WEBVTT - Pull the Parachute with Magi Tareke 0:00:00.480 --> 0:00:04.680 Hell, I Suck at Dating with Denglert and Dared Haven 0:00:04.920 --> 0:00:11.640 and I heard radio podcast. Hey, everybody, welcome to help 0:00:11.840 --> 0:00:17.319 I Suck at Dating. Jared here, Dean. As always, we 0:00:17.360 --> 0:00:19.760 have a very special guest who is currently on the line. 0:00:19.800 --> 0:00:22.239 Before we get to Maggie, I did want to say 0:00:22.239 --> 0:00:25.440 how ironic life is because Easton, you guys know Easton 0:00:25.520 --> 0:00:29.400 obviously are wonderful producer editor. Really, just the backbone of 0:00:29.440 --> 0:00:34.320 this podcast is recording live from Audrey's coffee house and 0:00:34.360 --> 0:00:37.199 lounge while I'm sitting in my house. We have an 0:00:37.320 --> 0:00:41.080 almost famous live podcast with Ashley and Ben. Cassie is 0:00:41.080 --> 0:00:43.600 going to be on that, and so is Jill and 0:00:43.680 --> 0:00:46.760 that's tonight, and Easton's at the hotel literally two minutes 0:00:46.800 --> 0:00:49.199 up the road preparing for that, and he said, the 0:00:49.200 --> 0:00:52.160 WiFi sucks at this hotel. How's the WiFi at Audrey's, 0:00:52.360 --> 0:00:55.600 I said, fantastic. He drove there and now here. Easton 0:00:55.720 --> 0:00:58.840 is recording live from the actual coffee shop, not from 0:00:58.880 --> 0:01:00.840 the office though, so he does have the first aid kit. 0:01:00.920 --> 0:01:03.080 You know, it's much more beautiful in the office than 0:01:03.120 --> 0:01:05.360 it is in the coffee shop, so really the background 0:01:05.400 --> 0:01:06.560 is not as nice. But I thought that was a 0:01:06.560 --> 0:01:10.560 little funny. Anyway, Moving on to our wonderful guest this 0:01:10.600 --> 0:01:12.400 week on Help I Suck at Dating. You know her 0:01:12.440 --> 0:01:16.920 from season twenty five Matt James, this season of the Bachelor. 0:01:17.040 --> 0:01:20.440 It is Maggie Tarka. Maggie, how are you welcome to 0:01:20.520 --> 0:01:24.240 the podcast? Thank you for having me. I am great. 0:01:24.840 --> 0:01:27.679 You know, it's a beautiful day. I live in New York, 0:01:27.920 --> 0:01:30.479 so the way there it's not that but today, so 0:01:30.520 --> 0:01:33.880 I'm enjoying it very nice. So you live in New York. 0:01:34.360 --> 0:01:37.120 You were obviously on Matt James season of The Bachelor. 0:01:37.160 --> 0:01:40.600 That's where everybody knows you. So tell us how did 0:01:40.640 --> 0:01:45.920 you end up on the show. The casting director contacted 0:01:45.959 --> 0:01:48.520 me out of nowhere, so first I thought, it's like, 0:01:48.800 --> 0:01:50.960 what do I look single? So I had to put 0:01:51.080 --> 0:01:56.880 my Instagram in check because I was confused. I am 0:01:56.920 --> 0:01:59.640 I am an immigrant, so I didn't know anything about 0:01:59.720 --> 0:02:03.320 these I told you know and you when they contacted me. 0:02:03.720 --> 0:02:06.600 I took time to respond, but when they announced it 0:02:06.640 --> 0:02:09.440 was my chains, I emailed them back saying, hey, I 0:02:09.520 --> 0:02:12.040 changed my mind. I can't do it. I'm ready. So 0:02:12.240 --> 0:02:15.120 it was because of my gams. I said, yes, A 0:02:15.800 --> 0:02:19.040 nice um, mag I've got a question for you. So 0:02:19.160 --> 0:02:22.720 your storyline, well, I guess your life storyline and what 0:02:22.760 --> 0:02:24.400 we got to see highlighted on the show obviously was 0:02:24.480 --> 0:02:27.840 that you moved to the US from Ethiopia, right, yes, 0:02:28.320 --> 0:02:29.960 can we talk about that a little bit? So you 0:02:29.960 --> 0:02:32.600 were born right in Ethiopia? What was that like? And 0:02:32.639 --> 0:02:34.440 then what how old were you when you moved to 0:02:34.480 --> 0:02:38.320 the US. So I was Sonny one, and you know, 0:02:38.400 --> 0:02:40.160 I got hit by V I don't know if you 0:02:40.200 --> 0:02:43.320 gets no DV is diversity. Dis's a lottery and lotterally 0:02:43.560 --> 0:02:46.280 just go to the internet app life for it and 0:02:46.440 --> 0:02:49.600 you wait for you luck. So thankfully I got here. 0:02:50.639 --> 0:02:54.400 That life in Ethiopia is it? It's completely different. When 0:02:54.440 --> 0:02:59.239 I came here eleven it was I was like shocking 0:02:59.280 --> 0:03:04.080 everything the food, the culture, like the country. I felt 0:03:04.120 --> 0:03:06.760 like I am in a place that I don't belong. 