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Speaker 1: Oh, I love the intro.

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Speaker 2: Hello, my loves It is me La La Kent and

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Speaker 2: we're here with Janet Caperna.

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Speaker 3: Hello, my love.

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Speaker 1: By the way, Jane and I have the best time together.

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Speaker 2: I just have to say this now that we've warmed up,

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Speaker 2: like no one makes me laugh more than you do.

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Speaker 2: And when you came to me when you were filming

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Speaker 2: your first season and we would like bounce off of

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Speaker 2: each other because sometimes you do go, am I going insane?

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Speaker 1: Yeah?

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Speaker 3: Right, If you don't question whether you're going insane, then.

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Speaker 2: It's a proper And I remember just thinking while you

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Speaker 2: were talking, I'm like, to me, Janet is logical.

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Speaker 1: She's got a good head on her shoulders.

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Speaker 2: You can see that the life she's created is a

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Speaker 2: testament to like how she works. And so I just

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Speaker 2: adore you. And the theme of this episode. We also

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Speaker 2: have Easton, who's part of my life. Yeah, but the

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Speaker 2: theme of this bonus episode is your pod. So I

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Speaker 2: didn't know that that would stick so much season eleven

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Speaker 2: where I said I think of my family and my

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Speaker 2: group as like a pod of orcas we just add

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Speaker 2: to it, no one ever leaves, and it stuck like

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Speaker 2: people literally are like we love, we love you talking

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Speaker 2: about your pod and sometimes when are you talking about

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Speaker 2: the podcast or my pod?

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Speaker 1: And it really is like a pod, right, like a

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Speaker 2: And so I thought that the theme of this because Janet,

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Speaker 2: you are very much a part of my pod. And

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Speaker 2: I guess what that word means is people who have

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Speaker 2: really stuck by your side in really horrible moments. You

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Speaker 2: may have your ups for a long time, there are

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Speaker 2: times where it's not so great, but they always come

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Speaker 2: through for you. And those are the people you've added

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Speaker 2: to your pod. So I would like to know who

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Speaker 2: about people who are in it, because maybe at one

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Speaker 2: but then in a make or break moment in your life,

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Speaker 2: you're like, holy shit, this person showed up and pulled through.

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Speaker 1: And now, whether you like it or not, you're stuck

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Speaker 1: with me, bitch.

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Speaker 3: I would say, first of all, the whole pod mentality

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Speaker 3: I copied from you. I saw how you've had it,

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Speaker 3: like working. Sheena, same thing, she has her family, clothes,

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Speaker 3: for the pod mentality and the pod life. I think

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Speaker 3: I think that works. Especially when you have a child,

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Speaker 3: things change. You get a smaller group, Like very quickly

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Speaker 3: you realize, like, I only have so many hours in

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Speaker 3: the day. I can't be friends with fifty people, right.

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Speaker 3: I can have fifty acquaintances and people I see and

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Speaker 3: that I like, But you really have to concentrate your

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Speaker 3: And I think, like raising a child with a pod,

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Speaker 3: I love seeing that grandparent relationship. The grandparent relationship is

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Speaker 3: So seeing like my son build that relationship with my

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Speaker 3: Yeah, they have the best relationship and that's I'm so

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Speaker 3: Yep, so she'll be out here. She's been here pretty

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Speaker 2: And you have a husband, which is what I'm lacking.

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Speaker 2: You don't have a husband, And that's great, that's fine.

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Speaker 2: my next question is, why would my mama have to

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Speaker 3: No, the right person will come into the pod and

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Speaker 1: She remembers when you took the primary vessroom.

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Speaker 4: She does.

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Speaker 2: She will never forget Euston. Who's who would you say

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Speaker 2: Rude Landon, No, Justin Easton always gravitates to the younger brother.

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Speaker 4: Yeah. Noticed, Yeah, because I'm young at heart in your energy. Yeah,

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Speaker 4: I feel like I got young energy.

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Speaker 5: My homies are like, I keep my homies very close.

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Speaker 1: Oh, then I like them.

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Speaker 5: They can be They're like, you're bitching about that, You're

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Speaker 3: Reasonable, though, that's like a handful of people.

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Speaker 1: That's a nice sized pot.

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Speaker 2: That's an orchipod once you get into the dolphins of

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Speaker 4: Yeah, but like those are much larger.

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Speaker 5: Those are only three people. That's true outside because I

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Speaker 5: It's I don't know, I'm looking at it as almost

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Speaker 4: To, but if you need anything, or if you need

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Speaker 5: Yeah, So like that's how I look at it, and

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Speaker 5: I feel like my friends are in that same thing.

