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Speaker 2: Serena is on the phone today for a first date

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Speaker 2: follow up. She's getting ghosted by a dude named Ben,

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Speaker 2: so in a few minutes we'll call him and see

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Speaker 2: if he'll tell us why he's ghosting her and maybe

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Speaker 2: get her another date. But first, Serena, how long has

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Speaker 2: it been since you heard from Ben?

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Speaker 3: It's uh, it's been about three weeks. Have you been

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Speaker 3: trying to reach out to him? Yeah, I have been.

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Speaker 2: Was the last time I tried to reach out to him?

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Speaker 3: It was this morning?

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Speaker 2: Okay? Okay? And still nothing?

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Speaker 3: Guys, Yeah, you know, times are desperate. What can I say?

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Speaker 3: But you know I haven't heard I haven't heard back

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Speaker 3: from him yet.

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Speaker 2: Have you been blowing him up?

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Speaker 3: I've tried not to, but honestly, like I haven't really

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Speaker 3: been able to stop thinking about him for the last

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Speaker 3: three weeks. Okay, Well, it must have been a really

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Speaker 3: good date if you haven't been able to stop thinking

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Speaker 3: about him and you still want to get in contact

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Speaker 3: with him. It was I mean, it was pretty like traditional,

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Speaker 3: but I really like it because it didn't feel like

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Speaker 3: the apps, you know, like it was really nice. Like

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Speaker 3: our plan was dinner and drinks and then maybe a

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Speaker 3: little mini golf.

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Speaker 2: Okay, and is that what you did?

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Speaker 3: Well, we did dinner and drinks, but we didn't quite

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Speaker 3: make it to the mini golf part. Yeah. Probably stuff

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Speaker 3: we didn't want to do in public. You know, we

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Speaker 3: definitely hooked up.

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Speaker 2: Okay, So you didn't make it to the mini golf

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Speaker 2: because you guys made it to do something else. Yeah,

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Speaker 2: gotch Were you at his place or yours?

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Speaker 3: Oh? We weren't mine?

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Speaker 2: So what happened there?

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Speaker 3: I think everything was fine. I mean I had a

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Speaker 3: great time, and you know, I don't think it was

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Speaker 3: you know, I don't know. He was maybe a bit

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Speaker 3: of a germophobe. I don't know. I'm just worried that

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Speaker 3: maybe the hookup was bad for him or maybe I mean,

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Speaker 3: maybe he has a girlfriend. I don't know. There's my

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Speaker 3: mind has been kind of running wild.

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Speaker 4: Did it seem like that was just kind of one

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Speaker 4: of those things like leading up to you guys going out,

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Speaker 4: that it was just kind of be maybe more of

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Speaker 3: I didn't get that feeling, but maybe I was reading

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Speaker 2: How did you leave things?

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Speaker 1: Like?

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Speaker 2: Did he stay the night? Did he leave right after

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Speaker 2: high five? Fist bomb?

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Speaker 3: I mean, I don't know, it was fine. I mean

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Speaker 3: I didn't think we left things weird like he did

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Speaker 3: stay over? He left the next morning, and.

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Speaker 2: He left normal. He didn't like, you know, wake up

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Speaker 2: he didn't want to talk to you.

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Speaker 3: No, I don't. I don't think so.

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Speaker 2: Did he say by were you still asleep?

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Speaker 3: It all seemed very I don't know how else to

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Speaker 3: describe it. It's like we clicked so well, and I

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Speaker 3: He didn't he didn't fist bump me or anything.

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Speaker 2: And you've been trying to get ahold of him a

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Speaker 2: lot for three weeks. Has he responded to anything.

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Speaker 3: No, I haven't heard from the middle.

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Speaker 2: That's not a good. Okay, we'll try to figure it

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Speaker 2: out for you. Then we'll play a song, come back,

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Speaker 2: and then call him and see if he'll tell us

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Speaker 2: why he's ghosting you and hopefully get you another date

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Speaker 2: if you still want. Okay, Okay, all right, Well play

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Speaker 2: a song, Come Back, Get your first Day follow Up, Next.

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Speaker 2: Right in the middle of our first Date follow Up,

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Speaker 2: if you're just joining us, Serena is on the phone

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Speaker 2: and she's getting ghosted by a guy named Vince. We're

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Speaker 2: about to call him and see if we can get

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Speaker 2: him to tell us why he's ghosting her and maybe

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Speaker 2: get her another date. But first, Serena, why don't you

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Speaker 2: catch us up on your situation.

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Speaker 3: So we had a fantastic date. Everything went well, the

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Speaker 3: chemistry was amazing. We had all the pieces, emotional and physical.

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Speaker 3: I haven't heard from him for about three weeks now, and.

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Speaker 2: You have no idea why he hasn't answered anything since

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Speaker 2: he left her house that morning.

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Speaker 3: No, I don't know how many times have you.

