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Speaker 1: My boyfriend finally moved in with me, but he treats

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Speaker 1: me like a maid. Since moving in with my boyfriend,

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Speaker 1: I have somehow become the only one doing kitchen duty,

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Speaker 1: well most duties. Actually. I do all the laundry. I

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Speaker 1: take the trash out to the bins, do all the

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Speaker 1: cleaning in the bathroom. I dust the furniture. By the way,

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Speaker 1: this comes from pillow Princess all on the arslash Okay

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Speaker 1: storytimes subreddit. But it seems like you're not a pillow

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Speaker 1: princess in the kitchen duties.

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Speaker 2: This is true.

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Speaker 1: Then the kitchen duties, I do all grocery shopping. I

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Speaker 1: make the menu. I do all the cooking and then

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Speaker 1: do the dishes and clean the sink encounters. I feed

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Speaker 1: and water the cats and dogs. The cats are his.

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Speaker 1: He does lawn duty. We live in a condo with

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Speaker 1: a twenty square foot yard and half of it is

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Speaker 1: clipped in concrete.

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Speaker 2: He has a patch of grass. He goes, sh okay done. Yeah.

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Speaker 1: He gets like a pair of scissors and he clips it. Yeah,

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Speaker 1: and then he walks away. He's like, listen't it look great?

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Speaker 1: Toe clippers and he swiffs the floor a couple times

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Speaker 1: a week. Everything else is on me. We both work

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Speaker 1: full time time and split the bills evenly. I actually

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Speaker 1: work more than him. He works four to ten hour

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Speaker 1: ships a week when I work six' eight hour. Shifts,

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Speaker 1: obviously this is now starting to cause lots of. RESENTMENT

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Speaker 1: i have tried just not doing, things but they don't get.

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Speaker 1: DONE i can't live in, filth AND i won't let

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Speaker 1: his cat suffer because he doesn't notice the bowls are

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Speaker 1: empty or the litter box is gross and, full SO

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Speaker 1: i break down and do. IT i have tried asking

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Speaker 1: him to do. Things they still don't get, done or

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Speaker 1: at least not in a timely. Fashion he has forgotten

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Speaker 1: to take the trash bins to the, curb causing us

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Speaker 1: to have an excess amount of bags for a, week

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Speaker 1: or the leftovers out all night causing them to spoil

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Speaker 1: WHEN i asked him to put the food in the.

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Speaker 1: Tupperware that is so. FRUSTRATING a month, AGO i was super.

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Speaker 1: FRUSTRATED i was working second shift instead of first LIKE

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Speaker 1: i normally, do because a coworker had a childcare emergency

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Speaker 1: AND i was being. NICE i was coming home from

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Speaker 1: work at ten, pm super, hungry and of course my

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Speaker 1: boyfriend hadn't made, dinner and he has the nerve to

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Speaker 1: complain about being star being when he's been home for five. Hours,

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Speaker 1: dude man can't cook his own dinner when his wife

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Speaker 1: or when his girlfriend's out until ten.

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Speaker 3: Pm we imagine we have the. Technology we have it called.

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Speaker 4: Eggs call me make Cerealal.

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Speaker 1: Yeah, yeah, boy dinner is. Cereal it's so.

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Speaker 4: True, no, yes boy dinner three pounds of ground.

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Speaker 2: Beef boy dinner.

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Speaker 1: Is either a steak or you just eat a steak or.

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Speaker 2: Sirious you. KNOW i went on this yeah, yeah cereal last, Night, yes.

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Speaker 1: A little the, time even making something. Simple we weren't

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Speaker 1: eating till eleven thirty or, so and then he was

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Speaker 1: going straight to, bed leaving me with cleaning up and

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Speaker 1: putting the leftovers. AWAY i ended up telling my boyfriend

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Speaker 1: how crazy STRESSED i was keeping up with everything in the.

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Speaker 1: HOUSEHOLD i felt, pathetic BUT i was basically begging him

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Speaker 1: to make things more. Equal he seemed to understand and

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Speaker 1: promised to do, more and for a couple of weeks

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Speaker 1: he kind of. Did he made the grocery order clean

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Speaker 1: the litter boxes old for us, twice but that didn't

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Speaker 1: last for long and SOMEHOW i still was responsible for

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Speaker 1: reminding him to help or assigning him these. Jobs, pausing

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Speaker 1: real quick pause. IT i think solution here is not

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Speaker 1: necessarily break, up BUT i think you should not live.

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Speaker 1: Together you could break. UP i think the solution right

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Speaker 1: now is either break up or don't live. Together if

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Speaker 1: if you constantly remind him and none of these things

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Speaker 1: are being.

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Speaker 3: Met that's true because right now they're like dating like

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Speaker 3: boyfriend girlfriend relationship Does that is a good point because

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Speaker 3: and also LIKE i feel like this boils down to

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Speaker 3: like op he's, like, oh he doesn't, clean he doesn't

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Speaker 3: help to.

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Speaker 2: Me it boils down to or respect.

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Speaker 3: Thing, yeah of like he is not respecting all the

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Speaker 3: work that she's putting, In.

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Speaker 2: Like she's working until ten, pm working until ten.

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Speaker 3: Pm she's like even if he's doing some of the,

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Speaker 3: work she's still like the one responsible and carrying the

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Speaker 3: mental weight of like his.

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Speaker 2: Cats for, example his, cat what did he do? BEFORE

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Speaker 2: i don't? Know how are they? Alive?

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Speaker 1: WELL i think sometimes either he was just living in you,

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Speaker 1: know filthy, conditions or sometimes when you have a new

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Speaker 1: person move, in you kind of start putting everything on

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Speaker 1: them and you're, like, oh, WELL i don't need to

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Speaker 1: do it because they'll do.

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Speaker 3: It, yeah he's like naturally like lazy step, back not

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Speaker 3: taking responsibility for, stuff and she and he's, like, oh

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Speaker 3: she's she's doing he might, Not and in his offense

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Speaker 3: maybe he doesn't even cognitively notice it like that and is,

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Speaker 3: like you, know he he, He i'm going to get

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Speaker 3: her to do.

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Speaker 2: It but at the, still at the end of the,

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Speaker 2: day he's. Not she has.

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Speaker 3: Communicated to him very clearly and, directly, yes this is what's,

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Speaker 3: up and he's not not doing.

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Speaker 1: It SO i think it's either break up or don't live.

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Speaker 1: Together cauzes ain't.

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Speaker 2: Working good. Idea but what Happens.

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Speaker 1: This last, week my boyfriend has been on vacation from.

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Speaker 1: Work he had so MUCH pto racked up that he

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Speaker 1: had to take time off because he couldn't earn. ANYMORE

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Speaker 1: i still worked my normal forty eight hours six am

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Speaker 1: to two. PM i was getting home from work around

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Speaker 1: two thirty to hear my boyfriend complain about being hungry

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Speaker 1: and asking for me to make some. Lunch, lunch not, lunch,

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Speaker 1: boy you're not even. Working she just finished off bull

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Speaker 1: shift and you're not even working.

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Speaker 4: Well while she's already up and at it not as.

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Speaker 2: Well we'll just do that.

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Speaker 1: Too this has completely set me, off And i've lost

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Speaker 1: so much attraction to. HIM i refuse every, time causing

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Speaker 1: him to have an attitude with. Me WHEN i got

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Speaker 1: off work, YESTERDAY i was exhausted and fell asleep on the.

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Speaker 1: Couch we had discussed the day before we would be

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Speaker 1: having burgers that night for, dinner something he likes to

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Speaker 1: make and that are actually really good when he. Does

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Speaker 1: BUT i woke up at seven pm to him playing

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Speaker 1: video games in our bedroom and asking when's. DINNER i

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Speaker 1: left him to game and pattied myself a, burger write,

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Speaker 1: it and ate my supper alone at the kitchen. TABLE

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Speaker 1: i cleaned up my mess and sat down in the

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Speaker 1: living room to watch SOME. Tv sometime, later he comes

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Speaker 1: out and again asks whe's? Dinner are you still making?

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Speaker 1: BURGERS i told HIM i wasn't feeling good and not.

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Speaker 1: Hungry he ended up just eating some effing chips and,

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Speaker 1: salsa too lazy to even make a frozen. Pizza we

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Speaker 1: go to, bed and this morning he complains about being,

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Speaker 1: starving asking for pam cakes or something more filling for

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Speaker 1: breakfast than cereal since you didn't get. DINNER i don't

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Speaker 1: know how much longer this can go on and there

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Speaker 1: is an.

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Speaker 4: UPDATE i, uh never imagine doing this to my. Girlfriend.

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Speaker 1: Ridiculous ridiculously WHAT i did this?

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Speaker 2: Weekend what'd you?

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Speaker 4: DO i heard earlier in the week last week that

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Speaker 4: my girlfriend was, like, ah LIKE i need to make

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Speaker 4: more time to like meal.

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Speaker 2: Prep and guess WHAT i. Did i'm ill.

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Speaker 4: PREPPED i listened And i'm ill prepped all like for

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Speaker 4: two hours On. Sunday she has food AND i have,

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Speaker 4: food and it's.

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Speaker 2: Great, YEAH i feel, like look at, That how hard is?

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Speaker 3: THAT i feel like it's really there's like two, things

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Speaker 3: one as long as you are like a self sufficient

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Speaker 3: one person isn't as good, at you, KNOW i don't

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Speaker 3: know putting away the.

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Speaker 2: Dis we all have our, faults, right but it is

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Speaker 2: great at putting away the. Dishes some people not so.

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Speaker 3: Much BUT i feel like one person, says, hey could

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Speaker 3: you like help pull you, away especially especially in a. Relationship,

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Speaker 3: yeah you're living. Together, hey here's the. Situation could you

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Speaker 3: help a little bit more than you do?

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Speaker 2: It you know?

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Speaker 3: IT i feel like he's so disrespectful to, her, incredibly incredibly.

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Speaker 1: Disrespectful break, up break, up get him out of. There

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Speaker 1: but let's get into this update and see if she

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Speaker 1: does that. Update, sunday my boyfriend AND i had a

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Speaker 1: lengthy discussion about the household. INEQUALITY i once again stressed

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Speaker 1: with him how OVERWORKED i, was THAT i was losing

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Speaker 1: attraction to, him THAT i was rethinking of future because

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Speaker 1: being his mom was never something THAT i wanted to.