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Speaker 4: And that's how I know it's a pod.

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Speaker 2: Well, you know that's actually that is super important to have.

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Speaker 4: Not even a parent, A lot of people like me,

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Speaker 5: But even away from that, like work has gotten you

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Speaker 2: I'm not going to tell you how your pod should work.

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Speaker 2: and they're always so kind to me. But I'm such

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Speaker 2: and I think it's because maybe situations that I've been

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Speaker 2: I don't want to say recovering because I bounced back scars.

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Speaker 2: You have scars that you're It leaves yes, it leaves

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Speaker 2: where I used to, you know, kind of just goes

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Speaker 2: And it's not because I don't give a shit. I

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Speaker 5: I agree, yeah, unless you feel like that person can

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Speaker 4: But that's a feeling that you just get.

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Speaker 1: That goes off of just plain energy.

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Speaker 3: And I think the people who burn you in the past,

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Speaker 3: I feel like an innate connection to to like put

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Speaker 3: with just being like, it is so lovely to meet

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Speaker 3: you and you seem great and everything, like, I'll see

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Speaker 1: You know, I love a good I'll see it around.

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Speaker 3: Yeah, And there are people when I do bump into them,

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Speaker 3: I'm like, goush, They're so lovely and I wish I

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Speaker 3: but I'll just have to see them when I see

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Speaker 2: But don't you feel at times like it's so lovely

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Speaker 2: that's when I know I could potentially get hurt. It's like,

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Speaker 2: let's just stay right here because I enjoy you a lot.

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Speaker 2: Let's not calm implicate things by like sharing the nitty

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Speaker 4: Right, We're at a good place. Let's keep it here.

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Speaker 1: Let's keep it there where the steaks are very low.

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Speaker 4: You can always seeing you.

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Speaker 1: Right, Let's not do one on one time.

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Speaker 2: I'll see you in more of like a get together atmosphere,

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Speaker 2: because anything beyond that, I'm then commit Oh my god,

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Speaker 2: I'm I'm scared of commitment.

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Speaker 1: That's what it is.

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Speaker 4: Oh my god.

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Speaker 3: I don't think you are.

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Speaker 5: I think, oh, I think we are because I was

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Speaker 5: what the fuck's going on?

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Speaker 4: And it's commitment.

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Speaker 1: It's the commitment even in friendships.

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Speaker 4: Plans.

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Speaker 2: Yeah, but you know what, like with Janet, I could

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Speaker 2: make plans with you and I never want to cancel.

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Speaker 2: Do you know how many plans I want to cancel

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Speaker 2: where I'm like fuck this every single it's because you

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Speaker 2: like dinner at six thirty.

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Speaker 3: She's got six thirty. What are we doing late night?

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Speaker 3: Six thirty? You mean five? I in the last six

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Speaker 4: No, I'm turning into these bitches. They were like, let's

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Speaker 4: they were like, let's go to dinner really early. I

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Speaker 2: The difference by the way it really does. It does

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Speaker 2: I start panicking because I'm like, I can't arrive early

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Speaker 5: Five, No, first one at the door, You're waiting for

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Speaker 2: Yeah there. Do I get a discount because I can't

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Speaker 2: imagine this is? Or do I have to leave you

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Speaker 2: that fat tip? Because it's like, no, I'm not the last,

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Speaker 2: it should be free first one.

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Speaker 1: But I do. Also, you have to be a part

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Speaker 2: And there are certain rules, like the gays have conquered

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Speaker 2: the rules. I'm the daytime human, right, but I knew

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Speaker 1: Do you need us.

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Speaker 2: I've got the I've got the white van, Leo's the

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Speaker 2: black one. Let's throw the ship in the back and

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Speaker 2: let's haul ask.

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Speaker 1: They moved. They were the ones.

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Speaker 2: That made it possible to move what I could of

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Speaker 2: and after that moment, I was like, you are stuck

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Speaker 3: They showed up.

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Speaker 1: They showed up.

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Speaker 2: They also know the drill, like they're the ones that go, oh,

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Speaker 2: we want to go out tonight, but we'll make it

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Speaker 2: to the Pumpkin Patch with you from four to seven. Well.

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Speaker 4: I love how they like even talk to you and

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Speaker 5: Lauren will be like, you're coming over after this, and Logan, honey,

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Speaker 5: we have planned honey.

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Speaker 1: No, honey, it is a Thursday night. It is Leo's

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Speaker 1: night off.

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Speaker 4: We have to.

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Speaker 1: This is what they do.

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Speaker 3: I love hearing their stories about them out.

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Speaker 1: It's wild.

