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Speaker 1: Hey, this is Sam. This is John, the OG story

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Speaker 1: Oh yeah, my wife cheated on me with my best friend.

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Speaker 1: Not great.

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Speaker 3: Me twenty three male and my wife twenty two female,

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Speaker 3: met when we were fourteen when I was playing in

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Speaker 3: an out of state baseball tournament, and instantly we hit

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Speaker 3: it off.

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Speaker 1: An American love story. Oh. She helped me through my parents'

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Speaker 1: divorce and I helped her through her sister's asking. Oh

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Speaker 1: my goodness.

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Speaker 3: We talked often about how much we loved each other

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Speaker 3: and have been together ever since. My friends would often

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Speaker 3: say how I would lock myself in my room and

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Speaker 3: talk to her instead of hanging out with them. By

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Speaker 3: the way, this comes from whack Attack and if you

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Speaker 1: Okay, story time to stop about it.

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Speaker 3: So we visit each other often until I moved to

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Speaker 3: her state when I was seventeen. We were married in

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Speaker 3: November of twenty twelve, four years after I moved. Okay,

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Speaker 3: things were beyond amazing for the entirety of our relationship.

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Speaker 3: So that's the end of story.

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Speaker 1: What do you think to go to Yeah, it sounds

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Speaker 1: like everything was perfect exccept Oh no, except I know

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Speaker 1: there's a second half. He's going crazy.

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Speaker 3: Except for three months when I faced a deep depression,

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Speaker 3: we were very spicy, cuddly, loving and inseparabowl most of

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Speaker 3: I started to notice a lack of affection coming from

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Speaker 3: her end, and I was quite jealous of my best friend,

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Speaker 3: who my wife spends a lot of time with and babies.

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Speaker 3: I don't drink booze due to having a heavy drinking father.

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Speaker 3: They drink together nearly every night, and she usually doesn't

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Speaker 1: And You're just like, that's totally chill.

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Speaker 3: You're gonna let that happen, buddy, Riley told me you

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Speaker 3: go to sleep at like two to three am. Me.

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Speaker 1: Yeah, no, that's what you said to me. Yeah, yeah,

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Speaker 1: about you. So, hey, she's just following the Riley Wilson plan. No,

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Speaker 1: I'm not.

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Speaker 4: Well, Maybe she is well, depends on what she's doing.

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Speaker 4: Is she at home or is she with the guy

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Speaker 4: that is a Yeah, it's kind of unclear, be insane.

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Speaker 1: If they were just hanging out in the living room

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Speaker 1: be more insane than her being out let's You're like, yeah,

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Speaker 1: that's weird, Loki. I usually do.

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Speaker 3: Not go with them because I wake up rather early. Okay,

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Speaker 3: grad school. We talked about a relationship after I told

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Speaker 3: her I was upset, and she told me that our relationship.

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Speaker 1: Had zero passion and that she wasn't happy with me.

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Speaker 1: I mean, wait, what had zero passion? I kind of

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Speaker 1: got to agree with the zero passion If you don't care,

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Speaker 1: she's hanging out with someone, some other guy intil three

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Speaker 1: he said, he's upset. Did you care enough to do

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Speaker 1: anything about it? Though?

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Speaker 4: I mean, he's telling her now, But she can't say

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Speaker 4: zero passion because they were very passionate right before, like

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Speaker 4: three months ago, right like this, everything was good.

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Speaker 1: They were super cluddly spic related.

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Speaker 1: I think it's depression. I think that's the timeline. Yeah, yeah,

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Speaker 1: I think, oh he got he got the DEPRESSI and

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Speaker 1: she said, oh, he's not a perfect person. I guess

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Speaker 1: I'll have to figure it out. And best friend came in.

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Speaker 1: You DEPRESSI no DEPRESSI. And what should I do when

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Speaker 1: my boyfriend's depressed, I'll sleep with his best friend.

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Speaker 3: That's a brilliant IDEA good job, Dakota mean Op's girlfriend. God,

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Speaker 3: So I asked her to work on it with me,

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Speaker 3: Since then, we have not had any spicy contact, have

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Speaker 1: If you tie, ah, so this is fully not your girlfriend. No, no,

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Speaker 1: she just likes sleeps in his bed, cool friend's bed. Yeah,

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Speaker 1: I'm confused. Why we are staying she just sleeps on

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Speaker 3: Well, my birthday was last Monday and all I got

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Speaker 1: Dude, most people don't even get that keeps getting better.

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Speaker 3: About one month ago, she told me she doesn't think

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Speaker 3: we have ever had the spark or passion she's talking about.

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Speaker 3: She thought that loving me was enough to get us

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Speaker 3: through anything. Despite all of that, I still love her

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Speaker 3: with all that I am. I cannot imagine being without her.

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Speaker 3: She's been my best friend for nearly ten years.

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Speaker 1: She's been the.

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Speaker 3: Anchor in my life for just as long. I keep

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Speaker 3: racking my brain to try and understand what she means,

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Speaker 3: but that spark and passion has been there for me.

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Speaker 3: I don't really know what to do any I love

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Speaker 3: this woman. She's the most beautiful person I know. She's

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Speaker 3: the driving force of why I'm in grad school to

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Speaker 3: provide for her and hopefully our future children. She makes

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Speaker 3: me even better. I want nothing more than to be

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Speaker 3: with her, and it seems like it's sliding out from

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Speaker 1: This is my first Reddit post.

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Speaker 3: I don't really have much of anyone else to talk

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Speaker 3: to because my best friend is Part of the problem

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Speaker 3: is that your friend, buddy, the first time she slept

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Speaker 3: in his bed, he could be like whoa best friend

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Speaker 3: and ex friend, ex friend and wife? I believe right, yeah, wife?

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Speaker 3: What are both of y'all doing? Why is there that

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Speaker 3: makes me insanely uncomfortable? Like this is way too much Dakota,

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Speaker 3: you have a face.

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Speaker 1: It hurts. It hurts me. I am in anguish. Oh oh,

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Speaker 1: this is what obe has to do right now, go

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Speaker 1: to talent, and that's why he went to the value you. Yeah,

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Speaker 1: she's not your girlfriend anymore. She's his girlfriend and she

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Speaker 1: probably cheated on you, and that's why she's not gonna

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Speaker 1: go Well, babe, we don't have this spark. I'm cheating

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Speaker 1: on you. I slept with your best friend. We have

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Speaker 1: this bark, but not you and I. She's not gonna

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Speaker 1: say that, so we don't have a spark. Why'd you

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Speaker 1: do that?

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Speaker 3: You made the spark go away because I hopped on

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Speaker 3: your friend's disco stick and bounced around like a clown.

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Speaker 3: Excuse me, excuse me, Dakota, look at me.

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Speaker 1: Excuse me. You're excused. No, you're not excused. I am

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Speaker 1: excusing you from being my girlfriend. Classes in session and

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Speaker 1: you're freaking late. We're gonna teach you about morals. Yeah,

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Speaker 1: we're gonna send you back to philosophy. One oh one.

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Speaker 4: Also, what I would like to see in this next

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Speaker 4: little bit is roleplay between you two where Dakota puts

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Speaker 4: the talent on as the girl and then you're the guy.

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Speaker 1: I would love that. Is this like a cameo request?

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Speaker 1: Like are you submitting this through Fiver or something? Yes,

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Speaker 1: I'm submitting this right now. I'd love to see that.

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Speaker 3: We're gonna do a breakdown of what could happen and

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Speaker 3: then what should happen before we get into the update. Okay,

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Speaker 3: stay buckled, and we're going to get there. So you

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Speaker 3: guys seem to be pretty accepting and helpful. How do

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Speaker 3: I get the spark or passion back if she hasn't

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Speaker 3: felt it in our entire relationship? We have some relevant

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Speaker 3: comments before that, Dakota and I are.

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Speaker 1: Going to act out.

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Speaker 3: Yes, I am going to play the role of op

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Speaker 3: and then Dakota is going to play.

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Speaker 1: The role of why. Yeah okay guy, hmm yeah.

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Speaker 3: Listen, we've had an incredible ten years together. But you know,

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Speaker 3: it kind of hurts me a lot that you are

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Speaker 1: Freaking disco stick up and down. That's crazy. What First

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Speaker 1: of all, I am not doing that, and also I

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Speaker 1: don't even like you and I never did.

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Speaker 3: Okay, well, you know what. That hurts me so much,

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Speaker 3: But what is our ten years of relationship meting?

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Speaker 1: Oh boring? Boring, boring, boring, years old, boring.

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Speaker 3: You know what's really boring? The divorce papers you're about

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Speaker 3: to get served.

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Speaker 1: Oh now, I love you, See I actually love you

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Speaker 1: more than anything else on earth. Please don't do this

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Speaker 1: to me? Why are you doing this to me? Here's

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Speaker 3: I don't know if I can I want to give

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Speaker 3: but I don't know if I can get I don't

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Speaker 3: have to sit and think. And I don't like this.

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Speaker 3: The switch up feels now disingenuine. Yeah, can I be

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Speaker 3: I'm gonna tell you you shouldn't get back with me.

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Speaker 1: Thank you. I've been the woman the whole time. Oh

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Speaker 1: and yeah, you should break up with me. Break up

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Speaker 1: with me. I'm actively pulling you down into the abyss

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Speaker 1: break up with me? End it? That is correct? Yep? Well,

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Speaker 1: we've got some relevant comments. See what they have to say.

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Speaker 1: Like Johnny Cash said the ring of fire, Oh ring fire?

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Speaker 3: Comment to number one says, why is your wife regularly

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Speaker 3: out drinking till three am with another man. That's the

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Speaker 3: first thing to address. Not okay, Opie says, your guess

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Speaker 3: is as good as mine. I try to go out

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Speaker 3: with them as often as they can. It's just that

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Speaker 3: I always feel like a third wheel. Strange that I

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Speaker 3: a little strange, isn't it. Reply Have you asked her

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Speaker 3: to stop splash cut back? You can't start working on

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Speaker 1: I have.

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Speaker 3: Usually gets upset and thinks I'm calling her a heavy drinker.

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Speaker 3: I've even asked her if we could do something other

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Speaker 3: and it has yet to happen. She also makes it

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Speaker 3: a point to say nothing is happening between the two

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Speaker 4: Like preemptively, what do you mean for the most part,

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Speaker 4: which I believe for the most part.

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Speaker 1: What part are you believing, Opie?

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Speaker 3: Or sweet baby Boy? Also a reminder I might have

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Speaker 3: us wrong I believe they're like twenty two, dingis butt?

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Speaker 3: How old are these people? Twenty three and twenty two?

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Speaker 3: Twenty three and twenty two?

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Speaker 1: Where are parents here? It's like, so the parent's responsibility

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Speaker 1: is to like teach the children what you shouldn't tolerate,

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Speaker 1: you know, in a relationship. Do they know? I mean

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Speaker 1: that might not.

