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Speaker 1: This is the Ben and Ashley I Almost Famous podcast

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Speaker 1: with i R Radio. This is such a big episode,

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Speaker 1: I mean, incredibly big episode. Ashley. We're celebrating you. We are,

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Speaker 1: We're celebrating the evolution of my journey. Um. We have

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Speaker 1: both had big gears as far as evolving, you know,

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Speaker 1: because well, you got married, I'm having a baby. We

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Speaker 1: started business. I bought a house. You like bought a

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Speaker 1: house this year too. Like we just I mean, we're

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Speaker 1: adulting and apparently it's very chuggy to be calling it

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Speaker 1: adult ing today. Did you know that? Okay, do you

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Speaker 1: know what the word choogie is? Ben? I don't. I don't,

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Speaker 1: but we did just have a second voice come in

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Speaker 1: so with us right now is Ashley's sister, one of

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Speaker 1: our favorite people in the world, Lauren, who is also

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Speaker 1: going to celebrate Ashley and hello evolution and how she's

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Speaker 1: evolved her journey of the last year. We're gonna bring

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Speaker 1: Lauren in just a second because we have a lot

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Speaker 1: to talk about as she becomes an aunt. But actually,

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Speaker 1: you're right, we have had a huge year, both of us,

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Speaker 1: and it feels like we're maturing right before the audience's eyes.

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Speaker 1: I mean, we have Um. You know, it's a cliche

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Speaker 1: to say in the Bachelor world, you know, the word journey,

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Speaker 1: but like you and I have really been on quite

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Speaker 1: the journey since being on the franchise. And today, yes,

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Speaker 1: we are celebrating it with Hyundai, which is amazing. Um.

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Speaker 1: They they're all about evolving your journey, and today they're

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Speaker 1: helping me celebrate the baby boy in my belly. They

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Speaker 1: have sent over some incredible gifts, um that you guys

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Speaker 1: can't see right now, but oh my gosh, I feel

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Speaker 1: like I'm in an you kidding me? That was exactly

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Speaker 1: what I was going to say, you off off the mic.

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Speaker 1: I was telling Ben. I was like, those are like

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Speaker 1: the toys that like the I was so jealous of that,

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Speaker 1: like the stuffed animals that were like way too expensive

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Speaker 1: that I never like, I never thought mom and dad

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Speaker 1: would we couldn't you know? Those were like the rich

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Speaker 1: kid toys. I have these huge stuffed animals that Hyundai

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Speaker 1: UM has given us for the nursery and a big

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Speaker 1: like um, like a car and a train set. It's

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Speaker 1: so cool and I'm so grateful for them and thank

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Speaker 1: you so much. Yeah yeah, yeah, Um. Anyway, I'm going

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Speaker 1: to hand the mic over to Lauren so she can explain, um,

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Speaker 1: what she's been with how she's been with me through

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Speaker 1: out the past eight months. You guys can have like

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Speaker 1: some fun chat right now. All right, Well, I don't

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Speaker 1: know what she's been like on the podcast, but it's

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Speaker 1: been I don't know, want to say, like messy, just

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Speaker 1: asthetically messy. Um, yeah, I forgetful. Like we were like

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Speaker 1: once baby Haven comes that it'll be a little less foggy. Yeah,

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Speaker 1: is that the name? Yeah? Baby Haven? The first I

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Speaker 1: So um, Laurena, you know, I do feel like we

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Speaker 1: have gotten a fairly good glimpse of Ashley on this podcast.

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Speaker 1: Really for the last few months, she hasn't hit much.

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Speaker 1: But if you're in a flashback twelve months ago, M hmm,

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Speaker 1: what in yours your saying? Hey, once Ashley is pregnant,

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Speaker 1: I envisioned Ashley to be puffy, uh, like her feet

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Speaker 1: So where have you stepped in then, Lauren? So where

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Speaker 1: at Lauren AI on Instagram, just DM herlous so thank you,

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Speaker 1: thank you, and really just reach out for extensions. That's

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Speaker 1: This is an incredible baby shower. Ashley has been thrown

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Speaker 1: So I would look into that so kind of like

424
00:24:39,680 --> 00:24:43,400
Speaker 1: teach you how to feed, how often? How do swaddle?

425
00:24:43,640 --> 00:24:46,200
Speaker 1: All of that? You'll be fine. And you did that together.

426
00:24:46,400 --> 00:24:48,600
Speaker 1: You and Aria did that together. Do you recommend Jared

427
00:24:48,640 --> 00:24:52,119
Speaker 1: and Ashley both doing these? Yeah? Totally. You guys have

428
00:24:52,160 --> 00:24:53,560
Speaker 1: to be on the same page, so he's got to

429
00:24:53,560 --> 00:24:57,400
Speaker 1: do it with you too. How do you guys, I'm

430
00:24:57,440 --> 00:25:06,439
Speaker 1: sorry I have that freaking flim the baby post. Nobody

431
00:25:06,480 --> 00:25:10,760
Speaker 1: talks about it, but like of women like experience it throughout.

432
00:25:10,960 --> 00:25:15,719
Speaker 1: I'm learning so much Lauren through Ashley's pregnancy, like being

433
00:25:15,760 --> 00:25:17,520
Speaker 1: able to talk to her every week has been such

434
00:25:17,600 --> 00:25:19,400
Speaker 1: like I'm sitting here right now, I'm gonna be very

435
00:25:19,480 --> 00:25:23,080
Speaker 1: quiet today, not on purpose, but because like I don't

436
00:25:23,119 --> 00:25:25,520
Speaker 1: even know what to ask, like I have zero idea

437
00:25:25,560 --> 00:25:28,880
Speaker 1: what's going on. Um, I'm learning as we go here.

438
00:25:28,920 --> 00:25:32,480
Speaker 1: But so Ashley, I don't know if we talked about

439
00:25:32,480 --> 00:25:34,480
Speaker 1: this in a while, Lauren, if you didn't know Ashley

440
00:25:34,520 --> 00:25:37,120
Speaker 1: for a long time, and if I'm sharing too much,

441
00:25:37,400 --> 00:25:39,159
Speaker 1: Like again, I don't know what I'm talking about anymore.

442
00:25:40,200 --> 00:25:43,280
Speaker 1: For a long time, was sick like every day. Actually

443
00:25:43,280 --> 00:25:46,280
Speaker 1: I haven't asked you, are you still sick often? And

444
00:25:46,320 --> 00:25:50,600
Speaker 1: then this flim thing is a thing like that happens.

445
00:25:51,320 --> 00:25:54,080
Speaker 1: It doesn't happen to everybody, but it happens to a lot.

446
00:25:54,400 --> 00:25:57,240
Speaker 1: It's one of those things that people don't talk about.

447
00:25:57,600 --> 00:25:59,280
Speaker 1: And we're in the morning now, and this is when

448
00:25:59,280 --> 00:26:01,320
Speaker 1: it's bad for me in the morning, and I definitely

449
00:26:01,320 --> 00:26:03,159
Speaker 1: have to like eat when I wake up because if

450
00:26:03,200 --> 00:26:04,960
Speaker 1: not I have like a stomach full of mucus and

451
00:26:05,119 --> 00:26:07,439
Speaker 1: that really leads to a lot of nausea for me.

452
00:26:07,760 --> 00:26:12,040
Speaker 1: But no, the past four weeks have been really good. Um,

453
00:26:12,080 --> 00:26:14,120
Speaker 1: I don't think I've thrown up for about four weeks.

454
00:26:14,560 --> 00:26:16,679
Speaker 1: It was like two weeks after your wedding that I

455
00:26:16,720 --> 00:26:22,800
Speaker 1: started to like just just be fine, Victory, Yeah, you've

456
00:26:22,840 --> 00:26:25,600
Speaker 1: been sick this whole time. Yeah, I was. I was.

457
00:26:26,480 --> 00:26:30,440
Speaker 1: I threw up through like twenty seven weeks four things.

458
00:26:31,840 --> 00:26:35,480
Speaker 1: It was not good, Lauren. Is there anything that you

459
00:26:35,600 --> 00:26:39,240
Speaker 1: experienced throughout pregnancy or early motherhood that you just did

460
00:26:39,400 --> 00:26:44,080
Speaker 1: not have any idea existed. Well, now that you're talking

461
00:26:44,119 --> 00:26:48,080
Speaker 1: about the whole like congestion stuff, I had this weird

462
00:26:48,119 --> 00:26:51,359
Speaker 1: thing towards the end where my mouth like swelled up

463
00:26:51,760 --> 00:26:54,440
Speaker 1: and I couldn't talk very well, so I just sounded

464
00:26:54,560 --> 00:26:57,760
Speaker 1: like my mouth was full all the time. It was

465
00:26:57,800 --> 00:27:00,199
Speaker 1: really weird and I hated it, but I at it

466
00:27:00,240 --> 00:27:03,720
Speaker 1: with both a Lessie and the twins. That's so weird.

467
00:27:04,000 --> 00:27:06,360
Speaker 1: I haven't heard of that. But you know what I've

468
00:27:06,400 --> 00:27:10,080
Speaker 1: had is that DS kenesia where it's just like it

469
00:27:10,240 --> 00:27:14,240
Speaker 1: tastes my mouth tastes bad, Like I'll brush my teeth,

470
00:27:14,359 --> 00:27:17,640
Speaker 1: and ten minutes later it'll taste like I just woke

471
00:27:17,760 --> 00:27:20,400
Speaker 1: up and didn't brush my teeth again, which is like

472
00:27:20,600 --> 00:27:24,760
Speaker 1: also common. They say it tastes like metal, like you

473
00:27:24,840 --> 00:27:28,240
Speaker 1: had a whole bunch of pennies in your mouth. That's

474
00:27:28,800 --> 00:27:31,320
Speaker 1: that's like apparently the most common taste. But then there's

475
00:27:31,359 --> 00:27:34,240
Speaker 1: also just like the old there's like the overall bad taste.

476
00:27:34,359 --> 00:27:37,680
Speaker 1: So I haven't tasted pennies, but I just taste an

477
00:27:37,680 --> 00:27:41,800
Speaker 1: overall badness, and it sucks because it makes you want

478
00:27:41,800 --> 00:27:44,560
Speaker 1: to eat even more than you want to eat, because

479
00:27:44,560 --> 00:27:45,920
Speaker 1: you just like when you have food in your mouth,

480
00:27:46,240 --> 00:27:50,280
Speaker 1: you don't taste that, and then when you don't, you're like,

481
00:27:52,280 --> 00:27:56,360
Speaker 1: it's your breast apparently not like nobody says that they

482
00:27:56,400 --> 00:28:04,320
Speaker 1: smell it, but like it just tastes really stale. I know, okay,

483
00:28:04,320 --> 00:28:07,280
Speaker 1: but so tell me something about like the first week

484
00:28:07,960 --> 00:28:12,840
Speaker 1: of being with the baby that you never expected. Um,

485
00:28:13,000 --> 00:28:16,600
Speaker 1: the first week, Well, I don't really I don't remember

486
00:28:16,600 --> 00:28:19,240
Speaker 1: specifically the first week, but I do know when Alessia

487
00:28:19,280 --> 00:28:22,680
Speaker 1: was a newborn, I was like so protective over her.

488
00:28:23,080 --> 00:28:25,720
Speaker 1: I wouldn't even let Already take care of her without me.

489
00:28:26,640 --> 00:28:30,760
Speaker 1: I didn't trust anyone with really Yeah, I don't know.

490
00:28:30,920 --> 00:28:33,000
Speaker 1: Maybe that was just me and maybe that's like a

491
00:28:33,000 --> 00:28:36,680
Speaker 1: new mom thing. But I was so protective. Are you

492
00:28:36,720 --> 00:28:39,160
Speaker 1: would literally be like trying to sit on my lap

493
00:28:39,160 --> 00:28:40,720
Speaker 1: while I was breast beting her. He wanted to be

494
00:28:40,760 --> 00:28:44,600
Speaker 1: like involved, I'm like, get away. I was like, I

495
00:28:44,600 --> 00:28:46,640
Speaker 1: don't know. I was really kind of weird when I

496
00:28:46,680 --> 00:28:50,240
Speaker 1: first had her. Is that is that like instinctual? I've

497
00:28:50,240 --> 00:28:53,760
Speaker 1: always been curious because you hear like the mama bear

498
00:28:53,960 --> 00:28:56,440
Speaker 1: come out like once the child is born. Did you

499
00:28:56,520 --> 00:28:59,480
Speaker 1: expect that out of yourself or is that just that

500
00:28:59,600 --> 00:29:02,920
Speaker 1: just how been? That was a total surprise to me.

501
00:29:03,200 --> 00:29:04,920
Speaker 1: I thought that I would be able to take a

502
00:29:05,000 --> 00:29:07,640
Speaker 1: nap and like let Lessie or let Ali take care

503
00:29:07,640 --> 00:29:10,320
Speaker 1: of her and I would be fine. But it was

504
00:29:10,440 --> 00:29:12,400
Speaker 1: not that way. I mean, I think my hormones were

505
00:29:12,440 --> 00:29:14,560
Speaker 1: just out of control. So I was kind of crazy.

