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Speaker 1: Forty shots of Fireball accept press one. Hello, Hello, who

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Speaker 1: saw mister gecko?

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Speaker 2: Yes?

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Speaker 1: Hi?

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Speaker 2: Who is this?

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Speaker 1: Uh? This? Uh? Can I go by, mister fireball?

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Speaker 2: Sure you can go by, mister fireball. You can have

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Speaker 2: whatever you want. Man, what else do you want? You

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Speaker 2: can have whatever you want. I don't know why, but

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Speaker 2: I feel like you should have whatever you want. Tell

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Speaker 2: me more, what else do you want?

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Speaker 1: Yeah? Everything and nothing at the same time.

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Speaker 2: No, come on, come on, give me the give me

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Speaker 2: give me. You want everything and nothing at the same time.

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Speaker 2: Let's get into that. Let's start with the everything. What's

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Speaker 2: the everything?

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Speaker 1: Everything is all the fireball. I need you for the

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Speaker 1: rest of my life, mister ge All.

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Speaker 2: Right, And why that was the nothing? The nothing is

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Speaker 2: the everything? As I want all this fireball and the

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Speaker 2: nothing is I know that it will ruin my life

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Speaker 2: to have that much fireball. Is that the everything? And

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Speaker 2: then nothing?

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Speaker 1: I guess so, yeah, yes, mister Gecko. I did not

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Speaker 1: expect you to answer, mister geckos. This has taken me

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Speaker 2: Let's just get it. Let's just dive in. Man, who

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Speaker 2: kids is We're here, We're here.

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Speaker 1: We are here. Yes, So I'll go ahead and take

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Speaker 1: the lead was there was a experience I had recently.

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Speaker 1: I woke up on a Friday at about eleven am

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Speaker 1: and I decided, Hey, you know, I want to take

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Speaker 1: forty shots of fireball. And it did not end well. Well,

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Speaker 1: it ended somewhat. It ended somewhat well because I did

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Speaker 1: not die. But I am a regular drinker, so it

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Speaker 1: kind of makes sense. But I figured I just wanted

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Speaker 1: to call in and highly recommend that people do not

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Speaker 1: ever take forty shots to fireball.

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Speaker 2: Now, how many shots as a regular drinker do you

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Speaker 1: As a regular drinker on a on a day where

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Speaker 1: I'm getting crazy, I couldn't easily pound out twenty?

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Speaker 2: Really? And how often are you drinking.

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Speaker 1: Enough where I can pound out twenty and still be

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Speaker 1: a Okay?

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Speaker 2: Fireball is a little low proof, right.

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Speaker 1: You are correct, yes, But whenever you do forty of them,

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Speaker 1: it's still it'll get the It gets the job done.

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Speaker 2: How many shots are in a handle.

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Speaker 1: A handle of fireball? I can't tell you for exact

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Speaker 1: but I already did the math. I forty shots of

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Speaker 2: Two leaders. Oh shit, that's a lot.

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Speaker 1: Yeah, yeah, forty shot. I did it in about a

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Speaker 2: You dressed up a fire hydrant and a cowboy outfit?

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Speaker 1: Yes, yes, mister Gecko, I did.

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Speaker 2: And I were you drinking alone?

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Speaker 1: Yes? Yes, I was.

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Speaker 2: M Are you typically drinking alone?

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Speaker 1: Okay, okay, well daily daily, then you know, and let's

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Speaker 2: Okay, are you are you drunk right now?

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Speaker 2: How drunk are you right now?

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Speaker 1: Uh? I'm at the sweet spot? So forty shots at

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Speaker 2: Mmm. Okay, like when are you doing this? Are you

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Speaker 1: Well, I like to pace it out. I don't just

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Speaker 2: You started drinking at one pm? And what it's what Tuesday?

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Speaker 1: Yeah? It just Tuesday. It is my day off though.

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Speaker 2: Okay, yeah, So like, what what do you do when

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Speaker 3: I get I I get a little buzz going, just

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Speaker 1: And then when I get a day off like I

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Speaker 2: And who Okay, so you sometimes drink alone, but not

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Speaker 2: other people. Who are these people that you're drinking with?

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Speaker 1: Neither my friends? Uh, you know, co workers. I work

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Speaker 2: I do. How long you worked at this bar for?

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Speaker 1: I've worked at this bar on and off for out two.

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Speaker 1: It's actually going wonderful. The owner, who is a I

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Speaker 1: don't know, fun are we live right now?

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Speaker 2: Like?

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Speaker 1: Can I say anything offensive?

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Speaker 2: You can? Is you're You're a human being of your

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Speaker 1: Understood? Okay? Well, the owner is a someone else would

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Speaker 1: No, not literally, he's just an Asian guy. But as

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Speaker 2: Okay, So how's your life going? Man? I mean, what's

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Speaker 2: what's up? Is this? Are you like? Is are you destroyed?

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Speaker 1: I think? To be honest, I think mentally and emotionally

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Speaker 2: Why do you feel like you are done for.

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Speaker 1: A man? You gotta Sometimes you just go so far

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Speaker 2: At least, when did you start going down the rabbit hole?

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Speaker 1: Twenty twenty three, my mother passed on it just like

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Speaker 2: Well now what, Okay, So you weren't that close with

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Speaker 1: I never got to make things right. And I regret that.

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Speaker 1: I regret two things in my life, and that is

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Speaker 2: M was there was there a particular conflict she.

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Speaker 1: Unfortunately, my mother was a drug addict, and due to

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Speaker 1: as I when she passed, I realized, you know, it's

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Speaker 1: too late I can't, you know, make things sort of

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Speaker 1: okay despite everything that happened, that's still my mother, and

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Speaker 1: I still love her even after that, I still.

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Speaker 2: Love So was there, ever, was there a plan that

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Speaker 1: Yes, there was a plan, But I fought a losing battle.

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Speaker 2: You fought a losing battle.

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Speaker 1: Yes, Sarah did, mister Gecko.

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Speaker 2: Well what do you mean by that?

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Speaker 1: Well, whenever people are addicts, there's a certain stigma around them,

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Speaker 1: although I want to reconcile and you know, make peace

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Speaker 1: with things, there are a lot of people close to

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Speaker 2: Sure, sure, okay, So that's when the drinking got heavy.

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Speaker 1: Yes, it was already an issue prior, but it didn't

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Speaker 2: M And what has it been like every day since then?

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Speaker 1: I've made attempts to stop, unsuccessful, but I have tried,

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Speaker 1: And what people don't understand is that even if you

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Speaker 2: Have you ever spoken to a real therapist about any

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Speaker 1: Briefly? And briefly?

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Speaker 2: What did they say?

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Speaker 1: They always give you very generic advice. They always give

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Speaker 2: So to say, m you ever been to like a rehab?

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Speaker 1: I have not actually been to rehab. No, no, mister gecko.

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Speaker 2: So you believe that you are done for.

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Speaker 1: You know, mentally and emotionally, yes, I think I'm very Mentally,

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Speaker 1: I'm still engaged in my reality. Mentally, I can see

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Speaker 1: what's going on around me, I understand it. But emotionally,

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Speaker 1: I'm just very detached from everything at this point.

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Speaker 2: How old are you?

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Speaker 1: I am twenty five going on twenty six in August.

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Speaker 2: Oh, okay, you're a young guy.

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Speaker 1: Yeah. Yeah, like there's still it's there's still a hope,

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Speaker 1: there's still some wide at the end of the tunnel.