0:03:07.840 --> 0:03:11.560 So yeah, almost it's been eleven years now, what made 0:03:11.600 --> 0:03:16.000 you want to move to the US with life, I 0:03:16.040 --> 0:03:19.040 always want to go to a foreigner country to get 0:03:19.080 --> 0:03:22.400 my mastress, my master degree because I had a bachelor 0:03:22.440 --> 0:03:26.000 inform of Marcy back home and I just and watching 0:03:26.080 --> 0:03:28.960 the movie. You know, it's very exciting like America. That life, 0:03:29.000 --> 0:03:32.600 it's everything is beautiful, it's a can't get rich very easily, 0:03:32.680 --> 0:03:36.240 all that kind of idea that I had. But I 0:03:36.280 --> 0:03:37.680 want to learn. I want to learn, I want to 0:03:37.720 --> 0:03:41.600 improve myself, and I wouldn't I want a better life. Yeah, 0:03:41.640 --> 0:03:44.320 that's that's all the reason you need. Do you ever 0:03:44.400 --> 0:03:47.640 go back to visit Ethiopia? I went back once to 0:03:47.720 --> 0:03:51.800 only seventeen, and I would love to go. There is 0:03:51.840 --> 0:03:54.600 a seed war going on now. If it stopped, hopefully, 0:03:54.680 --> 0:03:58.920 well I'll go back. Yeah. Yeah, it's kind of um 0:03:59.080 --> 0:04:02.120 the area of Eastern Africa, northeastern Africa, there's like a 0:04:02.200 --> 0:04:06.760 little bit of like civil unrest for the most part. Yeah. Yeah, 0:04:06.760 --> 0:04:09.320 it used to be a very full place, but now 0:04:10.720 --> 0:04:14.600 it's completely changed. Yeah. Well hopefully in our lifetimes will 0:04:14.600 --> 0:04:16.560 be able to see it changed back to being peaceful again, 0:04:16.600 --> 0:04:21.960 I guess, but yeah, definitely. Um, well, I wanted to 0:04:22.000 --> 0:04:24.960 know what the how you said it was, I mean, 0:04:25.000 --> 0:04:28.400 completely different than your lifestyle back home in ethiopen when 0:04:28.400 --> 0:04:29.920 you moved to New York City, which I can only 0:04:29.960 --> 0:04:32.080 imagine you're such a fish out of sea. You're in 0:04:32.080 --> 0:04:34.760 a new area surrounded by millions of people, especially in 0:04:34.760 --> 0:04:36.960 New York City. I go and I'm from the State's 0:04:37.000 --> 0:04:39.560 and it's overwhelming to me. I'm not a big city. Again. 0:04:39.680 --> 0:04:41.200 I didn't like l A, I don't like New York. 0:04:41.360 --> 0:04:43.760 So I feel very much like a fish out of 0:04:43.800 --> 0:04:46.040 water when I'm in that city. So what was it 0:04:46.120 --> 0:04:48.520 like for you to adjust in this new Did you 0:04:48.560 --> 0:04:51.720 ever have doubts? Did you ever possibly regret coming here 0:04:51.720 --> 0:04:53.680 and saying maybe I'm I made the wrong decision before 0:04:53.680 --> 0:04:56.359 you ultimately decided, oh no, this is what's right for me. 0:04:57.720 --> 0:05:02.760 Um to start with, no regret, because America is a 0:05:02.760 --> 0:05:06.200 countrol of opportunity, and I'm very grateful to this country. 