1 00:00:12,119 --> 00:00:14,560 Speaker 1: Welcome back to I Do Part two. I'm one of 2 00:00:14,560 --> 00:00:17,560 Speaker 1: your celebrity mentors. It's Jenniferfessler from the Real Housewives of 3 00:00:17,560 --> 00:00:21,000 Speaker 1: New Jersey and co host of the podcast Two Jersey Jays. 4 00:00:21,640 --> 00:00:24,279 Speaker 1: Today is going to be fun. On this podcast, we 5 00:00:24,320 --> 00:00:26,360 Speaker 1: talk a lot about the chapter two of it all, 6 00:00:26,400 --> 00:00:29,280 Speaker 1: but today I'm going to be joined by two handsome 7 00:00:29,320 --> 00:00:31,120 Speaker 1: men who are trying to get it right the first 8 00:00:31,120 --> 00:00:34,239 Speaker 1: time around. Help me. Welcome John and Matt from the 9 00:00:34,240 --> 00:00:36,760 Speaker 1: new season A Farmer Wants a Wife to the podcast. 10 00:00:37,080 --> 00:00:41,599 Speaker 1: Hi guys, welcome, welcome, Thanks for having us, well, thank 11 00:00:41,640 --> 00:00:43,200 Speaker 1: you for coming. I have to say, the first thing 12 00:00:43,240 --> 00:00:45,279 Speaker 1: that occurs to me looking at the both of you is, 13 00:00:45,800 --> 00:00:47,800 Speaker 1: why would one choose to be a farmer when they 14 00:00:47,840 --> 00:00:49,200 Speaker 1: so obviously should be a model? 15 00:00:50,120 --> 00:00:51,680 Speaker 2: What are you thinking? 16 00:00:51,800 --> 00:00:53,320 Speaker 1: And probably I don't know if it would be easier 17 00:00:53,360 --> 00:00:55,080 Speaker 1: or not. It feels like it'd be easier than being 18 00:00:55,120 --> 00:00:58,440 Speaker 1: a farmer. But you're both gorgeous, and I mean you're 19 00:00:58,480 --> 00:01:01,800 Speaker 1: here and you're single looking for love. We're just so 20 00:01:01,840 --> 00:01:04,800 Speaker 1: excited to find out what is going on. Well, actually 21 00:01:04,840 --> 00:01:07,600 Speaker 1: wore my cowboy hat in your honor. I love it 22 00:01:07,680 --> 00:01:11,440 Speaker 1: out right right right, Thank you very flattering. Thank you. 23 00:01:11,720 --> 00:01:14,279 Speaker 1: So all right, let's get into all the upcoming season. 24 00:01:14,280 --> 00:01:18,199 Speaker 1: A farmer wants a wife. We actually just talked about 25 00:01:18,200 --> 00:01:21,680 Speaker 1: this on a recent episode of the podcast. But did 26 00:01:21,720 --> 00:01:25,520 Speaker 1: you guys know that, according to a divorce attorney, farmers 27 00:01:25,560 --> 00:01:28,440 Speaker 1: are one of the professions least likely to cheat in 28 00:01:28,480 --> 00:01:29,199 Speaker 1: a marriage. 29 00:01:29,640 --> 00:01:30,679 Speaker 3: Really, have you heard that? 30 00:01:31,440 --> 00:01:33,800 Speaker 2: Someone else told me that recently. I don't remember where 31 00:01:33,800 --> 00:01:35,600 Speaker 2: I heard that, but I definitely believe it. 32 00:01:35,920 --> 00:01:38,040 Speaker 1: Ladies, if you didn't want them because they're so good looking, 33 00:01:38,319 --> 00:01:42,160 Speaker 1: here's the thing, they're all so loyal. So top three 34 00:01:42,160 --> 00:01:46,040 Speaker 1: careers to not cheat accountant's, pharmacists, and farmers. 35 00:01:46,400 --> 00:01:49,520 Speaker 3: Wow. Right, accountant surprises me too. 36 00:01:49,920 --> 00:01:52,680 Speaker 1: My husband started out as an accountant. And if we're 37 00:01:52,680 --> 00:01:56,600 Speaker 1: going to be real here on the pod, didn't really 38 00:01:56,600 --> 00:01:58,560 Speaker 1: work out that quite that way for us. We're still together. 39 00:01:58,720 --> 00:02:01,560 Speaker 2: Oh you're the exception. I guess we were the exception. 40 00:02:01,920 --> 00:02:05,880 Speaker 1: Yes, yeah, but I think that's interesting. I mean, you 41 00:02:05,920 --> 00:02:08,440 Speaker 1: guys are still you're still young, but you really are 42 00:02:08,480 --> 00:02:10,079 Speaker 1: looking to settle down, both of you. 43 00:02:10,480 --> 00:02:11,920 Speaker 3: Yeah about young? 44 00:02:12,280 --> 00:02:14,519 Speaker 2: Wow, well, what are you thirty? I'm thirty. 45 00:02:14,639 --> 00:02:15,280 Speaker 3: I'm twice six. 46 00:02:15,320 --> 00:02:16,880 Speaker 1: You don't think that that's young. 47 00:02:17,600 --> 00:02:22,320 Speaker 3: No, I was proud. 48 00:02:22,480 --> 00:02:25,040 Speaker 1: You guys bring this dynamic to the show. Yeah, you 49 00:02:25,080 --> 00:02:26,800 Speaker 1: became good friends, there four of you. 50 00:02:27,200 --> 00:02:28,720 Speaker 2: The first day I walked up on filming, I hadn't 51 00:02:28,720 --> 00:02:31,079 Speaker 2: met the guys in and immediately like, you're the oldest one. 52 00:02:31,639 --> 00:02:34,840 Speaker 1: Okay, listen, I can't have this conversation. I'm fifty six 53 00:02:34,919 --> 00:02:39,200 Speaker 1: years old. So you guys have this among I appreciate that. Wow, 54 00:02:39,320 --> 00:02:41,360 Speaker 1: your baby. I have a twenty five year old son. 55 00:02:41,520 --> 00:02:44,800 Speaker 1: Oh really, I'm getting depressed. Let's move on. Tell me 56 00:02:44,880 --> 00:02:47,680 Speaker 1: a little bit about we're just going to start jump 57 00:02:47,720 --> 00:02:50,600 Speaker 1: right in. What kind of woman that you're looking for? 58 00:02:50,840 --> 00:02:53,519 Speaker 2: Let's go first, Go ahead, man, let's take this one 59 00:02:53,560 --> 00:02:55,799 Speaker 2: all right. You know, I'll say too that I was 60 00:02:55,840 --> 00:02:58,040 Speaker 2: pretty impressed on the show, like they really did care about, 61 00:02:58,080 --> 00:02:59,800 Speaker 2: like what you're looking for. It's not just based off 62 00:03:00,240 --> 00:03:01,000 Speaker 2: and whatever, you know. 63 00:03:01,480 --> 00:03:03,840 Speaker 1: So the things that I you know, it's not just 64 00:03:03,919 --> 00:03:04,880 Speaker 1: looks that you're looking for. 65 00:03:05,040 --> 00:03:09,160 Speaker 2: No, I like looks, but the things that I had 66 00:03:09,240 --> 00:03:12,760 Speaker 2: said is like a you know, really family oriented Christian 67 00:03:13,600 --> 00:03:16,959 Speaker 2: and you know, just someone that likes to have fun 68 00:03:17,040 --> 00:03:20,640 Speaker 2: is my biggest thing, because I love just traveling and 69 00:03:20,680 --> 00:03:22,359 Speaker 2: doing things and being out with friends and all that 70 00:03:22,400 --> 00:03:24,920 Speaker 2: kind of stuff. So I've been with gals in the past, 71 00:03:25,040 --> 00:03:27,400 Speaker 2: I like don't enjoy that as much. And so that 72 00:03:27,440 --> 00:03:28,440 Speaker 2: creates problems there. 73 00:03:28,280 --> 00:03:30,520 Speaker 1: Because is it a travel thing or just not so. 74 00:03:30,520 --> 00:03:32,799 Speaker 2: Much travel, but just you know, being with friends, being 75 00:03:32,840 --> 00:03:35,560 Speaker 2: with my family. I just some girls, you know, they 76 00:03:35,640 --> 00:03:37,320 Speaker 2: just want to be just with you all the time. 77 00:03:37,520 --> 00:03:40,880 Speaker 1: Red Flag girl doesn't have girlfriends or a lot of girlfriends. 78 00:03:40,880 --> 00:03:42,760 Speaker 1: It is. Yeah, that's interesting. 79 00:03:43,040 --> 00:03:48,160 Speaker 2: Yeah, in my experience, been pretty good indication of no. 80 00:03:48,240 --> 00:03:49,320 Speaker 1: I think that's so interesting. 81 00:03:49,400 --> 00:03:50,960 Speaker 2: Yeah, which, you know, teach their out. You don't have 82 00:03:51,000 --> 00:03:51,720 Speaker 2: to do that but. 83 00:03:52,280 --> 00:03:55,200 Speaker 1: For you, for me, because I'm not to make it 84 00:03:55,200 --> 00:03:57,280 Speaker 1: about me, but I like to do that. But like 85 00:03:57,360 --> 00:03:59,920 Speaker 1: I am a very social person and my husband really 86 00:04:00,240 --> 00:04:03,040 Speaker 1: never was. But for some reason it worked. I could 87 00:04:03,120 --> 00:04:05,600 Speaker 1: kind of brought them over to the dark side. But yeah, 88 00:04:05,600 --> 00:04:08,640 Speaker 1: I guess maybe easier to start out with someone that's 89 00:04:08,920 --> 00:04:10,800 Speaker 1: like you, likes to go out, likes to mix it 90 00:04:10,880 --> 00:04:13,040 Speaker 1: up a little bit. Bavel what about you? What are 91 00:04:13,040 --> 00:04:13,560 Speaker 1: we looking for? 92 00:04:13,880 --> 00:04:15,840 Speaker 4: I mean, going into the show, I was really looking 93 00:04:15,840 --> 00:04:17,760 Speaker 4: for somebody who would just be a great mother, you know, 94 00:04:17,800 --> 00:04:21,120 Speaker 4: somebody who's nurturing and caring, also support me through and through. 