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Speaker 1: I'm just you know, I'm searching for it.

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Speaker 2: Okay, so you're not really engaged. You know what, Let's

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Speaker 2: do it. I'll go, I'll go, I'll go, I'll go

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Speaker 2: attempt to do real therapy. Here mode, let's do it.

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Speaker 2: Let's do armchair therapy. Are you down? You're down to

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Speaker 2: do armchred?

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Speaker 1: Yeah, we're here.

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Speaker 2: What's you're You're right? Fuck it, we're here. Let's do it.

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Speaker 2: Let's do armshare therapy. I guess it's the whole podcast.

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Speaker 2: But all right, you're emotionally detached from your reality? Correct?

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Speaker 1: Yeah? Very much?

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Speaker 2: So yeah, I mean, like, take me through your life.

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Speaker 2: Do you have anything in it that's worth having emotional

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Speaker 1: You know, I have a very good group of friends,

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Speaker 2: I mean, brother, they have him in English. You should

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Speaker 1: Yeah, you're probably right. That was probably benefit me quite well.

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Speaker 1: Previously you've been like, prior to that, I visited born

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Speaker 2: Yeah, but that's good. That's really I think that's a

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Speaker 1: Yeah, you're right, you're definitely right there. It just it

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Speaker 2: It's just yeah, but you gotta you gotta get a

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Speaker 1: You know, You're right, being comfortable doesn't It won't make

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Speaker 2: Yeah, I mean I I do the same thing in

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Speaker 2: gotta do some stuff. No, I.

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Speaker 1: Agree, mister Geto, and I really appreciate your time. No,

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Speaker 1: It's not the end of the world. Just because I

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Speaker 2: What state do you live in? I'm just curious. You're Texas, Dallas, Texas, Okay, man,

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Speaker 1: I'm on the outskirts, but I'm close to note to

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Speaker 1: name again, mister fireball?

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Speaker 2: Mister fireball. Okay, mister fireball, I'm rooting for you, mister fireball,

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Speaker 2: I'm rooting for you. If there's one thing that you

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Speaker 2: That's I actually genuinely believe that's the worst thing you

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Speaker 1: No, it makes complete sense. Thank you.

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Speaker 2: Yeah. Is there anything else you want to say to

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Speaker 1: Whatever you do, don't ever take forty shots Fireball.

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Speaker 2: I'm gonna call you mister Lacroix. Maybe you'll get into

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Speaker 2: Lacroix and you replace the fireball with Lacroix. That could

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Speaker 1: Well, no, what I'll look good to that? That's sparkling water, right, yes, sir?

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Speaker 1: Oh yeah, I can I can dig that.

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Speaker 2: All right, mister f Good luck man.

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Speaker 1: Thank you. I appreciate your time.

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Speaker 2: Okay, okay man, take care, good luck brother. Yes, that

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Speaker 2: was a gentleman from Dallas, Texas who uh we're rooting

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Speaker 2: He's gonna turn around. He's gonna he's gonna learn Spanish.

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Speaker 2: He's gonna stop calling people Asian Jews. He's gonna get sober,

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Speaker 2: I'll put it into the universe. What's up everyone, It's Lyle.

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Speaker 2: I'm gonna make this a half phone call, half gek

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Speaker 2: And uh, I ponder the emails. So we're gonna spend

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Speaker 2: with this one from Alex, subject line Midwest Pineapple Guy. Hey, Gek,

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Speaker 2: my name is Alex, and I want to tell you

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Speaker 2: when this guy comes up to me and starts saying, Bro,

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Speaker 2: because if you don't, someone else will do it for you.

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Speaker 2: Interesting or something like that, along with him rambling on

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Speaker 2: you weirded out? I don't hold on, Wait why were

438
00:31:14,440 --> 00:31:16,120
Speaker 2: you weirded out? This is the whole point of vr

439
00:31:16,240 --> 00:31:19,480
Speaker 2: chat is to meet insane people who say great who

440
00:31:19,560 --> 00:31:24,480
Speaker 2: say interesting stuff. You know, I mean, listen, I don't know.

441
00:31:24,520 --> 00:31:28,280
Speaker 2: I feel like being weirded out in a thing or

442
00:31:28,280 --> 00:31:30,640
Speaker 2: where like everyone is dressed up as like Peter Pan

443
00:31:30,720 --> 00:31:35,520
Speaker 2: and Hatsune Miku and fucking Charlie Brown whatever, like. I

444
00:31:35,560 --> 00:31:37,720
Speaker 2: don't know. I don't know if you can really I

445
00:31:37,720 --> 00:31:40,040
Speaker 2: don't know if it's really fair game to get weirded

446
00:31:40,080 --> 00:31:43,040
Speaker 2: out in vr chat. You're kind of getting what you

447
00:31:43,080 --> 00:31:47,320
Speaker 2: came there for. In my humble opinion, Okay, let me

448
00:31:47,320 --> 00:31:50,640
Speaker 2: finish reading the email. This was reassuring because I was

449
00:31:50,680 --> 00:31:52,640
Speaker 2: smoking some weed and I couldn't tell if I was

450
00:31:52,680 --> 00:31:55,240
Speaker 2: too high to understand him or if he was just

451
00:31:55,320 --> 00:31:59,080
Speaker 2: talking nonsense. Then, after talking about what just happened for

452
00:31:59,120 --> 00:32:01,600
Speaker 2: a moment, they got I came back and started again

453
00:32:01,720 --> 00:32:04,560
Speaker 2: with his same talking points. We tried to ask him

454
00:32:04,600 --> 00:32:06,400
Speaker 2: what he was on, because it was clear that he

455
00:32:06,480 --> 00:32:11,200
Speaker 2: was on something, and his only response was Midwest Pineapple bro.

456
00:32:12,040 --> 00:32:16,280
Speaker 2: And when I finally decided to look it up was

457
00:32:16,320 --> 00:32:19,400
Speaker 2: because he said bro, I already said Midwest Pineapple. It

458
00:32:19,440 --> 00:32:23,520
Speaker 2: turns out Midwest Pineapple is a very strong edible. Eventually,

459
00:32:23,880 --> 00:32:26,640
Speaker 2: he continued his rambling about growing gardens and timelines in

460
00:32:26,680 --> 00:32:30,800
Speaker 2: the universe. He stopped and stayed still. I think he

461
00:32:30,880 --> 00:32:34,160
Speaker 2: passed out. But a whole group formed to listen to

462
00:32:34,200 --> 00:32:36,320
Speaker 2: this guy, and we were all talking about how weird

463
00:32:36,360 --> 00:32:38,520
Speaker 2: it was. But my headset died and I don't know

464
00:32:38,520 --> 00:32:40,760
Speaker 2: what else happened. It was wild and it was mind

465
00:32:40,760 --> 00:32:43,600
Speaker 2: fucking Anyway, have a great day. I hope you find

466
00:32:43,600 --> 00:32:48,040
Speaker 2: this just as funny as I did. Thanks, Alex. I'm

467
00:32:48,320 --> 00:32:52,400
Speaker 2: very first. I have many questions about the Midwest Pineapple guy.

468
00:32:52,400 --> 00:32:56,520
Speaker 2: I want to know what character he was. And also,

469
00:32:56,560 --> 00:32:58,640
Speaker 2: by the way, here's the thing, the Midwest pineapple guy.

