Speaker 1: This is he said a Yadeh with Eric Winter and
Speaker 1: Rodlin Fantev. Okay, welcome to another episode, he said, A
Speaker 1: ya d ho where ayad Ho was tardy as usual
Speaker 1: and they.
Speaker 2: I apologize, guys, I thought it was eleven thirty.
Speaker 1: But it was even read texts. You gotta be in
Speaker 1: the loop.
Speaker 2: My apology. So how are you? How's everybody?
Speaker 1: He said, A yady I want to start off by
Speaker 1: saying one thing. You know, it's so funny. As we
Speaker 1: were about to start this podcast, I started getting a
Speaker 1: bunch of messages on like cameo and Instagram and fans
Speaker 1: reaching out because they listened to the last podcast, and
Speaker 1: so many fans felt bad that you were going through
Speaker 1: all this social media nightmare, you know, nonsense with all
Speaker 1: the messages and blah blah blah, and so a lot
Speaker 1: of fans actually reached out and wanted to relate messages
Speaker 1: to you, to me saying Roslyn, we love you. We're
Speaker 1: actually huge fans of yours for years.
Speaker 2: I haven't I haven't read anything.
Speaker 1: Yeah. No, they reached out to me directly and let
Speaker 1: her know that we just absolutely love her and respect
Speaker 1: her and think she's amazing, and we've watched her for
Speaker 1: you know, many many years and been fans of years
Speaker 1: for a long time, and they just want you to
Speaker 1: know that it's not like that everywhere.
Speaker 2: That's very nice.
Speaker 1: So I told them I to make sure to relay
Speaker 1: the message.
Speaker 2: Appreciate you guys.
Speaker 1: So what about uh, our trip to Minnesota we had
Speaker 1: Valentine's away from the kids. That was like one of
Speaker 1: the last things we talked about.
Speaker 2: Yes, it was a success.
Speaker 1: You know, we're friends.
Speaker 2: So this mocktail and it's really interesting, you guys, when
Speaker 2: you come up with a with a brand from scratch,
Speaker 2: from zero that you have to deal with the formula
Speaker 2: formula meaning the combination of flavors, and it's like scientific almost.
Speaker 1: What they say. It's chemistry and not just that. But
Speaker 1: we're we're trying to you know, we want to do
Speaker 1: something that is very low in sugar, but we're very
Speaker 1: you know, health conscious. So it's like the things that
Speaker 1: are going to be in there as sweeteners aren't going
Speaker 1: to be you know, ideally things that are bad sweeteners.
Speaker 1: We want to have health healthy properties.
Speaker 2: It's really interesting because the first bad that we got
Speaker 2: we didn't go to the distillery in the liquid. That's
Speaker 2: what you call it. The liquid was sent to us
Speaker 2: and it was four flavors, all based on like Puerto
Speaker 2: Rican fruits, not fully native. Some are native, but some
Speaker 2: are just very common in Puerto Rico, the guava, starfruit, pomosa, pineapple,
Speaker 2: things like that. Now we're going to introduce us. Oh,
Speaker 2: now we're gonna introduce canempa. But anyways, the flavors came
Speaker 2: back and they were so incredible that we're like, oh
Speaker 2: my god, this is the best mocktail on the fruity side,
Speaker 2: you know, because they are they are going to have
Speaker 2: some fruity component to it. It's not like you're drinking.
Speaker 2: I want to do a non alcoholic beer or I
Speaker 2: want to do a non alcoholic to hito. But you
Speaker 2: know a lot of times it tastes like a mohito,
Speaker 2: but it doesn't have alcohol because I don't like the
Speaker 2: taste of alcohol. Is that's not my case. My mocktails
Speaker 2: are not going to resemble alcohol. They're just gonna be delicious.
Speaker 1: However, I will say couple of them to me, because
Speaker 1: you're not a drinker, did have a nice resemblance to certainly.
Speaker 2: The one that has tamarind. But this is what's interesting guys.
Speaker 2: So we get the first batch and I was like,
Speaker 2: this is it. This is amazing. Then we ask for
Speaker 2: the sugar content and we were like oh no, no, wonder.