506
00:29:14,680 --> 00:29:18,120
Speaker 1: But maybe not everybody gets that way. No, that's actually

507
00:29:18,320 --> 00:29:21,320
Speaker 1: a great point to bring up. How did you ever

508
00:29:21,440 --> 00:29:25,400
Speaker 1: get like any sort of postpartum depression? Did you how

509
00:29:25,400 --> 00:29:29,320
Speaker 1: long did it take for you to feel emotionally and

510
00:29:29,360 --> 00:29:33,320
Speaker 1: physically normal again? Or did do you ever feel physically

511
00:29:33,400 --> 00:29:37,280
Speaker 1: and emotionally normal again, Yeah, you do. UM. I think

512
00:29:37,320 --> 00:29:40,560
Speaker 1: with a Leslie I didn't really experience postpartum propression. I

513
00:29:40,600 --> 00:29:44,000
Speaker 1: did a little bit with the twins um, but with

514
00:29:44,040 --> 00:29:46,120
Speaker 1: a Lessie. I just feel like you kind of have

515
00:29:46,240 --> 00:29:49,840
Speaker 1: this a little identity crisis when you first have your

516
00:29:49,840 --> 00:29:53,160
Speaker 1: first baby, because you go from being you know, just

517
00:29:53,160 --> 00:29:55,800
Speaker 1: worrying about yourself and being kind of selfish and like

518
00:29:55,880 --> 00:29:58,000
Speaker 1: having all this time, and then you have this little

519
00:29:58,000 --> 00:30:00,520
Speaker 1: baby you have to take care of, and it just

520
00:30:00,640 --> 00:30:03,840
Speaker 1: kind of changes the way that you view yourself. And

521
00:30:03,880 --> 00:30:05,840
Speaker 1: I think I kind of panicked at first when I

522
00:30:05,840 --> 00:30:07,160
Speaker 1: first had her. I was like, I don't want to

523
00:30:07,160 --> 00:30:09,840
Speaker 1: be just a mom, and I was like so afraid

524
00:30:09,960 --> 00:30:12,320
Speaker 1: that I would only be a mom once I had her.

525
00:30:12,840 --> 00:30:15,920
Speaker 1: But after she was a little bit older, I felt

526
00:30:15,920 --> 00:30:18,120
Speaker 1: like I could get myself back again and I would

527
00:30:18,160 --> 00:30:20,480
Speaker 1: just like my one piece of advice about that is

528
00:30:20,560 --> 00:30:23,480
Speaker 1: just remember that temporary and like you'll get your time

529
00:30:23,480 --> 00:30:26,880
Speaker 1: back and it'll be okay again. Okay, Okay. That makes

530
00:30:26,880 --> 00:30:30,920
Speaker 1: me feel good because that's actually like big fear that

531
00:30:31,040 --> 00:30:33,960
Speaker 1: I've been thinking about more and more lately. It's just

532
00:30:34,720 --> 00:30:36,920
Speaker 1: how do I kind of like continue my own life

533
00:30:36,920 --> 00:30:40,080
Speaker 1: on the child be part of it because there's so

534
00:30:40,160 --> 00:30:43,800
Speaker 1: many people that I feel like after they had a baby,

535
00:30:43,840 --> 00:30:47,200
Speaker 1: like they don't know themselves anymore. So is there any

536
00:30:47,280 --> 00:30:51,440
Speaker 1: tip to like get into that zone? Do you have? Yeah?

537
00:30:51,640 --> 00:30:54,120
Speaker 1: I mean I feel like from what I know about

538
00:30:54,160 --> 00:30:56,320
Speaker 1: you and Charity Eyes are a pretty good team. So

539
00:30:56,360 --> 00:30:58,240
Speaker 1: I feel like you guys will be able to kind

540
00:30:58,240 --> 00:31:01,560
Speaker 1: of about things off of each other. So like, if

541
00:31:01,600 --> 00:31:04,800
Speaker 1: you need time for yourself, He'll probably allow you to,

542
00:31:04,880 --> 00:31:07,200
Speaker 1: like like he'll take care of your baby while you

543
00:31:07,480 --> 00:31:09,600
Speaker 1: do something for yourself. But I think it's just important

544
00:31:10,160 --> 00:31:13,640
Speaker 1: to go do things that remind you of who you

545
00:31:13,680 --> 00:31:16,960
Speaker 1: are and things that you enjoy. So don't make it

546
00:31:17,240 --> 00:31:19,680
Speaker 1: all about the baby all the time. You deserve to

547
00:31:19,720 --> 00:31:24,040
Speaker 1: have some me time too, right, Uh, Lauren, I'm gonna

548
00:31:24,120 --> 00:31:25,560
Speaker 1: lead us through a little game here in a second.

549
00:31:25,600 --> 00:31:30,240
Speaker 1: Obviously today is about celebrating Jared and Nashley and there

550
00:31:30,320 --> 00:31:33,920
Speaker 1: soon to be baby boy. But before we play this game,

551
00:31:34,080 --> 00:31:38,040
Speaker 1: before I ask uh you and Ashley these questions, Uh,

552
00:31:38,160 --> 00:31:40,040
Speaker 1: what are you up to these days? Anything you want

553
00:31:40,080 --> 00:31:44,600
Speaker 1: to talk about promote and bring attention to. Um. Well,

554
00:31:44,960 --> 00:31:47,160
Speaker 1: I'm actually still kind of in the baby bubble with

555
00:31:47,200 --> 00:31:50,480
Speaker 1: the twins, so I'm just like, we're just climbing out

556
00:31:50,480 --> 00:31:54,560
Speaker 1: of the hard part now with them. They're seven months old. Um,

557
00:31:54,880 --> 00:31:58,360
Speaker 1: so Ari and I are. We are doing our YouTube,

558
00:31:58,480 --> 00:32:01,360
Speaker 1: so we're always like planning for that and doing videos

559
00:32:01,400 --> 00:32:03,320
Speaker 1: for that. So if anyone wants to keep up with

560
00:32:03,360 --> 00:32:06,880
Speaker 1: our family life there, you can do that. Um. We

561
00:32:07,040 --> 00:32:08,960
Speaker 1: I'm actually working on a new project that I can't

562
00:32:08,960 --> 00:32:11,520
Speaker 1: really talk about yet, but I will say it has

563
00:32:11,560 --> 00:32:14,120
Speaker 1: something to do with like the fashion industry that I'm

564
00:32:14,160 --> 00:32:18,680
Speaker 1: really excited about. Um. But other than that, like, I'm

565
00:32:18,720 --> 00:32:20,800
Speaker 1: just excited. We're going on our first trip just us

566
00:32:20,800 --> 00:32:25,320
Speaker 1: too for fun next week for our anniversary. So yeah,

567
00:32:25,680 --> 00:32:30,640
Speaker 1: that's three years of marriage. Yea three years. Well, here's

568
00:32:30,640 --> 00:32:33,240
Speaker 1: the question. Here's how this is gonna work. Um, We'll

569
00:32:33,240 --> 00:32:36,240
Speaker 1: look out for the announcement of your new project. Will

570
00:32:36,280 --> 00:32:39,720
Speaker 1: be excited about that. And your YouTube is incredible if

571
00:32:39,720 --> 00:32:41,960
Speaker 1: anybody who doesn't want to follow it. It was recommended

572
00:32:42,000 --> 00:32:45,640
Speaker 1: to me, uh just to watch by somebody a couple

573
00:32:45,640 --> 00:32:47,400
Speaker 1: of months ago they said you gotta watch this, and

574
00:32:47,440 --> 00:32:50,840
Speaker 1: so I watched uh, probably five of your videos. They're

575
00:32:50,880 --> 00:32:53,760
Speaker 1: really well done, um, and so people should definitely go

576
00:32:53,760 --> 00:32:56,800
Speaker 1: out and check that out. So I'm gonna ask uh

577
00:32:57,040 --> 00:33:00,320
Speaker 1: three questions here your Lauren, if you don't mind, You'll

578
00:33:00,320 --> 00:33:03,360
Speaker 1: answer them according to how your household operates now, and

579
00:33:03,360 --> 00:33:07,160
Speaker 1: then Ashley will be predicting how her household will operate.

580
00:33:07,560 --> 00:33:10,440
Speaker 1: We'll start each question with you answering. Lauren. Here's the

581
00:33:10,440 --> 00:33:17,400
Speaker 1: first question, who changes more of the diapers? It's about Ashley?

582
00:33:18,760 --> 00:33:22,640
Speaker 1: Who will change more than diaper? If Jared wasn't working

583
00:33:22,840 --> 00:33:25,840
Speaker 1: so much, I'd say that he would. Um, I say

584
00:33:25,880 --> 00:33:29,200
Speaker 1: that he's going to take more voluntarily, and I'll have

585
00:33:29,400 --> 00:33:32,040
Speaker 1: to do more because I'm the only one that makes sense.

586
00:33:32,280 --> 00:33:38,680
Speaker 1: That makes sense, Lauren. Who is the more patient parents? Uh?

587
00:33:39,720 --> 00:33:42,880
Speaker 1: This is as well. You know we both have our

588
00:33:42,960 --> 00:33:46,800
Speaker 1: good and bad days. That's great, Hey, Ashley, who will

589
00:33:46,880 --> 00:33:50,240
Speaker 1: be the more patient parent? I'm not a very patient

590
00:33:50,280 --> 00:33:53,240
Speaker 1: person in general, but when it comes to like our

591
00:33:53,280 --> 00:33:57,600
Speaker 1: little cuties, I am so like I'm just referring to

592
00:33:57,640 --> 00:34:01,440
Speaker 1: our relationship with Lois um, so if it's anything like that,

593
00:34:02,160 --> 00:34:05,880
Speaker 1: I will be more patient than Jared. Lauren, who was

594
00:34:05,960 --> 00:34:13,520
Speaker 1: more nervous during labor and delivery? You'r ari definitely act

595
00:34:15,080 --> 00:34:19,840
Speaker 1: who will be more nervous for during labor and delivery?

596
00:34:19,880 --> 00:34:23,160
Speaker 1: You or Jared? I think this is almost fifty fifty,

597
00:34:23,280 --> 00:34:26,919
Speaker 1: even though my fear is high. Um. He has a

598
00:34:26,960 --> 00:34:29,480
Speaker 1: tendency of I'm not sure if I've ever said this

599
00:34:29,560 --> 00:34:35,360
Speaker 1: on the podcast before fainting during fainting during UM, go ahead,

600
00:34:35,560 --> 00:34:46,280
Speaker 1: it's fine during vaginal trauma scenes and movies. He's fainted

601
00:34:46,360 --> 00:34:49,880
Speaker 1: twice in the movie theater, once during a C section

602
00:34:49,960 --> 00:34:55,280
Speaker 1: scene and then once during UM that bottle scene and gone, girl, wait,

603
00:34:55,320 --> 00:34:57,840
Speaker 1: why like is this just a is this like a

604
00:34:59,160 --> 00:35:02,680
Speaker 1: like do you know where that comes from? No? You know,

605
00:35:03,080 --> 00:35:06,640
Speaker 1: he feels he feels so deeply this is he could

606
00:35:06,760 --> 00:35:09,000
Speaker 1: um come, He'll come on and talk about this. It's

607
00:35:09,040 --> 00:35:11,960
Speaker 1: a very funny story. The one time the ambulance had

608
00:35:12,000 --> 00:35:13,360
Speaker 1: to come and his parents had to pick him up

609
00:35:13,400 --> 00:35:16,200
Speaker 1: from the r and they turned the lights up and

610
00:35:16,280 --> 00:35:20,920
Speaker 1: they stopped the movie and everything. Oh my goodness, Oh

611
00:35:21,040 --> 00:35:24,279
Speaker 1: my goodness. Can you imagine, Like how do your parents say,

612
00:35:24,320 --> 00:35:29,279
Speaker 1: are you okay? Jared? What happened? It's like this, there

613
00:35:29,400 --> 00:35:35,439
Speaker 1: was a C section for an alien. UM. Lauren, thank

614
00:35:35,480 --> 00:35:37,920
Speaker 1: you so much for joining us, so we're she the best.

615
00:35:38,239 --> 00:35:42,480
Speaker 1: Thanks for sharing your story with us. Final final question

616
00:35:42,520 --> 00:35:44,080
Speaker 1: for you, Lauren, who do you think the child is?

617
00:35:44,080 --> 00:35:48,440
Speaker 1: Going to look most like Ashley or Jared. I don't know,

618
00:35:48,520 --> 00:35:51,640
Speaker 1: it's hard. I think initially probably Jared because I feel

619
00:35:51,640 --> 00:35:54,040
Speaker 1: like they always look like the dog. But yeah, maybe

620
00:35:54,080 --> 00:35:56,560
Speaker 1: you later on because he's a boy. We'll see. Who

621
00:35:56,600 --> 00:35:59,839
Speaker 1: do you feel like your kids look like? Um les

622
00:36:00,040 --> 00:36:02,960
Speaker 1: Se and Lux definitely look more like Ari, but I

623
00:36:02,960 --> 00:36:06,600
Speaker 1: think Steal looks more like my family. Okay, interesting, Yeah,

624
00:36:06,600 --> 00:36:08,040
Speaker 1: I would say that if I had to, like, I

625
00:36:08,080 --> 00:36:10,880
Speaker 1: can't pick I can't pick up your baby. Your baby

626
00:36:10,880 --> 00:36:13,800
Speaker 1: baby faces right now, but I'd say Unlessie probably definitely

627
00:36:13,800 --> 00:36:17,319
Speaker 1: looks more like Ari. H Yeah, everyone's fun. It was

628
00:36:17,360 --> 00:36:23,400
Speaker 1: really annoying the beginning. Well, Lauren Lindyke, thank you so

629
00:36:23,520 --> 00:36:25,440
Speaker 1: much for coming on. Best of luck with all the

630
00:36:25,480 --> 00:36:27,920
Speaker 1: things coming up in the future. Again, please go check

631
00:36:27,920 --> 00:36:31,520
Speaker 1: out her in Ari's YouTube, and thank you for being

632
00:36:31,880 --> 00:36:34,600
Speaker 1: a guiding mentor to Ashley. She enters into this new

633
00:36:34,640 --> 00:36:38,759
Speaker 1: season of of life for her. Thanks Lauren, good luck

634
00:36:38,800 --> 00:36:53,560
Speaker 1: at bye bye. All right, now we have Crystal Nielsen

635
00:36:53,680 --> 00:36:57,640
Speaker 1: joining us. Hey Crystal, how are you doing? Hi guys,

636
00:36:57,800 --> 00:37:02,279
Speaker 1: I'm so awesome Ashly, I'm so humped for you. Are

637
00:37:02,320 --> 00:37:05,279
Speaker 1: you pumped for me? I'm like so scared, like Jared

638
00:37:05,280 --> 00:37:07,560
Speaker 1: and I talk every day. We're like, did we make

639
00:37:07,600 --> 00:37:12,359
Speaker 1: a huge mistake? Because everyone Okay, So this is what's

640
00:37:12,360 --> 00:37:17,240
Speaker 1: funny when you when you're trying to get pregnant, people

641
00:37:17,280 --> 00:37:20,120
Speaker 1: are like, when are you gonna have kids? Like, oh

642
00:37:20,160 --> 00:37:22,640
Speaker 1: my god, you have to have kids, right, And then

643
00:37:22,960 --> 00:37:26,400
Speaker 1: you get pregnant and people are excited for you, but

644
00:37:26,480 --> 00:37:30,759
Speaker 1: then they also start saying things like um, get ready

645
00:37:30,800 --> 00:37:33,680
Speaker 1: to never sleep again and get ready and a goat

646
00:37:33,719 --> 00:37:36,040
Speaker 1: like comments on Instagram which are so annoying, And one

647
00:37:36,040 --> 00:37:38,440
Speaker 1: time I have like an actual emotional breakdown over it

648
00:37:39,840 --> 00:37:42,600
Speaker 1: where it was like, if you think pregnancy is tough,

649
00:37:42,880 --> 00:37:45,000
Speaker 1: weight to you have the kids, like, oh my gosh,

650
00:37:45,040 --> 00:37:48,120
Speaker 1: eighteen years of your life. I'm like, I have been

651
00:37:48,160 --> 00:37:50,680
Speaker 1: throwing up for twenty seven weeks and you're telling me

652
00:37:50,719 --> 00:37:54,040
Speaker 1: it's going to get worse than this. What is going on?