470
00:32:58,720 --> 00:33:03,920
Speaker 2: That guy is a modern day philosopher hands down. Okay,

471
00:33:04,320 --> 00:33:08,600
Speaker 2: this is twenty twenty six. If Socrates, if the twenty

472
00:33:08,600 --> 00:33:12,479
Speaker 2: twenty six version of Socrates is going to be a

473
00:33:12,600 --> 00:33:17,360
Speaker 2: dude in vr chat who's high talking about the universe

474
00:33:18,000 --> 00:33:23,719
Speaker 2: through a knuckles avatar, so you know, that's the form

475
00:33:23,840 --> 00:33:28,040
Speaker 2: that I expect modern day philosophers to take. So I'm

476
00:33:28,040 --> 00:33:31,240
Speaker 2: not weird it out. I think this guy had some

477
00:33:33,520 --> 00:33:36,800
Speaker 2: he had something to him, and it's true. You do

478
00:33:36,880 --> 00:33:38,920
Speaker 2: need to grow garden or else someone else will do

479
00:33:39,000 --> 00:33:41,400
Speaker 2: it for you. This guy, I like this guy. Can

480
00:33:41,400 --> 00:33:44,920
Speaker 2: you find this guy, Alex, bring him to me. I

481
00:33:44,960 --> 00:33:46,960
Speaker 2: want to replace him as the host of this podcast.

482
00:33:46,960 --> 00:33:49,719
Speaker 2: I think he would do a better job, honestly, and

483
00:33:49,800 --> 00:33:55,840
Speaker 2: he's already good. He can just he can just make

484
00:33:56,200 --> 00:33:59,960
Speaker 2: the character like he can just use a Gecko character

485
00:34:00,160 --> 00:34:03,040
Speaker 2: or in vr chat. He doesn't even have to wear

486
00:34:03,120 --> 00:34:08,440
Speaker 2: my gross, smelly costume. Anyway, shout out this pineapple guy

487
00:34:08,480 --> 00:34:13,280
Speaker 2: who was really high and just providing classic entertainment value

488
00:34:13,719 --> 00:34:21,160
Speaker 2: to the citizens of vr chat universe. Okay, this is

489
00:34:22,440 --> 00:34:31,839
Speaker 2: from Josh subject line my new family is fucking me up. Hey, ghak,

490
00:34:31,920 --> 00:34:34,600
Speaker 2: I wanted to write you and tell you about my problem.

491
00:34:35,320 --> 00:34:37,919
Speaker 2: I just had a daughter with my girlfriend, and it's

492
00:34:37,960 --> 00:34:41,319
Speaker 2: fucking me up big time. I love both of them

493
00:34:41,560 --> 00:34:45,080
Speaker 2: more than I've ever loved anything except my thirteen year

494
00:34:45,120 --> 00:34:50,000
Speaker 2: old cat. They're all family anyways. Having a daughter is

495
00:34:50,040 --> 00:34:53,080
Speaker 2: making me do things I hate doing, and it's making

496
00:34:53,120 --> 00:34:57,000
Speaker 2: me worry about things I don't even care about. It

497
00:34:57,120 --> 00:35:01,680
Speaker 2: might be because I'm autistic, but I've genuinely never cared

498
00:35:01,800 --> 00:35:06,239
Speaker 2: about the normal concept of everyday life, you know, like

499
00:35:06,360 --> 00:35:09,760
Speaker 2: talking to people and caring about others, or even being

500
00:35:09,800 --> 00:35:13,640
Speaker 2: successful in a job. I hate talking to people, like

501
00:35:13,680 --> 00:35:16,600
Speaker 2: sometimes I start a conversation just to be friendly because

502
00:35:16,640 --> 00:35:19,280
Speaker 2: you can tell they need or want to talk to someone,

503
00:35:19,560 --> 00:35:22,560
Speaker 2: and as soon as I do, my brain immediately defaults

504
00:35:22,600 --> 00:35:25,719
Speaker 2: back to how long does this go on before I

505
00:35:25,760 --> 00:35:32,880
Speaker 2: can leave? I also never really cared much about working.

506
00:35:33,280 --> 00:35:35,319
Speaker 2: I have my own place, we all live in it,

507
00:35:35,960 --> 00:35:38,400
Speaker 2: and I have a pretty cool job that I really

508
00:35:38,400 --> 00:35:40,960
Speaker 2: don't care about. What is this cool job that you

509
00:35:41,000 --> 00:35:44,040
Speaker 2: don't care about? Up until now? As long as I

510
00:35:44,120 --> 00:35:46,120
Speaker 2: made enough money to keep me and my cat out

511
00:35:46,160 --> 00:35:49,520
Speaker 2: of the weather, buy some burgers and pay my phone bill.

512
00:35:49,719 --> 00:35:53,280
Speaker 2: I'm pretty happy now with my new daughter. My brain

513
00:35:53,800 --> 00:35:57,240
Speaker 2: is trying to freak out about making more money, finding

514
00:35:57,320 --> 00:36:00,360
Speaker 2: us a better place to live, and being friendly with us.

515
00:36:00,560 --> 00:36:02,799
Speaker 2: So she has a decent network of people around her,

516
00:36:03,040 --> 00:36:05,920
Speaker 2: and I hate it. I feel like it's such a

517
00:36:05,960 --> 00:36:08,400
Speaker 2: sham or con that now I need to buy a

518
00:36:08,440 --> 00:36:11,439
Speaker 2: house and save money for emergencies. But I don't want

519
00:36:11,480 --> 00:36:14,560
Speaker 2: my daughter to have a lousy life. I didn't realize

520
00:36:14,560 --> 00:36:17,160
Speaker 2: how many more people I'd have to interact with after

521
00:36:17,200 --> 00:36:21,120
Speaker 2: having a kid, people like doctors and nurses, caregivers and

522
00:36:21,160 --> 00:36:24,000
Speaker 2: even neighbors. So many people want to talk to me

523
00:36:24,040 --> 00:36:26,840
Speaker 2: about the baby and give us stuff, and I'm thankful,

524
00:36:27,040 --> 00:36:29,759
Speaker 2: but deep down, in the immediate moments it happens, I

525
00:36:29,840 --> 00:36:31,880
Speaker 2: hate it. I hate when people try to talk to

526
00:36:31,920 --> 00:36:33,759
Speaker 2: me or ask me questions and I have to play

527
00:36:33,880 --> 00:36:36,320
Speaker 2: nice and smile and pretend to care about their problems

528
00:36:36,680 --> 00:36:39,799
Speaker 2: just to get some free baby clothes and whatnot. It's

529
00:36:39,840 --> 00:36:43,200
Speaker 2: not that I hate being a father. That part kicks ass.

530
00:36:43,520 --> 00:36:45,520
Speaker 2: I hate all the stuff that comes with it, like

531
00:36:45,640 --> 00:36:49,040
Speaker 2: being responsible and socializing with people I've spent my whole

532
00:36:49,040 --> 00:36:51,719
Speaker 2: life avoiding. So now I don't even know how to

533
00:36:51,760 --> 00:36:54,479
Speaker 2: talk to them. I really only get along with four

534
00:36:54,520 --> 00:36:56,800
Speaker 2: people on this planet. But now I have to figure

535
00:36:56,800 --> 00:36:59,359
Speaker 2: out how to act like people so my daughter can

536
00:36:59,360 --> 00:37:02,160
Speaker 2: have a good life and not end up weird like me.