95 00:04:21,920 --> 00:04:25,080 Speaker 4: So that I could do the same for her. But 96 00:04:25,279 --> 00:04:27,599 Speaker 4: going through the show and you know, coming out of 97 00:04:27,600 --> 00:04:30,000 Speaker 4: it after like kind of being reflective in the OTF, 98 00:04:30,120 --> 00:04:32,840 Speaker 4: which is what we call the interviews, the side of interviews, 99 00:04:34,640 --> 00:04:36,479 Speaker 4: I kind of just decide on somebody, you know, I 100 00:04:36,520 --> 00:04:38,480 Speaker 4: want somebody who I can just really get along with 101 00:04:38,520 --> 00:04:41,160 Speaker 4: in the end, because that's all that really matters. That's 102 00:04:41,200 --> 00:04:42,400 Speaker 4: who you're going to be spending the rest of your 103 00:04:42,400 --> 00:04:44,440 Speaker 4: life with. So if you really can't get along with 104 00:04:44,440 --> 00:04:45,320 Speaker 4: that person. 105 00:04:45,000 --> 00:04:48,200 Speaker 1: Then yeah, no, I think it's that's absolutely true. But 106 00:04:48,240 --> 00:04:50,120 Speaker 1: I'm going to say to you both that all of 107 00:04:50,120 --> 00:04:51,840 Speaker 1: what you're saying, I mean I think that a lot 108 00:04:51,920 --> 00:04:54,960 Speaker 1: of girls can fit the bill right what you're describing, 109 00:04:55,360 --> 00:04:57,800 Speaker 1: likes to have fun and someone you can get along with. 110 00:04:58,200 --> 00:04:59,560 Speaker 1: So I got to get we're going have to get 111 00:04:59,600 --> 00:05:04,240 Speaker 1: a little deep for right, Christian very true sost to you. 112 00:05:04,320 --> 00:05:08,479 Speaker 1: Both of you or someone someone open to it religious, 113 00:05:09,800 --> 00:05:12,520 Speaker 1: we're both okay, So I mean that's helpful, right, so 114 00:05:12,600 --> 00:05:14,240 Speaker 1: that at least we can narrow it down a little bit. 115 00:05:15,600 --> 00:05:17,480 Speaker 1: Anything else you can give me though, and maybe even 116 00:05:17,520 --> 00:05:21,560 Speaker 1: after filming, like specifics, I really I realized that I 117 00:05:21,680 --> 00:05:24,640 Speaker 1: like girls with whatever long dark hair, or I like 118 00:05:24,720 --> 00:05:27,400 Speaker 1: girls that love Would you bond with any of these 119 00:05:27,400 --> 00:05:29,320 Speaker 1: girls specifically over something I like? 120 00:05:29,360 --> 00:05:32,400 Speaker 2: I really like girls that don't like me as much. 121 00:05:34,880 --> 00:05:38,760 Speaker 1: It's a horrible it is not let me tell you something. 122 00:05:38,800 --> 00:05:42,680 Speaker 1: You came to the right place because I don't like No, 123 00:05:42,839 --> 00:05:46,040 Speaker 1: because I used to work for this. I used to 124 00:05:46,040 --> 00:05:48,080 Speaker 1: work for these women that wrote a book called The Rules, 125 00:05:48,120 --> 00:05:49,680 Speaker 1: and the Rules is all about how to play hard 126 00:05:49,680 --> 00:05:52,159 Speaker 1: to get. This is going back when I was your age. 127 00:05:52,279 --> 00:05:54,520 Speaker 1: I worked for these people and there's this whole philosophy 128 00:05:54,560 --> 00:05:56,920 Speaker 1: on it that I actually subscribe to and I try 129 00:05:56,960 --> 00:05:59,200 Speaker 1: to get my daughters to subscribe to it as well. 130 00:05:59,400 --> 00:06:02,760 Speaker 1: Is men just love the chase it is. I don't 131 00:06:02,800 --> 00:06:05,040 Speaker 1: know if that's a good thing, a bad thing, if 132 00:06:05,080 --> 00:06:07,120 Speaker 1: it's feminist, if it's not. But I just think that 133 00:06:07,160 --> 00:06:10,120 Speaker 1: most men want what they don't think they can have. 134 00:06:10,880 --> 00:06:13,400 Speaker 3: And I think that's super nature eneral. 135 00:06:13,680 --> 00:06:17,120 Speaker 4: Yeah, but yeah, I could definitely see that with men, 136 00:06:18,560 --> 00:06:20,880 Speaker 4: especially when I mean personally, when I was younger, I 137 00:06:20,960 --> 00:06:22,200 Speaker 4: definitely had that. 138 00:06:22,760 --> 00:06:25,200 Speaker 2: Yeah, it's changed for me, definitely. 139 00:06:24,880 --> 00:06:26,040 Speaker 3: Changes older and older. 140 00:06:26,200 --> 00:06:28,240 Speaker 2: Really Yeah, Yeah, when I was like early you know, 141 00:06:28,400 --> 00:06:31,400 Speaker 2: early twenties, whatever you want to say, that really was 142 00:06:31,520 --> 00:06:33,360 Speaker 2: like that, but then as time has gone on, it's like, okay, 143 00:06:33,480 --> 00:06:35,760 Speaker 2: kind of like some of that, but not not too 144 00:06:35,880 --> 00:06:36,760 Speaker 2: much because. 145 00:06:36,720 --> 00:06:38,800 Speaker 1: Not you you want a bitch, but like you want 146 00:06:38,960 --> 00:06:40,320 Speaker 1: someone who's not how I. 147 00:06:40,240 --> 00:06:42,920 Speaker 2: Was going to say it, but yes, yeah, but just 148 00:06:42,960 --> 00:06:46,120 Speaker 2: you know, it's just as soon as you are with 149 00:06:46,200 --> 00:06:47,960 Speaker 2: someone and it's like right off the bat, they're just 150 00:06:48,080 --> 00:06:49,120 Speaker 2: infatuated with you. 151 00:06:49,080 --> 00:06:50,400 Speaker 1: And I'm kind of stay turn off. 152 00:06:50,520 --> 00:06:52,240 Speaker 2: It is for me unfortunately, and I hate to say 153 00:06:52,279 --> 00:06:54,000 Speaker 2: that because it's flattering, and like. 154 00:06:54,160 --> 00:06:56,360 Speaker 3: You, I know what it is. 155 00:06:57,279 --> 00:06:58,159 Speaker 1: Do you watch need it? No? 156 00:06:58,240 --> 00:06:59,120 Speaker 2: I really watch TV. 157 00:06:59,480 --> 00:07:03,280 Speaker 1: I can't these two. I can't. How how did you 158 00:07:03,279 --> 00:07:05,560 Speaker 1: guys end? Yes, it's Bravo. Well, there's a couple on 159 00:07:05,600 --> 00:07:08,960 Speaker 1: it right now and she is just way too upfront 160 00:07:09,360 --> 00:07:12,320 Speaker 1: with in terms of how she feels and wanting to 161 00:07:12,400 --> 00:07:14,960 Speaker 1: get serious too soon. But anyway, no, I think that's 162 00:07:15,040 --> 00:07:16,960 Speaker 1: that's really interesting. So girls that play a little hard 163 00:07:17,000 --> 00:07:17,280 Speaker 1: to get. 164 00:07:17,720 --> 00:07:20,200 Speaker 4: Yeah, well, I think the unfortunate thing about well, I 165 00:07:20,240 --> 00:07:23,440 Speaker 4: wouldn't say unfortunate, but the interesting thing about this show 166 00:07:23,560 --> 00:07:26,840 Speaker 4: is we filmed it all in one month, so you know, 167 00:07:26,920 --> 00:07:28,600 Speaker 4: by the end of it, people either had to come 168 00:07:28,600 --> 00:07:31,040 Speaker 4: out of their show, like that right, or stay reserved. 169 00:07:31,080 --> 00:07:33,480 Speaker 4: So it's okay, interesting to see how everybody kind of 170 00:07:33,480 --> 00:07:35,560 Speaker 4: plays out after having that discussion. 171 00:07:35,640 --> 00:07:39,720 Speaker 2: Yeah, it's really like read six months compressed at the 172 00:07:39,760 --> 00:07:41,160 Speaker 2: one dating, you know, because. 173 00:07:40,960 --> 00:07:41,960 Speaker 3: You've got to get right into it. 174 00:07:42,440 --> 00:07:44,360 Speaker 2: You're talking about like really serious. So I'll never do 175 00:07:44,440 --> 00:07:45,480 Speaker 2: that like in a normal. 176 00:07:45,280 --> 00:07:49,200 Speaker 1: Dating situation, right, No, that's very true. So interesting. I'm 177 00:07:49,320 --> 00:07:51,800 Speaker 1: just picturing what I would tell my daughter if she 178 00:07:51,920 --> 00:07:53,560 Speaker 1: was going on like I would definitely tell her to 179 00:07:53,560 --> 00:07:55,080 Speaker 1: play hard to get. But how do you do that 180 00:07:55,200 --> 00:07:56,480 Speaker 1: in a month when you're supposed to get to know 181 00:07:56,520 --> 00:08:00,000 Speaker 1: everyone and get your cards out on the table. All right? 182 00:08:00,120 --> 00:08:02,120 Speaker 1: So what kind of marriages do you guys come from? 183 00:08:02,120 --> 00:08:04,600 Speaker 1: Tell me a little bit about your parents. Have they 184 00:08:04,600 --> 00:08:06,640 Speaker 1: ever been parents? Still together? 185 00:08:07,360 --> 00:08:11,040 Speaker 2: My parents would? They've been together forty six years? I think, wow, 186 00:08:11,200 --> 00:08:12,400 Speaker 2: never even considered it. 187 00:08:12,800 --> 00:08:14,160 Speaker 1: Forty six years. They started young. 188 00:08:15,120 --> 00:08:18,320 Speaker 2: Yeah, my dad's early seventies and my mom's getting close 189 00:08:18,360 --> 00:08:18,800 Speaker 2: to seventy. 