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Speaker 2: Where taking money.

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Speaker 1: Oh, the mommies are back, baby.

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Speaker 3: We are back to We were already out of it again.

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Speaker 3: We are back.

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Speaker 1: Moms.

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Speaker 3: We are here. We did it, Stevie, welcome back.

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Speaker 2: We got Joe. The good news about this show is

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Speaker 2: that we have production value. We are it's our first

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Speaker 2: show back here at iHeartRadio.

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Speaker 3: We got Boom Boom Party Party. I also feel like

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Speaker 3: the bubbles are just making a massacre the Jesus Christ.

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Speaker 2: They went from nothing to absolute mayem Oh, this is

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Speaker 2: going to be the cleanest table in all ever. Welcome

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Speaker 2: to two. Where's my Welcome to to Cool Moms. I'm

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Speaker 2: your host, Steve Burn along with Joe Gaddo.

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Speaker 3: Joe Gaddo the Bubble Machine. We spend all the money

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Speaker 3: on the bubble machine. This thing is too loud. We

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Speaker 3: spent all the money on the bubble machine that I

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Speaker 3: couldn't afford to set the third camera. We had to sew.

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Speaker 3: I'd love it. How are you, buddy?

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Speaker 2: How are you great?

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Speaker 3: I'm fantastic.

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Speaker 2: We just came in from.

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Speaker 3: I was in I was down in Florida. I did

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Speaker 3: a college show at the University of Southern Florida. Fantastic

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Speaker 3: fantastic with a mutual friend of ours met with Yes,

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Speaker 3: I met up with Colin Jost and we had a

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Speaker 3: good time. And our boy Marcello Hernandez.

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Speaker 2: By the way, two comedians very gifted with incredible hair.

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Speaker 3: Angers me. It ain't angers me Colin. Colin's hair has

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Speaker 3: always been just like perfection. Colin. You just look at

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Speaker 3: him and it's not fair. But what Marcella like, he

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Speaker 3: does that thing where he shows off. He puts his

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Speaker 3: poking out like He's like, I got so much I

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Speaker 3: can't even tunk all the hair into this hood.

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Speaker 2: But then it's also like sometimes you see, I remember

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Speaker 2: we did this show. I was on this show years

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Speaker 2: ago called the Real Wedding Crashers. Okay, Wedding Crashers comes out.

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Speaker 2: Then a TV show called The Real Wedner Crashes comes

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Speaker 2: out and it's Ashton Kutcher produced it. This is just

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Speaker 2: after punked. And what we would do is we would

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Speaker 2: team up with people that had getting married and we

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Speaker 2: would basically pull pranks on their guests the whole weekend,

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Speaker 2: and then the big reveal was at the wedding. They'd

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Speaker 2: learned that we were not their best friends or the

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Speaker 2: past or the dry cleaner, like we were actually in

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Speaker 2: on this the whole time. So we're doing the only

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Speaker 2: reason I bring it up is I'll never forget this.

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Speaker 2: Katherine Wrightman who's got a great show called Working Moms

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Speaker 2: on Netflix, and then Desi Lyttick, who's a correspondent on

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Speaker 2: The Daily Show. There were these There were the two

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Speaker 2: guys and and I'll never forget this. They had this

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Speaker 2: Justin Timberlake impersonator. This guy looked just like him really,

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Speaker 2: and he was there as like a goof for their wedding,

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Speaker 2: like we got Justin team would like to perform. So

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Speaker 2: he shows up and Catherine and Desi are head over

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Speaker 2: heels this guy. They're like he is so hot, and

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Speaker 2: I'm like, this is the fake one and you're going

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Speaker 2: you should have lunch with us, Like he just got there.

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Speaker 2: I'll never forget this. He had a backward hat on

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Speaker 2: and he's like, eh, so so they're going to lunch

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Speaker 2: and he took his hat off and like receding like patchie,

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Speaker 2: you know, not like even cool like like it was.

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Speaker 2: It was just like, I'll just throw a hat on

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Speaker 2: looking at she goes eh. So when Marcelo does that

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Speaker 3: Like a hat that just had the hair on. And

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Speaker 2: You see those guy Fieri ones though there.

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Speaker 3: Yeah, have the visors and the that's the visor is

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Speaker 2: Because I seem like a visor.

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Speaker 3: I did the peekabooth peaks right through. You know, the

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Speaker 3: the half of the cap on. It's you know, it's

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Speaker 2: But I was saying, these are fake, Yeah, these are not.

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Speaker 3: Look at this lush we have bamboo now because we're not.

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Speaker 2: Forget who you're dealing with this is the two cool

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Speaker 3: And the bubbles were included. They were they were, yes,

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Speaker 2: Uh, it's lush with cass. But Marcello Hornet is the

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Speaker 2: one of the nicest guys but also incredibly yeah, very

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Speaker 2: just that main of hair he's got like skateboarder hair.

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Speaker 3: Oh sure for hair, but he's me said extremely. I

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Speaker 2: Colin is uh yeah, I mean his hair since day one,

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Speaker 3: Did you ever go surfing with him?

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Speaker 3: I went, I was in Montalk. He's like, I'm just

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Speaker 3: come first of all? No, but sure, I'll go down

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Speaker 2: Surf and watch watch a Harvard ten.

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Speaker 3: No, I just he just goes down. He came out

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Speaker 3: of the water like Baywatch, doing this whole He was

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Speaker 2: I guarantee you, I guarantee you this. Okay, Colin jos

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Speaker 2: the guy, just like mister McGoo. Remember he just walked

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Speaker 2: car not hitting this guy. He's so smooth. He works hard,

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Speaker 2: he's attained everything. But I guarantee there will be a

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Speaker 2: shark attack. It won't be him. He'll save the person

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Speaker 3: He'll save the shark. He'll the shark got bit by

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Speaker 3: this kid. Let me save the shark. Yeah, that's what'll happened.

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Speaker 2: That's like Colin's luck. He'll just be in the right

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Speaker 2: and be like, of course, of course he's shredded like

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Speaker 2: I wonder his house.

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Speaker 3: He's got like a lot.

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Speaker 2: He's got the the like like an equinox in his house.

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Speaker 2: When you live with an avenger, you're gonna be fit

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Speaker 3: You can't be fat.

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Speaker 2: I can never.

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Speaker 3: I can never marry an avenger.

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Speaker 2: Daniel day Kim, you know him, Hawaii Lost, handsome, handsome guy.

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Speaker 2: He invites me and my wife were visiting Hawaii. He

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Speaker 3: And just bringing this up to make me this is

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Speaker 2: He invites my wife and my kids over to his

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Speaker 2: He's like, yeah, you guys want to go swimming. I'm like, yeah,

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Speaker 2: let's go swin. I take my shirt off. I have

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Speaker 2: the body of a Vietnamese, like a twelve year old

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Speaker 2: It's there's like nipples, but it's just like what.

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Speaker 3: What is you played hockey?

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Speaker 2: Like nothing right? Daniel day Kim takes up and there

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Speaker 3: King, King can't.

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Speaker 2: King, It's just like it's all it's he looks like

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Speaker 2: just like perfect, how much? Just like Jess, should we

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Speaker 3: Like no, I don't want to go. We're staying here.

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Speaker 3: Well we're moving in, you can go.

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Speaker 2: It was one of those things like you the guy

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Speaker 3: Did this thing. So my daughter like, I'm like, I

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Speaker 3: would you know we always be silly and whatnot. So

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Speaker 3: my kids we got this bouncy house like obstacle course

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Speaker 3: So we bought this like obstacle course thing where you

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Speaker 3: has a slide at the end and it's awesome. And

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Speaker 3: to go in the pool. I was like, you are me,

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Speaker 3: you are exactly. Let's do it. So I turned the

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Speaker 3: I'll go first. Right. This is a blow up obstacle

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Speaker 3: Okay, let's do it. So I took a float and

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Speaker 2: You do the obstacle course.

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Speaker 3: I do the little obstacle course. I would love to

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Speaker 3: see you an activity. It's I'm fantastic run. I'm much faster.

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Speaker 2: I don't think.

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Speaker 3: So I got wheels.

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Speaker 2: I would love we should race.

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Speaker 3: We got wheel Oh you on a race. I'd love

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Speaker 3: to wish you race a charity. You can't touch me

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Speaker 3: on ultimate frisbee field.

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Speaker 2: We'll race for people with spinal cord injury.

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Speaker 3: We'll race them and I might wing. I have a shot.

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Speaker 3: I hated anyway, I'm going down. So we put the

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Speaker 3: bumping to get down. The whole thing is shaken. Finally

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Speaker 2: Chevy chasing Christmas vacation. Yeah later, dudes, do you see

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Speaker 3: No, I just I just talk and go. I just

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Speaker 3: I can't hit the right I go. I see it happening.

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Speaker 3: I'm like, I gave you the first person that did this.

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Speaker 2: You're at the bottom and everybody there's no way to avoid.

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Speaker 3: Then one guy was his daughter or whatever, and he's like,

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Speaker 2: It's like all those things you think about when you're

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Speaker 2: Can we filter? In my mid thirties, I love.

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Speaker 2: Ears, yeah, I'm in my mid thirty.

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Speaker 3: Everybody thinks that, but everybody older than you, really, I

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Speaker 2: It's the Korean skin, I think.

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Speaker 3: No, I think it's the fat Italian that's slowly falling

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Speaker 2: I think when it when when people go like this

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Speaker 2: I think like you die your hair though, right, I

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Speaker 3: Yeah, and then up top I'm okay, yeah, up top, Okay.

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Speaker 3: Why don't you Why don't you just let the sprinkles come? Baby,

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Speaker 2: Yeah, I think at some point when it when it like,

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Speaker 3: Yeah, I had that for a minute, like when I

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Speaker 2: But uh yeah, at some point I'll do it. I

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Speaker 3: He died did gray.

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Speaker 2: He diedd gray. But it was like a like a

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Speaker 3: Though it's I don't either. Yeah, yeah, but I'm not

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Speaker 2: You can be honest with you.

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Speaker 3: You've always always I want to see it in the past, Judge,

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Speaker 3: And I'm like, no, I'll come over with the car.

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Speaker 2: When you eat with Joe Gatto, Okay, you'll take him, worry,

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Speaker 2: when you eat with Joe Gatto, take him to your

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Speaker 3: It's great.

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Speaker 2: It's from scratch fromm to take you brag it back.

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Speaker 2: This is great, this is Gatto, this is Joe right here. Oh,

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Speaker 2: you gotta try.

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Speaker 2: And it's like you know when you when when somebody's

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Speaker 2: It's like are you listening to words though? But you

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Speaker 2: It's garbage, disgusting, disgusting, Yeah, disgusting or it gar something

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Speaker 3: I had a bunch cake the other day that was

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Speaker 2: Where were we in Wisconsin? Oh, yeah, yeah, you ordered

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Speaker 3: Start to start, I'll take that to start because I

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Speaker 3: They didn't have many vegetarian options no, so I was like,

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Speaker 3: I'll start with the waffle with ice cream, yes, and

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Speaker 2: We're eating like like like our parents left us the

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Speaker 3: So that's exactly what it was.

