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Speaker 1: Welcome to We Talk Back podcast, the production of iHeartRadio

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Speaker 1: and the Black Effect Network.

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Speaker 2: So we're just two unapologetically black women with an opinion.

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Speaker 3: Who talks. What's up?

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Speaker 1: Y'allish girl a j holiday? What's up? Tam Bam?

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Speaker 3: Y'all is tam Bam? I love y'all. Welcome back, so

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Speaker 3: we talk back. I missed, y'all. How was your weekend? Girlfriend?

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Speaker 1: My weekend, I didn't do much. It was cold outside

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Speaker 1: as fuck. I got a bunch of food on Saturday

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Speaker 1: in Hiberneda. I bought a projector earlier last week. So

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Speaker 1: I've been watching TV on the wall.

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Speaker 3: Oh that's cute. I used to have I.

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Speaker 1: Don't like TV's in the bedroom. Yeah, so that's like perfect.

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Speaker 1: And it has like Netflix and YouTube already installed on it,

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Speaker 1: so it's perfect. The only thing is that it has

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Speaker 1: a remote and I turned it off and it kept

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Speaker 1: coming back on.

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Speaker 3: I don't know what that is exactly.

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Speaker 1: Imagine sleeping and you wake up and this ship on

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Speaker 1: your fucking wall right in.

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Speaker 3: Some bullshit playing. He was probably watching.

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Speaker 4: I was not, girl'll be watching.

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Speaker 1: Poor nobody's feeling so disgusted watching porn nowadays, the older

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Speaker 1: I get it just getting nasty, and like, what the fuck?

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Speaker 1: What is wrong with me? I don't watch that ship

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Speaker 1: for real?

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Speaker 2: I never could get into it. I could never do it.

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Speaker 2: I need plot, and then it just takes too much time.

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Speaker 1: So you want to you want a movie porn?

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Speaker 3: Yeah?

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Speaker 1: Like why?

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Speaker 3: I need to know because if I don't know, it's.

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Speaker 1: Just ill.

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Speaker 3: To me.

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Speaker 1: Videos be looking like they having sex for real and genre.

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Speaker 3: So I went. I came to Charleston this weekend. Came

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Speaker 3: for a sad event. My friend his his friend passed away.

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Speaker 2: So I came for a funeral that was Sunday and

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Speaker 2: it was a nice I mean sad event, but it

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Speaker 2: was beautiful. On Saturday, we did go to a place

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Speaker 2: called Gulla and Grooves.

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Speaker 3: And I really enjoyed it. It was like vibe. It

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Speaker 3: was a nice vibe. It was an older crowd.

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Speaker 2: It was live music, singing all the millennial songs that

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Speaker 2: we all loved to sing along.

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Speaker 1: I need to check Gulla and Grooves. You had at

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Speaker 1: Mike Mike Brown, right, It was you know.

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Speaker 3: It was nice.

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Speaker 2: The drinks were nice, the vibes were nice. And then

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Speaker 2: I went to the bathroom. I just walked in the

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Speaker 2: bathroom and was like two women in the stall. I

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Speaker 2: don't know who they were because they were obviously already

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Speaker 2: in the stall, but they were like, I guess they

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Speaker 2: were together because it was like, somebody ain't nanny stink,

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Speaker 2: somebody nanny's here?

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Speaker 3: Shut up? So stupid to ask.

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Speaker 1: Me come to the front. Who was taking a ship

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Speaker 1: and gull and grooves? This weekend, y'all stuck up the

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Speaker 1: bathroom and bitches is bad. You remember that day we

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Speaker 1: stuck up that bathroom on the way back from Atlanta?

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Speaker 3: What did we eat?

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Speaker 1: We had boba and had regular milk in it.

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Speaker 3: You had bubo tea? Fucking with you? Because I don't

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Speaker 3: even that's not something that I would even buy. Get it.

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Speaker 2: Drink that ship we both had to do over and

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Speaker 2: somebody was trying to get the stall. She was like

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Speaker 2: pulling on the door and her husband was like she

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Speaker 2: was speaking a different language yelling at her husband.

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Speaker 3: Because clear she had the ship too.

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Speaker 1: She couldn't get in the bathroom.

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Speaker 2: Yo, for you, good times, good times?

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Speaker 4: Shame.

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Speaker 3: Do we have a baddy who talks back? This week?

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Speaker 1: We do, okay, and it's a fellow Gemini, So I

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Speaker 1: thought it was perfect okay for this week's batty who

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Speaker 1: talks back. It is Juanita Jordan. Okay, they're they're labeling her,

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Speaker 1: labeling her as one of the smartest geminis. Okay, it

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Speaker 1: says while Jordan was cheating in ninety three with females

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Speaker 1: lighter than Juanita because you know he liked the white girls. Okay,

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Speaker 1: she stayed and then she waited until that Nigga retired.

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Speaker 4: And divorced him.

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Speaker 1: Now she owns half of everything. So every time you

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Speaker 1: bought them new elevens, whatever, Rachel, whatever, Juanita is getting

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Speaker 1: a check okay. And she was an attorney and now

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Speaker 1: she's worth uh somewhere around one one hundred and seventy

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Speaker 1: million dollars the key.

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Speaker 3: I fuck want to be like Mike. I don't want to

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Speaker 3: be like why Nita.

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Speaker 1: Guy. We all aspire to be like why Nita?

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Speaker 3: Why Nita?

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Speaker 2: You are a baddie who talks bad. We celebrate you

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Speaker 2: this black history. We love your girl.

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Speaker 1: Yes, So don't be trying to get even with these

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Speaker 1: men unless it's in court period.

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Speaker 3: Okay, I'm here.

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Speaker 1: You'll naviget get even cheating back.

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Speaker 3: I love that. That was a good one. Mm hmm.

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Speaker 2: Why Anita Jordan, Yo, let's get into scenes.

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Speaker 1: Man, what we got going on this week? So I

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Speaker 1: know you all have s t I and King going in.

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Speaker 1: Uh so fifty cent and t I was supposed to

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Speaker 1: do it versus. At some point, t I said he

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Speaker 1: had talked to fifty cent about it because they was

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Speaker 1: like in La shopping some TV shows or some shit.

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Speaker 1: So they was kicking it, and he said fifty cent

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Speaker 1: verbally agreed, right, he was like, yeah, I'm gonna publicize

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Speaker 1: at first, and then you just come in after me.

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Speaker 1: This is their conversation. So I guess once t I

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Speaker 1: started like publicly talking about doing the verses with fifty fifty,

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Speaker 1: like I don't know this nigga, and I don't know

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Speaker 1: what he's talking about, essentially, and that's what all this

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Speaker 1: beef is about. That's where it started. And then fifty

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Speaker 1: then goes to post the worst edited photo of Tiny

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Speaker 1: mm hmm possible.

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Speaker 3: That was me because he don't even have nothing to

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Speaker 3: do with it.

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Speaker 1: She we all tell she's sweet. I don't like when

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Speaker 1: people play with Tiny. I don't.

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Speaker 3: Yeah, it's just mean. H he had just a mean,

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Speaker 3: hurtful person.

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Speaker 2: It's the cancer, the cancer he got that we can

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Speaker 2: be Listen, I know we can be sur retal snakes

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Speaker 2: when we want to want to. Yeah, so that's ugly,

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Speaker 2: but he got like, you can't keep being this kind

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Speaker 2: of ugly out here and not expect to get that

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Speaker 2: energy back. He's gonna get a recording, and it seems

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Speaker 2: like t I gonna be the one to give it

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Speaker 2: to him. You heard the songs thing that came out with.

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Speaker 1: Yes, he came out with a song called War that

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Speaker 1: shit litasally, I guess a diss record to whomever.

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Speaker 3: Well, I feel like War.

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Speaker 2: Was already recorded. But he uh, he just is perfect timing. Yeah,

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Speaker 2: so Tipstow got it. Yeah, he is one of the

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Speaker 2: best rappers out here.

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Speaker 3: I still, what's that song? Let him know?

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Speaker 2: Yeah, that's a bop. That's a hit for sure. Well,

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Speaker 2: I'm excited, and I hope this definitely stays lyrical and

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Speaker 2: doesn't become anything outside of that.

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Speaker 3: King.

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Speaker 2: This is the first time I seen King crash out

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Speaker 2: and I supported it. This is the first crash out

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Speaker 2: and I was like, go off King and talking about

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Speaker 2: your fucking mama.

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Speaker 1: So I just don't think fifty cent is of the

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Speaker 1: culture anymore. And probably he just feels like he doesn't

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Speaker 1: need to do a verse. You know what I'm saying, Like,

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Speaker 1: I just get something. It's something. It's something about that

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Speaker 1: shit surrounding the Diddy case and how he did the

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Speaker 1: documentary and then the tweets. I just I don't know

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Speaker 1: about fifty cent no more. And I don't think enough

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Speaker 1: people be calling him out of his bullshit either.

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Speaker 2: He lost me once I saw how he treated his

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Speaker 2: biological son that looks exactly like him.

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Speaker 3: That's when I it was over for me.

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Speaker 2: So yeah, Larry haven't all right?

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Speaker 3: So you ganda.

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Speaker 2: Woman starts a business of beating men who cheat on

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Speaker 2: their partners, so you gotta want that. Has started a

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Speaker 2: shocking business beating men who cheat on their wives, sharing

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Speaker 2: her contact on social media so any woman can hire

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Speaker 2: her to deal with unfaithful husbands, and she beating up

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Speaker 2: all kinds of men. She talks about, beating up men

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Speaker 2: who still for women, beating up men who have physically

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Speaker 2: harmed women. And it's not just her. She got a

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Speaker 2: game with her and she really likes she really out here.

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Speaker 2: She said, this is keeping her lights on, Like people

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Speaker 2: are really paying her money to go whoop niggs ass

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Speaker 2: when they cheat, when they hurt these women when they

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Speaker 2: steal from these women, when they beat these women. This woman,

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Speaker 2: and I think we just need to start like an

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Speaker 2: international charities, like they're just need to like go around

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Speaker 2: the world because these men need a reckoning.

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Speaker 1: Apparently that is so ironic, y'all. I have had this

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Speaker 1: business idea for quite some time. It's called b yob

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Speaker 1: beat your own bitch, where you can hire my company

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Speaker 1: to beat your bitch up.

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Speaker 2: I feel like, go back episodes from years ago and

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Speaker 2: you talk about this and this woman actually really did

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Speaker 2: it like you would saying that as a joke. This

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Speaker 2: woman is really out here.

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Speaker 1: She beating the men up though. But I mean, if

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Speaker 1: you got a woman that's on your ass and like

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Speaker 1: your sister ain't nowhere around, your mom ain't nowhere around,

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Speaker 1: you could just call up be wild beat.

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Speaker 2: But what if it's a big getting you to be

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Speaker 2: his wife because she ain't cleaning up the house, Like

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Speaker 2: how he wanted all right clean that kitchen?

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Speaker 1: Watch how about you paying for wild were cleaning were

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Speaker 1: beating all nasty ass wives? Why you ain't clean that kitchen?

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Speaker 3: These are jokes.

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Speaker 2: So if you're a victim of missing violence, you don't

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Speaker 2: mean any harm. I just joking, promise, y'all.