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Speaker 3: Be something that I'm running to tell my parents, like,

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Speaker 3: oh yeah, you know, my wife is just like, no

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Speaker 1: No, it's not about them being your counsel. Now, it's

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Speaker 1: Well? I also just it just hit me that they've

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Speaker 4: Your best friend, well, I mean for her. I was saying,

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Speaker 1: Sure, if you did that three years ago, maybe if

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Speaker 3: Sleep in everyone's bed every night. What does OP do though?

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Speaker 3: Well updates? I found out on August eighteenth, while on

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Speaker 3: He's operating like he doesn't know. He knows that they

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Speaker 3: We don't know that for this night, but other nights

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Speaker 3: So after reading some crude texts and several I love you,

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Speaker 1: Now we know.

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Speaker 3: That's when my wife and friends came up the elevator.

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Speaker 1: Rye.

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Speaker 3: I simply said I'm going home, and after further questioning

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Speaker 3: it chocolate blue. His response was, what the heck are

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Speaker 1: Yeah. Her response instant tears. Well, there you go.

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Speaker 3: That's how you know she's in she's crying tears of

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Speaker 1: Not that she's like pod or anything. No, no, no,

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Speaker 1: that's not an at all. It's like a in court,

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Speaker 3: She walked with me to my car and told me

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Speaker 1: Just honestly, I'm just shut up. Just shut your home mouth,

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Speaker 3: All I could respond with was that she made me

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Speaker 3: He also said, wait, that she was all I ever

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Speaker 3: little contradictory, but we're gonna keep going. As I go

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Speaker 3: in tears and asked if I wanted to talk to him, Bro, you.

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Speaker 1: Want to No? No? And all I said was never again? Eh?

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Speaker 1: I mean, look, this is great. How was this not

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Speaker 3: Because you know, Dakota was just laying out a calmon

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Speaker 3: and understandable scenario, which is like, hey, we've been together

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Speaker 1: Hey, you know that makes sense. But Dakota, what did

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Speaker 1: She just straight up just went and banged his best

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Speaker 3: When she could have just said, Hey, can we talk

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Speaker 1: While she was doing that, she was actively trying to

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Speaker 3: Boner points. What boner points? He wanted to say boner

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Speaker 1: Ah no, but I have none. This is the opposite

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Speaker 3: Oh boy, yeah, Well, on my way back down the elevator,

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Speaker 1: God, what is it with this elevator?

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Speaker 3: The homeowner told them that they were welcome, so in tears,

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Speaker 1: Dollars at a zero and I'll think about it. M

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Speaker 1: A two Yeah, thirty, I need thirty now he's going

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Speaker 1: I won't be able to hear you. You're insane. That's crazy.

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Speaker 1: What do you mean for three grand? Uh huh? For

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Speaker 1: You think I can associate drive divorced. I'm checked, I'm dissociating.

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Speaker 1: I might actually be on Dakota side. Now, dude, Yeah,

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Speaker 1: I'm gonna just say I do the click click, I

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Speaker 3: I told him every time you f or, I hope

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Speaker 3: He had depression issues and was ready to unlive himself.

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Speaker 3: him get back on his feet. Ohki dude, okay, just

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Speaker 3: to take a quick steck into diccond who's worse in

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Speaker 1: This is why?

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Speaker 3: Okay, so OPI could have addressed this weight early, been

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Speaker 3: the things that the facts that he knew, like why

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Speaker 1: But why why are you hurting me? This is this

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Speaker 3: He could have said all that, but by not addressing it,

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Speaker 1: But we don't need to say that. Sure, we don't

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Speaker 1: You're like, I'm saving I just saved my best friend's life.

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Speaker 1: And how does he repay you? He sleeps with your

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Speaker 1: do I approve of it? Of course not. Do I

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Speaker 1: I'm saying I understand it, not that I condone it.

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Speaker 4: I don't even Yes, does he pushed the limit by

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Speaker 1: You're not gonna feel good later about having said that.

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Speaker 4: Yeah, But also you get like, you go to your

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Speaker 4: That's what I'm saying. It's not it is insane.

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Speaker 1: saying it's okay, but I understand it too much.

435
00:19:08,119 --> 00:19:11,120
Speaker 3: But Opie says, I then drove thirteen hours straight home,

436
00:19:11,280 --> 00:19:14,360
Speaker 3: called everyone I could think of, including both of their parents,

437
00:19:14,400 --> 00:19:16,200
Speaker 3: who I wouldn't hesitate to call my own.

438
00:19:16,359 --> 00:19:16,600
Speaker 1: Wow.

439
00:19:16,680 --> 00:19:18,399
Speaker 3: When I got home, I was packing my things and

440
00:19:18,440 --> 00:19:21,240
Speaker 3: saw my wife's journal slash diary slash writing notebook.

441
00:19:21,320 --> 00:19:23,560
Speaker 1: At this point, I don't care anymore, but I read it.

442
00:19:23,520 --> 00:19:26,320
Speaker 3: Gets a story written and dated March fourteenth about their

443
00:19:26,480 --> 00:19:27,720
Speaker 3: very detailed.

444
00:19:27,240 --> 00:19:29,480
Speaker 1: Spicy sleep life. Why do people detail the stuff in

445
00:19:29,480 --> 00:19:29,880
Speaker 1: their journal?

446
00:19:29,880 --> 00:19:32,240
Speaker 3: It's crazy how they would wait for me to go

447
00:19:32,320 --> 00:19:35,120
Speaker 3: to sleep and f on our couch, slash in my car,

448
00:19:35,160 --> 00:19:37,240
Speaker 3: slash in my bed when I wasn't home, slash in

449
00:19:37,280 --> 00:19:40,880
Speaker 3: his bed, slashed in our shower, slash in our garage.

450
00:19:40,960 --> 00:19:43,240
Speaker 1: So it was just hot for her. She just liked

451
00:19:43,240 --> 00:19:46,720
Speaker 1: how sneaky and hot it was. Oh my god.

452
00:19:46,880 --> 00:19:50,359
Speaker 3: Another poem was dated February twenty fourteen, detailing how a

453
00:19:50,480 --> 00:19:53,159
Speaker 3: shadow haunted her, but he was her future and her

454
00:19:53,200 --> 00:19:55,880
Speaker 3: true love. Oh so, Opie was a shadow that all

455
00:19:56,000 --> 00:20:00,919
Speaker 3: she could taste was his lips. This was Opie, the

456
00:20:01,400 --> 00:20:03,000
Speaker 3: ex wife is a bad poet.

457
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Speaker 1: I just imagine that like a strange curse, like the

458
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Speaker 1: Midas Church, where everything you touched her ins into gold.

459
00:20:08,600 --> 00:20:11,520
Speaker 1: It's like you can't taste anything unless it's lip shaped.

460
00:20:11,880 --> 00:20:18,280
Speaker 1: Like but I imagine she was like, oh, taste the lip.

461
00:20:18,560 --> 00:20:22,720
Speaker 1: I love the taste of lip. This was all before

462
00:20:22,800 --> 00:20:24,920
Speaker 1: I had ever known she was unhappy. We were still

463
00:20:24,960 --> 00:20:27,800
Speaker 1: having spicy sleep regularly up until mid March, even had

464
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Speaker 1: spicy sleep twice in very.

465
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Speaker 3: Early April, so she was lying about all that too.

466
00:20:31,920 --> 00:20:34,360
Speaker 3: All of her friends have abandoned her. I now live

467
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Speaker 3: with her former best friend, the owner of the beach house,

468
00:20:36,800 --> 00:20:38,119
Speaker 3: and two of her other friends.

469
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Speaker 1: They've all said their pieces to her and been blocked

470
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Speaker 1: in the process.

471
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Speaker 3: I filed for divorce finally on Friday, and my god,

472
00:20:45,560 --> 00:20:46,359
Speaker 3: does it feel good.

473
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Speaker 1: I am so relieved to be out of it.

474
00:20:47,880 --> 00:20:49,960
Speaker 3: I was racking my brain for so long trying to

475
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Speaker 3: figure out what I was doing wrong.

476
00:20:52,080 --> 00:20:54,480
Speaker 1: Turns out I wasn't. That's right.

477
00:20:54,760 --> 00:20:57,479
Speaker 3: But yeah, I mean, just to kind of reiterate the

478
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Speaker 3: point we've been saying throughout this is like op was

479
00:21:00,400 --> 00:21:02,919
Speaker 3: so well within his right, and I think This is

480
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Speaker 3: just kind of you.

481
00:21:03,960 --> 00:21:07,320
Speaker 1: Know, young young boy man.

482
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Speaker 3: Early twenty two year old man, vibes of just like

483
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Speaker 3: oh what do I say? Like how do I figure

484
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Speaker 3: this out? And it's like, no, you're not doing anything wrong.

485
00:21:17,640 --> 00:21:21,960
Speaker 3: Your wife completely betrayed you and it's completely okay, and

486
00:21:22,359 --> 00:21:24,680
Speaker 3: she should be confronted because she needs to know, Hey,

487
00:21:25,160 --> 00:21:28,840
Speaker 3: look at this insanely fed up thing you're doing to me.

488
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Speaker 1: What is this? What's they think? This is a story

489
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Speaker 1: that shows the importance of having counsel. You have to

490
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Speaker 1: be able to talk about your relationship with the other

491
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Speaker 1: people in your life, like your friends. It's like, you know,

492
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Speaker 1: because if you don't. I can only imagine if I

493
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Speaker 1: was in this position and I was talking to my

494
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Speaker 1: friends when I was in my early twenties and I

495
00:21:49,520 --> 00:21:51,960
Speaker 1: explained what was going on, they would have been like,

496
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Speaker 1: you need to break up with her yesterday? What are

497
00:21:54,880 --> 00:21:57,080
Speaker 1: you doing? Yeah, I know you've been with her for

498
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Speaker 1: ten years? What are you doing? You just be in

499
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Speaker 1: his bed, you know. But it doesn't sound like OPI

500
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Speaker 1: had that, And I don't know if that's a byproduct

501
00:22:05,200 --> 00:22:08,280
Speaker 1: of the relationship or just Op's prerogative, but yeah, you

502
00:22:08,760 --> 00:22:12,000
Speaker 1: have more than just the person in front of you

503
00:22:12,200 --> 00:22:14,919
Speaker 1: to base your perspective off of. You know, I just

504
00:22:14,960 --> 00:22:17,760
Speaker 1: imagine the friends could have helped greatly. I agree, like

505
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Speaker 1: anyone at any outside perspective whatsoever on the situation. Anyone.

506
00:22:22,000 --> 00:22:24,320
Speaker 3: Well, boys and girls, let's get into the finale here.

507
00:22:24,400 --> 00:22:27,680
Speaker 3: So now I'm recovering slowly, I'm sure, but I now

508
00:22:27,720 --> 00:22:29,200
Speaker 3: have a sudden strong.

509
00:22:28,920 --> 00:22:33,600
Speaker 1: Interest in women. Oh shock, Oh, I have really quickly.