190 00:08:19,240 --> 00:08:20,400 Speaker 1: You have boost too, sisters. 191 00:08:20,920 --> 00:08:22,600 Speaker 2: There's four of us. I'm the youngest and. 192 00:08:22,560 --> 00:08:24,880 Speaker 1: You're the youngest, right, Okay, coming together now? Got it? 193 00:08:25,080 --> 00:08:28,440 Speaker 1: Very strong, Maria and they very strong? Happy, Yes, Niver, 194 00:08:28,920 --> 00:08:33,280 Speaker 1: fight come on, I swear. Really, Oh my god, I 195 00:08:33,280 --> 00:08:34,679 Speaker 1: feel bad for the girl you end up with. 196 00:08:35,640 --> 00:08:38,680 Speaker 2: It's tough to compare. But my dad's still gets upset 197 00:08:38,760 --> 00:08:40,559 Speaker 2: she's gone for more than a day or two. 198 00:08:40,720 --> 00:08:43,120 Speaker 1: Really, that's very cool. 199 00:08:43,320 --> 00:08:45,120 Speaker 2: Yeah, I love that. I know it's getting rid of 200 00:08:45,120 --> 00:08:47,120 Speaker 2: these days. So that's it's really cool to come from that. 201 00:08:48,600 --> 00:08:50,320 Speaker 3: That seems like quite a fairy tale marriage. 202 00:08:50,400 --> 00:08:51,880 Speaker 2: Yeah, really, it really is. 203 00:08:52,000 --> 00:08:55,600 Speaker 4: Well, my parents are is probably more I wouldn't no, 204 00:08:55,640 --> 00:08:58,400 Speaker 4: not no offense to you, but like more realistic in 205 00:08:58,440 --> 00:09:01,439 Speaker 4: the sense they do fight obviously, but they always make 206 00:09:01,520 --> 00:09:03,040 Speaker 4: up before bed. That's one of the big things. 207 00:09:03,120 --> 00:09:03,400 Speaker 1: Really. 208 00:09:03,720 --> 00:09:07,679 Speaker 4: Yeah, and they've been together for multiple years as well. 209 00:09:08,320 --> 00:09:12,920 Speaker 4: I come from six siblings, so I think that was 210 00:09:12,960 --> 00:09:15,600 Speaker 4: one of the biggest He is a glue that held 211 00:09:15,600 --> 00:09:17,199 Speaker 4: our whole family to better. Is just having a lot 212 00:09:17,200 --> 00:09:18,000 Speaker 4: of siblings. 213 00:09:18,400 --> 00:09:21,880 Speaker 1: You guys grew up one of you in California. Yeah, 214 00:09:21,960 --> 00:09:23,640 Speaker 1: I can't say it, abyss. How do you say it? 215 00:09:23,760 --> 00:09:24,760 Speaker 2: San Louis obispo? 216 00:09:25,080 --> 00:09:27,760 Speaker 1: You say's slow for sure, San Leuis obispo. 217 00:09:28,000 --> 00:09:30,079 Speaker 2: Slow is a good abbreviation people, so. 218 00:09:30,120 --> 00:09:33,080 Speaker 1: Slow, okay, And then Saint Louis Saint Louis right, Yeah, 219 00:09:33,320 --> 00:09:36,080 Speaker 1: So I'm just picturing these marriages and these lives and 220 00:09:36,120 --> 00:09:39,160 Speaker 1: these kids, and it all seems very wholesome and very 221 00:09:39,559 --> 00:09:42,439 Speaker 1: small towns. I don't know that much about San Louis. 222 00:09:43,040 --> 00:09:45,320 Speaker 2: It is like fifty thousand people, so it's smaller, but 223 00:09:45,360 --> 00:09:47,439 Speaker 2: it's a college of town. There's a lot of stuff 224 00:09:47,440 --> 00:09:49,640 Speaker 2: going on there still so of good mix of both. 225 00:09:49,960 --> 00:09:52,600 Speaker 1: Okay, I'm just trying to If I say the Walton, 226 00:09:52,640 --> 00:09:54,079 Speaker 1: do you won't even know what I'm talking about, right, 227 00:09:54,840 --> 00:09:55,240 Speaker 1: Oh my. 228 00:09:55,200 --> 00:09:57,480 Speaker 2: God, the Walton. 229 00:09:57,840 --> 00:09:59,920 Speaker 1: It was a show that I watched about this fan 230 00:10:00,320 --> 00:10:02,160 Speaker 1: and they lived on a farm, and they would so 231 00:10:02,520 --> 00:10:06,840 Speaker 1: wholesome and whatever. So you lived. It sounds to me 232 00:10:06,960 --> 00:10:10,880 Speaker 1: like even though different states sort of similar worlds may 233 00:10:10,920 --> 00:10:11,640 Speaker 1: be very country. 234 00:10:11,760 --> 00:10:14,280 Speaker 3: Yeah, yeah, it seems like it, you know, the country 235 00:10:14,320 --> 00:10:14,640 Speaker 3: for me. 236 00:10:14,640 --> 00:10:18,360 Speaker 1: Actually not very countryport or really not that way. Oh 237 00:10:18,360 --> 00:10:22,920 Speaker 1: they're not okay, yeah, okay, yeah. And in these towns though, 238 00:10:22,960 --> 00:10:25,480 Speaker 1: you guys, I'm picturing you dating a lot. I'm picturing 239 00:10:25,480 --> 00:10:28,080 Speaker 1: you guys, neither one of you having a problem meeting girls. 240 00:10:28,559 --> 00:10:31,760 Speaker 4: Well, it's you know, I wouldn't consider Saint Louis a 241 00:10:31,800 --> 00:10:34,160 Speaker 4: small town, but right people like to consider it a 242 00:10:34,200 --> 00:10:39,040 Speaker 4: big small town. Everybody knows everybody. The one question you 243 00:10:39,080 --> 00:10:41,240 Speaker 4: asked when find out somebody's from Saint Louis is what 244 00:10:41,320 --> 00:10:41,959 Speaker 4: high school did. 245 00:10:41,880 --> 00:10:42,240 Speaker 3: You go to? 246 00:10:42,440 --> 00:10:44,920 Speaker 4: Really, and then you can immediately gauge who they knew, 247 00:10:45,000 --> 00:10:47,400 Speaker 4: where they came from, what realiation they usually are. 248 00:10:47,600 --> 00:10:50,480 Speaker 3: Yeah, so that's you. That's where I grew up. 249 00:10:50,559 --> 00:10:52,480 Speaker 1: See, I didn't picture. I know, I wasn't really talking 250 00:10:52,480 --> 00:10:54,679 Speaker 1: about Saint Louis. If you guys lived in very small 251 00:10:54,760 --> 00:10:56,880 Speaker 1: like I say, I'm from Houston, I'm only from Sugarland, 252 00:10:56,920 --> 00:10:59,960 Speaker 1: like there's it's just sort of small, like but Californ 253 00:11:00,240 --> 00:11:02,200 Speaker 1: in Saint Louis so not small small but no. 254 00:11:02,360 --> 00:11:02,600 Speaker 3: Yeah. 255 00:11:03,000 --> 00:11:05,240 Speaker 4: The thing with the reason I'm on Farmer wants a 256 00:11:05,240 --> 00:11:07,440 Speaker 4: Wife is because my mom grew up on a farm 257 00:11:07,480 --> 00:11:09,800 Speaker 4: that's been our family for five generations about an hour 258 00:11:09,840 --> 00:11:13,480 Speaker 4: and a half south of Saint Louis, and my grandfather 259 00:11:13,520 --> 00:11:15,079 Speaker 4: still lives there, and I go down there and help 260 00:11:15,160 --> 00:11:17,600 Speaker 4: them out where I can, and you know, ultimately want to. 261 00:11:17,520 --> 00:11:18,520 Speaker 3: Live that lifestyle. 262 00:11:19,559 --> 00:11:19,800 Speaker 1: Cool. 263 00:11:20,200 --> 00:11:22,160 Speaker 4: So she was in the city and met my dad 264 00:11:22,480 --> 00:11:25,560 Speaker 4: on a Fourth of July party and then she stuck around. 265 00:11:25,720 --> 00:11:26,080 Speaker 3: Yeah. 266 00:11:26,120 --> 00:11:28,320 Speaker 1: So dating apps, tell me about your experience. How do 267 00:11:28,320 --> 00:11:30,480 Speaker 1: you use them? What's your experience been. 268 00:11:31,040 --> 00:11:33,360 Speaker 3: I don't know how to put it down into one word. Interesting. 269 00:11:34,080 --> 00:11:38,440 Speaker 4: Yeah, Tender and Bumble. We're definitely younger apps that I used, 270 00:11:38,480 --> 00:11:40,440 Speaker 4: like high school, college and stuff like that. 271 00:11:40,720 --> 00:11:42,720 Speaker 3: And then I kind of moved just towards airing it 272 00:11:42,760 --> 00:11:43,560 Speaker 3: down on the Hinge. 273 00:11:43,720 --> 00:11:47,080 Speaker 4: Yeah, but I haven't had Hinge for like, you know 274 00:11:47,600 --> 00:11:51,400 Speaker 4: and a half two years now, so why it just 275 00:11:51,440 --> 00:11:54,160 Speaker 4: started to get ridiculous. You know, nobody was actually really 276 00:11:54,200 --> 00:11:56,200 Speaker 4: on there to date. You know, it's just more of 277 00:11:56,240 --> 00:11:58,640 Speaker 4: a let's go get a drink and hook up. 278 00:11:58,679 --> 00:12:02,840 Speaker 1: Yeah, so okay, interesting, but it was fun. Yeah, yeah, 279 00:12:02,960 --> 00:12:03,760 Speaker 1: it sounds fun. 280 00:12:04,160 --> 00:12:08,040 Speaker 2: And I've virtually never had any dating apps. I think, 281 00:12:08,200 --> 00:12:10,480 Speaker 2: like when Tender first came out, like I don't know, 282 00:12:10,600 --> 00:12:12,360 Speaker 2: ten years ago, I had it for like a week 283 00:12:12,440 --> 00:12:17,200 Speaker 2: or two. Okay, but just not my style whatsoever. I 284 00:12:17,400 --> 00:12:19,280 Speaker 2: just I think I'm really social. I love being out 285 00:12:19,280 --> 00:12:21,840 Speaker 2: and like beating girls and like that's fun, like the 286 00:12:22,200 --> 00:12:24,240 Speaker 2: experience of it or the thrill, you know, like walking 287 00:12:24,320 --> 00:12:25,880 Speaker 2: up to a random girl at a bar like that 288 00:12:25,960 --> 00:12:26,560 Speaker 2: kind of stuff. 