0:05:06.279 --> 0:05:09.039 But when I came first, the family who sponsored me, 0:05:09.160 --> 0:05:13.200 they asked me to come to New York JFK Airport 0:05:13.279 --> 0:05:15.720 so they can show me how America is. Then when 0:05:15.760 --> 0:05:18.680 I came here, like, I saw this big building and 0:05:18.760 --> 0:05:22.359 beautiful people, and I said to myself, I am this 0:05:22.600 --> 0:05:25.360 poor immigrant little girl. There is no way I can't 0:05:25.360 --> 0:05:28.040 feel in here. I am very poor. So what I'm 0:05:28.080 --> 0:05:31.120 gonna do? Then? You know, we went to Baltimore because 0:05:31.120 --> 0:05:33.520 the family went from Baltimore. Actually, they just wanted me 0:05:33.560 --> 0:05:35.440 to see New York that's why I came to New York. 0:05:36.080 --> 0:05:39.280 So funny story, The main reason I moved to New 0:05:39.320 --> 0:05:42.599 York is to define that because I say, I can't 0:05:42.640 --> 0:05:45.360 do it, this is not for me. I can't fit in. 0:05:45.880 --> 0:05:48.960 And and I moved back after I graduate school, I 0:05:49.000 --> 0:05:53.240 came to New York. So I have no regrets. I'm very, 0:05:53.360 --> 0:05:57.039 very grateful. Yea, I've got a question for you. What 0:05:57.240 --> 0:06:00.000 is because you moved from Ethiopa when you're twenty one? 0:06:00.000 --> 0:06:03.719 You said, what is it like dating in Ethiopia compared 0:06:03.760 --> 0:06:05.720 to dating in the US that you've experienced so far? 0:06:06.000 --> 0:06:09.000 And the follow up question, do you stuck at dating 0:06:09.120 --> 0:06:18.120 in both countries? Done? Um? In EUROPEA, I was this 0:06:18.520 --> 0:06:22.120 very grounded school nerd girl who goes to church kind 0:06:22.160 --> 0:06:25.440 of girl. I My family were, you know, some my farmers. 0:06:25.960 --> 0:06:28.360 So I got school, I come back home. I helped 0:06:28.400 --> 0:06:32.200 them with the cuss with the housework. Then in college 0:06:32.279 --> 0:06:36.200 I kind of started dating. And you Ethyopia is like 0:06:36.480 --> 0:06:39.159 the guy up pushed you. It's not like you don't 0:06:39.240 --> 0:06:43.000 choose on my time. Like the guy pushed you. You 0:06:43.040 --> 0:06:45.600 said yes or no, and I wasn't. I was a 0:06:45.680 --> 0:06:48.680 very you know, I don't talk too much I was 0:06:48.839 --> 0:06:52.719 very shy, and it was hard for me to get 0:06:52.720 --> 0:06:56.640 out of that show. That's why, like everybody, my friends, 0:06:56.720 --> 0:06:59.000 they freaked out when they heard like I was on 0:06:59.080 --> 0:07:03.760 the Butler Rick Maggie. How what change when I came 0:07:03.800 --> 0:07:08.320 to America. I think that the show I grew up like. 0:07:08.440 --> 0:07:11.640 The show made me realize First, you know, if I 0:07:11.760 --> 0:07:13.880 like a guy, I can approach myself, I can't fight 0:07:13.960 --> 0:07:18.080 for him as and another, like the other thing I 0:07:18.160 --> 0:07:22.680 learned from the show is that I I am confident 0:07:22.880 --> 0:07:25.720 on approaching guys. I don't have to explain the guy 0:07:25.760 --> 0:07:30.840 to approach me or that. But you know, I'm still shy. 0:07:30.880 --> 0:07:33.280 So I think I sat on dating in both of 0:07:33.320 --> 0:07:38.920 them because I'm still single. Well maybe you're taking your time. Yeah, 0:07:38.960 --> 0:07:43.080 that's all you're just waiting for the right person. That Plus, 0:07:43.080 --> 0:07:45.120 you know, with the you know, with the back home 0:07:45.160 --> 0:07:50.240 situation and doing activism, my mind is completely like just 0:07:50.360 --> 0:07:54.400 can't focus to entertain someone when I'm freaking out. Am 0:07:54.440 --> 0:07:56.960 I gonna ask you? My family again? That has a 0:07:56.960 --> 0:08:00.320 lot of pressure, especially this past two years because after 0:08:00.360 --> 0:08:03.120 I got my pharmacy and know I got my dad 0:08:03.160 --> 0:08:06.960 Tray twenty nineteen, I was like, yes, done. I'm gonna 0:08:06.960 --> 0:08:09.680 have a boyfriend. I'm gonna really I'm gonna be dating 0:08:09.760 --> 0:08:13.720 all that. But like the COVID happened, then the world happened. 