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Speaker 1: This is one of Dammy's classmates. So apparently the South

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Speaker 1: Carolina accused of scamming customers arrested for the eleventh time.

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Speaker 1: Okay uh. The owner of South Carolina children's boutique accused

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Speaker 1: of scamming several customers was back behind bars on Monday.

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Speaker 1: This just this past Monday. Pamela Brooks scorns scorns thirty. Well, no,

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Speaker 1: she's not your classmate. Long before, so quick, you are

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Speaker 1: so fucking fast was booked into the Cherokee County Detention

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Speaker 1: Center and charged with obtaining property under false pretenses. So

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Speaker 1: January first, she was arrested in Anderson County and extra

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Speaker 1: died it to Fairfield County, where she was formerly charged.

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Speaker 1: Then she was arrested in Easley Police department on January seventh,

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Speaker 1: and February fifth, she was arrested in Spartanburg County Sheriff's

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Speaker 1: office and released at six twenty five pm. Then again

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Speaker 1: on February Who the fuck is this lady? WYDDI world

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Speaker 1: rode in her like this February fifth, and second time

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Speaker 1: of February fifth, the rest of my Easley Police Department

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Speaker 1: an hour after leaving Spartanburg County.

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Speaker 3: God damn, like, what kind of how.

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Speaker 1: February eleventh, she turns herself into Abbeyville County Sheriff's office.

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Speaker 1: On February thirteen, she's arrested by Pickens County.

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Speaker 3: God damn, she's just all over.

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Speaker 1: On February thirteenth, day before Valentine, she was arrested by

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Speaker 1: Greenville County Sheriff's Office. February nineteenth, she was booked in

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Speaker 1: sair Riginally she finally.

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Speaker 3: Made it to Columbia, YEP.

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Speaker 1: She was booked into Richland County Detention Center on the

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Speaker 1: hold for Greenwood Police Department. On February twenty, she was

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Speaker 1: arrested by Greenwood and then on February the twenty third,

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Speaker 1: she was booked again into the Cherokee County Detention Center,

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Speaker 2: She needs to find a new late bitch. You need

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Speaker 1: She's a blonde bombshell. Y'all used to work in Dillard's, right.

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Speaker 2: Yeah, that's one thing he ain't never got to worry

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Speaker 1: coming around like well, I mean, God, be like, bitch,

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Speaker 3: Right here you go? Broken boom?

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Speaker 1: This is from Petty King Underscore Petty King on Instagram.

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Speaker 1: It's a I guess a retweet I gave a nigga

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Speaker 1: some Stinkkuchi before, because yeah, bitch, stop begging. Did you

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Speaker 2: Paramos are like extra when you're fresh from the gym

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Speaker 1: But ill why we can't say no. I got to

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Speaker 3: I don't want to smell that push hair.

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Speaker 1: Like I was gonna say no, baby, not today. My

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Speaker 3: We have to say that because some biggas just don't

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Speaker 1: I guess she said, fuck ahead, then you want some

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Speaker 3: The biggas will not breathe and you with this.

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Speaker 1: No integrity, zero, no integrity. When I used to work

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Speaker 1: And Mark was like, hell no, man, I have more

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Speaker 2: I was talking to this guy, one of my friends,

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Speaker 2: He's like always. I'm like, how many times did you

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Speaker 2: how it always was stink? And he's gonna bust out

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Speaker 2: laugh again, you nasty, and you probably the reason why

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Speaker 2: it was always stink.

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Speaker 3: Exactly what are we talking about? Exactly? You keep going

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Speaker 3: back to get stink, Kucci, that's what you talking about.

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Speaker 3: Always niggas get on my nerd.

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Speaker 1: They be telling on themself so badly because why you

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Speaker 3: Right? You kept going back there just like it.

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Speaker 1: To get what he can get. No self respect, y'all.

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Speaker 1: We can't be friends.

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Speaker 4: If we can't be love us.

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Speaker 3: That wasn't redition.

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Speaker 1: That's we're talking about today, y'all. Kid, Men and women

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Speaker 3: Right, let's get into it. We'll be right back. Guess what.

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Speaker 4: I'm back, y'all.

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Speaker 2: We had to bring her back because we had so

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Speaker 2: on the American Dream that we had to bring her back,

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Speaker 2: and we're talking about these nays.

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Speaker 1: Yeah, yeah, not real, y'all. We literally be coming out

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Speaker 1: with topics and tim and be like, I don't talk

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Speaker 2: I just don't want to be one of those podcasts

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Speaker 1: But to that, it's fine, Well, today we do not

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Speaker 1: do y'all think that women can actually have male friends

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Speaker 2: Yes, I do think you can have a male friend

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Speaker 3: Would they fuck you? Probably right, I think they would.

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Speaker 3: But as long as you don't cross their boundary, you're

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Speaker 1: I think that's the boyfriend's problem though, right knowing he's

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Speaker 2: Now I do have some male friends that be like hello, like, bitch,

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Speaker 2: that's like one of my best homeboys. He would never

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Speaker 1: Then even if you ain't even ask him again, He's right,

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Speaker 3: So and so do you agree with that?

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Speaker 4: Like, I just like the key word that was said

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Speaker 1: Do, yeah, like you abandoning your urns every time you

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Speaker 3: Absolutely, I think most of them would.

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Speaker 4: I agree that you're at the end of the day,

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Speaker 1: Know, That's what I'm saying again, because we're not going

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Speaker 1: I think some guys end up in the friend place

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Speaker 4: Right and guy, and then we're not friends anymore. But

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Speaker 1: The friend zone, guy, and and now you're not friends. Yeah, okay,

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Speaker 4: But I think like whenever the conversation is he's not

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Speaker 4: Because he's my friend and we just talk each other

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Speaker 3: With you period.

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Speaker 1: I just know. I think men know that men don't

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Speaker 1: it's nothing exactly we could do.

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Speaker 4: About It's nothing you can do about it if your

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Speaker 2: where I had like it was always gay men because

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00:25:10,240 --> 00:25:13,680
Speaker 2: I work in a dominant industry, so there was never

441
00:25:13,720 --> 00:25:16,800
Speaker 2: a work husband to have had. But I think if

442
00:25:16,800 --> 00:25:22,040
Speaker 2: I worked in a place like that, especially in my twenties. Friendly, Yeah,

443
00:25:22,080 --> 00:25:25,200
Speaker 2: I would have had seven work husbands, you know, like

444
00:25:26,520 --> 00:25:31,640
Speaker 2: the rotation mind like right, Yeline, exactly, seven work husbands,

445
00:25:31,640 --> 00:25:35,880
Speaker 2: fucking won you know, and somebody wife coming to beat

446
00:25:35,920 --> 00:25:36,399
Speaker 2: your ass.

447
00:25:36,960 --> 00:25:40,880
Speaker 1: I didn't say they were married to somebody else. Usually

448
00:25:40,880 --> 00:25:43,639
Speaker 1: that's the dynamic, Like, that's why you call them work husband,

449
00:25:43,680 --> 00:25:45,879
Speaker 1: because you got your actual husband at the house, You

450
00:25:45,920 --> 00:25:48,720
Speaker 1: got your actual wife at the house, so you played

451
00:25:48,760 --> 00:25:49,560
Speaker 1: around on a job.

452
00:25:49,960 --> 00:25:52,080
Speaker 2: You can only be a work husband if you're already

453
00:25:52,080 --> 00:25:53,120
Speaker 2: married to somebody else.

454
00:25:53,280 --> 00:25:56,280
Speaker 4: Now, But I think in general, like you know, people

455
00:25:56,400 --> 00:25:59,000
Speaker 4: typically have somebody outside of work that they're dealing with,

456
00:25:59,000 --> 00:25:59,960
Speaker 4: whether dating or married.

457
00:26:01,000 --> 00:26:02,919
Speaker 2: I heard about somebody getting They asked me that at

458
00:26:02,960 --> 00:26:03,920
Speaker 2: the job like that.

459
00:26:03,920 --> 00:26:06,920
Speaker 4: Plenty of time. Yeah, I'm sure, man, I got some time.

460
00:26:07,200 --> 00:26:09,480
Speaker 4: I mean, but that's like your man is crossing boundaries.

461
00:26:09,480 --> 00:26:11,440
Speaker 4: Then at that point, you know, and if your man

462
00:26:11,520 --> 00:26:14,840
Speaker 4: is uncomfortable, if your significant other is uncomfortable with you

463
00:26:15,359 --> 00:26:18,080
Speaker 4: having like a close relationship with some of the opposite

464
00:26:18,080 --> 00:26:20,919
Speaker 4: sex in the workplace, then if they are unwilling to

465
00:26:20,920 --> 00:26:24,320
Speaker 4: respect that boundary, then that's them, and then from there

466
00:26:24,359 --> 00:26:25,880
Speaker 4: it's your decision what you do from there.

467
00:26:26,000 --> 00:26:27,199
Speaker 3: So let me let me ask you all this.

468
00:26:27,560 --> 00:26:30,600
Speaker 2: If you have, like you're in a great relationship, your

469
00:26:30,600 --> 00:26:33,120
Speaker 2: guy cheats on you with his work wife, and y'all

470
00:26:33,119 --> 00:26:34,320
Speaker 2: decide to stay together.

471
00:26:34,080 --> 00:26:36,080
Speaker 3: Can he keep his job or do he need to quit?

472
00:26:40,000 --> 00:26:44,359
Speaker 1: You know, I'm getting that nobody's got to go.

473
00:26:45,080 --> 00:26:47,360
Speaker 2: Now, Benxide, do you find security knowing that he has

474
00:26:47,400 --> 00:26:49,120
Speaker 2: to go back to that work wife every day?

475
00:26:49,359 --> 00:26:51,360
Speaker 3: You know you can't.

476
00:26:51,520 --> 00:26:52,000
Speaker 1: You cannot.

477
00:26:52,119 --> 00:26:53,080
Speaker 3: I don't think you can be.

478
00:26:54,640 --> 00:26:57,200
Speaker 4: Comfortable secure in that situation.

479
00:26:57,320 --> 00:27:00,719
Speaker 1: But you know, I don't know. I just I just

480
00:27:00,840 --> 00:27:02,919
Speaker 1: feeling like humans just be doing human shit. So I

481
00:27:03,040 --> 00:27:05,760
Speaker 1: just really don't be trying to control people. So really

482
00:27:05,840 --> 00:27:07,800
Speaker 1: that's what it's about with me, Like I don't have

483
00:27:07,920 --> 00:27:09,480
Speaker 1: to have none of these people that I talk to.

484
00:27:09,600 --> 00:27:11,320
Speaker 1: I don't have to talk to these people every single day.

485
00:27:11,320 --> 00:27:13,879
Speaker 1: It's the fact that you think I shouldn't that I

486
00:27:13,880 --> 00:27:16,240
Speaker 1: got a problem with because I don't have a problem.

487
00:27:15,880 --> 00:27:17,240
Speaker 3: Now and talk.

488
00:27:18,920 --> 00:27:20,120
Speaker 4: Now it's time to clock in.