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Speaker 1: Do my boyfriend finally seemed to get that this was

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Speaker 1: a make it or break it. Situation he confided that

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Speaker 1: he enjoyed being spoiled by me and apologized for taking.

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Speaker 1: Advantage he cried over the thought of losing. Me he

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Speaker 1: promised to do more without, asking and even swore to

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Speaker 1: start putting together a chore list on to. Today this,

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Speaker 1: morning my boyfriend AND i were getting ready for, work

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Speaker 1: and he asked me IF i would be okay making

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Speaker 1: dinner tonight because he was planning on mowing and weeding after.

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Speaker 1: WORK a little patch of. Grass, yep your little patch of.

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Speaker 1: GRASS i think he's going to someone's. WORDS i, agreed

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Speaker 1: ALTHOUGH i was thinking that he should have mowed this,

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Speaker 1: weekend especially since the last four. Days he, Said i'm

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Speaker 1: gonna mode, tonight but it needs, doing so. Whatever he

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Speaker 1: then made a comment about how it makes sense for

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Speaker 1: you to make dinners most days. ANYWAY i asked why

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Speaker 1: he figured, that and he reasoning was THAT i get

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Speaker 1: off work. EARLIER i just kind of laughed and asked

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Speaker 1: if that means he will be on dinner and dishes

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Speaker 1: his three days, off and he made some kind of

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Speaker 1: remark about it being nice if he could have one

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Speaker 1: day free to himself a week and his Hobby saturday

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Speaker 1: that can keep him out. Late what is this man's logic?

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Speaker 2: Here he doesn't get. It it's.

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Speaker 1: Ridiculous he's, like, oh it just makes more sense for

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Speaker 1: you to cook dinners because you come home early. Earlier

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Speaker 1: but also the days When i'm not, working those are

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Speaker 1: kind of my days, off you.

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Speaker 3: Know also just to, note like her workdays start at six,

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Speaker 3: am Which i'm sorry if you're even if you get

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Speaker 3: like you're roughly amounted the same as. Sleep i'm just

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Speaker 3: tired IF i wake up, earlier even IF i get like.

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Speaker 1: The, now even IF i got about at, ten and

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Speaker 1: IF i wake up at six, Am i'm, hard. Right,

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Speaker 1: yeah this really pissed me. Off because who got off

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Speaker 1: work earlier doesn't. Matter WHEN i worked the second shift last,

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Speaker 1: month and he gets home before five, thirty so it's

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Speaker 1: not like he couldn't relax for an hour or so before,

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Speaker 1: cooking AND i will never have a free day to,

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Speaker 1: myself plus since moving in. Together anytime we argue about

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Speaker 1: him not, contributing his reasoning IS i get off work,

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Speaker 1: earlier not taking into account THAT i worked two more

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Speaker 1: days than. Him it was obvious then that he really

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Speaker 1: hadn't learned. ANYTHING i told him so and started crying

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Speaker 1: because that's WHEN i REALIZED i was done and it was.

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Speaker 2: Over, Good Good.

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Speaker 1: GOD i didn't want to have that conversation right before

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Speaker 1: going to. Work so Tonight i'll be officially ending our.

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Speaker 1: Relationship but you can keep joining us live every weekday

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Speaker 3: WHEN i, APPROACHED i caught him vaping in front of his.

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Speaker 2: Goldfish hey.

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Speaker 3: Goldfish he will watch the kids IF i need to

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Speaker 3: he drinks beers and eats on. Healthily and to ADD

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Speaker 3: inquiring about possible medication FOR.

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Speaker 2: Big, facts and not put it on. You that's.

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Speaker 3: he gets upset BECAUSE i don't. Doubt i'm burnt out and.

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Speaker 3: FRUSTRATED i don't want to go through divorce right now

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Speaker 3: BECAUSE i don't want to split custody and our finance

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Speaker 3: Gotcha i'd like to share this thread with him so

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Speaker 3: he can hear other people's opinions outside my.

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Speaker 2: Own key won't change for, me and even.

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Speaker 3: If he tries, it lasts a few weeks and goes

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Speaker 2: LIFE i have expressed to him that.

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Speaker 3: This is a result of him not following through or

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Speaker 3: he WHEN i do everything? Anyways bottom line is THAT

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Speaker 3: PARTNER i can see that my accepting this is just enabling.

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Speaker 3: HIM i get, it but there's absolutely some trauma bonding

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Speaker 3: that happened. Here my parents were, abusive so my standard

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Speaker 3: WHEN i was married was to choose someone that wouldn't

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Speaker 3: we're live every day three pm on. YouTube come join

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Speaker 3: Want things done a certain standard of care for my,

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Speaker 3: his sin now gets A goldfish. Standard the Golden fish.

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Speaker 3: Standard my husband can only see the vaping as the,

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Speaker 3: Issue can someone tell me IF i am the a hole?

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Speaker 2: HERE i think it's a lot to discuss Your. Sophia,

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Speaker 3: Is there really really, is BECAUSE i think we approach

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Speaker 2: The relationship or the, family care of their, children care

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Speaker 1: THOUGHTS i think it's disruptive. NOW i think THAT. Opi

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Speaker 1: if you have told your husband multiple times and have

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Speaker 1: where he's actually trying to change things and trying to,

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Speaker 1: BOTH i, mean as you, said equal, partners it can't move.

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Speaker 3: Forward, yeah AND opi opened up the story about the,

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Speaker 3: vaping BUT i feel like that was more the straw

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Speaker 3: like that was just a tip of the, iceberg but

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Speaker 1: Just not listening to you and not really caring about

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Speaker 1: CAN i don't know WHY i thought you were gonna

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Speaker 2: Something. NO i was.

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Speaker 3: LIKE i don't know if it's controlling or like over

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Speaker 2: Eat you know WHAT i? Mean And, OPIE i don't Think.

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Speaker 3: OPIE i THINK opi actually had a very level headed

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Speaker 3: and respectful thing like She's she was, like, hey he is,

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Speaker 3: overweight which honestly isn't an issue other than he snores

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Speaker 3: at night and that disrupts my.

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Speaker 2: Sleep, yeah it.

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Speaker 1: Seems LIKE opi is only concerned when it, well is

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Speaker 1: concerned about her partner's, health but also is mainly commenting

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Speaker 1: on the parts when it kind of dips into her

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Speaker 1: life and her well. Being, yeah her children's well.

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Speaker 3: Being and maybe, honestly maybe it's just kind of saying

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Speaker 3: an altered version of what she said, here which is, like,

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Speaker 3: hey like you know the snoring is kind of like

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Speaker 3: maybe we could look into some solutions or maybe maybe That's.

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Speaker 1: Yeah it seems like she's already. Done AND i think

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Speaker 1: at this, point if you had all these conversations and

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Speaker 1: nothing has, changed, yeah THEN i, LIKE i know you

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Speaker 1: said you didn't want to do, divorce BUT i feel

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Speaker 1: like you have to look at what AM i you,

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Speaker 1: know is this doing more harm than? Good? Yeah and

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Speaker 1: maybe just putting in the like FEEL i don't, know

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Speaker 1: not the, feelers but starting the process to divorce and

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Speaker 1: starting to kind of separate finances and doing what you

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Speaker 1: can to prepare, yourself or maybe separating for a.

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Speaker 3: Time, honestly maybe separating for now where it's Like, okay

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Speaker 3: you can live your, life but you don't have to

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Speaker 3: go through the divorce process.

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Speaker 1: Yet, yeah, immediately but it's like you're not gonna be

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Speaker 3: is like a partnership and finding agreements and, stuff but,

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00:19:17,240 --> 00:19:20,879
Speaker 3: LIKE i feel like she's communicated and everything in a

437
00:19:20,920 --> 00:19:23,000
Speaker 3: way where, it's Like i've told you many, times it

438
00:19:23,040 --> 00:19:25,600
Speaker 3: seems like it seems like he's not raising any, issue

439
00:19:25,640 --> 00:19:26,520
Speaker 3: like any legitimate.

440
00:19:26,560 --> 00:19:29,200
Speaker 2: Issues, no he's just being lazy.

441
00:19:28,840 --> 00:19:32,360
Speaker 3: Eventually or like not not respecting what she, wants which

442
00:19:32,400 --> 00:19:35,360
Speaker 3: IS i think, good like feeding your kids chicken nuggets

443
00:19:35,359 --> 00:19:37,040
Speaker 3: and goldfish every time you watch.

444
00:19:37,080 --> 00:19:38,680
Speaker 2: Them come, on, bro like that's.

445
00:19:38,720 --> 00:19:41,359
Speaker 1: BAD i, SAID i didn't REALIZE i could love a

446
00:19:41,400 --> 00:19:43,840
Speaker 1: person this much to my baby in front of my.

447
00:19:43,880 --> 00:19:46,919
Speaker 1: Fiance now he's. Hurt AM i the a?

448
00:19:47,119 --> 00:19:47,359
Speaker 3: Hole?

449
00:19:47,720 --> 00:19:51,120
Speaker 1: So nofie fifty eight twenty three, SAYS i gave birth

450
00:19:51,160 --> 00:19:53,720
Speaker 1: a few weeks ago to our. Daughter AS i held

451
00:19:53,720 --> 00:19:56,280
Speaker 1: her for the first time and looked into her, EYES i,

452
00:19:56,400 --> 00:19:59,720
Speaker 1: SAID i didn't REALIZE i could love a person this, much,

453
00:20:00,160 --> 00:20:03,440
Speaker 1: cried she is perfect and. Beautiful my mom looked at

454
00:20:03,440 --> 00:20:07,000
Speaker 1: me and said that feeling never goes, away which made

455
00:20:07,040 --> 00:20:07,760
Speaker 1: us both ugly.

456
00:20:07,840 --> 00:20:08,119
Speaker 2: Cry.

