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Speaker 1: Am I right Brook? No ludicris motto, that's Brook's way. Well,

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Speaker 1: Oh no, maybe more? And something has definitely changed in

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Speaker 1: Teddy Roosevelt, the twenty sixth president of the United Dates

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Speaker 2: The costco is, Yeah, you.

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Speaker 1: Gotta have clear rules, members only, and if you behave right,

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Speaker 1: But just like at Costco, all it takes is one

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Speaker 1: Coop has emailed us for help. Cooper, is that how

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Speaker 7: Yeah, we spend some time on you and that's all.

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Speaker 6: Yeah, so my girlfriend and I we've been together about

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Speaker 6: And we've been doing long distance for this back half

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Speaker 7: You moved and you're doing long distance.

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Speaker 6: That's exactly right now. We weren't there yet, okay.

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Speaker 7: Yeah, and I'm just saying everything, Okay, it's too generic.

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Speaker 6: Clearly, what I'm doing isn't working. So yeah, okay, and no, killy.

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Speaker 2: Is it just what changed? Or is it other people?

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Speaker 1: It's Thursday. It's awkward Thursday phone call. Why can't women

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Speaker 4: Thought you were ready for her to like, Okay, he's

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Speaker 1: Jose what's your bro You.

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Speaker 2: She may say, how did you know?

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Speaker 1: Framing it like a joke, But Peper, do you see.

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Speaker 7: That emphasize it's a joke.

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Speaker 6: Yeah, I kind of see what you're saying. Maybe it's

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Speaker 1: I guess it. Yeah, I guess that's a different way

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Speaker 4: As Brooke would say, again, not what you think, Jose

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Speaker 1: Anyway, we are going to call your girlfriend danel here.

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Speaker 1: Do you feel ready? You feel prepared with the advice

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Speaker 5: Right, where are you talking about? I'm sorry, what are

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Speaker 6: I'm not sorry. I thought it would be a fun

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Speaker 3: No, I just feel like, uh, like things between us

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Speaker 6: It's like you don't trust me. You're like you're thinking

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Speaker 5: Okay, you know what, I didn't really want to do

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Speaker 6: Yes, no, thank you?

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Speaker 7: What?

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Speaker 6: So? Like, what is happening?

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Speaker 5: Here's what's happening. A few weeks ago, I was trying

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Speaker 6: I know we yo, No, we already talked about this.

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Speaker 6: I was at my coworker's place. It's Corey, you remember,

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Speaker 5: And that's why I found Corey's email at your work

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Speaker 6: Sorry? Why would you email him without asking me? That's

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Speaker 6: Why would you lie to me? Okay? I don't know

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Speaker 5: You're the one not telling you the truth? You like,

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Speaker 1: What happened?

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Speaker 2: No?

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Speaker 5: What is happening? Why are there other people on this line?

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Speaker 1: Was cheating?

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Speaker 1: Danell? Hey, you're on the radio right now with a

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Speaker 1: called an awkward Tuesday phone awkward Thursday phone call. Good morning, Cooper.

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Speaker 5: What the hell are you doing calling a radio station

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Speaker 2: Exactly? Why would you ask for her help?

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Speaker 6: What are you doing checking my location and invading my

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Speaker 1: That you said she wasn't possessive enough. I told you

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Speaker 8: You have a girl for who tracks you that thought

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Speaker 8: you could get away with cheating?

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Speaker 2: Did you cheat? Cooper?

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Speaker 6: It wasn't like that. It was just a one time.

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Speaker 6: There was a one time day that is. Look, Corey

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Speaker 2: Oh so you cheat it with though you.

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Speaker 5: Were with the guy. Is that what you were saying?

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Speaker 6: Yes, one time, that's it. It was. It's never gonna

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Speaker 2: With your coworker, Corey.

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Speaker 6: I don't like that term cheating. Okay, we were experimenting.

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Speaker 1: Did you say at the start of this the guys

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Speaker 5: In your.

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Speaker 2: I think it's more concerned it's a coworker.

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Speaker 1: There's a lot of concerns that have been said, Cooper.

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Speaker 4: Sorry, I mean obviously that's why she had a shift,

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Speaker 4: is because she caught you.

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Speaker 6: Yeah, I didn't know she knew anything. It was it

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Speaker 2: Would you been Okay? If we called her and she's like,

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Speaker 2: it was one time, Cooper.

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Speaker 1: No big deal with her female co worker, I would

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Speaker 4: You know, why did you wait to accuse him and

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Speaker 4: confront him about this.

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Speaker 5: Honestly, I just was curious to see how long it

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Speaker 4: Okay, are you interested in forgiving him?

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Speaker 5: I need some time to process, but like, I don't

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Speaker 2: Okay, yeah, it's just a long distance. Why do you

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Speaker 1: Okay, Cooper, I look, it's safe to say that you

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Speaker 5: I think it's safe to say we're definitely done.

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Speaker 2: Okay, Well that's not the ending that.

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Speaker 7: Cooper was looking.

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Speaker 1: All right, Look, I know this probably feels really bad

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Speaker 2: What I know.

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Speaker 1: I'm a shocked.

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Speaker 2: I thought that was really optimistic. I thought that was

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Speaker 2: a good post breakup speech.

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Speaker 7: I think he's texting Corey right now, like, do you

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Speaker 6: You might?

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Speaker 1: You might just need some time to really just let

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Speaker 8: Both it's just such a bummer, like she was going

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Speaker 4: But you did bring this on yourself though, Remember I agree.

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Speaker 6: I mean I have some tickets to a show coming up.

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Speaker 6: I mean maybe I could see if Coreyo.

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Speaker 2: Go Yeah, I say, why not? Yeah?

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Speaker 8: You move fast, ye idiot?

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Speaker 1: God, what's the show that you have tickets to?

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Speaker 6: By the way, we I mean we were going to

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Speaker 1: How we didn't see the signs of this earlier?

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Speaker 8: Okay, point five Rook and Jeffrey.

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Speaker 1: In the morning, we're getting texts coming into seventy five

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Speaker 1: nine two. A lot of people are in shock over

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Speaker 1: this one. I'll just read a few. This one says, OMG,

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Speaker 1: what this guy gets what he deserves?

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Speaker 9: Just so weird?

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Speaker 4: Why contact us if you're trying to hide something because

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Speaker 7: Dumb cheater and cheaters think they're never gonna get caught.

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Speaker 1: A lot of time, it's fine. If you think your

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Speaker 7: I've been one of those relationships too. I'm like why

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Speaker 6: Like, Oh, I get it.

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Speaker 1: Another person wrote in it doesn't matter if it's a

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Speaker 1: one time experiment. If you're in a relationship, it counts

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Speaker 1: as being unfaithful. Yeah okay according to you, not according

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Speaker 1: to Cooper, one time is a one time only thing.

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Speaker 1: This one says what city did he move to?

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Speaker 4: It sounds funky, ugly people, I mean, sounds like quite

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Speaker 4: the workplace. Yeah yeah, I mean Cooper's bringing the office teeth.

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Speaker 1: Sure, different type of team building happening in mas, but

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Speaker 1: definitely an awkward ending there to your awkward Thursday. We

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Speaker 1: only do those for special occasions. Definitely one of them.

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