489
00:27:23,200 --> 00:27:25,680
Speaker 1: Exactly, Like, don't tell me what I can't do, because

490
00:27:25,720 --> 00:27:28,320
Speaker 1: I'm never telling the grown ass man what he can't do. Like,

491
00:27:28,400 --> 00:27:32,119
Speaker 1: you know, what, what's right, I'm wrong? But what is

492
00:27:32,200 --> 00:27:34,600
Speaker 1: good for the goose, is good for the ganders. You

493
00:27:34,640 --> 00:27:37,240
Speaker 1: cannot be out here with all these homegirls. And then

494
00:27:37,320 --> 00:27:40,679
Speaker 1: you Saya and me about every guy I talk about.

495
00:27:40,960 --> 00:27:43,800
Speaker 1: Remember I've said this before, how my ex was compiling

496
00:27:43,840 --> 00:27:49,360
Speaker 1: a list based on general conversation. Imagine I'm like, yeah, oh,

497
00:27:49,880 --> 00:27:58,439
Speaker 1: videographer Thomas. Like he got Thomas Ballad, Thomas guy, and

498
00:27:58,440 --> 00:27:59,400
Speaker 1: then got.

499
00:27:59,160 --> 00:28:01,040
Speaker 4: A different people that you've talked to.

500
00:28:01,320 --> 00:28:05,000
Speaker 1: No, just their names, random people I've talked about, people

501
00:28:05,040 --> 00:28:08,600
Speaker 1: that he knows that I know. He had it like

502
00:28:08,800 --> 00:28:11,720
Speaker 1: listed in his phone and then like one night, nine

503
00:28:11,720 --> 00:28:14,439
Speaker 1: o'clock at night, we get into bed, He's like, he

504
00:28:14,520 --> 00:28:19,639
Speaker 1: wants to go over the list. Thomas. Today you have.

505
00:28:21,359 --> 00:28:23,960
Speaker 4: Jeff was not the list before, and now now he's

506
00:28:24,040 --> 00:28:25,080
Speaker 4: on the list. Where did he come?

507
00:28:25,119 --> 00:28:27,200
Speaker 1: A nigga with dreads Like, if you don't know the name,

508
00:28:27,240 --> 00:28:28,520
Speaker 1: it's a description there.

509
00:28:30,320 --> 00:28:32,680
Speaker 3: But that just sounds like someone who's very insecure.

510
00:28:32,960 --> 00:28:36,159
Speaker 1: Very Meanwhile, like you got home, you got female friends.

511
00:28:36,280 --> 00:28:39,600
Speaker 1: I don't give a fuck about when my homeboy just

512
00:28:39,640 --> 00:28:42,240
Speaker 1: recently we haven't spoken in a long while because he's

513
00:28:42,240 --> 00:28:44,239
Speaker 1: been in a relationship for the last five years and

514
00:28:44,280 --> 00:28:46,360
Speaker 1: I've been in a couple of relationships in the last

515
00:28:46,360 --> 00:28:49,680
Speaker 1: five years. But he was like, I didn't have a

516
00:28:49,720 --> 00:28:51,640
Speaker 1: problem not talking to anybody, but I didn't want to

517
00:28:51,680 --> 00:28:54,040
Speaker 1: let you go. Like he didn't want to not talk

518
00:28:54,080 --> 00:28:56,360
Speaker 1: to me, but his girl was opposed to him having

519
00:28:56,360 --> 00:29:00,000
Speaker 1: female friends. So we both geminized. Like we talk a lot,

520
00:29:00,000 --> 00:29:01,560
Speaker 1: but you know what I'm saying, when we do talk

521
00:29:01,720 --> 00:29:05,840
Speaker 1: is like extensive conversation about all things. So imagine not

522
00:29:05,880 --> 00:29:09,080
Speaker 1: being able to have a not an outlet, not like

523
00:29:09,160 --> 00:29:11,880
Speaker 1: you need an outlet outside of your relationship, right, but

524
00:29:12,240 --> 00:29:16,080
Speaker 1: sometimes you do need the perspective from the opposite sex,

525
00:29:16,120 --> 00:29:18,680
Speaker 1: but from someone else, because I can't really talk to

526
00:29:18,760 --> 00:29:21,480
Speaker 1: you about you exactly.

527
00:29:22,080 --> 00:29:24,920
Speaker 4: That's exactly the word I was gonna use with perspective, Mike.

528
00:29:25,360 --> 00:29:29,680
Speaker 4: Everybody's different, everybody comes from different background, life experiences, and

529
00:29:30,160 --> 00:29:32,959
Speaker 4: for you to say that I can't talk to another

530
00:29:33,080 --> 00:29:37,400
Speaker 4: human being is crazy. That's to me. That's because especially

531
00:29:37,440 --> 00:29:38,840
Speaker 4: like you said that y'all would get on the phone,

532
00:29:38,920 --> 00:29:43,240
Speaker 4: y'all chit chat, laugh, whatever, talk. My thing is, it'd

533
00:29:43,280 --> 00:29:46,920
Speaker 4: be weird if y'all got on the phone and y'all

534
00:29:46,920 --> 00:29:50,120
Speaker 4: could only you know, when when she wasn't around, right,

535
00:29:50,280 --> 00:29:52,680
Speaker 4: you know what I mean? Or like whenever she whenever

536
00:29:52,760 --> 00:29:54,800
Speaker 4: he called, whenever you call, he's like, oh, let me

537
00:29:54,840 --> 00:29:58,440
Speaker 4: call you back up with my girl. Now that's weird, right,

538
00:29:58,480 --> 00:30:01,800
Speaker 4: But if you can have conversations, he couldn't do that.

539
00:30:02,320 --> 00:30:05,000
Speaker 1: But because I set the tone in my relationship.

540
00:30:04,560 --> 00:30:06,720
Speaker 2: I'm just like, I think I'm toxic right now because

541
00:30:07,080 --> 00:30:09,760
Speaker 2: you're saying I'd be like, get off the phone.

542
00:30:11,120 --> 00:30:11,360
Speaker 3: Here.

543
00:30:13,160 --> 00:30:15,360
Speaker 4: Can't you talk to his homeboys when you're around?

544
00:30:15,960 --> 00:30:19,360
Speaker 2: I mean what they Yeah, I guess he got like

545
00:30:19,440 --> 00:30:23,040
Speaker 2: I just feel like I'm so busy that when I'm around,

546
00:30:23,800 --> 00:30:24,600
Speaker 2: that's my time.

547
00:30:25,040 --> 00:30:27,200
Speaker 1: What you know, he can't, but imagine living in the

548
00:30:27,240 --> 00:30:31,480
Speaker 1: house with somebody, right, Okay, and y'all have different Yeah,

549
00:30:31,600 --> 00:30:34,360
Speaker 1: Like I have male friends, I'm going to talk to

550
00:30:34,440 --> 00:30:36,960
Speaker 1: them in front of my man, Like, and you could

551
00:30:37,000 --> 00:30:39,400
Speaker 1: possibly meet this person at some point. I don't have

552
00:30:39,440 --> 00:30:41,160
Speaker 1: a lot of people that live in Charleston, but I

553
00:30:41,160 --> 00:30:43,800
Speaker 1: have people, you know, all over you could possibly meet

554
00:30:43,800 --> 00:30:45,360
Speaker 1: this person at some point, Like this is I'm not

555
00:30:45,440 --> 00:30:47,600
Speaker 1: hiding nothing when I'm talking to this person on the phone.

556
00:30:48,520 --> 00:30:49,720
Speaker 1: And I want you to be able to do the

557
00:30:49,720 --> 00:30:51,960
Speaker 1: same thing with the opposite sex. I don't really put

558
00:30:52,000 --> 00:30:54,959
Speaker 1: that much emphasis on the sex of the person it's

559
00:30:55,000 --> 00:30:55,360
Speaker 1: a friend.

560
00:30:56,600 --> 00:30:58,400
Speaker 3: Yeah, I agree, yeah, but but.

561
00:30:58,480 --> 00:31:02,600
Speaker 1: Men don't seem to think that. No, do you have

562
00:31:02,640 --> 00:31:05,200
Speaker 1: some guy friends who are currently guy friends that you

563
00:31:05,240 --> 00:31:12,680
Speaker 1: have had sex with? And now y'all just like.

564
00:31:10,160 --> 00:31:11,840
Speaker 3: Me, Now what.

565
00:31:14,480 --> 00:31:16,840
Speaker 1: Why would you ask me that in front of everybody,

566
00:31:18,120 --> 00:31:22,080
Speaker 1: in front of my friend company.

567
00:31:21,440 --> 00:31:24,000
Speaker 2: Not No, So you asked me, Do I have any

568
00:31:24,080 --> 00:31:26,680
Speaker 2: guy friends that I've had sex with before in.

569
00:31:26,560 --> 00:31:29,120
Speaker 1: My life and they're your friend now and you would

570
00:31:29,160 --> 00:31:31,760
Speaker 1: never have sex with them again? But y'all, relationships started

571
00:31:31,800 --> 00:31:33,880
Speaker 1: off off as.

572
00:31:34,040 --> 00:31:35,400
Speaker 3: Yes, I do.

573
00:31:36,000 --> 00:31:36,800
Speaker 1: I have hollered at you.

574
00:31:36,880 --> 00:31:43,480
Speaker 3: Yeah, I have. You know I've been Yeah, would you.

575
00:31:43,240 --> 00:31:43,880
Speaker 1: Would you like?

576
00:31:44,320 --> 00:31:47,480
Speaker 4: Would you with your homegirl on a guy who was

577
00:31:47,480 --> 00:31:51,520
Speaker 4: your friend who you had.

578
00:31:52,080 --> 00:31:52,520
Speaker 1: Listen to?

579
00:31:53,160 --> 00:31:55,480
Speaker 4: Likelves back you covid.

580
00:31:55,560 --> 00:31:58,560
Speaker 1: She got the whole problem in my relation when that

581
00:31:58,720 --> 00:32:04,920
Speaker 1: episode came out World War Three at Home because I sold.

582
00:32:06,760 --> 00:32:14,080
Speaker 1: I didn't wait for that start calculating like it was COVID,

583
00:32:14,480 --> 00:32:27,160
Speaker 1: y'all worry. I was okay, couchie buddies look good. Couchie buddies,

584
00:32:29,400 --> 00:32:31,400
Speaker 1: y'all could go back and listen to five years ago.

585
00:32:31,560 --> 00:32:36,320
Speaker 1: But Tammy was dingle. I'm in a relationship. It is

586
00:32:36,400 --> 00:32:41,320
Speaker 1: COVID and my friend isn't he? And I'm like, I

587
00:32:41,440 --> 00:32:47,040
Speaker 1: know a guy. It was really nice, gonna be good,

588
00:32:47,360 --> 00:32:48,840
Speaker 1: you know what I'm saying. She in the house like

589
00:32:48,960 --> 00:32:52,040
Speaker 1: you're not cats, be bumping it up, and I can

590
00:32:52,120 --> 00:32:55,080
Speaker 1: imagine that she was going through lockdown COVID righting the

591
00:32:55,080 --> 00:32:58,280
Speaker 1: couch hurt some dick.

592
00:32:59,000 --> 00:32:59,920
Speaker 4: It was so nice.