510
00:22:33,640 --> 00:22:36,000
Speaker 1: I just have to realize it was his best friend

511
00:22:36,040 --> 00:22:39,240
Speaker 1: who was doing the cheating. Yep. So your counsel would

512
00:22:39,240 --> 00:22:41,600
Speaker 1: have been like, you're tripping. Dang, a lot of gas lighting.

513
00:22:41,720 --> 00:22:45,480
Speaker 1: Oh my god, yeah, you were in an unwrintable situiza.

514
00:22:45,240 --> 00:22:51,120
Speaker 3: Yep, am, yeah, yeah, cards are stacked. Maybe the cards

515
00:22:51,160 --> 00:22:54,159
Speaker 3: were stacked. Is it just a rebound being interested in

516
00:22:54,320 --> 00:22:56,920
Speaker 3: other women. I'm not sure. I'm not pushing the issue

517
00:22:56,960 --> 00:22:59,520
Speaker 3: or anything. And I haven't dated in nine years. I mean,

518
00:22:59,560 --> 00:23:03,480
Speaker 3: granted you were freaking fourteen. Brother, well he starts here, okay,

519
00:23:03,960 --> 00:23:06,840
Speaker 3: but i'd like to. I know it's still probably too soon,

520
00:23:07,040 --> 00:23:09,480
Speaker 3: but I do long for it because I've had it

521
00:23:09,600 --> 00:23:12,000
Speaker 3: and now it's missing. That being said, I'm happy to

522
00:23:12,040 --> 00:23:14,919
Speaker 3: be single. I'm enjoying just being me currently, but wouldn't

523
00:23:14,960 --> 00:23:19,000
Speaker 3: mind someone just really quick. Op I would highly advise

524
00:23:19,080 --> 00:23:21,040
Speaker 3: not jumping right into a relationship right now.

525
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Speaker 1: Yes, be single, nah, jump in rebound, be some Dennis

526
00:23:24,640 --> 00:23:28,520
Speaker 1: Rodman that rebounds don't have to be relationships. Pet.

527
00:23:28,680 --> 00:23:32,200
Speaker 3: It could be literally rebounding a actual physical basketball because

528
00:23:32,200 --> 00:23:33,680
Speaker 3: you're hitting the court and up in your game.

529
00:23:33,720 --> 00:23:34,840
Speaker 1: It could be truly.

530
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Speaker 3: It could be you are building beds because beds also

531
00:23:39,240 --> 00:23:43,680
Speaker 3: portrayed you in the process, and by building learning how

532
00:23:43,680 --> 00:23:46,800
Speaker 3: to build beds, you are reclaiming that or destroying them

533
00:23:47,040 --> 00:23:47,760
Speaker 3: or destroying them.

534
00:23:47,920 --> 00:23:51,520
Speaker 1: Yeah, start a new business and might start a rage room. Yeah,

535
00:23:51,760 --> 00:23:54,520
Speaker 1: I like that. That's your rebound. So many things somebody

536
00:23:54,560 --> 00:23:55,320
Speaker 1: offs so many opts.

537
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Speaker 3: I actually kind of feel like our relationship has been

538
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Speaker 3: over for longer than a month. I mean, I was

539
00:23:59,320 --> 00:24:01,960
Speaker 3: living a live last seven months. She promised me we

540
00:24:01,960 --> 00:24:04,280
Speaker 3: would work on our marriage, while all she was doing

541
00:24:04,440 --> 00:24:07,119
Speaker 3: was working on him. But I would appreciate any advice

542
00:24:07,160 --> 00:24:10,119
Speaker 3: about the future and dating after divorce. I'm kind of worried. Actually,

543
00:24:10,200 --> 00:24:11,800
Speaker 3: I feel like no one will want me for that

544
00:24:11,840 --> 00:24:14,440
Speaker 3: reason alone. Absolutely not. How do I go about dating

545
00:24:14,440 --> 00:24:16,400
Speaker 3: as a divorce twenty three slash twenty four year old

546
00:24:16,400 --> 00:24:17,040
Speaker 3: when I'm ready.

547
00:24:17,200 --> 00:24:20,320
Speaker 1: Is it as daunting as it seems? Yeah? And no,

548
00:24:21,040 --> 00:24:25,119
Speaker 1: I mean yeah no, but yeah, what do you mean? No? Yeah,

549
00:24:25,359 --> 00:24:29,760
Speaker 1: dating is daunting. We can accept that. Well, it's daunting,

550
00:24:29,840 --> 00:24:31,560
Speaker 1: but I would say, like it's work. I mean, it

551
00:24:31,560 --> 00:24:34,360
Speaker 1: can be worthwhile, but it's risky for sure. I mean

552
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Speaker 1: it's well.

553
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Speaker 3: I think the thing that popped into my head was like,

554
00:24:37,720 --> 00:24:41,400
Speaker 3: we can get all of these ideas and preconceived notions

555
00:24:41,680 --> 00:24:43,000
Speaker 3: and try to.

556
00:24:42,920 --> 00:24:45,040
Speaker 1: Think of a good example. Uh, work at tomato in it.

557
00:24:45,119 --> 00:24:48,560
Speaker 3: Here we go, I will cooking, cooking, okay, okay, So

558
00:24:48,960 --> 00:24:52,639
Speaker 3: when you're cooking, sometimes there might be a technique where

559
00:24:53,119 --> 00:24:55,440
Speaker 3: it's like I don't know, hard, sorry, I have to

560
00:24:55,440 --> 00:24:55,919
Speaker 3: go drumming.

561
00:24:55,920 --> 00:24:57,840
Speaker 1: I'm so sorry. I'm so sorry. Yeah, I'm dropping the

562
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Speaker 1: tomato drumming.

563
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Speaker 3: This might not can next to my non drummers out there,

564
00:25:01,520 --> 00:25:04,960
Speaker 3: but bear with In drumming, sometimes it's easier to like

565
00:25:04,960 --> 00:25:06,560
Speaker 3: when you're playing with both hands, it kind of just

566
00:25:06,640 --> 00:25:09,640
Speaker 3: like flows, it's natural. But then sometimes they're like, play

567
00:25:09,640 --> 00:25:11,119
Speaker 3: with one hand. You can see how that'd be like

568
00:25:11,160 --> 00:25:12,600
Speaker 3: kind of weird in your brain, right, like, oh, like

569
00:25:12,640 --> 00:25:14,520
Speaker 3: playing with both hands and oh, now I gotta just

570
00:25:14,560 --> 00:25:15,320
Speaker 3: play with one hand.

571
00:25:15,560 --> 00:25:17,000
Speaker 1: But you're doing the same thing.

572
00:25:17,160 --> 00:25:20,200
Speaker 3: You're literally doing the same thing with the one hand,

573
00:25:20,480 --> 00:25:22,680
Speaker 3: but your brain is just tricking you. There's just a

574
00:25:23,080 --> 00:25:25,399
Speaker 3: thing that your brain is telling you, Oh, this is weird,

575
00:25:25,440 --> 00:25:27,680
Speaker 3: this is hard, this is awkward. No, actually, you were

576
00:25:27,720 --> 00:25:30,280
Speaker 3: doing that same thing before. So I would say, like,

577
00:25:30,359 --> 00:25:32,399
Speaker 3: you have this kind of cloud hanging over you. But

578
00:25:32,600 --> 00:25:36,280
Speaker 3: imagine an alternative universe where you're just like, Okay.

579
00:25:36,040 --> 00:25:37,760
Speaker 1: I haven't really you know, dated much.

580
00:25:37,840 --> 00:25:40,440
Speaker 3: I'm just gonna start dating, and you wouldn't be thinking

581
00:25:40,480 --> 00:25:41,000
Speaker 3: about it.

582
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Speaker 1: It's looky a little bit kind of the same thing.

583
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Speaker 1: I didn't have you until the end and then I

584
00:25:46,040 --> 00:25:48,280
Speaker 1: got you. Y, thank you. I knew it was. It's

585
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Speaker 1: a very niche I'm sorry. I feel like it's similar

586
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Speaker 1: to what I would say, which is just I don't know.

587
00:25:53,480 --> 00:25:56,200
Speaker 1: I can only say how I move through stuff. Yes,

588
00:25:56,560 --> 00:25:59,240
Speaker 1: and I moved through things based on just like vibe,

589
00:25:59,320 --> 00:26:02,080
Speaker 1: does it feel right? It's taken me, I guess, a

590
00:26:02,119 --> 00:26:03,960
Speaker 1: hot minute to get to a point where I can

591
00:26:04,080 --> 00:26:06,400
Speaker 1: be in tune with that. Yeah, I was about to ask,

592
00:26:06,400 --> 00:26:09,040
Speaker 1: how's that going? It's good, But like you have to

593
00:26:09,160 --> 00:26:12,080
Speaker 1: know when things feel wrong and you have to be

594
00:26:12,119 --> 00:26:14,920
Speaker 1: able to identify it and then have like the conviction

595
00:26:15,040 --> 00:26:17,879
Speaker 1: to be like, nah, but this does feel wrong, Like

596
00:26:17,960 --> 00:26:24,520
Speaker 1: that photo, actually photo feels wrong, and I know that

597
00:26:24,680 --> 00:26:27,359
Speaker 1: feels wrong. I don't have to have anyone tell me.

598
00:26:27,560 --> 00:26:30,000
Speaker 1: You see the full body. Let's go full body, look

599
00:26:30,000 --> 00:26:33,760
Speaker 1: ow curvy. I'm snatched though I am snatched, pretty snash,

600
00:26:33,960 --> 00:26:37,080
Speaker 1: but but that feels wrong. So I think what you

601
00:26:37,200 --> 00:26:39,080
Speaker 1: need to find op is you need to take the

602
00:26:39,080 --> 00:26:41,720
Speaker 1: time to figure out what feels right and what feels

603
00:26:41,760 --> 00:26:44,200
Speaker 1: wrong for you. You can't do that in a relationship because

604
00:26:44,200 --> 00:26:45,360
Speaker 1: there's no room for exploration.

605
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Speaker 3: That's right, and his producer Riley is kindly pointing out

606
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Speaker 3: that is the end of that one.

607
00:26:49,320 --> 00:26:52,280
Speaker 1: But we's got more we do. Let's go. I'm ready.

608
00:26:52,480 --> 00:26:57,119
Speaker 1: My wife told me she's leaving me. Bye by my to.

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Speaker 3: Begin Me twenty nine mail and my wife twenty three female.

610
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Speaker 3: We're married in late twenty fourteen. We've only been married

611
00:27:03,400 --> 00:27:05,520
Speaker 3: for a little over three months to the day. We

612
00:27:05,560 --> 00:27:07,480
Speaker 3: started dating around three and a half years ago.

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00:27:07,760 --> 00:27:09,679
Speaker 1: So I know it's just you think it's already a

614
00:27:09,680 --> 00:27:11,960
Speaker 1: bad sign when it's like we've been married three months

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Speaker 1: to the day. Just feel like it's like count in

616
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Speaker 1: the days.