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Speaker 5: Like.

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Speaker 3: I think I think Jiggy had chicken tenders.

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Speaker 2: Let's do it, and that's Jiggy within en everybody. Yeah,

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Speaker 2: so this is two Cool Moms, too cool Moms.

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Speaker 3: So we have new people here that people up to speed.

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Speaker 1: They don't know, they don't know.

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Speaker 2: They have no Hey, two cool moms, Baby, we got

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Speaker 3: Bubbles great. I love how loud that that's like. That

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Speaker 3: Two Cool Moms is a podcast that you and I started,

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Speaker 3: yes back in the day. We've done it for over

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Speaker 3: we want to do that for the world.

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Speaker 1: Yeah.

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Speaker 2: We thought we have superpowers bestowed upon us and inherited

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Speaker 2: by these wonderful moms. My mother Korean alive.

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Speaker 3: Oh God, say you know your rhana that you saw

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Speaker 3: you were going down like my mom is great, breathing.

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Speaker 3: I saw it. You know mine's dead.

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Speaker 2: And then you can nick our mis his mother's pasted on.

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Speaker 2: And now I have I guess survivors guilty. It's almost

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Speaker 2: like I've stolen valor. Because my mom's beat cancer. It's like, yeah, okay,

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Speaker 3: Oh so you're just riddled with it, sha checked.

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Speaker 2: I gotta get the I gotta get the I gotta

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Speaker 3: I just got a call about you did two weeks ago.

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Speaker 3: First first one? Yeah, but why not bad?

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Speaker 2: But you told me, I said how to go? You said,

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Speaker 2: I moaned? What does that mean?

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Speaker 3: Moaned in pleasure? Yeah?

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Speaker 1: What is that?

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Speaker 2: No?

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Speaker 3: I was, I have a fart pocket.

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Speaker 2: I have come again.

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Speaker 3: I have a large mouth dive ticulitis, and basically what

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Speaker 3: So so that's what made me go in. But everything's fine,

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Speaker 2: Wait, hold on, so you like you had gas issues

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Speaker 2: and that's why you I was getting this pain.

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Speaker 3: I was getting a pain because they get what happened

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Speaker 3: this pain? You've been on the road with me, like

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Speaker 3: sometimes when I'm taking stage and you know, on the road,

441
00:19:12,040 --> 00:19:13,399
Speaker 3: I'm not as regular as I'd like to be.

442
00:19:13,720 --> 00:19:15,119
Speaker 2: You're just crop dusting the stage.

443
00:19:15,720 --> 00:19:19,440
Speaker 3: Yeah, that front road gets every penny. No, the problem

444
00:19:19,520 --> 00:19:21,200
Speaker 3: is I'm not like you know, I'm like I get like,

445
00:19:21,320 --> 00:19:22,960
Speaker 3: you know, I get all the gas.

446
00:19:22,920 --> 00:19:26,080
Speaker 2: There like an awful shamous show, Like you don't want

447
00:19:26,119 --> 00:19:27,399
Speaker 2: to be in this splash show guys, you.

448
00:19:27,400 --> 00:19:31,159
Speaker 3: Know like this the thing that distance. Yeah, so I

449
00:19:31,240 --> 00:19:34,159
Speaker 3: get like this little bubble thing. But he checked it out,

450
00:19:34,200 --> 00:19:36,120
Speaker 3: gave me some meds, worked it out, so I'm feeling better.

451
00:19:36,160 --> 00:19:37,000
Speaker 2: So it's just temporary.

452
00:19:37,119 --> 00:19:38,800
Speaker 3: It's just temporary. Well, you just have to manage it.

453
00:19:39,640 --> 00:19:40,760
Speaker 2: How do you manage a fard mode?

454
00:19:41,119 --> 00:19:43,520
Speaker 3: You just have to try to fart, But how do

455
00:19:43,560 --> 00:19:45,320
Speaker 3: you try to know? You just on the road. I

456
00:19:45,440 --> 00:19:46,840
Speaker 3: just have to try to, like eat a lot of fiber,

457
00:19:47,000 --> 00:19:47,760
Speaker 3: make sure I keep everything.

458
00:19:48,119 --> 00:19:50,159
Speaker 2: Oh you mean not eat a fucking waffle sunday.

459
00:19:51,480 --> 00:19:53,879
Speaker 3: I mean that's that probably could be part of the clothes.

460
00:19:54,280 --> 00:19:56,720
Speaker 3: I mean probably my my my diet probably is a

461
00:19:56,760 --> 00:20:00,399
Speaker 3: contributing factor. I'm not saying Gill is.

462
00:20:00,440 --> 00:20:10,560
Speaker 1: Charged, but yes, okay, let's get back.

463
00:20:10,480 --> 00:20:13,880
Speaker 2: To our moms. So our mom's. My mom was a blunt,

464
00:20:13,920 --> 00:20:18,480
Speaker 2: forced instrument. She's I think, a stereotypical tiger mom, you know,

465
00:20:18,840 --> 00:20:22,760
Speaker 2: just completely honest with every aspect of life, no matter,

466
00:20:22,920 --> 00:20:26,880
Speaker 2: you know. I remember I got married. She poked my stomach,

467
00:20:27,640 --> 00:20:30,520
Speaker 2: like poked my stomach and said, uh what, and she's like,

468
00:20:30,560 --> 00:20:32,880
Speaker 2: you're getting fat And I was like, it's my wedding day,

469
00:20:33,040 --> 00:20:36,480
Speaker 2: Like I'm getting married today. Like she would constantly things

470
00:20:36,560 --> 00:20:38,600
Speaker 2: like that just keep you in check. And as much

471
00:20:38,680 --> 00:20:43,159
Speaker 2: as it may come off as harsh, oh, sometimes the

472
00:20:43,240 --> 00:20:46,680
Speaker 2: best things you can be told are raw honesty. You've

473
00:20:46,680 --> 00:20:49,240
Speaker 2: always been very honest with me, you know, with things

474
00:20:49,320 --> 00:20:52,960
Speaker 2: that I shouldn't wear, don't do that too much, too

475
00:20:53,040 --> 00:20:55,240
Speaker 2: much going on with my face fats, Yes, you got

476
00:20:55,280 --> 00:20:58,239
Speaker 2: me in check with that. So I feel like as

477
00:20:58,320 --> 00:21:00,200
Speaker 2: much as my mom is still that matern and no

478
00:21:00,359 --> 00:21:04,720
Speaker 2: force and giving me raw honesty and advice or you know,

479
00:21:04,840 --> 00:21:07,800
Speaker 2: anything along the along the way, like everybody she's ever

480
00:21:08,400 --> 00:21:11,199
Speaker 2: pointed out and said I don't like him, she always

481
00:21:11,280 --> 00:21:15,000
Speaker 2: aw amazing right always, and especially with the girlfriends, she

482
00:21:15,280 --> 00:21:17,959
Speaker 2: was always one hundred percent correct. The first one I had,

483
00:21:18,000 --> 00:21:21,600
Speaker 2: she's like she's no good, she's no good, and she physically,

484
00:21:21,720 --> 00:21:25,560
Speaker 2: like physically like beat me up one day, like like

485
00:21:25,680 --> 00:21:27,040
Speaker 2: we were hammered, you know. But it was like I

486
00:21:27,119 --> 00:21:28,480
Speaker 2: was kind of laughing at the same time, but she

487
00:21:28,600 --> 00:21:30,879
Speaker 2: was like fucking cracking me. And then she gave my

488
00:21:30,920 --> 00:21:34,159
Speaker 2: best friend a fresh one, like a nice freshiet. He's like, Denny's,

489
00:21:34,160 --> 00:21:35,920
Speaker 2: what the hell you do? He's like bitch about, like

490
00:21:36,000 --> 00:21:38,040
Speaker 2: a bitch, a straight a bitch lab and we were

491
00:21:38,080 --> 00:21:41,320
Speaker 2: both I mean, looking back, I guess it's kind of awful,

492
00:21:41,520 --> 00:21:43,359
Speaker 2: but like I thought it was funny.

493
00:21:43,160 --> 00:21:43,560
Speaker 3: In the moment.

494
00:21:43,600 --> 00:21:46,000
Speaker 2: You were like, yeah, jeez, guys, this girl is crazy.

495
00:21:46,800 --> 00:21:49,040
Speaker 2: But my mom called it and she was like something,

496
00:21:49,160 --> 00:21:50,960
Speaker 2: something's off with her. And then when when when my

497
00:21:51,040 --> 00:21:54,800
Speaker 2: wife first met Jest, she's like, don't don't, don't, don't

498
00:21:54,840 --> 00:21:55,320
Speaker 2: mess this up.

499
00:21:55,400 --> 00:21:57,800
Speaker 3: Oh your mom, your mom gave he them right away. Yeah,

500
00:21:57,840 --> 00:22:00,520
Speaker 3: that's great. Yeah, my mom got to meet Bessie before.

501
00:22:01,040 --> 00:22:02,760
Speaker 3: She was around for about a year and a half

502
00:22:02,960 --> 00:22:06,080
Speaker 3: because we were dating long distance. But Bessie looks so young.

503
00:22:06,160 --> 00:22:08,440
Speaker 3: I my mom's great. You know, my mom was the best.

504
00:22:08,480 --> 00:22:12,000
Speaker 3: She was Sicilian firecracker, shoot you straight, lots of love,

505
00:22:12,080 --> 00:22:14,200
Speaker 3: loved everybody, made sure everybody was okay. One of those

506
00:22:14,200 --> 00:22:18,280
Speaker 3: Italian moms, you know, but completely like had that Sicilian streak,

507
00:22:18,359 --> 00:22:20,399
Speaker 3: like if you wronged me, there's no there's no need

508
00:22:20,440 --> 00:22:22,720
Speaker 3: to feel my life. Yeah. Right, So she had like

509
00:22:22,720 --> 00:22:24,440
Speaker 3: a little bit of that in there. But my mom,

510
00:22:25,040 --> 00:22:27,600
Speaker 3: Bessie looks really young, and I had younger cousins. It

511
00:22:27,640 --> 00:22:30,000
Speaker 3: was New Year's even my mom came over to my

512
00:22:30,119 --> 00:22:32,760
Speaker 3: cousin's house. We were all had hung out and well

513
00:22:32,840 --> 00:22:36,600
Speaker 3: she hadn't met Bessie, and so my cousin Mike was

514
00:22:36,640 --> 00:22:39,120
Speaker 3: there and he looks older and Besie younger. It looked

515
00:22:39,119 --> 00:22:41,280
Speaker 3: like it could be dating, right, right, right, So before

516
00:22:41,359 --> 00:22:43,199
Speaker 3: my mom came in, I said, get on Mike's lap,

517
00:22:43,240 --> 00:22:45,600
Speaker 3: and I put Bessie on Mike's lap. So we walk

518
00:22:45,680 --> 00:22:47,280
Speaker 3: in and my mom walk so, you know, saying hello,

519
00:22:47,359 --> 00:22:48,679
Speaker 3: I am mom, and then she goes over to the best.