653
00:37:54,239 --> 00:37:57,360
Speaker 1: So please tell me like that we that this is

654
00:37:57,400 --> 00:38:02,319
Speaker 1: all quote worth it, because that's that's also what everybody says,

655
00:38:02,320 --> 00:38:04,440
Speaker 1: So like, you know what, you know, it's the worst

656
00:38:04,440 --> 00:38:06,480
Speaker 1: part of it's the worst, it's the worst right now,

657
00:38:06,520 --> 00:38:09,560
Speaker 1: but it's worth it, you know. It's so funny like

658
00:38:09,640 --> 00:38:13,319
Speaker 1: with pregnancy and having a baby, like every cliche thing

659
00:38:13,520 --> 00:38:16,799
Speaker 1: you hear ends up being true, like there really is

660
00:38:16,800 --> 00:38:19,600
Speaker 1: a reason why people tell you that, and it really

661
00:38:19,760 --> 00:38:21,960
Speaker 1: is that. I think the biggest thing I wish I

662
00:38:21,960 --> 00:38:24,200
Speaker 1: could take back from my pregnancy was I had so

663
00:38:24,280 --> 00:38:28,400
Speaker 1: much anxiety about birth, about later and delivery, about what

664
00:38:28,480 --> 00:38:30,239
Speaker 1: about when the baby comes and I don't sleep and

665
00:38:30,280 --> 00:38:34,040
Speaker 1: baby only once me, And there was so much just

666
00:38:34,080 --> 00:38:36,640
Speaker 1: like stress and expectations that I had from fear of

667
00:38:36,680 --> 00:38:38,440
Speaker 1: other people kind of sharing that with me, and it

668
00:38:38,480 --> 00:38:41,520
Speaker 1: really took a lot of the joy away because the

669
00:38:41,840 --> 00:38:46,239
Speaker 1: real truth is, you know, you're you have intuition, and

670
00:38:46,280 --> 00:38:49,160
Speaker 1: then when you have a baby too, um, you're gonna

671
00:38:49,160 --> 00:38:51,960
Speaker 1: have that too. You're gonna have those instincts and you

672
00:38:52,000 --> 00:38:54,880
Speaker 1: know that baby, not all these people on Instagram, not

673
00:38:55,000 --> 00:38:58,239
Speaker 1: even like you know, close friends or family members, like

674
00:38:58,320 --> 00:39:01,200
Speaker 1: that's your baby and have that special bond and you

675
00:39:01,280 --> 00:39:03,520
Speaker 1: just got to listen to that and then you're just

676
00:39:03,560 --> 00:39:05,959
Speaker 1: gonna be so happy when that baby's in your arms.

677
00:39:06,000 --> 00:39:08,440
Speaker 1: It is so going to be worth it. Ashley and Labory.

678
00:39:08,520 --> 00:39:13,319
Speaker 1: Delivery wasn't that bad. It was actually really incredible fun experience.

679
00:39:13,719 --> 00:39:18,239
Speaker 1: I want to interject here for just a second, Um,

680
00:39:18,280 --> 00:39:21,240
Speaker 1: it is I've never said this out loud except to Jessica,

681
00:39:21,880 --> 00:39:23,920
Speaker 1: but like, it is one of my fears. And that's

682
00:39:23,920 --> 00:39:26,200
Speaker 1: why we just had Lauren Lindick on Crystal and I

683
00:39:26,239 --> 00:39:27,799
Speaker 1: kind of asked you the same question because it is

684
00:39:27,840 --> 00:39:30,959
Speaker 1: something on my mind often. I want to be a dad,

685
00:39:31,239 --> 00:39:33,600
Speaker 1: like I really do. I've always thought it, you know,

686
00:39:33,680 --> 00:39:35,360
Speaker 1: I could be a dad. I always like was like

687
00:39:35,600 --> 00:39:40,280
Speaker 1: envisioning that you're made to be a dad. But oh yeah,

688
00:39:40,320 --> 00:39:43,080
Speaker 1: but it's like there's this side of me that, uh,

689
00:39:43,280 --> 00:39:46,760
Speaker 1: some some evil or some voice slips in where it's like, uh,

690
00:39:46,800 --> 00:39:49,680
Speaker 1: but like nothing in your life is preparing you for that.

691
00:39:49,760 --> 00:39:52,880
Speaker 1: Like you're you're too selfish. You you you barely like

692
00:39:53,000 --> 00:39:56,279
Speaker 1: find time for anything anything like friendships or anything there.

693
00:39:57,040 --> 00:39:58,799
Speaker 1: You know, right now, how are you going to find

694
00:39:59,040 --> 00:40:00,560
Speaker 1: time for a child? And I asked Lauren, I said,

695
00:40:00,880 --> 00:40:04,040
Speaker 1: is it instinct? Like does it just kick it? Um?

696
00:40:04,120 --> 00:40:06,319
Speaker 1: Do you feel like is there a preparation you can

697
00:40:06,320 --> 00:40:08,799
Speaker 1: do leading up to that moment until the child is born?

698
00:40:08,880 --> 00:40:11,319
Speaker 1: Or does it just happen When you you're holding that

699
00:40:11,360 --> 00:40:12,719
Speaker 1: baby for the first time, you're going to know this

700
00:40:12,760 --> 00:40:17,080
Speaker 1: is it? It's just magic? It just happens. And I'd say,

701
00:40:17,160 --> 00:40:19,000
Speaker 1: like a big thing I know for me personally. I

702
00:40:19,040 --> 00:40:21,399
Speaker 1: also was really afraid to become a mom. A lot

703
00:40:21,440 --> 00:40:24,080
Speaker 1: of that I when I did some deeper work, realized

704
00:40:24,120 --> 00:40:25,799
Speaker 1: a lot of it was like self worth and like

705
00:40:25,920 --> 00:40:29,920
Speaker 1: fear of things repeating from my childhood into like a life.

706
00:40:29,960 --> 00:40:32,040
Speaker 1: And that was so much pressure and stress and fear

707
00:40:32,080 --> 00:40:36,280
Speaker 1: there because it's the unknown, you don't know, but having

708
00:40:36,280 --> 00:40:40,760
Speaker 1: that fear to like keep you from experiencing this transformation

709
00:40:40,800 --> 00:40:44,840
Speaker 1: of yourself, like who you are as a person completely changes.

710
00:40:45,400 --> 00:40:48,200
Speaker 1: And I heard this piece of advice which has been

711
00:40:48,200 --> 00:40:51,919
Speaker 1: my favorite, and it's that becoming a parent actually makes

712
00:40:51,960 --> 00:40:54,759
Speaker 1: you a better person because you're not just showing up

713
00:40:54,800 --> 00:40:57,359
Speaker 1: for yourself. You're not so selfish anymore. You're showing up

714
00:40:57,560 --> 00:41:00,080
Speaker 1: as a better person because your role modeling that in

715
00:41:00,080 --> 00:41:02,239
Speaker 1: front of someone, and so you get to really tap

716
00:41:02,280 --> 00:41:05,040
Speaker 1: into who you want to be as like as an

717
00:41:05,040 --> 00:41:09,040
Speaker 1: incredible person and influence for your child. So it's amazing

718
00:41:09,080 --> 00:41:12,160
Speaker 1: And I think that, like Asha was sharing, a lot

719
00:41:12,239 --> 00:41:15,560
Speaker 1: of women, we just kind of share the bad stuff

720
00:41:15,600 --> 00:41:19,000
Speaker 1: because it's it's memorable, it stands out. It's like, oh no,

721
00:41:19,080 --> 00:41:22,000
Speaker 1: I had it worse. I was saying, you know or whatever,

722
00:41:22,160 --> 00:41:25,000
Speaker 1: like here my labor story, and there's almost like pride

723
00:41:25,000 --> 00:41:28,799
Speaker 1: in it. Um, but we should. I really wish that

724
00:41:29,480 --> 00:41:34,160
Speaker 1: talking about the beauty of becoming a parent was a

725
00:41:34,160 --> 00:41:37,520
Speaker 1: little more memorable as opposed to the standout hard moments.

726
00:41:37,560 --> 00:41:41,600
Speaker 1: Does that make sense. Yeah. I really enjoyed keeping it

727
00:41:41,680 --> 00:41:43,560
Speaker 1: real about the pregnancy because I feel like a lot

728
00:41:43,600 --> 00:41:49,880
Speaker 1: of people are afraid to talk about like their expectation

729
00:41:49,960 --> 00:41:52,680
Speaker 1: is that they're supposed to just be happy all the time. Um,

730
00:41:53,840 --> 00:41:56,280
Speaker 1: all that, And I'm glad that I've been really honest

731
00:41:56,320 --> 00:41:59,440
Speaker 1: about it. But it is so crazy that like the

732
00:41:59,520 --> 00:42:03,319
Speaker 1: aftermath of people are just like, well, you're in for it.

733
00:42:03,440 --> 00:42:06,320
Speaker 1: Your your life is going to change. And all Jared

734
00:42:06,320 --> 00:42:08,160
Speaker 1: and I are talking about over the past couple of

735
00:42:08,200 --> 00:42:11,040
Speaker 1: weeks now is like, are we gonna like our life

736
00:42:11,080 --> 00:42:16,600
Speaker 1: more afterwards than we liked it now? Oh yeah, you're

737
00:42:16,640 --> 00:42:21,920
Speaker 1: gonna love it. Gonna love it? Thank you? Yeah. And

738
00:42:21,920 --> 00:42:24,279
Speaker 1: we only fear things that we don't know. I was

739
00:42:24,320 --> 00:42:26,919
Speaker 1: actually just being a book by Dr Joe to spend

740
00:42:27,000 --> 00:42:29,600
Speaker 1: a break in the habit of becoming yourself. Have you

741
00:42:29,640 --> 00:42:32,680
Speaker 1: heard of him or that book? I think I may

742
00:42:32,680 --> 00:42:36,080
Speaker 1: have heard it from you talking about on Instagram. Probably

743
00:42:37,120 --> 00:42:39,160
Speaker 1: it's an incredible book, and he says, like we fear

744
00:42:39,200 --> 00:42:42,480
Speaker 1: the unknown, and so this practice of like visualization, when

745
00:42:42,560 --> 00:42:45,880
Speaker 1: we can actually walk through, for instance, buying house, getting married,

746
00:42:46,160 --> 00:42:48,840
Speaker 1: going through labor and delivery, welcoming that baby, when we

747
00:42:48,880 --> 00:42:53,160
Speaker 1: can sit and actually create a real memory, a real emotion,

748
00:42:53,360 --> 00:42:55,600
Speaker 1: and we can we can create this new reality of

749
00:42:55,640 --> 00:42:57,880
Speaker 1: the future we walk through it, it's not as scary

750
00:42:57,920 --> 00:43:00,600
Speaker 1: because we know what to expect. And that was a

751
00:43:00,640 --> 00:43:03,880
Speaker 1: big technique of visualization that I did preparing for labor

752
00:43:03,920 --> 00:43:07,160
Speaker 1: and delivery. It made me feel empowered as opposed to

753
00:43:07,200 --> 00:43:10,279
Speaker 1: being like what is going to happen? And we did

754
00:43:10,280 --> 00:43:12,880
Speaker 1: have like a scary situation, but I had done my research.

755
00:43:12,920 --> 00:43:15,359
Speaker 1: I spoke with my aunt who's a labor and delivery nurse,

756
00:43:15,400 --> 00:43:18,480
Speaker 1: and she told me, you know of some things to

757
00:43:18,520 --> 00:43:21,400
Speaker 1: anticipate and expect. So when you have the knowledge, you

758
00:43:21,400 --> 00:43:26,320
Speaker 1: feel confident going into situations. Well, thank you for that.

759
00:43:26,320 --> 00:43:29,640
Speaker 1: That Actually, that's a technique that I am am down

760
00:43:29,680 --> 00:43:31,759
Speaker 1: for and I think I will start trying and it's

761
00:43:31,760 --> 00:43:34,160
Speaker 1: gonna be easy and it's gonna be fun. And that's

762
00:43:34,160 --> 00:43:36,239
Speaker 1: just like the intention that you got a step for it.

763
00:43:36,360 --> 00:43:39,080
Speaker 1: Do you think do you think at all crystal too.