537
00:37:04,719 --> 00:37:07,520
Speaker 2: Josh got Josh, I got a lot of thoughts about

538
00:37:08,000 --> 00:37:12,719
Speaker 2: your message. First of all, you know what I uh,

539
00:37:13,440 --> 00:37:17,200
Speaker 2: my gut instinct is like you know, listen, man, I

540
00:37:17,239 --> 00:37:21,200
Speaker 2: don't think that. Uh. I think these feelings are like

541
00:37:21,320 --> 00:37:26,240
Speaker 2: real and legitimate. You know you're feeling them, you're having them,

542
00:37:26,440 --> 00:37:31,680
Speaker 2: They're there. But as far as like what you should

543
00:37:31,719 --> 00:37:34,279
Speaker 2: do with them, yes, it is true. There is a

544
00:37:34,480 --> 00:37:38,919
Speaker 2: you you have activated the biological instinct that happens once

545
00:37:38,960 --> 00:37:41,359
Speaker 2: you have a child that goes, oh it's I mean,

546
00:37:41,400 --> 00:37:44,399
Speaker 2: it's it's ancient, dude. It's like you have a kid

547
00:37:44,440 --> 00:37:47,040
Speaker 2: and now you're like, I gotta go run into the

548
00:37:47,120 --> 00:37:51,120
Speaker 2: woods with a spear and get a fucking fish salmon

549
00:37:51,560 --> 00:37:55,000
Speaker 2: so I can feed my kid. Right, But except it's

550
00:37:55,000 --> 00:37:56,600
Speaker 2: like I have to get a better job, I have

551
00:37:56,640 --> 00:38:02,160
Speaker 2: to start making more money and uh, dude, honestly, you

552
00:38:02,200 --> 00:38:06,240
Speaker 2: know what I'm a proponent of, like live your life

553
00:38:06,239 --> 00:38:08,520
Speaker 2: the way you want to live your life, but also man,

554
00:38:09,520 --> 00:38:13,480
Speaker 2: Like this kind of feels like it's a good opportunity

555
00:38:13,920 --> 00:38:16,520
Speaker 2: for you. I know you hate talking to other people,

556
00:38:17,040 --> 00:38:20,960
Speaker 2: and you know, I'm trying to I like talking to people,

557
00:38:21,120 --> 00:38:29,760
Speaker 2: so I'm trying to channel into your brain here. But like, dude,

558
00:38:29,800 --> 00:38:35,800
Speaker 2: this is an opportunity for you to grow, right, Like,

559
00:38:35,800 --> 00:38:41,279
Speaker 2: like I think that you're just like creating artificial resistance

560
00:38:42,040 --> 00:38:49,359
Speaker 2: between you and the universe, right, Like, at a certain point,

561
00:38:49,360 --> 00:38:51,520
Speaker 2: you just have to submit yourself to it. I know

562
00:38:51,560 --> 00:38:54,520
Speaker 2: it's hard, it's really hard because like if your gut

563
00:38:54,600 --> 00:38:56,840
Speaker 2: is telling you that you just hate talking all these people,

564
00:38:57,400 --> 00:39:00,319
Speaker 2: it's hard to kind of fake it till you make

565
00:39:00,360 --> 00:39:04,600
Speaker 2: it type of thing. But like, I don't know, man,

566
00:39:04,640 --> 00:39:06,520
Speaker 2: I think you have to at minimum, like you don't

567
00:39:06,560 --> 00:39:08,880
Speaker 2: have you don't have to like it, but you have

568
00:39:09,000 --> 00:39:13,279
Speaker 2: to embrace it as a necessity. And also, dude, if

569
00:39:13,280 --> 00:39:15,120
Speaker 2: you want your daughter to have a good life, like

570
00:39:15,200 --> 00:39:17,080
Speaker 2: and you said, you're saying, like I want my daughter

571
00:39:17,080 --> 00:39:18,439
Speaker 2: to have a good life and not end up weird

572
00:39:18,520 --> 00:39:20,960
Speaker 2: like me. Right, So, like this is a good opportunity

573
00:39:21,000 --> 00:39:24,680
Speaker 2: for you to be a good example to your daughter,

574
00:39:25,400 --> 00:39:28,040
Speaker 2: Like would you would you want? I mean you should?

575
00:39:28,040 --> 00:39:29,759
Speaker 2: You should do whatever you want, But would you want

576
00:39:29,760 --> 00:39:34,239
Speaker 2: your daughter to like avoid talking to people and to

577
00:39:34,360 --> 00:39:39,120
Speaker 2: not have ambitions and to not care about being successful

578
00:39:39,160 --> 00:39:41,680
Speaker 2: and having a good life and to avoid these things

579
00:39:41,680 --> 00:39:48,840
Speaker 2: that you're avoiding. No, you'd want them to, you know,

580
00:39:49,160 --> 00:39:53,600
Speaker 2: embrace the universe around them. So you should, I guess,

581
00:39:53,719 --> 00:39:56,560
Speaker 2: act in a way that you would want your daughter

582
00:39:56,640 --> 00:39:58,759
Speaker 2: to be able to like look up to you and

583
00:39:58,800 --> 00:40:00,000
Speaker 2: be like, oh, I want to be like my dad.

584
00:40:00,120 --> 00:40:06,919
Speaker 2: My dad fucking is well connected, he's ambitious, he likes

585
00:40:06,960 --> 00:40:19,600
Speaker 2: doing stuff. Hmmm mm hmmmmmm mmm. Yeah, man, yeah, I

586
00:40:19,640 --> 00:40:21,560
Speaker 2: think I think you do have to figure out how

587
00:40:21,600 --> 00:40:23,640
Speaker 2: to act like a real person so that your daughter

588
00:40:23,680 --> 00:40:27,080
Speaker 2: are gonna have a good life. But that's good man. Also,

589
00:40:27,120 --> 00:40:28,640
Speaker 2: I'll say you know what, Listen, I commend you. I

590
00:40:28,640 --> 00:40:32,640
Speaker 2: really do. I commend you because I think, like, in turn,

591
00:40:33,040 --> 00:40:34,839
Speaker 2: I don't think we can kind of, I don't think

592
00:40:34,840 --> 00:40:37,120
Speaker 2: that we can. Uh. I know, I just gave you

593
00:40:37,160 --> 00:40:39,279
Speaker 2: the advice to do this, but I don't really think

594
00:40:39,320 --> 00:40:42,640
Speaker 2: that we can change our gut feelings about things. And

595
00:40:42,680 --> 00:40:44,080
Speaker 2: your gut feeling is that you.

596
00:40:43,960 --> 00:40:44,799
Speaker 1: Just hate.