520
00:22:48,720 --> 00:22:50,119
Speaker 3: She goes, oh, who's this boutana?

521
00:22:50,280 --> 00:22:50,440
Speaker 1: You know?

522
00:22:51,119 --> 00:22:53,520
Speaker 3: Right, She's like, look, she's so pretty. She gets whatever,

523
00:22:53,880 --> 00:22:55,760
Speaker 3: and then you know, Mike says his arm around or whatever.

524
00:22:55,760 --> 00:22:57,160
Speaker 3: And then as we're just sitting there talking, my mom

525
00:22:57,200 --> 00:22:59,119
Speaker 3: has a Coffee's like, how's everybody's New Years? There's New

526
00:22:59,200 --> 00:23:00,800
Speaker 3: Year's Day. She went out, she went to the be

527
00:23:00,880 --> 00:23:03,479
Speaker 3: stro and danced all night with her girlfriends. Right, She's like, oh,

528
00:23:03,520 --> 00:23:05,080
Speaker 3: I was crazy. We had a great night. And as like,

529
00:23:05,600 --> 00:23:07,760
Speaker 3: I just took Bessie and just put her on my

530
00:23:08,000 --> 00:23:10,240
Speaker 3: lap and just gave her, you know, a kiss. And

531
00:23:10,359 --> 00:23:12,480
Speaker 3: my mom goes and she's not going to call me

532
00:23:12,520 --> 00:23:14,840
Speaker 3: and I'll never forget. And she goes, what what the

533
00:23:14,920 --> 00:23:23,240
Speaker 3: fuck is this? We all lost it. I said, mom,

534
00:23:23,280 --> 00:23:25,800
Speaker 3: this is actually Bessie, my girlfriend. She's in from California.

535
00:23:25,800 --> 00:23:27,880
Speaker 3: And my mom goes, you have a girlfriend. I didn't

536
00:23:27,880 --> 00:23:30,119
Speaker 3: know about this she sat it down and she like

537
00:23:30,200 --> 00:23:33,080
Speaker 3: grilled her for like you know, which was really that

538
00:23:33,160 --> 00:23:34,879
Speaker 3: was the first time she met her. And then when

539
00:23:34,920 --> 00:23:38,600
Speaker 3: Bessie first moved here, my mother hated watermelon. Hated watermelon,

540
00:23:38,640 --> 00:23:40,000
Speaker 3: like with the passions, like when she was grown up.

541
00:23:40,160 --> 00:23:42,600
Speaker 3: She sayd the smell of it. Whatever. So it's Labor

542
00:23:42,680 --> 00:23:45,359
Speaker 3: Day weekend. It's Bessie had just moved here from California.

543
00:23:45,400 --> 00:23:47,280
Speaker 3: She moved in with me. It's like the second time

544
00:23:47,320 --> 00:23:50,159
Speaker 3: she's seeing my mother. We're at We're at the big

545
00:23:50,200 --> 00:23:52,360
Speaker 3: webcan with my sister called a big Vin, her brother,

546
00:23:52,480 --> 00:23:54,480
Speaker 3: my brother Benny. He writes, We're all hanging out and

547
00:23:54,560 --> 00:23:56,640
Speaker 3: they cut the watermelon. I said to Bessie, so best,

548
00:23:57,119 --> 00:23:57,920
Speaker 3: my mom's a watermelon.

549
00:23:58,400 --> 00:23:58,720
Speaker 2: You knew.

550
00:23:58,880 --> 00:24:00,320
Speaker 3: I knew. So I was like, okay, you bring my

551
00:24:00,359 --> 00:24:02,760
Speaker 3: mom's watch. You go, oh yeah, because he's like, hey, missus,

552
00:24:02,800 --> 00:24:06,840
Speaker 3: got on. My mother turns around, smacks and goes get

553
00:24:06,880 --> 00:24:10,320
Speaker 3: the fuck out. He turns red.

554
00:24:10,600 --> 00:24:11,639
Speaker 2: We are on the floor.

555
00:24:11,920 --> 00:24:12,960
Speaker 1: We are on the floor level.

556
00:24:13,040 --> 00:24:16,640
Speaker 3: My mother is like, thank you do that son? Yeah.

557
00:24:16,680 --> 00:24:18,760
Speaker 3: So she was like that, she like turned like crazy

558
00:24:18,920 --> 00:24:20,600
Speaker 3: like that, but she was she was great. So those

559
00:24:20,640 --> 00:24:23,160
Speaker 3: are our moms, Those are our moms. I see reflections

560
00:24:23,200 --> 00:24:25,600
Speaker 3: in both of us with them. I think they've done

561
00:24:25,600 --> 00:24:29,400
Speaker 3: a great job. And we like to help the people

562
00:24:29,480 --> 00:24:31,879
Speaker 3: who are fans of us, fans of the podcast. Why not,

563
00:24:32,680 --> 00:24:34,800
Speaker 3: We're here to help. So people submit their questions on

564
00:24:34,920 --> 00:24:38,280
Speaker 3: our Instagram at two Cool Moms pods or at our

565
00:24:38,560 --> 00:24:39,800
Speaker 3: new Gmail account.

566
00:24:41,080 --> 00:24:42,439
Speaker 2: That's right. Do you know why we have a new

567
00:24:42,480 --> 00:24:45,439
Speaker 2: Gmail account because we have production.

568
00:24:48,359 --> 00:24:50,919
Speaker 3: Yeah, and that's also free too.

569
00:24:51,000 --> 00:24:52,720
Speaker 2: Cool Moms Pod could email.

570
00:24:52,560 --> 00:24:55,960
Speaker 3: Us yes to Cool Mom's Pod at gmail dot.

571
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Speaker 2: Cool Mom's Pod at gmail pot just od kind of him.

572
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Speaker 3: Yeah, you know what, you don't have four extra letters.

573
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Speaker 3: You got to do.

574
00:25:02,720 --> 00:25:05,240
Speaker 2: I die my hair, I diet here, I'm younger, I'm cool,

575
00:25:06,760 --> 00:25:07,760
Speaker 2: light up like dynamite.

576
00:25:07,840 --> 00:25:13,320
Speaker 3: Right, that's it, like it all right? So now we

577
00:25:13,400 --> 00:25:14,359
Speaker 3: get an answering questions.

578
00:25:14,520 --> 00:25:17,639
Speaker 2: Yes, yes, this is what we do best. This is

579
00:25:17,680 --> 00:25:19,800
Speaker 2: why the people's tune in. This is why the peoples

580
00:25:19,880 --> 00:25:20,280
Speaker 2: need us.

581
00:25:20,520 --> 00:25:23,480
Speaker 3: Thank you for listening, subscribing. Of course, we appreciate you guys.

582
00:25:23,680 --> 00:25:25,239
Speaker 2: Now, I know you had sent me a few Did

583
00:25:25,280 --> 00:25:27,880
Speaker 2: you want me to start in a particular order from

584
00:25:28,040 --> 00:25:30,800
Speaker 2: go first to okay first to okay, here we go.

585
00:25:31,640 --> 00:25:37,800
Speaker 2: This is coming to us from Mallory. Okay, hey moms, Uh,

586
00:25:37,920 --> 00:25:40,320
Speaker 2: my boyfriend and I will be moving in together come

587
00:25:40,480 --> 00:25:43,280
Speaker 2: July after living in different cities for two years, so

588
00:25:43,359 --> 00:25:46,280
Speaker 2: long distance. Do you have any advice on moving in

589
00:25:46,800 --> 00:25:50,200
Speaker 2: slash living with your partner? Ps? I love the pod

590
00:25:51,000 --> 00:25:55,159
Speaker 2: that came to us now I get it. Visit So

591
00:25:55,320 --> 00:25:59,320
Speaker 2: this came to us March twenty first. March twenty first,

592
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Speaker 2: they so March twenty versus. Mallory writes us that she's

593
00:26:03,960 --> 00:26:06,159
Speaker 2: moving in by her boyfriend after how do I make

594
00:26:06,160 --> 00:26:07,240
Speaker 2: it work for two years?

595
00:26:07,240 --> 00:26:07,480
Speaker 3: Okay?

596
00:26:08,080 --> 00:26:08,159
Speaker 2: Uh?

597
00:26:09,440 --> 00:26:12,920
Speaker 5: June ninth. June ninth, we got a text. It just

598
00:26:13,000 --> 00:26:19,840
Speaker 5: says never mind, we broke up. I am riddled with

599
00:26:19,920 --> 00:26:21,160
Speaker 5: gil Oh so sorry.

600
00:26:21,520 --> 00:26:23,040
Speaker 3: Hey, so it doesn't meant to be though you're welcome.

601
00:26:23,080 --> 00:26:24,280
Speaker 3: I think you're welcome. Is in order?

602
00:26:24,560 --> 00:26:25,040
Speaker 2: Three months?

603
00:26:25,320 --> 00:26:25,600
Speaker 3: Months?

604
00:26:25,840 --> 00:26:28,640
Speaker 2: Three months? Imagine investing two years of your life.

605
00:26:28,520 --> 00:26:30,840
Speaker 3: And then the investment in the move to get together.

606
00:26:30,880 --> 00:26:32,280
Speaker 3: We're to do this, It's going to be great, and

607
00:26:32,359 --> 00:26:33,320
Speaker 3: then boomskate done.

608
00:26:34,080 --> 00:26:36,320
Speaker 2: Oh my god, that's the worst feeling in the world.

609
00:26:36,400 --> 00:26:39,600
Speaker 2: Two years you live in different cities. You have all

610
00:26:39,640 --> 00:26:42,840
Speaker 2: that investment of time, a travel of getting together, or

611
00:26:43,080 --> 00:26:46,040
Speaker 2: just bandwidth of like, don't make a feel bit, Oh,

612
00:26:46,119 --> 00:26:50,560
Speaker 2: I just feel horrible though. You couldn't save it. You

613
00:26:50,600 --> 00:26:54,320
Speaker 2: couldn't save it. It was doomed. But oh my god,

614
00:26:54,400 --> 00:26:58,440
Speaker 2: that feeling of just like, yeah, imagine one of them

615
00:26:58,480 --> 00:27:00,960
Speaker 2: had to know the first do within forty eight hours.

616
00:27:01,359 --> 00:27:04,720
Speaker 3: Did you have to live with a girlfriend. Yes, and

617
00:27:04,800 --> 00:27:05,720
Speaker 3: that didn't become your wife?

618
00:27:06,119 --> 00:27:06,320
Speaker 2: Yes?

619
00:27:06,800 --> 00:27:09,760
Speaker 3: Wow, scandalous. You never did that. No, never, you never

620
00:27:09,880 --> 00:27:12,399
Speaker 3: moved in with a girl. I live with Murray. I

621
00:27:12,480 --> 00:27:14,520
Speaker 3: didn't live with That was my my room. I had,

622
00:27:14,560 --> 00:27:16,320
Speaker 3: me and me and Murray. We were best friend in

623
00:27:16,359 --> 00:27:18,240
Speaker 3: it in a seven hundred and fifty square foot apartment

624
00:27:18,280 --> 00:27:18,600
Speaker 3: sharing a.

