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Speaker 1: favorite time of the week. Thank y'all for joining us.

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Speaker 2: Everybody, welcome back, And if you haven't listened to our

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Speaker 2: episode from Wednesday yet, check it out. We had our

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Speaker 2: friend Sondra on The Golden Bachelor on the podcast, and Kat,

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Speaker 2: do you remember with some of the things that she

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Speaker 1: Susan, I don't know. Let's just talk about the date

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Speaker 1: with the bad breath.

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Speaker 3: What he felt.

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Speaker 2: That's so bad because she was saying he was the

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Speaker 1: I'll just say, listen saying that he is the perfect

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Speaker 3: It's sane.

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Speaker 1: I got great mail delivery today, except a letter from

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Speaker 1: the IRS.

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Speaker 1: That is a that is not only a red flag,

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Speaker 2: But it's a shame because I think it's a condition.

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Speaker 2: It wasn't garlic or something. He ate, she said, And

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Speaker 1: So that's that's what I wanted to say to Sondra.

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Speaker 1: So what do you do, Sondra say to the guy?

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Speaker 1: You know what, you're perfect, You've got a great figure, physique.

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Speaker 1: You know, you're smart, you're good looking, but your breath

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Speaker 2: Like what she didn't say it, she didn't. You just

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Speaker 2: cut it as short as she could have felt so bad? Oh,

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Speaker 3: You know, there's got to be something. I guess.

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Speaker 1: But she is an amazing woman. She's going to be

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Speaker 2: No, I know she's awesome.

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Speaker 1: She's an awesome She exemplifies what you and I talk

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Speaker 2: And how about when we saw her, We got to

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Speaker 1: Yeah, I think she was. She didn't seem as thrilled.

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Speaker 1: You and I seem to have a great time.

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Speaker 2: We have a great time.

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Speaker 1: We are come on, you and I are fun time kids.

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Speaker 1: I think she just I think it was just harder.

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Speaker 2: It's all good. I hope she gets another date and

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Speaker 1: All right, So today, Susan, we have some great fan questions.

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Speaker 1: You know, you and I love getting into these questions.

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Speaker 3: Go to dot com slash Golden Hour.

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Speaker 2: Yeah, please do it because we just love this and

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Speaker 3: Okay, give it to me, Okay.

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Speaker 2: The topic for discussion today is soulmates. I truly believe

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Speaker 2: Anyhow do you believe in them? Does everyone only have one?

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Speaker 2: How do you know if you found yours? Well, let's

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Speaker 2: get Kathy first of all, do you believe in a soulmate?

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Speaker 3: Are you ready for my answer?

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Speaker 2: The get it out?

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Speaker 2: So which answers part? Too? Does everyone only have one?

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Speaker 3: Says when you're looking at one, I.

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Speaker 2: How do you know when it's your soulmate?

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Speaker 1: I think a soulmate is it's someone you can't imagine

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Speaker 3: I don't know. It's actually quite an interesting question because.

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Speaker 2: Let's google soulmate.

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Speaker 3: Yeah really, I mean, you know.

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Speaker 1: You're divorced and I'm a widow, and I think your

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Speaker 2: It's the strongest bond with another person that one can achieve.

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Speaker 2: It's a real friendship somebody. Yeah, we were right.

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Speaker 1: We get a prize for that, you know, we get

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Speaker 1: we get to write the newest edition of Webster's Dictionary.

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Speaker 2: Oh god, oh goodness. So should we go on to

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Speaker 1: Oh hi, Kathy, Hi, Susan. My name's Taylor. I live

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Speaker 2: Absolutely, bod luck, but think long and hard before you decide.

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Speaker 3: You can do it.

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Speaker 1: Let us know how your life changes and what new

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Speaker 2: You don't have I got picked up anything anymore. Or

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Speaker 2: Oh, it was a nightmare. They had to do their chores,

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Speaker 1: You do it again, Can I just remind people, Susan's

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Speaker 2: God bless me, God bless me, Oh God, everybody. Thank

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Speaker 2: you so much for joining us today. And if you

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Speaker 1: Okay, we that's absolutely right. But Susan, we're not going

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Speaker 1: All right, We're going to play another round of moral quandary,

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Speaker 1: which you know I love, of course. Okay, come on,

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Speaker 1: you know you like to play. I'm going to read

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Speaker 1: the quandary. Now, this is the part you struggle with.

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Speaker 2: I know, I know I'm supposed to guess what you

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Speaker 2: do in your and I always tell you what I'm

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Speaker 2: going to do.

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Speaker 1: Okay, So you're going to guess what I'm gonna do,

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Speaker 1: and I'm going to guess what you're gonna do.

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Speaker 3: All right? Are you ready?

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Speaker 2: Yes, ma'am?

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Speaker 3: All right.

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Speaker 1: You have new next door neighbors who just moved in,

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Speaker 1: and you learn very quickly that they seem to be exhibitionists.

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Speaker 1: They never closed their blinds, and you have caught them

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Speaker 1: naked in their kitchen several times while drinking your morning coffee.

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Speaker 2: Do you say anything to the good look again, what

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Speaker 2: do you think I, oh, Gothy, you would shut your

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Speaker 2: blind you would tell them sometimes.

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Speaker 3: I don't think you know me? What do you think.

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Speaker 2: I'd be standing there sipping away and getting the binocular though, No,

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Speaker 2: what would what would you do? You would look, I

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Speaker 2: give up.