764
00:43:39,280 --> 00:43:41,400
Speaker 1: Like as we talked about these Instagram comments, and we

765
00:43:41,400 --> 00:43:44,600
Speaker 1: talked about people's individual experiences being a mother and a

766
00:43:44,680 --> 00:43:49,920
Speaker 1: father and kind of how they have experienced it. Am I.

767
00:43:49,920 --> 00:43:52,320
Speaker 1: I was talking to my buddy the other day, um,

768
00:43:52,360 --> 00:43:56,240
Speaker 1: who is a father of two now, and he said,

769
00:43:56,320 --> 00:43:58,840
Speaker 1: you know, at first, you would hear all this stuff

770
00:43:58,880 --> 00:44:00,759
Speaker 1: and you just kind of accept it, and you're like,

771
00:44:00,920 --> 00:44:03,880
Speaker 1: you know, I'm gonna be tired, and I'm gonna be grumpy,

772
00:44:04,000 --> 00:44:06,040
Speaker 1: and I'm gonna you know, everything, all my time is

773
00:44:06,080 --> 00:44:07,719
Speaker 1: gonna be taken away and all this stuff. You hear

774
00:44:07,760 --> 00:44:11,279
Speaker 1: all of this and you start to like internalize it,

775
00:44:11,360 --> 00:44:13,440
Speaker 1: and he goes, you know, what I've learned is that

776
00:44:13,560 --> 00:44:15,719
Speaker 1: parenthood is a lot of what you make of it.

777
00:44:15,840 --> 00:44:17,239
Speaker 1: Like if you look at this stuff as a as

778
00:44:17,280 --> 00:44:18,759
Speaker 1: a gift, if you look at it as fun and

779
00:44:18,840 --> 00:44:22,919
Speaker 1: a challenge. Uh, it doesn't have to be like this

780
00:44:23,560 --> 00:44:27,359
Speaker 1: crazy like oh my gosh, everything's changing type of thing.

781
00:44:27,360 --> 00:44:29,319
Speaker 1: It's an enhancement to life you have before. Do you

782
00:44:29,360 --> 00:44:32,359
Speaker 1: believe in that at all? Absolutely? I mean the book

783
00:44:32,400 --> 00:44:34,960
Speaker 1: man searched for meaning. I mean, the guy was in

784
00:44:35,040 --> 00:44:37,719
Speaker 1: a concentration camp and he chose and a lot of

785
00:44:37,719 --> 00:44:40,480
Speaker 1: people could look at that as a very defeating moment

786
00:44:40,480 --> 00:44:42,960
Speaker 1: in their life, and he chose to search for the

787
00:44:43,040 --> 00:44:45,480
Speaker 1: meaning and it search for how this would empower him,

788
00:44:45,520 --> 00:44:47,799
Speaker 1: and he came out and became this incredible speaker that

789
00:44:47,840 --> 00:44:51,440
Speaker 1: has influenced millions of lives. And so that's a big thing.

790
00:44:51,520 --> 00:44:55,319
Speaker 1: Is things happen to us. Some people can see him

791
00:44:55,360 --> 00:44:57,440
Speaker 1: as traumatic, some can see it as a blessing and

792
00:44:57,480 --> 00:44:59,680
Speaker 1: as an opportunity to get stronger. And that is a

793
00:44:59,719 --> 00:45:04,160
Speaker 1: ment resiliency that not only just parenthood, but thinking about,

794
00:45:04,600 --> 00:45:07,959
Speaker 1: you know, with your you know, fitness goals, or any

795
00:45:08,000 --> 00:45:10,680
Speaker 1: other situation in your life, that is exactly how you

796
00:45:10,719 --> 00:45:15,920
Speaker 1: empower yourself. So I'm totally with you there, Ben Crystal.

797
00:45:16,120 --> 00:45:18,759
Speaker 1: We have a game that we want to play with you,

798
00:45:18,840 --> 00:45:20,759
Speaker 1: But first I have to ask you a little bit

799
00:45:21,120 --> 00:45:24,560
Speaker 1: about just like getting back into the health and wellness

800
00:45:24,600 --> 00:45:29,200
Speaker 1: journey after baby, because I was in the best shape

801
00:45:29,200 --> 00:45:31,600
Speaker 1: of my life when I got pregnant and then I

802
00:45:31,640 --> 00:45:34,239
Speaker 1: got super sick. You know, like I've said multiple times

803
00:45:34,280 --> 00:45:37,720
Speaker 1: in this podcast, over twenty weeks, couldn't really just couldn't

804
00:45:37,719 --> 00:45:41,040
Speaker 1: do anything right. And yeah, and now I'm at this

805
00:45:41,080 --> 00:45:44,240
Speaker 1: point where it's like hard you know, everything is getting

806
00:45:44,239 --> 00:45:46,480
Speaker 1: squished in my lungs and hard to breathe and all that,

807
00:45:46,920 --> 00:45:50,720
Speaker 1: and I'm like out of breath doing the simplest things,

808
00:45:51,120 --> 00:45:53,200
Speaker 1: and I'm like, how am I going to work my

809
00:45:53,280 --> 00:45:57,839
Speaker 1: way back into shape, especially when being so tired? So

810
00:45:57,960 --> 00:46:00,239
Speaker 1: please give me all your advice. You know what it's

811
00:46:00,239 --> 00:46:02,719
Speaker 1: like with any big goal or dream. I'm sure, like

812
00:46:02,760 --> 00:46:04,920
Speaker 1: starting this podcast, you just start with a vision of

813
00:46:04,920 --> 00:46:06,880
Speaker 1: where you want to go, and then you have a

814
00:46:06,880 --> 00:46:10,680
Speaker 1: little workback plan of little steps you can start taking. Um.

815
00:46:10,719 --> 00:46:12,160
Speaker 1: Like when I work with clients and they're like, I

816
00:46:12,200 --> 00:46:14,719
Speaker 1: want to lose fifty pounds, we can't get frustrated that

817
00:46:14,719 --> 00:46:17,200
Speaker 1: they don't lose fifty pounds in one week. We know

818
00:46:17,280 --> 00:46:19,640
Speaker 1: it's gonna take take time to put the fifty pounds on,

819
00:46:19,800 --> 00:46:22,479
Speaker 1: it's gonna take time to put take the fifty pounds off.

820
00:46:22,800 --> 00:46:24,919
Speaker 1: And pregnancy is the same way. It takes nine months

821
00:46:24,920 --> 00:46:28,040
Speaker 1: for you to build this beautiful baby and have your

822
00:46:28,040 --> 00:46:31,560
Speaker 1: body support it. And your body deserves some time and

823
00:46:31,600 --> 00:46:36,200
Speaker 1: deserves some space and some grace to slowly acclimate back

824
00:46:36,239 --> 00:46:40,920
Speaker 1: into this new um version of itself. And so the

825
00:46:40,960 --> 00:46:43,520
Speaker 1: best tips the things that I did is really small

826
00:46:43,520 --> 00:46:45,520
Speaker 1: and really simple, and this is what I've you know,

827
00:46:45,719 --> 00:46:48,880
Speaker 1: shared with all women is just focus on your hydration,

828
00:46:49,080 --> 00:46:52,320
Speaker 1: focus on foods that give you energy. Can be tempting

829
00:46:52,360 --> 00:46:55,000
Speaker 1: to go for a lot of unhealthy foods because they're

830
00:46:55,080 --> 00:46:57,680
Speaker 1: quick and easy, but you're really thinking about fueling your

831
00:46:57,680 --> 00:47:00,680
Speaker 1: body because you're fueling milk supply and every thing. And

832
00:47:00,880 --> 00:47:04,440
Speaker 1: just walking baby wearing and walking do it with Jared

833
00:47:04,640 --> 00:47:07,239
Speaker 1: gives you time together because you fresh air, gets you

834
00:47:07,280 --> 00:47:10,560
Speaker 1: out of the house. And most importantly, the sunshine is

835
00:47:10,560 --> 00:47:14,440
Speaker 1: great for baby because they learned how to balance their um.

836
00:47:15,239 --> 00:47:20,040
Speaker 1: I'm totally blanking on what it's called, but they're circadian rhythm,

837
00:47:20,080 --> 00:47:22,320
Speaker 1: so that is really great. And I'm always so happy

838
00:47:22,320 --> 00:47:24,400
Speaker 1: to be a resource for you, Ashley for like do

839
00:47:24,440 --> 00:47:27,319
Speaker 1: you questions because I did get prenatal certified while I

840
00:47:27,440 --> 00:47:30,719
Speaker 1: was pregnant to actually understand the human body as well

841
00:47:30,760 --> 00:47:35,319
Speaker 1: as postpartum. So so awesome book of resources for you.

842
00:47:35,880 --> 00:47:39,640
Speaker 1: I know you are and I will take it into Yeah,

843
00:47:40,160 --> 00:47:42,040
Speaker 1: I think a puppy comes before the baby. For me,

844
00:47:42,080 --> 00:47:45,320
Speaker 1: I'm I'm I'm very much. I was. I was laughing

845
00:47:45,320 --> 00:47:46,680
Speaker 1: the other day I was driving my cars. You know,

846
00:47:46,760 --> 00:47:50,040
Speaker 1: I'm very much in a in a good spot. I

847
00:47:50,080 --> 00:47:51,399
Speaker 1: like where I'm at, But I was like, I'm gonna

848
00:47:51,440 --> 00:47:54,480
Speaker 1: just follow my friends and follow Ashley and Jared here,

849
00:47:54,480 --> 00:47:56,719
Speaker 1: and like I'll walk into this behind so that I

850
00:47:56,760 --> 00:48:01,440
Speaker 1: get all the hand me downs. It is. You're feeling

851
00:48:01,480 --> 00:48:05,160
Speaker 1: really good about my strategy right now, Crystal. We are

852
00:48:05,200 --> 00:48:07,040
Speaker 1: going to play a little game with you. The first

853
00:48:07,080 --> 00:48:09,600
Speaker 1: question I wanna ask, though, so how this game works.

854
00:48:09,800 --> 00:48:11,760
Speaker 1: We just played it with Lauren. You're going to answer

855
00:48:12,680 --> 00:48:15,200
Speaker 1: according to like where you're at in life, and then

856
00:48:15,480 --> 00:48:19,520
Speaker 1: Ashley answer into what her prediction will be. But the

857
00:48:19,600 --> 00:48:22,480
Speaker 1: first question is really just for you to answer for Ashley.

858
00:48:22,520 --> 00:48:24,279
Speaker 1: This is just a fun little tidbit. So actually get

859
00:48:24,280 --> 00:48:27,600
Speaker 1: your notebook out here. Uh, Crystal, what are the must

860
00:48:27,680 --> 00:48:30,720
Speaker 1: haves in a baby bag? And then what is non essential?

861
00:48:30,760 --> 00:48:33,319
Speaker 1: What ends up going to the bottom and never getting used,

862
00:48:33,520 --> 00:48:37,200
Speaker 1: like the diaper bag? Yeah, excellent questions. Will number one.

863
00:48:37,239 --> 00:48:39,040
Speaker 1: It should be a suitcase that you can wheel in.

864
00:48:40,800 --> 00:48:46,319
Speaker 1: Absolutely a big one too. Um an outfit for you.

865
00:48:47,600 --> 00:48:49,799
Speaker 1: We're talking about hospital back and we're talking about daily

866
00:48:49,840 --> 00:48:54,640
Speaker 1: diaper bag, diaper bag, the diaper bag. Oh okay, digestive

867
00:48:54,719 --> 00:48:58,080
Speaker 1: enzimes by Garden of Life for sure. Um, let's go

868
00:48:58,120 --> 00:49:04,040
Speaker 1: into every component opponent and that's me, snacks for me, um, diapers, wives,

869
00:49:04,120 --> 00:49:06,520
Speaker 1: and then change a couple of change of clothes. I

870
00:49:06,520 --> 00:49:09,719
Speaker 1: think that's really the essential um as well as some

871
00:49:09,800 --> 00:49:13,200
Speaker 1: baby talenttle and nail clippers. That's pretty much all you mean,

872
00:49:13,640 --> 00:49:16,520
Speaker 1: really really, that's so the baby bag doesn't have to

873
00:49:16,560 --> 00:49:19,359
Speaker 1: be massive, like you don't have to strap it around.

874
00:49:19,360 --> 00:49:23,120
Speaker 1: Clippers in the baby bag. You will be so surprised

875
00:49:23,160 --> 00:49:25,520
Speaker 1: how many times you're going to manicure that baby's nails

876
00:49:25,880 --> 00:49:28,560
Speaker 1: every week and a half. You've got to clip the nails.

877
00:49:29,520 --> 00:49:33,640
Speaker 1: They're gonna cut you. I got some of those gloves

878
00:49:33,640 --> 00:49:37,440
Speaker 1: already and those little mittens. Yeah, yeah, Well here's the

879
00:49:37,520 --> 00:49:41,000
Speaker 1: questions Crystal again, you answer them according to where your

880
00:49:41,000 --> 00:49:43,000
Speaker 1: life is at now, and then n Ashley and some

881
00:49:43,320 --> 00:49:48,600
Speaker 1: predicting on where her and Jared will stand. So, Crystal,

882
00:49:48,960 --> 00:49:51,719
Speaker 1: who in your life takes the most pictures of the baby? Now?

883
00:49:51,760 --> 00:49:57,240
Speaker 1: You are included in this conversation as well, for sure me? Ashley,

884
00:49:57,280 --> 00:50:00,480
Speaker 1: who will take more pictures of the baby? For sure? Me?

885
00:50:00,640 --> 00:50:03,360
Speaker 1: And that alarms me because my eye cloud is already

886
00:50:03,920 --> 00:50:08,000
Speaker 1: totally It's just it's it's out of storage and I

887
00:50:08,040 --> 00:50:11,640
Speaker 1: have the most storage that you can buy an eye cloud.