457
00:20:08,280 --> 00:20:11,800
Speaker 1: Lol it was a really special. Moment my fiance was

458
00:20:12,000 --> 00:20:15,680
Speaker 1: quiet but, smiled but later privately said he was. Hurt

459
00:20:15,800 --> 00:20:18,320
Speaker 1: he said he loved us both the same and me

460
00:20:18,440 --> 00:20:20,480
Speaker 1: saying that made it seem LIKE i loved our daughter

461
00:20:20,600 --> 00:20:23,200
Speaker 1: more than. Him if you live for, daughters, marcillas why

462
00:20:23,359 --> 00:20:27,720
Speaker 1: to marry? You literally is attitude. HERE i just gave

463
00:20:27,800 --> 00:20:30,760
Speaker 1: him a are you fing? Serious? Look and he dropped.

464
00:20:30,760 --> 00:20:34,119
Speaker 1: It but yesterday he brought it up. Again how do

465
00:20:34,200 --> 00:20:36,200
Speaker 1: you have beef with your newborn?

466
00:20:36,280 --> 00:20:37,000
Speaker 2: DAUGHTER a?

467
00:20:37,200 --> 00:20:43,280
Speaker 3: Baby, listen, baby listen, up ugly, Baby i'm, attractive not, you.

468
00:20:42,960 --> 00:20:46,720
Speaker 1: YEA i was into like the baby room every. Night

469
00:20:46,720 --> 00:20:50,879
Speaker 1: he's like freaking, ugly never like, you like?

470
00:20:51,040 --> 00:20:53,480
Speaker 2: Me just got here.

471
00:20:55,080 --> 00:20:55,159
Speaker 3: Like.

472
00:20:55,359 --> 00:20:58,119
Speaker 4: Me that's What john's gonna do with his newborns.

473
00:20:59,320 --> 00:21:02,520
Speaker 1: INCORRECT i told him, that, honestly, YES i love and

474
00:21:02,640 --> 00:21:05,439
Speaker 1: cherish our daughter and have never experienced this kind of

475
00:21:05,480 --> 00:21:08,600
Speaker 1: love for another human. Being he. Said most normal people

476
00:21:08,640 --> 00:21:10,720
Speaker 1: would agree with him that it's a hurtful comment and

477
00:21:10,760 --> 00:21:13,560
Speaker 1: would take offense to it due to the. Implication AM

478
00:21:13,680 --> 00:21:14,119
Speaker 1: i the a?

479
00:21:14,240 --> 00:21:14,520
Speaker 3: Whole?

480
00:21:14,760 --> 00:21:16,159
Speaker 1: No and there is an Update.

481
00:21:17,160 --> 00:21:19,639
Speaker 2: You're not the ahle quick? Question?

482
00:21:19,800 --> 00:21:23,159
Speaker 3: Yeah would he have expressed it in a way like

483
00:21:23,680 --> 00:21:26,159
Speaker 3: this may sound, terrible but you, KNOW i THINK i

484
00:21:26,200 --> 00:21:29,760
Speaker 3: got some insecurity when you know you said this to our,

485
00:21:29,840 --> 00:21:32,240
Speaker 3: daughter like maybe our love isn't as strong AS i

486
00:21:32,240 --> 00:21:32,520
Speaker 3: thought it.

487
00:21:32,560 --> 00:21:34,960
Speaker 1: Was, HONESTLY i still Think i'd be, like.

488
00:21:35,040 --> 00:21:37,680
Speaker 2: What Do there's nothing you can?

489
00:21:37,760 --> 00:21:37,879
Speaker 5: Do.

490
00:21:38,119 --> 00:21:39,240
Speaker 2: SUCKER i don't think this.

491
00:21:39,280 --> 00:21:41,240
Speaker 1: Is anyway you could say. This that would be like

492
00:21:41,280 --> 00:21:41,840
Speaker 1: you can't do?

493
00:21:41,920 --> 00:21:46,080
Speaker 4: It confusing because this is this is a product of

494
00:21:46,119 --> 00:21:48,600
Speaker 4: you and your most favorite, person and it's like, That,

495
00:21:48,880 --> 00:21:49,600
Speaker 4: yeah this is.

496
00:21:49,640 --> 00:21:52,720
Speaker 1: Like a product of your. Love, yea this is your

497
00:21:52,800 --> 00:21:56,359
Speaker 1: love squared and, create like formed into a. Person but

498
00:21:56,400 --> 00:21:58,600
Speaker 1: there is an. Update it's a quick. Update SO i

499
00:21:58,600 --> 00:22:00,280
Speaker 1: didn't feel like it was worth it to make a

500
00:22:00,280 --> 00:22:02,520
Speaker 1: whole new. Post SO i had a heart to heart

501
00:22:02,560 --> 00:22:05,280
Speaker 1: with my fiance and we came to a few conclusions.

502
00:22:05,320 --> 00:22:08,160
Speaker 1: Together it went very. Well we read through the post

503
00:22:08,240 --> 00:22:10,959
Speaker 1: and comments. Together number, one he wasn't jealous of our

504
00:22:11,000 --> 00:22:14,080
Speaker 1: daughter's role in my, life but rather our bond. Together

505
00:22:14,240 --> 00:22:16,680
Speaker 1: he didn't have that instant love connection that we read

506
00:22:16,680 --> 00:22:19,760
Speaker 1: about all new parents having like WHAT i. EXPERIENCED i

507
00:22:19,800 --> 00:22:22,480
Speaker 1: didn't realize this was actually very normal for new dads

508
00:22:22,520 --> 00:22:24,919
Speaker 1: and new moms. Too thanks for educating. Me we are

509
00:22:24,960 --> 00:22:27,320
Speaker 1: the first in our social circle to have, children so

510
00:22:27,359 --> 00:22:30,160
Speaker 1: we didn't have a lot OF irl people to inquire about.

511
00:22:30,160 --> 00:22:33,000
Speaker 1: It his perspective IS i love this human being we,

512
00:22:33,080 --> 00:22:35,560
Speaker 1: made BUT i don't know her. WELL i was.

513
00:22:35,680 --> 00:22:39,439
Speaker 2: Thunderstruck, hey uh, listen, Baby you're great but.

514
00:22:39,640 --> 00:22:42,200
Speaker 1: Great but LIKE i don't really know you like, that

515
00:22:42,760 --> 00:22:44,600
Speaker 1: you know WHAT i. MEAN i don't know IF i

516
00:22:44,640 --> 00:22:46,920
Speaker 1: feel like we're going a little. FAST i don't THINK

517
00:22:46,960 --> 00:22:47,919
Speaker 1: i can SAY i love, You.

518
00:22:48,000 --> 00:22:51,399
Speaker 3: Leah, look, LOOK i know there's like dad, SON i

519
00:22:51,440 --> 00:22:52,639
Speaker 3: don't want to put labels on that.

520
00:22:52,840 --> 00:22:56,480
Speaker 1: Shit let's keep the casual, baby And i'm.

521
00:22:56,600 --> 00:23:00,320
Speaker 3: Gon we're, friends you, know like you're you're cool all but,

522
00:23:00,480 --> 00:23:02,359
Speaker 3: like you, know you vomited on my shirt the other.

523
00:23:02,400 --> 00:23:04,640
Speaker 1: Day that was, like, yeah like maybe you should lay

524
00:23:04,640 --> 00:23:08,280
Speaker 1: off the. Milk, yeah it's getting a little bit, embarrassing.

525
00:23:07,920 --> 00:23:09,800
Speaker 2: Dude what are you talking?

526
00:23:09,800 --> 00:23:13,439
Speaker 1: About he hadn't had that connection so doesn't get it,

527
00:23:13,520 --> 00:23:16,359
Speaker 1: yet and that it will take time months or even a.

528
00:23:16,520 --> 00:23:18,959
Speaker 1: Year i'll be more patient and aware of this and

529
00:23:19,040 --> 00:23:22,000
Speaker 1: read up more on new dad experiences to learn.

530
00:23:22,040 --> 00:23:24,400
Speaker 4: More but doesn't he know the kid because he has

531
00:23:24,440 --> 00:23:27,280
Speaker 4: seen it from the beginning to, Now, no.

532
00:23:28,440 --> 00:23:29,760
Speaker 2: Bro i've only known you for a.

533
00:23:29,800 --> 00:23:32,720
Speaker 3: Month how CAN i commit to Being, yeah father son,

534
00:23:32,840 --> 00:23:34,720
Speaker 3: labeled But i've only been here for a.

535
00:23:34,760 --> 00:23:35,879
Speaker 4: Month number.

536
00:23:35,880 --> 00:23:40,399
Speaker 1: Two he also agrees he not only could have expressed that,

537
00:23:40,440 --> 00:23:43,679
Speaker 1: better but also choose better. Timing voicing it to me

538
00:23:43,800 --> 00:23:47,240
Speaker 1: after a fourteen hour labor and then again When i'm

539
00:23:47,280 --> 00:23:50,600
Speaker 1: exhausted and grumpy with achy boobs is maybe not the best. Time.

540
00:23:50,800 --> 00:23:51,680
Speaker 1: Lol wait wait.

541
00:23:51,600 --> 00:23:53,800
Speaker 2: Wait wait wait wait wait what did you? Say?

542
00:23:54,080 --> 00:23:54,680
Speaker 1: Sorry what did you?

543
00:23:54,720 --> 00:23:56,760
Speaker 4: SAY i said that that is so?

544
00:23:56,880 --> 00:23:59,120
Speaker 2: Terrible? Yeah, okay sure.

545
00:23:59,520 --> 00:24:02,960
Speaker 1: Yeah he also agrees marriage counseling would be. Great just

546
00:24:03,040 --> 00:24:06,920
Speaker 1: because we are both, opinionated logical thinking engineers who at

547
00:24:06,920 --> 00:24:09,800
Speaker 1: the same time love each other. Deeply we could use

548
00:24:09,840 --> 00:24:13,399
Speaker 1: better mediation other Than Reddit no offense guys number. Three

549
00:24:13,440 --> 00:24:15,720
Speaker 1: he was not furious about me writing This reddit.

550
00:24:15,760 --> 00:24:16,000
Speaker 2: Post.