289 00:12:27,120 --> 00:12:28,800 Speaker 1: I mean, I have to tell you, I'm looking at 290 00:12:28,800 --> 00:12:31,360 Speaker 1: you guys, and I'm picturing that I don't know who 291 00:12:31,360 --> 00:12:33,800 Speaker 1: couldn't you go on Farmer Wants a White Like I 292 00:12:34,280 --> 00:12:37,320 Speaker 1: would think that you're both overwhelmed with dates, like I 293 00:12:37,360 --> 00:12:40,280 Speaker 1: can't imagine, like girls are just they must have gone crazy. 294 00:12:40,520 --> 00:12:41,040 Speaker 2: Well, I don't know. 295 00:12:41,120 --> 00:12:42,560 Speaker 1: This is also on video, so you guys are going 296 00:12:42,640 --> 00:12:44,920 Speaker 1: to see what I'm talking about. But I've never seen 297 00:12:44,960 --> 00:12:51,640 Speaker 1: two more adorable boys and sweet with good families. 298 00:12:51,920 --> 00:12:54,520 Speaker 2: Yeah, yeah, were very blessed. I think of the both 299 00:12:54,559 --> 00:12:55,160 Speaker 2: of us, you know. 300 00:12:55,360 --> 00:12:59,480 Speaker 1: Yeah, yeah, I have a daughter. Okay, we'll talk after 301 00:12:59,480 --> 00:12:59,839 Speaker 1: the show. 302 00:13:00,200 --> 00:13:00,720 Speaker 3: To go on the show. 303 00:13:00,800 --> 00:13:02,800 Speaker 1: Oh yeah, yeah, she's not leaving me. She's not leaving 304 00:13:02,800 --> 00:13:16,120 Speaker 1: New Jersey. Tell me a little bit about you know, 305 00:13:16,240 --> 00:13:18,080 Speaker 1: getting on the show. Were you excited to meet all 306 00:13:18,120 --> 00:13:20,600 Speaker 1: these women like you must have been a little intimidating 307 00:13:20,679 --> 00:13:24,480 Speaker 1: all at once, real life women, real life dates. You know, 308 00:13:24,520 --> 00:13:25,319 Speaker 1: we're you nervous? 309 00:13:25,640 --> 00:13:29,360 Speaker 4: Yeah, extremely. We walked into this big great room where 310 00:13:29,360 --> 00:13:32,000 Speaker 4: we had will just see the ladies for the first time. 311 00:13:32,400 --> 00:13:35,079 Speaker 1: Were that it was everybody is everybody mid twenties, early thirties. 312 00:13:35,320 --> 00:13:38,319 Speaker 4: Yeah, you got to mine were yeah, yeah, kind of 313 00:13:38,360 --> 00:13:38,959 Speaker 4: got to ask. 314 00:13:38,800 --> 00:13:39,560 Speaker 2: That's what name you did? 315 00:13:39,600 --> 00:13:41,000 Speaker 1: Well, because it's funny because I got I have a 316 00:13:41,080 --> 00:13:43,360 Speaker 1: question for you guys a little bit. I was gonna 317 00:13:43,360 --> 00:13:44,839 Speaker 1: ask a little bit later, but why not just jump 318 00:13:44,920 --> 00:13:46,559 Speaker 1: right in? Have you ever dated older women? 319 00:13:47,600 --> 00:13:50,120 Speaker 3: Yeah, couple within the same like year. 320 00:13:50,559 --> 00:13:52,600 Speaker 1: That's not older within the same year. 321 00:13:52,679 --> 00:13:56,960 Speaker 4: You just said, yeah, like I was ninety nine, so 322 00:13:57,080 --> 00:13:59,520 Speaker 4: like usually within ninety nine, ninety eight, ninety seven. 323 00:13:59,559 --> 00:14:02,040 Speaker 1: Got it. I'm meant older, like old or older. Now, 324 00:14:02,600 --> 00:14:04,319 Speaker 1: I think maybe put that, you know what. I think 325 00:14:04,360 --> 00:14:07,080 Speaker 1: maybe our producers wanted me to ask, just to like 326 00:14:07,280 --> 00:14:10,679 Speaker 1: humiliate myself, like I'm not looking for a long time, 327 00:14:11,440 --> 00:14:12,319 Speaker 1: very cute. 328 00:14:12,080 --> 00:14:17,360 Speaker 2: But she's all specifically yeah, specifically, No, it's we're like 329 00:14:17,400 --> 00:14:17,920 Speaker 2: four years. 330 00:14:17,920 --> 00:14:19,280 Speaker 1: I think that does not count. 331 00:14:19,680 --> 00:14:21,000 Speaker 2: You guys have never dated older? 332 00:14:21,160 --> 00:14:26,320 Speaker 1: Okay, so all right, let's just talk also a little 333 00:14:26,320 --> 00:14:29,920 Speaker 1: bit about the fact that you are farmers. And I'm 334 00:14:29,920 --> 00:14:32,640 Speaker 1: thinking that it's that part of why it's you know, 335 00:14:32,720 --> 00:14:36,480 Speaker 1: been hard to you know, maybe nail something down get 336 00:14:36,680 --> 00:14:38,200 Speaker 1: because you're so busy with your farming. 337 00:14:39,400 --> 00:14:42,120 Speaker 2: I would not say that for me. I can't speak 338 00:14:42,160 --> 00:14:44,440 Speaker 2: for John, but I do live in somewhat of a 339 00:14:44,480 --> 00:14:46,320 Speaker 2: smaller area and I did grow up and there's one 340 00:14:46,400 --> 00:14:49,120 Speaker 2: high school there, and so when I was like early 341 00:14:49,160 --> 00:14:52,240 Speaker 2: twenties at college, ten too, So there's like new girls 342 00:14:52,280 --> 00:14:54,280 Speaker 2: moving into the area all the time, so like there's 343 00:14:54,480 --> 00:14:57,480 Speaker 2: way more opportunities. But then now that I'm like thirty 344 00:14:57,560 --> 00:14:59,720 Speaker 2: or almost thirty one, it's like, okay, well college girls 345 00:14:59,720 --> 00:15:03,480 Speaker 2: are too young, yeah and so, and it's like, all right, 346 00:15:03,480 --> 00:15:06,720 Speaker 2: who actually lives here and is like you know, so 347 00:15:06,760 --> 00:15:08,880 Speaker 2: that starts to really narrow it down. And then you know, 348 00:15:08,880 --> 00:15:11,320 Speaker 2: I either grew up with them already or dated them 349 00:15:11,360 --> 00:15:12,360 Speaker 2: before my friend. 350 00:15:12,160 --> 00:15:13,920 Speaker 1: Did, or so that's interesting. Huh. 351 00:15:14,120 --> 00:15:17,200 Speaker 2: Yeah, So this opportunity came up, and it's like, well, 352 00:15:17,280 --> 00:15:20,000 Speaker 2: you could meet someone from like my gals were from 353 00:15:20,040 --> 00:15:21,120 Speaker 2: all over the country. 354 00:15:20,840 --> 00:15:25,360 Speaker 1: So so do you are you looking also for someone 355 00:15:25,400 --> 00:15:28,560 Speaker 1: who will be into the farming lifestyle whatever that is. 356 00:15:29,000 --> 00:15:31,280 Speaker 4: So, I know, Matt and I talked about this a lot. 357 00:15:31,320 --> 00:15:35,080 Speaker 4: We're not like the lifestyle, yes, but. 358 00:15:34,320 --> 00:15:36,000 Speaker 1: What's the lifestyle in terms of like. 359 00:15:37,080 --> 00:15:38,760 Speaker 3: Wyat yeah quiet. 360 00:15:40,120 --> 00:15:42,440 Speaker 2: It was traditional so much aimed at the work. Like 361 00:15:42,760 --> 00:15:44,200 Speaker 2: a lot of people on the show, we were focusing 362 00:15:44,240 --> 00:15:47,480 Speaker 2: on like the farm work, ye, like the living, like 363 00:15:47,560 --> 00:15:51,960 Speaker 2: living in the country, you know, raising my children in 364 00:15:52,000 --> 00:15:53,920 Speaker 2: those types of areas, and like the big thing for 365 00:15:54,000 --> 00:15:56,520 Speaker 2: us is like I really love all of our neighbors. 366 00:15:56,560 --> 00:15:59,120 Speaker 2: Like all the other neighbors are families who farm and 367 00:15:59,240 --> 00:16:02,200 Speaker 2: ranch and a really good people and so like, you know, 368 00:16:02,240 --> 00:16:04,640 Speaker 2: the kids my nephews go to school, if like they're 369 00:16:04,680 --> 00:16:06,320 Speaker 2: these neighbor kids that they all play with and it's 370 00:16:06,360 --> 00:16:07,360 Speaker 2: like just such a good life. 371 00:16:07,400 --> 00:16:10,040 Speaker 1: You know, you have like nine nieces and. 372 00:16:11,000 --> 00:16:13,800 Speaker 2: Nephews and a god daughter and like twenty other kids 373 00:16:13,800 --> 00:16:14,720 Speaker 2: that think I'm on their uncle. 374 00:16:14,840 --> 00:16:17,560 Speaker 1: Do you like maybe you've got like some biological clock 375 00:16:17,680 --> 00:16:22,400 Speaker 1: thing going on here, Like the kids thing is, yeah. 376 00:16:22,200 --> 00:16:24,280 Speaker 4: I want kids pretty quick. Once I get married, it's 377 00:16:24,280 --> 00:16:25,880 Speaker 4: going to be we're going to start rifleing. 