:33:53,720
Speaker 3: rings that she wants.

768
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Speaker 5: Yeah, so I'm like, no, I said it as a joke,

769
00:33:57,080 --> 00:33:59,960
Speaker 5: because no sane person would ask for someone else's engage.

770
00:34:00,560 --> 00:34:02,360
Speaker 5: She says she doesn't want to take mine, and she

771
00:34:02,360 --> 00:34:05,240
Speaker 5: would also be giving hers to me. She says it

772
00:34:05,240 --> 00:34:07,840
Speaker 5: would suit her better anyways, and a big stone like

773
00:34:07,840 --> 00:34:10,719
Speaker 5: that just wouldn't go with the cheap stuff I wear.

774
00:34:11,040 --> 00:34:14,000
Speaker 5: I've had enough, and I tell her this, ask her

775
00:34:14,040 --> 00:34:17,360
Speaker 5: to leave my apartment and not to contact me again.

776
00:34:17,640 --> 00:34:20,399
Speaker 4: She says she won't leave without her ring.

777
00:34:21,040 --> 00:34:24,399
Speaker 5: I repeat what I said, and she screams about how

778
00:34:24,480 --> 00:34:27,200
Speaker 5: I led her on and how selfish I was, and

779
00:34:27,239 --> 00:34:30,280
Speaker 5: how I was ruining her dream and how my fiance

780
00:34:30,480 --> 00:34:36,040
Speaker 5: would leave my fat ugly a anyway, that's crazy no

781
00:34:36,080 --> 00:34:36,759
Speaker 5: one likes you.

782
00:34:37,560 --> 00:34:38,279
Speaker 4: No one likes you.

783
00:34:38,440 --> 00:34:40,560
Speaker 3: Do I tell anyone else this story, and they're like,

784
00:34:40,560 --> 00:34:41,320
Speaker 3: you're stupid.

785
00:34:41,440 --> 00:34:44,480
Speaker 4: I want the fiance of her to know all of

786
00:34:44,520 --> 00:34:46,759
Speaker 4: this stuff and be like like, I'm gonna leave your

787
00:34:47,040 --> 00:34:50,120
Speaker 4: superficial but and then what and then what I'm ready

788
00:34:50,200 --> 00:34:52,120
Speaker 4: to do? You don't have a ring or fiance.

789
00:34:51,920 --> 00:34:54,279
Speaker 5: That he would find someone better sooner or later and

790
00:34:54,360 --> 00:34:55,240
Speaker 5: i'd be history.

791
00:34:55,360 --> 00:34:58,080
Speaker 4: Which hit ho. I'm pretty close. I'm a little insecure

792
00:34:58,080 --> 00:34:58,760
Speaker 4: about my body.

793
00:34:58,800 --> 00:35:01,480
Speaker 5: As I said earlier, I don't know what came over me,

794
00:35:01,600 --> 00:35:03,759
Speaker 5: but I remember her saying those words, and then my

795
00:35:03,920 --> 00:35:06,560
Speaker 5: hand was on her face. I'm still go into a violence,

796
00:35:06,640 --> 00:35:08,560
Speaker 5: but like I was also hoping that would happen.

797
00:35:08,600 --> 00:35:11,000
Speaker 3: But also like, if you're gonna keep talking to Mac

798
00:35:11,320 --> 00:35:12,360
Speaker 3: expected to getzmack.

799
00:35:12,440 --> 00:35:15,439
Speaker 5: Normally I would never hit someone on purpose, but I

800
00:35:15,600 --> 00:35:18,719
Speaker 5: was seeing red and obviously she didn't just stand there

801
00:35:18,760 --> 00:35:20,600
Speaker 5: after I slapped her, So we got into a little

802
00:35:20,600 --> 00:35:22,600
Speaker 5: bit of a fight in the middle of the kitchen.

803
00:35:22,920 --> 00:35:25,920
Speaker 5: Thank god, my fiance walked in on us soon after

804
00:35:26,120 --> 00:35:28,799
Speaker 5: and got us away from each other. Apparently he just

805
00:35:28,840 --> 00:35:31,440
Speaker 5: got home and heard the screaming from the kitchen. She

806
00:35:31,600 --> 00:35:34,239
Speaker 5: claimed I attacked her, which was kind of true, and

807
00:35:34,400 --> 00:35:37,239
Speaker 5: wanted to have her engagement ring as I hated the

808
00:35:37,239 --> 00:35:37,920
Speaker 5: one he gave me.

809
00:35:38,040 --> 00:35:41,840
Speaker 4: Oh my gosh, and now she's lying that is so

810
00:35:42,080 --> 00:35:42,840
Speaker 4: not true.

811
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Speaker 5: My fiance and I have been dating for five and

812
00:35:44,800 --> 00:35:46,600
Speaker 5: a half years and we've been living together for the

813
00:35:46,640 --> 00:35:49,279
Speaker 5: last three years, so he knows me better than that.

814
00:35:49,760 --> 00:35:53,040
Speaker 5: He asks me what happened and I explain over the

815
00:35:53,160 --> 00:35:56,880
Speaker 5: shrieking voice of the titled bee. After listening to me,

816
00:35:57,160 --> 00:35:59,520
Speaker 5: my fiance tells my cousin that if she doesn't leave

817
00:35:59,520 --> 00:36:02,280
Speaker 5: our apartment, he will be calling the police. She insisted

818
00:36:02,320 --> 00:36:05,160
Speaker 5: that I attacked her for a few times, but gives

819
00:36:05,239 --> 00:36:08,360
Speaker 5: up eventually, then gathers her stuff and leaves, all the

820
00:36:08,360 --> 00:36:09,759
Speaker 5: while swearing at us at the.

821
00:36:09,760 --> 00:36:10,640
Speaker 4: Top of her lungs.

822
00:36:11,120 --> 00:36:14,719
Speaker 5: Like that is so incredibly childish, and like, I just

823
00:36:14,760 --> 00:36:18,719
Speaker 5: don't even know how to deal with the anger I feel, truly, And.

824
00:36:18,719 --> 00:36:21,719
Speaker 3: Also like, what was she expecting to happen when she said, oh,

825
00:36:21,880 --> 00:36:24,160
Speaker 3: she doesn't like your engagement ring that you gave her.

826
00:36:24,440 --> 00:36:26,839
Speaker 3: OP just has to say, like, that's not true. I'm

827
00:36:26,880 --> 00:36:28,239
Speaker 3: not giving you the engagement ring.