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Speaker 3: I don't know, I feel like it's an omen hmm,

618
00:27:17,840 --> 00:27:21,280
Speaker 3: well we will see about that. We started dating around

619
00:27:21,280 --> 00:27:23,360
Speaker 3: three and a half years ago, when I was twenty six,

620
00:27:23,480 --> 00:27:25,920
Speaker 3: she was twenty one. Popped the question after two years together,

621
00:27:26,040 --> 00:27:27,879
Speaker 3: planned the wedding for one year, and got married.

622
00:27:28,000 --> 00:27:29,080
Speaker 1: Everything was great.

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Speaker 3: By the way, this comes from Divorced thor Away one, two, three,

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Speaker 3: five and if you want to submit your own stories,

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Speaker 3: go to the r slash Okay storytime start about it.

626
00:27:35,160 --> 00:27:37,439
Speaker 3: So about a month ago she started acting different. I

627
00:27:37,440 --> 00:27:39,639
Speaker 3: can't really put it into words, but it's a lot

628
00:27:39,680 --> 00:27:42,879
Speaker 3: like the Uncanny Valley studying nuances that just clew you

629
00:27:42,920 --> 00:27:45,359
Speaker 3: into the fact that something isn't right. Asking her if

630
00:27:45,359 --> 00:27:49,280
Speaker 3: something was wrong led to the obvious and infamous I'm fine,

631
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Speaker 3: I'm fine.

632
00:27:50,680 --> 00:27:53,480
Speaker 1: Those are my favorite. So if it's so obvious and infamous,

633
00:27:53,480 --> 00:27:56,640
Speaker 1: why are we married? Oh? That's the question. I would

634
00:27:56,680 --> 00:27:58,439
Speaker 1: never marry someone I can't have a conversation with.

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Speaker 4: Talk to me even so, you would never bark like no, right,

636
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Speaker 4: I would have first, I wouldn't.

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00:28:05,000 --> 00:28:07,680
Speaker 1: Yeah, we can't do this, Hey, deaf people, you hearing

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00:28:07,680 --> 00:28:12,200
Speaker 1: this right now? That was actually that scay I like that.

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00:28:12,240 --> 00:28:14,359
Speaker 3: Oh my god, all right, we'll get We'll give that

640
00:28:14,400 --> 00:28:16,040
Speaker 3: one to Riley. So around this time it came to

641
00:28:16,080 --> 00:28:18,399
Speaker 3: my attention. I asked us to her phone after noticing

642
00:28:18,440 --> 00:28:20,879
Speaker 3: her guarding it constantly that she was talking to a

643
00:28:20,960 --> 00:28:24,920
Speaker 3: coworker on social media. How the exchange wasn't anywhere near

644
00:28:24,920 --> 00:28:27,400
Speaker 3: as damning as what you tend to read about on here,

645
00:28:27,480 --> 00:28:30,080
Speaker 3: but still worrisome. The coworkers had a few things that

646
00:28:30,160 --> 00:28:32,359
Speaker 3: I told her across some real boundaries that that we

647
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Speaker 3: had Step, I really wish you were here to rub

648
00:28:34,480 --> 00:28:37,920
Speaker 3: my head and make me fall asleep, and I'm trying

649
00:28:38,520 --> 00:28:39,920
Speaker 3: to get out with you tonight.

650
00:28:40,200 --> 00:28:45,960
Speaker 1: Mm. Yeah, so those are fishy. Those are fishy, very fishy. Okay,

651
00:28:46,080 --> 00:28:46,520
Speaker 1: not cool.

652
00:28:46,600 --> 00:28:48,160
Speaker 3: The rest of it was her getting upset that he

653
00:28:48,200 --> 00:28:50,160
Speaker 3: didn't tell her what he was doing over time. Here's

654
00:28:50,200 --> 00:28:51,920
Speaker 3: the part where I take a lot of the keats.

655
00:28:52,040 --> 00:28:55,000
Speaker 3: I've had some real trust issues in this relationship. She

656
00:28:55,120 --> 00:28:58,040
Speaker 3: was texting Slash the leading texts to an ex behind

657
00:28:58,080 --> 00:29:00,920
Speaker 3: my back for stall three months earlier in the relationship,

658
00:29:00,960 --> 00:29:03,040
Speaker 3: and we broke up. We ended up working it out,

659
00:29:03,080 --> 00:29:05,360
Speaker 3: but that trust was really broken that day. The real

660
00:29:05,400 --> 00:29:08,440
Speaker 3: tragedy is that I disrespected the sanctity of our marriage

661
00:29:08,480 --> 00:29:11,600
Speaker 3: by entering into it with someone I didn't trust. I

662
00:29:11,720 --> 00:29:15,040
Speaker 3: was too afraid to lose her. I I think that's

663
00:29:15,080 --> 00:29:17,520
Speaker 3: a great self aware to say.

664
00:29:17,640 --> 00:29:19,360
Speaker 1: Gotta love the twenty twenty hind sight.

665
00:29:19,520 --> 00:29:23,480
Speaker 3: Listen, it's like, hey, I chose to like go into

666
00:29:23,520 --> 00:29:26,760
Speaker 3: it knowing that I didn't feel the foundation of drust

667
00:29:26,840 --> 00:29:27,200
Speaker 3: wasn't there.

668
00:29:27,360 --> 00:29:29,480
Speaker 1: Yep. And you know what's okay Dakota.

669
00:29:29,360 --> 00:29:32,040
Speaker 3: Saying, hey, look, I'm tempted to do and I want

670
00:29:32,120 --> 00:29:34,040
Speaker 3: to get married to you, but I feel the foundation

671
00:29:34,120 --> 00:29:35,240
Speaker 3: of trust isn't there.

672
00:29:35,720 --> 00:29:38,680
Speaker 1: And how long it was? Four years Breen a half

673
00:29:38,720 --> 00:29:41,440
Speaker 1: years and a half years, so getting Op is twenty

674
00:29:41,480 --> 00:29:43,200
Speaker 1: four ish. He's now around there.

675
00:29:43,360 --> 00:29:47,040
Speaker 4: Yeah, Op is twenty nine and currently wife is twenty three.

676
00:29:47,160 --> 00:29:49,600
Speaker 1: Oh I thought I thought Ope was the younger one. Yep.

677
00:29:49,800 --> 00:29:52,600
Speaker 3: Okay, that's another boy, Okay, Yeah, twenty one and twenty

678
00:29:52,640 --> 00:29:53,280
Speaker 3: six when they met.

679
00:29:53,360 --> 00:29:57,800
Speaker 1: Well, well, well, I'm well, it's glad you I'm glad

680
00:29:57,840 --> 00:30:00,560
Speaker 1: you know it now, ma'am. Yeah, hey all, it's John

681
00:30:00,600 --> 00:30:02,360
Speaker 1: Ogi host here. We're gonna get back to the story. So,

682
00:30:02,360 --> 00:30:04,360
Speaker 1: but here's a quick three minute break from ask for response.

683
00:30:05,040 --> 00:30:07,720
Speaker 3: So I find these messages about forty five minutes before

684
00:30:07,760 --> 00:30:09,680
Speaker 3: we leave for work, and she comes out and sits

685
00:30:09,720 --> 00:30:13,160
Speaker 3: on the couch and starts crying and says she's not happy. I,

686
00:30:13,240 --> 00:30:15,360
Speaker 3: of course, attempted to console her and ask her if

687
00:30:15,400 --> 00:30:18,040
Speaker 3: it had anything to do with this mysterious coworker. She

688
00:30:18,080 --> 00:30:20,160
Speaker 3: said it did not, and she was just unhappy with

689
00:30:20,200 --> 00:30:22,560
Speaker 3: her whole life. She insinuated that she was unhappy with

690
00:30:22,560 --> 00:30:24,920
Speaker 3: our marriage, and I asked if she was actually sitting

691
00:30:24,920 --> 00:30:28,080
Speaker 3: here contemplating divorce, something I told her I don't do

692
00:30:28,200 --> 00:30:29,280
Speaker 3: unless there's adultery.

693
00:30:30,680 --> 00:30:31,480
Speaker 1: She said, I.

694
00:30:31,440 --> 00:30:35,360
Speaker 3: Don't know op it takes. If someone's like, hey, I

695
00:30:35,400 --> 00:30:37,720
Speaker 3: don't want to be in this relationship, you can't. I

696
00:30:37,800 --> 00:30:43,440
Speaker 3: don't do divorce. You're gonna stay married to me for eternity. Well,

697
00:30:43,520 --> 00:30:45,000
Speaker 3: I mean you told her what she needs to do

698
00:30:45,080 --> 00:30:45,840
Speaker 3: to get divorced.

699
00:30:46,040 --> 00:30:48,880
Speaker 4: Yeah, I'm about to say, here's the manual, because I

700
00:30:48,880 --> 00:30:51,960
Speaker 4: don't know if you decide to marry someone, wouldn't the

701
00:30:52,120 --> 00:30:55,120
Speaker 4: I'm not happy in this relationship come up earlier? You

702
00:30:55,160 --> 00:30:59,200
Speaker 4: know you would hope? No, Okay, yeah, you know, like

703
00:30:59,320 --> 00:31:01,000
Speaker 4: it's like I want to be with you for the

704
00:31:01,040 --> 00:31:01,680
Speaker 4: rest of my life.

705
00:31:01,760 --> 00:31:05,400
Speaker 1: It's not like three months in I before right, intangibly,

706
00:31:05,440 --> 00:31:07,800
Speaker 1: all that changed is we're now married, and you're just like,

707
00:31:07,840 --> 00:31:10,440
Speaker 1: my whole life is a mess? Is it because you're

708
00:31:10,440 --> 00:31:12,920
Speaker 1: married to me? So you can't leave me as easily?

709
00:31:13,120 --> 00:31:15,920
Speaker 1: Like you feel trapped like it's like those are the

710
00:31:15,960 --> 00:31:19,560
Speaker 1: only things you could be upset about now, So go.

711
00:31:19,440 --> 00:31:22,880
Speaker 3: Ahead, go date the guy at your office. It seems

712
00:31:23,480 --> 00:31:27,760
Speaker 3: very fish, very very very effish, she said, I don't know.

713
00:31:28,000 --> 00:31:30,200
Speaker 3: I really feel that moment was the beginning of the end.

714
00:31:30,400 --> 00:31:33,640
Speaker 3: She became distant. All spicy sleep stopped, and she was cold, rude,

715
00:31:33,680 --> 00:31:34,560
Speaker 3: and simply checked out.

716
00:31:34,680 --> 00:31:37,200
Speaker 1: She started staying at work. She's a call center rep

717
00:31:37,560 --> 00:31:38,600
Speaker 1: and extra.

718
00:31:38,440 --> 00:31:41,160
Speaker 3: Sixty to ninety minutes late every day, stating that she

719
00:31:41,320 --> 00:31:42,760
Speaker 3: was on a long call.