378 00:16:25,960 --> 00:16:27,760 Speaker 2: Yeah, but I want to, you know, kids, since I 379 00:16:27,840 --> 00:16:30,600 Speaker 2: was really always wanted to be a dad. 380 00:16:30,760 --> 00:16:34,520 Speaker 1: Really it's very cool. So you guys are just right 381 00:16:34,560 --> 00:16:38,320 Speaker 1: for the picking. I'm okay, So anyway nice because I 382 00:16:38,320 --> 00:16:41,040 Speaker 1: mean you both could be I don't know. I know again, 383 00:16:41,080 --> 00:16:43,600 Speaker 1: I've got a son your age around your age, and 384 00:16:43,640 --> 00:16:46,920 Speaker 1: he has zero interest. He's just having himself a good 385 00:16:46,920 --> 00:16:50,080 Speaker 1: old time. He's not like thinking eventually, I know he 386 00:16:50,160 --> 00:16:51,080 Speaker 1: wants that we'll enjoy. 387 00:16:51,160 --> 00:16:51,760 Speaker 3: Why you got it? 388 00:16:51,880 --> 00:16:53,560 Speaker 2: Yeah, I will say, like one thing. So up moved 389 00:16:53,600 --> 00:16:54,520 Speaker 2: to Austin, Texas for. 390 00:16:54,480 --> 00:16:57,200 Speaker 1: A bit I graduated from your tea, did you Okay. 391 00:16:56,840 --> 00:16:58,320 Speaker 2: So you know what it's like there? Then yeah, But 392 00:16:58,960 --> 00:17:01,240 Speaker 2: I moved there, and I I felt way younger all 393 00:17:01,240 --> 00:17:03,000 Speaker 2: of a sudden, because there's a lot of people, like, 394 00:17:03,240 --> 00:17:05,760 Speaker 2: you know, older than I am that are still single 395 00:17:05,920 --> 00:17:07,960 Speaker 2: and like going out and there all stuff. So like, 396 00:17:07,960 --> 00:17:10,719 Speaker 2: all of a sudden, thirty is like pretty young in 397 00:17:10,760 --> 00:17:11,520 Speaker 2: that scene. 398 00:17:11,240 --> 00:17:12,360 Speaker 1: Like thirty is really young. 399 00:17:12,480 --> 00:17:15,600 Speaker 2: Yeah, but like comparatively so yeah yeah. And then but 400 00:17:15,640 --> 00:17:18,080 Speaker 2: when I'm back home, it's like it's totally different. So 401 00:17:18,280 --> 00:17:20,360 Speaker 2: really depending on where you live, too, like you feel 402 00:17:20,400 --> 00:17:20,680 Speaker 2: it more. 403 00:17:20,800 --> 00:17:24,000 Speaker 1: I think, yeah, know, we my husband was thirty six 404 00:17:24,040 --> 00:17:26,840 Speaker 1: when we met, and I was I guess I was 405 00:17:26,840 --> 00:17:29,879 Speaker 1: like twenty nine, and but we were living in New 406 00:17:29,960 --> 00:17:31,360 Speaker 1: York City, so that felt. 407 00:17:31,240 --> 00:17:34,240 Speaker 2: Yeah, yeah, especially yeah in those places. 408 00:17:34,280 --> 00:17:36,680 Speaker 1: You know, it's not So what is your favorite part 409 00:17:36,720 --> 00:17:37,320 Speaker 1: about being an. 410 00:17:37,320 --> 00:17:42,360 Speaker 2: Uncle, Matt? There's a lot lots of it, But I'm 411 00:17:42,400 --> 00:17:45,200 Speaker 2: just happy to be so close with them. I feel 412 00:17:45,200 --> 00:17:47,840 Speaker 2: like I've had a hand in raising all of them 413 00:17:47,880 --> 00:17:50,360 Speaker 2: in a way, you know, and I know how much 414 00:17:50,400 --> 00:17:53,359 Speaker 2: I mean to them, and so you know, like I 415 00:17:53,400 --> 00:17:56,720 Speaker 2: did move away for a couple of years, and it's 416 00:17:56,760 --> 00:17:58,680 Speaker 2: like I think The thing that really broke the straw 417 00:17:58,720 --> 00:18:01,320 Speaker 2: for me moving home was my nephew Jack was like, 418 00:18:01,480 --> 00:18:03,040 Speaker 2: I was like, Hey, how's there everything going back at home? 419 00:18:03,119 --> 00:18:04,879 Speaker 2: He's like, it's really good, but there's just always a 420 00:18:04,880 --> 00:18:08,280 Speaker 2: little something missing. And I was like, like, I think 421 00:18:08,280 --> 00:18:09,040 Speaker 2: I want to move home. 422 00:18:10,040 --> 00:18:12,760 Speaker 1: John, your five siblings, you got this kind of the 423 00:18:12,800 --> 00:18:14,280 Speaker 1: same big family thing going on. 424 00:18:14,480 --> 00:18:14,840 Speaker 3: Yeah. 425 00:18:14,920 --> 00:18:19,240 Speaker 4: Yeah, basically most my oldest sibling and then my two 426 00:18:19,359 --> 00:18:22,480 Speaker 4: closest younger ones are all out of the house New York, 427 00:18:22,760 --> 00:18:25,879 Speaker 4: LA and in college. And then so the two younger 428 00:18:25,920 --> 00:18:29,119 Speaker 4: ones are still in Saint Louis with me and the 429 00:18:29,160 --> 00:18:31,440 Speaker 4: rest of the family, and they call me brother dad, 430 00:18:31,760 --> 00:18:34,320 Speaker 4: oh my parents. You know, it's time's going on. I've 431 00:18:34,400 --> 00:18:36,679 Speaker 4: taken a more lenient approach with the younger ones, and. 432 00:18:37,240 --> 00:18:39,960 Speaker 1: You don't, and you're not having it. 433 00:18:40,200 --> 00:18:41,080 Speaker 3: I'm not having it. 434 00:18:41,160 --> 00:18:43,040 Speaker 1: Is that important to you that whoever you meet and 435 00:18:43,160 --> 00:18:46,600 Speaker 1: eventually Mary also have really want to be part of 436 00:18:46,640 --> 00:18:49,720 Speaker 1: a big family, not like an extended family. Did that 437 00:18:49,760 --> 00:18:52,000 Speaker 1: come up on the show? Did you ask that question? 438 00:18:52,200 --> 00:18:52,440 Speaker 2: Yeah? 439 00:18:52,560 --> 00:18:55,320 Speaker 3: Family was definitely a big conversation, and. 440 00:18:55,280 --> 00:18:58,040 Speaker 2: You can pretty quickly tell with with people, I think 441 00:18:58,080 --> 00:18:59,960 Speaker 2: and talking to girls like how much they care about 442 00:19:00,119 --> 00:19:00,479 Speaker 2: that or not. 443 00:19:00,640 --> 00:19:03,359 Speaker 1: And does it matter if they came from a close 444 00:19:03,359 --> 00:19:05,800 Speaker 1: family or no, No, as. 445 00:19:05,680 --> 00:19:07,639 Speaker 2: Long as they're open to it a lot as they like, 446 00:19:07,680 --> 00:19:09,320 Speaker 2: because I feel like I've met girls who didn't have 447 00:19:09,320 --> 00:19:11,560 Speaker 2: a big family and then they like love that I do. Yeah, 448 00:19:11,600 --> 00:19:12,760 Speaker 2: it's not that they came from that. 449 00:19:13,400 --> 00:19:17,320 Speaker 1: But yeah, what are some of your deal breakers? What 450 00:19:17,359 --> 00:19:19,919 Speaker 1: were some of your deal breakers? Like, I mean, when 451 00:19:19,960 --> 00:19:22,160 Speaker 1: you were making your list, was there anything that you're 452 00:19:22,200 --> 00:19:25,960 Speaker 1: like and not this not interested in a woman who's 453 00:19:26,000 --> 00:19:27,880 Speaker 1: high maintenance or I don't know, I'm. 454 00:19:27,680 --> 00:19:30,199 Speaker 4: Just insecurity was a big thing for me because that 455 00:19:30,240 --> 00:19:32,560 Speaker 4: translates to a lot of different stuff. So if they're 456 00:19:32,560 --> 00:19:36,840 Speaker 4: insecure about themselves, it's usually just going to reflect very 457 00:19:36,840 --> 00:19:38,080 Speaker 4: poorly relationship. 458 00:19:38,880 --> 00:19:41,719 Speaker 2: Yeah, mine, I think is not something I could really 459 00:19:41,800 --> 00:19:44,399 Speaker 2: like you could type down necessarily. But respect is like 460 00:19:44,400 --> 00:19:50,440 Speaker 2: the biggest thing for me because so many I don't 461 00:19:50,440 --> 00:19:52,679 Speaker 2: want to say girls and sounds nice, but like so 462 00:19:52,720 --> 00:19:54,720 Speaker 2: many people these days just don't have a respect for 463 00:19:54,760 --> 00:19:57,560 Speaker 2: each other in relationships. And whether that's like posting like 464 00:19:57,640 --> 00:20:00,320 Speaker 2: an inappropriate photo of yourself online while you're with one, 465 00:20:00,560 --> 00:20:04,200 Speaker 2: or just the way you speak to somebody in conversation 466 00:20:04,600 --> 00:20:07,680 Speaker 2: or just how you, you know, conduct yourself out in 467 00:20:07,720 --> 00:20:10,720 Speaker 2: the world of DTA girls in the past that are 468 00:20:10,760 --> 00:20:14,120 Speaker 2: just like doing their own thing, and it's like society 469 00:20:14,119 --> 00:20:16,240 Speaker 2: has changed a little bit, I think. So it feels normal, 470 00:20:16,280 --> 00:20:20,159 Speaker 2: but it's just I think disrespectful. Honestly, if you're with 471 00:20:20,200 --> 00:20:22,639 Speaker 2: someone like you should care about what how they feel 472 00:20:22,680 --> 00:20:26,199 Speaker 2: and like what they want, and yeah, that's just a 473 00:20:26,240 --> 00:20:27,680 Speaker 2: big thing lack in these days. I think. 