597
00:40:46,320 --> 00:40:50,640
Speaker 2: Having to talk to all these people. But you're doing

598
00:40:50,800 --> 00:40:53,200
Speaker 2: what I think is a pretty amazing thing. Which is

599
00:40:53,520 --> 00:40:58,359
Speaker 2: you're fucking just doing it anyway, right, You're just doing

600
00:40:58,400 --> 00:41:02,439
Speaker 2: it anyway. Keep just doing it anyway, because like you'd

601
00:41:02,440 --> 00:41:03,719
Speaker 2: be a piece of shit if you were like, you know,

602
00:41:03,800 --> 00:41:05,520
Speaker 2: I don't really feel like talking to the doctor, so

603
00:41:05,560 --> 00:41:10,399
Speaker 2: I'm just not going to make my daughter a doctor appointment. Right,

604
00:41:10,640 --> 00:41:13,000
Speaker 2: Like you're like you're hating it the whole time, but

605
00:41:13,040 --> 00:41:18,520
Speaker 2: you're still doing it. So respect for that. But yeah, man,

606
00:41:18,520 --> 00:41:22,680
Speaker 2: I would just embrace this as like a opportunity to

607
00:41:28,040 --> 00:41:31,880
Speaker 2: be of the universe more. I mean, that's the thing

608
00:41:31,880 --> 00:41:35,600
Speaker 2: about having a kid, right, is like you're kinda I

609
00:41:35,600 --> 00:41:39,960
Speaker 2: think in life, you kind of have like a nice

610
00:41:40,080 --> 00:41:42,560
Speaker 2: rhythm to your life. Right. You were like, I got

611
00:41:42,600 --> 00:41:44,520
Speaker 2: my cat, and if I can make enough money to

612
00:41:44,600 --> 00:41:47,080
Speaker 2: keep me in my cat chill and pay my phone bill,

613
00:41:47,160 --> 00:41:50,359
Speaker 2: I'm pretty happy. And then you were like you kind

614
00:41:50,360 --> 00:41:53,760
Speaker 2: of made the decision of let's shake it up, right,

615
00:41:53,920 --> 00:41:56,520
Speaker 2: let's have a kid in there. And you have to

616
00:41:56,560 --> 00:41:59,560
Speaker 2: accept the fact that when you have a kid, you're

617
00:42:00,640 --> 00:42:05,040
Speaker 2: going to disturb your life's rhythm.

618
00:42:05,960 --> 00:42:06,120
Speaker 1: Uh.

619
00:42:06,560 --> 00:42:08,799
Speaker 2: You seem like you're really happy with being a dad,

620
00:42:08,800 --> 00:42:11,319
Speaker 2: you said, make you love your daughter, but you're kind

621
00:42:11,360 --> 00:42:14,560
Speaker 2: of going through the uncomfortable part of like disturbing your

622
00:42:14,640 --> 00:42:21,200
Speaker 2: life rhythm. And you know, I think within the disturbance

623
00:42:21,239 --> 00:42:25,280
Speaker 2: of one's life rhythm there is uh room for growth.

624
00:42:25,640 --> 00:42:31,799
Speaker 2: So uh, you know, keep making your daughter doctor's appointments,

625
00:42:32,800 --> 00:42:40,719
Speaker 2: keep doing stuff like that. Let's keep going. This is

626
00:42:40,760 --> 00:42:47,799
Speaker 2: from Pierson. Subject line in all caps, pessimism pisss me

627
00:42:47,960 --> 00:42:54,239
Speaker 2: off with five exclamation points. Hey, Gek, I'm listening to

628
00:42:54,320 --> 00:42:57,480
Speaker 2: your latest Gek mail episode as I write this. I

629
00:42:57,520 --> 00:42:59,640
Speaker 2: don't have any specific problems going on in my life

630
00:42:59,680 --> 00:43:02,719
Speaker 2: at the moment. I'm in school. I enjoy going outside

631
00:43:02,800 --> 00:43:08,399
Speaker 2: and doing activities in my free time. We love activities.

632
00:43:09,040 --> 00:43:11,120
Speaker 2: I've been listening to your podcast since I was fourteen,

633
00:43:11,200 --> 00:43:13,640
Speaker 2: and I enjoy the content. I've noticed over the years

634
00:43:13,640 --> 00:43:15,799
Speaker 2: that many people who call in feel as though the

635
00:43:15,840 --> 00:43:19,360
Speaker 2: world and all it holds is heinous. Even in my

636
00:43:19,400 --> 00:43:21,480
Speaker 2: own life, there are people whose outlook on life is

637
00:43:21,520 --> 00:43:25,040
Speaker 2: seemingly filled with doom, gloom, and worry. I understand that

638
00:43:25,040 --> 00:43:28,200
Speaker 2: there are many circumstantial differences that create these feelings, but

639
00:43:28,280 --> 00:43:31,160
Speaker 2: to me, weighing yourself down with the entire weight of

640
00:43:31,200 --> 00:43:34,520
Speaker 2: the world's problems can only be detrimental to both you

641
00:43:34,680 --> 00:43:38,560
Speaker 2: and the world. This overly pessimistic outlook pisses me off,

642
00:43:39,200 --> 00:43:43,880
Speaker 2: whether it's about political situations, the economy, emotional issues. It

643
00:43:44,000 --> 00:43:47,200
Speaker 2: truly annoys me to hear people who have seemingly given

644
00:43:47,320 --> 00:43:51,920
Speaker 2: up and are now victims to the world they feel

645
00:43:52,000 --> 00:43:54,719
Speaker 2: is so horrible. I'm with you, peerson. I feel that

646
00:43:54,920 --> 00:43:58,920
Speaker 2: letting things outside of your control influence your life so

647
00:43:59,040 --> 00:44:04,080
Speaker 2: greatly is and that this has only been accentuated by

648
00:44:04,160 --> 00:44:07,840
Speaker 2: the emergence of the digital world and globalization. Yes, bad

649
00:44:07,880 --> 00:44:10,040
Speaker 2: things happen in this world. I know the world is

650
00:44:10,080 --> 00:44:12,799
Speaker 2: far from perfect, and perhaps this outlook is ignorant, but

651
00:44:12,880 --> 00:44:16,120
Speaker 2: oftentimes I find it difficult to have sympathy for people

652
00:44:16,120 --> 00:44:18,560
Speaker 2: who are not doing their very best to improve their situation.

653
00:44:19,000 --> 00:44:21,160
Speaker 2: To extend off of this point, I feel it's the

654
00:44:21,200 --> 00:44:23,600
Speaker 2: people with the least to worry about who are often

655
00:44:24,200 --> 00:44:27,680
Speaker 2: playing the victim card in life. Many privileged people who

656
00:44:27,680 --> 00:44:30,640
Speaker 2: have more than a less fortunate person could ever imagine,

657
00:44:30,840 --> 00:44:34,160
Speaker 2: still find a way to be miserable, ungrateful, and pessimistic

658
00:44:34,200 --> 00:44:36,680
Speaker 2: about their lives. So often I see people with the

659
00:44:36,760 --> 00:44:40,799
Speaker 2: largest burdens push through them and remain optimistic, motivated, and

660
00:44:40,840 --> 00:44:43,880
Speaker 2: seemingly happy, which with much less to be happy about.

661
00:44:44,320 --> 00:44:48,680
Speaker 2: I hate lucky people's magnetism toward misery and I want

662
00:44:48,719 --> 00:44:52,640
Speaker 2: it to stop. Anyway, I love your podcast, appreciate you.

663
00:44:53,920 --> 00:44:55,440
Speaker 2: My advice to the people of the computer is to

664
00:44:55,440 --> 00:44:58,080
Speaker 2: be active, go outside, and don't make yourself miserable for

665
00:44:58,120 --> 00:45:00,799
Speaker 2: no reason. Also, I'm going to your show in Vancouver.

666
00:45:01,320 --> 00:45:07,359
Speaker 2: Thanks Pearson. Yes, Vancouver, please please come to the show.