888
00:50:12,040 --> 00:50:14,279
Speaker 1: So my job in the next four weeks is to

889
00:50:14,360 --> 00:50:17,960
Speaker 1: just clear a ton out. That's a fun job. That's

890
00:50:17,960 --> 00:50:19,800
Speaker 1: when I found Jessica's picture on my phone because I

891
00:50:19,840 --> 00:50:22,120
Speaker 1: had taken it like six months when I had to

892
00:50:22,120 --> 00:50:27,000
Speaker 1: clean it up. Anyways, good story. Next question, Crystal. In

893
00:50:27,040 --> 00:50:30,160
Speaker 1: your life, who is the quickest to call the pediatrician

894
00:50:30,200 --> 00:50:38,400
Speaker 1: when the baby is sick? Miles is mom? I love it.

895
00:50:39,600 --> 00:50:42,800
Speaker 1: I love it. Ashley, who will be the first to

896
00:50:43,000 --> 00:50:45,439
Speaker 1: want to call or call the pediatrician when the baby

897
00:50:45,480 --> 00:50:49,640
Speaker 1: is sick? Um, well, my dad's a doctor, so we're

898
00:50:49,640 --> 00:50:52,480
Speaker 1: going to have him, and you know, he's the first

899
00:50:52,560 --> 00:50:55,560
Speaker 1: call and and then afterward it would still be me

900
00:50:55,680 --> 00:51:01,960
Speaker 1: going to pediatrician. I think. Yeah, Crystal, who is or

901
00:51:02,080 --> 00:51:16,080
Speaker 1: will be the stricter parent? Oh? Maybe Miles, Yeah, maybe Miles. Yeah.

902
00:51:16,120 --> 00:51:20,120
Speaker 1: He's really more discipline with our dogs. That's that's exactly

903
00:51:20,320 --> 00:51:24,920
Speaker 1: what I equate to. And that's what I was gonna say, Jared,

904
00:51:25,000 --> 00:51:27,839
Speaker 1: just because he's stricter with Lois. So he's also like

905
00:51:28,080 --> 00:51:30,680
Speaker 1: way more fun with Lois too. At the same time,

906
00:51:30,760 --> 00:51:35,239
Speaker 1: like he rough plays her. He's just like you know,

907
00:51:35,320 --> 00:51:39,120
Speaker 1: he'll he'll tackle her but like also when she's bad,

908
00:51:39,320 --> 00:51:44,680
Speaker 1: he's way more likely to go yeah and dogs and

909
00:51:44,760 --> 00:51:46,680
Speaker 1: need like an elf. Milt. We literally just have a

910
00:51:46,760 --> 00:51:49,040
Speaker 1: discussion like yesterday. But I feel like when and Dark

911
00:51:49,080 --> 00:51:51,720
Speaker 1: gets older, I might step in and be more strict

912
00:51:51,719 --> 00:51:54,399
Speaker 1: because like with her being a girl, I'm definitely gonna

913
00:51:54,400 --> 00:51:56,360
Speaker 1: be like, oh no, no, no, I know what you're doing.

914
00:51:57,239 --> 00:52:01,000
Speaker 1: I played those games very ner us for that stage.

915
00:52:01,680 --> 00:52:05,360
Speaker 1: So Ashley, who will be the stricter parent you or Jared? Jared,

916
00:52:06,920 --> 00:52:09,880
Speaker 1: no question, I'm a little bit gonna be more more

917
00:52:09,880 --> 00:52:12,800
Speaker 1: strict with education and like doing your homework and stuff,

918
00:52:12,840 --> 00:52:16,200
Speaker 1: But as far as manners and behavior goes, it'll be Jared.

919
00:52:16,520 --> 00:52:19,160
Speaker 1: There you go. What a team. Hey, Crystal, before we

920
00:52:19,239 --> 00:52:21,160
Speaker 1: like go here, thank you again for coming on. Any

921
00:52:21,320 --> 00:52:23,200
Speaker 1: updates in your life that you'd love to share with

922
00:52:23,200 --> 00:52:30,120
Speaker 1: anybody listening? Um, any updates? I mean, Miles and I

923
00:52:30,160 --> 00:52:32,879
Speaker 1: just put in our notice for our current place right now,

924
00:52:33,200 --> 00:52:36,239
Speaker 1: and we have sixty days to find somewhere to live.

925
00:52:36,360 --> 00:52:39,160
Speaker 1: I haven't. We have no idea where we're going. Looking

926
00:52:39,200 --> 00:52:42,200
Speaker 1: at Nashville, we were we were looking to move out

927
00:52:42,200 --> 00:52:43,719
Speaker 1: of state. I think we're going to stay in San

928
00:52:43,760 --> 00:52:47,880
Speaker 1: Diego because I mean in San Diego, and you know,

929
00:52:48,000 --> 00:52:51,319
Speaker 1: our support unit most importantly is here, and I we

930
00:52:51,360 --> 00:52:53,520
Speaker 1: realize we really want and are to have that support

931
00:52:53,600 --> 00:52:57,200
Speaker 1: growing up. So um, that's just the big thing. Um.

932
00:52:57,560 --> 00:53:00,080
Speaker 1: I'd say, I'm definitely moving. I'm currently getting so to

933
00:53:00,160 --> 00:53:04,000
Speaker 1: find an NLP Neural linguistic programming UM. And I'm going

934
00:53:04,040 --> 00:53:07,239
Speaker 1: to be launching some group coaching to really work with

935
00:53:07,680 --> 00:53:11,560
Speaker 1: empowering women. UM. And I'm really pumped about it here

936
00:53:11,560 --> 00:53:13,600
Speaker 1: coming up in the next couple of months. You do

937
00:53:13,640 --> 00:53:15,400
Speaker 1: have some crazy stuff going on. You're gonna be moving,

938
00:53:15,440 --> 00:53:19,000
Speaker 1: You're starting a whole new program that's really exciting. And Crystal,

939
00:53:19,040 --> 00:53:20,799
Speaker 1: thank you for taking the time to come on and

940
00:53:20,840 --> 00:53:24,080
Speaker 1: talk to us and celebrate Jared Nashley and their future

941
00:53:24,239 --> 00:53:26,680
Speaker 1: baby boy. Oh thank you. And I just want to

942
00:53:26,680 --> 00:53:30,600
Speaker 1: say I'm so happy to connect with you guys because

943
00:53:30,760 --> 00:53:34,320
Speaker 1: both of you have had big life transitions happen recently.

944
00:53:34,480 --> 00:53:38,880
Speaker 1: Been congratulations on getting married, actually having a baby, becoming

945
00:53:38,880 --> 00:53:41,760
Speaker 1: a mommy. It's so amazing and I'm just so proud

946
00:53:41,800 --> 00:53:46,560
Speaker 1: to watch your guys journey. The whole theme of this episode,

947
00:53:46,560 --> 00:53:49,239
Speaker 1: Crystal is evolving your journey because we felt like the

948
00:53:49,320 --> 00:53:52,520
Speaker 1: last uh, you know, twelve months for us has really

949
00:53:52,800 --> 00:53:55,359
Speaker 1: you know, we've evolved this humans a lot, and just

950
00:53:55,520 --> 00:53:58,799
Speaker 1: in our experience, So thank you for for saying that

951
00:53:58,840 --> 00:54:01,120
Speaker 1: with us. Oh ah. And then thank you for that

952
00:54:01,160 --> 00:54:03,960
Speaker 1: adorable baby gift that you guys sent to Antara when

953
00:54:03,960 --> 00:54:07,160
Speaker 1: I announced our pregnancy. Because she still wears the Patagonia

954
00:54:07,239 --> 00:54:11,560
Speaker 1: vest and that little pink Furt jacket, so she killed

955
00:54:11,680 --> 00:54:13,520
Speaker 1: rocks that they fit her perfectly. So I think of

956
00:54:13,600 --> 00:54:16,000
Speaker 1: you guys every time I put it on. It looking fancy,

957
00:54:16,280 --> 00:54:20,760
Speaker 1: she's looking fancy. There you go. Well, thanks Crystal, guys.

958
00:54:21,000 --> 00:54:37,959
Speaker 1: By Hi, how are you guys? Good? How are you?

959
00:54:39,480 --> 00:54:43,200
Speaker 1: I'm okay? How are you feeling? It's weird. I feel

960
00:54:43,480 --> 00:54:45,759
Speaker 1: my best at thirty five weeks and I have the

961
00:54:45,960 --> 00:54:50,439
Speaker 1: entire time. Really yeah, I mean I know that's very rare,

962
00:54:50,480 --> 00:54:55,319
Speaker 1: and I think it's probably going to end soon. I mean,

963
00:54:55,400 --> 00:55:02,440
Speaker 1: it's it's inevitable that it's going to end. Baby. What

964
00:55:02,480 --> 00:55:06,000
Speaker 1: do you mean is I feel like I will probably

965
00:55:06,040 --> 00:55:08,520
Speaker 1: start feeling that like need for him to come out now,

966
00:55:09,280 --> 00:55:11,919
Speaker 1: just like you know, like just even turning around in bed,

967
00:55:12,000 --> 00:55:19,160
Speaker 1: it's just like totally okay, you can turn I can

968
00:55:19,200 --> 00:55:22,120
Speaker 1: sleep on my stomach. I mean I'm so excited to

969
00:55:22,160 --> 00:55:24,600
Speaker 1: sleep on my stomach. I'm a stomaic sleeper. She is

970
00:55:24,640 --> 00:55:27,040
Speaker 1: a stomach sleeper. Well, we are everybody listening. We have

971
00:55:27,600 --> 00:55:31,600
Speaker 1: the wonderful Trista Sutter on the podcast right now talking

972
00:55:31,840 --> 00:55:35,359
Speaker 1: with Ashley about everything good and everything to expect and

973
00:55:35,600 --> 00:55:39,040
Speaker 1: sharing all of her wisdom on parenthood. Trista, thanks for

974
00:55:39,080 --> 00:55:42,920
Speaker 1: joining Almost Famous. Thanks for having me. I'm so excited

975
00:55:42,960 --> 00:55:46,400
Speaker 1: to celebrate you and your baby boy. Thank you so much.

976
00:55:46,600 --> 00:55:51,200
Speaker 1: So We've had Lauren Lindyke and Crystal Nielsen on so far,

977
00:55:51,440 --> 00:55:54,759
Speaker 1: and both of them, you know, have kids in the

978
00:55:54,840 --> 00:55:57,879
Speaker 1: you know the baby face yea. And what I wanted

979
00:55:57,920 --> 00:56:00,480
Speaker 1: to talk to you about is what face since you

980
00:56:00,480 --> 00:56:06,279
Speaker 1: have teenagers has been your favorite? Because I expect that

981
00:56:06,400 --> 00:56:12,040
Speaker 1: I am going to like more being up a teenage phase.

982
00:56:12,120 --> 00:56:16,839
Speaker 1: But like my dad, he started really like hanging out

983
00:56:16,880 --> 00:56:19,680
Speaker 1: with us when we got to like fourth grade, and

984
00:56:19,719 --> 00:56:22,040
Speaker 1: you can sit around the kitchen table and like have

985
00:56:22,200 --> 00:56:27,920
Speaker 1: actual conversations with them. What what like? Define the stages?

986
00:56:28,160 --> 00:56:34,040
Speaker 1: For me? It's so hard because honestly, I know this

987
00:56:34,120 --> 00:56:36,800
Speaker 1: is a total cop out, but I do love little

988
00:56:36,840 --> 00:56:40,040
Speaker 1: bits of every stage. I am a I'm a total

989
00:56:40,080 --> 00:56:42,920
Speaker 1: baby person. So if I see a baby in public,

990
00:56:43,160 --> 00:56:45,920
Speaker 1: I'm like booing and eyeing and like totally trying to

991
00:56:45,920 --> 00:56:48,799
Speaker 1: get their attention and love on them. I'm I'm a

992
00:56:48,960 --> 00:56:55,920
Speaker 1: huge baby mom. But I did really truly love when

993
00:56:56,000 --> 00:56:59,560
Speaker 1: they started talking. So it's kind of about sixteen months

994
00:56:59,560 --> 00:57:04,480
Speaker 1: old and they get that personality and and they just

995
00:57:04,680 --> 00:57:10,719
Speaker 1: start exploring expressing themselves, and so that was really fun.

996
00:57:10,760 --> 00:57:14,600
Speaker 1: But I do have to say right now, also Max's

997
00:57:14,680 --> 00:57:18,800
Speaker 1: fourteen and he's like wants nothing to do with us basically.