Speaker 2: So we're like, I cannot be promoting something that I
Speaker 2: consume because I'm very health conscious. I cannot be giving
Speaker 2: people something that is, oh my god, I so yummy.
Speaker 2: But you're basically drinking a twistler. So we're like, this
Speaker 2: is not going to work. So we've been going back
Speaker 2: and forth, back and forth and trying to find like
Speaker 2: an element of wealth, wealth wellness. How do you say that?
Speaker 2: Let me reveal that again, trying to find an element
Speaker 2: of wellness and make it a functional mocktail so when
Speaker 2: you're drinking it is actually good for you.
Speaker 1: There's a health benefit along the way. That is going
Speaker 1: to be important to us because obviously, like we said,
Speaker 1: we're health conscious, but we are something.
Speaker 2: You're driving me mad.
Speaker 1: I heard this back for I have to fix the camera.
Speaker 2: Eric is interrupting my flow. He's going back and forth,
Speaker 2: back and forth, back and forth. That clip okay, anyways, Yeah,
Speaker 2: so we wanted to be healthy, deligious, so that's what
Speaker 2: happened in Minnesota.
Speaker 1: Would do then, but then We found out when we
Speaker 1: were doing a sign in Miami that THHC mocktails are
Speaker 1: actually selling through the roof, So we might do one
Speaker 1: mocktail just THC in it, which is going to be
Speaker 1: awesome to get roseland drinking that one. I can't wait
Speaker 1: for her.
Speaker 2: So we tested the THHC and our friends which hopefully
Speaker 2: are going to be our partners in this business venture,
Speaker 2: were there and Eric and they took it and not
Speaker 2: they didn't feel anything, And of course I take it,
Speaker 2: and then I'm asking everybody, you guys, don't feel like
Speaker 2: a little lightheaded like nobody felt anything, but.
Speaker 1: She felt it. But she made herself feel it, which
Speaker 1: always happens with you like him association.
Speaker 2: What I am. My system is very clean, so anything
Speaker 2: that I introduced to it that might give it a
Speaker 2: little bit of a whatever feeling, it happens.
Speaker 1: We did have a fun quick trip though, because it
Speaker 1: Wasentine's Day and we landed and it was full of
Speaker 1: snow in Minnesota. It was amazing. Went to an awesome
Speaker 1: steakhouse and just a fun like single day getaway with
Speaker 1: another couple that exup of friends of ours and being
Speaker 1: able to be you know, away from the kids for
Speaker 1: a night, which you always missed them, but like being
Speaker 1: away from them for the night was fun, and like
Speaker 1: experiencing a snowy Minneapolis was was cool. So it was
Speaker 1: a great trip.
Speaker 2: It was really and eric One came back to Los
Speaker 2: Angeles and I went from Minnesota snowing, freezing to Puerto
Speaker 2: Rico for two days ninety degrees, humid, sunny, and I
Speaker 2: was like, oh, my music video to the point that
Speaker 2: my big, big coat. I left it with my friend Jarline,
Speaker 2: and I said, Jarline, can you just keep this because
Speaker 2: I don't need to hear in Puerto Rico and I
Speaker 2: can't even fit it in some of my luggage and
Speaker 2: I don't want to put it on. So yeah, I
Speaker 2: left for my coat. Anyway, So with the music video
Speaker 2: for the girls for the movie, it was unbelievable and
Speaker 2: I'm very excited.
Speaker 1: Yeah, it was cool. It was great. It was a
Speaker 1: very productive trip.
Speaker 2: And now I leave again.
Speaker 1: Now she goes again, go NiFe on the road for
Speaker 1: a month.
Speaker 2: Oh life on the road.
Speaker 1: She's going to do a movie with Rob Low in Budapest,
Speaker 1: which is gonna be interesting, but it's gonna be fun
Speaker 1: because in three weeks we're going to go meet her
Speaker 1: there with me and the kids, and we're gonna go
Speaker 1: to Budapest for a week and Sebbie's gonna play tennis there,
Speaker 1: and then we're gonna go on vacation to Paris for
Speaker 1: a week right after that. Since we're over in that
Speaker 1: part of the world, We're like, let's extend spring break.