828
00:36:28,400 --> 00:36:30,919
Speaker 5: Yeah, Like what, Like why would there be a fight

829
00:36:31,040 --> 00:36:33,680
Speaker 5: if oh, PI hated it, like, come on, I was

830
00:36:33,760 --> 00:36:35,920
Speaker 5: just crying in the kitchen the whole time as my

831
00:36:36,000 --> 00:36:39,040
Speaker 5: fiance made sure she left. By the way, you never

832
00:36:39,160 --> 00:36:41,520
Speaker 5: have to cry because you could listen to full episodes

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Speaker 5: of stories just like this. Just go to Spotify, Apple

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Speaker 5: Podcasts or your favorite podcast app and search.

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Speaker 4: Okay, storytell search it. We'll be here for you. But yeah,

836
00:36:52,440 --> 00:36:54,160
Speaker 4: there is a little bit more.

837
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Speaker 3: Honestly, go no contact. Yeah, I would say, go no

838
00:36:56,840 --> 00:37:00,880
Speaker 3: contact with this cousin. She's awful to you everyone. She

839
00:37:00,960 --> 00:37:03,200
Speaker 3: sounds entirely unpleasant.

840
00:37:02,760 --> 00:37:05,080
Speaker 5: Like, definitely don't invite her to the wedding because she's

841
00:37:05,080 --> 00:37:06,799
Speaker 5: probably gonna show up in a white dress and be like,

842
00:37:06,840 --> 00:37:07,920
Speaker 5: so jesu.

843
00:37:07,840 --> 00:37:10,040
Speaker 4: Is my way? You promised me that I could have

844
00:37:10,200 --> 00:37:10,720
Speaker 4: your wedding.

845
00:37:10,880 --> 00:37:14,439
Speaker 5: Yeah, oh my goodness. That's crazy. But let's get into

846
00:37:14,480 --> 00:37:16,560
Speaker 5: the rest of it. She also told her parents that

847
00:37:16,640 --> 00:37:18,840
Speaker 5: I tried to take her ring and when she refused,

848
00:37:18,920 --> 00:37:21,400
Speaker 5: I attacked her. They believed her and her mom and

849
00:37:21,400 --> 00:37:23,200
Speaker 5: my mom had a huge fight over it, and they

850
00:37:23,239 --> 00:37:26,000
Speaker 5: don't talk to each other anymore. Her two other cousins

851
00:37:26,080 --> 00:37:28,160
Speaker 5: say that they think I'm in the right, but they

852
00:37:28,239 --> 00:37:30,000
Speaker 5: still agreed to be her bridesmaids.

853
00:37:30,000 --> 00:37:32,480
Speaker 4: Well, sometimes you kind of don't have a choice. When

854
00:37:32,520 --> 00:37:34,520
Speaker 4: you're like out of it, I feel, yeah, you don't

855
00:37:34,520 --> 00:37:35,400
Speaker 4: want to get involved.

856
00:37:35,800 --> 00:37:38,000
Speaker 5: I wouldn't be mad at them for that ad sorried

857
00:37:38,040 --> 00:37:40,799
Speaker 5: eye them. So yeah, I don't think I'll ever be

858
00:37:40,880 --> 00:37:43,640
Speaker 5: able to forget that day. Sorry, it's a bit long.

859
00:37:43,760 --> 00:37:45,760
Speaker 5: I didn't want to leave out all of the drama

860
00:37:45,840 --> 00:37:48,080
Speaker 5: eating it up. That's the end of that. Dang, what

861
00:37:48,200 --> 00:37:52,239
Speaker 5: a wild ride, all because of a joke that you

862
00:37:52,360 --> 00:37:54,080
Speaker 5: said that apparently was a promise.

863
00:37:54,280 --> 00:37:56,000
Speaker 4: But that is the end of that story.

864
00:37:56,320 --> 00:38:00,640
Speaker 3: My fiances aunt ruined my proposal surprise by revealing it

865
00:38:00,680 --> 00:38:01,360
Speaker 3: to everyone.

866
00:38:01,800 --> 00:38:04,480
Speaker 4: Ah, that's why, why would you do that?

867
00:38:04,640 --> 00:38:07,640
Speaker 3: I tell you guys about my thirty five male fiances

868
00:38:07,760 --> 00:38:10,799
Speaker 3: thirty two female aunt who is in her seventies and

869
00:38:11,000 --> 00:38:14,720
Speaker 3: is the worst lady I've ever encountered. A little background story.

870
00:38:14,840 --> 00:38:17,840
Speaker 3: My fiance's dad and her aunt are immigrants who moved

871
00:38:17,840 --> 00:38:21,120
Speaker 3: here to the US during the eighties. Being immigrants back

872
00:38:21,160 --> 00:38:24,799
Speaker 3: then in pursuit of the American dream wasn't easy, So

873
00:38:24,880 --> 00:38:27,400
Speaker 3: I do give them props for leaving their families in

874
00:38:27,440 --> 00:38:30,040
Speaker 3: their home country for a better life. By the way,

875
00:38:30,080 --> 00:38:33,480
Speaker 3: this comes from Bachow on the Okay storytime separate it.

876
00:38:33,680 --> 00:38:36,160
Speaker 3: Eventually they were able to move all their siblings over

877
00:38:36,280 --> 00:38:38,319
Speaker 3: and they all live within a five minute drive from

878
00:38:38,360 --> 00:38:40,600
Speaker 3: each other in the same town. They worked hard to

879
00:38:40,640 --> 00:38:44,440
Speaker 3: be successful, but it developed this nasty attitude of pride

880
00:38:44,480 --> 00:38:47,840
Speaker 3: and entitlement. Then, coming from a culture where respect is

881
00:38:47,840 --> 00:38:50,400
Speaker 3: simply given to a person because they are an elder

882
00:38:50,640 --> 00:38:53,319
Speaker 3: doesn't help either. Her dad doesn't like me for some

883
00:38:53,440 --> 00:38:56,760
Speaker 3: reason and hasn't made any effort of reciprocating any efforts

884
00:38:56,800 --> 00:38:59,480
Speaker 3: of getting to know each other, even when bringing gifts

885
00:38:59,600 --> 00:39:02,120
Speaker 3: or drain to share with each other. It's crazy to

886
00:39:02,120 --> 00:39:04,520
Speaker 3: me because he is known as the nice uncle among

887
00:39:04,560 --> 00:39:07,160
Speaker 3: the family, but is just cold and distant when it

888
00:39:07,200 --> 00:39:10,000
Speaker 3: comes to me. The aunt is the matriarch of the family,

889
00:39:10,320 --> 00:39:13,280
Speaker 3: whose power over her family is rooted in her giving

890
00:39:13,320 --> 00:39:17,000
Speaker 3: money to them. That's all she's about money. It's also

891
00:39:17,040 --> 00:39:19,160
Speaker 3: how she gauges your worth by the amount of money

892
00:39:19,239 --> 00:39:22,560
Speaker 3: you have. Anyway, my fiance and I just got engaged