0:08:13.720 --> 0:08:17.600 I was like, Okay, I'm just you know, taking my time, 0:08:17.640 --> 0:08:21.320 I guess, but you know, after all, happiness is the key. 0:08:21.360 --> 0:08:24.120 I am. I am happy. I don't know, you know, 0:08:24.360 --> 0:08:26.239 and I would like to show my happiness with someone, 0:08:26.520 --> 0:08:29.440 but I'm happy. Yeah. Well, I've got a question for you. 0:08:29.440 --> 0:08:32.199 You say you're shy, but would you do you think 0:08:32.240 --> 0:08:36.240 you're shy or do you think you're just an introvert? Oh, 0:08:36.320 --> 0:08:41.240 I am actually more off extrovert, but I am. Can 0:08:41.320 --> 0:08:44.160 you not hill? I mean I can. I'm kind of 0:08:44.160 --> 0:08:45.880 getting the sense. But it's just crazy to me that 0:08:45.920 --> 0:08:49.400 someone like you'd be shy because you're so accomplished with 0:08:49.480 --> 0:08:53.160 your education, and you've done so many things with your life, 0:08:53.160 --> 0:08:54.760 and of course you're very beautiful. It's like, well, I 0:08:54.800 --> 0:08:57.480 don't understand, but I guess at the end of the day, 0:08:57.520 --> 0:08:59.760 like everyone has the reasons to be shy. But it's 0:08:59.800 --> 0:09:01.520 just started for me to grasp why someone like you 0:09:01.520 --> 0:09:04.040 would be shy, because it seems like you have everything 0:09:04.040 --> 0:09:07.240 going for you, not that kind of ship. Thank you first, 0:09:07.280 --> 0:09:10.840 I appreciate that, but not that kind of shot. It's, um, 0:09:10.880 --> 0:09:12.959 you know, growing up, I didn't get used to it, 0:09:13.600 --> 0:09:16.079 and this is not something that as like growing up 0:09:16.120 --> 0:09:19.200 the girl will upproach you and what on the only 0:09:19.320 --> 0:09:21.880 age if I was back home, the family will agree 0:09:21.920 --> 0:09:24.920 for you to get married with someone. Mostly so I 0:09:24.960 --> 0:09:30.360 just didn't know how to so like, I don't know, 0:09:30.559 --> 0:09:32.200 it's just the way I go up is like you 0:09:32.280 --> 0:09:34.400 don't just go to that guy and talk to him, 0:09:34.440 --> 0:09:39.280 you know, stuff like that, right, and then here you are, 0:09:39.320 --> 0:09:41.760 you going on a TV show where you have to 0:09:41.760 --> 0:09:43.720 put it all out there on the table. Did you 0:09:43.720 --> 0:09:47.280 notice after did you notice the difference between your like 0:09:47.480 --> 0:09:50.000 maybe like flirting style or anything like that before and 0:09:50.040 --> 0:09:53.760 after the show? Because for me specifically, it did make 0:09:53.800 --> 0:09:56.400 me a little more confident to talk to girls. I 0:09:56.400 --> 0:10:00.560 would say, um, didn't have that effect on you at all? Yeah, 0:10:00.600 --> 0:10:04.760 and added a confidence I am like I'm outgoing now 0:10:05.400 --> 0:10:08.520 Before I was, I know, we have to meet at 0:10:08.679 --> 0:10:11.120 church or we have to meet at the pharmacy. If not, 0:10:11.320 --> 0:10:13.160 I'm not going to talk to you, not on the 0:10:13.200 --> 0:10:15.840 bar or the restaurant. I was that, you know, I 0:10:15.920 --> 0:10:19.680 don't talk. But after the show, I learned how to 0:10:20.760 --> 0:10:24.320 make a good conversation with a man, no matter who 0:10:24.360 --> 0:10:26.560 that is. You know, a good date, bad date, I 0:10:26.600 --> 0:10:29.120 will see if it's a bad date, I will still 0:10:29.120 --> 0:10:34.040 be a lady and finish the talk and leave. That's 0:10:34.120 --> 0:10:36.840 funny because at the show, you know, like you're talking, 0:10:36.960 --> 0:10:38.840 you don't know how the date is going, and there's 0:10:38.880 --> 0:10:42.280 another commistake your guy. In the real world I would 0:10:42.320 --> 0:10:44.640 have I would be like, what, no, this is my guy. 0:10:44.760 --> 0:10:47.000 But at the show you have to let that good 0:10:47.040 --> 0:10:50.240 talk to him. So like but see, I still learn 0:10:50.520 --> 0:10:54.319 just be a lady, talk to the guy and move on. 0:10:54.960 --> 0:10:58.880 That's what I think that I brought back with me. 0:10:59.080 --> 0:11:02.240 If the date is but I'll be a lady out here. 0:11:02.320 --> 0:11:06.480 Maybe all a nice meeting you, I'm gone. Do you 0:11:06.480 --> 0:11:08.360 find yourself having a lot of those bad types of 0:11:08.440 --> 