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Speaker 3: I live for them going out. If they didn't go out,

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Speaker 3: I don't I think I would be fully disconnected from

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Speaker 4: If I need to go out, I'm like, I'm just

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Speaker 1: No Easton will ask me like, hey, we want to

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Speaker 2: I'm like, if you think I have any connection in

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Speaker 2: la I don't know who to call. I don't know

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Speaker 2: what this bar is or club that you're talking about. Like,

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Speaker 2: call the gusband.

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Speaker 4: And they always take care of us. They always how

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Speaker 4: many people?

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Speaker 1: What names?

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Speaker 4: All? Right? See, you know you're the greatest.

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Speaker 2: I love a good gusband crossover too, because Logan and

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Speaker 2: Leo and then you throw Jared into the mix. When

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Speaker 2: you can find gusbands that all get along. It's almost

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Speaker 2: like entertaining the husband.

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Speaker 3: Yes, yes, yes, but I feel like husbands are even

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Speaker 3: more picky. They are way more You can put two

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00:19:33,600 --> 00:19:35,719
Speaker 3: straight dudes together, they'll find a sport to talk about.

442
00:19:35,760 --> 00:19:41,200
Speaker 3: Like the gays, they're territorial, like they're like, don't get

443
00:19:41,200 --> 00:19:43,080
Speaker 3: them on. I think it's because Jared is mine and

444
00:19:43,080 --> 00:19:45,439
Speaker 3: they know they're yours, so they're like, there's no turf

445
00:19:45,480 --> 00:19:46,080
Speaker 3: wars here.

446
00:19:47,040 --> 00:19:52,560
Speaker 2: I become very I'm territorial of my entire pot. But

447
00:19:52,640 --> 00:19:55,560
Speaker 2: when it comes to my gaze, I will cut you.

448
00:19:56,720 --> 00:20:01,000
Speaker 2: Like I remember, you know Elaine, Yeah Rattner, who's like

449
00:20:01,160 --> 00:20:03,760
Speaker 2: she's fabulous, She's got this fabulous life. And I know

450
00:20:03,800 --> 00:20:06,040
Speaker 2: that my gays are fun and I know that most

451
00:20:06,080 --> 00:20:07,160
Speaker 2: people want them.

452
00:20:07,280 --> 00:20:08,320
Speaker 3: But you steal them.

453
00:20:08,720 --> 00:20:13,160
Speaker 2: So apparently something happened where like Elaine had invited them,

454
00:20:13,600 --> 00:20:17,560
Speaker 2: invited them somewhere where I was not there to witness, right,

455
00:20:18,040 --> 00:20:21,440
Speaker 2: and Sheena came up and overheard and she was like, skirt,

456
00:20:22,080 --> 00:20:24,639
Speaker 2: she does. Let me be very clear, like La La

457
00:20:24,880 --> 00:20:26,800
Speaker 2: is so protective of Logan and.

458
00:20:26,840 --> 00:20:29,000
Speaker 4: Lee's poor gays don't get it go out and party.

459
00:20:28,760 --> 00:20:30,840
Speaker 2: Yet Oh I told them, I was like, I'll see

460
00:20:30,880 --> 00:20:32,439
Speaker 2: stories and I'm like, who the fuck is this?

461
00:20:32,640 --> 00:20:34,080
Speaker 1: So you Tagg, what is this?

462
00:20:34,359 --> 00:20:37,000
Speaker 4: Just invite me now gays my husbands?

463
00:20:37,280 --> 00:20:38,480
Speaker 1: No, but I do get concerned.

464
00:20:38,840 --> 00:20:40,800
Speaker 5: I'm sure walking in the house and she'll be like

465
00:20:40,800 --> 00:20:42,440
Speaker 5: the gusbands were in a place I don't know if

466
00:20:42,440 --> 00:20:43,400
Speaker 5: I liked them.

467
00:20:43,040 --> 00:20:45,920
Speaker 2: Yeah, who are these new faces?

468
00:20:46,160 --> 00:20:46,960
Speaker 1: I don't trust this.

469
00:20:47,840 --> 00:20:49,840
Speaker 3: I fully get that and agree.

470
00:20:49,600 --> 00:20:51,240
Speaker 1: With you, and you know you would get that way

471
00:20:51,280 --> 00:20:51,760
Speaker 1: with Jared.

472
00:20:51,880 --> 00:20:54,440
Speaker 3: Jared sometimes asks me permission if you can hang out

473
00:20:54,440 --> 00:20:57,560
Speaker 3: with certain people, and I'm like, of course you can.