551
00:24:16,119 --> 00:24:18,879
Speaker 1: Loll we laughed with the comments together calling for me

552
00:24:19,000 --> 00:24:20,920
Speaker 1: to get ready to break. UP i always think it's

553
00:24:20,920 --> 00:24:24,399
Speaker 1: funny when when like the people Post reddit stories and

554
00:24:24,400 --> 00:24:26,080
Speaker 1: then they're, like, YEAH i shared it with my partner

555
00:24:26,119 --> 00:24:27,040
Speaker 1: and they're laughing at the.

556
00:24:27,000 --> 00:24:29,920
Speaker 2: Comments the silly. Money this guy's.

557
00:24:30,200 --> 00:24:33,560
Speaker 1: LAUGHING i don't if he got this upset over he's, baby.

558
00:24:33,800 --> 00:24:36,359
Speaker 1: RIGHT i don't think he's laughing. Right but we also

559
00:24:36,440 --> 00:24:39,560
Speaker 1: really enjoyed reading the experiences of new. Parents it helped

560
00:24:39,640 --> 00:24:44,000
Speaker 1: us both feel, validated, insane and see each other's perspectives.

561
00:24:44,160 --> 00:24:47,359
Speaker 1: Better number, FOUR i showed him That Ryan reynolds video

562
00:24:47,440 --> 00:24:49,800
Speaker 1: and we both died laughing. Loll we will now be

563
00:24:49,920 --> 00:24:52,040
Speaker 1: eating a disgusting a lot of hot dogs while Watching

564
00:24:52,080 --> 00:24:54,360
Speaker 1: deadpool with their baby. Girl we also agreed that there's

565
00:24:54,400 --> 00:24:58,040
Speaker 1: different types of love like, parental, platonic, romantic And Ryan.

566
00:24:58,080 --> 00:25:01,600
Speaker 1: Reynolds thanks, peeps and there are some relevant comments to

567
00:25:01,720 --> 00:25:05,040
Speaker 1: finish too relevant comments to finish this soft a m,

568
00:25:05,160 --> 00:25:08,600
Speaker 1: Says Ryan reynolds agrees with. You parental love is different

569
00:25:08,640 --> 00:25:10,600
Speaker 1: than the love of a. Partner oh, p he, SAYS

570
00:25:10,720 --> 00:25:13,320
Speaker 1: i peed myself from laughing too, hard AND i do mean.

571
00:25:13,359 --> 00:25:16,399
Speaker 1: Literally the wonders of childbirth keep on. Giving i'll keep

572
00:25:16,480 --> 00:25:18,760
Speaker 1: this in my back. Pocket after a very lengthy heart

573
00:25:18,800 --> 00:25:21,560
Speaker 1: to heart, tonight we both Love ryan, too SO i can't.

574
00:25:21,600 --> 00:25:25,359
Speaker 1: WAIT i love how just like pivoted into A.

575
00:25:25,800 --> 00:25:28,919
Speaker 4: RYAN i feel Like Ryan reynolds saved their.

576
00:25:28,960 --> 00:25:30,880
Speaker 2: Relationship yeah, yeah.

577
00:25:31,119 --> 00:25:34,399
Speaker 1: Oh he was, like think about how you feel About Ryan,

578
00:25:34,440 --> 00:25:37,440
Speaker 1: reynolds And he's, like, wow you're, right just like how

579
00:25:37,480 --> 00:25:40,240
Speaker 1: you feel about your. BABY i can never love anyone

580
00:25:40,280 --> 00:25:40,800
Speaker 1: as much As.

581
00:25:40,880 --> 00:25:44,119
Speaker 2: RYAN i finally get. It, okay Since sam is not,

582
00:25:44,200 --> 00:25:45,960
Speaker 2: HERE i have to do. THIS i have to do.

583
00:25:46,040 --> 00:25:49,000
Speaker 2: This oh, boy he's known the baby for only fourteen. Hours.

584
00:25:49,160 --> 00:25:53,000
Speaker 3: YEAH i mean, listen if you walked up to a

585
00:25:53,040 --> 00:25:56,480
Speaker 3: stranger and you're, LIKE i love you more than ANY

586
00:25:57,200 --> 00:26:01,040
Speaker 3: i didn't more than that'd be, crazy, RIGHT i have

587
00:26:01,160 --> 00:26:05,600
Speaker 3: this quite frankly ugly baby been here Fourteen i'm not even. Attracted,

588
00:26:06,000 --> 00:26:08,760
Speaker 3: Yeah i'm not even attracted to, them you, know fourteen

589
00:26:08,840 --> 00:26:11,840
Speaker 3: hours old and you're over here saying, like.

590
00:26:11,880 --> 00:26:16,800
Speaker 1: Oh, WOW i love, baby just saying kind of a

591
00:26:16,800 --> 00:26:17,800
Speaker 1: punch in the, gut.

592
00:26:17,760 --> 00:26:21,040
Speaker 2: Kind of a punch in the gut of punch in the. Uterus,

593
00:26:21,119 --> 00:26:23,320
Speaker 2: YEAH i might, SAY i might say that.

594
00:26:23,359 --> 00:26:25,760
Speaker 3: It's, uh you, know maybe he's got a, point maybe he.

595
00:26:25,800 --> 00:26:28,119
Speaker 3: DOESN'T i don't know who's to. Say at the end

596
00:26:28,160 --> 00:26:29,640
Speaker 3: of the, Day sam is in, here SO i had.

597
00:26:29,680 --> 00:26:32,000
Speaker 3: TO i had to make the devil's advocate. Argument you,

598
00:26:32,040 --> 00:26:35,480
Speaker 3: did and you're Welcome. Sam, yeah but, guys the devil's

599
00:26:35,480 --> 00:26:37,639
Speaker 3: advocate argument is also that this episode is.

600
00:26:37,680 --> 00:26:40,160
Speaker 1: Over, yeah And i'm not afraid to say. That, yeah

601
00:26:40,160 --> 00:26:41,760
Speaker 1: you've only known, you guys.

602
00:26:41,960 --> 00:26:45,119
Speaker 2: For one an. HOUR i don't LOVE i don't know you.

603
00:26:45,160 --> 00:26:48,040
Speaker 2: ANYTHING i don't owe you. Anything this is. Over you're

604
00:26:48,080 --> 00:26:48,479
Speaker 2: nothing to.

605
00:26:48,520 --> 00:26:52,640
Speaker 1: Me i'm, Done but if you still love, us make

606
00:26:52,720 --> 00:26:56,080
Speaker 1: sure to. Subscribe we might still love you and see you.

607
00:26:56,200 --> 00:27:00,080
Speaker 5: Tomorrow maybe this is an episode From deep within The.

608
00:27:00,160 --> 00:27:01,680
Speaker 2: Archives time for Okop.

609
00:27:02,200 --> 00:27:08,119
Speaker 5: Relam MY ceo found out he's my dad's a fair

610
00:27:08,200 --> 00:27:09,720
Speaker 5: baby and tried to fire.

611
00:27:09,800 --> 00:27:12,720
Speaker 2: Me But i've got a big surprise at my, sleeve.

612
00:27:12,680 --> 00:27:17,679
Speaker 3: A surprise bigger than our daddy's. Sausage oh, yeah we just.

613
00:27:17,720 --> 00:27:19,840
Speaker 3: Sausages hold sausages.

614
00:27:19,320 --> 00:27:20,800
Speaker 2: All over this a little sausage.

615
00:27:20,880 --> 00:27:25,120
Speaker 5: Jefo so my dad gave the whole FAMILY dna ancestry

616
00:27:25,160 --> 00:27:27,760
Speaker 5: kits for the. Holidays and it turns out THE ceo

617
00:27:28,000 --> 00:27:28,840
Speaker 5: of the COMPANY i.

618
00:27:28,800 --> 00:27:31,159
Speaker 2: Work for is my half. Brother that is.

619
00:27:31,280 --> 00:27:35,119
Speaker 3: Insane always it always ends like. Crazy this begins.

620
00:27:35,240 --> 00:27:35,680
Speaker 2: Crazy.

621
00:27:36,359 --> 00:27:39,440
Speaker 5: Yeah, also if you want your family to stay intact

622
00:27:39,560 --> 00:27:42,800
Speaker 5: or your workplaces to stay, intact please don't get THIS dna. Tests,

623
00:27:43,080 --> 00:27:44,240
Speaker 5: yeah they will ruin your whole.

624
00:27:44,240 --> 00:27:44,800
Speaker 2: Life maybe.

625
00:27:44,840 --> 00:27:46,680
Speaker 5: Do dad's not the kind of guy to gift EVERYONE

626
00:27:46,800 --> 00:27:48,520
Speaker 5: dna kits as a way of telling us he had

627
00:27:48,520 --> 00:27:51,040
Speaker 5: a secret love. Child oh SO i don't think he

628
00:27:51,119 --> 00:27:52,600
Speaker 5: knew he had another, kid?

629
00:27:52,840 --> 00:27:55,400
Speaker 2: Right why would? You we're all grown up.

630
00:27:55,400 --> 00:27:57,639
Speaker 5: To know where babies come from and that things aren't

631
00:27:57,680 --> 00:28:00,320
Speaker 5: always what we. Expect SO i have a feeling this

632
00:28:00,400 --> 00:28:03,040
Speaker 5: is a shock to. Everyone, NO i don't, Know, John

633
00:28:03,080 --> 00:28:03,399
Speaker 5: do you think you?

634
00:28:03,440 --> 00:28:04,520
Speaker 2: Cheated? Uh? DADDY?

635
00:28:04,560 --> 00:28:07,919
Speaker 3: O i Think daddy was slinging that schlog Bro all, Right,

636
00:28:08,000 --> 00:28:08,600
Speaker 3: well let's.

637
00:28:08,600 --> 00:28:11,320
Speaker 5: See so the CEO's company bio says he's a, proud

638
00:28:11,440 --> 00:28:12,240
Speaker 5: piction born.

639
00:28:12,520 --> 00:28:14,879
Speaker 2: Ray everything's big In.

640
00:28:14,960 --> 00:28:22,439
Speaker 5: Texas everything's bigger In, texas including my daddy's. Meat he

641
00:28:22,600 --> 00:28:26,040
Speaker 5: was slinging something else around the bard C they called

642
00:28:26,119 --> 00:28:30,840
Speaker 5: him the gun, slinger slinging that that big old pc hayd.