720
00:31:42,920 --> 00:31:44,600
Speaker 1: Yeah, I bet he does have a long call.

721
00:31:44,720 --> 00:31:48,080
Speaker 3: Ooh nice one. I was gonna say the call wasn't

722
00:31:48,120 --> 00:31:51,520
Speaker 3: the only thing that was long. Oh God. She was

723
00:31:51,560 --> 00:31:54,560
Speaker 3: no longer affectionate, was no longer loving. No matter what,

724
00:31:54,680 --> 00:31:56,600
Speaker 3: she didn't want to do anything that could be considered

725
00:31:56,720 --> 00:31:59,440
Speaker 3: a marital asset. I'm glad she did this. We discussed

726
00:31:59,480 --> 00:32:01,920
Speaker 3: counseling less than a week ago. She wanted to do it,

727
00:32:02,000 --> 00:32:04,080
Speaker 3: so did I. I asked her earlier today what she

728
00:32:04,160 --> 00:32:05,920
Speaker 3: wanted me to bring home for dinner, since she had

729
00:32:05,960 --> 00:32:08,600
Speaker 3: spent the entire day at her families. She said nothing.

730
00:32:08,800 --> 00:32:11,360
Speaker 3: I got one word answers all day long today and

731
00:32:11,400 --> 00:32:14,240
Speaker 3: not a single reply to and I love you or hey.

732
00:32:14,080 --> 00:32:17,760
Speaker 1: I'm at ork love you. It was okay, why okay,

733
00:32:18,000 --> 00:32:24,040
Speaker 1: I love you? Why? Why? Why? Oh fishy? Oh god,

734
00:32:24,280 --> 00:32:26,120
Speaker 1: yeah that's pretty fishy.

735
00:32:26,440 --> 00:32:35,080
Speaker 3: Yeah, pretty pretty pretty fishy. Oh oh god. Oh that's

736
00:32:35,480 --> 00:32:41,000
Speaker 3: too nefarious. That is too spy for this tuna farious.

737
00:32:40,360 --> 00:32:45,479
Speaker 4: Uh uh uh oh oh, man's got some got some

738
00:32:45,600 --> 00:32:46,680
Speaker 4: fishy jokes.

739
00:32:47,640 --> 00:32:49,320
Speaker 1: Didn't even mean to do that. I won't even give

740
00:32:49,360 --> 00:32:49,960
Speaker 1: myself credit.

741
00:32:50,120 --> 00:32:52,480
Speaker 3: So I walked to the door immediately after work and

742
00:32:52,520 --> 00:32:55,080
Speaker 3: she's on the couch crying. I go over hugger and

743
00:32:55,120 --> 00:32:57,480
Speaker 3: ask what's wrong. She mutters, I'm leaving.

744
00:32:57,720 --> 00:33:03,640
Speaker 1: Oh, she mutters. She muttered, I'm leaving. I'm leaving. Okay, okay,

745
00:33:03,880 --> 00:33:05,880
Speaker 1: dang hit you gotta hit her with the Willy Wonka.

746
00:33:06,040 --> 00:33:08,680
Speaker 1: You really mustn't mumble, oh man, who are you a

747
00:33:08,680 --> 00:33:13,920
Speaker 1: little pump? A? Part of me, why are you mumbling? Yes? Right?

748
00:33:14,320 --> 00:33:16,400
Speaker 4: Part of me feels like he wants to see if

749
00:33:16,400 --> 00:33:20,600
Speaker 4: op he's gonna fight for the relationship, you know, honestly.

750
00:33:20,440 --> 00:33:22,560
Speaker 1: It's like, I'm fine. It's like, no, you're not. What's

751
00:33:22,600 --> 00:33:24,520
Speaker 1: going on? Why the hell do I have to fight

752
00:33:24,560 --> 00:33:27,120
Speaker 1: for the relationship? We got married three months ago. I

753
00:33:27,120 --> 00:33:29,400
Speaker 1: would vite for it. What are we talking about?

754
00:33:29,600 --> 00:33:31,600
Speaker 4: Give her a little one too, like you know, I

755
00:33:31,600 --> 00:33:35,880
Speaker 4: mean not like emotionally since not wait no, like, don't

756
00:33:35,960 --> 00:33:39,160
Speaker 4: hit her, just like hit the problem she's faced against

757
00:33:39,240 --> 00:33:40,480
Speaker 4: about you guys.

758
00:33:40,560 --> 00:33:43,680
Speaker 3: Dive into the emotional complexities.

759
00:33:43,840 --> 00:33:52,040
Speaker 1: Hit yes, exactly that the word don't hit anybody. Riley's

760
00:33:52,080 --> 00:33:57,200
Speaker 1: trying words deding. Oh man.

761
00:33:57,280 --> 00:33:59,840
Speaker 3: So I go over hugger and ask what's wrong? She mutters,

762
00:33:59,880 --> 00:34:02,680
Speaker 3: I I'm leaving. I felt gone, and though I could cry,

763
00:34:02,840 --> 00:34:04,760
Speaker 3: I couldn't get angry. I could only sit down and

764
00:34:04,800 --> 00:34:07,880
Speaker 3: put my head in my hand. I calmly told her

765
00:34:07,960 --> 00:34:09,920
Speaker 3: that we would need to divide the phone bill. Weird

766
00:34:09,920 --> 00:34:14,120
Speaker 3: place to start, and then you of the phone bill.

767
00:34:14,160 --> 00:34:18,320
Speaker 1: It is undeniably a weird place to begin, so odd.

768
00:34:18,520 --> 00:34:20,319
Speaker 1: And then I'd keep the dogs so they don't get

769
00:34:20,360 --> 00:34:23,200
Speaker 1: split up. She agreed. I told her that I wanted

770
00:34:23,239 --> 00:34:25,719
Speaker 1: to be here. When she picked up her stuff from

771
00:34:25,719 --> 00:34:28,799
Speaker 1: our house, she said it was never her home. We

772
00:34:28,840 --> 00:34:32,600
Speaker 1: moved in in June twenty fourteen. Thankfully, the house was

773
00:34:32,640 --> 00:34:35,319
Speaker 1: a gift for my grandmother, and my grandmother's name was

774
00:34:35,360 --> 00:34:38,360
Speaker 1: still Honest. Well, technically it's not either of your houses.

775
00:34:38,560 --> 00:34:41,800
Speaker 1: Good on, Mamma. And Grandma comes in in the fourth

776
00:34:41,840 --> 00:34:45,839
Speaker 1: act and becomes the real main character. She says, these

777
00:34:45,880 --> 00:34:48,000
Speaker 1: two idiots are living in my house, and I want

778
00:34:48,040 --> 00:34:48,680
Speaker 1: them both gone.

779
00:34:48,880 --> 00:34:51,759
Speaker 3: Great Granny has come to save the day. I packed

780
00:34:51,800 --> 00:34:53,880
Speaker 3: all her stuff up and told my boss what was happening.

781
00:34:53,960 --> 00:34:55,640
Speaker 3: She gave me the go ahead to take the next

782
00:34:55,640 --> 00:34:57,640
Speaker 3: three to four days off. Who stored it out? She

783
00:34:57,800 --> 00:34:59,760
Speaker 3: was crying. She asked me for a hug for some reason.

784
00:35:00,000 --> 00:35:01,719
Speaker 3: I don't know why, but I obliged and told her

785
00:35:01,719 --> 00:35:03,919
Speaker 3: that I loved her and didn't want this. She said

786
00:35:04,080 --> 00:35:07,680
Speaker 3: she didn't either and left. Okay, I know I did

787
00:35:07,680 --> 00:35:09,719
Speaker 3: a lot of wrong in my relationship. I wish I

788
00:35:09,719 --> 00:35:13,400
Speaker 3: would have sought help for these trust issues long ago. Yes, thankfully,

789
00:35:13,440 --> 00:35:15,960
Speaker 3: she had stated that since we own nothing of value,

790
00:35:16,040 --> 00:35:18,080
Speaker 3: the divorce is going to be pretty simple. She gets

791
00:35:18,120 --> 00:35:20,759
Speaker 3: her stuff, I get her key, and she's gone. She's

792
00:35:20,800 --> 00:35:23,680
Speaker 3: gonna buy me out of the phone bill. What what

793
00:35:24,160 --> 00:35:26,799
Speaker 3: I'm sorry, but this is okay, okay, all right.

794
00:35:26,840 --> 00:35:29,280
Speaker 1: We've brought up the phone bill twice and the dog's once.

795
00:35:29,360 --> 00:35:32,319
Speaker 3: Okay, all right, I'm just gonna let it, let it lie,

796
00:35:32,480 --> 00:35:34,080
Speaker 3: and I'll get her removed from the phone bole.

797
00:35:34,160 --> 00:35:36,720
Speaker 1: This is just a secret advertisement for a phone company.

798
00:35:36,760 --> 00:35:39,040
Speaker 1: At the end of this, ah, I would be so agree.

799
00:35:39,120 --> 00:35:41,120
Speaker 1: It's just like and then I found my wife on

800
00:35:41,239 --> 00:35:43,279
Speaker 1: my beep like I would buy.

801
00:35:43,560 --> 00:35:45,759
Speaker 3: I would delete this whole episode if that, If that

802
00:35:45,840 --> 00:35:48,080
Speaker 3: was true, I would delete this entire episode.

803
00:35:48,120 --> 00:35:49,080
Speaker 1: No free sponsors.

804
00:35:49,640 --> 00:35:52,080
Speaker 3: We didn't buy any sort of marital assets while we

805
00:35:52,080 --> 00:35:54,200
Speaker 3: were together, so it should be a clean break. I

806
00:35:54,239 --> 00:35:57,280
Speaker 3: hopefully won't even need a lawyer. I have this nagging

807
00:35:57,360 --> 00:35:59,360
Speaker 3: feeling that I need to seek the use of a

808
00:35:59,440 --> 00:36:00,000
Speaker 3: lawyer anyway.

809
00:36:00,520 --> 00:36:04,160
Speaker 1: Yes, yes, yes, just yeah.

810
00:36:04,320 --> 00:36:06,359
Speaker 3: You're not a lawyer, so just do that that If

811
00:36:06,400 --> 00:36:08,960
Speaker 3: the woman I married, the woman that I knew for

812
00:36:09,000 --> 00:36:11,440
Speaker 3: almost three years, could turn that quickly, I may need

813
00:36:11,480 --> 00:36:13,719
Speaker 3: a lawyer to protect myself at it. I told her

814
00:36:13,760 --> 00:36:15,480
Speaker 3: that I had packed her stuff up last night, that

815
00:36:15,560 --> 00:36:17,480
Speaker 3: it shouldn't take too long to move it at all.