998
00:57:19,120 --> 00:57:24,320
Speaker 1: But Blakesly, on the other hand, is twelve and she

999
00:57:25,160 --> 00:57:27,760
Speaker 1: is loving her mom right now. We have such a

1000
00:57:27,800 --> 00:57:30,760
Speaker 1: great friendship. The other day she told me, Um, we

1001
00:57:30,760 --> 00:57:34,400
Speaker 1: were just snuggling in bed and she said, Mom, you're

1002
00:57:34,480 --> 00:57:38,040
Speaker 1: my favorite of all my friends, and I about I know,

1003
00:57:38,560 --> 00:57:42,200
Speaker 1: I know. So so there are just sweet little moments

1004
00:57:42,520 --> 00:57:45,840
Speaker 1: with everything. Of course, lots of it is really hard too,

1005
00:57:45,880 --> 00:57:50,200
Speaker 1: but I really do love every phase. What was the

1006
00:57:50,240 --> 00:57:55,960
Speaker 1: hardest phase? Oh goodness, Um, well, teenage years are definitely

1007
00:57:56,040 --> 00:58:03,960
Speaker 1: not easy. Um, you know, it's it's difficult because I

1008
00:58:04,040 --> 00:58:07,840
Speaker 1: wanted two kids, because I wanted them to have a

1009
00:58:07,920 --> 00:58:11,960
Speaker 1: play partner to me too. Friends. I looked at myself

1010
00:58:11,960 --> 00:58:14,600
Speaker 1: in the mirror today and I was like, you know,

1011
00:58:14,640 --> 00:58:16,920
Speaker 1: out of breath with my lungs all compressed, and I'm like,

1012
00:58:18,120 --> 00:58:20,640
Speaker 1: I can't believe I'm going to do this again. That

1013
00:58:21,160 --> 00:58:25,000
Speaker 1: that so that he's you know, has to somebody, Ben,

1014
00:58:25,200 --> 00:58:27,080
Speaker 1: we have to actually talk about that, because you are

1015
00:58:27,120 --> 00:58:32,840
Speaker 1: an only child and you turned out fantastic. So yeah,

1016
00:58:32,920 --> 00:58:34,560
Speaker 1: So that's why I kind of wanted to have a

1017
00:58:34,600 --> 00:58:37,280
Speaker 1: sibling because I grew up as an only child. I

1018
00:58:37,320 --> 00:58:40,439
Speaker 1: wanted them to have a play partner. And they really

1019
00:58:40,480 --> 00:58:43,600
Speaker 1: are not close like that, and maybe they will be older,

1020
00:58:43,640 --> 00:58:46,280
Speaker 1: but it's hard to see them. Kind of it's not

1021
00:58:46,400 --> 00:58:48,680
Speaker 1: hard to see them in their own element because I

1022
00:58:48,760 --> 00:58:52,840
Speaker 1: love seeing but both of them thrive independently. But I

1023
00:58:52,960 --> 00:58:56,320
Speaker 1: also would love for them to be close. And also,

1024
00:58:56,520 --> 00:58:59,360
Speaker 1: I you know, the kids, we were super close. I

1025
00:58:59,400 --> 00:59:03,160
Speaker 1: mean I was stay at home. I'm still I still am,

1026
00:59:03,160 --> 00:59:06,400
Speaker 1: and I always had a really close close relationship with

1027
00:59:06,400 --> 00:59:09,400
Speaker 1: both of my kids. But now that the teenagers are

1028
00:59:09,440 --> 00:59:12,080
Speaker 1: creeping in, the moodiness is setting in and they kind

1029
00:59:12,080 --> 00:59:16,280
Speaker 1: of are disconnecting and establishing that independence. So that's that's

1030
00:59:16,320 --> 00:59:18,440
Speaker 1: kind of hard. I don't know if you knew this, Astley,

1031
00:59:18,600 --> 00:59:21,439
Speaker 1: but Tristan and I have a lot in common. We're

1032
00:59:21,480 --> 00:59:25,880
Speaker 1: both Indiana University grads, so we both went to AYU.

1033
00:59:26,000 --> 00:59:29,240
Speaker 1: We're both only children, Trista. That brings in a question

1034
00:59:29,280 --> 00:59:32,720
Speaker 1: for me to you, then, did you feel all unprepared

1035
00:59:33,200 --> 00:59:35,000
Speaker 1: when you did have two kids to figure out how

1036
00:59:35,000 --> 00:59:38,560
Speaker 1: that operates? Because you know, you and I both grew

1037
00:59:38,680 --> 00:59:41,480
Speaker 1: up without anybody else around. You know there's good and

1038
00:59:41,520 --> 00:59:44,200
Speaker 1: bad to that, But did you feel like you could

1039
00:59:44,280 --> 00:59:48,439
Speaker 1: help them build a friendship since you, as a child,

1040
00:59:48,480 --> 00:59:51,560
Speaker 1: never really saw that with your sibling. Well, you know

1041
00:59:51,640 --> 00:59:56,400
Speaker 1: what I did. I was lucky enough to have a

1042
00:59:56,560 --> 00:59:59,720
Speaker 1: neighbor who kind of took me in because my parents

1043
00:59:59,800 --> 01:00:02,360
Speaker 1: got divorced when I was in fifth grade and my

1044
01:00:02,400 --> 01:00:05,480
Speaker 1: mom was still working, and so I would go to

1045
01:00:05,560 --> 01:00:09,000
Speaker 1: my friend's house like growing up, that's where I was

1046
01:00:09,120 --> 01:00:12,400
Speaker 1: all the time. And they had three kids, one older

1047
01:00:12,480 --> 01:00:15,360
Speaker 1: daughter than me, one younger daughter than me, and one

1048
01:00:15,400 --> 01:00:18,480
Speaker 1: younger son. So I kind of had siblings in that

1049
01:00:18,560 --> 01:00:23,520
Speaker 1: relationship or that family relationship. Um, but I will say

1050
01:00:23,560 --> 01:00:27,840
Speaker 1: that I think I got a lot of help from

1051
01:00:27,840 --> 01:00:31,680
Speaker 1: my friends. Um, I had a lot of like mommy

1052
01:00:31,720 --> 01:00:33,640
Speaker 1: and me. I went to a mommy and me group

1053
01:00:33,680 --> 01:00:37,520
Speaker 1: when I was when Max was just I mean, he

1054
01:00:37,600 --> 01:00:41,800
Speaker 1: was brand new, and I still one of my best

1055
01:00:41,800 --> 01:00:45,760
Speaker 1: friends here is still from that group, and and they,

1056
01:00:46,080 --> 01:00:48,080
Speaker 1: you know, we would always get together in these big

1057
01:00:48,120 --> 01:00:52,400
Speaker 1: groups and I learned a lot from them. So I

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01:00:52,840 --> 01:00:58,080
Speaker 1: think that it came from not only the relationship I

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01:00:58,120 --> 01:01:01,400
Speaker 1: had growing up with my neighbor, but also from my

1060
01:01:01,480 --> 01:01:03,560
Speaker 1: friends and just seeing how they were with their kids.

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01:01:03,600 --> 01:01:06,680
Speaker 1: Besides the fact that I was a pediatric physical therapist

1062
01:01:06,720 --> 01:01:10,800
Speaker 1: for four years and so you know, I had UM.

1063
01:01:10,920 --> 01:01:15,120
Speaker 1: I had experiences with families who had multiple children in

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01:01:15,160 --> 01:01:21,000
Speaker 1: my work environment before I had kids. UM with go ahead, up,

1065
01:01:21,080 --> 01:01:24,560
Speaker 1: yeah I do. I'm gonna switch gears here, UM pretty drastically.

1066
01:01:24,920 --> 01:01:26,480
Speaker 1: But I feel like this is a this is a

1067
01:01:26,800 --> 01:01:29,520
Speaker 1: this is a question, maybe not a follow up another thought,

1068
01:01:30,520 --> 01:01:32,840
Speaker 1: All good, all good, whatever action you want to go,

1069
01:01:33,240 --> 01:01:36,840
Speaker 1: this is uh, this is something that is it? You know?

1070
01:01:36,880 --> 01:01:40,320
Speaker 1: With Ashley and Jessica, I don't feel like it's gonna

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01:01:40,400 --> 01:01:43,400
Speaker 1: be as big of an issue, But in my mind,

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01:01:43,400 --> 01:01:47,320
Speaker 1: I'm very curious. Okay, can you have a glass of

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01:01:47,360 --> 01:01:50,240
Speaker 1: wine or a couple of drinks while you're breastfeeding or

1074
01:01:50,280 --> 01:01:54,560
Speaker 1: there's a term that I've heard pump and dump, pump

1075
01:01:54,640 --> 01:01:56,360
Speaker 1: and dump, or do you have to pump and dump,

1076
01:01:57,240 --> 01:02:01,040
Speaker 1: pump and dumping. Yeah, you know, depends on who you

1077
01:02:01,080 --> 01:02:04,560
Speaker 1: are and what you believe. If you are pretty conservative,

1078
01:02:04,680 --> 01:02:08,480
Speaker 1: then there's no wine, no nothing, you know. Um. I

1079
01:02:08,520 --> 01:02:10,840
Speaker 1: think there are people who would have a glass of

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01:02:10,880 --> 01:02:13,560
Speaker 1: wine and not worry about it. I was more towards

1081
01:02:13,600 --> 01:02:17,800
Speaker 1: the conservative side and would pumping dump um if I

1082
01:02:17,840 --> 01:02:22,280
Speaker 1: was going to indulge in some alcoholic beverages. But um,

1083
01:02:22,280 --> 01:02:25,280
Speaker 1: but I think it totally depends. I don't think it's

1084
01:02:25,320 --> 01:02:29,000
Speaker 1: against you know, any moral character to take care of

1085
01:02:29,920 --> 01:02:32,560
Speaker 1: or moral I don't know what the word is, um,

1086
01:02:34,200 --> 01:02:37,320
Speaker 1: to like indulge in and give yourself some me time.

1087
01:02:37,640 --> 01:02:40,280
Speaker 1: But I also feel like there is that responsibility of

1088
01:02:40,320 --> 01:02:44,560
Speaker 1: knowing that you are giving your child nutrition and what

1089
01:02:44,720 --> 01:02:47,920
Speaker 1: you are putting in your body is going into your baby.

1090
01:02:48,160 --> 01:02:52,520
Speaker 1: So I aired always on the side of caution. Um,

1091
01:02:52,560 --> 01:02:56,640
Speaker 1: but it's totally you know, an independent decision. Then I

1092
01:02:56,680 --> 01:03:01,480
Speaker 1: will shock you because you know that in notably France

1093
01:03:01,480 --> 01:03:04,840
Speaker 1: and Australia, that women have like up to five glasses

1094
01:03:04,840 --> 01:03:06,960
Speaker 1: of wine a night, I mean night, not a night

1095
01:03:07,120 --> 01:03:10,560
Speaker 1: a week, a week, um, while pregnant, not during the

1096
01:03:10,600 --> 01:03:14,840
Speaker 1: first trimester usually but not a big deal at all. Um,

1097
01:03:15,040 --> 01:03:17,800
Speaker 1: one glass of wine a week, especially the first trimester,

1098
01:03:18,080 --> 01:03:20,960
Speaker 1: you definitely want to be careful because that bring development

1099
01:03:21,040 --> 01:03:24,560
Speaker 1: and you can you can do some harm there, So

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01:03:24,600 --> 01:03:27,400
Speaker 1: I think being even extra cautious during those times. I

1101
01:03:27,400 --> 01:03:31,400
Speaker 1: mean especially with what you eat and like not eating sushi,

1102
01:03:31,480 --> 01:03:35,080
Speaker 1: not eating deli meat. Um, I think I'm eating Deli

1103
01:03:35,120 --> 01:03:39,600
Speaker 1: meat now thirty five weeks, I'm like, I'm eating the

1104
01:03:39,640 --> 01:03:46,920
Speaker 1: Deli meat. I'm good. Okay, Okay, So let's talk about

1105
01:03:46,920 --> 01:03:50,080
Speaker 1: your relationship when it comes to kids. When you and

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01:03:50,200 --> 01:03:54,200
Speaker 1: Ryan had max, Um, do you feel like it's strengthened

1107
01:03:54,240 --> 01:03:56,840
Speaker 1: your relationship or put more of a strain on it.

1108
01:03:56,920 --> 01:04:02,000
Speaker 1: Like my parents say that they were like bonded and

1109
01:04:02,080 --> 01:04:05,520
Speaker 1: had like this magical time when I was born. Okay,

1110
01:04:05,560 --> 01:04:09,520
Speaker 1: that's amazing. I think it was all too easy for

1111
01:04:09,600 --> 01:04:13,000
Speaker 1: my mom though, she's just very maternal and she's just

1112
01:04:13,080 --> 01:04:17,880
Speaker 1: like pregnancy was also a snap for her. Awesome. I

1113
01:04:17,920 --> 01:04:21,200
Speaker 1: had a horrible pregnancy, but I had I when when

1114
01:04:21,200 --> 01:04:23,840
Speaker 1: my baby's popped out, that was like the magic, the

1115
01:04:23,880 --> 01:04:26,640
Speaker 1: magical time for me. I would say it was hard

1116
01:04:27,040 --> 01:04:32,480
Speaker 1: on us because Ryan didn't feel as connected to his

1117
01:04:32,640 --> 01:04:36,280
Speaker 1: children at first because they are just this little tiny

1118
01:04:36,320 --> 01:04:41,840
Speaker 1: blob and they were completely dependent on only me, and

1119
01:04:42,200 --> 01:04:44,200
Speaker 1: he was still working at the time, and I was

1120
01:04:44,240 --> 01:04:47,800
Speaker 1: breastfeeding and I was doing every single breastfeeding. I didn't

1121
01:04:47,840 --> 01:04:51,120
Speaker 1: want to burden him, so I didn't pump and do

1122
01:04:51,400 --> 01:04:57,160
Speaker 1: like bottles. I would definitely recommend doing that, um pumping,

1123
01:04:57,240 --> 01:04:59,920
Speaker 1: putting it into a bottle if your baby is able

1124
01:05:00,040 --> 01:05:04,760
Speaker 1: to take the bottle um, because it does encourage that

1125
01:05:04,760 --> 01:05:08,840
Speaker 1: that time with Jared, that time with their dad, And

1126
01:05:08,920 --> 01:05:11,200
Speaker 1: so for us, I think it was it was definitely

1127
01:05:11,280 --> 01:05:16,040
Speaker 1: strange because, uh, they were all about me, They needed me,

1128
01:05:16,520 --> 01:05:20,200
Speaker 1: only me, And of course Ryan loves loved his children

1129
01:05:20,280 --> 01:05:22,800
Speaker 1: when they were babies, but it was it was hard

1130
01:05:22,840 --> 01:05:25,640
Speaker 1: on us. It wasn't I'm I'm like your mom. I'm

1131
01:05:25,760 --> 01:05:29,160
Speaker 1: very like maternal and it was all about them when

1132
01:05:29,200 --> 01:05:33,920
Speaker 1: they were babies. Especially when did he start clicking with them.