Speaker 2: So they've been wanting they've been wanting to go to
Speaker 2: Paris so badly.
Speaker 1: Yes, I he's taking French in school, so she'll get
Speaker 1: a chance to do something and try it. And then
Speaker 1: I go back to Paris right after that for the
Speaker 1: con that I'm doing in Paris for in May, like
Speaker 1: the first week in a mess.
Speaker 2: So you're going back to back.
Speaker 1: I got to go to Paris back to back within
Speaker 1: like a month apart.
Speaker 2: That's crazy.
Speaker 1: So I'll be seeing y'all in France. That'll be fun.
Speaker 2: Let me tell them then, now spend He's not out,
Speaker 2: But guys, I'm doing this movie is horror. I've never
Speaker 2: done horror, and that's one of the things that entices
Speaker 2: me because I was like, I've never done this. Genera,
Speaker 2: that's how you say general, it's a hey needle, And
Speaker 2: I said, and then I love Roblou, so I was like,
Speaker 2: this is going to be pretty cool, but I didn't know,
Speaker 2: to be honest, and I learned after the fact that
Speaker 2: it is based on an ip that people that like horror,
Speaker 2: they love it. It's like a thriller horror and it's
Speaker 2: called the Third Parent and it's this character that is
Speaker 2: very spooky called Tommy Tommy Taffy, and people that know
Speaker 2: about Tommy Taffy is like a huge deal because I
Speaker 2: guess it's a very not beloved because it's scary, but
Speaker 2: a very well known ip. So yeah, I'm gonna get
Speaker 2: ready to be depressed and scared for every depression.
Speaker 1: It's gonna be scared for your life because where you
Speaker 1: live or will you die? People are gonna have to
Speaker 1: watch it.
Speaker 2: They're gonna have to watch it, you know what I'm
Speaker 2: gonna this is something completely unrelated. But guys, I don't
Speaker 2: know if anybody, I'm sure a lot of our listeners
Speaker 2: because it's pretty common. It's just that people don't recognize
Speaker 2: it if you suffer from a panic attack. So everybody
Speaker 2: knows that I'm very cloustrophobic, but I don't really feel
Speaker 2: like I suffer from like a panic attack. Anyways, I'm
Speaker 2: listening to this podcast and the guess is the Latino
Speaker 2: that is very well known, you know her beautiful girl,
Speaker 2: and she's talking about her life and you know on
Speaker 2: her journey. She comes from Tijuana, then moved to San
Speaker 2: Diego and now she does really well. And she was
Speaker 2: saying that she was experimenting panic attacks and she never
Speaker 2: had that before experiencing and then she was describing the
Speaker 2: bad one that she had in Vegas. Was she was
Speaker 2: there with her husband. She came from work for like
Speaker 2: seven months. She was in Mexico shooting a soap for
Speaker 2: seven months, having a blast, but at the same time
Speaker 2: miserable because she was away from her husband and her kid,
Speaker 2: and she didn't realize how bad it was. And it
Speaker 2: hit her when she went back, came back to the
Speaker 2: States and she had a full own panic attack on
Speaker 2: a little getaway to Vegas with her husband just to reconnect.
Speaker 1: Wait, she didn't have panic attack when she was gone,
Speaker 1: she had it when she reached.
Speaker 2: She knew she was funky, well she was away kind
Speaker 2: of like I'm acting like I'm happy, but I'm actually
Speaker 2: not very happy. I can't wait to get out of here.
Speaker 2: So she was going through the motions, but a full
Speaker 2: on physical panic attack. She had it when she came back.
Speaker 2: So now the therapist is saying, it was your body
Speaker 2: basically going haywire because you're back into your routine, and
Speaker 2: it was the way your body basically was coping with
Speaker 2: like I'm back, and the repressing all those feelings for
Speaker 2: several months. It just came crashing down when she was back,
Speaker 2: and when she was explaining the symptoms, I was like,
Speaker 2: oh my god, you remember when I was away. I
Speaker 2: think I went to I think I was in Puerto
Speaker 2: Rico doing on the card the movie that is going
Speaker 2: to come out with Wan the Sikes, and then I
Speaker 2: went straight to the Mohurica fe And then as I
Speaker 2: was gone for a while and I came back, you
Speaker 2: were sleeping. I landed like at midnight, kids were sleeping.