474
00:20:57,960 --> 00:21:00,719
Speaker 3: I actually appreciate that you asked me, But this might

475
00:21:00,760 --> 00:21:02,520
Speaker 3: be a little bit psychotic that we're at the steep

476
00:21:02,560 --> 00:21:04,600
Speaker 3: in our relationship that you're like, am I allowed to

477
00:21:04,600 --> 00:21:06,159
Speaker 3: hang out with this like girlfriend?

478
00:21:06,400 --> 00:21:07,000
Speaker 4: Like you?

479
00:21:07,400 --> 00:21:09,840
Speaker 3: You may per mission granted.

480
00:21:10,240 --> 00:21:13,760
Speaker 2: It's like the more fabulous version of Jason, Right, Can

481
00:21:13,800 --> 00:21:16,040
Speaker 2: I go out with this other group of friends tonight?

482
00:21:16,200 --> 00:21:16,480
Speaker 4: Maybe?

483
00:21:16,480 --> 00:21:20,120
Speaker 1: Who is no? But once you find a like la

484
00:21:20,280 --> 00:21:22,320
Speaker 1: is a tough spot.

485
00:21:22,760 --> 00:21:27,960
Speaker 2: I didn't realize that everybody wanted something until I hit

486
00:21:28,000 --> 00:21:30,840
Speaker 2: a certain point in my life where I'm like, wow.

487
00:21:30,720 --> 00:21:32,720
Speaker 1: People are messed up in this city.

488
00:21:32,800 --> 00:21:36,000
Speaker 2: And I've always been told like new York is a

489
00:21:36,040 --> 00:21:38,960
Speaker 2: different kind of vibe and people are straightforward, and I'm like,

490
00:21:39,200 --> 00:21:40,280
Speaker 2: La is like that too.

491
00:21:40,440 --> 00:21:41,960
Speaker 1: I have a great group of people.

492
00:21:42,480 --> 00:21:45,440
Speaker 2: Now I'm looking around, I'm like, so, I have about

493
00:21:46,040 --> 00:21:49,760
Speaker 2: four friends who I'm like deep, with Janet being one

494
00:21:49,800 --> 00:21:53,560
Speaker 2: of them. And I'm like, is this a me problem?

495
00:21:53,880 --> 00:21:55,399
Speaker 2: And I always feel like if you can look in

496
00:21:55,440 --> 00:21:57,160
Speaker 2: the mirror and say is this a me problem?

497
00:21:57,400 --> 00:21:58,879
Speaker 1: Then you know sometimes it might be.

498
00:21:59,200 --> 00:22:01,320
Speaker 2: There are many friend in my life that have gone

499
00:22:01,359 --> 00:22:02,600
Speaker 2: south and I go, you know what, I could have

500
00:22:02,600 --> 00:22:06,000
Speaker 2: handled that totally differently, but I didn't, and this is

501
00:22:06,040 --> 00:22:10,000
Speaker 2: where we are. But there's other people where I'm like, wow,

502
00:22:10,440 --> 00:22:12,480
Speaker 2: I had a lot of fat that I had to cut.

503
00:22:12,880 --> 00:22:16,520
Speaker 2: It's a little depressing, and I'm like, I really thought

504
00:22:16,520 --> 00:22:18,280
Speaker 2: that that person was going to be in the.

505
00:22:18,240 --> 00:22:22,240
Speaker 1: Pod for life. Its it's depressed sometimes.

506
00:22:21,920 --> 00:22:24,879
Speaker 3: That once you realize though, if somebody's draining your energy

507
00:22:24,960 --> 00:22:27,439
Speaker 3: instead of like recharging you, Like when we leave dinner

508
00:22:27,640 --> 00:22:31,520
Speaker 3: at five at five forty five am, I'm like recharged.

509
00:22:31,520 --> 00:22:33,040
Speaker 3: I'm like, oh, that was so light and nice, and

510
00:22:33,040 --> 00:22:34,280
Speaker 3: now I feel like I can go home and like

511
00:22:34,320 --> 00:22:36,840
Speaker 3: do my mom's stuff and like I got high time

512
00:22:36,880 --> 00:22:39,640
Speaker 3: away to like enjoy myself and then now I can

513
00:22:39,680 --> 00:22:43,040
Speaker 3: go back kind of refreshed. But when you leave somebody,

514
00:22:43,080 --> 00:22:44,720
Speaker 3: maybe even that you felt like was in your pod,

515
00:22:44,920 --> 00:22:47,160
Speaker 3: and you're like, oh, I'm like exhausted and like I'm

516
00:22:47,200 --> 00:22:50,080
Speaker 3: feeling stressed and I don't know why. Like that's when

517
00:22:50,119 --> 00:22:51,600
Speaker 3: it's time to trim the fat.