1133
01:05:34,480 --> 01:05:40,760
Speaker 1: I would say probably when they started talking, like, you know,

1134
01:05:40,960 --> 01:05:46,160
Speaker 1: around like two something like that. UM. And he has

1135
01:05:46,200 --> 01:05:50,560
Speaker 1: great relationships with them, but it's it's more for him

1136
01:05:50,600 --> 01:05:54,680
Speaker 1: about you know, he's this active mountain guy and being

1137
01:05:54,680 --> 01:05:58,760
Speaker 1: out on the mountain, going on hikes, going backpacking. Actually

1138
01:05:58,800 --> 01:06:01,080
Speaker 1: I might take that back. I might say like later on,

1139
01:06:01,360 --> 01:06:03,840
Speaker 1: like not two years old for him to connect with them,

1140
01:06:03,880 --> 01:06:06,480
Speaker 1: But really he connected them with them when they were

1141
01:06:06,520 --> 01:06:11,600
Speaker 1: able to go on camping trips together. Um, when they

1142
01:06:11,640 --> 01:06:13,920
Speaker 1: got to go skiing together. You know, he taught them

1143
01:06:13,920 --> 01:06:17,240
Speaker 1: how to ski starting at two years old. So those

1144
01:06:17,360 --> 01:06:20,320
Speaker 1: kind of things. I think once he was able to

1145
01:06:20,400 --> 01:06:23,200
Speaker 1: share his passions with them, that's when he really connected

1146
01:06:23,200 --> 01:06:26,080
Speaker 1: with them. I've heard that so much, even Jordan's speak.

1147
01:06:26,160 --> 01:06:28,080
Speaker 1: When my favorite professional golfer has just said that this

1148
01:06:28,120 --> 01:06:30,000
Speaker 1: week he's at his first golf tournament since having his

1149
01:06:30,040 --> 01:06:32,040
Speaker 1: first child, and they're like, how's it been, He's like,

1150
01:06:32,400 --> 01:06:35,200
Speaker 1: I mean it's fine. I just I just sit there

1151
01:06:35,360 --> 01:06:37,040
Speaker 1: and she does all the work, and I just like

1152
01:06:37,280 --> 01:06:39,520
Speaker 1: try to fill in where I came, but I'm not needed.

1153
01:06:39,600 --> 01:06:42,560
Speaker 1: And so I don't feel bad about being at this

1154
01:06:42,560 --> 01:06:48,280
Speaker 1: golf tournament because I know the baby's just fine. Um, Trista,

1155
01:06:48,760 --> 01:06:51,720
Speaker 1: we're gonna play a little game with you here. We've

1156
01:06:51,760 --> 01:06:55,040
Speaker 1: been playing it with everybody. But before we start the game,

1157
01:06:55,160 --> 01:06:56,480
Speaker 1: and I'll lead us to the game here, I'll tell

1158
01:06:56,480 --> 01:06:57,880
Speaker 1: you how it works. But before we start the game,

1159
01:06:58,240 --> 01:07:01,160
Speaker 1: you know you are the mother of a twelve year

1160
01:07:01,160 --> 01:07:04,720
Speaker 1: old and a fourteen year old. You have at least

1161
01:07:04,760 --> 01:07:08,760
Speaker 1: fourteen years to look back now on parenthood. And I

1162
01:07:08,800 --> 01:07:13,200
Speaker 1: am sure there's something because you are very introspective, you

1163
01:07:13,600 --> 01:07:16,760
Speaker 1: think very deeply that you have thought through in the

1164
01:07:16,800 --> 01:07:19,240
Speaker 1: last few years where you go, I I just maybe

1165
01:07:19,240 --> 01:07:21,000
Speaker 1: wish I would have done this differently, or I'm really

1166
01:07:21,000 --> 01:07:23,880
Speaker 1: glad I did it this way, or there's wisdom. Uh,

1167
01:07:23,960 --> 01:07:26,840
Speaker 1: take a few minutes here and just put any wisdom

1168
01:07:26,840 --> 01:07:30,040
Speaker 1: on Ashley is she's just about two months away, less

1169
01:07:30,040 --> 01:07:34,000
Speaker 1: than two months from having this child. Um, what would

1170
01:07:34,040 --> 01:07:39,240
Speaker 1: you tell a brand new mother. Well, there's a few things.

1171
01:07:39,320 --> 01:07:42,280
Speaker 1: I think Number one is give yourself some grace. You're

1172
01:07:42,320 --> 01:07:44,520
Speaker 1: not going to do everything perfectly. No one ever does

1173
01:07:44,880 --> 01:07:48,760
Speaker 1: you know you're gonna You're learning and there have been

1174
01:07:48,760 --> 01:07:51,400
Speaker 1: millions and millions and millions of other moms, so rely

1175
01:07:51,520 --> 01:07:55,200
Speaker 1: on them. But also give yourself some grace. Um. I

1176
01:07:55,240 --> 01:08:00,960
Speaker 1: think also going into having the baby, I'm sure you

1177
01:08:01,040 --> 01:08:03,240
Speaker 1: have a birth plan or have thought about this. And

1178
01:08:03,360 --> 01:08:06,720
Speaker 1: obviously you're good friends with Jade and she could tell

1179
01:08:06,720 --> 01:08:09,040
Speaker 1: you this, but have a birth plan, but don't like

1180
01:08:09,480 --> 01:08:12,760
Speaker 1: stick to it because my birth plans could not be

1181
01:08:12,800 --> 01:08:19,439
Speaker 1: any different. Totally, but like having one is a good idea,

1182
01:08:19,560 --> 01:08:24,760
Speaker 1: but also not like knowing that things can go wrong. Um.

1183
01:08:25,040 --> 01:08:28,400
Speaker 1: I had an emergency C section and and it was

1184
01:08:28,439 --> 01:08:31,479
Speaker 1: super scary, but I knew I would totally trusted in

1185
01:08:31,520 --> 01:08:34,639
Speaker 1: my doctors. So I think just knowing that your doctors

1186
01:08:34,640 --> 01:08:40,200
Speaker 1: know what they're doing. UM, and then uh, you know,

1187
01:08:40,320 --> 01:08:43,000
Speaker 1: a big, huge piece of advice. I always say this

1188
01:08:43,040 --> 01:08:45,080
Speaker 1: is this was the biggest piece of advice that I

1189
01:08:45,120 --> 01:08:50,360
Speaker 1: ever got. UM. And it's kind of controversial in that

1190
01:08:50,840 --> 01:08:54,000
Speaker 1: some people think that it's like kind of cruel to do,

1191
01:08:54,439 --> 01:08:58,360
Speaker 1: but develop mentally, I think it's the best thing for

1192
01:08:58,479 --> 01:09:01,519
Speaker 1: your kids. And my kids are great sleepers, so when

1193
01:09:01,560 --> 01:09:05,920
Speaker 1: it comes time two, it's like, I think it's a

1194
01:09:06,160 --> 01:09:08,559
Speaker 1: three months. I think we moved Max into his crib

1195
01:09:09,160 --> 01:09:12,400
Speaker 1: and then we started, um doing cry it out maybe

1196
01:09:12,400 --> 01:09:15,920
Speaker 1: at four when they start eating solid foods. So at

1197
01:09:15,960 --> 01:09:18,840
Speaker 1: like four or five months, we did cry it out

1198
01:09:19,280 --> 01:09:22,760
Speaker 1: and it was the best thing. Also, we didn't have

1199
01:09:22,800 --> 01:09:26,920
Speaker 1: a shared bed. UM. And if you're concerned, which I

1200
01:09:26,960 --> 01:09:30,639
Speaker 1: know that's on your mind, of keeping the connection alive

1201
01:09:30,720 --> 01:09:34,439
Speaker 1: with Jared, I would say, try to stay away from

1202
01:09:34,439 --> 01:09:37,960
Speaker 1: a shared bed where they sleep in your bed. Just

1203
01:09:38,120 --> 01:09:43,960
Speaker 1: because you guys still need two nourish your relationship, and

1204
01:09:44,000 --> 01:09:46,240
Speaker 1: that's really difficult to do when a baby is sleeping

1205
01:09:46,280 --> 01:09:50,400
Speaker 1: with you. So, um, I think trying to cry it

1206
01:09:50,439 --> 01:09:55,960
Speaker 1: out it is horrible and tortuous on the mother especially,

1207
01:09:56,680 --> 01:09:58,840
Speaker 1: But as long as you know that they're safe in

1208
01:09:58,880 --> 01:10:02,639
Speaker 1: their bed, you have the monitor on, just let him cry.

1209
01:10:02,680 --> 01:10:04,519
Speaker 1: They need to learn that they can take care of

1210
01:10:04,560 --> 01:10:08,920
Speaker 1: themselves and they'll be safe, you know. INTERESTING think I'm

1211
01:10:08,960 --> 01:10:13,360
Speaker 1: all about that, because there's no way, Um, there's no

1212
01:10:13,400 --> 01:10:15,519
Speaker 1: way a puppy. First off is sleeping in the bed

1213
01:10:16,360 --> 01:10:21,400
Speaker 1: and letting the puppies sleay on the bed. The fact

1214
01:10:21,439 --> 01:10:25,759
Speaker 1: that all my lowest in our bed is the greatest

1215
01:10:26,000 --> 01:10:29,840
Speaker 1: time of our day. We love when we like pick

1216
01:10:29,880 --> 01:10:33,040
Speaker 1: her up before we fall asleep and put her right

1217
01:10:33,080 --> 01:10:38,160
Speaker 1: in between us and we just were in all you. Yeah,

1218
01:10:38,320 --> 01:10:43,360
Speaker 1: it's going to change, and I don't want the baby

1219
01:10:43,400 --> 01:10:45,799
Speaker 1: in the bed, but I always want my little baby,

1220
01:10:45,840 --> 01:10:49,760
Speaker 1: my little baby dog in the bed. Then you might

1221
01:10:49,880 --> 01:10:53,400
Speaker 1: change your mind when you get that. Are you getting

1222
01:10:53,520 --> 01:10:56,200
Speaker 1: the puppy? I think so. I mean, don't tell Jesson,

1223
01:10:56,840 --> 01:10:58,600
Speaker 1: I think so. I don't know. I don't know if

1224
01:10:58,600 --> 01:11:00,559
Speaker 1: I have an option at this point there's already like,

1225
01:11:00,920 --> 01:11:03,000
Speaker 1: there's already way too much. We're way too far ahead

1226
01:11:03,000 --> 01:11:08,360
Speaker 1: at this point. I okay, here's the game. Here's the game.

1227
01:11:08,439 --> 01:11:13,120
Speaker 1: So Trista, UM, I'm gonna ask you a couple of questions.

1228
01:11:13,160 --> 01:11:15,760
Speaker 1: You're going to answer them the best of your abilities, okay,

1229
01:11:15,840 --> 01:11:18,080
Speaker 1: and then Ashley is going to answer them as well,

1230
01:11:18,120 --> 01:11:21,799
Speaker 1: predicting for her feature what will happen? This is post

1231
01:11:21,880 --> 01:11:27,200
Speaker 1: baby being born? You ready? Yes? Who was better at

1232
01:11:27,240 --> 01:11:33,040
Speaker 1: singing lullabies? You were Ryan me, hands down. And I

1233
01:11:33,040 --> 01:11:37,400
Speaker 1: don't think he's staging a little by at all, Ashley,

1234
01:11:37,520 --> 01:11:41,599
Speaker 1: You or Jared. This is so obnoxious how many times

1235
01:11:41,680 --> 01:11:45,200
Speaker 1: I've compared our future child to Lois. But it'll be

1236
01:11:45,360 --> 01:11:50,120
Speaker 1: Jared because he loves turning her upside down, cradling her

1237
01:11:50,200 --> 01:11:56,000
Speaker 1: and singing songs. Sir, Oh my god, I need a video. Unbelievable.

1238
01:11:57,439 --> 01:12:02,080
Speaker 1: Who is or was better? I guess was would be

1239
01:12:02,080 --> 01:12:04,120
Speaker 1: the better way to say this. I'm assuming, but who

1240
01:12:04,320 --> 01:12:09,920
Speaker 1: is better at packing the diaper bag? Hello? Mommy organization?

1241
01:12:11,520 --> 01:12:13,439
Speaker 1: And I was the one that was always in charge

1242
01:12:13,439 --> 01:12:15,160
Speaker 1: of it, so I needed to make sure. Although I

1243
01:12:15,200 --> 01:12:17,920
Speaker 1: will say this was a big thing to learn from me.

1244
01:12:18,120 --> 01:12:19,960
Speaker 1: We went on a trip one time and I actually

1245
01:12:20,040 --> 01:12:23,280
Speaker 1: forgot diapers and we were in the airport couldn't find

1246
01:12:23,280 --> 01:12:26,280
Speaker 1: them anywhere. Thankfully, there was a sweet mom in a

1247
01:12:26,360 --> 01:12:29,519
Speaker 1: restaurant that I was like, is there anyway that you

1248
01:12:29,560 --> 01:12:33,479
Speaker 1: could spare a diaper or too? Um, so, just your

1249
01:12:33,560 --> 01:12:38,960
Speaker 1: diaper bag needs to be uh, very carelly carefully prepared.

1250
01:12:39,880 --> 01:12:41,800
Speaker 1: I honestly, I was more up in the air if

1251
01:12:41,800 --> 01:12:43,639
Speaker 1: I would have predicted when I asked you this question,

1252
01:12:43,680 --> 01:12:47,160
Speaker 1: because Ryan, as a camper and as somebody goes outside,

1253
01:12:47,320 --> 01:12:49,479
Speaker 1: is very used to the details of packing a bag

1254
01:12:49,560 --> 01:12:51,840
Speaker 1: for long trips away, and so I thought maybe, just

1255
01:12:51,960 --> 01:12:55,120
Speaker 1: maybe this was a hidden talent of his. I mean,

1256
01:12:55,120 --> 01:12:57,880
Speaker 1: he's good at packing, but I was always in charge.