643
00:28:30,760 --> 00:28:33,840
Speaker 2: Old sausage lasso wrangling them.

644
00:28:33,920 --> 00:28:38,080
Speaker 5: Cattle dad was stationed In texas ten years before he

645
00:28:38,160 --> 00:28:41,240
Speaker 5: met and married my, mother or so he. Says, no

646
00:28:41,480 --> 00:28:44,680
Speaker 5: probably the timeline all, fits and so rely. JEANS i

647
00:28:44,680 --> 00:28:48,000
Speaker 5: guess none of my siblings have initiated, contact and neither

648
00:28:48,120 --> 00:28:50,560
Speaker 5: has my. DAD i met THE ceo a few, times

649
00:28:50,560 --> 00:28:53,240
Speaker 5: but he works out of the corporate headquarters across the

650
00:28:53,280 --> 00:28:55,880
Speaker 5: country from a smaller division WHERE i. Work about a

651
00:28:55,960 --> 00:28:59,040
Speaker 5: week AFTER i got my, results an email went out

652
00:28:59,080 --> 00:29:01,720
Speaker 5: from the head of HR are stating that all staff

653
00:29:01,760 --> 00:29:05,240
Speaker 5: had to take a refresher training on. Nepotism the training

654
00:29:05,360 --> 00:29:08,680
Speaker 5: also included a clause that said something along the lines

655
00:29:08,720 --> 00:29:12,760
Speaker 5: of staff are not entitled to privileges personal or professional

656
00:29:12,880 --> 00:29:16,920
Speaker 5: if familial relation By janes or marriage to executive or

657
00:29:17,000 --> 00:29:21,560
Speaker 5: management staff is known or, unknown or discovered during. Employments

658
00:29:22,440 --> 00:29:26,160
Speaker 5: talking to, me, yeah your, brother this feels like aimed

659
00:29:26,200 --> 00:29:30,520
Speaker 5: At op almost. Right, Yes other than being clunky, VERBIAGE

660
00:29:30,680 --> 00:29:31,840
Speaker 5: i felt like it was aimed at.

661
00:29:31,840 --> 00:29:32,640
Speaker 2: Me, okay so op o.

662
00:29:32,680 --> 00:29:36,000
Speaker 5: GREES i found out no other branch had to retake

663
00:29:36,040 --> 00:29:39,400
Speaker 5: the nepotism training and the email only came to our.

664
00:29:39,560 --> 00:29:42,680
Speaker 3: Office this is literally like instead of Sending op a direct,

665
00:29:42,680 --> 00:29:45,520
Speaker 3: message it's like a direct message with like the mustache

666
00:29:45,520 --> 00:29:45,800
Speaker 3: And faye.

667
00:29:45,840 --> 00:29:48,920
Speaker 2: Glasses, yeah that's the level of competence they.

668
00:29:48,920 --> 00:29:53,320
Speaker 5: Have it's, like just because you might Know i'm, family

669
00:29:54,880 --> 00:29:57,240
Speaker 5: doesn't mean you were gonna get any special.

670
00:29:57,280 --> 00:30:02,240
Speaker 3: Treatment any family like secret affair baby brothers don't get special.

671
00:30:02,280 --> 00:30:04,800
Speaker 5: Treatment any person in the company who had a dad

672
00:30:04,840 --> 00:30:07,040
Speaker 5: that was In texas and was stationed in the military

673
00:30:07,080 --> 00:30:11,280
Speaker 5: and possibly boned my mom doesn't get any special privileges of.

674
00:30:11,320 --> 00:30:15,680
Speaker 5: It any family member that is On reddit and is

675
00:30:15,720 --> 00:30:19,240
Speaker 5: writing a story doesn't get any special. Privileges my manager

676
00:30:19,480 --> 00:30:22,280
Speaker 5: later pulled me in personally to ask IF i had.

677
00:30:22,120 --> 00:30:23,400
Speaker 2: Any questions about the.

678
00:30:23,440 --> 00:30:27,600
Speaker 5: Policy she was vague and, uncomfortable AND i SAID i

679
00:30:27,640 --> 00:30:31,320
Speaker 5: wanted to know why nobody else was gone on to

680
00:30:31,400 --> 00:30:34,160
Speaker 5: the one on one to talk about the, policy and

681
00:30:34,200 --> 00:30:37,440
Speaker 5: why no other branch had to do the. Training WHY

682
00:30:37,600 --> 00:30:41,560
Speaker 5: OPCs through the. Mustache she just kind of ignored the

683
00:30:41,640 --> 00:30:45,520
Speaker 5: question and said she was just following. Instructions so NOW

684
00:30:45,760 --> 00:30:47,760
Speaker 5: i definitely think it was aimed at. ME i was

685
00:30:47,760 --> 00:30:50,280
Speaker 5: happy to drop the whole. Thing i'm sure he feels

686
00:30:50,360 --> 00:30:53,440
Speaker 5: uncomfortable AS i do about, this but to WEAPONIZE hr

687
00:30:53,680 --> 00:30:57,680
Speaker 5: and make my coworkers waste the whole day on mandatory

688
00:30:57,720 --> 00:31:00,720
Speaker 5: training just to put a boundary up seem like he messed.

689
00:31:00,800 --> 00:31:04,040
Speaker 5: UP a simple personal email saying, HEY i saw, THIS

690
00:31:04,240 --> 00:31:05,880
Speaker 5: i don't know what to make of. It please give

691
00:31:05,920 --> 00:31:07,920
Speaker 5: me space and don't bring it to work would have,

692
00:31:07,960 --> 00:31:12,040
Speaker 5: Sufficed but instead he has to orchestrate everyone going to a.

693
00:31:12,080 --> 00:31:13,200
Speaker 2: Meeting man is.

694
00:31:13,560 --> 00:31:16,360
Speaker 5: Crazy even ignoring it would have been fine by me,

695
00:31:16,640 --> 00:31:18,760
Speaker 5: too SINCE i wasn't, SURE i wanted to be the

696
00:31:18,800 --> 00:31:22,240
Speaker 5: one to initiate a conversation about this without having talked

697
00:31:22,240 --> 00:31:25,080
Speaker 5: to my dad. First, Right dad has gotten his results back,

698
00:31:25,160 --> 00:31:28,600
Speaker 5: obviously and he's avoiding the. Conversation this is the big

699
00:31:28,640 --> 00:31:31,040
Speaker 5: elephant in the, room and it makes it hard THAT

700
00:31:31,120 --> 00:31:33,280
Speaker 5: i work with this. Guy what bothers me the most

701
00:31:33,480 --> 00:31:35,960
Speaker 5: is the weaponizing OF hr and the intent to make

702
00:31:36,000 --> 00:31:38,840
Speaker 5: SURE i know not to ask for, perks which is,

703
00:31:38,840 --> 00:31:40,320
Speaker 5: like is that something you would even?

704
00:31:40,440 --> 00:31:43,840
Speaker 2: Do LIKE i heard we're, related so, uh where's that?

705
00:31:43,880 --> 00:31:44,800
Speaker 2: PROMOTION i.

706
00:31:46,440 --> 00:31:49,280
Speaker 3: Guess this Is it's such a it's such a wild

707
00:31:49,360 --> 00:31:51,080
Speaker 3: response to immediately go on this whole.

708
00:31:51,120 --> 00:31:52,320
Speaker 2: CAMPAIGN i, KNOW i.

709
00:31:52,280 --> 00:31:55,960
Speaker 5: KNOW i don't like even if he was like OR

710
00:31:56,040 --> 00:31:58,360
Speaker 5: i guess he is, related but like that doesn't entitle

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00:31:58,440 --> 00:31:58,600
Speaker 5: you to?

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00:31:58,640 --> 00:32:01,280
Speaker 2: Anything yeah, right, no, no, no not not at.

713
00:32:01,280 --> 00:32:03,760
Speaker 5: All i've been at the company for five years and

714
00:32:03,840 --> 00:32:06,440
Speaker 5: have a great. Reputation what DO i Do donald's word

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00:32:06,440 --> 00:32:07,920
Speaker 5: of this, Story yeah it it's even.

716
00:32:07,960 --> 00:32:10,600
Speaker 3: Crazier but what do you think of the CEO's? RESPONSE

717
00:32:10,960 --> 00:32:16,280
Speaker 3: i think THE ceo is a. Madman LIKE I i feel, like,

718
00:32:16,640 --> 00:32:19,520
Speaker 3: honestly like he could have literally he could have done.

719
00:32:19,560 --> 00:32:23,280
Speaker 3: Nothing he could have literally been better off saying absolutely

720
00:32:23,320 --> 00:32:25,920
Speaker 3: nothing and not doing a dang thing and could have

721
00:32:25,960 --> 00:32:28,840
Speaker 3: been chilling that maybe then maybe when IF op was,

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00:32:28,880 --> 00:32:30,400
Speaker 3: like oh give me give me a, bonus give me

723
00:32:30,440 --> 00:32:30,840
Speaker 3: a promotion.

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00:32:30,880 --> 00:32:33,840
Speaker 2: Ball hey, Brother hey, Brother like, yeah, okay then now

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00:32:33,920 --> 00:32:35,720
Speaker 2: you can you could you could clinch it? Down what

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00:32:35,840 --> 00:32:37,840
Speaker 2: DID i do? It if you were Op, BRO i

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00:32:37,880 --> 00:32:41,080
Speaker 2: WOULD i would take him for everything he's. Got oh ceo'd,

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00:32:41,240 --> 00:32:46,760
Speaker 2: like you're my, brother give it to. Me i'm THE ceo, Now.

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Speaker 5: one tried to fire.

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00:34:12,840 --> 00:34:13,600
Speaker 2: Me oh my.

762
00:34:13,680 --> 00:34:16,680
Speaker 5: God so just after my question was, posted my Boss

763
00:34:16,760 --> 00:34:18,640
Speaker 5: katie met with me and she told me that she

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00:34:18,800 --> 00:34:20,320
Speaker 5: was aware of the situation.

765
00:34:20,080 --> 00:34:21,920
Speaker 2: And didn't agree how THE ceo AND.

766
00:34:22,040 --> 00:34:25,320
Speaker 5: Hr had been handling it in regard to nepotism training.