625
00:27:18,600 --> 00:27:20,159
Speaker 2: Bandage seven fifty.

626
00:27:20,320 --> 00:27:22,040
Speaker 3: Yeah. I he used to be in the shower and

627
00:27:22,080 --> 00:27:23,280
Speaker 3: I used to go in and poop on him. It

628
00:27:23,320 --> 00:27:23,640
Speaker 3: was great.

629
00:27:24,600 --> 00:27:26,879
Speaker 2: This is a real thing. By the way, I would move.

630
00:27:26,800 --> 00:27:29,040
Speaker 3: The door open, I would talk to him. Could you

631
00:27:29,119 --> 00:27:30,720
Speaker 3: shut the door? I'm like, no, I got blushed a

632
00:27:30,800 --> 00:27:33,440
Speaker 3: fall back. But Murray and I were actually very good.

633
00:27:33,480 --> 00:27:35,280
Speaker 3: We were very good roommates. I don't think many people

634
00:27:35,320 --> 00:27:36,760
Speaker 3: could have done with me and mar pulled off. Actually,

635
00:27:36,760 --> 00:27:41,240
Speaker 3: because Mer and I live worked together that we had

636
00:27:41,320 --> 00:27:43,879
Speaker 3: just started the show. We were together each other twenty

637
00:27:43,960 --> 00:27:45,800
Speaker 3: hours a day. Really don't tell me to see who

638
00:27:45,800 --> 00:27:47,560
Speaker 3: other when we were sleeping, we were working the same place,

639
00:27:47,800 --> 00:27:50,440
Speaker 3: and we still remained friends, which is crazy because that's

640
00:27:50,440 --> 00:27:52,280
Speaker 3: a lot to handle with somebody. And I'm a lot

641
00:27:52,359 --> 00:27:54,520
Speaker 3: and he's a lot. But like we're like we're a

642
00:27:54,520 --> 00:27:58,760
Speaker 3: little different energies too, Like I'm pretty intense, you know. Yeah, so,

643
00:27:58,960 --> 00:28:01,640
Speaker 3: but it was it worked out. That was the only

644
00:28:01,680 --> 00:28:02,639
Speaker 3: thing I've always had roommates.

645
00:28:02,680 --> 00:28:06,960
Speaker 2: Though you're both very opinionated, Yeah, you both have strong opinions.

646
00:28:07,560 --> 00:28:10,760
Speaker 3: But I will say murray Is has always been very

647
00:28:10,840 --> 00:28:14,840
Speaker 3: open to my opinion and taking my advice a lot,

648
00:28:15,000 --> 00:28:17,440
Speaker 3: like he is always I've always been a consigli airy

649
00:28:17,520 --> 00:28:20,119
Speaker 3: for him in a real way of like, you know,

650
00:28:20,400 --> 00:28:22,240
Speaker 3: things like he had identified that he wanted to change

651
00:28:22,280 --> 00:28:23,800
Speaker 3: or needed help with and things like that, Like we

652
00:28:24,000 --> 00:28:26,440
Speaker 3: were like brothers that way, still are. But he was

653
00:28:26,520 --> 00:28:29,560
Speaker 3: like very much like what do I do here? Or

654
00:28:29,560 --> 00:28:31,720
Speaker 3: how do I do this? Not even just like dating

655
00:28:31,760 --> 00:28:33,520
Speaker 3: with girls, because he had always he dated way longer

656
00:28:33,520 --> 00:28:35,000
Speaker 3: than I did before he had settled down with his

657
00:28:36,080 --> 00:28:40,680
Speaker 3: his lady. But I think it just worked because he

658
00:28:40,880 --> 00:28:43,000
Speaker 3: was open with that, Like he would listen to me

659
00:28:43,080 --> 00:28:44,480
Speaker 3: more than he would listen to anybody else I.

660
00:28:44,520 --> 00:28:47,280
Speaker 2: Think, you know what I mean, Well, that probably goes

661
00:28:47,320 --> 00:28:50,760
Speaker 2: to the fact that, look, he's a really really smart guy, smart,

662
00:28:50,800 --> 00:28:53,560
Speaker 2: super incredibly smart, and it goes a long way to

663
00:28:53,600 --> 00:28:57,120
Speaker 2: think that he'd be open to listening to other people's opinion,

664
00:28:57,160 --> 00:28:59,480
Speaker 2: because you have some people that are just incredibly intelligent.

665
00:28:59,520 --> 00:29:01,880
Speaker 3: But but we were also older too, Like we're roommates

666
00:29:01,880 --> 00:29:03,600
Speaker 3: at like thirty two, Like you know what I mean,

667
00:29:03,680 --> 00:29:05,840
Speaker 3: So it's kind of like, yeah, you're setting your ways.

668
00:29:06,320 --> 00:29:08,560
Speaker 2: That's kind of the norm now. Now it is now,

669
00:29:08,600 --> 00:29:10,640
Speaker 2: it is, But back when we were younger, when you

670
00:29:10,720 --> 00:29:12,240
Speaker 2: don't have to die beside burns.

671
00:29:12,400 --> 00:29:15,720
Speaker 3: Yeah, I never lived alone until recently. That was the

672
00:29:15,760 --> 00:29:17,760
Speaker 3: first time I've ever lived alone. I always had roommates

673
00:29:18,040 --> 00:29:20,200
Speaker 3: or I was living my mom's at basement. Yeah that's

674
00:29:20,200 --> 00:29:20,680
Speaker 3: what I was doing.

675
00:29:21,000 --> 00:29:22,479
Speaker 2: But imagine moving with somebody.

676
00:29:22,560 --> 00:29:24,680
Speaker 3: And so, how did yours? That was yours? Terrible? That

677
00:29:24,720 --> 00:29:25,320
Speaker 3: didn't work out?

678
00:29:26,080 --> 00:29:28,760
Speaker 2: Yeah it was no, No, No, I mean she's fantastic.

679
00:29:29,120 --> 00:29:29,760
Speaker 3: Yeah, we're no.

680
00:29:29,880 --> 00:29:33,040
Speaker 2: I mean the moment, the moment was bad. The moment

681
00:29:33,120 --> 00:29:33,360
Speaker 2: was bad.

682
00:29:33,440 --> 00:29:34,400
Speaker 3: How long are we living together?

683
00:29:35,400 --> 00:29:35,960
Speaker 2: About a year?

684
00:29:36,080 --> 00:29:39,440
Speaker 3: Okay, about a year longer? Than this one. Sorry Mallory.

685
00:29:40,880 --> 00:29:45,880
Speaker 2: Hashtag left on red Mallory, you are proof positive that

686
00:29:46,040 --> 00:29:48,440
Speaker 2: we need to You know, we took some time off.

687
00:29:48,560 --> 00:29:49,959
Speaker 3: You can't can't do We have to be hit fit

688
00:29:50,000 --> 00:29:50,280
Speaker 3: of people.

689
00:29:50,400 --> 00:29:51,880
Speaker 2: We can't do this, Joe.

690
00:29:51,960 --> 00:29:54,160
Speaker 3: And now you know, now have responsibility not to only

691
00:29:54,200 --> 00:29:57,960
Speaker 3: the America. I have responsibility to you, to iHeartRadio, to everyone,

692
00:29:58,280 --> 00:30:00,840
Speaker 3: and to everybody. Yes, bubble machine across America.

693
00:30:01,280 --> 00:30:04,800
Speaker 2: Yeah, we got to keep these people together. We got

694
00:30:04,880 --> 00:30:05,720
Speaker 2: to keep love in the air.

695
00:30:05,760 --> 00:30:08,720
Speaker 3: All right, let's go. Let's keep talking problems second, but

696
00:30:08,840 --> 00:30:11,000
Speaker 3: also congratulations on being on your own and finding the

697
00:30:11,080 --> 00:30:12,320
Speaker 3: right one because that's what's going to happen.

698
00:30:12,400 --> 00:30:12,480
Speaker 4: Now.

699
00:30:13,040 --> 00:30:16,400
Speaker 2: Okay, this is coming us from Frankie, something about a

700
00:30:16,440 --> 00:30:20,760
Speaker 2: crowd work show. My question for you both is if

701
00:30:20,800 --> 00:30:23,600
Speaker 2: I should break the ice with my brother. If I

702
00:30:23,600 --> 00:30:27,880
Speaker 2: should break the ice with my brother Jonathan. Oh some background,

703
00:30:28,080 --> 00:30:30,720
Speaker 2: he's fifteen years older than me and my half brother.

704
00:30:31,040 --> 00:30:33,360
Speaker 2: We're sharing the same mom. Despite the age gap. We

705
00:30:33,480 --> 00:30:36,840
Speaker 2: used to talk frequently. My dad, his stepdad, died on

706
00:30:37,080 --> 00:30:41,000
Speaker 2: June second of pancreatic cancer. His birthday was on July second,

707
00:30:41,400 --> 00:30:43,520
Speaker 2: and on that day my mom decided to have a

708
00:30:43,600 --> 00:30:46,520
Speaker 2: celebration of his life, inviting only family and two close

709
00:30:46,560 --> 00:30:48,840
Speaker 2: friends who helped out a lot while he was sick.

710
00:30:49,080 --> 00:30:52,280
Speaker 2: Without telling anyone, Jonathan invited some of his friends and

711
00:30:52,360 --> 00:30:54,080
Speaker 2: their children go.

712
00:30:54,120 --> 00:30:54,640
Speaker 3: To the next one.

713
00:30:56,880 --> 00:30:58,880
Speaker 2: My mom found out, okay, there's a long one. Okay

714
00:31:00,080 --> 00:31:03,120
Speaker 2: found out when they were only twenty minutes away, despite

715
00:31:03,160 --> 00:31:05,960
Speaker 2: the drive for them being four hours. There was little

716
00:31:06,000 --> 00:31:08,160
Speaker 2: she could say about it, and at the point we

717
00:31:09,000 --> 00:31:11,760
Speaker 2: hardly celebrated my dad because of this. Jonathan and his

718
00:31:11,800 --> 00:31:13,800
Speaker 2: wife stayed inside with their friends, while my husband and

719
00:31:13,880 --> 00:31:16,440
Speaker 2: I stayed outside with my mom. It breaks my heart

720
00:31:16,480 --> 00:31:18,920
Speaker 2: because she has been crying, but eventually wiped her tears

721
00:31:18,960 --> 00:31:21,520
Speaker 2: away and went inside to be a good host. I

722
00:31:21,640 --> 00:31:24,480
Speaker 2: later found out after they left, Jonathan called our mom

723
00:31:24,560 --> 00:31:27,360
Speaker 2: saying I needed to apologize to his wife for being

724
00:31:27,480 --> 00:31:30,640
Speaker 2: rude to her and their friends. My mom thinks he's

725
00:31:30,760 --> 00:31:33,040
Speaker 2: in the wrong, but told him she is staying out

726
00:31:33,040 --> 00:31:35,760
Speaker 2: of it. She told me what he said because now

727
00:31:36,160 --> 00:31:38,000
Speaker 2: if he hears me in the background while I'm on

728
00:31:38,040 --> 00:31:40,080
Speaker 2: the phone with her, he hangs up. I'm at a

729
00:31:40,160 --> 00:31:43,000
Speaker 2: loss on how someone could do this. Any thoughts or

730
00:31:43,080 --> 00:31:45,280
Speaker 2: advice is appreciated. Wow, this is pretty detailed.