893
00:39:22,600 --> 00:39:26,120
Speaker 3: this year after dating for ten years. We would have sooner,

894
00:39:26,239 --> 00:39:29,600
Speaker 3: but certain conditions and life events prolonged it, one of

895
00:39:29,600 --> 00:39:32,600
Speaker 3: them being my fiance losing her mom back in twenty

896
00:39:32,640 --> 00:39:35,479
Speaker 3: twenty well, when it came time to ask my soon

897
00:39:35,520 --> 00:39:37,920
Speaker 3: to be fiance if she would marry me, I was

898
00:39:38,000 --> 00:39:40,319
Speaker 3: told by her cousins that I would need to ask

899
00:39:40,360 --> 00:39:43,480
Speaker 3: her dad for permission and her aunt as a stand

900
00:39:43,520 --> 00:39:46,239
Speaker 3: in since her mom had passed, which I understood and

901
00:39:46,320 --> 00:39:49,279
Speaker 3: had no problems with keeping up with the traditions since

902
00:39:49,320 --> 00:39:51,960
Speaker 3: we all come from the same culture. Without my then

903
00:39:52,040 --> 00:39:55,200
Speaker 3: girlfriend's knowledge, I visited and asked her dad first, and

904
00:39:55,239 --> 00:39:57,640
Speaker 3: I was prepared for an argument. I asked if I

905
00:39:57,640 --> 00:39:59,239
Speaker 3: could speak to him and just told him what I

906
00:39:59,280 --> 00:40:01,359
Speaker 3: was planning on doing and that we could sit down

907
00:40:01,400 --> 00:40:04,960
Speaker 3: and chat. However, to my surprise, he just said, if

908
00:40:04,960 --> 00:40:06,360
Speaker 3: you think you're ready, then go ahead.

909
00:40:06,680 --> 00:40:07,680
Speaker 4: Okay, It's nice.

910
00:40:07,560 --> 00:40:09,359
Speaker 3: To gone in and you're like, I'm ready for a fight,

911
00:40:09,400 --> 00:40:11,799
Speaker 3: and then they're just like, yeah, you're like. Although I

912
00:40:11,800 --> 00:40:13,719
Speaker 3: thought he'd have more of a reaction to having his

913
00:40:13,840 --> 00:40:17,120
Speaker 3: only daughter's significant other ask for her hand in marriage,

914
00:40:17,480 --> 00:40:20,239
Speaker 3: it went over smoother than I expected. Great, I thought,

915
00:40:20,480 --> 00:40:22,759
Speaker 3: on to the next task. I visited the aunt at

916
00:40:22,760 --> 00:40:25,279
Speaker 3: her home A couple of days later. I met her,

917
00:40:25,680 --> 00:40:28,120
Speaker 3: did the same spiel, and her and I sat down

918
00:40:28,200 --> 00:40:31,360
Speaker 3: for what I thought was going to be a chat. Instead,

919
00:40:31,560 --> 00:40:34,320
Speaker 3: it was a two and a half hour long session

920
00:40:34,440 --> 00:40:38,840
Speaker 3: of her berating and belittling me bummer. She called me

921
00:40:38,920 --> 00:40:41,640
Speaker 3: an outsider to her family who's only trying to leech

922
00:40:41,680 --> 00:40:44,400
Speaker 3: off of them. According to her, I bring nothing of

923
00:40:44,480 --> 00:40:46,960
Speaker 3: value to the table, and that my fiance was stupid

924
00:40:46,960 --> 00:40:49,279
Speaker 3: for even being with me. She said, I was in

925
00:40:49,320 --> 00:40:52,520
Speaker 3: a worthless career. I'm an education specialist by the way,

926
00:40:52,960 --> 00:40:55,719
Speaker 3: and working on my last year of completing my masters,

927
00:40:56,080 --> 00:40:57,839
Speaker 3: so he's like doing a lot.

928
00:40:57,960 --> 00:40:59,480
Speaker 4: I guess she just cares about money.

929
00:40:59,560 --> 00:41:03,000
Speaker 5: Yeah, that's not necessarily the most like lucrative, but that's

930
00:41:03,040 --> 00:41:04,400
Speaker 5: still so respectable though.

931
00:41:04,280 --> 00:41:04,759
Speaker 1: Mm hmmm.

932
00:41:04,960 --> 00:41:07,200
Speaker 3: She demanded I tell her if my fiance and I

933
00:41:07,320 --> 00:41:10,120
Speaker 3: have spicy sleep relations, to which I replied that it

934
00:41:10,239 --> 00:41:12,880
Speaker 3: isn't my position to divulge that information, but that she

935
00:41:12,960 --> 00:41:15,239
Speaker 3: can be rest assured that I would never pressure my

936
00:41:15,280 --> 00:41:19,040
Speaker 3: fiance into anything she is uncomfortable with, to which you replied,

937
00:41:19,280 --> 00:41:21,600
Speaker 3: ten years you've been together and you haven't touched her.

938
00:41:22,080 --> 00:41:24,920
Speaker 3: That makes you an F word slur against gays in

939
00:41:24,960 --> 00:41:27,359
Speaker 3: our language. She even called in one of the other

940
00:41:27,400 --> 00:41:29,680
Speaker 3: aunties that was at the house at the time visiting

941
00:41:29,719 --> 00:41:32,120
Speaker 3: and said, come in here. This guy is telling me

942
00:41:32,160 --> 00:41:34,000
Speaker 3: he's been with my niece for ten years and he

943
00:41:34,040 --> 00:41:35,359
Speaker 3: hasn't laid a finger on her.

944
00:41:35,719 --> 00:41:38,160
Speaker 4: Look at this f slur? What an f slur? Don't

945
00:41:38,200 --> 00:41:40,319
Speaker 4: lie to me, I know, I men think that was

946
00:41:40,320 --> 00:41:43,040
Speaker 4: a freaking trap. That was a freaking trap.

947
00:41:43,680 --> 00:41:46,359
Speaker 3: Oh, I mean one obviously she's so that's terrible, right,

948
00:41:46,560 --> 00:41:50,120
Speaker 3: But like OPI didn't say one way or another what

949
00:41:50,320 --> 00:41:52,960
Speaker 3: had happened, just that, you know, never done anything that

950
00:41:52,960 --> 00:41:55,680
Speaker 3: she's not comfortable with, which does not mean nothing.

951
00:41:55,800 --> 00:41:58,640
Speaker 4: I mean they didn't sleep with each other. Yeah, it

952
00:41:58,880 --> 00:42:01,040
Speaker 4: just means not on comfortable with it.