474 00:20:27,840 --> 00:20:29,800 Speaker 4: I think a big indicator of that if you take 475 00:20:29,800 --> 00:20:32,600 Speaker 4: them to dinner and have them order their own food 476 00:20:32,640 --> 00:20:34,240 Speaker 4: and drinks and stuff, and see how they treat the 477 00:20:34,240 --> 00:20:36,760 Speaker 4: waiters and waitresses. It's usually a good indicator of how 478 00:20:36,800 --> 00:20:42,400 Speaker 4: they respect others. There's people that treat poor media turn 479 00:20:42,480 --> 00:20:44,639 Speaker 4: off or anything like that. 480 00:20:45,240 --> 00:20:45,760 Speaker 3: Anybody. 481 00:20:45,800 --> 00:20:48,040 Speaker 1: You're both perfect. I don't even know what to say. 482 00:20:48,160 --> 00:20:52,800 Speaker 1: I feel so I cannot imagine being part of this 483 00:20:52,840 --> 00:20:54,680 Speaker 1: group of was there fighting with these girls? 484 00:20:58,119 --> 00:20:59,800 Speaker 2: Of course, So you put a bunch of women in 485 00:20:59,840 --> 00:21:01,760 Speaker 2: this same house trying to date the same guy, of 486 00:21:01,760 --> 00:21:03,159 Speaker 2: course there's going to be issues. 487 00:21:03,359 --> 00:21:05,119 Speaker 1: I mean they're listening. There are other dating shows so 488 00:21:05,440 --> 00:21:07,280 Speaker 1: that that obviously, and you see that happen. 489 00:21:07,320 --> 00:21:09,240 Speaker 2: There's a lot of competition, but this one I always 490 00:21:09,240 --> 00:21:11,000 Speaker 2: say I was super impressed with all the women the 491 00:21:11,040 --> 00:21:14,200 Speaker 2: whole time for how they handled situations within each other 492 00:21:14,240 --> 00:21:15,800 Speaker 2: and like how well they got along, like they all 493 00:21:15,840 --> 00:21:17,560 Speaker 2: were friends too, and like some of them still are 494 00:21:17,600 --> 00:21:21,320 Speaker 2: to this day. That was pretty cool because just like 495 00:21:21,400 --> 00:21:23,639 Speaker 2: I said, like how they're if I'm you know, one 496 00:21:23,640 --> 00:21:26,480 Speaker 2: of these girls is treating the other ones poorly in 497 00:21:26,520 --> 00:21:28,560 Speaker 2: the house, it's like not a good sign. 498 00:21:28,600 --> 00:21:31,719 Speaker 1: I love the I love that whole like waiter thing 499 00:21:31,760 --> 00:21:34,439 Speaker 1: that is the biggest turnoff. Yeah, it's awful anybody in 500 00:21:34,440 --> 00:21:36,480 Speaker 1: the service industry. I mean I was a waitress for years, 501 00:21:36,520 --> 00:21:38,760 Speaker 1: but even I like, yeah, it's awful. 502 00:21:39,000 --> 00:21:40,919 Speaker 4: Translates to the rest of your life. It's not just 503 00:21:40,960 --> 00:21:43,680 Speaker 4: treating you know, people in service industry, and we have. 504 00:21:43,640 --> 00:21:45,320 Speaker 2: Like you know, employees on the ranch and all kinds 505 00:21:45,359 --> 00:21:47,840 Speaker 2: of different people come through there. So it's like some 506 00:21:47,920 --> 00:21:51,679 Speaker 2: of the girls like funny story, like, uh, Mario's this 507 00:21:51,920 --> 00:21:53,680 Speaker 2: guy we've had work on the ranch for twenty years 508 00:21:53,680 --> 00:21:56,879 Speaker 2: and just read this quadrontle day whatever. But like some 509 00:21:56,920 --> 00:21:59,040 Speaker 2: of the girls treated him so well, Like it was 510 00:21:59,080 --> 00:22:00,840 Speaker 2: cool to see that. I'm like really like that, you know, 511 00:22:00,920 --> 00:22:02,640 Speaker 2: like he works his butt off here and he means 512 00:22:02,640 --> 00:22:04,679 Speaker 2: a lot to our family, and so they could have 513 00:22:04,760 --> 00:22:08,240 Speaker 2: totally just you know, disregarded him, which some of them 514 00:22:08,280 --> 00:22:10,160 Speaker 2: may have, but like, you know, a lot a few 515 00:22:10,160 --> 00:22:12,240 Speaker 2: of them were like went out of their way to like. 516 00:22:12,640 --> 00:22:14,639 Speaker 1: You know, you guys are both like you giggle at 517 00:22:14,640 --> 00:22:16,760 Speaker 1: each other's stuff, and I have a feeling like there's 518 00:22:16,800 --> 00:22:19,720 Speaker 1: so much behind the scenes, like I love to just 519 00:22:19,760 --> 00:22:22,240 Speaker 1: be do you guys say, in the house together or 520 00:22:22,720 --> 00:22:24,160 Speaker 1: so we were separated us. 521 00:22:24,080 --> 00:22:26,120 Speaker 3: In California as in Missouri, so. 522 00:22:26,040 --> 00:22:29,960 Speaker 2: You guys weren't interacting with all the time production teams. Yeah, 523 00:22:30,280 --> 00:22:33,439 Speaker 2: but three different times throughout the filming we'd fly and 524 00:22:33,480 --> 00:22:35,840 Speaker 2: meet each other with all the girls on us at 525 00:22:35,840 --> 00:22:37,720 Speaker 2: the mutual place for a couple of days. Then we 526 00:22:37,920 --> 00:22:38,479 Speaker 2: talk shopping. 527 00:22:38,720 --> 00:22:52,120 Speaker 1: Got it. This particular podcast that you have come on 528 00:22:52,200 --> 00:22:54,800 Speaker 1: today is we usually are talking to people who are 529 00:22:55,560 --> 00:22:59,280 Speaker 1: divorced or who've been widowed, but but love the second 530 00:22:59,600 --> 00:23:04,560 Speaker 1: timer around. You know, what do you think are sort 531 00:23:04,600 --> 00:23:07,760 Speaker 1: of key elements in terms of making a marriage work? 532 00:23:08,040 --> 00:23:10,720 Speaker 1: And hopefully you all will never be on this podcast 533 00:23:10,800 --> 00:23:12,760 Speaker 1: for that reason it won't be your second time around, 534 00:23:12,800 --> 00:23:15,639 Speaker 1: But do you have any inkling in terms of like 535 00:23:15,720 --> 00:23:19,119 Speaker 1: what happens in marriages and why they sometimes go awry 536 00:23:19,400 --> 00:23:21,320 Speaker 1: or what's necessary to have. 537 00:23:21,320 --> 00:23:23,440 Speaker 2: I don't want to speak for anyone else. Obviously, I 538 00:23:23,480 --> 00:23:25,320 Speaker 2: have not been married and not been through divorce, so 539 00:23:25,560 --> 00:23:27,639 Speaker 2: you know, there's all kinds of different scenarios and reasons, 540 00:23:27,640 --> 00:23:30,240 Speaker 2: and I'm no person to judge whatsoever based on that. 541 00:23:30,320 --> 00:23:34,760 Speaker 2: I've dated a girl in the past that was divorced 542 00:23:34,920 --> 00:23:37,119 Speaker 2: and she was amazing, so no fault to that. But 543 00:23:37,560 --> 00:23:39,119 Speaker 2: I think goes back to what I said about just 544 00:23:39,280 --> 00:23:43,160 Speaker 2: respect and people to me these days are so self 545 00:23:43,200 --> 00:23:46,080 Speaker 2: centered and like what they want and what they're looking 546 00:23:46,119 --> 00:23:50,199 Speaker 2: for that you know, really you should be thinking like 547 00:23:50,240 --> 00:23:52,359 Speaker 2: how can I be a better partner to the person 548 00:23:52,359 --> 00:23:55,600 Speaker 2: that I'm with? You're killing me And that all gets. 549 00:23:55,440 --> 00:23:57,040 Speaker 1: Back you're killing me both of you. 550 00:23:57,280 --> 00:23:58,920 Speaker 2: That all goes back to God. I think if you 551 00:23:58,960 --> 00:24:02,280 Speaker 2: have eleven ors for God, then you too will put 552 00:24:02,320 --> 00:24:03,359 Speaker 2: each other better. 553 00:24:03,720 --> 00:24:06,640 Speaker 1: Amazing. You can't top that, but go ahead and try. 554 00:24:06,720 --> 00:24:07,520 Speaker 3: Well, I mean I'll try. 555 00:24:07,640 --> 00:24:09,720 Speaker 4: But I agree with him in the beginning where he 556 00:24:09,800 --> 00:24:12,879 Speaker 4: said everybody's situations are different, so no judgment whatsoever. And 557 00:24:12,920 --> 00:24:15,800 Speaker 4: I have no personal experience with a marriage. 558 00:24:15,840 --> 00:24:17,040 Speaker 3: I've never been married. 559 00:24:17,160 --> 00:24:19,800 Speaker 4: But the way I see my parents do. It is 560 00:24:19,880 --> 00:24:23,320 Speaker 4: obviously they always make up before bed, and then they 561 00:24:23,359 --> 00:24:29,440 Speaker 4: both going into the marriage realized and still realize that 562 00:24:29,560 --> 00:24:32,320 Speaker 4: it's a partnership. You know, it's not one person. 563 00:24:33,480 --> 00:24:36,439 Speaker 3: Being there. I don't know where I'm going with that. 564 00:24:36,920 --> 00:24:38,959 Speaker 1: No, I know what you're saying. It goes back to 565 00:24:39,119 --> 00:24:40,960 Speaker 1: respect and to right. 566 00:24:41,000 --> 00:24:44,119 Speaker 3: You're one person. Yeah, you're just not two separate people together. 567 00:24:44,280 --> 00:24:45,480 Speaker 3: It's like it's one person. 