731
00:31:45,320 --> 00:31:47,680
Speaker 3: And it is pretty that's pretty deep. So there's a

732
00:31:48,280 --> 00:31:52,080
Speaker 3: it's coming. The problem is coming out of a huge

733
00:31:53,360 --> 00:31:56,080
Speaker 3: traumatic moment that everyone is caught up in their emotions on.

734
00:31:56,400 --> 00:31:59,520
Speaker 3: So whenever those things, whenever, that's the seed that gets planted.

735
00:31:59,560 --> 00:32:01,320
Speaker 3: I feel like that tree is a strong tree to

736
00:32:01,360 --> 00:32:04,040
Speaker 3: cut down because you're coming from a moment of like,

737
00:32:04,200 --> 00:32:05,880
Speaker 3: that's a very upsetting time in your life and it

738
00:32:05,920 --> 00:32:09,480
Speaker 3: feels like you were stolen your way you could grieve

739
00:32:09,840 --> 00:32:12,360
Speaker 3: or handle a situation, and you can't get that back.

740
00:32:13,240 --> 00:32:14,720
Speaker 3: So the first thing I think you need to do

741
00:32:14,960 --> 00:32:18,840
Speaker 3: is work around that. You have to realize that that

742
00:32:19,000 --> 00:32:22,200
Speaker 3: is that moment of time is gone. And now let's

743
00:32:22,280 --> 00:32:23,720
Speaker 3: not base it on that. Let's base it on the

744
00:32:23,800 --> 00:32:26,360
Speaker 3: fact that you guys aren't in each other's lives and

745
00:32:27,080 --> 00:32:29,360
Speaker 3: you clearly want to be right because you're reaching out

746
00:32:29,360 --> 00:32:32,160
Speaker 3: to ask about it. Of course, so I'm a firm

747
00:32:32,200 --> 00:32:34,720
Speaker 3: believer if you want somebody in your life, you have

748
00:32:34,800 --> 00:32:37,880
Speaker 3: to go get it. And because one of two things

749
00:32:37,880 --> 00:32:39,560
Speaker 3: is happening and the other person doesn't know how important

750
00:32:39,560 --> 00:32:41,000
Speaker 3: they are to you that you want them in your life,

751
00:32:41,320 --> 00:32:44,320
Speaker 3: or you're letting something like this just stand in the way,

752
00:32:44,360 --> 00:32:48,560
Speaker 3: which Ultimately, as as it may sound, doesn't matter that

753
00:32:48,640 --> 00:32:51,080
Speaker 3: your dad, you know, or dad or stepdad died. What

754
00:32:51,160 --> 00:32:54,480
Speaker 3: matters is who's here left with you? Right, So the

755
00:32:54,520 --> 00:32:57,240
Speaker 3: bigger regret will be if you know, goph Bids, something

756
00:32:57,280 --> 00:32:59,600
Speaker 3: happens to this other person in your life and you

757
00:32:59,680 --> 00:33:03,479
Speaker 3: didn't do everything you could, that regret will be even bigger.

758
00:33:03,720 --> 00:33:05,440
Speaker 3: And yeah, insurmountable.

759
00:33:05,720 --> 00:33:09,479
Speaker 2: Yeah, the commonality is obviously the father is passing.

760
00:33:09,600 --> 00:33:09,680
Speaker 5: Now.

761
00:33:09,760 --> 00:33:13,960
Speaker 2: Look, yes, that day was set aside to acknowledge and

762
00:33:14,400 --> 00:33:16,400
Speaker 2: admire and appreciate the time you got to spend with

763
00:33:16,760 --> 00:33:20,640
Speaker 2: But you can still kind of do that again.

764
00:33:20,760 --> 00:33:21,040
Speaker 3: You could.

765
00:33:21,080 --> 00:33:24,000
Speaker 2: You could replicate that, right, you could. You could get

766
00:33:24,040 --> 00:33:26,600
Speaker 2: it back on track, and everybody across the board do it.

767
00:33:26,960 --> 00:33:29,480
Speaker 2: I think what happened is you felt slighted or the

768
00:33:29,520 --> 00:33:33,320
Speaker 2: mom felt slighted. And I think sometimes when these things happen,

769
00:33:33,440 --> 00:33:35,680
Speaker 2: you don't know what's going on on the other side

770
00:33:35,680 --> 00:33:38,160
Speaker 2: of the fence, right You're you're only receiving information from

771
00:33:38,240 --> 00:33:42,040
Speaker 2: your mom, and you don't know why somebody would communicate

772
00:33:42,840 --> 00:33:46,640
Speaker 2: fifteen minutes out, you know the situation. So it's like,

773
00:33:47,640 --> 00:33:50,479
Speaker 2: obviously she hasn't gotten in touch with him, she hasn't

774
00:33:50,560 --> 00:33:53,880
Speaker 2: given him an opportunity to say his peace of mind.

775
00:33:54,360 --> 00:33:57,640
Speaker 2: So I think obviously it's it's somebody, it's of blood.

776
00:33:59,080 --> 00:34:01,760
Speaker 2: And if it's up to you to make that first initial,

777
00:34:02,440 --> 00:34:05,320
Speaker 2: you know, I'll a branch. Why not? Why not do it?

778
00:34:05,400 --> 00:34:06,960
Speaker 2: It's like you don't lose anything by doing that.

779
00:34:07,160 --> 00:34:08,600
Speaker 3: I see what you're saying to though about if he's

780
00:34:08,640 --> 00:34:10,360
Speaker 3: hanging up the phone when he hears her voice in

781
00:34:10,440 --> 00:34:13,279
Speaker 3: the background, it might be a little either fresh form

782
00:34:13,400 --> 00:34:15,520
Speaker 3: or he doesn't know how to handle it. I would

783
00:34:15,560 --> 00:34:17,120
Speaker 3: not try to put your mom in the middle of it.

784
00:34:17,239 --> 00:34:18,520
Speaker 2: Yeah, yeah, just get to it.

785
00:34:18,880 --> 00:34:20,200
Speaker 3: Just get to it, like you know, you know where

786
00:34:20,239 --> 00:34:21,800
Speaker 3: he lives, like ring the bell, there's no you know,

787
00:34:21,960 --> 00:34:23,000
Speaker 3: is he going to let you? And then you have

788
00:34:23,080 --> 00:34:25,000
Speaker 3: your answer just say hey, let's figure this out. Yeah,

789
00:34:25,000 --> 00:34:27,040
Speaker 3: and ridiculous. And if he doesn't want to figure it out,

790
00:34:27,080 --> 00:34:28,759
Speaker 3: then okay, you go on with yours on him. Yeah,

791
00:34:28,920 --> 00:34:30,799
Speaker 3: that's on him. You did what you could and you can't.

792
00:34:30,880 --> 00:34:33,480
Speaker 2: But like, like that's that that reminds me of like

793
00:34:33,560 --> 00:34:35,600
Speaker 2: you know, when like a guy's like cheating, ye, and

794
00:34:35,680 --> 00:34:39,120
Speaker 2: it's like, hey, let's go on here, what the fure

795
00:34:39,120 --> 00:34:40,719
Speaker 2: you talking about? What where we gonna go there. It's like,

796
00:34:41,200 --> 00:34:42,680
Speaker 2: what do you pissed off about her? You're the one

797
00:34:42,800 --> 00:34:44,440
Speaker 2: dipping on her, you know. It's always like, get off

798
00:34:44,480 --> 00:34:45,200
Speaker 2: my phone.

799
00:34:45,280 --> 00:34:45,680
Speaker 1: It's like that.

800
00:34:46,360 --> 00:34:48,520
Speaker 2: So you know, when you hear something like that, it's

801
00:34:48,600 --> 00:34:50,960
Speaker 2: like like when I think of that, I think as

802
00:34:50,960 --> 00:34:53,520
Speaker 2: somebody that doesn't want to confront the situation of like,

803
00:34:54,200 --> 00:34:56,000
Speaker 2: you know, hanging up. It's like, that's not going to

804
00:34:56,040 --> 00:35:00,520
Speaker 2: solve it. You messed up, dude, And maybe there's a

805
00:35:00,560 --> 00:35:03,520
Speaker 2: reason that he messed up, right, or maybe there's maybe

806
00:35:03,600 --> 00:35:07,879
Speaker 2: there's you know, like a bridge to be a gap

807
00:35:07,920 --> 00:35:10,960
Speaker 2: to be bridged when you guys communicate about just sussing

808
00:35:11,000 --> 00:35:12,879
Speaker 2: it out and figured it out. Because I always think

809
00:35:12,880 --> 00:35:16,480
Speaker 2: it's like to your point, you never know when anything

810
00:35:16,480 --> 00:35:20,200
Speaker 2: can happen. You never know, so I always try to

811
00:35:20,280 --> 00:35:22,800
Speaker 2: err on the side of caution, like even with close friends,

812
00:35:22,960 --> 00:35:27,040
Speaker 2: great friends, whatever, you know, family, especially anytime I do

813
00:35:27,160 --> 00:35:29,800
Speaker 2: something wrong and I shut the door and I'm by myself,

814
00:35:29,840 --> 00:35:32,440
Speaker 2: I'm like, you gotta do it. Yeah, I just instantly

815
00:35:32,520 --> 00:35:34,120
Speaker 2: go back. I don't care if you don't talk to me.

816
00:35:34,200 --> 00:35:36,680
Speaker 2: I'm sorry. I apologize right, and just so it's out there.

817
00:35:36,920 --> 00:35:39,400
Speaker 3: Yeah, Sometimes to get people to talk. You have to

818
00:35:39,520 --> 00:35:42,120
Speaker 3: corner them and confront them. Some people just don't want

819
00:35:42,120 --> 00:35:45,080
Speaker 3: to communicate, and then once they have no choice, they

820
00:35:45,120 --> 00:35:46,920
Speaker 3: realize it's like, okay, we have to we have to

821
00:35:47,000 --> 00:35:49,239
Speaker 3: talk about this. Yeah, you know. So maybe it goes

822
00:35:49,280 --> 00:35:50,680
Speaker 3: that way for you. I hope it does. I hope

823
00:35:50,719 --> 00:35:52,920
Speaker 3: you it pans out. But I would say you need

824
00:35:53,040 --> 00:35:54,520
Speaker 3: to you need to take the steps here to talk

825
00:35:54,560 --> 00:35:56,000
Speaker 3: to that person exactly.

826
00:35:56,120 --> 00:36:00,360
Speaker 2: Yeah. I think I think we're It's amazing seeing how

827
00:36:00,560 --> 00:36:03,080
Speaker 2: communication is the key for so many things. But I

828
00:36:03,360 --> 00:36:05,759
Speaker 2: think you may feel justified in the fact that you

829
00:36:05,880 --> 00:36:08,399
Speaker 2: don't want to. Why should I. It's like, okay, well

830
00:36:08,520 --> 00:36:11,920
Speaker 2: then just the resentment's going to continue. Yeah, and nothing's gonna.