953
00:42:01,560 --> 00:42:03,319
Speaker 3: And the aunt took it to me and like, oh,

954
00:42:03,360 --> 00:42:06,000
Speaker 3: they haven't slept, which also implies. But I feel like

955
00:42:06,040 --> 00:42:08,200
Speaker 3: even if OP was like, yeah, I slept with her,

956
00:42:08,320 --> 00:42:11,960
Speaker 3: she would have like unbelievable, you've tarnished my niece.

957
00:42:11,719 --> 00:42:14,239
Speaker 4: You like before marriage? Yeah, yeah, she'd have an Obie

958
00:42:14,239 --> 00:42:16,040
Speaker 4: wouldn't have been able to win either way.

959
00:42:16,280 --> 00:42:17,960
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Speaker 1: Okay, back to the story.

963
00:42:22,960 --> 00:42:25,279
Speaker 3: She then proceeded to demand I revealed to her and

964
00:42:25,360 --> 00:42:27,960
Speaker 3: grant her access to my bank account and all my

965
00:42:28,040 --> 00:42:30,719
Speaker 3: assets so she can see and tell if I am

966
00:42:30,800 --> 00:42:34,680
Speaker 3: worthy to her the aunt and not my fiance. She

967
00:42:34,760 --> 00:42:37,520
Speaker 3: then decided to bad mouth my fiance and her late mother.

968
00:42:37,800 --> 00:42:40,799
Speaker 3: She claimed that the mom kept my fiance distant from

969
00:42:40,800 --> 00:42:43,480
Speaker 3: the family and that she must have been mentally disabled,

970
00:42:43,520 --> 00:42:46,440
Speaker 3: thinking that was good for my fiance growing up, and

971
00:42:46,480 --> 00:42:49,399
Speaker 3: that because of her mother's actions, my fiance has picked

972
00:42:49,480 --> 00:42:52,200
Speaker 3: up unsavory habits like associating herself with.

973
00:42:52,200 --> 00:42:54,799
Speaker 4: People like me. Oh my god, what.

974
00:42:55,280 --> 00:42:57,600
Speaker 3: At this point, I was seething. It's one thing to

975
00:42:57,640 --> 00:43:00,279
Speaker 3: berate and belittle me, but to talk smack about my

976
00:43:00,320 --> 00:43:02,480
Speaker 3: fiance and her mother, who was the only person from

977
00:43:02,480 --> 00:43:05,600
Speaker 3: my fiance's immediate family to accept me and get to

978
00:43:05,640 --> 00:43:08,320
Speaker 3: know me, I couldn't stand it. I held my tongue

979
00:43:08,440 --> 00:43:12,040
Speaker 3: so as to not cause any unnecessary trauma and cause

980
00:43:12,080 --> 00:43:14,040
Speaker 3: the aunt to call my fiance to complain about my

981
00:43:14,120 --> 00:43:17,120
Speaker 3: visit and ruin the surprise. But I guess I didn't

982
00:43:17,120 --> 00:43:19,920
Speaker 3: do a good enough job of hiding my emotions because

983
00:43:19,960 --> 00:43:22,479
Speaker 3: the aunt called me out, saying, why do your eyes

984
00:43:22,520 --> 00:43:25,080
Speaker 3: look like that? They look like they got bad intentions

985
00:43:25,080 --> 00:43:26,960
Speaker 3: behind them. This is why you aren't good enough for

986
00:43:27,040 --> 00:43:30,680
Speaker 3: our family. So she's probably like swearing and being awful,

987
00:43:30,719 --> 00:43:31,600
Speaker 3: and I hope he's.

988
00:43:31,440 --> 00:43:35,040
Speaker 4: Like yeah yeah, and she's like bad intention, just like

989
00:43:35,160 --> 00:43:36,280
Speaker 4: I see those eyes.

990
00:43:36,719 --> 00:43:39,600
Speaker 3: I've had enough. I ended the conversation, telling her I

991
00:43:39,640 --> 00:43:42,239
Speaker 3: had to go. Before I left her, I told her,

992
00:43:42,520 --> 00:43:44,879
Speaker 3: even if you're not happy with it, I'm still going

993
00:43:44,880 --> 00:43:48,320
Speaker 3: to ask your niece and it's ultimately her decision. Please

994
00:43:48,440 --> 00:43:51,080
Speaker 3: just let her have the surprise of me asking her.

995
00:43:51,520 --> 00:43:53,680
Speaker 3: And she just replied with, I hope she makes the

996
00:43:53,719 --> 00:43:57,520
Speaker 3: smart decision and says no, goodbye. There's no way she's

997
00:43:57,600 --> 00:44:01,480
Speaker 3: keeping that surprise. No, not at all, man bummer. Fast

998
00:44:01,520 --> 00:44:03,960
Speaker 3: forward to the day before the proposal. I get a

999
00:44:04,000 --> 00:44:06,520
Speaker 3: text message from one of my fiance's cousins saying that

1000
00:44:06,560 --> 00:44:09,440
Speaker 3: the aunt has thrown me under the bus. She called

1001
00:44:09,480 --> 00:44:12,839
Speaker 3: my fiance to complain about another family member, which then

1002
00:44:13,080 --> 00:44:16,359
Speaker 3: just evolved into her complaining to her about me and

1003
00:44:16,400 --> 00:44:19,520
Speaker 3: revealing that I had visited her to ask for permission.

1004
00:44:19,840 --> 00:44:24,000
Speaker 3: I was livid. Months of planning ruined. I even arranged

1005
00:44:24,000 --> 00:44:25,920
Speaker 3: for some of her family from her mom's side to

1006
00:44:25,920 --> 00:44:28,200
Speaker 3: fly in from out of state so they could be

1007
00:44:28,239 --> 00:44:31,520
Speaker 3: there to witness us getting engaged. They had literally just

1008
00:44:31,560 --> 00:44:34,880
Speaker 3: taken off to travel to us. I couldn't postpone the proposal.

1009
00:44:35,120 --> 00:44:36,359
Speaker 3: I decided to go ahead and.

1010
00:44:36,280 --> 00:44:36,920
Speaker 4: Do it anyway.

1011
00:44:37,360 --> 00:44:39,480
Speaker 3: She knew it was happening, but at least she didn't

1012
00:44:39,480 --> 00:44:42,279
Speaker 3: know when it was happening, honestly. I mean not like

1013
00:44:42,440 --> 00:44:44,960
Speaker 3: some of course, but not the worst thing in the world.

1014
00:44:45,080 --> 00:44:47,160
Speaker 3: I mean, presumably she wants to get married to you,

1015
00:44:47,239 --> 00:44:48,560
Speaker 3: So it's like, I'm sure.