518
00:22:51,880 --> 00:22:52,639
Speaker 1: I agree with you.

519
00:22:52,840 --> 00:22:55,679
Speaker 2: Every time we go and get dinner, whether it's like

520
00:22:55,720 --> 00:22:58,919
Speaker 2: you and me and Sheesh, Brittany's like, I always feel

521
00:22:59,040 --> 00:23:00,600
Speaker 2: so good leave the dinner.

522
00:23:00,680 --> 00:23:02,960
Speaker 3: Yeah, we like just laughed, goofed off, had a great time,

523
00:23:03,200 --> 00:23:06,240
Speaker 3: right and like burn some steam and like got girl

524
00:23:06,320 --> 00:23:08,840
Speaker 3: talk out. Yeah, when you leave somebody and you're like, oh,

525
00:23:09,040 --> 00:23:10,960
Speaker 3: I don't like I feel like ikey, I feel like

526
00:23:11,000 --> 00:23:12,879
Speaker 3: we just talked about stuff I don't care about the

527
00:23:12,920 --> 00:23:15,240
Speaker 3: whole time, right, And there's a nice way to trim

528
00:23:15,240 --> 00:23:17,840
Speaker 3: the fat. Sometimes it's just like I can't offer you

529
00:23:18,480 --> 00:23:21,119
Speaker 3: my time right now. And maybe also somebody has a

530
00:23:21,119 --> 00:23:23,840
Speaker 3: ton of availability and you don't and they're hey, what

531
00:23:23,840 --> 00:23:25,320
Speaker 3: are you doing today? What are you doing today? And

532
00:23:25,359 --> 00:23:28,160
Speaker 3: you're like, I'm I'm not an every day hangout kind

533
00:23:28,200 --> 00:23:31,320
Speaker 3: of person, Like I need people Like if you say, hey,

534
00:23:31,359 --> 00:23:32,639
Speaker 3: you want to get dinner time, like I can't I

535
00:23:32,640 --> 00:23:35,280
Speaker 3: have this thing. It's not like I don't feel pressure.

536
00:23:35,359 --> 00:23:37,520
Speaker 3: I don't feel like, oh I'm gonna if I don't

537
00:23:37,560 --> 00:23:39,240
Speaker 3: go get dinner with her, I'm gonna let her down

538
00:23:39,320 --> 00:23:41,240
Speaker 3: or it's gonna change our friendship. It's like, all right, cool,

539
00:23:41,320 --> 00:23:44,320
Speaker 3: well let me know when you know. But when people

540
00:23:44,359 --> 00:23:46,440
Speaker 3: are like what are you doing today, tomorrow the next day,

541
00:23:46,600 --> 00:23:48,560
Speaker 3: and I'm like, oh, I don't have time for this, yeah,

542
00:23:48,600 --> 00:23:50,400
Speaker 3: it's like we're not aligned.

543
00:23:50,560 --> 00:23:53,560
Speaker 1: I don't I love that. Yeah, we're not in alignment.

544
00:23:53,720 --> 00:23:55,840
Speaker 5: If I have to watch, Like if I'm worried about

545
00:23:56,000 --> 00:23:58,640
Speaker 5: what I say around somebody, that's how I know it's

546
00:23:58,680 --> 00:24:01,040
Speaker 5: fat or bad for that I got to cut off.

547
00:24:01,080 --> 00:24:03,880
Speaker 4: Like when I go with my friends, there's no judgment.

548
00:24:04,600 --> 00:24:08,840
Speaker 5: Whatever I say, it's either laughed at thrown back in

549
00:24:08,880 --> 00:24:11,400
Speaker 5: a funny way that we all do. But like, if

550
00:24:11,440 --> 00:24:14,000
Speaker 5: I'm with somebody that I'm worried about, that's how I know.

551
00:24:14,359 --> 00:24:16,600
Speaker 4: Ye, I need to cut that bad fruit.

552
00:24:16,800 --> 00:24:19,719
Speaker 2: I have a question for you, Tea, huh, because you

553
00:24:19,920 --> 00:24:24,800
Speaker 2: are not you're technically not a parent, but you have

554
00:24:24,880 --> 00:24:27,240
Speaker 2: and I think this was without your.

555
00:24:27,119 --> 00:24:28,879
Speaker 1: Choice being involved in it.