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Speaker 3: You just cannot play this game.

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Speaker 2: I suck at this game. So what do you think

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Speaker 2: I would do?

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Speaker 3: Gab?

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Speaker 1: Wait, what do you think I would do? Do you think

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Speaker 1: I would watch or close the blind?

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Speaker 2: You'd watch?

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Speaker 1: You know what I would do? I'd sit there watch

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Speaker 1: for a few minutes. I'd get bored because you know

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Speaker 1: you've seen one, you've seen them all. Drink my coffee,

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Speaker 1: and then the next time we were outside, I would say,

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Speaker 1: you know, I've given a watching TV. I just watch

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Speaker 1: you in your kitchen window every morning. That would get

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Speaker 1: the point across exactly. I think you would watch and

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Speaker 1: just enjoy your coffee.

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Speaker 2: And you don't think i'd say anything to them? Oh

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Speaker 2: I think we're both on the same page there.

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Speaker 3: Yeah.

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Speaker 2: Yeah, I would say, hey, guys, nice view.

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Speaker 3: But you know what, they're exhibitionists, so they don't care.

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Speaker 2: Oh so they enjoy doing that.

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Speaker 3: They probably enjoy the us depend on my mood.

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Speaker 2: Do I feel like watching today or not?

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Speaker 1: I meant no, wait, it depends. They didn't say, let's

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Speaker 1: see what they're doing now? That naked in their kitchen

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Speaker 1: several times. I mean, if they're up on the kitchen

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Speaker 1: counter going after it, I might have to close the blondes.

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Speaker 3: Or I might say, do you have an older brother?

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Speaker 2: Oh?

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Speaker 1: God, you are playing around of golf with your boss.

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Speaker 1: Oh I've done this. Okay, you're playing around of golf

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Speaker 1: with your boss and there's money on the line for

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Speaker 1: the winner. He's been cheating all day. The round is

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Speaker 1: over and he tells you that you owe him one

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Speaker 1: hundred dollars?

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Speaker 3: Do you pay up?

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Speaker 2: You would never you'd call him a cheater like I

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Speaker 2: would right in the middle every time he does it. No,

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Speaker 2: you would get well.

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Speaker 1: Wait a minute, it depends we don't have what he's

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Speaker 1: cheating Susan life. Sometimes you have to bite her tongue. Sometimes,

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Speaker 1: here's the thing, how how much do I need the job?

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Speaker 1: How how good a relationship do I have with him?

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Speaker 1: My boss at work? I'd be saying, boy, that's a

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Speaker 1: long foot you're using for a putter. You know, if

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Speaker 1: I had that good relationship. But if it was a

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Speaker 1: senior boss, and you know, it depends at what level. Honestly,

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Speaker 1: I'm being honest with you, it would really depend and

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Speaker 1: if I might say, you're not really taking one hundred

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Speaker 1: dollars from me, are you? I don't know one hundred dollars.

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Speaker 1: Are you joking? I mean I would try to make

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Speaker 1: a joke of it.

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Speaker 2: I do think I would do.

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Speaker 1: I think you would call the guy a cheater, get

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Speaker 1: him over the head of the club and walk away.

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Speaker 2: Absolutely, i'd lose my job, probably, But you cheating. Wait, Kathy,

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Speaker 2: when I play, especially early on, I don't do this. Now,

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Speaker 2: ladies and gentlemen, if you're listening, please don't judge. But

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Speaker 2: you know when they say that's a gimme, when the

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Speaker 2: ball is like right outside, it's called inside the leather,

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Speaker 2: it's called a gimme. They told me a gimme. Well,

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Speaker 2: when I would add my score the gimme, I didn't

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Speaker 2: count the extra stroke that it would take to knock

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Speaker 2: it right in. I just was one stroke. Lessel.

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Speaker 1: Let's say you know what I do. I have a

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Speaker 1: handicap of ten. And if you believe that I have

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Speaker 1: a nickel. If you believe that, but I do have

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Speaker 1: a handicap, we're just not going to discuss it.

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Speaker 2: I don't even have a handicap, but I don't go

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Speaker 2: that bar.

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Speaker 3: Here's the thing about for golf. I've played with a

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Speaker 3: lot of men.

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Speaker 1: Men do gimmes all the time out of bounds, pick

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Speaker 1: it up, throw it in the fairway, and don't count

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Speaker 1: a stroke. I mean women, I play in a women's group.

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Speaker 1: I swear they'll take your first rule.

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Speaker 3: They're brutal. But here's my deal on golf. I'm just

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Speaker 3: being honest.

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Speaker 1: Here's my deal if the same golf is a very

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Speaker 1: difficult game, right, If if it were that easy, the

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Speaker 1: same pros would win week after week after week, and

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Speaker 1: they don't. So here's the deal. If somebody wants me

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Speaker 1: to pay me, like my boss, give me that hundred

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Speaker 1: bucks back to play golf, then I'm going to count

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Speaker 1: every stroke. If I'm in a tournament, I count every stroke.

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Speaker 1: But for me, golf is fun. I just want to

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Speaker 1: have a good time and.

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Speaker 2: I don't have to count forgive me.

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Speaker 1: Well, listen everybody that does it for this episode. Susan

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Speaker 1: may Or may not be back next time because she's

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Speaker 1: going to be cleaning out a couple of her bedrooms

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Speaker 1: of all your thirty two year olds that are rolling in.

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