816
00:36:17,960 --> 00:36:20,120
Speaker 3: She asked if I was going to be here when

817
00:36:20,160 --> 00:36:22,960
Speaker 3: she came over. I'm a little concerned that ten plus

818
00:36:22,960 --> 00:36:24,799
Speaker 3: members of her family are going to show up and

819
00:36:24,880 --> 00:36:27,399
Speaker 3: literally rob me blind. I will update when this is over,

820
00:36:27,440 --> 00:36:30,319
Speaker 3: and there's an update. Okay, So now soon to be

821
00:36:30,360 --> 00:36:33,720
Speaker 3: ex wife's family of ten plus people might just freaking

822
00:36:33,920 --> 00:36:34,560
Speaker 3: rob ope.

823
00:36:35,200 --> 00:36:41,640
Speaker 1: That's a new development. The phone bill is the phone bill?

824
00:36:42,120 --> 00:36:43,759
Speaker 1: Is it a precarious situation?

825
00:36:44,160 --> 00:36:48,000
Speaker 4: People do get locked into phone bill like contracts for

826
00:36:48,000 --> 00:36:52,319
Speaker 4: a while. Dude, it gets pretty rough. It could be

827
00:36:52,360 --> 00:36:53,520
Speaker 4: like two hundred dollars a month.

828
00:36:53,760 --> 00:36:59,720
Speaker 1: Oh oh my god, she's rolling up with the squad though,

829
00:37:00,440 --> 00:37:04,719
Speaker 1: ten plus family members. She needs ten plus people to

830
00:37:04,800 --> 00:37:08,719
Speaker 1: move her stuff. But y'all own nothing of value. You

831
00:37:08,719 --> 00:37:08,960
Speaker 1: know what?

832
00:37:09,000 --> 00:37:12,640
Speaker 3: They need ten people to tug of war style split

833
00:37:12,760 --> 00:37:15,640
Speaker 3: this impossible figure out phone bill.

834
00:37:17,680 --> 00:37:20,320
Speaker 1: They're just carrying the phone bill out of the house.

835
00:37:20,360 --> 00:37:23,520
Speaker 1: That's what they need people to carry the paper that

836
00:37:23,560 --> 00:37:25,759
Speaker 1: the phone bill is printed on because it's so huge.

837
00:37:25,800 --> 00:37:27,720
Speaker 1: I bet you one thousand dollars.

838
00:37:27,840 --> 00:37:30,719
Speaker 4: The first person he pulled was the phone company and

839
00:37:30,719 --> 00:37:32,960
Speaker 4: he was like, hey man, I'm going through a divorce.

840
00:37:33,080 --> 00:37:35,000
Speaker 4: I need to can't split my phone bill up.

841
00:37:35,080 --> 00:37:37,960
Speaker 1: You're never gonna believe this. And then they're like, you're

842
00:37:38,000 --> 00:37:39,719
Speaker 1: the first person I'm calling about this. By the way,

843
00:37:40,920 --> 00:37:43,560
Speaker 1: I was going to trigger you. Riley. Uh oh, yeah,

844
00:37:43,640 --> 00:37:45,480
Speaker 1: you call the phone company and then they keep you

845
00:37:45,560 --> 00:37:47,080
Speaker 1: on hold for an hour and a half and hang up.

846
00:37:47,200 --> 00:37:50,480
Speaker 1: Oh my gosh, that did happen to me? Don't tell it? Yeah,

847
00:37:50,560 --> 00:37:54,560
Speaker 1: I look definitely record, be there, be present. It's like,

848
00:37:54,640 --> 00:37:56,719
Speaker 1: it's not about like that. Oh I don't trust it,

849
00:37:56,760 --> 00:37:59,680
Speaker 1: but it's like, yeah, clearly things are ending. We need to, like,

850
00:38:00,040 --> 00:38:03,240
Speaker 1: I don't know, make sure no one's doing any foul play.

851
00:38:03,760 --> 00:38:06,279
Speaker 1: So I'll be there to make sure you take your

852
00:38:06,280 --> 00:38:07,400
Speaker 1: stuff and not mine.

853
00:38:07,960 --> 00:38:12,000
Speaker 3: Dakota, I have one simple question for you, and I'm

854
00:38:12,080 --> 00:38:16,000
Speaker 3: so sorry to ask. I apologize with every piece.

855
00:38:15,760 --> 00:38:18,800
Speaker 1: Of my soul. I forgive you. How am I supposed

856
00:38:18,800 --> 00:38:20,080
Speaker 1: to record what's going on?

857
00:38:20,360 --> 00:38:24,080
Speaker 3: The damn phone bill is up in the air. How

858
00:38:24,080 --> 00:38:26,640
Speaker 3: do I call? How do I have the data to

859
00:38:26,800 --> 00:38:31,120
Speaker 3: know I can store this information? My gosh, pocket camera,

860
00:38:31,719 --> 00:38:34,760
Speaker 3: I supposed to order one with this phone bill situation.

861
00:38:34,880 --> 00:38:36,920
Speaker 3: They're gonna have to go to the public library. Oh

862
00:38:36,960 --> 00:38:39,080
Speaker 3: my god, how did you get there? If he doesn't

863
00:38:39,120 --> 00:38:40,440
Speaker 3: know how to drive there with his phone?

864
00:38:40,719 --> 00:38:44,040
Speaker 1: Rent cameras from the library. Riley was telling me earlier

865
00:38:44,040 --> 00:38:47,359
Speaker 1: today you can rent tools from the library in LA.

866
00:38:47,680 --> 00:38:50,960
Speaker 1: Libraries are stick. Dude, is that lie? Riley? Were you

867
00:38:51,040 --> 00:38:54,440
Speaker 1: lying to me? I never know when Riley's lying to

868
00:38:54,480 --> 00:38:56,200
Speaker 1: me or not because I just trust him, and he

869
00:38:56,239 --> 00:38:59,240
Speaker 1: always takes advantage of that. You know, we're lying to me, Dakota.

870
00:38:59,280 --> 00:39:02,600
Speaker 3: We're so trusting, you know, and Riley takes her trust

871
00:39:02,880 --> 00:39:04,719
Speaker 3: like a phone bill and just rips it in.

872
00:39:04,680 --> 00:39:07,480
Speaker 1: Half with no regard of eight.

873
00:39:08,000 --> 00:39:09,600
Speaker 3: So, in the night of the event, as I said,

874
00:39:09,680 --> 00:39:11,680
Speaker 3: I stayed up all night packing her things and putting

875
00:39:11,719 --> 00:39:13,919
Speaker 3: them in the hallway. I texted her the following day

876
00:39:13,960 --> 00:39:15,800
Speaker 3: to tell her it was all packed and the sooner

877
00:39:15,880 --> 00:39:17,560
Speaker 3: she could get there, the better it would be for

878
00:39:17,680 --> 00:39:19,600
Speaker 3: the both of us. She said she was coming around

879
00:39:19,600 --> 00:39:22,640
Speaker 3: eleven am. She didn't get there until almost four pm.

880
00:39:22,880 --> 00:39:26,319
Speaker 3: During that period of time, I contacted our wireless provider

881
00:39:26,600 --> 00:39:29,319
Speaker 3: to get her taken off the bill. This is the

882
00:39:29,320 --> 00:39:32,400
Speaker 3: big moment. This is the big moment. Change the passwords

883
00:39:32,760 --> 00:39:36,920
Speaker 3: to every account. I had deleted all social media accounts

884
00:39:37,000 --> 00:39:39,640
Speaker 3: after blocking her and her family and any mutual friends.

885
00:39:39,640 --> 00:39:42,080
Speaker 1: I met through her whoa whoa.

886
00:39:41,640 --> 00:39:44,520
Speaker 3: And contacted some friends if any of them were available

887
00:39:44,560 --> 00:39:46,480
Speaker 3: to be here with me when her and her family

888
00:39:46,520 --> 00:39:48,840
Speaker 3: got here to take her stuff out of the house.

889
00:39:49,080 --> 00:39:52,000
Speaker 3: I had three friends go up. Her family didn't even

890
00:39:52,000 --> 00:39:53,920
Speaker 3: come to help her on day one, with the exception

891
00:39:53,960 --> 00:39:58,120
Speaker 3: of her brother. Day one, the freaking gang of Familia

892
00:39:58,160 --> 00:40:01,720
Speaker 3: was the brother who told she was just quote unquote

893
00:40:01,719 --> 00:40:04,399
Speaker 3: two immature for a marriage. Things were friendly between us.

894
00:40:04,480 --> 00:40:07,480
Speaker 3: She showed up, stood in the bathroom crying for fifteen minutes.

895
00:40:07,600 --> 00:40:12,200
Speaker 1: A friendly, A friendly crying for fifteen minutes in the bathroom.

896
00:40:12,480 --> 00:40:12,840
Speaker 1: Oh my.

897
00:40:13,360 --> 00:40:15,320
Speaker 3: I was nothing but friendly to her and offered to

898
00:40:15,360 --> 00:40:17,720
Speaker 3: help move some of the heavier stuff out. She loaded

899
00:40:17,719 --> 00:40:19,799
Speaker 3: her car, said she'd be back with a truck later

900
00:40:19,880 --> 00:40:22,319
Speaker 3: for big things, and left. My friend said I did

901
00:40:22,360 --> 00:40:24,440
Speaker 3: a great job being friendly and helpful, and that it

902
00:40:24,600 --> 00:40:27,000
Speaker 3: was as good as it could have went. She never

903
00:40:27,040 --> 00:40:29,560
Speaker 3: comes back with a truck. She went to the phone

904
00:40:29,600 --> 00:40:32,960
Speaker 3: store to pick out a brand new, expensive smartphone and

905
00:40:33,120 --> 00:40:34,880
Speaker 3: an expensive plan to accompany it.

906
00:40:35,280 --> 00:40:39,399
Speaker 1: Never forget to take care of the phone bill.

907
00:40:39,640 --> 00:40:43,080
Speaker 3: That is the most important detail in this story.

908
00:40:43,239 --> 00:40:46,560
Speaker 1: For better or for worse. She was always attached at

909
00:40:46,560 --> 00:40:47,400
Speaker 1: the hip to the phone.

910
00:40:48,320 --> 00:40:52,280
Speaker 3: I'm sorry because the word the phone wasn't on until

911
00:40:52,320 --> 00:40:55,200
Speaker 3: the next page, so I didn't even know is Op.

912
00:40:55,320 --> 00:40:58,319
Speaker 1: Eighty five, Like what's going on here?

913
00:40:58,600 --> 00:41:01,399
Speaker 3: It's very much giving the like, oh you're so young,

914
00:41:01,480 --> 00:41:03,520
Speaker 3: you're just a baby. But he was the one who

915
00:41:03,520 --> 00:41:06,200
Speaker 3: got together with her at twenty twenty one in.

916
00:41:06,280 --> 00:41:09,400
Speaker 1: Yeah, sure, let's change those ages. Those are anonymous ages.

917
00:41:09,520 --> 00:41:12,280
Speaker 1: Let's make them the real ages. Oh he's seventy six.

918
00:41:13,560 --> 00:41:16,520
Speaker 1: And it's like I had to guess. They just those phones.