593
00:33:00,000 --> 00:33:02,280
Speaker 3: He was such a nice guy. And it was like,

594
00:33:02,360 --> 00:33:04,160
Speaker 3: this is so wild. I can't believe.

595
00:33:07,120 --> 00:33:10,040
Speaker 2: Because I was so scared. Right, I was like, I

596
00:33:10,080 --> 00:33:12,280
Speaker 2: told her, like, yeah, tell me come over here. She

597
00:33:12,640 --> 00:33:14,560
Speaker 2: showed me a picture of he was very attractive. I

598
00:33:14,600 --> 00:33:15,800
Speaker 2: was like, you tell him come over here.

599
00:33:16,000 --> 00:33:18,440
Speaker 3: And then I was joking though I wasn't serious, and

600
00:33:18,480 --> 00:33:19,800
Speaker 3: then she was like he on the way.

601
00:33:20,080 --> 00:33:21,400
Speaker 1: No, I gave the numbers.

602
00:33:21,640 --> 00:33:25,160
Speaker 4: I'm pretty sure not to overeat some dick.

603
00:33:25,320 --> 00:33:30,440
Speaker 1: Yeah, that's what we called it over meat. So I

604
00:33:30,520 --> 00:33:32,880
Speaker 1: get y'all exchange them, like I gave him your number,

605
00:33:32,920 --> 00:33:36,520
Speaker 1: gave you his number. They they talked before he got there, right,

606
00:33:36,720 --> 00:33:37,240
Speaker 1: did you not know?

607
00:33:37,440 --> 00:33:40,120
Speaker 3: We didn't y'all talk on the floor.

608
00:33:39,920 --> 00:33:42,840
Speaker 1: Got there, No, so he just came over there.

609
00:33:42,840 --> 00:33:45,440
Speaker 2: He just came over there. I was so scared. I

610
00:33:45,480 --> 00:33:47,680
Speaker 2: was scared, but he when he got doing.

611
00:33:49,880 --> 00:33:56,160
Speaker 1: Scared this random cock. I mean, come on, right, did

612
00:33:56,320 --> 00:33:56,880
Speaker 1: you have.

613
00:33:58,520 --> 00:34:03,200
Speaker 4: Terrified? He says, it's safe, right, my friends.

614
00:34:03,320 --> 00:34:05,560
Speaker 3: I was scared. But when he got I opened the door,

615
00:34:05,680 --> 00:34:07,040
Speaker 3: he looked more scared than me.

616
00:34:07,760 --> 00:34:10,120
Speaker 2: So that's what made it better. He looked just as nervous,

617
00:34:10,120 --> 00:34:11,239
Speaker 2: more nervous than I was.

618
00:34:12,280 --> 00:34:14,280
Speaker 1: That Nigga was happy the agreement.

619
00:34:14,400 --> 00:34:17,120
Speaker 4: Wants to go over there and break off a little

620
00:34:17,160 --> 00:34:17,839
Speaker 4: piece of meat.

621
00:34:17,920 --> 00:34:19,960
Speaker 1: I literally said, my homegirl needed.

622
00:34:20,480 --> 00:34:23,520
Speaker 4: Yeah, they didn't hang out.

623
00:34:23,760 --> 00:34:24,359
Speaker 1: It didn't happen.

624
00:34:25,160 --> 00:34:28,880
Speaker 3: It's just like some poor nottle ship that happened. Somebody

625
00:34:29,040 --> 00:34:29,560
Speaker 3: ordered something.

626
00:34:31,239 --> 00:34:33,279
Speaker 4: I'm here to fix the length under the seat.

627
00:34:33,400 --> 00:34:38,000
Speaker 3: It was not this Papa John and I got safty.

628
00:34:39,840 --> 00:34:41,000
Speaker 3: I need to pay my rent.

629
00:34:42,960 --> 00:34:44,200
Speaker 1: No, it was nothing like that.

630
00:34:44,280 --> 00:34:47,040
Speaker 3: We came in, we talked for hours.

631
00:34:47,440 --> 00:34:51,360
Speaker 2: Okay, anything, and that's where I'll leave it because I

632
00:34:51,360 --> 00:34:52,160
Speaker 2: have a boot now and.

633
00:34:52,120 --> 00:34:53,920
Speaker 3: This is so I'm driving.

634
00:34:54,480 --> 00:34:57,480
Speaker 1: It was just supposed to be the drop off these motherfuckers.

635
00:34:57,480 --> 00:34:58,279
Speaker 3: We started.

636
00:34:59,680 --> 00:35:03,440
Speaker 1: She cooking, he cooking Joel off rice at his house.

637
00:35:03,520 --> 00:35:06,520
Speaker 4: Yeah, okay, Colin was wild time. You're gonna chalk it

638
00:35:06,600 --> 00:35:08,040
Speaker 4: up the color being what is.

639
00:35:08,080 --> 00:35:10,240
Speaker 1: Happening like giving me gifts.

640
00:35:10,280 --> 00:35:11,760
Speaker 3: I was sitting her pictures of shoes.

641
00:35:12,080 --> 00:35:16,880
Speaker 1: I'm like, I got those, Whizzler, my fault, I got those.

642
00:35:17,840 --> 00:35:23,480
Speaker 1: This is supposed to be one night on dam girl.

643
00:35:25,040 --> 00:35:29,200
Speaker 2: But listen up, back on topic, guys, right, because I

644
00:35:29,200 --> 00:35:29,719
Speaker 2: ain't talked to.

645
00:35:29,719 --> 00:35:33,880
Speaker 1: That nigga years. Okay, right here in Charlotte, just in

646
00:35:33,880 --> 00:35:39,839
Speaker 1: case you want to pass them on down arms, just

647
00:35:39,880 --> 00:35:42,920
Speaker 1: in case you haven't need you need, I'll keep that

648
00:35:42,960 --> 00:35:43,400
Speaker 1: in mind.

649
00:35:43,719 --> 00:35:45,680
Speaker 3: So okay, let me just say this. I have a

650
00:35:45,719 --> 00:35:48,440
Speaker 3: lot of male friends, right, Uh huh. I just have

651
00:35:48,480 --> 00:35:49,719
Speaker 3: a lot of friends period.

652
00:35:49,680 --> 00:35:50,640
Speaker 1: Female and mail.

653
00:35:50,760 --> 00:35:53,960
Speaker 3: Right. But I'm newly seeing someone.

654
00:35:54,120 --> 00:35:57,000
Speaker 2: It's getting a little bit more serious and I don't

655
00:35:57,040 --> 00:36:03,480
Speaker 2: exactly know how to navigate. And mean friendships are friendships

656
00:36:03,520 --> 00:36:07,280
Speaker 2: that might be a little more than friendships, but not really.

657
00:36:07,440 --> 00:36:09,480
Speaker 2: You know, white people, I can call and be like,

658
00:36:09,760 --> 00:36:11,880
Speaker 2: let's go to dinner, you know, and I know they

659
00:36:11,920 --> 00:36:12,439
Speaker 2: want to fuck.

660
00:36:12,520 --> 00:36:13,439
Speaker 3: You know, I know they want to fuck.

661
00:36:13,480 --> 00:36:16,600
Speaker 2: You want to go to dinner and have good vibes

662
00:36:16,800 --> 00:36:21,560
Speaker 2: or no, have a good time exchange andorry.

663
00:36:20,800 --> 00:36:23,879
Speaker 1: Yep, but you don't need them anymore because you got

664
00:36:23,880 --> 00:36:26,520
Speaker 1: your partner. That's how that's supposed to work. You know

665
00:36:26,600 --> 00:36:28,440
Speaker 1: what I'm saying you won't need those, But I.

666
00:36:28,400 --> 00:36:30,879
Speaker 4: Mean, doesn't everybody serve a different purpose? Like that's that's

667
00:36:30,880 --> 00:36:33,160
Speaker 4: the white we go out with our homegirls for.

668
00:36:33,760 --> 00:36:34,520
Speaker 3: You know, this.

669
00:36:34,680 --> 00:36:37,960
Speaker 1: Particular reads people want to smash. So when her now

670
00:36:38,000 --> 00:36:40,400
Speaker 1: this guy she's trying to build something with, would he

671
00:36:40,480 --> 00:36:43,239
Speaker 1: be okay with you? Still going you? Essentially these men

672
00:36:43,239 --> 00:36:44,040
Speaker 1: are still courting you.

673
00:36:50,040 --> 00:36:52,120
Speaker 4: Okay. Well, I'm gonna say this if it's if not

674
00:36:52,239 --> 00:36:54,600
Speaker 4: your friend, right because just because you have a good

675
00:36:54,640 --> 00:36:56,120
Speaker 4: time when you go out to eat and have a

676
00:36:56,120 --> 00:36:59,120
Speaker 4: good time, doesn't mean that that's your friend. That's just

677
00:36:59,160 --> 00:37:00,040
Speaker 4: like a dude.

678
00:36:59,760 --> 00:37:04,719
Speaker 2: You know, who you like to eat with. I mean,

679
00:37:04,760 --> 00:37:07,839
Speaker 2: but y'all, y'all are people I know, I like to

680
00:37:07,880 --> 00:37:10,560
Speaker 2: talk with different all.

681
00:37:10,520 --> 00:37:14,320
Speaker 4: Right, So people are for different reasons in life. So

682
00:37:15,160 --> 00:37:17,680
Speaker 4: if it's just a dude who you go to dinner

683
00:37:17,719 --> 00:37:20,279
Speaker 4: with and have good time with, but what they been.

684
00:37:20,200 --> 00:37:22,480
Speaker 2: Around like over a decade, you know, it's just like

685
00:37:22,800 --> 00:37:26,359
Speaker 2: throwing someone away, you know, I don't know, I don't

686
00:37:26,360 --> 00:37:26,560
Speaker 2: know how.

687
00:37:26,920 --> 00:37:29,120
Speaker 1: But men will wait in the cut for a decade.

688
00:37:29,200 --> 00:37:32,040
Speaker 1: Yeah they will, even while they got all types of

689
00:37:32,080 --> 00:37:34,040
Speaker 1: other ship going on. They might not even want to us.

690
00:37:34,080 --> 00:37:36,000
Speaker 1: They will wait ten years for that pussy, because they

691
00:37:36,040 --> 00:37:38,040
Speaker 1: I mean, I'm getting pussy. I mean in the meantime,

692
00:37:38,640 --> 00:37:40,200
Speaker 1: you know, they'll wait ten years away.

693
00:37:40,560 --> 00:37:42,000
Speaker 4: It's nothing like pussy.

694
00:37:44,600 --> 00:37:46,000
Speaker 1: That's what they say.

695
00:37:47,680 --> 00:37:48,360
Speaker 3: Ten years.

696
00:37:49,120 --> 00:37:53,279
Speaker 1: That's how they get it over there, Like you want

697
00:37:53,320 --> 00:37:54,239
Speaker 1: to go to dinner.

698
00:38:00,520 --> 00:38:05,799
Speaker 4: Here, like tonight, tonight. And Tammy's like, all right, well,

699
00:38:05,840 --> 00:38:06,080
Speaker 4: you know.

700
00:38:06,880 --> 00:38:12,480
Speaker 2: No girl, her about that guy that until I went

701
00:38:12,520 --> 00:38:14,080
Speaker 2: on a date with him and he thought he was

702
00:38:14,120 --> 00:38:14,840
Speaker 2: gonna fuck.