556
00:24:30,160 --> 00:24:32,320
Speaker 2: Things that I have done in my life where I

557
00:24:32,359 --> 00:24:35,440
Speaker 2: have two kids and I really rely on you and Mom,

558
00:24:35,520 --> 00:24:37,800
Speaker 2: And I know Mom's good with it because she's my mom.

559
00:24:37,800 --> 00:24:42,520
Speaker 1: But you're my brother, right is it difficult that you have.

560
00:24:42,400 --> 00:24:45,840
Speaker 2: To kind of make decisions in your life based upon

561
00:24:45,960 --> 00:24:49,520
Speaker 2: the decisions that I made in mind? Like you can't

562
00:24:49,600 --> 00:24:51,800
Speaker 2: go and say like I'm going to make a plan

563
00:24:51,920 --> 00:24:56,399
Speaker 2: right now because you somewhat have to check and make

564
00:24:56,440 --> 00:24:58,960
Speaker 2: sure you're not needed to watch ocean or so say

565
00:24:59,000 --> 00:25:00,840
Speaker 2: you don't have to do pay God like he takes

566
00:25:01,200 --> 00:25:03,719
Speaker 2: motion to school and picks her up many times.

567
00:25:04,640 --> 00:25:08,040
Speaker 5: Yeah, but it's like that's the brightest day of the

568
00:25:08,040 --> 00:25:10,320
Speaker 5: brightest moment of my day. Like taking her to school

569
00:25:10,400 --> 00:25:14,560
Speaker 5: is like what kicks off an amazing day. And no,

570
00:25:14,760 --> 00:25:17,600
Speaker 5: because I worked a nine to five, so like I

571
00:25:17,760 --> 00:25:20,720
Speaker 5: was Monday through Friday at work from nine to five,

572
00:25:21,000 --> 00:25:24,040
Speaker 5: So working with you it's the same, there's no difference.

573
00:25:24,119 --> 00:25:26,159
Speaker 5: It's like, if I were to go and make a

574
00:25:26,200 --> 00:25:30,280
Speaker 5: plan today, I would make sure that our business that

575
00:25:30,480 --> 00:25:33,399
Speaker 5: me and you attend to I'm not needed. But just

576
00:25:33,480 --> 00:25:35,479
Speaker 5: like that nine to five, I was at work all day,

577
00:25:35,520 --> 00:25:37,960
Speaker 5: so I couldn't even do anything at three right June,

578
00:25:38,240 --> 00:25:39,920
Speaker 5: So if I get to do one thing at that hour.

579
00:25:40,040 --> 00:25:42,840
Speaker 5: That is an amazing upgrade from what I came from.

580
00:25:42,840 --> 00:25:44,959
Speaker 4: So I don't really feel like I can't do anything

581
00:25:44,960 --> 00:25:46,679
Speaker 4: because I can't. I have this schedule.

582
00:25:46,720 --> 00:25:47,879
Speaker 5: I can look at you and just be like, hey,

583
00:25:47,920 --> 00:25:49,320
Speaker 5: I'm going to get this, this and this done and

584
00:25:49,320 --> 00:25:52,439
Speaker 5: go and do this, and that's already a grade above

585
00:25:52,640 --> 00:25:55,520
Speaker 5: my job of I got everything done and now I'm

586
00:25:55,520 --> 00:25:58,800
Speaker 5: handcuffed to a chair for three hours because I'm an

587
00:25:58,840 --> 00:26:03,520
Speaker 5: hourly So there's no like working with you, for you

588
00:26:03,600 --> 00:26:04,360
Speaker 5: and with.

589
00:26:04,800 --> 00:26:05,800
Speaker 4: Like the pod that we have.

590
00:26:06,320 --> 00:26:09,200
Speaker 5: I'm never like I can't do anything that I want

591
00:26:09,240 --> 00:26:12,000
Speaker 5: to do because I couldn't when I was in a

592
00:26:12,119 --> 00:26:12,680
Speaker 5: nine to five.

593
00:26:12,760 --> 00:26:15,479
Speaker 4: So like, I have more freedom than I ever have

594
00:26:16,320 --> 00:26:18,680
Speaker 4: with more like.

595
00:26:19,880 --> 00:26:23,120
Speaker 5: What's the word I'm looking for structure, no commitment, no

596
00:26:23,200 --> 00:26:28,520
Speaker 5: more responsibility, yes, more responsibilities, With more responsibilities, I still

597
00:26:28,600 --> 00:26:31,840
Speaker 5: have more time, Okay, So that yeah, I've never thought like,

598
00:26:31,960 --> 00:26:35,280
Speaker 5: damn today, I can't do this, my fucking sister thing.