919
00:41:16,840 --> 00:41:19,799
Speaker 1: I gotta get that phone off. That phone they're using,

920
00:41:19,840 --> 00:41:22,640
Speaker 1: like the flip phone, the Jitterbug. And then they're like,

921
00:41:22,800 --> 00:41:25,680
Speaker 1: I just don't know. I gotta get that phone off

922
00:41:25,719 --> 00:41:27,879
Speaker 1: of my And that's why she's like, I can't do this.

923
00:41:28,000 --> 00:41:30,479
Speaker 1: I don't know why I married an eighty year old man.

924
00:41:30,680 --> 00:41:34,279
Speaker 1: You can buy the Jitterbug at CVS. No joke. She

925
00:41:34,440 --> 00:41:37,120
Speaker 1: divorced him because he kept saying this is a sell

926
00:41:37,239 --> 00:41:37,960
Speaker 1: free zone.

927
00:41:38,320 --> 00:41:41,759
Speaker 3: Yeah, hey baby, he probably thinks. He probably thinks the

928
00:41:41,880 --> 00:41:44,400
Speaker 3: divorced because of the phone. Honestly, at this point, I

929
00:41:44,440 --> 00:41:45,520
Speaker 3: wouldn't be surprised.

930
00:41:45,960 --> 00:41:49,080
Speaker 1: Girl gise me through the phone. That's what she's been

931
00:41:49,120 --> 00:41:52,160
Speaker 1: doing with your coworker. Ah, that's true. Another reason to

932
00:41:52,200 --> 00:41:55,960
Speaker 1: cancel the phone bill. Yeah, so for better for work.

933
00:41:56,000 --> 00:41:57,880
Speaker 3: She was always attached at the hip to the phone,

934
00:41:58,000 --> 00:41:59,640
Speaker 3: so it made sense to me that this would be

935
00:41:59,680 --> 00:42:00,719
Speaker 3: a p already for her.

936
00:42:00,920 --> 00:42:03,960
Speaker 1: I am going to be charged a three to four

937
00:42:04,040 --> 00:42:06,320
Speaker 1: hundred dollars cancelation.

938
00:42:07,200 --> 00:42:11,520
Speaker 5: Why Bill, I thought you just fixed all that? Why

939
00:42:11,560 --> 00:42:17,799
Speaker 5: are we still fall shine phone bill story, which she

940
00:42:18,040 --> 00:42:21,680
Speaker 5: states she's going to pay with me, She claims, I

941
00:42:21,920 --> 00:42:23,320
Speaker 5: thankfully agreed.

942
00:42:23,080 --> 00:42:26,200
Speaker 3: But I expect that I will be paying this bill alone,

943
00:42:26,400 --> 00:42:28,000
Speaker 3: no matter what I'm prepared.

944
00:42:28,239 --> 00:42:30,959
Speaker 1: Would get the money from? What do you mean she's

945
00:42:31,000 --> 00:42:33,840
Speaker 1: gonna get the money? She didn't think got the money?

946
00:42:34,200 --> 00:42:35,000
Speaker 1: Get the money?

947
00:42:35,400 --> 00:42:38,120
Speaker 3: Day two, after a night with some friends, I need

948
00:42:38,160 --> 00:42:40,360
Speaker 3: an extra bit of shut eye. But she is calling

949
00:42:40,360 --> 00:42:43,120
Speaker 3: and knocking at my door at nine am in the morning,

950
00:42:43,120 --> 00:42:45,520
Speaker 3: bright and early. Part of me suspects she did this

951
00:42:45,560 --> 00:42:48,160
Speaker 3: to avoid any of my friends being there. Part of

952
00:42:48,200 --> 00:42:51,120
Speaker 3: me suspect she wants to show off her brand new phone.

953
00:42:51,200 --> 00:42:53,600
Speaker 3: N I'm just kidding, but likely she just wanted to

954
00:42:53,600 --> 00:42:55,800
Speaker 3: get it done. I let her in, said good morning,

955
00:42:55,840 --> 00:42:57,640
Speaker 3: and let her get to work. We did a walk

956
00:42:57,680 --> 00:42:59,960
Speaker 3: through of all the other rooms. She agreed there was

957
00:43:00,000 --> 00:43:01,680
Speaker 3: there's nothing left in there for her to take. I

958
00:43:01,719 --> 00:43:04,480
Speaker 3: shut the doors and made it clear that those rooms

959
00:43:04,480 --> 00:43:07,000
Speaker 3: would be off limits when families showed up to help.

960
00:43:07,160 --> 00:43:07,720
Speaker 1: She agreed.

961
00:43:07,880 --> 00:43:09,720
Speaker 3: I tried to give her some of our wedding gifts,

962
00:43:09,760 --> 00:43:12,239
Speaker 3: a blender, et cetera, if she wanted them. I told

963
00:43:12,280 --> 00:43:14,560
Speaker 3: her I wouldn't mind if she kept the blender. She

964
00:43:14,680 --> 00:43:16,520
Speaker 3: was all right with that, to which she gave me

965
00:43:16,560 --> 00:43:20,239
Speaker 3: the surprising answer, what you're going to start working out

966
00:43:20,320 --> 00:43:23,600
Speaker 3: like you used to? Trying to make me jealous? Ladies

967
00:43:23,640 --> 00:43:26,200
Speaker 3: and gentlemen, the phone has taken the back seat to

968
00:43:26,280 --> 00:43:31,719
Speaker 3: the new star of the story, the blender home appliances.

969
00:43:31,880 --> 00:43:33,839
Speaker 1: Nowhere are you gonna be using this blender for your

970
00:43:33,880 --> 00:43:37,360
Speaker 1: protein shakes after you do the gym? X bae, Dude,

971
00:43:37,400 --> 00:43:39,840
Speaker 1: what are you trying to make me jealous? Because it's working?

972
00:43:40,280 --> 00:43:44,560
Speaker 3: Literally, shut up now. This is said very very sarcastically.

973
00:43:44,640 --> 00:43:47,080
Speaker 3: A little backstory. I put on about thirty five to

974
00:43:47,080 --> 00:43:49,160
Speaker 3: forty pounds over the past few years.

975
00:43:49,200 --> 00:43:50,640
Speaker 1: I used to be a lot more trim, a lot

976
00:43:50,680 --> 00:43:52,960
Speaker 1: more muscular. She has known that I.

977
00:43:52,920 --> 00:43:54,719
Speaker 3: Started going back to the gym a few months ago

978
00:43:54,960 --> 00:43:57,160
Speaker 3: with her, and that it was something I had used

979
00:43:57,200 --> 00:43:59,960
Speaker 3: frequently in the past to assist myself both mentally and physically.

980
00:44:00,160 --> 00:44:03,120
Speaker 1: I gave a lighthearted reply in it. Well that's the plan,

981
00:44:03,200 --> 00:44:09,000
Speaker 1: I guess. She then started screaming, me too, motivation motivation, motivation,

982
00:44:09,280 --> 00:44:15,279
Speaker 1: me too, motivation, motivation, motivation, I'm gonna pass shut up,

983
00:44:16,440 --> 00:44:18,840
Speaker 1: get out of my house, Get out of my grandma's.

984
00:44:18,360 --> 00:44:20,640
Speaker 3: House, and went back to packing her stuff. I started

985
00:44:20,680 --> 00:44:23,000
Speaker 3: getting worried at this point. Maybe this ability I thought

986
00:44:23,000 --> 00:44:25,640
Speaker 3: she had going into this isn't something she's going to

987
00:44:25,680 --> 00:44:28,520
Speaker 3: carry through the entirety of it. She started finding little

988
00:44:28,520 --> 00:44:31,120
Speaker 3: things to try and get me upset. With a Christmas

989
00:44:31,239 --> 00:44:33,400
Speaker 3: ornament my four year old nephew gave me because it

990
00:44:33,400 --> 00:44:35,360
Speaker 3: looked like my dog. It had sat on my computer

991
00:44:35,440 --> 00:44:37,719
Speaker 3: desk in the office for three years. She wanted it,

992
00:44:37,760 --> 00:44:40,000
Speaker 3: claimed it as hers, and I gladly gave.

993
00:44:39,840 --> 00:44:40,200
Speaker 1: It to her.

994
00:44:40,400 --> 00:44:44,560
Speaker 3: She wanted some brass mouse thing and a piggybank.

995
00:44:44,200 --> 00:44:46,520
Speaker 1: As a mouse. But also I had to stop you

996
00:44:46,560 --> 00:44:48,399
Speaker 1: to say, why are you okay with that? I hate

997
00:44:48,440 --> 00:44:50,480
Speaker 1: you for being okay with that? Why are you okay

998
00:44:50,480 --> 00:44:53,440
Speaker 1: with that? Keep the brass mouse? You say, no, you

999
00:44:53,520 --> 00:44:57,399
Speaker 1: can't take the thing my nephew gave me. He's over it.

1000
00:44:57,600 --> 00:45:00,160
Speaker 1: I do, No, you can't have that. It has on

1001
00:45:00,200 --> 00:45:02,960
Speaker 1: as a desperate. I'd be like, give me your phone.

1002
00:45:03,680 --> 00:45:06,560
Speaker 1: It's my phone. You haven't paid me for your phone,

1003
00:45:06,600 --> 00:45:07,479
Speaker 1: so give me your phone.

1004
00:45:07,520 --> 00:45:09,840
Speaker 3: There is a lot, there is one, and a piggybank

1005
00:45:09,880 --> 00:45:11,359
Speaker 3: with thirty to forty cents side of it.

1006
00:45:11,520 --> 00:45:12,120
Speaker 1: Keep counting.

1007
00:45:12,320 --> 00:45:14,280
Speaker 2: Hey, it's Sam. We're going get back to the stories.

1008
00:45:14,320 --> 00:45:16,439
Speaker 2: But here's three minutes of ads from our sponsors.

1009
00:45:16,840 --> 00:45:19,080
Speaker 3: I said they were all hers, and that was absolutely

1010
00:45:19,120 --> 00:45:21,200
Speaker 3: fine by me. She went into the rooms I closed

1011
00:45:21,200 --> 00:45:23,200
Speaker 3: off and got those things. That was the last time

1012
00:45:23,239 --> 00:45:25,560
Speaker 3: she entered any of those rooms. She then asked ified

1013
00:45:25,800 --> 00:45:27,520
Speaker 3: help her move all of her things to the car,

1014
00:45:27,640 --> 00:45:30,040
Speaker 3: but once again no one came to help her. I

1015
00:45:30,120 --> 00:45:32,360
Speaker 3: told her I did not want to assist her anymore

1016
00:45:32,560 --> 00:45:34,960
Speaker 3: than I have to heavy things. I did this as

1017
00:45:35,000 --> 00:45:37,840
Speaker 3: calmly and straightforward as I could. This was petty on

1018
00:45:37,920 --> 00:45:40,319
Speaker 3: my part, but I feel that in this scenario I

1019
00:45:40,400 --> 00:45:42,400
Speaker 3: really should be assisting her with this. She got an

1020
00:45:42,440 --> 00:45:45,040
Speaker 3: attitude about this, and she didn't appreciate how I was

1021
00:45:45,080 --> 00:45:47,879
Speaker 3: crap talking her with my friends yesterday. Since I wasn't

1022
00:45:47,880 --> 00:45:50,399
Speaker 3: doing this, I assumed she was trying to once again

1023
00:45:50,480 --> 00:45:53,600
Speaker 3: get me upset, so I calmly told her I wasn't

1024
00:45:53,800 --> 00:45:56,319
Speaker 3: I accepted that I've got some blame in this as well,

1025
00:45:56,400 --> 00:45:59,000
Speaker 3: and I apologized to you for getting married to you

1026
00:45:59,360 --> 00:46:02,640
Speaker 3: when I didn't rush. That's high school. It wasn't fair

1027
00:46:02,719 --> 00:46:04,920
Speaker 3: to you. It disrespects what our marriage is about, and

1028
00:46:04,960 --> 00:46:07,960
Speaker 3: I am sorry. Her demeanor seemed to change almost instantly.