1016
00:44:48,360 --> 00:44:50,200
Speaker 5: Too, Like if you've been dating for a long time

1017
00:44:50,400 --> 00:44:53,440
Speaker 5: eight times, yeah, yeah, like if you've talked about marriage already,

1018
00:44:53,480 --> 00:44:54,640
Speaker 5: like you probably know it's on its way.

1019
00:44:54,920 --> 00:44:58,320
Speaker 3: A proposal shouldn't be like a complete surprise anyway, Yeah,

1020
00:44:58,320 --> 00:45:01,160
Speaker 3: like where you're like, oh my god, what I didn't

1021
00:45:01,160 --> 00:45:02,759
Speaker 3: even think he was on proposal.

1022
00:45:02,800 --> 00:45:04,880
Speaker 5: You wouldn't be ready for it, ready to know what

1023
00:45:04,880 --> 00:45:05,560
Speaker 5: your answer is.

1024
00:45:06,120 --> 00:45:08,359
Speaker 3: I arranged to have a photoshoot done for our ten

1025
00:45:08,440 --> 00:45:11,480
Speaker 3: year anniversary of dating at a local flower in nature garden,

1026
00:45:11,800 --> 00:45:14,479
Speaker 3: and it all went according to plan. We had loved

1027
00:45:14,480 --> 00:45:16,759
Speaker 3: ones hide out of sight until the big moment, and

1028
00:45:16,800 --> 00:45:19,399
Speaker 3: she said yes. She didn't expect the out of state

1029
00:45:19,440 --> 00:45:21,359
Speaker 3: family to be there, so at least that was still

1030
00:45:21,440 --> 00:45:24,400
Speaker 3: surprise for her. We all went to celebrate after except

1031
00:45:24,440 --> 00:45:25,560
Speaker 3: for her dad's side.

1032
00:45:25,560 --> 00:45:26,200
Speaker 4: At the family.

1033
00:45:26,400 --> 00:45:29,359
Speaker 3: The whole side of the family didn't come. Wow, did

1034
00:45:29,400 --> 00:45:31,960
Speaker 3: her dad come? It broke my heart when my fiance

1035
00:45:32,120 --> 00:45:33,799
Speaker 3: called her dad and asked him to come out to

1036
00:45:33,840 --> 00:45:36,440
Speaker 3: the restaurant with us and celebrate, but he said he

1037
00:45:36,440 --> 00:45:39,040
Speaker 3: couldn't because he had to go buy shampoo from Costco

1038
00:45:39,160 --> 00:45:41,480
Speaker 3: for one of the aunties. We still had a good time.

1039
00:45:41,840 --> 00:45:45,759
Speaker 4: Sorry, bring Costco into this. Sorry, gotta get shampoo. At

1040
00:45:45,840 --> 00:45:49,000
Speaker 4: least come up with a better excuse than that. Come on, yeah,

1041
00:45:49,040 --> 00:45:51,400
Speaker 4: at least fake a family emergency.

1042
00:45:51,640 --> 00:45:54,560
Speaker 3: Yeah. My now fiance and I went over to visit

1043
00:45:54,640 --> 00:45:57,160
Speaker 3: the aunt the next day to pay our respects. The

1044
00:45:57,239 --> 00:46:00,279
Speaker 3: dad was there but didn't bother to say anything to us.

1045
00:46:00,800 --> 00:46:03,160
Speaker 3: The aunt took one look at my fiance's engagement ring

1046
00:46:03,280 --> 00:46:06,000
Speaker 3: and said it loud enough for me to hear, that's

1047
00:46:06,000 --> 00:46:09,120
Speaker 3: how I can afford you, poor thing, mih But my

1048
00:46:09,239 --> 00:46:11,759
Speaker 3: saint of a fiance just said it's perfect to me

1049
00:46:12,280 --> 00:46:15,759
Speaker 3: and smiled at me. All my anger disappeared. I don't

1050
00:46:15,800 --> 00:46:20,080
Speaker 3: remember much more after that, but we left shortly after. Well, anyways,

1051
00:46:20,160 --> 00:46:22,200
Speaker 3: we're back for the holidays, and the dad's side of

1052
00:46:22,200 --> 00:46:24,279
Speaker 3: the family is a crap show. I've been a bit

1053
00:46:24,400 --> 00:46:26,600
Speaker 3: under the weathers, so I use that as an excuse

1054
00:46:26,640 --> 00:46:29,440
Speaker 3: to avoid going over to the aunt's house for the holidays.

1055
00:46:29,960 --> 00:46:32,880
Speaker 3: Their family is feuding right now with another faction of

1056
00:46:32,920 --> 00:46:35,759
Speaker 3: the family one of the siblings married into. I heard

1057
00:46:35,800 --> 00:46:38,239
Speaker 3: the aunt complain about how the other faction had the

1058
00:46:38,320 --> 00:46:42,759
Speaker 3: audacity to celebrate the holidays, like she owned the holidays.

1059
00:46:43,160 --> 00:46:45,680
Speaker 3: She actually owns everything. She's actually kind of like the

1060
00:46:45,760 --> 00:46:47,640
Speaker 3: lord of the whole world. I don't know if you

1061
00:46:47,680 --> 00:46:50,080
Speaker 3: knew that. Of course, she was also complaining about me

1062
00:46:50,480 --> 00:46:53,040
Speaker 3: and spouting again about how I need to grant her

1063
00:46:53,120 --> 00:46:55,920
Speaker 3: access to my bank accounts and show proof of all

1064
00:46:56,000 --> 00:46:58,759
Speaker 3: my assets because it's the only way I can show

1065
00:46:58,800 --> 00:47:02,080
Speaker 3: I am acceptable. You know what is acceptable listening to

1066
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1069
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Speaker 3: do you any final thoughts on this?

1070
00:47:12,280 --> 00:47:15,640
Speaker 5: I just think that she's insane and I don't trust

1071
00:47:15,680 --> 00:47:18,160
Speaker 5: her with access to accounts, Like can't you just like

1072
00:47:18,200 --> 00:47:19,719
Speaker 5: pull up your phone and be like if anything, like

1073
00:47:19,719 --> 00:47:22,400
Speaker 5: you shouldn't have to do that, But having access to it,

1074
00:47:22,520 --> 00:47:25,280
Speaker 5: I would expect money to be out of there.

1075
00:47:25,640 --> 00:47:27,880
Speaker 4: Know the app like, why do you need access to it?

1076
00:47:28,080 --> 00:47:28,319
Speaker 3: Yeah?

1077
00:47:28,440 --> 00:47:29,480
Speaker 4: What's so strange?