767
00:34:25,440 --> 00:34:27,560
Speaker 5: NICE i told her my plan was forget about. It

768
00:34:27,640 --> 00:34:31,080
Speaker 5: things were quiet for a week until a major PROJECT

769
00:34:31,200 --> 00:34:35,120
Speaker 5: i was working on was mysteriously deleted on the company.

770
00:34:35,200 --> 00:34:37,440
Speaker 5: Drive it was a coincidence THAT i had it backed

771
00:34:37,480 --> 00:34:40,200
Speaker 5: up on A. Usb katie was suspicious about my project

772
00:34:40,200 --> 00:34:42,600
Speaker 5: getting deleted and told me to save everything to an

773
00:34:42,640 --> 00:34:45,960
Speaker 5: external drive and my, hardware and sure, enough the project

774
00:34:46,000 --> 00:34:46,560
Speaker 5: got deleted.

775
00:34:46,560 --> 00:34:49,360
Speaker 2: Again what is happening after?

776
00:34:49,400 --> 00:34:51,520
Speaker 5: That ANYTHING i put on our work servers was getting

777
00:34:51,520 --> 00:34:55,719
Speaker 5: deleted within, hours as well as any correspondence with clients

778
00:34:55,840 --> 00:34:56,239
Speaker 5: or team.

779
00:34:56,280 --> 00:34:57,200
Speaker 2: Members it's so.

780
00:34:57,360 --> 00:35:00,239
Speaker 5: Ridiculous and do you think THE ceo is Likew bro

781
00:35:00,440 --> 00:35:01,719
Speaker 5: literally like it's so.

782
00:35:01,840 --> 00:35:04,680
Speaker 2: Obvious this is again like the, mustache like.

783
00:35:09,120 --> 00:35:10,040
Speaker 1: It wasn't me.

784
00:35:12,600 --> 00:35:17,160
Speaker 5: RICH i started sending all my work communication and attachments

785
00:35:17,160 --> 00:35:20,120
Speaker 5: To katie and duplicating them on A usb That katie

786
00:35:20,200 --> 00:35:23,040
Speaker 5: kept walked in her. Office it was like A James bond.

787
00:35:23,080 --> 00:35:26,799
Speaker 5: Movie this is, Insane, god what do you?

788
00:35:26,840 --> 00:35:27,640
Speaker 2: DO I?

789
00:35:28,080 --> 00:35:30,239
Speaker 3: Bro, honestly at this, POINT i think you could have

790
00:35:30,280 --> 00:35:32,359
Speaker 3: a kitcut because he's literally like he's worked here for five.

791
00:35:32,400 --> 00:35:34,719
Speaker 3: Years he's probably was like planning on building his career.

792
00:35:34,760 --> 00:35:37,920
Speaker 3: Office now he. CAN'T i would probably be like if

793
00:35:37,920 --> 00:35:40,320
Speaker 3: this keeps, sue because it's like IF i can't advance,

794
00:35:40,360 --> 00:35:42,839
Speaker 3: HERE I i want to get out AND i want

795
00:35:42,840 --> 00:35:46,040
Speaker 3: to like like get my get mine for What i'm like.

796
00:35:46,160 --> 00:35:47,839
Speaker 2: Going through that rough.

797
00:35:47,960 --> 00:35:51,040
Speaker 5: Okay so after a mid month project meeting WHERE i

798
00:35:51,080 --> 00:35:53,200
Speaker 5: showed up with all my work on A usb, DRIVE

799
00:35:53,400 --> 00:35:57,000
Speaker 5: hr pulled me in because an anonymous concern was raised

800
00:35:57,040 --> 00:35:59,799
Speaker 5: about me hiding my work from my, colleagues and they

801
00:36:00,080 --> 00:36:02,000
Speaker 5: tried to write me up because like, op he's putting

802
00:36:02,000 --> 00:36:04,760
Speaker 5: it on A usb an anonymous.

803
00:36:04,800 --> 00:36:08,560
Speaker 2: Concern, yeah it's it's not.

804
00:36:08,800 --> 00:36:11,920
Speaker 5: Me katie must have known something like this was, coming

805
00:36:11,960 --> 00:36:14,719
Speaker 5: because she handled it and bcced me on all her

806
00:36:14,760 --> 00:36:18,600
Speaker 5: correspondence WITH hr and the executive, team outlining her concerns

807
00:36:18,719 --> 00:36:22,240
Speaker 5: about the CEOs and HR's behavior regarding THE dna, results

808
00:36:22,360 --> 00:36:25,160
Speaker 5: and that she believes someone was remotely accessing my work

809
00:36:25,160 --> 00:36:29,200
Speaker 5: computer to any. Things the COMPANY vp was. Horrified up until,

810
00:36:29,239 --> 00:36:31,640
Speaker 5: THAT i didn't know Ce bro wasn't the owner of the.

811
00:36:31,680 --> 00:36:33,160
Speaker 5: Company SO ceo is not the.

812
00:36:33,160 --> 00:36:34,840
Speaker 2: Owner he's just like, okay he just.

813
00:36:34,920 --> 00:36:38,200
Speaker 5: Run katie AND i had a call with THE vp that,

814
00:36:38,280 --> 00:36:40,399
Speaker 5: day who assured me that the owners were being made

815
00:36:40,440 --> 00:36:43,719
Speaker 5: aware of the situation and that my job was not in. JEOPARDY,

816
00:36:43,760 --> 00:36:47,799
Speaker 5: whoa that's, good but then hit the. Fan oh, god

817
00:36:48,160 --> 00:36:51,799
Speaker 5: that always. DOES Ceo bro's mom Contacted dad on the home.

818
00:36:51,840 --> 00:36:54,040
Speaker 5: Front as all this was happening at. WORK i won't

819
00:36:54,040 --> 00:36:56,560
Speaker 5: get into what was, said but the gist Is dad

820
00:36:56,640 --> 00:36:59,160
Speaker 5: was set up as an unwitting donor for a childless.

821
00:36:59,160 --> 00:37:02,080
Speaker 5: Couple SO i guess that's like unwitting, donor which means

822
00:37:02,280 --> 00:37:04,480
Speaker 5: maybe he met some lady at a. Bar she was,

823
00:37:04,560 --> 00:37:07,920
Speaker 5: like you, know impregnate me and then never talked to him.

824
00:37:07,920 --> 00:37:10,440
Speaker 5: AGAIN i got, pregnant and then that's, like instead of

825
00:37:10,520 --> 00:37:12,839
Speaker 5: doing like in vitro fertilization or, something.

826
00:37:12,680 --> 00:37:18,840
Speaker 3: Just you got like a sperm. Donor sperm donor from the. Streets, wow, okay, okay.

827
00:37:18,960 --> 00:37:22,040
Speaker 5: Okay The monday After dad spoke to See bro's, MOTHER

828
00:37:22,280 --> 00:37:26,040
Speaker 5: i was walking through the lobby WHEN hr literally ambushed

829
00:37:26,080 --> 00:37:29,040
Speaker 5: me and loudly fired me in front of a client

830
00:37:29,160 --> 00:37:30,040
Speaker 5: in twenty of my.

831
00:37:30,120 --> 00:37:30,560
Speaker 2: Colleagues.

832
00:37:30,640 --> 00:37:33,560
Speaker 5: Oh my security then escorted me out in front of

833
00:37:33,600 --> 00:37:35,520
Speaker 5: my friends and colleagues who had no idea what was.

834
00:37:35,520 --> 00:37:38,440
Speaker 5: Happening so that was pretty dark and. Humiliating katie stopped

835
00:37:38,440 --> 00:37:40,160
Speaker 5: me on the way to my car and brought me

836
00:37:40,239 --> 00:37:42,520
Speaker 5: back in for a video call with, her THE, vp

837
00:37:42,800 --> 00:37:45,440
Speaker 5: and the owners of the. COMPANY i explained everything that

838
00:37:45,520 --> 00:37:48,000
Speaker 5: had happened SINCE i got MY dna results back the

839
00:37:48,040 --> 00:37:50,680
Speaker 5: nepotism training and, everything and what do you think the company,

840
00:37:50,680 --> 00:37:51,120
Speaker 5: Did John.

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00:37:51,280 --> 00:37:54,799
Speaker 3: BRO i pray that they were, Like, nah you're you're you're,

842
00:37:54,840 --> 00:37:55,680
Speaker 3: Straight you're, Good you're.

843
00:37:55,719 --> 00:37:55,959
Speaker 2: Clear.

844
00:37:56,280 --> 00:37:58,680
Speaker 5: YEP i was fired but asked to turn in my

845
00:37:58,840 --> 00:38:02,000
Speaker 5: badge as both a S. EO bro AND i were

846
00:38:02,040 --> 00:38:05,440
Speaker 5: suspended pending a full investigation by the owners and their,

847
00:38:05,520 --> 00:38:09,200
Speaker 5: lawyer OH p suspended. WELL i was suspended with, pay

848
00:38:09,280 --> 00:38:12,920
Speaker 5: WHICH hr vehemently protested. Against the suspension lasted a week

849
00:38:12,960 --> 00:38:14,880
Speaker 5: AND i had planned to spend that time looking for another,

850
00:38:15,000 --> 00:38:16,080
Speaker 5: job BUT i just didn't have.

851
00:38:16,120 --> 00:38:16,839
Speaker 2: Time bro TO.

852
00:38:16,920 --> 00:38:22,200
Speaker 3: Hr literally the CEO's like, cronies, army just like, yes, yes, yes,

853
00:38:22,360 --> 00:38:23,520
Speaker 3: MA i will do your.

854
00:38:23,560 --> 00:38:23,960
Speaker 2: Bidding.

855
00:38:24,200 --> 00:38:27,360
Speaker 5: Okay actually there is some some tea on That cebro

856
00:38:27,600 --> 00:38:30,440
Speaker 5: did not return after the. SUSPENSION i was after my

857
00:38:30,520 --> 00:38:32,799
Speaker 5: job back within an, apology BUT i opted not to

858
00:38:32,840 --> 00:38:35,120
Speaker 5: go back either and have been freelancing and taking some

859
00:38:35,239 --> 00:38:37,760
Speaker 5: much needed downtime as this last month.

860
00:38:38,040 --> 00:38:38,440
Speaker 2: Sucked.