1257
01:12:58,160 --> 01:13:00,439
Speaker 1: Fair enough, fair enough, Ashley, who will be better at

1258
01:13:00,439 --> 01:13:03,920
Speaker 1: packing the diaper bag? That'll be me? Jared when it

1259
01:13:03,920 --> 01:13:06,800
Speaker 1: comes to little things like that can be forgetful and

1260
01:13:07,040 --> 01:13:11,760
Speaker 1: I have a Mary Poppins bag always Yeah, fair enough? Well, uh,

1261
01:13:11,880 --> 01:13:15,640
Speaker 1: final question here, And this isn't a predictive question. I

1262
01:13:15,640 --> 01:13:18,080
Speaker 1: think Actuley probably has a very good idea of how

1263
01:13:18,080 --> 01:13:21,160
Speaker 1: to answer this question. But Trista, what was the first

1264
01:13:21,200 --> 01:13:25,920
Speaker 1: thing you ate and drink after delivering the baby? Oh?

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Speaker 1: My gosh, I have no idea. I don't. I don't remember.

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Speaker 1: Um oh well, actually I probably I think I do.

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Speaker 1: So the first delivery with Max, it was emergency C section,

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Speaker 1: so I had to go and I had to go

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Speaker 1: under general anesthesia, so they don't really let you eat

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Speaker 1: much afterwards. But I am obsessed with the Graham crackers

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Speaker 1: in the hospital. Sounds crazy, and I had to have

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Speaker 1: their Graham crackers, so it was probably Graham crackers. Actually

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Speaker 1: will be the first thing you eat when this baby

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Speaker 1: is born. I don't know what the first thing I'm

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Speaker 1: gonna eat is because like that will have to do

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Speaker 1: with how I'm okay looking forward to me? I'm looking

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Speaker 1: forward to I'm looking forward to having a charcoutery board

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01:14:12,080 --> 01:14:15,439
Speaker 1: or like a cold cut sandwich guilt free, like because

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01:14:15,479 --> 01:14:17,960
Speaker 1: I just said, like I have been eating it a

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01:14:18,040 --> 01:14:22,200
Speaker 1: bit lately, but I'm excited to not feel any worry

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01:14:22,280 --> 01:14:25,599
Speaker 1: going in for it. Also really excited for spicy tuna roll.

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Speaker 1: Oh that a girl. Uh, Trista, thank you so much

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01:14:30,600 --> 01:14:33,439
Speaker 1: for joining us. You're always a treat and a pleasure

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01:14:33,600 --> 01:14:36,760
Speaker 1: and absolutely incredible. I canna say enough good things about you,

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01:14:36,960 --> 01:14:39,479
Speaker 1: so thank you for coming on the day and sharing

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01:14:39,479 --> 01:14:42,840
Speaker 1: all of your wisdom with Ashley, Jared and the future

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01:14:42,880 --> 01:14:46,920
Speaker 1: new baby boy. Thank you so much. Yeah, thank you

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01:14:47,000 --> 01:14:48,960
Speaker 1: for having me. I'm so excited for you and can't

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01:14:48,960 --> 01:15:02,679
Speaker 1: wait to hear the good news. Ashley, I truly hope

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01:15:02,720 --> 01:15:06,280
Speaker 1: that you feel celebrated. Do you feel celebrated? Yes? Definitely?

1291
01:15:06,600 --> 01:15:10,240
Speaker 1: Are you? That was so fun. That was so fun

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01:15:10,320 --> 01:15:13,040
Speaker 1: with all the moms having different perspectives and like asking

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01:15:13,080 --> 01:15:15,680
Speaker 1: them about like different realms of motherhood. I feel like

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01:15:15,720 --> 01:15:19,640
Speaker 1: we got you know, it wasn't repetitive. Um, we just

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01:15:19,680 --> 01:15:22,760
Speaker 1: got a lot of good advice. And I feel like

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Speaker 1: I say we yeah, because I'm in it too. I'm

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01:15:25,920 --> 01:15:29,479
Speaker 1: like you are one day soon enough. I feel like

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01:15:30,080 --> 01:15:31,640
Speaker 1: you are going to be in it. I know that

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01:15:31,680 --> 01:15:34,559
Speaker 1: you and just say a couple of years, right, But

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01:15:34,640 --> 01:15:36,160
Speaker 1: why do I feel like it's not going to be

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01:15:36,200 --> 01:15:37,519
Speaker 1: a couple of years. Why don't I feel like it's

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01:15:37,520 --> 01:15:39,920
Speaker 1: gonna be like within the year that you tell us

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01:15:39,600 --> 01:15:42,800
Speaker 1: that she's pregnant. Because just like I said this, the

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01:15:42,800 --> 01:15:45,719
Speaker 1: puppy will never sleep in the bed. Um my life.

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01:15:45,760 --> 01:15:48,960
Speaker 1: I consistently changed my mind. Um, that's just one of

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01:15:48,960 --> 01:15:52,920
Speaker 1: the things I've accepted about myself. And so you never know.

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01:15:53,520 --> 01:15:57,080
Speaker 1: But Ashley, what does that mean she's pregnant now? No? No,

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01:15:57,200 --> 01:16:03,120
Speaker 1: I can both promise you that taken or no. But

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01:16:03,160 --> 01:16:05,639
Speaker 1: I do make that joke often and it's not funny

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01:16:05,680 --> 01:16:08,599
Speaker 1: for her. Um, So I've been told that I can

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01:16:08,640 --> 01:16:11,840
Speaker 1: no longer like make that joke around people and like

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01:16:12,240 --> 01:16:14,479
Speaker 1: not say we are, but like kind of hint at it.

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01:16:14,560 --> 01:16:16,920
Speaker 1: And then she's like, you can't do that, that's not funny.

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01:16:16,920 --> 01:16:18,960
Speaker 1: I'm like, I think it's funny, you guys. I say

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01:16:19,000 --> 01:16:20,840
Speaker 1: this because he kind of like said something on the

1316
01:16:20,840 --> 01:16:23,280
Speaker 1: phone the other day and I was like, wait a second.

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01:16:24,320 --> 01:16:28,519
Speaker 1: It really throws people off. So, Ashley, to close out

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Speaker 1: this podcast, this is your celebration, uh, through the heart

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01:16:33,000 --> 01:16:35,720
Speaker 1: family and through the almost famous family who's listened for

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01:16:35,760 --> 01:16:38,920
Speaker 1: so many years now, uh, and you had some great

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01:16:38,920 --> 01:16:41,439
Speaker 1: advice and some great mothers. But to close it out,

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Speaker 1: I would just love for you to take some time

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01:16:42,720 --> 01:16:45,080
Speaker 1: to tell all of our listeners and tell me how

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01:16:45,080 --> 01:16:47,360
Speaker 1: are you doing, how are you feeling? What are your

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01:16:47,640 --> 01:16:53,800
Speaker 1: emotions right now? You're getting very close. It's definitely like,

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01:16:54,040 --> 01:16:58,040
Speaker 1: as Crystal said, a lot of fear of the unknown,

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01:16:58,680 --> 01:17:06,000
Speaker 1: a lot of questioning about like if we're prepared. How

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Speaker 1: how we're going to handle the life change, um, if

1329
01:17:11,640 --> 01:17:16,439
Speaker 1: things will come instinctually, whether I need to do more research.

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01:17:16,600 --> 01:17:19,760
Speaker 1: So there's like a lot of anxiety, but like I'm

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01:17:19,800 --> 01:17:24,679
Speaker 1: also really excited about, of course meeting him. Um, I'm

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01:17:24,680 --> 01:17:28,759
Speaker 1: excited about seeing his personality develop. I'm excited about seeing

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Speaker 1: his face. I am um excited about like feeling like

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01:17:34,600 --> 01:17:41,760
Speaker 1: healthy again. And um, yeah, I don't know if that's

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Speaker 1: kind of covers it. I think that everybody keeps using

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Speaker 1: the word like excited, but I definitely think anxious probably

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01:17:49,640 --> 01:17:51,080
Speaker 1: fits it a little bit more. But it doesn't mean

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Speaker 1: like we're not looking forward to it. We are, um,

1339
01:17:55,120 --> 01:17:58,040
Speaker 1: but there's just so many unknowns. And I liked her

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01:17:58,080 --> 01:18:02,679
Speaker 1: advice about like visualizing what it's going to be because,

1341
01:18:02,800 --> 01:18:06,160
Speaker 1: like you know, power positive thinking. It's kind of like

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Speaker 1: what I've always done. So I'm thinking, like just put

1343
01:18:11,560 --> 01:18:14,960
Speaker 1: that out there, do what I always done with like

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01:18:15,000 --> 01:18:18,559
Speaker 1: even Jared, right, I'm Bachelor in Paradise and since like

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01:18:19,040 --> 01:18:21,040
Speaker 1: you know, just like kind of keep believing it's going

1346
01:18:21,040 --> 01:18:25,160
Speaker 1: to be great and it will be. How can final

1347
01:18:25,240 --> 01:18:28,479
Speaker 1: question for you? And again, we want to thank Hyundai

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01:18:28,720 --> 01:18:33,000
Speaker 1: for helping us celebrate Ashley's baby shower. Uh, they have

1349
01:18:33,080 --> 01:18:37,120
Speaker 1: been incredible to Ashley and the Almost Famous team as

1350
01:18:37,160 --> 01:18:39,879
Speaker 1: we have celebrated and are going to continue to celebrate

1351
01:18:39,920 --> 01:18:45,360
Speaker 1: Ashley and Jared as their evolution or as their journey

1352
01:18:45,400 --> 01:18:48,400
Speaker 1: continues to evolve now into being parents over the next

1353
01:18:48,439 --> 01:18:50,839
Speaker 1: few months. But thanks to Hyundai for doing this, Ashley.

1354
01:18:50,880 --> 01:18:54,439
Speaker 1: Final question for you, people are listening. Uh, they care

1355
01:18:54,439 --> 01:18:58,160
Speaker 1: about you. They obviously listened to us talk every week.

1356
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Speaker 1: I'm your co host, so I'm I'm here too every week.

1357
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Speaker 1: How can people now best support you and Jared over

1358
01:19:06,120 --> 01:19:09,040
Speaker 1: the next few months leading up to this? I think

1359
01:19:09,240 --> 01:19:13,360
Speaker 1: just like send the positive vibes instead of the vibes

1360
01:19:13,360 --> 01:19:15,240
Speaker 1: that are like, oh my god, you're in for it,

1361
01:19:15,280 --> 01:19:17,720
Speaker 1: you know, because we just talked about this too, Just

1362
01:19:17,880 --> 01:19:21,840
Speaker 1: like oh, just like wait till you know you're so

1363
01:19:22,000 --> 01:19:24,680
Speaker 1: tired and like wait till like they talk back to

1364
01:19:24,720 --> 01:19:26,599
Speaker 1: you and all that stuff. It's like, can you just

1365
01:19:26,680 --> 01:19:30,160
Speaker 1: like let me enjoy each moment and just send positivity

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01:19:30,320 --> 01:19:33,840
Speaker 1: and just say, um, like it's going to be the

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01:19:34,520 --> 01:19:41,599
Speaker 1: best instead of thinking about all the negatives. Yeah, because

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01:19:41,600 --> 01:19:44,599
Speaker 1: you know, like you know, these negatives exist, Like it's

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01:19:44,640 --> 01:19:47,240
Speaker 1: not you'll have to remind me you don't have to

1370
01:19:47,280 --> 01:19:49,160
Speaker 1: be remind you what you what you need right now,

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01:19:49,200 --> 01:19:50,559
Speaker 1: and that's why I asked it. What you need right

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01:19:50,600 --> 01:19:52,360
Speaker 1: now is for people to lift you up and to

1373
01:19:52,400 --> 01:19:54,840
Speaker 1: be positive and to get you excited because it's gonna

1374
01:19:54,880 --> 01:19:56,240
Speaker 1: be hard, but you're gonna figure it out. You're gonna

1375
01:19:56,240 --> 01:19:57,960
Speaker 1: be a great mom and Jared's gonna be a great dad.

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01:19:58,680 --> 01:20:02,000
Speaker 1: Um but and it's gonna be awesome. And people, you

1377
01:20:02,040 --> 01:20:04,439
Speaker 1: just need people to tell you that it's weird, because

1378
01:20:04,439 --> 01:20:06,479
Speaker 1: like I'm always about like keep it real, right, so

1379
01:20:06,520 --> 01:20:08,800
Speaker 1: I want you to keep it real with me. But

1380
01:20:10,600 --> 01:20:12,760
Speaker 1: like there's a reason that people have multiple kids. It's

1381
01:20:12,760 --> 01:20:15,400
Speaker 1: because they like it more than they don't like it,

1382
01:20:15,520 --> 01:20:17,799
Speaker 1: you know what I mean. And then sometimes the advice

1383
01:20:17,840 --> 01:20:22,280
Speaker 1: that sometimes the comments you get are are like that

1384
01:20:22,280 --> 01:20:24,680
Speaker 1: that it's MSS and it's just like you know, it's

1385
01:20:24,720 --> 01:20:29,400
Speaker 1: not because you wanted to do it all over again. Yeah, Well, Ashley,

1386
01:20:29,840 --> 01:20:32,960
Speaker 1: and if Jared was here, but I'm sure I'll listen. Uh,

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Speaker 1: it's gonna be awesome. You guys are gonna be great.

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01:20:35,040 --> 01:20:38,200
Speaker 1: You're made for this. Have a great time. Uh, and

1389
01:20:38,360 --> 01:20:41,480
Speaker 1: thank you all for listening and celebrating Ashley. And Jared's

1390
01:20:41,880 --> 01:20:44,400
Speaker 1: baby shower with us again, thanks to Hundai for helping

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01:20:44,479 --> 01:20:48,760
Speaker 1: us put it on. Thank you Hyundai for my my

1392
01:20:48,880 --> 01:20:53,599
Speaker 1: toy store. It's so cute, it really is. Well with that,

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Speaker 1: this is another episode of Almost Famous podcast a very

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01:20:56,160 --> 01:21:00,320
Speaker 1: special special episode. I've Been Been, but Ashley see you.

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01:21:01,640 --> 01:21:04,720
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