1078
00:47:29,600 --> 00:47:31,759
Speaker 3: It's just too far, man, too far. But there's a

1079
00:47:31,800 --> 00:47:34,320
Speaker 3: little bit left to the story. Meanwhile, whenever her nephews

1080
00:47:34,320 --> 00:47:37,480
Speaker 3: got into heavy substances this year and got to the

1081
00:47:37,480 --> 00:47:40,120
Speaker 3: point of holding his dad, the aunt in fiance's dad's

1082
00:47:40,120 --> 00:47:43,839
Speaker 3: brother at pupy point and getting arrested. They even had

1083
00:47:43,840 --> 00:47:45,719
Speaker 3: to ask the aunt to bail out the nephew. But

1084
00:47:45,800 --> 00:47:48,560
Speaker 3: you know, apparently I'm much more of a blight to

1085
00:47:48,600 --> 00:47:51,520
Speaker 3: the family for simply existing and being in love with

1086
00:47:51,600 --> 00:47:52,120
Speaker 3: my fiance.

1087
00:47:52,520 --> 00:47:54,920
Speaker 4: Happy, honest, Oh man.

1088
00:47:55,360 --> 00:47:58,040
Speaker 3: There's always a double standard when you're not biologically in

1089
00:47:58,080 --> 00:47:59,920
Speaker 3: the family, right. I just want to be clear that

1090
00:48:00,080 --> 00:48:02,520
Speaker 3: my fiance does not have any of the same values

1091
00:48:02,520 --> 00:48:04,759
Speaker 3: of her family, and that I wouldn't choose to deal

1092
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Speaker 3: with her family if she wasn't worth all of this.

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Speaker 3: Thanks for reading, and that is the end of that story. Wow,

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Speaker 3: good luck o p good luck John.

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Speaker 2: Here og host, We're gonna get back to these stories,

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Speaker 2: but a quick three minute break from as form more sponsors.

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Speaker 5: My grandmother accused my parents of stealing, so they took

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Speaker 5: back everything they gave her.

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Speaker 3: Don't bite the hand that feeds you, or you're gonna

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Speaker 3: lose a hand.

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Speaker 5: This is my father's story and I have permission to

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Speaker 5: share it. We're not native English speakers, so expect some confusion.

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Speaker 4: By the way.

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Speaker 5: This comes from dancing edgily on the r slash okay

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00:48:38,040 --> 00:48:40,760
Speaker 5: story time at subreddit. To give some background, my father's

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00:48:40,800 --> 00:48:43,160
Speaker 5: side that the family and his father, seventy years old.

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Speaker 5: My grandfather passed away in an accident about ten years ago.

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Speaker 5: His mother, my grandmother GM, seventy six years old, a

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Speaker 5: retired farmer. She injured her back while working as a farmer.

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Speaker 5: She underwent a couple of back surgeries, which my father

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00:48:57,200 --> 00:49:00,400
Speaker 5: paid for, refused to follow the doctor's orders, and became

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Speaker 5: partially disabled as a result of an unsuccessful physical rehabilitation.

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Speaker 5: For about twenty years, she lived off her children's income.

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Speaker 5: His oldest brother, my first uncle one you, fifty seven

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Speaker 5: years old, lives with his family and provides almost no

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00:49:16,719 --> 00:49:20,440
Speaker 5: financial or practical support to GM, but he lives close

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Speaker 5: to the grandmother and visits on occasion.

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Speaker 4: My father is fifty six years old.

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Speaker 5: His younger brother, second uncle to you, fifty four years old,

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Speaker 5: divorced because he cheated on his wife.

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Speaker 4: He had a high paying job, but.

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00:49:33,000 --> 00:49:37,640
Speaker 5: Spent all of his money on his mistress's cars and houses. Wow, dude,

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Speaker 5: that's dang, that's a whole story in itself.

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Speaker 4: Yeah. When he ran out of.

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Speaker 5: Money to spend on his sides, he took out an

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Speaker 5: expensive loan to buy more things for his girlfriends, but

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Speaker 5: he refused to pay for his own daughter's college futher

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Speaker 5: by the way Almo and went into debt. A second

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Speaker 5: uncle and my father hate each other because the second

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Speaker 5: uncle believes that my father is overly critical and demanding

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Speaker 5: about what he does. His youngest sister, my Auntie forty

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Speaker 5: eight years old, was forty eight years old, and her daughter,

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Speaker 5: my cousin, eighteen years old, lived with the grandmother. Auntie

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Speaker 5: was also divorced because her husband was a She was

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Speaker 5: the primary caretaker for the grandfather and grandmother and she

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Speaker 5: did all of the housework. However, she was also laid

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Speaker 5: off as a result to the pandemic and faced significant

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Speaker 5: debt in the same.

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Speaker 4: Year she ended her own life.

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Speaker 5: My father has provided the majority of their income since

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Speaker 5: he was still in his twenties because he worked in

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Speaker 5: a different town and had a well paying job. He

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00:50:35,480 --> 00:50:38,200
Speaker 5: had been sending the majority of his salary to his parents,

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Speaker 5: to the point where he didn't have enough money to

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Speaker 5: save or live a life appropriate.

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Speaker 4: To his income.

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Speaker 5: He even told me that he was unable to pay

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00:50:45,800 --> 00:50:48,440
Speaker 5: for my college because he must send money to the grandmother,

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00:50:48,800 --> 00:50:52,000
Speaker 5: and the program I want does not have a scholarship.

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00:50:52,080 --> 00:50:53,719
Speaker 4: My country requires.

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Speaker 5: At least a bachelor's degree, so I had to go

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00:50:55,840 --> 00:50:58,320
Speaker 5: to a nursing school that provided full financial aid, a

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00:50:58,360 --> 00:51:01,839
Speaker 5: free dormitory, free meals, and the scholarship's installments. The year

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Speaker 5: my aunt passed away twenty nineteen, my parents had no

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Speaker 5: choice but to retire sooner than we had planned for

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00:51:07,200 --> 00:51:09,960
Speaker 5: a decade. They returned to my father's hometown and became

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00:51:10,080 --> 00:51:13,440
Speaker 5: the grandmother's full time care taker and housekeeper. At the

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Speaker 5: same time, the second uncle returned to live with the

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00:51:15,800 --> 00:51:19,759
Speaker 5: grandmother after being laid off and suffering bankruptcy, became a

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00:51:19,800 --> 00:51:24,120
Speaker 5: freeloader doing nothing but drink, gambling, and flirting.

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00:51:23,719 --> 00:51:25,840
Speaker 4: With more women using my parents' money.

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Speaker 5: Obviously, I also have to send sixty to seventy percent

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00:51:29,280 --> 00:51:32,320
Speaker 5: of my salary to the grandmother's house because my parents'

1164
00:51:32,320 --> 00:51:35,920
Speaker 5: savings are not enough to cover additional freeloader living costs,

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00:51:36,280 --> 00:51:40,080
Speaker 5: the grandmother's mortgage and all their debts combined and co

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Speaker 5: schooling and allowed.