1029
00:46:08,280 --> 00:46:11,880
Speaker 1: Yeah, I mean, I think, just stop giving her your stuff.

1030
00:46:12,160 --> 00:46:14,680
Speaker 1: And as we're also ignoring the fact that she clearly

1031
00:46:14,800 --> 00:46:17,319
Speaker 1: cheated on you when she was staying late at work

1032
00:46:17,360 --> 00:46:20,520
Speaker 1: for those ninety extra minutes, you could say emotionally cheating.

1033
00:46:20,840 --> 00:46:23,439
Speaker 1: I would bet the cost of that phone cancelation plan

1034
00:46:23,800 --> 00:46:25,760
Speaker 1: that they were up to something.

1035
00:46:25,800 --> 00:46:28,279
Speaker 3: Do you realize what you're saying that is that is

1036
00:46:28,800 --> 00:46:31,680
Speaker 3: them is fighting words. That is probably the biggest accusation you.

1037
00:46:31,600 --> 00:46:33,640
Speaker 1: Can ever make. The phone bill, not to cheating, the

1038
00:46:33,640 --> 00:46:35,960
Speaker 1: phone bill, the phone the phone bill, To be clear,

1039
00:46:35,960 --> 00:46:38,960
Speaker 1: it's the phone bill. It's important, it's important. We're gonna

1040
00:46:38,960 --> 00:46:39,839
Speaker 1: get into the end of the story.

1041
00:46:40,280 --> 00:46:42,680
Speaker 3: She packed it all up again, and her father called

1042
00:46:42,680 --> 00:46:44,040
Speaker 3: me to say they'd be there in a moment.

1043
00:46:44,160 --> 00:46:44,800
Speaker 1: She was leaving.

1044
00:46:44,880 --> 00:46:46,600
Speaker 3: When I asked for the house key, she gave me

1045
00:46:46,640 --> 00:46:48,800
Speaker 3: a separate key that wasn't to the home. I tested

1046
00:46:48,800 --> 00:46:50,680
Speaker 3: it in the front to show her that I knew,

1047
00:46:50,719 --> 00:46:53,759
Speaker 3: and she muttered something and drove off. Her family got

1048
00:46:53,800 --> 00:46:55,799
Speaker 3: there two hours later. It was just mom and dad.

1049
00:46:55,920 --> 00:46:58,160
Speaker 3: They moved the rest out. We were more than amicable

1050
00:46:58,160 --> 00:47:00,080
Speaker 3: towards each other. It even helped them move some of

1051
00:47:00,120 --> 00:47:02,160
Speaker 3: the larger pieces to the truck. I wish them both well,

1052
00:47:02,239 --> 00:47:04,759
Speaker 3: say goodbye and shut the door. At this point, my

1053
00:47:04,880 --> 00:47:07,480
Speaker 3: closest friend's stepfather called me to ask if I was okay.

1054
00:47:07,600 --> 00:47:09,279
Speaker 1: He came by, We had a few drinks, and I

1055
00:47:09,360 --> 00:47:10,000
Speaker 1: changed the locks.

1056
00:47:10,280 --> 00:47:13,000
Speaker 3: The only thing left at this point is the simplified

1057
00:47:13,239 --> 00:47:17,000
Speaker 3: dissolution of marriage, which I will be getting notorized Monday.

1058
00:47:17,160 --> 00:47:18,880
Speaker 1: I guess that's like an official I never heard of that.

1059
00:47:18,960 --> 00:47:21,120
Speaker 1: I guess if you are only married for three months,

1060
00:47:21,160 --> 00:47:23,759
Speaker 1: maybe I wonder where this is. There's clearly they have

1061
00:47:23,800 --> 00:47:26,160
Speaker 1: a window where they're like, yeah, you guys, oops, you

1062
00:47:26,200 --> 00:47:28,480
Speaker 1: guys did a oopsy We'll just don'tdo that.

1063
00:47:28,680 --> 00:47:31,560
Speaker 4: Yeah, and a region where getting a phone bill is

1064
00:47:31,560 --> 00:47:32,400
Speaker 4: a pain in the butt.

1065
00:47:32,480 --> 00:47:35,640
Speaker 1: That's Riley great point. Those are the important thing. I

1066
00:47:35,680 --> 00:47:36,120
Speaker 1: will say.

1067
00:47:36,120 --> 00:47:38,000
Speaker 4: When my grandma had to cancel her phone bill, I

1068
00:47:38,040 --> 00:47:39,920
Speaker 4: had to do it for her, and it was super

1069
00:47:39,960 --> 00:47:42,719
Speaker 4: silky smooth, and I saved her ten percent of what

1070
00:47:42,800 --> 00:47:43,360
Speaker 4: she was paying a.

1071
00:47:43,320 --> 00:47:45,480
Speaker 1: Lot of money. We need to get that persons, that

1072
00:47:45,719 --> 00:47:48,000
Speaker 1: company as a sponsor. That would be lit. We have

1073
00:47:48,120 --> 00:47:48,759
Speaker 1: such a great story.

1074
00:47:48,880 --> 00:47:50,239
Speaker 3: Only thing left at this point is to get the

1075
00:47:50,239 --> 00:47:53,120
Speaker 3: simplified dissolution of marriage, which I will be getting notorized Monday,

1076
00:47:53,200 --> 00:47:55,080
Speaker 3: signed by her on Wednesday, the next day she is

1077
00:47:55,120 --> 00:47:57,319
Speaker 3: free and we'll be turning it in that day. After

1078
00:47:57,360 --> 00:47:59,680
Speaker 3: this is done, I should be starting the process to

1079
00:47:59,680 --> 00:48:01,960
Speaker 3: be finishing my divorce in less than a week.

1080
00:48:02,080 --> 00:48:04,759
Speaker 1: Oh no, now I see what he says, saying start

1081
00:48:04,800 --> 00:48:07,720
Speaker 1: to finish the process is taking a week start to finish. Okay,

1082
00:48:07,800 --> 00:48:09,560
Speaker 1: my divorce is going to be done in a week.

1083
00:48:09,680 --> 00:48:13,120
Speaker 3: Yes, so I should be start to finish divorced in

1084
00:48:13,200 --> 00:48:13,839
Speaker 3: less than a week.

1085
00:48:13,920 --> 00:48:14,520
Speaker 1: Thank you to go to.

1086
00:48:14,800 --> 00:48:17,120
Speaker 3: I don't really feel any certain way. I haven't missed

1087
00:48:17,160 --> 00:48:19,440
Speaker 3: her like I have girlfriends past. I haven't stayed it

1088
00:48:19,480 --> 00:48:21,880
Speaker 3: at night thinking about her. I'm more concerned with her

1089
00:48:21,880 --> 00:48:24,640
Speaker 3: well being than I am about my anything physical she

1090
00:48:24,760 --> 00:48:27,080
Speaker 3: may be doing. Those thoughts haven't bothered me at all.

1091
00:48:27,160 --> 00:48:29,480
Speaker 3: Once we're officially divorced, I'm going one hundred percent no

1092
00:48:29,520 --> 00:48:32,799
Speaker 3: contact phone number is getting changed. The most important part,

1093
00:48:33,000 --> 00:48:35,000
Speaker 3: and that is the conclusion.

1094
00:48:35,360 --> 00:48:38,000
Speaker 1: Yeah, I feel like as as I've gotten older, that

1095
00:48:38,040 --> 00:48:41,799
Speaker 1: matters less or impacts less. In order a breakup, she's like,

1096
00:48:41,840 --> 00:48:43,919
Speaker 1: oh my god, what if she's with someone else, It's

1097
00:48:43,960 --> 00:48:47,160
Speaker 1: like whatever, we're all apes. Yeah, we are all literally

1098
00:48:47,239 --> 00:48:50,920
Speaker 1: prime apes. Like whatever, It's okay, I think we lose this.

1099
00:48:51,600 --> 00:48:53,640
Speaker 3: I don't know what if you want to call it jealous,

1100
00:48:53,760 --> 00:48:56,640
Speaker 3: kind of controlling whatever, it's like, oh everyone, no, one's

1101
00:48:56,800 --> 00:48:58,719
Speaker 3: entitled to anything. That's really what it is at the

1102
00:48:58,800 --> 00:49:00,480
Speaker 3: end of the day, and weize, oh, you know what,

1103
00:49:00,800 --> 00:49:03,160
Speaker 3: as long as there's like you know, all right, hey,

1104
00:49:03,200 --> 00:49:06,279
Speaker 3: this isn't working. Whatever we cleaned, step right, someone goes off,

1105
00:49:06,320 --> 00:49:07,000
Speaker 3: does there thing?

1106
00:49:07,400 --> 00:49:07,799
Speaker 1: All right?

1107
00:49:07,840 --> 00:49:11,560
Speaker 3: Whatever I'm not in You're not legally mandated to do whatever,

1108
00:49:11,640 --> 00:49:13,160
Speaker 3: Like okay, I'm just going to go live my life.

1109
00:49:13,280 --> 00:49:16,359
Speaker 1: Yeah, truly, it's like I'm more. Yeah, it's just at

1110
00:49:16,360 --> 00:49:19,400
Speaker 1: that point, it's okay, we're not together. That's no longer

1111
00:49:19,760 --> 00:49:22,480
Speaker 1: my jurisdiction. So why would I go out of my

1112
00:49:22,520 --> 00:49:24,919
Speaker 1: way to concern myself with that? But so, good job, Op,

1113
00:49:25,360 --> 00:49:25,839
Speaker 1: there we go.

1114
00:49:26,040 --> 00:49:29,520
Speaker 3: Hope you have some some good stuff. Yeah, absolutely, Yeah,

1115
00:49:29,680 --> 00:49:31,759
Speaker 3: that's the end of that story. So if you love us,

1116
00:49:31,840 --> 00:49:32,680
Speaker 3: make sure this sprot.

1117
00:49:32,880 --> 00:49:35,640
Speaker 1: We love you and see you now.