599
00:26:35,320 --> 00:26:36,840
Speaker 5: It's like, no, I worked a nine to five. I

600
00:26:36,880 --> 00:26:40,320
Speaker 5: know damn well that this was structured. I have more

601
00:26:40,320 --> 00:26:43,000
Speaker 5: time than I ever did, right and busier.

602
00:26:42,760 --> 00:26:45,880
Speaker 2: Because I always think about that because I structure my life.

603
00:26:45,880 --> 00:26:46,479
Speaker 4: I think about that.

604
00:26:46,640 --> 00:26:50,280
Speaker 2: Okay, well, I'm a thinker, but I think about like

605
00:26:51,280 --> 00:26:56,439
Speaker 2: just I gravitate towards people who are parents because they

606
00:26:56,520 --> 00:26:58,439
Speaker 2: kind of understand, and like you said, there is no

607
00:26:58,560 --> 00:27:02,000
Speaker 2: pressure because things changed like that one moment you're like, yeah,

608
00:27:02,080 --> 00:27:02,879
Speaker 2: let's grab dinner.

609
00:27:02,920 --> 00:27:03,920
Speaker 1: Well, the kid's sick.

610
00:27:04,160 --> 00:27:06,080
Speaker 2: My kid doesn't want me to leave, and I'm sorry,

611
00:27:06,200 --> 00:27:09,280
Speaker 2: like love you, but I'm not leaving my daughter who's

612
00:27:09,560 --> 00:27:10,359
Speaker 2: losing her mind.

613
00:27:10,400 --> 00:27:11,120
Speaker 3: I know that's the best.

614
00:27:11,440 --> 00:27:12,880
Speaker 1: But then I also use them a lot.

615
00:27:13,320 --> 00:27:15,639
Speaker 4: Yeah, or we'll have one, and she's like, let's just

616
00:27:15,720 --> 00:27:17,480
Speaker 4: use Ocean. I'm like, I can get the text.

617
00:27:18,600 --> 00:27:22,639
Speaker 1: Ocean really upset. I never use the sick card because

618
00:27:22,760 --> 00:27:23,680
Speaker 1: more afraid.

619
00:27:23,400 --> 00:27:25,280
Speaker 4: Of that she gets sick when you lie.

620
00:27:25,640 --> 00:27:28,520
Speaker 3: Yeah, that is absolutely I missed the thing you don't want.

621
00:27:28,400 --> 00:27:31,240
Speaker 1: To go damn it, one hundred percent.

622
00:27:31,760 --> 00:27:32,359
Speaker 4: Karma.

623
00:27:32,560 --> 00:27:33,600
Speaker 1: Karma is a bitch.

624
00:27:34,280 --> 00:27:35,960
Speaker 2: Do you when you hang out with your friends Easton

625
00:27:36,040 --> 00:27:38,000
Speaker 2: look around, you don't think like I do. But I'm like,

626
00:27:38,200 --> 00:27:40,679
Speaker 2: Easton is basically a parent, and he's hanging out with

627
00:27:40,720 --> 00:27:43,680
Speaker 2: these people who aren't parents, and he's not one as well.

628
00:27:43,720 --> 00:27:47,080
Speaker 2: But also sometimes I punt responsibility onto him.

629
00:27:47,080 --> 00:27:48,119
Speaker 1: That's very parental.

630
00:27:48,160 --> 00:27:50,359
Speaker 5: Well, what's funny is people that I hang out with

631
00:27:50,440 --> 00:27:51,800
Speaker 5: are the ones who bring it up to me.

632
00:27:52,119 --> 00:27:54,159
Speaker 4: Okay, They're like, yeah, dude, how is it being like

633
00:27:54,200 --> 00:27:54,520
Speaker 4: a dad.

634
00:27:54,640 --> 00:27:57,879
Speaker 5: I'm like, dude, fucking great, Like I really enjoy it,

635
00:27:57,920 --> 00:28:00,000
Speaker 5: And I think I enjoy it because I'm not the dad.

636
00:28:00,400 --> 00:28:02,800
Speaker 4: So it's like, whatever fucking happens, happens.

637
00:28:02,840 --> 00:28:06,040
Speaker 2: But I'm here, right, you can punt all the responsibility.

638
00:28:07,000 --> 00:28:08,040
Speaker 4: I'm like, fuck, find you.

639
00:28:08,440 --> 00:28:11,600
Speaker 3: Yeah, totally. I think coming it's interesting too because I

640
00:28:11,680 --> 00:28:15,160
Speaker 3: also had like a normal nine to five before this

641
00:28:15,320 --> 00:28:17,760
Speaker 3: life and when it's it sucks at the time, but

642
00:28:17,880 --> 00:28:20,800
Speaker 3: it really does when you go from being stuck somewhere

643
00:28:20,880 --> 00:28:24,040
Speaker 3: forty plus hours a week to then doing something way

644
00:28:24,080 --> 00:28:26,600
Speaker 3: more rewarding, like you know, getting to take ocean to school.