703
00:38:15,480 --> 00:38:19,560
Speaker 1: Who the fuck was that? And Tammy was like rapping,

704
00:38:20,360 --> 00:38:23,600
Speaker 1: rapping or doing yeah, doing acting on movie scenes and

705
00:38:23,680 --> 00:38:26,160
Speaker 1: some fucking weird ship. That's what she want to do

706
00:38:26,360 --> 00:38:26,880
Speaker 1: for hours.

707
00:38:28,400 --> 00:38:30,200
Speaker 4: There's like a there's a trend on TikTok that was

708
00:38:30,239 --> 00:38:32,600
Speaker 4: like you got me, You got me drunk thinking I

709
00:38:32,680 --> 00:38:36,360
Speaker 4: was gonna have sex, but really, but now I'm resilent.

710
00:38:37,200 --> 00:38:38,960
Speaker 1: This bitch that is so mean.

711
00:38:39,560 --> 00:38:44,200
Speaker 3: That is so you'll be entertained at the very least.

712
00:38:45,040 --> 00:38:46,680
Speaker 1: You don't try again next time.

713
00:38:47,680 --> 00:38:48,920
Speaker 4: You should have caught me during COVID.

714
00:38:53,400 --> 00:38:56,120
Speaker 1: So I think that the guys think that these men

715
00:38:56,160 --> 00:38:58,400
Speaker 1: are just waiting they turn essentially.

716
00:38:58,000 --> 00:39:01,120
Speaker 4: Yeah, and maybe some are, but those.

717
00:39:00,920 --> 00:39:03,239
Speaker 1: Aren't your friends. Then see what I'm saying. You should

718
00:39:03,360 --> 00:39:06,000
Speaker 1: be you should when we talk about these people, they

719
00:39:06,360 --> 00:39:08,840
Speaker 1: wouldn't be like, that's my friend. It would be this

720
00:39:08,920 --> 00:39:13,120
Speaker 1: guy I know. But exactly, aren't all niggas just waiting

721
00:39:13,120 --> 00:39:16,439
Speaker 1: their turn? Not all, That's what I'm saying, not all.

722
00:39:16,640 --> 00:39:18,960
Speaker 1: So the ones that aren't those are your actual friends.

723
00:39:18,960 --> 00:39:23,320
Speaker 1: Anybody who's waiting his turn. We are miscategorizing those people

724
00:39:23,560 --> 00:39:25,319
Speaker 1: that is not your friend, that nigga doesn't know.

725
00:39:25,719 --> 00:39:28,720
Speaker 2: This guy finished saying, like you could call your friend

726
00:39:28,920 --> 00:39:31,160
Speaker 2: and be like, oh, would you want some of this play?

727
00:39:31,320 --> 00:39:33,480
Speaker 1: Be like that dude wasn't my friend.

728
00:39:34,719 --> 00:39:35,120
Speaker 3: I was.

729
00:39:35,400 --> 00:39:38,000
Speaker 1: I was, Yeah, that was. He was never a friend

730
00:39:38,000 --> 00:39:38,399
Speaker 1: of mine.

731
00:39:38,440 --> 00:39:40,279
Speaker 2: So you feel like it's a guy that you know

732
00:39:40,440 --> 00:39:42,480
Speaker 2: that is your friend that if you offer them sex,

733
00:39:42,520 --> 00:39:43,439
Speaker 2: they would turn it down.

734
00:39:44,560 --> 00:39:45,279
Speaker 3: I can't think of it.

735
00:39:45,480 --> 00:39:50,880
Speaker 4: I don't even Yeah exactly, I agree. But we're also

736
00:39:51,000 --> 00:39:54,640
Speaker 4: like talking about sex like it's not something that you

737
00:39:54,719 --> 00:39:57,160
Speaker 4: just call up and do over COVID or that you.

738
00:39:57,120 --> 00:40:00,799
Speaker 1: Can do, you know what I mean, like.

739
00:39:59,520 --> 00:40:00,960
Speaker 3: Like that ship up.

740
00:40:03,440 --> 00:40:06,640
Speaker 4: But I'm just saying it can be casual and it

741
00:40:06,719 --> 00:40:09,640
Speaker 4: can be to fulfill a me, Like that's what all

742
00:40:09,760 --> 00:40:12,839
Speaker 4: mammals in life. They need to eat, they need to drink,

743
00:40:12,880 --> 00:40:14,719
Speaker 4: they need to sleep, and they need to fuck, right,

744
00:40:15,480 --> 00:40:18,040
Speaker 4: you know what I mean. So to me, it's like, yeah,

745
00:40:18,120 --> 00:40:20,320
Speaker 4: of course a man's gonna have I'm cute, you know,

746
00:40:20,480 --> 00:40:22,520
Speaker 4: like there's a whole lot of ass on this couch.

747
00:40:22,600 --> 00:40:24,680
Speaker 4: Y'all can't see it, but it's a lot, you know

748
00:40:24,719 --> 00:40:27,560
Speaker 4: what I mean, And it's some wonderful bone structure going on.

749
00:40:27,800 --> 00:40:31,400
Speaker 4: So like, of course, like you you're as an attractive person,

750
00:40:32,000 --> 00:40:34,319
Speaker 4: your people are going to be attracted to you. And

751
00:40:34,360 --> 00:40:36,920
Speaker 4: when they see that thing moving and you're walking around

752
00:40:37,280 --> 00:40:38,200
Speaker 4: like yeah.

753
00:40:38,960 --> 00:40:39,840
Speaker 3: Going to write.

754
00:40:39,920 --> 00:40:44,080
Speaker 2: So I feel like I'm being unrealistic saying that. You know,

755
00:40:44,160 --> 00:40:47,719
Speaker 2: guys that are not gonna like they're gonna turn you down.

756
00:40:47,600 --> 00:40:49,839
Speaker 4: And then you're smart and then you're funny and all

757
00:40:49,880 --> 00:40:51,600
Speaker 4: that ads, but get attract.

758
00:40:51,400 --> 00:40:53,440
Speaker 1: I would never call on I even play with them,

759
00:40:53,440 --> 00:40:56,359
Speaker 1: like yeah me too, right, yeah me too. Those are

760
00:40:56,400 --> 00:40:58,920
Speaker 1: your friends, is what I'm saying. Yeah, but I definitely

761
00:40:59,000 --> 00:41:01,360
Speaker 1: have guys. But he don't look at you and be

762
00:41:01,480 --> 00:41:03,880
Speaker 1: like nasty. No, but I call him my friend, but

763
00:41:03,920 --> 00:41:05,359
Speaker 1: I know he would smash me. That's what I'm saying.

764
00:41:05,360 --> 00:41:07,759
Speaker 1: We miscategorizing people, that's.

765
00:41:07,480 --> 00:41:13,160
Speaker 4: Really and I also agree with that.

766
00:41:12,040 --> 00:41:14,520
Speaker 1: That's what I'm saying. Yeah, so there are some people

767
00:41:14,520 --> 00:41:17,000
Speaker 1: that I wouldnt even I would feel disgusted even playing

768
00:41:17,000 --> 00:41:19,400
Speaker 1: with them, calling them about absolutely sex, you know what

769
00:41:19,400 --> 00:41:22,239
Speaker 1: I'm saying. But there are some that I definitely will

770
00:41:22,320 --> 00:41:27,400
Speaker 1: could call and they like yeah babes, ye women right. Yeah,

771
00:41:27,880 --> 00:41:31,040
Speaker 1: So that's I'm saying. Those people aren't your friend. That's

772
00:41:31,080 --> 00:41:33,839
Speaker 1: not your friend. Really they want to be They want

773
00:41:33,840 --> 00:41:38,799
Speaker 1: to smash you. I mean, I guess you can.

774
00:41:38,600 --> 00:41:40,759
Speaker 3: Because I just think all niggas want to fuck me though.

775
00:41:41,680 --> 00:41:44,720
Speaker 1: But just we just talked about little little like Terry.

776
00:41:45,280 --> 00:41:47,879
Speaker 1: You know, yeah, you think the same thing.

777
00:41:48,400 --> 00:41:50,960
Speaker 2: That's that's why you're Yeah, I don't want to think

778
00:41:51,000 --> 00:41:53,799
Speaker 2: about it exactly. But not because he's un attractive, because

779
00:41:53,800 --> 00:41:54,080
Speaker 2: I know.

780
00:41:54,400 --> 00:41:58,400
Speaker 1: What, women can have guys as friends. I mean, excuse me.

781
00:41:58,400 --> 00:42:00,920
Speaker 1: That's why I said men can have women as friends,

782
00:42:01,400 --> 00:42:03,840
Speaker 1: but we really can't, you know what I'm saying, because

783
00:42:04,040 --> 00:42:07,200
Speaker 1: not friends that these guys want to be. And even

784
00:42:07,280 --> 00:42:08,759
Speaker 1: if they don't want I mean they don't want to

785
00:42:08,760 --> 00:42:11,680
Speaker 1: be a boyfriend or your husband. They want to smash

786
00:42:11,880 --> 00:42:15,319
Speaker 1: at the minimum. Okay, they want to do that. So

787
00:42:15,440 --> 00:42:16,640
Speaker 1: is it really a friend?

788
00:42:16,880 --> 00:42:18,200
Speaker 3: Yeah, it's still a friend.

789
00:42:19,400 --> 00:42:21,480
Speaker 4: I think I think it's little. I don't think I

790
00:42:21,520 --> 00:42:24,280
Speaker 4: don't think everybody is I don't think everybody is your friends.

791
00:42:24,400 --> 00:42:26,520
Speaker 4: I think like you have there are people that you have,

792
00:42:27,000 --> 00:42:29,719
Speaker 4: same with girls, right, everybody's not your friend, right the

793
00:42:29,800 --> 00:42:35,319
Speaker 4: way that you know, but y'all are friends, right sometimes

794
00:42:35,960 --> 00:42:43,719
Speaker 4: sometimes most most of the time. Okay, you got your

795
00:42:43,840 --> 00:42:46,120
Speaker 4: dinner friends, you got your travel friends, you got your

796
00:42:46,280 --> 00:42:49,080
Speaker 4: and you know it's different levels, and like sometimes people

797
00:42:49,120 --> 00:42:52,479
Speaker 4: don't last your whole life, right, So the same way

798
00:42:53,080 --> 00:42:55,920
Speaker 4: in the way that you handle those relationships, you can

799
00:42:55,960 --> 00:42:59,400
Speaker 4: handle the relationships that you have with men. And although

800
00:42:59,440 --> 00:43:01,520
Speaker 4: they may be they're on the different they're on the

801
00:43:01,560 --> 00:43:05,640
Speaker 4: signing scale of patonic sism, and so you know, if

802
00:43:05,680 --> 00:43:08,480
Speaker 4: they're on that lower level, then you know one might

803
00:43:08,480 --> 00:43:10,879
Speaker 4: slip up and something might happen. Right, But like, there

804
00:43:10,880 --> 00:43:13,640
Speaker 4: are friends that you that are your friends, who you

805
00:43:13,840 --> 00:43:17,400
Speaker 4: value to a level that you respect each other enough

806
00:43:17,440 --> 00:43:19,320
Speaker 4: that that wouldn't be an issue.