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Speaker 3: Whoa wait, so, oh he's also having to pay stuff,

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00:51:45,280 --> 00:51:49,960
Speaker 3: not only sixty to seventy percent. That their money ridiculous,

1169
00:51:50,120 --> 00:51:53,920
Speaker 3: so bad. It's ridiculous. Yeah, that you cannot ask your

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00:51:54,040 --> 00:51:57,719
Speaker 3: children to pay yeah for a grandmother when they can

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00:51:57,760 --> 00:51:59,319
Speaker 3: even pay for school? Right?

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Speaker 5: But then also like if the uncle is staying with

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Speaker 5: the grandmother the yeah, can he be the caretaker? At

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00:52:05,160 --> 00:52:07,840
Speaker 5: that point, I'm pretty pissed off at your parents for

1175
00:52:07,920 --> 00:52:10,880
Speaker 5: expecting you to give up your money.

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Speaker 4: Yeah, this almost wiped out my parents' savings.

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00:52:14,320 --> 00:52:16,920
Speaker 5: But my father was never a favorite child for some reason,

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00:52:17,000 --> 00:52:19,840
Speaker 5: despite the fact that he contributed the most money, caused

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00:52:19,840 --> 00:52:22,480
Speaker 5: no trouble, and was always available to help the grandfather

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00:52:22,520 --> 00:52:25,880
Speaker 5: and mother with anything medical bills, running errands, et cetera.

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00:52:26,400 --> 00:52:28,960
Speaker 4: Despite this, the grandmother only believed.

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00:52:28,600 --> 00:52:31,600
Speaker 5: That the second uncle and always scolded my parents without

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00:52:31,640 --> 00:52:34,760
Speaker 5: hearing their side of the story. Grandmother also enjoys pretending

1184
00:52:34,800 --> 00:52:38,040
Speaker 5: to be delirious and pooping or peeing all over herself

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00:52:38,040 --> 00:52:41,239
Speaker 5: as punishment, forcing my parents to clean up after her.

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Speaker 3: Oh God, what I mean, Like, I understand that some

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00:52:46,760 --> 00:52:48,960
Speaker 3: people have like the relationship with their parents where they like,

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00:52:49,160 --> 00:52:51,120
Speaker 3: I feel the need to take care of them and stuff,

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00:52:51,160 --> 00:52:54,560
Speaker 3: but like wow, to be so thoroughly mistreated and abused

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Speaker 3: financially and then to continue doing it right.

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Speaker 5: They took her to the hospital several times because they

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00:53:00,200 --> 00:53:03,280
Speaker 5: worried she had dementia, age related to regression or something,

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00:53:03,560 --> 00:53:07,080
Speaker 5: but doctors confirmed her brain function, thought process, and orientation

1194
00:53:07,200 --> 00:53:10,160
Speaker 5: are completely fine. The recent event that broke the camel's back,

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00:53:10,520 --> 00:53:13,400
Speaker 5: grandmother wanted to check her bank account. As I said before,

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Speaker 5: she's fine physically and mentally except for being a senile

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00:53:16,320 --> 00:53:19,440
Speaker 5: and having back pain. She discovered that her balance had

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Speaker 5: dropped by about five thousand dollars over the last ten years.

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Speaker 5: She immediately accused my parents of stealing her money, which

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Speaker 5: they did use, but they tried to explain to the

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00:53:27,960 --> 00:53:30,719
Speaker 5: grandmother that they used all of their savings to help

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00:53:30,760 --> 00:53:34,239
Speaker 5: pay for her for everything because they're running out of

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00:53:34,280 --> 00:53:35,760
Speaker 5: money and no longer have.

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00:53:35,680 --> 00:53:37,000
Speaker 4: A steady source of income.

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Speaker 5: She became enraged, telling everyone that she knew that my

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00:53:40,640 --> 00:53:43,680
Speaker 5: parents had stolen her money compared to what they were

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00:53:43,719 --> 00:53:48,879
Speaker 5: probably spelled spending five thousand dollars over like ten years yeah,

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00:53:49,040 --> 00:53:51,239
Speaker 5: come like, not a lot of money at all.

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Speaker 2: By the way, if you want to see bonus videos

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Speaker 2: not on this page, search Okay story time clips on

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Speaker 2: Facebook for more. Okay, back to the story.

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Speaker 5: So, after several years of being free care takers and housekeepers,

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Speaker 5: my parents decided to move to live in the same

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Speaker 5: town as me, and they paid a large sum of

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Speaker 5: money for a moving service five hundred kilometers and three

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Speaker 5: hundred miles to move every necessary appliance such as a refrigerator,

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00:54:14,600 --> 00:54:17,600
Speaker 5: washing machine, air conditioner, and so on, which my parents

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00:54:17,680 --> 00:54:20,040
Speaker 5: had used their money to buy for the grandmother over

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00:54:20,080 --> 00:54:24,440
Speaker 5: the years with them. So grandmother no longer has any appliances,

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Speaker 5: caretakers or extra money to spend. I hope her golden

1221
00:54:28,200 --> 00:54:31,600
Speaker 5: child or children will be there for her from now

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Speaker 5: on because we are not that.

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Speaker 3: It took all this, like the years literally years of

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00:54:37,960 --> 00:54:40,680
Speaker 3: this behavior from the grandmother until they were like, oh,

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Speaker 3: this is affecting not only us but our child and

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Speaker 3: also she's changed full advantage of us.

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Speaker 5: Yeah, and then like accusing us of stealing. Yeah, we

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00:54:47,239 --> 00:54:50,839
Speaker 5: use all of our savings on that. Yeah, that's insane.

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Speaker 5: But there is more to the story. So an edit,

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Speaker 5: I don't think I will have any updates soon, since

1231
00:54:56,320 --> 00:54:59,440
Speaker 5: we decided to go real no contact and blocked everyone

1232
00:54:59,520 --> 00:55:02,359
Speaker 5: in the grand and second uncle are also not very

1233
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Speaker 5: active on social media.

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Speaker 4: There is an update though.

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Speaker 5: It turns out my granny is a stellar manipulator and

1236
00:55:07,719 --> 00:55:11,239
Speaker 5: narcissist who lied about being disabled for decades. It is

1237
00:55:11,440 --> 00:55:14,799
Speaker 5: very wrong, but quite satisfying and a funny ending of what.

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00:55:15,200 --> 00:55:18,520
Speaker 5: Karen and Sam relocated to a shed because their house

1239
00:55:18,600 --> 00:55:22,160
Speaker 5: was nearly empty. Despite being the golden child, Sam is

1240
00:55:22,280 --> 00:55:25,879
Speaker 5: never a particularly caretaker type of person. He pretty much

1241
00:55:25,960 --> 00:55:29,880
Speaker 5: ignored Karen's existence. Karen resorted to her familiar tactic of

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00:55:30,239 --> 00:55:35,640
Speaker 5: feigning completely immobility, rendering herself incapable of speaking, sitting up,

1243
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Speaker 5: or tending to her own needs.