667
00:45:07,520 --> 00:45:10,880
Speaker 2: I don't know when exactly I'm going to Vancouver, but

668
00:45:12,560 --> 00:45:15,480
Speaker 2: go to therapy geco tour dot com. Anyway, Thank you, Pearson,

669
00:45:15,480 --> 00:45:19,839
Speaker 2: I'll see you there. Pearson. Uh, you know, Pearson, I'm

670
00:45:19,840 --> 00:45:22,440
Speaker 2: with you. I know it's it's an unpopular opinion. I've

671
00:45:22,440 --> 00:45:28,240
Speaker 2: been thinking about it a lot because truthfully, just being

672
00:45:28,520 --> 00:45:37,279
Speaker 2: online is the strongest gravitator toward that think. Like I like,

673
00:45:37,320 --> 00:45:40,440
Speaker 2: I see all this stuff online where people like believe

674
00:45:40,520 --> 00:45:45,879
Speaker 2: that the default mode of the universe is that it's

675
00:45:45,920 --> 00:45:48,000
Speaker 2: fucked up and everything is fucked up. And then like

676
00:45:48,080 --> 00:45:51,560
Speaker 2: I go outside and I see like a lady on

677
00:45:51,600 --> 00:45:56,160
Speaker 2: a bike and I'm like, well, this lady's on a

678
00:45:56,200 --> 00:46:00,640
Speaker 2: bike and that's and that's happening right now. Yeah, wars

679
00:46:00,640 --> 00:46:05,200
Speaker 2: are happening, poverty is happening. Yes, lots of bad things

680
00:46:05,239 --> 00:46:10,080
Speaker 2: are happening, but the phones do this fucking thing where

681
00:46:10,120 --> 00:46:14,200
Speaker 2: like they pinpoint in on horrible things that are happening

682
00:46:14,200 --> 00:46:16,040
Speaker 2: in the world. And then it's like if you just

683
00:46:16,120 --> 00:46:18,560
Speaker 2: look up from the phone and you look around outside,

684
00:46:18,920 --> 00:46:23,600
Speaker 2: people are walking with their friends, people are drinking a coffee.

685
00:46:23,640 --> 00:46:28,800
Speaker 2: People are just like walking around living their lives, talking

686
00:46:28,840 --> 00:46:37,440
Speaker 2: to each other, like like like regular life, dude, regular, boring, stupid,

687
00:46:37,960 --> 00:46:44,680
Speaker 2: normal life is happening much more across the planet than

688
00:46:44,840 --> 00:46:48,239
Speaker 2: like crazy crazy bullshit. But of course you only hear

689
00:46:48,280 --> 00:46:51,040
Speaker 2: the crazy bullshit. Nobody's gonna take a video of a

690
00:46:51,080 --> 00:46:54,360
Speaker 2: guy walking his dog and be like, look at this

691
00:46:54,440 --> 00:46:59,319
Speaker 2: guy walking his dog and just and breathing. But that's

692
00:46:59,360 --> 00:47:00,799
Speaker 2: how you're gonna go. You how many guys who are

693
00:47:00,800 --> 00:47:02,399
Speaker 2: just you know, many people are just walking a dog

694
00:47:02,520 --> 00:47:05,800
Speaker 2: and looking at this guy like things are more fine

695
00:47:05,800 --> 00:47:08,920
Speaker 2: than not. And also like I don't know, man, like

696
00:47:09,640 --> 00:47:16,640
Speaker 2: fucking wars and poverty and like political corruption and all

697
00:47:16,760 --> 00:47:18,800
Speaker 2: these things. Like I mean, I've said this on the

698
00:47:18,800 --> 00:47:21,239
Speaker 2: podcast a billion times, but I'll reiterate it just because

699
00:47:21,239 --> 00:47:27,440
Speaker 2: the emailers bring it up. But all these things are

700
00:47:28,120 --> 00:47:33,600
Speaker 2: not new. They're new for us as people. They're certainly

701
00:47:33,640 --> 00:47:36,280
Speaker 2: new for us as Americans. I know this person's not American.

702
00:47:36,320 --> 00:47:41,839
Speaker 2: They're Canadian, I think. But anyway, Pearson, I agree with you.

703
00:47:42,440 --> 00:47:45,799
Speaker 2: I won't I won't rant too much, but I appreciate. Also,

704
00:47:45,920 --> 00:47:48,360
Speaker 2: you're a young dude. You were fourteen when you started

705
00:47:48,360 --> 00:47:50,600
Speaker 2: listening to the podcast in twenty twenty one, so you're

706
00:47:50,680 --> 00:47:54,400
Speaker 2: like nineteen now. I think the world needs more people

707
00:47:54,400 --> 00:47:58,880
Speaker 2: who are not, you know, pissed off about everything. So

708
00:47:59,680 --> 00:48:11,040
Speaker 2: much for you. Okay. This is from Nicholas Greenwood, subject

709
00:48:11,120 --> 00:48:16,960
Speaker 2: line rendezvous, Hello Gecko. I am the abominable snowman. I

710
00:48:17,040 --> 00:48:20,040
Speaker 2: live off the East Polar Caps. The weather here is

711
00:48:20,120 --> 00:48:22,640
Speaker 2: nice and chill, perfect for my fur type. Since I

712
00:48:22,719 --> 00:48:24,759
Speaker 2: moved here back in the early winter when snow cone

713
00:48:24,800 --> 00:48:27,120
Speaker 2: sales were low, my life has improved. I just got

714
00:48:27,160 --> 00:48:30,000
Speaker 2: some sick new horn tats as well. Anyway, I am

715
00:48:30,040 --> 00:48:33,160
Speaker 2: inviting you to the East Polar Caps in my village

716
00:48:33,239 --> 00:48:42,800
Speaker 2: in the abominable region of Antarctica. I'll think about it. Okay.

717
00:48:42,840 --> 00:48:46,880
Speaker 2: This is from Rhiannon, subject line should I be less

718
00:48:47,120 --> 00:48:52,600
Speaker 2: honest with my mother? Let's see what's up, dear lyle.

719
00:48:53,120 --> 00:48:56,080
Speaker 2: I am an artist and a writer currently living in Scotland.

720
00:48:56,600 --> 00:48:59,120
Speaker 2: I am writing primarily about some troubles I am having

721
00:48:59,160 --> 00:49:02,880
Speaker 2: with my mother. She works in coordination for the arts.

722
00:49:03,160 --> 00:49:07,279
Speaker 2: A wonderful woman, insightful, hard working and one of the

723
00:49:07,280 --> 00:49:10,120
Speaker 2: bravest people I have ever known. I admire her and

724
00:49:10,239 --> 00:49:14,919
Speaker 2: deeply desire her respect. She escaped my shithead abusive father

725
00:49:15,239 --> 00:49:18,880
Speaker 2: with nothing but me, then three years old, in her arms,

726
00:49:19,120 --> 00:49:21,640
Speaker 2: and raised me as a single mother. The town where

727
00:49:21,640 --> 00:49:24,080
Speaker 2: I grew up is not very diverse. I am mixed

728
00:49:24,160 --> 00:49:27,360
Speaker 2: raced and my family is from India, so my mamma

729
00:49:27,480 --> 00:49:30,520
Speaker 2: is visibly brown. There was a lot of bigotry from

730
00:49:30,600 --> 00:49:33,800
Speaker 2: the townsfolk. As a result, we were always very close.

731
00:49:34,160 --> 00:49:36,680
Speaker 2: I have memories of her encouraging me to trust nobody

732
00:49:36,960 --> 00:49:40,520
Speaker 2: but her, relevant at the time since my father was

733
00:49:40,560 --> 00:49:44,600
Speaker 2: a creepy stockery type. However, I am now twenty six.

