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Speaker 1: Buggaluve, Hold on tight, we got it for you. Here

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Speaker 1: it is strawberry letter. All right? Subject should I overlook

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Speaker 1: his trust issues? Dear Stephen Shirley. I'm a thirty two

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Speaker 1: year old divorced mother of five. Recently I met the

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Speaker 1: man that I am now in love with. The Chemistry

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Speaker 1: was bananas from the moment we met. He accepted my

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Speaker 1: and the sex is so good it brought a tear

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Speaker 1: to my eye one night. When we met. He was

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Speaker 1: unemployed in living with his grandma, but he won me

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Speaker 1: over with his persistence and great personality. I encouraged and

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Speaker 1: helped him complete a training program and then start a career. Well,

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Speaker 1: here's the dilemma. He is extremely jealous. Any misstep on

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Speaker 1: my behalf, such as a missed call or delayed text response,

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Speaker 1: he starts to act crazy. He goes into a fit

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Speaker 1: of cheating on him. His ex wife cheated on him

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Speaker 1: with his brother, So he has serious trust issues. He's crazy,

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Speaker 1: jealous and insecure behavior it's crazy, jealous and insecure behavior

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Speaker 1: breaks my heart. I never even consider cheating on him.

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Speaker 1: What can I do to get this man to trust me?

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Speaker 1: This really sucks? Please advise, you are so correct. This

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Speaker 1: does really suck. But please know that this has absolutely

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Speaker 1: nothing to do with you. All right, this tall, dark

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Speaker 1: and handsome loser is insecure and he's controlling. He's taking

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Speaker 1: it out all on you. He's taking all of this

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Speaker 1: you know, with the training program, helping him start a career,

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Speaker 1: in all of this, and this is the thanks you get.

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Speaker 1: How dare he treat you like this? You know, by

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Speaker 1: being so ungrateful. I just say to you, please, don't

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Speaker 1: let his bad behavior to start you to you know,

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Speaker 1: to be less confident, to have it start taking away

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Speaker 1: your shine. I don't think no man is worth going

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Speaker 1: through all of this. You ask, what can you do

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Speaker 1: to get him to treat you, to trust you? You're

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Speaker 1: doing it, and you've done it. Okay, what else can

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Speaker 1: I think you've done quite enough. I'm concerned that he

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Speaker 1: can get violent with this abusive behavior that he's displaying.

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Speaker 1: If it continues, I just say, remember you have five kids,

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Speaker 1: and that I'm assuming a rather young and impressionable since

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Speaker 1: you yourself are only thirty two, they're watching everything you do,

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Speaker 1: so I say, be smart and get out while you

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Speaker 1: one thing is for sure. Don't nobody see these letters

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Speaker 1: like me. I like to dig up under the letter

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Speaker 1: and find out what's really going on. Should have overlook

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Speaker 1: his trust issues. The beginning of the letters quite clear

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Speaker 1: to me. I'm a thirty two year old divorced mother

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Speaker 1: of five. Recently I met this man that I'm in

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Speaker 1: love with. Now. The chemistry was bananas from the moment

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Speaker 1: we met. That's a young term. It's bananas. It's bananas.

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Speaker 1: That's a young term. The chemistry was bananas. Nobody describes

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Speaker 1: they love like asked bananas, Tiquita, Joe. It just ain't

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Speaker 1: That's all it is. Ain't Nobody mentioned love in this

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Speaker 1: letter though, so but Gus Causon ain't there yet. It's

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Speaker 1: dog handsome, and the sex is good. It bought a

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Speaker 1: why I was so good, because it starts coming out

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Speaker 1: that's growing for preci here to hill. This this explained

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Speaker 1: wonder why the sector was so good. It bought a

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Speaker 1: tear to your eye. He needs some of stine he

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Speaker 1: in him. Humping for homes. This is a new shoulder

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Speaker 1: I'm gonna do. It's called humping for homes. This is

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Speaker 1: gonna show y'all ladies, height is well. I'm gonna find

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Speaker 1: a bunch of unemployed men that stay in their mama's

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Speaker 1: Men that ain't working got time to hold their skills.