807
00:43:19,040 --> 00:43:21,920
Speaker 2: Right, Yeah, So maybe I'm just using the term friend

808
00:43:22,160 --> 00:43:22,920
Speaker 2: to lose.

809
00:43:22,719 --> 00:43:23,360
Speaker 4: What I'm saying.

810
00:43:23,440 --> 00:43:27,920
Speaker 1: Yeah, and that's what men say, That's what our boyfriends say. Yes,

811
00:43:28,080 --> 00:43:30,560
Speaker 1: Because I think when you get married it's even different,

812
00:43:30,640 --> 00:43:32,719
Speaker 1: Like nigga, I'm your friend and you my friend. Like

813
00:43:32,760 --> 00:43:34,880
Speaker 1: that's all the friends we need. But when you like

814
00:43:35,000 --> 00:43:38,440
Speaker 1: still outside a little bit, you know, dating, you might

815
00:43:38,480 --> 00:43:42,080
Speaker 1: have a boyfriend. Like, like you said, things can change overnight.

816
00:43:43,040 --> 00:43:44,839
Speaker 1: So shit, when you married.

817
00:43:44,600 --> 00:43:46,080
Speaker 3: This shit can change overnight. I don't.

818
00:43:46,200 --> 00:43:50,040
Speaker 1: Yeah, it's a little bit more obligation and different things involved.

819
00:43:49,800 --> 00:43:52,760
Speaker 4: Especially in the state of North Carolina. Don't play.

820
00:43:53,360 --> 00:43:57,879
Speaker 1: You can't walk away overnight. So this article says there's

821
00:43:57,920 --> 00:44:02,080
Speaker 1: like it's a big difference between intent and access. So

822
00:44:02,320 --> 00:44:05,600
Speaker 1: why women struggle to have male friends. It says men

823
00:44:05,719 --> 00:44:11,640
Speaker 1: often befriended women with potential in mind. Right, so I'm

824
00:44:11,719 --> 00:44:16,120
Speaker 1: just waiting my turn if she ever break up. You know,

825
00:44:16,200 --> 00:44:19,560
Speaker 1: these are things that they may be considering where we're just, oh,

826
00:44:19,560 --> 00:44:23,759
Speaker 1: this is my friend, right, I'll be there for her.

827
00:44:23,920 --> 00:44:26,359
Speaker 1: I don't know if that's the black men do that.

828
00:44:26,480 --> 00:44:28,120
Speaker 1: The black men just hang hanging the cut and be

829
00:44:28,239 --> 00:44:53,560
Speaker 1: your Yeah, so this we're adsome. But it says men

830
00:44:53,719 --> 00:44:57,120
Speaker 1: can excuse me, excuse me, So it's not friendship is

831
00:44:57,280 --> 00:45:03,680
Speaker 1: positioning when men have women as friends, right, excuse me,

832
00:45:03,719 --> 00:45:06,399
Speaker 1: when women have men as friends, What do you mean

833
00:45:06,840 --> 00:45:10,520
Speaker 1: it's the man that's positioning himself in your life essentially, right,

834
00:45:12,200 --> 00:45:18,440
Speaker 1: Men confuse emotional intimacy with romantic opportunity. If she confides

835
00:45:18,440 --> 00:45:21,600
Speaker 1: in him, Vin's knees support. He reads it. He reads

836
00:45:21,640 --> 00:45:25,640
Speaker 1: it like we're bonding. So I'm next type shit. You

837
00:45:25,680 --> 00:45:28,120
Speaker 1: know what I'm saying. Okay, it says a lot of

838
00:45:28,120 --> 00:45:33,680
Speaker 1: male friendships come with hidden entitlement. Men can be friends

839
00:45:33,719 --> 00:45:40,000
Speaker 1: as long as she's single, she's accessible. Remember you saying

840
00:45:40,000 --> 00:45:41,920
Speaker 1: like you're trying to figure out how you can get

841
00:45:42,000 --> 00:45:44,760
Speaker 1: rid of these people because you have been accessible to them.

842
00:45:45,000 --> 00:45:46,919
Speaker 1: I'm not for a long term. No, they're out loud,

843
00:45:46,920 --> 00:45:50,800
Speaker 1: but it's my same problem. Yeah, yeah, so cutting off accessibility.

844
00:45:51,080 --> 00:45:54,000
Speaker 1: There are like I'm in a relationship now, and and

845
00:45:54,280 --> 00:45:56,480
Speaker 1: I don't know that I needed to make an announcement.

846
00:45:56,600 --> 00:45:59,520
Speaker 1: I just started moving differently with the people, right, But

847
00:45:59,560 --> 00:46:02,919
Speaker 1: they are a couple of people will say, hey, I'm

848
00:46:02,960 --> 00:46:07,000
Speaker 1: in a relationship now, so that there was no there's

849
00:46:07,080 --> 00:46:12,000
Speaker 1: no area. Yeah no, because I had to because I

850
00:46:12,000 --> 00:46:15,680
Speaker 1: don't know, Like these people were used to mentally a boyfriend.

851
00:46:18,200 --> 00:46:21,520
Speaker 1: I always had to break up them to do this, right,

852
00:46:23,239 --> 00:46:26,600
Speaker 1: She doesn't reject him too hard. Once she draws boundaries,

853
00:46:26,600 --> 00:46:30,520
Speaker 1: he acts like she betrayed him. And then it goes

854
00:46:30,560 --> 00:46:36,399
Speaker 1: into why men have female friends easily because women are

855
00:46:36,520 --> 00:46:41,200
Speaker 1: capable of genuine friendship without needing access to the body.

856
00:46:41,400 --> 00:46:46,040
Speaker 1: It's just true. Women just have more friendships with people period.

857
00:46:46,120 --> 00:46:47,560
Speaker 1: You know, they always try to say, oh, you're gonna

858
00:46:47,560 --> 00:46:49,839
Speaker 1: dialogue with your cat. No I won't. You are more

859
00:46:50,000 --> 00:46:52,560
Speaker 1: likely to die in an old folks home by yourself

860
00:46:52,560 --> 00:46:53,560
Speaker 1: with no family or friends.

861
00:46:53,640 --> 00:46:54,960
Speaker 4: You know nothing about your friends.

862
00:46:55,040 --> 00:47:00,080
Speaker 1: Yes, women facilitate friendship, lifelong friendships with people. Not to

863
00:47:00,120 --> 00:47:04,359
Speaker 1: say guys don't have friends, but but they don't the time.

864
00:47:04,600 --> 00:47:07,000
Speaker 2: They don't like what I'm saying right now, Like we

865
00:47:07,040 --> 00:47:13,840
Speaker 2: were talking about girls, and and he wouldn't have like

866
00:47:13,920 --> 00:47:14,520
Speaker 2: I would.

867
00:47:14,239 --> 00:47:17,520
Speaker 3: Have to like get some of my male yeah, like

868
00:47:17,719 --> 00:47:20,000
Speaker 3: use family and to be his grooves.

869
00:47:20,040 --> 00:47:22,360
Speaker 1: Man, why is that? Why didn't he have any He

870
00:47:22,400 --> 00:47:24,600
Speaker 1: didn't grow up no childhood friends or anything.

871
00:47:24,680 --> 00:47:26,760
Speaker 3: No, he has some, he just don't have the number

872
00:47:26,800 --> 00:47:27,520
Speaker 3: to match mine.

873
00:47:27,840 --> 00:47:35,200
Speaker 1: Oh okay, okay, I mean you can have some of your.

874
00:47:33,960 --> 00:47:38,480
Speaker 4: Brother's cousins, not the whole boys he's trying to get

875
00:47:38,560 --> 00:47:44,120
Speaker 4: rid of over there.

876
00:47:45,280 --> 00:47:48,320
Speaker 1: Okay, So yeah, women are more capable of genuine friendships.

877
00:47:49,239 --> 00:47:54,920
Speaker 1: Women are socialized to listen, nurture, connect emotionally without expecting sex.

878
00:47:55,160 --> 00:47:58,200
Speaker 1: So this is why men like women. I think most

879
00:47:58,200 --> 00:48:01,680
Speaker 1: successful men have women around them first of all friends.

880
00:48:01,680 --> 00:48:06,040
Speaker 1: So yeah, men can, men can have women as friends.

881
00:48:06,080 --> 00:48:07,880
Speaker 2: We just but you know, I bet you if we

882
00:48:08,160 --> 00:48:10,520
Speaker 2: got some men on the show, they would be like, fuck.

883
00:48:10,320 --> 00:48:13,000
Speaker 4: Are y'all talking about Yeah? Absolutely, And I was just

884
00:48:13,000 --> 00:48:17,080
Speaker 4: about to say that, like, I feel like there's always

885
00:48:17,680 --> 00:48:20,400
Speaker 4: the same could be said about women, right because we

886
00:48:20,480 --> 00:48:23,600
Speaker 4: all know, we've all experienced, you know, being on the

887
00:48:23,640 --> 00:48:26,680
Speaker 4: other side of that, right, and and so and then

888
00:48:26,719 --> 00:48:28,600
Speaker 4: also we've we've also been on the other side of

889
00:48:28,640 --> 00:48:33,000
Speaker 4: having like weird female friends where you know, people are weird.

890
00:48:33,040 --> 00:48:35,920
Speaker 4: But I think, like, you know, we just I think

891
00:48:35,960 --> 00:48:39,480
Speaker 4: the problem is when we're having this these discussions, is

892
00:48:39,520 --> 00:48:43,799
Speaker 4: not leaving enough room for nuance and the fact that

893
00:48:44,640 --> 00:48:50,200
Speaker 4: every like, people are weird and people are bad friends

894
00:48:50,239 --> 00:48:52,560
Speaker 4: and people can be you know what I mean. So

895
00:48:53,160 --> 00:48:58,239
Speaker 4: as much as I want to say nigga shit, but

896
00:48:58,400 --> 00:49:00,600
Speaker 4: you know, people people like shit.

897
00:49:01,000 --> 00:49:03,160
Speaker 1: You always said that if it's a woman who says

898
00:49:03,200 --> 00:49:05,879
Speaker 1: like like they've never been with like every man you've

899
00:49:05,920 --> 00:49:08,480
Speaker 1: ever dated any shit, chances are you ain't shit either, right,

900
00:49:08,800 --> 00:49:13,040
Speaker 1: That's really what it boils down to, because usually you marah, right,

901
00:49:13,200 --> 00:49:16,200
Speaker 1: So you're attracting this thing that you probably need to

902
00:49:16,200 --> 00:49:19,640
Speaker 1: work on within yourself to attract what you think you deserve,

903
00:49:20,040 --> 00:49:23,439
Speaker 1: right right. So, and this other part says, so men

904
00:49:23,480 --> 00:49:29,279
Speaker 1: benefit from female friends emotional support, advice, care, validation, but

905
00:49:29,320 --> 00:49:32,399
Speaker 1: women don't always benefit from male friends the same way

906
00:49:32,440 --> 00:49:34,879
Speaker 1: because the friendship may have conditions.