Speaker 2: You're sleeping. And I got a really bad headache on
Speaker 2: my way back to the house, which I get this
Speaker 2: a lot, because I think because of the migraine. And
Speaker 2: I remember putting the luggage in the living room and
Speaker 2: then walk into the kitchen and having a full on
Speaker 2: tingling sensation. My hands were fully tingling, numb, my body.
Speaker 2: I had to sit down at the bar. I'm sitting down,
Speaker 2: my heart is racing. I'm going, oh my god, I
Speaker 2: think I'm gonna have a heart attack. I didn't want
Speaker 2: to wake you up. I never told me, so I
Speaker 2: walked all the way, basically crawling to the little kitchen
Speaker 2: nuke and I basically plumped myself into that bench and
Speaker 2: I'm praying and praying and breathing, going, oh my god,
Speaker 2: I'm gonna have a heart attack and nobody they're gonna
Speaker 2: find me dead. And I'm breathing. I didn't take you.
Speaker 2: The next morning and I'm breathing and breathing, and I
Speaker 2: basically I got out of it and I was like, Okay,
Speaker 2: I think it's gone. And then I drank some water,
Speaker 2: I had something to eat, I took a shower, and
Speaker 2: I went to bed. And I will never I was
Speaker 2: I always always stay with me going what was that
Speaker 2: about it? Because I'm talking about it. It was no more
Speaker 2: than ten minutes.
Speaker 1: What's weird is you think you had the panic attack
Speaker 1: while you were gone? Now when you arrived.
Speaker 2: No, And I was like, when I'm living sitting to
Speaker 2: this podcast of this girl, I was like, oh my god,
Speaker 2: she described exactly what I went through.
Speaker 1: Maybe there's a panic attack of reintegrating back into life.
Speaker 1: I have no idea because it is a weird thing.
Speaker 1: I don't know what.
Speaker 2: Have you ever had a panic attack?
Speaker 1: No, I don't suffer, so you don't know what that is.
Speaker 2: But I don't suffer from that either.
Speaker 1: You do versions claustrophobia, I mean, but not like that.
Speaker 1: But you panic. So it's like you leading you. You
Speaker 1: do suffer from panic attacks.
Speaker 2: It just comes when talking about the panic attack that
Speaker 2: you just don't know what's happening with you. I wasn't
Speaker 2: in a confined space. I was none of that.
Speaker 1: Your panic attacks get triggered bout other things. But you
Speaker 1: have had panic attacks.
Speaker 2: So maybe I'm susceptible.
Speaker 1: Yeah, for sure, you definitely that's something you deal with.
Speaker 2: I'm going to tell you something. It's no fun, like
Speaker 2: that suffer from this, like not the closerphobia. One people
Speaker 2: that suffer from like panic attacks. Like we have a
Speaker 2: good friend of ours that have twins and one of
Speaker 2: them out of nowhere, has a panic attack, and they're
Speaker 2: like trying to deal with that situation. It's like it
Speaker 2: must be really scary.
Speaker 1: It has to be tough. I mean, it's a lot
Speaker 1: to cope with and people, don't you know, when you
Speaker 1: travel for a long periods of time, not to shoot,
Speaker 1: but anybody, it is hard. Like it's you know, there's
Speaker 1: a moment where you're like, wow, okay, I'm away, I
Speaker 1: can sleep in a little bit, I get to experience
Speaker 1: something new. But then you very quickly realize like, oh
Speaker 1: my god, I'm gone from my family for a long time.
Speaker 2: Well, the only reason I took this job, guy, is
Speaker 2: to be honest with you, was because it is going
Speaker 2: to coincide with spring break. And I was like, the
Speaker 2: kids and Eric can come. So I'm away for five weeks,
Speaker 2: but you guys are there for two weeks.
Speaker 1: Away for five weeks. You're there for oh yeah, yeh,
Speaker 1: you're away a half weeks and two get there.
Speaker 2: So I'm going to be alone before three and a
Speaker 2: half weeks and then you guys come. That's the only
Speaker 2: way and the only reason why, because you know how
Speaker 2: I get when I have to leave, I'll get down.