734
00:49:44,960 --> 00:49:48,000
Speaker 2: My life has changed drastically since I was a child

735
00:49:48,120 --> 00:49:51,000
Speaker 2: in that little village. I studied fine arts and got

736
00:49:51,000 --> 00:49:54,440
Speaker 2: my degree and now live in a friendly, accepting city.

737
00:49:54,760 --> 00:49:57,680
Speaker 2: I am a professional artist and a bookseller on the weekends.

738
00:49:58,040 --> 00:50:02,080
Speaker 2: I am currently living with my two partners, Dog seven

739
00:50:02,120 --> 00:50:06,680
Speaker 2: years together in June and Fox four years together in April.

740
00:50:07,280 --> 00:50:11,000
Speaker 2: She's got like a snow white thing going on. That's

741
00:50:11,000 --> 00:50:15,359
Speaker 2: pretty cool. Further adding to the parade of polyamorous individuals

742
00:50:15,400 --> 00:50:19,000
Speaker 2: emailing and calling you, we have an actual dog as well,

743
00:50:19,280 --> 00:50:21,960
Speaker 2: who is very sweet and growing old and is my

744
00:50:22,000 --> 00:50:25,440
Speaker 2: best friend. Pick attached for your enjoyment, and she has

745
00:50:25,480 --> 00:50:28,080
Speaker 2: a little picture of a dog right here. It's very cute.

746
00:50:29,440 --> 00:50:31,920
Speaker 2: I make artwork about my life and the people around me,

747
00:50:32,280 --> 00:50:37,120
Speaker 2: the people I love. I am a queer, trans masculine person,

748
00:50:37,480 --> 00:50:40,040
Speaker 2: but beyond that, I'm not sure I can hammer down

749
00:50:40,120 --> 00:50:43,600
Speaker 2: many labels. Even while stating that she accepts me and

750
00:50:43,640 --> 00:50:48,160
Speaker 2: loves me unconditionally. My mother clearly dislikes all of these things,

751
00:50:48,520 --> 00:50:51,480
Speaker 2: including the dog, and does not behave. Why does she

752
00:50:51,520 --> 00:50:55,560
Speaker 2: hate that you have a dog? Okay, she does not

753
00:50:55,600 --> 00:50:59,719
Speaker 2: behave in a very accepting way. She persists in trying

754
00:50:59,760 --> 00:51:03,240
Speaker 2: to make be engaged with girly things, buys me makeup

755
00:51:03,480 --> 00:51:07,160
Speaker 2: clothes and toiletrees for any gift. Fox and I have

756
00:51:07,200 --> 00:51:09,400
Speaker 2: been living together for longer than many people take to

757
00:51:09,400 --> 00:51:12,960
Speaker 2: get married, but she still will not invite her to

758
00:51:13,080 --> 00:51:16,080
Speaker 2: family dinners. I know many queer people at this point

759
00:51:16,120 --> 00:51:20,000
Speaker 2: begin keeping their personal lives as just that personal it's

760
00:51:20,120 --> 00:51:23,720
Speaker 2: normal enough not to tell your parents everything. She worries

761
00:51:23,760 --> 00:51:25,960
Speaker 2: if I haven't contacted her in a week, but then

762
00:51:26,000 --> 00:51:29,600
Speaker 2: goes quiet and stormy if I talk candidly about my life.

763
00:51:30,080 --> 00:51:33,400
Speaker 2: She takes great joy in closely watching and encouraging my

764
00:51:33,520 --> 00:51:37,000
Speaker 2: artistic career. But what I make art about is precisely

765
00:51:37,040 --> 00:51:40,600
Speaker 2: what she doesn't want to hear. Mm I feel I

766
00:51:40,640 --> 00:51:43,880
Speaker 2: truly do need her help and her patronage. More than anything,

767
00:51:44,200 --> 00:51:47,320
Speaker 2: I want her love and her approval. I want fox

768
00:51:47,360 --> 00:51:49,200
Speaker 2: and Dog to be able to be with me without

769
00:51:49,239 --> 00:51:52,560
Speaker 2: reservations or disapproval. We'd like to marry quietly and have

770
00:51:52,680 --> 00:51:56,760
Speaker 2: children eventually. Of course, my mother thinks any child resulting

771
00:51:56,760 --> 00:52:00,400
Speaker 2: from a three way relationship would be born a cat demon.

772
00:52:01,120 --> 00:52:03,560
Speaker 2: Should I be less honest with her? Should I keep

773
00:52:03,600 --> 00:52:05,680
Speaker 2: all this to myself and find something else to make

774
00:52:05,840 --> 00:52:09,120
Speaker 2: art about altogether? Or should I stay stubborn in my

775
00:52:09,200 --> 00:52:12,000
Speaker 2: ways and hope she comes around all the best?

776
00:52:12,520 --> 00:52:12,680
Speaker 1: Ree?

777
00:52:16,000 --> 00:52:20,880
Speaker 2: Well, ree, uh, you know I'm sorry to hear that

778
00:52:20,960 --> 00:52:26,600
Speaker 2: your mom is not uh, is not encouraging of your existence.

779
00:52:27,239 --> 00:52:32,439
Speaker 2: And here's what I here's here's what I think. First

780
00:52:32,440 --> 00:52:36,879
Speaker 2: of all, you should absolutely, positively the last fucking thing

781
00:52:36,920 --> 00:52:43,680
Speaker 2: that you should do is to let this like change

782
00:52:43,800 --> 00:52:46,359
Speaker 2: the direction of your art. You know what I mean. Like,

783
00:52:46,440 --> 00:52:53,480
Speaker 2: you're a professional artist, you have one life clearly, the

784
00:52:53,480 --> 00:52:57,919
Speaker 2: the you know, your personal life and your experiences are

785
00:52:58,000 --> 00:53:00,640
Speaker 2: the things that you want to talk about, and you

786
00:53:00,680 --> 00:53:05,480
Speaker 2: should never let anyone or anything stop you from wanting

787
00:53:05,560 --> 00:53:09,040
Speaker 2: to make the art that you're gonna make. So you

788
00:53:09,040 --> 00:53:12,080
Speaker 2: should definitely not find something else to make art about

789
00:53:12,360 --> 00:53:14,640
Speaker 2: if that's if that's what you want to make art about,

790
00:53:14,920 --> 00:53:20,000
Speaker 2: is the things in your life that your mom disapproves of. Now,

791
00:53:20,040 --> 00:53:24,080
Speaker 2: as far as how to like navigate the relationship with

792
00:53:24,120 --> 00:53:29,200
Speaker 2: your mom as a whole, dude, I kind of think

793
00:53:29,280 --> 00:53:34,680
Speaker 2: this is a situation where it's like, I know, ah,

794
00:53:34,760 --> 00:53:36,600
Speaker 2: fuck man, I know it's kind of hard, but like

795
00:53:36,719 --> 00:53:41,359
Speaker 2: I think you should like kinda as an adult, right

796
00:53:41,440 --> 00:53:44,799
Speaker 2: as a twenty six year old, I think that you

797
00:53:44,880 --> 00:53:49,360
Speaker 2: should be very confident about the life that you've chosen

798
00:53:50,120 --> 00:53:55,319
Speaker 2: for yourself and be very confident in who you are

799
00:53:56,239 --> 00:53:59,040
Speaker 2: and that, uh, this is the life that's making you happy.