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Speaker 2: Tried to get ahold of him? Just like ballpark?

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Speaker 3: I mean too many times, I guess if I had

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Speaker 2: Where did he lost his phone for three weeks?

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Speaker 1: Though?

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Speaker 4: To ignore somebody that much, though, I mean, if you

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Speaker 4: had a great time, you would find a way to

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Speaker 4: get here, Yeah.

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Speaker 2: You would. All right, Well, let's see let's see if

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Speaker 2: we get aim to tell so you ready for us

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Speaker 2: to call him?

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Speaker 3: Yeah, let's do it.

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Speaker 2: Okay. Hello, Hi man, I speak to Ben. Please. This

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Speaker 2: is Ben Ben. Hey man, how are you? My name

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Speaker 2: is Jewbell. I'm calling from a radio show. It's called

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Speaker 2: the Jebel Show. Hi Ben, I'm Nina also on the show. Hi,

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Speaker 2: and I'm Victoria. Hi. What's up? Good? How are you?

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Speaker 3: I'm doing great?

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Speaker 2: Just hanging out awesome? Have you ever listened to the

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Speaker 3: I can't say that I that I really have h

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Speaker 3: What is this about?

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Speaker 2: No worries? We do a segment on our show. It's

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Speaker 2: called the first Date follow Up. What that is is

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Speaker 2: if where you go out on a day with someone

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Speaker 2: and you end up ghosting them, they can email us

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Speaker 2: to get you on the phone and ask why you're

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Speaker 2: being ghosted. So we got an email about you from

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Speaker 2: one of our listeners. I see, Okay, you have any

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Speaker 2: idea who might be trying to get a hold of

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Speaker 3: Yeah?

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Speaker 5: I have an idea.

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Speaker 2: Who do you think it is?

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Speaker 3: Holly? Is it Serena?

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Speaker 2: You are one hundred percent correct. Congratulations. We don't have

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Speaker 2: anything to give you for being correct, But yes, it's Serena.

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Speaker 2: She told us about your date. She said that she

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Speaker 2: thought things went really well and great actually, and said

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Speaker 2: haven't talked to her for like three weeks, and she's

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Speaker 2: wondering what the reason is. Did you lose your phone?

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Speaker 5: No, I couldn't lose my I mean the day was

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Speaker 2: Okay, it sounds like a good reason to go somebody

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Speaker 2: to me, what happened?

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Speaker 5: Well, I mean, to be honest, it was the uh hands,

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Speaker 5: she has really wet hands.

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Speaker 2: She has wet hands.

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Speaker 5: Yeah, I you know, it's just a kind of a

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Speaker 2: And like how wet are the hands? Though, like where

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Speaker 3: I mean it was it was pretty moist. I mean

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Speaker 5: She came and like carreshed my face, and I swear

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Speaker 2: But like, what if it was just nerves.

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Speaker 4: Is the first time she spend time with you, so

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Speaker 4: sweaty palms. That's supposed to be cute. That's a compliment.

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Speaker 4: She was so into you, you made her palm sweaty.

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Speaker 5: That's true, But I don't know, it's just I guess

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Speaker 5: I didn't really want to continue that. After that, I

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Speaker 4: And you can treat that, though, But you can treat that,

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Speaker 4: you can get botox in your hands to make it stop. Well,

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Speaker 3: Well, I'm not sure we can do. I mean some

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Speaker 5: It was almost supernatural, how much moisture was coming out

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Speaker 5: I've shicken hands with people. Yes, I'm a bit of

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Speaker 2: You just can't. You can't overlook the sweaty palms.

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Speaker 5: I mean I'm a bit of a particular guy and

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Speaker 2: I like but I like palms. That's not you.

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Speaker 3: Oh my gosh, Oh my god. I I'm so sorry.

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Speaker 3: I know, I know that my hands get super sweaty,

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Speaker 5: Gosh, I'm sorry. I I kind of feel bad now

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Speaker 2: Well, that's an awkward conversation to have, Like, I feel

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Speaker 1: You know.

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Speaker 3: Yeah, I have to say, like, I totally get it,

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Speaker 5: You know, I guess I never I never was able

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Speaker 5: But you know, I really had an amazing time on

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Speaker 3: He had a great connection.

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Speaker 2: Look at that, Serena. You're helping change his whole outlook

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Speaker 2: on sweaty poms. When would you like to go out

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Speaker 2: with Serena again? We'll pay for it.

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Speaker 3: Yeah I would, I would, honestly another lesson here.

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Speaker 4: Three weeks does not mean it's over. You just keep

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Speaker 2: Congratulations, Serena.

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Speaker 3: We'll figure something out for the sweaty palms. Maybe I

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Speaker 3: don't know, maybe next time we'll just look up on

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Speaker 3: the shower.

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Speaker 1: I know what.

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Speaker 2: That sounds really great? All right, we'll congratulations.

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