568 00:24:45,520 --> 00:24:48,720 Speaker 4: Sorry, buy us a sacrifice where the other falls short 569 00:24:48,760 --> 00:24:49,480 Speaker 4: and stuff like that. 570 00:24:49,680 --> 00:24:53,600 Speaker 1: Right, right, So I'm sorry, but we're going to have 571 00:24:53,640 --> 00:24:56,760 Speaker 1: to be a little more salacious. Now, guys, what can 572 00:24:56,800 --> 00:24:58,200 Speaker 1: you tell me? What can't you tell me? Are you 573 00:24:58,240 --> 00:24:59,840 Speaker 1: allowed to tell me there are any spoilers? 574 00:25:00,640 --> 00:25:03,399 Speaker 3: Why don't you just ask the question somebody? 575 00:25:03,440 --> 00:25:06,879 Speaker 2: Now we can't say, right exactly, we're going to ask question, 576 00:25:07,040 --> 00:25:08,159 Speaker 2: why are you even ask? Okay? 577 00:25:08,680 --> 00:25:11,600 Speaker 1: Were there were you guys? As hard was it? Did 578 00:25:11,640 --> 00:25:13,480 Speaker 1: it come down to like their two girls that it 579 00:25:13,520 --> 00:25:15,440 Speaker 1: came down to or three girls? 580 00:25:15,480 --> 00:25:16,960 Speaker 3: And it was tough? 581 00:25:17,200 --> 00:25:17,520 Speaker 1: It was. 582 00:25:17,800 --> 00:25:18,520 Speaker 3: Yeah. 583 00:25:18,760 --> 00:25:22,359 Speaker 4: At the beginning when we met all eight, it was 584 00:25:22,400 --> 00:25:24,320 Speaker 4: a little easier, especially because you only got to spend 585 00:25:24,400 --> 00:25:27,320 Speaker 4: ten minutes with the person, right, But then as time 586 00:25:27,359 --> 00:25:30,320 Speaker 4: went on, you started to build these, you know, stronger 587 00:25:30,359 --> 00:25:32,800 Speaker 4: relationships with each and every girl. It started to get 588 00:25:32,800 --> 00:25:34,800 Speaker 4: really tough, especially at the end when it was down 589 00:25:34,800 --> 00:25:36,119 Speaker 4: to like three and two and stuff. 590 00:25:36,160 --> 00:25:37,800 Speaker 1: Like you when I say, is there, are you happy 591 00:25:37,840 --> 00:25:40,760 Speaker 1: with how it all wrapped up? You are? You both 592 00:25:40,800 --> 00:25:48,240 Speaker 1: met someone I'm guessing I said, yeah, that's it because 593 00:25:48,240 --> 00:25:52,120 Speaker 1: we never had friends before. About yourselves, guys going through 594 00:25:52,119 --> 00:25:54,680 Speaker 1: the experience, let me. 595 00:25:54,640 --> 00:25:57,080 Speaker 2: Think about that. One The hardest thing I already knew 596 00:25:57,119 --> 00:25:59,200 Speaker 2: this about myself was but I don't really like getting 597 00:25:59,240 --> 00:26:03,000 Speaker 2: into like talking about my feelings, you know, especially on TV. 598 00:26:04,560 --> 00:26:07,399 Speaker 2: That was really hard because you're like daily they're like prying, 599 00:26:07,520 --> 00:26:09,600 Speaker 2: like what what do you really feel about this girl? 600 00:26:11,200 --> 00:26:12,760 Speaker 2: That was difficult for me to do. 601 00:26:13,960 --> 00:26:15,760 Speaker 1: Do you come from a family where people where you 602 00:26:15,760 --> 00:26:17,600 Speaker 1: guys talk about feelings a lot or is it just. 603 00:26:17,680 --> 00:26:21,200 Speaker 2: So much right now? Not really like ever my family 604 00:26:22,080 --> 00:26:24,199 Speaker 2: about a feeling. My family is like loving, but we 605 00:26:24,240 --> 00:26:26,880 Speaker 2: don't like get too much or anything like that. So, yeah, 606 00:26:26,880 --> 00:26:27,760 Speaker 2: that was difficult for me. 607 00:26:27,920 --> 00:26:33,400 Speaker 1: You guys affectionate, Yeah, yeah, interesting ways, but I don't 608 00:26:33,440 --> 00:26:34,000 Speaker 1: know what that means. 609 00:26:35,600 --> 00:26:37,200 Speaker 3: Yeah, like fighting all the time. 610 00:26:39,280 --> 00:26:40,960 Speaker 2: Each other? Okay, yeah, I love. 611 00:26:40,840 --> 00:26:41,280 Speaker 3: You, but I want. 612 00:26:41,320 --> 00:26:43,080 Speaker 4: My dad told me, you know, he's been looking at 613 00:26:43,080 --> 00:26:45,680 Speaker 4: all these pictures his way of complimenting me, as he says, 614 00:26:45,720 --> 00:26:46,760 Speaker 4: he wants to slap the. 615 00:26:46,760 --> 00:26:50,919 Speaker 2: Ship out of you. That's what my family. Families are 616 00:26:50,920 --> 00:26:52,679 Speaker 2: both like that. We would never say. 617 00:26:52,520 --> 00:26:56,720 Speaker 1: Anything like just like gross, like like you're just I 618 00:26:56,720 --> 00:26:58,800 Speaker 1: can just imagine, like my family, if someone did this, 619 00:26:59,320 --> 00:27:01,959 Speaker 1: we would just tear that person's shreds. 620 00:27:03,240 --> 00:27:03,800 Speaker 3: NonStop. 621 00:27:04,280 --> 00:27:05,840 Speaker 1: I love that though, But you. 622 00:27:05,760 --> 00:27:08,920 Speaker 3: Know what keep it coming comming. 623 00:27:09,640 --> 00:27:12,760 Speaker 1: So wait, so did you learn anything about yourself? 624 00:27:13,480 --> 00:27:16,040 Speaker 4: I guess I learned more what I really wanted, you know, 625 00:27:16,240 --> 00:27:17,880 Speaker 4: going into the show, like I said, we have those 626 00:27:17,920 --> 00:27:20,720 Speaker 4: preferences and everything, but going through it and having to 627 00:27:20,760 --> 00:27:23,359 Speaker 4: talk about it every single day from dawn till dusk, 628 00:27:23,680 --> 00:27:26,080 Speaker 4: you kind of have a more narrow sense of what 629 00:27:26,119 --> 00:27:27,240 Speaker 4: you actually are looking. 630 00:27:27,040 --> 00:27:30,359 Speaker 1: For, what stood out the most, So by the end 631 00:27:30,359 --> 00:27:33,240 Speaker 1: of it, like what what made sense that maybe didn't before, 632 00:27:33,240 --> 00:27:35,760 Speaker 1: Like I really want to like in terms of when 633 00:27:35,800 --> 00:27:38,680 Speaker 1: you got close to finding that that one woman, this 634 00:27:38,720 --> 00:27:40,480 Speaker 1: is what I like. I didn't even realize I liked it, 635 00:27:40,520 --> 00:27:42,639 Speaker 1: but this is so important to me or anything. 636 00:27:42,720 --> 00:27:44,080 Speaker 4: I think it just goes back to what I said 637 00:27:44,080 --> 00:27:46,840 Speaker 4: earlier about just being able to get along with somebody. Yeah, 638 00:27:47,119 --> 00:27:49,240 Speaker 4: you know, you come in with all these high expectations, 639 00:27:49,240 --> 00:27:50,840 Speaker 4: but in the end, you know, if you guys can't 640 00:27:50,840 --> 00:27:53,560 Speaker 4: really get along, it's not really going to work out. So, 641 00:27:54,240 --> 00:27:56,400 Speaker 4: you know, especially if you're going to get married, you're 642 00:27:56,400 --> 00:27:58,240 Speaker 4: going to be spending a lot of time with each other. 643 00:27:58,280 --> 00:28:00,840 Speaker 3: So there's true plenty of things to learn, that's true. 644 00:28:00,880 --> 00:28:03,119 Speaker 4: Used to so as long as you guys get along 645 00:28:03,320 --> 00:28:05,320 Speaker 4: right off the bat, right, it's usually okay. 646 00:28:06,560 --> 00:28:08,959 Speaker 2: Yeah, mine, mine. I've been thinking about how to describe 647 00:28:08,960 --> 00:28:12,080 Speaker 2: this for years, but mine is just such like this 648 00:28:12,240 --> 00:28:14,159 Speaker 2: mental thing, like I feel like I can almost just 649 00:28:14,240 --> 00:28:16,280 Speaker 2: like look at someone and know, like are we thinking 650 00:28:16,359 --> 00:28:18,080 Speaker 2: the same thing right now? You know, And it's like 651 00:28:18,080 --> 00:28:19,879 Speaker 2: this like I don't know how you put that into 652 00:28:19,920 --> 00:28:23,040 Speaker 2: words or describe that, but like this connection And I've 653 00:28:23,080 --> 00:28:25,959 Speaker 2: really hardly ever felt that with girls, you know, yeah, 654 00:28:26,000 --> 00:28:28,160 Speaker 2: throughout my life maybe a couple of times, you know, And. 655 00:28:28,119 --> 00:28:30,240 Speaker 1: So like, yeah, did you get to feel that on 656 00:28:30,280 --> 00:28:30,760 Speaker 1: the show. 657 00:28:31,359 --> 00:28:36,040 Speaker 2: Well, you know, it's certainly possible, okay, but trying, but yeah, 658 00:28:36,040 --> 00:28:39,080 Speaker 2: it's like I've dated girls that I thought I really 659 00:28:39,160 --> 00:28:42,680 Speaker 2: liked before and then like as time has gone on, 660 00:28:42,760 --> 00:28:44,800 Speaker 2: I'm like, wait, maybe like that it is not really 661 00:28:44,800 --> 00:28:45,800 Speaker 2: there as much as I thought. 