907
00:49:36,680 --> 00:49:39,520
Speaker 4: I just think that the way that men connect with

908
00:49:39,560 --> 00:49:44,200
Speaker 4: each other can be like very unique to men. Like

909
00:49:44,640 --> 00:49:50,040
Speaker 4: the way that we connect in general allows for more

910
00:49:50,080 --> 00:49:54,880
Speaker 4: like human interaction. And because like you know, men go

911
00:49:54,960 --> 00:49:59,520
Speaker 4: sweat together, you know, and and they they don't shore

912
00:49:59,560 --> 00:50:02,520
Speaker 4: like men activities together. I connect.

913
00:50:02,600 --> 00:50:04,840
Speaker 2: I don't feel like they share their sexual experiences the

914
00:50:04,840 --> 00:50:05,520
Speaker 2: way women do.

915
00:50:06,160 --> 00:50:07,440
Speaker 1: Men. I don't know.

916
00:50:07,480 --> 00:50:08,200
Speaker 3: I don't know about that.

917
00:50:08,320 --> 00:50:10,120
Speaker 4: Or I think they might talk about sex.

918
00:50:10,880 --> 00:50:15,120
Speaker 2: Not with someone that they like. They'll talk about sex

919
00:50:15,120 --> 00:50:17,359
Speaker 2: with women that they don't like, but they're not going

920
00:50:17,440 --> 00:50:19,719
Speaker 2: to talk about sex with women that they like. We

921
00:50:19,800 --> 00:50:21,840
Speaker 2: will talk about sex with someone that we like with

922
00:50:21,880 --> 00:50:22,960
Speaker 2: our closest friends.

923
00:50:23,880 --> 00:50:28,719
Speaker 4: Let me tell you what he did, or maybe maybe

924
00:50:29,200 --> 00:50:32,239
Speaker 4: share about sexual experience with the woman that he cares. Yeah,

925
00:50:32,400 --> 00:50:37,319
Speaker 4: maybe they're they're less likely to be emotionally vulnerable with

926
00:50:37,400 --> 00:50:42,440
Speaker 4: each other with each other, which allows which is essentially

927
00:50:42,440 --> 00:50:45,759
Speaker 4: allows to unlock a deeper level of friendship. Right, and

928
00:50:45,800 --> 00:50:49,240
Speaker 4: then the women open that up as at a space

929
00:50:49,280 --> 00:50:51,279
Speaker 4: for a conversation because they're willing to ask those second

930
00:50:51,320 --> 00:50:54,960
Speaker 4: layer and third layer questions about whatever whatever men have

931
00:50:55,040 --> 00:51:01,600
Speaker 4: going on. Oh, I broke up my girl.

932
00:51:01,400 --> 00:51:03,959
Speaker 3: For five years and be like that's crazy. That's trying

933
00:51:03,960 --> 00:51:04,440
Speaker 3: to get a brew.

934
00:51:05,080 --> 00:51:10,239
Speaker 4: Yeah, right, Like I'm shocked, Like what happened to.

935
00:51:10,160 --> 00:51:12,239
Speaker 1: Get her back? Do you want what? I mean?

936
00:51:12,640 --> 00:51:13,480
Speaker 4: How did this happen?

937
00:51:14,160 --> 00:51:19,560
Speaker 1: Are you right? That was literally me this weekend talking

938
00:51:19,560 --> 00:51:21,480
Speaker 1: to my friend who I hadn't spoken to in a

939
00:51:21,520 --> 00:51:23,319
Speaker 1: while because him and the girl broke up. And when

940
00:51:23,360 --> 00:51:25,400
Speaker 1: he said and I didn't. I hadn't talked to her

941
00:51:25,440 --> 00:51:28,759
Speaker 1: since then, I was like so shocked, like wait what?

942
00:51:28,840 --> 00:51:30,440
Speaker 1: So y'all just didn't call each other? Like what the

943
00:51:30,440 --> 00:51:34,000
Speaker 1: fuck is happening? Like I'm invested, Yes, I'm super invested

944
00:51:34,040 --> 00:51:36,759
Speaker 1: in it, and not because I want to suck his dick,

945
00:51:37,080 --> 00:51:39,560
Speaker 1: Like right, I can.

946
00:51:39,480 --> 00:51:41,880
Speaker 4: See my friend hurting because you've been waiting for this

947
00:51:42,000 --> 00:51:42,600
Speaker 4: gard there?

948
00:51:42,800 --> 00:51:47,520
Speaker 1: Yeah, but where but the men were liked. What what

949
00:51:47,840 --> 00:51:49,560
Speaker 1: you're doing tonight? You need me come over there?

950
00:51:49,760 --> 00:51:49,920
Speaker 3: Right?

951
00:51:50,120 --> 00:51:52,040
Speaker 1: What y'all right?

952
00:51:53,160 --> 00:51:54,160
Speaker 4: Let me give you one.

953
00:51:57,200 --> 00:52:01,000
Speaker 1: Alright here it says women don't trust me. Oh I don't.

954
00:52:01,160 --> 00:52:04,160
Speaker 1: Let's get that says men don't trust women with male

955
00:52:04,239 --> 00:52:08,880
Speaker 1: friends because men know how men think. They know he

956
00:52:08,960 --> 00:52:12,000
Speaker 1: wants you. They know he's waiting, even if he isn't.

957
00:52:12,040 --> 00:52:13,759
Speaker 1: This is what their mind is, right. They know he

958
00:52:13,800 --> 00:52:17,279
Speaker 1: will shoot the shot, shoot the shot eventually. Men aren't

959
00:52:17,320 --> 00:52:20,640
Speaker 1: afraid of your male friends because of you. They are

960
00:52:20,680 --> 00:52:26,480
Speaker 1: afraid of him because of them, because of men. Men

961
00:52:26,600 --> 00:52:30,040
Speaker 1: just know how men are. So this this last segment,

962
00:52:30,080 --> 00:52:34,400
Speaker 1: I want to do like a little uh truth bomb segment.

963
00:52:34,719 --> 00:52:38,200
Speaker 1: Are the real platon are? You are your male friends

964
00:52:38,280 --> 00:52:41,759
Speaker 1: real platonic friends? Like this is this is where we

965
00:52:42,760 --> 00:52:49,759
Speaker 1: green flag and reflag. Okay, green flags of a true

966
00:52:49,760 --> 00:52:57,120
Speaker 1: male friend. He never flirts, never flirt.

967
00:52:57,239 --> 00:52:57,840
Speaker 4: I'm single.

968
00:52:59,560 --> 00:53:01,080
Speaker 1: He respect ext your relationships.

969
00:53:01,360 --> 00:53:03,600
Speaker 3: I'm single, okay.

970
00:53:03,800 --> 00:53:09,040
Speaker 1: Uh, he checks himself and his boundaries. He doesn't compete

971
00:53:09,080 --> 00:53:15,480
Speaker 1: with your partner. He's consistent, not only available when you're single.

972
00:53:17,360 --> 00:53:25,240
Speaker 1: He treats your partner with respect. You feel bad, I'm failing.

973
00:53:27,040 --> 00:53:31,880
Speaker 4: That nigga man and then I remember.

974
00:53:31,920 --> 00:53:35,200
Speaker 3: My last this guy who was back for he'd be like,

975
00:53:35,360 --> 00:53:38,200
Speaker 3: what's up with your African? Not African?

976
00:53:41,200 --> 00:53:50,040
Speaker 4: He was like, real, oh my god, Yo, okay about

977
00:53:50,040 --> 00:53:52,359
Speaker 4: out the motherland. We wouldn't be here without y'all.

978
00:53:52,480 --> 00:53:55,279
Speaker 1: It's just a cultural difference, right. I just think we

979
00:53:55,640 --> 00:53:58,400
Speaker 1: how how how black men think they get better treats

980
00:53:58,960 --> 00:54:03,080
Speaker 1: from white women? Or I think African men are not

981
00:54:03,280 --> 00:54:05,520
Speaker 1: all of them, okay, because I have had some really

982
00:54:05,520 --> 00:54:09,400
Speaker 1: pushy African men that I've known in my life, like pushy,

983
00:54:09,480 --> 00:54:10,960
Speaker 1: like you won't even give me a chance to like you.

984
00:54:11,000 --> 00:54:14,680
Speaker 1: They just be so eager, like get out my face.

985
00:54:14,719 --> 00:54:18,840
Speaker 1: I'm disgusting now. But yeah, they just they just know,

986
00:54:19,239 --> 00:54:22,839
Speaker 1: you know, what the expectation is from them, I guess

987
00:54:23,000 --> 00:54:25,919
Speaker 1: or something. Anyway, So the last green flag is he

988
00:54:26,200 --> 00:54:31,759
Speaker 1: isn't per protective in a territorial way. This is green flags, okay,

989
00:54:32,120 --> 00:54:36,120
Speaker 1: red flags, red flax. He's not your friend. He texts

990
00:54:36,120 --> 00:54:40,399
Speaker 1: you late at night. Uh, he compliments you too much.

991
00:54:41,800 --> 00:54:43,760
Speaker 1: He dislikes every man you date.

992
00:54:47,080 --> 00:54:49,359
Speaker 4: Expressions because because of the.

993
00:54:51,560 --> 00:54:54,400
Speaker 2: More than one person right now, and like when I

994
00:54:54,440 --> 00:55:00,440
Speaker 2: think of Terry, he's like green egg elliots, like some

995
00:55:00,480 --> 00:55:03,560
Speaker 2: people that I'm thinking about like some of them, but

996
00:55:03,680 --> 00:55:05,440
Speaker 2: some of them they're just funny, Like I just think

997
00:55:05,440 --> 00:55:08,239
Speaker 2: they're joking people, and not necessarily like this is.

998
00:55:08,239 --> 00:55:13,200
Speaker 1: The next red flag bitch, he asked sexual questions. I'm

999
00:55:13,200 --> 00:55:23,040
Speaker 1: a joke. I just think they're funny. He suddenly disappears

1000
00:55:23,040 --> 00:55:26,640
Speaker 1: when you get a man. He tells you you deserve better.

1001
00:55:26,680 --> 00:55:30,800
Speaker 1: Too often he tries to come over when you're alone.

1002
00:55:31,840 --> 00:55:36,480
Speaker 1: That's like last example of a red flag. If y'all,

1003
00:55:36,520 --> 00:55:40,480
Speaker 1: friendship would end if you stopped being attractive to him,

1004
00:55:40,680 --> 00:55:49,359
Speaker 1: That isn't your friend. Okay, okay, I.

1005
00:55:49,239 --> 00:55:52,400
Speaker 3: Mean I'm getting some perspective here. I think perhaps.

1006
00:55:53,920 --> 00:55:54,879
Speaker 4: So, I don't know.

1007
00:55:55,000 --> 00:55:58,000
Speaker 1: I just I don't. I don't like the thought of

1008
00:55:58,080 --> 00:56:00,920
Speaker 1: being told with the do not tell anybody else what

1009
00:56:00,960 --> 00:56:03,680
Speaker 1: to do. If this is your true female friend, y'all

1010
00:56:03,680 --> 00:56:05,040
Speaker 1: have been friends for a long time. I don't even

1011
00:56:05,080 --> 00:56:07,680
Speaker 1: have a problem with people meeting new people. You know,

1012
00:56:08,239 --> 00:56:11,520
Speaker 1: I know it might get sketchy again. We talked Thomas,

1013
00:56:11,560 --> 00:56:16,000
Speaker 1: our videographer, about you know, new friendships, new people you

1014
00:56:16,080 --> 00:56:22,120
Speaker 1: might meet when married. I don't see a problem with that.