645
00:28:26,600 --> 00:28:28,560
Speaker 3: The fact that that's part of your like work day.

646
00:28:28,840 --> 00:28:30,760
Speaker 3: I'm sure you're like, this is all work. This is

647
00:28:30,800 --> 00:28:33,440
Speaker 3: so much fun, like best part of your day. So

648
00:28:33,520 --> 00:28:35,960
Speaker 3: it's but it really does train you. When you're so

649
00:28:36,160 --> 00:28:39,280
Speaker 3: used to that forty hour work week life. When you

650
00:28:39,320 --> 00:28:41,360
Speaker 3: get like an hour in the middle of the day

651
00:28:41,400 --> 00:28:44,400
Speaker 3: to do nothing, you really appreciate it more. So I

652
00:28:44,440 --> 00:28:47,160
Speaker 3: see how you could like really really appreciate having this

653
00:28:47,320 --> 00:28:48,600
Speaker 3: now because when you're.

654
00:28:48,440 --> 00:28:52,920
Speaker 2: Stuck in a cubicle or in an office and.

655
00:28:51,680 --> 00:28:53,840
Speaker 5: You're and that's the thing, you're done. And I know

656
00:28:53,920 --> 00:28:56,480
Speaker 5: a lot of people are gonna relate with this. You're

657
00:28:56,720 --> 00:28:59,960
Speaker 5: fucking done, yea everything. But you look at the claw

658
00:29:00,120 --> 00:29:02,240
Speaker 5: and you're like, well, they've got me handcuffed here for

659
00:29:02,280 --> 00:29:04,000
Speaker 5: three more hours, even though I.

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Speaker 4: Could leave, Yeah, I to stay. So then you're just

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Speaker 4: sitting there just scrolling things.

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Speaker 5: So like that's where I'm gonna say, like, I never

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Speaker 5: feel handcuffed because of that reason.

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Speaker 2: Right, So not because your nieces, Well I just love.

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Speaker 5: That, but no, but shout out to like the everybody

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Speaker 5: working nine to five.

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Speaker 2: And then going home and being a parent, Like, oh

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Speaker 2: my god, yeah, I will say. Ocean does not go

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Speaker 2: to bed even if I try to put her in,

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Speaker 2: like bedtime starts, I like try to get her down

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Speaker 2: by seven thirty, and she's stopped still until like eleven.

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Speaker 2: And I did eat a pack of Milanos in.

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Speaker 1: My back last night because I was not going to

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Speaker 1: get her.

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Speaker 2: I'm like, she had three cupcakes for Easton's ninety day celebration.

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Speaker 5: There was a time where I get a text and

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Speaker 5: I hear a door open, and I was like, no way.

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Speaker 5: I get a text from her and she goes, did

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Speaker 5: Ocean just come to your house.

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Speaker 2: Because she knows how to unlock your don o'clock at

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Speaker 2: night and she just comes up and she goes, I

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Speaker 2: don't watch a movie in your room.

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Speaker 4: I said, it is your bedtime.

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Speaker 1: I know I heard sliding door open. I go, mom My.

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Speaker 2: Mom goes yeah, and I'm like, fucking are you in

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Speaker 2: full princess dress and crown. It's just, you know, I'm

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Speaker 2: just thrilled that I have my pod. I'm thrilled you

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Speaker 2: have yours to make those moments that you hear sliding

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Speaker 2: door open possible right to just like hunker down.

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Speaker 1: Oh shit, it's all good. Easton's handling it.

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Speaker 2: I'm excited to post this video because I want all

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Speaker 2: of you guys on my Instagram, which is give Them

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Speaker 2: La La Pod, to comment. Who's a part of your pod?

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Speaker 2: And if you're feeling like writing me a lengthy comment,

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Speaker 2: tell me why.

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Speaker 1: I'm really excited about it.

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Speaker 2: Speaking of the pod, we have to get going because

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Speaker 2: I got to pick my kid up from school. Janet,

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Speaker 2: I love you, Thank you for being on the coming

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Speaker 2: of course, thank you for thank you for being on

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Speaker 2: the bonus. Thank you guys for listening to another boner

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Speaker 2: episode of To Give Them All a Podcast. I will

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Speaker 2: catch you guys on Wednesday and again next week.

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Speaker 1: Bye,