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Speaker 1: He ain't ever tied. He rested. Yeah, he got plenty,

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Speaker 1: many women walk an unemployed man. You did. Now he

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Speaker 1: Steve's responsible this letter talking about shit. I overlook his trust.

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Speaker 1: She'd have met this man. She'd been in love with chemistry,

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Speaker 1: with bananas, just bananas from the just now that's bananas.

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Speaker 1: It's a monk love. He accepted my children with no problem.

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Speaker 1: us why because he's right after that. When we met,

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Speaker 1: his sex ain't gonna be good. He got tired, he off,

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Speaker 1: they have the time. Yeah, all right, now, you said,

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Speaker 1: But he warned me over with his persistence and great personality. Hell,

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Speaker 1: he gonna be nice, hard to be rude. You ain't

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Speaker 1: ever being, can't be rude. You stay in your car.

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Speaker 1: How are you doing? How you doing today, sir? I'm

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Speaker 1: absolutely fine, ma'am? How are you? People I wouldn't even

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Speaker 1: let's quit talking about this training program and career you got. Yeah,

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Speaker 1: you took him down there here, fried cook, Hey what

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Speaker 1: Because she's embellishing that. Yeah, so he got a career.

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Speaker 1: He's extremely jealous. Any misstep on my half, such as

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Speaker 1: Let's just go back to why you his home? Nah,

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Speaker 1: he got someone to live. What you mean you ain't

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Speaker 1: answering no text? You moved. You don't answer my text?

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Speaker 1: You don't won't me. I called you, mister fone. You

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Speaker 1: He says, really hurt for thing. He's called me a

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Speaker 1: his brother. This ain't got nothing new with you. He was.

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Speaker 1: He's referring to you as to what he was referring

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Speaker 1: her after she cheated with him with his brother. Your

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Speaker 1: real issue was with both of them. Wow, but I'm

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Speaker 1: your brother gonna get his ass. Now, me and you

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Speaker 1: weint cool. No more. We ain't gonna talk. I got

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Speaker 1: all that. But my brother, though he gonna get he

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Speaker 1: gonna get the flesh stumped off him. The flesh stomked

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Speaker 1: off him. And he knows that he already note that. Yeah,

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Speaker 1: now his x y cheating up to his brother. He is.

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Speaker 1: He's crazy, jealous and insecure. Behavior breaks from my heart.

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Speaker 1: I never even considered cheating on him. What can I

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Speaker 1: You can't get this man to trust you if you've

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Speaker 1: done nothing to make the man right, dud have You've

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Speaker 1: done nothing to cause mistrust in the man. What can

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Speaker 1: can you do? You're not doing anything wrong and he

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Speaker 1: and you ain't done nothing. This is not a win situation.

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Speaker 1: You're dealing with the person with some serious issues. Well, now,

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Speaker 1: you know why you didn't found mister taddog and handsome

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Speaker 1: and he was available. Where is this outstanding man? He

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Speaker 1: was unemployed. He was staying at his grandmama's house. His

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Speaker 1: mama even told him, you can't stay that's why you

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Speaker 1: can't stay here with the mama. First, you can't stay here, boy,

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Speaker 1: and he insecured. Now listen to me. You're not going

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Speaker 1: and you're giving him what he needs exactly. You're giving him.

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Speaker 1: He's getting good sex, but he's also getting a place

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Speaker 1: to come to getting the key, to getting the key.

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Speaker 1: He's never had that. He ain't had that sex with

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Speaker 1: out he wasn't nothing to said, well, hell, let me

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Speaker 1: You should get out of this situation because it's not

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Speaker 1: a win win. See, regaining a person's trust is one thing.

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Speaker 1: Having a person's trust and you've done and done nothing

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Speaker 1: to get his mistrust is a whole another issue. Yeah,

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Speaker 1: what else can you do? You've done nothing wrong, So

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Speaker 1: what do you have nothing to fix? You're trying to

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Speaker 1: fix something that shouldn't even require fixing because it ain't broke.

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Speaker 1: But he accusing you of being a be, a hole,

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Speaker 1: a slot and all this because he talking about his

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Speaker 1: ex messing with his brother and now you it and

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Speaker 1: until he get past him issues, you should run the

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