0:11:11.720 dates in New York? Not really? Well I'm not doing 0:11:11.760 --> 0:11:16.800 that much, but not really, I think, God, um no, 0:11:16.960 --> 0:11:19.480 I never had but one like in I used to 0:11:19.640 --> 0:11:22.240 live in Virginia. I just moved here in October. So 0:11:22.280 --> 0:11:25.840 it's been a year from Virginia's Virginia all nice one 0:11:25.840 --> 0:11:30.880 part of Virginia Fairfax Fairfax. Oh my god, that's where 0:11:30.880 --> 0:11:34.600 my wife is from. Yes, yes, she grew up in 0:11:34.600 --> 0:11:40.280 Great Falls. Nice. I finished high school in Shando University 0:11:40.320 --> 0:11:43.760 in Virginia. It's inside the Innoval Hospital. It's a big 0:11:43.800 --> 0:11:47.640 hospital in Fairfax. Then you know I moved here last year. 0:11:48.160 --> 0:11:52.720 Were you you worked at Fairfax Hospital? Now that school 0:11:52.800 --> 0:11:56.320 is inside the Fairfax Hospital in Nova, inside the Novas, 0:11:56.360 --> 0:11:59.199 inside the fair in the Fairfax has got her dad 0:11:59.240 --> 0:12:05.160 works the Fairfox Hospital. Yeah. So it's so funny. Small world. 0:12:06.360 --> 0:12:10.280 I know, I didn't anybody was from Fairfax area. You know, 0:12:10.720 --> 0:12:12.680 Virginian um. So what do you What do you do 0:12:12.720 --> 0:12:16.440 for work right now? I do farm as super time, 0:12:17.040 --> 0:12:20.120 Uh you know the story cool stuff in shop and 0:12:20.160 --> 0:12:28.120 I also demling and the influencer world. I know it's 0:12:28.120 --> 0:12:31.240 not that easy though. It's very hard. No, I mean, 0:12:31.280 --> 0:12:34.680 I I agree with you, it's definitely not. You know, 0:12:34.720 --> 0:12:38.720 you guys look very easy and very like elegant. It's 0:12:38.760 --> 0:12:41.079 a lot of hard work. Dean and I are not 0:12:43.400 --> 0:12:46.760 if we are even categorized as influencers, were not very 0:12:46.800 --> 0:12:50.800 good influencers. Jared, I speak for yourself, man, I loose elegance. Okay, 0:12:50.920 --> 0:12:54.840 I will say your sub I'll never forget your subway ud. 0:12:55.040 --> 0:12:58.720 That was one of the great post add brand details 0:12:58.760 --> 0:13:03.880 whatever of all time. He told my favorite one magie, 0:13:04.120 --> 0:13:07.560 I ate a Subway sandwich while skydiving. Yeah, he jumped 0:13:07.559 --> 0:13:11.640 out of a plane with the subway. That was an ad. Yeah, 0:13:11.720 --> 0:13:13.760 they subway somehow that said it was okay for me 0:13:13.800 --> 0:13:15.320 to do. It was Actually it was a hot air 0:13:15.360 --> 0:13:21.920 balloon jar, not an airplane. But anyway, Um, my dream 0:13:22.000 --> 0:13:23.600 is to have Subway. I really want to climb out 0:13:23.640 --> 0:13:27.040 Everest and I want Subway to sponsor me, and I 0:13:27.080 --> 0:13:30.040 want to tell them that I will exclusively eat Subway 0:13:30.080 --> 0:13:32.240 sandwiches the entire time I climb out Everest, and that 0:13:32.240 --> 0:13:34.240 would be like the ad for them. But I don't 0:13:34.280 --> 0:13:41.680 know if they'd go for that. Why No, it would 0:13:41.679 --> 0:13:43.000 be funny. I think it would be good for them, 0:13:43.000 --> 0:13:44.560 It would be good for me, it'd be good for everyone. 0:13:44.920 --> 0:13:46.840 One was the last time you skydive? Now I'm looking 0:13:46.880 --> 0:13:49.360 at your Instagram. It's been a long time. It's probably 0:13:49.360 --> 0:13:52.959 been about a year now. Yeah, it's been about a 0:13:53.040 --> 0:13:56.679 year now there last year, Yeah, I do. It's My 0:13:56.720 --> 0:14:00.720 best skydiving friend moved to Florida and he was always 0:14:00.720 --> 0:14:02.760 the one that would like rally the troops together and 0:14:02.840 --> 0:14:05.680 hoisauga s guy diving And now that he's gone, I 0:14:05.720 --> 0:14:09.400 don't have that that pull towards the sky diving. Uh, 0:14:10.160 --> 0:14:12.920 I guess arena that I have in the subway. Want 0:14:12.960 --> 0:14:16.240 it's so