Speaker 2: I'm like I get a little and see, I'm I'm
Speaker 2: not happy this one. It's really far away. But the
Speaker 2: only reason that I'm going you know what, ros's just
Speaker 2: enjoy it. You've never done this. Genera is a great script.
Speaker 2: Just enjoyed. And I know it is because, Oh, they're coming, Oh,
Speaker 2: they're gonna come. By the time I realize that I'm
Speaker 2: by myself, boom, you guys are there. Yeah, So I'm fine.
Speaker 1: It'll be good, it'll be good, it'll be fun. Before
Speaker 1: we wrap up, let's let's jump into some listener questions. Yes,
Speaker 1: because it's going to take a little bit. There's some
Speaker 1: good questions today. Actually, there's always good questions, I would say, actually,
Speaker 1: but these are some good ones. What is the best
Speaker 1: way to solve an argument with your spouse? My spouse
Speaker 1: gets really passionate, and I want to talk calmly, but
Speaker 1: we cannot seem to get on the same page when
Speaker 1: it comes to communication. Who do you think it's more
Speaker 1: worked up in our relationship? As say that again, who
Speaker 1: gets more worked up in our relationship? Who is when
Speaker 1: it comes to an argument like this listener is saying
Speaker 1: they want to talk calmly, but they can't seem to
Speaker 1: get on the same page because their spouse gets really passionate.
Speaker 2: What do you think.
Speaker 1: I think I get both. I think I start calm
Speaker 1: and then when I don't feel like you want to talk,
Speaker 1: I get more passionate, and then you start to close
Speaker 1: down more. The more passionate I get, so I try
Speaker 1: to talk calm and.
Speaker 2: Then I tell you, the more you keep talking about it,
Speaker 2: the more upset I'm going to get. So they were
Speaker 2: not on the same page because they were not even
Speaker 2: talking calmly. The thing is that the dynamics in this relationship, guys,
Speaker 2: it's been almost twenty years our relationship, okay, have changed
Speaker 2: because Eric used to be much more passive and just
Speaker 2: more like a cancer, you know, like more like a
Speaker 2: little bit more calm. And I think because of survival.
Speaker 1: You have survival, survival. You put me on the brink
Speaker 1: of survival. That's that you triggered me in a good way.
Speaker 1: Maybe maybe actually, well not if we're arguing I'm in survival.
Speaker 2: But listen, yes I have elevated your life completely. But wow,
Speaker 2: what I'm saying is inspired. But yeah, inspired, you have inspired,
Speaker 2: you know. But what I'm talking about is that you
Speaker 2: used to be much more calm. I'm more like sentimental.
Speaker 2: I'm very like, no, let's just have a dialogue, because
Speaker 2: you're you went to school for psychology, so you're all
Speaker 2: about let me, let me just pick your brain and
Speaker 2: because I will go from zero to sixty really fast
Speaker 2: because I don't have the patience all the time or
Speaker 2: the temperament to talk.
Speaker 1: Yeah, you boiled my water a lot more like we
Speaker 1: say the podcast.
Speaker 2: Yeah you have changed immensely because now you like to
Speaker 2: compete with me.
Speaker 1: Yeah, you've boiled my water a lot, and I've calmed
Speaker 1: you down. You're fired in a lot. But like we
Speaker 1: always say, when you boil it too much, I overflow.
Speaker 1: And then when you get put down too far, then
Speaker 1: you forgot the thing.
Speaker 2: I think we communicate. It depends on the question. So
Speaker 2: what is a fan?
Speaker 1: So I mean the listener question is like they can't
Speaker 1: see me get on the same page. What's the best
Speaker 1: way to solve an argument? Because you like a psychology,
Speaker 1: All I'm going to say is this, I don't think
Speaker 1: there's one rhyme or reason because we're not in that
Speaker 1: relationship with you guys, and I know that is specific
Speaker 1: to you. All the more you can keep calm, I
Speaker 1: would say easier. It will keep your partner, your spouse calm.
Speaker 1: They can be a little passionate, but I think try it.