831
00:36:11,719 --> 00:36:13,400
Speaker 3: Get Why should I because you're the one thinking about it.

832
00:36:14,160 --> 00:36:14,600
Speaker 2: There you go.

833
00:36:14,840 --> 00:36:19,040
Speaker 3: Now, So that's what got Jon. You just get it,

834
00:36:19,360 --> 00:36:20,759
Speaker 3: get it, get it, get it.

835
00:36:30,400 --> 00:36:35,600
Speaker 2: All right. This is coming us from Michael. Hi, mommies, Zap,

836
00:36:36,239 --> 00:36:39,960
Speaker 2: big fan of you both. Zach's name is Michael, maybe.

837
00:36:39,800 --> 00:36:42,920
Speaker 3: It's a oh maybe, says nickname is Zap. I love

838
00:36:42,960 --> 00:36:43,480
Speaker 3: that nickname.

839
00:36:43,600 --> 00:36:44,040
Speaker 2: Pretty cool.

840
00:36:44,080 --> 00:36:45,560
Speaker 3: Let's call him Zap all right, Zap.

841
00:36:45,840 --> 00:36:47,960
Speaker 2: I need some advice. My wife and I as well

842
00:36:48,040 --> 00:36:50,799
Speaker 2: as my sisters as my wife's sister and brother in law.

843
00:36:51,600 --> 00:36:54,759
Speaker 2: We're all contemplating homeschooling for our children. My son four

844
00:36:54,840 --> 00:36:56,920
Speaker 2: years old and my nephew will be four in October.

845
00:36:57,120 --> 00:36:58,800
Speaker 2: We've been weighing the pros and cons and wanted to

846
00:36:58,840 --> 00:37:01,120
Speaker 2: take your one your take on it. Kids are very

847
00:37:01,600 --> 00:37:03,320
Speaker 2: These are very social kids. When they go to the

848
00:37:03,400 --> 00:37:05,560
Speaker 2: park or zoo, they play and make friends with kids.

849
00:37:05,640 --> 00:37:10,320
Speaker 2: No problem thoughts on that aspect is team sports outside

850
00:37:10,320 --> 00:37:14,080
Speaker 2: of homeschooling to hone their social skills. Thanks mommies for

851
00:37:14,200 --> 00:37:14,800
Speaker 2: your advice.

852
00:37:16,040 --> 00:37:17,800
Speaker 3: He wants his name Zap and he wants to be

853
00:37:17,880 --> 00:37:22,680
Speaker 3: their teacher. Did they call him mster Zat?

854
00:37:24,920 --> 00:37:28,120
Speaker 2: Yeah, that's a I've had a few friends contemplate that,

855
00:37:28,280 --> 00:37:31,040
Speaker 2: but I think that's a hell of a commitment.

856
00:37:31,080 --> 00:37:32,760
Speaker 3: You know, this new thing people are doing is private

857
00:37:32,840 --> 00:37:36,040
Speaker 3: schooling at home. So they hire a teacher that is

858
00:37:36,120 --> 00:37:38,839
Speaker 3: quit and they come into the house and they teach

859
00:37:38,880 --> 00:37:41,879
Speaker 3: their kids. So it's not the parents teaching. They get

860
00:37:41,920 --> 00:37:44,399
Speaker 3: these So this is people.

861
00:37:44,560 --> 00:37:47,800
Speaker 2: This is typical, Like we go from a homeschool into nah.

862
00:37:49,200 --> 00:37:50,160
Speaker 3: Died somebody else do this?

863
00:37:50,400 --> 00:37:51,920
Speaker 2: Yeah, unbelievable.

864
00:37:51,960 --> 00:37:53,719
Speaker 3: I've heard that a couple of people have done that

865
00:37:53,880 --> 00:37:55,640
Speaker 3: kind of thing where they had they had gotten the

866
00:37:55,760 --> 00:37:58,479
Speaker 3: commune together of like people in their neighborhood that wanted

867
00:37:58,480 --> 00:38:00,320
Speaker 3: it was similar to this, right, I feel like it

868
00:38:00,320 --> 00:38:02,440
Speaker 3: always happens when there's a gathering of people that are like, hey,

869
00:38:02,960 --> 00:38:06,840
Speaker 3: we need to go right. Yeah, But I really think, honestly,

870
00:38:07,080 --> 00:38:09,640
Speaker 3: it is just a product of where you are. You know,

871
00:38:09,760 --> 00:38:12,200
Speaker 3: my district, my school district's great. I think the teacher

872
00:38:12,280 --> 00:38:15,080
Speaker 3: is a phenomenal. The principle of my kids school's unbelievable.

873
00:38:15,239 --> 00:38:17,759
Speaker 3: I think it's a really good, you know, community, and

874
00:38:17,840 --> 00:38:19,440
Speaker 3: I like having them be a part of it. That

875
00:38:19,560 --> 00:38:22,160
Speaker 3: being said, if you are somewhere where it's terrible that

876
00:38:22,320 --> 00:38:24,960
Speaker 3: you know, the schools aren't safe, the schools are you

877
00:38:25,000 --> 00:38:26,879
Speaker 3: don't feel like, again what you need that you're paying

878
00:38:26,960 --> 00:38:29,719
Speaker 3: for with your tax dollars, then you might want to

879
00:38:29,760 --> 00:38:31,440
Speaker 3: be thinking about it. So I don't think there's a

880
00:38:31,520 --> 00:38:35,160
Speaker 3: right or wrong answer here. I just would say it's

881
00:38:35,160 --> 00:38:38,360
Speaker 3: an enormous commitment, an enormous commitment, enormous commitment.

882
00:38:38,480 --> 00:38:43,480
Speaker 2: And my wife's a teacher, right, she was a teacher,

883
00:38:43,960 --> 00:38:47,120
Speaker 2: and when pandemic hit we had to homeschool kids in California.

884
00:38:48,000 --> 00:38:51,000
Speaker 2: I was like oh, thank god, because she can. She's

885
00:38:51,040 --> 00:38:55,000
Speaker 2: a teacher. Right, But what I saw, because here's the thing,

886
00:38:55,080 --> 00:38:56,320
Speaker 2: are you smarter than the fifth grader?

887
00:38:56,719 --> 00:38:57,440
Speaker 1: I am not.

888
00:38:58,520 --> 00:39:00,279
Speaker 2: No, I couldn't do any of that stuff. But you know,

889
00:39:00,320 --> 00:39:03,080
Speaker 2: even my daughter's doing fractions now. I'm like, no clue,

890
00:39:03,120 --> 00:39:05,239
Speaker 2: I haven't done any of that since since I left.

891
00:39:05,280 --> 00:39:06,680
Speaker 3: But she.

892
00:39:08,160 --> 00:39:09,759
Speaker 2: It took her a second to catch up. She's like,

893
00:39:10,280 --> 00:39:12,719
Speaker 2: I'm being a mom and not a teacher. And so

894
00:39:12,920 --> 00:39:15,719
Speaker 2: there was also that discernment that anybody that does that

895
00:39:15,920 --> 00:39:18,239
Speaker 2: has got to know you're not a parent when you

896
00:39:18,360 --> 00:39:21,400
Speaker 2: do it, although you are, you're their teacher. So it

897
00:39:21,520 --> 00:39:24,640
Speaker 2: took her like forty eight hours to flip the switch

898
00:39:24,680 --> 00:39:27,120
Speaker 2: and she got it recalibrated. It was off to the races.

899
00:39:27,200 --> 00:39:31,200
Speaker 2: But again, like to your point, it's a ton of bandwidth,

900
00:39:31,800 --> 00:39:34,000
Speaker 2: it's a lot of time, and I think you're one

901
00:39:34,040 --> 00:39:36,560
Speaker 2: hundred percent right. It depends on your location. If you

902
00:39:36,600 --> 00:39:39,400
Speaker 2: have a great public school or great school, why would you.

903
00:39:39,600 --> 00:39:41,480
Speaker 3: Yeah, I feel like if they're thinking about, they don't right.

904
00:39:41,880 --> 00:39:44,080
Speaker 3: If they're asking, I'm thinking about for what reason? Yeah?

905
00:39:44,120 --> 00:39:45,640
Speaker 3: So if you look, you're looking to get the kids

906
00:39:45,640 --> 00:39:47,200
Speaker 3: out of a certain element that you don't feel like

907
00:39:47,320 --> 00:39:51,400
Speaker 3: your options are to move or homeschool. But they're doing

908
00:39:51,400 --> 00:39:53,120
Speaker 3: it with a bunch of people, so maybe everybody's gonna take.

909
00:39:53,360 --> 00:39:54,800
Speaker 3: Everybody takes a subject.

910
00:39:56,080 --> 00:39:56,760
Speaker 2: Give me recess.

911
00:39:56,840 --> 00:39:59,840
Speaker 3: Yeah I got funny. Yeah, I'll do lunch and p

912
00:40:01,040 --> 00:40:01,399
Speaker 3: But your.

913
00:40:01,360 --> 00:40:03,000
Speaker 2: Kids are not going to turn out like Tim Tebow.

914
00:40:03,239 --> 00:40:06,600
Speaker 2: That's an anomaly. That's like I think. And Tim Tebow

915
00:40:06,719 --> 00:40:10,799
Speaker 2: is uh, he's an Academy Award winning.

916
00:40:14,000 --> 00:40:16,239
Speaker 3: You don't know Tim Tim Tebow. I know the name. Yeah,

917
00:40:16,600 --> 00:40:18,800
Speaker 3: he plays you don't know what Tim Tebow. He plays football.

918
00:40:19,160 --> 00:40:20,080
Speaker 3: I don't know sports. You know this.

919
00:40:20,280 --> 00:40:20,840
Speaker 2: I know you don't know.

920
00:40:21,000 --> 00:40:24,200
Speaker 3: I know Tim Tebow. He's a quarterback. He's a cool okay,

921
00:40:24,400 --> 00:40:30,640
Speaker 3: and he played for the New York Jets, Florida Florida Panthers, Florida, Florida.

922
00:40:31,040 --> 00:40:34,120
Speaker 3: He was in Florida Miami Dolphins. Now not the Florida

923
00:40:34,600 --> 00:40:36,520
Speaker 3: Jaguars to stop, but he.

924
00:40:36,560 --> 00:40:39,080
Speaker 2: Did play Jackson Jaguars for a second. He went to

925
00:40:39,160 --> 00:40:40,680
Speaker 2: the Denver Broncos.

926
00:40:41,400 --> 00:40:42,279
Speaker 3: That's where I know him from.

927
00:40:42,719 --> 00:40:47,279
Speaker 2: But University of Florida Gators. Why everybody knows him at home?

928
00:40:47,440 --> 00:40:49,120
Speaker 2: Gator Rade, that's right.