good? But you want to know who? Um 0:14:16.280 --> 0:14:17.800 who I've been talking to a little bit. Is you 0:14:17.800 --> 0:14:22.320 know John Hershey? He used to date Katie Thurston. I think, yeah. 0:14:22.360 --> 0:14:23.760 I mean, I'm sure if I saw his picture I'd 0:14:23.840 --> 0:14:27.160 recognize him. He was from Katie season got dumped early, 0:14:27.160 --> 0:14:28.960 but then she ended up dating him afterwards. Anyway, he's 0:14:28.960 --> 0:14:31.120 a skuy diver and we've never met in person, but 0:14:31.160 --> 0:14:33.000 we talked every once in a while. And maybe him 0:14:33.040 --> 0:14:35.280 and I with you guys should meet ten thousand feet 0:14:35.280 --> 0:14:37.360 in the air. You guys should have two planes that 0:14:37.400 --> 0:14:42.920 cross paths and then yeah, and then as you cross pass, 0:14:42.960 --> 0:14:45.240 you just jumped towards each other and then grab hands 0:14:45.240 --> 0:14:48.400 in the middle of the middle of the air. Sarcastically, 0:14:48.480 --> 0:14:51.160 but that is a really good idea, and you're like, Hi, 0:14:51.240 --> 0:14:53.480 I'm John, Hi I'm Dean, and then you pull each 0:14:53.520 --> 0:14:58.160 other shoots that like a sexual innuendow. Maybe I don't know. 0:14:58.200 --> 0:14:59.560 I kind of like it though. It could be the 0:14:59.600 --> 0:15:03.080 beginning of a romantic movie. Yeah, it could be, or 0:15:03.440 --> 0:15:06.360 the best friends flying through the end. It's like you 0:15:06.360 --> 0:15:08.480 guys never meet in person, you know, in the whole 0:15:08.520 --> 0:15:10.560 movie is just you guys writing letters towards each other, 0:15:10.640 --> 0:15:12.560 and then you finally meet ten feet in the air 0:15:12.600 --> 0:15:16.080 as you're jumping sky diving into the air, and then 0:15:16.120 --> 0:15:18.640 we both die because our para. Yeah, and then both 0:15:18.640 --> 0:15:20.440 of the shoots don't work and then you just splat. 0:15:21.240 --> 0:15:24.120 It's like the song Candles in the Wind, instead of 0:15:24.160 --> 0:15:28.000 that it's ten feet in the air. Yeah, tragic ending, 0:15:28.360 --> 0:15:41.640 but it makes you really gives you all the fields. Anyways, 0:15:41.720 --> 0:15:43.480 I feel bad. I feel like I've taken their attention 0:15:43.480 --> 0:15:44.800 to right for Maggie, where that's what we want the 0:15:44.800 --> 0:15:50.320 atte I'm enjoying it. Nobody's enjoying this, Maggie. I tell you, 0:15:52.520 --> 0:15:55.440 I under staid that I always think it's something magical. 0:15:55.760 --> 0:15:57.520 I don't know if I would do it, though, Oh 0:15:57.520 --> 0:16:03.200 you've never done it. No, should do it? What's stopping you? Fear? 0:16:03.720 --> 0:16:07.640 I love both and I don't want to die. Yeah, right, 0:16:07.760 --> 0:16:09.720 I am. I'm with Maggie on this one. That's all 0:16:09.760 --> 0:16:13.000 I can think about. I'm like, yeah, I'd love No. 0:16:13.600 --> 0:16:17.400 I have debated it. There there's a big part of 0:16:17.400 --> 0:16:19.960 me that wants to go, but I'm with Maggie. There's 0:16:20.000 --> 0:16:21.880 also a big part of me that doesn't want to 0:16:21.920 --> 0:16:27.200 splat on the surface of the earth. So that's that 0:16:28.440 --> 0:16:30.400 you want a dead No, it's so much to take 0:16:31.520 --> 0:16:33.760 and I want to be A month's much risk to take. 0:16:33.800 --> 0:16:38.720 Sorry done, but yeah, wait, do you know what the 0:16:38.760 --> 0:16:44.120 statistical likelihood of surviving are pretty much dying while parachuting 0:16:44.160 --> 0:16:48.040 it has to be so low, it's astronomically small. Yeah, 0:16:48.080 --> 0:16:50.960 it's like less than a thousandth of a percent. What 0:16:50.840 --> 0:16:52.200 the what are the what are the odds that your 0:16:52.280 --> 0:16:58.040 shoot doesn't open? Pretty much zero? I would say, what 0:16:58.120 --> 0:17:00.720 would cause a shoot not to open? I'm trying to 0:17:00.880 --> 0:17:04.280 I'm trying to think there's