Speaker 1: If you guys can remind each other when you're not
Speaker 1: arguing that anytime we get into a situation, let's do
Speaker 1: our best to try to hear what the other person
Speaker 1: is saying without reacting too heavily. And then once you
Speaker 1: hear it and you take it in, then you each
Speaker 1: get that moment of time to sort of have a
Speaker 1: platform to speak, but you can't interrupt and you can't
Speaker 1: get too passionate. I only say this because we've had
Speaker 1: therapy going over these kinds of things and repeating maybe maybe.
Speaker 2: You should exactly, maybe you should practice, And we've talked
Speaker 2: to two therapists and they all say the same thing.
Speaker 2: I think it's an exercise that you do when you
Speaker 2: go to compos therapy, which is very hard to accomplish.
Speaker 2: But if you're having an argument, the first thing you
Speaker 2: need to do. If you guys are at different levels
Speaker 2: when it comes to frequency, when it comes to the delivery,
Speaker 2: if you're calm on the other person is screaming or
Speaker 2: vice versa, the first thing is that the comp person
Speaker 2: has to say, you know what, We're not going to
Speaker 2: solve anything by communicating like this, because I already tune
Speaker 2: you out. You screaming me, I'm not listen so it's
Speaker 2: about respect. So let's just respect each other. And I'm
Speaker 2: gonna speak, and then you speak, But you do this, okay, speak,
Speaker 2: you let the person speak, and then you say what
Speaker 2: I hear you saying is the following, and then you
Speaker 2: repeat what you believe the person is saying.
Speaker 1: Oh, you believe you're repeating exactly what they're saying to
Speaker 1: make sure that you're understanding what they're saying.
Speaker 2: Yeah, but usually when you repeat has a little bit
Speaker 2: of an interpretation.
Speaker 1: Yes, but if you interpret it the wrong way, then
Speaker 1: that person.
Speaker 2: And the person needs to correct and say, no, that's
Speaker 2: not what I said. This is what I said. Okay,
Speaker 2: let me repeat it again exactly, because a lot of
Speaker 2: times usually the argument is not about that, it's about
Speaker 2: something else. It's just the person is not telling you.
Speaker 2: You know, I'm pissed out because two days ago I
Speaker 2: expected this from you and you didn't do it, and
Speaker 2: now I'm in a heightened state and now this bothered me.
Speaker 2: So it's a way of you diffusing by saying what
Speaker 2: I think you're saying is this. No, that's not it. Okay,
Speaker 2: so explain it to me again. Oh so you're upset because.
Speaker 1: Of that, Let me. Let me just say this, guys,
Speaker 1: and this will go to another listener question before we go.
Speaker 1: Because we do believe in couple's therapy. You don't always
Speaker 1: have to go when there's a problem. You can do
Speaker 1: it to stay consistent and stay on the same page,
Speaker 1: which we have done. We've done it when there's a problem,
Speaker 1: and we've done it when we want to just stay
Speaker 1: consistent and with help each other. We are horrible at
Speaker 1: this exercise. I'll just tell you we are not good
Speaker 1: at it. This is what the therapist is.
Speaker 2: Very funny. Eric goes like this. Every time that I
Speaker 2: say something, He's like, you know what, we can go
Speaker 2: to a therapy about it. I'm gonna call let's go
Speaker 2: to therapy about it?
Speaker 1: Yeah, because that helps it tough.
Speaker 2: I wand no intimated.
Speaker 1: I need a third party. I need someone in the middleways.
Speaker 1: I want to have that person. You don't listen anything
Speaker 1: I have to say. So I love I love a
Speaker 1: good therapy session. But also we're not good at this
Speaker 1: exercise as well. Let you know, this is what the
Speaker 1: therapist tells us, So do your best. Please. We'll do
Speaker 1: some more listener questions on our next episode, for sure,
Speaker 1: but we appreciate you all. The next episode might be
Speaker 1: me alone by the way, for a few weeks. We
Speaker 1: appreciate you all listening. Thanks again. Remember if you have
Speaker 1: something you want to ask us, please send it to
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Speaker 2: Thank you guys. I'm going to miss you. Love you,
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Speaker 1: See you next time.
Speaker 2: Bye,