929
00:40:50,480 --> 00:40:52,800
Speaker 3: I know, I know drinks, I know, I know beverages.

930
00:40:52,880 --> 00:40:56,680
Speaker 2: You do know beverages. Okay, all right, so I don't

931
00:40:56,680 --> 00:41:00,440
Speaker 2: know homeschool. It's just like god, yeah, yeah, oh you know.

932
00:41:00,520 --> 00:41:03,880
Speaker 3: During our pandemic my kids were young, it was preschool

933
00:41:03,920 --> 00:41:05,160
Speaker 3: and whatever it was.

934
00:41:05,320 --> 00:41:08,759
Speaker 2: If you were forced to like let's say, schools were

935
00:41:08,880 --> 00:41:11,640
Speaker 2: like another pandemic kind of situation, it's like, okay, your kid,

936
00:41:11,719 --> 00:41:14,839
Speaker 2: you you Every American is responsible for homeschool and their

937
00:41:14,920 --> 00:41:18,040
Speaker 2: kids from now. My kids, I'm like, you just get

938
00:41:18,080 --> 00:41:20,000
Speaker 2: a job at mine. Key right now, just go to

939
00:41:20,120 --> 00:41:21,160
Speaker 2: McDonald I do it because we're not.

940
00:41:21,440 --> 00:41:22,240
Speaker 3: I did the homeworks.

941
00:41:22,640 --> 00:41:22,960
Speaker 2: You did it.

942
00:41:23,120 --> 00:41:26,040
Speaker 3: I do I even now I do three o'clock. Me

943
00:41:26,080 --> 00:41:27,839
Speaker 3: and my daughter sit down. We do our homework together.

944
00:41:28,120 --> 00:41:29,840
Speaker 3: It's like a little date. I have my coffee, she

945
00:41:29,920 --> 00:41:32,319
Speaker 3: does our homework. Yeah, it's great, I do. I enjoy.

946
00:41:32,400 --> 00:41:34,920
Speaker 3: It reminds me of my mom. My mom used to

947
00:41:34,960 --> 00:41:36,680
Speaker 3: help me with my homework and we used to sit

948
00:41:36,760 --> 00:41:38,400
Speaker 3: down and go. But there was a point when I

949
00:41:38,440 --> 00:41:40,240
Speaker 3: got smart, and I remember it when I got smarter

950
00:41:40,360 --> 00:41:42,400
Speaker 3: than my mother really and I was, yeah, I was,

951
00:41:42,480 --> 00:41:45,200
Speaker 3: I'm pretty school. As far as school went, I was,

952
00:41:45,600 --> 00:41:48,759
Speaker 3: I was good. And I remember there's a point where

953
00:41:48,960 --> 00:41:50,960
Speaker 3: like I was correcting her, and then she was like,

954
00:41:51,000 --> 00:41:52,600
Speaker 3: all right, so if you know everything, do it yourself.

955
00:41:53,120 --> 00:41:55,640
Speaker 3: And I just did it and that was it. It

956
00:41:55,800 --> 00:41:57,400
Speaker 3: just went from there. I used to make test stuff

957
00:41:57,400 --> 00:41:59,879
Speaker 3: for my dad. That's what the geek I was. Yeah,

958
00:42:00,000 --> 00:42:01,560
Speaker 3: my dad would have to call you were a mathlete.

959
00:42:01,800 --> 00:42:02,440
Speaker 3: I was an athlete.

960
00:42:02,520 --> 00:42:02,680
Speaker 1: Yeah.

961
00:42:02,680 --> 00:42:03,959
Speaker 3: But I was good at school as far as school

962
00:42:03,960 --> 00:42:06,640
Speaker 3: when I was pretty well rounded school subject wise, except

963
00:42:06,880 --> 00:42:09,919
Speaker 3: I didn't like to read like fiction, so I wasn't

964
00:42:09,920 --> 00:42:12,480
Speaker 3: really great at English, you know, like the when you

965
00:42:12,520 --> 00:42:14,840
Speaker 3: had to like read works of Shakespeare and stuff. I

966
00:42:14,840 --> 00:42:15,480
Speaker 3: didn't really connect.

967
00:42:15,520 --> 00:42:18,040
Speaker 2: But you are a nerd with social skills. I think

968
00:42:18,080 --> 00:42:20,560
Speaker 2: that's how I would describe you. You're a nerd reritibly, like.

969
00:42:20,600 --> 00:42:22,600
Speaker 3: Look at that. That's a nice I think that, thank you.

970
00:42:22,960 --> 00:42:24,000
Speaker 2: No, you're like a cool you.

971
00:42:24,000 --> 00:42:24,400
Speaker 1: Know what I mean.

972
00:42:24,480 --> 00:42:27,360
Speaker 2: Like you're not the typical like wallflower that's going to

973
00:42:27,400 --> 00:42:29,120
Speaker 2: sit at the lunch table by himself and bring a

974
00:42:29,160 --> 00:42:30,400
Speaker 2: briefcase and be awkward.

975
00:42:30,520 --> 00:42:31,279
Speaker 1: Like you.

976
00:42:31,840 --> 00:42:34,759
Speaker 2: You had all the attributes of being hyper intelligent, but

977
00:42:34,840 --> 00:42:36,520
Speaker 2: you also like, I'm like an extrovert.

978
00:42:36,560 --> 00:42:38,719
Speaker 3: You could goof the extrovert, bounce me out, but I

979
00:42:38,800 --> 00:42:40,840
Speaker 3: wasn't in the beginning. Yeah, but so I remember, like

980
00:42:40,920 --> 00:42:42,959
Speaker 3: my dad used to come home from he was selling

981
00:42:43,200 --> 00:42:47,200
Speaker 3: selling insurance ten hours a day, trying to put food

982
00:42:47,239 --> 00:42:49,479
Speaker 3: on the table. I would come home and he would

983
00:42:49,480 --> 00:42:51,279
Speaker 3: go kick them joey with his loose leaf paper that

984
00:42:51,360 --> 00:42:53,400
Speaker 3: I wrote up a test for him to take, and

985
00:42:53,640 --> 00:42:55,640
Speaker 3: he would answer a ten question like fill in the

986
00:42:55,680 --> 00:42:58,400
Speaker 3: black multiple choice coursees. I would do that for like

987
00:42:58,520 --> 00:43:00,279
Speaker 3: every day when he would come home and he would

988
00:43:00,280 --> 00:43:01,880
Speaker 3: do it, and he would do it. Yeah, and then

989
00:43:01,880 --> 00:43:03,719
Speaker 3: I remember that sometimes he was like, I don't know,

990
00:43:05,480 --> 00:43:09,480
Speaker 3: do this twelve thirteen? Yeah around there, young teenage?

991
00:43:09,520 --> 00:43:11,160
Speaker 2: See if that my kid did that? I have a

992
00:43:11,239 --> 00:43:16,880
Speaker 2: quiz for you, ready, have a quiz for you? If

993
00:43:16,920 --> 00:43:19,719
Speaker 2: I do this, will you never ever ever ever asked

994
00:43:19,760 --> 00:43:20,719
Speaker 2: me to do another quiz again?

995
00:43:21,080 --> 00:43:21,279
Speaker 3: Yeah?

996
00:43:21,520 --> 00:43:24,160
Speaker 2: Is that a good quiz? Yeah? No, daddy, weill okay, goodbye.

997
00:43:24,440 --> 00:43:27,279
Speaker 2: That's like I I crunkle it up. I couldn't like

998
00:43:27,920 --> 00:43:28,960
Speaker 2: a homework.

999
00:43:28,600 --> 00:43:29,440
Speaker 3: And patient dad.

1000
00:43:29,520 --> 00:43:30,879
Speaker 2: Though I love my kid.

1001
00:43:32,680 --> 00:43:33,640
Speaker 3: More than you love your kids.

1002
00:43:36,320 --> 00:43:38,920
Speaker 2: Like my my mom, I would help her with her

1003
00:43:39,040 --> 00:43:42,400
Speaker 2: homework during my homework because she was always taking English

1004
00:43:42,440 --> 00:43:46,279
Speaker 2: classes like phonics and all that stuff. Very insecure about her.

1005
00:43:46,560 --> 00:43:48,200
Speaker 3: That's why you have such a good vocabulary.

1006
00:43:48,800 --> 00:43:52,359
Speaker 2: Well, my father's also like I think, like I think

1007
00:43:52,400 --> 00:43:54,759
Speaker 2: the Irish, like the old school Irish, just had a

1008
00:43:55,840 --> 00:44:02,000
Speaker 2: deep appreciation for literature and read everything. Yeah, he's got

1009
00:44:02,040 --> 00:44:02,960
Speaker 2: a deep vocabulary.

1010
00:44:03,280 --> 00:44:05,600
Speaker 3: Yeah you do. You're You're pretty stacked in that.

1011
00:44:05,680 --> 00:44:05,759
Speaker 1: Right.

1012
00:44:06,040 --> 00:44:08,719
Speaker 2: Here we go. It's coming on is from Laura, Hey, Joe,

1013
00:44:08,719 --> 00:44:10,480
Speaker 2: and Steve. I love your podcast and always tell people

1014
00:44:10,480 --> 00:44:12,359
Speaker 2: about how funny you both are and that they need

1015
00:44:12,480 --> 00:44:14,839
Speaker 2: to listen. There's been very painful for me, so I'm

1016
00:44:14,840 --> 00:44:16,759
Speaker 2: going to cut to the chase. I just found out

1017
00:44:16,800 --> 00:44:18,760
Speaker 2: that my boyfriend of almost three years has been cheating

1018
00:44:18,840 --> 00:44:21,880
Speaker 2: on me. I'm beyond distraught because this was the person

1019
00:44:21,920 --> 00:44:23,479
Speaker 2: I was setting up to be with for the rest

1020
00:44:23,520 --> 00:44:25,279
Speaker 2: of my life. Oh it doesn't just feel like I

1021
00:44:25,360 --> 00:44:27,879
Speaker 2: lost my boyfriend, but it also feels like I lost

1022
00:44:27,920 --> 00:44:30,360
Speaker 2: my future. Everything I've been planning is ruined, and I

1023
00:44:30,400 --> 00:44:31,920
Speaker 2: feel like I have to start from scratch. Have you

1024
00:44:32,000 --> 00:44:33,960
Speaker 2: guys ever been cheated on? And if so, how did

1025
00:44:34,000 --> 00:44:37,560
Speaker 2: you deal with it? Ps Steve, I hate the way

1026
00:44:37,640 --> 00:44:41,359
Speaker 2: you say via it's wrong. She wants me to say

1027
00:44:41,440 --> 00:44:45,160
Speaker 2: via yea via there's but okay, you.

1028
00:44:45,200 --> 00:44:47,400
Speaker 3: Get the express. We just talked about your vocabulary.

1029
00:44:47,560 --> 00:44:51,319
Speaker 2: We're done with the semantics of vocabulary. But obviously, Laura,

1030
00:44:51,440 --> 00:44:52,680
Speaker 2: we feel your pain.

1031
00:44:53,160 --> 00:44:53,759
Speaker 3: Yes, for sure.