really no situation where the 0:17:04.440 --> 0:17:07.480 parachute wouldn't open. It could open up and like be 0:17:07.560 --> 0:17:09.920 twisted up, and that would be really bad. It could 0:17:09.960 --> 0:17:12.320 open up and you have like rips in it. Well, 0:17:12.320 --> 0:17:14.320 how would it How would it get twists? So I 0:17:14.359 --> 0:17:17.040 feel like it could get twisted up pretty easily. It 0:17:17.520 --> 0:17:20.280 I mean, how do you well that's that's my that's 0:17:20.320 --> 0:17:22.679 my point exactly. You just said, yeah, it could get 0:17:22.720 --> 0:17:25.159 twisted up easily, So how can that's the most common 0:17:25.320 --> 0:17:27.800 That's the most common occurrence when you skydive, is your 0:17:28.040 --> 0:17:30.800 lines getting twisted. But then what you do is you 0:17:30.880 --> 0:17:33.400 just pull the parachute like the lines above you apart 0:17:33.520 --> 0:17:35.479 from each other, and eventually it should fix itself. If 0:17:35.480 --> 0:17:37.600 it doesn't and you get into like a free spin 0:17:38.280 --> 0:17:40.520 and you start to panic, then you could cut cut 0:17:40.520 --> 0:17:42.960 your parachute away and then pull your reserve parachute and 0:17:42.960 --> 0:17:44.520 if that one's twisted, then you're just gonna have to 0:17:44.560 --> 0:17:48.600 figure it out. But I will say the safest, Uh, 0:17:48.720 --> 0:17:52.120 it's not the safest, But when you skydive tandem, you're 0:17:52.200 --> 0:17:55.480 jumping on these parachutes that are so so so big. 0:17:56.040 --> 0:18:01.560 It's like driving as suv down the highway, versus when 0:18:01.600 --> 0:18:04.040 you're jumping so low you want to jump small parachutes, 0:18:04.040 --> 0:18:06.560 which is like driving a little Porsche boxter down the highway. 0:18:06.760 --> 0:18:09.720 So like, the big, big parachutes have like even a 0:18:10.000 --> 0:18:12.720 way smaller chance of failing because there's so much wind 0:18:12.760 --> 0:18:14.399 for them to catch, and so like, if they just 0:18:14.440 --> 0:18:16.879 correct themselves so easily, so if you guys do ever 0:18:17.119 --> 0:18:19.560 go skydiving, you can think about how safe it is 0:18:19.600 --> 0:18:23.080 because you're jumping like the biggest parachute imaginable. Yeah, and 0:18:23.119 --> 0:18:25.119 so you're totally fine. I get that. It's like the 0:18:25.119 --> 0:18:29.159 difference between taking a small little puddle jumper versus taking 0:18:29.160 --> 0:18:33.520 a seven four seven, Give me that seven every single time. 0:18:33.600 --> 0:18:36.360 I want a bus in the air. But why don't 0:18:36.400 --> 0:18:38.959 you just use a big parachute every time? I'm sorry? Now, 0:18:39.000 --> 0:18:43.679 I'm so interested because as you get better at the sport, like, 0:18:43.720 --> 0:18:46.480 as you improve, you become more dangerous and you want 0:18:46.480 --> 0:18:49.159 more maneuvers, and I'm sure that you have more flexibility 0:18:49.160 --> 0:18:52.200 with a smaller parachute and dumb like that. It's more 0:18:52.480 --> 0:18:55.480 more agile, way more fast as well. So like, yeah, 0:18:55.520 --> 0:18:57.840 that's what I want. I want to go faster towards 0:18:57.840 --> 0:19:00.959 the ground as it's definitely something that having conflicts with, 0:19:01.000 --> 0:19:03.840 Like I'm conflicted. So what you typically want when you're 0:19:03.840 --> 0:19:05.439 starting out is like a one to one wing loading, 0:19:05.480 --> 0:19:08.000 So I wait, two hundred pounds and you want a 0:19:08.040 --> 0:19:11.440 parachute that's like two square feet. Um, My parachutes a 0:19:11.520 --> 0:19:13.560 hundred seventy square feet, which means it's a little faster 0:19:13.600 --> 0:19:15.720 than my one to one wig loading, but eventually you 0:19:15.760 --> 0:19:18.760 get people that are jumping like these eighties square foot parachutes, 0:19:18.760 --> 0:19:22.080 which is just like crazy small. It's like a one 0:19:22.160 --> 