861
00:38:39,000 --> 00:38:42,440
Speaker 5: YEAH i did accept a generous severance, package tried to

862
00:38:42,440 --> 00:38:44,359
Speaker 5: do the right thing in all of. THIS i have

863
00:38:44,440 --> 00:38:46,040
Speaker 5: to say that PEOPLE i resent the most in the

864
00:38:46,080 --> 00:38:49,440
Speaker 5: situation where the two GOBLIN hr reps who knew they

865
00:38:49,480 --> 00:38:51,399
Speaker 5: were doing the wrong thing every step of the way

866
00:38:51,719 --> 00:38:54,279
Speaker 5: and openly enjoyed the drama of it all that.

867
00:38:54,239 --> 00:38:56,759
Speaker 2: You're supposed to be IN hr like the opposite of.

868
00:38:56,800 --> 00:38:59,040
Speaker 5: THAT i know rumors have reached me that both the

869
00:38:59,040 --> 00:39:02,080
Speaker 5: people IN hr can acting With cbro in some way

870
00:39:02,320 --> 00:39:05,440
Speaker 5: like former colleague friends or ex's or. SOMETHING i wish

871
00:39:05,480 --> 00:39:09,279
Speaker 5: them the future they. Deserve So john Is, op THE

872
00:39:09,360 --> 00:39:12,879
Speaker 5: a hole Is? Cebro THE a? Hole are THE hr

873
00:39:12,920 --> 00:39:16,280
Speaker 5: REPS a? Hole past your judgment, now but Before John bass's.

874
00:39:16,320 --> 00:39:18,560
Speaker 5: JUDGMENTS i want to know what you guys. Think what

875
00:39:18,600 --> 00:39:20,719
Speaker 5: would you do in this? Situation and who's THE a?

876
00:39:20,800 --> 00:39:24,440
Speaker 3: Hole? Op not THE a hole Cee, bro definitely the AHLE,

877
00:39:24,880 --> 00:39:28,200
Speaker 3: hr the craziest a. Holes they just took these marching

878
00:39:28,280 --> 00:39:29,560
Speaker 3: orders and just like went for.

879
00:39:29,640 --> 00:39:31,160
Speaker 2: IT i hate. THAT i.

880
00:39:31,200 --> 00:39:35,080
Speaker 5: KNOW i know where's your, Spine Sir. Cook if anything

881
00:39:35,080 --> 00:39:36,680
Speaker 5: like this has happened to, you please put it in the.

882
00:39:36,680 --> 00:39:39,319
Speaker 5: Comments who, also let us know what you think and

883
00:39:39,400 --> 00:39:40,120
Speaker 5: we'll see you.

884
00:39:40,200 --> 00:39:42,560
Speaker 3: Soon but, First, sam we need to switch from sipping

885
00:39:42,600 --> 00:39:46,240
Speaker 3: tea to going to a potentially not vegan wedding. Dinner

886
00:39:47,640 --> 00:39:48,279
Speaker 3: let's do it.

887
00:39:48,239 --> 00:39:49,160
Speaker 2: Tea timed dinner.

888
00:39:49,200 --> 00:39:54,799
Speaker 5: Time oh, yeah don't pay for my. Work have fun

889
00:39:54,880 --> 00:39:59,440
Speaker 5: with the entire world knowing you are a big fat.

890
00:39:59,560 --> 00:40:04,600
Speaker 5: SCAM okayopi this is. Okayop I'm samuel's daughter And I'm

891
00:40:04,680 --> 00:40:05,680
Speaker 5: John frank and.

892
00:40:05,520 --> 00:40:12,680
Speaker 2: We tell the funnier story and.

893
00:40:14,880 --> 00:40:15,040
Speaker 1: It's.

894
00:40:15,160 --> 00:40:19,960
Speaker 5: Beautiful Oh, john that was. BEAUTIFUL i love those. Pipes but,

895
00:40:20,360 --> 00:40:23,839
Speaker 5: uh you, know contrary to popular, Opinion john is not

896
00:40:23,960 --> 00:40:27,680
Speaker 5: a professional. Singer in, fact he actually used to have

897
00:40:27,760 --> 00:40:28,800
Speaker 5: a job Doing facebook.

898
00:40:28,840 --> 00:40:30,480
Speaker 2: Ads is that? CORRECT i. DID i did have a

899
00:40:30,560 --> 00:40:33,000
Speaker 2: job on Doing facebook. Ads how did that? Go? Uh

900
00:40:33,160 --> 00:40:34,080
Speaker 2: it went pretty.

901
00:40:34,200 --> 00:40:36,520
Speaker 3: Well it was interesting BECAUSE i, literally, UH i had

902
00:40:36,600 --> 00:40:38,839
Speaker 3: kind of like lost everything and like moved back home

903
00:40:38,840 --> 00:40:41,400
Speaker 3: and just ASSUMED i was going to uh live like

904
00:40:41,719 --> 00:40:43,560
Speaker 3: a normal life and go back to. School and then

905
00:40:43,600 --> 00:40:45,880
Speaker 3: this like opportunity randomly came out of, nowhere which was,

906
00:40:45,920 --> 00:40:48,120
Speaker 3: amazing AND i ended up spending LIKE i think six

907
00:40:48,160 --> 00:40:49,880
Speaker 3: hundred thousand dollars or something on digital.

908
00:40:49,880 --> 00:40:53,440
Speaker 5: Ads six hundred big.

909
00:40:53,520 --> 00:40:55,640
Speaker 2: Ones. Damn that's uh that is.

910
00:40:55,760 --> 00:40:57,920
Speaker 5: Huge, well as you, know in the world Of facebook,

911
00:40:57,960 --> 00:41:02,880
Speaker 5: ads it's hard to get. Clicks, YEAH i mean, maybe Big, Daddy,

912
00:41:02,960 --> 00:41:05,719
Speaker 5: JOHN i learned the secret. Formula but like people like

913
00:41:05,800 --> 00:41:08,239
Speaker 5: always expect with like, ads like, oh you're gonna get

914
00:41:08,239 --> 00:41:09,439
Speaker 5: make so much, money you're gonna get somebody.

915
00:41:09,440 --> 00:41:10,719
Speaker 2: Clucks but it's actually. Hard you have to create like

916
00:41:10,719 --> 00:41:11,279
Speaker 2: a really really good.

917
00:41:11,320 --> 00:41:16,440
Speaker 5: Ad and this story is about someone making A facebook

918
00:41:16,440 --> 00:41:20,680
Speaker 5: ad for a client and them becoming a. Scammer, scamming a,

919
00:41:20,760 --> 00:41:24,200
Speaker 5: scammer the. Worst all, right don't pay for my, work

920
00:41:24,480 --> 00:41:28,440
Speaker 5: have fun with the entire world knowing you are a

921
00:41:28,800 --> 00:41:33,080
Speaker 5: big fat. Scammer got. YOU i was hired to make

922
00:41:33,120 --> 00:41:37,120
Speaker 5: an advertisement for this cosmetic. STARTUP i normally don't accept

923
00:41:37,160 --> 00:41:40,759
Speaker 5: local clients BECAUSE i have a lot of crappy experience with,

924
00:41:40,800 --> 00:41:43,799
Speaker 5: them but this client sounded like she's willing to pay

925
00:41:43,840 --> 00:41:45,479
Speaker 5: for my. Service So i'm all, right what AM i gonna?

926
00:41:45,480 --> 00:41:47,640
Speaker 5: Do i'm just gonna, say, yeah all, right let's take a.

927
00:41:47,719 --> 00:41:52,040
Speaker 5: Ride accident charged them? MUCH i only charged sixty dollars per.

928
00:41:52,080 --> 00:41:55,760
Speaker 5: Week and As john as a Resident facebook ads, expert

929
00:41:55,840 --> 00:41:56,040
Speaker 5: is that.

930
00:41:56,080 --> 00:41:59,360
Speaker 3: A lot of, little absolutely nothing?

931
00:41:59,400 --> 00:42:02,239
Speaker 2: Abysmal yeah you're worth? It Opening? Yeah come?

932
00:42:02,239 --> 00:42:04,480
Speaker 5: On, well, Actually op, says on, AVERAGE i charge a

933
00:42:04,560 --> 00:42:08,480
Speaker 5: foreign client three hundred dollars per. Week, OKAY i don't

934
00:42:08,520 --> 00:42:10,600
Speaker 5: know why you're charging so much less on this, one

935
00:42:10,640 --> 00:42:12,480
Speaker 5: but MAYBE i just wanted to give the client a,

936
00:42:12,480 --> 00:42:15,360
Speaker 5: break a local, like let me give you some local.

937
00:42:15,400 --> 00:42:19,600
Speaker 2: Discount never give a client of. Break that's what breaks for. Anyone,

938
00:42:20,120 --> 00:42:21,799
Speaker 2: well the first two weeks were.

939
00:42:21,800 --> 00:42:24,600
Speaker 5: Good she provided me with every MATERIAL i needed to

940
00:42:24,640 --> 00:42:28,759
Speaker 5: make an effective advertisement despite her limited. Budget, however we

941
00:42:28,880 --> 00:42:33,239
Speaker 5: began to have an argument on week. Two on the

942
00:42:33,360 --> 00:42:36,440
Speaker 5: second week Of scammer, clients.

943
00:42:36,000 --> 00:42:40,120
Speaker 2: They clicked on the wrong. Person, yeah they clicked on

944
00:42:40,200 --> 00:42:40,680
Speaker 2: the wrong.

945
00:42:40,960 --> 00:42:44,800
Speaker 5: Ad she's suddenly demanding our ads should have at least

946
00:42:44,960 --> 00:42:48,840
Speaker 5: one thousand clicks per, day which is ef an absurd

947
00:42:48,840 --> 00:42:51,360
Speaker 5: because her budget only allows her to have twelve hundred

948
00:42:51,400 --> 00:42:53,520
Speaker 5: reaches per, day which is like twelve hundred views on the.