800
00:53:59,480 --> 00:54:03,440
Speaker 2: And I don't think you should dull that confidence down

801
00:54:04,360 --> 00:54:08,600
Speaker 2: for your mom. But then listen, you can have your

802
00:54:08,600 --> 00:54:10,200
Speaker 2: cake and eat it too, right, because you can still

803
00:54:10,239 --> 00:54:12,399
Speaker 2: love your mom and still respect your mom, still want

804
00:54:12,400 --> 00:54:14,560
Speaker 2: your mom to be a part of your life still,

805
00:54:17,560 --> 00:54:23,759
Speaker 2: you know, you know, hold that respect for her, but

806
00:54:24,000 --> 00:54:27,920
Speaker 2: just kind of communicate this confidence to her that like, listen,

807
00:54:28,040 --> 00:54:32,680
Speaker 2: and I'm sure you've already done this, but listen, this

808
00:54:32,800 --> 00:54:35,120
Speaker 2: is the way I'm living my life. You might not

809
00:54:35,320 --> 00:54:38,840
Speaker 2: like it. That's fine. I appreciate you raising me. But

810
00:54:40,400 --> 00:54:44,000
Speaker 2: you know, having a child is not like a debt

811
00:54:44,800 --> 00:54:52,839
Speaker 2: that they must repay later by succumbing to your will. Right, So,

812
00:54:52,920 --> 00:54:57,879
Speaker 2: your mom can't control your life, and she can kind

813
00:54:57,880 --> 00:55:01,360
Speaker 2: of try to push you in these various actions and whatnot,

814
00:55:01,440 --> 00:55:04,800
Speaker 2: but it's just it's not going to really do anything

815
00:55:04,840 --> 00:55:11,400
Speaker 2: because you're an adult who is living their life confidently

816
00:55:11,640 --> 00:55:13,960
Speaker 2: as they are. And I really, I really really really

817
00:55:14,000 --> 00:55:16,279
Speaker 2: don't think that you should compromise that. But you also

818
00:55:16,320 --> 00:55:18,600
Speaker 2: you don't really have to compromise anything about your relationship

819
00:55:19,200 --> 00:55:21,040
Speaker 2: with your mom either. I don't. I don't think you

820
00:55:21,040 --> 00:55:23,799
Speaker 2: should like dull anything. I should think you should just

821
00:55:23,840 --> 00:55:30,960
Speaker 2: be confidently who you are. And you know, if your

822
00:55:31,000 --> 00:55:37,360
Speaker 2: mom doesn't accept it, then that's kind of it's a bummer,

823
00:55:37,400 --> 00:55:44,400
Speaker 2: but it's kind of unhear to to deal with fox

824
00:55:44,480 --> 00:55:48,239
Speaker 2: and Dog. Interesting. Why doesn't she like that you have

825
00:55:48,280 --> 00:55:51,840
Speaker 2: a dog? Is she worried the dog is going to

826
00:55:51,880 --> 00:55:56,719
Speaker 2: be gay? Because I get because that's the thing where

827
00:55:56,719 --> 00:56:01,359
Speaker 2: they're like, oh the like if you rate, if gay

828
00:56:01,400 --> 00:56:03,120
Speaker 2: people raise kids, the kids are going to be gay.

829
00:56:03,120 --> 00:56:05,040
Speaker 2: Does she think the dog is going to be gay too?

830
00:56:06,320 --> 00:56:11,560
Speaker 2: That's a little wild? Good luck, ree, Okay, let's do

831
00:56:11,719 --> 00:56:18,040
Speaker 2: one more. This is from uh Giga Cats subject line

832
00:56:18,600 --> 00:56:23,799
Speaker 2: deterministic thoughts. The way things are in the present and

833
00:56:23,840 --> 00:56:27,040
Speaker 2: the way things were in the past determine how the

834
00:56:27,040 --> 00:56:30,120
Speaker 2: future plays out. We have no control over the future,

835
00:56:30,440 --> 00:56:33,839
Speaker 2: but our agency comes in when we become conscious of

836
00:56:33,840 --> 00:56:37,160
Speaker 2: how our present determines the future and making small changes

837
00:56:37,200 --> 00:56:39,239
Speaker 2: in a way that we can hope to change the

838
00:56:39,280 --> 00:56:43,760
Speaker 2: outcomes taking advantage of that determinism. If we lie idle

839
00:56:44,360 --> 00:56:48,600
Speaker 2: and unaware, then all other external factors will determine our

840
00:56:48,640 --> 00:56:52,880
Speaker 2: future for us. My name is Gabby, an ever changing

841
00:56:53,080 --> 00:56:57,520
Speaker 2: entity who wanders the philosophical plane. I love your show.

842
00:56:57,920 --> 00:57:00,280
Speaker 2: Please do it and come to San Juan Porto Rico.

843
00:57:03,760 --> 00:57:09,840
Speaker 2: I think that's a good place to end this. Thank you, Gabby.

844
00:57:10,360 --> 00:57:14,319
Speaker 2: You know what deterministically, whether or not I come to

845
00:57:14,360 --> 00:57:17,320
Speaker 2: San Juan Puerto Rico has already been decided, so I

846
00:57:17,360 --> 00:57:20,080
Speaker 2: don't really have a choice of the matter. Thank you

847
00:57:20,080 --> 00:57:22,960
Speaker 2: guys very much for listening. Please go to therapy geckotour

848
00:57:23,080 --> 00:57:29,920
Speaker 2: dot com. I've got good stories from my recent travels

849
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Speaker 2: through Iraq and Ukraine. I have some other little tricks up,

850
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Speaker 2: muscle eve. I think these are gonna be really good shows.

851
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Speaker 2: They are gonna be really fun. I just added the

852
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Speaker 2: show in Houston on September twentieth. I have a show

853
00:57:44,440 --> 00:57:49,240
Speaker 2: coming up soon in Tokyo on March twenty second, and

854
00:57:49,600 --> 00:57:51,520
Speaker 2: the show's gonna be really fun. So go to therapy

855
00:57:51,520 --> 00:57:54,920
Speaker 2: Gecko tour dot com to get tickets, send an email

856
00:57:54,960 --> 00:57:59,840
Speaker 2: to me at therapy geckomail at gmail dot com, and

857
00:58:00,000 --> 00:58:05,360
Speaker 2: and try not to kill yourself, try not to kill

858
00:58:05,360 --> 00:58:12,440
Speaker 2: anyone else, and go eat one of those uh thin oreos.

859
00:58:13,160 --> 00:58:14,840
Speaker 2: They're really good. I'm gonna get some of those after

860
00:58:14,880 --> 00:58:19,280
Speaker 2: I'm done talking, So I'm gonna stop talking really soon

861
00:58:19,360 --> 00:58:24,560
Speaker 2: so that i can have less time between now and

862
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Speaker 2: when I'm eating those fucking oreo thins. They're so good.

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00:58:29,480 --> 00:58:33,960
Speaker 2: All right, I'm gonna go do that. Ghek bless goes

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Speaker 2: on the line taking your phone calls every night, Decon

865
00:58:38,120 --> 00:58:39,120
Speaker 2: goes to ride.

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00:58:39,360 --> 00:58:42,320
Speaker 1: Just teaching your cloud in the memorial line is not

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Speaker 1: really an expert.