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Speaker 4: Sam still ignores her.

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00:55:39,239 --> 00:55:42,160
Speaker 5: One day, Karen got frustrated that her son didn't fall

1246
00:55:42,320 --> 00:55:44,359
Speaker 5: over her, so Karen just stood up and.

1247
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Speaker 4: Had a screaming match with Sam. They still live like that.

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Speaker 4: In the Shade. We have a new character mentioned here, Mary,

1249
00:55:51,480 --> 00:55:53,880
Speaker 4: a mini Karen. Mary was Susan's.

1250
00:55:53,480 --> 00:55:56,520
Speaker 5: Daughter, the one that lost her job and passed away.

1251
00:55:56,680 --> 00:55:58,960
Speaker 5: She was eighteen years old. She was raised by Karen

1252
00:55:59,000 --> 00:56:02,120
Speaker 5: since she was born because Susan was busy working and housekeeping.

1253
00:56:02,360 --> 00:56:04,960
Speaker 5: Karen raised Mary to be exactly.

1254
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Speaker 4: Like her is Mary just like sitting there and she's like,

1255
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Speaker 4: I can't move.

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Speaker 5: Mary almost never does any work. Mary doesn't like to study.

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00:56:10,920 --> 00:56:14,759
Speaker 5: My parents bought her a motorcycle, a laptop, an air conditioner, etc.

1258
00:56:15,120 --> 00:56:18,399
Speaker 5: Because she was family and only eighteen years old.

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00:56:18,560 --> 00:56:21,360
Speaker 4: Okay, eighteen year olds don't even motorcycles.

1260
00:56:21,560 --> 00:56:24,040
Speaker 5: Mary thinks of my parents as free loaders that live

1261
00:56:24,080 --> 00:56:27,040
Speaker 5: in her and Karen's house rent free. Mary wants to

1262
00:56:27,040 --> 00:56:30,120
Speaker 5: go to college, but her father can't afford it, so

1263
00:56:30,280 --> 00:56:32,920
Speaker 5: she and Karen demanded my parents pay for it. My

1264
00:56:33,040 --> 00:56:35,319
Speaker 5: parents suggested that she go to the same school as

1265
00:56:35,360 --> 00:56:39,920
Speaker 5: mine that provides full paid scholarships. Mary doesn't feel like it,

1266
00:56:40,080 --> 00:56:43,120
Speaker 5: so she refused and went to apply for her dream college.

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00:56:43,360 --> 00:56:45,680
Speaker 5: In dream college, I meant the college let her boyfriend

1268
00:56:45,719 --> 00:56:47,480
Speaker 5: and most of her friend group wants to go to.

1269
00:56:47,880 --> 00:56:50,680
Speaker 5: Mary wants to become a doctor. She doesn't even know

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00:56:50,719 --> 00:56:51,080
Speaker 5: how to.

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00:56:51,000 --> 00:56:54,320
Speaker 4: Spell or and guess what she got rejected.

1272
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Speaker 5: She demanded that my parents pay for a private college

1273
00:56:57,160 --> 00:57:00,319
Speaker 5: that will accept anyone that pays enough money, and yet

1274
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Speaker 5: she's still.

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Speaker 4: Calling them freeload Make it makes sense, Yeah.

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00:57:03,880 --> 00:57:07,120
Speaker 5: My parents couldn't even afford my normal community college, so

1277
00:57:07,160 --> 00:57:10,200
Speaker 5: they said no. Mary and Karen then told other people

1278
00:57:10,239 --> 00:57:12,719
Speaker 5: that my parents had stolen all of Karen's money but

1279
00:57:12,800 --> 00:57:16,360
Speaker 5: refused to help their own niece go to her dream college.

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Speaker 4: And by the.

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Speaker 5: Way, it's my dream that you listen to full episodes

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Speaker 5: with stories just like this. Just go to Spotify, Apple Podcasts,

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00:57:23,880 --> 00:57:27,400
Speaker 5: or your favorite podcast app and search. Okay, story time,

1284
00:57:27,480 --> 00:57:29,640
Speaker 5: that's my dream, too crazy, make it come true. But

1285
00:57:29,680 --> 00:57:31,120
Speaker 5: there is a little bit more, But do we have

1286
00:57:31,160 --> 00:57:32,280
Speaker 5: any thoughts before we jump in?

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Speaker 3: Honestly, it's astounding that your parents let it go on

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00:57:35,600 --> 00:57:38,000
Speaker 3: for as long as it did. Yeah, I think it's

1289
00:57:38,040 --> 00:57:40,480
Speaker 3: a lot. The best best thing is to go no

1290
00:57:40,560 --> 00:57:42,760
Speaker 3: contact with these people. Yeah, yeah, I agree.

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Speaker 5: So apparently everyone in my father's hometown hates our guts

1292
00:57:45,920 --> 00:57:48,480
Speaker 5: because they still think that Karen is a disabled old

1293
00:57:48,560 --> 00:57:51,160
Speaker 5: lady and Mary was a nice young girl with a pastor.

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00:57:51,360 --> 00:57:53,280
Speaker 5: So there is an update before, but it was basically

1295
00:57:53,360 --> 00:57:55,720
Speaker 5: repead the story. However, there was one thing that was

1296
00:57:55,760 --> 00:57:59,040
Speaker 5: in it that said, like that the mom here like

1297
00:57:59,400 --> 00:58:03,600
Speaker 5: got a video of Karen like running because she like

1298
00:58:03,360 --> 00:58:06,720
Speaker 5: and like video footage of her like being totally physically

1299
00:58:06,800 --> 00:58:09,240
Speaker 5: fine and not needing any help at all.

1300
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Speaker 4: Just go like pull a snowden and release it.

1301
00:58:12,320 --> 00:58:15,440
Speaker 5: Mary always pretends to be helpful, self spoken and overall

1302
00:58:15,520 --> 00:58:18,040
Speaker 5: a wonderful person in front of others. She went crashing

1303
00:58:18,080 --> 00:58:20,560
Speaker 5: on neighbors, but she couldn't keep her fa sods for

1304
00:58:20,640 --> 00:58:23,200
Speaker 5: long and got chased out and now left the town

1305
00:58:23,240 --> 00:58:25,400
Speaker 5: to live with her father, doing nothing.

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Speaker 4: And that's the end of the story. That's all we get. Yeah,

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Speaker 4: leave them behind, but that is the end of that story.