949
00:42:53,560 --> 00:42:56,239
Speaker 5: Post and she's expecting everyone who views a post to

950
00:42:56,320 --> 00:42:58,200
Speaker 5: click on, it which just does not. Happen, like what's

951
00:42:58,239 --> 00:43:01,240
Speaker 5: the average click? Rate, John, oh, dude like one to three? Percent,

952
00:43:01,400 --> 00:43:03,920
Speaker 5: hey there you, go one to three. Percent the facts

953
00:43:03,960 --> 00:43:07,719
Speaker 5: are in From big Daddy bucks, advertising big.

954
00:43:07,760 --> 00:43:08,279
Speaker 2: Boy that's.

955
00:43:08,360 --> 00:43:11,799
Speaker 3: Right, like if she did, that almost imagine every every

956
00:43:11,800 --> 00:43:12,560
Speaker 3: person seeing an.

957
00:43:12,480 --> 00:43:15,040
Speaker 2: Ad clicking on. It that doesn't. Happen, icula we all

958
00:43:15,080 --> 00:43:15,839
Speaker 2: know THAT i told.

959
00:43:15,840 --> 00:43:17,920
Speaker 5: Her for that to be, possible she should increase her,

960
00:43:17,920 --> 00:43:20,080
Speaker 5: budget which is what a GREAT i, guess, like you,

961
00:43:20,120 --> 00:43:21,040
Speaker 5: know that's great.

962
00:43:21,040 --> 00:43:22,480
Speaker 2: Advice what you, say, yeah.

963
00:43:22,520 --> 00:43:27,240
Speaker 5: Exactly suddenly she called me a fraudoo despite my ads

964
00:43:27,280 --> 00:43:29,279
Speaker 5: having at least three hundred clicks per, day which is

965
00:43:29,280 --> 00:43:32,200
Speaker 5: actually like really really, good that's. Amazing and now she

966
00:43:32,280 --> 00:43:34,520
Speaker 5: refused to give me her payment for the last two.

967
00:43:34,600 --> 00:43:37,600
Speaker 5: Weeks she's ignoring my call this. WEEKEND i think my

968
00:43:37,680 --> 00:43:40,840
Speaker 5: number is. Blocked stupid her because she didn't remove me

969
00:43:40,920 --> 00:43:43,959
Speaker 5: from her. Pay SO i decided to work up some

970
00:43:44,000 --> 00:43:48,719
Speaker 5: good stuff wlo. Petty her ads are still, running SO

971
00:43:48,760 --> 00:43:51,400
Speaker 5: i decided to change what was. RUN i changed the

972
00:43:51,440 --> 00:43:53,839
Speaker 5: pictures to a text post that, says.

973
00:43:53,719 --> 00:43:54,480
Speaker 2: Don't buy from.

974
00:43:54,520 --> 00:43:57,880
Speaker 5: This the owner refused to give me my salary and

975
00:43:58,000 --> 00:44:01,640
Speaker 5: a rate personal assistant she called a for not meeting

976
00:44:01,760 --> 00:44:07,360
Speaker 5: her absurd. Expectation oh. TELEMP i also included screenshots of

977
00:44:07,400 --> 00:44:09,359
Speaker 5: her conversation to back it up in case like anyone

978
00:44:09,400 --> 00:44:10,279
Speaker 5: who saw the ad was.

979
00:44:10,239 --> 00:44:10,880
Speaker 1: Like what is this?

980
00:44:10,960 --> 00:44:11,919
Speaker 2: About, yeah, yeah.

981
00:44:11,960 --> 00:44:14,520
Speaker 5: RECEIPTS i did it last, night And i'm sure any

982
00:44:14,520 --> 00:44:17,920
Speaker 5: moment she will contact, me BUT i am done with.

983
00:44:18,080 --> 00:44:20,440
Speaker 2: Her i'm moving. Up there we go.

984
00:44:20,400 --> 00:44:22,759
Speaker 5: That one hundred twenty dollars she, owns it's hers to

985
00:44:22,840 --> 00:44:25,680
Speaker 5: Keep as for, Me i'm not accepting any local clients.

986
00:44:25,719 --> 00:44:28,760
Speaker 5: ANYMORE i am frickin done with. Them lesson, learned lesson.

987
00:44:28,880 --> 00:44:34,040
Speaker 5: Learned but guess, what there's an. Update so yesterday around four,

988
00:44:34,080 --> 00:44:37,799
Speaker 5: PM i checked the ads and apparently it reverted back

989
00:44:37,840 --> 00:44:38,440
Speaker 5: to the original.

990
00:44:38,440 --> 00:44:38,720
Speaker 2: Ones.

991
00:44:38,960 --> 00:44:42,920
Speaker 5: Nah then a few moments, later my account now says account,

992
00:44:43,080 --> 00:44:46,160
Speaker 5: error which means the payment method is. CANCELED i felt

993
00:44:46,200 --> 00:44:48,799
Speaker 5: frustrated Because i'm still not yet being done, petty AND

994
00:44:48,880 --> 00:44:51,680
Speaker 5: i had some work to. Do, Yeah SO i posted

995
00:44:51,719 --> 00:44:55,200
Speaker 5: my story anonymous on a group Called Social Media Marketing

996
00:44:55,239 --> 00:44:59,120
Speaker 5: philippines as my way of venting out and subtly warning

997
00:44:59,160 --> 00:45:02,560
Speaker 5: potential va is that she'll Hire, naturally people in the

998
00:45:02,560 --> 00:45:05,960
Speaker 5: group are with. ME i got my freakin' posse by

999
00:45:06,080 --> 00:45:09,480
Speaker 5: army of vas to go against this woman the. Squad this,

1000
00:45:09,560 --> 00:45:11,520
Speaker 5: MORNING i finally got a response from.

1001
00:45:11,560 --> 00:45:12,560
Speaker 2: Her she is.

1002
00:45:13,000 --> 00:45:16,880
Speaker 5: Angry apparently she saw my post and threatened to sue

1003
00:45:16,880 --> 00:45:19,840
Speaker 5: me for defamation and basically, so she saw The reddit,

1004
00:45:19,880 --> 00:45:23,560
Speaker 5: post but note from, OPE i didn't specify which STARTUP

1005
00:45:23,840 --> 00:45:26,440
Speaker 5: i said it was. FROM i only mentioned it's a cosmetic,

1006
00:45:26,480 --> 00:45:29,000
Speaker 5: company and therefore she had nothing to hold her. Case,

1007
00:45:29,440 --> 00:45:32,080
Speaker 5: HOWEVER i have receipts that she hasn't paid, me AND

1008
00:45:32,160 --> 00:45:34,160
Speaker 5: i told her that even though we have no written,

1009
00:45:34,160 --> 00:45:37,800
Speaker 5: contract our chat WHICH i, kept can be used against

1010
00:45:37,840 --> 00:45:41,279
Speaker 5: her in the court of. Law on top of, THAT

1011
00:45:41,360 --> 00:45:43,840
Speaker 5: i mentioned that my uncle is a regional, judge not a,

1012
00:45:43,880 --> 00:45:46,840
Speaker 5: lie AND i came from a clan of, politicians, again

1013
00:45:46,920 --> 00:45:50,600
Speaker 5: not a. Lie simply, PUT i will destroy her life

1014
00:45:50,960 --> 00:45:51,160
Speaker 5: if she.

1015
00:45:51,840 --> 00:45:53,240
Speaker 2: Men.

1016
00:45:53,440 --> 00:45:55,280
Speaker 5: Yeah at, first she didn't believe, it SO i googled

1017
00:45:55,320 --> 00:45:58,080
Speaker 5: my grandpa's, name which led to A wikipedia, page and

1018
00:45:58,160 --> 00:46:01,880
Speaker 5: she went silent after. That after an, HOUR i sent

1019
00:46:01,960 --> 00:46:04,680
Speaker 5: her a message telling her it doesn't have to end this.

1020
00:46:04,719 --> 00:46:06,239
Speaker 5: Way all she needed to do was pay the way

1021
00:46:06,280 --> 00:46:09,080
Speaker 5: she owed, me because OTHERWISE i can use my family's

1022
00:46:09,080 --> 00:46:13,759
Speaker 5: influence to make sure her business goes. Bankrups so she

1023
00:46:13,800 --> 00:46:18,480
Speaker 5: immediately sent my. SALARY i thanked her and promptly blocked.

1024
00:46:18,520 --> 00:46:21,520
Speaker 2: Her, Dude, wow that is.

1025
00:46:21,480 --> 00:46:26,120
Speaker 5: Some, revenge, baby revenge best served, quickly.

1026
00:46:26,160 --> 00:46:31,800
Speaker 3: Efficiently and that's that sign and hopefully lesson. Learned go

1027
00:46:31,800 --> 00:46:33,239
Speaker 3: go with different, clients you.

1028
00:46:33,280 --> 00:46:37,080
Speaker 5: Know, yeah you know there's the, thing like if you

1029
00:46:37,120 --> 00:46:40,120
Speaker 5: have clients paying you, peanuts they're probably going to be

1030
00:46:40,120 --> 00:46:42,480
Speaker 5: difficult to work. With like the it's it's kind of,

1031
00:46:42,480 --> 00:46:44,560
Speaker 5: weird like the lower they pay, you the more. Difficult,

1032
00:46:45,440 --> 00:46:50,480
Speaker 5: yeah so make sure you only take high paying. Clients

1033
00:46:50,600 --> 00:46:53,319
Speaker 5: but you, know if you don't want us to have

1034
00:46:53,360 --> 00:46:57,440
Speaker 5: to take pennies eat peanuts from the. Floor make sure

1035
00:46:57,719 --> 00:47:01,759
Speaker 5: to subscribe To okayopie on, YouTube, spotify TikTok and who

1036
00:47:01,760 --> 00:47:03,279
Speaker 5: want to be a real? One so or dass On

1037
00:47:03,320 --> 00:47:05,440
Speaker 5: patron because we've got a discord where you can talk

1038
00:47:05,480 --> 00:47:07,120
Speaker 5: to us and other people Like.

1039
00:47:07,120 --> 00:47:10,160
Speaker 3: Ariel casey's a furious to V Nae muhammed And amanda Will,

1040
00:47:10,239 --> 00:47:11,560
Speaker 3: Connor Desiree king.

1041
00:47:11,520 --> 00:49:10,520
Speaker 2: And simmons And Kathy quigley say. Yes soon he's. Out