1015
00:56:22,200 --> 00:56:23,920
Speaker 3: It just boils down to do you trust.

1016
00:56:23,680 --> 00:56:27,920
Speaker 1: Your parson and make sure that everything. I mean, if

1017
00:56:27,920 --> 00:56:29,719
Speaker 1: somebody is a habitual lines step or they're going to

1018
00:56:29,760 --> 00:56:31,799
Speaker 1: do the things regardless, there's really nothing you could do

1019
00:56:31,840 --> 00:56:34,920
Speaker 1: about it. So police and who someone talks to.

1020
00:56:35,680 --> 00:56:38,560
Speaker 4: I mean, and you said something, you said something profound

1021
00:56:38,600 --> 00:56:40,399
Speaker 4: earlier and I can't remember exactly how you said it. It

1022
00:56:40,480 --> 00:56:42,239
Speaker 4: was like, you know, people are going to be people

1023
00:56:42,280 --> 00:56:44,400
Speaker 4: or humans are going to human or you know what

1024
00:56:44,400 --> 00:56:47,719
Speaker 4: I mean. And there is no amount of safeguards that

1025
00:56:47,760 --> 00:56:51,000
Speaker 4: you can put in place that's going to prevent another

1026
00:56:51,080 --> 00:56:54,640
Speaker 4: person from being to make whatever decision that they're going

1027
00:56:54,719 --> 00:56:56,560
Speaker 4: to make right right, So.

1028
00:56:57,880 --> 00:56:58,400
Speaker 3: What can you do?

1029
00:56:58,600 --> 00:57:01,480
Speaker 4: Like why even right your brain and like you know,

1030
00:57:01,800 --> 00:57:04,759
Speaker 4: potentially caused all this disrupt and all this stuff. You

1031
00:57:04,760 --> 00:57:08,040
Speaker 4: can't trut your partner then, like maybe a partner for you.

1032
00:57:07,800 --> 00:57:10,279
Speaker 5: Yeah, and my same guy, what if you could take

1033
00:57:10,280 --> 00:57:13,160
Speaker 5: your coochie off and leave it with your nigga, like

1034
00:57:13,160 --> 00:57:16,120
Speaker 5: like having dick with you, Like, oh, you're going on vacation,

1035
00:57:17,200 --> 00:57:20,200
Speaker 5: give me the I Dominican Republic.

1036
00:57:22,120 --> 00:57:23,480
Speaker 3: You don't give me that dick, I'm gonna put it

1037
00:57:23,520 --> 00:57:27,480
Speaker 3: in the freezing Okay.

1038
00:57:27,520 --> 00:57:32,480
Speaker 4: Lorena Bobbit, they found it out in the grass that

1039
00:57:33,000 --> 00:57:38,200
Speaker 4: she's running. She discarded like a piece of chewed up

1040
00:57:38,200 --> 00:57:42,800
Speaker 4: bubble gun. All right, I'm saying, silly ship.

1041
00:57:42,680 --> 00:57:43,800
Speaker 3: So you are.

1042
00:57:44,000 --> 00:57:47,560
Speaker 1: We're now near the end of the conversation. Clearly, do

1043
00:57:47,800 --> 00:57:54,320
Speaker 1: you think women can have? Yes, male friends? I still

1044
00:57:54,360 --> 00:57:56,919
Speaker 1: think I still think so too. We're just women, We're

1045
00:57:56,960 --> 00:58:00,800
Speaker 1: just girls, just right. That's what I understand them perspective

1046
00:58:00,960 --> 00:58:05,640
Speaker 1: around male friends. I definitely understand it because I mean, yeah,

1047
00:58:05,800 --> 00:58:08,280
Speaker 1: y'all want y'all want trust men for the same reason

1048
00:58:08,280 --> 00:58:10,240
Speaker 1: as we don't. Y'all act like we weren't crazy when

1049
00:58:10,240 --> 00:58:12,760
Speaker 1: we talk to this shit about men, the same reason. You

1050
00:58:12,760 --> 00:58:14,640
Speaker 1: wouldn't leave your girl in the house with your home.

1051
00:58:14,720 --> 00:58:16,360
Speaker 1: But why is that your friend? If you can't leave

1052
00:58:16,400 --> 00:58:17,920
Speaker 1: your family with him?

1053
00:58:17,920 --> 00:58:20,000
Speaker 4: That's not a man baby your daughter?

1054
00:58:21,000 --> 00:58:24,480
Speaker 1: No, yeah, but that's your friend. Why would you have

1055
00:58:24,520 --> 00:58:28,240
Speaker 1: a male friend that you couldn't leave and charge of

1056
00:58:28,280 --> 00:58:29,480
Speaker 1: your family if something were to happen.

1057
00:58:30,640 --> 00:58:31,160
Speaker 3: That's not true.

1058
00:58:31,200 --> 00:58:34,040
Speaker 1: Like, that's not your friend either, nigga, What are we

1059
00:58:34,120 --> 00:58:35,040
Speaker 1: talking about?

1060
00:58:35,200 --> 00:58:35,280
Speaker 4: So?

1061
00:58:35,360 --> 00:58:37,080
Speaker 1: I feel like the bottom line, I don't know men

1062
00:58:37,120 --> 00:58:40,040
Speaker 1: needed y'all need to do better so people can trust

1063
00:58:40,080 --> 00:58:42,040
Speaker 1: y'all more. Y'all can trust y'all more.

1064
00:58:46,000 --> 00:58:49,360
Speaker 4: If you're feeling and feeling. If you're feeling a little touched,

1065
00:58:50,360 --> 00:58:56,760
Speaker 4: then you're this is about you. You looking at your.

1066
00:58:57,280 --> 00:58:59,720
Speaker 3: Like, what's your last last Uh?

1067
00:59:01,040 --> 00:59:05,000
Speaker 1: I don't know you. You you have to know your personnel, right,

1068
00:59:05,320 --> 00:59:07,000
Speaker 1: you know, you have to know what you're dealing with

1069
00:59:07,080 --> 00:59:08,720
Speaker 1: or who you're dealing with in a relationship. And I

1070
00:59:08,760 --> 00:59:13,040
Speaker 1: just feel like, if this is something your partner is

1071
00:59:13,080 --> 00:59:16,760
Speaker 1: not comfortable with, and it's a boyfriend, may husband, whatever,

1072
00:59:17,360 --> 00:59:19,360
Speaker 1: and this is something you don't think should be your

1073
00:59:19,360 --> 00:59:21,840
Speaker 1: problem in your relationship, then you might have to evaluate

1074
00:59:22,720 --> 00:59:26,720
Speaker 1: your whole shit because I am and I say this often.

1075
00:59:26,760 --> 00:59:28,880
Speaker 1: If I'm on a plane sitting next to a man,

1076
00:59:29,960 --> 00:59:32,440
Speaker 1: right and we are talking about random shit, and I

1077
00:59:32,440 --> 00:59:34,840
Speaker 1: realized we got all these things in common. Maybe he

1078
00:59:34,920 --> 00:59:36,960
Speaker 1: has some resources that I might need for a thing.

1079
00:59:37,200 --> 00:59:41,160
Speaker 1: I'm not not going to get his number because of

1080
00:59:41,200 --> 00:59:45,800
Speaker 1: my significant other. I'm not New friends get your places.

1081
00:59:45,880 --> 00:59:50,439
Speaker 1: Old friends can't. Sometimes. So if I spend my I'm

1082
00:59:50,480 --> 00:59:52,280
Speaker 1: married to you, I'm with you. So that means I

1083
00:59:52,320 --> 00:59:56,280
Speaker 1: cut myself off from learning new things you can't teach me.

1084
00:59:56,440 --> 00:59:58,080
Speaker 1: And I think that's another thing. Men don't like other

1085
00:59:58,080 --> 01:00:01,040
Speaker 1: people teaching a woman shit either, Like that's the problem

1086
01:00:01,080 --> 01:00:03,480
Speaker 1: I remember when I was doing the stock's last last.

1087
01:00:03,840 --> 01:00:07,200
Speaker 1: Oh ship, that's how.

1088
01:00:07,080 --> 01:00:08,680
Speaker 4: You last last last?

1089
01:00:09,240 --> 01:00:12,880
Speaker 2: Sorry, we gotta do. No you were doing that was good?

1090
01:00:13,360 --> 01:00:14,920
Speaker 2: No God, because now I feel it.

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Speaker 1: Your last last. Don't do what you want to do

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Speaker 1: then feel bad about it. No, I just I didn't

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Speaker 1: know what.

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Speaker 3: I didn't know you would be.

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Speaker 1: I'm not. I'm just sucking aund I go ahead and

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Speaker 1: give your last. Okay, that's my last last. Just if

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Speaker 1: you were in a relationship with me, don't do some ship.

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Speaker 1: I don't I wouldn't do. Don't do ship you wouldn't

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Speaker 1: want me doing.

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Speaker 3: That's just you know my last.

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Speaker 2: My last last is just you gotta If y'all don't

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Speaker 2: have trust in your relationship needs to dissolve anywhere or

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Speaker 2: you need to work on it.

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Speaker 4: Last last, for sure, mine is do better about creating

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Speaker 4: boundaries about who is your actual friend?

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Speaker 3: Good one, good one?

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Speaker 1: Good one? Co host?

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Speaker 4: Bitch?

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Speaker 1: She is a Today subco is she not?

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Speaker 3: She again?

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Speaker 4: Assistant?

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Speaker 1: She was a guest co host?

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Speaker 4: You are.

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Speaker 1: All right, y'all. If you enjoyed this episode, y'all tune in. Oh,

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Speaker 1: tell us tell us what y'all think we want to hear.

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Speaker 3: No, No, wait wait, Jackie stuff again.

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Speaker 4: Oh well, yes, I don't. I don't even think we did.

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Speaker 3: I say my name at the.

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Speaker 4: Beginning, I said it, Okay, anyway, Jackie the Realtor. My

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Speaker 4: instagram is Carolina's Homegirl, but my personal one where Tom

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Speaker 4: Fullery and Hygiens goes down is at Jackie Underscore M

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Speaker 4: L y N N and yeah that's me, all right,

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Speaker 4: South Carolina jokes, Tom Foolery fun.

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Speaker 3: Sorry, all right, y'all.

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Speaker 1: So, y'all, if you enjoyed this episode, y'all tune in

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Speaker 1: every Thursday on the iHeartRadio app. Where to get your

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Speaker 1: podcast at does your co host age Jay Holiday two

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Speaker 1: point zero on instagrams follow me down if you won't

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Speaker 1: get on.

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Speaker 3: I'm also a co host on this show Official tam Bell.

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Speaker 3: Y'all follow me on Instagram.

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Speaker 3: We need them. We always want them, y'all. Remember speak now.

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Speaker 1: And never hold on female friends, because your nigga gonna

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Speaker 1: knock your head in between. The This We talk Back

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