1032
00:44:54,280 --> 00:44:58,759
Speaker 2: There's a whole industry that has made uh billions of

1033
00:44:58,800 --> 00:45:03,880
Speaker 2: dollars off of this. It's called sad songs. Every musical

1034
00:45:04,000 --> 00:45:06,480
Speaker 2: artist has dealt with this. There's a sad song that

1035
00:45:06,640 --> 00:45:08,600
Speaker 2: is out there that will get you through this. That

1036
00:45:08,760 --> 00:45:11,160
Speaker 2: was always the thing for me. The Cranberryes in college

1037
00:45:11,880 --> 00:45:14,600
Speaker 2: was an album everyone else is doing. It's why can't I?

1038
00:45:14,880 --> 00:45:18,360
Speaker 2: Because Denise Apienza cheated on me in front of me

1039
00:45:18,880 --> 00:45:22,120
Speaker 2: in a fraternity house and I confronted her and I

1040
00:45:22,200 --> 00:45:23,960
Speaker 2: walked in the house and they all chucked me out,

1041
00:45:24,040 --> 00:45:25,799
Speaker 2: and it was like a classic movie where I got

1042
00:45:25,880 --> 00:45:28,320
Speaker 2: chucked out in the rain looking up and she's in

1043
00:45:28,400 --> 00:45:30,640
Speaker 2: the window with a dude and the dude's laughing at me,

1044
00:45:31,320 --> 00:45:33,440
Speaker 2: like you couldn't have script it any worse. And so

1045
00:45:33,560 --> 00:45:38,120
Speaker 2: the Cranberries, So that was that was the album. Literally

1046
00:45:38,120 --> 00:45:40,040
Speaker 2: they got me through it. Yeah goodness, But you think

1047
00:45:40,040 --> 00:45:42,200
Speaker 2: about all the breakup songs in the world. There's somebody

1048
00:45:42,280 --> 00:45:44,759
Speaker 2: out there everybody's dealt with We've all dealt with it.

1049
00:45:44,880 --> 00:45:47,080
Speaker 3: Yeah, you're gonna get over to Yeah, you will, sure,

1050
00:45:47,120 --> 00:45:49,879
Speaker 3: and then you know you can't plan your future. That's

1051
00:45:49,880 --> 00:45:52,440
Speaker 3: how they call it the future rights. This has happened.

1052
00:45:52,760 --> 00:45:54,640
Speaker 3: You're you're gonna go on a different You're gonna go

1053
00:45:54,680 --> 00:45:58,400
Speaker 3: on a different route now, yeah, so you'll be okay.

1054
00:45:58,719 --> 00:46:00,440
Speaker 2: This is when you go hog wild to the gym,

1055
00:46:00,520 --> 00:46:04,840
Speaker 2: get fit, take a victory lab, get bombed, bang some strange,

1056
00:46:05,400 --> 00:46:07,920
Speaker 2: have some fun, go to Jamaica. Did you make some

1057
00:46:08,040 --> 00:46:09,759
Speaker 2: things off your pocket list? You don't talk about it?

1058
00:46:10,320 --> 00:46:11,680
Speaker 1: Have some fun. Yeah.

1059
00:46:12,120 --> 00:46:15,360
Speaker 3: I think the biggest part is like, you can't dwell

1060
00:46:15,480 --> 00:46:19,439
Speaker 3: on the wasted the wasted time, because you didn't waste

1061
00:46:19,480 --> 00:46:22,120
Speaker 3: more time than you would have if you found out later. Right,

1062
00:46:22,320 --> 00:46:24,319
Speaker 3: So if you stuck with them for fifteen years, then

1063
00:46:24,400 --> 00:46:26,640
Speaker 3: he cheated on you, Oh, you would have wasted fifteen years.

1064
00:46:26,960 --> 00:46:29,960
Speaker 3: You wasted three, but you saved twelve. The way to

1065
00:46:30,000 --> 00:46:34,000
Speaker 3: look at it, right, you save twelve years. So you're welcome.

1066
00:46:34,080 --> 00:46:36,080
Speaker 3: You're welcome. You've got twelve years of your life back, right,

1067
00:46:36,280 --> 00:46:38,239
Speaker 3: You've gotten this now with it. Whatever age you are,

1068
00:46:38,960 --> 00:46:41,120
Speaker 3: is better to be single than later in life when

1069
00:46:41,120 --> 00:46:42,680
Speaker 3: you're doing know what you're dealing with down on the road.

1070
00:46:42,760 --> 00:46:47,000
Speaker 3: So it's hard though, for sure, because especially when you're

1071
00:46:47,000 --> 00:46:49,760
Speaker 3: building this in your mind, this is my one and whatnot,

1072
00:46:49,800 --> 00:46:51,719
Speaker 3: and they end up not being that. It's hard. I

1073
00:46:51,719 --> 00:46:53,880
Speaker 3: would just say, don't carry that forward. I think that's

1074
00:46:53,880 --> 00:46:56,759
Speaker 3: the biggest thing. Don't carry that forward because not every

1075
00:46:56,920 --> 00:46:59,840
Speaker 3: person is created equal, not everybody has the same you know,

1076
00:47:00,400 --> 00:47:03,480
Speaker 3: values or love for you. So I would say that

1077
00:47:03,640 --> 00:47:05,719
Speaker 3: person is that person. Don't bring that baggage with you

1078
00:47:05,800 --> 00:47:07,240
Speaker 3: to the next encounter because they'll.

1079
00:47:07,160 --> 00:47:09,839
Speaker 2: Just work it down. Yeah. But I also think it's

1080
00:47:09,880 --> 00:47:14,600
Speaker 2: a look, I mean how many. I mean, I don't

1081
00:47:14,719 --> 00:47:16,760
Speaker 2: be like a pig or something. But you think about

1082
00:47:16,840 --> 00:47:20,040
Speaker 2: like all the people you dated, right, like all of them,

1083
00:47:20,640 --> 00:47:23,440
Speaker 2: and it's like, you know, there's always the one right,

1084
00:47:23,520 --> 00:47:27,319
Speaker 2: the one right. It's like, yeah, it's hard. It's hard

1085
00:47:27,360 --> 00:47:29,560
Speaker 2: to find that individual. It's hard to find that individual

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Speaker 2: that you deal with. And even when you get married,

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00:47:32,920 --> 00:47:35,000
Speaker 2: that person's going to be a different person five or

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00:47:35,040 --> 00:47:36,880
Speaker 2: ten years from the state you get married. And so

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Speaker 2: you know, one of the things I tell my wife constantly,

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00:47:39,520 --> 00:47:46,000
Speaker 2: I'm like, you know, you married, Sorry, can we change

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00:47:46,000 --> 00:47:50,080
Speaker 2: the prenup? But I tell it constantly, I'm like, I'm

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00:47:50,120 --> 00:47:53,400
Speaker 2: so grateful that you the person I married and the

1093
00:47:53,440 --> 00:47:55,839
Speaker 2: person you married are two completely different people. At the court,

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00:47:55,840 --> 00:47:59,239
Speaker 2: it's still like you know the same, but there's just differences.

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00:47:59,360 --> 00:48:02,560
Speaker 2: There's mature that comes into play, and she is a

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00:48:02,680 --> 00:48:05,640
Speaker 2: better person than the person I married, like I got

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00:48:05,760 --> 00:48:11,400
Speaker 2: to improved, like an upgrade. It's like she's been unbelievable.

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Speaker 3: And so I disagree because I met her about five

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00:48:14,000 --> 00:48:17,480
Speaker 3: years ago atrocious and now she's fantastic.

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Speaker 2: With surgery and just a water diet. But I think

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00:48:21,920 --> 00:48:24,000
Speaker 2: sometimes that goes the other way. That goes the other

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00:48:24,040 --> 00:48:27,600
Speaker 2: way for quite a few individuals, I've been a sounding

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00:48:27,640 --> 00:48:29,840
Speaker 2: board for you know, I've got a bartender's here. Sometimes

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00:48:29,880 --> 00:48:32,359
Speaker 2: you got to listen to your friends, and I've heard

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00:48:32,480 --> 00:48:36,320
Speaker 2: like horror stories, and you know, people outgrow each other sometimes.

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00:48:36,360 --> 00:48:39,640
Speaker 2: There's just a million different facets and variables that can

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00:48:39,680 --> 00:48:42,520
Speaker 2: happen in any relationship. So just know that whatever it

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00:48:42,640 --> 00:48:45,400
Speaker 2: is you're going through, Laura, like everybody's gone through it,

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00:48:45,840 --> 00:48:47,719
Speaker 2: and you're going to be better for it, I guarantee you.

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Speaker 2: Because it also like chisels and formulates like what you

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00:48:52,800 --> 00:48:56,919
Speaker 2: will accept or not accept in the future in terms

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00:48:56,960 --> 00:48:59,560
Speaker 2: of like this works for me, right, and this doesn't

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00:48:59,640 --> 00:49:01,920
Speaker 2: because I learned from that last relationship that I just

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Speaker 2: something I won't holler one hundred percent.

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Speaker 3: I think I think we're both saying the same thing.

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Speaker 3: And also but not, it's not lost on us. At

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00:49:07,880 --> 00:49:09,400
Speaker 3: right now you are hurting and everything sucks and the

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00:49:09,400 --> 00:49:12,000
Speaker 3: world's terrible. Yeah, I mean like we're just giving some

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00:49:12,080 --> 00:49:15,040
Speaker 3: sort of outside perspective. But I also you know, know

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Speaker 3: that when you're inside the ship storm and that you're

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00:49:17,320 --> 00:49:19,799
Speaker 3: inside the tornado, when you see everything going on, it's

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00:49:20,200 --> 00:49:23,759
Speaker 3: it's rough. So hang in there. The clouds will part

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Speaker 3: and you will you will be okay.

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Speaker 2: You know what the best film for guys at least

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00:49:27,760 --> 00:49:30,839
Speaker 2: is Swingers. Swingers is a great film, and it's all

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00:49:30,880 --> 00:49:33,440
Speaker 2: about a guy that broke up with a girl, and

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00:49:33,840 --> 00:49:36,239
Speaker 2: there's everybody can relate to this because there's bouts of

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00:49:36,320 --> 00:49:39,480
Speaker 2: moments where you think I'm over her, I'm cool, but

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Speaker 2: you know you're not, and you're forcing yourself to be

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Speaker 2: over her, and all your friends are saying get over her,

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00:49:45,120 --> 00:49:47,880
Speaker 2: and it just like it's not clicking. And then just

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00:49:48,040 --> 00:49:50,560
Speaker 2: one day, just click, one day something happens you're like,

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Speaker 2: I'm over It is great.

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Speaker 3: So I hope that day comes soon for you. I

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Speaker 3: hope clicks soon and we love you.

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Speaker 2: We well, I don't know your lower I gotta see

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Speaker 2: what you look like before I commit to love. Hold on,

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Speaker 2: let me let me take a profile.

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Speaker 3: Pick okay, love you. Thank you for listening, Too Cool Moms.

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Speaker 2: Cool Moms Pod at.

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Speaker 2: Bang,