662 00:28:45,840 --> 00:28:50,160 Speaker 1: You know, yep, did you have a specific physical type 663 00:28:50,680 --> 00:28:53,280 Speaker 1: like in your past? Did you always gravitate towards a 664 00:28:53,280 --> 00:28:57,400 Speaker 1: specific physical type or no? Yes? 665 00:28:57,520 --> 00:28:59,800 Speaker 2: No, generally yes, but I'm not like, oh, I only 666 00:28:59,840 --> 00:29:01,840 Speaker 2: like are only like that's like that's not so much that, 667 00:29:01,880 --> 00:29:07,400 Speaker 2: it's more of like careful, be careful. 668 00:29:08,920 --> 00:29:09,320 Speaker 3: Lying here. 669 00:29:09,480 --> 00:29:09,680 Speaker 1: Yeah. 670 00:29:09,800 --> 00:29:12,680 Speaker 2: No, I'm really into my health and like fitness, and obviously. 671 00:29:14,880 --> 00:29:21,920 Speaker 1: You like thin girls. Yes, yeah, okay, that's no, you didn't. 672 00:29:22,360 --> 00:29:24,040 Speaker 2: Just someone that's like that's important to me. It's like 673 00:29:24,080 --> 00:29:26,480 Speaker 2: my health and coolness, and I want someone that aligns 674 00:29:26,520 --> 00:29:26,800 Speaker 2: with that. 675 00:29:26,880 --> 00:29:30,000 Speaker 4: So yeah, somebody who's confident in themselves too. Yeah, it's mate, 676 00:29:30,040 --> 00:29:30,600 Speaker 4: it's massive. 677 00:29:30,640 --> 00:29:33,080 Speaker 2: I'm a sucker for a girl that's like really stylish 678 00:29:33,080 --> 00:29:34,680 Speaker 2: and trendy. Yeah, I don't know why. 679 00:29:34,960 --> 00:29:38,040 Speaker 1: I love that? Yeah are you? 680 00:29:38,160 --> 00:29:38,800 Speaker 3: Yeah? Of course? 681 00:29:38,960 --> 00:29:42,840 Speaker 1: Yeah. So the stylish thing, the fit thing. You got 682 00:29:42,840 --> 00:29:47,320 Speaker 1: to give me something over here? What else physically? 683 00:29:47,360 --> 00:29:49,920 Speaker 3: Yeah, I'm not going to get myself trouble. 684 00:29:50,720 --> 00:29:53,160 Speaker 4: You want to talk about hair color, I'll say hair color, okay, okay, 685 00:29:53,200 --> 00:29:53,719 Speaker 4: we'll give you that. 686 00:29:53,800 --> 00:29:55,440 Speaker 3: I think I gravitate more towards. 687 00:29:55,200 --> 00:29:58,000 Speaker 1: Blondes responds, Okay, fifty to fifty on that one. 688 00:29:58,160 --> 00:30:01,040 Speaker 3: Okay, I'm not going to say, but that's just based short's. 689 00:30:01,720 --> 00:30:03,560 Speaker 1: All right, whatever, you guys are impossible. 690 00:30:03,680 --> 00:30:04,240 Speaker 3: You're smart. 691 00:30:04,520 --> 00:30:06,280 Speaker 1: You guys, you are smart guys. You're gonna get all 692 00:30:06,280 --> 00:30:08,200 Speaker 1: these are gonna have to watch to find out what 693 00:30:08,240 --> 00:30:10,479 Speaker 1: it is it turns you want. So before I let 694 00:30:10,520 --> 00:30:12,160 Speaker 1: you guys go, I have a question that sort of 695 00:30:12,200 --> 00:30:15,000 Speaker 1: goes back to what we were talking about in at 696 00:30:15,040 --> 00:30:17,480 Speaker 1: the beginning here, but so on the show, I would 697 00:30:17,480 --> 00:30:19,120 Speaker 1: think that the women have to be a little more forward, 698 00:30:19,120 --> 00:30:20,960 Speaker 1: don't They have sort of come to you? 699 00:30:21,240 --> 00:30:21,440 Speaker 2: Right? 700 00:30:22,040 --> 00:30:25,640 Speaker 1: Do you think that that's something that you like when 701 00:30:25,680 --> 00:30:26,840 Speaker 1: a woman makes the first move. 702 00:30:27,360 --> 00:30:31,360 Speaker 4: I guess it depends on where and how they do it. 703 00:30:31,480 --> 00:30:32,280 Speaker 2: Yeah, there's different. 704 00:30:32,640 --> 00:30:37,120 Speaker 1: Doesn't really bother me, No, but that's sort of how 705 00:30:37,160 --> 00:30:38,600 Speaker 1: it worked, right, Definitely. 706 00:30:38,880 --> 00:30:41,920 Speaker 4: Would I rather have it that way? No, But it's 707 00:30:42,000 --> 00:30:43,479 Speaker 4: not like it's a turnoff or anything. 708 00:30:44,280 --> 00:30:46,480 Speaker 2: I think it's It's really hard. That's hard to answer, 709 00:30:46,640 --> 00:30:48,560 Speaker 2: is that it depends on how it's a situation a 710 00:30:49,160 --> 00:30:52,400 Speaker 2: situation answer, it depends in the past, had a girl 711 00:30:52,560 --> 00:30:54,840 Speaker 2: like approached me, but then just did it so well 712 00:30:54,880 --> 00:30:57,560 Speaker 2: like that I was still into it, you know, versus 713 00:30:57,640 --> 00:30:58,920 Speaker 2: you could do it and be like way over the 714 00:30:58,960 --> 00:31:00,720 Speaker 2: top and like hi, like hey around and all that 715 00:31:00,760 --> 00:31:02,360 Speaker 2: stuff and they're like, oh okay, this is a lot. 716 00:31:02,400 --> 00:31:04,720 Speaker 2: But I've had it too where a girl just like 717 00:31:04,800 --> 00:31:06,960 Speaker 2: has says some smart remark to me that walks away 718 00:31:07,000 --> 00:31:08,440 Speaker 2: and I'm like, oh okay, hell. 719 00:31:08,520 --> 00:31:10,320 Speaker 4: I don't recommend it for a girl though, because a 720 00:31:10,360 --> 00:31:13,160 Speaker 4: guy doesn't put in as much effort to impress them. 721 00:31:13,280 --> 00:31:17,760 Speaker 1: Guys. I appreciate this. I agree, I could guys don't 722 00:31:17,800 --> 00:31:20,239 Speaker 1: do that much anymore because they you know what. I 723 00:31:20,280 --> 00:31:22,480 Speaker 1: think that that just is true, and it's not true 724 00:31:22,520 --> 00:31:25,840 Speaker 1: for everybody, and it's not an absolute, but I think 725 00:31:25,920 --> 00:31:31,800 Speaker 1: that in terms of my experience, I think that men 726 00:31:31,880 --> 00:31:35,280 Speaker 1: do tend to want to take the lead right and 727 00:31:35,320 --> 00:31:39,560 Speaker 1: sort of again want what they think that they can't have. 728 00:31:39,720 --> 00:31:44,320 Speaker 1: And yeah, there's all this hunter gatherer philosophy behind it all, right, 729 00:31:44,440 --> 00:31:45,960 Speaker 1: like a hunters win are gatherers. 730 00:31:46,240 --> 00:31:47,880 Speaker 2: Unfortunately, a lot of guys I don't think they're doing 731 00:31:47,880 --> 00:31:48,840 Speaker 2: that as much these days. 732 00:31:48,920 --> 00:31:51,720 Speaker 1: Yeah they're not making the first move, well they are. 733 00:31:51,520 --> 00:31:54,800 Speaker 4: But they'll like an Instagram story and yeah, they you know, really. 734 00:31:55,200 --> 00:31:57,680 Speaker 2: I remember my brothers he's twelve years older than me, 735 00:31:57,760 --> 00:31:59,560 Speaker 2: but all his buddies when they'd go out and they'd 736 00:31:59,560 --> 00:32:01,000 Speaker 2: be talking like, oh, I went up to this girl 737 00:32:01,000 --> 00:32:02,800 Speaker 2: to night or I said this, and like then now, 738 00:32:02,840 --> 00:32:05,520 Speaker 2: I like compare that to like my friends or even 739 00:32:05,640 --> 00:32:08,000 Speaker 2: younger guys, and I'm like, they're not really doing that 740 00:32:08,040 --> 00:32:08,600 Speaker 2: at all, hardly. 741 00:32:09,160 --> 00:32:11,720 Speaker 1: This is such a big conversation and I have so 742 00:32:11,840 --> 00:32:13,440 Speaker 1: much and you guys are going to have to come 743 00:32:13,480 --> 00:32:15,520 Speaker 1: back because I think that what you're saying right now 744 00:32:15,560 --> 00:32:18,480 Speaker 1: is fascinating and I feel like young men today, it's 745 00:32:18,520 --> 00:32:22,479 Speaker 1: a really big problem that they are swiping, swiping, swiping. 746 00:32:22,480 --> 00:32:24,640 Speaker 1: I think there's a lot of problems with self esteem 747 00:32:24,640 --> 00:32:28,520 Speaker 1: in that. I think that it is has created a 748 00:32:28,520 --> 00:32:30,720 Speaker 1: scenario where you know, you have to go out, you 749 00:32:30,800 --> 00:32:32,440 Speaker 1: have to it has to be face to face, you 750 00:32:32,520 --> 00:32:35,240 Speaker 1: got to get rejected, you got to make good decisions, 751 00:32:35,240 --> 00:32:37,640 Speaker 1: you got to make bad decisions. All of that I 752 00:32:37,640 --> 00:32:40,840 Speaker 1: think is so important. And when you're you know, in 753 00:32:40,880 --> 00:32:44,600 Speaker 1: the basement, swiping, swiping, it's it's just it's yeah, I 754 00:32:44,640 --> 00:32:47,560 Speaker 1: think it is a huge problem, but not our problem. Today. 755 00:32:47,920 --> 00:32:52,120 Speaker 1: We will be watching than John, Thank you, Thank you, guys. 756 00:32:52,120 --> 00:32:54,240 Speaker 1: So much. Are you ready to get back out there 757 00:32:54,240 --> 00:32:56,640 Speaker 1: and date again. 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