0:19:24.159 point two to one wing loading, which is like so 0:19:24.320 --> 0:19:26.720 like you come into the ground and you're swooping in 0:19:26.960 --> 0:19:30.200 and you're going like legitimately like thirty and one tiny 0:19:30.240 --> 0:19:34.840 mistake is a broken leg, concussion, whatever it might be. Like, 0:19:34.880 --> 0:19:37.080 I have a lot of friends that I follow on 0:19:37.080 --> 0:19:39.480 on Instagram that are skydivers, and I feel like every 0:19:39.480 --> 0:19:42.720 other week someone's like, oh, crash my parachute again today, 0:19:42.720 --> 0:19:44.880 I'll be in the hospital for the next three months. 0:19:44.920 --> 0:19:48.000 And I'm like, I'll just stick with my big parachute 0:19:48.080 --> 0:19:51.280 and not really worry about going very fast. Yeah, it 0:19:51.359 --> 0:19:55.200 feels like the thrill from skydiving is the free fall, 0:19:55.320 --> 0:19:58.840 not after your parachute releases. You know, you'd think that, 0:19:59.359 --> 0:20:01.119 because I agree with you. I think I thought that 0:20:01.160 --> 0:20:04.080 for a while too, But it's not true because when 0:20:04.160 --> 0:20:07.639 you're free falling, as fun as that part is, you 0:20:07.920 --> 0:20:10.240 have like less I don't know, I don't know how 0:20:10.280 --> 0:20:13.359 to describe. You have less control. You have less of 0:20:13.359 --> 0:20:17.040 of of like of of falling, and then once you're 0:20:17.080 --> 0:20:19.359 under your parachute, then you can like start to do 0:20:19.520 --> 0:20:23.840 like maneuvers and tricks, more skill involved, more skill, and 0:20:23.840 --> 0:20:25.960 then you're like, obviously you're gonna land with your parachute. 0:20:25.960 --> 0:20:28.199 So there's like a lot more set up. Um. But 0:20:28.240 --> 0:20:30.399 everyone's different. Some people like the free fall a lot more. 0:20:30.480 --> 0:20:34.200 Some people like the the parachuting a lot more. I've 0:20:34.240 --> 0:20:36.760 done I've all sometimes because I think I eventually liked 0:20:37.040 --> 0:20:39.080 being under the canopy a lot more. So you would 0:20:39.119 --> 0:20:40.480 jump out of the airplane and I would just pull 0:20:40.520 --> 0:20:42.360 my parachute right away instead of having any free fall, 0:20:42.359 --> 0:20:43.840 and then you could just like float around for a 0:20:43.840 --> 0:20:47.000 couple of minutes or twenty minutes. It's pretty nice. Um. 0:20:47.080 --> 0:20:49.080 But I feel like we've been talking about this so much. 0:20:51.600 --> 0:20:53.280 I feel guilty. I feel like we've got our listeners 0:20:53.320 --> 0:20:55.159 that are like, it's either Tom Brady or skydiving with 0:20:55.160 --> 0:20:57.879 these two guys, let's freaking do The skydiving is fascinating 0:20:57.920 --> 0:20:59.720 to me. I think it's fascinating to a lot of 0:20:59.760 --> 0:21:02.840 people because it's one of those things that I would 0:21:02.840 --> 0:21:06.479 bet a majority out there would want to do it, 0:21:06.520 --> 0:21:08.880 but are just too scared to do it. Well, let's 0:21:08.880 --> 0:21:12.200 I'm gonna look it up real quick. Skydiving deaths per year. 0:21:12.400 --> 0:21:14.320 Let's see what it says. Well, we have to figure 0:21:14.359 --> 0:21:17.800 out how many people go skydiving per year? Would you say, Megan, 0:21:18.680 --> 0:21:23.560 if it's not zero, I'll ask you I'll tell you what. 0:21:23.560 --> 0:21:25.399 There's a lot more car crashes per year than there 0:21:25.400 --> 0:21:28.239 are skydiving actual how many more cars are there in 0:21:28.280 --> 0:21:31.760 the world than people who jump out of airplanes? Okay, 0:21:31.920 --> 0:21:34.040 I'll ask you guys this in two thousand nineteen, it's 0:21:34.040 --> 0:21:36.119 the last year that they have the number one record. 0:21:36.320 --> 0:21:38.359 I want you guys to guess how many fatalities there 0:21:38.400 --> 0:21:40.879 were in the entire sport of skydiving recorded. I'm sure 0:21:40.920 --> 0:21:42.520